Day 311: Adultery and Divorce - The Catechism in a Year (with Fr. Mike Schmitz)
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- This episode has been found to be in conformity with the Catechism by the Institute on the Catechism, under the Subcommittee on the Catechism, USCCB.
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The Catechism goes into detail about offenses against the dignity of marriage. The two topics we look at are adultery and divorce. These sins against marriage are not isolated between the spouses, but affect others including family, children, and society. With this, Fr. Mike reminds us that we live in a broken world, but God is among us, and he is a merciful Father with the ability to redeem. Today’s readings are Catechism paragraphs 2380-2386.
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I had 2 marriages & 2 divorces before I became Catholic. The 2nd was the worst as I was discerning the Church & my husband was Catholic. He left me when I became disabled & unable to work; he found a girlfriend before he left. At first the RCIA director thought I needed to get an annulment before I entered the Church, but I didn’t. If I ever decide to marry I will, but I don’t plan on marrying again. My life is devoted to prayers, my church, & my grandchildren. God has been so good to me.🙏❤️
I am a Catholic and have been through similar to you. My first was the worst. I found help from the wrong person. I had tried the church and solicitors but no one could offer me any help at all. This was in 1980s. My first marriage was annulled. Fr Mike doesn't mention annulment. The second was more mental anguish. I've been on my own for 10 years. I'm not marrying again. I like to think I'm married to Jesus. I have grandchildren too. God bless you. I love to pray too. ❤🙏
The road you and many have traveled is difficult. With the grace of God and your shear grit you have made it to a safe and happy place. You have become a friend and consoler to many of us in this CIY community. Thank you and may God protect & guide you as you continue on this journey called life. ❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏
@@carolhannah4635 May God keep you close to Him as you travel along this road of life on your own. ❤🙏
If you are divorced, in opposition to scripture., reconcile with your mate. If it is not possible, then accept God’s grace and move forward. Seek to live a life pleasing to God from this point on.
God is a merciful God. Can God forgive anger, gossip, malice. He is a merciful God. He’s the God who had mercy on the adulterous woman. He’s a God who not only forgave but commissioned the Samaritan woman who had been in and out of five different broken homes. Is He a God of mercy? Yes!❤❤❤
God has a heart for hurting parents. Should we be surprised? After all, God himself is a father. What parental emotion has He not felt? Do you find yourself wanting to spare your child from all the hurt in the world? God did. And yet, He “did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all - how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” (Romans 8:32). “All things” must include courage and hope.❤❤❤
I am beginning to sense that my profound conversion testimony 16 years ago in Medjugorje, where God intervened through our Blessed Mother to save my marriage, came to light. God has called me out of darkness to become a witness to the sacredness of marriage and the sanctity of life. Being a prodigal son leading a life of promiscuity before my conversion, I thought God made a mistake selecting me for that mission where there are so many holy couples in the world so why me. The more I read about the saints, the more I understand that God could make good out of evil. The life of St. Augustine resonates with me with his prayer, "Give me chastity, but not yet." I have grown closer to Jesus in the Holy Eucharist and yearn to be with Him daily to receive the graces to sustain my conversion. I have an immense love for our Blessed Mother. We celebrated our 25th marriage anniversary almost three years ago when we offered a bouquet of roses to our Blessed Mother, I was filled with emotion. Viva Cristo Rey and Ave Maria.
Thank you for posting this happy rose among the many sad thorns here in Day311 ❤🙏
❤Beautiful story; thank you for sharing. God bless you ❤
@@dianefrank3688 Thank you for your words of encouragement. Pray for me to persevere to the end knowing it is a fight to live a holy life. God bless!
@@KB_2161 Thank you for your kind words. May God bless you and your family as well.
My maternal grandmother and mother had broken marriages, but I have been married for 51 years to my spouse. I thank God for the Sacrament of Marriage.
Congratulations! God is good! ❤️
I still struggle with my parents separation and divorce . These wounds run deep and need the healing of Jesus. I’m 67 now .
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If you are divorced, in opposition to scripture., reconcile with your mate. If it is not possible, then accept God’s grace and move forward. Seek to live a life pleasing to God from this point on.
