I’m still waiting on this one I do see a couple of them around me, but of course my narc is still around me so he is also trying to convince me that I’m crazy listening to these videos is just crazy. I would absolutely recommend you trust your intuition because they will make you think you’re crazy. They will make you think oh you think you’re better than everybody else because you can see this no I do not think I’m better than anybody else. I just see who you are. I’m sure a lot of other people do too. That’s probably why they keep their distance from us this whole time you would rather me believe that it was me why people were keeping their distance I am not the reason and I am not wrong for trying to get better. My just doesn’t want me to know the truth as well. He shouldn’t. This has been going on for more than 20 years so that means there’s a lot of past that I am trying to sort through what really happened and what didn’t trust your intuition.
Yup, the first thing for me is their eyes are the first thing that tells me they are a narc. Then if they look at me it's like they automatically know that i know who they are even before they open their mouth to introduce themselves to me. Once you've been with a narc you literally can spot them with eye contact and then after that they know you know so they barely spark a conversation or they stay far from you because they know you're a strong one.
seriously i agree. i told my wife that i could smell a narc a mile away, but she thought i'm joking. once, i had a phone conversation (zero argument) with a guy whom i just met, then i told my wife that his vibes is just like 'YY'(a totally disregard other privacy ex-friend whom i told not to call again). true enough, a week later he tried to manipulate me to do everything he refused to do. that week i met at least 2 dozens of new people but somehow this guy 'manipulative stench' is too pungent.
Set boundries with them and refuse to let them control you then they'll accuse you of the very things they, themselves are doing, Easy peasy, one two threesy. A narcissist's accusations are actually confessions.
They definitely accuse others of that which they are guilty. Most of their behaviour is displacement and projection of uncomfortable emotions . It's the most complicated nonsense ever.
What is so great is firghure them out. Want you firghure them out you know everything, every mood, every steps, reason and why. They may think already play on game time. Great advice
The easy part is take back there power and set boundaries. It drives them crazy they will try every tricked just to get you mad. Either they will try love bamp or move to another person. Right on point
You can be tricked when your guard is down. I take time to reflect in solitude as my emotions sometimes get in the way. Of course, too much too soon is always a red flag.
I would say the first sign of a Narcissist is butterflies in your stomach. You feel wary in their presence. Particularly if they smirk or have a grating, fake laugh. It's actually a flight or fight response, which unfortunately can be mistaken for attraction or curiosity about the person. After getting out of a relationship with a malignant Narcissist, I realise I've also had "friends" and an ex boss who are Narcissists, have cut myself off from all of them.
Their happiness is contained within themselves and not in exchange with what their new supply has to say. And when their meetings with idealized supply end, they will smile to themselves and not look back to see if their partner is smiling or looking back at them too. Until the mask fit improves.
This is spot on. 25 yrs and he played his role to the T as husband and father. Ofc there was abuse, financial, emotional and sexual. But when he left, I saw him change like a chameleon to source new supply. It left me shell shocked.
The discard has been going on since they first devalued you. It's was there from the start, a preemptive strike to prevent injury to their little egos which is ironically a self fulfilling prophesy. Had my ex been what he showed me at first I'd be around forever and he'd have everything I had to offer. It's during this long period of shuffling between trying to keep me while devaluing and insulting me, gaslighting, all that that he tipped his hand and I wen t no contact before he could drop the hammer on me. Still 8 months out and the damage is done. Have better days and bad but either way the old me, the one I was do happy with is gone.
My ex husband used to “joke” that he was not human and he had no emotions.. I used to think it was as a joke, he was t joking. The discard after 12 yrs of marriage with 2 little kids was the true reveal. He had no emotions. It was hard then but now I see how God was blessing me. Anyone out there in the dark tunnels please hang in there.. it’ll get better
Anytime that one is able to objectively, impartially, observe a narcissist in motion or watch when their lips are moving vital information about who and what they are is given to you on a silver platter.
My experience with a borderline for 10 yrs is medication only dulls their inner darkness, but the discontent, the misery, the self hatred, the rage eventually pushes through, eventually I would become the target, they really are the most soul sucking parasites.
