Recently, I lost my son unexpectedly and the pain is so intense that I cry every day. Holding the tears inside, while functioning at a high level, for many hours a day, is really difficult and exhausting. I pretend to be alright. Sometimes people can be really critical and unkind, when someone is hurting. Most people just don't know what to say. I guess I wouldn't either until it happened to me. I'm blessed with really great friends and a strong faith in God. It helps to count your blessings, when you're going through hell. My son was 22 and it's been 10 months since his passing. He is my only child and I love him more than life itself! What I miss most is his deep belly laughter, hearing him say, "I love you so much mom," and our long discussions about everything. He taught me so much! Michael is and was, an amazing soul and young man. Most people don't understand that a person who has lost a child, is under constant and relentless stress and pain. So many of us who have lost children, feel isolated, even while going through counseling and doing all the 'right' things. Please... If you know a parent going through the loss of a child, offer a kind word and don't say "after a year you'll feel better", or "you have to get over it." God bless and heal all the parents reading this who have lost children.
Michelle R. I'm so sorry for your loss, Michelle. My heart goes out to you and is breaking for you. Your words touched me very deeply. I can feel your love for your son through your words and memories, and how you feel in your grieving. Do take all the time you need to grieve. I don't think we ever "get over" the loss of a loved one. We just learn how to live with the extreme pain. It goes wherever we go. It is constantly weighing upon us. We feel heavier. It's harder to move. Dealing with other people becomes 100 times more stressful. And for the most part, we'd rather not have to. God bless you, Michelle. Thank you for sharing your story and experience. Much love and many many hugs to you
I understand how you feel. My baby died at daycare on June 5, 2015 on the van. They lied to me & told me she fainted. Angel was 22 months old. She was found in the front passenger seat which means she wasn't in her car seat & she was trying to get off the van & didn't know how. My life had changed forever & yes people are very unkind. Some people blame me & say I got what I deserved & that I should have done more research. The daycare was still on the state's website as licensed & the mistake was corrected after Angel died. Some people say I need to get over it. Some people say it's my fault I didn't look more into the daycare. I just went to work that day, no where else. And they lied to me & said she fainted. They cleaned Angel up & even changed her diaper too. My heart is broken forever. I'm so sorry for your loss. Believe me I truly understand.
Michelle Private I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I'm 11 years into this journey. My firstborn Son was 15 when He passed away. May God comfort and sustain you.
After nearly 24 years, losing my 18 year old son to cancer, the pain is as real as it ever was and just because I am so far into this journey, doesn't mean when grief pays me a call, it is any easier. The missing never goes away and I don't ever want it to because it is my testimony to how much I loved my son.
Thank you, Michelle. May you NEVER EVER come to know such loss! God bless you for thinking of us who do know and have to get up and function each and every day, no matter how much time has passed. Much love to you!
+Sharon Jacobs I am so very sorry that you lost him.I felt the same way when I lost my daughter on a Tuesday-July 6th of 1993. This has been such a long journey. At the time I lost her, she was an only child, so I found myself, my identity redefined. I have two daughters today. We talk about Darcy all the time and it took me a long time to accept that I should not allow the incident that separated me from her could not define her life. I know I will see her again and that you will see your son again. You take it day by day and walk forward in faith. Much love and many prayers coming your way....
I loss my 14 year old 8 weeks ago and it feels like my heart is shattered. The grief of a child that depended on you is unbearable 😔.lt is so incredibly hard
I lost 3 children, all at different times. They were all young adults just starting out in life. I take one breath, one foot, one smile, one good morning to someone. That helps. Also I say the Serenity prayer.
❤ I hope you find the support you need. The surrealness and level of pain will ease over time. But as mentioned in the video, it is measured in years. Not months. Baby steps. Remember to eat, sleep and move your body. It boils down to our basic care in the first couple or three years. Everyone is different, but that is what I have observed. Also, if you don't really care if you stay here anymore? That is a temporary state. It will ease. Don't make any big decisions for a year. Bless you and may you find fellow bereaved friends to talk to. ❤
I lost my only son August 3rd 2021....He was only 33..A pain I wouldn't wish on anyone..He's all I think about..time isn't healing anything..the longer it is the more I miss him..I love you Rick..My heart will never heal..God help us all..
@@angiemyers9759 Losing our only children is complex grief. I truly understand what you're going through. You can survive this unspeakable pain. You are not alone. My prayers are with you as well. ❤️
@@michellerauenhorst2913 you have been a blessing to me today..my prayer is that God touches and heals your heart and the heart of every grieving person out there..I believe we will be with our children again one day when the lord calls us home..until then, it sure helps to know there are caring praying ppl out there that like you that stop by to leave a word of encouragement and prayers..God bless you Michelle!
When I lost my son on June 1st 2020 I found TCF and they were having online meetings due to covid. It has been the best thing I have done since he passed. So many parents who have experienced what I was going through. It helped to hear the perspective of other parents whether they were new to their grief or had been living with it for many years. I found parents who also lost children during covid with all the restrictions. We could not travel to see my son in Calgary where he was in the hospital. We had to say goodbye on the phone when we knew he would not survive his injuries. Other parents were also struggling with not having been able to have funerals because of restrictions. This was something that even parents who lost children years ago had not had to deal with. We had a part of the whole process taken from us. Many of us had to plan funerals months after our childrens deaths, which brought it all back. The fog/shock you are typically in right after your child died has started to wear off, it was real and this added a whole new layer to the grief process. I am so thankful for TCF and the amazing parents I have met and friendships I have developed.
I just wanted to let you know that my husband and I lost our son 10 year ago and we miss him more every day. But as time goes on we learn to deal with it. He will always be in our hearts for every .With much love Millie
6 years in August, he was 17...I'm 1 assignment and 1 exam away from gaining a history degree..I'm still broken, I still cry most days because my heart is bust. I laugh everyday because I still have an amazing daughter. I miss Peter everyday. Time means nothing to my heart, it's just longer apart. Love you Peter x
K my condolences to you I lost my 20 year old son October 23 2016 than my precious daughter age 17 March 12 2017 I don’t even know how I’m able to keep going it’s so hard especially with no real family support. I live for my 2 sons and my pets. That’s all 💔
@@debbieguccione2495 Debbie, my heart goes out to you!! So sorry to hear you don't have family support. It might not seem like it to yourself but Debbie, you are super strong!! You go on for your boys and your fur babies, even when you are in immense pain..that takes love, courage and strength. My family aren't close at all either but I found, especially in the early days that joining certain groups with other parents with similar experiences helpful, I just kind of felt I wasn't alone. Much love to you and yours xxx
My 20 month old daughter died 2 weeks ago in an elevator accident, the elevator went up as she was going out of it and she got squashed between the wall and the elevator and was crushed. I am totally out of order, I can’t believe I over lived her, I can’t sleep, I can’t go on, I can’t function, my heart is torn apart and I still breath. She was my everything, she was taken from me very viciously.
