I mean, you like d*ck. If there's no d*ck, there's no point. Me, I don't like d*ck. I wish they'd asked the question as, "Would you rather sleep with the hottest trans woman on earth, or the hottest trans man on earth?" If the trans man hasn't had bottom surgery, I'm choosing "him." He has what I like down below. If sex is the point, that's the entire point: what's in the tackle box.
I'm not heterosexual because I'm into women, I'm heterosexual because I have a penis and I'm into vagina. If a trans woman gets ahold of some Futurama style body swapping technology and swaps into a body with a vagina, then I'd be open to dating her. If not, then I'm not interested in someone who has a penis, whether it has been removed, cosmetically altered, or whatever. I don't see how that's transphobic. I can respect trans people without wanting to have sex with them. I don't want to have sex with a goldfish either, doesn't mean I hate fish.
If you want to alter language like in 1984 you could be labelled anything the labeler wants, but to run around telling people you fear someone and they don't, and that makes them special, and when narrowing down the specific difference in why one has an apparent fear of someone, and the other person doesn't..........souly comes down to where a seggsual reproduction organ is placed during reproduction? That's strange! Tell me how you are not obsessed with someones lack of preference to the point you want to tell everyone about it. And on the other hand these women are all pro alphabet community, but when having their advances rejected, their go to insult is to call us Gaye? They can't make it make sense. If you support the community, they shouldn't get to use it as insult with people who are not.
@@Aeternus_Nox Yea, it makes sense. I only like biological men. Its not transphobic. I’m gay because I’m a biological man who likes biological men. You think its simple but the alphabet mafia attacks me when I say that.
After a couple of weeks of dating my husband I said I don’t want to continue to see each other if he’s meeting other girls. He just laughed because he’s never dated multiple women at once but was flattered I thought he was such a stud 🤣
Hahaha same thing with my husband!! I said I was really monogamous and that if continuing to date around was his thing we should be honest from the get go and he said completely stunned ‘… d-dating around who!???’ 🤣🤣🤣
Thats awesome. Red pill pushes the idea that men will always cheat because of biology and that the women should just allow it because he's the breadwinner or something. But i always found that so braindead because if a women truly loves you she would be hurt by you cheating on her. But if a women lets you cheat just so she can continue to benefit from you providing for her that means she doesn't love you, she loves the money you make. The same girls they hate are the same girls they are attracted to. How ironic
Lol ny husband was the same he was worried Id be talking to multiple people Im like no I dont waste peoples time just like I dont like my time being wasted I date 1 person you have all my attention and I hope its the other way around.
So my husband and I met online, but lived in different states. So when we met, whoever traveled "already paid", and the local person paid all date costs and that seemed like a fair trade to us :)
that's so cute! just wondering, I live about an hour or two from my boyfriend. and it's hard, and I can't imagine making it work through different states (we also met online, though a little different, we also had a few mutual friends) how did you make it easier?
@@RegiekEy we were both gamers, so we spent a lot of evenings just online and playing multiplayer games together (or watching movies using screen share tools). A lot of the time we'd stay up late just chatting. He'd read a book I really liked or I'd read one that he enjoyed, so it gave us a lot to talk about and made the other feel special. Probably wouldn't have worked as well for us if we were evening socialites, but we were both ready to just wind down and be chill after about 6pm. So we'd have 3-5 hours a night to interact however with each other digitally. (Not sure if that helps you!)
@@RegiekEy I hope you don't mind that I answer, as well.😊 My husband and I also met online, lived in different cities (3.5 hours apart), would take turns visiting each other, and spend several hours a night on the phone, playing, online games, and video chatting. These things helped us to stay connected. But, the number one thing that helped, was to not drag out the dating process. Once we knew we had a good thing and were committed to each other, we got married, decided on whose city to live in, and moved.
I’m a teen girl straight girl and personally I would never date a trans person. And for me it’s cause the mental health of the trans people that I’ve seen online and met in my high school have been the saddest most depressing people with the worst mental health I would never wanna take all that baggage from the start of a relationship
It doesn't change either. I lived in a mostly trans commune in socal, they tore it apart. They constantly robbed us of our supplies, needed constant validation, demanded others help them out (we were off grid: no power lines, no sewage systems, we had to provide those through water, petrol, propane, and butane delivery for our generators, water tanks, and cooking needs, along with we had to set up solar panels for power). If they didn't personally supply the utilities, they would run them into the ground, then expect others to pay to fix the problem, all while digging into that person for how privileged cis people are. Some would demand extra help because they're so "disprivileged," and if you told them to leave you alone, you would be demonized, some would make claims that you're transphobic (which turned me transphobic, because I reap no benefits from being amicable towards them, instead I just have lies spread about me) Long story short, everybody who contributed left because they wanted nothing to do with it anymore, and got burned down a month later.
Those are great standards for anyone. Why would anyone want to take on baggage like that, severe mental health issues. For me I am a person who had to come to realization that I couldn’t fix everyone. I always gravitated towards those I thought I needed to help or fix. Relationships like that can cause issues with your own mental health and I’m happy at your age you see the value in yourself and have standards. 💕
Do you remember when having a phobia meant an irrational fear like agoraphobia or arachnophobia? When did phobia become conflated with hate or even just not preferred?
Its victim mentality triggering. ex. With gay men they call discrimination Homophobia but its not based on fear its disgust. By calling it fear it tries to bring power to the victim and belittles the opressor. So they question of "Why are you afraid of gay people?" never gets answered, it should be "Why are you disgusted by gay people"
as a woman, even I laughed at that. MOST women are the opposite of easy to please. lol thankfully, I'm one of the rare ones who actually ARE easy to please. All I ask is for my man to take me fishing, and be loyal/honest with me, and I'll be a happy woman. lol but most women want the moon handed to them on a silver platter by their man. lol
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 lol I hear you, buuut.. that’s probably inaccurate if you were to actually do an honest inventory. Females are biologically wired to be more difficult to please. It comes down to the concepts of fitness and selection in evolutionary biology. All you have to do is look to mating practices in the wild- birds of paradise are a great example.
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 women aren't easy to please because 90% of them want a million things from a man, but are only willing to give about 2 things in return... sex and food. lol (and half the time they rarely give up the sex once the relationship is confirmed) women expect the man to pay for pretty much everything they want, they want the man to provide a home, pay for their car, bills, and give them money to get their hair and nails done, or to buy shoes with. They want the men to be supportive and understanding, but when a man needs the same in return, they rarely ever get it, and are often talked down to if they express their need for it. I mean, I can keep going if you want, but I think you get the idea.
It isn't about preferences to them because they believe trans women are women while we believe trans women are men who believe they are women. They want to control other people's reality and belief.
Sexuality isn't a preference. It's not a choice. I don't "prefer" women, I am exclusively interested in them. The only group with "preference" is bisexuals, the rest of us don't have a preference we have a prerequisite.
@@Aeternus_Nox idk its both, separately. What I mean is that our sexual preference/who we are interested in sexually is innate and biological. However our preferences within that group is strictly preference. Like a man can be attracted to females exclusively but his taste or preferences for particular female attributes often does flow as they grow and mature.
As a woman you already broke into her 40’s, I’d be grossed out if I was dating a single man who was sleeping around. Sleeping with someone is very special, and should be saved for a monogamous relationship.
@@Stonezster yeah it’s gross. I wouldn’t date a man that slept around. Odds are he has HPV or a risk for Herpes which you don’t always know you have right away. Men who sleep around are not better in bed. I have several friends who sleep with these kinds guys and they are very selfish lovers, most think that p0rn is a good example of how to bed a woman. They are less likely to be loyal. There are so many reasons not to sleep with anyone who has a high body count.
Promiscuity is bad for both sexes. Women should be as picky about that as men but they are not. Women often go after those men who have lots of partners because to them it shows they are "high value".
I believe the question before was asked to the women “Would you date an Asian” A woman answered “No” None of the women even batted an eye! But “God Forbid You Don’t Want To Date A Biological Man”😳
@@karinelaxa959 I guess it was her personal preference…if I remember correctly they didn’t get into a big discussion about it! I’m a Republican and politically labeled a racist 😳…but I would date any race! Character is way more important than race to me!
I date Asian men because on average, they treat women much better ( ok, the men I have dated), and was married to a Japanese man ( he passed away) and that clicked it for me… BUT having said that, I don’t close my eyes to others…also I ask for coffee dates for the first one, I buy my own coffee and consider it very noncommittal…
The main thing that I like about Amalla is how she usually takes a moment to offer the opposing perspective... she can see both sides of an argument, which... 1, makes her incredibly effective in a debate, and 2. Makes her empathetic.
This discussion on the “talking phase” has me cracking up. I’m 41. We invented the talking phase when I was in high school in the 90s. That was the phase when one or both people couldn’t drive so you’d just talk at school before you asked your parents to drive you on your date 😂😂😂😂😂😂
When I met my wife 23 years ago, once we started making out, I basically claimed her as my girl. She told me afterward she was really confused about where we were and was actually happy that I claimed her because it provided her a feeling of security. It showed I knew what I wanted, and I wasn't wasting her time. I'm pretty sure she could have been led on for quite some time without mustering the courage to question the relationship status
I'm a very traditional, SAHM. But I always went 50/50 on dates unless the man insisted on paying. Since I only dated in high school and college I felt this was fair because we all worked crappy minimum wage jobs and it felt unfair to ask a man to essentially spend 10 hours of work to pay for a 1 hour date that may or may not work out. Mind you, I dated for marriage. I had a lot of first dates that didn't go further because I told ever date what I was looking for from the get go and a lot of 20yo guys aren't interested in marriage just yet. Met my husband at age of 22, we got engaged within 2 months, and now we're on our 8th year.
Yes absolutely and how much women do try to find a hair in the soupe at the best characters and judge as hell with a maybe impression that is no one to tell. Even with judgements "we want the gamer guy, we wnat the business guy, we want..., the follower guy with high grade/fame/status" "it must be nature", such **Hypergamy** in the result as its called. It would be so much more devastating for these guys that get handled like in a Grimm tale by a extreme picky princess to pay enduring for it. And they don't know what to do and are mentally hurt... Women do not hold out a part of that rejection, what 7 of 10 downward looking men suffer normally, that are not the football guy, the DJ, the Broker, the PhD technician with a somehow good look, the pilot. Even Social worker with MA are vers third choice for such masses. 50/50 for a treatment chance of 80% of neglect is just a bit more relational.
My late wife and I didn't have a talking stage, we had a waving stage. Our paths crossed everyday in HS after lunch and I would just wave at her and say "Hi" and then eventually I asked her to prom.
i’m excited to see u on this amala. it seems like they’re always picking women to be on the show that end up making the rest of us look bad..or maybe they’re just not the best at expressing their ideas. it’ll be refreshing to see a well spoken lady on there 🙂
I completely agree but at the same time, a lot of impressionable, young women especially have those twisted and idiotic views. It’s good to show them up and expose the stupidity in the hope it’ll help these people wake up and see their own hypocrisy.
"it seems like they’re always picking women to be on the show that end up making the rest of us look " That's just how the average woman acts these days.
As a woman, women make themselves look bad. A good portion of women today are unfortunately very delusional and entitled and that’s a sad reality. Men can’t say anything or even let women expose themselves without rhetoric like yours. Women are finally exposing their own immoralities through their mouths and such podcasts are useful to show that.
I was thinking the same about Brian. Always second thinking before he speaks. I wish he'd just tell women how men think. The second guessing is to avoid offending them. Women have no idea how men think and the "girls" on this podcast repeatedly prove that. Brian doesn't do a good job of fixing that.
To amala’s question “if a guy and a girl are dating and “doing the usual stuff”, then he finds out the girl is trans. What recourse does he have?” This is why you should “do the usual stuff” till marriage. Date, talk about values, meet each other’s family, etc. that will show you who the person is and keep you from jumping into bed with a guy.
