I recently gone through a limerence episode, it literally felt like emotional rollercoaster and tsunami. I am feeling much better now as gone the no contact. I don’t know her well and I just know if it goes down this path, things could go very wrong. I now have the opportunity to understand and learn what I was going through thanks for the videos/chanels like yours. Putting things into perspective helps to manage a lot and avoiding mistakes that we may regret for long time. With that being said, still it was hard to manage, lack of focus, sleep, anxious, intrusive thoughts etc.
Thank you so much for your video. Everything you explained was very painful and brought me right back to the dark chapter of my life, but this has been hands down the most accurate description of what I endured and why. As the spouse of a limerant, I will probably never recover from this betrayal, but at least I don't have to guess anymore as to why it happened the way it happened.
@@sloeberdoet Very true . The problem is you still want it - and you can unknowingly get it again for someone new even if you are in a long term (limerence-free) relationship .
@@thewrongshoes I know i'm in this situation at the moment. but i know also you can love two or more people at the same time . The problem is that none polyamoureus people can't understand you can love two or more people at a same level. I'm not talking about open marriages where you can have multiple sex partners. Sex isn't the same as love.
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Yes, this is on point 100%! My husband 39 years old at the time left our marriage for a 21 yr old girl. He got her pregnant right away and less than two weeks after our divorce was final he married her she moved into my house and they are now living happily ever after.
That's what every therapist did until recently. This is a miss. Every person experiences this in love and in lust. The stress test (again common to all). The danger is it's subjectively convenient, allowing legitimacy to messy behavior
Appreciate the addition of your story. Especially the part about the lifestyle you dived into after stage 3. I feel myself headed in the same direction & who knows maybe I’ll learn from your experience
Agreed. I thought this woman was perfect. I cut it off to stop my marriage from diving. And then I found out my at the time wife had been having an affair the whole time anyway 😅 but it is very painful when you think you’ve found your person and it ends
I'm going through this right now, my LO was also my affair partner, when my wife found out, my LO stopped all contact (we work together) but this limerence is terrible and I need it to stop! I have to focus on my marriage, I need to get the LO out of my head, it's killing me!
The spouse I've been standing for (imperfectly) for 4 yrs and I both divorced one another and both remarried in limerance he fell for his first and they are still together..I left mine He is a toxic narcissist because of how he grew up
I know of people who swore they never become a homewrecker. Some of those people fell for limerence and became exactly what they despised or what they claimed they would never be, a wrecker of marriages.
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He just walked out on us in mid-August. Started seeing this person mid-September (or before-who knows) They “broke up,” in February, She is visibly pregnant in July, I caught them on a midnight stroll, he says just as friends. But that was how I want to be with him, how crushing. Too much to handle, but God. I am trying to keep from falling apart. I see why people fall into depression, drown themselves with drugs or alcohol- I feel like quitting my job, running away. I am so confused. What happens when the LO gets pregnant? How do I hang on?
My wife moved to Cali from here in the midwest to be with a guy. She grew away from me. I understand that, but she moved away from her whole family: grown daughters, young grandkids, her mom etc. She filed for divorce 90 days after meeting the guy
Hi Marriage Helper... great video. Reminds me of my situation. Wife has decided to leave me (wants a divorce) after 16 years and two kids with special needs/autism. She brought it out after I discovered two months ago an emotional affair she was and still is having for a few months as what she told me. Other man does not even live in the state and talk/text only on phone. I mean about 3000-4000 minutes & 10 calls a day and 3000 texts a month. Most are her to him when I am not around. We Just sold our home, she just got her own apartment and we are moving out in a month. I know/understand that I had part of the break up and had to change some stuff. Been working on myself. I also understand the affair was not my fault. Her choice. But she never directly came to me talk about things. Any thoughts or advice? Limerence?
@@radusoldan1340 we ended up divorced a few months later. It was for the best after realizing that we grew apart. Still to this day she plays the same games like miscommunicating and being the victim.
@@junimarifam yeah, sory to hear that, are you feeling now that, the separation was a great thing for you or not yet? she will play the victim for the rest of her life beacause of the children and because you have to maintain some contact with them ...
Hey friend thanks for commenting. We highly advise you immediately stop using NO CONTACT if that's what you're doing! We teach a thing called SMART Contact that is based on research and has worked with the thousands of couples we deal with regularly! Please consider learning more about that here: bit.ly/3BkXVpW We truly hope it helps you.
