I have CTPSD and cannot afford counseling. I’m 41 and just recently found out why I am the way I am. Thank you Tim for your service to society, you truly are amazing. Thank you for helping me make sense of my life and why it’s been nothing but destruction. I now need to start the journey of healing, for the sake of me and my loved ones.
Not sure where you live, but sometimes you can find low cost counselling through university undergraduate programs. If you’re employed, check to see if your employer has an employee assistance program.
Carl Jung has a quote that goes with Tim's message. "Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate." This is so true!
@@steffknight8033I was just talking with a friend about awareness of our issues and I was saying knowing and doing are two different things but at least by knowing you realize when you've messed up and might be better prepared for the next time. It takes time to change our defaults.
This is a timely message for me as I am hitting a new level of healing. Thank you for explaining how the mental function of the brain can recover from trauma. You’re a godsend Tim.
Wow, what a package of information! No one talks about opioids or extra sensitivites. How illuminating and interesting. I wish I knew all this 30 years ago. My life could have been so very different. Thank you for these lectures! God bless You.
Tim. I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate and enjoy your message and information. Ive been struggling with all these things after some intense trauma a few years ago, it makes one feel like you're going crazy or gotten REALLY lazy. The avoidance and dissociation is very real. As is the body going into shut down and needing to sleep. And the subconcious programming running the show. Having why explained is gold. Thank you
I am 49 yrs old and have searched and searched and SEARCHED for someone who can explain my way of thinking and I have finally found it here. So many things are coming to light in this video. Had never heard of limbic brain. I was an addict for 17 yrs and the instant gratification explanation is spot on. I think the biggest thing I am learning here is that "no" doesn't mean someone doesn't like me or is punishing me. Everytime I am less than very happy, I always have had this belief that I must be doing something to upset God therefore he is unhappy with me and scolding me by taking away my joy. I have been tormented with this for so many years now. I guess I am realizing that in normal life, people do not always feel happy every day. My main goal my entire life has just to be happy and experience this "joy of the Lord" that I have convinced myself that as a Christian I am supposed to have with me at all times. I could type a novel about all the things I am learning from your videos. I am so excited to keep watching and learning as these are the first things I have heard that really resonate with me to help what I have battled with my whole life
"Traumatized people become addicted to chaos". This one hit me hard. I was traumatized as a child and I watch Cops, First 48, When Animals Attack.....you get the picture. But my wife who grew up stable likes watching cooking shows and feel-good stories.
I am not sure I agree about us being stuck in our limbic brain. I know that most abusive parents strongly discipline their children when they do anything even remotely stupid. It's not like there is nothing there to teach us not to be foolish. And as adults, it's not that we can't tolerate discomfort,it's that we can't tolerate the intolerable discomfort brought on by years of unrelenting abuse. I know I personally do my chores, work out, eat my vegetables, go to work, and pay my bills. I am much more responsible than many people. And I have CPTSD.
Believe it or not, I am one of the few that just cannot hate or-wish the worst for the narcissist it wasn’t a choice for them , until I get a better understanding that they can stop and live life as others what can they do if they have no access to any positive emotions Stay strong and I will pray for all narcissist by
Same here. Don’t even know if I have experienced love and being around loving families is very strange and upsetting for me. I used to think they were weird but now I know it’s me who is fucked up. I feel like I have been robbed of being my true self and having true contentment. Can’t form healthy relationships because I don’t want to inflict my trauma symptoms on someone else. But I am determined to get better. However long it takes. Good luck to you in this painful journey.
I know, me too. At some point i also had a very strong resentment for those who neglected and abandoned me and inflicted all those wounds upon me, but unfortunately the way out is not through hate and resentment. It's through forgiveness and love, most importantly forgiveness and love to yourself. You will make it. Your heart is in the right place because you're here, you want to relieve this pain and this guilt and this shame. I also wish i had a healthy childhood, but i didn't. All we can do is heal now. What's done is done and is in the past. Consider that people who inflicted those wounds onto you are also flawed individuals and are also ridden with guilt and shame and other traumas. Most probably they're also dealing with severe CPTSD.
I can't remember a time before my abuses began but you have outlined my healing journey to mental and physical health that continues to this day. I've been blessed to find my authenticity just a few years ago. Now at 70, I'm living nearly a pain-free life. I am happy, positive and thankful. Thank you for validating my journey. Go me!
This series is the best I have seen on complex trauma. And I’m in grad school for mental health counseling always researching info. Bravo Tim! Excellent! So blessed I found you Tim. Would love to be mentored from you.
