This is fascinating from a women's perspective. I can imagine some women may get triggered by this but as you say, you can have meaningful casual sex. A meal and a bottle of wine, and be respectful and good friends too. Also guys, please don't underestimate how vulnerable women can feel meeting a new man. She may feel unsafe getting intimate and allowing you into her house/going into yours initially.
Its pathetic that people want ‘meaningless’ or whatever casual sex...basically you accept to be treated casually like fast food you order, eat and leave. No beautiful and warm human interaction but purely animal instincts....sad. I got message on online dating app asking me if I want ‘respectful friends with benefit’ with him. I bursted in laugh thinking how manipulative this guy was...how much respect he could give a casual sex partner?! Idiot.
Why do you assume casual sex can't be beautiful and warm? I respectfully feel the need to say that you have a very strong personal trigger point around casual sex. If you both enjoy the act without commitment, there's no reason to throw insult terms around on either party. You personally never have to engage in casual sex, and I'd never think less of you for standing by your own wants and needs.
@@SchoolOfAttraction that’s why you call it casual sex! Give a better title? Beautiful and warm casual sex? Still bad. It’s temporary lust. No commitment and responsibility. No love no connection.
But it can still be intimate, and close and respectful. IT can be an amazing short term experience that isn't ONLY about orgasm. OR it can be just about orgasm if you want it to, and then there's nothing BAD about it... Humans enjoy many things that are only short lived - and we don't make out as though those are cheap experiences.
@@SchoolOfAttraction I think the tough thing is that most of the time women get the short end of the stick in these arrangements. There are a number of studies that men orgasm at similar rates when in a relationship compared to casual sex while women were less than half as likely to orgasm during casual sex. I think that a sexual encounter can be decent without an orgasm but if the guy orgasms and I don't and it's just casual then I'd feel unsatisfied. Perhaps anatomy is at play here but I think it's just not a good deal for most women.
The larger the number of partners the greater the toll on a woman. Sex should be the high point of a relationship. Then again I don't find open relationships useful.
Im pretty sure that most of women on tinder etc are looking for attention and validation. Then, there is some smaller percentage of women looking for relationships with men (FWB, ONS and long term commitment). In my country right now, most of the tinder and badoo profiles are filled with girls without bios (exept IG account) or they just wanna kill the time texting with guys during lockdown. Maybe this is correlated with age range (18-24) targeted by me
From a number of sources - Have a look through my videos I've done a number of Tinder specs - But also I have 1000s of clients that I work with as well, plus my FB group, so I get so see so many responses from different kinds of female profiles.
I’d really love to see you do a video on logistics. I’m hitting several apps religiously from 7-9pm , optimizing swipes. It’s difficult to know the amount of time to spend chatting them up, try to get the number (curious also about insta - do you craft a profile?) when to GIVE UP seems almost more important, it’s opportunity cost spent endlessly validating them better spent on trying for REAL dates.
> Men don't know the art of being a caring lover. Many of them do - the problem is that most of them are in the friendzone, and women prefer to sleep with selfish guys ;-)
About half or more of the profiles I see say "NO HOOKUPS!" should we immediately left swipe those profiles or is there a way to determine that, while those women clearly aren't in the 10%, they might be the 30%?
I haven't seen any city in the world where more than half (or even close to half) of profiles say "no hookups" But of cousre some of those will still be in that 40%, but I still ignore them for expedience ;)
Would it be ideal to go on a first date to sell yourself to her(show her a good time) and then maybe bring up the idea of being casual. That way the chances are increased for a casual relationship.
What do you mean exactly by sell yourself to her on the first date? The issue you have when you wait too long to have the casual convesation is that you give her a chance to consider you as a boyfriend - by that point, you can't back step to casual so easily anymore.
Would you be able to make a video on how I could lose my virginity and get a woman in my life. I'm coming onto mid-twenties and I could really do with some advice/help.
Is it bad to add your preference in the opening message? I get a fair share of either thanks for your honesty or something like they're looking for the same. I modify very often depending on the responses
I've found that it's usually better to do it AFTER you've had a bit of a chat - think bout a real worl approach - You don't approach a woman in a bar - and right aft er the opener say "So I'm only looking for something casual, how about you?" - Because in reality she doesn't know you well enough to decide what she's open to with you.
