It's very telling that the very talents, directness, ambition, useful aggression, and abilities that are needed to succeed and lead in the real world are called "mean" by so many women in the community. Sadly, others can recognize, understand and want to use these things for their benefit and brothers should take full advantage of their opportunities. For those that share the "toxic, aggressive, or whatever" sentiment when in comes to dealing with black men that know their direction and worth feel free to find another store. And, don't get mad if you stop back by after driving around not finding what you need and then find the same store has a line around the corner of willing shoppers that know price is what you pay...value is what you get.
Well said brother! Toxic masculinity is what built society. Also if masculinity is so toxic why do women want to emulate it so much? You see it all over the movies and tv.
I pitty the man that accidentally marries the chic that just had to be right at all cost. There will be no peace in that house. No amount of beauty, money, or sex appeal is worth a peace of mind...
Truth is nothing wrong with being average when both husband and wife work toward a better life while all bills are paid , you both happy, respected , travel and take care of things making sure your kids getting educated and have a life set for them ... being above average is just cherry on top of the cake.
My former wife was exactly like Erica. Put her in a home, gave her all the support she asked for, and still couldn't stop complaining about everything. Black women please, learn how to recognize when your winning.
My Uncle was a simp he put a female over his own son from another woman AND adopted her child and gave her 2 children AND got drained by a divorce but she treated him like a B*tch for 15 years all the women were Black 😳
That's how alot are they are spoiled by their parents or parent they think they dont have to bring anything to the table but ass,but expect more than the world
It's crazy because he's teaching women how men like femininity, comfort, pleasant personalities and attitudes and none of them are listening. It's bananas.
@@3203jwhite No, you're used to being babied and spoken to like children that when some is direct and blunt when trying to help you, you get in your feelings and reject it.
@@lordnekron5676 No, I'm used to a Professional speaking as a Professional, without losing their composure when someone disagrees or challenges their " opinion". Because at the end of the day this is all this is. He cannot predict the future and he does not speak for all men.
Because they don’t like the truth. They’re rather call a man misogynist, bitter, who hurt you? They will labeled that man as such just for speaking fact and not accepting the bullshit
@@3203jwhite Obviously, you and your sisters do not appreciate this self-improvement help because it is free. Learn to be a Real wife while you can. Dang. Be grateful.
@@chamba6627 Sir when these and this " High Value" Man can keep a wife maybe then I'll try and Learn to be grateful. But unless and until. You both can miss me with the Free Advice...✌🏾
1st time listening to Kevin and he's is 100% on point. I was 25, black, single, no kids, athletic build and a college graduate when my husband and I meet. We meet in September, he popped the ? in December and we were married in May. He says even to this day if I had kids when we meet, we would not be married.🤷🏽♀️ He was not trying to raise another man's child....PERIOD. Physical fitness is important to high quality men. When other men say "dang she thick with it", all my husband see is a fat, unhealthy and undisciplined woman. He hates it when women just let themselves go. This can be hard to hear but real talk no sugar coating. My husband is black, successful, fit and a no nonsense man. Kevin and my husband seem to have a lot of the same views. Kevin great info....I will be tuning back in!!!
Wish more bw think this way... there are so many bw on social media cheering on bw being “thicc” and twerking in the streets... calling it empowerment.
Beautiful. Just Beautiful sister... You VALUED , YOURSELF , which is real. Not the fake stuff. Brilliant man I know already. He saw that you valued YOURSELF more than anything. Once you value yourself , valuing someone else is alot easier. May you and your husband be the beginning to more beautiful people....
Rana please introduce me to your sister. Athletic Women are very hard to come by especially ones who are not centered on self. I am an athletic man and I know we can appear to be stuck on self. Unfortunately we can be judged by our looks and less on heart.
@@ronaldmcadam3740Hello. I would love to help you out. But unfortunately all siblings are not created equally. 😕 I am still hitting the gym. It is definitely a lifestyle. With the culture we have now, it's all about BBL's instead of being firm and fit. 🤦🏾♀️ I wish you nothing but the best. Stay blessed🙏🏽.
This is accurate. I’m a black woman and highly feminine. Almost every race pursues me and they are wealthy. It’s quite entertaining☺️ femininity wins everytime
Truth. Let me add to this. Where I'm from, I see a lot of white girls who came up around the not so feminine variant of BW, and thought it was cool and in, and I watched these women go right thru the danger zone with the exact same problems. Ladies, BE FEMININE!!!!
@E Cox young black girls from an early age see two sometimes three generations before them fighting. Sometimes in the street being very masculine. You can't tell most of them its supposed to be different because their disrespect for black men is deep rooted.
Black men have to take some responsibility for black women being overweight. Many BW use those comments to become lazy and physically useless because too many deceived themselves that’s what we want or will settle for and weight continues to go through the roof...
New Dragons how is it pandering, I respect what Kevin Samuels said himself. Why call it a black community if theirs no black couples. Don’t gotta be negative.
80% of our Black Sistas are overweight! That is a problem!! It limits the choices we have. Sisters if you want a high value man then you must take better care of your health!!
@@lylydabaws4ever but an over weight blk man is not judge off looks or appearance if he gat alot of money. What I'm saying is, an over weight blk man can can make up for being big if he gat hustle. If he gat the bag u and I knows he can get beautiful women easy, All because most women want resources and the security blanket. They don't even have to like/love the guy. I'm lying? So u can't compare the two. Women heavily judge off looks and men judge off what he gat. It's not fair but it is what it is
*Eastside Low Bottoms sh*t !* _Tappin' in from South Central LA_ Salute to the Godfather ✊🏾 The information contained in these broadcasts will forever be relevant. Rest easy KS 🙏🏾 You are appreciated. 🤜🏾💥🤛🏾
One of the problems between black men and black women is the lack or willingness of black women to ask what their men like. Case in point, I don't know a black man that likes heavy make-up and weave, yet the majority of black women wear both.
Did you compete to wake up? Nope. It was a gift. A great relationship is likewise. Competition is for self. Compete for a better version of you. Not a man, woman, job, etc..People lose and win everyday and most of the time it wasn't for a lack of performance. Sometimes the gift is the rejection and at other times the gift is.....the gift
@@_SDC I did not say that, did I? The better version of you attracts the best for you. Competition is an internal work that manifests outwardly. If you missed my point, I rest my case
The Best part of this was hands down between 1:05:00 and 1:10:00 when Kevin explained to the young lady, exactly what kind of man she was asking for. I was 14 years old when I realized that I’d have to make at least six figures to live the lifestyle I wanted and provide for a family as well (about three kids and a wife). After 4 years of serving in the US Military and 5 years slaving away towards a Masters in Astronautical Engineering, (separating myself to achieve my goal), you think I’m gonna settle for a 6 just because you’re black, have a degree, and a decent paying job!? I already accounted for the fact that I’d be paying for everything, “and some”, when I was a teen. I don’t care about how much you make, or what degree you have. After prepping 15 years for my marriage... I just want a young, charming, attractive, feminine woman who won’t argue with me about cooking dinner and doing the dishes... I’ll handle everything else... But unfortunately, there aren’t many young black women who are able and/or willing... Why else do you think high value black men “marry out.” You want an old school husband, but don’t wanna be an old school wife... Excuse me for the rant. And thank you Kevin for explaining that to the young lady.
Well ask your friends how many men want an old school wife. Most men take those women for granted. Btw if you find a woman who is above a 7 or 8 which is subjective to everyone because beauty is not the same for everyone. You think that type of woman is going to ruin her nails cooking and cleaning for you? And if she looks that good she will just leave you for a man that doesn't need her to do anything but be pretty and still pay the bills come on now. Lol if u want a old school wife expect her to look old school as well
As a woman I will say that the majority of us do not want to stay home and wash dishes. I'm not going to put my dreams on hold and throw away everything I worked for and achieved to be a trophy wife with an allowance. Men fail to realize that if you have major goals and dreams so do we. We are also engineers and doctors and politicians while simultaneously being wives, mothers, and daughters.
Check what happened to Emmit Smith another example of a wife filing for divorce. Getting a tried is not the goal the goal is staying married and for some reason the rates have been extremely high specifically with women divorcing men.
@@laram8255 2 out of 10 men file for divorce, so your scenario is honestly highly unlikely. You also don't go through years with one woman just to leave her at the drop of a hat for another either. That only happens if you are unhappy with the woman you married. A high value man can marry a successful woman, because *money doesn't matter* to them. Kevin only says educated women are nightmares because they all tend to act a certain way that men do not like. If you are sucessful and know how to act right, you will be picked. Heck, you are expected to be picked. There was a whole video on why these educated women who should be winning aren't. Get your degree, have a fall back, but never forget that your degree isn't an asset and doesn't excuse you from the characteristics men normally look for in women. Never choose a career over a man if having a family is what you know you want. Once you've set your priorities, the bigger pictire becomes clearer.
@@bmsykos Bob wants to match our strength, style, stamina and resilience. What BM go through is the worst experience Bob wouldn't even want his kids or himself go through.
Big facts. I've encountered many white women who I didn't particularly find attractive but they gave off the type of pleasant energy to where I could see how some of them are able to get decent men above their looks match.
@@stephaniebrooks6211 what do you mean by "for those of us who work with WW" are you trying to say that BM don't get a chance to work with WW. That statement is so degrading, I can tell you look at BM as beneath you smh. Are you also implying that BW are not good/better at deception or don't deceive lol.. enlighten me 🤔
The sexual marketplace is wide open at the top end. You think that a guy who has fought to win in life (for a black man doubly so), and succeeded, is willing to compromise in his choice of partner? Not going to happen. Kevin hit the nail on the head, once you get to a certain level, you become about a certain level of person and that is all you will be around. This is because connections and relationships can benefit you more the higher up you go, and poor ones can be detrimental both personally and professionally. The competition up at the top can transcend race, so even if a black man has a preference for black women, he doesn't need to limit himself by making it a hard perquisite. I won't touch the attitude, masculinity and the combative issue with many educated professional black women (not al), but there are far to many examples on this very show that display what many high valued and even middle of the road black men have seen North America wide. I attempted to date a black woman who was lawyer a few years back. She tried to dominate me from the jump - as fine as she was, I bailed quickly. To much of a headache with an incessant need to be right and she was extremely argumentative (as a lawyer I expected as much). The competition angle is cold hard truth that many black women hate when it comes to interracial dating; they expect 100% "loyalty" especially from high value black men, without any burden of performance. Men who make it that far (Henry's), don't make bad deals. Equal value for equal value. Men are asked to compete or lose everyday, the minute that some of these woman are asked to do the same, the "Take me as I am" rhetoric starts. Great show.
Brandon well put. Yet hypergamy doesn't care, the lawyer tried to dominate you, because she deemed you lower(than her) value, thus had no respect & and thought she could do better.
All these excuses and all to say what about black women? They aren’t as equal value? It’s funny cause at the end of the day that black men will use these excuses to date outside of their race. (Which is fine.) but they always bash black women in the process). Also your last paragraph about how black women expect 100% from high value black men. So I’m guessing those high value black men front expect 100% loyalty from their partners as well huh? So it’s ok for women of other ethnicity’s to want 100% loyalty from their partners? Just not black women? Hmmm Interesting.