God is a merciful God. Can God forgive anger, gossip, malice? He is a merciful God. He’s the God who had mercy on the adulterous woman. He’s a God who not only forgave but commissioned the Samaritan woman who had been in and out of five different broken homes. Is He a God of mercy? Yes!
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It may be easier said than done but don't own your parent's sins they are not there to be inherited. Live for today the past is gone and the future is a prayer away. Pray for them instead. Jesus loves you and He is faithful so trust in Him. You may be broken but don't live like you are. You are the vessel chosen by God to carry His gospel to the world. 🙏
May God's grace shower upon you and give you inner peace. Amen
Thank you Fr. Mike. You give us all hope and encouragement! My wife moved out this summer and filed for divorce. I am devastated. We have three sons all pre teen. I am looking at this as a wake up call from God. I was not a great husband or father. I was working too much and only concerned with myself. I am absolutely focused on changing my ways. I am going to be the best father and hopefully husband that I can be. I have recently started RCIA and have such a hunger to learn more about the teaching of the Catholic faith. This is something that i should have done years ago when my wife and I took the sacrament of marriage. We need Christ at the center of our marriage and at the center of our family. My sons all look up to me and want to be just like Dad. I owe it to myself and them and my wife to live a life committed to God and the church. I feel sort of like Saint Paul... I was blind but now I see. Please pray for us. I want nothing more than reconciliation with my wife. 🙏❤
May God bless you and your family. I will pray for you 🙏
God be with you Bryce, your wife & children.🙏 Prayers for reconciliation & God bless you on your Faith journey.🙏
I hope you can always have a solid family. Praying that your wife can find some forgiveness..Gods great blessings!
Praying for you and your family.❤🙏
Praying for you and your family Bryce. Continue to ask the holy spirt to guide your every thought and action. Don’t lose faith. God is calling all of to repent of our ways. To go through that struggle allowing us to see the light. ❤
I awoke with a heavy heart in the middle of the night, unable to sleep with a lot on my mind. My first thought is to listen to CIY for today (Tuesday), make a cup of decaf tea, and calm my soul with God's word, as read by Father Mike. How blessed to have these lessons, and this CIY community from Day One. Thank you!
You are so right Tish. I have to get an all consuming job finished and have fallen asleep on the sofa. I, like you just jolted awake and am now at my computer listening to the opening prayer by Fr. Mike for Day311 of the CIY. I am also so thankful for the CIY community with Fr. Mike as our reader & leader. May God bless us both as we proceed with today's lesion and the rest of what this Tuesday will bring. 🥰🙏
Night owl 🦉 here. I’m listening tonight, or rather early AM, instead of waiting til tomorrow. God bless you both. May you have a restful remainder of your night.🙏❤️
@@TrixRN Thanks you Theresa, fellow night owl, When I finish listening to Fr. Mike I am going to try to work at my project for a few hours, take the dog out again, and try to sleep for awhile. 🙄❤🙏
@@TrixRNgood morning fellow night owl. I am up and down all night😂
@@dianefrank3688Good morning fellow night owl. I am usually burning the candle at both ends myself. ❤
It took the Catholic Church to finally teach me this, after several marriages and divorces. Other churches, episcopal, baptist, etc. might read this in the Bible, but totally skip over this teaching it as real.
My husband and I are both children of divorced parents. It's not only hard on the children but the grandchildren.
"And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil."
Amen
Praying for all in marriages that are difficult. Truly. And all in CIY. 💓🙏💞🙏💓
My parents are divorced and had an annulment. Yes, I'm okay, and, yes, I bounced back. But divorce is not okay. And, while I understand the churches desire to keep the sanctity of marriage by offering the annulment process. You cannot annul the life of a child. I am married, and I have three boys. My wife and I have struggles, but my children deserve two parents who love each other. My wife and I argue, and I struggle with things that, I think, all men struggle with. But my wife deserves a faithful husband, and my children deserve loving parents. And I will fall short of a perfect marriage or being a perfect father. But I will never stop striving towards the example of Christ and the Saints. If you want to help your children have a successful marriage, tell them to wait. Wait to have relations with their future spouse. But, also, wait to get married. If their future spouse is the person they are with, he/she will wait. Be certain before you propose or say yes.