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me. He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
Are the memories, photos and mementos from the lo still cherished and loved after limerence is over? Or is it possible for them to erase the stain of the lo from their life?
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me. He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
What if my husbands actions and things he has said during his affair and after shows me that he was or is in limerence. But he won’t admit that it is limerence but when I ask him to explain it and even then it sounds like limerence. What does someone do at this point??
It is fairly hard to get out of the state. It takes time and separation from the source of attention. Once in it - even if one is aware of it is hard to stop that crazy train until it runs out of fuel.
I support your comment and I can validate your theory. The emotional train and the force behind the feelings are centered around a point of attraction or attention so yes vacate yourself from the source which leaves you to confront the emotional strings 1 by 1. These I found out not as easy without help. I found these videos well after it was too late because I search other sources for clarity and help. Useless really. Even now my limerent other comes to mind but without the energy in motion it once did. Am I getting through this in a healthy way? one day at a time, yes. One step one breath one decision at a time. Give yourself a break, be kind to yourself. It's ok. Your ok
How would you know who went into limerence fastest? My husband is in a limerent affair. I saw messages btwn them which is how i found out. The LO sought him out but idl who actually went in first.
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me..he can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
I have a question my wife is with another man and we are still married she has moved out I know limerence has a shelf life from 4-48months but what if she's also doing drugs with this guy and doesn't want help is there anything I can do to help her and save my marriage at the same time?
What if they both are living with their spouses, hiding everything from them. The limered and LO have a baby together. Will that come to an end...??? Should I keep some hope in this situation that my spouse will come out of this? Because he doesn't want to leave me either.
8:35 - That's very American of you Dr. Joe. Having been in limerence yourself and a bad situation at that as you have stated did it ever cross your mind that being compassionate and understanding with this young girl could have been an option?
I only wish my wife left me for her other man limerence partner, unfortunately the other man dumped her when I found out and I would have gladly let him have her & take over the mortgage payments.
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me. He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
I recently gone through a limerence episode, it literally felt like emotional rollercoaster and tsunami. I am feeling much better now as gone the no contact. I don’t know her well and I just know if it goes down this path, things could go very wrong. I now have the opportunity to understand and learn what I was going through thanks for the videos/chanels like yours. Putting things into perspective helps to manage a lot and avoiding mistakes that we may regret for long time. With that being said, still it was hard to manage, lack of focus, sleep, anxious, intrusive thoughts etc.
Limerence leaves Marriages,mortgages,children,real life.
Thank you so much for your video. Everything you explained was very painful and brought me right back to the dark chapter of my life, but this has been hands down the most accurate description of what I endured and why. As the spouse of a limerant, I will probably never recover from this betrayal, but at least I don't have to guess anymore as to why it happened the way it happened.
How long ago did it happen to you?
Too bad you can’t stay in limerence during a marriage because that is what everyone really wants 🤷🏾♀️
That is so true....
Yes this would be nice but you must remember a choice has to be made in order to keep yourself sane!
i think it would be somehow exhausting after a while because it is very difficult to concentrate and other things that kind of mess up your life.
@@sloeberdoet Very true . The problem is you still want it - and you can unknowingly get it again for someone new even if you are in a long term (limerence-free) relationship .
@@thewrongshoes I know i'm in this situation at the moment. but i know also you can love two or more people at the same time . The problem is that none polyamoureus people can't understand you can love two or more people at a same level. I'm not talking about open marriages where you can have multiple sex partners. Sex isn't the same as love.
EXACTLY TO THE LETTER of what I'm going through at the moment. It's horrible. My whole world got turned upside down. But this makes perfect sense.
This is spot on. You should have way more likes. This is so appreciated. I've learned so much from this video 😊👍❤️
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Sounds exactly like my Wife! Lucky to find this channel.
May he be out of limerence before our family fall apart😔
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Yes, this is on point 100%! My husband 39 years old at the time left our marriage for a 21 yr old girl. He got her pregnant right away and less than two weeks after our divorce was final he married her she moved into my house and they are now living happily ever after.
Hello Nellie. How long ago was this? How long have they been together?
Do you have children with him?
