This song!!! My son died three years ago. His birthday is coming up in March. He would have been 31. He use to sing this song. My baby couldn’t sing to save his life. But he would sing it anyway. It made me so happy. What I wouldn’t give to hear him sing it now. I miss you son. Mama loves you so much.
Romantic love is a two way street and love can get complicated as we do lose ourselves. Still I wonder how many women would appreciate this cold honesty? “Bade, I’m not sure I still feel the way I did about our relationship, I’m distracted as you might of noticed and I’ve come to a decision, I think I should be on my own to figure things out. I don’t want to lie to or disrespect you so I’m telling you I’m letting go and it’s best if you do too.”
I will respect a man if he just keeps it real. If he got alot lust in him and he isn't ready and he rather leave then leave, but tell her why you leaving. Don't just disappear, because she's going to think something is wrong with her.
This album had me in a chokehold. I drove my sister crazy playing this song on repeat for months. To this day, I still never skip this song when it comes up in my playlist.
This is the story of a man that is seeking to self discover. Donell Jones paints the picture so vividly through his lyrics. He and his girl have been together since they were teenagers and even though he knows he loves her, he still feels like it may be necessary for him to explore the world and get over his curiosity about what else is out there. He's torn about whether to stay or leave because he loves his girl and doesn't want to hurt her, but he doesn't want to get to the point where he regrets not getting to experience life as a single man. So he makes the decision to take a break and steps out there and sleeps with the girl from the club only to come to the realization that it wasn't worth it after seeing his longtime girl on a date with someone else. That's when he calls her outside and pleads for her love back and apologizes. The truth of the matter is this is the reality for a lot of men. Some choose to stay and be faithful, some choose to take a break, and some choose to cheat. Moral of the story is if you know someone is valuable to you, don't take them for granted and risk losing them. The strength of your love for them will determine the outcome.
1990BornBaby I totally agree with until the point of him wanting to get back with his ex after seeing her on a date...I think it’s more like him contemplating whether or not he should go back to her after a breaching her trust..when he sees her trying to move on he shoots his shot because he realizes they are not over each other...she had the choice of taking him back or ignoring him and continuing with the date
The bitter honesty of this song but sadly too many men feel this way but selfishly they hold onto their woman because they can’t bear the thought of her moving on from them and they lose that chance to ever come back.
It’s so many options that I feel so unworthy to be loved. I feel so ugly. I truly believe a man cannot love a women and only her. I don’t think I will ever get to experience real love, because I been let down so many times.
@@susanschuck8841 Age should bring wisdom and too many times I see women getting themselves entangled with men that are not a good match for them. I see women make the same mistakes with men time and time again. There is a practical side to love and it emerges when the “honeymoon” is ending and it hits a lot of women like a brick wall as they finally realize their man was no more than a good fuk! He never was the type of man you should have tried to partner with. See men fall in different categories and this is the questions you should be asking yourself: Is he capable of being a good companion to you? How deep is your attraction to him? Do you truly feel he is into you? Is he at that point in his life to have a serious relationship? How much baggage does he have and can you deal with it in the long term? Is he taking the time to know & understand the woman that you are? Then ask yourself the same questions about yourself.
Said he'd rather LEAVE than to CHEAT!!!! Now THAT'S A MAN....A REAL ONE!!! WHEN U LUV SOMEONE, U JUST DON'T TREAT THEM BAD....A man who TRULY KNOWS AND UNDERSTANDS THE MEANING OF LOVE IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SEXY TO ME!!!!!
i love how you included 2000’s😂.. people always forget about us early early 2000’s kids being old enough to experience relationships && heartbreaks .. coming from an ‘02 baby
This song is a powerhouse. With so many broken relationships it should be getting consistent air play on every radio stations in America. Still sounding brand new in 2024. Message in the music Solid memories❤
Lets not ignore the fact he told her he didnt know where he wanna be but as soon as she goes on a date with another guy he standing outside the window looking like a creep 😂😂😂... still jamming this song in 2018
This song hits different... the older we get... the wiser we should become. When you prefer quality over quantity, you know you've reached a whole new level of adulthood.
a sexy smooth way of saying , "I want you, but I want them too. so im going to go sleep around & put you on the back burner. .but stay loyal to me, even though im not returning the favour " This was my song back in grade school though
it's funny back when i was a kid i never appreciated the lyrics of this song as much as "you know what's up" but as adult i recognize what a masterpiece this was and still is. yes, not a great "message" but beautifully written and well thought out. deep shit
I used to love this song until I got married to someone who was 8 years younger than me. Our marriage lasted for 18 years but every time I heard this song it struck a cord with me. It was no longer as beautiful as it was before I had been married. We divorced a month ago and this song was my biggest fear coming true. I was resentful at first but I came to understand why this song had brought up those feelings in me because I felt it throughout our marriage although I would constantly ask him if he felt this way. It's only right that you be happy in life and follow your free will. The key is to be honest about the way you feel inside. With a situation like this somebody's going to be hurt but it's how you do it that matters. We've been apart for a year and a half and I have healed now and this song is once again beautiful. Lesson: marry somebody who knows what they want when they get married
I love Donell Jones but this song pissed all the way off ! 😭💔 This is how all girls around the world feels. Having the man you're in love fuck around 😒 Like these dudes really need to make up their mind
Khyla Nealy sounds piggish but be the freak your man needs you to be right now no contingencies and if he still can't stop fuckin around you know for sure he's a dog
kevin kelly what sounds "piggish" ? 😐 and a dude is gonna fuck around just for the fun of it. He doesn't care who he's hurting. He can have the "freak" he's always wanted but will still mess around. That's just how they are. There ain't nothing you can do
If a man tells you he needs time to see where he wants to be sis DO YOU and don’t hold your breath because you’re obviously an option and not a choice-also don’t be mad at dude, he told you
Honesty is always the best policy, and in this song he's just keeping it 100%, like it or not!! You always have to respect a person that speaks the truth about their feelings!
Facts, but most people are so used to hearing lies that the truth hurts like a muthafucka and they won't accept it. I'm told I'm brutally honest, but I like it that way because it frees me regardless of the outcome.
