Ya I don't think there's anyone I could have "brocode" with or be my wingman. I realised I might have pushed people anyway unknowingly and so I tried to take a different approach by reaching out to people instead of waiting to be reached out. Yet somehow, I always feel like Im being ghosted and don't feel like they're interested in maintaining the friendship (They can post ig stories hanging out with other people). I don't know why it always feels like I'm in a one-sided friendship and it sucks. So much as I tried to be understanding (People are busy and tired) , it gets exhausting to keep having to go through this. The moment I stopped reaching out, I rarely hear from anyone or have anyone that checks in on me. I'm just conflicted at this point and sometimes this just makes me wonder if I am the problem
Overall an interesting convo. This an arguably sexist framing of the question tho (which one would never use concerning females) and seems to presuppose that men “suck” at maintaining friendships? All over the world we’ve seen great examples of male friendships, in so many sporting arenas (have you read the letter Federer wrote for Nadal recently?) and during military service/War (where loyalty is tested to the highest degree). Even on the day-to-day I don’t see how male friendships are worse off than female friendships so it’s strange to craft a question like this placing the burden of debunking it on men. The convo ultimately took a good turn thankfully cus the male guest explained it quite well and in good humour (whereas Sonia initially seemed to use a female perspective alone to judge how friendships should be maintained), but the starting point and title was just strange.
In my experience its the females that is bad at it. they fight over small things and then just stopped talking to each other. Or they start to care more about their partner and neglect the others or they find others that want to party and have fun and then start to spend more time instead then their own friends. For men its very different, we tend to filter out who is worth our time and who isn't. we also filter out who is doing better in life and who wants to do better in life compared to who isn't. Those who gave up on life and those who keep screwing things up, we will help a few times but after that we will just move on as we have more important things going on. We men tend to navigate ourselves and wants to surround ourselves with people who has the same mindset. and also we don't break friendships easily. we argue and we fight but then we will quickly resolve things and get back on track. But still at the end of the day, it really depends on individual and the people you hang around with.
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Ya I don't think there's anyone I could have "brocode" with or be my wingman. I realised I might have pushed people anyway unknowingly and so I tried to take a different approach by reaching out to people instead of waiting to be reached out. Yet somehow, I always feel like Im being ghosted and don't feel like they're interested in maintaining the friendship (They can post ig stories hanging out with other people). I don't know why it always feels like I'm in a one-sided friendship and it sucks. So much as I tried to be understanding (People are busy and tired) , it gets exhausting to keep having to go through this. The moment I stopped reaching out, I rarely hear from anyone or have anyone that checks in on me. I'm just conflicted at this point and sometimes this just makes me wonder if I am the problem
Overall an interesting convo. This an arguably sexist framing of the question tho (which one would never use concerning females) and seems to presuppose that men “suck” at maintaining friendships? All over the world we’ve seen great examples of male friendships, in so many sporting arenas (have you read the letter Federer wrote for Nadal recently?) and during military service/War (where loyalty is tested to the highest degree).
Even on the day-to-day I don’t see how male friendships are worse off than female friendships so it’s strange to craft a question like this placing the burden of debunking it on men.
The convo ultimately took a good turn thankfully cus the male guest explained it quite well and in good humour (whereas Sonia initially seemed to use a female perspective alone to judge how friendships should be maintained), but the starting point and title was just strange.
In my experience its the females that is bad at it. they fight over small things and then just stopped talking to each other. Or they start to care more about their partner and neglect the others or they find others that want to party and have fun and then start to spend more time instead then their own friends.
For men its very different, we tend to filter out who is worth our time and who isn't. we also filter out who is doing better in life and who wants to do better in life compared to who isn't. Those who gave up on life and those who keep screwing things up, we will help a few times but after that we will just move on as we have more important things going on. We men tend to navigate ourselves and wants to surround ourselves with people who has the same mindset. and also we don't break friendships easily. we argue and we fight but then we will quickly resolve things and get back on track. But still at the end of the day, it really depends on individual and the people you hang around with.