I think people should also focus on wanting a COMPATIBLE man as well not just a good one. There are many good men out there who just may not be compatible with you. Just because two people are good people doesn't mean they're compatible. My ex is a good man, and I'm a good woman, but looking back on it, we really weren't compatible and that's okay.
Yes!!! This is crucial and most of people forget about it and then suffer! We all got a match. Not one and only, maybe hundred of people who would be a great mtch..maybe not all of them would be seen as good men in eyes of our girlfriends, but that's ok.Compatibility it is :)
Cheers for this, I been tryin to find out about "will i ever find a good man" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Kenora Panameron Eradicator - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got cool success with it.
LOL every video is hilarious and informative at the same time!!! Love your videos, thnx for looking out for the ladies! You keep it blunt, simple, and understandable. KUDOS
askchazzellis - I just came across your video and you are so spot on especially with getting rid of toxic people In your life. I myself just had to cut off a friend that brought nothing but negative vibes around me especially when it came to my love life. Great video
Finding a Good Man... As a woman you can't just have beauty you have to have a Life, you have to have Goals and You have to have Dreams. Also you have to be independent and you have to have Substance. Don't act like you are ALL THAT, Men hates that most of all be Humble of who you are. Surprise him of who you are and never put all your cards on the table. Let him know that there are things in your life that he will never have unless he is committed to you. Don't put your eggs in one basket. Have some self Preservation. Best of all Love YOURSELF and I mean that in a good way NEVER BE CONCEITED.
You're advice sounds good. But how do you handle unrequited love? The pain is like nothing else. I was so in love with this handsome man. So I ask him to be my Valentine a few weeks ago. He rejected me. I was crushed. I cried for days and days. What's wrong with me? Am I not pretty enough for him? .
Hi LaoSoftware, Sorry It took me a while to respond We are human and i understand you feel that way, we all go thru it, I Did Once. But like I said you have to LOVE yourself first. If someone does not want you, IGNORE HIM next time you see him, treat him like HE DOESN'T EXIST. Better yet forget his name and delete his number on your phone. It is one way to try to work on a relationship when something is wrong as long as the Guy is INTO YOU but NEVER chase someone who is running away from you. That is why there is what we call STALKING, RAPE AND KIDNAP is when we do things to someone who refuse it. That are just example of non permitted action. I am not saying you are doing that but you are doing what someone he doesn't like & unfortunately that is to be with you. It hurts I know but you have to remember that if you DON'T like someone too, you wont want them around either. So have some faith that you are better off without him. It might take a while to get used to this situation but you have to learn to control your emotions and start valuing yourself more. Believe me HE IS NOT WORTH IT. You are beautiful and much more than he is. Smile you'll be fine.
Lol, yes ugly chicks should smile more also (unless their grill is messed up then not so much). Smiling just makes a person seem like they are having fun and that attracts others.
Honestly being new to the dating world can work in your favor sometimes because it means that you have been off the market for so long that you are completely new to everyone around you and are not jaded by the dating scene.
I love this video. It's informative and not NEARLY as narcissistic as a lot of the other black men here giving advice on this topic. Thanks for sharing your POV. A lot of women dress slutty because they are trying to attract quantity over quality in hopes of just being able to go through the list of guys and talk James, Derek, and Rayshaun in hopes that one of them is the right one as opposed to just being comfortable and being themselves to attract that one guy who is just right. I suppose they feel like the odds are better.
I just came across your videos last week. Wow....wish i had known about you ages ago. Its hard trying to navigate round this dating game. Im all ears I'm listening
I can't thank you enough for these videos. You're incredibly gifted and I hope karma, God and life will give you back ASAP the value you're giving the world with these videos.
Being accessible works every time! You do have to get away from the wolfpack..smile...and speak back when even the guy you don't wont speaks to you!!! I loved this!!
don't ask a man to buy you or your friends drinks at a club or bar. we are not your ATM. if a man offers to buy drinks then take it, but don't hold it against him if he dose not
Good Men recognize & are attracted to like a magnet a woman who genuinely loves him, understands him, gives him his space when needed which is the same as peace and who brings Joy & Sunshine to balance his Rain. Everything else are extra blessings. The work ain't hard just requires dedication, commitment & patience.