This is actually a really hurtful situation . I can't get back with a man if he didn't know if he wanted to be with me just to explore another woman's body
TRUEEEE.... I am still single since I divorced my ex in '07.....he killed it for Me... can't trust anyone else... tried to see if I can meet Someone decent but it's all about getting n hitting it for them... I refuse to settle for anything less than what I had... SMDH!!!!! :( :(
Like any dude he wants his cake & to eat it too basically . But he dont wanna completely cut her off . He wanna fool with other girls but dont wanna feel bad by cheating so he breaks up with her to have sex with other girls then when he see he missing out on the real love he go tryna get her back because having sex with random hoes aint all that
what people have to understand is that LUST comes at you so fast that most mistake it for love...if youve been with someone since teenage years, it typically starts out as lust and may eventually lead to love, but by that time you feel stuck and pressured and feel like youve missed out on something that may have been truly for you or not. The painful part is leaving to find out, only to find out that their isnt anything out there and try to double back to what you had and he/she is gone. Main point is, dont jump into something that started out based on lust that grew to love or you will find yourself standing outside a mf window singing "sweedledeeedoooodeeedeeee"
This is not the real story. According to his Unsung or TV one story. He was already cheating and messing with another woman. His wife suspected this. She asked him if he still loved her and wanted to be married? He couldn't answer. She said ill make the decision. I want you gone. She went back to Chicago where there from. So he cleaned the story up real well in this video but this isn't what he actually did. Nice song and I'm still and fan. His honest feelings should be heard and respected. I just hate when the Black mother of your kids is there through the lean and poor times. Then when you make it big You want to bounce after she relocated all the way to the East coast. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
I'm always so glad I'm not the only one who can see this. Every time I listen to his music, I hear a hint of Stevie Wonder. (I'm a big fan of both.) His voice sounds very identical to Stevie Wonder's, and it's absolutely perfect to hear.
By the time that freak sees where he wants to be I will be long gone where I want to be which is with a man who has a moral compass and self control over his lust and 3D mind 🤢 that freak would be dead to me ♒️💫
Personally i don't think you should fuck around with someone for that long and then decide you wanna see what life is like. Like no, that just means you never loved her.
Alexis Reduvon It wouldn't feel very good but at the end of the day, people do change, especially with age. If you're with somebody from high school, chances are high that you will not be with them during or after college because that's when the change usually comes. Recently one of my family members broke up with her partner of 12 yrs that she was with since 9th grade just months before their wedding. It happens all the time.
Ladies... NEVER allow a dude to make you wait while he goes out and breaks other women’s heart. When he asks for space, just worry about yourself at this point. 🤷🏽♀️
it's not just about the ladies. We all need to be made aware. Women do the same damn thing when they meet a guy they think is a "good guy" but they still in their ho'in phase. I would know.
Ms S.M, this is the thing: this a teenage love that went to about 24-25, you don't know, who you are, what you like, what you love, what you hate, your desires, your feelings, etc.. So if you in this situation you have a 85% failure rate. IF YOU in your 30's/40's and don't know you, you messed up choosing that person from jump. Grown man: BI
I understand his lust and where he's coming from considering they were together so long. However, he has to accept the fact that she may not take him back in the end.
YOU HAVE TO BE AN ADULT OR MATURE PERSON TO UNDERSTAND THE SONG, HE HAS BEEN WITH THE GIRL FOR SO LONG ALL THROUGH THEIR TEENAGE YEARS AND NOW HE IS TRYING TO DECIDE IF HE WANTS TO CONTINUE THE RELATIONSHIP OR DEAL WITH OTHER PEOPLE. WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO DATE AND HAVE FUN BUT HE HAS BEEN WITH HER SO LONG HE MISSED OUT ON ALL OF THAT. HE WOULD RATHER LEAVE THAN TO CHEAT AND HURT HER BUT EITHER WAY HE IS GOING TO HURT HER BECAUSE SHE STILL WANTS TO BE WITH HIM. A MAN HAS TO HAVE TIME TO GROW AND WHEN THEIR READY TO SETTLE THEY WILL. I WOULD RATHER MY BOYFRIEND BE REAL AND LET ME KNOW HE NEEDS A BREAK THAN TO CHEAT ON ME WHICH THE SORRY BASTARD DID.
Just read your comment and agreed with you. That's exactly why I love this song too. I understand and respect him for letting her know. Your point at the end was hilarious.
This is so exactly true! Love this song, BUT let's reverse this and see how the Males would take this..... Not so good, huh??!! #youarefreetogo #nomoretears 😭😏
This song teaches you that it’s best to leave those lust thoughts as thoughts because sometimes you stepping out or away from what you love will only hurt you and make you realize you only need that person!🗣 2022 and I’m still listening I’m 17 years old btw I know a lot.
Cezar Stone They threw an old school concert here in cleve oh about 2 months ago and he performed. If you google him some dates and cities he'll be at might come up.
Great song!this song together with " WITH YOU" by Four were my favorites.have searched high and low for "With you" and cant seem to find it anywhere!!!
You all are wrong about the true meaning of this song it's not about him cheating or about him thinking about it. This song is about him second guessing if he is still in love with her and if she is truly the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with
He clarifies in "Where you are", the official part 2 to this song. It was on the album after this one. However they didnt promote it correctly. Fuckin GREAT song!!!
If a woman or man leaves there partner let them go because look at the video how selfish he was he was in bed with another woman just like my x was with my best friend she texted me to tell me the truth if they leave you and Cheat they will do it again best to remain friends and forgive and enjoy your life both of them
+David Fender David I believe all of us feel lyrics like dancing and maybe it was my personal feelings inside me who knows sending love to all everyone is going threw something my friend happy new year soon to all
+David Fender . . . LMAO! No, baby. Perhaps you need to re-listen to the lyrics. "But there's a lot of LUST inside of me." What do you think that implies/insinuates? Take it from a licensed sexologist. Sex? Relationships? I deal with this on a daily basis. I realize that this is just a "song", but the time to figure out "where one wants to be" is NOT when someone has fully invested and committed themselves to you. (One, two, three, four years down the line.) You have to be REAL with yourself and with your partner/other half. If you want "casual", keep it casual. If you want "committed", keep it committed. Don't make bullshit excuses afterwards. To do so is only a waste of everyone's time. ;-)
No one needs a woman like that anyway. If a woman is willing to leave that quickly, she wasn't worth keeping anyway and the guy would have been right to evaluating the situation in the first place.