Everything everyone says in this video is true, especially the man who talks about the difference in grief of losing someone and the loss of a child. I lost both of my teenage daughters in 1999 and have lost many friends and family members...and it is not the same...it is all devastating though I know. Every time I talk to a person who has lost a child I can tell in just a few short sentences that they truly understand
Our precious grandson 26 years old died.On 10/18/2015. I never ever get over his death.We had a son to died at 22 year old car accident.Mom & Daddy gone,Three brother died at at,young age. Three Nephew died at a young age.So i no and experience a great deal with death.Big hole left in your heart that never ever heals.
Lost my Son three weeks ago. Adam was a twin brother and his Dad passed suddenly April 2020. I just want to know Adam is safe and happy. I’m absolutely heartbroken. Life will never be the same.😢😢
I lost my brother on sep 23 2018 very much loved by many i miss him sooo much im hurting for him and im hurting for my parents watching them cry every single day n night at different hours of the night. nothing is the same w out him i feel like my life was taken that night my brother was taken from us part of us went w him this feeling in my chest n throat is the saddest ive ever endured
I lost my elder daughter at just 11 years on 14sep 2018 I couldn't get over it. It is too hard to live without her. I m dying every day with every breath.........
In 2014, I lost my first son Levis, I have not been myself, the world just burnt me again, my second born son Abram also gone in February, 2022, it hurts alot
I lost my only child 10 n half years ago aged 29 3 yrs after his son was still born, for years I was in what can only be described as a daze, nothing mattered nothing registered, days passed into weeks which in turn passed into months of nothing but pain n emptiness and that feelings never left me, this Christmas eve 2021 would of been my boys 40th I miss him so much 💔 😢 😢
It will be 8 months tomorrow that my daughter died. She was 18 and just graduated high school. She was 9 days away from turning 19. I think about her everyday. Sometimes all day. I am just now starting to understand that this grief will never go away. That I have to live with it. I loved her so much. And if that’s what I have to live with? She is worth it. For the rest of my life I will always have that feeling of sadness that she isn’t here. But also the love we had for each other will always be here also. And just knowing that gives me a good feeling. Maybe for a moment but it something I didn’t feel in the beginning of this. Learning to live without her is the hardest part.
I lost my 9 year old daughter with severe autism from accident last year May 22, 2021. I felt guilty for not being able to protect her from falling from our balcony but I know that God is sovereign and He is in control of everything even if we made mistakes. He can use our past mistakes to fulfill His purpose in our lives (Romans 8:28) still heartbroken until now...
True peace can only come from God. Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey th-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/w-d-xo.html
We are six years and four Months into the loss of I wore grown child there are days that feels like it just happenedI have people telling me I need to get over Matthew’s Death I just can’t I don’t know how
I'm an orphan for seven years😢 my first born baby daughter just recently died 2 months ago since then i feel like being killed by the pain of knowing my baby died😭💔I am so broken 💔💔💔I really miss you my Madison reign👼I know the pain will be forever in me💔
So sorry for your loss Myrna. I just lost my only child on 12/08/21, he had Covid but it was the hospital and their protocols that killed him. So many people didn’t have to die of Covid but only here in the US we have such high death rates, and that’s because of their protocols. I miss my son so much it hurts every second. We will see our boys again in our eternal home. Sending you love ❤️
@@mistyn380 it’s just unbearable when you would hope God would take me first. I miss him immensely, he was my world and I’m so lost without him. My sincere condolences. I wish to understand God one day. Grief Share group in my community has helped me with this heartbreak🙏🙏💔💔 my prayers for you. 🥺❤️
@@myrnahernandez6244 I completely understand. I Kept saying I wish God would take me In his place, I would’ve given him my life in a heartbeat. I have a love and hate relationship with God at the moment. Half of me wants to get closer to God, but the other half is very angry at the moment. Everyday I’m asking “why God?! Why him? Why us? He’s my only child!! Where are you God? Why did you have to take him away?!” This pain is unbearable. My purpose in life and the meaning of life is him. He was/is my world. Now, I’ve lost my will to live, I ask God to take me everyday so I can unite with my son. Im going to a support group in February, so it’ll be good to connect with people who can relate. Best wishes Myrna ❤️
@@mistyn380 I pray that each day somehow you will allow your heart to guide you and understand that we can only survive one day at a time. I wish I could say the pain goes away but in my 6 months I still cannot bear the pain. I wish you well and pray the group helps. You are not alone in this heartache 🙏♥️
Hi Jody. My name is staci. My 15-year-old son just passed away a week ago, I could really use someone to talk too also. My email is stacifulton@hotmail.com. Please email me.
+Jody Wilson Dear Jody, I too lost a child and if you ever need to talk to another person who understands the depth of this loss, please contact me at Redemption944@gmail.com. Love and prayers to you.
I lost my firstborn daughter to SIDS when Kayla was 1 month and 5 days old the day after Thanksgiving 10/20/1994-11/25/1994. I love and miss my daughter alot. I met another guy we have 3 children and I will never forget Kayla. I have twins Melissa and Megan will be 16 on August 8th and my youngest Victoria is 14. Melissa and Kayla could pass for twins. It is such a rough road even after almost 24 years. When Kayla was born and passed away I was a single mom and 19 years old. I was so scared that one of my 3 would pass away too. I still have friends and family thinking grief has a time limit, it doesn't. I am still on an emotional roller coaster after all these years. I felt like someone stabbed me in the heart and then proceeded to tear it out of me, I still cry like a baby @ times, get mad, I am now a single mom to my 3 have been for about 5 years. Troy, my 3 kids dad hasn't seen the girls in 5 years his choice not mine, he started calling over a year ago when he found out he had skin cancer.
My sister lost her only son just 2 years now. He had tons of health problems. Still was shocking. What i told her after a while was “remember his 38 years he was here and not JUST the one day”. We talk about him just about every day. We miss him everyday. RIP DJ, love you eternity.
I lost my son Oct 9the 2017, 32 yrs. Old. Feel asleep, died in a horrific car accident. Omg I miss him more everyday. Brandon James luman -heberer. I don't want to be alive anymore
I lost my son a month and half ago, he was only 9 years old and had Patent Ductus Arteriosus - a congenital heart defect. I was numb for some time and nothing seemed real, not even the passing of days. Even now my pain is immense but counseling is helping me a great deal, am still very angry that my son is dead I still talk about him in present tense. I can't understand why it had to be my son..