I pray for all of you dealing with these issues.
Hello everyone & Happy Day 311!🙏😊
🙋Elizabeth & All 😊Day 311 ❤🙏
Hi y’all 👋 Happy day 311. Hope all y’all are doing well. I’m still getting worse. Yuck 🤢 fever, 🤒 achy, headache, cough, copious amounts of mucus…🙏❤️
@@TrixRN feel better Theresa!🙏😘
@@TrixRN We are now in the flu, cold, & covid season. I hope you can get something to knock this out before it progresses any farther. 🤧✝❤🙏
@@TrixRNLord, bring light to my darkness today. The future can feel scary and is filled with the unknown. When my mind strays to anxious thoughts, light a path back to clarity and peace.
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Blessings to all who are participating in the CIY & BIY today🙏🏻🕊✝️🕊🙏🏻
I’ve endured a loveless marriage for over 40 years, because I don’t believe in divorce!
May God bless you
God bless you.
I'm so sorry. May God bless you
Praying for Fr. Mike & CIY 🙏🙏🙏 Especially praying today for all those in difficult situations in their relationships with their spouses and their children. 💔🙏
❤prayers for all❤
God loves the divorced but hates divorce. God hates divorce. He hates it because it destroys the children whom he loves. But let us be as equally loud and clear and state that God loves the divorced, that it is not a sin among sins. The same God who will forgive your bad attitude or bad temper can forgive a bad decision in marriage.❤
Day 311...Marriage a gift...but we live in a broken world..Fr.Mike..thankyou for your time..Praying for you and all in the Ascension team 🙏
Thank you Fr Mike.....All young people should listen to this. Its just wonderful ❤.....Praying for all young people entering into marriage. Also for you Fr Mike, all who make this possible and everyone here. God bless🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
Thank you Marian. I agree with you all should hear this. I am praying for you and all. ❤🙏
This dismal state of marriage I find myself , I married a man who converted to Catholicism but , has no moral compass . A pragmatic atheist, narcissistic user . After 36 years of being deceived, cheated on, lied to , gaslighted and robbed of most of my personal possessions, stole the equity of my home for an adulterous love nest . Pray that the Holy Spirit guides my life to heal and confidence to let go of this monster who believes that appearances are more important than reality . Who knows what
lies he tells the Priest In Confession ? No rules apply to him. He actually thinks he can fool God !
Prayers🙏❤️
Same here. He turned our children against me. They no longer practice the Faith.
Prayers for God to shed a guiding light on you.🕊💥❤🙏
@@wms72 It is a grave sin to use children as pawns in disputes. You and your extended family are in my prayers. 😥❤🙏
Miraculous Prayer to the Holy Spirit
Let us begin, In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Holy Spirit, you who makes me see everything and shows me the way to reach my ideal, you who gives me the divine gift to forgive and forget all the wrong that is done to me and you. who are in all instances of my life with me.
I, in this short dialogue, I want to thank you for everything, and affirm once more that I never want to be separated from you, no matter how great the material desires may be.
I want to be with you and my loved ones in your perpetual glory. To that end and submitting to God’s holy will, I ask from you..
(Mention your request here…for the intentions of the brokenhearted and all of my brothers and sisters in need of prayer, worldwide, especially those in need of purgatorial prayer through Christ our Lord)
Say 1: Our Father… Say 1: Hail Mary… Say 1: Glory Be…
I believe in Thee, O my God. Strengthen, O Lord, my faith. I hope in Thee, O my God. Affirm, O Lord, my hope. I love Thee, O my God; increase, O Lord, my love. I repent of having offended Thee. O my God, help me to have contrition, so that with the help of Thy grace and the powerful patronage of Holy Mary of Good Success, I may never sin again. O Lord, have pity and mercy on me. Amen.
