@@TroySpry please, help! I have this girl who first wanted to be my gf but when I tell her the standards of being my gf she said “ I feel like you're trying to control how things go, can we go with the flow, getting to know each other “? Keep in mind we've been seeing each other for 4 months and she wanted to be my gf in the 2nd month. I told her I'm not going with the flow she either adheres to the standards and we go forward or stop it now. I don't know if I was irrational..
That's my cue to wish him all the best in all his endeavours and find someone who isn't just looking for a place holder. The one guy I dated who wanted to go with the flow was 38, never married no kids but desperate to start a family but wanted to go with the flow. Our convoys fizzled and 2 years later when I saw his FB he was still single and 40 now. In my experience go with the flow men are users or just genuinely clueless in what they want. If you want a life of purpose, stability and direction steer clear or risk wasting your own time.
~ "let's take it slow" ~ "let's see what happens" ~ "let's go with the flow" Unless both people are very clear on their expectations from the get go, these arrangements can [& will] set people up for disillusionment, disappointment, hurt & betrayal in the long run 😢
I keep attracting men like this. I don’t know why. But I am straight forward, I ask the guy his true intentions and if he just says that he wants to be friends and see what happens I instantly block and delete him. I don’t take things further. But honestly, why is every man I meet the same way? Why do men ask women for their numbers then hit them with this line. This is the recent why I normally turn men down when they approach me. It’s always a game. No one is ever serious.
You are just dealing with the wrong guys. As soon as they start that mess, move on. There are some real ones out there. Just don't let these type block the path for the man that has good intentions.
I think it's not just you, there are so many guys out there like that. Just think of it as panning for gold. You have to throw out a lot of useless rocks to get the gold and that's everyone. I used to take it personally and then I realized every girl gets these guys. Just say "thank you next" and don't even worry about it. Their Momma just didn't raise them right 😉
Can we also talk about the “go with the flow” kind of men that goes out of his way/put on this mask like he wants an exclusive relationship with you? Does and says the right things intentionally and then later on switch up? This video put out great facts, but I wish that was talked about more 🍵
Spot on. Yesterday one guy said to me lets see what happens. I told him you need to go away and be on your own and decide what you want, if I'm still here when you do ok but until then I'm looking for someone was in 100%. I don't want to be with someone who is not sure about me. He texted back and said "B here you go again, why can't ppl just chill and not rush into things." I thought to myself get Get the F out of here..if you were interested in me you would have made effort contacting me. Bye Boy.
What if you & you ex still communicate from time to time, she still wants you but in a situation where she’s just going with the flow & says it’s complicated. What do they mean by that?
This is very true no again. There's obviously exceptions to the Rule. And it really depends on the woman because if she really likes you She wants nothing more than your time in attention and to be in a relationship with you.. Now with that being said if she starts to pull away or say I want to go with the flow Uber going to fast. It can mean multiple things This is where clarification comes in. Now if she wants to go slow because she's been hurt in her past Let's use that as an example. It's something that needs to be discussed because her past experience is ruining her present experience she's bringing the past into the present. Saying I don't wanna get hurt again or whatever the situation is. Without fully understanding that you are not that guy.. What at the same time as men you can't Logic Explain to women. Because they go off of how they feel.. So you only have 2 choices in the matter You could go with the flow And literally that relationships probably going to come 2 and end You're just avoiding the inevitable. Or you could talk about it and come to a solution. Now it depends on the woman If you think it's worth it if you want to put the time in.
Yea, but what if you lay everything on the table and tell them your plans what your lookin for! Key thing is just be careful...pay attention to the red flags 🚩
When going with the flow do not focus on how amazing it is for it to be happening. Understand and accept that it is natural. Now, if it does not work when it comes to dating it is because you are letting the woman’s body be a distraction from you getting to know her name her personality and her being when you first meet her. IJS
I believe that you have to have direction when dating and understand what it is you are working towards. When there is no direction then people end up hurt and confused. If a man says he is dating for marriage. yet you are just dating casually then your intentions don’t align and therefore you may not be a good match for each other.
Plus if a man really wants you. He will not say he’s just going with the flow...
Facts, he will make his intentions known!
No, he won't.
False. I say go with the flow because I'm gonna talk myself out of some cat
@@TroySpry please, help!
I have this girl who first wanted to be my gf but when I tell her the standards of being my gf she said “ I feel like you're trying to control how things go, can we go with the flow, getting to know each other “? Keep in mind we've been seeing each other for 4 months and she wanted to be my gf in the 2nd month. I told her I'm not going with the flow she either adheres to the standards and we go forward or stop it now. I don't know if I was irrational..
Dump her and find someone who is ready for what you’re ready for
YES! We must be intentional when we date. Time is too valuable to waste.
When a guy says he’s just “going with the flow” I close off... I make my intentions clean but my personality gets very closed off.
