Yes, exactly my story except we are not back together. I’m having difficulty letting go but I keep reminding myself that I will not be ok with a man who needs other women. It took me a while to get to that point because I kept justifying it as friends with benefits, situationship, and it just isn’t me. He needs that in his life and that’s ok but I can’t be around it.
This is exactly what I did with my ex I couldn’t hold it anymore if he couldn’t commit to me I just had to let him go, he asked to stay friends I said no there’s no point, we can’t be friends. Now I’m still in no contact, even though I’m in so much pain but day by day I’m in a clear position, knowing the breakup was a must, for a better future for me or for us.
I watched this the day you put this out. The part where you said if you’re not done, you can’t do this…. I wasn’t done but 2 days later… it hit me, I’m done. I’m exhausted, it’s been almost 6 years. I walked away 3 years ago, he came back 5 months later. Broke up after a year and it’s been up and down since June 2022. I know he loves me but he is not there for me the way I need. I want a partner, lover, my best friend- all of which I thought he was. But he needs to step up but I’m not sure he has it in him. We are long distance.
I think one of the biggest struggles with attachment to someone is getting over the “scarcity mindset”. You worry what if this is the closest to the best you can find, because nobody is perfect etc. Then I read comments of people who married and stayed with these partners for years and how awful it was and suddenly I feel good about my decision to walk away. A lot never change, so when they show you who they are believe them.
Yessss!!! I been there at this point and was not afraid when telling her. It is about 2 months ago and back then she told me she loves me and always will and at the moment she can’t. Well fine. But I am ready. I’m somewhat sure we will be together some day but then the right way and not a situationship where we tell each day we love each other just like you plus it would also be a long distance… Thanks Corri! Great video!
I wrote her a letter, saying that I don´t want and never wanted a person just over some time. I wanted a wife. I wanted a woman, to build a life together. That I thouught she might be that. But she didn´t wanted it. And that it´s fine. She don´t have to. But I won´t settle for less. I deserve more and I want more. I wish her luck and happiness and now I´m going out, looking for my luck too. At this point. I was done too. After I sended her the letter. I blocked her. I did not talk to her for 6 months now. And you know what?... It´s peaceful. I feel more loved than with her on my side. And I really don´t want to go back to, being nothing more than a secondary. I wat to be a husband, not a fuck toy.
I honestly have been feeling this lately and it's almost confusing because I have never felt this. I am actually open to love now like never before. I just watched your other video on this same topic. The F it video and it is the most relatable feeling I have in me. I don't want to script, affirm or anything now and it's the first time in years that I have felt like this. I also feel happier than I think I ever have. I may schedule a call just for insights on this new level of me
Something similar happened to me and it was a blessing because I finally put my foot down. They broke up shortly after. I thought for sure he would come running back to me. I don’t know that I was totally ready, but I caught up to myself. I was tired of being in pain and done with the pattern! After almost 2 years I heard from him. To be continued…
We had a fantastic Xmas but have been in limbo for over a year. I mentioned I wasn't willing to take this shit show of a relationship into the new year. We need to step up and make things more solid and.....he dropped off on New years eve!!! I've not heard from him at all...yup did the same as you did.
I told my sp that I was done. I'm moving to his little village in his country next week and told him he couldnt pick me up from the airport. That I wanted a friend who would be happy to see me to pick me up and that he would likely get triggered when he saw me and say something hurtful or just generally not make me feel like I'm coming home. I really meant it and didn't want him picking me up or come home to him. For some reason, that hit home and within two days he told me he loved me and committed to change. To be continued.
This was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but I did it with my spouse the first time we broke up. We ended up getting back together and getting married. That was two years ago, now we’re in a state of separation with a mountain of uncertainty on her end. She’s struggling to manage pretty severe depression based on what we’ve discussed. So now I’m at a point of just giving her space to heal and work through that. Neither of us want a divorce, but she has no capacity to deal with herself let alone another person right now. I don’t know if she’s entertaining anyone else as of yet. She’s big on distractions and pushing down feelings. While I’m not hanging on to hope; I do deeply believe she is my person. We will see what time shows.
