WE WERE TOGETHER BUT YOU WEREN’T WITH ME

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  • @julienatoli8561
    @julienatoli8561 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Spot on Andrew ... Thank you Sir .. God bless you. ❤️🕊️✝️🙏

  • @chellswain2848
    @chellswain2848 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So true, omg. I enjoy learning from you. God bless.

  • @lindagodwin3680
    @lindagodwin3680 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Once was enough for me ... when the narcissist began to devalue me that was it.

  • @RaoulDukeSr
    @RaoulDukeSr ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This reminds me of how I felt in my 5 yr relationship with my ex covert narc...I told her several times during our toxic relationship.." you say you love me, but I honestly don't feel like you even like me" 😢
    Truly unfortunate, soul crushing, and unquestionably painful to find oneself in this sad and lonely reality 💔

  • @esmelouise9046
    @esmelouise9046 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    love your spirit thank you

  • @elanahammer1076
    @elanahammer1076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    As a person who has seen these narcissistic dynamics play out. Nothing surprises me except that people are waking up to how pervasive this is in society. I am someone who does not cave to peer pressure. I never have at any point in my life. Be aware that narcissists will hate you for being your own drummer. They cannot handle you even having independent thoughts or good self esteem. I hope this helps someone today.🤔❤🇺🇸

    • @adinevanhulst
      @adinevanhulst 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you so much!! All very true! It definitely does. ❤

    • @deniseelsworth7816
      @deniseelsworth7816 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It did help. You reminded me who I was.💐

    • @franksimmons9242
      @franksimmons9242 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      After a lifetime of being unaware in this infested narcissistic environment, it's an ongoing process of learning and being aware. We slept with them married them worked with them they are our children parents neighbors and it's unnerving as we gradually become aware. Good thing life didn't dump all this on us at once! Every single comment here is important usually reminds us of something we experienced but couldn't decode at the time.

    • @franksimmons9242
      @franksimmons9242 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Mary Olinger but who would believe you? Just finished watching that 1940s movie gaslight.

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Have a beautiful transition. For a beautiful soul.

  • @alexandranoone3195
    @alexandranoone3195 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great community wherever you are in the world ,namaste

  • @carlosgiron1246
    @carlosgiron1246 2 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    This one hits home. Well in my narcissistic relationship we started as friends then he tricked me into thinking he started to love me. Then he just moved in to my apartment. He had no job no money, I had a good job . I soon noticed that he started to walk in front of me whenever we went out. I said something and he went off on me and called me stupid. And it just got worse, it got to the point that I was lonely and sad even if he was there with me. I am now trying to move on and become a better person and smarter. Thanks everyone for your kind words and stay strong everyone.

    • @rhondawampner688
      @rhondawampner688 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I know what your saying. I'm glad I don't live with him. Things are getting scary.

    • @margaretrussell7202
      @margaretrussell7202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      He never deserved you Carlos. Don’t be with disruptive people.......be with peaceful folk who are kind🙏🙌

    • @dmcv3389
      @dmcv3389 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Walking ahead of you when out in public what a load of crap. Then only when it suited them they walk with you. The real kicker is when you bring it to their attention they deny it as of your not aware of what they are doing.

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Yes narcissists are not into protecting their partner, they don't hold your hand when you are out walking with them. Narcissist's are only focused on their selfish little self 24/7.🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@dmcv3389 We were typing at the same time.👍😀

  • @debbieramsey2696
    @debbieramsey2696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    You are not alone either Andrew. Love from all of us. Thank you!

  • @berniek4461
    @berniek4461 2 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I remember going to this huge elite birthday party with my narc husband and I was following him around. He kept leaving me. I knew no one. I said to him several times where are you going. Why are you taking off. He would just keep leaving me. I felt so rejected, alone, worried, embarrassed, angry and confused. Yes now I know he was doing his usual looking around for attention and supply with a alcoholic beverage always in his hand. We physically went places together but never connected so sad and so true. Thank you again Andrew and hope your doing amazing.

    • @luvnlife4712
      @luvnlife4712 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ditto!

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Bernie...it reminds me on day when we visited Interliber, big event with books exibition a years ago. It was crowded place and he left me alone looking for books and I had to walk alone. I met one man I knew, talking with him. At the end we waited for transport and went each of us to our towns, I gave him some books and he gave me nothing as usually.

    • @marz1222
      @marz1222 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Exactly the same ! SO confusing !