My son was killed on Monday. The Ohio State Police and two counties all chased a drunk heroin overdosing car thief who they had id'd already - they chased this guy into a highly populated area at 4 on a school day. My son was pulling out of a residential driveway and this kid slammed into him obliterating the car. The worst of it all isn't just losing him but that I am a LiveLeaker and I can't tell you how many times I haven't even wanted to leave my house for fear of what crazy thing might happen to me. And even though I thought all of it was harmless, I realize now that I saw it all in ways that I now cannot unsee. I'm terrified of what happened to my son and what this guy and the cops did to him and did they hurt him and how much.
Hi, Just lost my son Matthew, 18 to a drugoverdose. He was in a coma 2 weeks. Removed life support. And he passed 3 days later. I was there whennhevtook his last breath. Just had his service last week. I feel like someone ripped my heart out. Just went through a terrible divorce almost a year ago and now this. Matthew lived with me , I have no idea how to move on.
On June 5, 2015 my daughter Angel Gabrielle Green died at daycare. She was 23 months old. They forgot her on the van after a lunch outing. Angel was not supposed to be on the van. The daycare lied to me & told me she fainted. My life has changed forever! Angel has 3 older sisters, she was my baby girl. I miss her so much & I'm hurting in a way that I cannot put in to words. The story has made headlines & the first court date has not been set yet. Every time the media covers this story it takes me back. I'm sure every court date the media will be there, which will also take me back. It's only been 2 months & it still feels like yesterday. No parent should ever have to bury their child. Death has no discrimination & can happen to anyone. But Angel did not have to die this way. I cry so much my face hurts. I'm doing my best to maintain & continue living my life for the sake of my other children. This video helped me a little. Nothing in this world will ever bring back or replace my little Angel. I have a video on my page entitled Justice For Angel. Please watch it & share it.
Joy I remember this story. Im so sorry for your loss ❤️. Angel’s passing has raised awareness and saved many child deaths like hers across the nation. She’s definitely an angel that was sent down here to save many lives.
When I lost my son 3 years ago, I also lost his 2 son's, due to my daughter - in - law's legal case with my X husband. I don't have any involvement with their property dispute but I don't see my grandson's because of their problems. Their dispute has been resolved. My grandson's don't have contact with my daughter - in - law's family either. This is so very wrong. My hope is that when the boy's become of legal age, they might choose to contact us. I am really struggling with this situation. I do have 4 other grandchildren and continue to make happy memories with them. Living alone makes grief harder to navigate.
My 14 year old grand daughter Faith was found dead in bed 2 day's ago. Epilepsy. As the 76 yr old Grandmother, living 30 minute's away, I grieve alone in agony, my daughter and the remaining younger siblings are shatterred wrecks. We don't know how to go on or get help. In my case, I am severely disabled and can't get to grief counseling
Was starting to see light at the end of the tunnel, after the death of our first son. we have just lost our second son. The light has been switched off.
You never overcome you never get over it you just have to learn to live with the loss. It is a journey only someone that has lost a child knows anything about
My son was killed in October gun shot. By his hand or someone else’s we do not know nor does it matter. I lived with him and his family prior to his death. He is and was so beautiful. I’m not mad at him or God but I am mad. I feel like beating the hell out of cruel people. Pain is insufferable and I hate everything
The pain never ever stops until u too take ur last breath I've lost daughter and son yr half apart a few yrs ago Joe lived with me I still have all his trainers and coats etc here never moved still how he left them all his books and CDs etc I can't throw a thing away Claire had her own house I have a lot of her things too I buried them together in a beautiful double grave
I lost my 17 year old son 3 months ago and I'm so lost, I'm all alone with no family or friends to talk to and I'm afraid there's no reason for me to keep going. I can't do this.
Maybe I need to speak, because even though I didnt lose a child, this still hurts. A year ago a good friend gave birth to a sweet little boy who was very sick and died 2 months later. I did not think that I was allowed to grieve over him because he was not my child, so I felt like I had no right to grieve😭, now just a month and a half ago my sister passed away. Wednesday is the first birthday of the little boy who passed. I just dont know that I can handle wednesday. I put myself in my friends shoes because I also had a preemie, which she had and when he died, I really couldnt handle it. Now that my sisters also gone, I am sitting on my stairs crying never ending tears right now. I think I cried through this video. This year has been so hard. 😭😭😭
I lost my daughter 12 years ago to suicide . And lost my 19 year old son I 2019 from a drug over dose . I'm a live but lm sort of dead on the inside is a journey iv pretty much had to face alone l live one day a time . I've lost ambition motivation. my biggest mistake was to think pp would undestand me.. My family have pretty much excluded me from much of there lives . I tried nd help others as much as l can and when l hear about suicide deaths I get very upset and puts me in a dark place .
I lost my son 7 months ago and until this day, I hardly managed myself.. Most of the times I just sit down with nothing to think. 24/7 my mind is on him😭
I lost my son 6/3/23 one of the most horrible day of my life . He was 15 . He was my heart my best friend, my everything! He was killed when an 18 wheeler hit our truck, I wish it would have killed me . The pain I feel is unbearable
Tony. Alan. Patrick. Bernadette. Always in my heart. My love for you keeps getting stronger. I miss you all so much. Stay close to me. I need to feel you near me so I can go on. Please look after your brother he is all I have left, and we support each other. Someday we will all be together again.
True peace can only come from God. Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey th-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/w-d-xo.html
I lost my previous son. Bobby Pascal on August 19th 2017@ age 36hrs in a car accident. I miss Him so much. I'm so happy to found this organization compassionate friends(TCF)just to know .I'm not alone with that pain. Thank you so very much.( TCF)
Rmw Brown I believe they are in denial and can’t face it I might be wrong When my father was dying my brother was nowhere around to help I think he couldn’t handle seeing him slowly suffer and die The same situation happened when I lost my wife to cancer in 89 Her sister was nowhere around to help me when my wife was dying Some people cannot handle the situation My heart ❤️ goes out to you Take care
to all who have lost their family member first of all I send my heartfelt condolences and my prayers for their souls to rest in eternal peace. I know dispite I try to comfort you it's not easy to controll our grief but all in all its my assurance that if you only once experience the loard within us it will be very easy for you to understand how happy and joyful is the soul to be back to where it came from. by meditation Ins sha Allah or by the name of God it may take time but finally you will get the answer and that will enlighten your belief regarding the soul in heaven. Some are pure and sinless but those with the sins our prayers and repentance will eliminate the sins which we have to fulfil by being generous and if possible to offer helping hands to less fortunate people. Love from Tanzania
Feeling hollow for my Aunt. Lost her son. I can't even picture her face. Nor the faces of his 3 siblings. Food doesn't taste the same. I can barely get out of bed and to complicate things, They live overseas. DAMN
You never "Get over it" Only another parent who has experienced this loss understands that you can with support, "get through it". TCF (The Compassionate Friends) and the friends I've made has helped to make a new normal, new traditions and living again.
