The rawness of this video is a breath of fresh air in an online world that often feels so vacuous. As a person who also struggles with their mental health I am so proud of you for making this visible. I love your sense of humour and positivity, you are fabulous x
Sadness is a part of life. Ive been sad for a month now, since my dog passed away in the age of six years. Way too early. But I´m 68 years old and I know that good times have a habit of returning sooner or later. As good old Churchill said: I you are going through hell, you must keep on walking. Anyway. Nice to follow your channel. We dont have that kind of boatlife in Denmark, but I´ve always dreamed about going on at least a vacation on the British canals.
We are all entitled to the occasional melt down day so it's ok to have an off day and feel sorry for yourself. Nothing is more important your mental and physical health so don't ever feel guilty about taking some time out for yourself. You are a brave , strong young woman for taking on that lifestyle alone and we are proud of you. for eight months you pushed on with life and forgot to take some May time, then it all caught up with you. I think you did thre right thing allowing yourself a week to feel crap.
I have just watched this and got really emotional about your honesty and vulnerability. Anyone who says they have never suffered with mental health is not true to themselves. Mental health isnt bought on by what you haven’t got in life it is something that everyone goes through. Thank you for your honesty and transparency.You are wonderful and adorable , keep up the great work.
There is so much fake stuff. Fake news, fake food, fake relationships, fake education etc etc as well as so much fakeness on social media. I really appreciate that you're not fake. You show us how you are...genuinely bubbly and positive but also low and sad. Thank you. I hope that you are coming through the darkness to the light.
You nailed it with “Feelings need to be felt”, if one doesn’t approach them head on and go through the process as you are here, then one is unable to return to the “good self” and being resolved within:) I’d say it’s being Brave, which you are…
This time is a passing moment,in my life i have had a few! My last boat was half submerged when i bought it but steadily set yourself tasks and look around at what you ve achieved! You will look back on this low point and be stronger for it. Having spent 3 months 3 major operations in hospital several years back and my wife being told its 50/50 if i make it,it refocusses you! We are all on our own journey,yours is ahead grab all experiences good and bad ,you are learning. About your boat,yourself and life! Never feel bad for how you feel,it means you re alive and kicking and "human"! All the best great channel !xx
Love and light little one you made me smile when you said these wonderful characters are ugly look for the beauty in that. it will open a hole new world 😊X
May, we spoke 6 months ago, when i was in a bad place, im in a good place now, but your one of the strongest women i know, An iconic saying from rocky balboa, last movie from the rocky franchise, NOTHING WILL HIT YOU LIKE LIFE, IT WILL BEAT YOU TO YOUR KNEES AND KEEP YOU THERE, NOTHING WILL HIT HARDER THAN LIFE, BUT ITS NOT HOW HARD YOU CAN HIT, BUT ITS HOW MUCH YOU CAN TAKE AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD. (shortened version) you got this may
Steelboat calls for a small portable compressor and a air needle gun. It strips rust and paint much faster, and is much cleaner to you as person and the environment. No toxic dust. Mop up with brush and scoop(Specially old boats still have lots of paint on which contain lead and that dust can be extremely dangerous even when you wear a mask,because its on your skin too..One can buy a needle gun and then hire the small compressor. Go for a stick welding coarse and buy a small inverter stick welder(forget what all tells you about other welding processes,they use gas, is expensive and out in the open not so good,in the end you want to do maintenance,not building a steel boat.Dust btw over time will also kill electric tools as the dust is sucked in by the ventilation fan,brushes start to arc and then its either repair or throw away time.On the emotional side. Never look at problems from the inside,some salty crackers,cheese, a bottle of wine and you need a comfortable camping chair. Go sit in the shade at least 50 meters away from your boat, and only after the third glass of wine,start to look at your boat as if it is not yours but you want it. Make a list what comes to mind you would like to change. That things forms over time part of the issues that makes one unhappy in our subconsious. And make a list and timeframe to change them. By the time you back on your boat, you will feel miles better, have a plan of action and it would not feel like a burden but rather a challenge and change of life to engage doing that changes for a better tomorrow.Stay strong and super cool work you done..
A word of advice with needle guns (used to do boat repairs and refits as a pup) wear gloves, ear defenders and take lots of brakes or you WILL give yourself HAVS - ask me how I know 😅 honestly though, good show with the determination and PMA - my go to is a cup of tea - the work always looks a bit better with tea :)
@@wellbeingonwater I read through the comments on my post and rather answer all in one . Valid comments and not shooting them down. But we must remember that over the years tools development was mayor. The old air tools was large and loud. Modern ones are lightweight and follow the rules and regulations on workplace safety. One would like to wear earmuffs or at least plugs and gloves when working with any power or air tools. On the welding side of things. Specially with anything metal that is near or in contact with water, one finds rust. No matter how good one clean,deep down in the joints will be dirt. To get proper root penetration one would start with a 6010 or 6013 rod and then finish with 7010. I am fully aware about coated wire but in the this application and out in the open, I,w put my trust in stick rather then wire. Same with DIY as one do not need a cumbersome welding machine with gas bottles and it is always nice to learn a new skill when one is a boat owner. Through our Seven Seas Ldz Project, we advice large blue water steel and aluminium yachts to invest in the multi-purpose welding machines that can do Mig, Tig, Stick and Cut as repairs in remote places can be difficult and expensive.
Whenever I can make someone's day better I feel better myself. Please know that you have friends you've never met and at least for me, watching your videos make my day better. So thank you and I hope you will feel better knowing you make other peoples day a bit better.
It's so nice to see someone opening up about their feelings , we all have scary moments, and you being alone on a narrow boat are extremely brave , I understand you wanting a hug where all human and at times having human contact really helps , be kind to yourself darling you're doing something many people would be totally afraid to do. ❤ Ian
There always seems to be a net over my demon infested pond and I can't get out. I'm not saying I like people to have or to suffer with issues, but it's sometimes good to know I'm not the only one who feels that way. Thanks for sharing, I do hope you're back in the right place mentally and you're feeling good again 😊... I did stay until the end and i watched your piece to camera, good to see you smile at the end and that your boat didn't sink 😊
Sometimes a good cry does the power of good! I think what you have been suffering is the holiday blues, after having time away and company every day you are now back home to the reality of solo boat life and the jobs that you need to do. You are amazing, such a positive, clever person. I hope you feel better now, take care. xxxx
i take my hat off to you May, what an inspirational young lady. i often feel like you, i am up and down so much, thank you for sharing your emotions, your not alone and now i don't feel that i am the only one. thank you! i love your content 🙏🙏🙏👍
Yes, humans are flawed and therefore they have good days and bad days. It's all part of being human. You're like someone I would consider one of the nicest friends. And I look forward to seeing you every week and catching up with you and seeing what you've been up too. Most of us may not be able to give you that physical in person presence and share a cup of tea, but yes, we still see you and many more care about you than you know. You are never alone... Stay strong May.
Hey Rod, thank you. A lovely reminder. I think thats why I love TH-cam so much as it really brings people together and people arent afraid to comment - sometimes you get the odd nasty stuff but most of the time everyone is lovely! Im so glad I started this channel. Thank you for your kindness x
OK, when you said you needed a hug, I cried! I don't think there's anyone out there who hasn't felt like that at some point in their lives. The impact of such an honest account of your life will be huge. This shit literally saves lives. You are an awesome human being MM. Here's an Internet hug til I can deliver one in person. T xx🙏
Hi May, sorry for the long missive... I hope you do have time read it... I dont usually post.. but you jhave moved me to writing this... Firstly you must keep showing the lows as well asthe highs...it shows to others in the same place that they arent alone, empathise, and see how you handle it... I am a fellow boat owner of many years... whilst I dont live aboard like you do... I do undesrtand the loneliness that goes hand in hand with the lifestyle... it is natural that you are down after coming back from a holiday... it is very common... and you actually mentioned something that is very pertient in that you have an ideal lifestyle.. which is great... but it does have its drawbacks in that we huimans are always looking to improve or the next thing... so if you have such a lovely lifestyle, it is hard to better it.. so feel down... it reminds me of the "Coco the clown story" (if you dont know it.. just ask and I will share). The part of the canal system that you are on is wonderful... probably my favourite... keep thinking positive and sharing your journey. on the technical side... I love the fact that you are willing turn your hand to any challenges that arise.. thatis the best way to pick upskills... learn by your mistakes...(we all make them.. and I continuet to do so :) ).. and as others have mentioned... dont wash steel down with water... use "Panel Wipe" or another degreaser to avoid rust and treat with a rust converter... I am retired, so if you would like a chat or advice on anything.. please feel free to contact me...
