5 GERMAN HABITS I DROPPED in 4 Years with a Venezuelan

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  • @beckypages2962
    @beckypages2962 7 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    Can Eric make a video of things he changed after meeting you? I'm curious about it

  • @Idollisimo
    @Idollisimo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    Being a Ukrainian I love this German way of seeing everybody else around you as NPC's, because in Ukraine you have to know people to get something. You have to have "your own" mechanic guy, "you own" plumber guy, "your own" man in the municipal office etc. If you know nobody, you'll struggle a lot and I mean a lot. In Germany you could really mind only your own business and still be alright, just like everybody else. May be it's because my cultural background, but it's a real treasure for me to know ONLY those who I really want to know :) Still an awesome video, thanks!

    • @DontTrustTheRabbit
      @DontTrustTheRabbit  7 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      That's interesting and I totally understand! So maybe a compromise between these two extremes would be the most comfortable way. :)

    • @egordrozdenko7920
      @egordrozdenko7920 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      A very valid point, I confirm it as a Russian. Nice to see how systems work, not just personal relations.

    • @Idollisimo
      @Idollisimo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Exactly! I'd add for somebody from any of ex-USSR countries it's always a new experience to see how the system works :) Like wow, I don't have to ask that guy in Arbeitsamt to help me for like thousand times, I don't have to give him money in an envelope to make him interested, he just WANTS to help me because it's his job :) Same is everywhere, 99.9999% of people here are just friendly and you don't have to become their best friend to make them do their job! That feels quite fresh I'd say :)

    • @Idollisimo
      @Idollisimo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Of course, a compromise it very possible, but only because you want it and not because you have to find it somehow to get you freaking pipe fixed or documents processed :)

    • @egordrozdenko7920
      @egordrozdenko7920 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Right. In Russia, I've always hated this task to "найти подход" to some bureaucrat; why on Earth must I enter into informal relations to get things done?! That's why now it feels so relieving when you know you are not forces into it anymore. Only if you want.

  • @Pixxelshim
    @Pixxelshim 7 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    Trixie, I perceive that you are such a compassionate and empathetic person, and one with the gift of expressing your feelings with words that ring so true. You need not limit yourself to German/English language discussions, but to feel free to discuss anything in which you have passion. Thank you for sharing.

    • @agod5608
      @agod5608 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      John Sears she does. she has another channel...

    • @coreyjenkins5589
      @coreyjenkins5589 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      John Sears Right!

    • @Shaun-Vargas
      @Shaun-Vargas 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      what is her other channel?

    • @Pixxelshim
      @Pixxelshim 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Contrary to your snarky comment, my post was referring to this channel. I am an early subscriber to TrixiRabbit and know it is about things more personal in her life. Oh, and a search for any channels named "TrixieRabbit"came up empty.

    • @Shaun-Vargas
      @Shaun-Vargas 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congratulations on being such a devoted long time subscriber to her channel, I am sure she is very impressed now along with everyone else.. I just searched for TrixieRabbit and saw a video(the 2nd one) which was from her other channel TrixieRabbit here's the link th-cam.com/channels/UH6_kJ_n39DTGFBnfT_tqQ.html maybe you can subscribe quickly and become a long time devoted listener to her other channel..

  • @stevenlopez5059
    @stevenlopez5059 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Trixi! I really enjoy your videos! I am from Puerto Rico living in Hamburg and I married a German woman, but the cultural differences were so strong that we ended up separated after two years of been married... It was really difficult because I met her on her holidays mood while she was in Puerto Rico and this is something that happens very often... you meet someone on holidays and when you meet them at their home country he or she can be a totally different person. Me as a Latino I love to be very flexible and spontaneous and I also don’t like to plan anything too much and just go with the flow of the moment but unfortunately this lifestyle, sometimes doesn’t work here in Germany.... so In my 6 years living in Germany I have also learned a lot from the German lifestyle while also keeping my Latin spirit. Now I am back in a relationship with another German woman and I enjoy how we work together using our culture background to support each other, like when she is going crazy because nothing is not going according to her perfectly organized plan, I am there to help her relax and remind her that sometimes is good to just let go and take it easy or when I am letting everything for tomorrow and been tooo relaxed she is there to push me on to moving forward to catch up with the German speed and achieving my goals. Thank you so much for your videos!

  • @jessicawang6558
    @jessicawang6558 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    “What exactly do I lose from trying?”
    This is awesome, more people need to have this kind of mindset.

  • @Der_Kosmonaut
    @Der_Kosmonaut 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m glad you came to this conclusion instead of locking down and sticking to your ways. Life becomes so much easier when you let go and start focusing on what makes you happy.