You’ll recognise lack of consideration & action pretty fast from any dysfunctional person …. Don’t stick around to analyse have the courage to keep moving on and that’s when the authentic people of this world will enter your life 👍
Yes Anoushka, narcissists DO disclose who they really are. It’s just that WE need to be paying attention. Thank you for educating us on these character-disordered individuals. 💕🙏🏼😃📚
One thing for sure is they talk but their actions don't match what they just told you the day before! Huge red flag! They also can't seem to be alone... If one relationship fails, they are in another one within a few days or weeks
From the few I know, their upbringing is to blame. Unless they begin to understand that and get help they'll never change their temper tantrum jealous evil rage ways.
In the first five minutes on our first meeting… I told them about something traumatic that lead me to where we met. I had not finished the sentence when they jumped in with something *far worse* that had happened to them ten years before and ended up being not quite how they originally described it. My gut knew immediately and I was able to keep a distance for about a year. I still got hoovered later and paid the price for quite a while.
For all the dating people, Dont fall for the lovebombing in the beginning, they will drop the facade( mask) in a few weeks, they cant hold it up very long and you will see there true self.
@anoushka Thank you for your videos, they're very eye-opening and educational. I split with my ex 4 months ago and 2 months no contact. I've decided to no longer watch these videos. It's about me and my healing. The longer I watch these videos the longer it will take to heal. Those of you going through this, remain strong and believe 💪🏻 Give yourself the love you want from others. And remember you fell in love with yourself. Thanks again. Happy healing 💙
There's a scale of consciousness created by Dr. David Hawkins. At the bottom of the scale are the people who are always focused on "getting". (This fits with the Narcissistic mindset of supply, greed and envy) In the middle of the scale are the people who are focused on "doing" (or accomplishing). At the top of the scale are the people who are focused mainly on "being".
When I was pregnant and married to my second ex narc? (I found out that I was raised by many Narcs but didn't know it. Now everything about my life makes sense to me. I'm the Truth teller in my Narc family. I was treated very badly by them.) I asked him if he thought pregnant women were beautiful to him? He said yes. Then i would ask him different questions over time and i noticed that every question received a different answer. I started noticing this more and more so I asked him about pregnant women again. This time he said no. That's one of the first times I noticed that he was a liar. It really hurt my feelings. Just one example of his crazy side. Way too much to share about my life so forgive me if I don't get everything right on here. He was never involved in my pregnancy until MY son was born. Then when he was born? He acted like he gave birth on his own. He brought him out of Labor and Delivery like a proud father. It was nothing but BS show! I never heard of Narcissistic Abuse until 2019. He alienated my sons from me. One is talking with me again starting last year after he realized on his own how crazy his father (first husband) was while he was living with him. He got away from him finally. But my youngest hasn't spoken with me for a decade. I had great relationships with both of them until I started to feel like I was losing my mind. My life was filled with terrible moments like this for decades. I noticed i was getting sicker and sicker and no one could diagnose me until my friend (a doctor) told me that he sounded like a Narcissist. I bought a book and I could have written it. I contacted my attorney and filed for divorced. Found out from my attorney that he had a flying monkey contact him 3 weeks before I filed for the divorce behind my back. He tried to steal my attorney but he didn't like either one of my exes and wouldn't represent either one of them. I got half of his retirement and this shocked him that I divorced him but after watching him throw temper tantrums in his 60's? I knew i needed to get away from him. He couldn't care less about the children but was only interested in what property he was getting in the divorce. He almost put me in my grave. Im doing better but still don't have my youngest son back in my life. Parental Alienation has been very difficult for me to handle. I don't know how to apologize to my son for everything that happened to all of us. I never knew these people existed until 2019 but please help me get my son to speak with me again. My ex ruined us financially so I'm having a difficult time financially and don't know what to say to my son without upsetting him more. Where do I start? I've seen him but he won't speak with me. I know he's hurting and it's breaking my heart. Any help would be appreciated. Everyone should question their boyfriend or girlfriend to watch for this pattern of communication. If they are not consistent with their answers then run for the hills! Thanks Anoushka for helping us. God bless everyone who has ever dealt with these demons. 😢
My ex, told me straight up she was challenging to be with and that she was unique. They basically tell you and its almost a test to see if you will put up with. Its almost like a "i told you so"
This is spot on. My one said the following: - “I just told him it was over after he said x,y & z to me.” - “I’m faking it and pretending.” - “I’m crazy.” - “My longest relationship was 2 years on & off.” - “I get bored with one person and should see other people.” Always listen to your gut. A lot of their complaints about you are projections of the things they’re doing to you.
