First daughter. More than a maid. When your dad doesn't take responsibility for the family, the mother becomes the father, and the first daughter becomes a mother. I thank God that we are all doing ok in life. We are not where we want to be but eternally grateful for where we are.
I’m a male but I understand your case. I saw it in my sisters when I was very young. My brothers wouldn’t wash n my sis will have to wash it for them. After that she’ll cook for my bros to come eat. I helped her when I grew up even though I was a little stubborn 😂
@jeffchristianadedi4107 Yeah, my brothers were 'lazy' papa but it really didn't bother me. Funny enough, they changed as they grew older. They can all cook now. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Being a first born isn’t a joke. In as much as you don’t want to see the pressure. It will come on you unconsciously. Any decision you take , you have to consider other people 😢
We are 4 siblings 3 boys and a girl who is a last born. I'm the third born and also the last boy. My elder brother has a work buh playing i don't care tactics. The second born is the one taking all the responsibilities and adey feel for am. I'm now in the university and he is taking about 80% of everything in my education. He is 8yrs older than me. He is married with two children so he has to take care of them as well as we the younger siblings. He gives money to our parent every month. Tho my dad is trying buh the strength is not like at first. All i pray for is to get a job immediately after graduation to support him.
As a second born n the only working son of the family, It hasn't been easy. I have to provide for my siblings and parents. It's painful and It slows down your progress in life.
It’s true! I can’t state the scripture rn, however, I do remember there was a certain scripture that stated that NOT everyone is fit to marry, therefore , not everyone is meant to procreate. 16:00
I can really relate... Had to put school on hold, grab an apprenticeship program and make my brother who's 3yrs old younger than me grab that chance...
Having to be the eldest when your father died early and left with you 5 younger siblings to cater for is just something else. The pressure to make sure you make it and also become a mentor can get to you.
Hmmm this issue if we go talk we no go finish..😂 speaking as a first from typical African home , I must honestly say its a bit of a mix feelings... From childhood you receive the stricter discipline , because the younger ones "need" to learn from you... In house chores, in school, in the 3:00 society... You are automatically "supposed" to be the yardstick for your siblings which puts alot of unnecessary pressure on you, on days money no dey you sacrifice for your siblings to go to school and u stay home. Now we grow, money no dey... you have to hustle to help keep them in school meaning, you can't go all the way academically as you wanted. And you can't afford to say you don't have money when u are asked Even when you don't have. Like I said it's a lot and extremely hard if u are having single unemployed mother rasing 3 boys. So yh... It's hard but I never regret any scarifices I made or am making. Love my brothers and my mom ❤😊
In my home, the eldest was a girl and she had no reason to fail even in school her option was to be first in class and nothing else, when we do something wrong she is partly blamed, in has much as she was pampered but it was making sure she lived an exemplary life for us. Grow up seeing my sis has an angel 😂😂😂😂 me as a middle child dier my option was to do well in class so at least be between the first 5 in class, each and everyone one of us had a fair share of pampering. I had to do chores cause my eldest sis was just raised to learn, eat and do well cause she is an example to the 3 of us behind her. Luckily for me I go to the eldest and second born(boy) for money 😂😂😂😂 our last born doesn’t ask me anything he has my parents and elder siblings 😂😂😂
I'm the first born and my Dad isn't around, may his soul rest in peace. Sometimes, it feels like I'm a replacement of my parents. I have to do everything that my parents have to do. I can't even hide. In my head, I can't fail my siblings but it's a nice experience tho. My brother called me for money this week 😂. Herr hmm
I'm the first born and a girl, and I can tell you how many times I have wanted an elderly sibling because, eeiii....3ny3 b3t33 oo Four siblings behind, and the way it looks like I haven't gotten to a quarter of what comfortability feels like. I am mostly reserved at home because I feel too tensed and stressed. In summary, being a first born errr...na only Grace we take dey live🥺🙏
My mom was the only daughter of her father, her father literally forced her to marry my father as she was aging she was just 29years, she gave birth to me at 30years to be honest with you the marriage didn't go well, she later met her husband at 35years, and is well to do has five children and is comfortable. I advice ladies don't rush into marriage no matter the pressure, remember at the end of the day you will be in the marriage.