    • @KellyChildsXO
      @KellyChildsXO 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That was me too…..😢

    • @gorunsko31
      @gorunsko31 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I hear you and feel my pain now when I am reading your post. Me too. I felt also this way. Thanks for sharing your pain, which sounds so much like mine. I am still with narc. Feeling devastated and too fragile to escape. Had a bad fall and lost some stamina. Hoping to rebuild strength slowly...

  • @malcolmwaddilove1822
    @malcolmwaddilove1822 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Every occasion , we were together but you wasn't there,always scanning to see who was available.

  • @Butterflybishop7001
    @Butterflybishop7001 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yesssss you are so right.
    Everything you said is true 😢

  • @terrirobson9043
    @terrirobson9043 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I always felt alone, left out, unwanted, in the way, not enough, and uninteresting~~~again, Andrew, you explain it perfectly~~~"we were together, but you weren't with ME". Thank You. Best to you as you transition in your surroundings🙏💙🙏All will be well ❣️

  • @karenstaton6726
    @karenstaton6726 2 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    My heart just breaks for all of us because of these damaged people. I know transitions can be stressful. It helped me to rest a little more than usual when possible. Safe travels in your transition Andrew. We are all with you.

    • @elanahammer1076
      @elanahammer1076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yeah Andrew safe travels! You are such a good TH-cam educator.🤔❤🇺🇸

    • @marysarianides8150
      @marysarianides8150 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Best wishes Andrew! Thanks again for how you support us.

    • @LR-yu3mx
      @LR-yu3mx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes with a Crappy childhood, your choice of a husband... You easily ended up with a narcissist.

    • @lisaengland1048
      @lisaengland1048 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Where's Andrew going😢🚫❄️

  • @Zoeybelle13
    @Zoeybelle13 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Two months after we started dating I saw him looking at dating sites. I asked him why and he said it was “entertainment.” 🙄 And we were together 4 more years!! WHY?!? 😫 I should have taken that first red flag and ended it then. But I didn’t know about narcissism at the time. Thank goodness I do now, thank you, Andrew! ❤

  • @SnowWhite-fe1hm
    @SnowWhite-fe1hm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    What’s great is the feeling of getting your self worth back. Just remember just because they didn’t value you. They lost in the long run because you were loyal and in our society that is a diamond in the rough. Keep shining everyone you are a enough, you are meant to be loved and cherished don’t settle for less ever again. Self love and meditation 🧘‍♀️

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      💯💯💯

    • @daniellemorse6929
      @daniellemorse6929 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So very true. They lost the diamond that they were lucky enough to find in this world and will have a hard time finding again.

    • @SnowWhite-fe1hm
      @SnowWhite-fe1hm 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yep

  • @prernaofficial2724
    @prernaofficial2724 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yeah.. We are all with you Andrew 😇

  • @Tom-ig3li
    @Tom-ig3li 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Before I knew about narcissism I would think whenever I’m with him it was me, him, and whoever he was chatting with on the phone. We were NEVER alone. I foolishly accepted this from him because of the trauma bond. No more. 52 days free today. Still healing. Thank you Andrew for your guidance at this difficult time.

  • @jackalicezornes2862
    @jackalicezornes2862 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Blessing .

  • @zoilavalezmoro-zr3rx
    @zoilavalezmoro-zr3rx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Andrew for your service and support 🙏

  • @carolprivate418
    @carolprivate418 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    What a godsend you are Andrew! As you said " this wasn't taught in school".
    I'm your student 💪, you and this community keep me grounded.😄

    • @AStephT
      @AStephT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well said! I feel the same! Thank you 🎃

    • @alexandranoone3195
      @alexandranoone3195 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great community wherever you are in the world ,namaste

  • @shayk.393
    @shayk.393 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    this is described totally accurately !!! it just blows my mind how these narc pricks act !!! I am PISSED

  • @mylah5406
    @mylah5406 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Thank you Andrew, wishing you success and happiness throughout your transition 💛

  • @darleentaylor9058
    @darleentaylor9058 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I improved his life to the detriment of my own...I can't believe how much of my life you know. Thank you for these reminders of how much I have gone through and how much I have grown...

  • @Bestisyet2Be
    @Bestisyet2Be 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    You are Beautiful and An Awesome Human Being 😊May God Always open New Doors for you Andrew 😊Thank you so much for all of the insights and enlightenment. All I could say, because of people like you, I am half way there. FREE!!!! From this horrible episode of my life. Be blessed Always!