I wanted to hate Kevin so badly. Several podcasts in and this man has me doing some soul searching. I was tripping fr fr. Some pills were hard to swallow across your platform, but I needed it. Stay blessed.
@Tech Head Venusian Mind you I relapse every now again because some habits are just harder to break. A few things are going to take a minute to deal with because I still want to believe there’s a monogamous man tucked away somewhere out there. I listened to a podcast where Kevin alluded to women being ok with HVM exercising their “options”. Yeah girl, I’m still stuck at that level in Jumonji.
One generally informs on the other. A black man doesn't become a high earner without being exceedingly ambitious, competent at both social maneuvering and mental acumen, keeping a positive and polished self image, etc. Unless you mean generational wealth, that most black people do not have, or athletes/musicians, who still managed to become the 5% who succeeded at their craft.
@Tech Head Venusian A high VALUE man by definition has the greater potential to be a high earner. But you need to be high value first. A man who gets money without the HV (high value) will tend to lose that money faster, and his morals may not be in the right place.
Kevin's definitely going to get me married! I'd like to think I have a really good attitude but even that's questionable now....I'm working on everything!
Women think it's complex but it's really not. Asian women don't have this problem which is why white men are dating them in groves and have thy highest interacial union. Only black and white women in the west have this issue. Thy answer is simple, SUBMIT. Yall can have any average dude yall like who will let you run all over him and you can embarrass him with attitude in the Walmart line as you take his paycheck that he worked all week for. But if you want a dude making 6 figures you will submit. Not up for debate. There mindsets are different. Glad some women are realizing it.
This is so true. Attitude is so important. It’s something I work on daily. Ill be honest I can have a heated temper and even though I have gotten offers to marry in the past I know to be the kind of wife I truly want to be, I need to get that in check first. I want my husband to be excited to see me when he comes home not “oh here we go again” 😂
Cherry Blossoms I picked up on the some bs from the start. Butttt sis My attitude really needs work and that part resonated with me. Now the concept of cleaning your brothers plate but talking to adult women like they’re a child caused me to lose interest. I noticed he didn’t have on a wedding ring, I guess his last wife didn’t like being talked to like that either😂
My wife has the same mentality, when a woman checks herself constantly it brings peace and joy to the house, and it makes a good man praise her and check himself because he doesn't want to be the one to mess up that peace n joy, I looked forward to hanging out every weekend with my wife.
Props to you ! Most women rarely admit anything especially when it's mentally or emotionally related. When I meet a women i'm just an open book . I don't want her to find out later on that sometimes i can be nasty, challenging, or just disrespectful. To improvement !
I love this guy he shuts bullshit down right away he tried to be nice but you can't have a conversation with people who caught in their feelings and just want to be heard
Some women are just going to have to settle for gigolos because relationships aren't their strong suit. Most women who are worth something are already in decent relationships; these callers are head cases.
True. All the good ones are already in relationships. For they tend to prefer relationships. The folks left dating for years and years and years, like to do exactly that, hence why they don't do relationships.
“Most women who are worth something...” If you say that for women, do you say that for men as well? What a messed up statement. Having “a relationship” doesn’t determine your worth as a person.
@@LatiWins No it does not. But you can be assured someone who dates around and intentionally avoids relationships for years and years is probably not good for relationships. People get selfish. People whose been in a few long relationships over many years likely prefers relationships and knows how to do them.
Another great show... I agree 100% that there aren't any very many (if any) black men speaking from a position of holding black women accountable. Kevin usually shocks black women the first time he speaks to them because he's straight up and logical with them!
I love the knowledge and gems you are dropping on your platform. The truth hurts sometimes but at least you are honest. You have become one of my favorite channels. Keep up the good work ☝🏾
My wife brought it to my attention that her being black was the reason my superiors were not promoting me to the highest ranks in the USAF. Once I stepped back and looked at my black male peers that were being promoted...90% of them had non-black wives! My beautiful, slim, smart, submissive wife took priority, so I retired from the USAF and moved on to better things!! 💯
Kevin, you are correct about the weight issue. Recently I downloaded an App built for Black singles. And to my disappointment, I would say anywhere from 70-80% of the black women on there were overweight. Look we all have our own preferences, but I personally, have a deep appreciation for women who take care of their bodies and physical health. That's like the baseline for me, and then her character qualities/values, how she carries herself, are ultimately the deciding factors of whether I will pursue or not.
Man he talking facts. Food for your life especially at the end. He is literally championing black women getting black men just giving a roadmap. Follow the map.
Damn, I miss you KS. Until we meet again, brother. In the meanwhile, I am still learning from the holy scrolls that you left behind for us to study from. From South Africa.
My Brotha. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your channel. Our women don’t realize the programming and conditioning we’ve had that has put us in our present condition. I learned this by living with my bi-racial ex boyfriend years ago and learned these hard lessons that you are trying to teach Black Woman while watching his white Mother and how she treated his Father. I then realized it is how you make a man FEEL. Unfortunately the woman who called in who you were having challenges with just refused to humble herself, be quiet and come out of defense mode. That’s a big problem with us. Your conversation with the younger Sistah and a post on IG really summed it all up: Black women are raised to be independent and not to be a wife. It’s so sad but true. This is the elephant in the room that most black woman are to prideful to talk about and it’s keeping us in our present situation. I do believe colorism exists BUT at the same time I have had some foiyne Black men and I’m brown skinned with 4C hair so my color has not stopped me from getting fine ass Brothas, lol 😆. So I DO BELIEVE it’s your attitude, how you carry yourself and what you bring to the table. Also many of us need to learn to love our black selves and learn to embrace our natural hair. I know a lot of black women are too lazy to making the time to take care of their own hair and will pop a wig on and that’s a problem. They make a gazillion excuses but at the end of the day it show laziness and that you don’t like how you look.They don’t realize how unattractive this is to men. Many black men were also raised by narcissistic black Mothers. This too has not been addressed. I cringed watching the movie, Antoine Fisher😫🤦🏾♀️We have so many generational bad habits passed down that we MUST FACE if we are to heal the Black Male/Female relationship.😪Of course I’m not excusing black men because both parties are responsible. But we STAY blaming black men for everything and never take an honest look at Black women’s role in our demise. I do believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder so I don’t believe you have to be a 8, 9 or 10 for a high value man but you do have to be a high value woman. I see Black men with women of other races who are below 6 all the time so I KNOW there are other traits making them high value women. Anyways, we as a people need TOUGH LOVE and I so appreciate you for being THAT GUY. 🤴🏾And I love how you carry yourself. Go head on my Brotha with ya BADSELF. All the best to you and yours.🤜🏾🤛🏾🤗🤴🏾👑😌🙏🏽
I’m a Canadian woman whose parents are still together after 30 years. My dad loves to cook and clean he actually said his goal as a husband was to ‘be of service , and to serve his wife’. It changed the game . He’s the most patient loving father and great example. My parents both make over 6 figures and they are both black. I hope to find a black man with similar values.
@Celena Cial Slarty Bartfast you downing your people wherever you from. Just don't be a baby mother hopefully you will be a wife before your a grandmother. Peace sis
Billy Maepa lol not sure why you’d try to emasculate a man you don’t know . That’s weird / petty. He’s very masculine and a strong 6’4 Jamaican man/ head of the household. It’s just in his personality and how he was raised ....to cook as well. Jamaican men love to cook it’s in our culture . No shade .....
@@lysssismore2231 right then you say lol ur mother was the man in that marriage a man in the kitchen? Because it was his Choice a man should be on his purpose and getting those 7 figures
Black men in america cry for respect from Black women.But i dont see other race of men asking for respect too much from their women.BECAUSE YOU EARN RESPECT THROUGH YOUR DEEDS.
@@cherryblossoms942 I don't know what any Man has in there pockets, its not my business. But I do know a Man is considered a" Man" included but not limited to him being a provider, provision, protector for his family. In the way that the Most High provides for us. So, I listen to these videos because I'm wanting to gain knowledge and understanding about things I may be oblivious to that people on the outside looking in can see that I don't. But when I tune in, & see a Person speaking negatively or putting down women or anybody because they are so inflated with pride by there pocket (provider) but fail to provide correct provision ( talking down on but not uplifting & teaching) or not being a protector (that includes protecting my heart) then he is not ready for the platform just yet. It upsets me because men have seemed to have forgotten there role as a leader. This Man is an example of that by the disrespect & disregard of women he feels are not to his personal liking. He feels qualified to speak on what women do & don't do and how we can't have a so called "quality man" if we are not what he feels like we should. " Quality" is not money alone. Ugliness & degrading someone's character is not "quality" He is full of his self and needs to re evaluate his self
@@irenentende6244 I agree I can't speak for Most Men But some Men I personally encounter or watch on youtube platforms continue to disrespect Black women & expect to receive respect, love, feminity, & softness from sistas. Its for everyone to be held accountable for there actions. Men & Women both need to stop pointing the finger at one another. We have to not be reactive to others behaviors in a degrading way. I think that this brother needs to check himself before getting on here women bashing. He don't even realize he's contributing to the problem not the solution
Sis..I get where he is going but that term is very disturbing. Every man in my life is of high value and the measurement is not based upon financial status. Sign of the times..
I think the reason why high value black men prefer white women is just one thing: attitude. When you are affluent and image is everything, being embarassed is just not acceptable. When a black woman is mad at you, everyone within two city blocks will know it. When a white woman is mad at you, she will pull you into a locked room and let you know her disappointment in private. Each of them will be passionate about their anger towards you but the black woman might not care about being embarassed while letting you know how she feels. A white woman will care. That is my take on the subject.
2:03:21 Very apt analogy with the batteries. Men provide the energy that builds and drives society from the foundation on up. People growing up in today's already-built society don't realize that. But when sh*t hits the fan, things either recover or they don't based on how men step up. Even in the current pandemic, garbage trucks still run, sewers are still serviced, construction continues on - who runs all those essential services overwhelmingly?
@@bmsykos We know this and a man could be a nurse the one thing that makes women more valued is they birth children. As men and women we shouldn't even try competing with each other. The NBA and NFL can't compete they play two different games with different rules.
Your closing advice in this segment was so honest I wish I heard it 25yrs ago. This is truly what young women need to hear and accept with an open mind.
As a black girl what I’ve noticed is that other races of women that bm tend to go for are just more feminine. I’ve realized it’s not about skin color but more about character. A lot of them put effort into their looks and are into working out and eating healthy. They are also more soft and humble and super supportive even in a relationship. Look at Kim and Kanye for example, she may have her own business but she doesn’t walk around throwing it down people’s throats, and she’s super supportive of Kanye and his business. Even if these women are in college and pursuing certain careers they still manage to maintain their feminine charm which is why many of them manage to find their husbands while in college or in their early 20s.
I wouldn't say character, but TRAITS. Feminine TRAITS. These traits imo are a prerequisite women must show while dating and being courted by men. These are the traits that make men more likely to want to marry a woman. Submissivness and compliancy in particular. You have women out here that wanna pull a fast one and say "im not submitting to no man but I'll submit to my husband only". I dont think those traits are on/off switches you cut on or off anytime you want. I think they're either a part of you or not.
