Loved this video! But it did make me cry a little. My Mom will be 98 tomorrow and she lives near me in a senior living home. You were so right about everything. I think it’s hard for people to admit to themselves that they need help and their pride keeps them from asking. My Mom was that way for a long time, but eventually she came to accept her limits. I have to say though, she is still stubborn! Lol! I know how blessed I am to still have her (Dad passed away when he was 90)! Thank you for sharing your sweet family life with us. Henrique is so adorable, as are his parents. ❤❤❤
I agree with Jolene's comment below. You two ARE the most precious people.......... I just love you both ........ your kindness and thoughtfulness is so loving. Junio is unusually special as a man ....... his sensitivities are strong and loving....... wow. Thanks for this video.
Taking care of elderly parents when they are in need, it one of the most difficult and humbling things one can do. To give back to our parents what they did for us in their youth, is a gift, that not all can do selflessly and with ease. You did the right thing, and being at a distance, daily calls or facetime chats are the next best thing. God bless you and your families!
My 3 sisters and myself are caregivers to my parents, 88 yrs old. We all share in helping them with meals, laundry, finances, medication, housekeeping, yard work and personal care. It is our job to take care of them now that they are struggling. We, as their children, owe it to them to help! It was great to hear that Ana's family is helping out more. ❤❤❤
Thank you for taking care of your parents. I did the same for both of them, and I was all alone in this, but, there was someone, invisible by my side, giving me strength to carry on through this difficult journey with them, and I’m so glad that I could be there for them, and now that they are gone, I am so grateful that I could be of help to them, and to the invisible someone that was by my side day and night, who was none other than Jesus Christ. Look after them up until the very end. It’s worth it! Have a blessed Christmas and a peaceful and healthy 2025!🙏🌷💕
You need to have at least one more child, I think it was so much easier to share with your siblings. Both my parents are gone now and my siblings and I took care of my parents. I think it would be so difficult to be the only child. It is a natural thing for us to be there for our parents. I believe we owe our parents, because they cared for us many years into adulthood.❤️
Life is so short…so glad you had that visit with your parents in Brazil. You make us feel as if we are part of your family. When I need to smile I turn to you guys. Beautiful family and beautiful baby boy. God bless.
Ana, by making a trip to Brazil with Henrique, is truly special! For grandparents to be actually touching and holding their grandchildren is a beautiful gift we can give them! And, leaving your parents with both a photo frame of memories, as well as Henrique's little cloth wrap for them to smell is lovely! May God bless you, dear sweet Brazilian family!❤
Thank you, Martina! Seeing Henrique with his grandparents was such a special moment for all of us. Leaving those little keepsakes felt like a way to keep our love close, even from afar. Your kind words mean so much to us-thank you for watching and sharing this journey with us! ❤️
I feel it’s part of the natural order of the life cycle for children to help their parents as they age! Plus, how could you possibly sit idly by while someone you love is struggling. Showing love is ALWAYS the best choice! 💕
You two are role models for the world!!!!! E.V.E.R.Y.T.I.M.E. I watch your stories I feel I learn something ... and I am 74! You are SO right about earlier generations not talking about aging. My children are very good to me (and my new husband). And all three are long distance from me. (I'm in Ohio, daughter in Florida, son in London, daughter in Los Angeles.) And I always thought we would all live in the same zip code. Thank goodness for Zoom, etc. Keep these videos coming. Thank you so much and you and your family are always in my prayers!
I say have another baby indeed!!! I can’t stress that enough! I came from a family of eight children, and when my parents got older, we divided the duties of taking care of them. Caring for your parents is a beautiful thing, but it can be a lot of pressure and it’s always nice to have siblings helping together. Also, it creates an even stronger bond between the siblings for when the parents aren’t here anymore. You feel so alone when your parents are gone, but when you have other siblings, it helps tremendously because you share memories that keep them alive in your hearts.
@@MargaretSprague-q3k I followed her birth and it took a lot out of her. Biologically women should be having their babies early I had my two in my early twenties then had another one at 42 and I can tell you that even though I was fit and healthy having a baby that late took so much out of me that the thought of having another one at 45 is not something I would even contemplate …
I have to say it doesn't matter how we feel it's how they feel. Sure they asked but it's their life to live with consequences of actions. I gave birth to my last daughter at 41, I'm 59 now and my health from then to now you would say wow. It takes a lot out of you having a baby and the effects don't always show right away. Sure it would be wonderful for Henrique to have a sibling but to have another just so he's not burdened when older sounds a bit crazy. I never have thought about who is going to help me as I'm all alone now. What a burden to put on your children. 4 daughters and never once made them think they should or have to care after me. ❤
@ exactly that’s what I was trying to h to say to the other person. Having a baby in your twenties and then a late baby in your forties is not the same it takes so much out of a woman’s body the older you are I have 3 sons and you hope when you get old that they will take care of you but my husband and I have planned for our old age and retirement so that they will not have that burden if they so choose ..it’s funny they always say they will not put us away in a home and forget about us but no one knows what the future will bring that’s why you plan as well as you can for that time
Our parents took care of us, we gladly take care of them when they need it now . A true role reversal.We are the ones blessed. Family is key - God given.
You two are doing a great job with everything! And, most of us go through this process of awareness. There was a time when 3 generations lived in the same home and we were able to see the process and be comfortable with the aging process. Now, in the times of prosperity and going off on our own to build our own little nuclear families, everything is changing. I am now the 78 year old mother and grandmother who is learning to ask for help and to adjust to changes that occur naturally as we age. I was behind in assessing what I can and cannot do and my “children” had to slowly adjust to the “new” me. It is humbling for all of us but a very natural process. And some times being stubbornly independent keeps us engaged and moving. I am sure it is hard to see but it is just as hard for our aging selves to admit to it even to ourselves. And, to a point, that can be a good thing! Keep on being your loving selves and keep the lines of communication open. Best wishes to all.