Growing up, my grandfather sponsored my elder brother throughout his education but he impregnated a lady and had to drop out of school. Furiously, my grandfather turned his attention towards me and took me through school from secondary school to the university. I graduated with honors 🎖 and I'm nowing working with one of the multi national companies in Ghana with a good pay. Sadly, my grandfather passed away when i turned out good. I the youngest have to now take care of the elders. God has been good to me👍 🙏. Nice interaction from you guys❤ Keep it up.
My mind is never at rest ,anytime am about to wake up in the morning i become sad and begin to prepare my self for complains especially when its the latter part of the month ,i have 3kid siblings including my mum and its not easy oo the pressure of me is not easy both financially and how to live my life ,my sister actually wants to be like me including how i talk i mean everything about me so am mostly watchful
The first borns are like experiments for Parents, It's so demanding being the first child because one expects you to lead by example. At some point early on, i learnt to do the only thing that seems right to me. Love from Nigeria🇳🇬
as a first born, i am already a failure. could not achieve anything for my siblings to follow. so yh, it is my fault and it is not that easy. we are doing our best to only make our parents and family proud.
Well, as First born and Self-employed, most responsibilities are bent on me, even to the extent of Schooling, I literally support them in school when I literally make a living for myself.
One ot the real responsibilities of a first born is for them to make the necessary mistakes in order for the younger siblings to see and know and not make same mistakes or similar
When dad us irresponsible and not around and you are in a family house automatically you are the mother,the house chores errrr,wash,cook for the family,take care of your siblings alone especially uf you are the only girl around and mom is not really strong to support 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️💔lets leave the house chores aside financial presure CHALE May we all be Great wai🥺🙏🏾❤️
i'm a first born and sometimes i tend to think that it's a curse cos it ain't easy, it's kinda crazy,you get to be a parent at a very young age,you gotta look out for the young ones meanwhile you ain't done looking out for yo seld,fucking hilarious 😂... it's difficult and fun at the same time,i wish i could make a podcast on this...
I am a first born. Rydees krahh popi talk me sey make a pay give ma school fees for tech saf. Adey try explain give am sey the course adey do nu afor give time paaa give the course, computer Science. Wey rydees we take break wey acome hose wey popi dey make a help am for shop... No prob. Ahelp am one full week ago ihn shop. The next week too ago ihn shop. Rydees adey talk am sey adey wan allocate time give ma studies ah he sey he dey wan make acome work for ihn there 24/7. Ano gree there n)) he sey he no go pay ma fees again wey he sana diss me on top. Charlie first borns.... eno easy oh.
I'm the first born and the only son of my parents. I have five females behind me and it's not easy. My father too is no more and my Mom too is not making things easy for me. She never discusses with me about anything, never care about my sisters and I'm the only one taking all the responsibilities meanwhile she has all the cocoa farms in her custody and will not even spare 1 cedi to push my siblings. I'm even tired and I'm just very close to 30. When will I even stop and concentrate on myself? The pressure of first Borns. My woman left me because of that.
@@adwoaaddy ohh really,? you wanna hear my opinion. Well I think first off, they have the same responsibilities as the males, but add on to that 1. The fact that females mature early, which means they start their leadership earlier. 2. The stress of the girl child is increased ten fold in a firstborn, the pressure to not keep bad company, not carry pregnancy etc. is crazy. 3. And once they even get older... there's the marrying first thing. p.s can *we* get married? I'm a firstborn, help me out here.
Am The Second Born And It Turns Out To Be Like Am The First Born Because If The First Born Can't Provide All The Necessary Responsibility I'm The Second Option The Family Turn up To And Its Very Serious In My Family
I am the second born/middle child, we are three girls and I am actually the one who looks out for my elder sister and kid sister 😂. My elder sis is like the most spoilt girl I've ever seen, she's so pampered so her head dey sweet her die 😂. So when I hear stories of how the first borns are struggling, I'm always like "Not in my house"😂. Most people think I'm the first born cos my responsibilities are endless 😂
My dad wouldn’t allow me study general science after I completed JHS even though I passed cos my bro didn’t do well when he studied the same course and he also made it look like science was an expensive programme cos na he dey collect unnecessary money from my dad for practicals that didn’t even exist
@@iamthereginatetteh1not easy ooo. I stayed home for one academic year just trying to convince my dad to get a different school for me so I can study Science but he refused. It turned into a big family issue that I’m disobeying my dad etc. Had to succumb and study the business program he wanted.
life is not fair and it's not gonna get any easier so babying your kids instead of putting some pressure on then relative to their age is important. unless you wanna raise someone who can't stand on his or her own feet at 30
Oh, buh i think it's not that bad to do some responsibilities though, when you are a first born...but just they don't have to be stressing we on that. Cos you yourself should at least know that, you have to take care of your kid siblings in some instances but not that, it should be a 100% responsibility.