Hi! This series is the greatest gift ever! I noticed always the guitar..the acoustic guitar..I had a dream about the guitar at the corner of the room as an invitation to cry..to heal..to love. While my guitar gently weeps. Trauma healing takes processing. Integration. That guitar is a gentle reminder that this takes time for your audience to integrate for themselves. Thank you for your infinite patience. No pressure.
Repressed cortisol is a prevalent issue affecting people worldwide, not just in the US and Canada. Unfortunately, many individuals and communities have chosen to deal with this issue through toxic positivity, which involves suppressing undesirable emotions or issues at any cost and only focusing on the positive. I have observed this phenomenon in many aspects of my life, such as among my close friends, family members, peers, schools, and universities.
All 5his is very interesting. I new I exp. "Some shit" if you wil but just recently did i understand and realize how i was really effected . And am leatni g dailey n and tryn to grow . Its a lil hard doing it all myself. Sometimes i wish i had trusted source of help. So thanx for the videos
As a child of narcissistic abuse, who then went on to experience two (varying) narcissistic husbands and then a TEN YEAR relationship with the WORST vulnerable covert narcissist of them all . . . this video sadly misses the point. I WANT NORMAL. I WANT PEACEFUL. But …… because of my experience, I will never ever have it. Now here’s the fantasy mind that allowed me to survive such trauma: A good man, that is non materialistic, and is true to his monogamous woman actually exists.
These videos are one of the most important things on the internet, I’m convinced. The fact that it’s free will help SO many people. I can’t put into words how much I appreciate this series of videos.
You answered the questions that I ask myself all the time. Why did I do that? Why do I feel like that? Etc… Now, I know the answers more clear than before. It’s the starting point for me to heal. I cannot thank you enough. 🙏🏼 It seems like the knowledge that you give me will be the reason for forgiving myself and even my parents. Each of your videos give me another insights. Thanks a lot. 🙏🏼
Holy cow. I honestly didn't think it was possible to convey in a fashion that someone unfamiliar might get an appropriate sense. This is beyond spot on. Standing O👏🏼
My guess is, because it is the root cause of what you mentioned, as well as tons of other conditions. Where would we be if mainstream would cure the root cause of diseases?
I’ve been in a very abusive marriage for 55 years. I’ve been dehumanized, I’m currently 72 years old and only just now understanding the role trauma plays inside the mind. Thank you for exposing this.
As someone facing trauma as a child, this def makes sense. Trying to get therapy is a long and frustrating process, doctors could do with this insight as from my personal experience, there are times where I want to give up. Thank you for this !!🙏❤
Just started therapy a short while ago & my therapist recc'ed your lecture series to listen to between sessions. Between the two, I am finally learning more about myself after so many years of trying different things to 'fix' what's wrong. Thank you
I truly appreciate it when he first talks in one of he's first series videos about CPTSD. He humanized and dignified what a chill go though when going through trauma. Very informative and NON PATHOLOGIZING. On the other hand I, personality DO NOT agree when he talks about addiction, calling " addicts" or say " how messed up you are", I do not care about the context, the idea in true psychology is that you are not a diagnosis, your story or what happened to you. This is very important because one of the things that we, who experienced CPTSD is the loss of sense of dignity and sense of our humanity. ❤❤❤
What you're talking about limbic versus cortex around the 8 minute mark, that sounds an awful lot like what Proverbs says, to get wisdom! So many verses in the first part of Proverbs talk about getting wisdom... Stop being simple-minded and be wise it says.
Don’t 😭 crybaby. Once again this is therapy I’m listening I am not alone everyone should hear these. It’s a generational struggle I’m healing in action. I comment regularly bc this helps. Better than music to my ears. I am forgiven. I forgive myself for I didn’t know any better. I found me ZRO 😢
Oh fuck. This guy is describes me to the letter with his examples in his lectures or what he says. I was a child of the social service system all my child hood and I have years missing of memorys of my childhood, gaps, chucks. All his lectures hit on point with complex trauma and codependency. It's comforting to know I'm not a freak and that there is an explanation of why I am the way I am. I'm stubborn too. He never mentions that trait but I bet a lot of people who are like me are
I cannot breathe. I do not breathe. I suffer from severe PTSD. buried alive. darkness all around me. constant state of trauma. I wish to die. the person whom I thought was my best friend, gave me this PTSD. he raped me. on a soul level. he viciously brutally violently maliciously raped my soul. ghosted me. discarded me like garbage. replaced me for another. I feel the PTSD in my body. I am drowning in darkness. I'm in hell with no escape. I face every moment of every day: with utter dread and sheer terror. so... as an act of my own free will... I choose to release and detach all vibrations and frequencies that do not serve my highest good. I responsibly cut all cords from all people in my past, and declare and command their energy to no longer have access to the sacred parts of my being! I release and send back their energy to them with the purest intent. I call back my energy from their sacred space. I command this all, for my inner healing and for my inner peace. I am embracing the light within my soul. I forgive therefore I am forgiven. I love therefore I receive love. And so it is.
