Social Anxiety Disorder - causes, symptoms, diagnosis, treatment, pathology
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Social anxiety makes you anxious even around your closest friends. You think *everyone* judges you, no matter who they are.
Facts
So its not just me. Even with My closest family members
Yea
Tomorrow my cousin comes to visit me and it's making me SO anxious I wish he cancels ...
This happens to me!
Living with social anxiety, when you succesfully speak with a stranger it feels like a big accomplishment, but if you fail it feels like the world is ending
i agree
That is so true.
TerrarianProGamer yes
I know right I get so scared
Where was social anxiety before 1950? It is a new problem because of low social engagement and our new diets. Having a strong will and practicing calmness will definetly help. No onw actually cares and if they do judge you its on them, not u. Everyone makes mistakes
School is a nightmare when you have social anxiety. Who else can agree?
Or military boot camp
@Ningxy absolutely. I would sweat so much on the first day every year. With the snap of the fingers you have to find a lunch table that fits you or you will stand their awkwardly in front of a bunch of other students.
Yea
yh
Learn primal scream therapy...it will change ur life
The problem with social anxiety is that you're not just afraid of social interaction, you're afraid that if you fail/embarrass yourself your already non-existent confidence will shrink even more. I've actually considered suicide when a conversation didn't go well.
We care about you. If you want to talk to someone or are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988. For international resources, this list (www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html) is a good place to start.
@@osmosis The suicide hotline is a joke.
same
On the real 😂😢
It's my second day working and I'm terrified and I'm sure people around me can see it bcs they ask me if I'm afraid of them, both of which are my superiors. It's obvious, and it makes me more anxious knowing they can see I'm scared. Even when someone gave me instruction about the simplest task... My mind is racing.... Right after they finish.. I already half forgot the instruction. I over anxious, over thinking while doing even the simplest job. And when this happens its crushing the already small confidence I have, then I'm not so sure about the job that I done and I'm scared of the thought they not just gonna be mad at me, but disappointed in me, bcs obviously I've been in that situation a lot and I can tell while looking at their face. It's happened a lot and it's still the same.
That moment you realize you need therapy, but therapy requires social interaction
Same :(
Therapy will be hard at first, but you will get closer with your therapist and they will make you feel more comfortable. Trust me, it really helps🙏🏻
i don't know if this is a part of social anxiety too, but i have a very weird fear of expressing my feelings towards people. when it comes to my closest family members i just don't know how to express my love, i really suck at it. but with other people (friends and etc) i'm afraid as hell to show them my feelings, i feel like if i do that it'll drive them away from me or they'll think i'm weird. i know this is crazy because actually not showing feelings will drive them away from me but trust me, i tried to convince myself into this countless times but i just can't help myself. is anyone dealing with this too?
You need to talk to your parent about it as well. You know how it is...
I have no budget for therapy
I can't do even simple things because of social anxiety ,its ruining my life.
It doesn't have to. You can overcome it.
@@bathm1135 That's literally my fucking life. My heart pounds for simple things like just sitting in a chair with people around me. I can never relax
Two Cents same
i can’t even go shopping without feeling embarassed
Same:''(
I miss the old days. I can talk to everyone,i can go out, I didn't think I was ugly, I wasn't afraid of people judging me.The pandemic changed everything. at least i can talk to people in my dreams
please you are not ugly ,the creations of god can never be ugly🥺I have also been through this stage but it's getting a lil better now
It is 100% my story
Just remember this, everyone is in their own little story and unless you are their super best friend they forget what you do that’s embarrassing.
Seriously! I love being social, the first one to ask questions and I even enjoy public speaking… with the pandemic now I feel like I have to relearn everything 😫 I get so nervous feels weird because I know it’s not me
This is really relatable.
I feel stupid. Even when I walk im thinking "am I walking in a weird way? Are they looking at me?"
Thought I was the only one
Same 😢
SAMEEE
Same here
Me thinking the people in the cars are staring at me or know who I am lol
Social Anxiety thoughts:
Am I trembling?
They know!
They are all staring at me!
They are laughing at me.
Can they hear my thoughts?
Help
“ haha poopy he said poopyyyyy ahahhahaaAAa”
Omg today I was at the store and I had my hair in a messy bun, and I saw some people laughing and my fist thought was that there are laughing at my hair. That feeling is the absolute worst 😪
i don't know if this is a part if social anxiety too, but i have a very weird fear of expressing my feelings towards people. when it comes to my closest family members i just don't know how to express my love, i really suck at it. but with other people (friends and etc) i'm afraid as hell to show them my feelings, i feel like if i do that it'll drive them away from me or they'll think i'm weird. i know this is crazy because actually not showing feelings will drive them away from me but trust me, i tried to convince myself into this countless times but i just can't help myself. is anyone dealing with this too?
@@julyolita ME
@@cathy9707 ugh i've finally found someone, i thought i'm the only one. how are you dealing with that?
The worst part is when people around you dont understand social anxiety and think you are being ridiculous and that "its not that hard to talk to somebody"
Yeap, every folk that doesn't suffer from it thinks it's easy and they give advice like "live without thinking" which pisses me off more.
Yea because if it was that easy we wouldn’t be panicking for the littlest things 🤦🏾♀️
Ilse Valdez I told my mom about it and she makes fun of me for it
@@woniewrld i am too scared to tell my mum because I'm scared she'll make fun of me.
One of the hardest 'advice' to hear for me when having this condition is "just don't care so much". It's hard not to care about what others might think of me
I have had social anxiety since I was 3 or 4, now I'm 14 and nothing has changed. Every day at school I just watch my classmates live their lives, have fun and create memories. I always wished I could talk more but social anxiety makes it impossible. I tried telling my mom that it's very hard for me to talk to people and raise my hand in class (even though I know the answer) but she told me ''just talk'' and other stuff like that which made my blood boil. I just suffer alone, cry myself to sleep because of this stupid social anxiety and the fact that no one cares, no one wants to understand, thinking that my life could have been so much better if I was more social...
Edit: Thank you all so much for all your positive comments! To this day I still have social anxiety but I've come a long way in my growth journey and I feel much more capable of changing myself. Remember, every little thing that you do matters, I'm telling you this from experience, because for so long I used to think that I wasn't making any change in my life, yet, looking back at who I was a year ago, for example, I realise that I've actually evolved so much! For whoever has social anxiety, don't give up! You have potential and are just as capable as anyone else! It takes a lot of hard work but you can do it! ❤❤
Hey, I kind of have a similar situation as you do. As far as I remember I wasn't like this before and everything started since I change where I used to live. I lost all my friends and making new friends it's just looking so difficult, but I never tell these things to my parents, I don't want to make them worried. I don't know if it's going to help you what I want t say, but you are the main character of your life.
Me to I’m only 15 but it feels like I’m wasting my teen years not making much friends/memories
@@Hesavedher i’m 15 too and i feel exactly the same way
@@tresh0re :/ hope u feel better .
@@Hesavedher you as well
For me, one of the strangest symptoms was that I was afraid of listening to things at a normal volume level, and it would make me think that people are judging me. Usually, when I listen to things, I either keep the volume extremely low and turn on subtitles (if there are subtitles), or plug in headphones and keep the volume low. Which, I know headphones exist so that people don't hear, but I still kinda fear that they can hear somehow. Oh well.
Me tooo, ( it's an weird symptom)
I do this too
I have that problem too
same except i just watch videos in another language that no one around me knows
yes, I'm just afraid that people will think that I'm some kind of hearing-impaired fool🙈
I can't even have a regular conversation without my heart rate increasing and heavy breathing
Yeah, especially if you say a joke or something and the other person doesn't get it and then you go into full on panic mode.
same, I tend to shake my legs a lot :(
Kenneth Gooden i am exactly the same ... sometimes i think people might hit me if i say what i think ... i am loosing my voice and i go red... i can’t speak properly ... it sucks
Same. Can someone help
@@rishikalalwani1675 I found that breathing slowly helps (look out breathing exercices on youtube) and, weirdly, having a candy in my mouth or something in my hands (fan, keys...).
