@@johnp139 it's a cost that pays for itself down the road. I don't have kids but know my taxes go towards public school. And besides, your argument could be said about anything: "Why should I pay for YOUR CHOICE TO DRIVE ON THE INTERSTATE"
@@lukerinderknecht2982Agreed-people can act so selfish, all while being misinformed. In Canada parental leave comes from employment insurance that every employee pays out of each paycheque. Therefore I paid for my parental leave time (18 months @ 33% of my gross) while I was working. Also most employers pay a top up, so you have more incentive to return after your leave.
I don't know why she even mentioned the (1) month. There aren't any federal parental leave laws in the US. Some companies don't even provide medical benefits.
@@Sweet_Dia965 yes, and my point is that in other countries you don’t need to check your handbook because it is law. And her saying (1) month people abroad will assume that’s the law in the US. I’ve had to explain to family members outside the US that maternity leave as a social program is not law. The company I worked for didn’t offer maternity leave. I used the vacation days I had left and quit. In other countries your job will be there waiting for you up to 2 years. And most of that with some sort of pay. We don’t even get (1) day by law.
A good thing to do with any verbal meeting for phone call is to immediately follow up with an email summarizing the meeting and main points such as thanks again for meeting with me this afternoon to discuss XYZ (in this case maternity timeline, leave dates, and task delegation)
@reubenmanzo2054 It is illegal to fire someone solely for being pregnant, but if an employer finds out that you're pregnant and decides that you're a 'liability' then they could come up with some other reason to fire you that they would've never reported before. Basically, they can pretend it's for a different reason and get away with it, which is why it is important to have evidence of when you announced your pregnancy so that you would have evidence in case you need to sue them for pregnancy discrimination.
This comment makes no sense? Like you're dumb and don't believe in maternity leave that allows mother/baby to bond while dealing with recovery and bleeding out of their vaginas for the next month/month and a half, or....? Not sure how it's a joke. You push a baby out and then deal with smelly shit coming out of you for 6 weeks while you get no sleep and then tell me you don't want some time off work. The bad joke is that over 120 countries offer some form of paid parental leave, while the US sits in a *very* small list of countries with no mandate. Makes the leave seems more universal than "American" to me.
@@alycran I mean at that point I'd just call it sick leave (i.e. recovery from a medical procedure). The rest of the world has actual maternity leave which is where you have time off to spend with your baby, not just to recover enough to walk.
@@alicial4857You will need a visa to do that. Official government site is gov.uk I have been over here on a spousal visa since right before the covid lockdowns started for the UK.
@@WhatsIQ employers can claim back statutory maternity pay from the government and anything they pay on top of that is basically an employment benefit. The US is the exception not the rule compared to similar countries (e.g. paid maternity leave is EU law)
It’s not a guarantee. Watching this my reaction was “wow she must have a good job if her boss allows her a month off” The reality for a lot of people is much more different than she’s portraying
@@danika9411Personally, I started signing up for childcare wait-lists when I was probably 10 weeks pregnant. My daughter started full time childcare just before she turned 3 months old. Her "best friend" from that class had been there since was was 6 weeks old.
Yah - my sister was SO nauseous. She could hardly eat and was absolutely miserable. The 2nd trimester was the best. Then it’s hard the 3rd trimester esp since she delivered in August… so hot 🥵
@@patrickmcmahon4536 Pfft please. THAT piece of trash legislation has more holes in it than an american education. I'm not covered by it for multiple reasons, if you work commission you're not covered, if you're freelance you're not covered. It's not REAL maternity leave like every other first world country has, it's the ability to have breaks. Get your head out of your ass.
GET IT IN WRITING!!! Otherwise, they can do illegal things like fire you and get no blow back... You need to be able to prove they knew you were pregnant and requesting FMLA leave. That way you're protected!! ❤
Wait what? She’ll be back back in October after having a baby in September?! If someone gets pregnant in my company (not in the US though) it’s good bye for at least half a year, possibly up to two or three years 😂
You aren't guaranteed maternity leave, let alone paid leave, in the US. I knew a woman who didn't have even a full approved day off. Her labor started while she was working and she had to go back to a physically demanding job still bleeding from giving birth because they'd be homeless if she didn't. Her boss still berated her for "leaving them short staffed" during her labor. Welcome to the USA.
@@feistsorcerer2251 I’m from the US, so I unfortunately get it to an extent, but did her boss just expect her to give birth in the employee bathroom during her lunch break😂😡?!? Maternity policies in the US are dystopian and absurd. I moved abroad and in Chile they have 9 months off (used to be 6), and a bunch of benefits for new moms.
Same lol. I’m subbed to her and I also save and have a folder of my favorite/most needed of her videos (sorry for poor grammar/spelling I’m voice typing)
I get it, I’ve been watching her for a few years I guess and now as I got my first office job this background really helps me to avoid miscommunication. My boss is wonderful tho, so it’s not that hard anyway 😅
Just mad isn't it Just think of all those little one month old American babies going to nursery Over here we can't even adopt a dog until like 8-9 weeks old right?
No kidding! I was working for 3 years at one place when I got pneumonia and the doc said if I didn't take a week off I would die from it. When I told my boss I needed to go home because I had a deadly pneumonia he said "if you go home,you're fired" I told him "fine, I'll be back next week for my last pay and to clear out my station. I'm too sick to clear it out now"
I am one! My assistant told me she’s pregnant and her due date. It’s going to absolutely suck for me since all her work will fall on me. But no matter, I am very pleased for her. And if she is have morning sickness that really can be anytime, I encourage her to work from home.
One thing you didn't mention that's incredibly important is to make sure you request maternity leave in writing, even if you also ask in person. This way if a company does something illegal like eliminate your position before you go on leave, you'll have proof of retaliation and be able to sue.
When I told my boss I was pregnant with my first child she was furious, not happy for me. She was also pregnant, due just 2 weeks before me. Which means we wound both be on maternity leave at the same time. Hurt my feelings and was a bad experience.
That is so wild. I start again after two years of parental leave this coming month. 12 months paid, 12 months unpaid. I hope you get better conditions soon
Always ask for a performance review before you tell them, so that if they fire you after telling them you're pregant you have proof that its not for a "un-related reason"
Wow, I never thought of it that way. Here I was thinking only 70% of women take it bc the other 30% opt to not have children at all, but now that you mention it, it makes much more sense that there are women within the 30% who ARE having children and are unable to take leave 😢
I had to notify before I was ready because my morning sickness was so bad. They were really supportive and I got some extra accommodation while I was so sick. The right time to disclose is different for everyone!
I work in construction. I told my boss the moment I knew I was pregnant. He said “see you in a couple years or so.” The government paid my mat leave. Thank you 🇨🇦
Yes. Seems trying to be fair to both which is understandable. But isn't exactly the reality in country like U.S. where us never having paid maternity leave required by law is by design of colossal wage theft and oppression.
In the US people get so worked up about what happens from conception on, but don't give a shit about mothers or babies after they're born. Also, working up until two weeks before your due date 😢
@@AG-nn8lp That's wild. I don't have kids but my relatives keep having one harrowing pregnancy after another. Makes me think a lot of women need bedrest and more time to focus on prepping their bodies for The Big Day
@@johnp139 Some women need to go on bedrest in their last trimester. You literally can use short-term disability benefits to take paid time off for pregnancy related issues.