Our Lady of Good Success, Pray for us...Amen❤❤❤
These "social issue" discussions have come at the perfect time in that, with an understanding of their sources, I am able to break from the messages the world would have us believe.
I can remember telling my husband (at least once during arguments when he would say why don’t you just get a divorce) “never verbalize divorce that makes it easy to do”. If you speak of it you become “accustomed” to it.
God bless you Fr. Mike Schmitz 🛐
Are emotional affairs adultery? My husband had 2 single women he would help at a moments notice and leave me home alone. Once home he was totally checked out with me. He had his phone always near incase they wanted to connect and I became invisible. This went on for years as he used that it was his Christian duty to help these single women out for emotional support and fixing things for them. My husband said he wanted to move out after I told him those friendships needed to end. After a few counseling sessions with our priest, he decided to stay and work on our marriage. I stipulated the to 2 women needed to go as friends. Though he's stayed I could feel the deep resentment he's had for me because of my request. He says he loves me, he just doesn't like me. Pray for me and us. I'm trying to grow in whatever manner God wants me to.
Ask St. Joseph and Mama Mary to work on him that he maybe a devoted husband like Joseph and treat as he treated Mary. I will add you to my prayer list.
You were absolutely right in insisting he not have that kind of friendship with another woman, single or not. That's just playing with fire. For him to be so adamant against ending the friendship would put red flags up. Plus, he should know all of this if he's truly practicing the Faith.
I'm sorry you've had this struggle. I hope he is convicted that it was wrong and he owes his time and attention to you exclusively before any other female. 🙏🤲🙏💝
I think the phrase “you shouldn’t stay together just for the children” is awful and opened the door for many to break their promises.
So people should stay in a marriage in spite of abuse?
@@akiram6609 Father Mike addresses abuse in the video quite well.
Good evening everyone! Thank you Father Mike!❤🙏❤
Hello everyone and thank you Father Mike.♥️🙏🙏🙏
My ex husband cheated on me and committed adultery. This broke our family apart. It was not my choice but it did affect our family. I was granted an annulment by the bishop because I could not live with my ex any longer. He was abusive, an alcoholic and has many problems. God walked me through this tough time in my life. I am so thankful. I could get married in the church again but really not sure if I ever want to marry again after all the hurt I endured in my past. The divorce was chosen for me. I was willing to help him but he did not think he had any issues. It was very sad to see this happen. I was in danger of being hurt so I had to get away from him also. I am so thankful God gave me strength to get through this in my past. 🙏
Praise to you God and Jesus Christ🙏❤🕊😇
Father, may everything that I do this day, whether it be full of joy or pain, whether it be full of love or of grief, I ask that everything I go through today be offered to you just like Jesus offered everything to you. It is in his name we pray. Amen. 11/7/2023.
Amen! ❤🙏
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Day 311. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Father Mike
Praying for you Fr. Mike
My husband & I are going on 44 years of marriage. When we got married we didn't really understand what we were doing. We practiced contraception for 25 years before finally having a parish priest who had the courage to speak regularly on the topic. After learning this we stopped but sadly, we didn't conceive again. We are blessed with two grown children & five grandchildren, so far. I can attest that marriage is the pathway to sanctity because it isn't easy but with God, all things are possible. I have especially loved these talks on marriage because I learned these lessons the hard way. Thanks be to God, I am married to a wonderful man & will be for the rest of our life.
Thanks so much for answering the call to the priesthood, Father Mike. You are a hero in our family. You are in my prayers! 🙏
Fr. Thank you ❤. Praying for you, for the Ascension team and for all my CIY brothers and sisters. God bless ❤🙏
Thank you for the prayers. I am praying for you and all ❤🙏
@@dianefrank3688 🙏❤🙏
Fr. Thank you .. praying for you all.. God bless ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Amen
❤Miraculous Prayer to the Holy Spirit
Let us begin, In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Holy Spirit, you who makes me see everything and shows me the way to reach my ideal, you who gives me the divine gift to forgive and forget all the wrong that is done to me and you. who are in all instances of my life with me.
I, in this short dialogue, I want to thank you for everything, and affirm once more that I never want to be separated from you, no matter how great the material desires may be.