So sorry 😞
🙏🙏
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Good for him. You had hit the wall 10 years ago and traded you in on something new. Every man should do this.
limerence is like the hands off Time always moves forward the past are memories and the future is unknown
I know about this subject all to well. I lost my husband/my best friend because of myself being caught in this fairytale.
I’ve always called limerence the “honeymoon stage.”
That's what every therapist did until recently. This is a miss. Every person experiences this in love and in lust. The stress test (again common to all).
The danger is it's subjectively convenient, allowing legitimacy to messy behavior
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Thats what it is, the honemoon phase. Disagree ith the mimerance designation. not independent of other phases no need to recreate the wheel
@@kevinmclemore1476 oh, keep em coming you have a lot of good information
Dangerous honeymoon!
Appreciate the addition of your story. Especially the part about the lifestyle you dived into after stage 3. I feel myself headed in the same direction & who knows maybe I’ll learn from your experience
I have experienced this, and it was bloody painful. I cut it off, and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Agreed. I thought this woman was perfect. I cut it off to stop my marriage from diving. And then I found out my at the time wife had been having an affair the whole time anyway 😅 but it is very painful when you think you’ve found your person and it ends
This was wonderful I appreciate your transparency it blessed me
I'm going through this right now, my LO was also my affair partner, when my wife found out, my LO stopped all contact (we work together) but this limerence is terrible and I need it to stop!
I have to focus on my marriage, I need to get the LO out of my head, it's killing me!
Were you able to overcome your limerence and get your marriage back on track?
Will limerence end or rekindle if the man is still in contact with the object of his affection?
Thank you, I've learned so much from this video!
Amen some are people truly blind in the lust and money ...
Very informative!! WE CAN BEAT THIS, PEOPLE. Maximum love!
wow god bless you. god bless us all for what we experienced. you elegantly and humble explained it so well thanks you
Great video. This is what I needed!
The spouse I've been standing for (imperfectly) for 4 yrs and I both divorced one another and both remarried in limerance he fell for his first and they are still together..I left mine
He is a toxic narcissist because of how he grew up
Update us please
I know of people who swore they never become a homewrecker. Some of those people fell for limerence and became exactly what they despised or what they claimed they would never be, a wrecker of marriages.
Hi friend do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your ex back to you??????
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me..he can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
Watzap him now for help............
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He just walked out on us in mid-August. Started seeing this person mid-September (or before-who knows) They “broke up,” in February, She is visibly pregnant in July, I caught them on a midnight stroll, he says just as friends. But that was how I want to be with him, how crushing. Too much to handle, but God. I am trying to keep from falling apart. I see why people fall into depression, drown themselves with drugs or alcohol- I feel like quitting my job, running away. I am so confused. What happens when the LO gets pregnant? How do I hang on?
This is BRILLIANT
My wife moved to Cali from here in the midwest to be with a guy. She grew away from me. I understand that, but she moved away from her whole family: grown daughters, young grandkids, her mom etc. She filed for divorce 90 days after meeting the guy
100% true! You described this perfectly!
Wow! Eye opening info👀
Hi Marriage Helper... great video. Reminds me of my situation. Wife has decided to leave me (wants a divorce) after 16 years and two kids with special needs/autism. She brought it out after I discovered two months ago an emotional affair she was and still is having for a few months as what she told me. Other man does not even live in the state and talk/text only on phone. I mean about 3000-4000 minutes & 10 calls a day and 3000 texts a month. Most are her to him when I am not around. We Just sold our home, she just got her own apartment and we are moving out in a month. I know/understand that I had part of the break up and had to change some stuff. Been working on myself. I also understand the affair was not my fault. Her choice. But she never directly came to me talk about things. Any thoughts or advice? Limerence?
same, what happened after?
@@radusoldan1340 we ended up divorced a few months later. It was for the best after realizing that we grew apart. Still to this day she plays the same games like miscommunicating and being the victim.
@@junimarifam yeah, sory to hear that, are you feeling now that, the separation was a great thing for you or not yet? she will play the victim for the rest of her life beacause of the children and because you have to maintain some contact with them ...
@@junimarifam update me
@@tyetr9853 divorced two years ago. I am now with someone else living a pretty good life one day at a time.
I want to know if limerence only happens to one of the parties involved or both at the same time.
It can and can not
Can someone go from one limerence relationship to another in a short time?
Thank you for this information. So useful
This is an eye opening topic
We loved the video. Brilliant!