  • @robwilliams2410
    @robwilliams2410 7 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    A lovely testimonial to your relationship with Eric. ❤️

  • @verdakorako4599
    @verdakorako4599 7 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    In America being self-employed or having a freelance job is considered cool at least that's my perception.

    • @MayContainJoe
      @MayContainJoe 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Trixie just generalized the habitus of the socio-economic group (old term "social class") she grew up in as "German habits". For example it's true that the working class looks down at self-employment, but Germany's whole economy is mostly built on small and medium-sized enterprises usually lead by their owners. Germany's most successful entrepreneurs run multi-billion euro family enterprises.

    • @toddlefebvre5165
      @toddlefebvre5165 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah it pretty much either means you're well-off or you're a drug dealer lol

    • @tabitas.2719
      @tabitas.2719 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well, there are a lot more start-ups/people trying out self-employment in the US - that must be connected... ;)

  • @nuketro0p3r
    @nuketro0p3r 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    year 2029 Trixie turns Venezuelan and Eric turns German :D the transformation completes.

  • @mrscary3105
    @mrscary3105 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have been a watcher of your videos for some time now and this video is my
    favorite. I started watching because I am a 3rd generation
    Germen American and wanted to see what the country was like to just
    be a person in. You and Dana (An awesome friend of yours) have been
    my windows into a country I can’t manage to visit. Thank you for
    your content and I wish you joy and happiness in you life and in all
    things. Thank you for your openness in this video, it made it great,
    maybe the best you have ever made? So good, that until you mentioned
    the length I had no clue I had been watching for so long. Never be an
    NPC, you are too cool for that.
    Now I am off to
    watch Dana’s next video.
    Congrats on your 4th
    anniversary, you picked the perfect soul-mate for you. :)

  • @jostein219
    @jostein219 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I really really loved this video Trixie :)
    I'm glad you are back on track and seem to have now settled in your new flat and are able to do vidoes again. You seem a lot happier now :)
    I too have overcome some of the bad German habits you mentioned in the last years but watching you talking about them just made me realize how strongly they are established in our society.

  • @briancrawford8751
    @briancrawford8751 7 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Regarding point #2, don't choose a school based on prestige, social status, and reputation either. I did, and I wish I hadn't. The Ivy League is a racket. A diploma from a highly prestigious school isn't necessarily better than one from a less prestigious school, and it can narrow your job choices considerably. Employers will look at your resume and think, "This guy isn't going to stay here. He's going to jump ship as soon as something more prestigious comes along, or he's going to go to law school."

    • @h.a.7605
      @h.a.7605 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brian Crawford Hi, I think being at Ivy League is about being surrounded with top players (the descendants of world class influencers) or at least very capable people, in both cases they are there for a good reason and not just by chance.
      Probably that doesn’t help when finding a job because you might look “entitled” due to your education but it is hugely compensated when it comes to opportunities, the doors are always open for you man! That is a huge advantage from being a graduate from Ivy League, rarely you’ll see people that are not worth of having a diploma from there if you know what I mean.

    • @briancrawford8751
      @briancrawford8751 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Hector Aguilera Yes, you're pretty much right.

    • @TimLevi
      @TimLevi 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're twisting the truth. You didn't do well in school, that's why you can't get a job.

    • @guss1309
      @guss1309 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I can relate. My experience was in the UK , but I was unfulfilled attending a „prestige“ university only to learn this taxable lesson!