Hey there. Well you have lots of lovely stuff to say, I'm really glad you decided to comment today. You're right, it's is okay not to be okay and I will continue showing the down days with the highs. Contrast is soo important. The social media world can be quite damaging as people compare themselves to these amazing lives and put them on pedestals, when in fact were all feeling the same stuff. Need to share that. Sending hugs 🤗
May, I’ve been living in my van full time for the last year or so. I’ve come up against the same feelings that you have. I deal with them ‘by stepping outside of language’. What I mean is that I just don’t follow the internal narrative going on in my head. You can choose when to ‘be in language’ and when not to be. Loneliness, grief and social isolation are clouds that come and go.
Just know that your not alone and that you are a beautiful soul, i completely empathise with you on all levels and hope you find your path and do not falter. xx
Just love your bravery and tenacity. I struggle with MH Issues too, Am no stranger to that deep, dark , heavy debilitating feeling and the herculian effort it takes to whip it. Its ok as a light being to not understand what your feeling or to feel overwhelmed by the drudgery of this dimension.I myself have a counter showing how many days since my last cry. you are so full of love that you bring only inspiration and joy to your viewers with your honesty and story. you are wise well beyond your years so much so that i can see the lives you have lived and the healing you have to share . Mental hug to you from cold wet beautiful tassie.
TASSIE ❤️ loved visiting your lil island. Thanks for sharing a piece of you and for sharing such kindness. I think we all struggle in our own way and its just about simplifying things. Take care
I have spent the last few minutes after watching your video, just in silence. May is hard to see you upset, and wanted to find so inspirational speech or quote that you could write down a look at when you feel that way again. But they all seem to be a little bit out step. So I came up with my own. "May you're more powerful than you know." You can and heve changed the world of so many people just by simply being you. I know it might not seam very much over the Internet but here here a a hug from me to you.
Aww Marytn, bless you. I know its hard but life is hard and its good to show things aren't always perky and upbeat. Although I am feeling much more myself again. Thanks for the quote, ill use it next time i'm down. Big hugs
Awww…. That was a tough watch but it’s good to see reality and I felt pleased to see you perking up at the end… all that nature, the church bells, life on the river…. Hope things level out…. Maybe post holiday blues but very brave to film your sadness… well done May 🤗🤗🤗
Thanks guy, I really appreciate your kindness. Yes sadness comes in waves but I am feeling much more myself again now. Good to show the dark with the light 😀 Take care, see you again soon.
Wrote this comment a couple of times, just didn't sound right, so trying for the 3rd time. 1st off, great work on the boat, there was a lot of work and patients gone into it, really well done. 2nd its ok to not be ok, you may have all the tools and training, but you know what, your not a robot. i am a 48 year old divorced father of 2, i work Monday to Friday and have my 2 sons every weekend and over the school holidays. I have people around me or talking to me pretty much 18 hours a day, and you know what, i feel lonely, and i know how you feel, just to have that someone to off load to and tell you its ok to have a cry and have a hug with without any judgment. please except a non judgmental, it will be ok hug from me and my kids, we think your adventures and videos are great. take care of yourself May.
Hey, bless you for writing it until it felt right. A sign of someone who really cares and that means A LOT. Thank you so much for your words and kindness, sending you a big hug for your down days too 🤗
Your such a sweet person May. I find it so funny when you suddenly swear lol i hope your feeling much better and things are going well you did a fantastic job on your boat and should be proud what you do. Big hugs ☺️
Good to allow yourself to feel, loneliness is something we experience and if people experience loneliness together we won't be lonely. Sending virtual hugs 🤗. Keep safe do what you do and keep smiling as it suits you 😃
Thank you for sharing your sad times and the ways you cope. You are very brave being so honest. Looks it's like you did a fantastic job on your bow. Your damaged cable is potentially very dangerous, so I suggest it is repaired. x
Its true what they say the people who are most happy on the outside struggle on the inside the most dont worry may, im like that i think why do i feel so down when ive got everything that makes me happy but still feel low😢 theres not alot of people with your kind of energy focus it on the things that make you happy and the man up stairs will reward you, you just got to belive
Hey there, thank you so much for your kindness and love. Its great to show the real sadness of life just as it is to show the happy times too. Balance is key! Sending lots of love and hugs your way x
@@wellbeingonwater bottling it up inside only makes for a bigger spilledge of emotions further on down the line i no that haha, an thankyou too hope your having a much better day an more to come maybe some exciting weather on the weekend to look forward to if you like thunder storms😅 id love to be in a boat during a thunder storm it would be so funny🫣 x
Wow, that was really honest and heartfelt. Not sure well done is quite the right phrase - but a virtual well done hug none the less. if we've lived we've ALL been to that place at some point, I can remember being there. There's a 7K plus online world you've built around you who enjoy seeing you and your journey and virtually walks with you, always remember that. Oh. and hats off for fixing (or getting plans in place to fix) your slight holey problem!
Thanks Graham, you're so right! It's important to look back and see what we have achieved and I am damn proud of how far I've come and love all you lot for your awesome support and community vibes. Big hugs and all is well 😁
Sing away little sister. We are listening and hope you can feel our embrace to comfort you. We all share those dark times and together can get through them but like you say, alone it is very difficult. Be assured that you are not alone and you have one more arm around your shoulder. B well
It was nice to talk to you at Crick. You had a happy smile , and was kind to give me a few minutes of your time. I really appreciated it. So to see you sad and in tears is quite a contrast. I’m sorry to see you have been upset. Even tough guys like me get down now and then. (My minor Autism doesn’t help) Having the strength to understand it won’t last will get you through. Anyway, the bow is looking good with its red oxide. Look forward to seeing it with a top coat. Stay safe .. Andy 😊
Hey Andy, oh I thought I had replied to this one already. I remember you, friendly face and nice to chat with you too. It is a contrast but this was filmed before crick actually. Crick really lifted my spirits. Sending hugs and thanks for being here 🤗
@@wellbeingonwater It’s nice to receive a reply, thank you 😊I’m pleased you enjoyed Crick. I was the first one there in the queue on Saturday 😂 Too enthusiastic 🤩 I wish you well. If I don’t see you before, I will see you next year at Crick 🍺🍺
Have fallen in love with this channel and love finding out all about boat life but as an empathetic crier this episode kinda broke me I hope your mood changed for the better after this Stay strong and stay awesome
It's always a pleasure to watch your videos May, even when you're not feeling your best. Everything tends to sort itself out in the end. I remind myself of this as I too suffer from bouts of loneliness, sadness, tears. We both know that this shall pass We come out the other side and carry on! Stay cool and thanks for showing your humanness!
Go out to the next town and perform a random act of kindness and then tell yourself it was a selfish act to f self preservation. Trust me, this little mind hack helps! 😅😅 You bring a little happiness to people with every episode May
Interestingw way of going about it! I do love a random act of kindness it for sure makes you feel better. No such thing as a selfless good deed! haha, not sure thats actually true. Thanks for being here Joe
What a fantastic job you ve done , YOU ! Only YOU , you should feel proud of yourself. Your growing so much darling and what a community you have supporting you on here . Maybe Ted No 2 needs to come to you ! Cos Ted No 1 is my mate now !! Xx
May, I don’t usually comment very often, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this, thank you for being brave and sharing how you feel. I relate to those feelings as I suffer mental health myself, take each day as it comes, hour by hour minute by minute. Sending lots of hugs, I hope you feel better than you did. 🖤
Hey lovely, thank you for commenting and being here. It was a tough week but I am feeling much more myself again. Sending lots of hugs back to you too, I work in MH so I understand the struggles and I feel grateful to be able to support people. I hope I see you pop up in a comment again soon, it's always lovely to hear from you. Hug x
Hi May, let me stick my proverbial "oar in the water" and give you my thoughts. 5 Minutes into this video I thought here is a very nice lady that some one need to wrap their arms around and let her know just how very special she is! I have some days when the stress of being a carer, work pressures, being out of a relationship etc REALLY get to me. I like to have an hour in bed, pull the duvet over my head and just have some "me" time. Life sometimes does not go the way we want, but I always try so had to be greatful for the things I have rather than complain about the things that I do not have . I am so aware that there are people who do not have a fraction of what I have. You have a wonderful home, a youtube channel watched by thousands of fans. a wonderful out look on life. Your fans will always support you. I know it must some times be hard when you are on the boat alone and you feel the sky is about to wall in but you know what, YOU are better that that! stand up, take a deep breath and tell the negative thoughts to "TAKE A HIKE""
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way but I think what you said was important, so many people rush to feel happy again but sometimes it’s important to sit in your sadness for a little while. Often people feel guilty for feeling sad, like they’re wasting their day but it’s ok to feel down sometimes ❤xx
Thanks Louise. I'm so glad you understand it, it's so important to feel the uncomfortable stuff too. Thanks for your comment and for being here, big hugs xx
I am sure you will sort your boat out. Thank you for showing that negative feelings and emptions are just part of life but they can be overcome. What an inspiration you are.
