I was thinking about this last night & happened to see this comment today, wow.. 👀 I think when we are healthy, we can recognise conviction but when unhealthy, everything can seem like and/or become condemnation..💭
“We want so badly for someone to tell us it’s okay or it’s not ok. Having the responsibility to decide for ourselves is like paralyzing...that way if something goes wrong and someone else told me, I can blame it on them. I can shirk responsibility” 🤯
For some, to decide for themselves is difficult when their taught that the Bible/God has the concrete answer to all of life's critical issues or questions. So in theory they'd think there is an okay or not okay answer. I think one of the bigger issues is laziness, gullibility, and blind faith. Very few ppl want to study to show themselves approved..
Nobody else sees the irony in that statement......They spent like 20 minutes telling us if it's ok or not ok......Then tells people they need to take responsibility for making their own decisions.....I mean y'all got a whole podcast (series even) telling people what to think.....Maybe it's just me...
Love what she said about knowing that you are a sexual being BUT that all things have their proper time and place. Anything (even good) outside of the proper time and context can be lethal.
As a fellow brother in Christ and a pastor, I'm glad you all took reasonable positions and articulated them well without compromising biblical convictions or confusing folk. Great transparency as well. 👍🏾👍🏾 Also, thank you for not bashing pastors. 1. It ain't easy. 2. Most of us are doing the absolute best we can with what we have and are 3. Seeking to learn to be better at leading God's people. I will be sharing this with my preacher and pastor friends to consider.
I love how well spoken she is about the critical issues (with a Christian-focused perspective)!!! I know my personal convictions, but she is one of the FIRST people that has spoken very well without trying to sway people one way or the other.
“God is sex positive.” -stopped me in my tracks. I had to pause the whole video and sit and chew on that. It was soooo GOOD! This is the kind of language that should have always been used when speaking of these things. That one sentence broke something in me and birthed an entire shift in my thinking concerning all things sex. Wow, just wow!
Ri Child God CREATED sex, therefore it is pleasing in His sight. It is not meant for shame or condemnation, but freedom and pleasure. Which He is not against either. Nowhere in my statement did I say “sin is okay”. Neither was that the narrative that was expressed in this video had you been listening with an open mind. Prayerfully you will have a similar revelation concerning sex and become free in believing God is PRO-sex.
"By getting the opinions of other people, we are allowing them to act as our Holy Ghost, and so we don't have the opportunity to develop and grow our own intuition; the Holy Ghost; that whisper; that push that says, "No, that's not for you boo.That's wrong!" ---- I literally got chills when you said that!
LOVED THIS!! What’s mommy doing on the ceiling fan 😂😂😂 Anyway... years ago my pastor talked about shame and guilt and I thought I’d share. Shame is of the devil, his way to try to keep you from going to God and confessing your sins and seeking forgiveness. It makes you feel like you’re stuck and too far gone to be saved. While guilt is a good tool to help you recognize your sin and bring you back to the feet of Jesus. I always think about this when I’m feeling ashamed of my sin... I stop and realize the devil is trying to keep from reconciling with God.
@@LuvKitKatt this is PERFECT!! absolutely conviction is real & it’s not always “guilt”. Also masturbation IS a form is sexual immorality contrary to the beliefs of many. Masturbation just as fornication opens you up to demonic spirits and gives spirits access to your body such as : late marriage / no marriage/ divorce/ infidelity (yes it affects all of this) , reproductive issues including miscarriage, sexual dreams with demonic spirits that bind you to spirit spouses, etc… we must be careful how we conduct ourselves. And God CAN deliver you if you seek Him for deliverance. Now, in the marriage bed… be led how you please 🤷🏽♀️ but outside of that carries many consequences. Seek God and not man, He will reveal it to you.
Listen, I 100% enjoy The Love Hour, even when some of the guests are "questionable" to me. This show!!!!! 💞💞💞 To have a sho'nuff believer speak as she did about sex was so refreshing & truly liberating. More than any other guest you've had, and there have been some wonderful guests, she really spoke truth without being judgmental. Loved it!
This was my EXACT thought!!! She wasn't trying to sway listener's one way or the other, but she truly allowed her light to SHINE in a non-judgmental way!!! Sometimes people find it hard to speak TRUTH on mainstream platforms, so this made my whole heart HAPPY!!! ("A sho'nuff believer" is the right term, chile!!!)
"we always wanna condemn whats not for us as if its not for everybody" "We try to impose our feelings on everyone else" I'm so happy Kevin said that and they discussed how whats for you doesn't have to be for everyone else. This is SUCH an amazing lesson in life for so many people.