Thank you Ana and Junio for sharing your story with us and reminding us all how precious life is and how sometimes we unintentionally take all for granted, especially when it comes to our parents. We, subconsciously would love to think they would never grow “older” and live “forever”. I know that is how I felt about my grandparents. I think of them both every single day for they had such an amazing impact on my life and who I am today. ❤ I think our parents may choose to “hide things” for they may have a hard time accepting to themselves that they are needing help. So they hope the challenges get “better”. Secondly, they are embarrassed to ask for help. Or lastly, they are in denial or just feel like they are “bothering” people”. I’ve heard that excuse before… That is when we need to just step in if we observe something, as Ana did and make our own decisions on their own behalf for their safety. My mom is 85 and I am very fortunate that she is in good health, yet there is distance between us so I cannot see her as often as I’d like ( similar to you Ana) so it is very hard to deal with at times. Sometimes a phone call just isn’t enough. Yet, that phone call makes all the difference in the world. As Junio reminded us, call your parents, spend quality time with them, check on them, for it is indeed full circle. Our parents gave us the gift of life, made sacrifices that we may not even be aware of and most of cared and taught us how love 💕 one another with kindness and how to feel loved. 🥰… Ana and Junio through all you share with us, we can all see how you both have been raised with loving families who have taught you how to care, respect, love and be kind to others and feel loved 💕. There is no doubt that you both have created such an incredible, loving bond between you both that now has extended through to the reflection of your love …a beautiful miracle called Henrique… 😊….Bless your loving Families… I am so happy that you were able to spend the time in Brazil and God brought you there to be an angel to your mother..Ana, you were such a beautiful blessing in disguise for her.. The memories you gave them of your trip and the ones you also shared are a gift you will cherish forever and a foundation Henrique can now treasure as he looks back of where his roots are… whether Henrique is your only child or you are blessed with others only God will be the one who delivers. We can not predict the future; however, we can view the present. And I do see two loving parents showing their beautiful son, 💕 compassion, care, comfort, happiness and most of all how to 💕 love and feel loved. 🥰 soooo if that is what I am seeing now, my guess is in the future if the circle makes a full turn and Henrique is now a full grown man as handsome as his Dad, with his mother’s beautiful smile and beautiful, sparkling eyes. He’ll be stopping by on his way home from work, just to “check in” and ask if there is anything his Mom and Papa” Need…just cause he’s a good boy! 😊 … you did good! Ana and Junio … You both are such an inspiration to all of us here. Thank you for sharing everything you do with us for the message always can touch someone’s soul with happiness or a message of peace. Blessings to you and your families! Happy Holidays! Jackie in New Hampshire 💕🥰
I Am so sorry to hear this. I know how you are feeling. Before my parents pasted 3 years ago. I took care of them and their household. I live an hour and a half away I struggled a lot to manage everything but I wouldn't have changed anything. It hurt me every time I left. All I can tell you is keep close touch and many trips, whatever you can do by phone making appointment and getting help for them do it. One thing write all their medications down take to doctor every visit and any time they get a new medication have the pharmacist see the list to double check that the new medication will not affect the other medication. Don't assume that the doctor knows what medication affects another only the pharmacist will know it is affects. If you have any doubts research on your own . If I can help you with any questions on other things you can do to help them. Don't hesitate to ask. Love you guys so much ❤❤❤
Hello Lynn. You are absolutely correct in what you say. Only a pharmacist will know of any contraindications of medication. And also writing it down. I to understand their worry over parents. Bless you all
Ana,I know your pain.Every time that I went to visit my parents in Brazilian,I had such a hard time to leave them!I I cried all the way flying back to New York.We pay a very high price to be far away from the most important people in our lives.😢
What a lovely video, i agree with everything you have said. I was in your position when my mom was alive. I and my siblings did everything for our mom. She was at the age where she wasn't able to do many things . She also was dealing with dementia and would forget things. I feel that it was a way of giving back . Mom took care of us and made sure qe had what we needed growing up and she made sacrifices for her children. It was time to step up and help her qith whatever needed to be done. Both of you are on the mark and god bless you. I think you son is so beautiful and a happy baby. May he grow up strong and full of knowledge of the world he will be living in. Thanks for all the videos of your dancing, i have been a subscriber for a long time and enjoy all. Keep them coming and let us share in your sons journey.❤
I am an only child, and I took care of my mom in her old age. It was not a burden, it was a privilege to bring her into our home so she could be cared for properly. I didn't have siblings to fight with over Mom's care. (I've seen brothers and sisters disagree, and it brings heartbreak to the parents.) Henrique will find it a privilege also, because you will teach him from an early age. The best of everything for your parents and for your little family. 😊
I felt honored to take care of my mother while she battled cancer and was with her when her soul left her body. Then i took care of my dad until he passed away. Im an only child. I knew no one else would be as patient and loving to them as i would . Your son will accept the responsibility because its a labor of love. ❤
Great message. Cherish every moment because we aren't promised another minute. My dad passed in 2022 and I wish I had more time with him. My mom is 85 and very frail, I will be so heartbroken when she is no longer here. Time is too short. May God bless all of you. 🙏🏼❤
Family is the most important thing in the world. I lived close and cared for my parents to the end. We also made lots of family memories with their grandchildren, celebrated every occasion throughout the year, and helped each other out when needed.
I'm so proud of the to of yu fr seeing up to helping your Parents and realizing how they have struggles now! It's hard to see our parents growing older! I'm having struggles and limitations now at 71 and am proud to say my two sons have really been helping me! You are so loving keeping in touch with them...speaking from experience..it's just what they need! Thank you for sharing this with us!
Have another baby, if you can! First, you're great parents. Second, I can't imagine going through life without my sister. We navigated through my mother's death together and it meant so much to have her during such a difficult time.
Your loving care and concern for elderly people is so kind and genuine. We are very thankful for you both making a video about this delicate but necessary concern. It is so kind of you both to go out of your wsy to discuss the inevitable oncoming age related problems that most aging family members may soon go thru and need help with. It is an inevitable fact of life, as you say. Your kindness and concerns was so beautifully expressed here. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being so supportive to the large amou n t of people who watch your videos, it is heartwarming. The things you have pointed out DO worry elderly folks ! How lovely of you both to include your fans in withh what you feel for your parents. You both have shared your lives so honestly these last 3 years and now as your son grows you will surely talk with him one day about aging parents. It makes us love you all even more. Bless you both 🙏 ❤️. Oh, and Ana, is your dad addicted to listening to music ? It appears he has 100s of music cds 💿 like I do on the walls of his living room 🎶 🎵 🎼 🎶 🎵 😳 🎶 🎵
I saw it as the least I could do for my parents. I saw it as my responsibility. Teaching your son about the circle of life and as he grows and observes how you take care of your parents will be the best example for him. Plus he has an advantage because he is being raised to be bilingual. Plus, if you choose to have another baby he will have a sibling to help as well. Either way you are on the right track about elder care because you never want to an elderly person in the US in a nursing home because nursing home care for the most part is not good...May your entire family be blessed...take good care...
I could so relate on every level. And during the goodbye video I cried. A lot of memories of my boys Amy parents, who lived on the other side of the country. Beautiful memories for me, but also difficult ones, as I also helped manage my parents healthcare from afar. SO. HARD. THANK YOU for sharing and for keeping it real! 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Wow, so much to absorb in this video. Each moment tugging at my heart, with emotion's. I can empathize with Ana completely, as she watches the health of her parent's, their struggles, particularly her mother. Junio, you and Ana discussing how the mother thinks and believes, she must do it all, when the offer of help isn't taken up. I to as a mother and now my daughter, we think by doing everything for everyone is our role in relationship's, when we need to accept the help of others. Stubborn we become. I agree with Ana, watching after aging parent's is not a job, it's the right thing to do, it's the compassion and love in our heart's which lead us to such a place. Watching everyone say goodbye, brought tears to my eyes. Having Ana's parent's meet Henrique brings so much joy to them, each moment is cherished. Sending hugs and love. 🤗💓
I am 72. I feel 25 except for mobility. I have one daughter. She lived 6 hours away. Now, we all live in Florida, in the same city. It is hard getting older but it happens to all of us. You all are about 20 years from retirement. It goes really fast. Don’t be pressured by comments to have another baby. Really think about it. Your parents have family by them to help if needed.
You are so right…! This whole video was spot on… estou aqui em choradeiras..!!! Eu sou a idade da sua mãe... E os meus filhos estão pertinho de mim. Eu precisa de ajuda... Mas não quero pedir... Quero ser independente.. E agosto eu teve um stroke... Tornou ser velha um dia a outra. Não quero ser assim. everything you said is so right. But I have lost the use of my right hand. And it’s very difficult to be independent like this. Stay on top of the situation with your parents. You are a good daughter and son-in-law. God bless you. Deus te abençoe…!! ❤❤❤
Family first! You both are GREAT children for your parents....taking loving care of aging parents is a labor of love❣️ Oh, God will determine this but I think Henrique would make an awesome big brother 😊. Blessings to you and your family❤🙏🏼
Hello Ana, Junio, and Henriques; Thank you so much for sharing your trip and your concerns, I know how difficult this topic can be from both sides and you seem to have done very well with your careful communications and actions... I have been there for my parents and now my daughter and grandson are there for me... What you describe is exactly on the spot... one is concerned for ones children and grandchildren and trying to take care of things on our own... (I think I am okay because I like to chat and share my life's experiences so the younger generation may have an idea of things that may come there way, so all in all they know when I hit a rough patch...) (the difficult times come, I think, when we try to make time to take care of unexpected business that happens and there may be a timing conflict that needs to be resolved... yet we work through it together...) Love seems to hold us together and you folks certainly demonstrate that fact very well...) All the best with the tasks before you... Take care God Bless you, your beautiful baby boy, and your lovely families... Linda in Ontario, Canada ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You might consider that they have been prescribed TOO MUCH medication. That's the situation for many seniors everywhere. Wouldn't hurt to take a look. Best wishes to you all.
