I love that you have said ‘ we mustn’t devalue our needs’…I have only just realised that this is what I have been doing for far too long…will resolve not to do it any longer!
What drew me to your channel from the beginning was your realness ( if that's a word 😂). I love when people are direct and not fake. ❤ My first husband's ashes live in my son's closet. Not uncommon here in the U.S. Kind of sad you cannot keep them. What do they do in France?
No trigger warning needed for me. To be born is to also to die..no point getting all weird about it. However when my dad died at the end of june, I referred to him as having 'passed'. When I found myself defending that term, I realised why I said it. The death of my father was too new. The word 'death' did seem so harsh and also I do happen to believe that people do 'pass on' to another type of existence so for me , it was exactly the word to use at that raw time of loss. When he died, after I watched him take his last gasps of air, my immediate words were 'he's gone' and now to myself I say 'he's dead and gone'. so I think allowing people the grace, to use whatever word they need to use as they face the reality of death and loss, is exactly what we need to do. Hopefully it allows them to journey through the process with the support and understanding of others or at least free of their judgements. Anyway, my thoughts as someone going through it for the first time.. they say us Irish do death well, lol. I don't know if that's true but we don't tend to be like gone, dead, buried, end of. I loved that your dad's ashes were still in one spot after 5 years and your sisters shock/surprise. We can romanticised and say 'he was waiting for his wife' . And what if we do romanticise it and get comfort from something like that . I buried my dad without hesitation or direct disagreement from family over cremation and now they all have a graveside to visit and remember and ponder the meaning of life. Sorry for the essay ,it's obviously something I think about and it's close to my heart.
My friend had a meal for her family and friends. Afterwards we all took a handful of her husband’s ashes and sprinkled them over his beloved rose garden. Then we raised a glass to his memory. The roses are blooming lovely ever since. I don’t care what happens to mine . Like you I believe death is the final curtain. No problem 🍀🍀🍀
I sure hope you’re not dead tomorrow. I am a Christian and I respect your right to be an atheist. I detest those who have the goal in life to change others! It is so important to talk about death. Too many are death phobic.
Kathy I agree dead is dead. If I’m wrong I’ve never intentionally hurt anyone so if there is a better place we go to I’m going to have a wonderful surprise I don’t want anybody to have my ashes either. They may be mixed up with somebody else’s so what’s the point. We all grieve in our own way so to me you don’t need a box of ashes to remember a loved one. Your memories are all in your head and your heart. That’s my opinion for what it’s worth.
I love that you have said ‘ we mustn’t devalue our needs’…I have only just realised that this is what I have been doing for far too long…will resolve not to do it any longer!
Same here. 👍
I hope I will meet all my pets at the rainbow bridge. Enjoyed your blog.
Shutters look amazing. Great job done
What drew me to your channel from the beginning was your realness ( if that's a word 😂). I love when people are direct and not fake. ❤
My first husband's ashes live in my son's closet. Not uncommon here in the U.S. Kind of sad you cannot keep them. What do they do in France?
It was a very nice discussion of your parents ashes. Thank you for a good video. The bread looked wonderful!
No trigger warning needed for me. To be born is to also to die..no point getting all weird about it. However when my dad died at the end of june, I referred to him as having 'passed'. When I found myself defending that term, I realised why I said it. The death of my father was too new. The word 'death' did seem so harsh and also I do happen to believe that people do 'pass on' to another type of existence so for me , it was exactly the word to use at that raw time of loss. When he died, after I watched him take his last gasps of air, my immediate words were 'he's gone' and now to myself I say 'he's dead and gone'. so I think allowing people the grace, to use whatever word they need to use as they face the reality of death and loss, is exactly what we need to do. Hopefully it allows them to journey through the process with the support and understanding of others or at least free of their judgements. Anyway, my thoughts as someone going through it for the first time.. they say us Irish do death well, lol. I don't know if that's true but we don't tend to be like gone, dead, buried, end of. I loved that your dad's ashes were still in one spot after 5 years and your sisters shock/surprise. We can romanticised and say 'he was waiting for his wife' . And what if we do romanticise it and get comfort from something like that . I buried my dad without hesitation or direct disagreement from family over cremation and now they all have a graveside to visit and remember and ponder the meaning of life. Sorry for the essay ,it's obviously something I think about and it's close to my heart.
My friend had a meal for her family and friends. Afterwards we all took a handful of her husband’s ashes and sprinkled them over his beloved rose garden. Then we raised a glass to his memory. The roses are blooming lovely ever since. I don’t care what happens to mine . Like you I believe death is the final curtain. No problem 🍀🍀🍀
I sure hope you’re not dead tomorrow. I am a Christian and I respect your right to be an atheist. I detest those who have the goal in life to change others! It is so important to talk about death. Too many are death phobic.
Accept, Respect and Learn ❤
Kathy I agree dead is dead. If I’m wrong I’ve never intentionally hurt anyone so if there is a better place we go to I’m going to have a wonderful surprise I don’t want anybody to have my ashes either. They may be mixed up with somebody else’s so what’s the point. We all grieve in our own way so to me you don’t need a box of ashes to remember a loved one. Your memories are all in your head and your heart. That’s my opinion for what it’s worth.
I do wonder how the ashes are kept separate at the crem.
Hope your Dr’s visit got you sorted and you’re able to read this…. ie you’re not dead!🤣
08.56-ish. If Marc went before me..
😀xx