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Praying for you as are many it seems 🙏
    The being ignored or brushed aside while sitting / standing RIGHT BESIDE them never ceased to amaze me. And I let it happen. I’m worthy of love and attention and will never allow that garbage behavior again in my close relationships. Nope. The joy of watching these videos and no longer having pain in my heart is a blessing and I pray others continue healing as you said to go no contact, block and delete the narcs and all associated with them - this is the path that sends us into our beautiful future and greater healing.
    Your devotion to this community is a treasure Andrew. God bless you in every way 🙏✨

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ☺️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jennifernewton4637 🙏🤗❤

    • @sherryfunk6100
      @sherryfunk6100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you, thank you, you speak our experienced reality. Trusting God for His direction for me.

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sherryfunk6100 Amen - God is trustworthy and you can trust yourself too. Many blessings Sherry

    • @CVICURN1
      @CVICURN1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes so true!! Right next to you and they are completely ignoring you looking around for someone else

  • @patriciastewart2537
    @patriciastewart2537 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Ah....
    I needed this all day.
    So happy to see your content today.
    Haha.
    I wish I could be WITH ME today....
    Yesterday, my heart mind and soul were all onboard together.
    LIFE happened!
    A caffeine dose effect.
    I can't keep on over-amping myself.
    Balance.

  • @roseannemelvin8501
    @roseannemelvin8501 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Andrew, thank you for your dedication to helping good souls find their paths again in this life. You are a blessing to us all.🙏🙏🙏💛

    • @gerdafrizzell6966
      @gerdafrizzell6966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You are so right Thank you so much for opening my eyes I divorced him before I knew he was a fake big one !!.,he was bad tempered I thought but no , and lying ,and nasty he was such a wonderfull. Young man for a few years after that he started to upset me ,never again .

    • @karenlacy8950
      @karenlacy8950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He sure is a blessing 👍

  • @naoshitate4864
    @naoshitate4864 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We traveled to Europe, I believed that we’d enjoy beautiful sceneries, historic places etc. Turned out, I found myself sweating trying to catch my breath every hills, streets because he walked way way faster than me without even looking back..I certainly need another vacation with others or on my own.

  • @mayk89
    @mayk89 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "There is never quality time with the narcissist". Wow! That was right on & hit home for me.

  • @chereejeanclark932
    @chereejeanclark932 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Everything you spoke on really hits home for me. You have described my husband's treatment of me for the last 25 years.

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I’m SO GLAD to see you making the transition Andrew!!! I just don’t have words tonight. I’m THRILLED for you!!! I hope you will find SO MUCH HAPPINESS wherever you end up!!! We’re all here WITH you! Love you, handsome!!! XOXO 😘💋🥰☀️🥳🎉🏆🙌😉🙏☺️
    My friends, I hope you are all Having a safe and happy Halloween (if you celebrate it) ❤ y’all SO MUCH!!! 🙌❤️☀️😁🥰🙏

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Happy Halloween!🎃

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@emilywilson7308 Happy Halloween! 🎃👻💀👹

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ESSIEMARIE1998 🤗🤗🤗 Love you too, Martha! ❤

    • @mariageaney2362
      @mariageaney2362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Beautiful messages, always.💪💯☀️🍁🦋🧡💥🙏🦊🔥🕷️🌹🎃🔥

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@mariageaney2362 Thank you, Maria 😊🙏🙏🙏

  • @ladylaura93
    @ladylaura93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Andrew, described my experience with the Narc! When you address the issues, they throw rage fits. I was just a handmaiden to him...

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Congratulations , Andrew on the move to your New location, wishing you all the very best of everything and an abundant life, Blessings 🙏🙏🙏

  • @heidibofficial
    @heidibofficial 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Thank You Andrew. My two narcissist exes contacted me yesterday on Halloween (what a spiritual sign) and after doing so much healing work it was like a test for me, do I give in or have I learned. I am so grateful for you and all people who educate us about narcissists. I know now and learned my lesson and move on stronger than ever. 🙏🏻❤️✨from the heart!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Welcome 🙏🙌💯💪💯

    • @ellik1817
      @ellik1817 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well done….✌️

    • @jostafford3367
      @jostafford3367 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shut the door babe don’t let those freaks anywhere near you !!! Change your phone number and get off social ( except for Andrew lol )

  • @PkmnMasterHolly
    @PkmnMasterHolly 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We were like their external battery pack, keeping them energized anywhere they go. Thank you so much for making these videos! Good luck on your new journey!!

  • @dianne7993
    @dianne7993 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Heavy topic … this truth hurts to the core 😢

  • @kathrynbarnes4256
    @kathrynbarnes4256 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Completely 100percent perfect description of what I go through. The narc can even isolate me in my own house with several of it's family members who treat me inhuman. Then my reaction is what they use to validate his smear campaign.