Your comment is so true. I am glad, Ana took it up on herself, to investigate the medications her mother is taking and speak with the doctors about it. This is a must. My grandmother, who lived to almost be a hundred years old, her doctor and another, both were over medicating their patient's. It wasn't until, several of their patients died, was an investigation put in place. I spoke to the prosecuting attorney, who had a long list of patient's to these doctor's. My grandmother and 2 uncles were on the list. Both doctor's went to prison for their unlawful, negligent, unprofessional and unethical work as doctor's. When I go to a doctor and they want to prescribe anything to me, my answer is always...no. There are others alternatives we can use and do, to feel better. Just because they are doctor's, doesn't mean they are the best.
I really appreciate "You Two" and this honest discussion about aging parents and how to support them!! May I suggest that wherever possible allow them their dignity and keep their feelings in mind of how difficult it may be to allow your Adult children to do this for you!! We all have so much pride!! ( As a 73 yr.old, giving up independence feels scary @ times!!)
I think you are doing the right thing. I belive it is our place to care for our aging parents. Even if it means having help from caregivers as well as ourselves. You can't do it alone.
You both are doing the right thing. You noticed right away they are aging and need assistance. Talking to them everyday is wonderful and getting your family more involved in Brazil is correct. I took care of my Aunt from the time she was 80 until she passed away at 102. She married later in life and never had children. My mom passed when I was 37 so she stepped in like a mother. It was a lot of work but it was worth every minute. ♥️🙂
I am glad you were able to be there to help your parents. For me, I lost my mom unexpectedly in her 50’s and I was in my 30’s. Lived an hour and a half away and had no idea she was in very poor health. Saw her christmas of 2011 and lost her 1/29/2012. She had no end of life things in place. That would be my only recommendation. Make sure all of that is in place ahead of time. It was really hard with end of life planning with my mom and wouldnt want to see you have to go through what I had to go through. Its never an easy discussion but one that is needed. May God continue to bless you and your whole family. You are doing all you can. Have a blessed week! 🙏🏼☀️
I agree it is natural to care for and LOVE your parents xx You're both wonderful and amazing xxx Don't worry...our son is now a teenager and I get all that you're sharing. So beautiful xxxxxxxx Keep in God's love and way and we can't go wrong. Much love from Cornwall, UK
🥰 You are aware and prepared now with your parents. Your also aware of thier ways (stubborn) but.... I'm 67 & it's hard to accept for parents to impose on thier children's lives & ask for help with things we always did for ourselves. Me & my 2 siblings was caretakers for my mom, then my dad & mother-in- law. The way we discussed & decided to handle the caretaking was us 3 siblings only not any of the grandchildren because thier time will come like you said with us thier own parents. Just follow your heart your parents know you care & are helping them. You will also know you was there for them. No one ever said it will be easy but so rewarding knowing you did all you could do & you was there. Prayers for your parents 🙏
I had to move cross country to be the caregivers to my dad his wife & my sister all 3 at the same time. I did it & I don’t regret it. They each passed within 2 months of each other. It’s still overwhelming to just remember what all that I daily was challenged ❤with. At the same time y oldest daughter had a very rare form of cancer stage 3. My daughter survived & is cancer free for 7 yrs now. What a blessing!!! You never know just how strong that you are. I give thanks to my Saviour for giving me the strength to endure it all! Blessings to your family & thank you for loving your parents so much. I am truly touched by your journey. Yes everything is full circle! ❤
You two are doing a wonderful job. We all go through that phase when we switch from those being cared for to being those give care. We do it when we become parents, and later on we do it for our parents as best we can. All we can do is the best that we are able, whether that is full time care, or simply phone calls and video chats. The best thing I learned is to have a network of people to call on or work with so that no one gets burned out as a care giver.
Interesting conversation….cultures vary. American culture is suffering from the breakdown of the family! The Indian culture is very different. I watch Zarna Garg she is an Indian woman comedian..please check out her podcast as she just completed a whole episode on this very subject. It helped me as an American to see how we actually raise our children NOT to take care of us, ever! Please watch her.
Always enjoy your dancing in joy that’s part of heathy living. Worries and sadness can cause stress that leads to diseases/illnesses. Healthy diet/feeling joy are essential to keep physical/mental/emotional health balance. ❤
OMG, as a Brazilian myself, just like you, an immigrant here in the USA 🇺🇸, I can relate to your story and the experience you guys had in your last trip. God spoke deeply into my heart through your video, even more so because there is 6 years I don’t see my parents, and today, Dec/02/2025, as “we speak” my parents are in Brazil putting the final touches together to step into the airplane to come visit my sons and I. Today is a very emotional day for us, because we miss and love them immensely ♥️🥰. I watch all your videos, you are an inspiration, and I love you guys. May God bless you all more and more each and every day. An special tight hug to Henrique. Love & Peace 🥰♥️🙏.
Penso che siete così dei bravi genitori che davvero una nuova vita dovesse arrivare da voi sarebbe una persona che farebbe migliorare la qualità del mondo
I have been through something very similar with my Mother-in Law. One thing I learned is not to let your intention to see them more often, actually create an additional burden for them. You mentioned that this last time, the house was always full of people. Perhaps your visit actually created more work than your Mom could handle. Please keep this in mind. God Bless You for all that you are doing for them from afar. ❤
Listening to you describe your mother’s physical issues, it reminded me of my pain problems. I was in pain for a long time and then I found out I needed hip replacement. Lifting my foot getting into a car was torture. If I lifted anything over 7 lbs put me out of commission for days. Your mom was probably able to manage before your visit by resting when pain increased. When you were there, she did more than she was used to. Picking up her beautiful grandson caused havoc in her lower body. I had surgery last year at 75. I’m not 100% because I need the other hip replaced. I hope this information helps. You’re a beautiful family.
Yes, it's very hard to see your parents age. Now my children are watching us age. They are so over protected. So, we are truly blessed to have our daughter and son near us and we are very close as a family. It's good to remind others to look out for each other. ❤
It is always difficult when you must take the lead, both for you and your parent(s). I had two older brothers, but when Mom got ill, only one was left. And he finally decided to not be involved. My son is an only, and at times distant. I hope that either the situation changes or I can take care of myself with the help of my friends. It isn’t a job, more that your parents gave themselves to you and in return you give your parents as much love and help. You are doing a wonderful job, never doubt yourselves!💚🥰♥️
It's really difficult for older people. The gap with the modern life is really big ❤ You're really loving people. Glad you helped them. It's really important for us younger peolpe, to keep up with modern technology.
Sometimes, siblings do not get along due to a variety of personality differences. I'd seek God's guidance in this matter as the cost of a second child is very expensive now. Plus, a second child doubles your work. Again, God will let you know what to do as children are also such incredible blessings. There are pros and cons to consider.