I want to be with you and my loved ones in your perpetual glory. To that end and submitting to God’s holy will, I ask from you..
(Mention your request here… for the intentions of @MorreHope and all of my brothers and sisters in need of prayer, worldwid, especially those in need of purgatorial prayer through Christ our Lord)
Say 1: Our Father… Say 1: Hail Mary… Say 1: Glory Be…
I believe in Thee, O my God. Strengthen, O Lord, my faith. I hope in Thee, O my God. Affirm, O Lord, my hope. I love Thee, O my God; increase, O Lord, my love. I repent of having offended Thee. O my God, help me to have contrition, so that with the help of Thy grace and the powerful patronage of Holy Mary of Good Success, I may never sin again. O Lord, have pity and mercy on me. Amen.
Our Lady of Good Success, Pray for us...Amen❤
Amen! ❤🙏
This is particularly hard to listen to. Without sharing all of my story, I'll just say that yes, we live with consequences of our choices. Once we've been convicted and can't right the wrong all we're left with is apologies, even though some won't be accepted, and trying our very best to live in the way God would have us live. It can be incredibly painful to wonder how things and people would be like if we'd chosen different. It does however contribute to an immense gratitude for our loving and merciful God. Our God who is always ready to take us back in right relationship with Him.
Thank you Father Mike, The topic was really intense. Who have ears to hear, let them hear.
May God Bless us always 🙏 Thank you Father Mike for your prayers, May God bless you always, this is my brokenness in my life
Fr. Mike emphasizes the promise of the marriage vow. I like to think of the vow as more of a covenant than promise. Engagement is a promise. Marriage is a covenant.
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Thank you Father
"Our choices have consequences and our sins don't end with us". My parents chose divorce. I can't really explain the damage that did to me. As an adult who has total responsibility for his own life, all I can do is just not repeat their mistake if I get married.
Prayers Father Mike
Thank you, Father Mike
I've been discerning my marriage and divorce after I found out last year that my wife was having affairs for 2 years. I feel sad for my 3 children and what they've had to endure over the last few years. I prayed to God that he could help renew our marriage and family, but over time I've come to realize how damaged our marriage is and that it might not actually be worth it and its better to move on and work on being the best father I cane be. 🙏
Matthew 19:9
Marriage is a great good, a gift and a sacrament and there are ways it can be wounded in this broken world.
Adultery is marital infidelity, including adultery of desire. It's an injustice to one's spouse.
Divorce is a grave offence against the natural law, bringing disorder into the family and traumatising the children. It's always tragic.
Even if for some legitimate reason a couple needs to separate, they are still married to each other as marriage is a covenant and hence unbreakable except by death.
Marriage is a sign of the TRINITY. 🙏 🙏 🙏
This is a hard and beautiful word. Jesus have mercy on me, single people, and Your underground Church 😭🙌💝
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There are 3 in a marriage ➕
Amen Jesus Father Mike
God Bless Fr. Mike!
Day 311 👏😍🎉❤
Third comment of day 311
Word.
I know the pain of adultery. I discovered my husband cheating with his married coworker, Maureen. We were on our family vacation in New Orleans when we discovered the affair going on right before our eyes and ears.
God Bless you Father Mike❤
Thank you Fr. Mike. I am not perfect. Your explaination after the reading was encouraging. I pray my children hear it even tho they are really young (7 kids 12 down to 2). To hear the Church say what they are going through is not the order of God but a choice. They know this already but to hear it would truly help them keep from hardening their hearts against parents love the Church and God. So many in our culture push them into affirmation therapy. These same professionals claim telling them such a thing is abusive to them and traumatizes them that a parent that does this is not permitted to have them for fear of alienation of the spouse seeking divorce. Thank you. Thank you.
November 7, 2023
Would you consider listening to Saint Faustina’s Diary in a year and/or EWTN Mother Angelica’s Classics to add to your Catholic learning?
Oh my goodness so much life guidance in conjunction with Father Mike’s Bible and Catechism in a Year!