  • @carolynholcomb8105
    @carolynholcomb8105 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Transition is very difficult. I was scared of the unknown. Anything out of the ordinary is cause for anxiety. Be careful. Sending you all the positive energy I can

  • @1001Stars
    @1001Stars 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Awesome video as usual. My life makes so much more sense now.
    Thanks for this video and my realizations!

  • @fancy357
    @fancy357 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "The winds are blowing all around you" This is so true. We can't control which winds blow our way, but we definately can make "wins" happen. Going no Contact, blocking. I moved states away in my case. I had so much I wanted to say to the Narcissist I was in a relationship with, but I quickly realized that person didn't deserve a single more breath of mine. Instead I keep my thoughts positive and help others who deserve my voice and help. Stay strong wind blockers. Life puts us in places to teach us something. It will get better, keep the faith. Thanks Always Andrew. You are loved, you are special ❤️🙏😊

  • @donnaj.1634
    @donnaj.1634 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wonderful message! I pray your transition is amazing and transforms into a beautiful, fulfilling life. You help all of us. Please know we are here for you 🎃💜🕊💜

  • @heathergianna9464
    @heathergianna9464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So true. I even danced alone on our first new years eve, because he wouldn't. He just sat with his friend. I went to the museum alone in his country; he wouldn't go with me. Was always standing alone at live music shows, even though we went there together, etc.

  • @mariefrancebourget1749
    @mariefrancebourget1749 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Right on point Andrew as always. Thanks for the video and don't worry, you are not rusty. Just wanna say that you seem to be so strong, just hang in there. I wish you a smooth transition and I am sending positive energy to you. I thought a lot about you today because I went through it last year too. I wish i could help you more. Have a peaceful evening and take good care of yourself. You are not alone. Sending a huge hug your way. I love you. 😘🫂🙌♥

  • @lindaskelley7306
    @lindaskelley7306 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    God bless you Andrew! Thank you for your videos - they are a lifeline! And it touches my 💔 when you say "you're not alone"!!

  • @paulakelley6007
    @paulakelley6007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As a 1 year follower - I appreciate your choice of new digs! Your voice doesn’t echo…and it’s much richer. But back to the point….ON POINT!!! I look forward to your views on how the Narc separates yourself from your own children. I have 2 grown daughters (not his) & we are STILL recovering.

  • @lired70
    @lired70 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Andrew you just described my life,or what used to be my life! Transition can be tough,but you have to do what is right for you. You taught me that. You will succeed wherever you are because you care and have infinite wisdom. Take good care of you🌹💡☕

  • @ruthiedavis8786
    @ruthiedavis8786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Hey everybody 🖐🏾 Blessings 💯 absolutely true Andrew and thank you for tonights video. It's is good to be reminded of what I've come through so there's no possibility of going backwards instead of forward. It never ceases to amaze me the things they do and thinks they can get away with it. Congratulations on your new location and may your transition go well there. I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you. Good night community ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽

  • @alicenichols9706
    @alicenichols9706 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Exactly 💯..people will not work together...Noooo he wasn't with me...betrayal

  • @karamlevi
    @karamlevi ปีที่แล้ว

    You got me good on the chauffeur comment “my key Narc buddy sleeps almost every time I drive and I feels horrible, or he low key insults my driving and keeps saying how close I am to having accidents”.
    If you sleep in a car it’s because you feel safe. He simply enjoys/needs to be rude.
    He helped me get my car, so I’ve driven him allot, and now it’s enough.
    He also buys cars that don’t work, and pretends a great win will come from his wheeling and dealing, yet he continues to loose money, time and repeats him self then begs for rides as his “mechanic” let him down.
    Any boundary is treated like a crime. So we need to feel fantastic about this phenomenon.
    I would say, don’t lay down a boundary till your ready to cherish and celebrate it, because a war will occur no matter what.
    A silent war, a active war… but a change will be noted and responded to.
    As I’ve made more bounties, my Narc buddy has been reestablishing older relationships again.
    They calculate all things except how to be healthy themselves.

  • @joseenadeau1432
    @joseenadeau1432 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    So very true. Always on the cell phone or with ear pods on. How many movies have we started watching, and then him suddenly leaving the room without a word, going to the bathroom or I don’t know where, leaving me wondering after 10 minutes: should I put it on pause or what?? Thank you so much for all your videos.