Hi Anoushka. Nice to hear your message with clarity. YES, they disclosing to keep you trapped Anyway I been in this situation cost me a lot. I really appreciate your support and information . My message is walk away from them Dangerous people Thank you you 😊
Spot on. One I have seen that I struggle with is the outbursts of anger. I hear this one alot but tge narrcasistic people I see within my culture is they keep dead calm and take you out with calmness, and use calmess to while provoking reasonable people get mad. I wish there was a more correct way to explain narrcasistic rage that is closer to what is in realty. They are usually the calm ones. Yet they use calculated tactics to make you look bad. This I see at Church especially. That one items tricks everyone. Oh they dont get get angry they can't be Narcassistic.
When the ex, whom I had known and. liked as a colleague, forr eight months before we started a relationship, changed into sth totally opposite to what I had experienced, I was shocked. He must be a covert narc. I immediately exposed him when I suspected that I was being manipulated again by a narc. Thanks to all of your videos. I wish I had seen it coming since the 3 weeks intense love bombing stage. I wish I had seen it coming when I thought he was an angel. Thank you
I just got confronted the other day for...trying to help out. I took a beating with words thrown at me for 2 days and stayed calm saying I'm sorry, I won't do that again. Today...I got a Sincere apology! All is good but... Won't help again now seeing the first...Big Red Flag!
This is true, it wasn’t until recently, learnings about narcissism, but through out our marriage, he has admitted, to he’s wrong behaviors. He’s words came out, in puzzles and not direct statements necessarily all the time, but if you listen, and put the puzzle pieces together, you’ll figure it out. They’re never going to admit, if you call them out, so stick to your intuition. His truths came, out like little instagrams moments, there only there, for a minute, then your manipulated into believing differently. This way they’re able to avoid accountability because they’ve confessed or blamed their behavior on you.
Yeap! I actually payed attention and she said everything she did and how she thinks. I believe she thought she was taking me for a fool but it really helped me get away from that monster.
Until you live with a grandiose narcissist, you have no clue how it toughens you up physiologically after being abused by said narcissist for years. You learn to be detached. Expect betrayal from your narcissist. It's a zero trust relationship. It's every man for himself. That's why you only give the bare minimum to a narcissist in order to keep the peace until you can escape and go live by yourself.
They don't want me to go? Seems strange, because my mine kept on leading me on only to reject me later, I suppose she had steady supply elsewhere though, and I was really a minor source on the side.
They don't want you to go, they just ignore you until they need you again. Once you finally leave....they want you to come back so they feel superior again.
@@JacK-qn4zh Mine was really disrespectful when I saw her again, then told me to call later in the week to meet for a coffee, I did but she just made feeble excuses. She did the same trick again when I bumped into her a few months later. Luckily, I wasn't really attracted to her, and the initial love bomb didn't work very well, but at the time, I was just thinking to myself she was playing hard to get and all those tricks. Wasn't until I saw that cruel look in her eyes did I really get suspicious though.
Accurate. I look back now and see all the signs so clearly. I laughed when my Ex MIL told me upon our first meeting the her Son will never disappoint her wishes. I laughed and laughed but she was warning me. I stopped laughing when I realized I was their new target.
It's also worth noting that, for those of us who grew up with a narcissistic parent - that gut feeling, intuition, internal alarm, whatever you want to call it - may be missing. We spent so much of our early lives with that alarm blaring nonstop that eventually it gets tuned out entirely. If you find yourself in any relationship toiling over the idea of whether or not the other party is really a narcissist or just being misunderstood... the fact that you end up spending so much time & attention trying to figure it out is all the answer you should need. It may sound obvious from the outside especially if you've never been there yourself, but it's easy to get trapped in a place of false hope.
Agreed ....easy spot is they are overly concerned about what others think of them...first red flag ...had a lifetime.of there's clowns ... personally and professionally
They think you don't have any idea that the story they are telling you is themselves...well some of us don't get it because the narc has a good grip on them
Hi , what i find strange is ..they supposedly cant control this rage ? But when i told the Narc i was seeing on his third rage in as many months " if you dont shut up and calm down you will be leaving , im not listening to your crap anymore " He accused me of making him sleep in the street ..i said that is your choice ! He immediately calmed down so does this mean they can control it ? Thanks x
Its all on purpose. They know what theyre doing at all times. Thats what so crazy about it. You can notice when certain ppl are around or youre in certain places, they act different. They know to when put on a show, therefore you know they are aware of how they are. They are one way with you alone and then anbother way with you, when ppl are around.