DO NOT FOLLOW THIS ADVICE IF YOU WORK IN A PLACE THAT USES ANESTHESIA OR CERTAIN OTHER CHEMICALS AS THEY ARE HARMFUL. In situations such as these it is best to tell your boss right away so you can be taken off rotations/duties that involve these chemicals to ensure that no harm will come to the baby!
In the UK every employee handbook I've read says to inform HR as soon as you find out. Most of us take 6 months maternity leave. It's quite rare to still be at work 2 weeks before due date.
Get this, I was working at a photography studio, and when you're the photographer, there's a ton of bending, moving props, I mean, it almost killed me because I was diabetic. The other photographer there, left 3 days before her due date. She was back two weeks later. Which is ridiculous. She had to actually plan when to be cut open to pull the baby out. Then came to work with an unhealed cesarian. I think they only gave her two weeks of weak pain medicine too, so she only had ibuprofen to take once she got there. There's a whole opioid epidemic where I live, so, anyone who actually needs pain meds can't get them. You only get them if you're on hospice.
I actually never thought of taking charge of a situation like this, and I really liked the last note of saying that we should be the one to let others know. I had recently submitted my resignation when my manager started letting everyone know immediately. That felt a bit uncomfortable and now I realise I could have taken a bit more charge if the situation...
gasping in European... you cannot plan when your baby will decide to come out. Your employer must make sure they are covered for the time you are off. Not to mention no maternity leave...
But sometimes the boss or team leader will guilt trip and gaslight you for not being a "team player" and "taking a vacation" just because you're with child.
Why even have kids?? It's crazy to me the amount of people who will short change their children, giving formula, passing it off to others, why even have a child at all?? They're not meant to be just an expense. If I worked, I wouldn't have children at all, it isn't fair to them.
Nope. And teachers and healthcare workers? They're often bullied into coming back in roughly 2 weeks. To jobs where they could be killed, as in a higher percentage of likelihood, and have very, very limited options and time to pump if they're breastfeeding. It's a shit show.
@@KatieCottinghamjust a question because I'm curious.. Who takes care of the newborn babies, when the mothers are off to work almost immediately? I can't imagine that. Do they pay for a baby sitter? Wouldn't it be cheaper to just stay at home with the baby instead of paying someone to take care of them? In my country (yeah, Europe, Czechia) almost every mother stays home for two years, but you can stretch the parental leave up to almost 4 years, but not many do it for that long. And then at 3 y.o. the child goes to free kindergarten. I just can't imagine going to work right after birth, from the aspect of healing and also because the baby is so small and needs constant attention..
In Germany you get FULLY paid time off six weeks before your due date and eight weeks after your birth. You are legally NOT ALLOWED TO WORK until your kid is 2 months old! Unfortunately, this makes telling your boss even harder in my experience.😢
You should not hesitate to tell your boss that you're pregnant in Germany. As soon as the company knows, you can no longer be fired and are exempt from some more dangerous fields of work. Some bad employers may fire you before you make your pregnancy official if they find out before, so better be quick about it.
My friends had to be jobless after birth because they were not given maternity leave :( that’s terrifying trying to find a new job RIGHT after having a baby.
Don’t forget that depending on what your specific job duties are, you may need to tell them as soon as you find out in order to be reassigned to duties that are safe to perform while pregnant.
If you're in an especially toxic environment, I highly recommend getting the leave squared away with HR first, and then notifying your boss. Even though your boss can't block the leave, the last thing you want when your pregnant is to argue anything about anything lol
I live in New York where parents are entitled to 12weeks paid leave through a state funded program. I took every last minute when my second daughter was born. One of the best decisions I’ve made.
@@johnp139 honestly not that much compared to america, the Middle class actually pays the same or slightly higher taxes, it's the rich people that pay the big ones
@@johnp139 we have higer taxation but this is still worthy easilly, when we dont pay for any education, pills are cheap if you need them, doctors are free, and then pension. even in preschool you pay only for kids food. Then calculate how much it cost if you have to pay it from pocket. i make 10.000 CZK after taxes they take around 2000 from me and 2000 from my employer. Then i have 2400 deduction from taxes every month... so i dont even pay them. but still i get everything, even half year unemployed benefits or 1 years of payed medical leave. and then distabily check, three years of matenity leave... its way better then low taxes but no services
Here in Costa Rica a mother has a minimum obligatory of 4 months off, 100% paid. I work in HR for a big company in the States and it is actually 4 weeks pre-partum and 10 weeks post, and depending on how long you have you been working for the company it can be 0% paid, 60%, or 100% paid, and from what I have heard for the States is a really good deal.
This video could not have shown on my feed at a better time. I am currently 11 weeks pregnant planning on announcing it to everyone in the next week or so. I just got a new job about 2 weeks ago and i hvnt figured out how to tell them or what to say. 😩 wish me luck!
@@johnp139 its no ones business what i do with my personal life. Nor do i care what you think. Im a grown women and i can decide when i am ready to tell anyone.
I had this happen with a new employee while I was the manager. Because she was new, she waited until she was showing. We were so happy for her!! The only thing I wish she would’ve done was provide a specific timeline like this video shows, it would’ve allowed me to plan sooner/better. She didn’t give us dates (aside from general due date, spring) until a month or so before she began her leave. I hope this helps you plan your convo at work & congratulations 🎈🎊🎉
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It’s so sad that you’d have to work until the end of August for a September due date and return by middle of October. You literally went through child birth and are cultivating a tiny human. You deserve more than a freaking month of recovery and bonding!
@evangregory14 Since America has no laws regarding maternity in the workplace or legal protections for pregnant workers, and most of the time, the response is "I don't care that's your actual due date. You will be at work that day. And if you go into labor and your water breaks on my carpet, you're paying to replace it. And I don't care you had a baby yesterday and you're still bleeding. If you're not here today, good luck affording rent this month without your job; hope your baby likes growing up in a cardboard box. I'm not paying your selfish decision to get yourself knocked up."
@@Rachel-fi4scFMLA is a federal law that guarantees 12 weeks maternity leave. The employee’s job and position is protected. And the US just passed the pregnant workers fairness act. It’s not perfect, but it’s not what you’re describing. If you’re being treated like that you need a lawyer.
@@biancarosato5904 FMLA is complicated and isn't always approved. The Pregnant Workers Fairness Act is a good first step, but I foresee companies doing everything they can to get around the laws, just like they do now.
Pregnant workers and new mothers are often treated unfairly and illegally by employers, so it's important to notify your employer 1. In writing, 2. As early as you can. This is to establish a paper trail. There's a US American attorney youtuber who has at least one informative video in that regard. I wish I could remember his name.
The US has a capitalist economy, not a socialist one. She is entitled to up to 12 weeks off under the FMLA. Why should others have to pay for people to not do their jobs?
I got fired for being pregnant. I was a temp and they asked me to come on full time. I said yes and then I found out I was pregnant shortly after. I told them and didn't even get an acknowledgement email from hr for 2.5 weeks. They then told me they couldn't find work for me and ended my contract prematurely. Since I wasn't officially hired on as a full time worker they were able to let me go without consequence.