My SP told me he doesn't know why I have any expectations of him and we got off the phone and then I called him right back livid and I was like oh no I'm not doing this. And then we ended up talking and video chatting for 7 hours. Bridge of events to marriage are still unfolding but it is done. She's right I didn't want that behavior and I don't have to accept it knowing if he didn't like it it was only temporary.
It’s not so much the boundaries that create the relationship. It’s your energy behind it. If you say one thing but you’re not in the right state then you won’t get what you want. You need to stand firm with conviction and in a powerful state when setting boundaries and then it will be reflected back as you’re knowing your worth and value and know you deserve to be shown up for
@@nickietigg you must not know what boundaries are. Boundaries are when you communicate something to somebody and you back it up with action. It’s about putting yourself first. It’s got nothing to do with the state of anything. Boundaries that are just said without action is actually not a boundary, that’s a preference or an empty threat.
@@nickietigg You’re right. It’s the meaning you give.. if you put a boundary and think: 1-he’ll honor it and not contact you, then you WON’T hear from him 2-he’ll get scared he’ll lose you, then you WILL hear from him.
I was manifesting my sp for so long.. finally he came back n i thought everything is sorted.. but m living in constant fear bcz the moment i say something or anything I don't like his reaction is always "if u wanna stay just stay or u wanna leave then leave" n I stayed everytime.. but i think i need to let him go n set My boundaries.. I just don't want to go through all the process n techniques again to manifest him back.. 😢
I’m not a manifesting coach and I’m going to chime in here… you have to think about what YOU want. Right now, this man is not at all the version that you want and him saying those things to you is his way of trying to get a one way street in the relationship. Not cool. What do YOU want? Who do YOU want to be? How do you want to be treated? If he’s not showing up treating you with even basic respect, walk away: boundaries really are all you need. You first, him last when he’s being this way.
@@meowmeow1stgen668 Thank you for this.. 💖 honestly deep down i knew this bcz i m not at all happy being like this.. but I was just moving along hoping that my vision/manifestation/end scene (happily in a relationship)will somehow work out bcz i know manifestation works n this shitty behaviour is just bridge of incident or I have to ignore the 3d n everything.. bt this is too much.. n if this is the way we r going to be in a relationship then I don't want it.. Thank you again for commenting n showing m not reacting too much or this is just normal...💖
At the point from where you said you were done to when he came back, which i believe you said was 9 months, did you practice living in the end? Any techniques? Or were you totally detached?
So…I saw that my SP keeps liking a picture of a girl close to him. We’re far away from each other. We’re not mutually exclusive and I had been okish with friendship bc he is going thru sobriety. But I got really triggered bc he keeps liking her profile pics. So…I deactivated and I said to myself I don’t want friendship anymore. I want him as my partner and that’s it. He watched my stories too but never liked my pictures. So I’m like I’m done. He’s not an option for me so why am I an option?! I’m not cool with this friendship 💩 and I mean it! I always reached out. I always checked in. I’m not doing it anymore. I’m done.
I told my sp that if he wouldn't commit, I could see other people too. He started setting me up on dates. Me dating other people feeds into his avoidance because if I'm happy with other people, it proves he's "not enough".
What happens if you’ve ever only been friends? And then you realise it’s become just you reaching out? I realised and I stopped completely. I feel a deep connection and yet it’s not there in the 3D at least not anymore. It’s hard to explain. I pushed him away when he did make the effort because I was scared. And now I just want my friend back. But I feel like I can’t expect more because of my actions in the past. Having said that I also went out of my way for him too. It worked both ways. I just want to see a resolution. I just wish for that.