@@SchoolOfAttraction very true. I started doing it because I work too many hours to find out who's actually interested. My free day is literally saturdays and sundays morning. Rest of the time spent being an essential. Right now this is their highest attention source. It's like the cat and ball of yarn.
I'm not a big fan of online dating, buuut, a few days a ago a beautiful woman wrote me and she want to have casual sex. She is gorgeous, I'm like an average guy. So I'm intimidate, any advice? I'm not a normie, she may be. I know I have personality, but is been a while I don't date a normie women. All my past sexual or normal relationships the women were really different.
Ohhhh and what's the max number of days you keep messages in your inbox? Sometimes I get a response like a week later. By then she's already at the bottom of the inbox
Heh yeah - and I feel like that makes the sex so much better too! If you actually like the person and dig hanging out with them, then any casual sex along with that is so much more fun.
When I wasin my 20s. Causual sex was great. Alot of ppl just don't know how. I am busy but need a little something. I am always respectful. And when that fellow dated a girl. I left him alone.
This is fascinating from a women's perspective. I can imagine some women may get triggered by this but as you say, you can have meaningful casual sex. A meal and a bottle of wine, and be respectful and good friends too. Also guys, please don't underestimate how vulnerable women can feel meeting a new man. She may feel unsafe getting intimate and allowing you into her house/going into yours initially.
women should learn these tricks applied by men to avoid being used...
This is exactly why I’m here
He doesn't show the pie chart of the guy side showing 90% casual 😂
Its pathetic that people want ‘meaningless’ or whatever casual sex...basically you accept to be treated casually like fast food you order, eat and leave. No beautiful and warm human interaction but purely animal instincts....sad. I got message on online dating app asking me if I want ‘respectful friends with benefit’ with him. I bursted in laugh thinking how manipulative this guy was...how much respect he could give a casual sex partner?! Idiot.
Why do you assume casual sex can't be beautiful and warm? I respectfully feel the need to say that you have a very strong personal trigger point around casual sex. If you both enjoy the act without commitment, there's no reason to throw insult terms around on either party. You personally never have to engage in casual sex, and I'd never think less of you for standing by your own wants and needs.
@@SchoolOfAttraction that’s why you call it casual sex! Give a better title? Beautiful and warm casual sex? Still bad. It’s temporary lust. No commitment and responsibility.
No love no connection.
But it can still be intimate, and close and respectful. IT can be an amazing short term experience that isn't ONLY about orgasm. OR it can be just about orgasm if you want it to, and then there's nothing BAD about it... Humans enjoy many things that are only short lived - and we don't make out as though those are cheap experiences.
@@SchoolOfAttraction I think the tough thing is that most of the time women get the short end of the stick in these arrangements. There are a number of studies that men orgasm at similar rates when in a relationship compared to casual sex while women were less than half as likely to orgasm during casual sex. I think that a sexual encounter can be decent without an orgasm but if the guy orgasms and I don't and it's just casual then I'd feel unsatisfied. Perhaps anatomy is at play here but I think it's just not a good deal for most women.
The larger the number of partners the greater the toll on a woman. Sex should be the high point of a relationship. Then again I don't find open relationships useful.
Used that speech that you started from 10:45 on a handful of ladies, and majority were up for it. Thank you once again!
Great to hear dude!
this helps a lot thanks for the advice man.
No problem!
Im pretty sure that most of women on tinder etc are looking for attention and validation. Then, there is some smaller percentage of women looking for relationships with men (FWB, ONS and long term commitment). In my country right now, most of the tinder and badoo profiles are filled with girls without bios (exept IG account) or they just wanna kill the time texting with guys during lockdown. Maybe this is correlated with age range (18-24) targeted by me
Here in Mexico is the same
where did you get those Tinder stats?
From a number of sources - Have a look through my videos I've done a number of Tinder specs - But also I have 1000s of clients that I work with as well, plus my FB group, so I get so see so many responses from different kinds of female profiles.
I’d really love to see you do a video on logistics. I’m hitting several apps religiously from 7-9pm , optimizing swipes. It’s difficult to know the amount of time to spend chatting them up, try to get the number (curious also about insta - do you craft a profile?) when to GIVE UP seems almost more important, it’s opportunity cost spent endlessly validating them better spent on trying for REAL dates.
I've talked about this stuff a bit in my videos, but never a specific one about logistics, it's not a bad idea
Hey does anyone know I got banned on tinder did it occur to anyone I don’t think I have done anything that violates their policy any ideas ?
meaningful casual sex...hahaha. Men don't know the art of being a caring lover.