My jobs handbook said we has 3 months of leave to take care of a new family member but then gave me the run around and back and forth when I tried to take it. The started talking some by about I have to come back after the doc said I am good. But then if it had been an adoption who would tell me when I can come back. It was so miserable that I just left. Didn't know any of my rights back then so I didn't even get unemployment 😓
Yep. Just give them your plan and always keep in mind that the work still needs to get done and to give them as much info as possible so that it can. I told my employer after my probationary period that I had cancer. I proved to them that I was able to do my duties, even working at 200% capacity with overtime when asked as assigned. When it was time for chemo, I gave them ample notice so they could make sure that my position/duties was/is covered. , when I had to go on disability leave, my boss sent me groceries and when my boss’ boss called me into her office she said that she would not accept my resignation and that they would have my back every step of the way. Far cry from other employers who aren’t as professional. ❤
God, this is just heartbreaking 🥺 in Russia you have 2 months before due date paid, then you get good money for those 2 months and another month after you give birth, after that you get paid parental leave for 1,5 years (yeah, the money is not big, but it’s enough, especially if your partner is working too), and then you can stay with your child till he/she is 3yo, and the employer have to keep your job for you, so when you decide to come back you’ll definitely have your job. The pay is covered by employer and the government combined. And also with any child you get paid great amount of money from the government just cause you had a baby, that money can be used either for mortgage or kid’s education. Parental leave can be taken by anyone in the family, mother, father or even a grandparent. And also it’s impossible to fire a pregnant woman even if they didn’t know you’re pregnant. And it’s impossible to fire someone on a parental leave. Just don’t understand why US doesn’t help people to make more tax payers😄
Unfortunately, I'm in a field where I'm regularly participating in taking x-rays. I don't have a choice - I have to notify my boss as soon as I know and there is only one reason someone needs to stop taking radiographs. I love my job and I want a family but I'm dreading the fact that I won't get to control how this information comes out.
Everyone attacking US maternity leave in the comments - come volunteer and work with us to change policy so our country can improve. Us folks working in progressive electoral politics can’t do it all on our own. Thanks
The way these comments are upset about a hypothetical/example of how long maternity leave might be…as if every woman isn’t different, with different living situations, different jobs & different employers
Can you do a video on what to do if you get fired for a different “reason” as soon as you tell them you’re pregnant? I personally know several women who lost their jobs as soon as they told their boss they were pregnant for some made up reason. Whether in office max or a desk job or a restaurant where they all could’ve easily made accommodations
The reason maternity leave is so short in the US is that if we did get a year there would be even more rampant discrimination against women of child bearing age than there is now. You'd have to change the entire American mindest about work rather than just a few laws and policies
Oh man. I'm so sorry this is a thing in America. Guaranteed parental leave should be a thing in a country with so much money. Allowing people time to care for their babies won't ruin your country, promise!
My first pregnancy, my boss asked if my baby was an accident. Pretty much set the tone of the rest of my work life there. Second pregnancy, new boss jumped up and down and was so excited!! That's when I knew I was working in a much better place
Here it's at least 6 weeks prior and 6 or 8 weeks after birth at full pay. After that the parents can take up to 2 years each per kid full out or with a right for part time. 👀 But even here some employers are aholes... 🥴
I'm currently struggling with my employer due to hot working conditions and having my maternity leave reduced! They told me that even if I go on maternity leave for my last month of pregnancy and have my baby on week 5 I'd still be requested to work a week later as I only get 6 weeks of leave :(. I've also been told " I have to understand my symptoms do not just come from the heat" when explaining that the working conditions are having a negative effect on me. I'm currently in my third trimester and cannot tolerate the 85 plus environment I work in like I used to. I'm worried I'm not being taken seriously because of my age and I'm not sure who to go to about this issue. 😢
I told my bosses as soon as I found out so that way if I had morning sickness or other issues they would know what was going on. And if the unthinkable would of happened (a miscarriage), then I would of been able to take the time off I needed to recuperate physically and mentally with their support instead of trying to explain it after the fact.
I told my boss at around 9 weeks because I was experiencing morning sickness and he'd historically been a great advocate in the workplace for me so I trusted him. My company allows for bereavement leave for pregnancy losses so I felt comfortable sharing for that reason too. I didn't tell HR until about 20 weeks though because most of my colleagues waited until about that time to share. Their reasoning was that sharing HR was mostly just for planning timelines for parental leave since we get a pretty decent package for U.S. standards (12 weeks full pay + 6 weeks at 75% pay if I recall correctly) and we're allowed to take the leave anytime within 12 months after birth or adoption though most take leave right after the birth or adoption.
A few things: I would mention it right away to your boss or whoever is accommodating you. Sickness can happen at any time and you want the options ahead of time. I was able to WFH on days I was really sick. Also, if you have questionable working conditions (working with harsh chemicals, heavy lifting, etc) you'll want to stop doing those immediately to keep you and baby safe. Most importantly, advocate for yourself. Ask your doctor for advise or even notes for work so they have to accommodate according to doctor's orders. If you feel uncomfortable consult HR or anyone else who has been through it before.
In my years working for 3 different school districts i learned one thing. Teachers time their pregnancy to either miss the last 2 months or the first 2 months of the school year. Of all the teachers who were pregnant i never saw one that had a baby over the summer break!!!
In the US you get 3 months of job protection. There's no law that it has to be paid so it is unpaid for most. And it starts when you take off (so if you take off 2 week before due date then you get 2 months and 2 weeks to heal and for baby bonding). Accommodations can be made, but some professions can't really accommodate you due to the nature of the job. So I'm 38 weeks pregnant working 12 hour shift in the ICU until I give birth. 🙃
I told my boss almost immediately. I had a physical job and felt horrible in the first trimester. I wanted to tell them so I could get accomodations (like not lifting heavy things and getting extra breaks when it was ridiculously hot) and they were so great about making me comfortable.
@@johnp139but the woman in most European countries continue to receive salary while on maternity leave. She is able to survive even with high taxes while woman in US will go back to an average job, not quite healed and maybe still bleeding, with high cost of living and high hospital bills to pay. What about that?
this is great! but unless you have a really really awesome boss who you have complete faith in, make sure you also notify i them in writing (like an email) in case of retaliation.
I trusted a single coworker before I told my boss/anyone else and she spread it like wildfire. This is such an awesome way to break this news and will definitely be my roadmap when I have my next
In some work fields you are REQUIRED to let your boss know immedeatly bc the workplace has rules that make you have to stop working immedeatly or sooner than your maternal leave, also for example in the medical field they need to know so they can take certain precautions
Do you guys only take a month of mat leave??😱 I'm in Canada and we get at least 52 weeks paid, but it can be more if need be! And it can be split between parents in whatever way the parents decide! How do you heal/ breast feed/ bond / see all of the firsts if it's only a month off? I'm flabbergasted 😱.
@@johnp139 nah, my taxes aren't too bad! Over all, mid- high income Canadians pay about $100- 150/ month for over all health care each year in April! For students / low income earners they don't pay for Healthcare through taxes! We have a system called MCP, and we all get a card to show at the hospital/ doctor's office etc and we are covered! I'm back in school now, in my 30s, and I got money back this past April! Edit: We can also get service at any hospital/ doctor across the country by showing them our MCP card
@@allie.purpleWe also get child tax based on income and we pay for our parental leave when we pay into employment insurance out of each paycheque when working.
@@joelee624 yup. I don't know what taxes are like elsewhere but my husband is being taxed 31% of his check. I'm not complaining so much as just voicing that it's true that it is paid for. Someone somewhere has to pay for it. Nothing is free.
yep. this is what i did. it helped that my boss told me his wife was also pregnant when i told him and then my other managers wife was also pregnant, and my coworkers wife had just given birth a few months before
I’m informing you 3 months before i give birth. I don’t need my aptitudes to be questioned more than it should be just because you found out I’m pregnant. 2 months is more than enough to get my task delegated appropriately maternity/ paternity leave is 16 to 18 weeks now . Will take 4 weeks before delivery and 14 weeks after delivery.