Hi May, thanks for another honest and insightful Vlog. It was indeed a really hard watch seeing you so down, needing a hug and not being able to help but great to see you come out the other side. Your holiday did look fab btw! Great effort on the repairs - preparation is always key, so many people would just have slapped the paint on top, so brill that you took the time to clean everything up first. I'm sure the repairs will make everything like new again and I look forward to watching your further adventures. Best wishes, Oliver. 🤗
Great Vlog as usual, thanks for taking the time to do these. Chances are that seepage is from the Gas Locker as the Hull Steel plate is a good solid bit and thicker than the Locker steel plating. All the same when you home as water ingress it is worrying.
You are amazing, love your videos, and I emphasize how you feel, in a similar situation. You are productive, inspirational and a great teacher of life, there is so much love out in the universe directed at you. How raw and real you showed yourself goes to show how human you are like all of us, I wanted to give you a hug when you were struggling. Stay strong, like I said you are amazing.
Hi You are a real brave soul it must have been hard to open up to the public as you did, believe me it I'd hard to watch someone having to face there demons, I say this as a person who doesn't have down days even when family have died or the shit hits the fan at work I don't get down. I can never really understand what people go through although I do sympathise and hope you and others like yourself get through the dark days quickly Great vid
Hey, thanks for sharing. You're comment has facinated me, I am always so interested in the human mind (as a mental health practitioner and yogi its my thing) But alas, i will keep my questions to myself and thank you kindly for being here. All is well
Bless you May, life's hard sometimes in it. Especially when you got loads of problems n hinges are going wrong left right n centre. Chin up chuck you'll get through it mate 👍, I'm rooting for you, keep that beautiful smile on your face 😁
Hey Mark, lovely comment, really felt your positivity shine through. All is well, dark days come and go and im grateful to be able to share them with ya'll. Onto the next thing...! See ya soon
@@wellbeingonwater No worries May, you look after yourself, I'll be to encourage you in your dark times, thanks for showing your genuine self. It was little heart breaking to see you that way. I feel for you. Bless you so much with hope I'm your future. ✌️😁
Great and honest Vlog May, shadow work is soo important and also important to highlight. I wish we had more time to chat in the Crick beer tent last week.. you are an awesome inspiring young woman… love your work, keep inspiring, educating and loving… you got this 🙏
You were very brave at opening up and explaining how you felt, I know how you were feeling as I was in that same place this week, its best to go with it, know what you mean. Take it easy, You did an excellent job on the bow, I wouldn't of had a clue! Must've felt good after doing that. Thanks so did the lower back stretch with you and it helped felt it in my thighs too. Anyway hang on in there and take care. 🙏🙏👋
Hey! Thank you for your comment and being so kind. It sure did feel good. It will feel even better when the hole gets sorted! Ah yes, the "turtle" a fave of mine! Always here for more physical and mental health support, just reach out! Sending hugs
Hi may, you are clearly a brave and determined lady, but also boat life seems hard and is taking its toll on you. Think about your medium term future and if the thought of more years on the boat worries or depresses you, try and think of an alternative.
Hey! Thanks for your message. Nooo I love boat life, there may come a time it gets too much but I don't want for that. Who knows what is around the corner!
Well done on the bow work. Sometimes it’s good to watch other people feeling down, then it makes you realise that it’s not just you and there are other people feeling the same way. Had a week off work which I usually can’t wait for but just not been able to relax at all, felt edgy all week and down. Any way new week starting, hope your pulling yourself out of it..look forward to the next instalment. 👍
Hey Chris, yeah I get you. Im mostly very upbeat and silly on this channel, which is what I am most of the time. Often people don't share the down days but I think its important to normalise feeling bad and know its okay. I work in Mental Health so I guess im an advocate. Thanks for watching and being here! 😀
Hi May great to see your honesty with the mental health I fully get you and understand the darkness 😢 your positivity is amazing i truly believe the tranquility of the canals is so resting and cant wait until i become a member of the community 4 years and counting 😁. Until then ill be saving all my peace from my annual boating holiday on the Caledonian canal roll on august 😂.....amazing job on the bow one hood thing about living on a boat is plenty jobs to keep the mind chatter at bay ....but i also agreee its also good to let it out at times too stay strong 👍.
Hey Ian, thanks for your kindness and comment. The tranquility is very healing for sure! 4 years will fly by for you! I'm sure you are well prepared. Sending hugs and thanks, I am back to myself again 😀
Hello May! Too bad I live so far away otherwise I would have loved to help you fix up your nice narrowboat! It's nice to see how you approach things and how you learn so quickly! Sharing your mental health feels very intimidating but is very sincere, I have a lot of trouble sharing that myself so I can learn a lot from that! never give up! Nice youtube channel!! Greetings from Belgium ❤
Hey there! Thank you so mucnfor your lovely kind comment. I'm glad you enjoy the channel, its a pleasure to share my life with others, highs and lows. Sending hugs 🤗
There are good days in your life, and then there are days, that just aren't so good. I'm not gonna say bad days, just different days. People are gonna say, well you only live once, and that really isn't true. The fact is you only die once, but you live every day of your life. Tomorrow is a new day, so it's bound to be better. You, young lady, are living the kind of life I dream about. Living on a boat.!! Cruising canals, and rivers. It's a dream, because I'm in the United States, and at the age of 74, I seriously doubt, I'll ever make it to the UK, let alone buy a canal boat to live the dream. But like you, I have "different days"!! Mine however come from a time long before you were even born. I served in the United States Military, during the 60's and 70's and consequently served 32 months in and and during Vietnam war. I spent my 20th, 21st, and 22nd birthdays in Vietnam. So sometimes those times come back to haunt me. But I remember what one person told me years ago. Life is like walking...keep moving forward, by putting one foot in front of the other. Keep looking forward to tomorrow!! So I've just subscribed to your channel, and I'll keep looking forward to seeing your adventures, and keep watching you "moving forward"!!!
Hey hey! welcome aboard. ooo I do love a big juicy comment like this. Thank you for sharing a piece of you. I appreciate your thoughts, advice and love! Happy to have you here Phil 😀
Thanks, I am facing a really tough day myself. Here in the USA, it is our Property Tax Payment Deadline. If anyone feels like crying today, it's me. Our State taxes are the second highest in the entire country.🤯😥
Hi May 👋🏼 Damn I missed you at Crick! I’ve been going through similar emotions having come back from a trip of a lifetime, and it took me ages to shake off the self pity and come down from such a trip. I totally get you. Love your blogs. Hopefully we’ll meet up some time.
Hi there boats have always had holes pop up now and again knowing how to overcome these things is knowledge handed down from the past a temporary fix until the next docking is potable and not all that difficult a bolt washer packing material and a nut and washer on thr outside all fixed for now
Mate, she's been on holiday and now she has to do some hard work/jobs. Why are we so quick to label everything depression these days? It's called "life". So many white knights parading around this comments section. It doesn't do anyone any good in the long run to constantly tell people how brilliant they are for tying their own laces. Arguably it contributes to what makes them so fragile in the first place. There are narrowboat channels out there where people are building/re-building entire boats from scratch. It's really inspiring stuff and a blissfully refreshing white-knight free zone!
Hey Sammy, in the mental health world we call it "low mood "because depression has to be diagnosed. Maybe Cal has been diagnosed with depression. We only ever see a tiny dot of what people are going through and why, so compassion is vital. At the end of the day were all going through what were going through and these comments are helping me. They make me feel part of a community. Kindness costs nothing but can touch hearts and that has happened here. I also agree, there is so much inspiring stuff happening with people building their boats from scratch and doing amazing things! Humans are awesome, and so are you.
@@wellbeingonwater I agree. "Low mood" is a far healthier perspective on the subject. And it's within a perfectly normal range of responses to the world. It would be extraordinarily odd if we were going around high as a kite on happiness in every scenario we encounter. Regrettably a lot of modern thinking seems to run counter to this, with fairly inevitable consequences. PS thanks for implying I'm not human. Lol!