  • @gravis778
    @gravis778 7 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Danke schon for making this video. I have lived in Austria for a while, have friends in Austria, Switzerland and Germany, and get to visit every couple of years. I always try to spend a couple of days with my friends in Switzerland before going back into Austria and Germany to readjust to the cultural differences, as my friends in Switzerland, being American themselves, are able to point things out to me that I forgot.
    However, there are still things that catch me off guard sometimes. Like I am walking in the pedestrian lane, there is someone else coming, I look into the bike lane, there is no one coming, so I step to the side to let the other person pass. Rather than thanking me, I get wide eyed looks, some people verbally assult me, I have had a few grab me and pull me back into the pedestrian lane and ask me if I am okay and need help. I get it, it's the bike lane, but there are no bikes coming, and I am not walking in the bike lane, I stepped aside to let them pass.
    Likewise, I both love and hate the bus system. I know that, rain or snow, the bus will be on time. If a bus is more than 30 seconds late, people in Austria and Germany and Switzerland start getting nervous. Many will ask the bus driver if everything is okay when he arrives. However, this goes into the whole Germanic-speaking world about punctuality, and how I have trouble adjusting. Most of my friends in the US consider me very punctual. I usually don't show up more than 5-10 minutes early unless I make it a point to, and 5 minutes late is considered reasonable, and if its going to be more than that, I call. This is not the case in Switzerland / Austria / Germany, and so if I am meeting someone, I will go out of my way to make sure I am early, and then lie to the other person when they get there on time and say that I just arrived myself - otherwise they feel guilty for making me wait.
    Back to the bus, I like that there are stated rules for letting elderly people and the disabled have priority on seats. My problem is sometimes I get tunnel vision while sitting on the bus and start daydreaming. We get to a bus stop and I get chided for not immediately vacating my seat. You have been on the bus less than 5 seconds, I haven't even processed your existance yet, give me some reaction time!
    On the plus side, I find that it is really easy to get people to open up to me, once I readjusted how I think about people. Like you said, many people seem to act that they are in their own little bubble, and can feel very lonely and cut off. A simple greeting and some small talk (other than the common "how are you doing" phrase that most Americans tend to use) tends to shock a lot of native German speakers, and many of them will drop everything they are doing and just talk to you for quite a while - I have had random strangers skip busses and text and call places to let them know they are running late, simply because someone is taking an interest in them and their lives. They say it is an excuse to practice their English, but you can see it in a person's entire demenor - they are absolutely fascinated that someone thinks that they are important enough to want to talk to.
    So this video was extremely informative to me, because you explain your mindset before, and how you started to adjust, and in that, you gave me a lot of insight into the culture. So thank you, I greatly appreciate you opening up.

    • @johannah.3930
      @johannah.3930 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      gravis778 as an Austrian this is very interesting to me haha I am almost always 5 min late when meeting with people but never thought much of it 😅

    • @aether4554
      @aether4554 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      gravis778 Woah. So you’re saying that Germans are shocked, yet at the same time appreciate that someone decides to small talk with them to true point it starts into a conversation? Haha man you can make a lot of friends in German then!

    • @abrahamkuyoc7311
      @abrahamkuyoc7311 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It appears as if germany is quit an interesting place. Talking to strangers to get help about anything or just smalltalk is super common here in México. I guess like trixie says, people from across the sea really is more relaxed! Hahaha

  • @beluch2768
    @beluch2768 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a superb video this is, Trixi. I somehow missed it when it appeared. You are such a genuine, truthful person.

  • @JanSuing
    @JanSuing 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Life is dry leaves in your mailbox sometimes."
    - Beautiful. Thank you for sharing, Trixie!

  • @thekenneth3486
    @thekenneth3486 7 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Trixi, I think this is one of your best videos ever. I already liked Erik, and now even more. My father was raised by German-Americans, and I picked up way too many habits from that culture that took far too long to overwrite. One of my best 'Erik' experiences was dating an Arab-American woman for a couple of years. Your story of Erik and the washing machine reminded me so much of her; she would happily start a conversation with anyone about anything, and while I was a little uncomfortable with that, I still found it hugely admirable.

    • @danddjacko
      @danddjacko 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed. ;)

    • @zenobiaxxx4959
      @zenobiaxxx4959 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Congo Bongo Well good luck in your bubble 😉👍

  • @Ccaarrooification
    @Ccaarrooification 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a German who lived in South America I completely agree with your points.
    Thank you for the video, I needed to hear that :)

  • @danielangulo6966
    @danielangulo6966 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a venezuelan myself, this video made me really happy. Almost all venezuelans who have the opportunity, leave the country, so it's nice to hear that were having a good impact out there. I hope your relationship with Erik keeps growing. :)

  • @towada1066
    @towada1066 7 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Now imagine ich,... German heritage married to Japanese,... nothing gets dropped! (^_^) .... 5 German habits which got amplified!

    • @Shijaru64
      @Shijaru64 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sounds like a recipe for divorce. If neither party talks about what they feel and are as silent as a grave, they'll break up. Communication is key in a relationship.

    • @towada1066
      @towada1066 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      a! agree so much! (^_^) ... however I to learned to pick up on (for lack of a better term) " Japan person " communication; yes sometimes means yes, unless it actually means no!

  • @oujisanhikari18
    @oujisanhikari18 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I used to not smile at people and think if i did it would be fake but i learned it's ok and ot makes you appear friendly and approachable, I learned to live and let others live. Peace of mind

  • @1990jol
    @1990jol 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I'm Dutch and I met several Americans in my life. Dutch people are soo down to earth. Most Americans don't mind if you act a little bit crazy. That's what I learnt from Americans.

    • @christiannavarro3519
      @christiannavarro3519 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jolanda1990 agreed.