This is hard to watch and probably gives more of an idea how badly damaged my brain has been since childhood. I tried for years to put a lid on things but all my issues piled on me one after another this year and I am having to learn some things pretty quickly as I embark on a critical journey. These videos are so important.
@tim fletcher... this video is tieing everything together for me and explains why psilocybin mushrooms and LSD allowed me to actual connect both parts of my brain to both remember and feel. When i first started working with psychodelics only the feeling part of my brain would activate, but i didnt know what i was feeling, but after about a year of working with psychodelics, the two halves of my brain connected and i began to remember and feel. However i found integration on my own was not possible and i was left with all these reconnected memories floating at the surface of my awareness... and left me constantly feeling sad, betrayed asking why. It wasnt until i had others assist with integration that i felt relief and integration. It feels like 50 years of cortisol damage was repaired by the mushrooms, but now i am feeling a little sad and wondering if that's true. TIM, YOU ARE AN ANGEL AND I SO VERY MUCH APPRECIATE YOU, YOU'VE PROFOUNDLY AWAKENED MY AWARENESS!!!
1:50 are the two brain slices done at the very same level? The difference in the size of the ventricle is also striking. However the neglected patient may also be born from a family environment with drugs, I.e. drug abuse during pregnancy can also lead to this. It would be great if we had a clarification on if this particular patient has an otherwise healthy environment so that the microcrphaly and ventriculomegaly can only be explained by the neglect or a genetic condition
Tim, Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For caring enough to provide this information to all of us and it’s free. I was so impressed that I made a donation. God Bless you!
I'm starting to share this with family. Is uncomfortable but finally I can begin to understand in a very clear way. You're a blessing to many. My limbic brain is exited about this new info and my cortex is absorbing as much as possible and self reflecting. It also helps tremendously in the perception and compassion for others. Really hoping to be able to use all this priceless info on my own issues.
Tim! 😂🥹😅 You started this with this is less intense! Ha! It’s like the whole thing that does all the things for us is utterly fucked up. But your videos provide hope to live a much better life. Thank you. 🫶🏻
In my opinion that is not exactly correct. I have C-PTSD yet I have normal blood pressure (even ranging towards low as it was 100/60 at the last doctor visit), I am certainly not diabetic or overweight in any way. I fit into XS clothes. I am a LMHR ( lean mass hyper responder). Those things are all diet related. Its the food you eat that cause these issues. But if you do keto or carnivore or ketovore you can still have all those issues of the CPTSD like being a people pleaser, invisible, low self worth etc yet have normal blood pressure. I think my autism helps "protect" me in a weird way. As autism means following rules and since I have all of these food allergies / celiac than I dont cheat ever. And so I can have a 24 inch waist and be lean and stick to my crazy diet. But I do think its the trauma that gave me the allergies. I WAS horribly overweight as a kid as my mother / grandmother fed me all junk. Very heavy grains. We LIVED on cheap grains. Bad if you have the celiac gene like I do. So these days I cannot go anywhere near grain. Not even the smell. I also never tried to get anyone to like me. As a kid I knew it was pointless. So I never tried. Besides I had this crazy idea as a kid that I wanted people to like me for who I was. Not a "fake" me. I had that idea way back in elementrary school. Like in 3rd grade maybe?? So I never tried to be funny or change who I was. I only went silent to be invisible. Because maybe then I wouldnt get bullied. It never changed as an adult. And I certainly didnt go around smiling like some idiot. My mother would yell at me if I was accused of grinning. So smiles are bad. And when I had started K I was the perfectly behaved adult. No running. No screaming. I didnt act like a kid even if I was 5. I acted like an adult. Perfect behavior. I did all the homework because I was supposed to. No talking in class as that was against school rules. Autism has rules. And yes I have both. Autism and C-PTSD. Plus hEDS. But high blood pressure is caused by diet. .most people eat the wrong foods these days. They need to go look at Dr Berg or Dr Osborne or High Intensity Health... Dr Berry. Those bad foods make anxiety worse. Low iron can make it worse too. You will still have all those other issues but at least you wont need any doctor pills. There is something seriously wrong if your life depends on eating a pill. Our ancestors never had that problem and they had stress too back then. And heart issues has been tied to grains + vegetable oils.