If going out and having sexy with a bunch of other women helps you realize the worth of original relationship, he wasn't the right type of man, and she would be smart to move on, VERY quickly.
cody major hes basically the same thing,... i respect honesty but if you dont know if you can keep it in your pants why start a relationship in the first place?
When you love someone you just don’t treat them bad since my last girl left me I really understand now, you don’t neglect or disrespect a girl you say you love if you love her always make her feel loved 💯
Honesty is the story here. Pure honesty from his heart. Everyone has the right to give and receive the gift of truth. When you love someone you don't treat them bad. Period. If someone cries out to you for anything, ignoring them is the best way to show your true colors...how heartless you can truly be. I myself always want too see the worst and the best in the other person, so I can love and understand them properly. I don't understand people that stay where they don't want to be. Leave. It may kill both of you emotionally, it is worth it in the end. Apologizing is the only thing you can do. Life is nothing if you are not happy. 💛🌻
Ive never been in a relationship before but Bruh , when she’s in bed with tears rolling down her face breaks my heart 💔 . Ill never do someone’s daughter like this 💔
Said it to bruh it all depends on the situation you find yourself in. You truly don't know until you get there and none of these never word you said in the past won't even matter.
In this song, it truly isn't about cheating or being with someone else. It's about a brother sorting his oats. Instead of him staying in the relationship and sorting his oats(cheating)he decides to write her a letter stating he wouldn't be coming home. Thumbs up to the brothers that does this,because it takes a real man to be able to do this and not drag the woman he loves through his escapades. However, don't expect her to be there when you finish. Learn the lesson!!!
It breaks my heart to witness the raw honesty shared by DJ in this timeless and poignant masterpiece. To truly comprehend the wrongness of abandoning someone who truly loves you, DJ’s girl should have made him feel the pain of being treated as a mere rebound by not taking him back. Taking DJ back is an extended invitation to DJ that its ok to treat her poorly. He won't ever respect her, and the cycle of lustful ghosting will happen again. Breaking a trauma bond after a betrayal can consume the strongest of us. Seek clinicle help and live your best life. The second ghosting breaks you mentally. Let them go when they ask you to do so. The stress isnt worth the pain to keep them.
This statement is so true yeah im glad he broke it off instead of cheating on her but when the eye wonders again he is gone or whenever things get hard guess what he is gone because now you gave him or her permission to leave when the going gets tough. Just go ahead and let him go the person God has for you is not going to leave you ❤
This song!!! My son died three years ago. His birthday is coming up in March. He would have been 31. He use to sing this song. My baby couldn’t sing to save his life. But he would sing it anyway. It made me so happy. What I wouldn’t give to hear him sing it now. I miss you son. Mama loves you so much.
Sorry deeply
🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
My heart is with you
Praying for you and the soul of your son! In Jesus name
@@christolbrown1003 Thank you so much!!
The message: when you love someone you just don’t treat them bad. End the relationship BEFORE cheating
I mean it’s not that hard a woman will definitely have so much more respect for you if you just keep it real 🎯💯💯💯💯❤
There!!!
Romantic love is a two way street and love can get complicated as we do lose ourselves. Still I wonder how many women would appreciate this cold honesty? “Bade, I’m not sure I still feel the way I did about our relationship, I’m distracted as you might of noticed and I’ve come to a decision, I think I should be on my own to figure things out. I don’t want to lie to or disrespect you so I’m telling you I’m letting go and it’s best if you do too.”
Truth!!!!
@@Ronald-ks2iyit sucks either way. It’s better if your partner didn’t cheat, though.
LIFE ADVICE
If a man ever says " Sweeeeeedaleeedupdeedee" walk away.
Lmao
Wow 😬
beuaheaheaheaae
I’m dead 😵😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Forreal lol
43 year old white dude from Seattle, who grew up in the grunge scene… and this album changed my life! 90’s R&B is FIYER!!!
Man, I miss being home. I'm from Seattle also.
Let’s make a 90s and early 20s party for all who know this music
Good taste and i fcks with grunge rock
From Chicago but lived in Seattle throughout my childhood. Kent, Federal Way, Covington! I definitely miss the PNW it’s so beautiful up there.
Fax!!!
THIS song is so timeless it feels like its your first time hearing it everytime
Yes it does..will never get old
definitely an rnb classic
I'm glad they continue to play it on iHeart Radio.
+ToneEsco or u could have alzheimers. haw haw haw
fuck yeaaaaaaaa !!!! On point fam
I will respect a man if he just keeps it real. If he got alot lust in him and he isn't ready and he rather leave then leave, but tell her why you leaving. Don't just disappear, because she's going to think something is wrong with her.
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MY SITUATION
yo
right!!!
i wish there were women out there that reallt understand this song..sometimes love just isnt enough.
Somebody gotta be with me in 2024
👍🏾‼️
I’m right here February 2024 ❤❤
I'm here on the 1st of March 2024
I'm so with you love...on repeat to!!!
You know it!!!! MARCH 2024.
This whole album deserves a grammy
💯
And it did not get one. So sad
This album had me in a chokehold. I drove my sister crazy playing this song on repeat for months. To this day, I still never skip this song when it comes up in my playlist.
@@Styl849 word as bond!!