Im so glad I randomly clicked this video because I felt like you were describing how my week started lol I truly from the bottom of my heart said something similar to my SP for the first time in 6 years (in and out of each other's lives) and meant it.. he's already much softer and..kinda scared lol may I ask how long in your experience between taking your stand and him stepping up? Great story and great content! ❤
@createwithcorri thank you for answering me. My wife and I have been married for 18 years with 3 kids. She is definitely an avoident and 4 months ago she decided to separated. I beg her for 3 months to get back, and things got worse. But 5 weeks ago, I basically said to her something similar to have you said to your husband, so I was wondering how long can a take for a avoident to start having some regrets or thinking of coming back. In the mind time, I am loving and improving myself
His first 3p I did stop speaking to him. He was upset but cake back But this time he doesn't want to speak to me. Hmm in a way - you got what you wanted It's easy to talk about it And now I am alone . Unfortunately, that didn't turn out for everyone 😢
His first 3p I did stop speaking to him. He was upset but cake back But this time he doesn't want to speak to me. Hmm in a way - you got what you wanted It's easy to talk about it Unfortunately, that didn't turn out for everyone 😢
@@createwithcorri I am going through a situation right now and funny enough, I use the same term "temporary" that you mentioned. I know it's just a phase, but I would prefer it if it didn't last too long.
So strong!! I feel it too now.. WHY am I accepting to be second best .. WHY? Going to choose and prioritize me. Better alone and strong and free then second best.
@@createwithcorri How did he come back? Was it him responding to your “accidental” text? (I remember you said you accidentally sent him an angry text and you got nervous and then he immediately responded in a favorable way.)
Yes, exactly my story except we are not back together. I’m having difficulty letting go but I keep reminding myself that I will not be ok with a man who needs other women. It took me a while to get to that point because I kept justifying it as friends with benefits, situationship, and it just isn’t me. He needs that in his life and that’s ok but I can’t be around it.
This is where I'm at. Thanks for the clarification. You're my absolute favorite to listen too.
Thank you for sharing such a powerful moment of self love and change!
This is exactly
what I did with my ex I couldn’t hold it anymore if he couldn’t commit to me I just had to let him go, he asked to stay friends I said no there’s no point, we can’t be friends. Now I’m still in no contact, even though I’m in so much pain but day by day I’m in a clear position, knowing the breakup was a must, for a better future for me or for us.
I watched this the day you put this out. The part where you said if you’re not done, you can’t do this…. I wasn’t done but 2 days later… it hit me, I’m done. I’m exhausted, it’s been almost 6 years. I walked away 3 years ago, he came back 5 months later. Broke up after a year and it’s been up and down since June 2022. I know he loves me but he is not there for me the way I need. I want a partner, lover, my best friend- all of which I thought he was. But he needs to step up but I’m not sure he has it in him. We are long distance.
I think one of the biggest struggles with attachment to someone is getting over the “scarcity mindset”. You worry what if this is the closest to the best you can find, because nobody is perfect etc. Then I read comments of people who married and stayed with these partners for years and how awful it was and suddenly I feel good about my decision to walk away. A lot never change, so when they show you who they are believe them.
I’m at this point. Something happened that was just the last straw for me. And I have been keeping my distance. This will be our next conversation.
Yessss!!! I been there at this point and was not afraid when telling her. It is about 2 months ago and back then she told me she loves me and always will and at the moment she can’t. Well fine.
But I am ready.
I’m somewhat sure we will be together some day but then the right way and not a situationship where we tell each day we love each other just like you plus it would also be a long distance…
Thanks Corri! Great video!
I wrote her a letter, saying that I don´t want and never wanted a person just over some time.
I wanted a wife. I wanted a woman, to build a life together.
That I thouught she might be that. But she didn´t wanted it.
And that it´s fine. She don´t have to. But I won´t settle for less.
I deserve more and I want more. I wish her luck and happiness
and now I´m going out, looking for my luck too.
At this point. I was done too. After I sended her the letter.
I blocked her. I did not talk to her for 6 months now.
And you know what?... It´s peaceful. I feel more loved than with her on my side.
And I really don´t want to go back to, being nothing more than a secondary.
I wat to be a husband, not a fuck toy.
Well done. 😢i am in this current situation do you have any advice for me please.
@kidronreddy1671 Be honest and consequent. But don't let hate swollow your heart.