@Ryno814 So they can control it depending on the situation ..They are terrifying ...He told me afterwards that I can be very harsh ! I said I can when the situation dictates being harsh ..Crazy guy , I'd had enough after 6 months ..Great fun a lot of the time but really dangerous on other occasions ..really not worth the risk .
They're always raging. It's their baseline emotion. Everything else is an act. They just feel comfortable raging it in front of a chosen scapegoat unless there are consequences.
@@patriciahaffenden4993 Im no Dr but IMO they def can. It would be different if they couldnt help it..just acted like that all the time to anyobne. It would be like an actual sickness. BUt they know when to act like an ahole and when not to. The fact they can turn it off and on obviously shows theyre making a coherent choice. The narc I was with always said.."I cant help it". When I asked "why dont you do it to anyone else?" or "why dont you do it in public?"....speechless blank stare. Once they expose themselves to you, now theyre pissed at you cause you see their true self.
Hi, I've done a reverse discard 5wks now. After nearly 20 decades. So why do I feel horrible? I had no choice. Plus I happened to expose him as well. I'm scared now 😭
I was like this for ages after I went no contact. Someone reminded me that if you know what they’re like, probably everyone else does too. Let them say what they want. You just live your life and the truth will come out.
My ex husband told me who he was : 1. I thought you were rich 2. I have never been in a relationship longer than a year 3. I slept with women and they stopped crying. I sent them away I thought those were stories and laughed until he discarded me
These self help vids are a necessity , my narc Alex was a master manipulator and projector The craziness was mind blowing. He threatened sui&&cide if I ever left. He read my phone messages. He wanted my major passwords and he texted malicious texts to my contacts and friends to triangulate and create suspicion and chaos. He was a crook. Stole money from Me, gym lockers, his own family and his friends. Oh and the mood swings were impossible to deal with. He was evil. A sad human. These videos are great because none of us wants another narc in their life. I want to change who I am just to avoid these abusers.
How may I contact you please?..I have a proper troubling work related issue going on and with my narcissistic boss and his behaviour has been down right disgusting. I don't want to discuss it on here...but I need to do something.aboit it....😔
My last ex narc told me about her friend doing stuff and that she told her she was afraid of getting caught because her guy is an ex military blah blah blah...she was talking about meee!!!😐🤣
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My ex told me at the beginning “you are going to leave me”. I thought this was about his ex cheating and leaving and I was not going to do that. Like vampires they get off on telling on themselves
Yes they've exposed themselves to me by abuse but wear masks around others. When are the enablers and others like other family members going to see but ?
Sounds like the crazy neighbor down the street got a truck boat truck and borrows vintages cars just to show off a real "top it" also has told neighbors he is a local police officer lol what a clown😊
Once you have dealt with one, you can spot them from a distance.
I’m still waiting on this one I do see a couple of them around me, but of course my narc is still around me so he is also trying to convince me that I’m crazy listening to these videos is just crazy. I would absolutely recommend you trust your intuition because they will make you think you’re crazy. They will make you think oh you think you’re better than everybody else because you can see this no I do not think I’m better than anybody else. I just see who you are. I’m sure a lot of other people do too. That’s probably why they keep their distance from us this whole time you would rather me believe that it was me why people were keeping their distance I am not the reason and I am not wrong for trying to get better. My just doesn’t want me to know the truth as well. He shouldn’t. This has been going on for more than 20 years so that means there’s a lot of past that I am trying to sort through what really happened and what didn’t trust your intuition.
Yup, the first thing for me is their eyes are the first thing that tells me they are a narc. Then if they look at me it's like they automatically know that i know who they are even before they open their mouth to introduce themselves to me. Once you've been with a narc you literally can spot them with eye contact and then after that they know you know so they barely spark a conversation or they stay far from you because they know you're a strong one.
I hope you're right, I never want to get involved with another one ever again
seriously i agree. i told my wife that i could smell a narc a mile away, but she thought i'm joking. once, i had a phone conversation (zero argument) with a guy whom i just met, then i told my wife that his vibes is just like 'YY'(a totally disregard other privacy ex-friend whom i told not to call again). true enough, a week later he tried to manipulate me to do everything he refused to do. that week i met at least 2 dozens of new people but somehow this guy 'manipulative stench' is too pungent.