My grandma-in-law is in her 80s. She would talk with multiple boys and openly go on dates with numerous boys. She'd tell one guy that she couldn't go out Friday because she was going out with John over there already, but she was free Saturday. The culture today and reasons for it are obviously quite different, but she said she saw more problems when you "had" to be exclusive with someone after going on one date. She was getting to know the different boys, and they had to earn the right to "go steady" with her. It was also different because she did that for 3-4 years before marrying someone that she spent her life with afterwards. I think there's wisdom in what past generations have done! And honestly, the women do hold the majority of the power when dating or talking this way and expecting the men to earn the right to be in a relationship with them. Granny dropped boys she was going steady with SO fast when they misbehaved!
I’ve just watched a couple of episodes of that podcast, after seeing several clips online. It’s entertaining for sure, but some of the girls make my brain bleed 😂
Curious how he gets his female guests. Granted, there is a *type* that would go on one of these shows. Modest women aren't going to go on the internet to talk about their sex lives, ya know. But, I wonder if he pays Only Fans women to come.
Saw the one with the pregnant woman Really interesting! 😁 And Keeko is back hehehe... the girl who got upset because a man said he would be gay if he slept with a trans woman
YES!!! Regarding the "talkiing stage" - I had a pseudo relationship with a guy who treated me like a bonified girlfriend (texting me late nights, taking me out on dates, inviting me to his home and making "me" dinner but not his siblings, lol - and spending tons of time with me) but refused to call us in a relationship...like yeah...I quit that right away.
That's not what the brain dead girl on the podcast was talking about. Stop pretending she's some hidden Nostradamus. Dating is talking first and foremost, you degenerate weirdos.
8:27 I have the rule “who ever asks first” but most of the times when I was dating in the past the men would insist on paying. And that was because we both had a good time and no one was thinking about the money. The goal was actually trying to know one another.
I’ve always been taught that whoever had the idea to go eat, dating or otherwise, pays. Same as if I was like “yo, you hungry?” “I don’t have any money” “I didn’t ask if you had money”
Yeah it should be interesting since Brian always asks “who should pay on the first date”. The fact there there are very little women who remain virgins and are asking men be traditional and to pay on the first date where as women do not stay traditional by keeping their virginity till marriage. Not to mention 99% of the time men is the one to ask for the date, so saying “the one who ask should pay” will not work.
I met my husband in a dating app we were in a “talking stage for 1 week” and got engaged after a month and married 3 weeks after that, for us was the best decision ever been together for almost 4 years and have a 2 year old. For reference we both are 24 years old, sometimes you just know when it’s the right person
@@goingxxcrazy that it’s crazy I would of never stay on a 2 year talking stage, at least I would of need the girlfriend title or even fiancé but kudos to you and I’m very happy that you guys got married hope y’all are very happy
@@ZachLifeTravelWord I’m from South America and was raised with very strong Christian values (conservative) I guess that was the reason why my husband snatched me out of market immediately, I chose him because even so he was living with his parents he was taking amazing decisions like going to college, working and paying rent, I trusted him because In that month I saw the way he treated his family and the other way around, (I love his family and they are mine as much as they are his so that was very important) if you stop screwing around and start dating seriously I’m sure you and everyone can find the right match for them but also wish you the best of lucks
On the trans woman issue. I feel like people keep calling not wanting to be with a trans person a preference, but it’s not. It’s their sexuality. A gay person does not want to be with someone who have different genitals than them just as a straight person wants someone who has different genitals. It’s as simple as that. No matter what the other person thinks they are or how they present themselves or how many surgeries they get. It’s a biological response. We need to quit referring to it as a preference to call it what it is a sexuality.
To me the "Talking stage" is the period of time where you're getting to know the person and deciding if you want to commit to being in a relationship with them. My current boyfriend and I knew each other and were "talking" and going on dates for 2 months before we decided to commit and make it a relationship. I think it's a healthy thing to not rush into a relationship
My favorite dates were the ones I had with my husband. All of the dates were free, spontaneous and consisted of us spending hours together just talking about life. My husbands company was (is) so enjoyable and we always found creative ways to have fun together. It’s been 5 years married now and we’re still having the time of our lives. I think there is so much focus on who pays for the date. Why not have more creative and free dates? Sometimes it’s nice not to think about money and enjoy the person you’re going on the date with. 😊
You have a lovely story. If you wrote a book about your dates, I would definitely read it. Of course, you'd have to tell me you did it. lol I used to wonder the same thing regarding the emphasis on who is paying. However, I have since read things like where a guy asks a girl to lunch and then berates her openly for thinking he was paying for her lunch when they are coworkers (but this was after church, not work). Or, where a guy invites a girl out and then she sits at another table with another guy or several other girls, ordering champagne and appetizers and food to take home, too. So, I get it after reading all that sort of thing.
She said send me to Vietnam?? LOL I'll have her sit with my father in law who is a Vietnam War veteran and maybe she should talk to my female friends who literally escaped (fresh off the boat) that country. What an ego.🙄
I have friends currently living in Vietnam. Vietnam is a nice country. Way better then this hell hole called The Divided states of America. And they don’t have to deal with weird things like what’s happening in this video.
I am 31 and Ive seen the photos of Vietnam and I’ve known veterans from the war. This just shows how these type of women/ people don’t understand nor comprehend reality and how tragic actual reality in this life can be.
my group of friends have these rules: 1) if it's just once, it's just curiosity 2) kissing another same gender is not homosexual as long as there's no eye contact. 😂
Contrary to popular belief I really enjoy the talking phase because it allows you to get to know someone pretty well before you actually sit next to them on a date and have things go really awkward or really bad. The last time I dated the man and I talked for a few months and during that time we had a blast just getting to know each other. When we had our first date we had such a good time because we had spent so much time actually getting to know each other first. I think it's important to get to know someone before you go out on a date with a stranger, you have to remember that you don't know these people or you may not know these people and it can be dangerous to go out with a stranger on a one-on-one scenario. I absolutely prefer a talking stage that at least a month
I saved myself for marriage and made it mandatory for any potential men I met. I did find that, and we're now very happily married. I don't think it's weird to want a man that hasn't been with a bunch of women. P.S. My husband always pays for our dates, at his insistence. 😉
@@cassandramuniz7056 same, except I am a man lol. I respect women who save themselves up, and I am more than happy to wait till the wedding night. But I won't say no if the woman makes it happen earlier lol.
My husband and I had a "talking" stage, I guess, but that was because we were friends. So it's more call it a friend stage. But after our second date we had the "ship" talk where he asked what kind of "ship" I wanted (Friendship, Relationship, Friendship-with benefits, ect) and I told him that I didn't feel like anything other than a relationship would be worth my time. I was looking for someone who wanted to have a family and have kids. Taylor is absolutely right, set your standards high and you will find the men/women who will be willing to work for that. It's an easy way to eliminate the people who just want to sleep around with no commitment.
It blows my mind how for most of these people, the idea of just having friends and then move on to something more with your best friend when you're both ready, just never crosses their minds 🤦🏻♀️
I was on facebook once, I made a comment about my Native American heritage...and had a black man tell me I wasn't native, because my skin was not red enough. I told them they were behaving racist. They pulled the I can't be racist, I am black. I am sorry, I do not care what color your skin is, if you are making judgements on people and the things they can or cannot due based on their skin color you are RACIST.
The talking stage is important because they need to get to know each other first before start dating. Compatibility is important. I dont go on a date before I know a person is worth dating.
In my opinion, this “talking stage” everyone in my generation seems to be stuck in, is either a friendship that’s being misinterpreted as a relationship, or it’s people who are dating but don’t want to fully commit to someone and therefore label it was a “talking stage” so they can use that excuse to sleep around or be “talking” with a few of other people. It’s so stupid and frustrating
No, it's women's disgusting nature and lack of foresight to try and even keep a man, because all you females know these days is being prostitutes. So why would you ever try and keep a man? It's women's fault
@@DT61636 you’re making an unfair generalization. There are a lot of women who do just want a secure relationship but because of the sexual revolution and hookup culture, it’s very hard for some women to find that. You are right that there are a lot of woman who just want to feel sorry for themselves but those are just the loudest ones
If a person is in the “talking” it just code word for I’m have other people I’m focus on but if they don’t work I still have backup basically. Or you just there when that person needs attention or someone to make them feel them for the time being.
Men who’ve slept around via casual hook up one night stand are never good lovers. It takes a relationship where there’s practice and discussion to improve both partners knowledge in that area.
Not a woman, but I was "talking" to a guy way back when. After 6 months, mentioned to him how uneasy I was feeling of the relationship and he said "relationship? What do you mean, were just talking" like bruh. We've gone on dates before. Left him shortly afterwards and found my current partner. Going 3 years strong 💪
The “talking stage” is the stage where I fell in love with my husband of 8 years. It was the most important stage of our relationship, but that stage only lasted 2 weeks before we started dating.
When I met my husband he wasn't sleeping around at the moment. That was attractive to me and marriage material. To hear these young girls say things like they want a man that's sleeping around is crazy to me.
She could easily be in Mensa if she wanted to, it isn't a high bar, top 2%. I think I remember her and Will even mentioning on the old show they tested into gifted programs in school (which is most often at same 130 IQ/top 2% level).
When she go on that podcast she aint going to do a thing first thing gonna happen she’s gonna get frustrated with the other girls for the lack of intelligence then she’s gonna get schooled for her view because she herself think she’s so smart from a woman point of view I called it
I feel bad for the future version of the girl with bangs because she’ll have to look back at some point and cringe half to death at her own former delusions…my condolences.
Sadly, both the bang girl and the one that shouted and yelled at the man represent a huge majority of the woman of their age. On the other spectrum, you have the ultra religious ones that (sorry but it must be said too) are also indoctrinated to think a particular way and controled by rules and a whole community to act and behave in a particular way. Why can't there be a middle ground anymore?
@@nebulajumper6216 I agree 100%. Thank you for saying this. Tbh…as more of a libertarian, I was always ok with both of these groups existing in the name of free speech/expression. The problem is that they have forced themselves into the status of being the rule. That’s the scary part.
@@ianforsythe3878 As long as they keep to themselves .. but more and more they got into this ping pong war where no side is completely wrong or right. The only winners here are the media, youtube channels that cover this and the winning political side of the moment. As individuals, they are just one ounce in either side of the scale, often defending ideologies that are not their own but it is easier to follow a current then to try and swim in another direction.
@@nebulajumper6216 Yup. I like to use the metaphor of a giant swimming pool with 2 deep ends. Half the people are swimming to/in the left deep end, drowning, desperately trying to avoid the right deep end, while simultaneously staying ignorant of their own mistakes and vice versa. Then there’s the new exception of reason, the very few people swimming in the middle, where they understand both ends are deep, and so they can keep their head above water and have their feet touch the ground at the same time. More people need to swim to the middle.
As someone who lived thru the feminist movement of the 60's I can't believe we are having public discourse about " smashing women". Where is the idea of females not being objectified? The more things change the more they stay the same.
We live in an era where if don't worship what others believe you are the enemy. No individuality, no diversity of ideas, just hate. Really sad that you cannot disagree with others.
My gosh I needed this video so bad, I don't feel so alien now in changing my dating standards and no longer following along in this hookup culture we're in today. I'm so tired of being in a 'talking stage' or 'exclusive stage' but not seeming to ever reach the 'dating stage' and I'm over it. Deciding to say to no those offers and instead, set my standards to: "if I am exclusive with you then we are dating, and if dating isn't something we're ready for then I'm happy to hook up, but I will not keep myself exclusively for you"
They say that men with standards are intimidated by strong independent women, but women with standards know their worth and are deserving of a high value man. Men aren’t allowed to have standards according to them.
Thats why men are leaving the usa to find decent women. And it is pissing off all of these entitled prostitute known as "independent women" here in the USA.
I've heard my friends talk about how that they are wondering what is wrong with a certain guy because he is single or not sleeping around. And I've never understood it. So I can confirm many people actually think that (even in Europe where I live) and I think it's a shame.