Yep..I can't even order Chinese food..
over the phone.
막내재 ik my parents just don’t understand
@@ecaterina4997 same I wanna tell my parents but it feels like they don't understand
My mom says "Stop acting like a child, this is ridiculous, you are 18 and not even able to make a phone call" 🙃
Yeah I found doordash and I barely have to talk to anyone which is a relieve
@UnofficiallyNotNormal omg same I feel like I have social anxiety idk but I'm shy around others and nervous ..I don't like being the centre of attention around strangers in social events plus I overthink about my future a lot 😭
Lord, please help me🙏 and all the people having this social anxiety out there. Please give us strength and courage. Amen
I've had social anxiety since intermediate... and she's right I have a fear of being judged negatively. I think it was from when I was a kid and I was neglected and mocked for how I looked and other things. Now I'm 21 and I just want to live a normal life. Glad to see other people who have had similar issues. I hope everyone with social anxiety can eventually overcome it, and not care about these little things so much. 💛
@jessicaj9743thank you for this comment, right now I’m so overwhelmed with anxiety and I wanted to vent to someone but I’m crying because I can’t explain my feelings to someone. I’m overwhelmed, in tears & my heart reaches to God tho I can’t find the words to say. Thanks for your comment because now I’m going to pray to Him.
But have you overcome it by now?
@@A1lexander Id say by a fair bit
Is therapy the only way???, can i do it on my own??
I can't look people in the eye
Yup I’m always staring at the floor or something when I talk to people :/
same :( like I literally get lost in my thoughts when I look at ppl in the eye when I speak. I keep having to look away so I can remember what I'm talking about.. it really sucks
same:( . they think I am weird.
Hi liamo and others viewing this comment, Ive battled with anxiety all my life and been for the most part of it unable to look people in the eye. When I used to look up most times people would be looking. The presumption is that the person staring has a negative view on me. That's what anxiety disorder leads you to believe.
I want you to immagine somone that you are confortable with, such as a parent or a best friend that you get on with and communicate well with within a comforting scenerio. In that situation when effectively speaking to that person you would look that person in the eye when they respond, looking in the eye helps you to understand the information the person is conveying. Without looking the conversation wouldn't flow.
When walking down the street people glance at other people's faces and eyes to gain a generilsation of that persons thought and that's it, most don't think your wierd or strange... They just want to gain a small piece of information in that present moment.
I'm 6,4ft and broad and under most situations most people think I'm out going because I've learnt how to counteract my bad anxiety behaviours. The best thing is to just try and practice, when walking down the street just try and look at somone for 1 second, not an extremely quick glance/or a stare. just practice giving that a go and you'd be suprised how many people can't look anyone in the eye.
John B Peterson is extremely good at breaking this type of stuff down 👍🙏
SAMMEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel like I’m constantly being judged by people when I hear people laughing or whispering and it really makes me nervous 😬 and want to run away without feeling embarrassed 😳
Dit it happen To you at some point (family, friends.. .)?
I had that feeling too! But being mindful of my thoughts really helped me a lot!
The time I had to speak in front of class with a speech, everyone noticed my hands were trembling as I held the paper. It was shit especially after some asked me why I was shaking and then my "asshole former fake friend" made fun of how I acted on front.
Samee girl😔
Damn straight
i think the hardest part for me has been, growing up and never "growing out of it", watching my quiet friends from school open up and become "normal", im in college now and no one else is as quiet as me in classes, and i stick out like a sore thumb. everyone keeps asking me why i never speak. it probably wont be long before the professors start noticing too. im so done with this.
I am in 9th and same thing you are talking is me.
For someone who 'almost' overcame social anxiety, I will tell you that you have to keep going. Never stop. Because when u do it it all comes back. I had childhood trauma that was the root cause. It's also important to find it so you can strategically address it. I really hope u fight that pesky SA and shine like the moon..that you are...not just some star ❤️
So true
Akshually, stars shine brighter, like the sun. The others are just far away.
Can you please give some tips. I didn't have any anxiety when untill 15 yrs but as i grow up i am growing more underconfident, socially anxious, and even i have started hating myself and comparing to others😭😭😭 plz give some tips to overcome this
@purva4365 Something that helps me is thinking of social anxiety as a separate entity that is trying to control you. Then when I have anxious thoughts like “they’ll judge me for this” I remind myself that those aren’t my thoughts. Which makes it easier to believe that my social anxiety is wrong, which helps me feel much less anxious
social anxiety started developing in middle school, ofc.
omfg same, 6th grade
@@kleec6078 I have social anxiety building up alot I'm in 7th grade and it freaking sucks really
Hiya There mine started in elementary
God I relate so badly. It started in 7th grade and got more severe each day. Now I go to 8th grade and I can say I lost the ability to talk to people comfortably. I get so nervous and feel very uncomfortable.
I’m an overachiever at school, so yah i was a perfectionist and i had a lot of SYMPTOMS of social anxiety and i didn’t want to ask for help bc i was scared people would think i did it for attention. I still haven’t done anything haha
I just want to live a normal life.
Me too
Indeed
I think there is no such thing as "normal life" eventually everyone has problems in some time in their lives. Thinking in that way stops me from pittying myself.
I have OCD, Social Anxiety, and possibly Bipolar Depression. I also have Anger Issues 😓
@@CuteGirl-of7dk Do you think OCD is just cleaning because if you do you definitely don't have OCD. No offense just wanna make sure you aren't one of those dumb kids who stereotypes everything
I used to have really bad social anxiety, got depressed thinking everyone hated me and constantly had suicidal thoughts.
I think it's cause my parents never taught me how to deal with my emotions, or rather they didn't really let me express myself.
For example being angry or in a bad mood should always be hidden, since it made them uncomfortable.
I also experienced verbal abuse from my father, constantly telling me I was useless.
But I finally managed to get help from outside and got therapy, now I can talk to strangers without feeling like crying and even joke around sometimes. 🙃
I didn't have social anxiety when I was little but school ruined everything for me.
same here
Same i deal with it now... its horrible..
Same
I have this disorder. It's the absolute worst.
Ace Anime the same as the 1st comment .
Appreciate Video clip! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Mahorrla Execute Shy Method (do a search on google)? It is a smashing one off guide for beating social anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my close friend Aubrey at very last got great results with it.
There are a few components to reducing anxiety quickly . One plan I found that successfully combines these is the Aghy Magic Method (google it if you're interested) without a doubt the best guide that I have ever heard of. look at the interesting info .
agreed idk if i have it i havent been diagnosed bcs im never at a doctor but i watched so many videos that just staight up said the stuff that i feel like so i gues i have it and its so fucking bad it sucks so much and im just so scared all the time and it pressures and stresses me and its soooo bad idk i cant really handle it and nobody knows bcs i told my parents and they dont understand and idk what to do they think i overreact and that i dont feel that bad so i cant talk to anybody and idk what to do please help me i wanna cry
el tioredentor They are both things that need to be solved and helped, you can't compare one disease to another, as they all have their struggles. And both can be deadly.
I can’t even go for walks/runs on my own street without feeling embarrassed or judged.
Omg its the same everytime when i walk down in the street
Same
I cannot do sport at all, even though I want to
same,and my mom does not understand that i don’t want to face someone,no one,like i prefer to stay in the house,and they think i’m weird bcs of that
Same thing with taking out the trash or getting the mail☹️
I was a confident teen, never was afraid to talk to girls, on the wrestling team, big group of friends, didn’t fear no one etc. As I’ve gotten older and had kids. Few traumatic experiences I was struggling with anxiety and social anxiety for years. In the last couple of years I really don’t suffer anymore. My advice is that you must not hide away, keep putting yourself in socially uncomfortable situations, yea sometimes you feel awkward or have intense adrenaline which makes you speechless, which makes you look weird, I always just thought as them conversations as repetitions and not focused on how bad it felt or went it can help you get over the fear of judgement. If someone is taking advantage of you, speak up. If you feel someone is wrong, tell them. If someone is trying to beat you, stand your ground and fight. You have to keep pushing yourself because you’re just have rough life letting fear control you. Trust me I did it for years.