Hey Chazz, thank you for your posts. I find them very helpful in my current man situation because I am better able to understand the crazy dating world of today at my age just being newly divorced and back in the dating world after so many years of bring out of the market. You're doing an amazing job for many as myself. Thank you! You're the best!
Hmm, that's something that I honestly didn't think of. I don't think a girl has to smile all of the time but I think that if you are looking at someone that you want to come over to you the best way to attract them is with a smile.
AMEN PREACH..CHUUCH!!! lol I have been saying the last tip for years..Approach dating the way you do jobs and other things you pursue,not like you are thirsty but with interest...The last guy I Talked to was really impressed that I ,in his words, showed initiative...I let him lead but I gave him a slight nudge that said Its ok to pursue me...I am trying to make it official as we speak!! THANKS C.E!!
I think this is my favorite video....so good I want to keep it to myself, lol...I kid, no one I know would actually take the time to sit and watch....anywho Great Material!
Thanks I need this one. I listen to all most of your teaching, but I wasn't going to listen to this one at first but I'm happy I did. Thanks and take care.
Very empowering video and hilarious. Some people haven't disconnected from the past, including me, and many videos don't acknowledge this. Useful tips.
Hi Chazz I admire how passionate you were in this video. You really vwant women to stop allowing themselves to be mistreated by men, and get the the relationship they deserve. I'm honored the Lord created you! 💕
Lol, yeah that is kind of weird, I'm just saying that if you want to attract someone from across the room smiling is one of the best ways to do it. You have a nice smile you should be smiling up a storm that should be your hook.
You are too funny, great video. My biggest thing is not smiling. I know smiling works, and being inviting. But what about when that guy I don't want comes up and won't leave me alone? Tries to latch on to you all night? What do we do about him?
great advice from a male perspective. Thank you. One of the hardest parts though is finding the "equally-yoked" female friends to go out with. Its much easier to smile around friends than by yourself. I probably look like mean and unapproachable but it is because I am very shy in public and in groups. Any advice for shy women?
You are SOOO funny, I love it!!! I want you as my friend!! ...and I mean a REAL friend, not the kind that society defines when most guys and women cross over into adulthood. (lol) Great advice and it seems like you'd have great convo!! So real, love it!
Lol, this was funny, real, and I loved it. Note taken. I'm already with a good man but that doesn't mean I can't take the advice and continue to apply.
I really enjoyed your relationship advice and I am not a young woman but I enjoy hearing the advice you are giving to young women...right on...you are keeping it real and telling it like it really is...keep up the good work.. My question...how can a mature middle aged woman attract a good single man....
hey chase,I've been listening to you for a long time now,I would say you are an asset in my life and the things you speak on are real,can you make a video on co dependant,your man or your woman is a addict and how to dissolve the situation to better yourself thanks lj
Thanks, for looking into the camera, Chazz, because it feel like you ARE talking to us and not your buddy next to it. I am joining KickStarter(KS), so I can contribute to your cause I am still in the process, though. My KS name is Miss. Chocolate.
Thank you so much chaz..this has helped me out by seeing what i am doin wrong with men..I now have a new found confidence tht feels amazing. im gonna do what you suggested with the other female friends. I LOVE the advice. Keep it up.
hi chazzellis thanks for sharing u touch my very soul I was so down until I watch ur video I am a live because of u I was in a friendship zone on off gaming man for 8years it over now because I took him that I can do bad all by myself he said didn't respect him I try now it time to move on oh when I first meet him his friend liked me to he was homeless so I help . I want to smile again everyday and feel good about myself again thanks for ur positive messages you help me so much
Smile ... when some men see me at the store, they tell me to quit looking so mean. That makes me laugh when they tell me that. Maybe it's just me; I don't usually walk around with a smile on my face, but when I make eye contact with someone, I smile and/or speak.
I think people should also focus on wanting a COMPATIBLE man as well not just a good one. There are many good men out there who just may not be compatible with you. Just because two people are good people doesn't mean they're compatible. My ex is a good man, and I'm a good woman, but looking back on it, we really weren't compatible and that's okay.