Read romans 14 the liberty of the law. We put our own conviction on other convictions that are not law. When the Bible is silent we should not place our personal convictions on others. Although in the text it not talking about sex but I can hold true to other things if you feel something is sinful don’t sin against your yourself but don’t put you your personal feeling on other if the Bible is silent on the subjects and those of us who believe other wise should t try and convince someone to sin against themselves. Sorry for if any typo hope this is understandable
THIS is ministry! God was on display all up and through this. So many times I kept saying, “Mmmm, say that again!” So grateful for each of you coming together with all of these individual experiences and personal testimonies and perspectives, so refreshing! Especially as a believer I am stuck replaying this over and over and over because it feels like someone just took a flashlight and journeyed into the dark, uncertain areas of my heart and mind concerning sex and illuminated so many parts of my thinking that hadn’t ever before been challenged or clarified. You two are right in the vein of truth with this. Awesome guest, she spoke so carefully but also powerfully about how people view certain things and gave so much insight about sexual individuality while also demasking how we can sometimes allow various outside influences to dictate our personal sexual viewpoints, freedoms, & choices. Whew! This just keeps getting better and better 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@KhalilahBall Yeah, it's really good!!! Soooo much good stuff and thoughts!!! I'm sitting at my desk - working, trying to listen, trying to respond to a hot topics, etc... lol hahaha
1:03:08 THAT IS ME! I present myself sometimes at this over the top extrovert person to protect the real shy introvert me on the inside. When people really get closer to me and my real shy quiet side is revealed they think something is always wrong with me
Masturbation is a personal decision. I didn't even know this was a religious topic. Some things you do or don't do in private are nobody's business to judge or bring their religious expectations upon you. I have issues with most societal and religious expectations.
I get it, so I was just thinking out loud. They did address it in the video, however because I'm not a religious person but grew up in the church, masturbation was never discussed in church when I was young.
You done outdid yourself with this weeks podcast! You know I could see you developing curriculum or leading workshops to help teach churches how to have these convos since you're so good at asking those in-depth questions Liss. 👀👀👀
AUTHENTICITY!!!! I said something about this in the book club the other week talking about Burnout!!!! Authenticity is one of the keys to LIFE!!!! We all deserve (and those in our lives deserve) to deliver our authentic selves 100% of the time!!!
Kevin is a harassment claim waiting to happen! "That's a WHOLE coo-chie!" Somebody take that pillow from him! Lawd, lemme turn this volume down lol! Thanks for this topic! The less stigma around sexuality in the Christian community we have, the better and more empowered we'll all be. And, I see yall with the special effects! Come through technology. :-)
N Ca If your joking I think we must be careful in todays society of throwing around that term and if your not joking I think of how sensitive our society has become even towards great black men.
Double lifestyles are DANGEROUS!!!! My parents are also my pastors (have been my whole life)... and my favorite thing about them is that they were CONSISTENT in and outside of the church!!! Now that I have my own children, I seek to lead the same life at church when I lead and at home before my children. I do not want to confuse them now or later with hypocrisy or inconsistent lifestyles!!! TELL THE TRUTH lol... you cannot tell someone what is right and then they see you living the opposite... God is not pleased lol
Agreed! My dad is my pastor, moms first lady and I have seen them for over 20 years now (since saved) REMAIN CONSISTENT. Wholeheartedly agree with you!
how do yall even deal! Kevin is hilarious! and great segment! getting approval from other is for the birds! I'm finally understanding that now. I'm almost 40! Jesus! thank you for deliverance!
Come on saints! I love that y’all are helping build stronger marriages through intimacy! Women are taught to always have a yes in our spirit but this is the first time I’ve heard any real information to make it easier to give that yes. Men, get on your skeeball game!
I appreciate this woman of God for seeming like the homie or big sister. She out here laying it out here plain and understandable. She operating in her ministry.
I love that Melissa mentioned to talk to God about it. Just because other people do it, doesn't mean that it's ok and vice versa. It's our questioning to God and His response that is the answer.
Erica did a great job. It's not easy representing God in these kinds of environments but she did great, while not being judgemental. But in this day, it seems like no matter what she said, she would be criticized. If Erica went and said, yes it it wrong, everyone would be on her back about it. Now she said, it's between that person and God, and folks still are mad at her! Thank God, He is the only one that matters in the end !! Stay encouraged Erica !!
I literally had to pause the video and breakdown shame, condemnation & conviction. Also, when Brittany said that you could be sexual without having sex, I felt like she was talking to me. This interview was a whole word!
Yeeeeeessss for this skeeball reference!!! I agree 100%!!!!!!!!!! (We're all different, but there are so many options that God has blessed us, husband and wife, with!!!!!!)
Love the Red-Yellow-Green activity!!! We'll have to pull that one out!! Freedom is soooo powerful - learning the WORD and learning your (and your spouse's) body!!!!
I love the discussion here! Some very good topics of discussion because people who grow up in church definitely have a challenging time being intimate with their spouse once they do get married. Thank you for debunking these truths. This has been a major concern and point of shame in a sense in my marriage, and its good to know there are ways to successfully move past those teachings as long as we do it together, in love, and being considerate of one anothers comfortabilities until we become completely open and free from shame in these areas.