"feelings need to be felt" yes, yes they do. Unfortunately life does not allow everything to be perfect 24/7. Don't hold things in and let them stew, let it out. You ever notice after a good sobbing cry how much better you feel or at least the problem that drove you to cry in the 1st place seems less of a big deal? Hang in there, life is a cycle of good times and bad times. :)
@@wellbeingonwater It was very brave of you to make a video like that for all too see and bear witness to and share your emotions and feelings. I can't help but think after you posted the video you may have been thinking OH GOD! should I have done that? The answer is a resounding yes. Despite you being at a low, this wonderful and emotional video will have raised a lot of people out of there own moments of darkness and despair.
Very profound vid gal takes an inner strength to open up to the world like I have just seen but I'm known as a good judge of character your strong gal you will survive Now that is an ORDER by the way get her out asap and sort your leak with a welder I know I sound like your dad Cheers n beers Marty Australia
Bless you May. What a difficult video to make and watch. I applaud you for showing all sides. I found Narrowboat vids during lockdown when my mental health was having its toughest battle to date ( for several reasons) but have recovered well but still have the scars which show every now and then . I love what you are doing and find your videos uplifting and motivational even for a 50 something chap. I admire your lifestyle and you jest for life so keep doing what your doing. . P. S. Havent got any advice on hole in the boat but there is the Song ' Theres a hole in my bucket dear Liza" you could ref 😆😆. Sending a hug and positive vibes 🤗 ❤🍷x
Hey rich! I did reply to this a while ago but I think there has been a glitch.. thank you so much for your lovely support and kindness. Its very uplifting to have people like you connect and share their thoughts. Big hugs 🤗
I count you as a friend ( if that doesn't sound too strange) and that's down to your honest personality. Connections so important isn't it even if we're happy in our skin. I paint and sketch outdoors and love it but it can be a bit solitary if you don't have any friends that share that skill so I'm starting a facebook group to ask local people to group together get out there and enjoy it as a social event. That's my way out of isolation that and exercise. You're great anyway!
Not weird at all. I think when one puts themselves out there as much as I sometimes do, many people feel like they know me well. Thats a great idea! Facebook groups are awesome for the isolated. Youre always welcome to join me every Wednesday for our yoga for mental health session. Its super slow and relaxing!
You're tough, bold + resilient May. Like your boat! Being good at maintaining balance between +/- moods. Or dealing with swinging between different conditions. Recognising this and using it is powerful. Do you think going from one environment to another (Scotland - back at home) gave you a fresh perspective or new understanding? I've avoided alot in my life as a coping mechanism. Maybe 20-30 years of doing so. Only this year did i understand this fully and wow did it open my eyes?! Like i had tons of painful stuff i had side stepped or leap frogged, to keep that forward momentum ticking over. However i could never hit top speed or full flow with the weight of heavy emotion unaddressed, hanging on my head. Always keep looking forward and make sure you always have something fun to look forward to. Prioritise the important, but always make time for the things less insignificant, to break up the rigidity. The little things. This adaptability is why i think you are so appreciated. Excellent video and be proud of your great work!
Hey Seb, thanks for this comment and sharing a piece of you with us. Your thoughts and ideas to help with mental health is great stuff. We all need this kind of wisdom in our lives. I love how you've linked my resilience with my boats - that will stick! Sending hugs
Finding the right balance. Like breathing and holding a difficult position in Yoga i suppose. Inhale/exhale. Ying + Yang. Everything in moderation, even moderation itself. There is no up, without the down and visa versa. The same goes with showing the vulnerable sides of ourselves, along with our strong, confident, positive characteristics. One doesnt exist without the other and there is nothing frightening about discovering this. Often realising our weaknesses or less desirable attributes, and letting others see them can be the lessons that are most freeing +empowering. Hugs to you too! Have a brilliant day!
Hey lovely, keepin it real. It sounded like you were punishing yourself, a bit of self destruct. I thought you handled it well but want to give you several hugs till you found your strength again 💚
I love that you tackle the problem/ projects I do a lot of welding and for sanding/grinding I use a flap disk on my grinder. ( never mind I am a idiot I see u used one ) Great job Love the vids
The rawness of this video is a breath of fresh air in an online world that often feels so vacuous. As a person who also struggles with their mental health I am so proud of you for making this visible. I love your sense of humour and positivity, you are fabulous x
Aww thank you so much, this is so lovely to read. Your kindness and support means so much, truly. Big hugs x
I had to go sick this week with depression, watching your film has given me hope I can get through this difficult spell,much love.
Hey Ian, big hugs for you. You absolutely can get through the dark times, thank you so much for this comment. Look after yourself! 🤗
Sadness is a part of life. Ive been sad for a month now, since my dog passed away in the age of six years. Way too early. But I´m 68 years old and I know that good times have a habit of returning sooner or later. As good old Churchill said: I you are going through hell, you must keep on walking.
Anyway. Nice to follow your channel. We dont have that kind of boatlife in Denmark, but I´ve always dreamed about going on at least a vacation on the British canals.
Aww thanks for this heart felt comment 🙏 and for watching!
We are all entitled to the occasional melt down day so it's ok to have an off day and feel sorry for yourself. Nothing is more important your mental and physical health so don't ever feel guilty about taking some time out for yourself. You are a brave , strong young woman for taking on that lifestyle alone and we are proud of you. for eight months you pushed on with life and forgot to take some May time, then it all caught up with you. I think you did thre right thing allowing yourself a week to feel crap.
Thanks so much for your support, sending big hugs
I have just watched this and got really emotional about your honesty and vulnerability. Anyone who says they have never suffered with mental health is not true to themselves. Mental health isnt bought on by what you haven’t got in life it is something that everyone goes through. Thank you for your honesty and transparency.You are wonderful and adorable , keep up the great work.
Thank you for seeing me in my raw form ☺️
@@wellbeingonwater we have all been there, it makes you what you are but it’s really not easy at the time.
There is so much fake stuff. Fake news, fake food, fake relationships, fake education etc etc as well as so much fakeness on social media. I really appreciate that you're not fake. You show us how you are...genuinely bubbly and positive but also low and sad. Thank you.
I hope that you are coming through the darkness to the light.
Hey, thanks for this comment, means a lot. Authenticity is always the best path, often the scariest path too! I'm glad you enjoyed the video 😊
@@wellbeingonwater I agree 100 %
You nailed it with “Feelings need to be felt”, if one doesn’t approach them head on and go through the process as you are here, then one is unable to return to the “good self” and being resolved within:) I’d say it’s being Brave, which you are…
Aww lovely comment, thank you
This time is a passing moment,in my life i have had a few!
My last boat was half submerged when i bought it but steadily set yourself tasks and look around at what you ve achieved!
You will look back on this low point and be stronger for it.
Having spent 3 months 3 major operations in hospital several years back and my wife being told its 50/50 if i make it,it refocusses you!
We are all on our own journey,yours is ahead grab all experiences good and bad ,you are learning.
About your boat,yourself and life!
Never feel bad for how you feel,it means you re alive and kicking and "human"!
All the best great channel !xx
Thanks for your support David
Love and light little one you made me smile when you said these wonderful characters are ugly look for the beauty in that. it will open a hole new world 😊X
Thanks for saying so 😊
May, we spoke 6 months ago, when i was in a bad place, im in a good place now, but your one of the strongest women i know,
An iconic saying from rocky balboa, last movie from the rocky franchise,
NOTHING WILL HIT YOU LIKE LIFE, IT WILL BEAT YOU TO YOUR KNEES AND KEEP YOU THERE, NOTHING WILL HIT HARDER THAN LIFE, BUT ITS NOT HOW HARD YOU CAN HIT, BUT ITS HOW MUCH YOU CAN TAKE AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD. (shortened version)
you got this may
Aww hey Sean. Thanks so muchfor your supportive WOO YEAH message. Really felt the love from here. Big hug
@@wellbeingonwater your welcome, paying it forward may,
Steelboat calls for a small portable compressor and a air needle gun. It strips rust and paint much faster, and is much cleaner to you as person and the environment. No toxic dust. Mop up with brush and scoop(Specially old boats still have lots of paint on which contain lead and that dust can be extremely dangerous even when you wear a mask,because its on your skin too..One can buy a needle gun and then hire the small compressor. Go for a stick welding coarse and buy a small inverter stick welder(forget what all tells you about other welding processes,they use gas, is expensive and out in the open not so good,in the end you want to do maintenance,not building a steel boat.Dust btw over time will also kill electric tools as the dust is sucked in by the ventilation fan,brushes start to arc and then its either repair or throw away time.On the emotional side. Never look at problems from the inside,some salty crackers,cheese, a bottle of wine and you need a comfortable camping chair. Go sit in the shade at least 50 meters away from your boat, and only after the third glass of wine,start to look at your boat as if it is not yours but you want it. Make a list what comes to mind you would like to change. That things forms over time part of the issues that makes one unhappy in our subconsious. And make a list and timeframe to change them. By the time you back on your boat, you will feel miles better, have a plan of action and it would not feel like a burden but rather a challenge and change of life to engage doing that changes for a better tomorrow.Stay strong and super cool work you done..