Yeah, it's the adrenaline response that makes all of it so hard haha. You can rationalise as much as you want, and you will be correct about not worrying about random conversations where you felt akward or a phone call that didnt go well, but your body cloids your brain with adrenaline and you cant think like you know you can.
Its horrible
Man, I feel you so much. What you experienced really describes me. I start having anxiety later in life. Now I can't even seat at the restaurant with friends. I have to escape to the bathroom. My heart is racing for no reasons. I feel like I want to scream or I'm gonna lose control at anytime. It gets better when my diet gets better and I exercice, but I feel like it's a never ending circle sometimes.
@@insaneinternet 100 percent I get you. because I was so lively as a teen, very confident, funny guy reputation, I felt like there was massive pressure especially around childhood friends out in bars etc. What I did to overcome it, is just do it more often, even organise the event/meet up yourself get everyone out. Take charge of the situation. Honestly things like that made me feel responsible and big confident boost. Also you will have bad nights and feel like you want to go home, leave the crew earlier than expected. But real friends will understand and support you know matter what. It’s just doing it more often. Try a mixed martial arts/boxing/kick boxing gyms I felt like that help me also. You meet people just like you, great exercise, and also very good sometimes to beat the shit out of a bag or pads.
I’m turning 30 this year and I’ve suffered from this all my life. I’ve finally started taking anxiety medication about a year ago and I’m still upping my dose. However, it’s been 30 years of suffering and I feel like others don’t understand me. Yes, I constantly try to please others because I’m scared of being judged. I’ve had to drop multiple programs in college because the confrontation broke me over and over. I just started a new job and my anxiety has never been higher.
There is a book called the subtle art of not giving a fuck look it up. It helped me out a little. I leaned to accept that this is who I am and to not care what others think BUT the social anxiety creeps up on me sometimes as I work in an office setting. I'm 41, I didn't even realize that there was such a thing called social anxiety. I also realized that electronics sometimes trigger the anxiety.
same, I can not do anything :(
I totally relate to this. This is my life. And its ao hard for ne because Im a single parent full time to a 6 month old boy. The anxiety has been so extreme for several years Ive actually had to go on disability asssistance from the government because Im so afraid of people.
I feel trapped, and I don’t know how to get out. All I want is for my son to have the most normal life
@@Peacelovegoodenergy hugs!
💗💗i hope you live a better life sending virtual hugs and love also enjoy .life as u r comfortable uk
I always get labeled as "the quite girl" since middle school and i hate it.
baby I same🥺
I literally hate when I get called "quiet”
baby I same
I want to be a strong, broad and social man but I am a thin, shy, quiet, anxious guy.
same :/
I'm watching this during quarantine I have social anxiety and i wish quarantine never ends
Me too
But I live with a big family and they are kinda annoying because before quarantine I used to walk in a garden at 1:00am alone with lo-fi in my ears
Patiently waiting for this lockdown to end so that everyone can leave the house
And enjoy my own company
That's a peaceful life for me
@@justrick7024 me too
Online class has got me. my heart sinks by the thought I have to open my camera what if they judge me. I can't reply teacher when they ask me anything. What if my answer is wrong and people will judge me. I can t reply my friends texts what if they judge me I can't even talk with my friends in phone. My family thinks I am a lazy phone addict but when I sit for studying all kind of Overthinking comes and I end up using phone for distraction.thats why I can't keep up with my notes on online class. They thinks I don't respect thm but actually I am too afraid to get judge by my own family members. My english is not good. In the conclusion what ever I do I end up felling worthless. Thank you for listening to me have a nice day stranger.
Social anxiety is not just the fear and paranoia of being judge by others. It's also the fear of everyone assuming things on you, assuming your actions and thinking, the fear of everyone putting you in a box. It is very aweful overthinking that a lot. You make irrational things when social anxiety hits you. And everything you say and act is always planned in your head so you don't get to embarass your self. And after interracting to people you get depressed thinking it was not the right response. You them think they'll gonna hate you, dislike you, look down on you, disrespect you, judge you, weirded on you, laugh at you, get away from you. Social anxiety is not as easy as you think it is humiliating and physically mentally draining. If you think you knew someone who have social anxiety please dont give them a hard time. ❤️
This is exactly me😢
This is exactly me too how relatable do uh really want this to be🥲
I just had a phone call with a very good friend of mine and in the end I felt like my responses shouldn't have been those and he wil definately look down upon me now I wasn't being rude or anything. I was having a normal conversation but still it feels like that
What do I even do 🥺
I'm afraid of even talking in the group chat with my classmates because I think that they will judge me for whatever I say or do.
Once i accidentally sent an emoji and i panicked so bad i tried to remove it as faster as possible (while I was sweating and shaking)
Same
i do the same with my gc and it’s only my closest friends in there. i feel like anything i say can come off as stupid or wrong so i just stopped talking in it
I’ve got to do a Google meet today with everyone and I’m so anxious. To add to that I have a bad hair day. I was forced to do it by my dad and then he said I NEVER participate in group activities. I’m to awkward for that.
Kpop lover Same, my classmates have a group chat on Instagram and I’m way too nervous to ask if I can join cause I think they will judge me or talk behind my back like « Why she want to join ? » or something like that
I had to do a group work project
*it was over the phone and it was a podcast*
Is there a cure? because sometimes I see my future so blurred and isolated.
Eliana Rodriguez I cannot see my future cause I have deep suicidal thoughts. And I’m fcking scared to see a doctor.
@@ahalty0710 hey dont worry every thing will be fine just overthink
@@ahalty0710 Don't be afraid to see a doctor, or should I say therapist, it will help you greatly I promise.
it saddens me that you have no nirvana songs in your rock playlist. Btw i feel you, i already feel so isolated and excluded in society.
@@QuckHead Oh really??? Therapists give you advice on how to handle your mental condition, and you can always vent to them.
As a person who has it, i must say social anxiety makes your life not life. In fact, it feels like as if you're standing in the middle of circus so that tons of people could laugh at you and judge you for who you are and what you wear. It makes you have trust issues since you have trouble being around people. It doesn't matter if it's your friends or a really good person or your partner. You would still feel anxious around them and become alert about the words you say in case they would hurt you. Social anxiety, for me, makes me double question myself about my close friends even though i've been friends with them for 7 years.
Social anxiety makes life almost unmanageable. Family gatherings would practically be traumatizing for me. There's plenty id like to do but I just can't.
Reading these comments make me realize that I'm not alone. And that is such a relieving thought.
Same.
Same bruh
I agree
samee omg.
@@adet5114 I thought I was the only one.
S- Social
A- Anxiety
D- Disorder
Sad :(
Person Myers yup :(
I want my classmates to see this
I know. When I was diagnosed, I was like "wow, I'm literally a SAD person" 👁️👄👁️
Depression actually goes hand in hand with social anxiety. I have them both.
@@luvella9795 same. I know.
Since this comment section makes me feel a lot better I want to try and make someone that they are not alone as well... Here's my story:
Yesterday was the first day of my new school and when my dad drove me in front of the entry I immediately felt my heart pounding... there were at least a thousand people there! And everyone had friends to talk to and walk together while I was trying to keep calm and find where my class is (we were outside of the school and there was no organization where the 8th graders were!!) I was terrified and scared so I just stood there looking around so confused and uncomfortable (my dad wasn't with me, he had to go to work). At the end I managed to find my class and that was the worst first school day of my life. New school, new people to deal with, also new teachers. We went into our classroom everything was kind of good I was calm and sitting alone on my desk... I think everyone had a friend who they sat with. After a while one of the new teachers showed up to introduce herself to the class and she was really strict that I got really scared because she said that all of us need to be active no matter what. When I left school and called my mom I told her that everything went well... but it actually didn't. At night when I was going to sleep I started crying how I just want to stay locked up in my room and not go anywhere.. I said to myself that I even want to change schools because of the class and teachers. I just have a bad feeling about this school.. and I found out I'm suffering from social anxiety.... My emotions make me feel like I am someone else and I can't be myself. Just when I'm alone. Anyone reading this who suffers from social anxiety.. you are not alone. God bless you and if you need someone to listen then I'm here for you.
everything you said, that exactly happened to me when I was in school specially in 6th and 10th.. Right now I am 23 year old as a IT support engineer but still social anxiety kills me everyday and everytime because I am introvert, but I am always trying to handle my self when I feel fearful and anxious about anything.. BTW where are you from and how old are you?