Loved this. When you're truly in tune with God's spirit, what He tells you is the same thing He'll tell anyone else about any situation. He isn't the author of confusion. Just as in the old testament, all of the prophets had the same revelation from God. Each individual's experience is what made them all unique.
Ultimately the Word of God is our guideline because every spitit have to be tested even our own. Besides the Word of God says that: Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.
Kevin FREDERICKS!!!!!! Man I hollered this episode.. I don’t think I’ve ever laughed out loud so hard at a video! Liss again you are SO SO beautiful!! 💕
Kevin is preoccupied with eating in this segment....... LOL!! Side note: When Josh finds a wife, Lort have mercy! Lol The true, open, Christian information that he and others who may be living in condemnation is PRICELESS! Brittany is THE BEST.....EVER!! Thanks Melissa lul
I do not know where I have been. How am I just finding y'all! This is such a great channel! So informative! The entire presentation is great! A serious conversation with a little laughter sprinkled throughout. Y'all so relevant! Thank you
First time here and Brittne is very good at her profession and I like that she was able to talk seriously about thing that are normally awkward to say.
I loved this episode! Christians can rarely have an honest conversation about sex. I think that it's awesome to let people know that some of the church folks you're following are doing some of the things they told you NOT to do. I heard TD Jakes say once that since the bible doesn't speak on masterbation, that he wasn't going to talk about it. Not sure if that's still the case with him. I also heard Juanita Bynum say that in order to masterbate, your mind has to go to certain places when you're supposed to keep your mind on 'things that are lovely, things that are pure', etc. Bottomline is it's a personal choice and it's between you and God. That's it. Thank you for your ministry!!!
The point about voices blocking out the Holy Spirit is so true. God help us. And let us also pray for the church because the church is Blessing many but also confusing many. So much duplicity.
I struggle for many years about masturbation. I'm so grateful to the Holy Spirit concerning my sexuality. He teaching me what's right for me. Thank God for freedom
Sex is right and good within the confines of marriage. However, porn is clearly wrong and evil. It boils down to lusting for people we are not married to. Its not a preference, its a sin.
Married people create porn and watch what they created so by your logic that is evil porn within the confines of marriage🤔 don't try to justify your judgements just live your life
Vakavaka Boomshakalakalaka “... lusting for people we are not married to.” I think he’s talking about a different type of porn in this case. You also sound dishonest. I’m sure you know what context he was referring to regarding porn. You act like people who watch porn are married people watching their own content.
This is good stuff y’all!!!! I love healthy, analytical, fact-full discussions!! However, I want to point out that the role of the five fold ministry “Pastors, Teachers, Prophets, Apostles, Evangelist” are ordained by God to edify the body of Christ, period!!! So for the people in the back...I think we gotta be a tad bit careful that they don’t misunderstand or misinterpret these ministry gifts importance! They are necessary and shouldn’t be diminished or negated in anyway!!!! Our same bible has multiple examples of how we should be taught and the way it should be done. At the end of the day, saints we gotta read our bibles for everything, about everything, Period, Pooh. And we also gotta be in a place of good teaching and yet mature to a level that sometimes the folks over us will say stuff that ain’t right but they aren’t exempt from error! But the Holy Ghost on the inside of us is our teacher (and much more) and will help us...let’s not fail to forgot His very important role in navigating this walk!! I just don’t want us to think we should navigate this walk alone because stupid stuff since eternity has been said over the pulpit.
I did not think I would be so pleased, but I really appreciate what she has said so far. I really was expecting her to say it's ok. I am the " I'm not going to do this because it's not enough for me" person.
You can question the pastor, and you should. please do not take his word as the final say. The final say is the Bible period. You can question anyone who contradict the bible
Let me tell you how this podcast topic was EVERYTHING for me!!! Growing up in the church, I’ve found that there are a lot of “no-no” conversations and topics. Sex being one of them. I have evolved so much. And this podcast highlights A LOT of what I have been thinking. So glad a believer decided to minister to the people in this manner. Because like y’all said, all ministry doesn’t have to look the same.
Here's what I get from the Bible, old testament seed spilling aside, all New Testament. 1 Corinthians 7:3-8 Reiterates that we are made man for woman. That our body is not our own, that we belong to our spouse. Therefore it is our spouses duty to please us, not ours. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 Tells us to posses our vessel in sanctification and honour and to not give into lust as people that don't know God. Matthew 5:28 Tells us if we so much as look/think on another to lust after, we have committed adultery in our heart. If we are depending on ourself to meet our needs, then we are not trusting in God to meet our needs. I say this as a man that sins, we all sin and fall short of the glory of God. I know it gets hard, especially when our spouse is upset and holding out, just this year I slipped up in this department and had to repent. But we must put our trust in God and trust that he can calm those urges and sustain us.