    • @krzysztofmatuszek
      @krzysztofmatuszek 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm Polish and the funny thing about us is that we are much more similar to, say, German, Austrian or Dutch people than we are to other Slavs! We rarely smile in public, can be considerably hard to make friends with, tend to behave coldly and strictly to strangers and focus on our everyday lives rather than on dreams. That gets even funnier considering the fact we look up to Western European countries whilst wanting to be treated equally, not as a slightly-less-developed country at the same time!

  • @WhiteSpatula
    @WhiteSpatula 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    You always roll with the punches, Trixi. But that’s no surprise. You’re just naturally resilient and determined. I think you showed real couth today by expressing gratitude for your man, and your family, good and bad, obstacles and blessings alike. You have changed over the years. And I would have to agree: For the better. Thanks for sharing. May you always find a dried leaf in your mailbox whenever you need one most. -Phill, Las Vegas

  • @madalenacm
    @madalenacm 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Loved this video! Great pep up talk on following your dreams and doing whatever makes you happy. I'm Portuguese and I identify with what you said about Erick and the culture of Venezuela :). I did erasmus in Denmark and definitely felt the Scandinavian culture. As a Portuguese i'm loud and very expressive with my emotions (not all are) so i did get shushed on the bus and in the supermarket for example, but in a super polite way because that is just how danes are. I took with me a lot of good experiences: hygge, work ethic, bicycle habits, different diet. Contrary to what you said about Germans, the danes are so so curious and will ask a stranger anything on the street, i think that's super cool! Another major cultural difference was living with an Indian housemate who asked me if i could teach him how to correctly use a knife and fork because in India most people just eat with their hands, i thought that was super cool and i had never actually thought about how i held cutlery. Cultural diversity is beautiful and there is so much to learn from each one :)

  • @urlight13
    @urlight13 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am a huge fan of your channel and always look forward to your sense of humor! I just wanted to say how lovely this video was and I could tell you were really feeling everything you were saying directly from your heart! Beautiful and inspiring! Thanks for sharing! Wishing you and your family a lifetime of happiness! :)

  • @onestrangeanimal3212
    @onestrangeanimal3212 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video! Openness to new ideas and perspectives is a wonderful thing.It keeps you forever young and evolving.

  • @sasukesarutobi3862
    @sasukesarutobi3862 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love the German and Venezuelan flag ornaments on top of the bookcase!

  • @ummrania
    @ummrania 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This video was beautiful, thank you and congratulations

  • @RetroGuy_77
    @RetroGuy_77 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I work on the road away from home a lot and spend a lot of time alone in a hotel room. To put it into perspective, I haven't been home since August and will not be going home until February. This gives me a lot of time for retrospection. Maybe not to the extreme that I experience, I do think it's important to be able to seclude yourself from outside "interference" so that you can have peace and quiet in order to just think. Think about who you are, where you've been, where you're going, how do your actions or mannerisms affect others around you, what could you improve, how could you improve... I believe that spending time with just yourself can make you a better person when you're around others.

    • @livics610
      @livics610 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah, bullshit. Humans are social creatures. I am not talking about doses of private time, but about the *need* to interact with others.
      People that don't interact with others much tend to become difficult in time. How about this perspective?

  • @RetroGuy_77
    @RetroGuy_77 7 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    First! I'm a big fan! Keep up the good work!

  • @alina616
    @alina616 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Trixie, I am a polish woman living in Ireland teaching (well, trying to...) German.. I ABSOLUTELY love your videos! Keep going, you give me so much fun! I hope its financially rewarding for you... Gruesse aus Galway

  • @ammartarakji8553
    @ammartarakji8553 7 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    8:53 yes! I always get the feeling that people in Germany consider other people as just environment or decoration, and you're supposed to keep a healthy distance between you and others all the time. If you try to approach a stranger or do some small talk with someone you don't know, you'll most likely get a super awkward interaction.

    • @JayJasperLondon
      @JayJasperLondon 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ammar Tarakji Awkwardness attracts awkwardness 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @leDespicable
      @leDespicable 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I agree...but what makes it more difficult for me is that I am a super introverted Person...talking to strangers is pure Horror for me, even on the Phone...

    • @tabitas.2719
      @tabitas.2719 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JayJasperLondon Disagreed; at least in this context. I have a lot more fears in Germany (despite my family being German) and have more awkward interactions - I always feel awkward, but am more often positively surprised in other countries... - because in certain regards people tend to be more uptight. Of course any culture had its positives - and negatives! :)

  •  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was interesting and nice to hear :) Different perspectives always are good for growing! I’m an Argentinian married to an Austrian and before that shared a flat in Berlin for a year with my best (also Argentinian) friend and his German wife so I can relate to a lot of this things... Never connected the relaxed time management with the buses but your boyfriend has a good point there!