I still can't talk with people as much as they want, I still don't know what to do with my social anxiety issues..
I went through almost the same stuff and it was indeed terrible
@@R73949 tbh I'm going through the exact same problem currently as well as earlier
@@R73949whatever you did please tell me also
what really pisses me off is that one day i was a normal person i was really confident and happy but over the years it kept getting worse until i've become anxious around my own family and this shit really hurts it feels like you're a prisoner in your own body
Yeah you are right 👍
Me: *opens up to my mother*
Mom: "just stop thinking about it"
Wow I never thought it was that easy to deal with
Hey friend , we don't choose our parents and sadly sometimes they aren't the best , but they are also humans that make mistakes, don't blame them. Anyways my point is that there are many more people out there that will care for you and understand you and of course love you. I don't know you but you can count me as someone who cares for your well-being.
same i told my mom and she said "oh i have it to just get over it"
@@stelaras77777 wow you are so good sir
I know my mom says it all the time.. but they don't get it..
***Social anxiety rates drop to 0%***
Social anxiety doesnt just ruin your life , it stops you from living it , i've been socially anxious for as long as i can remember , probably since i was 12 (im 18 now and nothing has changed , if anything it got worse ) ! My parents obviously dont know anything about what im going through and they're always pushing me to do stuff that are pretty casual and normal to others but So tough and complicated to me , such as : Order some food on the phone , go to the grocery store , Speak up in family gatherings , not lock myself up in my room forever ... It honesly feels like the weight of the world , It has gotten to the point where i envy and resent everyone who's Confident and outgoing and i just wonder to myself ... These people should never be upset , how could they ? How dare they ? They are blessed ! I think that the hardest thing about social anxiety is comparing yourself to others , And obviously with social anxiety comes Other cruel issues like self-pity , depression and OCD ... This comment is already too long so ill just sum it up : F**k my life
Update: Hi, This is me 2 years later , my anxiety has significantly dropped, i dont feel as tense in social situations anymore. I've been forced to socialize due to my major in college and that's exactly what i needed .
It gets better with time and practise, running away from what you're anxious about is the biggest mistake you could possibly make.
FACE YOUR FEARS PEOPLE, YOU GOT THIS .
I feel you. It’s so hard to live with this sht
For me I was just shy and then I started showing symptoms of social anxiety disorder. I hope it gets better for you.
Look I have that social anxiety too,but I am also huge overthinker and I came to conclusion that it's not as bad as I think,even ppl that used to mock me still kinda think I'm cool in a way,only thing that's holding me down and not letting me actually going and living life is one insecurity about my appearance that I'd need to wait to be fixed :((
* hug * 🌸
@@nbw_dark6906 I'm so proud of u man 🙌
Social anxiety disorder is typing out your message in Notepad instead of in the instant messaging app. That way, in the off chance the recipient is looking at your DMs, they won't see the "User is typing..." message, so you can check and revise it 20 times to make sure the message doesn't look offensive or weird to them and so they don't actively wait on you to type out your message.
I swear to god, absolutely true
Nahh dude where are the cameras deadass cut them
My brother also had severe social anxiety, he always struggled to make friends and never got a girlfriend. He took his life at 25 after a chain of events , i still miss him :/
Omg that's so hurtful and scary.
It shouldn't happen with anyone.
I am heading that way too
anyone else get really scared of online meetings? even if i turn off the camera i always feel like it hasnt turn off so i always have to cover my camera...
yeah me too. i feel like even just turning off the camera does nothing and that my classmates can still see and judge me.
same 😢
English Bro sameee😳😳
@English Bro omg im gonna try that XD
I try to have my camera off most times but just recently theyve made it mandatory for the cams to be on, i nearly threw up cuz of how anxious i got at the thought
Sadly that disorder can lead to depression... It's a hell :(
It really is. I've been dealing with it my whole life.
Indeed 😓
My depression came before S.A.D, a month before.
Yeah
Hepi can depression lead to social anxiety?
I have no Friends, No Girlfriend, no Job, no Money, no Children, and No Self esteem.
I just have this Curse called Social Anxiety.
I can't do anything, I haven't left the house for years, I can't live, I feel palpitations in my body, stress EVERY SINGLE DAY,Before, I was just sad for not being able to have friends, but now I just feel Anger and Hate, I can't feel anything anymore , when anxiety starts I get so angry that I start banging my head against the wall for feeling it.NOBODY ever understands you, but they love to tell you how weird you are, how "pretending" you are, but nobody wants to help YOU. NOBODY.
Before I was happy that everyone got to be Normal, but now I'm starting to feel Anger and Envy, and I understand that I'm wrong. But I can't get this feeling out of me. I've even gotten to feel Disgusted, because other people are normal, and I'm not.I don't know how my Social Anxiety came about, I can't remember, I just know that I've always been like this
My only company are my dogs, they don't judge me, they are always happy and always there for me, i love them more than anything
I hate being like this, my Life would definitely be MUCH better than this miserable life I have, I can't even go to the Supermarket without feeling sick. I HATE THIS
Sorry for my bad English
You are me brother i cannot even maintain eye contact and I understand that your social anxiety had got much worse brother what do you think I should do?
I'm so sorry but you have to try and face your fears. Take one step at a time . Go walk your dogs and go to the supermarket to buy things. I may not be a therapist but going out more will kind of build immunity to it.
My social skills are getting worse and worse, I can't even hold a conversation with a child just imagine:( , This is the reason I migh be dropping out of college soon :/
Bro all the problems are with me too 😭
At first I felt that this only happens with me, but today I came to know that it happens with people like me.
You can talk to me... We will share each other's problem.... If you want to.
I’m so pathetically awkward that when I have a casual conversation with some one, & it doesn’t end with pure cringe then I’m proud of myself.
I don't even remember having a conversation that doesn't up in awkward situation. I think all of them are awkward.
when people talk to me i cringe which makes them cringe and that makes them not talk to me
Jacob Vaughn when i try to talk with someone its so awkward they laugh
I make everything cringy and embarrassing and the worse is that people point it out
lmao I cringe after the conversation and think about what I could’ve said instead 😂
I can’t even have a normal conversation with my mom
I cant have a normal conversation with anyone besides my close friends, not even my own family :(
@@tedjones4110 it's so freaking sad cause I feel the same thing with you 😔 It feels like this case is gonna kill me slowly
Same
Same
Ted Jones same :( but i can tell my mom everything
It really sucks having social anxiety, and I don’t think this will be something that ever goes away from my sadly. I’ve had anxiety ever since I was literally in 1st grade (from what I remember) and it’s so hard to talk to people to the point where I barely have any friends. I have one of my friends that I’ve known forever and am super close to, but I still get so scared of hanging out and dread it so much and I really wish I didn’t feel that way but Ik it won’t go away :/
I feel you man.
stay thinking positive even if it’s hard! i also have one friend and that’s my gf
I had it for 50 years and it went away completely but it took years of spiritual work of healing and reconnecting with the one I was born on day 1: 100% whole Miracle of Life. It is never coming back. Good luck. 🙂
It’s so lonely. And everyone acts like it’s so common but I’m yet to meet or see someone with worse anxiety in me. Like I know that these people obviously exist, but where? Why isn’t it that common where I am?