One of the best albums ever hands down
This is the story of a man that is seeking to self discover. Donell Jones paints the picture so vividly through his lyrics. He and his girl have been together since they were teenagers and even though he knows he loves her, he still feels like it may be necessary for him to explore the world and get over his curiosity about what else is out there. He's torn about whether to stay or leave because he loves his girl and doesn't want to hurt her, but he doesn't want to get to the point where he regrets not getting to experience life as a single man. So he makes the decision to take a break and steps out there and sleeps with the girl from the club only to come to the realization that it wasn't worth it after seeing his longtime girl on a date with someone else. That's when he calls her outside and pleads for her love back and apologizes. The truth of the matter is this is the reality for a lot of men. Some choose to stay and be faithful, some choose to take a break, and some choose to cheat. Moral of the story is if you know someone is valuable to you, don't take them for granted and risk losing them. The strength of your love for them will determine the outcome.
1990BornBaby wow. So um... I’m working on an essay right now.... can you finish it for me? 🤣
Magic Johnson? Is that you?
@@guillem9929 HAAHAHAHAHAHA
1990BornBaby I totally agree with until the point of him wanting to get back with his ex after seeing her on a date...I think it’s more like him contemplating whether or not he should go back to her after a breaching her trust..when he sees her trying to move on he shoots his shot because he realizes they are not over each other...she had the choice of taking him back or ignoring him and continuing with the date
Damn your words are true to us men. You hit a homerun sir. Really well written
1:24
When he said: *_"Swee-Doo-Doo-Dee-Doop-Dee-Dee"_*
I felt that.
😊😂😂😂
🤣💯
😩😩🤣🤣🤣
👌🏿😂😂
From stevie wonder
Me: I think we need to see other people.
Her: what do you mean???
Me: SWEEDILDEEEDUPDEEEDEEE!!
Her: 😑
😂😂😂
Lol
I’m weak
🤣🤣😭🤷🏾♀️
What if someone actually said this hahahahahah
The bitter honesty of this song but sadly too many men feel this way but selfishly they hold onto their woman because they can’t bear the thought of her moving on from them and they lose that chance to ever come back.
The legend!!
It’s so many options that I feel so unworthy to be loved. I feel so ugly. I truly believe a man cannot love a women and only her. I don’t think I will ever get to experience real love, because I been let down so many times.
@@susanschuck8841 Age should bring wisdom and too many times I see women getting themselves entangled with men that are not a good match for them. I see women make the same mistakes with men time and time again. There is a practical side to love and it emerges when the “honeymoon” is ending and it hits a lot of women like a brick wall as they finally realize their man was no more than a good fuk! He never was the type of man you should have tried to partner with.
See men fall in different categories and this is the questions you should be asking yourself: Is he capable of being a good companion to you? How deep is your attraction to him? Do you truly feel he is into you? Is he at that point in his life to have a serious relationship? How much baggage does he have and can you deal with it in the long term? Is he taking the time to know & understand the woman that you are?
Then ask yourself the same questions about yourself.
You right they forgot as men
It's kind of true
Said he'd rather LEAVE than to CHEAT!!!! Now THAT'S A MAN....A REAL ONE!!! WHEN U LUV SOMEONE, U JUST DON'T TREAT THEM BAD....A man who TRULY KNOWS AND UNDERSTANDS THE MEANING OF LOVE IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SEXY TO ME!!!!!
Who here in 2019. I kno I am😍❤❤
Me!!! And I'm having a whole jam session!! I'm officially the "auntie" lol
Am here, always
Faith Marshall Meeeeee
Tf me lol this song is a classic throwback
Sweeedoodudledeedoodidi sure am 😅🙌🏽
The way dude was looking at Donell through the window like “AHH HELL NAW THIS IS GHETTO” takes me out every time he immediately grabbed his drink🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😅😅😅
Me too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's Karl Kani lol look him up
😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm dying😂😂😂
This song touches your soul this is the kind of music we need today
MASTERPIECE!!!
They don't make music like this anymore😢
Like these gen z need to listen to the lyrics of this song
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Yes! But everyone wants to be the killer thug now a days. No one wants to the lover boy. It's deemed to be weak.
I'm glad we have all these videos to run to so we can escape the music that plays today. I don't know what to do without em
Kevin mike .. damn bro u said that perfectly!
Yup lol
Kevin mike You can say that again
Well said.. it's why I haven't thrown away any of my CD's from the 90s..
Kevin mike ikr
This song hits different now that I’m older ❤️
💯
Yeah like "Nigga don't fucking try me like that" Where you wanna be? You leave you stay gone.
@@spinningbackkick6021 🤣🤣🤣 FACTS
Nigga if you ain't at least 37 you'd never know the meaning of this song.
I'm 42 so I was there.
YESSSSSSSSSSS ME TO🤷🏾♀️
OLDER U GET U UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF THIS MASTERPIECE
I do understand I'm the one that got hurt my heart hurt me so bad I really loved him
He did me so wrong let me win three babys
Big facts
You're right... I understand how the meaning behind this song is even bigger bullshyt than I thought it was as a kid 🤣
@@JulanaJones-vk5rb aint you getting a check and HALF? lol
This song is iconic in the black community
Not just the black community
Dis shyt iconic period too my Puerto Rican ass too
man wish RnB was still like this, stuff like this never gets old.
The millennials will never know.
+Le Afrique Don't. just don't.
I swear Oms
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Yep
to all my 90's & 2000's folks doesn't it suck that we're now old enough to actually FEEL this song ugh!!
Oh my gosh yes!!
i love how you included 2000’s😂.. people always forget about us early early 2000’s kids being old enough to experience relationships && heartbreaks .. coming from an ‘02 baby
@@nataliemarcus5829 That’s a fact feelings have no age
Facts!
YES!!! Omg
Can you believe this song came out in 1999?!😳 I was like 5 years old. They don't make music like this anymore. Thumbs up if you agree
so very true
I'm 15 and I was born in 2001 I like the 90s and 80s music better than my generation today
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man this song was and still is a classic brother!!!! I was in HS when this came out & this song was on the radio everynight, but it never got old...
👍👍👍👍
This song is a powerhouse. With so many broken relationships it should be getting consistent air play on every radio stations in America. Still sounding brand new in 2024. Message in the music Solid memories❤
Donell a damn cheater and all them damn “sweddledittledaddle” had us all FOOLED lmao
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA!!!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Yup but seeing her with another man he didn't like it.