  • @davidhinkson8856
    @davidhinkson8856 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This title is so correct! Two people together but living alone - from the time we got married our whole relationship changed and I realised she made no effort to try to fix the issues we encountered, and that she was more interested in her mother than she was in me or the child we shared.

  • @faith5217
    @faith5217 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Thanks Andrew! You are absolutely right, even when I wasn't home alone- it felt like I was. They were always on the computer or the phone. Signal worked just fine, until a certain call came in - sudden they couldn't hear and had to go outside.... DON'T DELAY, BOOK YOUR ONE-ON-ONE SESSION TODAY... It will change your life for the better 🙏. CONGRATULATIONS AGAIN ANDREW 🙏 🙏

    • @Claire90409
      @Claire90409 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, my partner was always on his computer, too. And usually took their calls while walking the dog. :-/

    • @bornagainCharlie1360
      @bornagainCharlie1360 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Please May I ask you a question about your comment? I am fairly new here.

  • @kamed.
    @kamed. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well Done Andrew! I appreciate how gracious you are in explaining how the NARC. has ABUSED, and taken advantage of so many. Please continue this great work!

  • @l.5832
    @l.5832 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every year my husband and I went to our neighbour's New Years Eve party where about 2 dozen people gathered. I was never the clingy type so I didn't mind him 'mingling'. But after the first couple of years once we arrived at the party, I hardly saw him at all. Come the stroke of midnight, all the couples would kiss and I would have to go in search for my husband who would 1) be outside lighting fireworks 2) be in the bathroom and the final year 3) be in the kitchen chatting up another woman. Even when we went on a trip I felt I was the only one actually there. We are divorced now after I experienced much more severe narcissistic abuse.

  • @hollylorn131
    @hollylorn131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Thanks, Andrew, for this video even though you're in the process of moving. I can relate to so much of what you said in this video. I definitely felt alone in the marriage even though I was in the same room with my husband (now the ex) at the time. It was a weird feeling like we were not on the same page frequently. It was certainly a feeling of chronic disconnectedness. Wishing you all the best in your process of relocating, Andrew! I hope things go as smoothly as possible for you. Thank you for your dedication to your channel and uploading your new video even though you must be having a very busy day. We're here for you too. You're not alone.
    Wishing everyone a beautiful, peaceful night or day depending on where you are! 🙏 ❤️ 😊 🦋 ✌️

    • @k3wy5
      @k3wy5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hey I completely understand the page frequency statement. I think it has to do with where you are at in your journey of life in general. Sometimes I think maybe I was in a completely different book from a different library across town lol. It really is eye opening how people perceive things and you may think you know someone for 15 years and you realize the entire time you were strangers. At the same time you may randomly meet a stranger at a coffee shop and chat for 5 minutes waiting for your drink and talking to them is like a friend you have known forever. Interesting how that works.

    • @hollylorn131
      @hollylorn131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@k3wy5 So true, Kathleen! I can relate to all you said in your comment. I realized that although I was married for over two decades, I didn't know him very well. He was like a stranger to me after all that time.

    • @vibes2you43
      @vibes2you43 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So true Holly! Very relatable. I stopped wearing my wedding ring because I was married to myself. I realised that I was just a convenience and a slave, stopped doing everything and made him move out-he seemed to think he could use money to control me.

    • @hollylorn131
      @hollylorn131 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@vibes2you43 I can relate to what you said. You're a very strong individual to stop wearing your wedding ring and to get the narc to move out! Congratulations! I understand that narcs are preoccupied with being in financial control of the money that comes into the household and the ex was also. My ex narc was an overspender and a bad budgeter. 🙏 🦋 😊

    • @vibes2you43
      @vibes2you43 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hollylorn131 thank you. Marriage is for the outside world to see them as normal, but it's all a sham. Bet he spent his money on foolish things. Really a child masquerading as an adult. 🤬🤬

  • @mandyf9341
    @mandyf9341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hey Andrew,silent watcher here,I'm in UK
    Are you leaving Costa Rica sweetheart,,??? You are thriving Andrew ,so pleased for you 😊 🙏💯

  • @susanmumper8334
    @susanmumper8334 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I feel like I was so clueless to not have noticed all this before now.
    How did I not know?
    I just felt badly and confused.
    So exciting you moving on to a whole new world. Now all the good juju will be even more multiplied. Best wishes 🙏🏻

  • @shaeholden1743
    @shaeholden1743 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    One of my biggest hurdles in my healing process is acknowledging the fact that I was indeed an appliance, that EVERYONE (without exception) was regarded more important than me and for the life of me I couldn't figure out why - cause the good Lord knows I tried hard enough. In fact, when I finally left after 24 years and divorced him, he said to me "I didn't think you would leave." Wow. Only a spawn of Satan could believe that routine mistreatment would be tolerated ad nauseam. Thank goodness for the day that I decided to use the brain that God gave me, I left, and haven't looked back. Enjoy your new location. Thank you for your great messages!