@@thefrog4990 because we all lock ourselves inside lol
Derealization is real!! I started doing this a few years ago. I’ll zone out and can’t hear what people are saying and I have trouble recalling peoples name or I completely go blank. Started Lexapro 2months ago and now I can sing in front of others and dance again . I still avoid places sometimes but not people. I can walk into a room by myself and simile and greet people now.
that awkward moment when you can’t tell if you’re constantly anxious because it feels normal now
One momrnt of silence for all of the people who clicked on the video
FR
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exactly me rn
I be questioning myself, then I go to TH-cam and confirm my symptoms
It’s basically the fear of being judged and not good enough.
Yes , always . How nice it would be to have a bit of confidence .
Yes!
Not for me. I dont think poorly of myself.And I dont thnk greatly of myself.
I want to get check by a psychiatrist to know if I really have social anxiety but I just can't afford it. I'm so so tired of it.
same
We people with social anxiety we spend our whole life with overthinking, depression. We can't enjoy the things other people enjoy. And we don't feel comfortable with people outside our home. A human is a social animal, his happiness is in social interactions and we people with social anxiety we are afraid of people so we are craving for this happiness .
This feeling as if it's your first day everyday and everyone is judging you is the perfect definition.
I agree that is exactly how I've felt in every job I've had. I've been struggling so much more in last years though and it really sucks. I told someone close to me about these issues and they say I'm being dramatic and it's not a big deal. I sometimes wish they could feel the way I had every day being in a classroom or at a job (much worse for me then class) and then maybe they'd finally understand how horrible it is. But of course, they can't so they think it isn't really a problem. Just deal with it like everyone else.
You guys are mad soft. Stop giving a fk of what people think of you and just be yourself. Fear is the major cause of this disorder, and it’s the fear of letting yourself be. No one is perfect, nothing is perfect. You are this tiny piece of sht in an entire universe that will be gone in a few seconds. Live for what you believe in, and don’t fear to stand for it as well.
@@xacute2937
It not that simple.
My biggest dream is talking bruh
@@xacute2937 I'm pissed off, you don't actually know how it feels to be so socially awkward
In my case when I'm with a group of people that aren't really close to me it's like my body is paralysed and my brain is telling me to participate in the conversation but I just can't because I'm scared. And it makes me sad because I could be making friends but now they all think I'm a quiet person even though I'm not
Samee
This is me... Even with work buddies I've worked with for 2 years...
Same
This happened to me yesterday and I can't stop thinking about it
Same. I have friends I moved away from, and we’re really close. And we still are. Ive been friends with them since I was a kid. But new people, even people ive known for a few years, they somehow make me anxious, and I get afraid to talk to them sometimes. I get scared to do presentations, and talk infront of people.
My social anxiety is quite different from everyone. I avoid going to places that i don't know how things work. For instance, like finding my seat at the movie theater. If i know how, then i don't care how many people are there, I'm okay because i know how things work and don't get embarrassed in front of everyone.
This social anxiety started when i was embarrassed of not knowing simple things in front of group of friends. So, i avoid going to places where i don't know how things work.
I rather get embarrassed in front of strangers than people i know.
I hear you same here
Same I literally won't even order a wrap at a deli at my school bc I'm afraid I won't know EXACTLY what to do
I have this and it’s the worst thing ever. I feel like I’m trapped inside and can’t express myself when I get in social situations. I absolutely hate myself for it
I'm not scared of socializing with people, I'm only scared when I see people that I know in a different place besides school. For example, when I'm walking with my parents or by myself in a store or in the mall or anywhere else, I sometimes see a bunch of my classmates or people that I know are hanging out together, and when they see me, they say hi to me and come over and talk with me, that's the only time I'm nervous when I see people. Most of the times when I see them at school I wouldn't get nervous.
This comment section is the most comforting thing to someone who just found out they have all these problems too
when you realise you're not alone :(
I can’t find any comments that my comment would be seen at but, i will share my comment here. I feel like i am rude all the time due to experiences with a bad friend i think. my dad once got mad at me because i was using a huge bowl for some cereal as a joke and i put everything away and didn’t eat until like after an hour or so, lol. i also have problems with textures, sounds, and lights. i like to lick my fingertips or do something to calm myself a bit when i hear something i don’t like as a noise, find a bad texture i hate like paper, when someone else touches a fabric normally and rubs the fabric between their fingers to test the fabric, i want to slap them, when at school and i am in a classroom with cheap metal chairs and cheap carpet and kids scoot the chairs everywhere and make THAT noise, i want to throw a desk at them and have actually cried a little once because of it. I have also had a sensory overload because the cheesy tacos i wanted had chicken in them and i don’t like chicken and i didn’t want to be rude and the lights felt too bright and my brother was being a teenager and my autistic brother was making noises that irritated me a little and my mom and dad were right next to me and it was so overwhelming i started crying a ton. I also have to deal with the own textures of my finger tips and my fingernails. Bed sheets are a huge problem and smooth stuff like fur can be extremely annoying and irritating to me. i also like to fidget a lot with my fingernails or with my teeth inside my mouth silently. What is this? i asked my mom if i could get tested for stuff and i will be soon, maybe
Like me
@@lockthetaskbar7386 I- I’ve never thought anyone would be just like me...
@@osmomosis9216 yeah😔
I’ve always felt embarrassed whenever people look at me, I feel like im always being judged or laughed at and makes me uncomfortable, whereby the point I can’t even place my order in restaurants and hard to engage in conversations.
I tend to stay home, it makes me feel comfortable and happy. I just wish sometimes I wasn’t like this..
Jake - I promise you don't have to see & feel life the way you currently do. Through a better understanding of how you're creating these perceptions and feelings, you can free yourself from them. Let me know if you'd like to learn more :)
Jake Mendoza same bro I’m trying to get a job but it’s so so fucking hard to with this. Only thing That actually helps me is alcohol.
PANCAKE Man i feel you, alcohol just gives me the confidence I lack. But don’t think that’s a solution to it and don’t let it consume you man.
Same, they can just look towards me and I become shy and walk away, I try to hide it but sometimes it gets the better of me
So, This is Social Anxiety, Cause I Have the same thing, sometimes when i feel embarrassed or when i get nervous i act clumsy af.
It’s funny when I think about how stupid it is and realize it doesn’t matter what people think of you and you’re not that interesting to everyone and yet the anxiety still kicks in, this is a powerful disorder. It doesn’t end with worrying about people judging you but speaking in a way that doesn’t hurt people’s feelings, it’s insane how much this effects lives. I’ve had it since the 6th grade and it does get in the way of making your life better, it’s frustrating.
I literally thought something was wrong with me. Every time I want to do or say something I get overwhelmed. Talking to people is so hard and I always feel like everyone is looking at me. I started a new job last week and I still get nervous just thinking about having to walk in or just being around other people. Ruined many potential relationships and all from being so nervous and scared to speak or DO. It’s terrible and I’m hoping I can get some help soon. I don’t talk to people about my problems so I’m using a TH-cam comment 😭
Finally Find My Varient On 🌎
At least you had a job, I can't even go outside to searching for a job..because of this anxiety 😢
My parents just say “your just shy, just be more confident.”
Wow like i have not thought of that before just remember its easier said than done
They wouldn't get it
My parents do that to me as well so they made me go to a school event, I sat in a dark corner the whole time.
@@Logo0593 PROM PEOPLE PROM! i hate it no one would dance with me and i stood at the back of the gym pondering at least i have squirrel as a friend
I like how everyone here is telling stories
I want to like all of them
Same
I am liking all of them. Social anxiety is tough.
Lol i read kill instead of like
Ayyyy mugen pfp!!!:)
@@ebaycat4445 thanks, and nice username xd
The way I started sweating and my heart rate increased while just watching this video... I can even hear the heartbeat in my head. I was diagnosed with social anxiety and depression and I'm taking antidepressants for 1 year. I think I feel better, but it's hard to compare because I mostly forgot how I felt one year ago.