P.S. Dont be pressured to have another child. We had only one biological child. He turned out to be smart. A wonderful husband and strong in principles 😊 His wife adores him🎉
As you are doing keep up the good work monitoring them. What is it with parents trying to keep things like that with your parents to themselves. I went through the same with my Mai! Last time it was to late to get help 😢
Love this video! It is sad when our parents get older, but it's called the circle of life. I remember taking care of my Mom. Saddened😢by her going home with God when she was 96 years old.
God Bless! It is biblical to take care of our aging parents. You are doing the right thing. I love watching your channel. You guys are a breath of fresh air. Always so full of positivity, happiness and love and knowing what truly matters and is important.
It is hard to be so far away from aging parents! I'm thankful that my daughters both live fairly close! I'm 70 now, and I ask my kids & grandkids how to do things electronically. I'd prefer to do things the old (paper) way. Calling more will help to boost their morale. Bless you both for caring as some children don't. ❤
if you think it is hard to see your parents dealing with health issues, what about us, the parents? ... it is not easy for us to deal with health chalenges.... Life is always a worry. Thank you for being there for your parents.
I know exactly what you both are going through. I have a brother and a sister so that's 3 of us. I live the farthest. 3 hours away. My mom is 86 and has a bad heart and COPD. My brother does most of the care. My sister just had surgery so she's healing and I go up there as often as I can. It's very hard but we try our best. ❤ Prayers to all families and their loved ones. 🙏
Henrique is sooo spécial! And you are right. Life is precious and passing so incredible fast. One day comes where we realize that we have become the strong adults ... in this moment we realized that our childrenship has ended.
You are doing the correct thing with your parents. You're very lucky to have your brothers to share it with. I was only child and took care of my parents till the day they died my mom and my dad so it would be nice if we Enrique had a sibling or siblings to share this with, but I'm sure he'll also be strong enough to do it on his own with parents like yourselves
Children have to be there to assist their parents as much as they can. It's the right thing to do. And grandparents is a great blessing in grandchildren's lives ❤
You guys are so blessed you have a wonderful family!! My husband is 87 and just got done having radiation treatments for he had liver cancer the doctors say that the radiation killed it Praise the Lord!!! I had a stroke 6 years ago and can’t do a lot of things and our house shows it 😢 I’m 74 and have no balance so I fall a lot.
I think what you're trying to say Anna, is that you feel r😢esponsible to be there for your parents. And you're right about it not being a job you have to do. But because you love them, you want to do what you can to support them. That's so beautiful and unselfish & is only natural that you want to instill such lovely values in your son. I'm certain, if you get in the habit early on, spending time together as a family while watching the wonderful content you've created & share with us, it will also benefit Henrique too & will just naturally become part of his life long heart language. ❤️
Bless you sweet dears! My children are even older and I am in the sandwich generation as well - taking care of an elderly mom and my husband and kids. It’s not easy. Lean on your faith and your incredible love for each other and the joy your precious Henrique brings you and your parents! Remember we were made for communion with God and with each other, and are not called to bear burdens alone. By allowing others to help us we afford them the gift of earning graces in doing so, and we feel love expand between all of us! Be sure to ask for help when you’re feeling overwhelmed or depleted! You and your parents and all of your family are in my prayers! God bless you all!
It’s very difficult to watch our parents struggle in life. The visit with them with their grandson was precious. Memories in the making! Your son is such a doll and a lovely extension of you both. Enjoy every moment as they do go by too fast. Have a wonderful day. ❤
Totally agree with you both. It is our responsibility to take care of our parents when they get elderly. It is the full circle of life. God says we are to respect or parents. Respect n love go together. It would be great for Henrique to have siblings to share in the care. We are experiencing it all now. Prayers for your parents❤🙏🥰
Your parents are such a lovely couple you can see all the love they have for all of the family I hope you can go back every year to see them! Love this video.
I believe we have a moral obligation to care for our elderly parents, the were always there for us and loved us when we needed it, in turn we do it for them when they are elderly. Prayers for your parents. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 It’s good when we have siblings Henrique would love to have a brother or sister.
You did a great thing with your parents Ana ! I m in your situation And Its not easy to let your parents and dont help them in our absents . I with you, I know What is that. Bigs hugs, a lot of courage and blessings to you parents 🙏🏾
Thank you for being there for your parents. You set such a good example for others and especially for Henrique. Yes, God is always there with us if our children are not.
This brought back so many memories for me. I moved to another state to take care of my parents, which, as Junio says, is full circle. The love in your family is precious and Henrique gets to grow up surrounded by it. I have no doubt he will do what is needed for you both when that day arrives. I know how hard it is to watch them become childlike again. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Much love ♥That Brazilian Family = Happiness 😊💙😊 Doro
I have three brothers besides myself I am the only girl. My brothers thought it was my job to take care of my parents and I lived out of town where two of my brothers lived in town with my parents. Well by them they live One was like 400 yards from my parents house. They made me feel guilty because I was the only girl. That's not how it's done to make the daughter feel like it's her job. Yes I think it's easier if you have two children but not everybody has that luxury of having more than one. I have three daughters one passed away last year which is very hard on me cuz she was only 40 years old. But my children know that we rely on them and they're always there for us and that's the way it should be. As Juno said it is a full circle!!!!! But it's great that you guys have all these videos for him to watch and look upon to see everything. But I know how you feel when you said your parents are back in the 1980s that's how my parents still were and it is very hard that they have to have someone else helpful make all the doctor appointments and go online and do everything for them because that's the way we live now is everything's done by computer or by phone. So I just want you to know this is what I was saying if it makes any sense but take care, God bless and I love you all ❤❤❤❤
Bless you and your family for getting them on a schedule with family help and love.. my dad and dad are both 77 with many health issues..I just had to talk with my dad about his health issues as well but he doesn't want me to help him.. very long unhealthy father/daughter relationship who abandoned my mom and I for drugs.. You're very special for handling your parents as special for your parents to have you ❤❤❤
Mixed up...maybe they could do that...or have a chart on the wall where each day they could check off when they take their medication..just a suggestion..i kno what THEY are going thru AND i took care of my elderly mom..so i kno what YOU are going thru too! Keep doing what you can and what they really need is your love and attention! Take care!
Your parents raised kind, caring children. You’re both lovely.
It's so nice hear about your love for their parents
You are two precious souls💕 it is so hard to see our parents aging and be concerned about their care
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The love and care you have for your parents is touching. God bless you all!
Loved this video! But it did make me cry a little. My Mom will be 98 tomorrow and she lives near me in a senior living home. You were so right about everything. I think it’s hard for people to admit to themselves that they need help and their pride keeps them from asking. My Mom was that way for a long time, but eventually she came to accept her limits. I have to say though, she is still stubborn! Lol! I know how blessed I am to still have her (Dad passed away when he was 90)! Thank you for sharing your sweet family life with us. Henrique is so adorable, as are his parents. ❤❤❤
They are a BEAUTIFUL FAMILY !
I agree with Jolene's comment below. You two ARE the most precious people.......... I just love you both ........ your kindness and thoughtfulness is so loving. Junio is unusually special as a man ....... his sensitivities are strong and loving....... wow. Thanks for this video.
Taking care of elderly parents when they are in need, it one of the most difficult and humbling things one can do. To give back to our parents what they did for us in their youth, is a gift, that not all can do selflessly and with ease. You did the right thing, and being at a distance, daily calls or facetime chats are the next best thing. God bless you and your families!