Goodness, somehow, this is even more clarifying than the other one you did on the brain. I knew that the prefrontal cortex wasn’t fully developed until 25-26. But you present the new idea that it’s still developing into the 30s. Plus I didn’t know that the brain can have arrested development. How is it that we have all of these requests, responsibilities and permits by societies that are for adults - fully formed adults - and not humans who still don’t have fully developed brains. 🤷
Is this all true? I’m struggling because I feel all of this and yet the rest of my family seems totally fine and normal. I had a very normal childhood. I shouldn’t have any trauma and yet it seems I do. I’m really struggling with feeling like a wimp and a baby like I must just be so weak I can’t even handle normal life. I need someone to tell me the truth and help me understand what’s really going on.
Whatch his playlist Understanding Trauma in order, starting with the video 1, and you’ll get the better picture. Don’t skip anything! I believe that videos about shame and how shame affects our lives will give you many answers. It’s a heavy stuff, and I have to take frequent breaks from listening to let it sink. However, I am so grateful for his lectures! He’s simply putting light on my darkness! And, that’s HUGE!💝
Thank you 😊 I feel it is answering a lot of questions for me. I’ll try to find the beginning video and see if I’ve watched it yet. Even though I don’t really know why I have trauma, except that I was a very sensitive child and internalized everything and didn’t talk about it.
Great video again. Just one question, I wrote you an email asking about one of your teaching programmes and if I could use it here in germany but didnt receive an answer yet😮
I apologize in advance for being pedantic, but the child growing up in a loving home is hardly normal, but rather a norming goal. From all I have read, it seems that it is rather the exception. Likewise, the severely neglected child is also an exception, albeit maybe less exceptional than the well-loved child.
So if the cortex is the only part of the brain that can tell time, how does one tell time when one is asleep?? Because I often tell myself I need to wake up at 6 am and somehow I do that? But what I dont understand is if I am sleeping how do I know what time it is?
There is no system in place for a person whose brain is terribly injured and they want to commit suicide there's nowhere to go and talk to someone because you get put in a nut house for 8 days and no one you're like your stored there like a refrigerator the system is broken
It is better do not tell BS development for such good gay. Lecture on what you are pro. Do not go to the area, where you have little to nothing knowledge
The fact we are able to get this series free of cost in AMAZING!!! I am learning so much I feel overwhelmed. Tim, you are changing lives!!!!
It s the greatest gift!
Thank you
Right?! I've never understood more about myself in this one week of watching Tim's teachings than I have my entire 54 years ❤
@@radicalmanifestingCarl Jung has a saying I love "Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
Yes! I totally agree. I'm a Law of Attraction coach and I see how damaging the "just think positive thoughts" idea is.
Christine Albright
"THANK YOU"!...
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Oh wow, explaining about the chemicals with flight, flight, freeze, fawn. Oh dear Lordy.
I have CTPSD and cannot afford counseling. I’m 41 and just recently found out why I am the way I am. Thank you Tim for your service to society, you truly are amazing. Thank you for helping me make sense of my life and why it’s been nothing but destruction. I now need to start the journey of healing, for the sake of me and my loved ones.
Not sure where you live, but sometimes you can find low cost counselling through university undergraduate programs. If you’re employed, check to see if your employer has an employee assistance program.
❤ keep learning and do not despair!!!
Carl Jung has a quote that goes with Tim's message.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
This is so true!
Another way of saying this is: Awareness is half the battle.😊🙏🙏
So very true! My mom got this rephrasing of Jung's quote many years ago, from her then-therapist:
Awareness is half the battle.
😊🙏🙏
@@steffknight8033I was just talking with a friend about awareness of our issues and I was saying knowing and doing are two different things but at least by knowing you realize when you've messed up and might be better prepared for the next time. It takes time to change our defaults.
When mom and dad are the source of trauma,it's a sad sad thing
This is a timely message for me as I am hitting a new level of healing. Thank you for explaining how the mental function of the brain can recover from trauma. You’re a godsend Tim.
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Wow, what a package of information! No one talks about opioids or extra sensitivites. How illuminating and interesting. I wish I knew all this 30 years ago. My life could have been so very different.
Thank you for these lectures! God bless You.
Why only so few viewers? There should be the whole world....
Tim, you're so fantastic and your voice and manner of speaking is so soothing and encouraging, thank you!
How can I access the info on the slides?
Agreed.