In kindergarten, I didn't have friends and was alone, so I stopped going there. I was a sick child, so I couldn't make friends with my classmates, but I had 6 friends from my neighborhood with whom I spent a good time. As time passed, I had fewer and fewer friends. At 12 years I've got really severe acne and ppl were saying bad things about my appearance just into my face, so maybe I developed anxiety at that moment, I don't know. I tried to treat acne, but it didn't disappear even now. At 12 years I got transferred to a boarding school, in which I also had problems with peers and did self-harm to lessen my pain.
In 10 class in high school, I was so afraid to talk to my classmates and teachers, that I couldn't say a word and if I tried to say, I was stuttering at the beginning of the sentence, which was so embarrassing, so I stopped my attempts to talk to anyone. Fortunately, my chemistry teacher and therapist at the same time helped me with this issue by recommending I sing to exercise my speaking.
At the university, having been 16-17 years old, I attempted to make friends, but due to social anxiety my behavior caused misunderstandings, so I lost friends again. For example, I was late for the lecture and was afraid to be scolded, so I didn't say hello to my friend to not make any sound, and we stopped talking after that. I had a few online friends, with whom I also lost contact later.
Now I'm 22 years old and for the last 1-2 years I didn't have friends and actually I avoid social interactions because I don't want to be involved in relationships with ppl and be hurt again and I feel like I would put more effort into this relationship than another person, so it wouldn't be fair. Considering the history of my relationships, I'm hesitant to make new friends because I feel that our relationships would end up as previous ones and I feel like I'd be obligated to do things I wouldn't like to do.
What makes it worse, is that I attended therapy several times and I would cry a lot after the sessions at home, so I had to quit the therapy. I'll try to look for the other therapist and see if it helps.
Thanks for sharing your journey, Nataliia. We hope that you find a wonderful therapist 🙏🏼
I have social anxiety. I wss bullied and was psychologically abused by family members growing up. I have trust issues and I assume everyone has bad intentions with me and will laugh at my mistakes. Idk if I will ever leave the trauma aside and be myself in public finally but in my opinion, you can never get over trauma.
To those people who have social anxiety like me, just keep on fighting. We can win this battle someday!
We're because if lose means death
Hey, does it got better for you?
@@ilia-el6yx i still struggle sometimes but I keep on pushing myself.... nothing is easy in life.... :)
@@jamessteven9709 😥😥
Yeah a forever lasting one :/
As someone studying psychology, this was very helpful to gain a better understanding so that I can understand the people who are going through something so challenging. Hang in there guys. ❤️
Glad it was helpful! 🥰
Bro my problem is to wrost i have problem, at my job my coworker make fun of me than I feel bad and I overthink it again and again feeling negative about myself😭 not focus in work HELP
Hang on for what it never ends my life was literally terrifying since I was a tolder to my 20s. The heard that meant to be the most important for your brain development. It's ruined. Now I'm just trying accept being alone. There's no changing my subconscious mind in it everyone seems as evil. I'm 27 now. I do get happy then I set goals and thinks I like to learn but it does come back to me even all that there's no social life in my plans. I'm completely closed off from people and I don't trust. So what hope is there. The few times I tried therapist it's just a rip off. If people care what would they charge a fortune. Some said cuz it's must on stress and health on them too. So what. I helped people that I could myself no stress because I actually cares about them instead the money.
after living 18 years in this world i learnt that nothing is easy . but after the hard times you realize that how strong you were .i always thought social anxiety is just something that is destroying my life and im just the most stupid person that ever existed .but i learnt that its actually a gift .i realized that if i overcome this im very stronger than all of this people that i see every day .all this people that i felt they are better than me wouldnt survive one day with my problem. i have seen the beauty of fighting . you are lucky to have this because if you overcome this . this problem will be gone and the life wont be so challenging your life will be so glorios . stay hard💪
This social anxiety is making me so unlucky. Sometimes i don’t even know what to do with myself
Same. Wanna talk?
Ik
Same here. I'd talk but no one really wants to hear about it.
You guys are soft.
Me too.
It’s even worse when everyone around you doesn’t understand and just thinks you’re being dramatic
You're cute I wish I can remove your anxiety
100% just wish my family and close friends could just understand social anxiety and realise that we don't want to be like this we don't chose to be like this and we have no control of this it's sad when they just think your being dramatic and a big softy 🙃
I can relate what you just said. Every time my parents said i am just shy that doesn’t want to talk. And is not i dont want to talk to people is because talking to someone it freak me out so much it give me anxiety
@@nukrisamyurashvili3021 how old are you
@@kaleholt yes
i dealt with really bad social anxiety for 2 years and now im getting so much better and i am so proud of myself on where i’ve come
I don't know what to do. I can't physically breathe in public, I can't ask people for help, I can't make small talk, I can't engage in activities that involves any other person, I can't make friends, I can't voicechat in games, I can't give presentations, I can't show people that I'm actually smarter than what they make me out to be, I can't compliment myself, I can't comment or complain or ask for a favour. I don't know what to do.
Same, and I don’t want to just give up but idk 😢💔
Me too.
As a teen I can’t find a job because I have a panic attack in social situations and cry it sucks cause for people my age your 1st jobs are generally customer service
The year after I graduated highschool was a nightmare. My first two real jobs were in customer service and they both fired me because I seemed too shy. I went into depression, I stayed most of my time at home in bed watching videos on my phone. I've discovered BTS and they slowly helped me out of my depression. I found the courage to start looking for work again (not in customer service). I met nice people one summer and it gave me hopes (I could talk to them very easily). Unfortunately, I lost contact with them. All that to say that social anxiety is hard and I feel like a lot of people still don't know that it's a real thing. It's pushing people away.
Jasmine Jacquel same like I’m 17 already and the rest of my siblings had a job since they turned 16 but I’m they one that has found one yet cause of this. I know at some point I’m going to have to deal with it at some point but I’m scared shit less when it comes.
I had a panic attack once, a bunch of students at my school started getting close to me, my knees started to shake and then it happened.
lilchrispy this is the most accurate comment ever and nobody understands
Kk
I’ve always been the “quiet, shy girl” for almost my whole life, it been getting a little worse. At school I feel like people secretly make fun of me and judge me all the time and every time I have those thoughts I just want to burst out crying. I always avoid social gatherings/parties even of my close family members/friends. My family thinks it’s nothing and that I’m weird and boring bc I avoid parties or gatherings but they just don’t understand how I feel and I wish they did understand. 💔
Liz 33 fr I’m a guy and in general the guy suppose to be the manly one but really I’m a shy scared person cause of this anxiety stuff. When I walk I feel like everybody is just judging and making fun of me or just know my past and I feel like everybody is watching. I personally don’t like any attention at all I just want it to disappear. One thing that takes this all away and makes me feel confident and everything is alcohol, ik it’s not healthy or safe but fuck it’s my way out and helps. Wish there was a better way that helps instantly🤷♂️😞
I feel you 😔 the only thing that helps me is being alone from everyone. and it’s okay to have those feelings even if you’re a guy, you shouldn’t feel different or ashamed bc of it, especially if you had or have a rough life.
@@pancakeman9090 I feel the same while walking - I feel that my body is getting stiff. So, I walk very fast and feel relieved when I reach home.
@@pancakeman9090 maybe try therapy? It could really help you more than alcohol and would be more heathy ;-; of course if you have it available
I strongly feel u :(
I try to avoid school just because of this... I hate my school as anxiety started here.. 😢Its hard..
But, ill come back..
@KatherineSimmons-we8wh who .??
@KatherineSimmons-we8wh who is on telegram.. I'm so confused by the replies
My face turns red. My mind goes blank. I become overly self aware of myself and overthink. I start messing up and fumbling whatever I’m doing. I feel like I’m not good at anything. And It affects my life on the daily. I talk myself out of going and doing stuff I need to do, I talk myself out of events, and when I do force myself to just go ahead and do it, i can never enjoy myself. And it’s uncontrollable. I’ve gave up jobs, quit school, I’ve even isolated myself at times and let myself go. Sometimes it can look like mania or even psychosis.. it’s unmanageable.