And he doesn't feel sad
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Lets not ignore the fact he told her he didnt know where he wanna be but as soon as she goes on a date with another guy he standing outside the window looking like a creep 😂😂😂... still jamming this song in 2018
Dennyssia Newsome hr said he needed time to see
😂😂
Dennyssia Newsome 😂😂😂😂
At the window looking like The Candyman 😂😂😂
😂
soon as sis on a date wit somebody else here his ass come back at the window dressed like candyman talkin about “sweedildeedumdeedumdeedee”
I'm dead!!!
lmfaooooooo im soooo weak!
😂😭😭
LMAO
😂😂😂😂Very funny
This song hits different... the older we get... the wiser we should become. When you prefer quality over quantity, you know you've reached a whole new level of adulthood.
I MISS this mans music so much !
me too I love a good slowjam.. that leaves me feeing better and wiser about my life at the end f the song:)
Precious barrington I agree you definitely learn and grow from these types of songs !
Me to. U should check out 4TAE "Right where i wanna be"
J Vocals yes
J D why? it's a search away.
a sexy smooth way of saying , "I want you, but I want them too. so im going to go sleep around & put you on the back burner. .but stay loyal to me, even though im not returning the favour "
This was my song back in grade school though
Sad but true. God bless you.
hell yea
it's funny back when i was a kid i never appreciated the lyrics of this song as much as "you know what's up" but as adult i recognize what a masterpiece this was and still is. yes, not a great "message" but beautifully written and well thought out. deep shit
Truth!
Wait? Was this A fukc boy anthem before it became movement?????
My husband & I have been together since our teenage years & now we’re almost 50! True love never fails
how did yall do it? im so lost
Love is forever
@@bejayeiggoms999 prayer & putting God 1st.
@@bejayeiggoms999she probably was cheating behind his back a lot of old men be getting cheated on
@@AMothersTouchOfSoulyea you definitely cheated
This song will never get old , it’s still rich as the day it came out ❤
I used to love this song until I got married to someone who was 8 years younger than me. Our marriage lasted for 18 years but every time I heard this song it struck a cord with me. It was no longer as beautiful as it was before I had been married. We divorced a month ago and this song was my biggest fear coming true. I was resentful at first but I came to understand why this song had brought up those feelings in me because I felt it throughout our marriage although I would constantly ask him if he felt this way. It's only right that you be happy in life and follow your free will. The key is to be honest about the way you feel inside. With a situation like this somebody's going to be hurt but it's how you do it that matters. We've been apart for a year and a half and I have healed now and this song is once again beautiful. Lesson: marry somebody who knows what they want when they get married
❤️❤️❤️hugs
*Bearhug!*
That last part👌🏾💯. 🤗
Well said❤️ am glad u have healed is not easy being with someone for that amount of time and not feel something still. Blessings
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I love Donell Jones but this song pissed all the way off ! 😭💔 This is how all girls around the world feels. Having the man you're in love fuck around 😒 Like these dudes really need to make up their mind
why you mad
Khyla Nealy sounds piggish but be the freak your man needs you to be right now no contingencies and if he still can't stop fuckin around you know for sure he's a dog
James McWright who's mad ? I just said I loved Donell Jones . You're old asf. Get off TH-cam ✌🏾️
kevin kelly what sounds "piggish" ? 😐 and a dude is gonna fuck around just for the fun of it. He doesn't care who he's hurting. He can have the "freak" he's always wanted but will still mess around. That's just how they are. There ain't nothing you can do
Khyla Nealy
Untrue, I never cheated on my lady til I started getting sexually frustrated
This is the most heartbreaking beautiful song ever-next to Carl Thomas “I Wish”. Lol I miss these times. 😞
We can bring it back
I’m a upcoming old school r&b and hip hop singer,songwriter, dancer, rapper, and beginning actor.
Definitely, I can't think about one without thinking of the other.
Interesting that those two along with someone else is forming a group called The Chi.
This one hit harder tho
who still healing on the low in 2024 😢
ME ❤
Not on the low ❤
Me this was my songgggg!!
Yo yoooooooo
Me 😢
This song is really true tho . I rather someone leave a relationship then to cheat on me either way ima be hurt but it’s respectful to leave 🤷🏾♀️
Well said
That's the whole point, and I agree. I respect HONESTY no matter HOW badly it hurts!
If a man tells you he needs time to see where he wants to be sis DO YOU and don’t hold your breath because you’re obviously an option and not a choice-also don’t be mad at dude, he told you
Lol you sound better and singe
It’s a lot of thout that sound just like you
And single mom too lol
I AGREE
Mr. Logical viewing your page and videos, it seems like you’re the bitter one. 🥴
I can still be mad. Smh
If y’all are young you must understand but if dude over 25 he just a dog or you was his first 🤷🏾♂️
“Sweedildeedumdeedumdeeedeee” lol we still here in 2020
Lilly Delysia me too❤️❤️❤️
Lilly Delysia yesssss we still are where we wanna be!
and that is some pretty good articulated spelling there ms. lilly! 😍
Yeah... The music now just can't compare.
😂😂 do you think he wrote that part on paper 😂😂😂😂😂
True definition of lust.💔
❤
Honesty is always the best policy, and in this song he's just keeping it 100%, like it or not!! You always have to respect a person that speaks the truth about their feelings!
Yes!!!
Facts, but most people are so used to hearing lies that the truth hurts like a muthafucka and they won't accept it. I'm told I'm brutally honest, but I like it that way because it frees me regardless of the outcome.
@@tweetdaone4450 Nice, clean, dependable approach!
Sad that Im young but I have to go back to find good R&B music that I grew up on
Aylana Jackson right
Aylana Jackson righhhht
same I'm 17 and old school music is all I listen to.
Aylana Jackson Exactly
Yuup
Karl Kani sitting at the table like “go ahead wit him...a got a new collection of gear about to drop this spring” 🤣🤣🤣
Gradell Wooten 🙌🏻🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😭
Oh damn 😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭😭
He was really honest about his feelings! ❤
This is actually a really hurtful situation . I can't get back with a man if he didn't know if he wanted to be with me just to explore another woman's body
At least he's honest and he's telling her where he wants to be...no pun intended.
yep, its hurtful. been there, done that. But people only live once so just let them find out if they have never explored.