Can you mention this advice on the final day of CIY, please? God willing most of us will have the desire the seek more once we are done with CIY and/or BIY.
@@DominusTecum316absolutely. I try to post it each day just in case U can reach someone that has not seen it before. :)
If parents give Self and do not honour the baptismal promises we are not giving Christ to the child that cries out in Church.
“It is better that you should not vow than that you should vow and not pay.”
Ecclesiastes 5:5
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The catechism in a year and bible in a year should be classes in grade school high school . ? How did I get this far, (73) without all this insite ? …Grace of God.
I just said the same thing to my husband the other day. Absolutely should be part of the confirmation process.
But all this said if the marriage is not valid or canonical it isnt a sacramental marriage from the beginning though it appeared so. We cannot assume about any other person’s situation… that is for the canon lawyers to give an official declaration
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼.
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Is there any hope for a restored relationship with the church if divorced and adulterous? I know Jesus forgives, but does the church?
Jesus forgives and asks us to sin no more. The Church should follow Jesus.
❤Absolutely! We are all sinners, we are equal. We welcome you home.❤
The Church never breaks a relationship with us - we are the ones that break the relationship with the truth that the Church must uphold.
The thing that gets me is i agree with what youre saying father mike what gets me is when someone that preaches against divorce yet remarries after divorce and marries someone that is married multiple times over. But not my place to judge just curious. Lol. God bless ya father mike. Great video. Take care.
I am widowed from my second marriage but my first marriage was annulled. I find it unfortunate that in a discussion of divorce, at least to the best of my recollection, the concept of annulment was not referenced.
I looked it up. It was mentioned on Day 222 when discussing The Celebration of Marriage (article 1629)
@@paularoussel7859Thanks for pointing that out. I recall that, but my point was that it is quite relevant in a discussion about divorce. Omitting it here allows for the incorrect and less loving and merciful impression that makes so many divorced Catholics of an average information level feel hopelessly ostracized when they are left with no other option to seek a divorce in situations like Father Mike pointed out. I have friends that have been on the unfortunate side of such situations being surrounded by people who only focus on the "Disorder" aspect of divorce.
I agree Divorce is awful, and traumatic for kids too. Being the one who was left with 2 sons, and a husband who just came home one day and said I am leaving you, never loved you, packed and left us, I am sorry to see nothing on annulment being mentioned. I thank God that I did get one, and also got a new, devoted husband and dad for 32 years. He died at age 61, my boys were grown. The ex-husband is older and still alive, and settled now with wife #3.
I thought it was strange that the subject of annulment wasn't mentioned too, so I looked it up. It was discussed earlier, on Day 222, article 1629, discussing The Celebration of Marriage.
What about your reason for divorce has nothing to do with anyone else?
It's the way one was treated during 36 yrs of marriage.
Narcissistic behavior no trust.
No communication.
I finally gave up. Built a protective wall around me until it was finished.
I waited until my 2 kids were adults.
Now my adult daughter hasn't talked to me in 8 yrs. My son understands.
Lies were told about me. I didn't leave for anyone!
The ex is now deceased. I did find someone, became engaged but he passed away . I did go to confession & confessed the whole thing. So now what? In the end he (ex) locked me in the bedroom & pulled a gun out & said he was going to kill me. I can tell you after that there was no going back for me. I was afraid of him for years. He had a temper.
So, I'm supposed to stay in a marriage where I am afraid?
Where I'm treated like his child rather than his wife?
I made my choice & because of it my daughter has ghosted me. I have one 15 yr old grandson that I haven't seen in 8 years. They moved several states away.
Is this my punishment? All I ever wanted was to be happy. At least I'm not afraid anymore. No more looking over my shoulder to see if he was going to finish what he started.
The worst thing is grieving someone that is still alive.
You definitely had grounds for annulment when he was still alive. In today's video, look at paragraph 2386. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
What about annulments? When people were not prepared to make the marriage commitment.
Discussed on paragraph 1629
Faithful in Christ or Self. Please say it fr Mike
I was just granted an annulment
I am in the process of applying. My spouse who left me wants nothing to do with the process. It's extremely difficult and confronting to write the application. I am happy for you, I hope to get mine granted, God willing.
