Why You Should Look Forward To The Menopause | Fleabag Series 2

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  • "Women are born with pain built in" - here's why you should look forward to the menopause if you're a woman, according to Belinda (Kristin Scott Thomas).
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  • @jessicalorna9226
    @jessicalorna9226 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8258

    i think one thing that’s great about this scene is you know how pivotal this conversation is for fleabag and how much she cares because she doesn’t break the 4th wall

    • @nevecariad
      @nevecariad 5 ปีที่แล้ว +186

      I was just thinking exactly the same thing!

    • @clairegarcia7286
      @clairegarcia7286 5 ปีที่แล้ว +249

      this is one of my favorite scenes and i never realized that!

    • @MrUndersolo
      @MrUndersolo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Did not notice that. Thanks!

    • @victorg.2816
      @victorg.2816 4 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      MINDBLOWN. I didn't notice

    • @MrsClarissaDalloway
      @MrsClarissaDalloway 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Great point! Can you remember if this is the one and only scene where she doesn't break it? I didn't even notice. Thank you.

  • @mildlyoff
    @mildlyoff 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5134

    So I admittedly get a bit teary when I watch this. I think as a woman, we get older with this learned fear of social irrelevance, of biological irrelevance. But this scene is of a successful older woman reassuring a younger woman that getting older is actually magnificent and freeing. And holy shit, it's totally reassuring to me too.

    • @crowe3627
      @crowe3627 3 ปีที่แล้ว +196

      I feel like for women, getting older is a LOT harder than it is for men. Women always are appreciated for big parts because of their looks. As a result, a few wrinkles on your face means that your social value is falling.
      This scene, however, provided a different insight- finally you aren't valued as an object and fully become a human being in other's eyes.

    • @crippleized
      @crippleized 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      That's lovely to hear. This show was fantastic.

    • @bubastis6306
      @bubastis6306 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      @@crowe3627 And yet old women are happier than old men. Women between 70-90 years old have the lowest suicide rates of any age group, whereas men between the same age have the highest.

    • @kalbininkas
      @kalbininkas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@bubastis6306 Thank you, Feminism.

    • @kalbininkas
      @kalbininkas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      As women get old, their value as humans plummets to that of a man. Must be tough losing all that privilege.

  • @viniciuseneas4036
    @viniciuseneas4036 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2631

    I'm living in the limbo between "Most people are... shit" and "People are all we've got".

    • @procrastinartist2825
      @procrastinartist2825 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      same oh god

    • @Inco464
      @Inco464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I agree it’s so stress full
      And this type of thinking makes me have a hard time in social situations

    • @telectronix1368
      @telectronix1368 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      How about "People are worth taking a chance on" ?

    • @Bahar-mo7xc
      @Bahar-mo7xc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@telectronix1368 I love it!

    • @milie2422
      @milie2422 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@telectronix1368 wow thank you

  • @lindsays7232
    @lindsays7232 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5048

    Yes, the Hot Priest was wonderful - but Belinda was the true hero of season 2.

    • @tiffguevara8364
      @tiffguevara8364 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      I agree! I loooooove those scene!

    • @sorcellerie
      @sorcellerie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      If we ever get a Fleabag comeback when she's older, as PWB mentioned one time, I want to see Belinda. If I don't get to see Belinda I will scream

    • @elliinspace
      @elliinspace 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      And she did blink

    • @maricristinacastel
      @maricristinacastel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I like this character so much!! wich episode is this one?

    • @thumpercomet3856
      @thumpercomet3856 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@elliinspace That's exactly where my mind went as well XD

  • @nnmtltf98
    @nnmtltf98 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3410

    I think this is the longest conversations that she was focused 100%

    • @MrUndersolo
      @MrUndersolo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +154

      No address to the camera...very telling...

    • @lindsays7232
      @lindsays7232 4 ปีที่แล้ว +117

      No winks to the camera. Just total focus. Wonderful.

    • @sarahcameronlerer4883
      @sarahcameronlerer4883 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      It is brilliant writing, and more than that, brilliant insight to what menstruation and menopause mean in a woman's life. THANK YOU, Fleabag, for putting this on film.

    • @telectronix1368
      @telectronix1368 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      The character doesn't need to break 'away' from the scene to talk to the audience because the writing is already doing that.
      This scene more than any other moment in Fleabag seems like (to me) Pheobe WB just sitting down and writing "here is what I think it is to be a woman".

  • @shmooples
    @shmooples 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1785

    "What had Jesus done by 33?"
    "...died?"
    "EXACTLY now get out there and flirt"

    • @SusanAzoulayF
      @SusanAzoulayF ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If only I was thought that in school.

    • @summerrose8110
      @summerrose8110 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Jesus did several miracles, teaching God's word and rose on the cross to free us from sin. It's more than just that.

    • @khajasyed2385
      @khajasyed2385 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@summerrose8110rose from cross and gone where ?

  • @theKTanator
    @theKTanator 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3060

    "People are all we've got" hit me like a brick

    • @Felicia_m
      @Felicia_m 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Moi aussi.