As a 1st generation Mexican/American raised to be a wife and had my brothers call me from the other side of the house to get them a soda & I did it, not thinking anything about it my entire childhood & still even now for male family at events!!!… when she said EVER?!!! To Kevin’s “the men don’t have to Don’t ever do anything in a household” I was like what?!! That’s sooo alien to me!!🤔🤯😂🤣🤣🤣
Kevin : Who runs Black Media ? Caller : What does that have to do with the conversation ? I feel intimidated ! Kevin : Where is your Husband ? Caller : Crickets ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂.
He has a point about when black women do have a media platform, they don't promote black love. The show Scandal is an example of this which was written by a black women and alot of black women love olivia pope playing a white man's side piece.
Then you got shows like insecure telling these women that they can cheat on a man they belittle and put down and have him take her back after he gets rich and she’s tired of getting train ran. They think that shit really happens. No way in hell is a real life Lawrence taking all these Issas baggage...
And tyler perry aint helping much with The Oval either. A show with a white president and black first lady. I guess tyler perry saw how bw loved scandal and decided to make the "formula" complete. Scandal and The Oval wouldn't get no love from bw if they casted a black president and white Olivia Pope/first lady
Myles Anderson I honestly don’t watch any black media; I catch slack about it to. When I do muster a little time to watch its 90% documentaries (true crime, business, history, fashion), Ted talks, sci-fi, G.O.T, things that help me perfect my craft. Don’t laugh... but the last time I remember watching black media was probably when “Martin” was on air. Probably aging myself with that one :p
Malcolminthemiddle 87 if a woman or a man is deeply attracted to a light skin, green eyes and curly hair then you have to let them pursue those attributes. I would never want to shame a colorist woman into dating me..... I wouldn’t want to be with her because she would only want a light man. Colorism means you have a deep feeling and belief about your preference. I am not here to change those preferences
Uoeno Ho You make a valid point & let me tell you why🔥🔥🔥. My first wife used to always tell me that I wasn’t usually her type. She told me she only liked chocolate brothers (Larry Johnson aka “Grandma Ma”, was popular and she kept telling me that was her preference. I think part of her friction with me was because she was a colorist. That was 1994. I wasn’t aware... I was actually proud of her for proclaiming that black is beautiful ( it didn’t even occur to me that I wasn’t beautiful to her 😂😂😂). We didn’t last for 2 years but we have a beautiful son , I was a single dad. He a good man with a good work ethic. I would walk away from a woman if she told me that I wasn’t her type and she usually goes for xyz. Your point is brilliant. 👍🏾
My 3 best friends are lovely dark chocolate women, married to wonderful hard working men. Only one divorced and doesn't have children, but she has no problem getting dates. The other 2 have children, live in beautiful homes, and one is a stay at home mom in texas. The other works just part time, but they kept themselves in shape and are fun and pleasant to be around. The two that are married have been married longer than I, and I've been married 10 years. A competitive women doesn't concern herself with negativity, they just become the best versions of themselves. And my friends husbands are wonderful black men, 1 with his own business and the other with a great career in biology. A pleasant attitude and staying at a healthy weight really puts you ahead of so many. Be responsible with your finances too and have a fulfilling life. You should be passionate about your goals, have fun hobbies, learn new things and try safe new activities. Be an interesting person to yourself first. Happiness attracts. But having a victims attitude is draining. Most black people know colorism exists, just like racism and sexism, but taking on a defeatist attitude won't stop it. You have to become your own best advocate no matter the odds to get success. You only need one great man to respect and admire for marriage. Great show, yet again.
@@jimsmith9981 Everything I've learned about being a worthwhile woman I was taught in the Nation of Islam beginning at 14 years of age when I moved into my father's home. They have a class on femininity called MGT and GCC (Muslim girls training and general civilization class ). They are on TH-cam. They teach women 7 basic units- cooking, cleaning, rearing children, care of a husband, sewing, how to act inside the home, and outside the home. We are taught that true beauty is in your obedience to God and keeping your weight healthy. Modesty, elegant manners, education, martial arts and artistic endeavors are pushed. Along with study of the Holy Quran, Bible, and many more books for daily self improvement. I couldn't tell anyone anything better than those classes.
STOP trying to force us into loyalty just cause we're both black. You need to earn our looks/attitude approval just like we have to earn your financial/leadership approval. OAN: Tell your sistas to stop being so promiscuous bc theyre messing it up for yall. And we'll attempt to get dudes to stop being so thristy and sexing you 5s and below and bad attitude chics, because TOO MANY of you see a man sexing you as validation instead of realise he's slumming bc of his lack of wallet or low self esteem.
How are we going to get anywhere if everybody gotta tip toe around the truth. BM have to hear the truth about our group/individual shortcomings and flaws from the time we start being able to understand. Everybody else in this society gets earmuffs.
Men want a healthy woman! An attractive woman! Respectful (24/7) Appreciation Praise (verbal) Cooperation Submissiveness Honesty A woman that wants to be married She must be childless Must want children for her husband Friendly Companionship Femininity Inspirational Humble Peaceful Tranquility Confidentiality Find comfort in a woman! A woman that keeps her mouth shut about what goes on in her home she shares with her husband!
Thanks again Kevin for all that you're doing to educate men on the levels of manhood while also pointing out the roles that a woman should comply with in order for us to have healthy relationships. Myself I've been lost and off purpose for too long a time having married twice only to lose all my resources, and children due to the lack of being properly prepared in love and war. Now I'm 60 and rebounding again trying to stay afloat just to survive, along with my health issues that I'm now dealing with and cannot work anymore. Kevin I hope that you become just as rich and wealthy as you wanna be! Thank you very much.
She made a statement she cannot back up so she wanted to argue. Black women we should not have to compete with you in every arena. We should not have to be challenged even when asked a clear question she has to try and control the direction of the conversation on someone else’s show.
I am SO glad I stumbled across your channel! Got damn! Your points are on POINT! And I definitely can tell you play chess, because your approach to addressing topics are very tactical and tactful! Keep doing what your doing brotha with spitting that knowledge! Just gained another sub right here ✊🏾
Are you an asset or a liability? This is the exact question I asked my wife twenty four years ago when she threaten to walk out on me after she was looking over the other side of the fence, looking for greener pastures. After thirty four years of marriage and my financial ability to retire at the age of fifty year old, she is still with me. So much for the fence.
Wow. Great show and host. Just adding my 2 cents as a viewer: The interesting part about the woman named Tao, is that many "corporate minded/leadership position types " such as herself, fall short when communication is challenged between the opposite sex. The women usually feel the need to be right or get the last word...even if it creates heavy friction. Our ego goes into overdrive and exhibit extra masculine energy. If we were operating "more" from our feminine energy, it would display patience and letting the man finish. Self control, compromise, and seeking a successful outcome. The ability to balance the energies, within self and outside of self. I've been guilty of this and definitely working on it, as I strive to bring peace and balance within my current relationship. The need to always be right or fight to get your point across is like winning the battle and not the war.
yep, that is how i was taught to be a wife, all of us girls catered to our father. he was spoiled by my mom and us daughters. he returned the favor. not only did i learn from my mother how to cook, bake, grocery shop, plan meals for a month, clean, do laundry, how to iron, and sew, pay bills, budget, i learned how to be in a relationship with a man, by watching her. my mom worked hard, but my father worked harder, and provided for us all. my mom let my father lead our family. i saw my mom dress up for our dad and cater to his every need when he was home. mom ran the house, made sure we kept it clean and respected our dad. because she respected him and loved him, no matter what he did. i had a lot of her ways, so i got married after i graduated high school. i was able to do everything my mom did. and i was happily married for a long time.
Black men who can OUT-LOGIC a woman’s EMOTIONS scare them... my father taught me this skill and it’s amazing to see it on display... it’s like having a superpower... when you can boil down their bull 💩 without needing to be combative, they become child-like & respond with submission or aggression consistent with the environment they were raised. This channel is HIGHLY VALUABLE to the black community and need more promotion. The number of “Oh wow” moments women have here is critical for our survival. 💯
I laughed so hard with that Tayo chick! I dealt with my version of that. On paper the chick I was dealing was on point because she did have money and was attractive. But she was way too confrontational when I was not even bothering her. When I started to fade to black, she inquired, I told her that I needed peace. This chick basically yelled telling me, "I am your peace!" That. Was the beginning of the end! Lol 😆.
Told my wife one time “Men rule the world but women make it go round” she did not like that sh*t she was so stuck on the “Men rule” part that she didn’t realize that without women the world can’t be.
This is applies to all rank of men! Black women don’t want to be fit, feminine or submissive for HVM and they look down on average black men. However Becky, Marisol and Myling would gladly be feminine, fit and submissive for their average and HVM.
Its overwhelming, realizing that I've done it all wrong and I've learned this from the women in my family. I'm happy to now take accountability and move forward in the direction of positive companionship, partnerships, and love.
I’d also like to point out that people ultimately deal with who wants to deal with them. Most black women never gave me the time of day for whatever reason. I used to think it was because I don’t fit black stereotypes and always had an interest in things not thought to be associated with black people (at least not my generation) but I always wanted a black woman. Sadly though, the ones I wanted (good looking, smart, and fit) didn’t want me at the time and once they realized what they missed it was too late. I moved on and found someone who does want me and it had nothing to do with her color
When you have a high value man and match his drive ❤️ I have been watching this non stop and realized I wasn’t being as good of a woman he deserved! We are going to build an empire together!
When it comes to the corporate Black woman you hit the nail on the head. They don't want to listen. They will push thier degrees and salaries at every opportunity and when you challenge them it's the same response as TIE-O. Thanks for exposing this fact
When I was married Kevin I worked and cooked, baked etc. Made plates. The kitchen was my domain and I was proud of it. Strong black women in my family looked at me like I was a crazy lady lol.
Thank you Kevin for reminding black women to lose weight, have no out-of-wedlock kids, be feminine and not TOO DAMN LOUD. I am a Nigerian-born lady who lives here in USA and I think these traits are what's hurting black sisters much more than the color of our skin.
Are you serious??😂 We Nigerians can be the worse and LOUDEST - yet most still have husbands that deal with our mess. Even the ‘thick madames’ with their bubas find and keep husbands. There must be something more to the story.
@@LatiWins 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👌🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 That is so true I am a South Africa lady dating a Nigeria man yho when he gets angry 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀😱🗣️👂🏽 LOL he is very very loud and I'm not loud so it really scares me sometimes. Even some of our South African people can be very very loud lol
DAMN this man's impeccable style and brutal honestywith deluded women is refreshing and necessary in this crazy dating market today. Plus he has realist intellect too. Subscribed!