Tim. I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate and enjoy your message and information. Ive been struggling with all these things after some intense trauma a few years ago, it makes one feel like you're going crazy or gotten REALLY lazy. The avoidance and dissociation is very real. As is the body going into shut down and needing to sleep. And the subconcious programming running the show. Having why explained is gold. Thank you
I am 49 yrs old and have searched and searched and SEARCHED for someone who can explain my way of thinking and I have finally found it here. So many things are coming to light in this video. Had never heard of limbic brain. I was an addict for 17 yrs and the instant gratification explanation is spot on. I think the biggest thing I am learning here is that "no" doesn't mean someone doesn't like me or is punishing me. Everytime I am less than very happy, I always have had this belief that I must be doing something to upset God therefore he is unhappy with me and scolding me by taking away my joy. I have been tormented with this for so many years now. I guess I am realizing that in normal life, people do not always feel happy every day. My main goal my entire life has just to be happy and experience this "joy of the Lord" that I have convinced myself that as a Christian I am supposed to have with me at all times. I could type a novel about all the things I am learning from your videos. I am so excited to keep watching and learning as these are the first things I have heard that really resonate with me to help what I have battled with my whole life
❤😇 😇 😇 ❤
48 here, same path. Stay strong!
"Traumatized people become addicted to chaos". This one hit me hard. I was traumatized as a child and I watch Cops, First 48, When Animals Attack.....you get the picture. But my wife who grew up stable likes watching cooking shows and feel-good stories.
I watch similar shows and know it’s because of my childhood trauma. It makes me feel good!
The TV shows you like means nothing. Very healthy people watch those shows
MI’m
I am not sure I agree about us being stuck in our limbic brain. I know that most abusive parents strongly discipline their children when they do anything even remotely stupid. It's not like there is nothing there to teach us not to be foolish. And as adults, it's not that we can't tolerate discomfort,it's that we can't tolerate the intolerable discomfort brought on by years of unrelenting abuse.
I know I personally do my chores, work out, eat my vegetables, go to work, and pay my bills. I am much more responsible than many people. And I have CPTSD.
So much work to do and I feel discouraged and really envy those who had healthy childhoods. I will soldier on.
Believe it or not, I am one of the few that just cannot hate or-wish the worst for the narcissist it wasn’t a choice for them , until I get a better understanding that they can stop and live life as others what can they do if they have no access to any positive emotions Stay strong and I will pray for all narcissist by
Same here. Don’t even know if I have experienced love and being around loving families is very strange and upsetting for me. I used to think they were weird but now I know it’s me who is fucked up. I feel like I have been robbed of being my true self and having true contentment. Can’t form healthy relationships because I don’t want to inflict my trauma symptoms on someone else. But I am determined to get better. However long it takes. Good luck to you in this painful journey.
I know, me too. At some point i also had a very strong resentment for those who neglected and abandoned me and inflicted all those wounds upon me, but unfortunately the way out is not through hate and resentment. It's through forgiveness and love, most importantly forgiveness and love to yourself. You will make it. Your heart is in the right place because you're here, you want to relieve this pain and this guilt and this shame. I also wish i had a healthy childhood, but i didn't. All we can do is heal now. What's done is done and is in the past. Consider that people who inflicted those wounds onto you are also flawed individuals and are also ridden with guilt and shame and other traumas. Most probably they're also dealing with severe CPTSD.
If it's any consolation, you're 10 months ahead of me😅
@ipelengkhule9263
😂😂😂 awesome
I can't remember a time before my abuses began but you have outlined my healing journey to mental and physical health that continues to this day. I've been blessed to find my authenticity just a few years ago. Now at 70, I'm living nearly a pain-free life. I am happy, positive and thankful. Thank you for validating my journey. Go me!
❤😇 😇 😇 ❤
This series is the best I have seen on complex trauma. And I’m in grad school for mental health counseling always researching info. Bravo Tim! Excellent! So blessed I found you Tim. Would love to be mentored from you.
❤😇 😇 😇 ❤ God Bless ❤❤
Thank you for providing explanations to questions I've had for a very long time.
Hi! This series is the greatest gift ever! I noticed always the guitar..the acoustic guitar..I had a dream about the guitar at the corner of the room as an invitation to cry..to heal..to love. While my guitar gently weeps. Trauma healing takes processing. Integration. That guitar is a gentle reminder that this takes time for your audience to integrate for themselves. Thank you for your infinite patience. No pressure.
Repressed cortisol is a prevalent issue affecting people worldwide, not just in the US and Canada. Unfortunately, many individuals and communities have chosen to deal with this issue through toxic positivity, which involves suppressing undesirable emotions or issues at any cost and only focusing on the positive.
I have observed this phenomenon in many aspects of my life, such as among my close friends, family members, peers, schools, and universities.
This makes a lot of the things I've experienced in my life and the reactions I've seen in my mother make so much more sense
how to heal from an entire lifetime of trauma and rage and grief?
This is better than going to therapy
Are you sure?
Idd love to school the therapist.