Ghana we dey. Even when a guy is staying with his parents koraa he will be pressured to marry and bring the wife to the family home. After that, pressure to have kids. Their motto is 'God will provide'.
this is very difficult for us the first borns .will work hard and all ur wages will pay fees for younger siblings and nothing left for you at the end 😂😂it's crazy
The only time pressure go catch me is when my parents that’s given me that pressure has a trust, going to babysit and will provide an extensive support to me after having that baby they have been pressuring me to have. Otherwise forget it. Is my life my rules. Everybody is responsible for themselves, thus being the first or last born doesn’t mean you should assume the responsibilities of another person. We are all struggling in this thing called life. Don’t let anyone pressure you because when you screw up the ownership is on you. Stay woke people and don’t get sucked into this primitive mindset that most Africans have.
Before you know it, all the responsibilities are on you. It's not something you sign up for. We, the next generation knows better, so we won't do that to our kids.
its not a hearsay or just something k3k3. After age 35 your chances of geriatric pregnancies are high and it may affect your life or the baby's or your health so its just better if you give birth early hence the pressure. and lets not forget men prefer younger women than older women so your value on the dating market won't get close to the new 20-25 year olds. they may get chosen before you
Are you a first born? Share your story.. this is a safe space ❤️
Hmm a different trapper😢
Maybe we go talk am someday
Maybe we go talk am someday
22 minutes was too short we want more 😭😂😂
i dey be first... born and raised in mallam accra. boys abre ooo
First daughter. More than a maid. When your dad doesn't take responsibility for the family, the mother becomes the father, and the first daughter becomes a mother.
I thank God that we are all doing ok in life.
We are not where we want to be but eternally grateful for where we are.
I’m a male but I understand your case. I saw it in my sisters when I was very young. My brothers wouldn’t wash n my sis will have to wash it for them. After that she’ll cook for my bros to come eat. I helped her when I grew up even though I was a little stubborn 😂
@jeffchristianadedi4107 Yeah, my brothers were 'lazy' papa but it really didn't bother me.
Funny enough, they changed as they grew older. They can all cook now.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I had to delay my Masters for 10yrs to see my three siblings graduate from the University.
Being a first born isn’t a joke. In as much as you don’t want to see the pressure. It will come on you unconsciously. Any decision you take , you have to consider other people 😢
We are 4 siblings 3 boys and a girl who is a last born. I'm the third born and also the last boy. My elder brother has a work buh playing i don't care tactics. The second born is the one taking all the responsibilities and adey feel for am. I'm now in the university and he is taking about 80% of everything in my education. He is 8yrs older than me. He is married with two children so he has to take care of them as well as we the younger siblings. He gives money to our parent every month. Tho my dad is trying buh the strength is not like at first. All i pray for is to get a job immediately after graduation to support him.
Being a first born is a great pressure, but that pressure helps you to become a tenacious being if you take it the right way.
You have a point
As a second born n the only working son of the family,
It hasn't been easy.
I have to provide for my siblings and parents. It's painful and It slows down your progress in life.
Chale e go bee okay?
I hope so.
Cos no easy fighting a battle from two fronts: building your life and taking care of others.
@@WillisLearnyou're a soldier,dawg. More grease to your elbow 💯
One thing that makes me very sad is seeing a pregnant woman with a baby behind her struggling in trotro with luggage... Charlie
Same chale 😢, ebi sad
The topic is finally here first borns dey taya 🥺🤦🏾♂️
First born derr we dey tire ooo
E Go bee
It's not an unnecessary burden like Adjoa says, it's just the African way of passing down responsibility
It’s true! I can’t state the scripture rn, however, I do remember there was a certain scripture that stated that NOT everyone is fit to marry, therefore , not everyone is meant to procreate. 16:00
I can really relate...