Pretty sure there are no conservative policies requiring American hospitals to be decades behind following modern medical advice. In America women are still told things like they should push on their back and not eat while in labor. Modern medical systems most everywhere else stopped doing that forever ago. Also doesn’t explain why European countries like Poland, which are way more conservative than America, also have lower maternal death rates.
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Yeah, if you're in the U.S... Good for you if you can afford 2 months off of work. Employers are legally obligated to protect your job for this span of time, but you'll be lucky if you actually get paid. My company just sent a notification out to employees bragging about a two week maternity leave policy. It takes 6 weeks for a woman's body to even heal after birth.
@@johnp139 I feel good about paying high taxes that I actually benefit from. I feel good not being afraid to call an ambulance or get necessary medical treatment. I feel good about having workers rights. That mindless patriotism will get you nowhere. Especially if you get ill or have a bad accident that will eat up your savings in literal months. The US government is letting their citizens down, and they don't even see it. I don't claim to live in the perfect society, to have a perfect government and perfect laws, but it's sure as hell way better than the USA.
WRITE IT DOWN Employers are notorious for firing pregnant people. Make sure you send it in writing too to make sure you've got your paper trail just in case
In the US, you get FMLA leave, which means you can take up to 12 weeks without them being able to replace/fire you. However, to qualify, you have to be with an employer for a certain amount of time, and that time may or may not be paid.
My mom had to quit her job as soon as she got pregnant, which she found out she was pregnant on week 12, which was because her first pregnancy was quadruplets,which I was one of them, my mom had to quit and couldn’t do a 2 week notice cuz she had to go on bed rest, and she didn’t start working again until I was going into Kindergarten and my younger sister was going into Preschool, I highly doubt that even if she was able to get maternity leave, she wouldn’t be able to get it with the first pregnancy specifically cuz she had to stay in bed, so my dad was the only one working until I was going into Kindergarten and my younger sister was going into Preschool
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The United States' lack of guaranteed parental leave is embarrassing
WHY should I pay for YOUR CHOICE OF HAVING KIDS?!?!?!
@@johnp139How is guaranteed parental leave making you pay for “MY CHOICE OF HAVING CHILDREN”. Guaranteed parental leave is not paid by taxes.
@@johnp139 it's a cost that pays for itself down the road. I don't have kids but know my taxes go towards public school. And besides, your argument could be said about anything: "Why should I pay for YOUR CHOICE TO DRIVE ON THE INTERSTATE"
@@lukerinderknecht2982Agreed-people can act so selfish, all while being misinformed. In Canada parental leave comes from employment insurance that every employee pays out of each paycheque. Therefore I paid for my parental leave time (18 months @ 33% of my gross) while I was working. Also most employers pay a top up, so you have more incentive to return after your leave.
@@johnp139because it's no longer my choice?
The US is really wild when it comes to parental leave...1 month...wow.
Sad huh
I don't know why she even mentioned the (1) month. There aren't any federal parental leave laws in the US. Some companies don't even provide medical benefits.
@CUPCAKE0809 she said to check your employee handbook for their maternity leave policy. Most companies have some sorta leave for full time employees.
@@Sweet_Dia965 yes, and my point is that in other countries you don’t need to check your handbook because it is law. And her saying (1) month people abroad will assume that’s the law in the US. I’ve had to explain to family members outside the US that maternity leave as a social program is not law. The company I worked for didn’t offer maternity leave. I used the vacation days I had left and quit. In other countries your job will be there waiting for you up to 2 years. And most of that with some sort of pay. We don’t even get (1) day by law.
Literally. My mum got 10 months with my brother.
Always notify them in writing - not verbally. If you tell them verbally, they can deny they knew before they fired you.
A good thing to do with any verbal meeting for phone call is to immediately follow up with an email summarizing the meeting and main points such as thanks again for meeting with me this afternoon to discuss XYZ (in this case maternity timeline, leave dates, and task delegation)
Honestly Erin should pin this, it's so important.
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Notify by email as well to leave a trace in case your employer suddenly decides he wants to fire you for unrelated reason.
Thats why a followup email summarizing the conversation is so important.
Isn't that criminal misconduct?
@reubenmanzo2054 It is illegal to fire someone solely for being pregnant, but if an employer finds out that you're pregnant and decides that you're a 'liability' then they could come up with some other reason to fire you that they would've never reported before. Basically, they can pretend it's for a different reason and get away with it, which is why it is important to have evidence of when you announced your pregnancy so that you would have evidence in case you need to sue them for pregnancy discrimination.
@@nuclearabominationor in other words, pregnant women should not think they can behave in questionable ways and be immune from being fired.
Wtf a month maternity leave??? You get up to 3 years PAID in my country 😂
in the US it’s up to the company and local laws! So it really varies and usually isn’t great 🫠 what country do you live in and who pays for it?
But not with 100% of your pay. Where do you live?
omg where do you live?
@@laur83 definitely somewhere in europe
3 years? Paid? 😮
Calling 8 weeks off around the time you have a baby "Maternity Leave" is the most American thing I have heard today.
What else would you call it?
@@alycran a bad joke
This comment makes no sense? Like you're dumb and don't believe in maternity leave that allows mother/baby to bond while dealing with recovery and bleeding out of their vaginas for the next month/month and a half, or....?
Not sure how it's a joke. You push a baby out and then deal with smelly shit coming out of you for 6 weeks while you get no sleep and then tell me you don't want some time off work.
The bad joke is that over 120 countries offer some form of paid parental leave, while the US sits in a *very* small list of countries with no mandate. Makes the leave seems more universal than "American" to me.
@@alycran I mean at that point I'd just call it sick leave (i.e. recovery from a medical procedure). The rest of the world has actual maternity leave which is where you have time off to spend with your baby, not just to recover enough to walk.
@@HomicidalSerenity Then people who want to live in Socialist countries can move to one of them. Otherwise take care of yourself AND YOUR KIDS!!!
American maternity leave is insane 😭 in the UK, you'd be going back October the next year 😭
Wow. If I ever have kids, I'll probably want to live in the UK, then, unless the US does something about its parental leave.
@@alicial4857You will need a visa to do that. Official government site is gov.uk I have been over here on a spousal visa since right before the covid lockdowns started for the UK.
UK maternity leave is insane how tf are you gonna take a whole year off and have the company still pay you for doing no work
@@WhatsIQ employers can claim back statutory maternity pay from the government and anything they pay on top of that is basically an employment benefit. The US is the exception not the rule compared to similar countries (e.g. paid maternity leave is EU law)
@@michaelalr Government shouldn't exist and anything the government does is evil
it's absolutely wild how short maternity leave is in the US
It’s not a guarantee.
Watching this my reaction was “wow she must have a good job if her boss allows her a month off”
The reality for a lot of people is much more different than she’s portraying
@@raspberrycandy1778 in my country, mothers get three years maternity leave in total
@@raspberrycandy1778 In my homecountry you get up to 3 years.... Most take 2 years. What do you do with your children???
@@danika9411Personally, I started signing up for childcare wait-lists when I was probably 10 weeks pregnant. My daughter started full time childcare just before she turned 3 months old. Her "best friend" from that class had been there since was was 6 weeks old.
@@whisperwillows The US is NOT a SOCIALIST country!!! If THAT’s what you WANT, then MOVE to a Socialist country!!!
If you are also having a rough first trimester you can inform your boss and get accommodations if needed.