Some do - and I think many more need ot learn to - they're serioulsy missing out on what sex CAN be
> Men don't know the art of being a caring lover.
Many of them do - the problem is that most of them are in the friendzone, and women prefer to sleep with selfish guys ;-)
Dear Vanitha. There aren't any and even if the guy really wants a relationship he will turn out to be whiny, clingy , dependent and boring
About half or more of the profiles I see say "NO HOOKUPS!" should we immediately left swipe those profiles or is there a way to determine that, while those women clearly aren't in the 10%, they might be the 30%?
Yea some of those who say "No Hookups!" may still be in the 10 or 30%, and I can definitely confirm from my experience
I haven't seen any city in the world where more than half (or even close to half) of profiles say "no hookups" But of cousre some of those will still be in that 40%, but I still ignore them for expedience ;)
@@SchoolOfAttraction I've actually noticed many Tinder profiles for females in the US tend to say "No Hookups!" for at least in my area
Curious, what area areyou in if you don't mind my asking? It's completely possible it may be more frequent in the more conservative areas.
@@SchoolOfAttraction I'm from Kansas City, Missouri. And yes the state I live in is indeed conservative. Love your vids by the way Damien!
Would it be ideal to go on a first date to sell yourself to her(show her a good time) and then maybe bring up the idea of being casual. That way the chances are increased for a casual relationship.
What do you mean exactly by sell yourself to her on the first date? The issue you have when you wait too long to have the casual convesation is that you give her a chance to consider you as a boyfriend - by that point, you can't back step to casual so easily anymore.
Great vid.
Good tips..Are there still men who make use of this tips?
Do you want..
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Would you be able to make a video on how I could lose my virginity and get a woman in my life. I'm coming onto mid-twenties and I could really do with some advice/help.
Hey Antonio - That's not a bad video idea bud, thanks for that, I'll add it to my list :)
Is it bad to add your preference in the opening message? I get a fair share of either thanks for your honesty or something like they're looking for the same. I modify very often depending on the responses
I've found that it's usually better to do it AFTER you've had a bit of a chat - think bout a real worl approach - You don't approach a woman in a bar - and right aft er the opener say "So I'm only looking for something casual, how about you?" - Because in reality she doesn't know you well enough to decide what she's open to with you.
@@SchoolOfAttraction very true. I started doing it because I work too many hours to find out who's actually interested. My free day is literally saturdays and sundays morning. Rest of the time spent being an essential. Right now this is their highest attention source. It's like the cat and ball of yarn.
I'm not a big fan of online dating, buuut, a few days a ago a beautiful woman wrote me and she want to have casual sex. She is gorgeous, I'm like an average guy. So I'm intimidate, any advice? I'm not a normie, she may be. I know I have personality, but is been a while I don't date a normie women. All my past sexual or normal relationships the women were really different.
Ohhhh and what's the max number of days you keep messages in your inbox? Sometimes I get a response like a week later. By then she's already at the bottom of the inbox
I usually just clear the unreseponsive ones after a week or two - no specific timeframe here. Just like to keep it neat
I loves the phrase "meaningful casual sex". i found this video to be spot on!!!
Heh yeah - and I feel like that makes the sex so much better too! If you actually like the person and dig hanging out with them, then any casual sex along with that is so much more fun.
except guys that get matched on any dating site don't need or have the time for dating sites.
All you have to do is target travel nurses.
Are Canadian women from Vancouver BC hornier then most Canadian women?
I couldn't actually say honestly - I haven't specifically tried different parts of Canada - and I haven't actually visited Canada yet.
“If you light a candle, it makes the sex meaningful” - Jeffy the OG
😂
I ll never understand casual sex
Also i bring nothing to the table so that may be my low self steem talking
@@canaldecasta Casual flings are for men with higher socioeconomic status than the female
When I wasin my 20s. Causual sex was great. Alot of ppl just don't know how. I am busy but need a little something. I am always respectful. And when that fellow dated a girl. I left him alone.
Problem is I would only want to hook up with the majority of girls on tinder once, so doing meaningful casual sex seems tricky with that premise
Hahaha yes it would be - But personally, I think you're missing out on something - but I understand that right now that's where your 'wants' are at.
Nothing but bots.
Anyone wants it
this helps a lot thanks for the advice man.
Glad it helped