  • @marvintheodore5871
    @marvintheodore5871 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great topic. I appreciate your honesty and the value of your message.

  • @krellend20
    @krellend20 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Lovely video, Trixi.
    Teeny little language note: a native English speaker would typically say they're in a relationship WITH an intimate partner, not that they have a relationship TO them.

  • @nelemoller4875
    @nelemoller4875 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a great video! Many of the things you've mentioned apply to Australia / Australians as well. They are so much more relaxed and open minded. If you go to a shop for example, poeple will always ask you how you are and what you've been up to. At first I was so shocked about the fact of strangers asking me these questions that I didn't konw what to answer. But it is just such a nice thing to do, it creates a positive atmosphere and being back in Germany I miss this whole mentality so much!

    • @kobainage
      @kobainage 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nele Marie I’m an Australian living in Germany. I feel ya.

  • @douglasleathem622
    @douglasleathem622 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Unfortunately in my situation things kind of went the other way those differences you mentioned ended up coming between us since I'm American and my wife is German. She never liked me talking to strangers. She never cut me any slack on punctuality. Everything had to be planned.

  • @Radlerriffs
    @Radlerriffs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks, this is good stuff. Your videos are always first rate.

  • @lozadaoriana
    @lozadaoriana 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Venezuelan here... Glad to hear the venezuelan influence is making your life more enjoyable. It's in fashion to complain about us lately and it's nice to see something positive.
    To Erick: Chamo! Lo estas haciendo bien pana! Felicidades por tu bella familia.

  • @ahmedgaafar5369
    @ahmedgaafar5369 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    i wish you and Eric all the success in the world ...that's the spirit that i would love to see my kids trying to do as well ...Eric & Trixi Bravo...

  • @paulboutchia1035
    @paulboutchia1035 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video, as always. Keep them coming!

  • @lonetreejim
    @lonetreejim 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🇨🇦 Much admiration from me, to you💚 Another thoughtful, honest, enjoyable video.

  • @wincarlysramos6548
    @wincarlysramos6548 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm from Venezuela and this video touched me. You have a new susbcriber.

  • @jumpinjack6653
    @jumpinjack6653 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ein sehr gelungenes Video mit einem schönen Statement.
    Liebe Grüsse an Eric - Ihr beide habt offenbar nicht nur sprichwörtlich
    die jeweils bessere Hälfte gefunden.
    Danke für's teilen deiner Gedanken ;-)
    Impressive video with a nice statement. Greetings to Eric - it seems that both of you found the matching half...
    (sorry, i am not able to translate this correctly)
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts ;-)

  • @namor637
    @namor637 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very refreshing- can relatr to your thoughts and it‘s nice to hear about people bringing about change in one another, making life more enjoyable😊😊😊

  • @wrw-ub7ns
    @wrw-ub7ns 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Good work :) Du hilfst mir immer

  • @Larstig81
    @Larstig81 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Your fifth habit you mentioned was something I smiled about, because it is something typical German. But now I'm thinking about his, it is also for us Dutch people. Time is very important and it should not.

  • @draugami
    @draugami 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Trixie, thank you for your video. If I would choose one word to summarize all five points of this, it is maturity. All of your points display growth in maturity. Yes, I see many of your points in my life. Thank you for sharing.

  • @luisforeal8676
    @luisforeal8676 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good job Trixie you say it how it is...Your videos are awesome.

  • @CrazyTechy
    @CrazyTechy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Congrats on your anniversary. Sounds like you have a nice life. My daughter is a programmer. I think I'm like Eric! My mom was like that--very friendly.

  • @viviank.4172
    @viviank.4172 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Ich verstehe den 3. Punkt so sehr! Meine Oma hat in Spanien gewohnt und durch meine schwarzen Haare und gebräunte Haut dachten alle ich bin Spanierin. Wildfremde Menschen haben mich hochgehoben und mir geredet und wenn ich gefallen bin sind gleich fremde gekommen und haben geholfen.
    In Deutschland fühl ich mich auch oft so wie du es empfindest. Da könnten wir noch was lernen ☺️

  • @INTPMann1957
    @INTPMann1957 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your talk about dealing with service people (such as behind the counter at a bakery) touched on something I feel is important. A long, long time ago I worked behind the counter at a grocery store, and was on the receiving end of bad behavior by customers who treated me as not-really-human, just somebody they had to deal with. Now, whenever I interact with service people I try to engage with them as human beings, look them in the eye, and treat them with the same respect that they show me. My wife and children think I'm a little weird for doing that, but I think it is important to do.

  • @12cunow
    @12cunow 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your "personal experience/insight" videos. Spot-on .. !