Yes I am there.❤
I honestly have been feeling this lately and it's almost confusing because I have never felt this. I am actually open to love now like never before. I just watched your other video on this same topic. The F it video and it is the most relatable feeling I have in me. I don't want to script, affirm or anything now and it's the first time in years that I have felt like this. I also feel happier than I think I ever have. I may schedule a call just for insights on this new level of me
Something similar happened to me and it was a blessing because I finally put my foot down. They broke up shortly after. I thought for sure he would come running back to me. I don’t know that I was totally ready, but I caught up to myself. I was tired of being in pain and done with the pattern! After almost 2 years I heard from him. To be continued…
First view and like and comment ❤❤❤❤❤
We had a fantastic Xmas but have been in limbo for over a year. I mentioned I wasn't willing to take this shit show of a relationship into the new year. We need to step up and make things more solid and.....he dropped off on New years eve!!! I've not heard from him at all...yup did the same as you did.
I told my sp that I was done. I'm moving to his little village in his country next week and told him he couldnt pick me up from the airport. That I wanted a friend who would be happy to see me to pick me up and that he would likely get triggered when he saw me and say something hurtful or just generally not make me feel like I'm coming home. I really meant it and didn't want him picking me up or come home to him.
For some reason, that hit home and within two days he told me he loved me and committed to change. To be continued.
This was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but I did it with my spouse the first time we broke up. We ended up getting back together and getting married. That was two years ago, now we’re in a state of separation with a mountain of uncertainty on her end. She’s struggling to manage pretty severe depression based on what we’ve discussed. So now I’m at a point of just giving her space to heal and work through that. Neither of us want a divorce, but she has no capacity to deal with herself let alone another person right now. I don’t know if she’s entertaining anyone else as of yet. She’s big on distractions and pushing down feelings. While I’m not hanging on to hope; I do deeply believe she is my person. We will see what time shows.
My SP told me he doesn't know why I have any expectations of him and we got off the phone and then I called him right back livid and I was like oh no I'm not doing this. And then we ended up talking and video chatting for 7 hours. Bridge of events to marriage are still unfolding but it is done. She's right I didn't want that behavior and I don't have to accept it knowing if he didn't like it it was only temporary.
So much for “living in the end..” and AFFs …..it’s as simple as setting boundaries, people.
100% I believe it is the safest and best way to manifest the relationships we want ❤️
It’s not so much the boundaries that create the relationship. It’s your energy behind it.
If you say one thing but you’re not in the right state then you won’t get what you want. You need to stand firm with conviction and in a powerful state when setting boundaries and then it will be reflected back as you’re knowing your worth and value and know you deserve to be shown up for
@@nickietigg you must not know what boundaries are. Boundaries are when you communicate something to somebody and you back it up with action. It’s about putting yourself first. It’s got nothing to do with the state of anything. Boundaries that are just said without action is actually not a boundary, that’s a preference or an empty threat.
@@nickietigg You’re right. It’s the meaning you give.. if you put a boundary and think:
1-he’ll honor it and not contact you, then you WON’T hear from him
2-he’ll get scared he’ll lose you, then you WILL hear from him.
thank you
I was manifesting my sp for so long.. finally he came back n i thought everything is sorted.. but m living in constant fear bcz the moment i say something or anything I don't like his reaction is always "if u wanna stay just stay or u wanna leave then leave" n I stayed everytime.. but i think i need to let him go n set My boundaries.. I just don't want to go through all the process n techniques again to manifest him back.. 😢
Boundaries are the only manifesting tool you need xx
I’m not a manifesting coach and I’m going to chime in here… you have to think about what YOU want. Right now, this man is not at all the version that you want and him saying those things to you is his way of trying to get a one way street in the relationship. Not cool.
What do YOU want? Who do YOU want to be? How do you want to be treated? If he’s not showing up treating you with even basic respect, walk away: boundaries really are all you need. You first, him last when he’s being this way.
@@meowmeow1stgen668 Thank you for this.. 💖 honestly deep down i knew this bcz i m not at all happy being like this.. but I was just moving along hoping that my vision/manifestation/end scene (happily in a relationship)will somehow work out bcz i know manifestation works n this shitty behaviour is just bridge of incident or I have to ignore the 3d n everything.. bt this is too much.. n if this is the way we r going to be in a relationship then I don't want it.. Thank you again for commenting n showing m not reacting too much or this is just normal...💖
Do you have a video about how you got back together for the last time?