I've seen some women explain the logic, but it requires a different question. Would you rather cheat or be rejected. And they'd rather he cheat. If he got rejected, it means there's something wrong she isn't seeing. Similar here. If a man isn't sleeping around, it means other women see red flags. The idea that he chooses to make clean breaks or that other women aren't paying attention to a sleeper hit never clicks.
I've always thought that something I've seen many times, and is very weird in women i feel, mainly because ive seen it so often, is how women will pursue a man only because he's with or married to another woman. Why is that? I've never heard a good or valid explanation for that.
@Rob Aldridge One explanation I've seen is that it means he must have good mate qualities. Which is related to why single guys have trouble; it means there's something wrong other women see. It's basically the biological equivalent of mimetic desire or envy. But instead of being a Gucci or iPhone, it's her best friend's boyfriend.
I listen to Whatever sometimes when I'm cooking, mainly for a laugh... But I can't wait to see Amala destroy the panel on her episode, this is gonna be epic ❤
I've seen so many clips of that first girl talking and she's basically the prime example of everything wrong with "feminism" these days. She literally knows nothing and wants to sound super enlightened and intelligent.
Jesus! Finally someone has voiced my opinion, and rather eloquently too. I do consider myself a 'feminist' but in the traditional sense. I do not consider myself above anyone, male or female, but I do consider myself equal. Ànd yes, value is paramount in how you view yourself and indeed, others. I am of equal value to everyone who walks this earth. No one breathes different air from me. But if a gentleman wants to hold a door open for me or I hold a door open for a gentleman...that's simply two people of equal value having manners.
About the sleeping around thing I don’t get that. As a 20 yo woman I have slept with a couple more people than I should have (literally 2 people that I wasn’t in a relationship with the other 2 I had been dating for at least a few months before sleeping with them) and i genuinely see sex as such a special thing and idk how someone could be like “yeah I’m talking to someone but I’m not the only person he wants and that’s awesome”.. I know for a fact that if my now boyfriend was even talking to other girls when we first got together I wouldn’t have stayed because why would you want those intimate times between the two of you to be normal and something he doesn’t cherish as well?? Idk this generation has me all sorts of fucked up
Just never tell that to the guy you want to date seriously, if you are honest with your past the man that you want will leave , he won’t tell you why,he will use you for sex for some time and then bye . Men want a woman that no other dude can’t have . Remember the man that you love admire and respect will have issues with your past.
@@mancubusjam no I see color. I just don’t let it dominate the conversation. This show is white fresh and fit. Girls sitting around the table with the host and sometimes a celebrity guest. I am not complaining. It’s a good show… sometimes, just like sometimes fresh and fit is good.
When LGB first came out, it was about respecting peoples sexual preferences, but now that they've added the TQ+, preferences don't matter anymore. If you say you are attracted to a woman, you have to be attracted to everyone who identifies as one, even if they don't have the feminine traits, physical features, and functioning sexual anatomy that made you attracted to women in the first place, otherwise you are transphobic. That's BS! Is a straight man homophobic just because he's not attracted to other men? Is a gay man heterophobic just because he's not attracted to women? No one would say that. So why do we say it's transphobic just because you are not attracted to a transwoman or transman? Transpeople have to understand that just because they see themselves as a certain gender, does not make it biologically true. And people who are attracted to that biological gender will not be attracted to them just because they see themselves as that gender. And that is okay.
Problem is they're invalidating people's sexuality. But them doing it to other people it's okay apparently. However, stop saying I'm not gay when you have trans women that looks like women. Gay men wouldn't even look at a trans women or any other women.
A talking stage is not the same as a dating stage. A talking stage is when you are having sex, going on dates, constantly talking to and hanging out with the person; but for whatever reason- even thought they’re basically a couple at that point- someone isn’t willing to commit. That girl’s unfortunate habit made her sound dumb, but if you can get past all the “likes” she made a pretty good point.
I've been seeing this podcast going viral for a few weeks as well. I couldn't believe a lot of the young women that speak. I am so glad you'll be on it! I was just saying I wished more reasonable women went on his show 😂
The same woman that got up and walked off earlier said, Men 30+ who date or sleep with women ages 18 to 21 are pedophiles. Then when asked what's the most money she got from a man. She says a guy paid her 6k for a gift box, full of items from WHEN SHE WAS UNDER AGE. She said she was okay with pedophilia, as long as she can profited from it 🤦. She admits this after women on the panel call her a hypocrite.
Oh man listening to these women is killing my brain cells and yet I can't stop because the commentary is amazing! Serious question that I've always wondered when watching/listening to shows like this and Fit and Fresh, do they get these girls intoxicated or high af prior to make them more ignorant and intellectually subpar? These girls always sounds out of it and struggling to cope stringing sentences together coherently.
I am a 30 year old woman and I do not personally understand the idea of a talking stage... Either you want to go out with a certain person or you don't. For me the talking stage is just a way for people to keep their options open which is disrespectful to me. When you are dating you will do plenty of talking and at that point you can decide whether you want to keep going or not but I do not understand the idea in which one uses "a talking stage" in order to keep your options open.
Lying about being trans and sleeping with someone ; lying about birth control in order to get a man to sleep with you without a condom; lying about an std or sti; are the same to me. It's about informed consent.
The funniest thing about the trans woman vs old woman question: If Chase (the dude) actually slept with a "trans woman" and he didn't know, ALL his mates would say "You're GAY!" and laugh at him. And he would have to defend himself along the lines of "I'm not gay! I didn't know!" I've never seen a girl defend another person's (in this case the person she's arguing with) non-gayness to that point of hysteria.
Fun fact- The same woman that got up and walked off earlier said, Men 30+ who date or sleep with women ages 18 to 21 are pedophiles. Then when asked what's the most money she got from a man. She says a guy paid her 6k for a gift box, full of items from WHEN SHE WAS UNDER AGE. She said she was okay with pedophilia, as long as she can profited from it 🤦. She admits this after women on the panel call her a hypocrite.
I did see news thing or whatever about lesbians in this position. It's some of the same problems but also unique. Like if a trans woman was prop but didn't disclose before things got intimate. Now they're in this position of being transphobic for not wanting a dick inside them or consent to something they don't want.
First, I have not been in a sexual or physical relationship in 17 years. This is by choice, I want someone in my life that I relate to and where we can have happiness, many people go straight from being friends or not being friends, and straight into a sexual relationship. Many divorces happen because of this, they didn't have a solid foundation and everything broke down (sex is not a steady foundation). I have a lot of male friends with my age, who say they're in this speaking phase, what it actually means, is their happy sleeping around because the females will let them, so why get into a solid relationship where they'll lose all the extra females they're sleeping with. I have passed up two females, one I did like a lot, because they wanted to go from the first date or second right to a sexual relationship. I personally wanted more time to build a better relationship and foundation that would last before sex, one said okay, but slept with her ex-boyfriend two days later then asked if we could continue dating; I am still single.. And when it comes to trans issues, I do not care how beautiful they are, beauty is skin-deep, inner beauty and genetics is what counts, if it has male chromosomes, then no matter their looks, it's a no go to me. People have this belief, being over sexual is true freedom, well guess, the first folks to use that phrase ran brothels, had harems, and enjoyed their stock of female slaves they gained using the phrase (history). Anyway, I believe in friendship and respect before more in a relationship. Thanks.
The interesting psychology is the less sex you have the first month of dating, I mean no sex just talk and romantic gestures, the more you are attracted to the person because you don't see him just like an object you see him as a human being with wisdom, emotions, feelings, humor, nice hobbies It is an interesting observation that if you wait to have sex, your point of view about the guy is much richer, your love and attraction to him starts to be richer and if you have the first sex after 2 or 3 months, it can be just plus because the richer the point of view about him his lifestyle, his values, his hobbies, music, science, knowledge the richer experience can be sexually and romantically....after a few months of dating. I am just guessing. I am not an expert. But experts say the same way you treat your sex life, the same way you treat other areas of your life. It's like you go to Paris, you don't want to see all the attractions and the Eiffel Tower on the first day. You just want to get some coffee in a nice restaurant and introduce yourself to the city. After a few days, you visit the attractions to absorb its beauty and interesting stuff about the city. We live in a world of easily selling the product, just by clicking on the button as television likes to promote this mindset So it's obvious that this mindset is adopted also in the romantic areas, but it doesn't work that way. People should be more natural. so you are investing your attention into knowing him, even knowing his flaws that are meaningless because you are interested in him as human, it's called imperfect perfection. You see a tree that has an imperfect shape, or size but the tree is imperfectly perfect because of its natural beauty. Nature is imperfect, and trees are imperfect, therefore they are imperfectly perfect in their beauty. Therefore humans also should not try to look perfect but natural.
Talking is what we started saying in the 90s in high-school. It meant you were basically dating. The stage before you actually become bf and gf. Purely another term or slang for dating. I'm 41 now and this was my experience comung up.
Try the 80s, back when the Atari and Intellivision gaming consoles were just coming out. You'd both sit around trying to beat each other at either Space Invaders, Centipede or Pac-Man. You'd only get a couple of hours in before having to turn off, because the wall adaptor was getting too hot.
These shows are always tricky- because they tend to choose the lowest quality people to debate- like reality TV. It’s funny, and there might be some truths- but I’m not sure it’s indicative of most men/women who have lives off the internet.
That and it’s in one of the most promiscuous towns in America, Santa Barbara. California in general is going to turn out a pool of far more promiscuous and progressive people, but this area is an even worse reflection of that.
Yeah I've been thinking that every time clips from these podcasts like Whatever and the ones that guy Sneako are on. They seem to scrape the bottom of the barrel
@D'andre Chesterfield perhaps it's on purpose, maybe what they are trying to do is educate these young adults. Not having these convos with people who don't do this everyday is probably how we got into this mess.
@@tianamarie989 They’re trying to embarrass them, definitely not educate. They just want to feed their incel fans’ need to hate on women in the comments
Lol yes as a WOMAN the “talking stage” should last a week or two. Dating someone is to figure out if they are who are you are going to marry. Hearing this podcast makes me so thankful for my husband, I guess things were simpler ten years ago 🤣 today we are conservative but we started out as 2 liberals almost 10 years ago, things have changed so much and has drastically changed our views (having kids helped that too). I cannot even imagine having to be single in these times.
I live in GA, there are a LOT of people from other places moving here since Covid... and I can tell you that as of now, it is very much a part of the mindset in the younger generation that I see around me!!
From the clips I’ve seen (which are constantly in my feed right now) they are inviting naive young women into the show to humiliate. So I can’t wait for you to go on the show and as always be the voice of reason
That’s what it seems like to me too. And literally peeking through the comments from men on those videos is a great way to remind yourself how many of them truly HATE women
I don’t think your interpretation is quite right. The girls are young, most of them attend one of the colleges in the area. They are not however naive. They are perfect representations of young women (18-30ish) and the dating moirés of today. Ignorant perhaps to believing there are consequences to your actions or that they can reinvent the wheel…but definitely not naive. And they aren’t brought on the show to be made fun if, they are brought on to discuss why their values and perspective is doing them, men and society at large damage.
@@pineapplegirl8078 maybe maybe but from the clips I’ve seen the girls seem quite young and the guys a fair bit older. I think it’s a good way of highlighting that many from this generation hold beliefs they can’t explain or defend accurately when challenged. But seeing this on repeat is boring. I far prefer to see two intellectually matched people face a proper debate.
Oh snap. You're gonna be on Whatever? I tune in 2x / week! Brian is a chill, laidback dude. He challenges women on their logic, but he's not a dick about it. You'll have a good time. Lookin' forward to the show this Sunday!