Had to put school on hold, grab an apprenticeship program and make my brother who's 3yrs old younger than me grab that chance...
Perfectly agreed with Scanty 🎉❤
Scanty!!!!!! Wise one
Having to be the eldest when your father died early and left with you 5 younger siblings to cater for is just something else. The pressure to make sure you make it and also become a mentor can get to you.
Hmmm this issue if we go talk we no go finish..😂 speaking as a first from typical African home , I must honestly say its a bit of a mix feelings... From childhood you receive the stricter discipline , because the younger ones "need" to learn from you... In house chores, in school, in the 3:00 society... You are automatically "supposed" to be the yardstick for your siblings which puts alot of unnecessary pressure on you, on days money no dey you sacrifice for your siblings to go to school and u stay home. Now we grow, money no dey... you have to hustle to help keep them in school meaning, you can't go all the way academically as you wanted. And you can't afford to say you don't have money when u are asked Even when you don't have. Like I said it's a lot and extremely hard if u are having single unemployed mother rasing 3 boys. So yh... It's hard but I never regret any scarifices I made or am making. Love my brothers and my mom ❤😊
Much respect to scanty🎉
Sometimes i feel sad ,i can wash den cook buh still its like no one appreciate
Aww e go bee
I feel your pain
Scanty is a whole mood 😂😂
Scanty got it spot on on the last born thing. I'm a last born and the kinda pressure on me....... hmmmm 😪
Oh okay
@@iamthereginatetteh1aswear o
In my home, the eldest was a girl and she had no reason to fail even in school her option was to be first in class and nothing else, when we do something wrong she is partly blamed, in has much as she was pampered but it was making sure she lived an exemplary life for us. Grow up seeing my sis has an angel 😂😂😂😂 me as a middle child dier my option was to do well in class so at least be between the first 5 in class, each and everyone one of us had a fair share of pampering. I had to do chores cause my eldest sis was just raised to learn, eat and do well cause she is an example to the 3 of us behind her. Luckily for me I go to the eldest and second born(boy) for money 😂😂😂😂 our last born doesn’t ask me anything he has my parents and elder siblings 😂😂😂
Being a first born is something else. Charlie as typing now, I'm pressured to pay my lil sis nursing training school fees . It's not easy bro
Really enjoyed this discussion.... wish we have a part 2 of it...😊
Adwoa God will bless you… for real the way they compare me to my cousin no Ei😂
Scanty be the whole vibe 😂 real facts ❤
I'm the first born and my Dad isn't around, may his soul rest in peace. Sometimes, it feels like I'm a replacement of my parents. I have to do everything that my parents have to do. I can't even hide. In my head, I can't fail my siblings but it's a nice experience tho. My brother called me for money this week 😂. Herr hmm
I'm the first born and a girl, and I can tell you how many times I have wanted an elderly sibling because, eeiii....3ny3 b3t33 oo
Four siblings behind, and the way it looks like I haven't gotten to a quarter of what comfortability feels like. I am mostly reserved at home because I feel too tensed and stressed.
In summary, being a first born errr...na only Grace we take dey live🥺🙏
10:03 scanty is talking for me here...
You guys are doing great work i really enjoyed this convo 💯💯💯💥💥KSS to the world 🌎
Adwoa 26 wow...... my perfect match
My mom was the only daughter of her father, her father literally forced her to marry my father as she was aging she was just 29years, she gave birth to me at 30years to be honest with you the marriage didn't go well, she later met her husband at 35years, and is well to do has five children and is comfortable. I advice ladies don't rush into marriage no matter the pressure, remember at the end of the day you will be in the marriage.
First here & first born too❤❤
Growing up, my grandfather sponsored my elder brother throughout his education but he impregnated a lady and had to drop out of school. Furiously, my grandfather turned his attention towards me and took me through school from secondary school to the university. I graduated with honors 🎖 and I'm nowing working with one of the multi national companies in Ghana with a good pay. Sadly, my grandfather passed away when i turned out good. I the youngest have to now take care of the elders. God has been good to me👍 🙏. Nice interaction from you guys❤ Keep it up.