My 3 sisters and myself are caregivers to my parents, 88 yrs old. We all share in helping them with meals, laundry, finances, medication, housekeeping, yard work and personal care. It is our job to take care of them now that they are struggling. We, as their children, owe it to them to help! It was great to hear that Ana's family is helping out more. ❤❤❤
Thank you for taking care of your parents. I did the same for both of them, and I was all alone in this, but, there was someone, invisible by my side, giving me strength to carry on through this difficult journey with them, and I’m so glad that I could be there for them, and now that they are gone, I am so grateful that I could be of help to them, and to the invisible someone that was by my side day and night, who was none other than Jesus Christ. Look after them up until the very end. It’s worth it! Have a blessed Christmas and a peaceful and healthy 2025!🙏🌷💕
You need to have at least one more child, I think it was so much easier to share with your siblings. Both my parents are gone now and my siblings and I took care of my parents. I think it would be so difficult to be the only child. It is a natural thing for us to be there for our parents. I believe we owe our parents, because they cared for us many years into adulthood.❤️
Life is so short…so glad you had that visit with your parents in Brazil. You make us feel as if we are part of your family. When I need to smile I turn to you guys. Beautiful family and beautiful baby boy. God bless.
That child of yours is the cutest little being and your English is above par
Ana, by making a trip to Brazil with Henrique, is truly special! For grandparents to be actually touching and holding their grandchildren is a beautiful gift we can give them! And, leaving your parents with both a photo frame of memories, as well as Henrique's little cloth wrap for them to smell is lovely! May God bless you, dear sweet Brazilian family!❤
Am in tears! You are an amazing family! Yes, life is precious
Thank you, Martina! Seeing Henrique with his grandparents was such a special moment for all of us. Leaving those little keepsakes felt like a way to keep our love close, even from afar. Your kind words mean so much to us-thank you for watching and sharing this journey with us! ❤️
It's good for you to share Henrique with his grandparents. They truly are a blessing to their grandchildren ❤. He is so gorgeous 😍
I feel it’s part of the natural order of the life cycle for children to help their parents as they age!
Plus, how could you possibly sit idly by while someone you love is struggling. Showing love is ALWAYS the best choice! 💕
You two are role models for the world!!!!! E.V.E.R.Y.T.I.M.E. I watch your stories I feel I learn something ... and I am 74! You are SO right about earlier generations not talking about aging. My children are very good to me (and my new husband). And all three are long distance from me. (I'm in Ohio, daughter in Florida, son in London, daughter in Los Angeles.) And I always thought we would all live in the same zip code. Thank goodness for Zoom, etc. Keep these videos coming. Thank you so much and you and your family are always in my prayers!
I say have another baby indeed!!! I can’t stress that enough! I came from a family of eight children, and when my parents got older, we divided the duties of taking care of them. Caring for your parents is a beautiful thing, but it can be a lot of pressure and it’s always nice to have siblings helping together. Also, it creates an even stronger bond between the siblings for when the parents aren’t here anymore. You feel so alone when your parents are gone, but when you have other siblings, it helps tremendously because you share memories that keep them alive in your hearts.
I think Ana is getting too old to have another baby isn’t she already over 40?
@ Not at all! She’s strong physically and strong minded. She has a lot to give another little one.
@@MargaretSprague-q3k I followed her birth and it took a lot out of her. Biologically women should be having their babies early I had my two in my early twenties then had another one at 42 and I can tell you that even though I was fit and healthy having a baby that late took so much out of me that the thought of having another one at 45 is not something I would even contemplate …
I have to say it doesn't matter how we feel it's how they feel. Sure they asked but it's their life to live with consequences of actions. I gave birth to my last daughter at 41, I'm 59 now and my health from then to now you would say wow. It takes a lot out of you having a baby and the effects don't always show right away. Sure it would be wonderful for Henrique to have a sibling but to have another just so he's not burdened when older sounds a bit crazy. I never have thought about who is going to help me as I'm all alone now. What a burden to put on your children. 4 daughters and never once made them think they should or have to care after me. ❤
@ exactly that’s what I was trying to h to say to the other person. Having a baby in your twenties and then a late baby in your forties is not the same it takes so much out of a woman’s body the older you are I have 3 sons and you hope when you get old that they will take care of you but my husband and I have planned for our old age and retirement so that they will not have that burden if they so choose ..it’s funny they always say they will not put us away in a home and forget about us but no one knows what the future will bring that’s why you plan as well as you can for that time
Our parents took care of us, we gladly take care of them when they need it now . A true role reversal.We are the ones blessed. Family is key - God given.
How much of it have you done? Lol
You two are doing a great job with everything! And, most of us go through this process of awareness. There was a time when 3 generations lived in the same home and we were able to see the process and be comfortable with the aging process. Now, in the times of prosperity and going off on our own to build our own little nuclear families, everything is changing. I am now the 78 year old mother and grandmother who is learning to ask for help and to adjust to changes that occur naturally as we age. I was behind in assessing what I can and cannot do and my “children” had to slowly adjust to the “new” me. It is humbling for all of us but a very natural process. And some times being stubbornly independent keeps us engaged and moving. I am sure it is hard to see but it is just as hard for our aging selves to admit to it even to ourselves. And, to a point, that can be a good thing! Keep on being your loving selves and keep the lines of communication open. Best wishes to all.
It is very hard when it hits you that your parents have become more vulnerable as they age. Count the moments ❤
Thank you Ana and Junio for sharing your story with us and reminding us all how precious life is and how sometimes we unintentionally take all for granted, especially when it comes to our parents. We, subconsciously would love to think they would never grow “older” and live “forever”. I know that is how I felt about my grandparents. I think of them both every single day for they had such an amazing impact on my life and who I am today. ❤ I think our parents may choose to “hide things” for they may have a hard time accepting to themselves that they are needing help. So they hope the challenges get “better”. Secondly, they are embarrassed to ask for help. Or lastly, they are in denial or just feel like they are “bothering” people”. I’ve heard that excuse before… That is when we need to just step in if we observe something, as Ana did and make our own decisions on their own behalf for their safety. My mom is 85 and I am very fortunate that she is in good health, yet there is distance between us so I cannot see her as often as I’d like ( similar to you Ana) so it is very hard to deal with at times. Sometimes a phone call just isn’t enough. Yet, that phone call makes all the difference in the world. As Junio reminded us, call your parents, spend quality time with them, check on them, for it is indeed full circle. Our parents gave us the gift of life, made sacrifices that we may not even be aware of and most of cared and taught us how love 💕 one another with kindness and how to feel loved. 🥰… Ana and Junio through all you share with us, we can all see how you both have been raised with loving families who have taught you how to care, respect, love and be kind to others and feel loved 💕. There is no doubt that you both have created such an incredible, loving bond between you both that now has extended through to the reflection of your love …a beautiful miracle called Henrique… 😊….Bless your loving Families… I am so happy that you were able to spend the time in Brazil and God brought you there to be an angel to your mother..Ana, you were such a beautiful blessing in disguise for her.. The memories you gave them of your trip and the ones you also shared are a gift you will cherish forever and a foundation Henrique can now treasure as he looks back of where his roots are… whether Henrique is your only child or you are blessed with others only God will be the one who delivers. We can not predict the future; however, we can view the present. And I do see two loving parents showing their beautiful son, 💕 compassion, care, comfort, happiness and most of all how to 💕 love and feel loved. 🥰 soooo if that is what I am seeing now, my guess is in the future if the circle makes a full turn and Henrique is now a full grown man as handsome as his Dad, with his mother’s beautiful smile and beautiful, sparkling eyes. He’ll be stopping by on his way home from work, just to “check in” and ask if there is anything his Mom and Papa”
Need…just cause he’s a good boy! 😊 … you did good! Ana and Junio … You both are such an inspiration to all of us here. Thank you for sharing everything you do with us for the message always can touch someone’s soul with happiness or a message of peace.
Blessings to you and your families! Happy Holidays!