THANKYOU.... HOLY CRUD I see this stuff all the time and I call it the stick method. (Like stick and carrot.) People who have certain views on podcasts put others on blast who are not as experienced in talking about issues and/or picking people who they KNOW will be reactive. They hit them with a metaphorical stick with a calm face and when they react they gaslight the viewers into seeing the other person as "crazy" or "too emotional". These podcasts are honestly just meant to paint a picture to the viewers... and sooo many viewers don't see it how it is. Half the time they pick these people the Podcaster will throw out statistics... but when you research their statistics they're always balanced in some way with the opposite statistics, or they blew their numbers out of proportion. The problem is the viewer is reacting as well. Because the viewer is reacting they soak it in and buy it because the "over-emotional crazy" person who seems obnoxious or not as well pronounced is so contrasted to the other straight face that why would they fact check? the calm one is clearly on the right track... the guest is volatile so they're wrong and throwing a tantrum. These videos get edited around and people jump on someone who may have just rolled their eyes after someone very calmly insulted them. This first girl is clearly nervous and has a hard time putting her words together.. but I bet you anything there are comments on that video that exclaim that she is a "dumb feminist" or she's "looking for attention" and shaming her because she spun herself in circles while thinking out loud.... only to become even more anxious when she realizes she did it. This method effectively prevents meaningful conversations from happening... for clout. It even causes fights in comments... these podcasters are usually not looking for conversations... they're looking to get clipped and go viral so people will watch them.
i’ve seen more of their clips, i think the first girl is a bit obnoxious but yes, this is very true, podcasts like these will invite stupid people and “own” them. the comments are full of woman haters.
The same woman that got up and walked off earlier said, Men 30+ who date or sleep with women ages 18 to 21 are pedophiles. Then when asked what's the most money she got from a man. She says a guy paid her 6k for a gift box, full of items from WHEN SHE WAS UNDER AGE. She said she was okay with pedophilia, as long as she can profited from it 🤦. She admits this after women on the panel call her a hypocrite.
44:45 men who want a woman who will commit don’t want women who have slept with a ton of men, modern women don’t want to be told they can’t sleep with whoever they want. Women want men who aren’t going to stray towards other women, but modern men are seeing that many women date around a lot too and don’t see how their behaviour could be a problem when it’s what the women do too. 🤷♀️ The only time it works out when both parties have a crap past of sleeping around, and when both people have come to the conclusion that if they could change the past they never would’ve done any of that, and never want to be that way again.
My daughter had a talking stage (6months) now they decided they are dating (as of the new year) and neither of them were dating or talking to other people... They are both from a conservative/christian families
Well I just want to say, I walked outside this morning and my tire was flat as a pancake. So I have never been so glad to see 5 big burley men that were there to pave the road come over and offer to change my tire. I didn’t even have to ask!! There are still some good men left in this sick world!! I tried to pay them and they would not take my money!! It was a true blessing!!
Amala, for the 1st date question - when the 2nd date is dependant on the outcome of the 1st, then the objectivity of the date flies out of the window. He does not "provide", as you say, he does not get a 2nd chance - even gets cancelled, called out or humiliated. The biggest issue in relationships, which is ignored from onset, is this - it is a PARTNERSHIP of equals. Start from this point and you will find that relationships succeed more.
I enjoy the commentary, but amala and her cohosts are a bit naive as to what dating looks like now. Not their fault but as a dude its pretty much a nightmare Lots of girls who bring nothing to the table and a handful of dudes that are smashing all the clueless girls, that are knowingly or unknowingly sharing these same handful of guys. Its gross but its what happens when a society turns its back on morality and tradition. The current dating scene is something similar to what you would see in nature with the alpha males with a harem of females and the rest of the males left without mates. The traditional method of marriage and dating and courtship mitigated many of these issues. So now nobody is happy.
@error404 mostly correct but ill add something to that. These guys with money and status will dangle a carrot of luxury lifestyle in their faces to get sexual access and never offer these girls commitment because a) these girls are gold diggers and they know it B) they learn how to sell a dream very well C) these girls offer no value in return There are a variety of other factors that play into this such beta fathers not teaching their daughters the realities of men and raising them to be a princess or a lack of a father altogether and as we continue into the future there will be large portions of entire generations of women and men that are used to and accept this dating landscape Population collapse is inevitable
Regarding the gender equality question, I want equality under the law and in the workplace. When it comes to dating and the private aspects of my life, then I'm allowed to say that yeah, i want the guy to pay for the date.
Tricking someone into sleeping with you by not revealing your identity is evil, selfish and gross. That person is NOT giving consent if they don’t know the truth and if they find out afterwards that they slept with someone that technically shares their biological s*x, that could psychologically scar the person. You’re gambling with someone’s life and abusing their trust to gratify yourself in the short term. It’s really not cool.
Interesting about the talking stage. In my culture we don’t do dating. So my husband and I like to say we were talking and not dating. Once we felt we were compatible we got engaged. After engagement is when we would go out alone.
as for who should pay on the first date, I think it's up to the couple how they should work that out. I personally am ok with either option. I prefer to go on a date with money in my pocket just in case, because to me a man isn't measured by how much money they have, or whether they can afford to take me on some lavish date or not. It's the content of their character that matters. If they have a strong soul, a good character, then I wouldn't mind paying for their meal once and a while.
@@vivvelsene63 well... Before obviously. Because you need to be prepared beforehand. I dunno. I think the responsibility to pay should fall on the person who suggests going out to eat. Regardless of which person it is.
@@randomreactions16 ok, your original comment made it look like you wanted the couple to discuss on how they should work that out before the date happens, but now i understand you actually just want to revert to the default angle of 'who asks pays' instead of discussing ... ok, fine
@@vivvelsene63 Like I said, it should be up to the couple, and I don't care how it plays out. Personally, I think it would work best if we just default with whoever suggests they go out to eat, pays for the bill. But if the couple is more traditionally minded, then they should be able to have the man pay the bill if they want. IT'S UP TO THE COUPLE! But since there is so much BS with Gender equality and all that nonsense, then the whoever offers to go out to eat pays the bill, is a fair compromise. That's all I'm saying. I am not flip flopping here, I believe BOTH options have equal merit.
I worked in the prison system for 21 years, 15 as an officer, 4 years as a counselor working on inmate programs and release, including WIPP (Work Incentive Pay Program). An additional almost 2 years as a programs supervisor. I can explain the various programs you are talking about and about the pay scale, at least in regard to Arizona. Likely most states are very similar though that I can't guarantee.
I’m married but when I met my husband there was a few girls going after him that were kind of floating around and he quit talking to them when he met me. He wasn’t sleeping with them, but he had women who wanted to. If he didn’t have a single woman showing interest in him? I would see that as an odd thing. As women we like men who other women like, because we are social creatures and seeing other women like someone means that man is valuable to us for some reason. So, I’m not into them sleeping around with other women but I would want him to be wanted. My husband still gets hit on by women but I trust him fully and see that as kind of a compliment. Like yeah, that’s my man…. move along.
Meh that’s you. Not something I desired. And my husband is very handsome too, but I don’t need women fawning over him. Just like he doesn’t need men fawning over me. Can we just stop normalizing this BS
If I invite a friend out for dinner, then I pay - because they’re my guest. If a man invites me on a date, then he should pay - because I’m his guest. Having said that, if I suspect the man doesn’t earn much, I often say I’m going to the bathroom and sneakily pay the bill. I hope those men never felt emasculated.
Who pays on the first date? Have you ever asked (separately) an engaged couple what they did for their first date. Often, they don't agree. One considers it a date much earlier than the other.
@@error404webpagenotfound I think it's simple biology, really. Think about him pursuing her as a mating ritual. For a woman in her 20s, she will want to know that the man can provide. I'm talking biology, not culture. Most modern women would be aghast at thinking they want a man who can provide. I think that's why our culture has set upon this "guy pays for all dates". the old days, the woman would host the man for dinners at home. Geez, in the old days, the woman might mend the man's laundry. I was older than 20s when my hubby & I got together. So, I KNEW I wanted a man who considered a savings account important & didn't want to sling money around. So our first date (in my mind) was biking. He bought me ice cream. The gesture of him paying was very important to me. The cost of the first date being low also spoke volumes to me. Now, we hung together every weekend for weeks before I FINALLY agreed to be girlfriend/boyfriend. That is the first time he bought me a nice meal. He paid for everything & I made him lots of homemade meals. Once we went to the ballet. I don't know how we dealt with the money. Ballet is expensive & I was forcing it on him. 20 years & he hasn't had to do another ballet, though.
I actually felt bad for her because I did end up watching that episode and I could tell that she wasn't articulating what she was trying to say very well and they were running away with what she said and making her sound really bad.
Everyone knows what she was saying. She's not some misunderstood Plato. She's a degenerate in the middle of her hooking up phase sick of having to talk before getting to the sleeping around part..
I’m a gay man, and I wouldn’t date a trans man so I get it. Its not transphobic.
I mean, you like d*ck. If there's no d*ck, there's no point. Me, I don't like d*ck. I wish they'd asked the question as, "Would you rather sleep with the hottest trans woman on earth, or the hottest trans man on earth?" If the trans man hasn't had bottom surgery, I'm choosing "him." He has what I like down below. If sex is the point, that's the entire point: what's in the tackle box.
@@joeday4293 Yea exactly
I'm not heterosexual because I'm into women, I'm heterosexual because I have a penis and I'm into vagina.
If a trans woman gets ahold of some Futurama style body swapping technology and swaps into a body with a vagina, then I'd be open to dating her.
If not, then I'm not interested in someone who has a penis, whether it has been removed, cosmetically altered, or whatever.
I don't see how that's transphobic. I can respect trans people without wanting to have sex with them. I don't want to have sex with a goldfish either, doesn't mean I hate fish.
If you want to alter language like in 1984 you could be labelled anything the labeler wants, but to run around telling people you fear someone and they don't, and that makes them special, and when narrowing down the specific difference in why one has an apparent fear of someone, and the other person doesn't..........souly comes down to where a seggsual reproduction organ is placed during reproduction?
That's strange! Tell me how you are not obsessed with someones lack of preference to the point you want to tell everyone about it.
And on the other hand these women are all pro alphabet community, but when having their advances rejected, their go to insult is to call us Gaye?
They can't make it make sense. If you support the community, they shouldn't get to use it as insult with people who are not.
@@Aeternus_Nox Yea, it makes sense. I only like biological men. Its not transphobic. I’m gay because I’m a biological man who likes biological men.
You think its simple but the alphabet mafia attacks me when I say that.
After a couple of weeks of dating my husband I said I don’t want to continue to see each other if he’s meeting other girls. He just laughed because he’s never dated multiple women at once but was flattered I thought he was such a stud 🤣
That's cute!
Hahaha same thing with my husband!! I said I was really monogamous and that if continuing to date around was his thing we should be honest from the get go and he said completely stunned ‘… d-dating around who!???’ 🤣🤣🤣
Thats awesome. Red pill pushes the idea that men will always cheat because of biology and that the women should just allow it because he's the breadwinner or something. But i always found that so braindead because if a women truly loves you she would be hurt by you cheating on her. But if a women lets you cheat just so she can continue to benefit from you providing for her that means she doesn't love you, she loves the money you make. The same girls they hate are the same girls they are attracted to. How ironic
@@kora4185 HAHAHA 😅
Lol ny husband was the same he was worried Id be talking to multiple people Im like no I dont waste peoples time just like I dont like my time being wasted I date 1 person you have all my attention and I hope its the other way around.
So my husband and I met online, but lived in different states. So when we met, whoever traveled "already paid", and the local person paid all date costs and that seemed like a fair trade to us :)
that's so cute!
just wondering, I live about an hour or two from my boyfriend. and it's hard, and I can't imagine making it work through different states (we also met online, though a little different, we also had a few mutual friends)
how did you make it easier?
@@RegiekEy we were both gamers, so we spent a lot of evenings just online and playing multiplayer games together (or watching movies using screen share tools). A lot of the time we'd stay up late just chatting. He'd read a book I really liked or I'd read one that he enjoyed, so it gave us a lot to talk about and made the other feel special. Probably wouldn't have worked as well for us if we were evening socialites, but we were both ready to just wind down and be chill after about 6pm. So we'd have 3-5 hours a night to interact however with each other digitally. (Not sure if that helps you!)
Do you still play video games together?
@@cimmerianmuse13 that's a very similar situation to me and my husband, when we dated long distance.