    • @emolicious4now
      @emolicious4now 5 ปีที่แล้ว +119

      Im a guy. And this scene knocked me out.. I can imagine what women go through. Such a well conveyed perspective.made me think and rethink.

    • @amitnagpal1985
      @amitnagpal1985 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Like a truck with bricks speeding at 100 miles per hour.

    • @hdlight
      @hdlight 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Indeed. I'm shook lol

    • @scudrunner79
      @scudrunner79 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      As an introvert it is hard to admit this is true.

  • @AoifesaysHello
    @AoifesaysHello 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3492

    What gets me about this scene is that it's almost as if fleabag is being told that everything will be ok in the end by her future self. From the caring nature down to the similar hairstyle Belinda is a reflection of what fleabag has to look forward to while reminding her not to take this period in her life for granted. Amazing scene from both Kristin Scott Thomas and Phoebe Waller-Bridge

    • @29jgirl92
      @29jgirl92 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Oh my god, I'd never thought about it like that! But it's so true!

    • @sararusnak5816
      @sararusnak5816 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      Yes!! Remember in season 1 when she said she was so terrified of what she would do when people didn't want to f*ck her anymore? The way this show catalogs Fleabag's journey towards healing is so brilliant.

    • @MeriLadliJuu
      @MeriLadliJuu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow well said!

  • @cabaret25
    @cabaret25 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2250

    "No longer just a machine with parts...Just a person...in business" My soul dropped to the floor to think about how that might feel.

    • @bernadettefisher6163
      @bernadettefisher6163 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      This entire scene was perfect but this line summed it all up.

    • @Sentientmatter8
      @Sentientmatter8 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Same. I wanted to grow wings.

    • @MrSidney9
      @MrSidney9 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What I hear is stark self-hatred and personal body-shaming. Ilike to think most women dont feel like that.

    • @Sentientmatter8
      @Sentientmatter8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +152

      @@MrSidney9 I don't know if you are a woman, but I promise you - this is NOT self hatred or body shaming. Human societies have long trapped women into narrow roles because of their biology. What she says is not a reaction to her body - it is a reaction to the expectations of society on her body.

    • @MrSidney9
      @MrSidney9 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@Sentientmatter8 Not society. Nature has imposed on women the pain and the pleasure of being able to bear children. Much of culture in every society is organized around Nature's impositions. Nature is the substrate. This is especially visible in less developed societies where human technology hasn't tamed much of the influences of Nature. Contraceptives, for instance, has done more to liberate women than any philosophy or activism.

  • @entertain7us148
    @entertain7us148 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3407

    We're raised to believe that our youth is our prime. It takes a lot to unlearn that. No one is in their prime in their youth. Everyone I've ever met has gotten slightly happier each year of their lives. The only people who reach middle age and are less happy with the person they are now than they were back then are the type of people to cling to a delusion of idealistic youth. Each year is more wisdom, more experience, more practice at being a human being, more time to get to know yourself. And for women especially, we need that practice, cos it's also one more year of dealing with how the world treats us.

    • @ampmri2434
      @ampmri2434 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Physically, our youth is our prime and of course gravity is always working its magic. I love your message here about, "Each year is more wisdom, more experience, more practice at being a human being..." Even in the face of society's expectations, aging like most things has a lot to do with the person's mentality and gratitude.

    • @EuropeanDemon
      @EuropeanDemon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Preach

    • @leif1075
      @leif1075 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@ampmri2434 Couldn't your prime physically not,be in your youth either? Or at least extend it into your 30s 40s 50s and 60s if you take care of yourself?

    • @ampmri2434
      @ampmri2434 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@leif1075 Are these rhetorical questions, I think you may already have the answers.

    • @roshneedesai
      @roshneedesai 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      entertain7us14 wow

  • @howardholloway5476
    @howardholloway5476 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2650

    This scene has stuck with me. It's so brilliantly written and performed

    • @krisztinaszoke5396
      @krisztinaszoke5396 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      my favourite scene in the entire series, even though it has a lof of great scenes, but this one just effected me in a way, nothing else on this show

    • @ampmri2434
      @ampmri2434 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Some real gems of wisdom in this 4:38 clip, delivered with humor and modesty and the viewer wasn't beaten over the head.

    • @gorgeous8821
      @gorgeous8821 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      IFKR

  • @pashav.8597
    @pashav.8597 2 ปีที่แล้ว +255

    "I wish you were my type."
    If she rejected me like that i would feel so flattered.

    • @tharakir1328
      @tharakir1328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      But what did she mean by that ? I don’t understand, is she saying she’s not appealing physically to her ?

    • @animegalc4
      @animegalc4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @@tharakir1328 could be that, yeah. Could be the age difference too. We all have people we're more/less drawn to sexually than others

    • @summerrose8110
      @summerrose8110 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@tharakir1328Homosexuality is a sin, that's why.

