Being a Step-Parent| Challenges & Tips for a Blended Family | Can you Love All Children Equally?

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  • Step-parenting brings unique challenges that can test even the strongest families. In this video, my parents share the ups and downs of being a step-parent and raising a blended family. Can you truly love all children equally, and what does that look like in real life? We shared practical tips, personal experiences, and advice on navigating the step-parent role.
    What You’ll Learn in This Video:
    🌟 Key challenges step-parents face and how to overcome them
    🌟 How to build strong, trusting relationships with stepchildren
    🌟 Tips for managing feelings of jealousy, favoritism, and guilt
    🌟 Real-life advice for loving all children in a blended family
    Whether you’re just starting your step-parenting journey or have been at it for a while, this video offers valuable advice to help you foster a loving and harmonious blended family.
    #stepparenting #blendedfamily #lisakusiima

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  • @BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4t
    @BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4t 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Dear Lisa,being able to host both parents is a big win on your side

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      A win is a win🥳

    • @princesseyamalayo9331
      @princesseyamalayo9331 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Also being bold and courteous at the same time is a plus Lisa👏👏👏

  • @nantumejulie9578
    @nantumejulie9578 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    thanks Lisa.,.am soon entering this kind of marriage wth my 3 kids ....i found this very helpful and am surely guided...thanks alot

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glad it was helpful!
      May God guide you

    • @Agatha-green
      @Agatha-green 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      thank you for having a womderful heart.

  • @HopeJovia.S
    @HopeJovia.S 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Oh Lisa, thanks for hosting your parents. It's been beautiful to watch ❤. Important points picked.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @kigongowinnie4014
    @kigongowinnie4014 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lisa is a gift to us, we just don't know it yet. She tackles with almost never talked about topics, or if talked about, there is little or no understanding or willingness to get better
    Thank u lisa dear. ❤

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@kigongowinnie4014 I’m honored thank you for the feedback

  • @anonnona6433
    @anonnona6433 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    I also think that when the two adults decide to marry, they can take atleast another year trying to create bonding moments for the children. Let the children start hanging out slowly by slowly, have sleepovers at the different homes to create familiarity and acceptance. I always feel like the adults assume that the children will automatically blend which is not the case. The children should also
    " date" each other before this huge responsibility of living together is thrown onto them 🤷‍♂️

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Eh this is an interesting concept hahaha but how does it play out in reality when the 2 are already married or when dating isn’t long for the parents?

    • @anonnona6433
      @anonnona6433 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@LisaKusiima Whatever the case, if the adults date for 6 months, they should intentionally make the children meet and acclimatise in those six months. 😂 There are some parents who don't inform their children until the last minute. One day it is just you and your mom or dad, the next day, you are thrown into this new dynamic. The adults are learning to live with each other, the children have to accommodate the new parent and siblings, oops, it is too much most especially for a child. 😳Kudos to those who have done their best to make it work.

    • @cathybt
      @cathybt 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@anonnona6433 usually theres a fear to introduce your children early, moreover to a man you are not sure of you'll get married to. ofcourse it's easier said than done but the reality of it is different, remember you are also trying to get to know each other and see if your values align.
      of course for long dating it can definitely work but not short dating

  • @mirembehellen5387
    @mirembehellen5387 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Lisa, thank you so much for bringing your parents to discuss such a sensitive topic. Our perspective of step mothers has been the opposite. For those who have not been good to their stepchildren, this is the time to learn. Bless you

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Indeed time to reassess and pick something

  • @GladysYiga
    @GladysYiga 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow! Lisa this is so unique. Addressing these sticky issues. I love your Dad and Mum, they are so humble. God has made them a blessing

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you so much!

  • @mercynassali7176
    @mercynassali7176 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for handling this so beautifully. We thank God for these great parents

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are so kind

  • @irenekaigo8847
    @irenekaigo8847 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    You have amazing parents, Lisa

  • @anonnona6433
    @anonnona6433 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Thanks for bringing your bonus mom! And yes, y'all can organise a fully paid trip for them to have a honeymoon 😂....Hopefully, one day you get to share about your bio mom. Titus and your other siblings could join you for that( if they are up to it) The beautiful memories you have about her, the lessons, and the trauma of losing a mom at a young age most especially as a girl. Did you have therapy or life had ro just go on? May she continue to rest in peace.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You girl therapy those days was unheard of those days. But we thank God for healing and strength

    • @orishabafranklineisabelah5144
      @orishabafranklineisabelah5144 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@LisaKusiimaso Lisa this is your dad and step mom?