All 5his is very interesting. I new I exp. "Some shit" if you wil but just recently did i understand and realize how i was really effected . And am leatni g dailey n and tryn to grow . Its a lil hard doing it all myself. Sometimes i wish i had trusted source of help. So thanx for the videos
Thank you, Tim. Very illuminating. 👍🏻
Dear Lord please heal me🥵😭😭🙏🙏
I’m very engaged to all your series!! Thank you for sharing the knowledge
Damaged people raising damaged people raising damaged people
As a child of narcissistic abuse, who then
went on to experience two (varying) narcissistic husbands and then a TEN YEAR relationship with the WORST vulnerable covert narcissist of them all . . . this video sadly misses the point. I WANT NORMAL. I WANT PEACEFUL. But …… because of my experience, I will never
ever have it.
Now here’s the fantasy mind that allowed me to survive such trauma: A good man, that is non materialistic, and is true to his monogamous woman actually exists.
These videos are one of the most important things on the internet, I’m convinced. The fact that it’s free will help SO many people. I can’t put into words how much I appreciate this series of videos.
You answered the questions that I ask myself all the time. Why did I do that? Why do I feel like that? Etc… Now, I know the answers more clear than before. It’s the starting point for me to heal. I cannot thank you enough. 🙏🏼 It seems like the knowledge that you give me will be the reason for forgiving myself and even my parents. Each of your videos give me another insights. Thanks a lot. 🙏🏼
Holy cow. I honestly didn't think it was possible to convey in a fashion that someone unfamiliar might get an appropriate sense. This is beyond spot on. Standing O👏🏼
The 5 Survival Responses:
Fight
Flight
Freeze
Submit
Attach (a more accurate term than "fawn")
Fawning and submitting are the same thing.
Why isn’t complex trauma a diagnosis in the DSM? Ptsd, acute stress, other stress but no complex trauma.
My guess is, because it is the root cause of what you mentioned, as well as tons of other conditions. Where would we be if mainstream would cure the root cause of diseases?
I’ve been in a very abusive marriage for 55 years. I’ve been dehumanized, I’m currently 72 years old and only just now understanding the role trauma plays inside the mind. Thank you for exposing this.
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What am absolute gift Tim has to explain these things in such an understandable way
This is as immense as the job of moving thru my day at my best conscious self.
The brain is very delicate. And complicated
As someone facing trauma as a child, this def makes sense. Trying to get therapy is a long and frustrating process, doctors could do with this insight as from my personal experience, there are times where I want to give up. Thank you for this !!🙏❤
Thank you so much. This channel means a lot to me and makes a difference in my life. I am so grateful. ❤
Just started therapy a short while ago & my therapist recc'ed your lecture series to listen to between sessions. Between the two, I am finally learning more about myself after so many years of trying different things to 'fix' what's wrong. Thank you
Excellent! Thank you, Tim❤
This information is gold and will save lives!
This is terrifying.
That brain image makes me SO angry
Triggering for me for sure
I truly appreciate it when he first talks in one of he's first series videos about CPTSD. He humanized and dignified what a chill go though when going through trauma. Very informative and NON PATHOLOGIZING. On the other hand I, personality DO NOT agree when he talks about addiction, calling " addicts" or say " how messed up you are", I do not care about the context, the idea in true psychology is that you are not a diagnosis, your story or what happened to you. This is very important because one of the things that we, who experienced CPTSD is the loss of sense of dignity and sense of our humanity. ❤❤❤
What you're talking about limbic versus cortex around the 8 minute mark, that sounds an awful lot like what Proverbs says, to get wisdom! So many verses in the first part of Proverbs talk about getting wisdom... Stop being simple-minded and be wise it says.
Don’t 😭 crybaby. Once again this is therapy I’m listening I am not alone everyone should hear these. It’s a generational struggle I’m healing in action. I comment regularly bc this helps. Better than music to my ears. I am forgiven. I forgive myself for I didn’t know any better. I found me ZRO 😢
Thank you so much for putting these on TH-cam
Oh fuck. This guy is describes me to the letter with his examples in his lectures or what he says. I was a child of the social service system all my child hood and I have years missing of memorys of my childhood, gaps, chucks. All his lectures hit on point with complex trauma and codependency. It's comforting to know I'm not a freak and that there is an explanation of why I am the way I am. I'm stubborn too. He never mentions that trait but I bet a lot of people who are like me are
I cannot breathe.
I do not breathe.
I suffer from severe PTSD.
buried alive.
darkness all around me.
constant state of trauma.
I wish to die.
the person whom I thought was my best friend,
gave me this PTSD. he raped me. on a soul level.
he viciously brutally violently maliciously raped my soul.
ghosted me. discarded me like garbage. replaced me for another.
I feel the PTSD in my body. I am drowning in darkness.
I'm in hell with no escape.