  • @romilrh
    @romilrh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1260

    Belinda's actress KILLED IT in this scene and left a lasting impression on us with 5 minutes of screen time

    • @Lulph
      @Lulph 4 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      @Romil You mean Kristen Scott Thomas? Yes, she's a star and she's awesome!

    • @romilrh
      @romilrh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Lulph yeah I hadn't heard of her before seeing this, but she even got an Emmy nom for this episode!

    • @hameed
      @hameed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Lulph don’t be that person.

    • @oscarfun100
      @oscarfun100 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@hameed What person?

    • @simbelmyne0216
      @simbelmyne0216 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You should watch the English Patient

  • @filipzawistowski4390
    @filipzawistowski4390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2442

    Oh, PERIOD film. I just got that 🤣 That took me WAY too long 🤣

    • @borednerd2100
      @borednerd2100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +260

      I didn't get until I saw your comment 😂

    • @oscarfun100
      @oscarfun100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      First I thought it was just a joke on the fact that it's horror, not a classy, period movie. (I thought she was gonna say The English Patient... get it? ;) ) Now I get the joke... LOOOL.

    • @filipzawistowski4390
      @filipzawistowski4390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@oscarfun100 ME TOO

    • @abbieisakilljoy6977
      @abbieisakilljoy6977 4 ปีที่แล้ว +145

      I thought it was because fleabag is younger so she thought that Carrie (late 70s) is a period film

    • @filipzawistowski4390
      @filipzawistowski4390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@abbieisakilljoy6977 YEP! Also my thought process

  • @michaelmurray258
    @michaelmurray258 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1279

    I'm struck by how many smart, insightful comments there are here. No snark, no sarcasm. This just made my afternoon. Thanks everyone.

    • @jameshudson395
      @jameshudson395 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh get lost

    • @nivrrtakr2891
      @nivrrtakr2891 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ikr

    • @nivrrtakr2891
      @nivrrtakr2891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@jameshudson395 likewise to you

    • @leya73
      @leya73 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@jameshudson395 Everyone except this dumbass😂

    • @larux6124
      @larux6124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah what a great fan base

  • @madelaine7116
    @madelaine7116 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1180

    what gets me about fleabag is that phoebe is essentially watching and engaging with the words that she wrote and the whole process must be so odd yet rewarding.

  • @lfc7763
    @lfc7763 4 ปีที่แล้ว +712

    It's amazing and almost unbelievable that this younger actress wrote the entire thing. Incredibly talented.

    • @sarahcameronlerer4883
      @sarahcameronlerer4883 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      She also wrote the first season of Killing Eve.

    • @leya73
      @leya73 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@sarahcameronlerer4883 Which is why its the best

  • @RK-ep8qy
    @RK-ep8qy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1898

    This scene hit me, especially the bit with women being born with pain but men however have to go looking for it, it hit me so much that when I ran a blank in my A Level Literature exam I actually quoted it from a 'critic' (which is a lie obvs). And I'm hoping the examiner just accepts its brilliance and doesn't go looking for it because I will probably be penalised for trying to use a tv show to support my allusive point on The Great Gatsby. If they mark me down screw them, it's a great quote I'm keeping for life but I hope I haven't doomed myself.

    • @astreqwerty
      @astreqwerty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Ropsana Khanom update?

    • @RK-ep8qy
      @RK-ep8qy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +403

      astreqwerty missed a grade A by a couple of marks, whether they penalised me for the quote I have no idea but I'm off to medical school 😆 thanks for asking

    • @oberonyronwood5657
      @oberonyronwood5657 4 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      Ropsana Khanom congratulations!!! 😊

    • @RK-ep8qy
      @RK-ep8qy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      AlvWaynwood thank you so much!

    • @tomwalker5280
      @tomwalker5280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@RK-ep8qy godspeed to you!

  • @susieenglish302
    @susieenglish302 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2091

    We need to show this to teenage girls

    • @MelAsYouSaidIssa
      @MelAsYouSaidIssa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Lee TV Exactly.

    • @arushim9950
      @arushim9950 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Susie English Im a teenage girl I’m 16 and I cannot decide where to begin I understand so much yet I don’t

    • @echostorm1996
      @echostorm1996 4 ปีที่แล้ว +153

      @@StrangeAttractor And who exactly endowed you with the knowledge of what every woman is and isn't capable of? And that it's always some great tragedy full of regret if a woman ends up with no children? Some people are actually fulfilled enough in life and feel no need to have them, including women. And even continue to feel that way till their last days, as shocking as that may seem to you.

    • @StrangeAttractor
      @StrangeAttractor 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe if you're talking about, say, Jennifer Aniston. But most women are not even in the same ballpark as Jennifer Aniston. The handful of women I know who have kids are the happiest ones, the others are either busy quitting their careers and embracing 'self-love', or they are on medication for mental health problems.

