I appreciate you. I have healed so much from your video therapy sessions ❤❤❤ you are truly in your purpose and i pray god blessings for you and your family, practice and life❤❤❤❤
Dr Tim, you rock! I love your videos and appreciate what you do so much. Thank you for making your great talks accessible to those of us who are of different faiths ❤ I hope that never changes in your teachings. They nourish and sustain my recovery.
This one has made me very teary to hear, for two reasons. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to need a lobotomy to fix the damage done, it goes so deep. I can't see an upside to it. I just can't understand how my parents could have done (and not done) these basics to protect me. They made me too scared to have children, subconsciously, and now I'm in my 40s and it's too late. Not just this - knowing that the ACE research was almost covered up entirely so as not to point the finger of accountability at the parents. Denial and betrayal of us on a mass scale. I know I'm not alone, just had to say it.
Same here at 51. But I often imagine the abuse my parents must have suffered for them to become who they did as parents. Our society? culture? broke many of us long ago ... centuries? millennium? As much as I loathe all that was done/not done for/to me, it breaks my heart to know that they likely suffered much worse than me even. I pray, heck, I beg God nearly every day, for healing for every single one of us ... especially those who no doubt suffer but can't find or don't have, the strength (or whatever it is that let's one finally stand up and say "something's wrong here, and I'm going to do something to change whatever's in my power to change to make this better no matter how hard or how long I have to fight!") to realize that change *is* possible. Much Love from the depths of my soul to all you truly beautiful souls 🙏🏻💕
What a beautiful reply, yes I have to agree, once you are 💔 it's very hard to get the help you need! And now there are so many sick people from the snakebite its 10 times as hard and the mental trauma from it as well for many people! These are very difficult times we live in for many not everyone, some never go through the depth of suffering we go through truly!🎉🎉🎉🎉
Amazing & so informative. My daughter of 20 is having a double misectomy under the guise of transgenderism but i know its because she was sexually abused at 10. She has 9 months left on the waiting list, they never demanded she get counselling, just suggested it. The system in the UK is broken!
Keep in mind correlation is not causation, and it is not possible for you to “know” another’s identity or experience.. just because they experienced sexual abuse does not automatically invalidate their gender identity, and having a parent constantly invalidating that is probably not making them feel very supported..
Oh my good God…. goodness. This is nothing but light….bright light. Thank you Tim for being such a bright light to those of us dealing with this disease. It’s the worst form of disease because the only hope of coming out of it is to discover yourself. No one really sees that something is wrong until you discover it yourself! No room for self pity…. I keep marching unto recovery everyday and l have also discovered that sharing my story helps. Good luck everyone!
So grateful as these videos highlight everything wrong- on the flip side, knowing how utterly damaged I am, I can’t face the healing process as it’s massive- who wants to go through all the terrible pain again- what a curse
It’s definitely a burden for sure. You can’t do it alone. But healing will set you free. What do I mean by that? No more despair. I hope you find your healing and peace.
I've been trough sexual abuse by the age of 3, my mother rejection and suicidal attempt also around that age while I was living with my alcoholing grandmother and very angry grandpather..and this was only the start . When you say we should bringour subcouncios mind in the councious I really do not understand because it is so much terror and is so overwelming that it only drags me more into the trauma..I realy don't understand how feeling this again and again can help me heal
The intention is for you to address/revisit your inner child/childhood memories to work thru them as an adult and let the wounded child in you to feel safe. Essentially reparenting yourself to accept what happened to you as a child is not your fault to release the negative subconcious memories/emotions that are currently effecting your life. Yes it can be brutaly painful to do. You do what you feel is best for you no one knows you better then yourself. I hope this gives you some clarity. It is my understanding so it is not a percisely perfect explanation. Best to you LOVING and caring for yourself like no one else can.