It’s like having my late father & grandpa from Kenya 🇰🇪 mixed in with Yoda, Mr. Miyagi, Tom Leykis, and Jimmy Winters ❄️ wrapped in one ☝️! Knowledge is here! Money 💵 world 🌍
Colorism? Had to look up the definition 😁 A pretty & fit girl is attractive no matter her color. I can't see a man not taking a girl to bed because of her shade. What does separate one pretty girl from another is her attitude/personality...and her history. Women look for men with a good future. Men look for women with a good past.- said by some dude not me
I believe colorism plays a role... But I agree that black women sometimes refuse to play that role that needs to be played by the woman.. More white women and other races are trained to play that role... I have been with white women enough to know that they will focus on the task in order to reach the goal.. They, most of the time have less of a problem with doing things that their man needs them to do. High level black men run in high level circles, so high level white women are accessible to them and they will marry them. Dark skin women are beautiful but sometimes they are not not raised to please their man.. They are raised to subjugate their man.. Alot of white women are raised the same way... but high level white women are raised to play their role.. I am not a high level black male, but I have noticed that even regular white women are open to giving their man what he wants without the alot of hangups that black women have.. Im sorry if I generalize a bit.. Black women are more "AMERICAN" than most other women.. They will verbalize the goal, but arent sure of how to get there.. I had a friend who told me to travel the world.. Go to China because women will "draw you a bath" and treat you like a man... Women dont have a nasty "attitude" in Brazil.. They KNOW how to treat a man Im just saying that dark skinned women get stereotyped more than others, but it isnt impossible for them to get the man they want if they are willing to play that game. They are beautiful just like other women, they just need to display it to the man they want.. He won't leave you for a "white girl" if you give him what he needs
Nothing's more cringe worthy, than 'a pit bull in a dress', ( EVE'S words, not mine ) trying to be feminine. And they think a soft voice can hide their bullish attitude. Over talking a man is a truly offensive act. Ms. $100,000 and those of her ilk, are truly obnoxious.
ITS REFRESHING AND SAD AT THE SAME TIME...SEEING BLACK WOMEN ACTUALLY LISTENING TO THE TRUTH ABOUT BLACK MEN IS REFRESHING BUT ITS SAD AT SEEING HOW DELUSIONAL A LOT OF OUR WOMEN ARE
As a singular competitive black woman, I was highly affected by colorism. I have never been combative with any man, don't believe in it, but I don't want to feel owned when I have my own house, business, job etc. I was wanting a man to step up to allow me to be a stay at home wife and mom, but black men would tell me about what they thought I would before they actually met me. The men who dated me, felt weird because they thought I would just end up with a white man since I was the soccer mom type, who believed in home making.
@@concernedcitizen4824 I don't want any man to tell me that I must do this or that or can do what I want. We can discuss and decide what would be best to help and not hurt each other , but I don't want a dictator.
@@stevans79 you should consider staying single. I’m being very honest with you. You don’t want to be under the authority of a man. Women like that should be able to hold your own in any situation. So, if a 300lb man is ready to attack you, then you should be able to take care of yourself. Otherwise accept being behind a man which is the leader and you will be fine. Trust me, what you want will keep you single in today’s dating market. There are more women looking for a good man than there are men looking for good women.
I’m speechless! This is toxic! Our society is toxic. Our relegion is toxic. Our music is toxic. Our generational curses are toxic. Our perception is toxic. Our frequency is low. To break free from everything discussed here will require SOUL WORK, SHADOW WORK AND SELF LOVE. I’m a High Value woman that had to learn hard lessons to get here. If he had me on the show it’ll be EPIC, ORGASMIC, and ENLIGHTENING. TRIGGERING AND TRUE!
46 minutes in..... I’ve met any black women with a “Valley Girl Voice “ who actually like black men. I know 1 great black woman with that voice who likes all men (white, Latino & black)
Ferrari Khan 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 . That’s hilarious. I love it. 👍🏾. On the east coast “Blalley Girls “ usually don’t like black dudes. I knew 1 who liked all dudes but she had to drop that accent because of her job 😂 “blalley girls” brilliant
@@tfitness4u Those are the black women that I want. I don't want some good mouthed, ratchet. I've had a few, but they are very liberal and hard to find.
caveman_35seven 🤞🏾 I Hope people understand that I am distinguishing a “Valley girl accent “ from a woman who speaks eloquently and comfortably. I just learned that the proper term for that accent is “BLALLEY GIRL 😂”
I have had it with these high value men title... A man of high value is a man of integrity, humility and does not cheat on his significant other. Money does not make a man high value. I know a lot of men with money and looks who are so insecure.
@@malcolminthemiddle8777 I grew up around foreigners in arranged marriages that lasted longer than American marriages built on "love". Their concept is togetherness for the sake of survival and working together love comes with the time they spend working together in the marriage.
@@meuniversity4155 But if you build the marriage on superficial terms it may not last. Look at the high value men who "upgraded" to the fantasy chick on to be divorced and left with half . Really thats vanity and vanity gets you every time
Oh I thought you were saying that it's not about love period. Yeah the reasons behind people getting married are something else and most of the time not built on a firm foundation.
It came from the liberal (a very twisted version of liberalism which we see today) school systems "teachin self esteem". Fact is, those who have less of anything have to have less self esteem, so that it encourages them to go out and get what they dont got. The new liberal notion is that everyone has infinite value, just by being human. Thus, a 180pound 5 '4 woman is just as good as a supermodel.
This has come up on the show before but again, there a difference between corporate America and entertainment. Sure the black athlete wont think twice about getting a becky SOMETIMES and that is over promoted imo. But if i as a HVM bring a 7-10 becky to a corporate function where i have white bosses as a black male that may do more harm for me than good because i have one of “their” good women
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It's very telling that the very talents, directness, ambition, useful aggression, and abilities that are needed to succeed and lead in the real world are called "mean" by so many women in the community. Sadly, others can recognize, understand and want to use these things for their benefit and brothers should take full advantage of their opportunities.
For those that share the "toxic, aggressive, or whatever" sentiment when in comes to dealing with black men that know their direction and worth feel free to find another store. And, don't get mad if you stop back by after driving around not finding what you need and then find the same store has a line around the corner of willing shoppers that know price is what you pay...value is what you get.
Well said brother! Toxic masculinity is what built society. Also if masculinity is so toxic why do women want to emulate it so much?
You see it all over the movies and tv.
WELL SAID!!!!!
1,000% ✊🏾
Some women hate men they can't control.
I pitty the man that accidentally marries the chic that just had to be right at all cost. There will be no peace in that house. No amount of beauty, money, or sex appeal is worth a peace of mind...
I embrace being average with my average husband who loves, protects and provides for our family.
Here here 👍🏾🥂
I feel you
Trust me your husband is far from average!
Exactly sister
Truth is nothing wrong with being average when both husband and wife work toward a better life while all bills are paid , you both happy, respected , travel and take care of things making sure your kids getting educated and have a life set for them ... being above average is just cherry on top of the cake.
My former wife was exactly like Erica. Put her in a home, gave her all the support she asked for, and still couldn't stop complaining about everything. Black women please, learn how to recognize when your winning.
My Uncle was a simp he put a female over his own son from another woman AND adopted her child and gave her 2 children AND got drained by a divorce but she treated him like a B*tch for 15 years all the women were Black 😳
That's how alot are they are spoiled by their parents or parent they think they dont have to bring anything to the table but ass,but expect more than the world
How was she a partner if you did everything? You chose her. A lot of people complain about their own bad decisions.
@@cancerjourneybiggboss6426 So are black women spoiled or broken? Which is it?
She wasn't grateful. She didn't respect your efforts. She probably showed you this side of her before you put her in a house. Your fault.
It's crazy because he's teaching women how men like femininity, comfort, pleasant personalities and attitudes and none of them are listening. It's bananas.
@@3203jwhite No, you're used to being babied and spoken to like children that when some is direct and blunt when trying to help you, you get in your feelings and reject it.
@@lordnekron5676 No, I'm used to a Professional speaking as a Professional, without losing their composure when someone disagrees or challenges their " opinion". Because at the end of the day this is all this is. He cannot predict the future and he does not speak for all men.
Because they don’t like the truth. They’re rather call a man misogynist, bitter, who hurt you? They will labeled that man as such just for speaking fact and not accepting the bullshit
@@3203jwhite Obviously, you and your sisters do not appreciate this self-improvement help because it is free. Learn to be a Real wife while you can. Dang. Be grateful.
@@chamba6627 Sir when these and this " High Value" Man can keep a wife maybe then I'll try and Learn to be grateful. But unless and until. You both can miss me with the Free Advice...✌🏾
Every time a woman says *“I feel like”* an angel looses his wings.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol bro I say the same thing.
* loses 🙏🤗
Yes
I absolutely hate thise words "I feel like...". STOP USING THAT WOMEN!
1st time listening to Kevin and he's is 100% on point. I was 25, black, single, no kids, athletic build and a college graduate when my husband and I meet. We meet in September, he popped the ? in December and we were married in May.
He says even to this day if I had kids when we meet, we would not be married.🤷🏽♀️ He was not trying to raise another man's child....PERIOD.
Physical fitness is important to high quality men. When other men say "dang she thick with it", all my husband see is a fat, unhealthy and undisciplined woman.
He hates it when women just let themselves go. This can be hard to hear but real talk no sugar coating.
My husband is black, successful, fit and a no nonsense man. Kevin and my husband seem to have a lot of the same views. Kevin great info....I will be tuning back in!!!
Wish more bw think this way... there are so many bw on social media cheering on bw being “thicc” and twerking in the streets... calling it empowerment.
Beautiful.
Just Beautiful sister...
You VALUED , YOURSELF , which is real.
Not the fake stuff.
Brilliant man I know already.
He saw that you valued YOURSELF more than anything.
Once you value yourself , valuing someone else is alot easier.
May you and your husband be the beginning to more beautiful people....
Facts! I see big women e v e r y w h e r e. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Rana please introduce me to your sister. Athletic Women are very hard to come by especially ones who are not centered on self. I am an athletic man and I know we can appear to be stuck on self. Unfortunately we can be judged by our looks and less on heart.
@@ronaldmcadam3740Hello. I would love to help you out. But unfortunately all siblings are not created equally. 😕 I am still hitting the gym. It is definitely a lifestyle. With the culture we have now, it's all about BBL's instead of being firm and fit. 🤦🏾♀️ I wish you nothing but the best. Stay blessed🙏🏽.
Found this guy two weeks ago can’t stop watching.
Lol same here. Literally watched dam near every show in the past 2 weeks
FACTS
I swear with all this red pill content with addition of KS wisdom. I see a new breed of men emerging after Rona is done.
Same for me and I'm a Female.
Same...about a week and a half in. Daily viewing.
Regardless of race... Men are attracted to femininity. Some groups of women tend to be less feminine than others.
This is accurate. I’m a black woman and highly feminine. Almost every race pursues me and they are wealthy. It’s quite entertaining☺️ femininity wins everytime
@@laurensanchez8063 I have a young daughter (3). What are the most important aspects of femininity that I should teach/instill?
Truth. Let me add to this. Where I'm from, I see a lot of white girls who came up around the not so feminine variant of BW, and thought it was cool and in, and I watched these women go right thru the danger zone with the exact same problems. Ladies, BE FEMININE!!!!