I just took a detour,but I'm back on track.
TRUEEEE.... I am still single since I divorced my ex in '07.....he killed it for Me... can't trust anyone else... tried to see if I can meet Someone decent but it's all about getting n hitting it for them... I refuse to settle for anything less than what I had... SMDH!!!!! :( :(
Well in the song he said he was with her since his teenage years, so you can't blame someone for wanting to just experience new stuff.
This song was so ahead of its time that time still ain't caught up with it
HeLLo you so RIGHT. GOING THRU A REAL BREAK UP AND IM HURT. THANK GOD I HAVE THIS TO TURN TOO
Absolutely TRUE👏👏👏👏
I Love this song. Damn it brings back so many memories
Dude sitting at the table looking like here we go with the drama
Lol real talk he is like what the hell!
lollll
Yep, get the hell away. You deal with one minute of it will never go away.
That’s Karl Kani lol
I shed tears reading this. I'm so close to my Mum. This is so emotional to me.
Whomever styled him still deserves our applause. The hat and head covering under… Everything!
True
He's cleaner than the Board of Health in that white!
Yes
Cleaner than a bar of soap 💯
90’s style a lot of dudes used to dress like that, I agree with u tho
This nigga at the end grabbing her drink like "not this shit again."😂😂😂
Ikr
Oh shit that is a great spin on things! I totally see that now.
this is Karl Kani
lol
Davy B. dang that is him ! I never knew that. I wonder how did they end up doing this together. karl Kani clothes was hot around this time though.
I finally understand this song
Explain
Me too
Please explain
explain my eng is not perfect
Like any dude he wants his cake & to eat it too basically . But he dont wanna completely cut her off . He wanna fool with other girls but dont wanna feel bad by cheating so he breaks up with her to have sex with other girls then when he see he missing out on the real love he go tryna get her back because having sex with random hoes aint all that
this is hands down my top 5 R&B songs of all time ... kids from this gen will never know the nostalgic feel
Facts
Hands down #1 for me❤
what people have to understand is that LUST comes at you so fast that most mistake it for love...if youve been with someone since teenage years, it typically starts out as lust and may eventually lead to love, but by that time you feel stuck and pressured and feel like youve missed out on something that may have been truly for you or not. The painful part is leaving to find out, only to find out that their isnt anything out there and try to double back to what you had and he/she is gone. Main point is, dont jump into something that started out based on lust that grew to love or you will find yourself standing outside a mf window singing "sweedledeeedoooodeeedeeee"
💯 ❤
This is not the real story. According to his Unsung or TV one story. He was already cheating and messing with another woman. His wife suspected this. She asked him if he still loved her and wanted to be married? He couldn't answer. She said ill make the decision. I want you gone. She went back to Chicago where there from. So he cleaned the story up real well in this video but this isn't what he actually did. Nice song and I'm still and fan. His honest feelings should be heard and respected. I just hate when the Black mother of your kids is there through the lean and poor times. Then when you make it big You want to bounce after she relocated all the way to the East coast. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
That’s only u casual sex people who don’t know how to wait. Y’all not even the majority
@@goddessyamato5238 lol yea ok
Not standing outside the window singing “sweedoooodeeee”🤣😂😭😂🤣. Hilarity!
The Nostalgia hits hard on this one though...lol! Back when music was both full of soul and significance.
No truer words spoken...
Exactly!
Periodt I was just listening too it hard asf like you betta 😆
have you actually listened to those lyrics
@Honin Akecheta I would argue that sweetdideedumdeedoodeedee is pretty significant.
I love all the kids who grew up on this song, now understand what the lyrics 🤣🤣🤣 swaddleeedoooooo do dooooo
Back when women were natural and presented themselves so beautifully! 💯
exactly Donell. leave. don't cheat, just leave
He did both, the moral is she forgave and understood. Imagine a woman doing that.
Women do it ALL the time...if we didn't, marriage would not exist!
+Marva Michelle jeffars
Chel X you and him right. don't cheat just be out
Chel X true
90s and early 2000 outfits were so fresh!!!!!! DAMN I MISS THIS ERA!!!!!
I know!! I was 16 when this came out
No doubt about it
Darius Magada-Ward i still rock it them sometimes
Yes it was
"do I leave, do I stay, do I go" I felt that😩
Now that I’m older, this hit different.
Yesssss
So clear
Hitting so hard at this moment 😢
So many years later and i can hear the Stevie Wonder influence in this song. One of the best songs in his catalog.
My gosh…. You are absolutely right …. As many times as I have listened to this song…. I have never thought to make the comparison
Amazing
This do sound like it was influenced by Stevie Wonder
I'm always so glad I'm not the only one who can see this.
Every time I listen to his music, I hear a hint of Stevie Wonder. (I'm a big fan of both.) His voice sounds very identical to Stevie Wonder's, and it's absolutely perfect to hear.
Now that you mentioned it I do hear it 🐐
He's free to go and try new things. To each his own. Just know your key isn't going to work if you decide to come back.
Woah! Thats deep
faaaccctttssss
💯
itsme516 - Yeah, because I'll be there with the new key when he gets back.
Lol you know his damn key go fit . Lmao how many people said that and still let them back in .. lol
Still invokes powerful feelings in 2019.
By the time that freak sees where he wants to be I will be long gone where I want to be which is with a man who has a moral compass and self control over his lust and 3D mind 🤢 that freak would be dead to me
♒️💫
Personally i don't think you should fuck around with someone for that long and then decide you wanna see what life is like. Like no, that just means you never loved her.
You don't understand a man if you think that...
So you wouldn't mind if your boyfriend of YEARS just comes up and says "hey its been great but i want to be single now."
Alexis Reduvon It wouldn't feel very good but at the end of the day, people do change, especially with age. If you're with somebody from high school, chances are high that you will not be with them during or after college because that's when the change usually comes. Recently one of my family members broke up with her partner of 12 yrs that she was with since 9th grade just months before their wedding. It happens all the time.