What lovely and caring advice on so many levels.
There are flux core wire welders without gas, I used one and would say they are easier to learn and handle than stick.
This is a cool message. I love the idea of what you're saying. Thank you. Going to a boat yard soon and will be using a needle gun, yay!
A word of advice with needle guns (used to do boat repairs and refits as a pup) wear gloves, ear defenders and take lots of brakes or you WILL give yourself HAVS - ask me how I know 😅 honestly though, good show with the determination and PMA - my go to is a cup of tea - the work always looks a bit better with tea :)
@@wellbeingonwater I read through the comments on my post and rather answer all in one . Valid comments and not shooting them down. But we must remember that over the years tools development was mayor. The old air tools was large and loud. Modern ones are lightweight and follow the rules and regulations on workplace safety. One would like to wear earmuffs or at least plugs and gloves when working with any power or air tools. On the welding side of things. Specially with anything metal that is near or in contact with water, one finds rust. No matter how good one clean,deep down in the joints will be dirt. To get proper root penetration one would start with a 6010 or 6013 rod and then finish with 7010. I am fully aware about coated wire but in the this application and out in the open, I,w put my trust in stick rather then wire. Same with DIY as one do not need a cumbersome welding machine with gas bottles and it is always nice to learn a new skill when one is a boat owner. Through our Seven Seas Ldz Project, we advice large blue water steel and aluminium yachts to invest in the multi-purpose welding machines that can do Mig, Tig, Stick and Cut as repairs in remote places can be difficult and expensive.
Whenever I can make someone's day better I feel better myself. Please know that you have friends you've never met and at least for me, watching your videos make my day better. So thank you and I hope you will feel better knowing you make other peoples day a bit better.
You are a beautiful, honest and brave person. ❤ You inspire me, beyond the inevitable tears and sadness.
Thank you for sharing it all in full colour!
So much love your way 🤗🙏
You are a brave heart even though you get sad.....we love you ❤️
It's so nice to see someone opening up about their feelings , we all have scary moments, and you being alone on a narrow boat are extremely brave , I understand you wanting a hug where all human and at times having human contact really helps , be kind to yourself darling you're doing something many people would be totally afraid to do. ❤ Ian
There always seems to be a net over my demon infested pond and I can't get out.
I'm not saying I like people to have or to suffer with issues, but it's sometimes good to know I'm not the only one who feels that way.
Thanks for sharing, I do hope you're back in the right place mentally and you're feeling good again 😊...
I did stay until the end and i watched your piece to camera, good to see you smile at the end and that your boat didn't sink 😊
You absolutely are not the only one. Im glad this video has enabled people to see that. Sending lots of hugs
Sometimes a good cry does the power of good! I think what you have been suffering is the holiday blues, after having time away and company every day you are now back home to the reality of solo boat life and the jobs that you need to do. You are amazing, such a positive, clever person. I hope you feel better now, take care. xxxx
Thanks lovely lady, yeah much better now 🥰
i take my hat off to you May, what an inspirational young lady. i often feel like you, i am up and down so much, thank you for sharing your emotions, your not alone and now i don't feel that i am the only one. thank you! i love your content 🙏🙏🙏👍
Thanks so much for saying! Happy to have you here
Yes, humans are flawed and therefore they have good days and bad days. It's all part of being human. You're like someone I would consider one of the nicest friends. And I look forward to seeing you every week and catching up with you and seeing what you've been up too. Most of us may not be able to give you that physical in person presence and share a cup of tea, but yes, we still see you and many more care about you than you know. You are never alone... Stay strong May.
Hey Rod, thank you. A lovely reminder. I think thats why I love TH-cam so much as it really brings people together and people arent afraid to comment - sometimes you get the odd nasty stuff but most of the time everyone is lovely! Im so glad I started this channel. Thank you for your kindness x
I'll second that.
OK, when you said you needed a hug, I cried! I don't think there's anyone out there who hasn't felt like that at some point in their lives. The impact of such an honest account of your life will be huge. This shit literally saves lives. You are an awesome human being MM. Here's an Internet hug til I can deliver one in person. T xx🙏
Aww T!! Bless you. Cant wait to meet you soon and get that hug in real life wooooo xx
@@wellbeingonwater 😘🤗🫂
Hi May, sorry for the long missive... I hope you do have time read it... I dont usually post.. but you jhave moved me to writing this... Firstly you must keep showing the lows as well asthe highs...it shows to others in the same place that they arent alone, empathise, and see how you handle it...
I am a fellow boat owner of many years... whilst I dont live aboard like you do... I do undesrtand the loneliness that goes hand in hand with the lifestyle... it is natural that you are down after coming back from a holiday... it is very common... and you actually mentioned something that is very pertient in that you have an ideal lifestyle.. which is great... but it does have its drawbacks in that we huimans are always looking to improve or the next thing... so if you have such a lovely lifestyle, it is hard to better it.. so feel down... it reminds me of the "Coco the clown story" (if you dont know it.. just ask and I will share). The part of the canal system that you are on is wonderful... probably my favourite... keep thinking positive and sharing your journey.
on the technical side... I love the fact that you are willing turn your hand to any challenges that arise.. thatis the best way to pick upskills... learn by your mistakes...(we all make them.. and I continuet to do so :) ).. and as others have mentioned... dont wash steel down with water... use "Panel Wipe" or another degreaser to avoid rust and treat with a rust converter...
I am retired, so if you would like a chat or advice on anything.. please feel free to contact me...
Hey there. Well you have lots of lovely stuff to say, I'm really glad you decided to comment today. You're right, it's is okay not to be okay and I will continue showing the down days with the highs. Contrast is soo important. The social media world can be quite damaging as people compare themselves to these amazing lives and put them on pedestals, when in fact were all feeling the same stuff. Need to share that. Sending hugs 🤗
May, I’ve been living in my van full time for the last year or so. I’ve come up against the same feelings that you have. I deal with them ‘by stepping outside of language’. What I mean is that I just don’t follow the internal narrative going on in my head. You can choose when to ‘be in language’ and when not to be. Loneliness, grief and social isolation are clouds that come and go.
Like that saying "be in language". Cool. Thanks Andrew, 🤗
Just know that your not alone and that you are a beautiful soul, i completely empathise with you on all levels and hope you find your path and do not falter. xx
Thank you so much!
Oh May I’m so sorry you feel this way. You need a companion to share your wonderful life with. Being lonely can depress you.
All is well friend
Just love your bravery and tenacity. I struggle with MH Issues too, Am no stranger to that deep, dark , heavy debilitating feeling and the herculian effort it takes to whip it. Its ok as a light being to not understand what your feeling or to feel overwhelmed by the drudgery of this dimension.I myself have a counter showing how many days since my last cry. you are so full of love that you bring only inspiration and joy to your viewers with your honesty and story. you are wise well beyond your years so much so that i can see the lives you have lived and the healing you have to share . Mental hug to you from cold wet beautiful tassie.
TASSIE ❤️ loved visiting your lil island. Thanks for sharing a piece of you and for sharing such kindness. I think we all struggle in our own way and its just about simplifying things. Take care
I have spent the last few minutes after watching your video, just in silence. May is hard to see you upset, and wanted to find so inspirational speech or quote that you could write down a look at when you feel that way again. But they all seem to be a little bit out step. So I came up with my own. "May you're more powerful than you know." You can and heve changed the world of so many people just by simply being you. I know it might not seam very much over the Internet but here here a a hug from me to you.
Aww Marytn, bless you. I know its hard but life is hard and its good to show things aren't always perky and upbeat. Although I am feeling much more myself again. Thanks for the quote, ill use it next time i'm down. Big hugs
Awww…. That was a tough watch but it’s good to see reality and I felt pleased to see you perking up at the end… all that nature, the church bells, life on the river…. Hope things level out…. Maybe post holiday blues but very brave to film your sadness… well done May 🤗🤗🤗
Thanks guy, I really appreciate your kindness. Yes sadness comes in waves but I am feeling much more myself again now. Good to show the dark with the light 😀 Take care, see you again soon.