    • @echostorm1996
      @echostorm1996 4 ปีที่แล้ว +124

      @@StrangeAttractor That's the women you know, and good for them. It doesn't apply to every other woman on this planet. And just because those other women you know don't have children, does not mean it is the cause of the unhappiness in their lives. If we're gonna go on anecdotal evidence here, I've known a number of women who do have children and yet are extremely unhappy in their lives and even struggle with mental health issues. Having children is not for everyone and it won't make every woman happy with their lives or unhappy if they don't have them.

  • @katherinechambers6954
    @katherinechambers6954 3 ปีที่แล้ว +601

    This could be my favourite scene in the entire show. The idea of men ‘creating their own pain’ whilst women have got it all going on inside them, the fluidity and chemistry of the two characters, the fact that Fleabag almost always talks to people only if they’re family or if she wants to have sex with them, but she’s just awestruck by Belinda. And how real they both are: two women at different points in their biological lives and their working lives, yet they both have so much wisdom to impart. I bloody love Fleabag

    • @greedyboi011
      @greedyboi011 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      The idea of Men creating their own pain by quote 'creating wars so they can feel things and touch each other' is maybe the most out of touch thing i've ever heard and it shows how naive women are about the male experience.

    • @Anonymous99816
      @Anonymous99816 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@greedyboi011alr incel

    • @TheRed02151
      @TheRed02151 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@greedyboi011 I know right what a ridiculous statment.

    • @giorgosgkialpis1394
      @giorgosgkialpis1394 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@greedyboi011 meanwhile women also creating wars! For example Cleopatra! All the conversation is absolutely cringe!

    • @PTizzleAusGN
      @PTizzleAusGN 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@greedyboi011 oh it is clearly hyperbole meant to illustrate a point. Men are so sensitive

  • @alanamcconnell2977
    @alanamcconnell2977 3 ปีที่แล้ว +754

    Being a woman is trauma. The transition to girlhood to womanhood is paved with physical and emotional trauma. From grey area sex and rape, abortion, miscarriage, your vagina ripping open from childbirth, cervical smears, and post-partum depression. There is so much trauma and we are expected to deal with it silently and quietly, not making a scene. We barely acknowledge it. The film Never, Rarely, Sometimes Always is the perfect depiction of the trauma of womanhood

    • @ritesh6487
      @ritesh6487 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Grey area sex,rape and sexual assault is more or less same with men and women..it’s just that some men don’t even think can be sexually assaulted..I know 2 guys who were taken advantage of while they were drunk…even tho they felt uncomfortable after knowing the fact they still didn’t think it was a sexual assault.

    • @susivarga7303
      @susivarga7303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@ritesh6487 because many men and women connect the act of rape to penetration and that's something only men are capable of doing ( I mean the natural way, no toys ).
      Getting drunk and getting ridden by a (hot) girl or a bj - what's wrong with that? "It's a dream"

    • @20000dino
      @20000dino 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Never, Rarely, Sometimes Always is a very underrated film ! It might not be for everyone - It's extremely slow paced and follows a less conventional narrative format paired with realistic writing. But, if not just for the ending alone and how it recontextualizes everything that's happened before, I believe it's worth watching.

    • @seethetruth7427
      @seethetruth7427 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      and people always downplay the pain too, "oh it's not that bad" "can't be that painful" etc

    • @VerenaKasztantowicz
      @VerenaKasztantowicz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes, but if everything is trauma, we are nothing but victims. I rather go grab the night by it's nipples

  • @romilrh
    @romilrh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    Notice Fleabag doesn't acknowledge us once during this conversation. Belinda is one of the few people who can make her fully present. It's also foreshadowing for when Hot Priest starts noticing it

  • @MrUndersolo
    @MrUndersolo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +639

    This scene is going to be on every Women’s Studies curriculum...

    • @raven3moon
      @raven3moon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @J H It's more succinct than the essays, books and lectures. Plus, it can be used as a primer for diving into those texts.

    • @MrUndersolo
      @MrUndersolo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      raven3moon Here, here...

    • @pandakatiefominz
      @pandakatiefominz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @J H There are thousands of essays and books and lectures on Psychology but my college instructor still showed us The Breakfast Club.

    • @ruthhermosura460
      @ruthhermosura460 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I used the pain quote in an academic essay.

    • @MrUndersolo
      @MrUndersolo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ruth Hermosura Thanks for that. Spread the word!

  • @marshhen
    @marshhen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +361

    She is completely right about menopause, it brings incredible freedom.

    • @telectronix1368
      @telectronix1368 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      The same with losing parents, in my experience.
      It's horrendous but then it's......done and you are a different person.

    • @selfi6724
      @selfi6724 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@telectronix1368 WHAT ???!!
      did you used to have a good relationship with your parents?

    • @telectronix1368
      @telectronix1368 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      @@selfi6724 When you are no longer "someone's child" it is a different experience as you go about the world.

    • @selfi6724
      @selfi6724 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@telectronix1368 okaay I see
      But I love my mum so much I would die if something happened to her

    • @telectronix1368
      @telectronix1368 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @Rike 98 That's sort of what I mean. You don't want them to be gone of course but......once they are....your experience of the world is different.

