This is a great way to describe the difference between loving your kids the best way for "you" and loving your kids in the best way for "them"!!! Great point and perspective!! Thank you for opening my eyes!
Same here. I always feel the need to keep him safe, healthy, etc and he is 30 years old. I continue to keep giving advice when not aaked and all in the name of safety.
Hala Mashini I’m one of five and lived with my parents my whole life. I love them and liked their company. I’m glad they never made me leave . Dad had strokes and died in 2002. Mom and I got threw taking care of him together for 6-8 years. It was tough. Now, I am taking care of Mom who can no longer speak nor comprehend due to dementia. There is no family help whatsoever.
@@karrish7634 Why ? I do my son’s laundry 🧺 he works he pays his bills he buys groceries a hard worker , very reasonable. So I do my sons laundry because I have time to I’m his mother and will always help my children, but I never enabled them to be irresponsible 😀🐶
If you parent well you don´t need to be parenting and looking after your child when he becomes an adult. The earlier in adulthood they leave home, the better. They need to build their own life.
What u do if you have an adult child who's doing drugs who refuses to listen to right and wrong and always wants to do the wrong thing he had to listen to his father advice for years that the wrong thing was the right thing to do
I'm speaking as a hurting adult child. I also have disabilities I Have not basically gotten the foundation I needed to learn how to do a budget and I have time and again asked to do my own laundry but it still gets done for me which I hate I crave for the independence. Instead I have a helicopter the zoom's around me and effects me psychologically
Tiffany, I hope your situation improves. Not many of us (in fact very. Few) have parents who can parent us well into our twenties, because they’ve not been parented well either. Grow up and stop blaming isn’t good advice because it doesn’t teach anyone anything. It’s just an instruction. What you need is a person who can teach you HOW to grow up how to do budgeting. With TH-cam, there’s good content from specialists and we can learn from others whatever we would like to learn. I’ve benefitted from people’s sharing on TH-cam. Hope you will too, take care!
If you have supportive Uncles or an aunt or friends, tell them your issue with your parents being unwilling to let you have your freedom to do the laundry. Then ask if they could speak with your parents. The more the better but if they still can’t let go( which many parents don’t easily because they fear change) then I hope one day, when you’re ready, move out and find your independence.if you can’t change them or make them change their minds, remember that you have the power and you can change your decisions.
I'm praying for my son to not enable his not the other grandparents enable him either that the things needing to be done will be able to do for himself and keep a job pay his own bills etc
Counselors are in a state of denial....cost are too high....time to learn to survive,learn work,evolve..have to put in 20 hr days to get out of the house by age 30....narcassistic parents that control are the worse verses those that love and become adults
Each child needs their own laundry basket and they need to take the reins for the whole laundry responsibility. Show each child 'how to do laundry as soon as they are mature enough to learn .
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This is a great way to describe the difference between loving your kids the best way for "you" and loving your kids in the best way for "them"!!! Great point and perspective!! Thank you for opening my eyes!
SO glad I stumbled upon this video. Letting my boys become men and find out what my new role is has been so hard. Thank you!
Same here. I always feel the need to keep him safe, healthy, etc and he is 30 years old. I continue to keep giving advice when not aaked and all in the name of safety.
What a wonderful perspective, I think my mother would greatly benefit from this. Thank you for sharing 😊 👏
I need prayers for myself that I not try to FIX things and allow my son.And grandchildren to grow up and make their own mistakes
Hi. My daughter is 19 in college. I am needing some serious Godly support.
i don't agree with telling your kids they have to leave.
Hala Mashini
I’m one of five and lived with my parents my whole life. I love them and liked their company. I’m glad they never made me leave . Dad had strokes and died in 2002. Mom and I got threw taking care of him together for 6-8 years. It was tough. Now, I am taking care of Mom who can no longer speak nor comprehend due to dementia. There is no family help whatsoever.
If the chicks don't leave their nest,how can they learn to fly
U have to take urself out of the equation or they will always be dependent on u❤
Well this wouldn't have been an awkward video if I hadn't been folding my 18 year olds laundry 😑
LOL
chely c you need to teach him how to do laundry
@@karrish7634 Why ? I do my son’s laundry 🧺 he works he pays his bills he buys groceries a hard worker , very reasonable. So I do my sons laundry because I have time to I’m his mother and will always help my children, but I never enabled them to be irresponsible 😀🐶
If you parent well you don´t need to be parenting and looking after your child when he becomes an adult. The earlier in adulthood they leave home, the better. They need to build their own life.
We shouldnt kick them out. Ita ridiculous. Family should stay together. Adult or not. As long as it works, who cares
What u do if you have an adult child who's doing drugs who refuses to listen to right and wrong and always wants to do the wrong thing he had to listen to his father advice for years that the wrong thing was the right thing to do
I'm speaking as a hurting adult child. I also have disabilities I Have not basically gotten the foundation I needed to learn how to do a budget and I have time and again asked to do my own laundry but it still gets done for me which I hate I crave for the independence. Instead I have a helicopter the zoom's around me and effects me psychologically
AGE? WHAT TYPE OF DISABILITIES? JOB>?
Grow up and stop blaming
Tiffany, I hope your situation improves. Not many of us (in fact very. Few) have parents who can parent us well into our twenties, because they’ve not been parented well either. Grow up and stop blaming isn’t good advice because it doesn’t teach anyone anything. It’s just an instruction.
What you need is a person who can teach you HOW to grow up how to do budgeting. With TH-cam, there’s good content from specialists and we can learn from others whatever we would like to learn. I’ve benefitted from people’s sharing on TH-cam. Hope you will too, take care!
If you have supportive Uncles or an aunt or friends, tell them your issue with your parents being unwilling to let you have your freedom to do the laundry. Then ask if they could speak with your parents. The more the better but if they still can’t let go( which many parents don’t easily because they fear change) then I hope one day, when you’re ready, move out and find your independence.if you can’t change them or make them change their minds, remember that you have the power and you can change your decisions.
I'm praying for my son to not enable his not the other grandparents enable him either that the things needing to be done will be able to do for himself and keep a job pay his own bills etc
She’s wrong , my daughter never did laundry 🧺 when she lived with me , she has her own place and she knows how to do her laundry 🙄🐶
Why did they bring up laundry. Be a little hush. Sorting out my child’s “dirty laundry”.
I would tell family I am open to their feedback on a monthly basis via email
Counselors are in a state of denial....cost are too high....time to learn to survive,learn work,evolve..have to put in 20 hr days to get out of the house by age 30....narcassistic parents that control are the worse verses those that love and become adults
Each child needs their own laundry basket and they need to take the reins for the whole laundry
responsibility. Show each child 'how to do laundry as soon as they are mature enough to learn .