@@wellbeingonwater bought you a coffee too but forgot to add a message ! 🤗
Wrote this comment a couple of times, just didn't sound right, so trying for the 3rd time. 1st off, great work on the boat, there was a lot of work and patients gone into it, really well done. 2nd its ok to not be ok, you may have all the tools and training, but you know what, your not a robot. i am a 48 year old divorced father of 2, i work Monday to Friday and have my 2 sons every weekend and over the school holidays. I have people around me or talking to me pretty much 18 hours a day, and you know what, i feel lonely, and i know how you feel, just to have that someone to off load to and tell you its ok to have a cry and have a hug with without any judgment. please except a non judgmental, it will be ok hug from me and my kids, we think your adventures and videos are great. take care of yourself May.
Hey, bless you for writing it until it felt right. A sign of someone who really cares and that means A LOT. Thank you so much for your words and kindness, sending you a big hug for your down days too 🤗
Your such a sweet person May. I find it so funny when you suddenly swear lol i hope your feeling much better and things are going well you did a fantastic job on your boat and should be proud what you do. Big hugs ☺️
Thanks Paul! I am proud! 🤗 soo grateful to you and your support
Oh sweetie! Really don’t like seeing you upset! Big hug & some love needed..xxx
It is uncomfortable to see people upset isn't it but it's all okay!
everyone needs that hug now &then.. sending the
thanks for the lovely huggsy
thank you for sharing, the light will shine again
Thanks Alan, everything is well 🙏
Good to allow yourself to feel, loneliness is something we experience and if people experience loneliness together we won't be lonely. Sending virtual hugs 🤗.
Keep safe do what you do and keep smiling as it suits you 😃
Absolutely
Thank you for the hugs
Thank you for sharing your sad times and the ways you cope. You are very brave being so honest. Looks it's like you did a fantastic job on your bow.
Your damaged cable is potentially very dangerous, so I suggest it is repaired. x
Thanks so much for your support. It means a lot! Yes got a new angle grinder now the other one burnt out!
Its true what they say the people who are most happy on the outside struggle on the inside the most dont worry may, im like that i think why do i feel so down when ive got everything that makes me happy but still feel low😢 theres not alot of people with your kind of energy focus it on the things that make you happy and the man up stairs will reward you, you just got to belive
Hey there, thank you so much for your kindness and love. Its great to show the real sadness of life just as it is to show the happy times too. Balance is key! Sending lots of love and hugs your way x
@@wellbeingonwater bottling it up inside only makes for a bigger spilledge of emotions further on down the line i no that haha, an thankyou too hope your having a much better day an more to come maybe some exciting weather on the weekend to look forward to if you like thunder storms😅 id love to be in a boat during a thunder storm it would be so funny🫣 x
Wow, that was really honest and heartfelt. Not sure well done is quite the right phrase - but a virtual well done hug none the less. if we've lived we've ALL been to that place at some point, I can remember being there. There's a 7K plus online world you've built around you who enjoy seeing you and your journey and virtually walks with you, always remember that. Oh. and hats off for fixing (or getting plans in place to fix) your slight holey problem!
Thanks Graham, you're so right! It's important to look back and see what we have achieved and I am damn proud of how far I've come and love all you lot for your awesome support and community vibes. Big hugs and all is well 😁
Sing away little sister. We are listening and hope you can feel our embrace to comfort you. We all share those dark times and together can get through them but like you say, alone it is very difficult. Be assured that you are not alone and you have one more arm around your shoulder. B well
Not sure wether you are a brother or sister but it doesn't matter we're all family. Thank you 🙏💫
It was nice to talk to you at Crick. You had a happy smile , and was kind to give me a few minutes of your time. I really appreciated it. So to see you sad and in tears is quite a contrast. I’m sorry to see you have been upset. Even tough guys like me get down now and then. (My minor Autism doesn’t help) Having the strength to understand it won’t last will get you through. Anyway, the bow is looking good with its red oxide. Look forward to seeing it with a top coat. Stay safe .. Andy 😊
Hey Andy, oh I thought I had replied to this one already. I remember you, friendly face and nice to chat with you too. It is a contrast but this was filmed before crick actually. Crick really lifted my spirits. Sending hugs and thanks for being here 🤗
@@wellbeingonwater It’s nice to receive a reply, thank you 😊I’m pleased you enjoyed Crick. I was the first one there in the queue on Saturday 😂 Too enthusiastic 🤩 I wish you well. If I don’t see you before, I will see you next year at Crick 🍺🍺
Have fallen in love with this channel and love finding out all about boat life but as an empathetic crier this episode kinda broke me I hope your mood changed for the better after this
Stay strong and stay awesome
Aww thanks for being here !
It's always a pleasure to watch your videos May, even when you're not feeling your best.
Everything tends to sort itself out in the end. I remind myself of this as I too suffer from bouts of loneliness, sadness, tears. We both know that this shall pass We come out the other side and carry on!
Stay cool and thanks for showing your humanness!
Thanks for this lovely comment, it's good to share the dark with the light. Sending hugs
Wow May you did an awesome job I've been feeling down for a while but hopefully will feel better soon hope your feeling better now stay safe x
Thanks John! Bloody hard work but i'll keep on pushing through, in all the ways! x
i tell you what may, your attention to detail, the work put in, you would put alot of us men to shame,,, that will do lol good job
Haha brilliant, can I get that framed and signed! 😝
Go out to the next town and perform a random act of kindness and then tell yourself it was a selfish act to f self preservation. Trust me, this little mind hack helps! 😅😅
You bring a little happiness to people with every episode May
Interestingw way of going about it! I do love a random act of kindness it for sure makes you feel better. No such thing as a selfless good deed! haha, not sure thats actually true. Thanks for being here Joe
What a fantastic job you ve done , YOU ! Only YOU , you should feel proud of yourself.
Your growing so much darling and what a community you have supporting you on here .
Maybe Ted No 2 needs to come to you ! Cos Ted No 1 is my mate now !! Xx
Thank you so much!! Love oooo
You are an amazing young woman. The honesty you have shown, truly inspirational. I wish I could have some of your strength.
Wow, thank you. You do have strength! Strength comes from the heart and from the people around you!
May, I don’t usually comment very often, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this, thank you for being brave and sharing how you feel. I relate to those feelings as I suffer mental health myself, take each day as it comes, hour by hour minute by minute. Sending lots of hugs, I hope you feel better than you did. 🖤
Hey lovely, thank you for commenting and being here. It was a tough week but I am feeling much more myself again. Sending lots of hugs back to you too, I work in MH so I understand the struggles and I feel grateful to be able to support people. I hope I see you pop up in a comment again soon, it's always lovely to hear from you. Hug x
sorry to see you all sad, love the FFD in the background. :)
Woo FFD!! Thanks for watching through the sadness 🤗
Hi May, let me stick my proverbial "oar in the water" and give you my thoughts. 5 Minutes into this video I thought here is a very nice lady that some one need to wrap their arms around and let her know just how very special she is! I have some days when the stress of being a carer, work pressures, being out of a relationship etc REALLY get to me. I like to have an hour in bed, pull the duvet over my head and just have some "me" time. Life sometimes does not go the way we want, but I always try so had to be greatful for the things I have rather than complain about the things that I do not have . I am so aware that there are people who do not have a fraction of what I have.
You have a wonderful home, a youtube channel watched by thousands of fans. a wonderful out look on life. Your fans will always support you. I know it must some times be hard when you are on the boat alone and you feel the sky is about to wall in but you know what, YOU are better that that! stand up, take a deep breath and tell the negative thoughts to "TAKE A HIKE""
Fankz for your thoughts ☺️
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way but I think what you said was important, so many people rush to feel happy again but sometimes it’s important to sit in your sadness for a little while. Often people feel guilty for feeling sad, like they’re wasting their day but it’s ok to feel down sometimes ❤xx
Thanks Louise. I'm so glad you understand it, it's so important to feel the uncomfortable stuff too. Thanks for your comment and for being here, big hugs xx
I am sure you will sort your boat out. Thank you for showing that negative feelings and emptions are just part of life but they can be overcome. What an inspiration you are.
Thanks Craig, your kindness means so much
Hi May, thanks for another honest and insightful Vlog. It was indeed a really hard watch seeing you so down, needing a hug and not being able to help but great to see you come out the other side. Your holiday did look fab btw! Great effort on the repairs - preparation is always key, so many people would just have slapped the paint on top, so brill that you took the time to clean everything up first. I'm sure the repairs will make everything like new again and I look forward to watching your further adventures. Best wishes, Oliver. 🤗
Hey Oliver. Thanks for such a lovely supportive comment. It's so lovely to hear from you. You're the best 😁
Great Vlog as usual, thanks for taking the time to do these. Chances are that seepage is from the Gas Locker as the Hull Steel plate is a good solid bit and thicker than the Locker steel plating. All the same when you home as water ingress it is worrying.