I face every moment of every day:
with utter dread and sheer terror.
so...
as an act of my own free will...
I choose to release and detach all vibrations and frequencies
that do not serve my highest good.
I responsibly cut all cords from all people in my past,
and declare and command their energy to no longer have access
to the sacred parts of my being!
I release and send back their energy to them
with the purest intent.
I call back my energy from their sacred space.
I command this all, for my inner healing and for my inner peace.
I am embracing the light within my soul.
I forgive therefore I am forgiven.
I love therefore I receive love.
And so it is.
Whoa. That IQ thing really explains a lot about what's happening in the the US these days, holy heck.
This is hard to watch and probably gives more of an idea how badly damaged my brain has been since childhood. I tried for years to put a lid on things but all my issues piled on me one after another this year and I am having to learn some things pretty quickly as I embark on a critical journey. These videos are so important.
Thank You from Eastern Europe, Romania. Good work💚
@tim fletcher... this video is tieing everything together for me and explains why psilocybin mushrooms and LSD allowed me to actual connect both parts of my brain to both remember and feel.
When i first started working with psychodelics only the feeling part of my brain would activate, but i didnt know what i was feeling, but after about a year of working with psychodelics, the two halves of my brain connected and i began to remember and feel.
However i found integration on my own was not possible and i was left with all these reconnected memories floating at the surface of my awareness... and left me constantly feeling sad, betrayed asking why. It wasnt until i had others assist with integration that i felt relief and integration.
It feels like 50 years of cortisol damage was repaired by the mushrooms, but now i am feeling a little sad and wondering if that's true.
TIM, YOU ARE AN ANGEL AND I SO VERY MUCH APPRECIATE YOU, YOU'VE PROFOUNDLY AWAKENED MY AWARENESS!!!
What a great lecture!! Thank You!
1:50 are the two brain slices done at the very same level? The difference in the size of the ventricle is also striking. However the neglected patient may also be born from a family environment with drugs, I.e. drug abuse during pregnancy can also lead to this. It would be great if we had a clarification on if this particular patient has an otherwise healthy environment so that the microcrphaly and ventriculomegaly can only be explained by the neglect or a genetic condition
Tim, Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For caring enough to provide this information to all of us and it’s free. I was so impressed that I made a donation. God Bless you!
Thanks for sharing this video!❤⚘
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It hurts my Brain to hear this 😞
How can I access the info on the slides?
There is also hypnosis and EMDR therapies that are very helpful alongside trauma narc abuse therapies plus self compassion
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Wow I’ve learned a lot
Your good 👍
We can pay 12.98 a month
This is great knoleged thank you!
Thank you very much!! That's a gold for all of us 🥺❤️
Good God, bless us. Need an opiate after this. Joking. Sort of. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for this invaluable information.
anyone know where I can get a pic of the brain states chart?
Send an email to contact@timfletcher.ca. My team can help you out!
Adhd from dissociation
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PS: Thanks for Being my 1-5% of the Day Sir
I'm starting to share this with family. Is uncomfortable but finally I can begin to understand in a very clear way. You're a blessing to many. My limbic brain is exited about this new info and my cortex is absorbing as much as possible and self reflecting. It also helps tremendously in the perception and compassion for others. Really hoping to be able to use all this priceless info on my own issues.
Thank you so very much for sharing your knowledge with us who are hurting!!
So it’s a double whammy. They get the privilege of being subject to abuse. But you don’t get to develop after 25. Wow. Double unhappiness.
Yeah tbh .. it felt like it stopped three years d with just the constant adaptation of living through life without feeling the need to kill yourself 😂
This man is brilliant!!
Tim! 😂🥹😅 You started this with this is less intense! Ha! It’s like the whole thing that does all the things for us is utterly fucked up. But your videos provide hope to live a much better life. Thank you. 🫶🏻
This expains why i never experience pleasure. And i have never felt endorphines after training. None so whatever.
22:31 addicted to chaos, boy can I identify with that...
where can i print the outline
In my opinion that is not exactly correct. I have C-PTSD yet I have normal blood pressure (even ranging towards low as it was 100/60 at the last doctor visit), I am certainly not diabetic or overweight in any way. I fit into XS clothes. I am a LMHR ( lean mass hyper responder). Those things are all diet related. Its the food you eat that cause these issues. But if you do keto or carnivore or ketovore you can still have all those issues of the CPTSD like being a people pleaser, invisible, low self worth etc yet have normal blood pressure. I think my autism helps "protect" me in a weird way. As autism means following rules and since I have all of these food allergies / celiac than I dont cheat ever. And so I can have a 24 inch waist and be lean and stick to my crazy diet. But I do think its the trauma that gave me the allergies. I WAS horribly overweight as a kid as my mother / grandmother fed me all junk. Very heavy grains. We LIVED on cheap grains. Bad if you have the celiac gene like I do. So these days I cannot go anywhere near grain. Not even the smell.