Also being overweight aint cute either
@E Cox young black girls from an early age see two sometimes three generations before them fighting. Sometimes in the street being very masculine. You can't tell most of them its supposed to be different because their disrespect for black men is deep rooted.
We need to stop telling women that all that weight is thickness cause it’s not. It eventually it turns into fat.
BBW?
BS!
@@yoso5934 Every single one?? I don't believe that. :-0
Yoso Mejia- Moik líes
@@bobrew461 There is no such thing as all.
Black men have to take some responsibility for black women being overweight. Many BW use those comments to become lazy and physically useless because too many deceived themselves that’s what we want or will settle for and weight continues to go through the roof...
“Without black couples you can’t have black nothing.” - Kevin Samuels. Nothing but FACTS. 👨🏾+❤️+👩🏿=👶🏿👶🏾👶🏿
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Ray H lol respect ✊🏾💯
Bullshit lol pandering.
I’m confused.
New Dragons how is it pandering, I respect what Kevin Samuels said himself. Why call it a black community if theirs no black couples. Don’t gotta be negative.
This man is a legend, and needs to be revered as such. You live forever among us Mr. Samuel's. Thank you for all you've done.
If you see this comment just know that the most high is with you keep grinding and pushing to be the best you g peace and blessing 💫💚
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Peace and Blessings
Thousand Blessings upon you brother
Ahmannnn
Thankyou for this ❤️
80% of our Black Sistas are overweight! That is a problem!! It limits the choices we have. Sisters if you want a high value man then you must take better care of your health!!
Okai and 70% of black men are overweight so?? What’s your point
@@lylydabaws4ever That’s a lie lard ass
@@lylydabaws4ever I strongly suggest you book a session with the host.
@@lylydabaws4ever but an over weight blk man is not judge off looks or appearance if he gat alot of money. What I'm saying is, an over weight blk man can can make up for being big if he gat hustle. If he gat the bag u and I knows he can get beautiful women easy, All because most women want resources and the security blanket. They don't even have to like/love the guy. I'm lying? So u can't compare the two. Women heavily judge off looks and men judge off what he gat. It's not fair but it is what it is
@Jay _TooGoated lmbo 😂
I'm so glad that I'm married to my BM,and have been for 15 years. This is too much
Exactly, it's misogynist garbage.
Too much trash, I agree!
How?
@@misssterling3094 no. It's tough love and real advice. Sometimes the truth can be unpleasant.
The women calling in are too much. Bad attitudes and want to be right
*Eastside Low Bottoms sh*t !*
_Tappin' in from South Central LA_
Salute to the Godfather ✊🏾
The information contained in these broadcasts will forever be relevant.
Rest easy KS 🙏🏾 You are appreciated.
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He is my O.G. before seeing his content I thought I was trippin, but I get it now, as men and women we have been socially miseducated.
One of the problems between black men and black women is the lack or willingness of black women to ask what their men like. Case in point, I don't know a black man that likes heavy make-up and weave, yet the majority of black women wear both.
Say that again sir 👌🏾
There's always one ^^^
@@stephaniebrooks6211 black men will sleep with almost any woman, heavy make-up and weave is ignored by these men not desired.
BIG FACTS 💪🏾😁👍🏾
Preach
Get competitive or be alone. Sheeeeesh bars bars bars
AbundanceKofi I'll leave it alone
@@bmsykos you know he's right. You don't compete, you don't get what you want 💯
Did you compete to wake up? Nope. It was a gift. A great relationship is likewise. Competition is for self. Compete for a better version of you. Not a man, woman, job, etc..People lose and win everyday and most of the time it wasn't for a lack of performance. Sometimes the gift is the rejection and at other times the gift is.....the gift
marantzo69 Oh I got what I want happily married for 8 years💪🏼
@@_SDC I did not say that, did I? The better version of you attracts the best for you. Competition is an internal work that manifests outwardly. If you missed my point, I rest my case
The Best part of this was hands down between 1:05:00 and 1:10:00 when Kevin explained to the young lady, exactly what kind of man she was asking for. I was 14 years old when I realized that I’d have to make at least six figures to live the lifestyle I wanted and provide for a family as well (about three kids and a wife). After 4 years of serving in the US Military and 5 years slaving away towards a Masters in Astronautical Engineering, (separating myself to achieve my goal), you think I’m gonna settle for a 6 just because you’re black, have a degree, and a decent paying job!? I already accounted for the fact that I’d be paying for everything, “and some”, when I was a teen. I don’t care about how much you make, or what degree you have.
After prepping 15 years for my marriage... I just want a young, charming, attractive, feminine woman who won’t argue with me about cooking dinner and doing the dishes... I’ll handle everything else... But unfortunately, there aren’t many young black women who are able and/or willing... Why else do you think high value black men “marry out.”
You want an old school husband, but don’t wanna be an old school wife...
Excuse me for the rant.
And thank you Kevin for explaining that to the young lady.
Well ask your friends how many men want an old school wife. Most men take those women for granted. Btw if you find a woman who is above a 7 or 8 which is subjective to everyone because beauty is not the same for everyone. You think that type of woman is going to ruin her nails cooking and cleaning for you? And if she looks that good she will just leave you for a man that doesn't need her to do anything but be pretty and still pay the bills come on now. Lol if u want a old school wife expect her to look old school as well
As a woman I will say that the majority of us do not want to stay home and wash dishes. I'm not going to put my dreams on hold and throw away everything I worked for and achieved to be a trophy wife with an allowance. Men fail to realize that if you have major goals and dreams so do we. We are also engineers and doctors and politicians while simultaneously being wives, mothers, and daughters.
Check what happened to Emmit Smith another example of a wife filing for divorce. Getting a tried is not the goal the goal is staying married and for some reason the rates have been extremely high specifically with women divorcing men.
This was a legit comment 💯
@@laram8255 2 out of 10 men file for divorce, so your scenario is honestly highly unlikely. You also don't go through years with one woman just to leave her at the drop of a hat for another either. That only happens if you are unhappy with the woman you married. A high value man can marry a successful woman, because *money doesn't matter* to them. Kevin only says educated women are nightmares because they all tend to act a certain way that men do not like. If you are sucessful and know how to act right, you will be picked. Heck, you are expected to be picked. There was a whole video on why these educated women who should be winning aren't. Get your degree, have a fall back, but never forget that your degree isn't an asset and doesn't excuse you from the characteristics men normally look for in women. Never choose a career over a man if having a family is what you know you want. Once you've set your priorities, the bigger pictire becomes clearer.
I am so sad about you being gone. You were so kind to me on this show and in-person. Rest in Peace. 🕊
Her: A 6?!?
Kevin: Ma’am, I do this for a living as a professional
Had me in tears 😭
Seems like she was seeking validation. Looks help but it's the personality
Facts👏👏: "You can match Becky's hair and voice but they don't want to match their attitudes" This is very true with the modern BW
And black men don't want to match Bob's attitude
@@bmsykos Bob wants to match our strength, style, stamina and resilience. What BM go through is the worst experience Bob wouldn't even want his kids or himself go through.
@@bmsykos Just curious though, what's Bob's attitude? I can tell you what Becky's attitude is towards her man/husband.
Big facts. I've encountered many white women who I didn't particularly find attractive but they gave off the type of pleasant energy to where I could see how some of them are able to get decent men above their looks match.
@@stephaniebrooks6211 what do you mean by "for those of us who work with WW" are you trying to say that BM don't get a chance to work with WW. That statement is so degrading, I can tell you look at BM as beneath you smh. Are you also implying that BW are not good/better at deception or don't deceive lol.. enlighten me 🤔
The sexual marketplace is wide open at the top end. You think that a guy who has fought to win in life (for a black man doubly so), and succeeded, is willing to compromise in his choice of partner? Not going to happen.
Kevin hit the nail on the head, once you get to a certain level, you become about a certain level of person and that is all you will be around. This is because connections and relationships can benefit you more the higher up you go, and poor ones can be detrimental both personally and professionally. The competition up at the top can transcend race, so even if a black man has a preference for black women, he doesn't need to limit himself by making it a hard perquisite.
I won't touch the attitude, masculinity and the combative issue with many educated professional black women (not al), but there are far to many examples on this very show that display what many high valued and even middle of the road black men have seen North America wide. I attempted to date a black woman who was lawyer a few years back. She tried to dominate me from the jump - as fine as she was, I bailed quickly. To much of a headache with an incessant need to be right and she was extremely argumentative (as a lawyer I expected as much).
The competition angle is cold hard truth that many black women hate when it comes to interracial dating; they expect 100% "loyalty" especially from high value black men, without any burden of performance. Men who make it that far (Henry's), don't make bad deals. Equal value for equal value. Men are asked to compete or lose everyday, the minute that some of these woman are asked to do the same, the "Take me as I am" rhetoric starts.
Great show.
Verity✔🔴
Brandon well put. Yet hypergamy doesn't care, the lawyer tried to dominate you, because she deemed you lower(than her) value, thus had no respect & and thought she could do better.
Great Take!
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All these excuses and all to say what about black women? They aren’t as equal value? It’s funny cause at the end of the day that black men will use these excuses to date outside of their race. (Which is fine.) but they always bash black women in the process). Also your last paragraph about how black women expect 100% from high value black men. So I’m guessing those high value black men front expect 100% loyalty from their partners as well huh? So it’s ok for women of other ethnicity’s to want 100% loyalty from their partners? Just not black women? Hmmm Interesting.
I’m married but I’m joining the patreon because your message needs to be shared. Attitude takes you places money can’t.
I wanted to hate Kevin so badly. Several podcasts in and this man has me doing some soul searching. I was tripping fr fr. Some pills were hard to swallow across your platform, but I needed it. Stay blessed.
As a black man. This is what we are wanting to hear. Big ups sister
@Tech Head Venusian 😂 😂 😂 I feel you sis
@Tech Head Venusian lmao 😂
You gonna win based on this alone
@Tech Head Venusian
Mind you I relapse every now again because some habits are just harder to break. A few things are going to take a minute to deal with because I still want to believe there’s a monogamous man tucked away somewhere out there. I listened to a podcast where Kevin alluded to women being ok with HVM exercising their “options”. Yeah girl, I’m still stuck at that level in Jumonji.
High earning Black man and “High VALUE Black man” are not synonymous.
One generally informs on the other.
A black man doesn't become a high earner without being exceedingly ambitious, competent at both social maneuvering and mental acumen, keeping a positive and polished self image, etc.
Unless you mean generational wealth, that most black people do not have, or athletes/musicians, who still managed to become the 5% who succeeded at their craft.
@@gabrielmeth4844 so by that definition I guess Stringer Bell is a high-value man because he stacks that paper 😂
Under no circumstances does a woman have the ability to qualify a man
@@gabrielmeth4844 A high value man is honest. A man can make money without being honest.
@Tech Head Venusian A high VALUE man by definition has the greater potential to be a high earner. But you need to be high value first. A man who gets money without the HV (high value) will tend to lose that money faster, and his morals may not be in the right place.
Kevin's definitely going to get me married! I'd like to think I have a really good attitude but even that's questionable now....I'm working on everything!
That is the right attitude sus. It takes courage to deprogram your self from all the lies. Best of luck to you.