@@RegiekEy I hope you don't mind that I answer, as well.😊 My husband and I also met online, lived in different cities (3.5 hours apart), would take turns visiting each other, and spend several hours a night on the phone, playing, online games, and video chatting. These things helped us to stay connected. But, the number one thing that helped, was to not drag out the dating process. Once we knew we had a good thing and were committed to each other, we got married, decided on whose city to live in, and moved.
I’m a teen girl straight girl and personally I would never date a trans person. And for me it’s cause the mental health of the trans people that I’ve seen online and met in my high school have been the saddest most depressing people with the worst mental health I would never wanna take all that baggage from the start of a relationship
Preach girl
It doesn't change either. I lived in a mostly trans commune in socal, they tore it apart. They constantly robbed us of our supplies, needed constant validation, demanded others help them out (we were off grid: no power lines, no sewage systems, we had to provide those through water, petrol, propane, and butane delivery for our generators, water tanks, and cooking needs, along with we had to set up solar panels for power). If they didn't personally supply the utilities, they would run them into the ground, then expect others to pay to fix the problem, all while digging into that person for how privileged cis people are. Some would demand extra help because they're so "disprivileged," and if you told them to leave you alone, you would be demonized, some would make claims that you're transphobic (which turned me transphobic, because I reap no benefits from being amicable towards them, instead I just have lies spread about me)
Long story short, everybody who contributed left because they wanted nothing to do with it anymore, and got burned down a month later.
Those are great standards for anyone. Why would anyone want to take on baggage like that, severe mental health issues. For me I am a person who had to come to realization that I couldn’t fix everyone. I always gravitated towards those I thought I needed to help or fix. Relationships like that can cause issues with your own mental health and I’m happy at your age you see the value in yourself and have standards. 💕
Yeah. They are nothing like Dylan Mulvaney pretends to be.
@@electra7329 thank you!
Do you remember when having a phobia meant an irrational fear like agoraphobia or arachnophobia? When did phobia become conflated with hate or even just not preferred?
Its victim mentality triggering. ex. With gay men they call discrimination Homophobia but its not based on fear its disgust. By calling it fear it tries to bring power to the victim and belittles the opressor. So they question of "Why are you afraid of gay people?" never gets answered, it should be "Why are you disgusted by gay people"
Exactly
It fits the definition...transphobe is a fear of transgender people.
Xenophobia probably
As a woman… when she said women are easy to please I started dying laughing.
as a woman, even I laughed at that. MOST women are the opposite of easy to please. lol thankfully, I'm one of the rare ones who actually ARE easy to please. All I ask is for my man to take me fishing, and be loyal/honest with me, and I'll be a happy woman. lol but most women want the moon handed to them on a silver platter by their man. lol
Lmao how are we not tho?! How many women just wish their husbands cleaned up after themselves?
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 lol I hear you, buuut.. that’s probably inaccurate if you were to actually do an honest inventory. Females are biologically wired to be more difficult to please. It comes down to the concepts of fitness and selection in evolutionary biology. All you have to do is look to mating practices in the wild- birds of paradise are a great example.
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 women aren't easy to please because 90% of them want a million things from a man, but are only willing to give about 2 things in return... sex and food. lol (and half the time they rarely give up the sex once the relationship is confirmed) women expect the man to pay for pretty much everything they want, they want the man to provide a home, pay for their car, bills, and give them money to get their hair and nails done, or to buy shoes with. They want the men to be supportive and understanding, but when a man needs the same in return, they rarely ever get it, and are often talked down to if they express their need for it. I mean, I can keep going if you want, but I think you get the idea.
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 thank you!! I didn't k own what to say to that cuz I don't know any women who aren't easy to please
It isn't about preferences to them because they believe trans women are women while we believe trans women are men who believe they are women. They want to control other people's reality and belief.
Sexuality isn't a preference. It's not a choice.
I don't "prefer" women, I am exclusively interested in them.
The only group with "preference" is bisexuals, the rest of us don't have a preference we have a prerequisite.
@@Aeternus_Noxyes!!!!!! So much yes
@@Aeternus_Noxif a straight man is attracted to a trans woman without knowing shes a male, does that make him gay?
@@Aeternus_Nox idk its both, separately. What I mean is that our sexual preference/who we are interested in sexually is innate and biological. However our preferences within that group is strictly preference. Like a man can be attracted to females exclusively but his taste or preferences for particular female attributes often does flow as they grow and mature.
@@deetgrogstin no, until he’s attracted to HIM after realizing he is also a man.
As a woman you already broke into her 40’s, I’d be grossed out if I was dating a single man who was sleeping around. Sleeping with someone is very special, and should be saved for a monogamous relationship.
In your opinion
@@Stonezster yeah it’s gross. I wouldn’t date a man that slept around. Odds are he has HPV or a risk for Herpes which you don’t always know you have right away. Men who sleep around are not better in bed. I have several friends who sleep with these kinds guys and they are very selfish lovers, most think that p0rn is a good example of how to bed a woman. They are less likely to be loyal. There are so many reasons not to sleep with anyone who has a high body count.
Promiscuity is bad for both sexes. Women should be as picky about that as men but they are not. Women often go after those men who have lots of partners because to them it shows they are "high value".
@@vsand9798 i mean you might as well find a virgin because about 70% of people in the world have herpes lol. oh and even virgins can have hsv1...
Stds going all around
I believe the question before was asked to the women “Would you date an Asian”
A woman answered “No”
None of the women even batted an eye! But “God Forbid You Don’t Want To Date A Biological Man”😳
🎯Bingo
Rules for thee but not for me!
I don't understand why dating Asians is supposed to be "bad"? Could someone please extrapolate?
@@karinelaxa959
I guess it was her personal preference…if I remember correctly they didn’t get into a big discussion about it! I’m a Republican and politically labeled a racist 😳…but I would date any race! Character is way more important than race to me!
I date Asian men because on average, they treat women much better ( ok, the men I have dated), and was married to a Japanese man ( he passed away) and that clicked it for me… BUT having said that, I don’t close my eyes to others…also I ask for coffee dates for the first one, I buy my own coffee and consider it very noncommittal…
The main thing that I like about Amalla is how she usually takes a moment to offer the opposing perspective... she can see both sides of an argument, which... 1, makes her incredibly effective in a debate, and 2. Makes her empathetic.
AND she's beautifull.
This discussion on the “talking phase” has me cracking up. I’m 41. We invented the talking phase when I was in high school in the 90s. That was the phase when one or both people couldn’t drive so you’d just talk at school before you asked your parents to drive you on your date 😂😂😂😂😂😂
34 here and I remember that time, too. And how much better it was after I got my license.
YESSSS
I think she said "like" over 30 times.
Exactlyyyyyyy!
Or we talked on our land line phones for hours, until getting yelled at to get off the phone by mom and dad😂
"hottest trans vs oldest woman" -- immediate reaction is I don't like being coerced into "smashing" anyone! It feels like a strange premise.
When I met my wife 23 years ago, once we started making out, I basically claimed her as my girl. She told me afterward she was really confused about where we were and was actually happy that I claimed her because it provided her a feeling of security. It showed I knew what I wanted, and I wasn't wasting her time. I'm pretty sure she could have been led on for quite some time without mustering the courage to question the relationship status
In terms of dating, if you go on 1 or 2 dates with a person, you're not dating. Dating has a level exclusivity.
I'm a very traditional, SAHM. But I always went 50/50 on dates unless the man insisted on paying. Since I only dated in high school and college I felt this was fair because we all worked crappy minimum wage jobs and it felt unfair to ask a man to essentially spend 10 hours of work to pay for a 1 hour date that may or may not work out.
Mind you, I dated for marriage. I had a lot of first dates that didn't go further because I told ever date what I was looking for from the get go and a lot of 20yo guys aren't interested in marriage just yet.
Met my husband at age of 22, we got engaged within 2 months, and now we're on our 8th year.
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Yes absolutely and how much women do try to find a hair in the soupe at the best characters and judge as hell with a maybe impression that is no one to tell. Even with judgements "we want the gamer guy, we wnat the business guy, we want..., the follower guy with high grade/fame/status" "it must be nature", such **Hypergamy** in the result as its called.
It would be so much more devastating for these guys that get handled like in a Grimm tale by a extreme picky princess to pay enduring for it. And they don't know what to do and are mentally hurt... Women do not hold out a part of that rejection, what 7 of 10 downward looking men suffer normally, that are not the football guy, the DJ, the Broker, the PhD technician with a somehow good look, the pilot. Even Social worker with MA are vers third choice for such masses.
50/50 for a treatment chance of 80% of neglect is just a bit more relational.
My late wife and I didn't have a talking stage, we had a waving stage. Our paths crossed everyday in HS after lunch and I would just wave at her and say "Hi" and then eventually I asked her to prom.
That’s cute! ❤
There's no "talking stage". That's just dating. Stop enabling these degenerate weirdos.
i’m excited to see u on this amala. it seems like they’re always picking women to be on the show that end up making the rest of us look bad..or maybe they’re just not the best at expressing their ideas. it’ll be refreshing to see a well spoken lady on there 🙂
I completely agree but at the same time, a lot of impressionable, young women especially have those twisted and idiotic views. It’s good to show them up and expose the stupidity in the hope it’ll help these people wake up and see their own hypocrisy.
"it seems like they’re always picking women to be on the show that end up making the rest of us look "
That's just how the average woman acts these days.
As a woman, women make themselves look bad. A good portion of women today are unfortunately very delusional and entitled and that’s a sad reality. Men can’t say anything or even let women expose themselves without rhetoric like yours. Women are finally exposing their own immoralities through their mouths and such podcasts are useful to show that.
I was thinking the same about Brian. Always second thinking before he speaks. I wish he'd just tell women how men think. The second guessing is to avoid offending them. Women have no idea how men think and the "girls" on this podcast repeatedly prove that. Brian doesn't do a good job of fixing that.
@@Bonesawisready926 damn what typa females have you been hanging around🤣🤣💀you know the saying? Birds of a feather flock together… only speaks on u son
To amala’s question “if a guy and a girl are dating and “doing the usual stuff”, then he finds out the girl is trans. What recourse does he have?” This is why you should “do the usual stuff” till marriage. Date, talk about values, meet each other’s family, etc. that will show you who the person is and keep you from jumping into bed with a guy.
My grandma-in-law is in her 80s. She would talk with multiple boys and openly go on dates with numerous boys. She'd tell one guy that she couldn't go out Friday because she was going out with John over there already, but she was free Saturday. The culture today and reasons for it are obviously quite different, but she said she saw more problems when you "had" to be exclusive with someone after going on one date. She was getting to know the different boys, and they had to earn the right to "go steady" with her. It was also different because she did that for 3-4 years before marrying someone that she spent her life with afterwards. I think there's wisdom in what past generations have done! And honestly, the women do hold the majority of the power when dating or talking this way and expecting the men to earn the right to be in a relationship with them. Granny dropped boys she was going steady with SO fast when they misbehaved!
I’ve just watched a couple of episodes of that podcast, after seeing several clips online. It’s entertaining for sure, but some of the girls make my brain bleed 😂
Exactly how I felt. Exactly. Some of those women make us all look like vampires.
Curious how he gets his female guests. Granted, there is a *type* that would go on one of these shows. Modest women aren't going to go on the internet to talk about their sex lives, ya know.
But, I wonder if he pays Only Fans women to come.
I don’t want to hate women so I don’t watch these podcasts
Saw the one with the pregnant woman
Really interesting! 😁
And Keeko is back hehehe... the girl who got upset because a man said he would be gay if he slept with a trans woman
@@kathyp1563 you are full of bull
Amala sounds like a fox that's figured out how to get in the hen house, and just waiting for dark for the slaughter to begin! 🦊
Yeah hahah
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I'm here for it!
YES!!! Regarding the "talkiing stage" - I had a pseudo relationship with a guy who treated me like a bonified girlfriend (texting me late nights, taking me out on dates, inviting me to his home and making "me" dinner but not his siblings, lol - and spending tons of time with me) but refused to call us in a relationship...like yeah...I quit that right away.