Yes!!! This is crucial and most of people forget about it and then suffer! We all got a match. Not one and only, maybe hundred of people who would be a great mtch..maybe not all of them would be seen as good men in eyes of our girlfriends, but that's ok.Compatibility it is :)
A Matt
Cheers for this, I been tryin to find out about "will i ever find a good man" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Kenora Panameron Eradicator - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got cool success with it.
LOL every video is hilarious and informative at the same time!!! Love your videos, thnx for looking out for the ladies! You keep it blunt, simple, and understandable. KUDOS
Thank you.
Ur welcome
askchazzellis - I just came across your video and you are so spot on especially with getting rid of toxic people In your life. I myself just had to cut off a friend that brought nothing but negative vibes around me especially when it came to my love life. Great video
Love this guy, he`s intelligent and funny.
Thank you.
Thank you and I will like your page on FB.
It sucks when you have a natural "mean or sad face" when you're just chilling .. Everyone thinks your mad or sad when you're not!!😩😩😩😩
Finding a Good Man... As a woman you can't just have beauty you have to have a Life, you have to have Goals and You have to have Dreams. Also you have to be independent and you have to have Substance. Don't act like you are ALL THAT, Men hates that most of all be Humble of who you are. Surprise him of who you are and never put all your cards on the table. Let him know that there are things in your life that he will never have unless he is committed to you. Don't put your eggs in one basket. Have some self Preservation. Best of all Love YOURSELF and I mean that in a good way NEVER BE CONCEITED.
You're advice sounds good. But how do you handle unrequited love? The pain is like nothing else. I was so in love with this handsome man. So I ask him to be my Valentine a few weeks ago. He rejected me. I was crushed. I cried for days and days. What's wrong with me? Am I not pretty enough for him? .
Hi LaoSoftware,
Sorry It took me a while to respond
We are human and i understand you feel that way, we all go thru it, I Did Once. But like I said you have to LOVE yourself first. If someone does not want you, IGNORE HIM next time you see him, treat him like HE DOESN'T EXIST. Better yet forget his name and delete his number on your phone. It is one way to try to work on a relationship when something is wrong as long as the Guy is INTO YOU but NEVER chase someone who is running away from you. That is why there is what we call STALKING, RAPE AND KIDNAP is when we do things to someone who refuse it. That are just example of non permitted action. I am not saying you are doing that but you are doing what someone he doesn't like & unfortunately that is to be with you. It hurts I know but you have to remember that if you DON'T like someone too, you wont want them around either. So have some faith that you are better off without him. It might take a while to get used to this situation but you have to learn to control your emotions and start valuing yourself more. Believe me HE IS NOT WORTH IT. You are beautiful and much more than he is. Smile you'll be fine.
Lol, yes ugly chicks should smile more also (unless their grill is messed up then not so much). Smiling just makes a person seem like they are having fun and that attracts others.
I love ur videos. They're are quite informative, positive and hilarious @askchazzellis
Honestly being new to the dating world can work in your favor sometimes because it means that you have been off the market for so long that you are completely new to everyone around you and are not jaded by the dating scene.
Thank you and I'm glad you got something from it.
one thing i learn from you from watching your vids is that your a big solution oriented type of person.. love it!!!!!
"Sad people are annoying" 😂
“Why nobody looking at me in the eyes....” 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂 This is by FAR the funniest video I've watched of yours! I'm over here dying!!
I love this video. It's informative and not NEARLY as narcissistic as a lot of the other black men here giving advice on this topic. Thanks for sharing your POV. A lot of women dress slutty because they are trying to attract quantity over quality in hopes of just being able to go through the list of guys and talk James, Derek, and Rayshaun in hopes that one of them is the right one as opposed to just being comfortable and being themselves to attract that one guy who is just right. I suppose they feel like the odds are better.
Thanks, I'm glad you liked it.
Well, thanks and I hope you keep watching.
Never had a person to share their honest opinion or advice like you. I have adopted you as my Internet Big Brother ...Thank sooo much for your time!
I just came across your videos last week. Wow....wish i had known about you ages ago. Its hard trying to navigate round this dating game. Im all ears I'm listening
Haha "You all lookin like you A. Goin to church, or B. A d@mn brothel." LOL
I can't thank you enough for these videos. You're incredibly gifted and I hope karma, God and life will give you back ASAP the value you're giving the world with these videos.