  • @warriormom5843
    @warriormom5843 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Soooo happy to see you today, Andrew, en route to better places, people, and things!! Hope you have a nice quiet comfy room there. Even in flux, 💯‼️ on pointe. I’ve experienced it ALL, innumerable times. More alone than being alone. So disengaged. I now call myself the “Elf on a Shelf” as the holidays approach. Arm candy on so many levels, and then him projecting AWAY from me-everything and every way I enhance HIS LIFE, he proclaims he is enhancing mine. So…..forever…..OVER!!!! Been over a decade ago. Can’t wait for my move and new beginning-so excited for YOU, Andrew!! 💟☮️🕉😇🙏🏼💖

  • @filiopapastefanou8238
    @filiopapastefanou8238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thats perfect Andrew!!! I hope this is one more step for you to live your best life ever! Can you believe I just moved out from my ex narcissists neighborhood last weekend! I m still in shock trying to get used to the new environment, but so happy I finally made it!!! So glad we are on the same path 😀 Never feel alone with your videos. Thank you! Sending positive energy to you ✌🏵🧡😊

  • @LiveFree123
    @LiveFree123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    🙏 for you during this transition. Great video too,💙

  • @mandyf9341
    @mandyf9341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Ps,learnt so much from you..
    My disgraceful 34 year old ex son,currently switched up to severe hoovering 🤮🥱
    THANK GOD YOU WARNED ME OF THE LETHAL TYPE OF HOOVERING,
    Thank you again 💓
    I was pre warned ⚠️ But it's not upsetting, Just Exhausting,
    Namaste 🙏

  • @susanweaver6946
    @susanweaver6946 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I've been so confident and strong until I checked my mail and saw he hand delivered a letter to me. Please tell me when will this stop. It's been a long while since I've heard anything from him. Now he's hand delivery to my mail box 😩 I won't contact him because that's what he wants. this set me back emotionally for a minute but not enough to contact him.

    • @debbieramsey2696
      @debbieramsey2696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't read it. Tear it up or burn it. Prayers.

    • @Gellybeanb1974
      @Gellybeanb1974 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'd write return to sender & not read it first* No return address ? I'd throw it in the trash. That love bombing won't be good for you as it was before now that you know how the story ends* God Bless You*

    • @susanweaver6946
      @susanweaver6946 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Gellybeanb1974
      Thank you. I know he's doing the same thing he's always done. I didn't read it, it's still in the sealed envelope. I'm going to talk to the post office and take what action's is necessary to stop this. When he'd send mail through the post office service I would return it, now he's actually putting it in my mail box personally. I've come too far to be destroyed again

    • @Gellybeanb1974
      @Gellybeanb1974 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@susanweaver6946 Stay strong, I know it isn't easy but neither is the hurt they cause. God Bless You* You got this!

    • @susanweaver6946
      @susanweaver6946 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Gellybeanb1974
      Thank you hun. I have come a long way with removing myself from his evil clutches, I refuse to let him grab hold again. Since I left him months ago I can now fall asleep without crying myself there I can sleep peacefully now without anxiety medication. My new me is strong and I will continue to walk forward. I've already walked through the land minds, it's now a peaceful walk. Thank you again for your encouraging words. I appreciate you. ❤️

  • @marygrant882
    @marygrant882 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Prayers, blessings to you Andrew. You once again described exactly what I went through.

  • @raYrefiedAire
    @raYrefiedAire 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hoping you're transition is brief and you are happily nested in no time brother, just having endured a move myself I know how very disruptive this is. Prayers best wishes namaste

  • @ninadallarosa3383
    @ninadallarosa3383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Yes physically on their three phones but mentally or emotionally not there ….. …

  • @arlenny
    @arlenny 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Andrew I’m sooo glad I found your channel either guided by something or just stumbled upon it, I’m so grateful you’ve definitely been a source of truth and light that I look forward to everyday.
    Take the time you need with this move. I use to say I’m sooo alone in this and now, You’re not alone has become my new favorite saying. Namaste 🙏😊 and Happy Halloween 👻 🎃

    • @arlenny
      @arlenny 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @WhatsAppNow goodness scammers are everywhere, Bye Felicia 😜