That's not what the brain dead girl on the podcast was talking about. Stop pretending she's some hidden Nostradamus. Dating is talking first and foremost, you degenerate weirdos.
8:27 I have the rule “who ever asks first” but most of the times when I was dating in the past the men would insist on paying. And that was because we both had a good time and no one was thinking about the money. The goal was actually trying to know one another.
I’ve always been taught that whoever had the idea to go eat, dating or otherwise, pays. Same as if I was like “yo, you hungry?”
“I don’t have any money”
“I didn’t ask if you had money”
Amala being on that podcast is my super bowl 🥹 can’t wait
Well said! 😂
i cannot WAIT
Oh I can’t wait. Cause they always get dumb girls on here.
they only put stupid women on the podcast
Yeah it should be interesting since Brian always asks “who should pay on the first date”. The fact there there are very little women who remain virgins and are asking men be traditional and to pay on the first date where as women do not stay traditional by keeping their virginity till marriage. Not to mention 99% of the time men is the one to ask for the date, so saying “the one who ask should pay” will not work.
I met my husband in a dating app we were in a “talking stage for 1 week” and got engaged after a month and married 3 weeks after that, for us was the best decision ever been together for almost 4 years and have a 2 year old. For reference we both are 24 years old, sometimes you just know when it’s the right person
I married my husband after 2.5 months of dating but we were in a “talking” stage for 2 years. However, he lived out of state at the time.
Where are yall hiding at??. I'm out here making crappy decisions cuz I gave up on females.
@@ZachLifeTravelWord agre. Humaty yeks woke
@@goingxxcrazy that it’s crazy I would of never stay on a 2 year talking stage, at least I would of need the girlfriend title or even fiancé but kudos to you and I’m very happy that you guys got married hope y’all are very happy
@@ZachLifeTravelWord I’m from South America and was raised with very strong Christian values (conservative) I guess that was the reason why my husband snatched me out of market immediately, I chose him because even so he was living with his parents he was taking amazing decisions like going to college, working and paying rent, I trusted him because In that month I saw the way he treated his family and the other way around, (I love his family and they are mine as much as they are his so that was very important) if you stop screwing around and start dating seriously I’m sure you and everyone can find the right match for them but also wish you the best of lucks
On the trans woman issue. I feel like people keep calling not wanting to be with a trans person a preference, but it’s not. It’s their sexuality. A gay person does not want to be with someone who have different genitals than them just as a straight person wants someone who has different genitals. It’s as simple as that. No matter what the other person thinks they are or how they present themselves or how many surgeries they get. It’s a biological response. We need to quit referring to it as a preference to call it what it is a sexuality.
To me the "Talking stage" is the period of time where you're getting to know the person and deciding if you want to commit to being in a relationship with them. My current boyfriend and I knew each other and were "talking" and going on dates for 2 months before we decided to commit and make it a relationship. I think it's a healthy thing to not rush into a relationship
My favorite dates were the ones I had with my husband. All of the dates were free, spontaneous and consisted of us spending hours together just talking about life. My husbands company was (is) so enjoyable and we always found creative ways to have fun together. It’s been 5 years married now and we’re still having the time of our lives.
I think there is so much focus on who pays for the date. Why not have more creative and free dates? Sometimes it’s nice not to think about money and enjoy the person you’re going on the date with. 😊
You have a lovely story. If you wrote a book about your dates, I would definitely read it. Of course, you'd have to tell me you did it. lol
I used to wonder the same thing regarding the emphasis on who is paying. However, I have since read things like where a guy asks a girl to lunch and then berates her openly for thinking he was paying for her lunch when they are coworkers (but this was after church, not work). Or, where a guy invites a girl out and then she sits at another table with another guy or several other girls, ordering champagne and appetizers and food to take home, too. So, I get it after reading all that sort of thing.
Unapologetic needs more guests in the show! Amala needs a million!!
Seriously, level her up!!
Factss
She said send me to Vietnam?? LOL I'll have her sit with my father in law who is a Vietnam War veteran and maybe she should talk to my female friends who literally escaped (fresh off the boat) that country. What an ego.🙄
I have friends currently living in Vietnam. Vietnam is a nice country. Way better then this hell hole called The Divided states of America. And they don’t have to deal with weird things like what’s happening in this video.
@@travel4328 im embarrassed and almost sad for them. Reasons why it's important to be well spoken, literate and in some cases... quiet lol.
I'm an older guy...and I still haven't forgiven Hanoi Jane.
I am 31 and Ive seen the photos of Vietnam and I’ve known veterans from the war. This just shows how these type of women/ people don’t understand nor comprehend reality and how tragic actual reality in this life can be.
“That’s just the definition of ruining someone’s life” had me crying 😭😂
my group of friends have these rules: 1) if it's just once, it's just curiosity
2) kissing another same gender is not homosexual as long as there's no eye contact.
😂
Contrary to popular belief I really enjoy the talking phase because it allows you to get to know someone pretty well before you actually sit next to them on a date and have things go really awkward or really bad. The last time I dated the man and I talked for a few months and during that time we had a blast just getting to know each other. When we had our first date we had such a good time because we had spent so much time actually getting to know each other first. I think it's important to get to know someone before you go out on a date with a stranger, you have to remember that you don't know these people or you may not know these people and it can be dangerous to go out with a stranger on a one-on-one scenario. I absolutely prefer a talking stage that at least a month
I saved myself for marriage and made it mandatory for any potential men I met. I did find that, and we're now very happily married. I don't think it's weird to want a man that hasn't been with a bunch of women.
P.S. My husband always pays for our dates, at his insistence. 😉
JESUS WILL REWARD YOU ....
That's beautiful!
I want this to be me
@@cassandramuniz7056 same, except I am a man lol. I respect women who save themselves up, and I am more than happy to wait till the wedding night. But I won't say no if the woman makes it happen earlier lol.
@@balancer182 lowkey same but if it’s before marriage l have to know it’s going to be that person l am spending the rest of my life with
People these days are over using the phobia word. A phobia is being afraid of something. This is totally different from your personal sexuality.
My husband and I had a "talking" stage, I guess, but that was because we were friends. So it's more call it a friend stage. But after our second date we had the "ship" talk where he asked what kind of "ship" I wanted (Friendship, Relationship, Friendship-with benefits, ect) and I told him that I didn't feel like anything other than a relationship would be worth my time. I was looking for someone who wanted to have a family and have kids. Taylor is absolutely right, set your standards high and you will find the men/women who will be willing to work for that. It's an easy way to eliminate the people who just want to sleep around with no commitment.
It blows my mind how for most of these people, the idea of just having friends and then move on to something more with your best friend when you're both ready, just never crosses their minds 🤦🏻♀️
I was on facebook once, I made a comment about my Native American heritage...and had a black man tell me I wasn't native, because my skin was not red enough. I told them they were behaving racist. They pulled the I can't be racist, I am black. I am sorry, I do not care what color your skin is, if you are making judgements on people and the things they can or cannot due based on their skin color you are RACIST.
The talking stage is important because they need to get to know each other first before start dating. Compatibility is important. I dont go on a date before I know a person is worth dating.
In my opinion, this “talking stage” everyone in my generation seems to be stuck in, is either a friendship that’s being misinterpreted as a relationship, or it’s people who are dating but don’t want to fully commit to someone and therefore label it was a “talking stage” so they can use that excuse to sleep around or be “talking” with a few of other people. It’s so stupid and frustrating
No, it's women's disgusting nature and lack of foresight to try and even keep a man, because all you females know these days is being prostitutes.
So why would you ever try and keep a man?
It's women's fault
I've taken to calling it a "friend-lationship".
@@DT61636 you’re making an unfair generalization. There are a lot of women who do just want a secure relationship but because of the sexual revolution and hookup culture, it’s very hard for some women to find that. You are right that there are a lot of woman who just want to feel sorry for themselves but those are just the loudest ones
We used to call it a friend with benefits.
If a person is in the “talking” it just code word for I’m have other people I’m focus on but if they don’t work I still have backup basically. Or you just there when that person needs attention or someone to make them feel them for the time being.
Men who’ve slept around via casual hook up one night stand are never good lovers. It takes a relationship where there’s practice and discussion to improve both partners knowledge in that area.
YES! Almost nobody ever brings this up!
Not a woman, but I was "talking" to a guy way back when. After 6 months, mentioned to him how uneasy I was feeling of the relationship and he said "relationship? What do you mean, were just talking" like bruh. We've gone on dates before. Left him shortly afterwards and found my current partner. Going 3 years strong 💪
Dodge that bullet
The “talking stage” is the stage where I fell in love with my husband of 8 years. It was the most important stage of our relationship, but that stage only lasted 2 weeks before we started dating.
LMFAO the chicks on that panel were UNHINGED 😂😂 had no idea what they were squawking about just wanted to sit there and yell about “transphobia”
When I met my husband he wasn't sleeping around at the moment. That was attractive to me and marriage material. To hear these young girls say things like they want a man that's sleeping around is crazy to me.
You’ll raise the IQ curve for sure. The other panelists are going to think you are a Mensa card holder. It’ll be an interesting cast for sure!
She could easily be in Mensa if she wanted to, it isn't a high bar, top 2%. I think I remember her and Will even mentioning on the old show they tested into gifted programs in school (which is most often at same 130 IQ/top 2% level).
When she go on that podcast she aint going to do a thing first thing gonna happen she’s gonna get frustrated with the other girls for the lack of intelligence then she’s gonna get schooled for her view because she herself think she’s so smart from a woman point of view I called it
You’re assuming that the other guests will even know about Mensa lol
I feel bad for the future version of the girl with bangs because she’ll have to look back at some point and cringe half to death at her own former delusions…my condolences.
She was never told she needs to learn to think for herself
Sadly, both the bang girl and the one that shouted and yelled at the man represent a huge majority of the woman of their age.
On the other spectrum, you have the ultra religious ones that (sorry but it must be said too) are also indoctrinated to think a particular way and controled by rules and a whole community to act and behave in a particular way.
Why can't there be a middle ground anymore?
@@nebulajumper6216 I agree 100%. Thank you for saying this.
Tbh…as more of a libertarian, I was always ok with both of these groups existing in the name of free speech/expression. The problem is that they have forced themselves into the status of being the rule. That’s the scary part.
@@ianforsythe3878 As long as they keep to themselves .. but more and more they got into this ping pong war where no side is completely wrong or right. The only winners here are the media, youtube channels that cover this and the winning political side of the moment. As individuals, they are just one ounce in either side of the scale, often defending ideologies that are not their own but it is easier to follow a current then to try and swim in another direction.
@@nebulajumper6216 Yup.
I like to use the metaphor of a giant swimming pool with 2 deep ends. Half the people are swimming to/in the left deep end, drowning, desperately trying to avoid the right deep end, while simultaneously staying ignorant of their own mistakes and vice versa. Then there’s the new exception of reason, the very few people swimming in the middle, where they understand both ends are deep, and so they can keep their head above water and have their feet touch the ground at the same time. More people need to swim to the middle.
As someone who lived thru the feminist movement of the 60's I can't believe we are having public discourse about " smashing women". Where is the idea of females not being objectified? The more things change the more they stay the same.
We live in an era where if don't worship what others believe you are the enemy.
No individuality, no diversity of ideas, just hate. Really sad that you cannot disagree with others.
My gosh I needed this video so bad, I don't feel so alien now in changing my dating standards and no longer following along in this hookup culture we're in today. I'm so tired of being in a 'talking stage' or 'exclusive stage' but not seeming to ever reach the 'dating stage' and I'm over it. Deciding to say to no those offers and instead, set my standards to: "if I am exclusive with you then we are dating, and if dating isn't something we're ready for then I'm happy to hook up, but I will not keep myself exclusively for you"
Good for you. Quick question how old are you? Typically the epiphany phase is close to 30 when women get less attention from men.
They say that men with standards are intimidated by strong independent women, but women with standards know their worth and are deserving of a high value man. Men aren’t allowed to have standards according to them.
Hahaha 😂
"They" are crazy. But luckily not all of us woman believe that bullshit.
but men are also complaining about women’s high standards. so it’s just this back and forth.