  • @m.beatricerizzo
    @m.beatricerizzo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Ich liebe dich, du bist super süß! Ich bin in Italien geboren und meine Schwester ist in Deutschland geboren, und wir sprechen ein bisschen wie deine Familie! Ein bisschen italienisch, deutsch und englisch❤️

    • @m.beatricerizzo
      @m.beatricerizzo 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ich lebe in Italien und meine Schwester (dass junger als mir ist) lebst in Deutschland. Wann wir klein war wir haben zusammen in Deutschland gelebt, es ist ein bisschen kompliziert😅 mein Deutsch ist nicht so gut und Italienisch finde sie schwer, aber wir beide sprechen gut englisch so es ist Mischung von Sprache

    • @coreyjenkins5589
      @coreyjenkins5589 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Das ist aber interessant! Ich bin Amerikaner und Lernen Deutsch und Französisch in der Schule! Ich bin auch die einstige in meinem Hause der mehr als Englisch sprich!

    • @NL-tq1yr
      @NL-tq1yr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks to 113 on doulingo, i understood what you said. ✌️

  • @zelkin32
    @zelkin32 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow! Living in Germany, Hamburg since ten years now. You put my concerns and critics toward German in perfect words ! Thank you for that ! Especially the NPC part, I never thought about it that way, but now that you say it it is so true that, in general, German tend to not care about anything except their business. Everybody is focused on his mobile phone, nobody is ever trying to make any kind of bound which would be seen as inappropriate. As much as there is a process for everything in Germany, there is a process to speak with people too. They'll only talk to people they are allowed to, about a topic they are allowed to talk about. Your washing machine example is just perfect.
    This culture is harsh on us Latin people (I'm FR) in many ways. Thanks for putting it into words Trixi

  • @jaimeduncan6167
    @jaimeduncan6167 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like you videos a lot , and I am not even learning german. Your insides and your comunicaciones skills are magnetic

  • @MrBinieam
    @MrBinieam 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video. Congrats on your anniversary. I attended a multicultural school with kids from all over the world and it was great. It was a very inclusive environment if there was a new kid who could not speak English we would invite him to play soccer and include him in our group and slowly he would pick up on English and start conversing. What I learnt is that the character of the person is far more important and valuable then what they look like. This changed my definition of what an ugly person was. For me it is not the physical make up that determines whether they are ugly or not but their nature . Growing up I have seen some people who I considered very ugly, some whom were insecure and were easily offended however they bullied and took a pleasure in humiliating those they thought as weaker. I have also found my self at times ugly due to my actions or when I lacked courage and didn't stand true to my beliefs. That being said this simple realization has been an eye opener that I'm very grateful for.

  • @rkdazet
    @rkdazet 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are very wise, Trixi! Kudos! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on these things -- like choosing freelancing over a steady 9 to 5! Of course at yours age you should be driving a Mercedes Benz (your friends all drive Porsches, you must make amends)! :-)

  • @muhannadbitar7861
    @muhannadbitar7861 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really enjoyed your video. I am also so glad that you could challenge yourself viewing the mentiond differences from an other perspectieve :)

  • @federicomaisch6812
    @federicomaisch6812 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video, best to you and Eric

  • @fourn9
    @fourn9 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was and eye opening video great work Trixi!!!!

  • @violinpracice6440
    @violinpracice6440 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how you have German and Venezuelan small decorations as background :)

  • @JayJasperLondon
    @JayJasperLondon 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    🙋🏼‍♀️ Great video as always.. Speaking of self-awareness and -reflection, however, there’s such a clash between, like, the way u carry/portrait urself personality/demeanour and the way u put ur rather expanded neckline on display under what seems like the semblance of being carelessly dressed and/or unable to conceal ur two besties 🙆🏼
    I can see u joke & play around a lot with the fact ur generally introverted, shy n socially awkward, while also admitting to ur insecurities which is no doubt very admirable, don’t get me wrong this isn’t a critique of ur person, far from it..
    We like u just the way u r, Trixie, and we’re all here - at least I am - cos we appreciate and support ur work. We also LOVE ur clumsy-humorous way of not taking urself too seriously (at least on camera) - it’s just that ONE thing I sometimes struggle to relate to and wonder WHY and what it is you’re either trying to accomplish or compensate for?? U know u can be prudent without being prude. Ur worthy and ur smart enough 😘 We luv u and sorry for being so forward. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK 👏🏻👍🏻

  • @VyseRed
    @VyseRed 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of your best videos in my opinion. Thank you!

  • @GabrielCastellarTV
    @GabrielCastellarTV 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent video. Really heart felt. Thanks!