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@orishabafranklineisabelah5144 yes

  • @kihembodoreen7368
    @kihembodoreen7368 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for sharing your story and giving us a much needed reminder that, this blended family coming together is a blessing and like your dad said, The blessing of the LORD makes one rich, And He adds no sorrow with it.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kihembodoreen7368 surely Gods gifts are good

  • @Agatha-green
    @Agatha-green 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Lisa wow thank you for this. This is powerful.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You are welcome

  • @wancaroline.865
    @wancaroline.865 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Lisa Lisa, wowwww thank you so much, May God continue using you to create beautiful families. Your such a blessing and you wa surely born for a time such as this, when there’s so much negativity and less hope for workable marriages n now blended families. Thank you for Hope🙏

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@wancaroline.865 I’m so humbled thank you so much

  • @catherinekworoba
    @catherinekworoba 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for sharing this Lisa. It really can't be easy

  • @faithmutamba1333
    @faithmutamba1333 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Daddy's profile must be Lisa's drive... hoh!!👐

  • @estherakello9638
    @estherakello9638 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lisa and daddy seem to be buddies 😂😂😂
    Wow, lovely step mom being called mummy by her step dota. Very beautiful.
    Loved the discussion. God bless y'all 🙏🏿🙏🏿

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@estherakello9638 thank you for watching

  • @matsiko01
    @matsiko01 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lisa, Loved this interview. Thanks for hosting them, there is a lot to learn. Love is a beautiful thing and God can still make it happen. May God bless them with many more years. Sitting and listening to them speak has taught us alot. Much love.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks thanks for watching.
      I’m glad it was helpful

  • @UnpopularDiscussion
    @UnpopularDiscussion 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lisa kumbe, you are God fearing because you had God fearing father/parents🙏🏿. So sorry for your loss dear. You deserve every blessings.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes they are God fearing ☺️

  • @atukundachristine2563
    @atukundachristine2563 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Beauty with brains 😍 I have loved your eloquency Lisa

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@atukundachristine2563 Thanks for the feedback

  • @gracenamale9257
    @gracenamale9257 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dear Lisa, thanks for this interview. It is so helpful for parents who find themselves in such situations

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are so welcome!

  • @amandabridget1375
    @amandabridget1375 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is such a beautiful video with so many gems 🥰 I hope that the notion that all stepmothers are bad can be over changed by sharing of such success stories.
    Thank you the Ngandas for sharing 😊
    Thank you Lisa for sharing your parents with us 🥰

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you so much 😊 .
      I’m glad we could share

  • @kansiimemaureen1354
    @kansiimemaureen1354 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh wow, I know your parents from church. Wonderful people and thanks for sharing these experiences.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kansiimemaureen1354 You are welcome

  • @melodykukundakwe3581
    @melodykukundakwe3581 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The Ngandas ❤❤❤ we thank God for this testimony

  • @elon4584
    @elon4584 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great to hear Uncle Philemon and Aunt Bernadine's story..welldone Lisa 😊

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for watching Elon

  • @BrendaYiiki
    @BrendaYiiki 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This was beautiful to watch...loved the honesty

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are welcome

  • @dennismawanda9121
    @dennismawanda9121 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow it's so educating Lisa thanks for hosting your dear parents bse the way this world is evolving we are going to find ourselves in this kind of life iv learnt alot thank you

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you thank you

  • @berthatendo8776
    @berthatendo8776 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Lisa you are so creative and funny, i like how you match your photos to the theme/topic

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hahah trying to be as creative as possible

  • @belindanamutebi-thebrandsl8417
    @belindanamutebi-thebrandsl8417 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for hosting your dear parents. The energy is good.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Our pleasure!

