Narcissist’s Trick to Make You Feel Bad!
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- Gaslighting and blame shifting combine in the devaluation phase for a fast track to the discard phase. If you’ve started sharing emotions or getting honest with them, they’ll use this as a quick fix to jar you into insecurity so they can bring you “back down to size.” Don’t get hooked, get uncoupled.
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They are sooooooo corrupt. Remember. They were abused and traumatized and don’t have the capability to see you like a human person that deserves care. it can be family members that you want to love, but they will hurt you. It is so unfortunate.
Especially if it's a spouse, and you've been tricked by them for several years and finally see what was exposed to you from behind the mask. Unfortunately I can't get back the years I've wasted, but I know moving ahead, I will succeed in doing what I need to do to being happy and away from the toxicity that came from this chapter.
Some of them were not abused they were spoiled sick puppies. Everyone has free will. Many narcs had loving caring families.
Hi. I hear what you are saying, but those people you are talking about still had what is called a dead mother to a certain extent that never really saw them for who they were. They still had an ideal version of who they wanted the child to be. so complex, but if you don’t already know about him, Sam Vaknin is the only one who really gets down to the reality of all this. Check him out. Watching his stuff has made it clear to me what we are dealing with with with these types of people and he is good because he makes you lose hope of changing these people which is why we get so hurt and abused.
Anyways, someone who was really loved and cared for should still have empathy and consideration for boundaries, but the spoiled brats that ended up narcissists by the time they were 2 or 3, they still were abused by the insidious manipulative praise they received. Also autism affects all this shit! Just being helpful, not criticizing.
it took me 6 years before I heard: "I can't be any different at home than I am at work - I have to run a tight ship". It is like you said, the years wasted - that is what hurts the most.@@maxmaximus8323
They are just hypocrites not all abused and traumatized people choose to be on the dark side
Whatever, you do, give, it's never enough....they are and will never be satisfied.😢
It is insidious. And you are trained to believe that you are not empathetic, understanding, supporting etc, when you are doing more for that person than you ever thought you could do for anyone. And yet, never enough.
The solution: show them the middle finger and walk away. Find a new life full of joy and true caring.
Another tactic is posting online content purporting to prove that you’re not the actual narcissist.
The only ones allowed at my home are my Pets,....anyone else out there,...are just invisible.
I'm better so much better! Looking back over all I been through.
Well said. You CAN heal. I did 2-3 hours a day, five months intense videos.. healed!
My daughter does this to me… says I don’t support her, and I am always supporting her… She wanted me to apologize for making it all about me, when we were talking about her Med school interview, and she said she didn’t know where the homeopathic herb book came from at her dad’s house… but …I interrupted her to tell her, that I was pretty sure that was mine… (It had come up previously, and I had told her the same… and it didn’t seem to integrate to her thought process, so I mentioned it again)… She made a huge deal about it… and insisted I apologize… I told her I wasn’t going to apologize for making a statement… and then the argument was that I never apologize. … … … …. … … …
My mom just called me and did all this in 30 seconds or less. I answered the phone and tried to talk and she did the whole narcissist process in less than 30 seconds. I think she deserves an award.
Any who. Joking aside. I see now how fucking scared /mean/intense//bright/caring/manipulaive all at the same time. super compulsive and can’t discern her feelings to appropriate people and time and things. Just lumps everything together.
Wow. Whew. I don’t know how I survived my childhood.
My momster called me on my birthday a few years ago. The guilt tripped me in 20 seconds or less, then said "Ok, I'll let you go" which was her typical approach. Like even on my birthday, one day per year, she's had to use as an excuse to abuse me and make my day worse. These people SUCK.
Your father is the real survivor here.
On point 100%! It's definitely about knowing who you are at a core level. But no harm in also learning about their toxicity so you can defend yourself, especially for those of us who can't go no contact. By the way, you've got a nice look about you, Kara. You could be (probably are) a model. Your good looks, sadly, will attract a lot of toxic people that’ll want to exploit you. Don’t let them. Something tells me you know how to deal with them.