TCF is international. Started in England. There will be a chapter near you. Free and no ulterior motives to it. Just bereaved parents supporting each other concerning the deaths of our children.
Jody, I lost my daughter in a car accident due to a drunk driver on 12/12/15, You can reach me on facebook. Its singingtothewheat just message me and we can add one another.
Yes, I do. My daughter was murdered by her fiance almost 4 months ago. She lived 1200 miles from me. By the time the police contacted me she had been on life support for three days. I may never recover from the shock and horror. Her birthday was last Friday. My grief and despair are beyond any words to describe it. What is the point of living if our children are taken from us. Nothing is more precious or important than the time and love we invest in them. We nurture them to adulthood. We think they are living a good life with someone who adores them and treasures them. Then in a moment of brutality the man she loved killed her. Yes, I know.
Kathy Nietfield, my cousin felt the same way after her son's suicide. After the first meeting she couldnt wait to go back. She had plenty of family and friend support, but we couldn't really understand the depth of the pain she was going through. And that is exactly what alot of people did at the meetings - cry and cry and cry.
We lost our daughter to SIDS in November 2013 she was three months old and it's gotten easier but the loneliness is the worst. I feel like my life has stopped I will probably never join a support group, I don't want to talk about it, only my husband is my strength and support system.
My husband and I are the same for each other and never wanted to join a support group. What's the point? I don't want to live my daughters struggle with cancer over again. We fought for 19 years and still lost that fight. We don't want to live her funeral over and over. It's enough that we do anyway because life takes you there unwillingly. But to relive it all purposely? No, thank you. We want to remember our 20 year old daughter with sparkle and hope in her eyes. She was gorgeous inside and out. She lives on and is constantly with us in a positive way. Your baby is with you, too. The joy you felt when you had her and gave her life lives on in your heart. In a special place that is hers, and hers alone. Your pain is yours and yours alone. Because she was yours. You knew her. She knew you. I believe that our children are blessings. We are truly blessed to have had the honor of having our daughter in our lives no matter for how long. Keep that blessing close to you. Let it give you the strength you need to get through each day. God bless!
This place does nothing for you. They would rather go outside and smoke instead of talking to you. There has to be other organizations that will help me when the grief of losing my son in 2009.
Dave, I am sorry that you had a bad experience with your local TCF. I can assure you that not all chapters are that way and they do help. I lost my son Roy James Davies on Jan 13th 2008, Roy was a Junior in college at Ohio State. Roy died from natural causes his heart stopped while playing X-Box live. Then the unimaginable happened after my wife and I had started over we moved to Nashville TN and our youngest son Taylor died from an undiagnosed and rare blood disease. he was 15. Roy was 20. If not for the Compassionate Friends I am not sure we could have made it. I have been to several different chapter meetings in different states. They are all different but working towards the same goal. If the chapter that you attended did not offer you hope maybe you should try some of the online opportunities and groups on Facebook. Don't denigrate the entire organization because you had a chapter that did not meet your needs. Every year at Conference there are thousands of people that are helped by TCF.
My 20 month old daughter died 2 weeks ago in an elevator accident, the elevator went up as she was going out of it and she got squashed between the wall and the elevator and was crushed. I am totally out of order, I can’t believe I over lived her, I can’t sleep, I can’t go on, I can’t function, my heart is torn apart and I still breath. She was my everything, she was taken from me very viciously.
The loss of a child is something you NEVER truly get over...All you can do is learn to live without them:-(
Not an easy task to do..
Recently, I lost my son unexpectedly and the pain is so intense that I cry every day. Holding the tears inside, while functioning at a high level, for many hours a day, is really difficult and exhausting. I pretend to be alright. Sometimes people can be really critical and unkind, when someone is hurting. Most people just don't know what to say. I guess I wouldn't either until it happened to me. I'm blessed with really great friends and a strong faith in God. It helps to count your blessings, when you're going through hell. My son was 22 and it's been 10 months since his passing. He is my only child and I love him more than life itself! What I miss most is his deep belly laughter, hearing him say, "I love you so much mom," and our long discussions about everything. He taught me so much! Michael is and was, an amazing soul and young man. Most people don't understand that a person who has lost a child, is under constant and relentless stress and pain. So many of us who have lost children, feel isolated, even while going through counseling and doing all the 'right' things. Please... If you know a parent going through the loss of a child, offer a kind word and don't say "after a year you'll feel better", or "you have to get over it." God bless and heal all the parents reading this who have lost children.
Michelle R. I'm so sorry for your loss, Michelle. My heart goes out to you and is breaking for you. Your words touched me very deeply. I can feel your love for your son through your words and memories, and how you feel in your grieving. Do take all the time you need to grieve. I don't think we ever "get over" the loss of a loved one. We just learn how to live with the extreme pain. It goes wherever we go. It is constantly weighing upon us. We feel heavier. It's harder to move. Dealing with other people becomes 100 times more stressful. And for the most part, we'd rather not have to. God bless you, Michelle. Thank you for sharing your story and experience. Much love and many many hugs to you
Michelle R. God bless you Michelle I am in the same place as you. BillX
I understand how you feel. My baby died at daycare on June 5, 2015 on the van. They lied to me & told me she fainted. Angel was 22 months old. She was found in the front passenger seat which means she wasn't in her car seat & she was trying to get off the van & didn't know how. My life had changed forever & yes people are very unkind. Some people blame me & say I got what I deserved & that I should have done more research. The daycare was still on the state's website as licensed & the mistake was corrected after Angel died. Some people say I need to get over it. Some people say it's my fault I didn't look more into the daycare. I just went to work that day, no where else. And they lied to me & said she fainted. They cleaned Angel up & even changed her diaper too. My heart is broken forever. I'm so sorry for your loss. Believe me I truly understand.
Michelle Private sending you love.
Michelle Private I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I'm 11 years into this journey. My firstborn Son was 15 when He passed away. May God comfort and sustain you.
After nearly 24 years, losing my 18 year old son to cancer, the pain is as real as it ever was and just because I am so far into this journey, doesn't mean when grief pays me a call, it is any easier. The missing never goes away and I don't ever want it to because it is my testimony to how much I loved my son.
I have no children. You are all heroes for doing anything after loss of this magnitude. Bless you all and your children lost💔
Thank you, Michelle. May you NEVER EVER come to know such loss! God bless you for thinking of us who do know and have to get up and function each and every day, no matter how much time has passed. Much love to you!
Thank you for your kind comment..God bless you always..