  • @drm9373
    @drm9373 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Go with God, Andrew🙏 Continued courage, peace and security to all in transitions🙏

  • @margaretrussell7202
    @margaretrussell7202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    With you all the way Andrew as you journey through. Sending you peace, comfort and love. So glad to see you as you continue to teach and encourage the folks. I was so afraid we were going to lose you and that would be me crying again. Love You Andrew 🙏😊😊🙌

    • @_Louise__
      @_Louise__ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I felt that yesterday when Andrew started the video about lasts... but then I remembered how he made a commitment to the channel and how he doesn't quit. I sense that commitment might have been challenging for him today, yet he still found a way. Huge respect and gratitude for that 🙏

    • @margaretrussell7202
      @margaretrussell7202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He really is amazing Louise with the way he just soldiers on. When you see the early videos he carries on determined to help others even with tears in his eyes 🙌🙂🙏
      .

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh I was too… tbh, I was feeling a bit anxious… I needed to see him happy and IN transition 🙏🙏🙏

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@_Louise__ DEFINITELY!!! His parents are, no doubt, VERY proud and watching over him today, and _have been _ throughout this entire journey from the BEGINNING!!! He NEVER gave up!!! That shows what he’s REALLY made of!!! 💪💪😁 Hercules Gilroy… M.D. !!! 😘 Love you, Andrew!!!

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@margaretrussell7202 You KNOW it! That’s how our resident STUDBOY rolls! 😉👍👍

  • @elainenilsson5472
    @elainenilsson5472 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The first time a man walks one pace ahead of me again, it's over. I won't go through that ever again. He dominated the TV too. I finally gave it to him and watched TV in my office. What was the point of watching with him. He would get up in the middle of a show and go see his buddy across the street, leaving me there to watch something I didn't want to. Football or NASCAR every Sunday and don't you dare speak when he is listening to his show.

  • @jenniferward6997
    @jenniferward6997 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The scanning the room was so unnerving followed by “Wait here.” I could predict exactly who he would make a b-line for .. the most attractive or stand out person in the room. This happened on vacations, at social gatherings, dinners…We actually went to couples counseling and when I brought this up he said I was imagining it- I was insecure.
    I said those exact same words to him. “We’re together but you aren’t with me.”
    Thank you Andrew once again for bringing sanity and light to those who have experienced this predatory behavior. I regret putting my time into any relationship “repair” work … such a waste! The psychologist was a beautiful woman he picked. She had her doctorate and he called her by her first name.. throughout our sessions. It didn’t go his way so the counseling was short lived. Thank God it’s over. Time to heal -

  • @karenfrashier7604
    @karenfrashier7604 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    SO glad to get your notification! I have been concerned but here you are! So grateful! I do hope this transition will help you progress as it HAS to be better than before! More healing! Sooner! I ran into an article about a rescue dog that had been in fights and the rescuer said the dog barked for the 1st time ...this has been 6 years for this dog! Not that we are like that but look how long it took to trust! It took me right at 10 years to trust again and found the most wonderful human being in the world it seems like. But he was God given gift and now lost him to Agent Orange complications. Just an example that things will get better sooner for you Andrew! You never know what will be next but it will be so much better because of your knowledge and worthiness! Praying for you! 🙂 Just glad to hear from you today as many others are and have voiced! God bless you!

  • @CarlaFrederick-hw9zm
    @CarlaFrederick-hw9zm ปีที่แล้ว

    Ive come full circle on this, he checks all the boxes. I cant leave so l will focus on my art work for a way out. Also better habits. Do what you can do realisticly. I will be thinking of you all.

  • @mjacobs1964
    @mjacobs1964 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think I would like if someone, hopefully you talks more about how the narc behaves in the beginning of the relationship. How they are toward us is how we get to a later horrible place.

  • @thewayup9949
    @thewayup9949 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My narc had our children studying every week day until they went to bed. We agreed on 4 hours on Saturday and no hours on Sunday since we went to church.
    The narcissist could not stand them having any freedom and eventually they were forced to study on Sunday. First he said 2 hrs, then 4 hours then it was up until dinner which amounted to at least 6 hours.
    If they got up to use the restroom or get drink they were accused of “goof off “. I tried to do things with them outside of the home but know it was not enough.
    He would agree and let them begin an extracurricular activity at school but at some point he made them quit. So they really weren’t allowed to have friends.
    I regret not speaking up enough. Neither of them decided to go to college which is slap in the face for the narcissist professor. Both move out without any notice when they turned 18 & 22 and are finding their way to deal with the narcissist abuse.
    Thanks Andrew for your thoughtful insights, understanding and support.