There is nothing you can do to "fix" a Narcissist or to make a narcissistic relationship work for you. The only solution is to walk (or preferrably, run) away! I know this is easier said than done, but make sure you have a support network and leave - no matter how difficult or painful the process is, the result is worth it!
very important detail to remember in the puzzle, SS it defines the beginning of the end. We must go within, ironically
What is SS?
Ss was just a typo error
@@MrGoncaloFigueiras Oh!
Develop this ONE power and it'll save you many headaches: The power of not giving a f8ck!
needed this rn thx so much
It’s the weak hand they play, totally stupid and weak.
What a beautiful Lady😍
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Great video
But what if you are the one begging the other to love you? What if you've been getting ignored by someone who was once so close to you, like for me with my sister who used to be my best friend, and she stopped reaching out to me two years ago, and started ignoring my phone calls and texts and acted like I wasn't important to her anymore? Then accused me of emotionally draining her because I wasn't getting out of a narcissistic relationship fast enough for her. Then she lashed out at me calling me crazy and a narcissist for telling her how her ignoring me was hurting me so much. I am so confused here, because in this case, I am the one reaching out to her telling her I've needed my sister and best friend and that I've been crying over her ignoring me and feeling completely heartbroken and devastated to learn I do not have her love and support anymore. Am I the narcissist? What happened to my sister? What did I do wrong? I really want to know. I just want to know the truth. If I am a narcissist for something, I genuinely want to know what it is.
No, you're not.
My head is already hurting.
People who are obssessed with talking about narcissists on tick tock are likely more than a little "narcy" themselves
727 likes!💚🖤❤💖
Hey Kara. How do you make these videos with the clips/pauses in them?
Ok can't a narcissist see this and then relate to it like because it they are being asked to do more they could reverse this to apply to themselves? Or is there a reason they wouldn't do that
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Yeah when someone doesnt provide enough. You have to create things that meet those needs. You can't yell at the car like, why wont you hold more gasoline so we can go farther.
You have to get a car with a bigger gas tank.
Sometimes they can flip it on you. Like say they will help and then just stress you out every moment of it. And give you the wrong stuff and miss deadlines. And mess with you via timing stuff to block you from making progress or even into another room. Until you say stuff as a retort or claim they are not helping. And they buy stuff so they have receipts to show how much they spent on helping so they can gaslight you from what wasnt said.
Which is, I didnt spend money so Im glad its not wasted. Or some guilty thought.
Like Tony Sopranos mom on the first episode of the Sopranos. She all sets her house on fire. And tells Tony, you love me so you know I'll always be number one in your life.
And he gets these insane panic attacks because he's stuck in confusion and has to see a therapist. Its so not worth it. It can get scary too.
Woman suppose to help man women suppose to help man ladies suppose help godly man ordained heroism chosen righteous honest purist realest one's trust communication authenticity legit trill one real one day one God is love love is beautiful
Maybe 'you' are tricking me????
Grifter
fr i think people dont realize that time heals and it crates two too be in a bad situatuion, in toxic relationships two people go behind eachothers back to then feel this emotion
@@tedpolanzki3200im just sayin shes a grifter but yea you're right thats what they do or one assumes the other will do the same so they go behind the other ones back leaving the one who didnt go behind the other ones back the victim.
But yea thats the evil world we live in.
you are not the right person to say anything about hte next person i will be a hundred here, being a victim in any situation leeds to grief and a low self esteem try too relize what u did wrong and how u as a person also might be the narcisst, and bh honest the more u think the more u drink get a job meet people forgive the person that hurt u and the the person u proobaly hurt asweel
learn in life that we all go thrue situations wich makes stuff hard and confusing especcially in these times where u have this person right here wanting u too buy a course on how to avoid your own problems because there has to be two people hiw have a problem if they life rent free.
Are you really almost 100?