Jackie in New Hampshire 💕🥰
I Am so sorry to hear this. I know how you are feeling. Before my parents pasted 3 years ago. I took care of them and their household. I live an hour and a half away I struggled a lot to manage everything but I wouldn't have changed anything. It hurt me every time I left. All I can tell you is keep close touch and many trips, whatever you can do by phone making appointment and getting help for them do it. One thing write all their medications down take to doctor every visit and any time they get a new medication have the pharmacist see the list to double check that the new medication will not affect the other medication. Don't assume that the doctor knows what medication affects another only the pharmacist will know it is affects. If you have any doubts research on your own . If I can help you with any questions on other things you can do to help them. Don't hesitate to ask. Love you guys so much ❤❤❤
Hello Lynn. You are absolutely correct in what you say. Only a pharmacist will know of any contraindications of medication. And also writing it down. I to understand their worry over parents. Bless you all
I love the way Henrique looks into the eyes of everyone with such attentiveness. He is really a special little baby boy!🥰
No truer words were ever spoken! What a great message for everyone this holiday season! Love from Pennsylvania 💕🌷🐻
Ana,I know your pain.Every time that I went to visit my parents in Brazilian,I had such a hard time to leave them!I I cried all the way flying back to New York.We pay a very high price to be far away from the most important people in our lives.😢
19:21 "You have God, no matter what" You are never going to be alone. PRAISE GOD ALMIGHTY
We'll, this video makes it even more evident... you guys are the most precious people on the planet! God bless you and your family! ❤️
I love all the wonderful things Junio said to you about what you did! You have an AMAZING husband and "partner " in life!
What a lovely video, i agree with everything you have said. I was in your position when my mom was alive. I and my siblings did everything for our mom. She was at the age where she wasn't able to do many things . She also was dealing with dementia and would forget things. I feel that it was a way of giving back . Mom took care of us and made sure qe had what we needed growing up and she made sacrifices for her children. It was time to step up and help her qith whatever needed to be done. Both of you are on the mark and god bless you. I think you son is so beautiful and a happy baby. May he grow up strong and full of knowledge of the world he will be living in. Thanks for all the videos of your dancing, i have been a subscriber for a long time and enjoy all. Keep them coming and let us share in your sons journey.❤
I am an only child, and I took care of my mom in her old age. It was not a burden, it was a privilege to bring her into our home so she could be cared for properly. I didn't have siblings to fight with over Mom's care. (I've seen brothers and sisters disagree, and it brings heartbreak to the parents.)
Henrique will find it a privilege also, because you will teach him from an early age. The best of everything for your parents and for your little family. 😊
I felt honored to take care of my mother while she battled cancer and was with her when her soul left her body. Then i took care of my dad until he passed away. Im an only child. I knew no one else would be as patient and loving to them as i would . Your son will accept the responsibility because its a labor of love. ❤
Great message. Cherish every moment because we aren't promised another minute. My dad passed in 2022 and I wish I had more time with him. My mom is 85 and very frail, I will be so heartbroken when she is no longer here. Time is too short. May God bless all of you. 🙏🏼❤
Family is the most important thing in the world. I lived close and cared for my parents to the end. We also made lots of family memories with their grandchildren, celebrated every occasion throughout the year, and helped each other out when needed.
I'm so proud of the to of yu fr seeing up to helping your Parents and realizing how they have struggles now! It's hard to see our parents growing older! I'm having struggles and limitations now at 71 and am proud to say my two sons have really been helping me! You are so loving keeping in touch with them...speaking from experience..it's just what they need! Thank you for sharing this with us!
I feel both of you are doing the right thing. Specially with Henrique giving him so much love and caring for him. God bless you all.🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
He will grow up to be very kind...so much love has entered his life.
Have another baby, if you can! First, you're great parents. Second, I can't imagine going through life without my sister. We navigated through my mother's death together and it meant so much to have her during such a difficult time.
Look at that sweet baby flirting with girls! Giving them that million dollar smile ❤😅
Your loving care and concern for elderly people is so kind and genuine. We are very thankful for you both making a video about this delicate but necessary concern. It is so kind of you both to go out of your wsy to discuss the inevitable oncoming age related problems that most aging family members may soon go thru and need help with. It is an inevitable fact of life, as you say. Your kindness and concerns was so beautifully expressed here. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being so supportive to the large amou n t of people who watch your videos, it is heartwarming. The things you have pointed out DO worry elderly folks ! How lovely of you both to include your fans in withh what you feel for your parents. You both have shared your lives so honestly these last 3 years and now as your son grows you will surely talk with him one day about aging parents. It makes us love you all even more. Bless you both 🙏 ❤️. Oh, and Ana, is your dad addicted to listening to music ? It appears he has 100s of music cds 💿 like I do on the walls of his living room 🎶 🎵 🎼 🎶 🎵 😳 🎶 🎵
I saw it as the least I could do for my parents. I saw it as my responsibility. Teaching your son about the circle of life and as he grows and observes how you take care of your parents will be the best example for him. Plus he has an advantage because he is being raised to be bilingual. Plus, if you choose to have another baby he will have a sibling to help as well. Either way you are on the right track about elder care because you never want to an elderly person in the US in a nursing home because nursing home care for the most part is not good...May your entire family be blessed...take good care...
I could so relate on every level. And during the goodbye video I cried. A lot of memories of my boys Amy parents, who lived on the other side of the country. Beautiful memories for me, but also difficult ones, as I also helped manage my parents healthcare from afar. SO. HARD.
THANK YOU for sharing and for keeping it real!
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Wow, so much to absorb in this video. Each moment tugging at my heart, with emotion's. I can empathize with Ana completely, as she watches the health of her parent's, their struggles, particularly her mother. Junio, you and Ana discussing how the mother thinks and believes, she must do it all, when the offer of help isn't taken up. I to as a mother and now my daughter, we think by doing everything for everyone is our role in relationship's, when we need to accept the help of others. Stubborn we become. I agree with Ana, watching after aging parent's is not a job, it's the right thing to do, it's the compassion and love in our heart's which lead us to such a place. Watching everyone say goodbye, brought tears to my eyes. Having Ana's parent's meet Henrique brings so much joy to them, each moment is cherished. Sending hugs and love. 🤗💓
😢😢😢 I know your mom was in pain Ana but bringing baby Henrique there was a blessing! 😂👍
I am 72. I feel 25 except for mobility. I have one daughter. She lived 6 hours away. Now, we all live in Florida, in the same city. It is hard getting older but it happens to all of us. You all are about 20 years from retirement. It goes really fast. Don’t be pressured by comments to have another baby. Really think about it. Your parents have family by them to help if needed.
You are so right…! This whole video was spot on… estou aqui em choradeiras..!!! Eu sou a idade da sua mãe... E os meus filhos estão pertinho de mim. Eu precisa de ajuda... Mas não quero pedir... Quero ser independente.. E agosto eu teve um stroke... Tornou ser velha um dia a outra. Não quero ser assim. everything you said is so right. But I have lost the use of my right hand. And it’s very difficult to be independent like this. Stay on top of the situation with your parents. You are a good daughter and son-in-law. God bless you. Deus te abençoe…!! ❤❤❤
Estero q melhore,procure fazer terrapia pois adjudged.
@ … Estou fazendo terapia. E estou melhorando …cada dia melhor..!! Graças a Deus. Reza pra mim..!!❤️🙏🏻❤️
Family first! You both are GREAT children for your parents....taking loving care of aging parents is a labor of love❣️ Oh, God will determine this but I think Henrique would make an awesome big brother 😊. Blessings to you and your family❤🙏🏼
Precious, precious souls. God bless you all❤🐾
Have more children, you’re great parents!