This episode was one of the best! Y'all touch on topics that people are so afraid of talking about. (One of those people aren't me, lol)... Kev be acting a fool but he was speaking turth. Brittany was great! Melissa preached today!!
These ladies were very well spoken. Broke the topic down well. Thanks Mrs. Kevonstage for that breakdown at the end too with those questions, to make it easy to ask yourself these things abs take it to God!
Kev was acting up today!!!!
KevOnStage And you comment about your craziness? 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Lol yeah Kev you’re a mess
😂😂 you talking about yourself in 3rd person about your antics in this episode.
I cracked up when she redirected you at 7:29! 😂
"The person causing problems in your relationship may be the person you're pretending to be!!!" GOOD STUFF, BRITTANY!!!
“Sometimes we can internalize shame so much, that it feels like a conviction” whewwwww
Yes. And I feel like that not only applies to shame, but anything internalized to such extent.
I was thinking about this last night & happened to see this comment today, wow.. 👀 I think when we are healthy, we can recognise conviction but when unhealthy, everything can seem like and/or become condemnation..💭
First thing I said when I saw the topic was, "Oh! We're gonna talk about it!!" Lmao.
deb1920 right and I hope they actually do!!
I blinked hard a few times like 👀! 🤣
Yessss lol "RR"
@@TraceyMonique 😂😂
“We want so badly for someone to tell us it’s okay or it’s not ok. Having the responsibility to decide for ourselves is like paralyzing...that way if something goes wrong and someone else told me, I can blame it on them. I can shirk responsibility”
🤯
For some, to decide for themselves is difficult when their taught that the Bible/God has the concrete answer to all of life's critical issues or questions. So in theory they'd think there is an okay or not okay answer. I think one of the bigger issues is laziness, gullibility, and blind faith. Very few ppl want to study to show themselves approved..
Nobody else sees the irony in that statement......They spent like 20 minutes telling us if it's ok or not ok......Then tells people they need to take responsibility for making their own decisions.....I mean y'all got a whole podcast (series even) telling people what to think.....Maybe it's just me...
Daaaaaaaaaaaang that finger pointing tenancy goes all the way back to Adam and Eve 🤯🤯🤯
a word 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Love what she said about knowing that you are a sexual being BUT that all things have their proper time and place. Anything (even good) outside of the proper time and context can be lethal.
It's a word for me
As a fellow brother in Christ and a pastor, I'm glad you all took reasonable positions and articulated them well without compromising biblical convictions or confusing folk. Great transparency as well. 👍🏾👍🏾
Also, thank you for not bashing pastors. 1. It ain't easy. 2. Most of us are doing the absolute best we can with what we have and are 3. Seeking to learn to be better at leading God's people.
I will be sharing this with my preacher and pastor friends to consider.
Sooooo true!!!
God bless you and your ministry 🙏🏾
How about someone who has lost a companion and are dealing with Grief?
I love how well spoken she is about the critical issues (with a Christian-focused perspective)!!! I know my personal convictions, but she is one of the FIRST people that has spoken very well without trying to sway people one way or the other.
Thank You Lord for Dr. Brittany! She knows her stuff.
So important to have a relationship with God
Yeah Cause "Jesus" Will Let you Know, We Just Gotta listen!!!
@@virtuosityll7116 quotations on "Jesus"?
@@brysonorosa632 that was my question too 😂
Purity is not only about not engaging in sex before marriage but also about having a sexual moral standard. In my opinion.
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Definitely.
Oh definitely
You right
Understood but the complexity for many people comes into being able to identify what that actually looks like.
“God is sex positive.” -stopped me in my tracks. I had to pause the whole video and sit and chew on that. It was soooo GOOD! This is the kind of language that should have always been used when speaking of these things. That one sentence broke something in me and birthed an entire shift in my thinking concerning all things sex. Wow, just wow!
What did that mean to you?
CeeCeeOnIt87 right I hope it didn’t delude you to think sin was ok
Right on
Ri Child God CREATED sex, therefore it is pleasing in His sight. It is not meant for shame or condemnation, but freedom and pleasure. Which He is not against either. Nowhere in my statement did I say “sin is okay”. Neither was that the narrative that was expressed in this video had you been listening with an open mind. Prayerfully you will have a similar revelation concerning sex and become free in believing God is PRO-sex.
God is pro-sex in the context of marriage between man and woman
If I loose this good Fortune 500 job laughing me and Kevin going to be doing a podcast 😂
🤣🤣🤣
I’m over here trying not to lose this good government job!