  • @lalexander1144
    @lalexander1144 4 ปีที่แล้ว +252

    I have never seen this show, but this was one of the best exchanges of dialogue and acting that I have ever seen.

    • @geekwithglasses2897
      @geekwithglasses2897 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Watch it
      It’s not only extremely hilarious it’s super thought provoking as well

    • @aleftav12
      @aleftav12 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same!

  • @CarrotFlowers421
    @CarrotFlowers421 4 ปีที่แล้ว +252

    I relate to this scene so much. There's an odd union between the traits that keep you from having many friends but then going overboard when you finally connect to someone. You're either too little or too far.

    • @Lulph
      @Lulph 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @S K Doyle Well said! I completely agree - I can relate too little or too far too...

    • @B3llAAZURE
      @B3llAAZURE 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg this!

  • @danielachamorro8783
    @danielachamorro8783 4 ปีที่แล้ว +260

    I adore this scene and adore both of them. Fleabag was so cute in this. She feels so different with this woman than with the guys...even the Priest.

  • @Jambobist
    @Jambobist 5 ปีที่แล้ว +320

    The writing on this show is so good.

  • @destinydarrling9276
    @destinydarrling9276 4 ปีที่แล้ว +361

    Belinda: “What’s your favourite period film?”
    Fleabag: “Carrie”
    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 makes me laugh every time

    • @takayanagi-senseissurprise2104
      @takayanagi-senseissurprise2104 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I didn’t get the joke the first time but then I remembered that Gym Shower scene where Carrie got her first period OMG Phoebe is such a genius when writing this 😂

    • @Merlincat007
      @Merlincat007 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@takayanagi-senseissurprise2104 The whole movie is often considered a sort of girl's puberty allegory as well!

    • @meuthianabilapratiwi5535
      @meuthianabilapratiwi5535 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don’t get the joke pleade explain 😢

    • @takayanagi-senseissurprise2104
      @takayanagi-senseissurprise2104 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@meuthianabilapratiwi5535
      So there was still Stephen King novel that became a film called Carrie. There was this scene in the film that she got unexpectedly got her first period right there in the gym shower in front of the other girls. Anyways, the joke was that Belinda was asking Fleabag what’s her favorite Period Film (Like those movies that are based on historical records or books) to which Fleabag responded:”Carrie” It’s a pun joke actually that involves two different definitions of the word period. One used for a period of time and the other is used for the menstruation cycle.

  • @shivani4279
    @shivani4279 5 ปีที่แล้ว +382

    Brilliant scene from Fleabag, I miss this show's incisive wit. The "hair is everything" speech is my favourite.

    • @chrissiem3958
      @chrissiem3958 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      'I look like a pencil...'

    • @tysallchick
      @tysallchick 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@chrissiem3958 i was just about to say that... lol

  • @camilaramirez6664
    @camilaramirez6664 2 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I love the whole series, both seasons, but for some reason this scene and when fleabag says to Boo that she doesnt know what to do with all the love she feels for her mom and Boo says "i'll take it, it sounds lovely, you have to give it to me" just touched a part of my heart that was sleeping from long time ago

  • @CookieCreamCrumble
    @CookieCreamCrumble 4 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    As someone with incredibly painful endometriosis (A chronic illness only in women) I understand this all too well.

    • @eugenia1473
      @eugenia1473 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      amen!

    • @jessica5497
      @jessica5497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yep

    • @Merlincat007
      @Merlincat007 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I'd just add any person with a uterus. Nonbinary and trans men included

    • @jcqwater8713
      @jcqwater8713 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh gosh, the pain

    • @Maria_Barcelos
      @Maria_Barcelos ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@Merlincat007 women

  • @TheMKG16
    @TheMKG16 5 ปีที่แล้ว +527

    She got to KISS Kristen Scott Thomas!?! Dead! So jealous!❤️

    • @balahatun
      @balahatun 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes but then what she says? Right after saying -honestly? Please someone tell me the rest of her response.

    • @captaint5739
      @captaint5739 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@balahatun "Can't be arsed, darling."

    • @1funkyflyguy
      @1funkyflyguy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @balahatun "Can't be arsed, darling". Meaning, she can't be bothered.

    • @balahatun
      @balahatun 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@captaint5739 thank you!

    • @balahatun
      @balahatun 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@1funkyflyguy thank you!

  • @BobbyMooreable
    @BobbyMooreable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Every once in awhile I come back to rewatch this scene to witness genius acting and writing and to feel empowered. I’m a 24yo man 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @RickoH_NZ
    @RickoH_NZ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Best line ever.... "Honestly!?!??? ... Cant be arsed darling." :-) love it

    • @aznmnh2
      @aznmnh2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      what does this mean

    • @GallifreyanGinger
      @GallifreyanGinger 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@aznmnh2 can't be bothered.