Beautiful people.....beautiful!
Hello Ana, Junio, and Henriques;
Thank you so much for sharing your trip and your concerns, I know how difficult this topic can be from both sides and you seem to have done very well with your careful communications and actions...
I have been there for my parents and now my daughter and grandson are there for me...
What you describe is exactly on the spot... one is concerned for ones children and grandchildren and trying to take care of things on our own... (I think I am okay because I like to chat and share my life's experiences so the younger generation may have an idea of things that may come there way, so all in all they know when I hit a rough patch...) (the difficult times come, I think, when we try to make time to take care of unexpected business that happens and there may be a timing conflict that needs to be resolved... yet we work through it together...)
Love seems to hold us together and you folks certainly demonstrate that fact very well...)
All the best with the tasks before you...
Take care
God Bless you, your beautiful baby boy, and your lovely families...
Linda in Ontario, Canada
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You might consider that they have been prescribed TOO MUCH medication. That's the situation for many seniors everywhere. Wouldn't hurt to take a look. Best wishes to you all.
Your comment is so true. I am glad, Ana took it up on herself, to investigate the medications her mother is taking and speak with the doctors about it. This is a must. My grandmother, who lived to almost be a hundred years old, her doctor and another, both were over medicating their patient's. It wasn't until, several of their patients died, was an investigation put in place. I spoke to the prosecuting attorney, who had a long list of patient's to these doctor's. My grandmother and 2 uncles were on the list. Both doctor's went to prison for their unlawful, negligent, unprofessional and unethical work as doctor's. When I go to a doctor and they want to prescribe anything to me, my answer is always...no. There are others alternatives we can use and do, to feel better. Just because they are doctor's, doesn't mean they are the best.
I really appreciate "You Two" and this honest discussion about aging parents and how to support them!! May I suggest that wherever possible allow them their dignity and keep their feelings in mind of how difficult it may be to allow your Adult children to do this for you!! We all have so much pride!! ( As a 73 yr.old, giving up independence feels scary @ times!!)
I think you are doing the right thing. I belive it is our place to care for our aging parents. Even if it means having help from caregivers as well as ourselves. You can't do it alone.
You both are doing the right thing. You noticed right away they are aging and need assistance. Talking to them everyday is wonderful and getting your family more involved in Brazil is correct. I took care of my Aunt from the time she was 80 until she passed away at 102. She married later in life and never had children. My mom passed when I was 37 so she stepped in like a mother. It was a lot of work but it was worth every minute. ♥️🙂
A beautiful video above Life love and transferring it to our parents ! May GOD continue to bless you Ana and Junio
I am glad you were able to be there to help your parents. For me, I lost my mom unexpectedly in her 50’s and I was in my 30’s. Lived an hour and a half away and had no idea she was in very poor health. Saw her christmas of 2011 and lost her 1/29/2012. She had no end of life things in place. That would be my only recommendation. Make sure all of that is in place ahead of time. It was really hard with end of life planning with my mom and wouldnt want to see you have to go through what I had to go through. Its never an easy discussion but one that is needed. May God continue to bless you and your whole family. You are doing all you can. Have a blessed week! 🙏🏼☀️
I agree it is natural to care for and LOVE your parents xx
You're both wonderful and amazing xxx
Don't worry...our son is now a teenager and I get all that you're sharing. So beautiful xxxxxxxx
Keep in God's love and way and we can't go wrong.
Much love from Cornwall, UK
🥰 You are aware and prepared now with your parents. Your also aware of thier ways (stubborn) but.... I'm 67 & it's hard to accept for parents to impose on thier children's lives & ask for help with things we always did for ourselves.
Me & my 2 siblings was caretakers for my mom, then my dad & mother-in- law.
The way we discussed & decided to handle the caretaking was us 3 siblings only not
any of the grandchildren because thier time will come like you said with us thier own parents.
Just follow your heart your parents know you care & are helping them. You will also know you was there for them. No one ever said it will be easy but so rewarding knowing you did all you could do & you was there.
Prayers for your parents 🙏
You three brought such joy to your parents. God bless all of you!!!
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I had to move cross country to be the caregivers to my dad his wife & my sister all 3 at the same time. I did it & I don’t regret it. They each passed within 2 months of each other. It’s still overwhelming to just remember what all that I daily was challenged ❤with. At the same time y oldest daughter had a very rare form of cancer stage 3. My daughter survived & is cancer free for 7 yrs now. What a blessing!!! You never know just how strong that you are. I give thanks to my Saviour for giving me the strength to endure it all! Blessings to your family & thank you for loving your parents so much. I am truly touched by your journey. Yes everything is full circle! ❤
Henrique is very blessed to know great grandparents 🙏
You two are doing a wonderful job. We all go through that phase when we switch from those being cared for to being those give care. We do it when we become parents, and later on we do it for our parents as best we can. All we can do is the best that we are able, whether that is full time care, or simply phone calls and video chats. The best thing I learned is to have a network of people to call on or work with so that no one gets burned out as a care giver.
Interesting conversation….cultures vary. American culture is suffering from the breakdown of the family! The Indian culture is very different. I watch Zarna Garg she is an Indian woman comedian..please check out her podcast as she just completed a whole episode on this very subject. It helped me as an American to see how we actually raise our children NOT to take care of us, ever! Please watch her.
Always enjoy your dancing in joy that’s part of heathy living. Worries and sadness can cause stress that leads to diseases/illnesses. Healthy diet/feeling joy are essential to keep physical/mental/emotional health balance. ❤
OMG, as a Brazilian myself, just like you, an immigrant here in the USA 🇺🇸, I can relate to your story and the experience you guys had in your last trip.
God spoke deeply into my heart through your video, even more so because there is 6 years I don’t see my parents, and today,
Dec/02/2025, as “we speak” my parents are in Brazil putting the final touches together to step into the airplane to come visit my sons and I. Today is a very emotional day for us, because we miss and love them immensely ♥️🥰. I watch all your videos, you are an inspiration, and I love you guys. May God bless you all more and more each and every day. An special tight hug to Henrique. Love & Peace 🥰♥️🙏.
Thankyou both for being real about family life!
Penso che siete così dei bravi genitori che davvero una nuova vita dovesse arrivare da voi sarebbe una persona che farebbe migliorare la qualità del mondo
I have been through something very similar with my Mother-in Law. One thing I learned is not to let your intention to see them more often, actually create an additional burden for them. You mentioned that this last time, the house was always full of people. Perhaps your visit actually created more work than your Mom could handle. Please keep this in mind. God Bless You for all that you are doing for them from afar. ❤
Listening to you describe your mother’s physical issues, it reminded me of my pain problems. I was in pain for a long time and then I found out I needed hip replacement. Lifting my foot getting into a car was torture. If I lifted anything over 7 lbs put me out of commission for days. Your mom was probably able to manage before your visit by resting when pain increased. When you were there, she did more than she was used to. Picking up her beautiful grandson caused havoc in her lower body. I had surgery last year at 75. I’m not 100% because I need the other hip replaced. I hope this information helps.
You’re a beautiful family.
Yes, it's very hard to see your parents age. Now my children are watching us age. They are so over protected. So, we are truly blessed to have our daughter and son near us and we are very close as a family. It's good to remind others to look out for each other. ❤
You are so wonderful. We're great grandparents & enjoy each moment we spend with them. Love to you & your wonderful family. ❤️
OK I have been crying watching your folks & Kique bonding! I'm so happy for you! Have as many as you can, while you can! You can do it! Sending love ❤
It is always difficult when you must take the lead, both for you and your parent(s). I had two older brothers, but when Mom got ill, only one was left. And he finally decided to not be involved. My son is an only, and at times distant. I hope that either the situation changes or I can take care of myself with the help of my friends. It isn’t a job, more that your parents gave themselves to you and in return you give your parents as much love and help. You are doing a wonderful job, never doubt yourselves!💚🥰♥️
It's really difficult for older people. The gap with the modern life is really big ❤ You're really loving people. Glad you helped them. It's really important for us younger peolpe, to keep up with modern technology.