Yah - my sister was SO nauseous. She could hardly eat and was absolutely miserable. The 2nd trimester was the best. Then it’s hard the 3rd trimester esp since she delivered in August… so hot 🥵
Maybe. Depending on what state you live in. And your job. If you're lucky.
@@patrickmcmahon4536
Pfft please. THAT piece of trash legislation has more holes in it than an american education.
I'm not covered by it for multiple reasons, if you work commission you're not covered, if you're freelance you're not covered.
It's not REAL maternity leave like every other first world country has, it's the ability to have breaks.
Get your head out of your ass.
In America 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They treat women worse than animals. Including pregnant women.
@@patrickmcmahon4536 That would have been nice for me LAST June when I was forced to continue hoisting 40lb bags of dog food 😖 Lol.
GET IT IN WRITING!!!
Otherwise, they can do illegal things like fire you and get no blow back... You need to be able to prove they knew you were pregnant and requesting FMLA leave. That way you're protected!! ❤
Wait what? She’ll be back back in October after having a baby in September?! If someone gets pregnant in my company (not in the US though) it’s good bye for at least half a year, possibly up to two or three years 😂
Yeah we don't get that kind of time off for anything in America
That’s why your country sucks. WE PAY for people to WORK, NOT TO HAVE BABIES!!!
I’ve jsit had a year off and only returning 1 day working from home for now
You aren't guaranteed maternity leave, let alone paid leave, in the US. I knew a woman who didn't have even a full approved day off. Her labor started while she was working and she had to go back to a physically demanding job still bleeding from giving birth because they'd be homeless if she didn't. Her boss still berated her for "leaving them short staffed" during her labor. Welcome to the USA.
@@feistsorcerer2251 I’m from the US, so I unfortunately get it to an extent, but did her boss just expect her to give birth in the employee bathroom during her lunch break😂😡?!? Maternity policies in the US are dystopian and absurd. I moved abroad and in Chile they have 9 months off (used to be 6), and a bunch of benefits for new moms.
I’m not even in college yet and I still watch these videos lol. I’ll be coming back here a few years from now.
Yeah me too😅
me three
Same lol. I’m subbed to her and I also save and have a folder of my favorite/most needed of her videos (sorry for poor grammar/spelling I’m voice typing)
I get it, I’ve been watching her for a few years I guess and now as I got my first office job this background really helps me to avoid miscommunication. My boss is wonderful tho, so it’s not that hard anyway 😅
Only 1 month maternity leave!?!? I'm so grateful for living in the UK with a full year leave!
In the US there are no maternity leave laws. This (1) month is her company being generous.
Just mad isn't it
Just think of all those little one month old American babies going to nursery
Over here we can't even adopt a dog until like 8-9 weeks old right?
@@sssophie9292 How about 1 parent staying home with the kid?
That’s why pay is higher and taxes are lower in the US. If you want to take a year off, then SAVE UP FOR IT!
@@johnp139what does saving up have to do with maternity leave?
I’ve never seen these supportive bosses in real life no matter where I’ve worked
Thanks yes 😂
No boss is supportive! You always need to cover yourself. They will only look out for themselves.
Ikr
No kidding! I was working for 3 years at one place when I got pneumonia and the doc said if I didn't take a week off I would die from it. When I told my boss I needed to go home because I had a deadly pneumonia he said "if you go home,you're fired"
I told him "fine, I'll be back next week for my last pay and to clear out my station. I'm too sick to clear it out now"
I am one! My assistant told me she’s pregnant and her due date. It’s going to absolutely suck for me since all her work will fall on me. But no matter, I am very pleased for her. And if she is have morning sickness that really can be anytime, I encourage her to work from home.
One thing you didn't mention that's incredibly important is to make sure you request maternity leave in writing, even if you also ask in person. This way if a company does something illegal like eliminate your position before you go on leave, you'll have proof of retaliation and be able to sue.
Exactly
When I told my boss I was pregnant with my first child she was furious, not happy for me. She was also pregnant, due just 2 weeks before me. Which means we wound both be on maternity leave at the same time. Hurt my feelings and was a bad experience.
What a b*tch. Being mad that someone is pregnant when you literally are yourself is giving “you can’t have the same birthday as me”
How could someone be married to such a trashy person
That is so wild. I start again after two years of parental leave this coming month. 12 months paid, 12 months unpaid. I hope you get better conditions soon
The US will never give good conditions, or fair treatment to its citizens unfortunately
Always ask for a performance review before you tell them, so that if they fire you after telling them you're pregant you have proof that its not for a "un-related reason"
The fact that only 70% of women take leave is….. horrifying 😢
Wow, I never thought of it that way. Here I was thinking only 70% of women take it bc the other 30% opt to not have children at all, but now that you mention it, it makes much more sense that there are women within the 30% who ARE having children and are unable to take leave 😢
Not 100% of women have children or are employed! :)
@@AdviceWithErinHey Erin! As a self employed person, how much time would you take off, or how do you recommend freelancers plan for maternity leave?
@@AdviceWithErin oh i understand now! i think op may have misunderstood the same way i did, that it was 70% of pregnant women who took maternity leave
My mom went into labor with me at work. 😂
I had to notify before I was ready because my morning sickness was so bad. They were really supportive and I got some extra accommodation while I was so sick. The right time to disclose is different for everyone!
I work in construction. I told my boss the moment I knew I was pregnant. He said “see you in a couple years or so.” The government paid my mat leave. Thank you 🇨🇦
Leach
it's not the government that paid for it
it's your employment insurance
@@johnp139if you're going to insult someone, its spelled *leech
@@jarjarbinx79 right maybe your slow. Look to see where employment insurance comes from. I swear you guys just think money appears out of no where
The “tell, don’t ask” is one of the best tips I have ever learned for many different situations.
You have a very optimistic view on how the boss will react.
Yes. Seems trying to be fair to both which is understandable. But isn't exactly the reality in country like U.S. where us never having paid maternity leave required by law is by design of colossal wage theft and oppression.
In the US people get so worked up about what happens from conception on, but don't give a shit about mothers or babies after they're born. Also, working up until two weeks before your due date 😢
I worked all of my pregnancy. No time off before. Literally went to work and that Saturday was induced.
@@AG-nn8lp That's wild. I don't have kids but my relatives keep having one harrowing pregnancy after another. Makes me think a lot of women need bedrest and more time to focus on prepping their bodies for The Big Day
Pregnancy is not an illness or disability!
@@johnp139but mothers deserve the right to breastfeed their babies and bond with the baby
@@johnp139 Some women need to go on bedrest in their last trimester. You literally can use short-term disability benefits to take paid time off for pregnancy related issues.
DO NOT FOLLOW THIS ADVICE IF YOU WORK IN A PLACE THAT USES ANESTHESIA OR CERTAIN OTHER CHEMICALS AS THEY ARE HARMFUL. In situations such as these it is best to tell your boss right away so you can be taken off rotations/duties that involve these chemicals to ensure that no harm will come to the baby!
We need to fix paternity and maternity leave in the US. now!
You need a bit of socialism, what we have in Europe, every worker right, was conquered with blood thanks to socialist workers and parties
You can fix it by leaving the US and moving to a socialist country!
Stop it its not only us in switzerland we have also 4 weeks
@@Anlin00 in Switzerland it's literally 98 days
@@giulianopisciottano8302 its not wtf? We have 4 weeks after the baby nobody has 98 🤣thats germany
In the UK every employee handbook I've read says to inform HR as soon as you find out. Most of us take 6 months maternity leave. It's quite rare to still be at work 2 weeks before due date.