@@angelicacroitoru4946 Being the GOOD parent that so many of us did not have as children. Using your adult experience in the present moment that you are safe secure protected in control to pull out negative emotions/thoughts/experiences from your mind while being the parent you needed when your mind took another path because you did not have an adult to work thru your thoughts/emotions at the time the trauma occured with you. Patrick Teehan (on youtube) talks alot about healing the inner child to overcome the past which effects our behaviors/thoughts as adults. To put it simply you stated your mother attempted suicide which you witnessed as a child. Now as an adult in a safe state telling that child that lives within us that it was not your fault. Yes it was disturbing but there was nothing you could do to stop it. Accepting that you were a child that needed help then and giving yourself the respect consideration and honesty to work thru it now. We are wounded children inside of us. Our past lives in us we do not live in the past. Hope my less then perfect explanation helps you. I have gotten alot out of watching Patrick's videos that has helped me understand why I was a codependent people pleaser all my life until I crashed and could barely take care of myself. Healing is hard time consuming work but worth it as I have changed in healthy ways for myself to live the life I want not influenced by others emotions and expectations they forced upon me which led to fear anxiety and negative self thinking because I could not be everything for everybody. No is my favorite word now. I felt emense guilt for saying No nearly all of my life when someone wanted me to do or give of myself. Now I don't think twice and consider my needs before others.
@@angelicacroitoru4946the csa began at 3 for me also. Please find yourself a qualified professional with early childhood sexual abuse and C-PTSD experience. I could not have started truly healing without a lot of professional help, medications to help me cope with crippling “mental illness” because of the evil abuse and trauma and recently EMDR therapy to process the emotions. 47 years old now, decades of therapy and unpacking the trauma through CBT and DBT and learning what love is and how to love myself and others. Finally able to ride the waves a little bit better but flash backs can still be a cycle of months of ‘hell’ but you will start to have more tools to cope and listening to professionals like Tim will no longer be overwhelming and anxiety provoking. My faith in God has finally been restored and slowly myself and life can improve for people like you and me. Much love sister and know are very courageous to be seeking the help you need and absolutely deserve. ❤
This research & teaching is absolutely the BEST explanation I have ever heard & I am an older woman! I appreciate you so much & I know that the Lord our God is using you for sure & for sure to help us become free. It was for freedom that Christ set us free! Understanding plays a great part in therapy & this is what you do so well...give the necessary understanding & hope to actually see the healing in site!!! Continued blessings upon your life, Tim!
Your series and your perspective is so incredibly helpful to me and my family. I genuinely love you!!! And I especially appreciate your obedience to the Holy Spirit for going forward with putting these videos out on TH-cam!!!!!! It's so much more I could say but I won't. But thank you
Donna was a friend of mine. She never mentioned the sexual abuse at four. When we talked about her gaining all the weight back (which seriously affected her health) she said when she was thin, she'd look in the mirror and just not recognize herself. I always suspected sexual abuse. I didn't know she was in her 50s at that time. It's always made me sad that this study was about her and publicized so much that her personal life was on display for all who knew her since she was such a lovely person and private about the abuse, as most are. I'm sure she would have never been in the study if she'd known that was going to happen. She was a heroine. If she's still alive, I hope she's a happy old lady. If gone, I hope she had a happy life and I thank her for our friendship all those years ago and the service she's done for all us ACE survivors.
Regardless of the generational era's, this explanation of sometimes 'less obvious ' systems in families &environment is worth more views of your teaching. Miss all of you Canadians, haha. All well in the Panhandle of Florida ❤
I think it's healthier these days to be totally self reliant, most things can never be resolved it's a waste of energy etc and upsetting, thereare no safe places to go or people who want to hear you,v, it really should be taught to be reliant on ones self that way you never get hurt and your never disappointed, and you don't wind up an emotional mess
Dear Tim, What about therapy? Can't the therapeutic relationship combined with treatments such as EMDR, Somatic Therapy, or trauma-focused CBT change subconscious templates? Or is it simply about that "surrogate family"--the connection?
The world can't fulfil anything, only spiritual things are fulfilling! Some go to not eating!❤❤for me it has been drugs, pills, i dont drink at all, i would have all of the ACE, I isolate which is very easy to do!
I think part of the helaing process has to involve forgiveness working towards forgivness for the ones who have hurt us. We live in a fallen world where Satan reigns, and thw Bible says that we are either for God ot against God. I see them as being decieved by the enemy and I now try to bring myself to pray for those that have hurt me, (always a work in progress )because i really dont want to see anyone go to hell to be punished for eternity.