    • @raykye4711
      @raykye4711 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes Lisa this was a good gesture!
      This topic is sensitive and yet a big number of people are finding themselves in these arrangements and it seems they don't get time to internalize these things before committing.
      We have cases of many young people having children out of wedlock which makes them end up in blended families and the katogo can be too much.
      The sharing was so helpful ❤

  • @samak5075
    @samak5075 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very good, honest conversations, and i like that the moderator style.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I appreciate the feedback

  • @chrisnkundizana7029
    @chrisnkundizana7029 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Am 8 minutes in the interview but i love the way Lisa keeps lauging at the Dad....🤣😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Heheheh. He is so funny

  • @pollynagaba8631
    @pollynagaba8631 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wonderful sharing from My friend philemon

  • @drcissyatwine
    @drcissyatwine 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    thanks for sharing.. loved hearing your parents story 🙂

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@drcissyatwine Thanks for watching

  • @blessedemma983
    @blessedemma983 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The power of a healthy marriage.....beautiful fruits.. 🙏🙏

  • @cathybt
    @cathybt 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    great conversation, so much i have picked for future use, i hope my future husband has also watched, lol.
    hopefully with time you get to share with us your experience as a child in a blended family, and your step sibling too shares theirs so we can get the perspective from both sides.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      One day one day hopefully 😊😊😃

    • @patriciaatwongyeirwe8441
      @patriciaatwongyeirwe8441 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wow....thank you Lisa for this unique topic.I am sure many viewers have benefited.
      I love the way you relate with your mom.Keep it up gal❤

    • @patriciaatwongyeirwe8441
      @patriciaatwongyeirwe8441 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I also love the way your Dad keeps referring to scripture and your mom keeps giving all credit to God❤

  • @stellakatendenakitende6200
    @stellakatendenakitende6200 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This was vry helpful n beautiful to watch❤🥰🥰. Thank you for sharing

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @Mistromah01Docus
    @Mistromah01Docus 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Lisa you're blessed ❤❤you have daddy looks wow 🥰

  • @blessedankunda972
    @blessedankunda972 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Most parents dont take initiative of involving children in decision making

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I know. Maybe it’s also hard for them to bring it up

    • @blessedankunda972
      @blessedankunda972 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@LisaKusiima I pray one day u host some coming from a family where parents are in the same house(ngatebakwatagana) it's really a hard things to cope up am still struggling with its consequences. Maybe someone can share how to relieve that pain

    • @presht5596
      @presht5596 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Prayer and forgiveness. Intentional prayer. Not taking things personal and focusing more on you and how you react. God is the ultimate help in such situations beyond our control. Of course step by step and acknowledging everything. ​@@blessedankunda972

  • @vikyjozi6499
    @vikyjozi6499 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Well done Lisa.But in other news how does Royal resemble your dad and your husband Mr.Mugisa at the same time.God is amazing. I loved seeing your parents as our story didn't turn out so well.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@vikyjozi6499 hahah I guess the gene 🧬 is from them both.
      Sorry about your experience 🥹

  • @motherofnation30
    @motherofnation30 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Our stepmother came in three years after the loss of our mum but she first showed us her good side not until she turned into a snake. Right now she only needs her three children home one of which she came with and also her family members

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Ohhh nooo! I am so sorry

  • @gloriaasiatizu2011
    @gloriaasiatizu2011 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Wow!
    Your parents did it very differently.
    My bonus mom came with a mindset completely different from your moms and life wadnt easy for us at all.

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I’m so so sorry. Can’t imagine the hurt you went through. May God bring healing

  • @AgathaIradukunda
    @AgathaIradukunda 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The step mums competing for love is real. These women even make men take the kids they have with them as the only kids hence the presence of a father is neglected and denied to other kids 😢😢😢

    • @BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4t
      @BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4t 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I agree with you 100%..However,some dont compete at all.

    • @stellanamuwaya4294
      @stellanamuwaya4294 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@@BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4tehh ur here😂

    • @BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4t
      @BRENDAOWOMUGISHA-i4t 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@stellanamuwaya4294i see you

    • @LisaKusiima
      @LisaKusiima  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That’s so so bad

    • @GladysYiga
      @GladysYiga 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I love that sensible step mums choose to love all the children. So with that attitude, there is no way they can manipulate the dad. It takes the fear of God