Thanks Andy, true words! She's coming out the water soon for a bit of TLC, I'm sure we will figure out the issue then.. when she's safe!
Your fantastic May 😊
Thanks Lee bee 🐝
You are amazing, love your videos, and I emphasize how you feel, in a similar situation.
You are productive, inspirational and a great teacher of life, there is so much love out in the universe directed at you.
How raw and real you showed yourself goes to show how human you are like all of us, I wanted to give you a hug when you were struggling.
Stay strong, like I said you are amazing.
Hey Derek. thanks so much. Its been amazing how everyone has repsonded to this. I wasnt sure if I was going to put it out but im so glad I did 😀
Thanks
Thanks so much, you're support is sooo helpful and keeps me going 🤗
Really sad 😢to see you cry.
Hope things get better for you soon.
Take care.xx
Hey, it's not comfortable to see others uncomfortable so thanks for watching. All is well 😊
Hi
You are a real brave soul it must have been hard to open up to the public as you did, believe me it I'd hard to watch someone having to face there demons, I say this as a person who doesn't have down days even when family have died or the shit hits the fan at work I don't get down. I can never really understand what people go through although I do sympathise and hope you and others like yourself get through the dark days quickly
Great vid
Hey, thanks for sharing. You're comment has facinated me, I am always so interested in the human mind (as a mental health practitioner and yogi its my thing) But alas, i will keep my questions to myself and thank you kindly for being here. All is well
Bless you May, life's hard sometimes in it. Especially when you got loads of problems n hinges are going wrong left right n centre. Chin up chuck you'll get through it mate 👍, I'm rooting for you, keep that beautiful smile on your face 😁
Hey Mark, lovely comment, really felt your positivity shine through. All is well, dark days come and go and im grateful to be able to share them with ya'll. Onto the next thing...! See ya soon
@@wellbeingonwater No worries May, you look after yourself, I'll be to encourage you in your dark times, thanks for showing your genuine self. It was little heart breaking to see you that way. I feel for you. Bless you so much with hope I'm your future. ✌️😁
May you really are a remarkable woman and I do hope you sort out your demons all the best Paul
Aww thanks Paul!
Great and honest Vlog May, shadow work is soo important and also important to highlight. I wish we had more time to chat in the Crick beer tent last week.. you are an awesome inspiring young woman… love your work, keep inspiring, educating and loving… you got this 🙏
Thanks so much for your lovely comment! Just lush lush lush lush. What more is there to say. Big hugs x
You were very brave at opening up and explaining how you felt, I know how you were feeling as I was in that same place this week, its best to go with it, know what you mean. Take it easy, You did an excellent job on the bow, I wouldn't of had a clue! Must've felt good after doing that. Thanks so did the lower back stretch with you and it helped felt it in my thighs too. Anyway hang on in there and take care. 🙏🙏👋
Hey! Thank you for your comment and being so kind. It sure did feel good. It will feel even better when the hole gets sorted! Ah yes, the "turtle" a fave of mine! Always here for more physical and mental health support, just reach out! Sending hugs
Hi may, you are clearly a brave and determined lady, but also boat life seems hard and is taking its toll on you. Think about your medium term future and if the thought of more years on the boat worries or depresses you, try and think of an alternative.
Hey! Thanks for your message. Nooo I love boat life, there may come a time it gets too much but I don't want for that. Who knows what is around the corner!
@@wellbeingonwater that's fine then, but always have a plan B up your sleeve just in case 😀
Well done on the bow work. Sometimes it’s good to watch other people feeling down, then it makes you realise that it’s not just you and there are other people feeling the same way. Had a week off work which I usually can’t wait for but just not been able to relax at all, felt edgy all week and down. Any way new week starting, hope your pulling yourself out of it..look forward to the next instalment. 👍
Hey Chris, yeah I get you. Im mostly very upbeat and silly on this channel, which is what I am most of the time. Often people don't share the down days but I think its important to normalise feeling bad and know its okay. I work in Mental Health so I guess im an advocate. Thanks for watching and being here! 😀
iv been there may so low but you will get over it keep your chin up xx
Ride those waves baby! Feeling back to myself again. hugs
This was hard watching you upset, so I'll say keep a strong head nice to see you smile at the end. Your a wonder woman...💙👊😎
Thank you for watching! I know it's hard to see people sad so I appriciate you! Hugs
Better off going to Screwfix or tools station than B&Q May,love your determination. Stay strong life’s all about the ups and downs.
I've been learning that, thank you andy! Sending hugs
I so wanted to give you a hug 🤗 thank you for such a awesome and honest video.
Hey! Thank you I'm soo glad you enjoyed it and for appreciating the rawness too. Big hugs
Hi May great to see your honesty with the mental health I fully get you and understand the darkness 😢 your positivity is amazing i truly believe the tranquility of the canals is so resting and cant wait until i become a member of the community 4 years and counting 😁. Until then ill be saving all my peace from my annual boating holiday on the Caledonian canal roll on august 😂.....amazing job on the bow one hood thing about living on a boat is plenty jobs to keep the mind chatter at bay ....but i also agreee its also good to let it out at times too stay strong 👍.
Hey Ian, thanks for your kindness and comment. The tranquility is very healing for sure! 4 years will fly by for you! I'm sure you are well prepared. Sending hugs and thanks, I am back to myself again 😀
@@wellbeingonwater that's great to hear May. look out the port side window there a massive hug heading your way 🤗
Admire your honesty. Brave. 👍
Thank you 🤗
Amazing lady stay strong your a inspiration to us all
Thank you, big hugs
Hi May, it's a hard watch seeing you so sad, hope you're feeling better soon. Sending love and big hugs ❤
Hey! I get that, watching people so sad is heart breaking but its also real 😀 sending lots of and hugs back x
@@wellbeingonwater Yes, it's all part of being human. I admire your openess and honesty.
😘this is only temporary >>>>sending muchlove little May 💗💗💗💗>>>>>
So true! Nothing is permanent. Thank you for being here xx
Thank you for sharing your thought process, May and the sciatic stretch.
Ah you're so welcome. I'm glad the stretch helped
Hello May! Too bad I live so far away otherwise I would have loved to help you fix up your nice narrowboat! It's nice to see how you approach things and how you learn so quickly! Sharing your mental health feels very intimidating but is very sincere, I have a lot of trouble sharing that myself so I can learn a lot from that! never give up! Nice youtube channel!! Greetings from Belgium ❤
Hey there! Thank you so mucnfor your lovely kind comment. I'm glad you enjoy the channel, its a pleasure to share my life with others, highs and lows. Sending hugs 🤗
There are good days in your life, and then there are days, that just aren't so good. I'm not gonna say bad days, just different days. People are gonna say, well you only live once, and that really isn't true. The fact is you only die once, but you live every day of your life. Tomorrow is a new day, so it's bound to be better. You, young lady, are living the kind of life I dream about. Living on a boat.!!
Cruising canals, and rivers. It's a dream, because I'm in the United States, and at the age of 74, I seriously doubt, I'll ever make it to the UK, let alone buy a canal boat to live the dream. But like you, I have "different days"!! Mine however come from a time long before you were even born. I served in the United States Military, during the 60's and 70's and consequently served 32 months in and and during Vietnam war. I spent my 20th, 21st, and 22nd birthdays in Vietnam. So sometimes those times come back to haunt me. But I remember what one person told me years ago. Life is like walking...keep moving forward, by putting one foot in front of the other. Keep looking forward to tomorrow!! So I've just subscribed to your channel, and I'll keep looking forward to seeing your adventures, and keep watching you "moving forward"!!!
Hey hey! welcome aboard. ooo I do love a big juicy comment like this. Thank you for sharing a piece of you. I appreciate your thoughts, advice and love! Happy to have you here Phil 😀
Thank you for this video May. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
Thank you! Will do 💪
Hi May,
Ken here.
It's ok not to feel ok,
I am here for you no matter what.
Best Wishes
Ken
Thanks Ken, you're a star in the night sky
Thanks, I am facing a really tough day myself. Here in the USA, it is our
Property Tax Payment Deadline.
If anyone feels like crying today, it's me. Our State taxes are the second highest in the entire country.🤯😥
thank you for letting me a part of your live
Youre welcome
Hi May 👋🏼 Damn I missed you at Crick! I’ve been going through similar emotions having come back from a trip of a lifetime, and it took me ages to shake off the self pity and come down from such a trip.