I understand. I was just giving MY personal opinion.
Ashley Williams 50% divorce rate in The US.
my ex played this song for me when we took a break . now he’s passed away . pls pray for me 💔
God bless you
Need a shoulder to cry on?
Sweedodududdeeedee
@@laclipps1 you the worst cuz lmao
Praying for you 🙏🏽
@@AtheneHolder trying to spread the love. Lol
Ladies... NEVER allow a dude to make you wait while he goes out and breaks other women’s heart. When he asks for space, just worry about yourself at this point. 🤷🏽♀️
it's not just about the ladies. We all need to be made aware. Women do the same damn thing when they meet a guy they think is a "good guy" but they still in their ho'in phase. I would know.
Yes, he wanted time to smash other women.😂
Let's be honest though 75 percent of black women will never be married!
Ms S.M, this is the thing: this a teenage love that went to about 24-25, you don't know, who you are, what you like, what you love, what you hate, your desires, your feelings, etc.. So if you in this situation you have a 85% failure rate. IF YOU in your 30's/40's and don't know you, you messed up choosing that person from jump.
Grown man: BI
i agree, and don't wait on him either.. life too short
In 2024 still listening to u ...
Me
all time favorite song
I understand his lust and where he's coming from considering they were together so long. However, he has to accept the fact that she may not take him back in the end.
When Karl Kani picks up his drink like nobody has time for this...
LOL!!!!
He was done at that point, and I don't blame him. 😆 😆 😆
He like “I got a street wear empire. I ain’t got time for this shit! Gon on witcha singin ass mf since you out here playin” 🙄😂😂
He looked so annoyed the whole time, then looked out the window like “& here goes this mf” 😂😂🤣🤣
@@JM_HUh 🤣🤣🤣🤣
YOU HAVE TO BE AN ADULT OR MATURE PERSON TO UNDERSTAND THE SONG, HE HAS BEEN WITH THE GIRL FOR SO LONG ALL THROUGH THEIR TEENAGE YEARS AND NOW HE IS TRYING TO DECIDE IF HE WANTS TO CONTINUE THE RELATIONSHIP OR DEAL WITH OTHER PEOPLE. WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO DATE AND HAVE FUN BUT HE HAS BEEN WITH HER SO LONG HE MISSED OUT ON ALL OF THAT. HE WOULD RATHER LEAVE THAN TO CHEAT AND HURT HER BUT EITHER WAY HE IS GOING TO HURT HER BECAUSE SHE STILL WANTS TO BE WITH HIM. A MAN HAS TO HAVE TIME TO GROW AND WHEN THEIR READY TO SETTLE THEY WILL. I WOULD RATHER MY BOYFRIEND BE REAL AND LET ME KNOW HE NEEDS A BREAK THAN TO CHEAT ON ME WHICH THE SORRY BASTARD DID.
Just read your comment and agreed with you. That's exactly why I love this song too. I understand and respect him for letting her know.
Your point at the end was hilarious.
YES I LOVE THIS SONG HE KEPT IT REAL SOME DUDES WOULD JUST STAY AND LIE
This is so exactly true!
Love this song, BUT let's reverse this and see how the Males would take this.....
Not so good, huh??!! #youarefreetogo #nomoretears 😭😏
RIGHT THEY THINK THEY CAN DO WTF THEY WANT WHILE WE WAIT AROUND:(
Wise woman. I like that you took that a man needs to grow from this song. This is a very honest song
Man didn't get enough credit 4 his work.
Didn't know he still makes albums?
He didn’t sell his soul to the gatekeepers of the industry 😈
This is one of those albums that you just let play all the way through.
Exactly. I still have the album and it goes hard. I really like the way Donell Jones sings.
Yassss
@@genesisbrooksviverette2809 www
Love this album!
facts
Sweedilseedumdeedumdeedee means “I hate this woman” in greek. Weel done, sir.
Dead? That's dope asf
that's a f*** lie.... haha
😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm can't stop laughing at work..🤣🤣
He's teaching a life lesson, don't make the mistakes he made with a woman you love..Don't just hear the song listen to the message.
Still popping in 2022!! Back down memory lane 💯💯💯💯
Right there with you!!
My childhood favorite song & still love this song
I know!
@@tameikawatts4586 okkkk back in baby Daddy days!!! Lol Good times!!!
😂Facts 💯💯💯
I heard this so much on the radio growing up i didn't even know this song had a video.
yo lee ive never seen it either bit this was my jam still listenin 12/17
yo lee go smacked and South Africa 🇿🇦
Word
I did
My man keep telling me this line too it sad it hurt
Back when they had QUEENS in the videos
Say that for the ppl in the back
Another one Top Number One Music Artists Pick of the Week 😇
This song teaches you that it’s best to leave those lust thoughts as thoughts because sometimes you stepping out or away from what you love will only hurt you and make you realize you only need that person!🗣 2022 and I’m still listening I’m 17 years old btw I know a lot.
I’m 17 as well, & this song is good & has great meaning 🙏🏽💯❤️
@@queenschannel768 Me too 😂
@@halo-august3452 😂😂❤️
Me too😭😭😭
@@marsshawtytv23 ❤❤😘
3:45 my dude was like "ooo let me just sip all this tea that's being spilled 😯☕"
This a song that will forever be on my playlist..i wonder what happened to homie.
Cezar Stone They threw an old school concert here in cleve oh about 2 months ago and he performed. If you google him some dates and cities he'll be at might come up.
Foxyron Carroll thanks i'm definitely gonna do that.
Cezar Stone He didn't go nowhere man. He made some songs in the past few years. check out his Wikipedia it will show you his current singles
O ok Kelvin L Love Jr
Great song!this song together with " WITH YOU" by Four were my favorites.have searched high and low for "With you" and cant seem to find it anywhere!!!
Damn this song till today I still get chills when I listen to it.