This video is funny as hell...thanks for sharing...
Glad I could help.
I'm so happy that I found your chanel!
Being accessible works every time! You do have to get away from the wolfpack..smile...and speak back when even the guy you don't wont speaks to you!!!
I loved this!!
No prob I'm glad you liked it
don't ask a man to buy you or your friends drinks at a club or bar. we are not your ATM. if a man offers to buy drinks then take it, but don't hold it against him if he dose not
yesssss talk about it Mr.Ellis.. I'm cracking up the whole time watching this. absolutely love this video 😍. #speakingthetruth
love the honesty
I've heard that before and I think that's pretty true for the most part.
I completely lost it at 6:38.
Good Men recognize & are attracted to like a magnet a woman who genuinely loves him, understands him, gives him his space when needed which is the same as peace and who brings Joy & Sunshine to balance his Rain. Everything else are extra blessings. The work ain't hard just requires dedication, commitment & patience.
Hey Chazz, thank you for your posts. I find them very helpful in my current man situation because I am better able to understand the crazy dating world of today at my age just being newly divorced and back in the dating world after so many years of bring out of the market. You're doing an amazing job for many as myself. Thank you! You're the best!
The world is small so I'm sure we will run into each other, if you see me somewhere and recognize me then say whats up.
Hmm, that's something that I honestly didn't think of. I don't think a girl has to smile all of the time but I think that if you are looking at someone that you want to come over to you the best way to attract them is with a smile.
Sounds good to me, good luck.
I've talked with the undesirable men, but then they won't leave you alone!! lol
Agreed, they do not know when to back off
Red that's because you are doing something to keep them around!
Funniest thing I've seen, OMG!! Couldn't stop laughing...And so true! Chazz, what a guy.
hi
Thank you.
Thank you very much
I agree with you on this topic. As a woman we need to surround ourselves with a better choice of people..
AMEN PREACH..CHUUCH!!! lol I have been saying the last tip for years..Approach dating the way you do jobs and other things you pursue,not like you are thirsty but with interest...The last guy I Talked to was really impressed that I ,in his words, showed initiative...I let him lead but I gave him a slight nudge that said Its ok to pursue me...I am trying to make it official as we speak!! THANKS C.E!!
Thank you, I really appreciate that.
Thank you
You are soooo right on mentioning... to keep the right friends ... this will make you or break you.🎯
Where were you when I was in my 20's?! I'm sure you get asked that question all the time. Wise man!
loved this you really hit home with a lot of stuff thanks :)
This is the best advice that has ever been given!! On behalf of all women, thank you!!!
Well, thank you, I really do appreciate that.
Wow! this was just for me in every aspect. Will surely come back with good news.
Your so right about smiling all the time....Your being real!
I think this is my favorite video....so good I want to keep it to myself, lol...I kid, no one I know would actually take the time to sit and watch....anywho Great Material!
Thanks
Lol, I hate when stuff like that happens but it looks like you got it worked out.
Well, that's a good attitude to have.
i really love you videos b/c they are straight foward...truthful and exactly what most women need to hear.....
this video is raw and funny man lol but I love it
Thanks I need this one. I listen to all most of your teaching, but I wasn't going to listen to this one at first but I'm happy I did. Thanks and take care.
Honey I just found you & I had to subscribe!! Great advice! Keep doing what you do!!
Very empowering video and hilarious. Some people haven't disconnected from the past, including me, and many videos don't acknowledge this. Useful tips.
I loved it ! I like all the advice you give...because you sound so real. But man, I got tell this was the best advice ever, you are fantastic!
Hi Chazz
I admire how passionate you were in this video. You really vwant women to stop allowing themselves to be mistreated by men, and get the the relationship they deserve. I'm honored the Lord created you! 💕
Yes, I can do a vid on that.
Thank you Chazz Ellis! Trying to get my "dating legs " back--Good Advice!
Great video. Thank you. Some of the best advice I've heard in a long time.
What if you don't have friends though.