Sometimes, siblings do not get along due to a variety of personality differences. I'd seek God's guidance in this matter as the cost of a second child is very expensive now. Plus, a second child doubles your work. Again, God will let you know what to do as children are also such incredible blessings. There are pros and cons to consider.
you two are so caring and loving. i agree that kids should give back to their parents. you are relationship and family goals.
P.S. Dont be pressured to have another child. We had only one biological child. He turned out to be smart. A wonderful husband and strong in principles 😊 His wife adores him🎉
As you are doing keep up the good work monitoring them.
What is it with parents trying to keep things like that with your parents to themselves.
I went through the same with my Mai! Last time it was to late to get help 😢
Love this video! It is sad when our parents get older, but it's called the circle of life. I remember taking care of my Mom. Saddened😢by her going home with God when she was 96 years old.
God Bless! It is biblical to take care of our aging parents. You are doing the right thing. I love watching your channel. You guys are a breath of fresh air. Always so full of positivity, happiness and love and knowing what truly matters and is important.
It is hard to be so far away from aging parents! I'm thankful that my daughters both live fairly close! I'm 70 now, and I ask my kids & grandkids how to do things electronically. I'd prefer to do things the old (paper) way. Calling more will help to boost their morale. Bless you both for caring as some children don't. ❤
I feel the same Ana! My parents are just a Lil bit older than yours! God bless you and your family ❤ LuvFromCTUSA
if you think it is hard to see your parents dealing with health issues, what about us, the parents? ... it is not easy for us to deal with health chalenges.... Life is always a worry. Thank you for being there for your parents.
I know exactly what you both are going through. I have a brother and a sister so that's 3 of us. I live the farthest. 3 hours away. My mom is 86 and has a bad heart and COPD. My brother does most of the care. My sister just had surgery so she's healing and I go up there as often as I can. It's very hard but we try our best. ❤ Prayers to all families and their loved ones. 🙏
Henrique is sooo spécial! And you are right. Life is precious and passing so incredible fast. One day comes where we realize that we have become the strong adults ... in this moment we realized that our childrenship has ended.
You are doing the correct thing with your parents. You're very lucky to have your brothers to share it with. I was only child and took care of my parents till the day they died my mom and my dad so it would be nice if we Enrique had a sibling or siblings to share this with, but I'm sure he'll also be strong enough to do it on his own with parents like yourselves
Children have to be there to assist their parents as much as they can. It's the right thing to do. And grandparents is a great blessing in grandchildren's lives ❤
Take care of yourselves and move back to Brazil with your baby and parents. It is not safe here anymore.
You guys are so blessed you have a wonderful family!! My husband is 87 and just got done having radiation treatments for he had liver cancer the doctors say that the radiation killed it Praise the Lord!!! I had a stroke 6 years ago and can’t do a lot of things and our house shows it 😢 I’m 74 and have no balance so I fall a lot.
I think what you're trying to say Anna, is that you feel r😢esponsible to be there for your parents.
And you're right about it not being a job you have to do. But because you love them, you want to do what you can to support them.
That's so beautiful and unselfish & is only natural that you want to instill such lovely values in your son.
I'm certain, if you get in the habit early on, spending time together as a family while watching the wonderful content you've created & share with us, it will also benefit Henrique too & will just naturally become part of his life long heart language. ❤️
You are both lovely with your family ❤❤❤ Beautiful family a.d Henrique is so adorable. ❤❤❤
Bless you sweet dears! My children are even older and I am in the sandwich generation as well - taking care of an elderly mom and my husband and kids. It’s not easy. Lean on your faith and your incredible love for each other and the joy your precious Henrique brings you and your parents! Remember we were made for communion with God and with each other, and are not called to bear burdens alone. By allowing others to help us we afford them the gift of earning graces in doing so, and we feel love expand between all of us! Be sure to ask for help when you’re feeling overwhelmed or depleted! You and your parents and all of your family are in my prayers! God bless you all!
God bless all of you! such a sweet video of your family and trip to Brazil - such sweet memories you all made!!
It’s very difficult to watch our parents struggle in life. The visit with them with their grandson was precious. Memories in the making! Your son is such a doll and a lovely extension of you both. Enjoy every moment as they do go by too fast. Have a wonderful day. ❤
Totally agree with you both. It is our responsibility to take care of our parents when they get elderly. It is the full circle of life. God says we are to respect or parents. Respect n love go together. It would be great for Henrique to have siblings to share in the care. We are experiencing it all now. Prayers for your parents❤🙏🥰
Your parents are such a lovely couple you can see all the love they have for all of the family I hope you can go back every year to see them! Love this video.
Here’s an idea……..you better get busy and create a sibling so your son will have a sister to take care of everything !!!!
I believe we have a moral obligation to care for our elderly parents, the were always there for us and loved us when we needed it, in turn we do it for them when they are elderly. Prayers for your parents. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It’s good when we have siblings Henrique would love to have a brother or sister.
You did a great thing with your parents Ana ! I m in your situation And Its not easy to let your parents and dont help them in our absents . I with you, I know What is that. Bigs hugs, a lot of courage and blessings to you parents 🙏🏾
Thank you for being there for your parents. You set such a good example for others and especially for Henrique. Yes, God is always there with us if our children are not.
This brought back so many memories for me. I moved to another state to take care of my parents, which, as Junio says, is full circle. The love in your family is precious and Henrique gets to grow up surrounded by it. I have no doubt he will do what is needed for you both when that day arrives. I know how hard it is to watch them become childlike again. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Much love ♥That Brazilian Family = Happiness 😊💙😊 Doro
I have three brothers besides myself I am the only girl. My brothers thought it was my job to take care of my parents and I lived out of town where two of my brothers lived in town with my parents. Well by them they live One was like 400 yards from my parents house. They made me feel guilty because I was the only girl. That's not how it's done to make the daughter feel like it's her job. Yes I think it's easier if you have two children but not everybody has that luxury of having more than one. I have three daughters one passed away last year which is very hard on me cuz she was only 40 years old. But my children know that we rely on them and they're always there for us and that's the way it should be. As Juno said it is a full circle!!!!! But it's great that you guys have all these videos for him to watch and look upon to see everything. But I know how you feel when you said your parents are back in the 1980s that's how my parents still were and it is very hard that they have to have someone else helpful make all the doctor appointments and go online and do everything for them because that's the way we live now is everything's done by computer or by phone. So I just want you to know this is what I was saying if it makes any sense but take care, God bless and I love you all ❤❤❤❤
Ana have another baby as soon as possible! Time goes by so fast... you can see. Don't hesitate! Love from Europe. ❤
Bless you and your family for getting them on a schedule with family help and love.. my dad and dad are both 77 with many health issues..I just had to talk with my dad about his health issues as well but he doesn't want me to help him.. very long unhealthy father/daughter relationship who abandoned my mom and I for drugs..
You're very special for handling your parents as special for your parents to have you ❤❤❤
Mixed up...maybe they could do that...or have a chart on the wall where each day they could check off when they take their medication..just a suggestion..i kno what THEY are going thru AND i took care of my elderly mom..so i kno what YOU are going thru too! Keep doing what you can and what they really need is your love and attention! Take care!