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You described my mother and in relation of learning my father too. She was professor and agressive, he was her servant. Sad...they are passed away and I left alone without family.

  • @karenlacy8950
    @karenlacy8950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks Andrew. It will all come together for you. Just takes time. You are always a puppet for narcissist. Never a healthy relationship they are always with someone else. Could tell you so many stories. But it’s not worth it. Have a great evening. Love and light to you. Namaste 🙏❣️🌟

  • @a.joegevara3519
    @a.joegevara3519 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We were a couple to start with, but now it's blatantly obvious she's not with me anymore. Which is fine, as a sigma male, I don't care, I'm fine by myself.
    Good video!

  • @stephaniemccleskey687
    @stephaniemccleskey687 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Transition,whatever it is..its better than being with the Narc. Sensing something in your voice.. Praying for you 🙏

  • @barbaraedunne9786
    @barbaraedunne9786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Andrew , you are a becon of devine🙏 light ☀️ I trust your new beginnings are full of aboundance of all that comes from the light for you Andrew your on your beautiful path God bless you. 🙏

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I totally agree. Thank you and God bless you.

  • @laurelvance5533
    @laurelvance5533 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are so right. Exactly how it works. Thank you

  • @DonaHelms
    @DonaHelms 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I remember an event that a friend payed for, we was to watch a play. My ex caused a ruckus for us to leave before the play even started. I was so upset and he didn't care, I still can't believe I stayed with him for the 27 years like I did.
    Now I don't have to worry about that, I go do what I want when I want, it feels so nice. Don't let someone take whom ya are, a narcissist don't care whom they hurt.

    • @marygrant882
      @marygrant882 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      25 years for me.

    • @hollylorn131
      @hollylorn131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      21 years in the marriage

  • @Star-ze8dh
    @Star-ze8dh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi!! Great to see you!

  • @lisavansant961
    @lisavansant961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wishing you every happiness and your new adventure...

  • @Flokix4
    @Flokix4 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thankyou Andrew♥️

  • @fmckeon1595
    @fmckeon1595 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Change happens in an instant. Your dedication shines through..thanks for your giving during your transition. .Rock on Andrew 🤘

  • @gorunsko31
    @gorunsko31 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh my! about driving with narc....?! 100% accurate. 🙏❤ Thank you, Andrew. I hope you are OK. Namaste.

  • @lalani888ARTblue
    @lalani888ARTblue 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Andrew...you couldn't be more on point 🎯 I sincerely pray that all of the truths you are sharing...Are saving the many from these dark souls. It's debilitating experiencing the harm's they do on every level... Love and healing to all 🙏💚💌

  • @1Tmally3
    @1Tmally3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hoping that you have a great night in your new place, so happy for you, living in the moment. I can remember, when with the narc, a vivid memory of feeling like I was part of the woodwork. The narc always had so many things going on, that did'nt involve me, and yes always on the phone, with the so many friends, the narc claimed. We are there with you, Andrew. Namaste, strength, love, and much needed peace to all. ❤❤❤🌙🤗🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌠🎆🕯🕯💐🤟🙏💪🙌

  • @ERnarcfree
    @ERnarcfree 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your video hit home, once again. Whenever we went to a social function we could never leave until He was ready to leave. This usually meant staying really late and being exhausted the next working day. But he cared more about the needs of others and not his wife and child. It is so disgusting to look back.

  • @ninadallarosa3383
    @ninadallarosa3383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Always servelliencing the room

  • @evelynarocho6241
    @evelynarocho6241 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Even taking a walk on the boardwalk he would walk ahead of me... I'm glad it's over after 8 years...thank you

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Stay safe. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @QueenPaulaBanks
    @QueenPaulaBanks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are absolutely right. 😎💯💙. You are so deep.

  • @kmduarte2005
    @kmduarte2005 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for thinking of us even though you’ve got your own things to contend with.
    You’re the best, Andrew!

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    At a tangent, I just sailed through my birthday narc free as much as was possible, how peaceful it was! Hope things settle down for you Andrew.

  • @ilikehair683
    @ilikehair683 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Andrew, you did great video tonight in everyway❣️💯💗

  • @carolcollins3108
    @carolcollins3108 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    " You were their Appliance "
    This Appliance broke so badly.
    But , I'm forever grateful that it all ended when it did.
    Thank God.
    Thank you Andrew ,
    Sending you love and Light for your transition
    Namaste.