I’m 81, have not had a formal diagnosis, but accidentally came across your podcast and boom💥 I realised why my life has been so difficult at times. Wish I’d realised it before, but better late than never…😢
I was 61, and knowing allows you to let go of the shame and understand why your life was such a complicated mess. It's very bitter sweet, if I'd known, imagine how different everything would have been. This particular video is so good as it's real people talking about how they used to feel, the changes they're making, how it works, and the reality it's not nor ever has been your fault. So much of this resonates with me.
Oh yes the instant friendships … I went to Asda the other day for Christmas cards .. got totally distracted by the 8 pence Christmas veg and got chatting to a woman .. we bonded over our daughters who are both at Uni and both ( weirdly ) going to Switzerland for Christmas and we walked out together having a great chat .. I then went to Aldi and told a woman very loudly that she looked “ BLOODY FABULOUS” which apparently made her day .. I actually loved that day ❤
Yes, that's the question / answer I was waiting for around 42:50 As a late diagnosed, usually agoraphobic, but also a lead singer! No panic attacks or dis - ease on stage; my disregulation is about all the pre-logistics and not about the actual presentation/ show / engaging. 'Phoenix' answer is brilliant
Wow I so needed to hear this. I am gradually coming out of the shock of being ADHD at 78 years old. Wow if only I had known...........Oh well up and at em and continue on with my creative life with a renewed outlook. Ps I have passed it on to my daughter and we have an agreement that no judgements or blaming allowed just awareness and patience. It is actually working. Thanks you for this amazing session xx
It’s just crazy to me that people can have such successful lives, hobbies, projects and relationships. I can’t even get out of bed most days. Doing things I genuinely like is a full blown battle
Fabulous discussion... and wonderfully lacking overuse of ADHD jargon... just five emotionally mature adults with excellent communication skills... thank you.
Love your podcast! And this was another great one! One thing that stood out to me, especially because you interview so many accomplished people, it would be great to hear more conversation around supports, not just like accommodations, but actually support people have found for themselves to help them accomplish their goals, like delegating tasks, building a team to support you, or other creative ways to get support if you are just starting out building a business or writing a book, or doing whatever big goal you have. Or even if you are just trying to make it day to day with small tasks etc. it would be great to hear ways to find support, like they did talk about body doubling and that’s very helpful! Things like that! Thank you!!
Same. I believe that a community might exist that I could fit in with, but I struggle with believing that I'll ever actually find it. Life feels like being adrift in the middle of an ocean and scanning the horizon in the hopes of spotting an island refuge (while hoping I'll be able to reach it if I do spot it).
Thanks Shappi for explaining how to teach people to treat you better by treating yourself better. By the way, listening to the five of you speak your truth is like listening the my life the last 60 years ... wonderful :)
The trouble is some of us have had people close to us pick gapping holes in everything we say or do. Unfortunately for me that happens to be my own mother (and my father whose now passed). She even berated me for not grieving the right way when her dog died despite me trying to keep it together so I could support her. She even moved village, away from me, after I was assaulted from an attempted rape, because I was too ‘needy’ of support. I have no measure of ‘normal’ after years of this.
Always thought it was bipolar OCD and social anxiety... Cuz that's what they said. Both my boys and one other talk like me, can't focus but can sometimes aka hyperfocus just like I do. Hereditary so mine came late after everything fell apart but it's a relief in a weird way
Me: thinking about how I can not stop wanting to comment about how many times his hands were moving while doing the intro for 90 seconds.... I'm so adhd 😂😂😂
Four times a year Alex m8 ... at least. That was gr8 and so, so necessary. Mix it up and get men and women of different ages, or get all women or men with a common theme to join you and we can glean so much from the comparison. Brilliant!!! P.S. Please ask people about their medication experiences. I only use herbs and diet, exercise, supplements ETC. Would love to learn more about what others have discovered. Thank you.
I’m 81, have not had a formal diagnosis, but accidentally came across your podcast and boom💥 I realised why my life has been so difficult at times. Wish I’d realised it before, but better late than never…😢
🤕 me too
Im hoping i still have time to have some peace and happiness
And hopefully make some peace with the past.
I was 61, and knowing allows you to let go of the shame and understand why your life was such a complicated mess. It's very bitter sweet, if I'd known, imagine how different everything would have been. This particular video is so good as it's real people talking about how they used to feel, the changes they're making, how it works, and the reality it's not nor ever has been your fault. So much of this resonates with me.
@ljc3484
You will, I promise, it wasn't your fault!
Yes I have just written above I am 78 and have just been told. Wow we are lucky to have this wonderful DHD Chatter Podcast
I'm so pleased you found the podcast, Sarah 💚
Oh yes the instant friendships … I went to Asda the other day for Christmas cards .. got totally distracted by the 8 pence Christmas veg and got chatting to a woman .. we bonded over our daughters who are both at Uni and both ( weirdly ) going to Switzerland for Christmas and we walked out together having a great chat .. I then went to Aldi and told a woman very loudly that she looked “ BLOODY FABULOUS” which apparently made her day .. I actually loved that day ❤
I love this story, Bex!