Ikr.. That should be the case for every country
Get this, I was working at a photography studio, and when you're the photographer, there's a ton of bending, moving props, I mean, it almost killed me because I was diabetic. The other photographer there, left 3 days before her due date. She was back two weeks later. Which is ridiculous. She had to actually plan when to be cut open to pull the baby out. Then came to work with an unhealed cesarian. I think they only gave her two weeks of weak pain medicine too, so she only had ibuprofen to take once she got there. There's a whole opioid epidemic where I live, so, anyone who actually needs pain meds can't get them. You only get them if you're on hospice.
I actually never thought of taking charge of a situation like this, and I really liked the last note of saying that we should be the one to let others know. I had recently submitted my resignation when my manager started letting everyone know immediately. That felt a bit uncomfortable and now I realise I could have taken a bit more charge if the situation...
Yeah we have to be very strong and assertive or the bosses will push us around and take advantage
Make sure to get it to them in writing too.
gasping in European... you cannot plan when your baby will decide to come out. Your employer must make sure they are covered for the time you are off. Not to mention no maternity leave...
Um, yeah, you really CAN PLAN!!!! Add 9 months to unprotected sex!!!!
But sometimes the boss or team leader will guilt trip and gaslight you for not being a "team player" and "taking a vacation" just because you're with child.
That’s exactly what you are doing!!! Why should you be getting paid if you aren’t working?!?
@@johnp139Honey, go take a nap. Spamming other people's comments is not gonna make you right or less grouchy.
Well I got some bad news for you. You aren't being a team player if you are taking time off from work, and making it your company's problem.
Why even have kids?? It's crazy to me the amount of people who will short change their children, giving formula, passing it off to others, why even have a child at all?? They're not meant to be just an expense. If I worked, I wouldn't have children at all, it isn't fair to them.
Omg Oct 23!!! I hope many of you will have access to more!!
Nope. And teachers and healthcare workers? They're often bullied into coming back in roughly 2 weeks. To jobs where they could be killed, as in a higher percentage of likelihood, and have very, very limited options and time to pump if they're breastfeeding. It's a shit show.
We don't 🫠
Nope, The poorest Americans have nothing and can’t afford any time off and are regularly back to work in just days even after a c-section.
@@KatieCottinghamjust a question because I'm curious.. Who takes care of the newborn babies, when the mothers are off to work almost immediately? I can't imagine that. Do they pay for a baby sitter? Wouldn't it be cheaper to just stay at home with the baby instead of paying someone to take care of them? In my country (yeah, Europe, Czechia) almost every mother stays home for two years, but you can stretch the parental leave up to almost 4 years, but not many do it for that long. And then at 3 y.o. the child goes to free kindergarten. I just can't imagine going to work right after birth, from the aspect of healing and also because the baby is so small and needs constant attention..
In Germany you get FULLY paid time off six weeks before your due date and eight weeks after your birth. You are legally NOT ALLOWED TO WORK until your kid is 2 months old! Unfortunately, this makes telling your boss even harder in my experience.😢
You should not hesitate to tell your boss that you're pregnant in Germany. As soon as the company knows, you can no longer be fired and are exempt from some more dangerous fields of work.
Some bad employers may fire you before you make your pregnancy official if they find out before, so better be quick about it.
In Australia maternity leave usually is a year or more. Wow, I can't imagine having a baby and being back the next month.
My friends had to be jobless after birth because they were not given maternity leave :( that’s terrifying trying to find a new job RIGHT after having a baby.
They should have thought about that BEFORE GETTING PREGNANT!!!
Don’t forget that depending on what your specific job duties are, you may need to tell them as soon as you find out in order to be reassigned to duties that are safe to perform while pregnant.
NOTIFY IN WRITING! A paper trail is CRITICAL. In the event they try to retaliate, you can easily prove wrongful termination.
If you're in an especially toxic environment, I highly recommend getting the leave squared away with HR first, and then notifying your boss. Even though your boss can't block the leave, the last thing you want when your pregnant is to argue anything about anything lol
I live in New York where parents are entitled to 12weeks paid leave through a state funded program. I took every last minute when my second daughter was born. One of the best decisions I’ve made.
12 weeks is still not enough
That’s why NY has one of the highest tax rates.
@@johnp139 the pfl tax is .455%
And it’s 100% funded by that tax.
In Canada it would be October of the next year if you can squeeze in some vacation time 🙌🏼
Maybe I should move to Canada
@@alycranin most of Europe is like that, even in china mothers get 98 days
That’s why your taxes are so high.
@@johnp139 honestly not that much compared to america, the Middle class actually pays the same or slightly higher taxes, it's the rich people that pay the big ones
@@johnp139 we have higer taxation but this is still worthy easilly, when we dont pay for any education, pills are cheap if you need them, doctors are free, and then pension. even in preschool you pay only for kids food. Then calculate how much it cost if you have to pay it from pocket. i make 10.000 CZK after taxes they take around 2000 from me and 2000 from my employer. Then i have 2400 deduction from taxes every month... so i dont even pay them. but still i get everything, even half year unemployed benefits or 1 years of payed medical leave. and then distabily check, three years of matenity leave... its way better then low taxes but no services
Here in Costa Rica a mother has a minimum obligatory of 4 months off, 100% paid.
I work in HR for a big company in the States and it is actually 4 weeks pre-partum and 10 weeks post, and depending on how long you have you been working for the company it can be 0% paid, 60%, or 100% paid, and from what I have heard for the States is a really good deal.
This video could not have shown on my feed at a better time. I am currently 11 weeks pregnant planning on announcing it to everyone in the next week or so. I just got a new job about 2 weeks ago and i hvnt figured out how to tell them or what to say. 😩 wish me luck!
That’s so selfish.
@@johnp139 its no ones business what i do with my personal life. Nor do i care what you think. Im a grown women and i can decide when i am ready to tell anyone.
@@johnp139how? people need money and its not like shes never coming back to the job
congrats! im wishing a smooth pregnancy for you 💓
I had this happen with a new employee while I was the manager. Because she was new, she waited until she was showing. We were so happy for her!! The only thing I wish she would’ve done was provide a specific timeline like this video shows, it would’ve allowed me to plan sooner/better. She didn’t give us dates (aside from general due date, spring) until a month or so before she began her leave. I hope this helps you plan your convo at work & congratulations 🎈🎊🎉
Each time I watch your shorts, I am so happy I already subscribed to your channel while I'm still a college student. Co'z most of the videos I searched about job, or anything surrounding the job, it's always repeated, and it's only like a pointers on what to do, not how to do. Yours made everything easier rjvfjcksk
It’s so sad that you’d have to work until the end of August for a September due date and return by middle of October. You literally went through child birth and are cultivating a tiny human. You deserve more than a freaking month of recovery and bonding!
No one is making her work.
This is a "perfect world" scenario.
Since when is a month of maternity leave a "perfect world".
@evangregory14
Since America has no laws regarding maternity in the workplace or legal protections for pregnant workers, and most of the time, the response is "I don't care that's your actual due date. You will be at work that day. And if you go into labor and your water breaks on my carpet, you're paying to replace it. And I don't care you had a baby yesterday and you're still bleeding. If you're not here today, good luck affording rent this month without your job; hope your baby likes growing up in a cardboard box. I'm not paying your selfish decision to get yourself knocked up."
@@evangregory14when u live in America
@@Rachel-fi4scFMLA is a federal law that guarantees 12 weeks maternity leave. The employee’s job and position is protected. And the US just passed the pregnant workers fairness act. It’s not perfect, but it’s not what you’re describing. If you’re being treated like that you need a lawyer.