Nice Convo ❤❤❤❤
28 years born in 1992😂😭😭😭eiii Scanty
With that of the marriage thing it true paaa oo. When the second get married before the first, it very difficult for the first to marry after
My mind is never at rest ,anytime am about to wake up in the morning i become sad and begin to prepare my self for complains especially when its the latter part of the month ,i have 3kid siblings including my mum and its not easy oo the pressure of me is not easy both financially and how to live my life ,my sister actually wants to be like me including how i talk i mean everything about me so am mostly watchful
As a responsible African first born you know very well that After dad you are next everyone will call you.
When you marry the bride prize is a switch of responsibility from your father to your new father who is your husband
The first borns are like experiments for Parents, It's so demanding being the first child because one expects you to lead by example. At some point early on, i learnt to do the only thing that seems right to me. Love from Nigeria🇳🇬
as a first born, i am already a failure. could not achieve anything for my siblings to follow. so yh, it is my fault and it is not that easy. we are doing our best to only make our parents and family proud.
In my home, first born and last born doesn't matter. Everyone gets the same pressure
If you be male first born forget forget pressure…… hardcore responsibilities
Well, as First born and Self-employed, most responsibilities are bent on me, even to the extent of Schooling, I literally support them in school when I literally make a living for myself.
Being a first born is not as easy as the way people think is a heavy load ooooo.I am the first born so I know what am saying
About marriage is not only in Africa, is also in other cultures for example Turkish
I’m the first boy but I’m not the first born, my sister is married and everyone is looking up to me, my parents and siblings.
One ot the real responsibilities of a first born is for them to make the necessary mistakes in order for the younger siblings to see and know and not make same mistakes or similar
Aswear scanty is good 😂😂
When dad us irresponsible and not around and you are in a family house automatically you are the mother,the house chores errrr,wash,cook for the family,take care of your siblings alone especially uf you are the only girl around and mom is not really strong to support 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️💔lets leave the house chores aside financial presure CHALE
May we all be Great wai🥺🙏🏾❤️
i'm a first born and sometimes i tend to think that it's a curse cos it ain't easy, it's kinda crazy,you get to be a parent at a very young age,you gotta look out for the young ones meanwhile you ain't done looking out for yo seld,fucking hilarious 😂... it's difficult and fun at the same time,i wish i could make a podcast on this...
Hmmm you are in my shoes
Awww mese
Exactly bro ..I feel your pain
Scanty and maths 😂 He said he's 28 and was born in 1992 🤣🤣🤣
First born pressure be more waa but we're also lucky though.
We have a special place in God's provision shop. We are blessed.
I am a first born. Rydees krahh popi talk me sey make a pay give ma school fees for tech saf. Adey try explain give am sey the course adey do nu afor give time paaa give the course, computer Science. Wey rydees we take break wey acome hose wey popi dey make a help am for shop... No prob. Ahelp am one full week ago ihn shop. The next week too ago ihn shop. Rydees adey talk am sey adey wan allocate time give ma studies ah he sey he dey wan make acome work for ihn there 24/7. Ano gree there n)) he sey he no go pay ma fees again wey he sana diss me on top. Charlie first borns.... eno easy oh.
Oh charley, hmm
lol eii scanty how 1992 boy fit be 28??🤣🤣
Brie and Adwoa ❤❤girls you look classy ❤❤
I support Ascanty. FYI God never asked anybody to worship Him. We worship ourselves as a service to God
Vim
That’s it we can’t afford to fail
Brie is me in another body,i can sooo relate😢
Who noticed the twi was too much in this episode. Anaa as3m hia y3ka no twii😂😂
yes oooo
😂😂😂
I'm the first born and the only son of my parents. I have five females behind me and it's not easy. My father too is no more and my Mom too is not making things easy for me. She never discusses with me about anything, never care about my sisters and I'm the only one taking all the responsibilities meanwhile she has all the cocoa farms in her custody and will not even spare 1 cedi to push my siblings. I'm even tired and I'm just very close to 30. When will I even stop and concentrate on myself? The pressure of first Borns. My woman left me because of that.
Bro l am really sorry about that
I am first born and I have 3 sisters.
5:54 actually i think firstborn females have more responsibility than males.
Really? Explain
@@adwoaaddy ohh really,? you wanna hear my opinion.
Well I think first off, they have the same responsibilities as the males, but add on to that
1. The fact that females mature early, which means they start their leadership earlier.
2. The stress of the girl child is increased ten fold in a firstborn, the pressure to not keep bad company, not carry pregnancy etc. is crazy.