Someone who has now adult children from a failed marriage, had an annulment. What does that mean?
It’s more than a promise. It’s an Oath. In Disney's "Mary Poppins", she says a promise made is a pie crust promise. "Easily made, easily broken." We promise on mundane situations. “I promise I’ll get you a pizza later.” An oath is much stronger.
November 7, 2023
I am looking for people to please take a moment and pray with me for Souls in Purgatory. Can you help?
According to tradition, St. Gertrude the Great was told by Our Lord that each time she piously recited the following prayer, it would release 1,000 souls (or a vast number) from their suffering in purgatory:
Eternal Father,
I offer You the most precious blood
of thy Divine Son, Jesus,
in union with the Masses said
throughout the world today,
for all the Holy Souls in Purgatory,
for sinners everywhere,
for sinners in the universal Church,
for those in my own home,
and in my family. Amen.
In her account of another vision, St. Faustina describes Purgatory as a "great crowd of suffering souls" undergoing purification. Further, she says that the souls are "praying fervently, but to no avail, for themselves; only we can come to their aid" (Diary, 20)
Father I need your grace again because I am not the witness I want to be.
I pray this several times a day. ❤
@@lisaking-ye2powonderful! Oh so very wonderful!
This 6th commandment only helps me see how bad I am and how my failures hurt others. Why is there a 9th commandment? isn't it redundant?
How do all these ideas relate to "civil marriages"?
Time: 4:54: Questions: Regarding the condemnation of desire of adultery, if the desire arises from the attraction between unmarried who are already married to their spouses, would that desire not simply not be a temptation; or would it be a desire that is being acted upon from an antecedent temptation.
In other words, if a married man and a married woman (who are married to their own spouses) work together in the same area and are exposed to each other over time and find themselves becoming attracted to each other out of common interests and rapport, have they already thereby committed the son of desiring adultery?
What if the devil tempts them with sexual thoughts but that they don't desire to arise in their imaginations? Temptations, even strong ones, might appear to be as sin insofar as it would be only characterized as a desire.
Temptations are not sins, but willingly entertaining fantasies is. I think you could also argue that a spouse who realizes that they're developing strong feelings for someone other than their husband or wife, and does not take some action to re-establish boundaries or otherwise resolve the problem because they like the feeling of falling in love or getting attention, is committing a sin of omission.
@@MySchoolProject15 that's a really good point. I suppose if they were continue the exposed to each other's company at work, at least one of them may have to leave the job.
I work with a very attractive person who is always very friendly with me and sometimes tempting thoughts have come across my mind, but I just let them go like leaves that are blown in the wind. Of course, I have no intention to add to pursue this for a second.
Having said that, the attraction remains fairly constant, but so is the habit of letting the leaves blow past me. So, although attraction and temptations still come and go, I remain free thanks be to God.
@@MM22272 Mmhm exactly. I mean we all know attractive people, heck some of us *are* attractive people. The ideal of chastity is to be able to treat everyone no matter how attractive as just normal human beings, but we also all need to be aware of our own limits and weaknesses. Plus there's a difference between finding someone attractive in a general way and two people developing actual feelings for each other. It requires honesty and self-examination to know which is which.
@@MySchoolProject15 perfectly expressed! May God's blessings be upon you and may the Lord bless all who may be tempted to gravitate towards adultery.
I notice you did not discuss annulment. I wonder why. The church allows it.
Discussed back at paragraph 1629
It’s not in paragraphs of today’s reading
I looked it up. It was mentioned on Day 222 when discussing The Celebration of Marriage (paragraph 1629)
Father Mike, my understanding is you have a bride church?
Don't know what your question really means.. but... the Bible explicitly states that Jesus is the bridegroom and His church is the bride. There is also The Wedding feast of the Lamb in Revelation.
Wait I feel like there should be more here.
What about annulments father?