Because evil lying spirits (demons) project their feelings/being/thoughts onto you. This is why you need to say, “Where did THAT thought come from?” The Bible calls it , “testing the spirits.” Call the devil a liar & REJECT those negative lying feelings. PRAY. God cares. Read Psalms (KJV most accurate :) ALOUD, if you have trouble praying. The Lord Jesus Christ came to seek & save the lost. God loves you. ❤
Yes, he won't acknowledge spiritual truth and goes straight to blaming parents. He relies on secular interventions and practitioners. He has hundreds of thousands of subscribers but a tiny fraction of them view these videos. I think because he focuses on why and not how. He's clueless about spiritual warfare and the unseen realm behind it all.
Okay so this is about why we feel discontented on the thumbnail with the smile is kind of weird because this whole talk is actually about sexual abuse leads to obesity in patients who were sexually abused as young children and people so just so people know when you're cooking in here don't let young children hear this is it's a very upsetting talk
I appreciate you. I have healed so much from your video therapy sessions ❤❤❤ you are truly in your purpose and i pray god blessings for you and your family, practice and life❤❤❤❤
God shines bright through you, Tim. Your lamp is blazing and helps me so much. Thank you! ♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏
Dr Tim, you rock! I love your videos and appreciate what you do so much. Thank you for making your great talks accessible to those of us who are of different faiths ❤ I hope that never changes in your teachings. They nourish and sustain my recovery.
I feel like this when I don’t make plans. When I don’t connect to other.
This one has made me very teary to hear, for two reasons. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to need a lobotomy to fix the damage done, it goes so deep. I can't see an upside to it. I just can't understand how my parents could have done (and not done) these basics to protect me. They made me too scared to have children, subconsciously, and now I'm in my 40s and it's too late. Not just this - knowing that the ACE research was almost covered up entirely so as not to point the finger of accountability at the parents. Denial and betrayal of us on a mass scale. I know I'm not alone, just had to say it.
Same here. 40 and broken…
Same here at 51.
But I often imagine the abuse my parents must have suffered for them to become who they did as parents. Our society? culture? broke many of us long ago ... centuries? millennium?
As much as I loathe all that was done/not done for/to me, it breaks my heart to know that they likely suffered much worse than me even. I pray, heck, I beg God nearly every day, for healing for every single one of us ... especially those who no doubt suffer but can't find or don't have, the strength (or whatever it is that let's one finally stand up and say "something's wrong here, and I'm going to do something to change whatever's in my power to change to make this better no matter how hard or how long I have to fight!") to realize that change *is* possible.
Much Love from the depths of my soul to all you truly beautiful souls 🙏🏻💕
What a beautiful reply, yes I have to agree, once you are 💔 it's very hard to get the help you need! And now there are so many sick people from the snakebite its 10 times as hard and the mental trauma from it as well for many people! These are very difficult times we live in for many not everyone, some never go through the depth of suffering we go through truly!🎉🎉🎉🎉
You are not 93 and even you were you can start from where you are, keep on going and enjoy the ride of healing girl :)
Amazing & so informative. My daughter of 20 is having a double misectomy under the guise of transgenderism but i know its because she was sexually abused at 10. She has 9 months left on the waiting list, they never demanded she get counselling, just suggested it. The system in the UK is broken!
Please reach out to Kelly jay keen and her network for help!!!! Lots of love to you and daughter ❤
Keep in mind correlation is not causation, and it is not possible for you to “know” another’s identity or experience.. just because they experienced sexual abuse does not automatically invalidate their gender identity, and having a parent constantly invalidating that is probably not making them feel very supported..
@@kikim218 ‚gender‘ doesn’t exist.
@@annigard8 even if the abuse was a factor, they may be happier living as a trans man. Just a thought.
Oh my good God…. goodness. This is nothing but light….bright light. Thank you Tim for being such a bright light to those of us dealing with this disease. It’s the worst form of disease because the only hope of coming out of it is to discover yourself. No one really sees that something is wrong until you discover it yourself! No room for self pity…. I keep marching unto recovery everyday and l have also discovered that sharing my story helps. Good luck everyone!