Women think it's complex but it's really not. Asian women don't have this problem which is why white men are dating them in groves and have thy highest interacial union. Only black and white women in the west have this issue. Thy answer is simple, SUBMIT. Yall can have any average dude yall like who will let you run all over him and you can embarrass him with attitude in the Walmart line as you take his paycheck that he worked all week for. But if you want a dude making 6 figures you will submit. Not up for debate. There mindsets are different. Glad some women are realizing it.
Blessings !
It's been 6 mnths has he presenented a ring of significant carats in public on one knee👀👀
IS! So you single 👀
This is so true. Attitude is so important. It’s something I work on daily. Ill be honest I can have a heated temper and even though I have gotten offers to marry in the past I know to be the kind of wife I truly want to be, I need to get that in check first. I want my husband to be excited to see me when he comes home not “oh here we go again” 😂
Cherry Blossoms I picked up on the some bs from the start. Butttt sis My attitude really needs work and that part resonated with me. Now the concept of cleaning your brothers plate but talking to adult women like they’re a child caused me to lose interest. I noticed he didn’t have on a wedding ring, I guess his last wife didn’t like being talked to like that either😂
That’s good you’re doing some self evaluation before you decide to settle down 🤙🏾
My wife has the same mentality, when a woman checks herself constantly it brings peace and joy to the house, and it makes a good man praise her and check himself because he doesn't want to be the one to mess up that peace n joy, I looked forward to hanging out every weekend with my wife.
Props to you ! Most women rarely admit anything especially when it's mentally or emotionally related. When I meet a women i'm just an open book . I don't want her to find out later on that sometimes i can be nasty, challenging, or just disrespectful. To improvement !
🥰🥰🥰🥰🎯🎯🎯
I love this guy he shuts bullshit down right away he tried to be nice but you can't have a conversation with people who caught in their feelings and just want to be heard
Some women are just going to have to settle for gigolos because relationships aren't their strong suit. Most women who are worth something are already in decent relationships; these callers are head cases.
@@uoenoho9426
This "sector of TH-cam " Had me weak...
Im 23 from the Caribbean bur Im listening 🤷🏽♀️
True. All the good ones are already in relationships. For they tend to prefer relationships. The folks left dating for years and years and years, like to do exactly that, hence why they don't do relationships.
“Most women who are worth something...”
If you say that for women, do you say that for men as well? What a messed up statement.
Having “a relationship” doesn’t determine your worth as a person.
@@LatiWins No it does not. But you can be assured someone who dates around and intentionally avoids relationships for years and years is probably not good for relationships. People get selfish. People whose been in a few long relationships over many years likely prefers relationships and knows how to do them.
Another great show... I agree 100% that there aren't any very many (if any) black men speaking from a position of holding black women accountable. Kevin usually shocks black women the first time he speaks to them because he's straight up and logical with them!
Kevin is actually Moses trying to get us to promise land. Low key the best TH-camr maybe ever!
I AGREE 1,000,000 % GODS WORK.....Kevin is blessed
This!!!!
I Agree correct
Yup
The real Merkabah is no.1 TH-camr... Kevin is second...
I love the knowledge and gems you are dropping on your platform. The truth hurts sometimes but at least you are honest. You have become one of my favorite channels. Keep up the good work ☝🏾
My wife brought it to my attention that her being black was the reason my superiors were not promoting me to the highest ranks in the USAF. Once I stepped back and looked at my black male peers that were being promoted...90% of them had non-black wives! My beautiful, slim, smart, submissive wife took priority, so I retired from the USAF and moved on to better things!! 💯
@RonYo So that would put the Gen in that 10% group right? You said all that for nothing!🤔
Kevin, you are correct about the weight issue. Recently I downloaded an App built for Black singles. And to my disappointment, I would say anywhere from 70-80% of the black women on there were overweight. Look we all have our own preferences, but I personally, have a deep appreciation for women who take care of their bodies and physical health. That's like the baseline for me, and then her character qualities/values, how she carries herself, are ultimately the deciding factors of whether I will pursue or not.
And what were the results for all of these lg women?
Man he talking facts. Food for your life especially at the end. He is literally championing black women getting black men just giving a roadmap. Follow the map.
Damn, I miss you KS. Until we meet again, brother.
In the meanwhile, I am still learning from the holy scrolls that you left behind for us to study from.
From South Africa.
My Brotha. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your channel. Our women don’t realize the programming and conditioning we’ve had that has put us in our present condition. I learned this by living with my bi-racial ex boyfriend years ago and learned these hard lessons that you are trying to teach Black Woman while watching his white Mother and how she treated his Father. I then realized it is how you make a man FEEL. Unfortunately the woman who called in who you were having challenges with just refused to humble herself, be quiet and come out of defense mode. That’s a big problem with us. Your conversation with the younger Sistah and a post on IG really summed it all up: Black women are raised to be independent and not to be a wife. It’s so sad but true. This is the elephant in the room that most black woman are to prideful to talk about and it’s keeping us in our present situation. I do believe colorism exists BUT at the same time I have had some foiyne Black men and I’m brown skinned with 4C hair so my color has not stopped me from getting fine ass Brothas, lol 😆. So I DO BELIEVE it’s your attitude, how you carry yourself and what you bring to the table. Also many of us need to learn to love our black selves and learn to embrace our natural hair. I know a lot of black women are too lazy to making the time to take care of their own hair and will pop a wig on and that’s a problem. They make a gazillion excuses but at the end of the day it show laziness and that you don’t like how you look.They don’t realize how unattractive this is to men. Many black men were also raised by narcissistic black Mothers. This too has not been addressed. I cringed watching the movie, Antoine Fisher😫🤦🏾♀️We have so many generational bad habits passed down that we MUST FACE if we are to heal the Black Male/Female relationship.😪Of course I’m not excusing black men because both parties are responsible. But we STAY blaming black men for everything and never take an honest look at Black women’s role in our demise. I do believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder so I don’t believe you have to be a 8, 9 or 10 for a high value man but you do have to be a high value woman. I see Black men with women of other races who are below 6 all the time so I KNOW there are other traits making them high value women. Anyways, we as a people need TOUGH LOVE and I so appreciate you for being THAT GUY. 🤴🏾And I love how you carry yourself. Go head on my Brotha with ya BADSELF. All the best to you and yours.🤜🏾🤛🏾🤗🤴🏾👑😌🙏🏽
This guy is changing lives all over the world 🙌🏽 Love this show💯
I swear all these women really believe they are fine, when they are just average. Have mercy!
I agree!!! Folks be gassing them up. She not ugly but she far from fine. SHE'S AVERAGE!!!
Imo most women believe, bc men approach them their fine. Little do they know most men just want to bed them.
@@jasonphillips2204 True
It’s that horse hair that’s sunken into their brains...
@@jimsmith9981 rude
Doing Gods work ...this brother has cornered the market... he understands the grand scheme of it all
He gets it! He got the juice now and watch the haters come.
Hell Yeah
@@fullcircleessentials They did in full force from every angle possible. Watching this over the last year play out has been something to behold.
@@keenansmith7176 yep yep
I’m a Canadian woman whose parents are still together after 30 years. My dad loves to cook and clean he actually said his goal as a husband was to ‘be of service , and to serve his wife’. It changed the game . He’s the most patient loving father and great example. My parents both make over 6 figures and they are both black. I hope to find a black man with similar values.
@Celena Cial Slarty Bartfast you need to stop talking about your own people were they do that at smh
@Celena Cial Slarty Bartfast you downing your people wherever you from. Just don't be a baby mother hopefully you will be a wife before your a grandmother. Peace sis
So basically your dad is a woman
Billy Maepa lol not sure why you’d try to emasculate a man you don’t know . That’s weird / petty. He’s very masculine and a strong 6’4 Jamaican man/ head of the household. It’s just in his personality and how he was raised ....to cook as well. Jamaican men love to cook it’s in our culture . No shade .....
@@lysssismore2231 right then you say lol ur mother was the man in that marriage a man in the kitchen? Because it was his Choice a man should be on his purpose and getting those 7 figures
Money alone does NOT make a Man “Highly Valued”
Black men in america cry for respect from Black women.But i dont see other race of men asking for respect too much from their women.BECAUSE YOU EARN RESPECT THROUGH YOUR DEEDS.
@@cherryblossoms942 I don't know what any Man has in there pockets, its not my business. But I do know a Man is considered a" Man" included but not limited to him being a provider, provision, protector for his family. In the way that the Most High provides for us. So, I listen to these videos because I'm wanting to gain knowledge and understanding about things I may be oblivious to that people on the outside looking in can see that I don't. But when I tune in, & see a Person speaking negatively or putting down women or anybody because they are so inflated with pride by there pocket (provider) but fail to provide correct provision ( talking down on but not uplifting & teaching) or not being a protector (that includes protecting my heart) then he is not ready for the platform just yet. It upsets me because men have seemed to have forgotten there role as a leader. This Man is an example of that by the disrespect & disregard of women he feels are not to his personal liking. He feels qualified to speak on what women do & don't do and how we can't have a so called "quality man" if we are not what he feels like we should. " Quality" is not money alone. Ugliness & degrading someone's character is not "quality" He is full of his self and needs to re evaluate his self
@@irenentende6244 I agree
I can't speak for Most Men
But some Men I personally encounter or watch on youtube platforms continue to disrespect Black women & expect to receive respect, love, feminity, & softness from sistas. Its for everyone to be held accountable for there actions.
Men & Women both need to stop pointing the finger at one another. We have to not be reactive to others behaviors in a degrading way. I think that this brother needs to check himself before getting on here women bashing. He don't even realize he's contributing to the problem not the solution
Sis..I get where he is going but that term is very disturbing. Every man in my life is of high value and the measurement is not based upon financial status. Sign of the times..
@@Lucky-ry9es Its a very sad thing when the elders can't lead correctly.
I think the reason why high value black men prefer white women is just one thing: attitude. When you are affluent and image is everything, being embarassed is just not acceptable. When a black woman is mad at you, everyone within two city blocks will know it. When a white woman is mad at you, she will pull you into a locked room and let you know her disappointment in private. Each of them will be passionate about their anger towards you but the black woman might not care about being embarassed while letting you know how she feels. A white woman will care. That is my take on the subject.
2:03:21 Very apt analogy with the batteries. Men provide the energy that builds and drives society from the foundation on up. People growing up in today's already-built society don't realize that. But when sh*t hits the fan, things either recover or they don't based on how men step up. Even in the current pandemic, garbage trucks still run, sewers are still serviced, construction continues on - who runs all those essential services overwhelmingly?
....and nurses (mostly female) right there on the front line
@@Pookie_Poo843 *In any world/society that has existed and thrived on this planet.
boo843348 the moors invented the European world.
@@bmsykos One them trying to keep score, as always. BW are the only women in direct competition (opposition) with "their own" men.
@@bmsykos We know this and a man could be a nurse the one thing that makes women more valued is they birth children. As men and women we shouldn't even try competing with each other. The NBA and NFL can't compete they play two different games with different rules.
Your closing advice in this segment was so honest I wish I heard it 25yrs ago. This is truly what young women need to hear and accept with an open mind.