3. And once they even get older... there's the marrying first thing.
p.s can *we* get married? I'm a firstborn, help me out here.
@@georgenkansah659oooh I get you. Makes sense. And yes, let’s get married 😂
@@adwoaaddy we'd have to meet and plan the wedding then, but for now love you guys, love your work especially, and whatever happened to King Nabeela?
Hmm dis issue is very broad ooh😔😔🤔🤔I’m dingobwoy kid
Am The Second Born And It Turns Out To Be Like Am The First Born Because If The First Born Can't Provide All The Necessary Responsibility I'm The Second Option The Family Turn up To And Its Very Serious In My Family
3:46 😂
I am the second born/middle child, we are three girls and I am actually the one who looks out for my elder sister and kid sister 😂. My elder sis is like the most spoilt girl I've ever seen, she's so pampered so her head dey sweet her die 😂. So when I hear stories of how the first borns are struggling, I'm always like "Not in my house"😂. Most people think I'm the first born cos my responsibilities are endless 😂
I can relate 😂
😅😅😅 they should rather say some First Borns.
Cos I'm 2nd to last, but heyyyy, responsibilities dey test me apart😂
love Brie's hair.. suits her well
eiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii scanty ❤❤❤❤❤
My dad wouldn’t allow me study general science after I completed JHS even though I passed cos my bro didn’t do well when he studied the same course and he also made it look like science was an expensive programme cos na he dey collect unnecessary money from my dad for practicals that didn’t even exist
@@iamthereginatetteh1not easy ooo. I stayed home for one academic year just trying to convince my dad to get a different school for me so I can study Science but he refused. It turned into a big family issue that I’m disobeying my dad etc. Had to succumb and study the business program he wanted.
is not easy 😢😢
life is not fair and it's not gonna get any easier so babying your kids instead of putting some pressure on then relative to their age is important. unless you wanna raise someone who can't stand on his or her own feet at 30
Hmmm plenty Issues 😢
22 minutes is too small😔😔
The return of danjuma
Oh, buh i think it's not that bad to do some responsibilities though, when you are a first born...but just they don't have to be stressing we on that. Cos you yourself should at least know that, you have to take care of your kid siblings in some instances but not that, it should be a 100% responsibility.
Exactly, if I'm not well to do, why would I give birth?
Ghana we dey. Even when a guy is staying with his parents koraa he will be pressured to marry and bring the wife to the family home. After that, pressure to have kids.
Their motto is 'God will provide'.
First born derrr ,eny3 small work oo
I am the first boy. I have two sisters are in front of me.. ba it’s more than been a first born
this is very difficult for us the first borns .will work hard and all ur wages will pay fees for younger siblings and nothing left for you at the end 😂😂it's crazy
Hmmm 😢😢😢
Brie😍
People are really first borns but nothing shows they are. 😢
hmm
Am the first born and a girl, hmmmn how I wish am the last born
First born son fuo dier yabr33 ooo
Bants and rants for 20 mins dier we won’t agree o
The only time pressure go catch me is when my parents that’s given me that pressure has a trust, going to babysit and will provide an extensive support to me after having that baby they have been pressuring me to have. Otherwise forget it. Is my life my rules. Everybody is responsible for themselves, thus being the first or last born doesn’t mean you should assume the responsibilities of another person. We are all struggling in this thing called life. Don’t let anyone pressure you because when you screw up the ownership is on you. Stay woke people and don’t get sucked into this primitive mindset that most Africans have.
Before you know it, all the responsibilities are on you. It's not something you sign up for.
We, the next generation knows better, so we won't do that to our kids.
First here
its not a hearsay or just something k3k3. After age 35 your chances of geriatric pregnancies are high and it may affect your life or the baby's or your health so its just better if you give birth early hence the pressure. and lets not forget men prefer younger women than older women so your value on the dating market won't get close to the new 20-25 year olds. they may get chosen before you
First borns the way we are suffering. Hmmm.
Hmmm being a first born is not easy at all............
It’s actually good to start procreation within de 25-35
U get to be free of feeding the kids early before your 54-60
first
30 is not young. Don’t deceive yourself
First born dia ,ibi lack oooo the probability of you being abort is 99.999%