That’s the silver lining in all of this, to me.
Set boundries with them and refuse to let them control you then they'll accuse you of the very things they, themselves are doing, Easy peasy, one two threesy. A narcissist's accusations are actually confessions.
They definitely accuse others of that which they are guilty. Most of their behaviour is displacement and projection of uncomfortable emotions . It's the most complicated nonsense ever.
@@MHLivestreams I agree.
What is so great is firghure them out. Want you firghure them out you know everything, every mood, every steps, reason and why. They may think already play on game time. Great advice
The easy part is take back there power and set boundaries. It drives them crazy they will try every tricked just to get you mad. Either they will try love bamp or move to another person. Right on point
You can be tricked when your guard is down. I take time to reflect in solitude as my emotions sometimes get in the way. Of course, too much too soon is always a red flag.
Lack of empathy is the easiest for me
I would say the first sign of a Narcissist is butterflies in your stomach. You feel wary in their presence. Particularly if they smirk or have a grating, fake laugh. It's actually a flight or fight response, which unfortunately can be mistaken for attraction or curiosity about the person. After getting out of a relationship with a malignant Narcissist, I realise I've also had "friends" and an ex boss who are Narcissists, have cut myself off from all of them.
Their happiness is contained within themselves and not in exchange with what their new supply has to say. And when their meetings with idealized supply end, they will smile to themselves and not look back to see if their partner is smiling or looking back at them too. Until the mask fit improves.
They show who they are at the discard. You can’t recognize this person anymore.
This is spot on. 25 yrs and he played his role to the T as husband and father. Ofc there was abuse, financial, emotional and sexual. But when he left, I saw him change like a chameleon to source new supply. It left me shell shocked.
The discard has been going on since they first devalued you. It's was there from the start, a preemptive strike to prevent injury to their little egos which is ironically a self fulfilling prophesy. Had my ex been what he showed me at first I'd be around forever and he'd have everything I had to offer. It's during this long period of shuffling between trying to keep me while devaluing and insulting me, gaslighting, all that that he tipped his hand and I wen t no contact before he could drop the hammer on me. Still 8 months out and the damage is done. Have better days and bad but either way the old me, the one I was do happy with is gone.
The person you fell for never existed in the first place.
My ex husband used to “joke” that he was not human and he had no emotions.. I used to think it was as a joke, he was t joking. The discard after 12 yrs of marriage with 2 little kids was the true reveal. He had no emotions. It was hard then but now I see how God was blessing me.
Anyone out there in the dark tunnels please hang in there.. it’ll get better
Sorry to hear that hope alls good with you.
How did you move on?
Yep. She started out by saying "I do what I want"... I didn't know what that entailed but soon found out ....
I had one say the exact same words and that was a red flag
Mine said the exact words too
Mine talked about narcissism and reg flags on the first date. No joke! Think he wanted to evaluate what I knew. Gosh, I was so naive then.
Anytime that one is able to objectively, impartially, observe a narcissist in motion or watch when their lips are moving vital information about who and what they are is given to you on a silver platter.
Very true it’s given in a silver platter … great analogy 🙌
she told me from the very start literally told me
I grew up with them and had to recover from it. I agree with what you're saying. It is elaborate and they will never get well.
My experience with a borderline for 10 yrs is medication only dulls their inner darkness, but the discontent, the misery, the self hatred, the rage eventually pushes through, eventually I would become the target, they really are the most soul sucking parasites.
You’ll recognise lack of consideration & action pretty fast from any dysfunctional person ….
Don’t stick around to analyse have the courage to keep moving on and that’s when the authentic people of this world will enter your life 👍
Yes Anoushka, narcissists DO disclose who they really are. It’s just that WE need to be paying attention. Thank you for educating us on these character-disordered individuals. 💕🙏🏼😃📚
Yes 🙌 you are absolutely right we need to pay attention to what they say 😮 thank you for your comment 🫶🫶
One thing for sure is they talk but their actions don't match what they just told you the day before! Huge red flag!
They also can't seem to be alone...
If one relationship fails, they are in another one within a few days or weeks
From the few I know, their upbringing is to blame. Unless they begin to understand that and get help they'll never change their temper tantrum jealous evil rage ways.
You can say that again!