  • @gracesanity6314
    @gracesanity6314 4 ปีที่แล้ว +139

    Yep!! I the same. I just couldn't be bothered. Wisdom teaches one that - no one ever is worth the energy or drama. Now l am 50's the bliss of not being bothered. Oh how much time wasted on men and heartbreak, ambition, desires, people pleasing to feel safe, others needs never my own .NOW I PLEASE ME ONLY. I HAVE A GREAT QUALITY OF LIFE. I AM MY GREATEST FRIEND/COMPANION. AND I NEVER BREAK MY HEART EVER. HIGHLY RECOMMEND.

    • @j.b.9260
      @j.b.9260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That's very attractive, you know.

    • @quinadams3181
      @quinadams3181 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      you have no idea how much your comment has helped me mentally

    • @prb716
      @prb716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      and just wait till you get into your 70's, kids; it keeps getting better!

    • @poojagb
      @poojagb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you not feel lonely? Genuine question.

    • @swordofgrayskull1530
      @swordofgrayskull1530 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@poojagb I guess she was trying to convince herself

  • @dumbmemes28
    @dumbmemes28 2 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Every young person of this generation needs to hear this, especially young women. Phoebe Waller Bridge is a genius.

  • @thehalpins6801
    @thehalpins6801 5 ปีที่แล้ว +201

    Kristin Scott Thomas is brilliant

  • @pb.j.1753
    @pb.j.1753 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Kristin got an Emmy nom for this!!! Brilliant.

  • @Jooceee
    @Jooceee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I feel like Belinda was WAY underrated. Yeah the priest was cool, but BELINDA. She kept Fleabag concentrated the whole time. I just love her

  • @jameskidman8913
    @jameskidman8913 5 ปีที่แล้ว +193

    Absolutely incredibly scene. Phoebe Walle-Bridge is a genius!

  • @georgeweasley54
    @georgeweasley54 4 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    literally my favorite scene in any television show that ive ever watched

  • @Gigigamble
    @Gigigamble 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    "It's not a party until someone flirts with you." Yep.

  • @jesperjee
    @jesperjee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Belinda was on screen for maybe 6 minutes in the whole series and what a great character she turned out to be! This scene is amazing!

  • @ShwetaSingh-zv4hc
    @ShwetaSingh-zv4hc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    This monologue was so touching I had to rewind and watch it again. I felt so reassured when she said it gets better as you get old, till then every woman just suffers without claiming it.

  • @tomlangford1999
    @tomlangford1999 4 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    Fleabag is a confirmed bicon

    • @geekwithglasses2897
      @geekwithglasses2897 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      The way she says “not strictly” is so great
      This whole time I thought this scene would be one of many scenes where you’re queer so you see the queer sexual tension when it isn’t there but then they actually kissed

  • @ImamSyafii-st4ps
    @ImamSyafii-st4ps 5 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    probably my favorite scene from the whole series

  • @dlweiss
    @dlweiss 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I've watched this scene dozens of times, and I only just noticed that the two men in the background nudge each other and sneak a peak after Fleabag kisses Belinda at 3:52 XD

    • @kream3303
      @kream3303 ปีที่แล้ว

      wait omg !

    • @droogs8826
      @droogs8826 ปีที่แล้ว

      Reminds me of a scene from The Sopranos when Janice starts her speech for her mother and old man who was coming down from the stairs goes back up 😂

  • @lucymariposa
    @lucymariposa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    she’s literally become my idol - she’s in one episode but now most of my decisions are driven by what she would do

  • @w1ley341
    @w1ley341 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    1:21 . Her hand.
    Shivers from almost touching her.
    Wonderful scene.

  • @anushkahazra7180
    @anushkahazra7180 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Phoebe is such a brilliant writer. She acts effortlessly too. I love her!!!

  • @DoctorXander
    @DoctorXander 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I've been afraid of actually doing anything to initiate a relationship but now I'm 23 and alone. Watching this to feel inspired

    • @user-lq7pt2xn2q
      @user-lq7pt2xn2q ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Oh, please, don't be afraid. 'Older woman' speaking here 😅 but I remember perfectly well when I was 23. Don't be afraid of guys. They are afraid themselves too. Always speak out your feelings or intentions or wishes. If they're not appreciated, move on. Cry it out, but don't be resentful. That's my advice if you're interested at all ☺️ I wish someone had told me this back then.

  • @BamM88
    @BamM88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I'm a guy and I don't have any dogs in the race here but somehow I just felt that scene. It felt so honest and real.

    • @Merlincat007
      @Merlincat007 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      We all age and the only constant is change!

  • @boomerrob9223
    @boomerrob9223 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    I am a slightly older geezer and even I got a lot from this wee scene! Fantastic Phoebe!

  • @sabinemuller6490
    @sabinemuller6490 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    This is the best convo on menopause I've EVER listened to. And every word is true!!

  • @tzhou1272
    @tzhou1272 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    One of the great things about this scene is that there're two businessmen talking in the background(contrary to the two businesswomen).