Thank you. My child died and people do not understand that it's not the same as another death like a mother or father. Thank u for sharing
my Only son died 3 months ago in my arms in ICU, I feel so lost, he was 14 years old , he was so adorable, this pain is killing me :(
+Sharon Jacobs I am so very sorry that you lost him.I felt the same way when I lost my daughter on a Tuesday-July 6th of 1993. This has been such a long journey. At the time I lost her, she was an only child, so I found myself, my identity redefined. I have two daughters today. We talk about Darcy all the time and it took me a long time to accept that I should not allow the incident that separated me from her could not define her life. I know I will see her again and that you will see your son again. You take it day by day and walk forward in faith. Much love and many prayers coming your way....
Im so sorry for your loss... I hope that the time that has passed has given you peace
Mat God looked down at you with love and compassion. ❤
I loss my 14 year old 8 weeks ago and it feels like my heart is shattered. The grief of a child that depended on you is unbearable 😔.lt is so incredibly hard
Bradley FE14 forever l will always love and grieve my child!!!
I lost a child to Cancer 22 years ago. She has a surviving twin. Grateful to have her.
Your words are my words. Your experience is my experience. I long for my daughter everyday and it's been 3 years. Thank you for sharing this video.
My son was shot and killed 3 months ago. Oct 17. I will never ever be the same. He is a beautiful man with a beautiful spirit and beautiful smile.
I lost 3 children, all at different times. They were all young adults just starting out in life. I take one breath, one foot, one smile, one good morning to someone. That helps. Also I say the Serenity prayer.
I just lost my son 3 months ago. Jack was 8 years old. My life feels like it ended the day he died.
My heart breaks for your loss of you son. I can't imagine your pain, but hope you find strength and peace going forward. Stay strong.
❤ I hope you find the support you need. The surrealness and level of pain will ease over time. But as mentioned in the video, it is measured in years. Not months.
Baby steps. Remember to eat, sleep and move your body. It boils down to our basic care in the first couple or three years. Everyone is different, but that is what I have observed. Also, if you don't really care if you stay here anymore? That is a temporary state. It will ease. Don't make any big decisions for a year. Bless you and may you find fellow bereaved friends to talk to. ❤
I lost my only son August 3rd 2021....He was only 33..A pain I wouldn't wish on anyone..He's all I think about..time isn't healing anything..the longer it is the more I miss him..I love you Rick..My heart will never heal..God help us all..
Sorry for the recent loss of your son Rick. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
@@michellerauenhorst2913 Thank you so much! My thoughts and prayers are with you also today and always 💕
@@angiemyers9759 Losing our only children is complex grief. I truly understand what you're going through. You can survive this unspeakable pain. You are not alone. My prayers are with you as well. ❤️
@@michellerauenhorst2913 you have been a blessing to me today..my prayer is that God touches and heals your heart and the heart of every grieving person out there..I believe we will be with our children again one day when the lord calls us home..until then, it sure helps to know there are caring praying ppl out there that like you that stop by to leave a word of encouragement and prayers..God bless you Michelle!
@@angiemyers9759 💗🙏🌼
When I lost my son on June 1st 2020 I found TCF and they were having online meetings due to covid. It has been the best thing I have done since he passed. So many parents who have experienced what I was going through. It helped to hear the perspective of other parents whether they were new to their grief or had been living with it for many years. I found parents who also lost children during covid with all the restrictions. We could not travel to see my son in Calgary where he was in the hospital. We had to say goodbye on the phone when we knew he would not survive his injuries. Other parents were also struggling with not having been able to have funerals because of restrictions. This was something that even parents who lost children years ago had not had to deal with. We had a part of the whole process taken from us. Many of us had to plan funerals months after our childrens deaths, which brought it all back. The fog/shock you are typically in right after your child died has started to wear off, it was real and this added a whole new layer to the grief process. I am so thankful for TCF and the amazing parents I have met and friendships I have developed.
I just wanted to let you know that my husband and I lost our son 10 year ago and we miss him more every day. But as time goes on we learn to deal with it. He will always be in our hearts for every .With much love Millie
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6 years in August, he was 17...I'm 1 assignment and 1 exam away from gaining a history degree..I'm still broken, I still cry most days because my heart is bust. I laugh everyday because I still have an amazing daughter. I miss Peter everyday. Time means nothing to my heart, it's just longer apart. Love you Peter x
K my condolences to you I lost my 20 year old son October 23 2016 than my precious daughter age 17 March 12 2017 I don’t even know how I’m able to keep going it’s so hard especially with no real family support. I live for my 2 sons and my pets. That’s all 💔
@@debbieguccione2495 Debbie, my heart goes out to you!! So sorry to hear you don't have family support. It might not seem like it to yourself but Debbie, you are super strong!! You go on for your boys and your fur babies, even when you are in immense pain..that takes love, courage and strength. My family aren't close at all either but I found, especially in the early days that joining certain groups with other parents with similar experiences helpful, I just kind of felt I wasn't alone. Much love to you and yours xxx
K ♥️Thank you
Sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
My 20 month old daughter died 2 weeks ago in an elevator accident, the elevator went up as she was going out of it and she got squashed between the wall and the elevator and was crushed. I am totally out of order, I can’t believe I over lived her, I can’t sleep, I can’t go on, I can’t function, my heart is torn apart and I still breath. She was my everything, she was taken from me very viciously.
Everything everyone says in this video is true, especially the man who talks about the difference in grief of losing someone and the loss of a child. I lost both of my teenage daughters in 1999 and have lost many friends and family members...and it is not the same...it is all devastating though I know. Every time I talk to a person who has lost a child I can tell in just a few short sentences that they truly understand
Our precious grandson 26 years old died.On 10/18/2015. I never ever get over his death.We had a son to died at 22 year old car accident.Mom & Daddy gone,Three brother died at at,young age. Three Nephew died at a young age.So i no and experience a great deal with death.Big hole left in your heart that never ever heals.
Lost my Son three weeks ago. Adam was a twin brother and his Dad passed suddenly April 2020. I just want to know Adam is safe and happy. I’m absolutely heartbroken. Life will never be the same.😢😢
I lost my brother on sep 23 2018 very much loved by many i miss him sooo much im hurting for him and im hurting for my parents watching them cry every single day n night at different hours of the night. nothing is the same w out him i feel like my life was taken that night my brother was taken from us part of us went w him this feeling in my chest n throat is the saddest ive ever endured
I lost my elder daughter at just 11 years on 14sep 2018 I couldn't get over it. It is too hard to live without her. I m dying every day with every breath.........
I am deeply sorry for your loss, I lost my 10 years old daughter 3 months ago too, I understand you.
Sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
In 2014, I lost my first son Levis, I have not been myself, the world just burnt me again, my second born son Abram also gone in February, 2022, it hurts alot
I lost my only child 10 n half years ago aged 29 3 yrs after his son was still born, for years I was in what can only be described as a daze, nothing mattered nothing registered, days passed into weeks which in turn passed into months of nothing but pain n emptiness and that feelings never left me, this Christmas eve 2021 would of been my boys 40th I miss him so much 💔 😢 😢
Sorry for the loss of your only child. My heart goes out to you. 💗
.... would've = would + have.