Yes, that's the question / answer I was waiting for around 42:50
As a late diagnosed, usually agoraphobic, but also a lead singer! No panic attacks or
dis - ease on stage; my disregulation is about all the pre-logistics and not about the actual presentation/ show / engaging. 'Phoenix' answer is brilliant
Same here.
Alex, you are so brilliant and necessary. So glad you survived the alcohol.
Thank you! 💚
Wow I so needed to hear this. I am gradually coming out of the shock of being ADHD at 78 years old. Wow if only I had known...........Oh well up and at em and continue on with my creative life with a renewed outlook. Ps I have passed it on to my daughter and we have an agreement that no judgements or blaming allowed just awareness and patience. It is actually working. Thanks you for this amazing session xx
Welcome to the club! 💚
It’s just crazy to me that people can have such successful lives, hobbies, projects and relationships. I can’t even get out of bed most days. Doing things I genuinely like is a full blown battle
I’m the same and always wonder how they can function like that
Thank you for getting sober and being fabulous! ❤
Fabulous discussion... and wonderfully lacking overuse of ADHD jargon... just five emotionally mature adults with excellent communication skills... thank you.
Love your podcast! And this was another great one! One thing that stood out to me, especially because you interview so many accomplished people, it would be great to hear more conversation around supports, not just like accommodations, but actually support people have found for themselves to help them accomplish their goals, like delegating tasks, building a team to support you, or other creative ways to get support if you are just starting out building a business or writing a book, or doing whatever big goal you have. Or even if you are just trying to make it day to day with small tasks etc. it would be great to hear ways to find support, like they did talk about body doubling and that’s very helpful! Things like that! Thank you!!
This sounds like an amazing idea, lots of these conversations coming in 2025 💚
Alex, did you just say "caffeinated squirrels" at 14:58? That is now my new favourite phrase! ♥
Yes, that's what I said 🤣
Loved this! I’d love to see more of Stacey in future episodes. I really appreciate her honesty, vulnerability and humour🙏💜
She's brilliant! Did you watch her first interview with me?
Curiosity and Fear can not exist at the same time ❤ this is really helpful! Really cool, thank you! ❤
Good insight into patterns & coping strat's ( needed to bring awareness to ADHD in woman. ) Thanks ADHD Chatter Podcast & Guest's
Merry Christmas & all the best for 2025,looking forward to viewing more content around Autism & ADHD.
Merry Christmas!
I love this Podcast. Thank you Alex! This episode, wow, such a gift. Feeling very emotional.
I wish I had a community of women like this in my life. I feel like nobody understands, and I have no one to talk about it with.
Same. I believe that a community might exist that I could fit in with, but I struggle with believing that I'll ever actually find it. Life feels like being adrift in the middle of an ocean and scanning the horizon in the hopes of spotting an island refuge (while hoping I'll be able to reach it if I do spot it).
Thanks Shappi for explaining how to teach people to treat you better by treating yourself better.
By the way, listening to the five of you speak your truth is like listening the my life the last 60 years ... wonderful :)
Kat , Ellie and Shappi I have all your books and they’ve been so helpful to me ❤ Thankyou all x
My mate calls me Arthur Knight 😂
( half a night )
I’m sober and I just cannot cope with socials now it’s just too much
I’m so grateful for this! I can’t wait
So much of what yall have said resonated with me. Thank you!
😂 that‘s what Mom always said to! She just forgot the Pill, so my brother and me followed our Sister! 😂😂😂
The trouble is some of us have had people close to us pick gapping holes in everything we say or do. Unfortunately for me that happens to be my own mother (and my father whose now passed). She even berated me for not grieving the right way when her dog died despite me trying to keep it together so I could support her. She even moved village, away from me, after I was assaulted from an attempted rape, because I was too ‘needy’ of support. I have no measure of ‘normal’ after years of this.
Always thought it was bipolar OCD and social anxiety... Cuz that's what they said. Both my boys and one other talk like me, can't focus but can sometimes aka hyperfocus just like I do. Hereditary so mine came late after everything fell apart but it's a relief in a weird way
Me: thinking about how I can not stop wanting to comment about how many times his hands were moving while doing the intro for 90 seconds.... I'm so adhd 😂😂😂
Yea sorry about that! 😂
@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast it's all good.... I forgot it even bothered me😉
Yeah me too😂😂
Love this Alex ❤
Four times a year Alex m8 ... at least. That was gr8 and so, so necessary. Mix it up and get men and women of different ages,
or get all women or men with a common theme to join you and we can glean so much from the comparison. Brilliant!!!
P.S. Please ask people about their medication experiences. I only use herbs and diet, exercise, supplements ETC. Would love to learn more about what others have discovered.
Thank you.
Amazing stuff here even for men ADHD ers 😊
I think it is the success is despite the adhd not because of it. The can't is from the comorbidities depression anxiety RSD.
French exit for the win 🥇
I thought you were saying temu the china app lol
A bit too formal for my brains 😅 the setup but all 👍
Such narcs 😂