Yeah can definitely pick up on how they slither and maneuver through life...been trying to identify non verbal clues🤔
With social media and smartphones, narcissists aren't as needy to their partners and can fly under the radar
Yes so true 💯
In the first five minutes on our first meeting… I told them about something traumatic that lead me to where we met. I had not finished the sentence when they jumped in with something *far worse* that had happened to them ten years before and ended up being not quite how they originally described it. My gut knew immediately and I was able to keep a distance for about a year. I still got hoovered later and paid the price for quite a while.
For all the dating people,
Dont fall for the lovebombing in the beginning, they will drop the facade( mask) in a few weeks, they cant hold it up very long and you will see there true self.
True
Omg! I so get it now! Thank you!
They are Not Humane!!
@anoushka
Thank you for your videos, they're very eye-opening and educational. I split with my ex 4 months ago and 2 months no contact. I've decided to no longer watch these videos. It's about me and my healing. The longer I watch these videos the longer it will take to heal.
Those of you going through this, remain strong and believe 💪🏻 Give yourself the love you want from others. And remember you fell in love with yourself.
Thanks again.
Happy healing 💙
There's a scale of consciousness created by Dr. David Hawkins. At the bottom of the scale are the people who are always focused on "getting". (This fits with the Narcissistic mindset of supply, greed and envy)
In the middle of the scale are the people who are focused on "doing" (or accomplishing). At the top of the scale are the people who are focused mainly on "being".
Thank you so much for this.
We only need to be who God created us to be, nothing more, nothing less.
Energy vampires…
When I was pregnant and married to my second ex narc? (I found out that I was raised by many Narcs but didn't know it. Now everything about my life makes sense to me. I'm the Truth teller in my Narc family. I was treated very badly by them.) I asked him if he thought pregnant women were beautiful to him? He said yes. Then i would ask him different questions over time and i noticed that every question received a different answer. I started noticing this more and more so I asked him about pregnant women again. This time he said no. That's one of the first times I noticed that he was a liar. It really hurt my feelings. Just one example of his crazy side. Way too much to share about my life so forgive me if I don't get everything right on here. He was never involved in my pregnancy until MY son was born. Then when he was born? He acted like he gave birth on his own. He brought him out of Labor and Delivery like a proud father. It was nothing but BS show! I never heard of Narcissistic Abuse until 2019. He alienated my sons from me. One is talking with me again starting last year after he realized on his own how crazy his father (first husband) was while he was living with him. He got away from him finally. But my youngest hasn't spoken with me for a decade. I had great relationships with both of them until I started to feel like I was losing my mind. My life was filled with terrible moments like this for decades. I noticed i was getting sicker and sicker and no one could diagnose me until my friend (a doctor) told me that he sounded like a Narcissist. I bought a book and I could have written it. I contacted my attorney and filed for divorced. Found out from my attorney that he had a flying monkey contact him 3 weeks before I filed for the divorce behind my back. He tried to steal my attorney but he didn't like either one of my exes and wouldn't represent either one of them. I got half of his retirement and this shocked him that I divorced him but after watching him throw temper tantrums in his 60's? I knew i needed to get away from him. He couldn't care less about the children but was only interested in what property he was getting in the divorce. He almost put me in my grave. Im doing better but still don't have my youngest son back in my life. Parental Alienation has been very difficult for me to handle. I don't know how to apologize to my son for everything that happened to all of us. I never knew these people existed until 2019 but please help me get my son to speak with me again. My ex ruined us financially so I'm having a difficult time financially and don't know what to say to my son without upsetting him more. Where do I start? I've seen him but he won't speak with me. I know he's hurting and it's breaking my heart. Any help would be appreciated. Everyone should question their boyfriend or girlfriend to watch for this pattern of communication. If they are not consistent with their answers then run for the hills! Thanks Anoushka for helping us. God bless everyone who has ever dealt with these demons. 😢
My ex, told me straight up she was challenging to be with and that she was unique. They basically tell you and its almost a test to see if you will put up with. Its almost like a "i told you so"
This is spot on. My one said the following:
- “I just told him it was over after he said x,y & z to me.”
- “I’m faking it and pretending.”
- “I’m crazy.”
- “My longest relationship was 2 years on & off.”
- “I get bored with one person and should see other people.”
Always listen to your gut. A lot of their complaints about you are projections of the things they’re doing to you.
Great content! Have you done a video on the aging narcissist?