  • @lauriekrebs4522
    @lauriekrebs4522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    This is such a brilliant show. It's been an amazing 3-4 years for women in show biz, (Phoebe, Sally, Suranne, Celine Sciamma, and HUNDREDS more around the world) I hope this continues to flourish. Loved this exchange with Bridget. So funny, and real, and deeply touching. People are indeed, all that we have.

  • @adw8451
    @adw8451 5 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    Phoebe’s acting is really good in here

  • @toria7242
    @toria7242 5 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Phoebe is an absolute genius

  • @amitnagpal1985
    @amitnagpal1985 4 ปีที่แล้ว +382

    Men seriously never ever get touched. Unless it’s by their girlfriend or wife. The pressure of “being a man” can get very lonely. This scene is just as important for men as it is for the women.

    • @amitnagpal1985
      @amitnagpal1985 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Karan Singh Maybe in your family. My family is super formal. 😢

    • @aiyas
      @aiyas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@amitnagpal1985 I'm sorry to hear that :(

    • @naszata
      @naszata 4 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      I'm happy that there are men who can learn and enjoy women point of view.
      As a woman who was too observant of her dad, rather focusing on her mum, I can agree. My dad treated my mum like enemy, just because she was gentle and caring person. I never understood, until it was too late that being nice is not a weakness, as my father tried to convince himself. Too late because my mum isn't here anymore to see that at the end I choosed her, her school of thoughts is more enjoyable and fulfilling that prison of self restriction my father live in.

    • @RK-ep8qy
      @RK-ep8qy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      amit nagpal yeah I'm glad society is slowly moving away from that, guys should be allowed to hug or lean on eachother without hearing no homo, allowed to cry and he emotional and not told to man up, as if they would be less because they expressed pain.

    • @SteelRaider17
      @SteelRaider17 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Well the thing is that no woman can cure this for you. You have to be emotionally available and open yourself to get a partner who is equally emotionally available. I feel sorry you had to grow up in such a formal family but you can change that. You can start by telling your parents you love them and eventually they'll say it too. You can start by asking your mother/father for a hug and sooner or later they'll do it without asking. You can start it by doing it with your siblings too. I started that in my family openly telling them that I love them and now it's become a norm in our family. And the best thing you can do is make this a norm in your family when you eventually have kids. Get yourself a partner who understands how much emotional vulnerability means to you. How "touch starved" can be a thing. Because if men can't convey their emotions properly, I am sorry to say nobody can read their minds. Take it little by little and reduce the formality if you can.

  • @eleishaharvey4509
    @eleishaharvey4509 5 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Jesus I love Kristen Scott Thomas

  • @AdmiralJaneway74656
    @AdmiralJaneway74656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It's been two years and I'll still come back at least once week. This scene is definitely in the top 5 list of the best scenes ever made.

  • @serena5258
    @serena5258 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    - Are you a lesbian?
    - Not strictly

  • @Hugo-ly1uz
    @Hugo-ly1uz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Best conversation in tv history. Best thing happened to me last 3 years.

  • @jurinaissance
    @jurinaissance ปีที่แล้ว +8

    belinda actually told her the things she's been looking for... she asked the therapist what she should do and she confessed to hot priest that she just wanted someone to tell her what to do, what to wear, etc.
    and belinda assured her here that it will get better, she's doing okay at living life, what she should do at present time (flirt more, don't take the present for granted), she should look forward to the future.

  • @Ranblv
    @Ranblv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    She has amazingly expressive eyes.

  • @moonmoon-bz9qe
    @moonmoon-bz9qe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    not knocking the absolute brilliance of fleabag but all I can focus on is the continuity error involving the front piece of her hair, am I the only one? again, marvelous scene.

  • @JakesNotDrinking
    @JakesNotDrinking 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    this is arguably my favorite scene in the series. this is exactly what she needed to hear.

  • @cyber.creature
    @cyber.creature 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    this has got to be my favourite part of the series

  • @josephhernandez1885
    @josephhernandez1885 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    "What's your favorite period film?"
    "Carrie."
    Agreed. Best period film ever made

  • @LaLaLadi10
    @LaLaLadi10 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    58! Omg KST looks glorious

  • @nataliaivonica3488
    @nataliaivonica3488 4 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I'm so sad that fleabag had only two seasons. since her sexuality is such an important part of the story, I spent most of the series assuming she's straight, but well... apparently not. I would love to see this develop in future seasons. gosh, I love phoebe so much.

    • @cummiestcat
      @cummiestcat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      nat. That’s British comedy for you. Few episodes and even fewer seasons with unimaginable wits and humor. I hate but appreciate it at the same time. Even Phoebe regretted ending Fleabag that early.

    • @maddyd3182
      @maddyd3182 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      hasslfoot yes! I completely agree- especially with the Boo part. If you think even her relationship with the Priest was flawed... she knew little about his scars (alcoholism, parental problems, his brother)

  • @cedricpicard297
    @cedricpicard297 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    GOD DAMN this is one of the greatest bits of television I’ve ever seen. The subject matter, the acting, the simplicity of it all makes it so poignant UGH I LOVE IT

  • @purplebubblegum4055
    @purplebubblegum4055 4 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Whenever I get bad period cramps, I tell my mom that I can't wait to get menopause, and I'm only 21 years old

    • @Lulph
      @Lulph 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @Purple Bubblegum Yep, I'm 39 and I'm also tired of this bullsh*t! It's still a long way to go, unfortunately...