Discussed back at paragraph 1629
While paragraph 2383 allows for the separation of a marriage in dire situations, it specifies that the marriage bond nonetheless be maintained. So, by that reasoning, if someone was forced to flee a marriage because of domestic violence, they would still be sacramentally bound to their abuser? Shouldn’t the victim be allowed a second chance at love? Similarly, what about the person described in paragraph 2386 as remaining faithful but nonetheless abandoned? Why should someone in that situation be barred from remarrying? In either situation, I don’t see how the marriage could be said to have never existed, which seems to be the formula for obtaining an annulment in paragraph 1629.
Simply put, because sin does not end a valid marriage. It may be a symptom or evidence of an invalid marriage , however. The Christian life is not all about seeking happiness on earth. Marriage is a particular cross that must be taken up and carried. That is the point of the vows. For better or for worse. It is a lifelong commitment. A lot of care is to be taken in the discernment of marriage. Of course if the marriage ends the participants are free to enter into the annulment process to determine the state of the marriage. There are characteristics that make up valid marriage and if any of them were absent at the time of the vows there will be evidence and the tribunal will make a ruling on that. I once read a book by Michael Smith Foster called Annulment The Wedding that Was which explains it well.
I looked it up. It was mentioned on Day 222 when discussing The Celebration of Marriage (paragraph 1629)
Annulments? Where does that inter in this discussion?
What about annulments?
I looked it up. It was mentioned on Day 222 when discussing The Celebration of Marriage (article 1629)
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When one lays as one flesh with another person, you’re married in God’s eyes. Adams did not love either or he would’ve told her do not eat From your tree of knowledge that God gave us. Eve did not see Christ and Adam or herself. It is why God Christ Holy Spirit came incarnate.
Unfortunately now if you’re breathing you qualify for annulments. It’s given like candy!
Annulment has been abused, causing scandal. Claiming that one was 'too immature' to enter marriage, annulments are handed out in the name of 'compassion' not truth. No matter how the other person changes, if one makes a lifelong vow, one doesn't get excused from it. Legal separation must be an option if needed for safety, but NO "remarriage." Divorce and remarriage to another is adultery. The church should not contribute to scandal.
Whatever is rebuked or bound on earth is same in Heaven. If the church decides it’s annulled, it’s annulled.
Get married. Dont use other people by attacking them.
After this lesson I actually fear to get married in the church, because i know how the girls from nowadays prefer liberality more than faithfullness. I don't want to be that man who is married to a adulteress and to have to forgive and try to keep such broken marriages together. My mother recently divorced my stepfather, because he had 3! affairs running while married to my mother. I think its very dangerous to get married according to the church nowadays.
Even the reason why god keep me Single. Because we are in the endtimes.
Oh, really? No.
It's worth remembering that in Genesis God made marriage and children part of women's punishment for the sin of Eve. It isn't supposed to be a happy state, st least for the woman. Men run around, men lose their temper and get stinking drunk and best their wives bloody. It's what happens and it's part of women's lot, and if you're obeying the dictum not.to use birth control, just where ya gonna go with your 11 kids and no job? So ladle on the pancake makeup, shut up.and make dinner.
When men commit adultery, it's a crime against the male owner (husband or father) of his adultery partner- not against his wife.
If a wife cheats, it's a crime against her husband, as she is his property, and what's more important, she runs the risk of bringing kids into the world that are not her husband's and have no right to his support.
That is not at all how Catholics view it. For us, marriage is not a punishment but "the one blessing not forfeited by original sin nor washed away by the flood."
My husband is one of the kindest people I know, but you'd better believe if he ever raised a hand to me or my children, we'd be out the door ASAP. The church wisely allows for separation and even civil divorce if necessary to protect spouses and their children from domestic abuse, as Fr. Mike said in the video. (Also, not using contraception doesn't mean you'll have 11 kids? We're not the quiverfull mentality folks; Catholics use NFP to space out the births of our children and plan family size. I know I definitely don't have 11 kids.)
Also your statements about how adultery is viewed from the male to female partner are not accurate to Catholic teaching. Adultery with someone other than one's wife is very much a sin against the wife, not just the affair partner. Fr. Mike discussed that in the video too.
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