I wish you would cover the recovery process for someone that never had reciprocation once they go no contact.
Hey friend thanks for commenting. We highly advise you immediately stop using NO CONTACT if that's what you're doing! We teach a thing called SMART Contact that is based on research and has worked with the thousands of couples we deal with regularly! Please consider learning more about that here: bit.ly/3BkXVpW
We truly hope it helps you.
How do you deal with a person that always feel that there's always something missing and chasing after it?
Hi friend, do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your ex back to you?????
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me.
He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
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You don’t, if you can help it. Gotta open yourself up to the person you don’t even know you can be yet.
I believe I am in Limerance with my ex girlfriend. Is this possible? How do I start controlling it so I don't drive myself crazy?
It's been a year, so I'd love to know your status on this!
Try coach Corey Wayne on yt. This guy is awesome! Helped me a lot!
Two years..
Wow... great info.. very insightful
As a spouse what must I do as I waite for stage three to come
Work on ourselves
Hi
Can the LO be an project or an objective instead of a person?
Thanks for answering🙏
Are the memories, photos and mementos from the lo still cherished and loved after limerence is over? Or is it possible for them to erase the stain of the lo from their life?
Hi friend, do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your ex back to you???????
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me.
He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
Watzap him now for help.................
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amazing video!! so important 🙏🏻
Ex going through this now I think, two kids I’m not going to see as often as I used to, she doesn’t realise the same for her yet
What if my husbands actions and things he has said during his affair and after shows me that he was or is in limerence. But he won’t admit that it is limerence but when I ask him to explain it and even then it sounds like limerence. What does someone do at this point??
It is fairly hard to get out of the state. It takes time and separation from the source of attention. Once in it - even if one is aware of it is hard to stop that crazy train until it runs out of fuel.
I support your comment and I can validate your theory. The emotional train and the force behind the feelings are centered around a point of attraction or attention so yes vacate yourself from the source which leaves you to confront the emotional strings 1 by 1. These I found out not as easy without help. I found these videos well after it was too late because I search other sources for clarity and help. Useless really. Even now my limerent other comes to mind but without the energy in motion it once did. Am I getting through this in a healthy way? one day at a time, yes. One step one breath one decision at a time. Give yourself a break, be kind to yourself. It's ok. Your ok
This is great information
How many times a person can go in limerence?
Thank you for telling us the hard truth
Man it's like some Romeo and juliet syndrome. And i got it. Yikes.
How would you know who went into limerence fastest? My husband is in a limerent affair. I saw messages btwn them which is how i found out. The LO sought him out but idl who actually went in first.
Hi friend, do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your ex back to you???????
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me..he can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
Watzap him now for help.................
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How do you know if your wife is over Limerence
I have a question my wife is with another man and we are still married she has moved out I know limerence has a shelf life from 4-48months but what if she's also doing drugs with this guy and doesn't want help is there anything I can do to help her and save my marriage at the same time?
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Shiterance, its a term a just invaded. Will make a video about it soon.
I'd like to speak with Alice!
My husband did this azad after 24 years left and married her I now he doesn't love her
Go ask Alice
So wise!
Just like Anna karenina
What if they both are living with their spouses, hiding everything from them. The limered and LO have a baby together. Will that come to an end...??? Should I keep some hope in this situation that my spouse will come out of this? Because he doesn't want to leave me either.
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Fancy word...just madly in LOVE!!!! 👀
8:35 - That's very American of you Dr. Joe. Having been in limerence yourself and a bad situation at that as you have stated did it ever cross your mind that being compassionate and understanding with this young girl could have been an option?
I only wish my wife left me for her other man limerence partner, unfortunately the other man dumped her when I found out and I would have gladly let him have her & take over the mortgage payments.
Is it abnormal that I have never had a limerent relationship/attachment?
@@EadsB7002 perhaps your marriage is Seritonin based and more stable than a dopamine state?
Gracias.
Has the book ever been written?
Yes I needs to get married I need to talk
just subscribed
Takes way too long to get to the point
The irony of your name..
How do I get my soon to be ex-wife to watch this.
Hi friend, do you really need help to recover your relationship and get your ex back to you???????
Let me recommend you to someone called baba Eseohe that helped me recover my relationship and get my ex back to me.
He can definitely help you also ❤️❤️
Watzap him now for help...............
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