So grateful as these videos highlight everything wrong- on the flip side, knowing how utterly damaged I am, I can’t face the healing process as it’s massive- who wants to go through all the terrible pain again- what a curse
I hear you! Overwhelming for sure.
It’s definitely a burden for sure. You can’t do it alone. But healing will set you free. What do I mean by that? No more despair. I hope you find your healing and peace.
@@lauraandrade2818most of us are alone I guess. I’ve given up.
@@SmashMaster don't give up, healing can happen.
@@punyashloka4946 I’m‘Happy‘ without it. Just being biologically alive is fine too.
Thank you so much Tim, I am listening and becoming more aware, even if it hurts to hear at times. Blessings from Assisi, Italy. ❤
Thank you for the video, it gave me answers to things in my life ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Clear explanations. Thank you.
I appreciate all your talks!
Thank you for explaining this
I've been trough sexual abuse by the age of 3, my mother rejection and suicidal attempt also around that age while I was living with my alcoholing grandmother and very angry grandpather..and this was only the start .
When you say we should bringour subcouncios mind in the councious I really do not understand because it is so much terror and is so overwelming that it only drags me more into the trauma..I realy don't understand how feeling this again and again can help me heal
The intention is for you to address/revisit your inner child/childhood memories to work thru them as an adult and let the wounded child in you to feel safe. Essentially reparenting yourself to accept what happened to you as a child is not your fault to release the negative subconcious memories/emotions that are currently effecting your life. Yes it can be brutaly painful to do. You do what you feel is best for you no one knows you better then yourself. I hope this gives you some clarity. It is my understanding so it is not a percisely perfect explanation. Best to you LOVING and caring for yourself like no one else can.
@@comnandmentsdeadlysins what is reparenting yourself?
@@angelicacroitoru4946 Being the GOOD parent that so many of us did not have as children. Using your adult experience in the present moment that you are safe secure protected in control to pull out negative emotions/thoughts/experiences from your mind while being the parent you needed when your mind took another path because you did not have an adult to work thru your thoughts/emotions at the time the trauma occured with you. Patrick Teehan (on youtube) talks alot about healing the inner child to overcome the past which effects our behaviors/thoughts as adults. To put it simply you stated your mother attempted suicide which you witnessed as a child. Now as an adult in a safe state telling that child that lives within us that it was not your fault. Yes it was disturbing but there was nothing you could do to stop it. Accepting that you were a child that needed help then and giving yourself the respect consideration and honesty to work thru it now. We are wounded children inside of us. Our past lives in us we do not live in the past. Hope my less then perfect explanation helps you. I have gotten alot out of watching Patrick's videos that has helped me understand why I was a codependent people pleaser all my life until I crashed and could barely take care of myself. Healing is hard time consuming work but worth it as I have changed in healthy ways for myself to live the life I want not influenced by others emotions and expectations they forced upon me which led to fear anxiety and negative self thinking because I could not be everything for everybody. No is my favorite word now. I felt emense guilt for saying No nearly all of my life when someone wanted me to do or give of myself. Now I don't think twice and consider my needs before others.
@@angelicacroitoru4946the csa began at 3 for me also. Please find yourself a qualified professional with early childhood sexual abuse and C-PTSD experience. I could not have started truly healing without a lot of professional help, medications to help me cope with crippling “mental illness” because of the evil abuse and trauma and recently EMDR therapy to process the emotions. 47 years old now, decades of therapy and unpacking the trauma through CBT and DBT and learning what love is and how to love myself and others. Finally able to ride the waves a little bit better but flash backs can still be a cycle of months of ‘hell’ but you will start to have more tools to cope and listening to professionals like Tim will no longer be overwhelming and anxiety provoking. My faith in God has finally been restored and slowly myself and life can improve for people like you and me. Much love sister and know are very courageous to be seeking the help you need and absolutely deserve. ❤
Oh Jesus! Just maybe don’t go through this all alone. Reparenting i mean ❤
This research & teaching is absolutely the BEST explanation I have ever heard & I am an older woman! I appreciate you so much & I know that the Lord our God is using you for sure & for sure to help us become free. It was for freedom that Christ set us free! Understanding plays a great part in therapy & this is what you do so well...give the necessary understanding & hope to actually see the healing in site!!! Continued blessings upon your life, Tim!