I relate 100%, wtf do we do.
Same here bro
I always tell them and they just like “don’t be shy” NO SUSAN THATS DIFFERENT
I’m 20 yrs old dealing with this sh*t I literally quit my job and dropped out of college because of it😤 I don’t even go outside.I constantly tell myself that no one is judging I try my hardest to think positively but it doesn’t work.I’m getting help now and I hope everything works out because living in constant fear is not living at all. Wish me luck and good luck to all of you that are dealing with Social anxiety, social phobia, etc.
Simba Simba how long broski
I'm 19 i have this problem too 😥
Jesus loves you, it's written in the Bible the words of Jesus in the Gospel of John 3:16; For God so loved the world, that He gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. Jesus loves you, only Jesus can set you free from Social anxiety, God loves you, have a good day.
Exactly the same here
Do something about it now if you can. I'm 55 and am plagued by it every day, amongst other social and mental flaws.
I've had social anxiety for 7 years since I was 15. I haven't overcome it yet and I still need medicine everyday, but now I don't care about it as much as I used to before. I wish I could tell this to myself when I was younger and when I didn't even feel alive. And I want to tell you that I'm sure you can get better even if it's a long load! Especially if you're around my age or younger, it's natural to compare yourself with others and hate yourself for that. I believe any hardships mean something. Probably it's a gift that can make you stronger and better. I believe the purpose of my life is not to be happy, it is just to live my life to the fullest.
I have this situation too, if you want, we can talk on Instagram, by the way, I'm Turkish.
i don't diagnose myself with social anxiety but i do struggle a lot in social situations, i often get anxious and awkward. i have to say ive never thought of this as a gift, rather as an unnecessary burden so what you said kind of changed my point of view :) it's nice to think of it that way and feel like it'll make me stronger.
@@shiningnights Hi, thank you for your comment. Be proud of yourself when you participate in social situations because you're doing one of the most challenging things for you. I believe social anxiety doesn't determine the values of our lives, it's ourselves who determine them. I wish you all the best!
maybe you are a special person that this world needs . thats why you are challenged with such a hard thing . challenged by you and your mind
a tough a hard thing. i am like you and we are lucky to have a gift like this
@@abolfazl.sheikhhasani1156 Thank you for your comment! "Challenged by my mind", this is such a lovely way of thinking. However hard your road is, I wish you the best of luck. You got this!
I can’t talk with people
I hesitate to talk or say something. I’ve kept things bottled up for a while, if they talk back I talk too but I just answer what they say. I want to be able to say everything I have in my mind about them. I want to be free from the chains.
It's the same for me. I just can't talk to people. Even if it's just short phrases. It's hard for me to talk on the phone, ask for something, or anything that has to do with talking to someone. I panic, my heart races and get sweaty palms. It sucks.
I’m soo sad.... having no close friends and literally no one want to talk to be just because I’m too” quiet and nice”. I don’t want to be judge like that. Just want some friends that can trust ;(
Jiayi Yang i’m always here :)
Exactly, I just want one friend I can trust to tell anything without being judged. Is that too much to ask.
Me I live in New York. 6319435311
I'm here I'll talk to you I got bad social anxiety too :)
@@ash-uq5cq im here for you Ashley I won't judge you I got bad social anxiety too
Having social anxiety as a 13 year old is so hard, I can't even pay at the cash register without counting my money at least 15 times and whenever my teacher says get into groups of 3 or something I feel sick and think I am gonna crap myself no joke it's horrible, I also have fear of exclusion too.
I can relate with the group work 🤮 btw what i am doing now is facing my fear.. I purposely go alone into public spaces even though it’s gonna be embarrassing. But i ever wanna do things by myself without people being with me. I'm sort of training myself lol
@@alessadolan5718 I tried this too but does it help? You feel empowered for a moment but at the end of the day u still alone..
I pray for you man, I remember when I was still a student and the teacher ask to make a group, I couldnt ask if I can join or even making my own group, I always ended up in a group with my classmates that nobody wants, a group of losers (yes include me at least that's what I think), not good looking (I'm not that bad), not smart (I'm good at some subjects), not popular (yes, me) or talkative (also me).
I have social anxiety and I’m 11 and I’m starting middle school soon I barely survived elementary school with anxiety so know I don’t even know how I’m gonna handle middle schools any tips to help?
@@Shesapzeditsx13 Middle school is the same.. only you get much more homework and you need to do internship. I need to do mine this year and i literally don’t wanna do it, all i can do is think positive and think that everything will be alright!
Today i am at a family function gathering i am wearing an outfit which my mom dad chose for me i sit with cousin sister and ask her do i look ok in this and she replies with "are you gonna wear this today?" With the most worst and disgustful expressions ever
I already have social anxiety and when i heard this from her i died inside it made my confidence go into -∞
I rarely go to gatherings and functions and when i go omg... I cant even explain
Its not her fault she told me the honest thing i needed to hear to change my outfit i really feel 0 at this moment
And as an indian when we gather at functions we touch our elder's feet and trust me i can't make even eye contact with anybody because they would call me and talk to me and i would go but being socially anxious introverted and shy i can't even speak a single word from my mouth even though if i want to
And there's this awkward silence and then they think I'm boring n stupid but that's not true i need to get comfortable first i don't know how to show fake love and emotions as they do and inside they're vamps
When my cousins touch elder's feet i feel so embarrassed that why i didn't do it and cry in regret
They barely know me and no one cares if i exist i am such a disappointment
My mom dad want me to mix woth everybody i want to mix too but i cannot i can fucking not !!! I am sorry for being like this mom and dad 😔 i also feel bad that the outfit you chose for me was not good enough for others but right now I'm stil wearing it because i love you 🥺🥺❤️❤️
Same, I'm a uni student and this is affecting me big time😪
@@wall-e4715 😔😔🤝
I have a huge social anxiety every time I’m out I’m so uncomfortable cuz so many people are surrounding me …. Somehow I can’t stand people
you have to relax yourself .... think about breathing.. ... remember : the more you think about anxiety the anxiety will rise 📈📈
This makes my life harder to live.
Any updates?
i hear ya man. It does fuck up alot of daily things that other people have no problem with. the most hated part is that it's stands in your way of making new contacts..
Go visit psychiatar
@@MrHerson20 don't let life difficulties win over you..keep fighting ..keep living and doing good.. suicide is not going to solve anything..and I promise you if you dont give up things will get better..allah (god) will help you if you ask him for help and keep pushing through your struggles
just be patient and optimestic in god
Your Dad Ace Anime Im 16 and used to be outgoing and a pretty fun person. I started smoking weed heavily and became very self conscious of a lot of things and began to isolate myself. It made it hard for me to converste and have eye contact for a while. I stopped smoking for 3 weeks now and I can articulate sentences but can’t look anybody in the eyes. Even my closest friends and mom. I always get nervous when there’s nothing to fear. Do I have some sort of social anxiety . And if so please help because it hasn’t got any better and it’s ruining my relationships and overall life !!
For me, I will suddenly cry. Like now I’m at a wedding, I just cried :/
For me it just helps to let it out once in a while.
AH SAME I JUST CRY OUT OF NOWHERE
I have the same thing but I’m finding ways to cope
Crying can be so relieving! But I understand that it can get too much. I wish you all the best in your life ❤️
People say crying is a waist of time, but I believe it relieves the pain.
The other day I went bar hopping with some friends who invited me out and I basically couldn’t say no. I just started college and felt up to the challenge of going out even though I really did not want too. Every single bar I walked into felt like a horror movie of sorts. I didn’t know where to stand, what to say or how to act. I felt awkward even though I was doing what everyone else was doing. I usually ended up finding a chill corner to sit and drink or stood close to my friends. Social anxiety quite literally makes having fun in public impossible. What makes it worse is when you see videos of parties full of people having fun, but you know if you were there you would be hiding away somewhere.