@@Toffee146 Don't you think we know that?
It will be 8 months tomorrow that my daughter died. She was 18 and just graduated high school. She was 9 days away from turning 19. I think about her everyday. Sometimes all day. I am just now starting to understand that this grief will never go away. That I have to live with it. I loved her so much. And if that’s what I have to live with? She is worth it. For the rest of my life I will always have that feeling of sadness that she isn’t here. But also the love we had for each other will always be here also. And just knowing that gives me a good feeling. Maybe for a moment but it something I didn’t feel in the beginning of this. Learning to live without her is the hardest part.
I lost my 9 year old daughter with severe autism from accident last year May 22, 2021. I felt guilty for not being able to protect her from falling from our balcony but I know that God is sovereign and He is in control of everything even if we made mistakes. He can use our past mistakes to fulfill His purpose in our lives (Romans 8:28) still heartbroken until now...
True peace can only come from God. Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
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this comment helped me with my own grief over losing my daughter. Thank you
We are six years and four Months into the loss of I wore grown child there are days that feels like it just happenedI have people telling me I need to get over Matthew’s Death I just
can’t I don’t know how
I'm an orphan for seven years😢 my first born baby daughter just recently died 2 months ago since then i feel like being killed by the pain of knowing my baby died😭💔I am so broken 💔💔💔I really miss you my Madison reign👼I know the pain will be forever in me💔
I lost my loving and only child Erick. He died of Covid on 7/20/21 and the pain in forever. His love and strength get me thru one day at a time 💔🥺🙏
So sorry for your loss Myrna. I just lost my only child on 12/08/21, he had Covid but it was the hospital and their protocols that killed him. So many people didn’t have to die of Covid but only here in the US we have such high death rates, and that’s because of their protocols. I miss my son so much it hurts every second. We will see our boys again in our eternal home. Sending you love ❤️
@@mistyn380 it’s just unbearable when you would hope God would take me first. I miss him immensely, he was my world and I’m so lost without him. My sincere condolences. I wish to understand God one day. Grief Share group in my community has helped me with this heartbreak🙏🙏💔💔 my prayers for you. 🥺❤️
@@myrnahernandez6244 I completely understand. I Kept saying I wish God would take me In his place, I would’ve given him my life in a heartbeat. I have a love and hate relationship with God at the moment. Half of me wants to get closer to God, but the other half is very angry at the moment. Everyday I’m asking “why God?! Why him? Why us? He’s my only child!! Where are you God? Why did you have to take him away?!” This pain is unbearable. My purpose in life and the meaning of life is him. He was/is my world. Now, I’ve lost my will to live, I ask God to take me everyday so I can unite with my son.
Im going to a support group in February, so it’ll be good to connect with people who can relate. Best wishes Myrna ❤️
@@mistyn380 I pray that each day somehow you will allow your heart to guide you and understand that we can only survive one day at a time. I wish I could say the pain goes away but in my 6 months I still cannot bear the pain. I wish you well and pray the group helps. You are not alone in this heartache 🙏♥️
Sorry for the recent loss of your son Erick. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
I'd like to talk to others who have lost a child. I lost my sixteen year old in a car wreck, I'm still consumed with grief.
Hi Jody. My name is staci. My 15-year-old son just passed away a week ago, I could really use someone to talk too also. My email is stacifulton@hotmail.com. Please email me.
+Jody Wilson Dear Jody, I too lost a child and if you ever need to talk to another person who understands the depth of this loss, please contact me at Redemption944@gmail.com. Love and prayers to you.
+Staci Fulton I am so sorry for your loss of him.
me too loss daughter in car wreck in 2006 feels like yesterday
I lost my son 2 years ago he was almost 7 and I just cant get over it , it hurts so much it burns a lot
It's the CLOSEST you can get to HELL 😢.. I miss my Baby
Sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
I lost my firstborn daughter to SIDS when Kayla was 1 month and 5 days old the day after Thanksgiving 10/20/1994-11/25/1994. I love and miss my daughter alot. I met another guy we have 3 children and I will never forget Kayla. I have twins Melissa and Megan will be 16 on August 8th and my youngest Victoria is 14. Melissa and Kayla could pass for twins. It is such a rough road even after almost 24 years. When Kayla was born and passed away I was a single mom and 19 years old. I was so scared that one of my 3 would pass away too. I still have friends and family thinking grief has a time limit, it doesn't. I am still on an emotional roller coaster after all these years. I felt like someone stabbed me in the heart and then proceeded to tear it out of me, I still cry like a baby @ times, get mad, I am now a single mom to my 3 have been for about 5 years. Troy, my 3 kids dad hasn't seen the girls in 5 years his choice not mine, he started calling over a year ago when he found out he had skin cancer.
My sister lost her only son just 2 years now. He had tons of health problems. Still was shocking. What i told her after a while was “remember his 38 years he was here and not JUST the one day”. We talk about him just about every day. We miss him everyday. RIP DJ, love you eternity.
I lost my son Oct 9the 2017, 32 yrs. Old. Feel asleep, died in a horrific car accident. Omg I miss him more everyday. Brandon James luman -heberer. I don't want to be alive anymore
My son passed on the 5th of this month and I’m not sure how to go on without him.. I miss him so much.. He was 22..🥺😔😢
I lost my son a month and half ago, he was only 9 years old and had Patent Ductus Arteriosus - a congenital heart defect. I was numb for some time and nothing seemed real, not even the passing of days. Even now my pain is immense but counseling is helping me a great deal, am still very angry that my son is dead I still talk about him in present tense. I can't understand why it had to be my son..
I'm so Sorry :(
I'm so sorry, I have a little brother about the same age. it must hurt so bad. all i can say is to live life in a way that honors your little boy.
I'm so sorry, I have a little brother about the same age. it must hurt so bad. all i can say is to live life in a way that honors your little boy.
Sorry for the recent loss of your son. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
I lost my son at 9years last year
My son was killed on Monday. The Ohio State Police and two counties all chased a drunk heroin overdosing car thief who they had id'd already - they chased this guy into a highly populated area at 4 on a school day. My son was pulling out of a residential driveway and this kid slammed into him obliterating the car. The worst of it all isn't just losing him but that I am a LiveLeaker and I can't tell you how many times I haven't even wanted to leave my house for fear of what crazy thing might happen to me. And even though I thought all of it was harmless, I realize now that I saw it all in ways that I now cannot unsee. I'm terrified of what happened to my son and what this guy and the cops did to him and did they hurt him and how much.
So sorry for your loss.