@@biancarosato5904 FMLA is complicated and isn't always approved. The Pregnant Workers Fairness Act is a good first step, but I foresee companies doing everything they can to get around the laws, just like they do now.
Pregnant workers and new mothers are often treated unfairly and illegally by employers, so it's important to notify your employer 1. In writing, 2. As early as you can. This is to establish a paper trail. There's a US American attorney youtuber who has at least one informative video in that regard. I wish I could remember his name.
4-6 weeks roughly for maternity leave? Women in America deserve better maternity leave.
The US has a capitalist economy, not a socialist one. She is entitled to up to 12 weeks off under the FMLA. Why should others have to pay for people to not do their jobs?
I got fired for being pregnant. I was a temp and they asked me to come on full time. I said yes and then I found out I was pregnant shortly after. I told them and didn't even get an acknowledgement email from hr for 2.5 weeks. They then told me they couldn't find work for me and ended my contract prematurely. Since I wasn't officially hired on as a full time worker they were able to let me go without consequence.
My jobs handbook said we has 3 months of leave to take care of a new family member but then gave me the run around and back and forth when I tried to take it. The started talking some by about I have to come back after the doc said I am good. But then if it had been an adoption who would tell me when I can come back. It was so miserable that I just left. Didn't know any of my rights back then so I didn't even get unemployment 😓
Maybe that had more to do with your inability to write.
Yep. Just give them your plan and always keep in mind that the work still needs to get done and to give them as much info as possible so that it can. I told my employer after my probationary period that I had cancer. I proved to them that I was able to do my duties, even working at 200% capacity with overtime when asked as assigned. When it was time for chemo, I gave them ample notice so they could make sure that my position/duties was/is covered. , when I had to go on disability leave, my boss sent me groceries and when my boss’ boss called me into her office she said that she would not accept my resignation and that they would have my back every step of the way. Far cry from other employers who aren’t as professional. ❤
Doing this in 2 weeks, thank you for posting!!
Another day of being thankful for living in a country that cares about people.
You are paying for that, you just don’t see it.
@@johnp139 I live in the the uk we dont
God, this is just heartbreaking 🥺 in Russia you have 2 months before due date paid, then you get good money for those 2 months and another month after you give birth, after that you get paid parental leave for 1,5 years (yeah, the money is not big, but it’s enough, especially if your partner is working too), and then you can stay with your child till he/she is 3yo, and the employer have to keep your job for you, so when you decide to come back you’ll definitely have your job. The pay is covered by employer and the government combined. And also with any child you get paid great amount of money from the government just cause you had a baby, that money can be used either for mortgage or kid’s education. Parental leave can be taken by anyone in the family, mother, father or even a grandparent. And also it’s impossible to fire a pregnant woman even if they didn’t know you’re pregnant. And it’s impossible to fire someone on a parental leave. Just don’t understand why US doesn’t help people to make more tax payers😄
Then they draft your husband and send him to be killed in the Ukraine.
Unfortunately, I'm in a field where I'm regularly participating in taking x-rays. I don't have a choice - I have to notify my boss as soon as I know and there is only one reason someone needs to stop taking radiographs. I love my job and I want a family but I'm dreading the fact that I won't get to control how this information comes out.
And then they figure out another reason to fire you because of at-will employment laws and claim it's totally unrelated to your pregnancy
Everyone attacking US maternity leave in the comments - come volunteer and work with us to change policy so our country can improve. Us folks working in progressive electoral politics can’t do it all on our own. Thanks
No thanks. I don’t want to pay people for not doing their jobs!!!!
The way these comments are upset about a hypothetical/example of how long maternity leave might be…as if every woman isn’t different, with different living situations, different jobs & different employers
Can you do a video on what to do if you get fired for a different “reason” as soon as you tell them you’re pregnant? I personally know several women who lost their jobs as soon as they told their boss they were pregnant for some made up reason. Whether in office max or a desk job or a restaurant where they all could’ve easily made accommodations
The reason maternity leave is so short in the US is that if we did get a year there would be even more rampant discrimination against women of child bearing age than there is now. You'd have to change the entire American mindest about work rather than just a few laws and policies
Oh man. I'm so sorry this is a thing in America. Guaranteed parental leave should be a thing in a country with so much money. Allowing people time to care for their babies won't ruin your country, promise!
They can save up money in a country with so much money.
My first pregnancy, my boss asked if my baby was an accident. Pretty much set the tone of the rest of my work life there. Second pregnancy, new boss jumped up and down and was so excited!! That's when I knew I was working in a much better place
Bine ai revenit, sora noastră roșie! 💖Felicitări pentru noua achiziție! 🙏🏻🥳
Here it's at least 6 weeks prior and 6 or 8 weeks after birth at full pay. After that the parents can take up to 2 years each per kid full out or with a right for part time. 👀
But even here some employers are aholes... 🥴
Where does that money come from?
@@johnp139 from everyone as it should be. ✌
Anyone who has gone through this feel free to leave tips below! ❤
I'm currently struggling with my employer due to hot working conditions and having my maternity leave reduced!
They told me that even if I go on maternity leave for my last month of pregnancy and have my baby on week 5 I'd still be requested to work a week later as I only get 6 weeks of leave :(.
I've also been told " I have to understand my symptoms do not just come from the heat" when explaining that the working conditions are having a negative effect on me. I'm currently in my third trimester and cannot tolerate the 85 plus environment I work in like I used to.
I'm worried I'm not being taken seriously because of my age and I'm not sure who to go to about this issue. 😢
I told my bosses as soon as I found out so that way if I had morning sickness or other issues they would know what was going on. And if the unthinkable would of happened (a miscarriage), then I would of been able to take the time off I needed to recuperate physically and mentally with their support instead of trying to explain it after the fact.
I told my boss at around 9 weeks because I was experiencing morning sickness and he'd historically been a great advocate in the workplace for me so I trusted him. My company allows for bereavement leave for pregnancy losses so I felt comfortable sharing for that reason too. I didn't tell HR until about 20 weeks though because most of my colleagues waited until about that time to share. Their reasoning was that sharing HR was mostly just for planning timelines for parental leave since we get a pretty decent package for U.S. standards (12 weeks full pay + 6 weeks at 75% pay if I recall correctly) and we're allowed to take the leave anytime within 12 months after birth or adoption though most take leave right after the birth or adoption.
A few things:
I would mention it right away to your boss or whoever is accommodating you. Sickness can happen at any time and you want the options ahead of time. I was able to WFH on days I was really sick.
Also, if you have questionable working conditions (working with harsh chemicals, heavy lifting, etc) you'll want to stop doing those immediately to keep you and baby safe.
Most importantly, advocate for yourself. Ask your doctor for advise or even notes for work so they have to accommodate according to doctor's orders. If you feel uncomfortable consult HR or anyone else who has been through it before.
@@CarlaM14if you are too WEAK to work after having a kid, WHY SHOULD OTHER PEOPLE HAVE TO PAY FOR YOU?!?!!
In my years working for 3 different school districts i learned one thing. Teachers time their pregnancy to either miss the last 2 months or the first 2 months of the school year. Of all the teachers who were pregnant i never saw one that had a baby over the summer break!!!
There were teachers that gave birth during the summer. They just didn't annoy you, so you didn't notice.
One month? In Sweden we're guaranteed 480 days per child.
It's surprising how often "Tell, don't ask" is such good advice.