...what to do when my avoidant friendzone me, but he wants to live with me, sleep with me ( only sleep😅)
Boundaries! X
At the point from where you said you were done to when he came back, which i believe you said was 9 months, did you practice living in the end? Any techniques? Or were you totally detached?
So…I saw that my SP keeps liking a picture of a girl close to him. We’re far away from each other. We’re not mutually exclusive and I had been okish with friendship bc he is going thru sobriety. But I got really triggered bc he keeps liking her profile pics. So…I deactivated and I said to myself I don’t want friendship anymore. I want him as my partner and that’s it. He watched my stories too but never liked my pictures. So I’m like I’m done. He’s not an option for me so why am I an option?! I’m not cool with this friendship 💩 and I mean it! I always reached out. I always checked in. I’m not doing it anymore. I’m done.
I told my sp that if he wouldn't commit, I could see other people too. He started setting me up on dates.
Me dating other people feeds into his avoidance because if I'm happy with other people, it proves he's "not enough".
What happens if you’ve ever only been friends? And then you realise it’s become just you reaching out? I realised and I stopped completely.
I feel a deep connection and yet it’s not there in the 3D at least not anymore. It’s hard to explain. I pushed him away when he did make the effort because I was scared. And now I just want my friend back. But I feel like I can’t expect more because of my actions in the past. Having said that I also went out of my way for him too. It worked both ways. I just want to see a resolution. I just wish for that.
❤️🔥💥💯
Im so glad I randomly clicked this video because I felt like you were describing how my week started lol I truly from the bottom of my heart said something similar to my SP for the first time in 6 years (in and out of each other's lives) and meant it.. he's already much softer and..kinda scared lol may I ask how long in your experience between taking your stand and him stepping up? Great story and great content! ❤
It was about 9 months xx
Jack has got to go. I cannot have this anymore. I am the only man for her.
How long after you said that to him, he came back ?
About 9 months x
@createwithcorri thank you for answering me. My wife and I have been married for 18 years with 3 kids. She is definitely an avoident and 4 months ago she decided to separated. I beg her for 3 months to get back, and things got worse. But 5 weeks ago, I basically said to her something similar to have you said to your husband, so I was wondering how long can a take for a avoident to start having some regrets or thinking of coming back. In the mind time, I am loving and improving myself
Omg this happened to me. My ex just left me for another woman. But he still wanted me in my life....i said no way. Bye. 😅
His first 3p I did stop speaking to him.
He was upset but cake back
But this time he doesn't want to speak to me.
Hmm in a way - you got what you wanted
It's easy to talk about it
And now I am alone .
Unfortunately, that didn't turn out for everyone 😢
What if there's a 3P ? There wasn't always . This is the 2nd 3P since I met him. The other 3p ended as I knew it would.
His first 3p I did stop speaking to him.
He was upset but cake back
But this time he doesn't want to speak to me.
Hmm in a way - you got what you wanted
It's easy to talk about it
Unfortunately, that didn't turn out for everyone 😢
So how long till he actually came back?
About 9 months after that conversation x
@@createwithcorri I am going through a situation right now and funny enough, I use the same term "temporary" that you mentioned. I know it's just a phase, but I would prefer it if it didn't last too long.
So strong!! I feel it too now.. WHY am I accepting to be second best .. WHY? Going to choose and prioritize me. Better alone and strong and free then second best.
@@createwithcorri Was it during that time that you started saying that there's nothing in between you guys anymore?
@@createwithcorri How did he come back? Was it him responding to your “accidental” text? (I remember you said you accidentally sent him an angry text and you got nervous and then he immediately responded in a favorable way.)
I was scared , said something, and then a 3p showed up
My SP didn't read my messages for 29 days, any suggestions?
Oh well. Let him go.
dont affirm that, affirm he read it now and he responds me always...
up for a massive hug