EXACTLY!!!! Cuz, we ain't getting paid to laugh out loud (but, maybe we are LOLOL)
@@prncssdiva20 SAME!!! 🤣🤣🤣
This took me OUT!! 🤣🤣
I love the Love Hour. I put my wife on and it’s like our new thing now
Ahhhhh! That's wonderful
"By getting the opinions of other people, we are allowing them to act as our Holy Ghost, and so we don't have the opportunity to develop and grow our own intuition; the Holy Ghost; that whisper; that push that says, "No, that's not for you boo.That's wrong!" ---- I literally got chills when you said that!
Amen!!
Yes!!! She said that!! That comment stop me dead!!
Alyssa Bronson wasn’t it good!!
Thats a WHOLE WORD right there🙌🙌
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“Gods the only master and he doesn’t bate me no where!!”ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!😆😆😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He took me out with that!!🤣
I bout choked 😂😂😂😂
Yep that took me out 🤣🤣🤣
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Oh, uh-unh! Kev so silly.
59:20 “Maybe the person causing trouble in your relationship is the one you’re pretending to be.” That’s a whole word!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
LOVED THIS!! What’s mommy doing on the ceiling fan 😂😂😂 Anyway... years ago my pastor talked about shame and guilt and I thought I’d share. Shame is of the devil, his way to try to keep you from going to God and confessing your sins and seeking forgiveness. It makes you feel like you’re stuck and too far gone to be saved. While guilt is a good tool to help you recognize your sin and bring you back to the feet of Jesus. I always think about this when I’m feeling ashamed of my sin... I stop and realize the devil is trying to keep from reconciling with God.
No guilt is a sin too.. you're mixing guilt with conviction
@@LuvKitKatt this is PERFECT!! absolutely conviction is real & it’s not always “guilt”. Also masturbation IS a form is sexual immorality contrary to the beliefs of many. Masturbation just as fornication opens you up to demonic spirits and gives spirits access to your body such as : late marriage / no marriage/ divorce/ infidelity (yes it affects all of this) , reproductive issues including miscarriage, sexual dreams with demonic spirits that bind you to spirit spouses, etc… we must be careful how we conduct ourselves. And God CAN deliver you if you seek Him for deliverance. Now, in the marriage bed… be led how you please 🤷🏽♀️ but outside of that carries many consequences. Seek God and not man, He will reveal it to you.
Listen, I 100% enjoy The Love Hour, even when some of the guests are "questionable" to me. This show!!!!! 💞💞💞 To have a sho'nuff believer speak as she did about sex was so refreshing & truly liberating. More than any other guest you've had, and there have been some wonderful guests, she really spoke truth without being judgmental. Loved it!
This was my EXACT thought!!! She wasn't trying to sway listener's one way or the other, but she truly allowed her light to SHINE in a non-judgmental way!!! Sometimes people find it hard to speak TRUTH on mainstream platforms, so this made my whole heart HAPPY!!! ("A sho'nuff believer" is the right term, chile!!!)
This video has lead me to be less judgmental, more informed, open, & more interested in being more sex positive. Thank you!
I agree with Dr. Brittany: Melissa is showing out today...break that thing down...shame vs. conviction
In a good way though, she was showing out.
"we always wanna condemn whats not for us as if its not for everybody" "We try to impose our feelings on everyone else" I'm so happy Kevin said that and they discussed how whats for you doesn't have to be for everyone else. This is SUCH an amazing lesson in life for so many people.
Liss the internalized shame/condemnation is a whole word! 😲
Kevin said “Hello, coochie coochie Coo!”
I’m speaking an Hbo, Starz, Netflix, etc series in Melissa’s life. She be dropping knowledge. Help the people. Thumbs up & agree. Great episode. ❤️
clv1984 they better come with the bag! Give mrskevonstage her coins
Absolutely!
1. Kev is a WHOLE fool!!! 🤣🤣
2. Veronica is sis!! 🤗
3. Britt is anointed! 🙏🏾
4. Liss was preaching!! 👍🏾
5. This whole episode was nuggets. ❤️🐣
Certainly agree with you!
This is so freeing thank you guys for speaking on this 💯
Read romans 14 the liberty of the law. We put our own conviction on other convictions that are not law. When the Bible is silent we should not place our personal convictions on others. Although in the text it not talking about sex but I can hold true to other things if you feel something is sinful don’t sin against your yourself but don’t put you your personal feeling on other if the Bible is silent on the subjects and those of us who believe other wise should t try and convince someone to sin against themselves. Sorry for if any typo hope this is understandable
When Kev said the clitoris "sits high and looks low", I DIED 💀💀💀😂😂😂😂. Y'all keep doing yall thang.