I totally get you. Love your blogs. Hopefully we’ll meet up some time.
Ah yes, transitions can be really tough. Thank you for getting it and commenting too. Feeling the love from here. Look out for me!
May great 👍 job not feel bad & alone love ❤️ lot's hugs 🤗 u do great with at boat Journey home 😊 love too yourself I hope the yoga goes well 😊 ☺️ ❤️
Hang in there. Thanks for sharing such personal feelings.
Thank you for watching and being here! x
Thank you for this video May. I hope you have a better week. 🙂🤗
You're welcome. Its been a much better week thanks. Back to myself again, thank you for being here x
We see you May 👀
Cracking job on your well deck area, yes, grinder is the tool of choice in that situation. It'll be ok 😉 😊
Thank you lovely! Glad I used that grinder even though I singed it! haha
Hi there boats have always had holes pop up now and again knowing how to overcome these things is knowledge handed down from the past a temporary fix until the next docking is potable and not all that difficult a bolt washer packing material and a nut and washer on thr outside all fixed for now
Thanks Brian. Recently met a guy who has cut his boat in half and put a new base plate on it.. anything is possible!
Ahh May, I feel for you and very akin to your feelings. Jest want to hug you xxx
Virtual sqqqueeeeeeeeeezzzeeeee! Thanks for being here ! x
@@wellbeingonwater wow you’re strong lol, but thankyou for showing the sweet colours of your heart xxxx
Hard to watch you feeling so down, I know what it's like for depression to sap the life from you. I hope you're feeling more like yourself! ❤
Mate, she's been on holiday and now she has to do some hard work/jobs. Why are we so quick to label everything depression these days? It's called "life".
So many white knights parading around this comments section. It doesn't do anyone any good in the long run to constantly tell people how brilliant they are for tying their own laces. Arguably it contributes to what makes them so fragile in the first place.
There are narrowboat channels out there where people are building/re-building entire boats from scratch. It's really inspiring stuff and a blissfully refreshing white-knight free zone!
Hey Sammy, in the mental health world we call it "low mood "because depression has to be diagnosed. Maybe Cal has been diagnosed with depression. We only ever see a tiny dot of what people are going through and why, so compassion is vital. At the end of the day were all going through what were going through and these comments are helping me. They make me feel part of a community. Kindness costs nothing but can touch hearts and that has happened here. I also agree, there is so much inspiring stuff happening with people building their boats from scratch and doing amazing things! Humans are awesome, and so are you.
@@wellbeingonwater I agree. "Low mood" is a far healthier perspective on the subject. And it's within a perfectly normal range of responses to the world. It would be extraordinarily odd if we were going around high as a kite on happiness in every scenario we encounter. Regrettably a lot of modern thinking seems to run counter to this, with fairly inevitable consequences.
PS thanks for implying I'm not human. Lol!
@@sammyb1651 oops deffo not my intention!
you are an amazing person may, keep your chin up xxx
Thank you, big hugs xx
Wow you made a awesome job of that bow great vlog hope your doing ok now 😊
I'm back to my normal self now 🙏
"feelings need to be felt" yes, yes they do. Unfortunately life does not allow everything to be perfect 24/7. Don't hold things in and let them stew, let it out. You ever notice after a good sobbing cry how much better you feel or at least the problem that drove you to cry in the 1st place seems less of a big deal? Hang in there, life is a cycle of good times and bad times. :)
Thanks Martin! Yes riding those waves. I do love a good cry into a pillow its like a weight gets lifted! Thanks for being here x
@@wellbeingonwater It was very brave of you to make a video like that for all too see and bear witness to and share your emotions and feelings. I can't help but think after you posted the video you may have been thinking OH GOD! should I have done that? The answer is a resounding yes. Despite you being at a low, this wonderful and emotional video will have raised a lot of people out of there own moments of darkness and despair.
thanks for sharing your truth. Sail on !
Thanks for showing up in the comments! 😀
I hope you can solve your Warter problem and please keep smiling I know what you are going through all the best from Chris
Thanks Chris, sending hugs your way.
You are such an amazing person also how do you manage to still look stunning covered in dust
I think you should look up the definition of stunning! haaa. thanks for being here !
@@wellbeingonwater lol
Very profound vid gal takes an inner strength to open up to the world like I have just seen but I'm known as a good judge of character your strong gal you will survive Now that is an ORDER by the way get her out asap and sort your leak with a welder I know I sound like your dad Cheers n beers Marty Australia
Yes mam, 🫡 ☺️🤗 cheers and beers!!!
Seeing you with tool 😊 I'd hug you let me know when your near Leyland Preston
Isnt that really far north?
I'm in North West Campervan is near enough finished so I'll be down you way soon 😍 I'll take you out lift your spirits
Bless you May. What a difficult video to make and watch. I applaud you for showing all sides. I found Narrowboat vids during lockdown when my mental health was having its toughest battle to date ( for several reasons) but have recovered well but still have the scars which show every now and then . I love what you are doing and find your videos uplifting and motivational even for a 50 something chap. I admire your lifestyle and you jest for life so keep doing what your doing. . P. S. Havent got any advice on hole in the boat but there is the Song ' Theres a hole in my bucket dear Liza" you could ref 😆😆. Sending a hug and positive vibes 🤗 ❤🍷x
Hey rich! I did reply to this a while ago but I think there has been a glitch.. thank you so much for your lovely support and kindness. Its very uplifting to have people like you connect and share their thoughts. Big hugs 🤗
I count you as a friend ( if that doesn't sound too strange) and that's down to your honest personality. Connections so important isn't it even if we're happy in our skin. I paint and sketch outdoors and love it but it can be a bit solitary if you don't have any friends that share that skill so I'm starting a facebook group to ask local people to group together get out there and enjoy it as a social event. That's my way out of isolation that and exercise. You're great anyway!
Not weird at all. I think when one puts themselves out there as much as I sometimes do, many people feel like they know me well. Thats a great idea! Facebook groups are awesome for the isolated. Youre always welcome to join me every Wednesday for our yoga for mental health session. Its super slow and relaxing!
You're tough, bold + resilient May. Like your boat! Being good at maintaining balance between +/- moods. Or dealing with swinging between different conditions. Recognising this and using it is powerful. Do you think going from one environment to another (Scotland - back at home) gave you a fresh perspective or new understanding? I've avoided alot in my life as a coping mechanism. Maybe 20-30 years of doing so. Only this year did i understand this fully and wow did it open my eyes?! Like i had tons of painful stuff i had side stepped or leap frogged, to keep that forward momentum ticking over. However i could never hit top speed or full flow with the weight of heavy emotion unaddressed, hanging on my head.
Always keep looking forward and make sure you always have something fun to look forward to. Prioritise the important, but always make time for the things less insignificant, to break up the rigidity. The little things. This adaptability is why i think you are so appreciated. Excellent video and be proud of your great work!
Hey Seb, thanks for this comment and sharing a piece of you with us. Your thoughts and ideas to help with mental health is great stuff. We all need this kind of wisdom in our lives. I love how you've linked my resilience with my boats - that will stick! Sending hugs
Finding the right balance. Like breathing and holding a difficult position in Yoga i suppose. Inhale/exhale. Ying + Yang. Everything in moderation, even moderation itself. There is no up, without the down and visa versa. The same goes with showing the vulnerable sides of ourselves, along with our strong, confident, positive characteristics. One doesnt exist without the other and there is nothing frightening about discovering this. Often realising our weaknesses or less desirable attributes, and letting others see them can be the lessons that are most freeing +empowering. Hugs to you too! Have a brilliant day!
Hey lovely, keepin it real. It sounded like you were punishing yourself, a bit of self destruct. I thought you handled it well but want to give you several hugs till you found your strength again 💚
Hey lovely, yeah I guess I was feeling that. I'm feeling much better now, needed that time to just feel crappy. Sending love
Thank you for sharing your feelings and experience 😊sending 🤗 nice video 😊wear a mask when grinding 😊
Thank you! big hug back to yooooou. 😀
Keep up the good work!
Thanks pal 😀 much love
I love that you tackle the problem/ projects I do a lot of welding and for sanding/grinding I use a flap disk on my grinder. ( never mind I am a idiot I see u used one ) Great job Love the vids
Thanks jimmy! Yes loving flap discs at the mo! Should get a repeat subscription from screwfix! 😀
@@wellbeingonwater someone already commented on the needle gun …. They work great. Keep up the great work!