I also never tried to get anyone to like me. As a kid I knew it was pointless. So I never tried. Besides I had this crazy idea as a kid that I wanted people to like me for who I was. Not a "fake" me. I had that idea way back in elementrary school. Like in 3rd grade maybe?? So I never tried to be funny or change who I was. I only went silent to be invisible. Because maybe then I wouldnt get bullied. It never changed as an adult.
And I certainly didnt go around smiling like some idiot. My mother would yell at me if I was accused of grinning. So smiles are bad.
And when I had started K I was the perfectly behaved adult. No running. No screaming. I didnt act like a kid even if I was 5. I acted like an adult. Perfect behavior. I did all the homework because I was supposed to. No talking in class as that was against school rules. Autism has rules. And yes I have both. Autism and C-PTSD. Plus hEDS.
But high blood pressure is caused by diet. .most people eat the wrong foods these days. They need to go look at Dr Berg or Dr Osborne or High Intensity Health... Dr Berry. Those bad foods make anxiety worse. Low iron can make it worse too.
You will still have all those other issues but at least you wont need any doctor pills. There is something seriously wrong if your life depends on eating a pill. Our ancestors never had that problem and they had stress too back then.
And heart issues has been tied to grains + vegetable oils.
Goodness, somehow, this is even more clarifying than the other one you did on the brain.
I knew that the prefrontal cortex wasn’t fully developed until 25-26. But you present the new idea that it’s still developing into the 30s. Plus I didn’t know that the brain can have arrested development. How is it that we have all of these requests, responsibilities and permits by societies that are for adults - fully formed adults - and not humans who still don’t have fully developed brains. 🤷
I lack social intelligens due to cptsd. That hard every human contact.
Is this all true? I’m struggling because I feel all of this and yet the rest of my family seems totally fine and normal. I had a very normal childhood. I shouldn’t have any trauma and yet it seems I do. I’m really struggling with feeling like a wimp and a baby like I must just be so weak I can’t even handle normal life. I need someone to tell me the truth and help me understand what’s really going on.
Whatch his playlist Understanding Trauma in order, starting with the video 1, and you’ll get the better picture.
Don’t skip anything!
I believe that videos about shame and how shame affects our lives will give you many answers.
It’s a heavy stuff, and I have to take frequent breaks from listening to let it sink. However, I am so grateful for his lectures! He’s simply putting light on my darkness! And, that’s HUGE!💝
Thank you 😊 I feel it is answering a lot of questions for me. I’ll try to find the beginning video and see if I’ve watched it yet.
Even though I don’t really know why I have trauma, except that I was a very sensitive child and internalized everything and didn’t talk about it.
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Great video again. Just one question, I wrote you an email asking about one of your teaching programmes and if I could use it here in germany but didnt receive an answer yet😮
Thank you may god bless you for your efforts
I apologize in advance for being pedantic, but the child growing up in a loving home is hardly normal, but rather a norming goal. From all I have read, it seems that it is rather the exception. Likewise, the severely neglected child is also an exception, albeit maybe less exceptional than the well-loved child.
Absolutely fascinating, thank you so much for sharing this precious knowledge
Thank you! You are such a big help for us having CPTSD. I'm very grateful for your videos.🙏❤
How to distinguish between a person who”s naturally emotional and a person who’s acting from the limbic brain?
The addiction language is not helpful or clinical. As far as I'm concerned, you should use the word habituated.
And then they tell you, follow your passions, remember what you liked as a child and go back to it. Not happening!
Thanks Tim. God bless you abundantly. I have been very excited and blessed by your videos.
So if the cortex is the only part of the brain that can tell time, how does one tell time when one is asleep?? Because I often tell myself I need to wake up at 6 am and somehow I do that? But what I dont understand is if I am sleeping how do I know what time it is?
There is no system in place for a person whose brain is terribly injured and they want to commit suicide there's nowhere to go and talk to someone because you get put in a nut house for 8 days and no one you're like your stored there like a refrigerator the system is broken
It is better do not tell BS development for such good gay. Lecture on what you are pro. Do not go to the area, where you have little to nothing knowledge
You talked about me! Thanks!!!!
can't say enough good things about this series in a sea of mediocre-to-shit youtube crap.
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Very clear explanation of brain functions helps understand the difficulty of retraining.
What kind of neglect is referred to at the start of this talk ?
I get the instant gratification thing. Shopping.
6 months to a year of practice ....consciously.... holy crap.
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