Your series and your perspective is so incredibly helpful to me and my family. I genuinely love you!!! And I especially appreciate your obedience to the Holy Spirit for going forward with putting these videos out on TH-cam!!!!!! It's so much more I could say but I won't. But thank you
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Tim, you are aparr of my surrogate family. Helping me to grow. Thank you.
Donna was a friend of mine. She never mentioned the sexual abuse at four. When we talked about her gaining all the weight back (which seriously affected her health) she said when she was thin, she'd look in the mirror and just not recognize herself. I always suspected sexual abuse. I didn't know she was in her 50s at that time. It's always made me sad that this study was about her and publicized so much that her personal life was on display for all who knew her since she was such a lovely person and private about the abuse, as most are. I'm sure she would have never been in the study if she'd known that was going to happen. She was a heroine. If she's still alive, I hope she's a happy old lady. If gone, I hope she had a happy life and I thank her for our friendship all those years ago and the service she's done for all us ACE survivors.
Thank you so much.
Regardless of the generational era's, this explanation of sometimes 'less obvious ' systems in families &environment is worth more views of your teaching.
Miss all of you Canadians, haha. All well in the Panhandle of Florida ❤
I think it's healthier these days to be totally self reliant, most things can never be resolved it's a waste of energy etc and upsetting, thereare no safe places to go or people who want to hear you,v, it really should be taught to be reliant on ones self that way you never get hurt and your never disappointed, and you don't wind up an emotional mess
Dear Tim,
What about therapy? Can't the therapeutic relationship combined with treatments such as EMDR, Somatic Therapy, or trauma-focused CBT change subconscious templates? Or is it simply about that "surrogate family"--the connection?
I can see where they pave the way and understanding for healing, but relationships are key for those changes to stick.
Ty❤
❤️❤️ EXCELLENT
The world can't fulfil anything, only spiritual things are fulfilling! Some go to not eating!❤❤for me it has been drugs, pills, i dont drink at all, i would have all of the ACE, I isolate which is very easy to do!
Restart at 21:50
wow. i was met with anger and told to shut up.
some kids explained their pov to parents?!? mind blown. 😂
Are parents really demons?
Sometimes?
Why do I never feel content?
I thought the wailing wall was normal
Hiding
I think part of the helaing process has to involve forgiveness working towards forgivness for the ones who have hurt us. We live in a fallen world where Satan reigns, and thw Bible says that we are either for God ot against God. I see them as being decieved by the enemy and I now try to bring myself to pray for those that have hurt me, (always a work in progress )because i really dont want to see anyone go to hell to be punished for eternity.
💔❤️🩹💗💞
… sometimes???…..
Because evil lying spirits (demons) project their feelings/being/thoughts onto you. This is why you need to say, “Where did THAT thought come from?” The Bible calls it , “testing the spirits.” Call the devil a liar & REJECT those negative lying feelings. PRAY. God cares. Read Psalms (KJV most accurate :) ALOUD, if you have trouble praying. The Lord Jesus Christ came to seek & save the lost. God loves you. ❤
Yes, he won't acknowledge spiritual truth and goes straight to blaming parents. He relies on secular interventions and practitioners. He has hundreds of thousands of subscribers but a tiny fraction of them view these videos. I think because he focuses on why and not how. He's clueless about spiritual warfare and the unseen realm behind it all.
sup ya'll!
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Restless, irritable, and discontent?😂
guilty
Okay so this is about why we feel discontented on the thumbnail with the smile is kind of weird because this whole talk is actually about sexual abuse leads to obesity in patients who were sexually abused as young children and people so just so people know when you're cooking in here don't let young children hear this is it's a very upsetting talk
The jovial thumbnail portrait you're using now is actually creepy, given the sensitive subject matter. Just sayin.