That's what I was saying
the better ;)
The prophet! Thanks for all your advices! Looking forward for more videos :)
Hey Chazz you have truly blessed me you give such good advice. Keep doing You!! GOD bless you!!! 😃
Lol, yeah that is kind of weird, I'm just saying that if you want to attract someone from across the room smiling is one of the best ways to do it. You have a nice smile you should be smiling up a storm that should be your hook.
Looooove it....great info...I'm now a subscriber...
This is the best advise in regards to this topic on youtube.
Great video, great advice...clear cut directional!
Thanks for the advice. Lots of great pointers. Hilarious (mentions of the wolf pack) and informative).
Well, if she did then I'm glad I helped her.
loving your videos , really informative and helpful
You are too funny, great video. My biggest thing is not smiling. I know smiling works, and being inviting. But what about when that guy I don't want comes up and won't leave me alone? Tries to latch on to you all night? What do we do about him?
great advice from a male perspective. Thank you.
One of the hardest parts though is finding the "equally-yoked" female friends to go out with. Its much easier to smile around friends than by yourself. I probably look like mean and unapproachable but it is because I am very shy in public and in groups. Any advice for shy women?
You are SOOO funny, I love it!!! I want you as my friend!! ...and I mean a REAL friend, not the kind that society defines when most guys and women cross over into adulthood. (lol) Great advice and it seems like you'd have great convo!! So real, love it!
I appreciate your honesty. Your blogs are are so insightful
You are a genius! Thank you for motivating me to be a better woman. Keep it up
Lol, this was funny, real, and I loved it. Note taken. I'm already with a good man but that doesn't mean I can't take the advice and continue to apply.
Lol Chaz this has got to be one of the best videos that got me laughing! I agree with everything 🙌🏼❤️😂
Great video-great advice! Bravo Chazz....
I really enjoyed your relationship advice and I am not a young woman but I enjoy hearing the advice you are giving to young women...right on...you are keeping it real and telling it like it really is...keep up the good work.. My question...how can a mature middle aged woman attract a good single man....
OMG- this is soooooo goood.....and soooooo trueee and such GREEATTTT video :very very well put.......guru Chazz lol
Awesome, this is really gonna a help a friend of mine. There is people trying to copy you! But you are the
New subbie and I just watched some of your videos. I'm liking your delivery of your messages and this is a great one as well. :D
hey chase,I've been listening to you for a long time now,I would say you are an asset in my life and the things you speak on are real,can you make a video on co dependant,your man or your woman is a addict and how to dissolve the situation to better yourself thanks lj
You know you got it. Thank you Chazz. I am listening. Thanks.
Thanks, for looking into the camera, Chazz, because it feel like you ARE talking to us and not your buddy next to it. I am joining KickStarter(KS), so I can contribute to your cause I am still in the process, though. My KS name is Miss. Chocolate.
Thank you so much chaz..this has helped me out by seeing what i am doin wrong with men..I now have a new found confidence tht feels amazing. im gonna do what you suggested with the other female friends. I LOVE the advice. Keep it up.
hi chazzellis thanks for sharing u touch my very soul I was so down until I watch ur video I am a live because of u I was in a friendship zone on off gaming man for 8years it over now because I took him that I can do bad all by myself he said didn't respect him I try now it time to move on oh when I first meet him his friend liked me to he was homeless so I help . I want to smile again everyday and feel good about myself again thanks for ur positive messages you help me so much
Love how straight forward this video is
You give wonderful advice. Thanks.
Great advice and incite!! thanks for the honesty.
well spoken. thanks for sharing . love from Germany
good one, chazz Ellis you are damn good I say. thanks for the pin pointers
LOL! I just want to do happy hour with you one time! You are wise yet hilarious!
Thanks Chazz you are so down to earth and effin funny 4 real...I love your vids...im a new subbie :)
Smile ... when some men see me at the store, they tell me to quit looking so mean. That makes me laugh when they tell me that. Maybe it's just me; I don't usually walk around with a smile on my face, but when I make eye contact with someone, I smile and/or speak.
Thank you for your help great advice and you made me smile! :)
Thank you chazz!!
Very good video lol
and love the humor!.
Keep up the good work with the videos ☺