Optic Illusion 💔
My daughter died aged 7 .........unbelievable pain but you have to keep going :-/
Hi, Just lost my son Matthew, 18 to a drugoverdose. He was in a coma 2 weeks. Removed life support. And he passed 3 days later. I was there whennhevtook his last breath. Just had his service last week. I feel like someone ripped my heart out. Just went through a terrible divorce almost a year ago and now this. Matthew lived with me , I have no idea how to move on.
My name is Billie. My number is 904.five21.8five99
If you would like to talk. My son ,Chad Ryan: forever 18 on 11.25.20
Sorry for the loss of your son Mathew. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
On June 5, 2015 my daughter Angel Gabrielle Green died at daycare. She was 23 months old. They forgot her on the van after a lunch outing. Angel was not supposed to be on the van. The daycare lied to me & told me she fainted. My life has changed forever! Angel has 3 older sisters, she was my baby girl. I miss her so much & I'm hurting in a way that I cannot put in to words. The story has made headlines & the first court date has not been set yet. Every time the media covers this story it takes me back. I'm sure every court date the media will be there, which will also take me back. It's only been 2 months & it still feels like yesterday. No parent should ever have to bury their child. Death has no discrimination & can happen to anyone. But Angel did not have to die this way. I cry so much my face hurts. I'm doing my best to maintain & continue living my life for the sake of my other children. This video helped me a little. Nothing in this world will ever bring back or replace my little Angel. I have a video on my page entitled Justice For Angel. Please watch it & share it.
Joy I remember this story. Im so sorry for your loss ❤️. Angel’s passing has raised awareness and saved many child deaths like hers across the nation. She’s definitely an angel that was sent down here to save many lives.
When I lost my son 3 years ago, I also lost his 2 son's, due to my daughter - in - law's legal case with my X husband. I don't have any involvement with their property dispute but I don't see my grandson's because of their problems. Their dispute has been resolved. My grandson's don't have contact with my daughter - in - law's family either. This is so very wrong. My hope is that when the boy's become of legal age, they might choose to contact us. I am really struggling with this situation. I do have 4 other grandchildren and continue to make happy memories with them. Living alone makes grief harder to navigate.
It's an horrible time, unbelievable! I've lost my child on July 2018, due to a sarcoma. I'm not ok. I want to go there, where he is now.
Yes same question I ask eveey day , where is he , is there a heaven , I'm even mad why him ? Why us ? He was almost 7 a sweet boy and it hurts a lot
Sorry for the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you. 💗
It's been six days. I don't know how I'm going to live. There's no me without my boy. There's no life left in me.
My 14 year old grand daughter Faith was found dead in bed 2 day's ago. Epilepsy. As the 76 yr old Grandmother, living 30 minute's away, I grieve alone in agony, my daughter and the remaining younger siblings are shatterred wrecks. We don't know how to go on or get help. In my case, I am severely disabled and can't get to grief counseling
Was starting to see light at the end of the tunnel, after the death of our first son. we have just lost our second son. The light has been switched off.
I'm so sorry for everything you going through. I know is very painful. I had to go through that pain 3 times in less then 2 years
I'm so sorry for both of your loss. We lost our oldest son Ethan a week ago. I'm sorry you've had to go through this at all, let alone more than once.
God I’m so sorry the pain you must be going through no words praying for some kind of peace
I lost my youngest son recently... Pls help me to overcome my grieving..
You never overcome you never get over it you just have to learn to live with the loss. It is a journey only someone that has lost a child knows anything about
Sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
I am trying very hard to make it through this grieve.
My son was killed in October gun shot. By his hand or someone else’s we do not know nor does it matter. I lived with him and his family prior to his death. He is and was so beautiful. I’m not mad at him or God but I am mad. I feel like beating the hell out of cruel people. Pain is insufferable and I hate everything
Its been years but I still feel the pain when does the pain stop
The pain never ever stops until u too take ur last breath I've lost daughter and son yr half apart a few yrs ago Joe lived with me I still have all his trainers and coats etc here never moved still how he left them all his books and CDs etc I can't throw a thing away Claire had her own house I have a lot of her things too I buried them together in a beautiful double grave
It never does. You just learn to cope with it.
My daughter died aged 7 , it never leaves you but you have to push on x
I lost my 17 year old son 3 months ago and I'm so lost, I'm all alone with no family or friends to talk to and I'm afraid there's no reason for me to keep going. I can't do this.
How are you doing today😢
Maybe I need to speak, because even though I didnt lose a child, this still hurts. A year ago a good friend gave birth to a sweet little boy who was very sick and died 2 months later. I did not think that I was allowed to grieve over him because he was not my child, so I felt like I had no right to grieve😭, now just a month and a half ago my sister passed away. Wednesday is the first birthday of the little boy who passed. I just dont know that I can handle wednesday. I put myself in my friends shoes because I also had a preemie, which she had and when he died, I really couldnt handle it. Now that my sisters also gone, I am sitting on my stairs crying never ending tears right now. I think I cried through this video. This year has been so hard. 😭😭😭
Thank you.
I lost my daughter 12 years ago to suicide . And lost my 19 year old son I 2019 from a drug over dose . I'm a live but lm sort of dead on the inside is a journey iv pretty much had to face alone l live one day a time . I've lost ambition motivation. my biggest mistake was to think pp would undestand me.. My family have pretty much excluded me from much of there lives . I tried nd help others as much as l can and when l hear about suicide deaths I get very upset and puts me in a dark place .
I lost my son 7 months ago and until this day, I hardly managed myself.. Most of the times I just sit down with nothing to think. 24/7 my mind is on him😭
I lost my son 6/3/23 one of the most horrible day of my life . He was 15 . He was my heart my best friend, my everything! He was killed when an 18 wheeler hit our truck, I wish it would have killed me . The pain I feel is unbearable
Tony. Alan. Patrick. Bernadette. Always in my heart. My love for you keeps getting stronger. I miss you all so much. Stay close to me. I need to feel you near me so I can go on. Please look after your brother he is all I have left, and we support each other. Someday we will all be together again.
True peace can only come from God. Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
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@@kelleymcfadden9675 STOP. You're not helping with your fake story.
God Bless this fantastic organization 🙏
I have lost my 8 months old son due to encephalitis recently. trying to come out of trauma plz help me God
I lost my previous son. Bobby Pascal on August 19th 2017@ age 36hrs in a car accident. I miss Him so much. I'm so happy to found this organization compassionate friends(TCF)just to know .I'm not alone with that pain. Thank you so very much.( TCF)
Beautiful work!
Not only have I lost my son in a car accident, my other two children have been very unsupportive and cold. Why???