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THIS is ministry! God was on display all up and through this. So many times I kept saying, “Mmmm, say that again!” So grateful for each of you coming together with all of these individual experiences and personal testimonies and perspectives, so refreshing! Especially as a believer I am stuck replaying this over and over and over because it feels like someone just took a flashlight and journeyed into the dark, uncertain areas of my heart and mind concerning sex and illuminated so many parts of my thinking that hadn’t ever before been challenged or clarified. You two are right in the vein of truth with this. Awesome guest, she spoke so carefully but also powerfully about how people view certain things and gave so much insight about sexual individuality while also demasking how we can sometimes allow various outside influences to dictate our personal sexual viewpoints, freedoms, & choices. Whew! This just keeps getting better and better 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I learned more about my body in 10 mins than I did in health class and with years with OB-GYN!
I just started, but looking forward to learning (although I do a lot of research and try to know a lot about my body)!!
Antoinyce Mathis FRIEND, THIS EPISODE, we can get with!!!
@@KhalilahBall Yeah, it's really good!!! Soooo much good stuff and thoughts!!! I'm sitting at my desk - working, trying to listen, trying to respond to a hot topics, etc... lol hahaha
Ikr
This was so wonderful... I’m glad that this is being talked about among Christians and should be spread abroad
1:03:08 THAT IS ME! I present myself sometimes at this over the top extrovert person to protect the real shy introvert me on the inside.
When people really get closer to me and my real shy quiet side is revealed they think something is always wrong with me
Hmmm, I never thought about that before. Thanks for sharing this about yourself. I'm glad they shared that on this podcast also.
Melissa and kev is just a beautiful couple, every year they glow up more and more together so beautiful ❤️.
7 minutes in and Kevin already has me dying of laughter😂😂😂 great episode y'all
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I was on the floor!!! Trying to catch my breath now 😂😭☠️
Masturbation is a personal decision. I didn't even know this was a religious topic. Some things you do or don't do in private are nobody's business to judge or bring their religious expectations upon you. I have issues with most societal and religious expectations.
Pretty much anything that you do is a religious topic & they literally touched on why this would be a religious topic in the video.
Pretty much anything that you do is a religious topic & they literally touched on why this would be a religious topic in the video.
I get it, so I was just thinking out loud. They did address it in the video, however because I'm not a religious person but grew up in the church, masturbation was never discussed in church when I was young.
You done outdid yourself with this weeks podcast! You know I could see you developing curriculum or leading workshops to help teach churches how to have these convos since you're so good at asking those in-depth questions Liss. 👀👀👀
Its SURELY necessary to be taught in the ⛪
AUTHENTICITY!!!! I said something about this in the book club the other week talking about Burnout!!!! Authenticity is one of the keys to LIFE!!!! We all deserve (and those in our lives deserve) to deliver our authentic selves 100% of the time!!!
Kevin is a harassment claim waiting to happen! "That's a WHOLE coo-chie!" Somebody take that pillow from him! Lawd, lemme turn this volume down lol! Thanks for this topic! The less stigma around sexuality in the Christian community we have, the better and more empowered we'll all be. And, I see yall with the special effects! Come through technology. :-)
Lmaooooo
HILARIOUS!!!!!!!.....(but seriously, I was thinking the same about turning down the sound IMMEDIATELY!....LOL!!!
N Ca If your joking I think we must be careful in todays society of throwing around that term and if your not joking I think of how sensitive our society has become even towards great black men.
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Double lifestyles are DANGEROUS!!!! My parents are also my pastors (have been my whole life)... and my favorite thing about them is that they were CONSISTENT in and outside of the church!!! Now that I have my own children, I seek to lead the same life at church when I lead and at home before my children. I do not want to confuse them now or later with hypocrisy or inconsistent lifestyles!!! TELL THE TRUTH lol... you cannot tell someone what is right and then they see you living the opposite... God is not pleased lol
Agreed! My dad is my pastor, moms first lady and I have seen them for over 20 years now (since saved) REMAIN CONSISTENT. Wholeheartedly agree with you!
You were truly blessed to have consistency in you life.
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I’m not even Christian and love 💕 this!
I’m actually Muslim and contrary to what most to believe the sexual controversy is just about the same.
Most people perceive it to be worse imo
how do yall even deal! Kevin is hilarious! and great segment! getting approval from other is for the birds! I'm finally understanding that now. I'm almost 40! Jesus! thank you for deliverance!
Come on saints! I love that y’all are helping build stronger marriages through intimacy! Women are taught to always have a yes in our spirit but this is the first time I’ve heard any real information to make it easier to give that yes. Men, get on your skeeball game!
I appreciate this woman of God for seeming like the homie or big sister. She out here laying it out here plain and understandable. She operating in her ministry.
Thank you Dr. Brittany Broadeus-Smith well said!!!
Yesssss! She did that so greatly
I love that Melissa mentioned to talk to God about it. Just because other people do it, doesn't mean that it's ok and vice versa. It's our questioning to God and His response that is the answer.
Came back to watch this because of Kev being goofy and was reminded of how many GEMS are all throughout this episode.