Yeah my ex girlfriend treated me like that I'm so stressed out
who here remembers "Midnight Love" on BET!😂
Meee
Yesssss
Had my young ass in my feels like a mug 😫😂
Yesssssss 😂❤️
Hilarious
This is a classic that deserves to be in the time capsule. All time one of the most underrated timeless songs of all time.
You all are wrong about the true meaning of this song it's not about him cheating or about him thinking about it. This song is about him second guessing if he is still in love with her and if she is truly the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with
He clarifies in "Where you are", the official part 2 to this song. It was on the album after this one. However they didnt promote it correctly. Fuckin GREAT song!!!
If a woman or man leaves there partner let them go because look at the video how selfish he was he was in bed with another woman just like my x was with my best friend she texted me to tell me the truth if they leave you and Cheat they will do it again best to remain friends and forgive and enjoy your life both of them
+Kya Cald People take the video and forget to truly listen to the lyrics.. The video only clearly detracts people from hearing the message
+David Fender David I believe all of us feel lyrics like dancing and maybe it was my personal feelings inside me who knows sending love to all everyone is going threw something my friend happy new year soon to all
+David Fender . . . LMAO! No, baby. Perhaps you need to re-listen to the lyrics. "But there's a lot of LUST inside of me." What do you think that implies/insinuates? Take it from a licensed sexologist. Sex? Relationships? I deal with this on a daily basis. I realize that this is just a "song", but the time to figure out "where one wants to be" is NOT when someone has fully invested and committed themselves to you. (One, two, three, four years down the line.)
You have to be REAL with yourself and with your partner/other half. If you want "casual", keep it casual. If you want "committed", keep it committed. Don't make bullshit excuses afterwards. To do so is only a waste of everyone's time. ;-)
Give this man his flowers 🌷🌹🌷 definitely under rated 🌹💐💐 love "have to find out what life is like without you" 😊 hurt people Hurt People 💔
I’m here trying to be in my feelings, but these comments are taking me out. Thanks y’all. 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
yeen bullshittn😂😂😂
Lol 😂
In my feelings now
😆
Need that Donell Jones vs Avant verzuz
Ohh yeah right place wrong time sitting here stuck in the middle of the mascarade with you my shit
Facts we need it pls
I'd like to see DJ vs Case.
112 vs Next
Yesss
And once he figured out where he wanted to be, I would've been with someone else...
No one needs a woman like that anyway. If a woman is willing to leave that quickly, she wasn't worth keeping anyway and the guy would have been right to evaluating the situation in the first place.
If going out and having sexy with a bunch of other women helps you realize the worth of original relationship, he wasn't the right type of man, and she would be smart to move on, VERY quickly.
Imani Mitchell hey at least he's not a cheater lol
cody major hes basically the same thing,... i respect honesty but if you dont know if you can keep it in your pants why start a relationship in the first place?
Rose Madison exactly!
When you love someone you just don’t treat them bad since my last girl left me I really understand now, you don’t neglect or disrespect a girl you say you love if you love her always make her feel loved 💯
Honesty is the story here. Pure honesty from his heart. Everyone has the right to give and receive the gift of truth. When you love someone you don't treat them bad. Period. If someone cries out to you for anything, ignoring them is the best way to show your true colors...how heartless you can truly be. I myself always want too see the worst and the best in the other person, so I can love and understand them properly. I don't understand people that stay where they don't want to be. Leave. It may kill both of you emotionally, it is worth it in the end. Apologizing is the only thing you can do. Life is nothing if you are not happy. 💛🌻
Beautifully written, Samantha.❤️🩹
Amen!
Starting the New Year off of 2021 with some “Sweedildeedumdeedumdeeedeee”
This song STILL go hard!
Ive never been in a relationship before but Bruh , when she’s in bed with tears rolling down her face breaks my heart 💔 . Ill never do someone’s daughter like this 💔
Never is a strong word mate
Please don't believe in love real love and be free after you love them for them now that's love
youre amazing for this comment!! you'll find someone that matches your energy.
You deserve a queen🔥
Said it to bruh it all depends on the situation you find yourself in. You truly don't know until you get there and none of these never word you said in the past won't even matter.
Years ago, this song haunted me because it represented a truth in my life that I didn't want to face.
DoubleGem damn
@@tretucker8004 thank you for feeling me on this, "oh how i feel do sad now that i wanna leave"
You still with him?
@@det3135 no
considering that's no longer where you are, clearly it wasn't for you sis #LiveLearnAndLove
In this song, it truly isn't about cheating or being with someone else. It's about a brother sorting his oats. Instead of him staying in the relationship and sorting his oats(cheating)he decides to write her a letter stating he wouldn't be coming home. Thumbs up to the brothers that does this,because it takes a real man to be able to do this and not drag the woman he loves through his escapades. However, don't expect her to be there when you finish. Learn the lesson!!!
That's still a messed up situation
It breaks my heart to witness the raw honesty shared by DJ in this timeless and poignant masterpiece. To truly comprehend the wrongness of abandoning someone who truly loves you, DJ’s girl should have made him feel the pain of being treated as a mere rebound by not taking him back. Taking DJ back is an extended invitation to DJ that its ok to treat her poorly. He won't ever respect her, and the cycle of lustful ghosting will happen again. Breaking a trauma bond after a betrayal can consume the strongest of us. Seek clinicle help and live your best life. The second ghosting breaks you mentally. Let them go when they ask you to do so. The stress isnt worth the pain to keep them.
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This statement is so true yeah im glad he broke it off instead of cheating on her but when the eye wonders again he is gone or whenever things get hard guess what he is gone because now you gave him or her permission to leave when the going gets tough. Just go ahead and let him go the person God has for you is not going to leave you ❤
@@coleyboot1we they was together since they were teenagers he as a right to see if that was really where he wanted to be , and so did she
@@shadonnamarie93I never said he didn't re read the message
He had a Lowkey underrated career Donnell Jones, Case, Joe, avant all were very underrated. Who else am I missing? 😐
Malik Jones musiq soulchild
Dave Hollister
Sisqo
Jaheem
Anthony Hamilton
Still love this song in 2019!!! Classic R&B🖤❤🖤❤