Fun for others, horror for us. Sometimes I feel like an actor without screenplay or a malfunctioning robot. Or that everybody swims, but I'm drowning. It consumes so much of my energy that after few minutes I feel exhausted and want somewhere quiet to recharge my batteries.
As someone who has lived with social anxiety for as long as I can remember, I know it can be really tough and really alienating. It’s so easy to feel like there is something innately wrong with you and that other people just have something figured out that you don’t. Recently I think I’ve been able to convert some of my anxiety into ambivalence, like if I just don’t care about people then there’s nothing to be nervous about… like if people are exhausting to meet and be around then I won’t bother…but I’m pretty sure that’s just a coping mechanism. I really hope that someday I can have more moments where the mask comes off and I can just be comfortably myself around people
I'm not scared of socializing with people, I'm only scared when I see people that I know in a different place besides school. For example, when I'm walking with my parents or by myself in a store or in the mall or anywhere else, I sometimes see a bunch of my classmates or people that I know are hanging out together, and when they see me, they say hi to me and come over and talk with me, that's the only time I'm nervous when I see people. Most of the times when I see them at school I wouldn't get nervous.
@@ninjapirate123 I totally relate to that... I get nervous when I see people outside of their usual circle, or when circles intersect, like when my college friends and high school friends are in the same place, or when I see my boss outside work XO
@@sofidittmar8917 If you're scared of your college friends in the same place how could you possibly survive in college, u pretty much see them most of the time in college
Wow you sound just like me. This is exactly where I’m at now. Went through a divorce and recently me and my best friend fell out. I’m pretty much isolated. And do not want to interact with anyone becuase im tired of being burned. I had social anxiety since I can remember. But now it’s getting worse.
I can’t phone people, talk to new people, present in front of people, talk to old friends, talk to ANY adults (not even my friends’s parents), and I can’t even talk to my,own grandparents .-.
Idk if this is social anxiety or just extreme shyness...? >.
talking to parents's friends is the worst tbh
Same..i can’t even play online games or chat with people..
And then I have terrible communication skills on top of that..
@@persephone9307 I have social anxiety disorder and have no friends at the same time which is by far the worst combination. No one's situation is worse than mine. It got so severe to the point where I don't like going out in public or go shopping because I feel like people are looking at me and then my heart starts racing for no reason and then I start blushing.
NiahLovee101 me neither its such a simple thing yet i just cants speak to them
Idek what hell I'm going to face when quarantine ends. I hope this goes on forever.
Well you know what they say, if you dont face your fears they wont get cured and will get worse. So get up there and DESTROY this social anxeity! Am i right? No need to worry about being judged and try to live the present moment without overthinking things. I have the same disorder and im doing my best and it works! my words may not sound very "honest" but inside me i feel like what im sayin is true. So get up there and face this dumb disorder which is destroying your life!
@@dimitristouhell2346 Thanks! I'll try my best 😊
Let's stay in house forever :) Even texting people it makes my emotions go crazy and panick attacks.
@@bEsTmAnEv3R I can't even pick up calls from unknown numbers ( not that i pick it when it's someone ik either lmfao)
@@mehnazrahman2322 I write every time on a paper what to say 😂😭 if family members call me or from work I don't pick up🙂✨
i don’t have social anxiety in a 1 on 1 conversation it’s just when it’s a group my heart starts racing and i can’t get myself to concentrate or speak properly
As someone who has social anxiety this is 100% accurate I never told my family though only my friends
I guess loneliness is the only friend for me. S.A.D sucks!
you can beat it. Get help
Holy shit I just realized my comment said "u can't beat it" I meant to fooking say u "can beat it". Swipe key a bitch. I hope I didn't discourage u dude I meant to do the opposite. I hope ur doing good
Are you getting help?
Linus Ba0
Same, I am SAD
I have social anxiety and i never told anyone about it because i don't want them to think i just want attention or i'm just saying it i have a friend or two but i barely talk to them i told my parents that i want to be homeschool but they say no and i will have to be leader for p.e soon and i'll have to say the stretches out loud so the students can hear and i just know my p.e teachers are just going to yell at me for not being loud and i'll just feel embarass after sometimes i would come back from school and rethink about the day and regret what i do and sometimes i wish i can just disappear in a social situation. In group talking i want to share my ideas but i'm afraid of my idea not being good enough or being ignored i always worry about things that people find normal and i wish i never had social anxiety because it might affect my future and stop me from doing things that i want to do and if i don't try then i might end up alone
BTS Jungkookie Mine's worst. But just keep fighting.
Tell your parents you have social anxiety, its better to tell them *now and get help now* before it affects your future like in college or after college
H H , SAME
Except I have zero interest in PE 😔
Dark Matter I tried to tell my mum but she thinks I’m over dramatising because I want to do online school
I told a friend with anxiety recently: try to imagine how you judge people on average. How much time to you spend having negative thoughts about other people? How quickly do you judge them? If something embarrassing happened to someone: how long do you remember it and do you think badly of that person or do you feel compassion towards them? The answers are probably: you don't judge people that quickly or that harsh, and you don't spend too much time thinking about them, because you have your own life and shit to do. The average person is somewhat like you in that regard. And people who are different, people who judge quickly and harshly, have serious problems and you don't need them as your friends anyway. Just always remember: if the roles were reversed, what would you think about someone like you?
My social anxiety got worse when I let other people control me always, like telling me " this is sin, this is that" to the point that I became paranoid if what I'm doing is right or wrong. My advice is that don't let other people rob the person that you are.
I wasn't really aware that I have social anxiety but since it got worse I do a research and I came here. It really sucks because my head feels like exploding because I kept on thinking how to act property because maybe I'm doing some inappropriate things. I want to overcome this anxiety and will interact with people normally.
Yep same. I hate when people give me orders
Bro my problem is to wrost i have problem, at my job my coworker make fun of me than I feel bad and I overthink it again and again feeling negative about myself😭 not focus in work HELP
@@_FunTus bro you are strong. most of people suffering from social anxiety cant evev have or keep a job . just fight its what we are born for
@@abolfazl.sheikhhasani1156 thanks bro I will try my best to overcome this problema
Just an update, I am now overcoming my social anxiety. Slowly but surely,
note: Not all people are bad, some are kind. Focus on those people who will love you and accept you. Why other people's thoughts matter by the way? Love your You.
The fact that social anxiety is underrated at schools and workplaces is sickening. Lots of teachers and peers misunderstand you when you have social anxiety and if you talk about It then they will just laugh at you or tell you to get over It.
I could talk about this more but I don't want to waste everyone's time.
Today I was 20mins late to class so when I arrived I didn’t enter cause of this
I literally always do that, I come on time or just not
same... theres this one time my dad forced me and i got scared, i cried. idk why i was crying but i do for sure know that i was hella scared. my voice, my hands my whole body was shaking. my dad got angrier at me and he thought that i was trying to avoid attending online class. i kept on repeating "wait wait" and my voice was shaky the class starts and they saw me crying and trembling. the teacher stop teaching i ran to my room and my dad was so confused. he then told my mom and they both were laughing at me. meanwhile i was shaking trying to hold myself from crying because i was in the middle of learning-sesh. my parents keep reminding me like "hey do u remember when u cry because u dont want to go to class" thats hurt ngl...
marsya comel Tell your parents why! Hopefully they know you are socially anxious so that something like this may not happen again!
marsya comel istg most of the social anxiety that people have is because of their parents
@@nourahmad9787 i dont... i have social anxiety since i was 11 now im 16. its because people i thought my friends were actually people who dislike me... they ruined my life and it still haunts me.. HAHA
I have social anxiety. it's honestly ruining my life.
Same
Yeah
Wanna talk?
@@lyt1777 mmm I'm not very good at talking...
That must be hard. I hope you will overcome it. I wish you all the best for your everyday life, with people 🙂