    • @Serenity113
      @Serenity113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm 34. I got another 20 years maybe?

    • @jettalady1985
      @jettalady1985 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      36 and counting down the years.

    • @user-lq7pt2xn2q
      @user-lq7pt2xn2q ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My period pain went away forever at 30 when I got my first pregnancy

  • @bluevioletandlilac
    @bluevioletandlilac 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My mother was so horrified by menopause she spiraled into a self-destructive mid-life crisis that lasted several years, harmed her family in numerous ways, and eventually ended with her being artificially inseminated with twins she's way too old to appropriately care for.
    She's never been abusive to them, but she's clearly way out of her depth and too old to keep up with their needs.
    No one was directly influencing her choices, but society as a whole making girls think their worth is tied up in being sexually available and fertile, to the point menopause is a horror, is fucked up.

  • @BatmanHQYT
    @BatmanHQYT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    These four minutes make up one of the most enchanting, hilarious, wonderful moments of television I've ever seen.

  • @amd8471
    @amd8471 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This scene was so honnest, raw and full of wisdom.... I wish it was nominated for it's writing & acting..

  • @topsyfulwell
    @topsyfulwell 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I haven't found menopause to be horrendous at all but alot has happened in my life since and now there's no pain for 'dramatic effects'...

  • @amitnagpal1985
    @amitnagpal1985 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    There should be an entire book written about this scene. I’d buy it.

  • @Feelflowww
    @Feelflowww 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I loved this scene so much! Brilliant acting and writing

  • @t.n.21
    @t.n.21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I LOVE this scene SO much because it feels so comfortable and nice.

  • @justanotherupscaspirant8837
    @justanotherupscaspirant8837 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This show is filled with characters which I swear had a three episode arc but turns out were only onscreen for 10mins. Absolutely mind-blowing

  • @tiheera
    @tiheera 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This may be my most favourite conversation in tv history! Can't believe it took TH-cam this long to recommend it to me.

  • @Mio248
    @Mio248 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You see the men’s reaction in the background when they kissed 🤣
    3:50

  • @illaveyoubutler2
    @illaveyoubutler2 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    For me, Phoebe's most magnificent moment

  • @ThelouwseFD
    @ThelouwseFD 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This scene is so important to me. I watch it whenever I feel like giving up.

  • @bethanyrhiannonevans5059
    @bethanyrhiannonevans5059 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    This is genuinely genius 👏🏼👏🏼

  • @tulangkerangka1599
    @tulangkerangka1599 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Weirdly the woman who finally makes me feel a okay with growing old is miranda priestly from the devil wears prada. Looking at her make me feel like, oh yes, okay, i am pumped with having silver hair, wrinkles, and all that entails

  • @rainbowghentian
    @rainbowghentian 5 ปีที่แล้ว +283

    WHICH LESBIAN REJECTS THAT????

    • @justanotherpat
      @justanotherpat 5 ปีที่แล้ว +228

      A tired one 😂

    • @geekwithglasses2897
      @geekwithglasses2897 4 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      She was apparently exhausted
      This was so homosexual

    • @Hazeydaze92
      @Hazeydaze92 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I'd sleep with both of them!

    • @snakelemon
      @snakelemon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@geekwithglasses2897 I mean she literally said, "I'm exhausted"

  • @EkaterinaPorSuerte
    @EkaterinaPorSuerte 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Still the best 5 minutes in television history.

  • @rosalynredwood4542
    @rosalynredwood4542 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Such a thoughtful and well-acted scene.. magnificent 💖

  • @gnothiseauton8684
    @gnothiseauton8684 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Kristen is such a bloody brilliant actor! Wish we saw her more

  • @mounicabro
    @mounicabro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this speech is SOMETHING ELSE i loved it loved it

  • @illaveyoubutler2
    @illaveyoubutler2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Just seen Fleabag Live.....think she is even more of a genius

  • @supermaxim109
    @supermaxim109 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sensational women, sensational and honest writing. This is so wonderful.

  • @littlespacesuit
    @littlespacesuit หลายเดือนก่อน

    Of all the moments in FLEABAG that made me weepy, this scene made me burst into tears. "No longer a machine with parts. Just a person."

  • @bleu27
    @bleu27 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My absolutely favorite scene of this season

  • @kaushiki.k.s
    @kaushiki.k.s ปีที่แล้ว

    This is terrific scene. So beautifully written.

  • @jhayd22
    @jhayd22 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    this scene feels very real and like a very distilled piece of advice

  • @pirilampa
    @pirilampa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I just realized this is the only conversation where Fleabag doesn't break the 4th wall.