But, men with standards like strong independent women
Thats why men are leaving the usa to find decent women.
And it is pissing off all of these entitled prostitute known as "independent women" here in the USA.
I've heard my friends talk about how that they are wondering what is wrong with a certain guy because he is single or not sleeping around. And I've never understood it. So I can confirm many people actually think that (even in Europe where I live) and I think it's a shame.
I've seen some women explain the logic, but it requires a different question. Would you rather cheat or be rejected. And they'd rather he cheat. If he got rejected, it means there's something wrong she isn't seeing. Similar here. If a man isn't sleeping around, it means other women see red flags. The idea that he chooses to make clean breaks or that other women aren't paying attention to a sleeper hit never clicks.
I've always thought that something I've seen many times, and is very weird in women i feel, mainly because ive seen it so often, is how women will pursue a man only because he's with or married to another woman. Why is that? I've never heard a good or valid explanation for that.
@Rob Aldridge One explanation I've seen is that it means he must have good mate qualities. Which is related to why single guys have trouble; it means there's something wrong other women see. It's basically the biological equivalent of mimetic desire or envy. But instead of being a Gucci or iPhone, it's her best friend's boyfriend.
I listen to Whatever sometimes when I'm cooking, mainly for a laugh... But I can't wait to see Amala destroy the panel on her episode, this is gonna be epic ❤
I've seen so many clips of that first girl talking and she's basically the prime example of everything wrong with "feminism" these days. She literally knows nothing and wants to sound super enlightened and intelligent.
Jesus! Finally someone has voiced my opinion, and rather eloquently too. I do consider myself a 'feminist' but in the traditional sense. I do not consider myself above anyone, male or female, but I do consider myself equal. Ànd yes, value is paramount in how you view yourself and indeed, others. I am of equal value to everyone who walks this earth. No one breathes different air from me. But if a gentleman wants to hold a door open for me or I hold a door open for a gentleman...that's simply two people of equal value having manners.
PLOT TWIST - Amala is called to be on this podcast to ask the questions!!!
About the sleeping around thing I don’t get that. As a 20 yo woman I have slept with a couple more people than I should have (literally 2 people that I wasn’t in a relationship with the other 2 I had been dating for at least a few months before sleeping with them) and i genuinely see sex as such a special thing and idk how someone could be like “yeah I’m talking to someone but I’m not the only person he wants and that’s awesome”.. I know for a fact that if my now boyfriend was even talking to other girls when we first got together I wouldn’t have stayed because why would you want those intimate times between the two of you to be normal and something he doesn’t cherish as well?? Idk this generation has me all sorts of fucked up
Just never tell that to the guy you want to date seriously, if you are honest with your past the man that you want will leave , he won’t tell you why,he will use you for sex for some time and then bye .
Men want a woman that no other dude can’t have .
Remember the man that you love admire and respect will have issues with your past.
This show is literally white fresh and fit.
Are you colourblind?
Except that the host isn’t an egocentric self proclaimed alpha male who tries to sell you a course on how to dominate the world. He’s more enjoyable.
@@mancubusjam no I see color. I just don’t let it dominate the conversation. This show is white fresh and fit. Girls sitting around the table with the host and sometimes a celebrity guest. I am not complaining. It’s a good show… sometimes, just like sometimes fresh and fit is good.
When LGB first came out, it was about respecting peoples sexual preferences, but now that they've added the TQ+, preferences don't matter anymore. If you say you are attracted to a woman, you have to be attracted to everyone who identifies as one, even if they don't have the feminine traits, physical features, and functioning sexual anatomy that made you attracted to women in the first place, otherwise you are transphobic. That's BS!
Is a straight man homophobic just because he's not attracted to other men? Is a gay man heterophobic just because he's not attracted to women? No one would say that. So why do we say it's transphobic just because you are not attracted to a transwoman or transman?
Transpeople have to understand that just because they see themselves as a certain gender, does not make it biologically true. And people who are attracted to that biological gender will not be attracted to them just because they see themselves as that gender. And that is okay.
Problem is they're invalidating people's sexuality. But them doing it to other people it's okay apparently. However, stop saying I'm not gay when you have trans women that looks like women. Gay men wouldn't even look at a trans women or any other women.
A talking stage is not the same as a dating stage. A talking stage is when you are having sex, going on dates, constantly talking to and hanging out with the person; but for whatever reason- even thought they’re basically a couple at that point- someone isn’t willing to commit. That girl’s unfortunate habit made her sound dumb, but if you can get past all the “likes” she made a pretty good point.
I've been seeing this podcast going viral for a few weeks as well. I couldn't believe a lot of the young women that speak. I am so glad you'll be on it! I was just saying I wished more reasonable women went on his show 😂
The same woman that got up and walked off earlier said, Men 30+ who date or sleep with women ages 18 to 21 are pedophiles. Then when asked what's the most money she got from a man. She says a guy paid her 6k for a gift box, full of items from WHEN SHE WAS UNDER AGE. She said she was okay with pedophilia, as long as she can profited from it 🤦. She admits this after women on the panel call her a hypocrite.
I am astounded at the stupidity of the younger generation. I didn't realize how bad it was until I saw this.
Yesterday i seen someone say 3x3x3 =18 they don't know basic knowledge. This is the future 😳😂
Oh man listening to these women is killing my brain cells and yet I can't stop because the commentary is amazing! Serious question that I've always wondered when watching/listening to shows like this and Fit and Fresh, do they get these girls intoxicated or high af prior to make them more ignorant and intellectually subpar? These girls always sounds out of it and struggling to cope stringing sentences together coherently.
*IF* thats true then that only shows just how weak willed these girls are that they allow themselves to be under the influence...
Welcome to America in the 2020’s😢
From my experience wmn are like this in one way or another
They purposefully select "these girls" to make all women look bad.
@@chrystianaw8256 lmao most wmn are like this.
I don't know everyone thinks that the AVG person is smart or reasonable
I am a 30 year old woman and I do not personally understand the idea of a talking stage... Either you want to go out with a certain person or you don't. For me the talking stage is just a way for people to keep their options open which is disrespectful to me. When you are dating you will do plenty of talking and at that point you can decide whether you want to keep going or not but I do not understand the idea in which one uses "a talking stage" in order to keep your options open.
Lying about being trans and sleeping with someone ; lying about birth control in order to get a man to sleep with you without a condom; lying about an std or sti; are the same to me. It's about informed consent.
The funniest thing about the trans woman vs old woman question:
If Chase (the dude) actually slept with a "trans woman" and he didn't know, ALL his mates would say "You're GAY!" and laugh at him. And he would have to defend himself along the lines of "I'm not gay! I didn't know!"
I've never seen a girl defend another person's (in this case the person she's arguing with) non-gayness to that point of hysteria.
Fun fact- The same woman that got up and walked off earlier said, Men 30+ who date or sleep with women ages 18 to 21 are pedophiles. Then when asked what's the most money she got from a man. She says a guy paid her 6k for a gift box, full of items from WHEN SHE WAS UNDER AGE. She said she was okay with pedophilia, as long as she can profited from it 🤦. She admits this after women on the panel call her a hypocrite.
I did see news thing or whatever about lesbians in this position. It's some of the same problems but also unique. Like if a trans woman was prop but didn't disclose before things got intimate. Now they're in this position of being transphobic for not wanting a dick inside them or consent to something they don't want.
First, I have not been in a sexual or physical relationship in 17 years. This is by choice, I want someone in my life that I relate to and where we can have happiness, many people go straight from being friends or not being friends, and straight into a sexual relationship. Many divorces happen because of this, they didn't have a solid foundation and everything broke down (sex is not a steady foundation). I have a lot of male friends with my age, who say they're in this speaking phase, what it actually means, is their happy sleeping around because the females will let them, so why get into a solid relationship where they'll lose all the extra females they're sleeping with. I have passed up two females, one I did like a lot, because they wanted to go from the first date or second right to a sexual relationship. I personally wanted more time to build a better relationship and foundation that would last before sex, one said okay, but slept with her ex-boyfriend two days later then asked if we could continue dating; I am still single.. And when it comes to trans issues, I do not care how beautiful they are, beauty is skin-deep, inner beauty and genetics is what counts, if it has male chromosomes, then no matter their looks, it's a no go to me. People have this belief, being over sexual is true freedom, well guess, the first folks to use that phrase ran brothels, had harems, and enjoyed their stock of female slaves they gained using the phrase (history). Anyway, I believe in friendship and respect before more in a relationship. Thanks.
kudos to you :)
The interesting psychology is the less sex you have the first month of dating,
I mean no sex just talk and romantic gestures,
the more you are attracted to the person
because you don't see him just like an object
you see him as a human being with wisdom, emotions, feelings, humor, nice hobbies
It is an interesting observation that if you wait to have sex, your point of view about the guy is much richer,
your love and attraction to him starts to be richer
and if you have the first sex after 2 or 3 months, it can be just plus
because the richer the point of view about him
his lifestyle, his values, his hobbies, music, science, knowledge
the richer experience can be sexually and romantically....after a few months of dating.
I am just guessing. I am not an expert.
But experts say
the same way you treat your sex life,
the same way you treat other areas of your life.
It's like you go to Paris, you don't want to see all the attractions and the Eiffel Tower on the first day.
You just want to get some coffee in a nice restaurant and introduce yourself to the city.
After a few days, you visit the attractions to absorb its beauty and interesting stuff about the city.
We live in a world of easily selling the product, just by clicking on the button
as television likes to promote this mindset
So it's obvious that this mindset is adopted also in the romantic areas, but it doesn't work that way.
People should be more natural.
so you are investing your attention into knowing him, even knowing his flaws that are meaningless
because you are interested in him as human, it's called imperfect perfection.
You see a tree that has an imperfect shape, or size but the tree is imperfectly perfect because of its natural beauty.
Nature is imperfect, and trees are imperfect, therefore they are imperfectly perfect in their beauty.
Therefore humans also should not try to look perfect but natural.
Talking is what we started saying in the 90s in high-school. It meant you were basically dating. The stage before you actually become bf and gf. Purely another term or slang for dating. I'm 41 now and this was my experience comung up.
Try the 80s, back when the Atari and Intellivision gaming consoles were just coming out. You'd both sit around trying to beat each other at either Space Invaders, Centipede or Pac-Man. You'd only get a couple of hours in before having to turn off, because the wall adaptor was getting too hot.
That one girl said like so much we should have had a "like" counter!!
These shows are always tricky- because they tend to choose the lowest quality people to debate- like reality TV. It’s funny, and there might be some truths- but I’m not sure it’s indicative of most men/women who have lives off the internet.
very true
That and it’s in one of the most promiscuous towns in America, Santa Barbara. California in general is going to turn out a pool of far more promiscuous and progressive people, but this area is an even worse reflection of that.
Yeah I've been thinking that every time clips from these podcasts like Whatever and the ones that guy Sneako are on. They seem to scrape the bottom of the barrel
@D'andre Chesterfield perhaps it's on purpose, maybe what they are trying to do is educate these young adults. Not having these convos with people who don't do this everyday is probably how we got into this mess.
@@tianamarie989 They’re trying to embarrass them, definitely not educate. They just want to feed their incel fans’ need to hate on women in the comments
Lol yes as a WOMAN the “talking stage” should last a week or two. Dating someone is to figure out if they are who are you are going to marry. Hearing this podcast makes me so thankful for my husband, I guess things were simpler ten years ago 🤣 today we are conservative but we started out as 2 liberals almost 10 years ago, things have changed so much and has drastically changed our views (having kids helped that too). I cannot even imagine having to be single in these times.
What did you consider liberal back then fron the two of you?
It’s not easy for either men and women to find a good person. Society really doesn’t know what is considered a good man or woman.
Society doesn't even know what a man or woman is anymore
I live in GA, there are a LOT of people from other places moving here since Covid... and I can tell you that as of now, it is very much a part of the mindset in the younger generation that I see around me!!