Erica did a great job. It's not easy representing God in these kinds of environments but she did great, while not being judgemental. But in this day, it seems like no matter what she said, she would be criticized. If Erica went and said, yes it it wrong, everyone would be on her back about it. Now she said, it's between that person and God, and folks still are mad at her! Thank God, He is the only one that matters in the end !! Stay encouraged Erica !!
I literally had to pause the video and breakdown shame, condemnation & conviction. Also, when Brittany said that you could be sexual without having sex, I felt like she was talking to me. This interview was a whole word!
Yeeeeeessss for this skeeball reference!!! I agree 100%!!!!!!!!!! (We're all different, but there are so many options that God has blessed us, husband and wife, with!!!!!!)
Love the Red-Yellow-Green activity!!! We'll have to pull that one out!!
Freedom is soooo powerful - learning the WORD and learning your (and your spouse's) body!!!!
The ENTIRE time I was shaking my head saying “this fool...” 🤣🤣🤣
I love the discussion here! Some very good topics of discussion because people who grow up in church definitely have a challenging time being intimate with their spouse once they do get married. Thank you for debunking these truths. This has been a major concern and point of shame in a sense in my marriage, and its good to know there are ways to successfully move past those teachings as long as we do it together, in love, and being considerate of one anothers comfortabilities until we become completely open and free from shame in these areas.
This whole episode was eye opening and freeing in so many ways. Thanks you Guys. Let's let our path of Healing and Growth continue.
I love how Kev pronounces “butt.” It is so funny!😂
Loved this. When you're truly in tune with God's spirit, what He tells you is the same thing He'll tell anyone else about any situation. He isn't the author of confusion. Just as in the old testament, all of the prophets had the same revelation from God. Each individual's experience is what made them all unique.
Ultimately the Word of God is our guideline because every spitit have to be tested even our own. Besides the Word of God says that: Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.
Kevin FREDERICKS!!!!!! Man I hollered this episode.. I don’t think I’ve ever laughed out loud so hard at a video! Liss again you are SO SO beautiful!! 💕
Enjoyed this guest! She was so cool and had a sense of humor...so good!
I love to hear Melissa preach 🙌. Girl 👏 you 👏Betta👏👏
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Kev said i thought that was a pillow...it's a WHOLE coochie 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Boy melissa brought the word in this episode 🙌👏👏👏
Kevin is preoccupied with eating in this segment....... LOL!! Side note: When Josh finds a wife, Lort have mercy! Lol The true, open, Christian information that he and others who may be living in condemnation is PRICELESS! Brittany is THE BEST.....EVER!! Thanks Melissa lul
Being a guest on this show was such a blessing. GTG that you were blessed
As a newlywed PAW (Pentecostal) myself these podcast help me soo much !!! Thank you guys
I do not know where I have been. How am I just finding y'all! This is such a great channel! So informative! The entire presentation is great! A serious conversation with a little laughter sprinkled throughout. Y'all so relevant! Thank you
I just want to say I started listening to this on Spotify but Kev’s commentary brought me to watch this on TH-cam.
Kev is acting up in less than a minute. I'll be back after work 🙄🙄😭😭
This is sooo Kingdom Work. Thank you Melissa!
Dr. Brittany has been the Best guest thus far!! Bring her back.
OMG you hit the nail right on the head. All of the messaging to stay pure made it difficult to flip the switch as a wife.
BEST GUEST EXPERT ON THE PODCAST TO DATE
First time here and Brittne is very good at her profession and I like that she was able to talk seriously about thing that are normally awkward to say.
I loved this episode! Christians can rarely have an honest conversation about sex. I think that it's awesome to let people know that some of the church folks you're following are doing some of the things they told you NOT to do. I heard TD Jakes say once that since the bible doesn't speak on masterbation, that he wasn't going to talk about it. Not sure if that's still the case with him. I also heard Juanita Bynum say that in order to masterbate, your mind has to go to certain places when you're supposed to keep your mind on 'things that are lovely, things that are pure', etc. Bottomline is it's a personal choice and it's between you and God. That's it. Thank you for your ministry!!!
Wow. T>D really said that eh?
@@moniquekwachou342 Yes. This was a while ago so, like I said, I don't know if he still has that same view.
I love this episode! When I saw the caption I was very skeptical about watching it, but I’m glad I did! Shined a light on a lot of things for me!
Kev have me at working laughing until I can't breathe!! 😂😂😂😂 But I am really loving these episodes Liss..
"erogenous skeeball" is genius!!!
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Ha!
The point about voices blocking out the Holy Spirit is so true.
God help us. And let us also pray for the church because the church is Blessing many but also confusing many. So much duplicity.
I struggle for many years about masturbation. I'm so grateful to the Holy Spirit concerning my sexuality. He teaching me what's right for me. Thank God for freedom
Sex is right and good within the confines of marriage. However, porn is clearly wrong and evil. It boils down to lusting for people we are not married to. Its not a preference, its a sin.