As a black girl what I’ve noticed is that other races of women that bm tend to go for are just more feminine. I’ve realized it’s not about skin color but more about character. A lot of them put effort into their looks and are into working out and eating healthy. They are also more soft and humble and super supportive even in a relationship. Look at Kim and Kanye for example, she may have her own business but she doesn’t walk around throwing it down people’s throats, and she’s super supportive of Kanye and his business. Even if these women are in college and pursuing certain careers they still manage to maintain their feminine charm which is why many of them manage to find their husbands while in college or in their early 20s.
The strangest part about her family is they prefer to be successful with black men, and support them.
Summed up very nicely.
Your right 100%
Spot on! Especially with Kim... Look at Kylie Jenner too. She's got BAAAAANK!! BAAAAANK!! and you dont see no foolishness with her and Travis
I wouldn't say character, but TRAITS. Feminine TRAITS. These traits imo are a prerequisite women must show while dating and being courted by men. These are the traits that make men more likely to want to marry a woman. Submissivness and compliancy in particular. You have women out here that wanna pull a fast one and say "im not submitting to no man but I'll submit to my husband only". I dont think those traits are on/off switches you cut on or off anytime you want. I think they're either a part of you or not.
As a 1st generation Mexican/American raised to be a wife and had my brothers call me from the other side of the house to get them a soda & I did it, not thinking anything about it my entire childhood & still even now for male family at events!!!… when she said EVER?!!! To Kevin’s “the men don’t have to Don’t ever do anything in a household” I was like what?!! That’s sooo alien to me!!🤔🤯😂🤣🤣🤣
A good husband despite working 12-14 hour days will still help out around the house when he can. Any man who wouldn't is being selfish.
Kevin : Who runs Black Media ? Caller : What does that have to do with the conversation ? I feel intimidated ! Kevin : Where is your Husband ? Caller : Crickets ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂.
He has a point about when black women do have a media platform, they don't promote black love. The show Scandal is an example of this which was written by a black women and alot of black women love olivia pope playing a white man's side piece.
Then you got shows like insecure telling these women that they can cheat on a man they belittle and put down and have him take her back after he gets rich and she’s tired of getting train ran. They think that shit really happens. No way in hell is a real life Lawrence taking all these Issas baggage...
...it’s too much ridiculousness, which is why I don’t contribute to any of those shows ratings
@@smithaquarius1 Why you in here telling true lies 😂. But seriously if you don't watch these shows salute.
And tyler perry aint helping much with The Oval either. A show with a white president and black first lady. I guess tyler perry saw how bw loved scandal and decided to make the "formula" complete.
Scandal and The Oval wouldn't get no love from bw if they casted a black president and white Olivia Pope/first lady
Myles Anderson I honestly don’t watch any black media; I catch slack about it to. When I do muster a little time to watch its 90% documentaries (true crime, business, history, fashion), Ted talks, sci-fi, G.O.T, things that help me perfect my craft. Don’t laugh... but the last time I remember watching black media was probably when “Martin” was on air. Probably aging myself with that one :p
Fatherlessness leads to teen pregnancy. Teen pregnancy leads to fatherless children. It's a vicious circle of fatherlessness and teen pregnancy.
If a man is a colorist , you might not want to be with him.
Huh??
Malcolminthemiddle 87 if a woman or a man is deeply attracted to a light skin, green eyes and curly hair then you have to let them pursue those attributes. I would never want to shame a colorist woman into dating me..... I wouldn’t want to be with her because she would only want a light man. Colorism means you have a deep feeling and belief about your preference. I am not here to change those preferences
That's very true
Uoeno Ho You make a valid point & let me tell you why🔥🔥🔥. My first wife used to always tell me that I wasn’t usually her type. She told me she only liked chocolate brothers (Larry Johnson aka “Grandma Ma”, was popular and she kept telling me that was her preference. I think part of her friction with me was because she was a colorist. That was 1994. I wasn’t aware... I was actually proud of her for proclaiming that black is beautiful ( it didn’t even occur to me that I wasn’t beautiful to her 😂😂😂). We didn’t last for 2 years but we have a beautiful son , I was a single dad. He a good man with a good work ethic. I would walk away from a woman if she told me that I wasn’t her type and she usually goes for xyz. Your point is brilliant. 👍🏾
I must be a "colorist" because I prefer my women between mocha brown and fair-skinned.🤷🏿♂️
I'm not black but Kevin is my role model. 99% of women these days are just not living in reality, I blame social media and simps. Full stop.
100
My 3 best friends are lovely dark chocolate women, married to wonderful hard working men. Only one divorced and doesn't have children, but she has no problem getting dates. The other 2 have children, live in beautiful homes, and one is a stay at home mom in texas. The other works just part time, but they kept themselves in shape and are fun and pleasant to be around. The two that are married have been married longer than I, and I've been married 10 years. A competitive women doesn't concern herself with negativity, they just become the best versions of themselves. And my friends husbands are wonderful black men, 1 with his own business and the other with a great career in biology. A pleasant attitude and staying at a healthy weight really puts you ahead of so many. Be responsible with your finances too and have a fulfilling life. You should be passionate about your goals, have fun hobbies, learn new things and try safe new activities. Be an interesting person to yourself first. Happiness attracts. But having a victims attitude is draining. Most black people know colorism exists, just like racism and sexism, but taking on a defeatist attitude won't stop it. You have to become your own best advocate no matter the odds to get success. You only need one great man to respect and admire for marriage. Great show, yet again.
Iman Dalton you may want to consider doing your own show!
@@jimsmith9981 Everything I've learned about being a worthwhile woman I was taught in the Nation of Islam beginning at 14 years of age when I moved into my father's home. They have a class on femininity called MGT and GCC (Muslim girls training and general civilization class ). They are on TH-cam. They teach women 7 basic units- cooking, cleaning, rearing children, care of a husband, sewing, how to act inside the home, and outside the home. We are taught that true beauty is in your obedience to God and keeping your weight healthy. Modesty, elegant manners, education, martial arts and artistic endeavors are pushed. Along with study of the Holy Quran, Bible, and many more books for daily self improvement. I couldn't tell anyone anything better than those classes.
Iman Dalton I knew it!!! I’ve always said to myself that parenting plays a huge part in the attitudes of adults no matter who you are...
Thank you excellent advice Iv actually taken notes from everything you said
Preach the Gospel. “ No Black couples; no Black children, no Black families “
STOP trying to force us into loyalty just cause we're both black. You need to earn our looks/attitude approval just like we have to earn your financial/leadership approval.
OAN: Tell your sistas to stop being so promiscuous bc theyre messing it up for yall. And we'll attempt to get dudes to stop being so thristy and sexing you 5s and below and bad attitude chics, because TOO MANY of you see a man sexing you as validation instead of realise he's slumming bc of his lack of wallet or low self esteem.
SAY IT AGAIN SIR 👏🏾👏🏾
Now that's real talk!
Ouch dude you dropping haymakers! 🔥
How are we going to get anywhere if everybody gotta tip toe around the truth. BM have to hear the truth about our group/individual shortcomings and flaws from the time we start being able to understand. Everybody else in this society gets earmuffs.
@@simonsays1159 They do as they please all we can do is elevate.
Tieo is the type if woman to get you locked up. Raise your voice,"oh you're so mean and threatening.. help!"
I’m lmao, but it’s really sad. 🤦🏾♀️
Men want a healthy woman! An attractive woman! Respectful (24/7)
Appreciation
Praise (verbal)
Cooperation
Submissiveness
Honesty
A woman that wants to be married
She must be childless
Must want children for her husband
Friendly
Companionship
Femininity
Inspirational
Humble
Peaceful
Tranquility
Confidentiality
Find comfort in a woman!
A woman that keeps her mouth shut about what goes on in her home she shares with her husband!
Thanks again Kevin for all that you're doing to educate men on the levels of manhood while also pointing out the roles that a woman should comply with in order for us to have healthy relationships. Myself I've been lost and off purpose for too long a time having married twice only to lose all my resources, and children due to the lack of being properly prepared in love and war. Now I'm 60 and rebounding again trying to stay afloat just to survive, along with my health issues that I'm now dealing with and cannot work anymore. Kevin I hope that you become just as rich and wealthy as you wanna be! Thank you very much.
She made a statement she cannot back up so she wanted to argue. Black women we should not have to compete with you in every arena. We should not have to be challenged even when asked a clear question she has to try and control the direction of the conversation on someone else’s show.
I am SO glad I stumbled across your channel! Got damn! Your points are on POINT! And I definitely can tell you play chess, because your approach to addressing topics are very tactical and tactful! Keep doing what your doing brotha with spitting that knowledge! Just gained another sub right here ✊🏾
Are you an asset or a liability? This is the exact question I asked my wife twenty four years ago when she threaten to walk out on me after she was looking over the other side of the fence, looking for greener pastures. After thirty four years of marriage and my financial ability to retire at the age of fifty year old, she is still with me. So much for the fence.
Nice what profession were you in?
Wow. Great show and host. Just adding my 2 cents as a viewer: The interesting part about the woman named Tao, is that many "corporate minded/leadership position types " such as herself, fall short when communication is challenged between the opposite sex. The women usually feel the need to be right or get the last word...even if it creates heavy friction. Our ego goes into overdrive and exhibit extra masculine energy.
If we were operating "more" from our feminine energy, it would display patience and letting the man finish. Self control, compromise, and seeking a successful outcome. The ability to balance the energies, within self and outside of self.
I've been guilty of this and definitely working on it, as I strive to bring peace and balance within my current relationship. The need to always be right or fight to get your point across is like winning the battle and not the war.
yep, that is how i was taught to be a wife, all of us girls catered to our father. he was spoiled by my mom and us daughters. he returned the favor. not only did i learn from my mother how to cook, bake, grocery shop, plan meals for a month, clean, do laundry, how to iron, and sew, pay bills, budget, i learned how to be in a relationship with a man, by watching her. my mom worked hard, but my father worked harder, and provided for us all. my mom let my father lead our family. i saw my mom dress up for our dad and cater to his every need when he was home. mom ran the house, made sure we kept it clean and respected our dad. because she respected him and loved him, no matter what he did. i had a lot of her ways, so i got married after i graduated high school. i was able to do everything my mom did. and i was happily married for a long time.
This woman HAS NO Husband with the ATTITUDE she is PROJECTING Now she will NEVER have a HUSBAND !
What's your biggest takeaway from the video?
A lot of black women who rather be right than married
Thanks for explaining the Entertainers and Sports Athletes are not in this conversation.
Black men who can OUT-LOGIC a woman’s EMOTIONS scare them... my father taught me this skill and it’s amazing to see it on display... it’s like having a superpower... when you can boil down their bull 💩 without needing to be combative, they become child-like & respond with submission or aggression consistent with the environment they were raised. This channel is HIGHLY VALUABLE to the black community and need more promotion. The number of “Oh wow” moments women have here is critical for our survival. 💯
There's absolutely nothing wrong with selecting for what you want in a woman. Race doesn't guarantee selection.
That competitive nature of a black woman against their counterparts is just not there for most black women.