Rmw Brown I believe they are in denial and can’t face it
I might be wrong
When my father was dying my brother was nowhere around to help
I think he couldn’t handle seeing him slowly suffer and die
The same situation happened when I lost my wife to cancer in 89
Her sister was nowhere around to help me when my wife was dying
Some people cannot handle the situation
My heart ❤️ goes out to you
Take care
to all who have lost their family member first of all I send my heartfelt condolences and my prayers for their souls to rest in eternal peace. I know dispite I try to comfort you it's not easy to controll our grief but all in all its my assurance that if you only once experience the loard within us it will be very easy for you to understand how happy and joyful is the soul to be back to where it came from. by meditation Ins sha Allah or by the name of God it may take time but finally you will get the answer and that will enlighten your belief regarding the soul in heaven. Some are pure and sinless but those with the sins our prayers and repentance will eliminate the sins which we have to fulfil by being generous and if possible to offer helping hands to less fortunate people. Love from Tanzania
i lost my son it's very hard time
suicidal despair and breathless longing
Living without my grandson is not living, death for me is welcome, I rather be dead than be without him...
Feeling hollow for my Aunt. Lost her son. I can't even picture her face. Nor the faces of his 3 siblings. Food doesn't taste the same. I can barely get out of bed and to complicate things, They live overseas. DAMN
I lost my 26 years old daughter April 11 of this years suddenly it is a worst nightmare,is like a part of you is gone.I don't know if i ever recover.
+juliette61 i'm sorry for your loss and i hope you'll recover.
+juliette61 that's exactly how I feel Juliette. I don't know if I will recover either
You never "Get over it" Only another parent who has experienced this loss understands that you can with support, "get through it". TCF (The Compassionate Friends) and the friends I've made has helped to make a new normal, new traditions and living again.
TCF is international. Started in England. There will be a chapter near you. Free and no ulterior motives to it. Just bereaved parents supporting each other concerning the deaths of our children.
I lost my daughter and her son she was pregnant I still num I'm dreaming! why.
Thank you for sharing this video
Please let me know if there is a meeting in my area
Victorville CA
Thank you 🙏
Jody, I lost my daughter in a car accident due to a drunk driver on 12/12/15, You can reach me on facebook. Its singingtothewheat just message me and we can add one another.
me too on the 2 nov 2006 she was 15
My husband and I lost our son 10 year ago and sometimes it seems like yesterday but we are better at deal with it mille
Sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
I Need 2 Go...I Just Loss My Niece She Was 6 Were Devastated...& I Can't Understand
Please, go to the web site for The Compassionate Friends to find a local chapter.
Is the meeting in the North Texas area
If i was to lose my child that would be the end of my life. Period.
The most painful death is one that is sudden & unexpected. Do u know how painful it is?
Yes, I do. My daughter was murdered by her fiance almost 4 months ago. She lived 1200 miles from me. By the time the police contacted me she had been on life support for three days. I may never recover from the shock and horror. Her birthday was last Friday. My grief and despair are beyond any words to describe it. What is the point of living if our children are taken from us. Nothing is more precious or important than the time and love we invest in them. We nurture them to adulthood. We think they are living a good life with someone who adores them and treasures them. Then in a moment of brutality the man she loved killed her. Yes, I know.
We lost our son to suicide 2 months ago. I don’t know if I can go a support meeting I’ll cry throughout the time.
Kathy Nietfield, my cousin felt the same way after her son's suicide. After the first meeting she couldnt wait to go back. She had plenty of family and friend support, but we couldn't really understand the depth of the pain she was going through. And that is exactly what alot of people did at the meetings - cry and cry and cry.
Sorry for the sudden loss of your son. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
@@michellerauenhorst2913 Do you write the same message to everyone?
I lost my 15 year old twin boy to suicide I feel so guilty and hurt for my other son he is left without siblings
Sorry for the recent loss of your son. My heart goes out to you this mother's day and always. 💗
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We lost our daughter to SIDS in November 2013 she was three months old and it's gotten easier but the loneliness is the worst. I feel like my life has stopped I will probably never join a support group, I don't want to talk about it, only my husband is my strength and support system.
My husband and I are the same for each other and never wanted to join a support group. What's the point? I don't want to live my daughters struggle with cancer over again. We fought for 19 years and still lost that fight. We don't want to live her funeral over and over. It's enough that we do anyway because life takes you there unwillingly. But to relive it all purposely? No, thank you. We want to remember our 20 year old daughter with sparkle and hope in her eyes. She was gorgeous inside and out. She lives on and is constantly with us in a positive way. Your baby is with you, too. The joy you felt when you had her and gave her life lives on in your heart. In a special place that is hers, and hers alone. Your pain is yours and yours alone. Because she was yours. You knew her. She knew you. I believe that our children are blessings. We are truly blessed to have had the honor of having our daughter in our lives no matter for how long. Keep that blessing close to you. Let it give you the strength you need to get through each day. God bless!
I'm in North Central Ohio, right on Lake Erie. Where can I attend a group meeting?
Brian Ward The compassionate friends. There is a chapter in Tiffin. Look them up and God bless.
The sorrow isn't as fresh but there is still a void. She was 2 almost 3 at the time.
Please could someone give me the contact in south africa in thr KwaZulu-Natal area. Please Please.
Informative but short
Poor sound mixing. Turn down the background music. I could barely understand these people, and I desperately wanted to hear what they had to say.
There is no way you can understand this pain unless it happens to you and the people on the side just don't know what to do or say
Don't hide it don't fight it feel no macho.shame just let it roll
This place does nothing for you. They would rather go outside and smoke instead of talking to you. There has to be other organizations that will help me when the grief of losing my son in 2009.
Dave, I am sorry that you had a bad experience with your local TCF. I can assure you that not all chapters are that way and they do help. I lost my son Roy James Davies on Jan 13th 2008, Roy was a Junior in college at Ohio State. Roy died from natural causes his heart stopped while playing X-Box live. Then the unimaginable happened after my wife and I had started over we moved to Nashville TN and our youngest son Taylor died from an undiagnosed and rare blood disease. he was 15. Roy was 20. If not for the Compassionate Friends I am not sure we could have made it. I have been to several different chapter meetings in different states. They are all different but working towards the same goal. If the chapter that you attended did not offer you hope maybe you should try some of the online opportunities and groups on Facebook. Don't denigrate the entire organization because you had a chapter that did not meet your needs. Every year at Conference there are thousands of people that are helped by TCF.
I would be glad to help you in anyway I can. Let me know.
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My 20 month old daughter died 2 weeks ago in an elevator accident, the elevator went up as she was going out of it and she got squashed between the wall and the elevator and was crushed. I am totally out of order, I can’t believe I over lived her, I can’t sleep, I can’t go on, I can’t function, my heart is torn apart and I still breath. She was my everything, she was taken from me very viciously.
I am so sorry for your loss.. 😢
May she rest in peace..
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find some days that are less painful and are surrounded with a loving family support system. 💚
I am so sorry
I have lost my 8 months old son due to encephalitis recently. trying to come out of trauma plz help me God