Get real, Ask God about being human, and why hormones rage, attractions occur and men WONT WAIT so what do women do.
Hormones and Society...If we never experienced sex outside of the will of God there would be no need to masturbate
Ans lawful sex is confined to having potential to produce child.
Married people create porn and watch what they created so by your logic that is evil porn within the confines of marriage🤔 don't try to justify your judgements just live your life
Vakavaka Boomshakalakalaka “... lusting for people we are not married to.” I think he’s talking about a different type of porn in this case.
You also sound dishonest. I’m sure you know what context he was referring to regarding porn. You act like people who watch porn are married people watching their own content.
Definitely freeing! This conversation was so needed.
Yes it certainly was
This is good stuff y’all!!!! I love healthy, analytical, fact-full discussions!! However, I want to point out that the role of the five fold ministry “Pastors, Teachers, Prophets, Apostles, Evangelist” are ordained by God to edify the body of Christ, period!!! So for the people in the back...I think we gotta be a tad bit careful that they don’t misunderstand or misinterpret these ministry gifts importance! They are necessary and shouldn’t be diminished or negated in anyway!!!! Our same bible has multiple examples of how we should be taught and the way it should be done. At the end of the day, saints we gotta read our bibles for everything, about everything, Period, Pooh. And we also gotta be in a place of good teaching and yet mature to a level that sometimes the folks over us will say stuff that ain’t right but they aren’t exempt from error! But the Holy Ghost on the inside of us is our teacher (and much more) and will help us...let’s not fail to forgot His very important role in navigating this walk!! I just don’t want us to think we should navigate this walk alone because stupid stuff since eternity has been said over the pulpit.
I did not think I would be so pleased, but I really appreciate what she has said so far. I really was expecting her to say it's ok. I am the " I'm not going to do this because it's not enough for me" person.
I'm enjoying the honesty in this conversation
Oommmggg. Keeevvv with the puppet🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. I honestly thought that was a hat from the thumbnail.. lol
This has been my favorite episode thus far! Please have her back again....
You can question the pastor, and you should. please do not take his word as the final say. The final say is the Bible period. You can question anyone who contradict the bible
First of all, I love everything Brittany has said!!!! So many tidbits. But the point she made made about Bathsheba has my mind blown 🤯🤯🤯
TRUTH
30 seconds in and Kev is already acting up!!! lmao!
I just found this video. I will be subscribing. Melissa is so beautiful and intelligent. She's someone who speaks with substance!
Let me tell you how this podcast topic was EVERYTHING for me!!! Growing up in the church, I’ve found that there are a lot of “no-no” conversations and topics. Sex being one of them. I have evolved so much. And this podcast highlights A LOT of what I have been thinking. So glad a believer decided to minister to the people in this manner. Because like y’all said, all ministry doesn’t have to look the same.
To God be the glory. Y’all are truly spreading the gospel. May God cover your anointing 🙏🏿😍
Y'all spoke us down today! I love these. Keep them coming Melissa. 🥰
What a good conversation!!! I love this whole thing. It's so many things we don't really think about but do because we accept it as truth.
“Gods the only master and he don’t me bate me no where” 😂😂
Thank you for sharing on a topic that was taboo. Great insight.
Here's what I get from the Bible, old testament seed spilling aside, all New Testament.
1 Corinthians 7:3-8
Reiterates that we are made man for woman. That our body is not our own, that we belong to our spouse. Therefore it is our spouses duty to please us, not ours.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
Tells us to posses our vessel in sanctification and honour and to not give into lust as people that don't know God.
Matthew 5:28
Tells us if we so much as look/think on another to lust after, we have committed adultery in our heart.
If we are depending on ourself to meet our needs, then we are not trusting in God to meet our needs. I say this as a man that sins, we all sin and fall short of the glory of God. I know it gets hard, especially when our spouse is upset and holding out, just this year I slipped up in this department and had to repent. But we must put our trust in God and trust that he can calm those urges and sustain us.
I absolutely love you guys, yall are so real, and church needs needs this
Omg Kev was like a kid with that pillow! Smh 😂😂😂 Great topic and love all the guest so far! Kudos to Melissa for all the thingz chile! 👏👏👏
It's not just the Black Church, it's the Church at large that is not addressing those important questions.
This episode was one of the best! Y'all touch on topics that people are so afraid of talking about. (One of those people aren't me, lol)... Kev be acting a fool but he was speaking turth. Brittany was great! Melissa preached today!!
These ladies were very well spoken. Broke the topic down well. Thanks Mrs. Kevonstage for that breakdown at the end too with those questions, to make it easy to ask yourself these things abs take it to God!
This is sooooooooooo good, Melissa!!! I am so excited and grateful for the invitation to ask questions. This was a DOPE EPISODE!