Thank you. 🙏 yes I do have some videos on the aging narcissist… have a look in the playlist 😊
Love your videos ❤ very helpful
❤ thank you !! for the last week I'm learning about Narcissistic people
the more you learn, the better of you are.
Thanks Anushka. Your video got me crying but helps me tremendously with the wisdom and support! 😥😊💖🙏.
Hi Anoushka.
Nice to hear your message with clarity. YES, they disclosing to keep you trapped Anyway I been in this situation cost me a lot.
I really appreciate your support and information . My message is walk away from them Dangerous people
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Spot on. One I have seen that I struggle with is the outbursts of anger. I hear this one alot but tge narrcasistic people I see within my culture is they keep dead calm and take you out with calmness, and use calmess to while provoking reasonable people get mad. I wish there was a more correct way to explain narrcasistic rage that is closer to what is in realty. They are usually the calm ones. Yet they use calculated tactics to make you look bad. This I see at Church especially. That one items tricks everyone. Oh they dont get get angry they can't be Narcassistic.
When the ex, whom I had known and. liked as a colleague, forr eight months before we started a relationship, changed into sth totally opposite to what I had experienced, I was shocked. He must be a covert narc. I immediately exposed him when I suspected that I was being manipulated again by a narc. Thanks to all of your videos. I wish I had seen it coming since the 3 weeks intense love bombing stage. I wish I had seen it coming when I thought he was an angel.
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I just got confronted the other day for...trying to help out. I took a beating with words thrown at me for 2 days and stayed calm saying I'm sorry, I won't do that again.
Today...I got a Sincere apology! All is good but... Won't help again now seeing the first...Big Red Flag!
This is true, it wasn’t until recently, learnings about narcissism, but through out our marriage, he has admitted, to he’s wrong behaviors.
He’s words came out, in puzzles and not direct statements necessarily all the time, but if you listen, and put the puzzle pieces together, you’ll figure it out.
They’re never going to admit, if you call them out, so stick to your intuition.
His truths came, out like little instagrams moments, there only there, for a minute, then your manipulated into believing differently.
This way they’re able to avoid accountability because they’ve confessed or blamed their behavior on you.
Yeap!
I actually payed attention and she said everything she did and how she thinks.
I believe she thought she was taking me for a fool but it really helped me get away from that monster.
Thank you! Truth!
Until you live with a grandiose narcissist, you have no clue how it toughens you up physiologically after being abused by said narcissist for years. You learn to be detached. Expect betrayal from your narcissist. It's a zero trust relationship. It's every man for himself. That's why you only give the bare minimum to a narcissist in order to keep the peace until you can escape and go live by yourself.
They don't want me to go? Seems strange, because my mine kept on leading me on only to reject me later, I suppose she had steady supply elsewhere though, and I was really a minor source on the side.
They don't want you to go, they just ignore you until they need you again. Once you finally leave....they want you to come back so they feel superior again.
@@JacK-qn4zhyes this is very true and very well articulated 👏👏
@@JacK-qn4zh Mine was really disrespectful when I saw her again, then told me to call later in the week to meet for a coffee, I did but she just made feeble excuses. She did the same trick again when I bumped into her a few months later. Luckily, I wasn't really attracted to her, and the initial love bomb didn't work very well, but at the time, I was just thinking to myself she was playing hard to get and all those tricks. Wasn't until I saw that cruel look in her eyes did I really get suspicious though.
Accurate. I look back now and see all the signs so clearly. I laughed when my Ex MIL told me upon our first meeting the her Son will never disappoint her wishes. I laughed and laughed but she was warning me. I stopped laughing when I realized I was their new target.
It's also worth noting that, for those of us who grew up with a narcissistic parent - that gut feeling, intuition, internal alarm, whatever you want to call it - may be missing. We spent so much of our early lives with that alarm blaring nonstop that eventually it gets tuned out entirely. If you find yourself in any relationship toiling over the idea of whether or not the other party is really a narcissist or just being misunderstood... the fact that you end up spending so much time & attention trying to figure it out is all the answer you should need. It may sound obvious from the outside especially if you've never been there yourself, but it's easy to get trapped in a place of false hope.