If they start yelling that you are a transphobe, ask th them why they are being a heterophobe
From the clips I’ve seen (which are constantly in my feed right now) they are inviting naive young women into the show to humiliate. So I can’t wait for you to go on the show and as always be the voice of reason
That’s what it seems like to me too. And literally peeking through the comments from men on those videos is a great way to remind yourself how many of them truly HATE women
I don’t think your interpretation is quite right. The girls are young, most of them attend one of the colleges in the area. They are not however naive. They are perfect representations of young women (18-30ish) and the dating moirés of today. Ignorant perhaps to believing there are consequences to your actions or that they can reinvent the wheel…but definitely not naive. And they aren’t brought on the show to be made fun if, they are brought on to discuss why their values and perspective is doing them, men and society at large damage.
@@pineapplegirl8078 maybe maybe but from the clips I’ve seen the girls seem quite young and the guys a fair bit older. I think it’s a good way of highlighting that many from this generation hold beliefs they can’t explain or defend accurately when challenged. But seeing this on repeat is boring. I far prefer to see two intellectually matched people face a proper debate.
@@laurenbooth227 or do they just hate dumb, narcissistic women?
exactly, and then the incels in the comments will go “the average woman” or “women are only for sex” and other bs
Oh snap. You're gonna be on Whatever? I tune in 2x / week! Brian is a chill, laidback dude. He challenges women on their logic, but he's not a dick about it. You'll have a good time. Lookin' forward to the show this Sunday!
THANKYOU.... HOLY CRUD I see this stuff all the time and I call it the stick method. (Like stick and carrot.)
People who have certain views on podcasts put others on blast who are not as experienced in talking about issues and/or picking people who they KNOW will be reactive. They hit them with a metaphorical stick with a calm face and when they react they gaslight the viewers into seeing the other person as "crazy" or "too emotional".
These podcasts are honestly just meant to paint a picture to the viewers... and sooo many viewers don't see it how it is. Half the time they pick these people the Podcaster will throw out statistics... but when you research their statistics they're always balanced in some way with the opposite statistics, or they blew their numbers out of proportion.
The problem is the viewer is reacting as well. Because the viewer is reacting they soak it in and buy it because the "over-emotional crazy" person who seems obnoxious or not as well pronounced is so contrasted to the other straight face that why would they fact check? the calm one is clearly on the right track... the guest is volatile so they're wrong and throwing a tantrum.
These videos get edited around and people jump on someone who may have just rolled their eyes after someone very calmly insulted them. This first girl is clearly nervous and has a hard time putting her words together.. but I bet you anything there are comments on that video that exclaim that she is a "dumb feminist" or she's "looking for attention" and shaming her because she spun herself in circles while thinking out loud.... only to become even more anxious when she realizes she did it.
This method effectively prevents meaningful conversations from happening... for clout. It even causes fights in comments... these podcasters are usually not looking for conversations... they're looking to get clipped and go viral so people will watch them.
Absolutely!!!! I've been thinking it's all about having a brand to keep their podcast going. It's fairly unrealistic
i’ve seen more of their clips, i think the first girl is a bit obnoxious but yes, this is very true, podcasts like these will invite stupid people and “own” them. the comments are full of woman haters.
The same woman that got up and walked off earlier said, Men 30+ who date or sleep with women ages 18 to 21 are pedophiles. Then when asked what's the most money she got from a man. She says a guy paid her 6k for a gift box, full of items from WHEN SHE WAS UNDER AGE. She said she was okay with pedophilia, as long as she can profited from it 🤦. She admits this after women on the panel call her a hypocrite.
44:45 men who want a woman who will commit don’t want women who have slept with a ton of men, modern women don’t want to be told they can’t sleep with whoever they want. Women want men who aren’t going to stray towards other women, but modern men are seeing that many women date around a lot too and don’t see how their behaviour could be a problem when it’s what the women do too. 🤷♀️
The only time it works out when both parties have a crap past of sleeping around, and when both people have come to the conclusion that if they could change the past they never would’ve done any of that, and never want to be that way again.
My daughter had a talking stage (6months) now they decided they are dating (as of the new year) and neither of them were dating or talking to other people... They are both from a conservative/christian families
Great production. Thanks Amala and all involved
That poor girl went into a gun fight armed with a squirt gun and still managed to make a fool of herself over and over and over.
"Poor girl" probably makes your same salary by sucking dick on onlyfans.
Maybe feel bad for someone who deserves it...
Well I just want to say, I walked outside this morning and my tire was flat as a pancake. So I have never been so glad to see 5 big burley men that were there to pave the road come over and offer to change my tire. I didn’t even have to ask!! There are still some good men left in this sick world!! I tried to pay them and they would not take my money!! It was a true blessing!!
Amala, for the 1st date question - when the 2nd date is dependant on the outcome of the 1st, then the objectivity of the date flies out of the window. He does not "provide", as you say, he does not get a 2nd chance - even gets cancelled, called out or humiliated. The biggest issue in relationships, which is ignored from onset, is this - it is a PARTNERSHIP of equals. Start from this point and you will find that relationships succeed more.
I enjoy the commentary, but amala and her cohosts are a bit naive as to what dating looks like now. Not their fault but as a dude its pretty much a nightmare
Lots of girls who bring nothing to the table and a handful of dudes that are smashing all the clueless girls, that are knowingly or unknowingly sharing these same handful of guys. Its gross but its what happens when a society turns its back on morality and tradition. The current dating scene is something similar to what you would see in nature with the alpha males with a harem of females and the rest of the males left without mates. The traditional method of marriage and dating and courtship mitigated many of these issues. So now nobody is happy.
@@error404webpagenotfound it is rife with hedonism and devoid of love
@error404 mostly correct but ill add something to that. These guys with money and status will dangle a carrot of luxury lifestyle in their faces to get sexual access and never offer these girls commitment because
a) these girls are gold diggers and they know it
B) they learn how to sell a dream very well
C) these girls offer no value in return
There are a variety of other factors that play into this such beta fathers not teaching their daughters the realities of men and raising them to be a princess or a lack of a father altogether and as we continue into the future there will be large portions of entire generations of women and men that are used to and accept this dating landscape
Population collapse is inevitable
Regarding the gender equality question, I want equality under the law and in the workplace. When it comes to dating and the private aspects of my life, then I'm allowed to say that yeah, i want the guy to pay for the date.
For a date with Amala, I would positively absolutely most definitely pay! It would be worth every cent to hang out with her!
Tricking someone into sleeping with you by not revealing your identity is evil, selfish and gross. That person is NOT giving consent if they don’t know the truth and if they find out afterwards that they slept with someone that technically shares their biological s*x, that could psychologically scar the person. You’re gambling with someone’s life and abusing their trust to gratify yourself in the short term. It’s really not cool.
In over 20 years of driving, I've only been the driver in 2 car accidents. In both instances I was lightly rear ended while stopped at a red light.
Interesting about the talking stage. In my culture we don’t do dating. So my husband and I like to say we were talking and not dating. Once we felt we were compatible we got engaged. After engagement is when we would go out alone.
Dating is talking. Don't listen to some brain dead degenerate.
Are Mormon if I may ask and if not what is your culture? Thanks in advance for a response or if not I 100% respect your privacy as well!
@@megannoe2057 I’m middle Eastern Catholic
It's absolutely wise and beautiful how Amala explained gender equality and paying for the meal on the first date
as for who should pay on the first date, I think it's up to the couple how they should work that out. I personally am ok with either option. I prefer to go on a date with money in my pocket just in case, because to me a man isn't measured by how much money they have, or whether they can afford to take me on some lavish date or not. It's the content of their character that matters. If they have a strong soul, a good character, then I wouldn't mind paying for their meal once and a while.
Nothing says "no 2nd date" like negotiating payment on the first
Would you want the discussion for "who pays on the first date" to happen before the date itself, or after the bill comes up at the end of the dinner ?
@@vivvelsene63 well... Before obviously. Because you need to be prepared beforehand. I dunno. I think the responsibility to pay should fall on the person who suggests going out to eat. Regardless of which person it is.
@@randomreactions16 ok, your original comment made it look like you wanted the couple to discuss on how they should work that out before the date happens, but now i understand you actually just want to revert to the default angle of 'who asks pays' instead of discussing ... ok, fine
@@vivvelsene63 Like I said, it should be up to the couple, and I don't care how it plays out. Personally, I think it would work best if we just default with whoever suggests they go out to eat, pays for the bill. But if the couple is more traditionally minded, then they should be able to have the man pay the bill if they want. IT'S UP TO THE COUPLE! But since there is so much BS with Gender equality and all that nonsense, then the whoever offers to go out to eat pays the bill, is a fair compromise. That's all I'm saying. I am not flip flopping here, I believe BOTH options have equal merit.
I worked in the prison system for 21 years, 15 as an officer, 4 years as a counselor working on inmate programs and release, including WIPP (Work Incentive Pay Program). An additional almost 2 years as a programs supervisor. I can explain the various programs you are talking about and about the pay scale, at least in regard to Arizona. Likely most states are very similar though that I can't guarantee.
What don’t you make me shut up?!
LOL GOT EE
I’m married but when I met my husband there was a few girls going after him that were kind of floating around and he quit talking to them when he met me. He wasn’t sleeping with them, but he had women who wanted to.
If he didn’t have a single woman showing interest in him? I would see that as an odd thing. As women we like men who other women like, because we are social creatures and seeing other women like someone means that man is valuable to us for some reason.
So, I’m not into them sleeping around with other women but I would want him to be wanted.
My husband still gets hit on by women but I trust him fully and see that as kind of a compliment. Like yeah, that’s my man…. move along.
Meh that’s you. Not something I desired. And my husband is very handsome too, but I don’t need women fawning over him. Just like he doesn’t need men fawning over me. Can we just stop normalizing this BS
@@alqoshgirl lol you cant stop people staring at you
I always offered to split the date and rarely had a man take me up on it. My fiancé never would let me split the bill.
Amala is going to be awesome on that Podcast looking forward to it!👍🏻🤙🏼
I find it amusing that when asked to define 'racism', that girl effectively defined 'cancel culture' lol
If I invite a friend out for dinner, then I pay - because they’re my guest. If a man invites me on a date, then he should pay - because I’m his guest.
Having said that, if I suspect the man doesn’t earn much, I often say I’m going to the bathroom and sneakily pay the bill. I hope those men never felt emasculated.
Who pays on the first date? Have you ever asked (separately) an engaged couple what they did for their first date. Often, they don't agree. One considers it a date much earlier than the other.
Tbh neither me nor my husband remembers our first date lol
@@error404webpagenotfound I think it's simple biology, really. Think about him pursuing her as a mating ritual. For a woman in her 20s, she will want to know that the man can provide. I'm talking biology, not culture. Most modern women would be aghast at thinking they want a man who can provide.
I think that's why our culture has set upon this "guy pays for all dates". the old days, the woman would host the man for dinners at home. Geez, in the old days, the woman might mend the man's laundry.
I was older than 20s when my hubby & I got together. So, I KNEW I wanted a man who considered a savings account important & didn't want to sling money around. So our first date (in my mind) was biking. He bought me ice cream. The gesture of him paying was very important to me. The cost of the first date being low also spoke volumes to me.
Now, we hung together every weekend for weeks before I FINALLY agreed to be girlfriend/boyfriend. That is the first time he bought me a nice meal. He paid for everything & I made him lots of homemade meals.
Once we went to the ballet. I don't know how we dealt with the money. Ballet is expensive & I was forcing it on him. 20 years & he hasn't had to do another ballet, though.
Oh, you mean women are stupid and men are gullible?
Nooooooooooo
I actually felt bad for her because I did end up watching that episode and I could tell that she wasn't articulating what she was trying to say very well and they were running away with what she said and making her sound really bad.
Naha she is just a hyp0crite. She has adult videos online, promiscuous but wants men to be traditional. Want equality but not equal responsibility
Everyone knows what she was saying. She's not some misunderstood Plato. She's a degenerate in the middle of her hooking up phase sick of having to talk before getting to the sleeping around part..
LIE'S bangs as they call her was full of crap, stop it.