Kevin is not just helping the black community he is helping all communities and very grateful for him
I laughed so hard with that Tayo chick! I dealt with my version of that. On paper the chick I was dealing was on point because she did have money and was attractive. But she was way too confrontational when I was not even bothering her. When I started to fade to black, she inquired, I told her that I needed peace. This chick basically yelled telling me, "I am your peace!" That. Was the beginning of the end! Lol 😆.
😂😂😂😂 Yup - that sounds like something a Nigerian lady would say
@@LatiWins Lol i relate to that 😂😂 buh they'll be more sarcastic when saying it, compared to the lady he talm bout, init
( I am your peace )🤣🤣💀💀
Told my wife one time “Men rule the world but women make it go round” she did not like that sh*t she was so stuck on the “Men rule” part that she didn’t realize that without women the world can’t be.
This is applies to all rank of men! Black women don’t want to be fit, feminine or submissive for HVM and they look down on average black men. However Becky, Marisol and Myling would gladly be feminine, fit and submissive for their average and HVM.
Its overwhelming, realizing that I've done it all wrong and I've learned this from the women in my family. I'm happy to now take accountability and move forward in the direction of positive companionship, partnerships, and love.
I hope a good man finds you. You're obviously in the minority of the sisterhood
Glad i found this channel, there’s a lot of gems being drop here.
I’d also like to point out that people ultimately deal with who wants to deal with them. Most black women never gave me the time of day for whatever reason. I used to think it was because I don’t fit black stereotypes and always had an interest in things not thought to be associated with black people (at least not my generation) but I always wanted a black woman. Sadly though, the ones I wanted (good looking, smart, and fit) didn’t want me at the time and once they realized what they missed it was too late. I moved on and found someone who does want me and it had nothing to do with her color
Same. I’ve dated more foreign, white and others. Most of the black women I have dated did not fit the media driven stereotype.
Nothing wrong with that. I say go where you are loved.
When you have a high value man and match his drive ❤️ I have been watching this non stop and realized I wasn’t being as good of a woman he deserved! We are going to build an empire together!
When it comes to the corporate Black woman you hit the nail on the head. They don't want to listen. They will push thier degrees and salaries at every opportunity and when you challenge them it's the same response as TIE-O. Thanks for exposing this fact
BW suffer from deep narcissism and attribution bias wen it comes to BM.
Single mothers = SIDE CHICKS
Overweight = I'm out
Feminist = Kill me
Crazy = Run
Who's left?
Becky, Chun-Li, Marisol....
Lol damn
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🎤50 Go Get The💥💥🔫Strap!!💯😎🤙🏽...
@@quixgofar 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Y'all killing me with these names yo!
This is not church, but you have been preaching truth and it's started a movement and it's not going to be business as usual any more. Amen
When I was married Kevin I worked and cooked, baked etc. Made plates. The kitchen was my domain and I was proud of it. Strong black women in my family looked at me like I was a crazy lady lol.
I’m loving this channel, it’s unlike any other I have encountered! I’m really enjoying you Kevin.
Same.
Thank you Kevin for reminding black women to lose weight, have no out-of-wedlock kids, be feminine and not TOO DAMN LOUD. I am a Nigerian-born lady who lives here in USA and I think these traits are what's hurting black sisters much more than the color of our skin.
I agree.
Are you serious??😂
We Nigerians can be the worse and LOUDEST - yet most still have husbands that deal with our mess. Even the ‘thick madames’ with their bubas find and keep husbands.
There must be something more to the story.
@@LatiWins 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👌🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 That is so true I am a South Africa lady dating a Nigeria man yho when he gets angry 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀😱🗣️👂🏽 LOL he is very very loud and I'm not loud so it really scares me sometimes. Even some of our South African people can be very very loud lol
@@LatiWins they aren’t disrespectful to their men.
DAMN this man's impeccable style and brutal honestywith deluded women is refreshing and necessary in this crazy dating market today. Plus he has realist intellect too. Subscribed!
It’s like having my late father & grandpa from Kenya 🇰🇪 mixed in with Yoda, Mr. Miyagi, Tom Leykis, and Jimmy Winters ❄️ wrapped in one ☝️! Knowledge is here! Money 💵 world 🌍
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Colorism? Had to look up the definition 😁
A pretty & fit girl is attractive no matter her color. I can't see a man not taking a girl to bed because of her shade.
What does separate one pretty girl from another is her attitude/personality...and her history.
Women look for men with a good future. Men look for women with a good past.- said by some dude not me
I believe colorism plays a role... But I agree that black women sometimes refuse to play that role that needs to be played by the woman.. More white women and other races are trained to play that role... I have been with white women enough to know that they will focus on the task in order to reach the goal.. They, most of the time have less of a problem with doing things that their man needs them to do.
High level black men run in high level circles, so high level white women are accessible to them and they will marry them. Dark skin women are beautiful but sometimes they are not not raised to please their man.. They are raised to subjugate their man.. Alot of white women are raised the same way... but high level white women are raised to play their role..
I am not a high level black male, but I have noticed that even regular white women are open to giving their man what he wants without the alot of hangups that black women have.. Im sorry if I generalize a bit..
Black women are more "AMERICAN" than most other women.. They will verbalize the goal, but arent sure of how to get there..
I had a friend who told me to travel the world.. Go to China because women will "draw you a bath" and treat you like a man... Women dont have a nasty "attitude" in Brazil.. They KNOW how to treat a man
Im just saying that dark skinned women get stereotyped more than others, but it isnt impossible for them to get the man they want if they are willing to play that game. They are beautiful just like other women, they just need to display it to the man they want..
He won't leave you for a "white girl" if you give him what he needs
Nothing's more cringe worthy, than 'a pit bull in a dress', ( EVE'S words, not mine ) trying to be feminine. And they think a soft voice can hide their bullish attitude. Over talking a man is a truly offensive act. Ms. $100,000 and those of her ilk, are truly obnoxious.
Folks fell for it though. They downplayed the negative effect a "bullish" attitude would have on his life.
ITS REFRESHING AND SAD AT THE SAME TIME...SEEING BLACK WOMEN ACTUALLY LISTENING TO THE TRUTH ABOUT BLACK MEN IS REFRESHING BUT ITS SAD AT SEEING HOW DELUSIONAL A LOT OF OUR WOMEN ARE
As a singular competitive black woman, I was highly affected by colorism. I have never been combative with any man, don't believe in it, but I don't want to feel owned when I have my own house, business, job etc. I was wanting a man to step up to allow me to be a stay at home wife and mom, but black men would tell me about what they thought I would before they actually met me. The men who dated me, felt weird because they thought I would just end up with a white man since I was the soccer mom type, who believed in home making.
Soccer mom, whose attractive enough, cooperative and good in the bed would be a dream for many of the men.
When you say you don’t wanna feel owned, what do you mean by that?
@@concernedcitizen4824 I don't want any man to tell me that I must do this or that or can do what I want. We can discuss and decide what would be best to help and not hurt each other , but I don't want a dictator.
@@stevans79 you should consider staying single. I’m being very honest with you.
You don’t want to be under the authority of a man. Women like that should be able to hold your own in any situation.
So, if a 300lb man is ready to attack you, then you should be able to take care of yourself. Otherwise accept being behind a man which is the leader and you will be fine.
Trust me, what you want will keep you single in today’s dating market.
There are more women looking for a good man than there are men looking for good women.
@@stevans79 exactly why you'll be single foe very loooonnngg time😁
I immediately subbed when I saw the lit candle and the straw sticking out the red bull can. This man is a must listen at all costs
I’m speechless! This is toxic! Our society is toxic. Our relegion is toxic. Our music is toxic. Our generational curses are toxic. Our perception is toxic. Our frequency is low. To break free from everything discussed here will require SOUL WORK, SHADOW WORK AND SELF LOVE. I’m a High Value woman that had to learn hard lessons to get here. If he had me on the show it’ll be EPIC, ORGASMIC, and ENLIGHTENING. TRIGGERING AND TRUE!
46 minutes in..... I’ve met any black women with a “Valley Girl Voice “ who actually like black men. I know 1 great black woman with that voice who likes all men (white, Latino & black)
I met a handful.
tfitness4u it’s a shit ton of em. Branch out. It’s even got its own accent in the hood, it’s called a “Blalley Girl”
Ferrari Khan 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 . That’s hilarious. I love it. 👍🏾. On the east coast “Blalley Girls “ usually don’t like black dudes. I knew 1 who liked all dudes but she had to drop that accent because of her job 😂 “blalley girls” brilliant
@@tfitness4u Those are the black women that I want. I don't want some good mouthed, ratchet. I've had a few, but they are very liberal and hard to find.
caveman_35seven 🤞🏾 I Hope people understand that I am distinguishing a “Valley girl accent “ from a woman who speaks eloquently and comfortably. I just learned that the proper term for that accent is “BLALLEY GIRL 😂”
When he played the military song and saluted.🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gets me everytime, and how he can keep a straight face, I couldn't 🤣🤣🤣
What about the roadrunner sound??
80 out of 100 are fat and 64 out of those 80 are fat to the point of being gross. WOW !!!!
Kevin has me cracking up with the crickets playing for the likes 😂🤣😂🤣
I have had it with these high value men title... A man of high value is a man of integrity, humility and does not cheat on his significant other. Money does not make a man high value. I know a lot of men with money and looks who are so insecure.
Marriage aint about love. If that aint the truth.
You got at least care for the other person. The person has to be attractive. I know he disagree but no way im dealing with a ugly person. Tbh
@@malcolminthemiddle8777 I grew up around foreigners in arranged marriages that lasted longer than American marriages built on "love". Their concept is togetherness for the sake of survival and working together love comes with the time they spend working together in the marriage.
@@meuniversity4155 But if you build the marriage on superficial terms it may not last. Look at the high value men who "upgraded" to the fantasy chick on to be divorced and left with half . Really thats vanity and vanity gets you every time
@@communitysolutionspro1520 that's because they get rewarded for going awol. No shame. No honor. No code. No
Loyalty
Oh I thought you were saying that it's not about love period. Yeah the reasons behind people getting married are something else and most of the time not built on a firm foundation.
My uncle use to say,you like it i love it.
that girl calling at around 2hrs, she is 4 at best, cant believe she thinks she is "fine" where does this fake self confidence come from ?
It came from the liberal (a very twisted version of liberalism which we see today) school systems "teachin self esteem". Fact is, those who have less of anything have to have less self esteem, so that it encourages them to go out and get what they dont got. The new liberal notion is that everyone has infinite value, just by being human. Thus, a 180pound 5 '4 woman is just as good as a supermodel.
This has come up on the show before but again, there a difference between corporate America and entertainment. Sure the black athlete wont think twice about getting a becky SOMETIMES and that is over promoted imo. But if i as a HVM bring a 7-10 becky to a corporate function where i have white bosses as a black male that may do more harm for me than good because i have one of “their” good women
Then don't marry a white woman or have a "rent a black wife" lol.
Crazy i started listening to K.S like 2 months ago he only had 50k subscription now look at him. He showing and proving.
He is doing a Great job
Same. He's addictive!