In the US you get 3 months of job protection. There's no law that it has to be paid so it is unpaid for most. And it starts when you take off (so if you take off 2 week before due date then you get 2 months and 2 weeks to heal and for baby bonding). Accommodations can be made, but some professions can't really accommodate you due to the nature of the job. So I'm 38 weeks pregnant working 12 hour shift in the ICU until I give birth. 🙃
Congrats and good luck!!❤🎉
A month of maternity leave... That's unrealistic, unless they can work at home.
Why?
I told my boss almost immediately. I had a physical job and felt horrible in the first trimester. I wanted to tell them so I could get accomodations (like not lifting heavy things and getting extra breaks when it was ridiculously hot) and they were so great about making me comfortable.
Erin I followed your tips for job interview and I finally got my first job! Thanks a lot and keep up the good work ❤️
Wait... you have a baby in September and you're only going to be off work from the end of August to October???? So thankful to be living in Europe 😱
I’m so thankful for good wages and low taxes. That money doesn’t come from nowhere.
@@johnp139but the woman in most European countries continue to receive salary while on maternity leave. She is able to survive even with high taxes while woman in US will go back to an average job, not quite healed and maybe still bleeding, with high cost of living and high hospital bills to pay. What about that?
this is great! but unless you have a really really awesome boss who you have complete faith in, make sure you also notify i them in writing (like an email) in case of retaliation.
Her voice is so sweet and uplifting ! 🤗🤗
I trusted a single coworker before I told my boss/anyone else and she spread it like wildfire. This is such an awesome way to break this news and will definitely be my roadmap when I have my next
In some work fields you are REQUIRED to let your boss know immedeatly bc the workplace has rules that make you have to stop working immedeatly or sooner than your maternal leave, also for example in the medical field they need to know so they can take certain precautions
Only 2 months of maternity leave 😭💀
I knew someone that only had 2 weeks😢
Don't forget to also do it in writing like and email and keep a copy incase they fire you in retaliation
A woman is shredded down there from birth, with a newborn on her hands and has to go to work one MONTH after? Insane
*is confused in 3 years of paid maternity leave*
Europe?
@@Mysterious-Nightyes but to be honest countries in Asia and Oceania also offer that, hell even Afghanistan offers some kind of leave
Do you guys only take a month of mat leave??😱 I'm in Canada and we get at least 52 weeks paid, but it can be more if need be! And it can be split between parents in whatever way the parents decide! How do you heal/ breast feed/ bond / see all of the firsts if it's only a month off? I'm flabbergasted 😱.
Sad isn't it. A lot of moms end up the formula route.
That’s why your taxes are so high!!!!!
@@johnp139 nah, my taxes aren't too bad! Over all, mid- high income Canadians pay about $100- 150/ month for over all health care each year in April! For students / low income earners they don't pay for Healthcare through taxes! We have a system called MCP, and we all get a card to show at the hospital/ doctor's office etc and we are covered! I'm back in school now, in my 30s, and I got money back this past April!
Edit: We can also get service at any hospital/ doctor across the country by showing them our MCP card
@@allie.purpleWe also get child tax based on income and we pay for our parental leave when we pay into employment insurance out of each paycheque when working.
@@joelee624 yup. I don't know what taxes are like elsewhere but my husband is being taxed 31% of his check. I'm not complaining so much as just voicing that it's true that it is paid for. Someone somewhere has to pay for it. Nothing is free.
yep. this is what i did. it helped that my boss told me his wife was also pregnant when i told him and then my other managers wife was also pregnant, and my coworkers wife had just given birth a few months before
I’m informing you 3 months before i give birth. I don’t need my aptitudes to be questioned more than it should be just because you found out I’m pregnant. 2 months is more than enough to get my task delegated appropriately maternity/ paternity leave is 16 to 18 weeks now . Will take 4 weeks before delivery and 14 weeks after delivery.
Don't forget to mention the high maternal death rate in the US compared to other developed countries because of Conservative policies.
Not consistent among all demographics. Just like violent crime.
@@jfkst1 are you blaming the death rate on the mothers?
@@Alacritous
Not exclusively. More on the low IQ of black and brown people than anything else.
Pretty sure there are no conservative policies requiring American hospitals to be decades behind following modern medical advice. In America women are still told things like they should push on their back and not eat while in labor. Modern medical systems most everywhere else stopped doing that forever ago.
Also doesn’t explain why European countries like Poland, which are way more conservative than America, also have lower maternal death rates.
@@raquelfantoni2812thank you voice of reason!
October 23rd!!!! Jesus Christ, do Americans ever live in a dystopian nightmare.
No, it’s a capitalist economy. We don’t pay for others to not do their jobs.
Yes mammer jammers!!!!!!!!!!! 😃 😊 💕 💞
Thank you so much for putting so much effort into helping all of us rise.
We can have more time with loved ones and take better care of our families with pay closer to a living wage ❤️
Make sure to put it in writing! They can fire you and claim they didn't know you were pregnant if you try to sue for discrimination.
Yeah, if you're in the U.S... Good for you if you can afford 2 months off of work. Employers are legally obligated to protect your job for this span of time, but you'll be lucky if you actually get paid. My company just sent a notification out to employees bragging about a two week maternity leave policy. It takes 6 weeks for a woman's body to even heal after birth.
I feel bad for US-Americans sometimes.
I feel bad for socialist countries because of the high taxes they pay.
@@johnp139 I feel good about paying high taxes that I actually benefit from. I feel good not being afraid to call an ambulance or get necessary medical treatment. I feel good about having workers rights.
That mindless patriotism will get you nowhere.
Especially if you get ill or have a bad accident that will eat up your savings in literal months.
The US government is letting their citizens down, and they don't even see it.
I don't claim to live in the perfect society, to have a perfect government and perfect laws, but it's sure as hell way better than the USA.
This is so helpful but also I had to rewind the video when she said leaving august 29 and returning in October the same year😅😮
WRITE IT DOWN
Employers are notorious for firing pregnant people. Make sure you send it in writing too to make sure you've got your paper trail just in case
Wow only 70% and not even at least 6 months to have with your baby? That's crazy 😢
You can take more time off, but why should others have to pay for it?
So you are taking 2 months of maternity leave? My God, America is wierd
Why? People in the US are responsible for taking care of themselves, not everyone else.
Me, a 15 year old boy who isn't even in college yet: interesting 🤔🤔
Only 2 months of leave for a baby??? US has fucked up
I love the positivity!!
Ha! I had to spill barely into my first trimester cause I was throwing up water!
Here in Australia you get 1 year of paid maternity leave…I can’t believe that you get 1 MONTH in the US
That’s crazy
In the US, you get FMLA leave, which means you can take up to 12 weeks without them being able to replace/fire you. However, to qualify, you have to be with an employer for a certain amount of time, and that time may or may not be paid.
Where does that money come from?
In the EU, its see you in 6months minimum and usually have hire a contractor to cover the tasks/responsibilities
My mom had to quit her job as soon as she got pregnant, which she found out she was pregnant on week 12, which was because her first pregnancy was quadruplets,which I was one of them, my mom had to quit and couldn’t do a 2 week notice cuz she had to go on bed rest, and she didn’t start working again until I was going into Kindergarten and my younger sister was going into Preschool, I highly doubt that even if she was able to get maternity leave, she wouldn’t be able to get it with the first pregnancy specifically cuz she had to stay in bed, so my dad was the only one working until I was going into Kindergarten and my younger sister was going into Preschool