  • @alterluis
    @alterluis 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Touching video. Lucky Eric. Coming from a fellow Venezuelan

  • @danielabelenrisaro
    @danielabelenrisaro 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hola Trixie! Que lindo video, me alegra que nuestras influencias latinas lleguen de a poco a Deutschland. I'm also going throw this process with a German sailor. It's quite a challenge! I'm impressed about how much we can learn from each other. Wish you guys the best! And greetings from Argentina!

  • @tonyngo8336
    @tonyngo8336 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations and happy anniversary!

  • @danielschmidtke551
    @danielschmidtke551 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel you tho!
    Me as a German being with a Spanish is very similar to what you are describing and it for sure had good and bad things with it. ( also 4 years now together)

  • @crebegea
    @crebegea 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I guess this is the reason you are the most famous German on YT. Very good lessons you have learned, that some people don't learn in a lifetime. I'm happy for you and I'm sure your life will be happier for it.

  • @alethearia
    @alethearia 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So, I stumbled upon your videos about a week ago. I'm a language nut so of course you popped up! But then hearing that you went into the games industry? Instant connection. I do project management for games. I would love to hear more of your story with getting into the industry. It's always interesting to see how people get to where they are.

  • @ppwild
    @ppwild 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really lovely! I loved listening to your examples:)

  • @TheMimiSard
    @TheMimiSard 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    You're in video games? That's cool! Maybe it's my Aussie perspective, or it's just me, but if it earns money, and you like it, it's a good job.

    • @TheMimiSard
      @TheMimiSard 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      In a pointless aside, I got thinking that you have a similar hair colour to mine, but without the grey hair I have.

    • @TheMagnay
      @TheMagnay 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I totally agree with you, if you can earn a living its a "real job". When i say earning a living i mean enough to live comfortably, not ridicules amount of money. Maybe this is an Aussie view.

    • @alethearia
      @alethearia 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Games don't pay bad either. I mean, you're not going to be making as much as a doctor, but it's not like you're going to be impoverished. You do get mixed results when you tell people though. Like, some people are "Oh, cool! What all does that involve? Is it anything like the movie industry?" and other people are like "You know that's not a *real* job right? It's not a career with any upward mobility. What are you doing with your life? How are you going to take care of your family?"
      To which I say... the payment range is dependent on how much you put into it and who you work for? You know, like any industry.

  • @Lost_Gemini
    @Lost_Gemini 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ich finde dieses Video so inspirierend und hilfreich! Danke! Auch ein danke an Eric und Deine Kleine!

  • @nonchalantd
    @nonchalantd 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was well thought out and clearly communicated.

  • @derplinkster
    @derplinkster 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy Anniversary 😃 Great Topics To Think About.

  • @Halounette
    @Halounette 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hey Trixi ! This video was very interesting to watch, and I admire how you were able to analyze the situation to see what changed in your personnality. I am a moroccan who moved to France 5 years ago, and this new environment changed me a lot, I am a whole different person, but it's hard for me to say what it thaught me exactly. Especially that I am still quite young (23yo) and some things I learnt are just about life in general.
    Thank you for your analysis (and i'm glad you're back on youtube. I hope that things are going better now.)
    By the way, do you have a Raynaud syndrom ? I have that and it's funny I see more and more people having it :P

  • @PACTASUNTSERVANDA2
    @PACTASUNTSERVANDA2 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this great video. I am spanish but my dad is from Nicaragua and I am living in Paris now and I'd dare say the habits you talk about venezuelan and germans can be applied too to Nicaraguan/French people. I remember once in Nicaragua I got a phone Call from one of my loving aunts telling me to hurry up because she was picking me up to go to the Market and obviously I was in a hurry getting ready because my aunt was coming.Another aunt who was with me at that moment told me not to worry and not to be in such a hurry since I had enough time to get ready. Finally my dear aunt came to pick me up in order to go to the Market but one day later. She was however always in a hurry.it was an important lesson to me. Things are really different there, much more relaxed. About the habit of just being in one's own business it is also that way here in Paris. In the Subway people sleep or keep on watching their Cell phones with no interaction whatsoever. Being Spanish and also Nicaraguan I am too like your dear Erick and I learn people's names and I interact with people and I've found out that most of the people love going out of the Shell and they love when you appreciate what they do and you always have a nice conversation with them.Here in Paris you have people from so many origins that you have a wonderful time interacting with them and even natives from here of course always appreciate a warm smile and a gentle attitude and I am always helped as well (not with the washing machine that I had to buy too),but for example being given a ride for being in time at work when there is no Transport due to a strike. Once a was helped by a Taxi driver and you know what Trixy?his help was kostenloss/free. So people here in France really appreciate gentle attitude and kidness as in Germany and everywhere even is as you say most people tend to be always focused in their own business .your daughter is very lucky having you both. She will have piñatas for her birthday and Schultüte when she starts school. It is great😘the Gift you are giving her Learning three languages it is the best gift you can offer her. It is a direct gift for her soul for what she will always be grateful😙. Talking about Job there is no doubt we must work in what we love.I absolutely agree but I wish I could adopt a child Trixy and you need a lot of money for it so sometimes the Job or the Financial ressources are really an obstacle for being a parent.I feel you need a lot of money for taking good care of a kid but..maybe I am wrong. He or she can be sick and need help and that's money,for health, for education...
    Thank you so much for being such a wonderful person.Best and warm regards for you three.😙Viele liebe Grüße aus Paris.