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Agreed ....easy spot is they are overly concerned about what others think of them...first red flag ...had a lifetime.of there's clowns ... personally and professionally
They think you don't have any idea that the story they are telling you is themselves...well some of us don't get it because the narc has a good grip on them
Hi , what i find strange is ..they supposedly cant control this rage ? But when i told the Narc i was seeing on his third rage in as many months " if you dont shut up and calm down you will be leaving , im not listening to your crap anymore " He accused me of making him sleep in the street ..i said that is your choice ! He immediately calmed down so does this mean they can control it ? Thanks x
Its all on purpose. They know what theyre doing at all times. Thats what so crazy about it. You can notice when certain ppl are around or youre in certain places, they act different. They know to when put on a show, therefore you know they are aware of how they are. They are one way with you alone and then anbother way with you, when ppl are around.
@Ryno814 So they can control it depending on the situation ..They are terrifying ...He told me afterwards that I can be very harsh ! I said I can when the situation dictates being harsh ..Crazy guy , I'd had enough after 6 months ..Great fun a lot of the time but really dangerous on other occasions ..really not worth the risk .
They're always raging. It's their baseline emotion. Everything else is an act. They just feel comfortable raging it in front of a chosen scapegoat unless there are consequences.
@@patriciahaffenden4993 Im no Dr but IMO they def can. It would be different if they couldnt help it..just acted like that all the time to anyobne. It would be like an actual sickness. BUt they know when to act like an ahole and when not to. The fact they can turn it off and on obviously shows theyre making a coherent choice. The narc I was with always said.."I cant help it". When I asked "why dont you do it to anyone else?" or "why dont you do it in public?"....speechless blank stare. Once they expose themselves to you, now theyre pissed at you cause you see their true self.
Hi, I've done a reverse discard 5wks now. After nearly 20 decades. So why do I feel horrible? I had no choice. Plus I happened to expose him as well. I'm scared now 😭
I was like this for ages after I went no contact. Someone reminded me that if you know what they’re like, probably everyone else does too. Let them say what they want. You just live your life and the truth will come out.
My ex husband told me who he was :
1. I thought you were rich
2. I have never been in a relationship longer than a year
3. I slept with women and they stopped crying. I sent them away
I thought those were stories and laughed until he discarded me
My xnarc told me he was an Enforcer for Hells Angels!! 😅 funny thing is ... he didnt know.. who I knew.
A total con he was.
These self help vids are a necessity , my narc Alex was a master manipulator and projector
The craziness was mind blowing. He threatened sui&&cide if I ever left. He read my phone messages. He wanted my major passwords and he texted malicious texts to my contacts and friends to triangulate and create suspicion and chaos.
He was a crook. Stole money from
Me, gym lockers, his own family and his friends.
Oh and the mood swings were impossible to deal with.
He was evil. A sad human. These videos are great because none of us wants another narc in their life.
I want to change who I am just to avoid these abusers.
How may I contact you please?..I have a proper troubling work related issue going on and with my narcissistic boss and his behaviour has been down right disgusting. I don't want to discuss it on here...but I need to do something.aboit it....😔
He would always say that I am useless.
Listen to their accusations they are telling on themselves and who they really are!
Accusations are always confessions
My last ex narc told me about her friend doing stuff and that she told her she was afraid of getting caught because her guy is an ex military blah blah blah...she was talking about meee!!!😐🤣
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Anoushka what type of medication could a doctor prescribe to treat a narcissist? Please be specific.
There is no medication for this.
Cyanide.
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They want us to pursue their hearts at the expense of our own. 10:20
That’s called game! 🤣
My ex literally told me that my gutt feeling was totally wrong and that i shouldn´t trust it.
My ex told me at the beginning “you are going to leave me”. I thought this was about his ex cheating and leaving and I was not going to do that. Like vampires they get off on telling on themselves
Yes they've exposed themselves to me by abuse but wear masks around others. When are the enablers and others like other family members going to see but ?
The one i had she told me she is not sorry
Yes it was one sided 💯
Narsisist is no longer call personality disorder. It is not a medical condition
Stalkings a bit far but it is imaging a lick scenario
I'm deverstated tho losing a potential you
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Is this woman an actress? I feel like she seems familiar
Sounds like the crazy neighbor down the street got a truck boat truck and borrows vintages cars just to show off a real "top it" also has told neighbors he is a local police officer lol what a clown😊
i saw that in you in the first 5 minutes/
It would be funny turning up. With you
women call every man a narc
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😂😂😂 that is true and as a woman I hate it. I also hate how they never speak on narcissistic WOMEN because I believe it’s more out there lol
They are not smart she said she make 800 hundred dollars week her rent 850 month i
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