Right. Flow right on outta my face.
That's my cue to wish him all the best in all his endeavours and find someone who isn't just looking for a place holder. The one guy I dated who wanted to go with the flow was 38, never married no kids but desperate to start a family but wanted to go with the flow. Our convoys fizzled and 2 years later when I saw his FB he was still single and 40 now. In my experience go with the flow men are users or just genuinely clueless in what they want. If you want a life of purpose, stability and direction steer clear or risk wasting your own time.
~ "let's take it slow"
~ "let's see what happens"
~ "let's go with the flow"
Unless both people are very clear on their expectations from the get go, these arrangements can [& will] set people up for disillusionment, disappointment, hurt & betrayal in the long run 😢
I keep attracting men like this. I don’t know why. But I am straight forward, I ask the guy his true intentions and if he just says that he wants to be friends and see what happens I instantly block and delete him. I don’t take things further. But honestly, why is every man I meet the same way? Why do men ask women for their numbers then hit them with this line. This is the recent why I normally turn men down when they approach me. It’s always a game. No one is ever serious.
You are just dealing with the wrong guys. As soon as they start that mess, move on. There are some real ones out there. Just don't let these type block the path for the man that has good intentions.
I keep attracting these men too. Idk why
I think it's not just you, there are so many guys out there like that. Just think of it as panning for gold. You have to throw out a lot of useless rocks to get the gold and that's everyone. I used to take it personally and then I realized every girl gets these guys. Just say "thank you next" and don't even worry about it. Their Momma just didn't raise them right 😉
Can we also talk about the “go with the flow” kind of men that goes out of his way/put on this mask like he wants an exclusive relationship with you? Does and says the right things intentionally and then later on switch up? This video put out great facts, but I wish that was talked about more 🍵
Spot on. Yesterday one guy said to me lets see what happens. I told him you need to go away and be on your own and decide what you want, if I'm still here when you do ok but until then I'm looking for someone was in 100%. I don't want to be with someone who is not sure about me.
He texted back and said "B here you go again, why can't ppl just chill and not rush into things." I thought to myself get Get the F out of here..if you were interested in me you would have made effort contacting me. Bye Boy.
thank you!! i agree 100 %
Hmmmmmm I think this is what was happened to me few months a go , but he’s keep coming back when I do NC
You go gurlllll he’s a fuck boy so yea dump him in the trash and move on
@@missytaurus2258 Stop letting him come back.
@LuckiestStarByFarper usual 😪
Yea your right set what you want from the start
facts!
This video was absolutely incredible! Thank you
thank you for tuning in! tell a friend to tell a friend to watch as well!
Thanks bro!! Needed that reality check!!!
Happy to help!
What if you & you ex still communicate from time to time, she still wants you but in a situation where she’s just going with the flow & says it’s complicated. What do they mean by that?
thankyou
Welcome!
Damn I just told him I’m just going with the flow
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Then you cannot be surprised when he ghosts out on you. When you expect nothing, you get nothing.
This is very true no again. There's obviously exceptions to the Rule. And it really depends on the woman because if she really likes you She wants nothing more than your time in attention and to be in a relationship with you..
Now with that being said if she starts to pull away or say I want to go with the flow Uber going to fast. It can mean multiple things This is where clarification comes in.
Now if she wants to go slow because she's been hurt in her past Let's use that as an example.
It's something that needs to be discussed because her past experience is ruining her present experience she's bringing the past into the present. Saying I don't wanna get hurt again or whatever the situation is.
Without fully understanding that you are not that guy.. What at the same time as men you can't Logic Explain to women.
Because they go off of how they feel.. So you only have 2 choices in the matter You could go with the flow And literally that relationships probably going to come 2 and end You're just avoiding the inevitable.
Or you could talk about it and come to a solution. Now it depends on the woman If you think it's worth it if you want to put the time in.
Yea, but what if you lay everything on the table and tell them your plans what your lookin for!
Key thing is just be careful...pay attention to the red flags 🚩
amen!
Na whoooo is this man😍 fasfffff
thank you so much for tuning in! tell a friend to tell a friend to watch as well!
When going with the flow do not focus on how amazing it is for it to be happening. Understand and accept that it is natural.
Now, if it does not work when it comes to dating it is because you are letting the woman’s body be a distraction from you getting to know her name her personality and her being when you first meet her. IJS
What about if you say go with the flow as a woman when you just met someone is that bad? Yet he made it known he dating to eventually get married
I believe that you have to have direction when dating and understand what it is you are working towards. When there is no direction then people end up hurt and confused. If a man says he is dating for marriage. yet you are just dating casually then your intentions don’t align and therefore you may not be a good match for each other.
Go with the flow = selfishness cloaked in pretense.
By the way are you single ???? 🤫😍
Hello! thanks for the comment. No I am not single, I’m married.
Hahaha sorry Yonga 😂😂😂