  • @mikeg9b
    @mikeg9b 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was an amazing video. I agreed with every second of it. I am amazed at your maturity and insight. It's like you are an example of how to live a good life.

  • @HisAssholiness
    @HisAssholiness 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is one of your better vids , well done

  • @laurabeasley4687
    @laurabeasley4687 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved the leaf in the mailbox story!

  • @hada389
    @hada389 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a Mexican currently living in Germany, and when you mentioned how Erick asked people around for a washing machine, made me remember how when I moved into the student apartments in Cottbus I asked to random people in the streets where could I find the things I needed to clean (because I just knew dm and Rossmann, and I couldn't find any close to me). When I first came, I lived in Köln, and there people offered to help you even if you didn't ask for help, and in Brandenburg people were rather distanced, most people just minding their own business. Now I kind of understand why people behaved so different.

  • @kataokasaga
    @kataokasaga 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Congrats for your anniversary!

  • @bruce8443
    @bruce8443 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for helping to expand my point of view. I appreciate it.

  • @annaroitman4765
    @annaroitman4765 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Time management that is orderly is very relaxing. When things are planned and in time its much calmer than always putting out fires by being late or public transport being inefficient . I find myself alot more relaxed when I can count on something to start on time and I am not even a German :)

  • @mariaquintero7485
    @mariaquintero7485 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved your video! I'm a Venezuelan and I can relate to your story. You are a wonderful person! I love learning about other cultures and actually moving to Germany this year. Maybe we can meet in the future. Best of luck with your Channel. Just ask Eric not to course as much.

  • @nathalysuarez3192
    @nathalysuarez3192 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    God Bless You and Your Family!, a hug 🌈and my affection ❤️from VENEZUELA!🌝

  • @berika2018
    @berika2018 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are awesome! This video was very inspiring, I subscribed!

  • @eyl1537
    @eyl1537 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Isn't erick the luckiest guy? Getting to enjoy trixie's marvelous projections? I swear to you all, life can be beautifull...

  • @epajarjestys9981
    @epajarjestys9981 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good job, Eric! Keep up the good work!

  • @frostyw
    @frostyw 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy Anniversary, Trixi!

  • @smbash
    @smbash 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope more people think like you. You are truly amazing!

  • @HikaruSorano05
    @HikaruSorano05 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Coming from a country similar to Venezuela, we are raised in a chaotic environment and we learned how to improvise all the time. Rules are not always in place and much less followed. So sometimes this helps us to think differently and do some unexpected things, like asking about washers to random people. I think we all can learn from each other and enrich our culture

  • @brentmorton9030
    @brentmorton9030 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would like to say that I really do enjoy watching your videos

  • @furiskykatt
    @furiskykatt 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy Belated Anniversary! Prost! Salúd! 🥂

  • @boomergam3r
    @boomergam3r 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Talking about point #2, I have been a freelance virtual contractor since 2011 and I'm loving it.

  • @andresyenes7261
    @andresyenes7261 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excelent video! Congrats :) Life is to be happy

  • @dcseain
    @dcseain 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a beautiful commentary on your personal evolution.

  • @cand1boy
    @cand1boy 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your videos are the best. Keep up the good Work.

  • @erickpalacios8904
    @erickpalacios8904 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm glad I could positively influence you in so many ways.

  • @stefanhrvatski9152
    @stefanhrvatski9152 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Deine Haare sehen toll aus! Ich finde, das die Art dich zu verhalten, die du beschrieben hast, eine sehr gute ist. Ich sehe das ähnlich. Und ein trockenes Blatt in einem Briefkasten hätte ich sehr niedliche gefunden, wenn ich wüsste, dass es von einem kleinen Kind reingeworfen wurde. Es zeigt, dass deine Tochter wohl verstanden hat, wozu so ein Briefkasten da ist!