I had a stepfather and he was awesome. Took on 4 of us when I was 4 and even though they divorced when I was 16 he was always in our lives. He was our Dad and he passed when I was 28. He just wanted to make sure we all grew up and could take care of ourselves and be responsible productive members of society. I loved him. Frederick Louis Happ was a good, honest, patient,caring man. We were lucky to have him in our lives. I'm 56 now so we were kids from the 70s.
My stepfather was my Dad. He took on three more TEENAGERS and never let us go even after they divorced. The best role model I ever had. Miss him every day of the last 18 years. AJK, you are the best!
Same! I butted heads so much with my step daughter. It wasn’t until later she told me because she was angry that I was the father she was supposed to have had.
When I gave birth, I looked at my boy and in wonder, had no idea who he was. A little old Italian man came out. I thought I would know him. I would watch him grow and change and I thought I knew him. I am still learning who this grown man is. It's been amazing!
One of the most profound things I have heard was recently. Wish I knew this 40 years ago when I started having children. It was... You are not a carpenter with all the boards and nails and hammer and saw trying to build your children, you are a gardener with a seed that you need to nourish and watch grow and then sit back and see what your child becomes.
Also like a gardener you need to prune the shoots sometimes when they reach for things that are going to damage them or those around them. Being a gardener is vigilant work but so worth it.
That’s why I love my children,4 individuals and non of them are the same.All different personalities and hobbies and dreams .All from the same mother and father yet so much different individuals.I respect them and love them for who they are❤.To all parents out there love your children unconditionally
Like my Dad. He started dating my mom when i was 15. They married when i was 28. He walked me down the aisle. He was a jersey navy guy. Very stoic, very blunt. Called me a failure a few times. That i never lived up to my potential. Yes he could be mean, but if i ever needed anything, he was there. If i was sick, he'd have brought me a case of oj and a box of soup. My son was ill, he was doing what he could from the shadows. He never outwardly did anything. Till my Mom died this last March. He cried. Cried. I had never seen that man cry. Except at my wedding. He said he was sorry, that he should have taken a more father role in our lives. I just hugged him and said he was the only father i knew, and i loved him. He passed in August that same year. He just couldn't keep going without my mom.
Sad that mothers push the biological fathers out in so many cases or smaller percentage pick poor choices then random men step in but often they are predators to children or preyed on by the mother for resources. Sickening ..
My father was similar, after a lifetime of clashing, we made our peace 10 years before cancer finally took him. It must have been very confusing for men of the last generation to watch their daughters with so much potential and all rights, forge their own track thru this world, fail, fall and rise again.Before he died, my father told me he was proud of me and that he finally came to understand. Dear Daddy, one of the best! ❤
@@Elizabeth-gz4kc You were actually very fortunate; that kind of hard earned respect is generally the best - especially once the apparent 'ice' has melted, and the true parental love comes through!
I don't know why but your comment made me start crying out of nowhere. I guess because it's true. And so well said. "the most important person you'll ever know.."
Imagine if all parents apologized, took complete responsibility, without blaming anyone or anything but themselves, we would have a ton of healthy adults. How profound and beautiful that he understood this. ❤
Sometimes the apologies came so little so late that you wouldn't want it at all. To watch a growm woman terminally ill to bare the "apologies" of her own mother bc the mother always was right and she was the one in pain (not the sick woman) Made me wanna unalive that old woman.
This is one thing I definitely do with my kids when I mess up. They’re 4 and 2, but if I make the mistake, I get down on their level and look them in the eye and apologize. My dad for all his faults, has ALWAYS done this. My in-laws never once have apologized to my husband for so many things they did wrong. But we both make it a point to apologize to our kids when we are wrong. It’s so so so important they see what that looks like.
Healing is important for everyone. But in an era where the trend are self-indulge and self-entitlement the line between what someone expects and what true justice is, it’s really hard to see. I can’t imaging anything more arrogant than grown children (adults) expecting apologises from their parents when there is no intended offense but simply mistakes. There is no a perfect parenting manual and the most important signal which shows you really reached maturity in life is when you stop blaming your parents for your own wrong decisions. Forgiveness works in both senses.
Every one deserves that one gift in life when someone says something profound to you and in your heart you are saying "Finally!", but with your words you say "Thank you." She is so lucky to have received that gift.
My stepfather was wonderful. Worked hard to provide for his family. I was lucky to have him in my life. He knew what i went through without being present. ❤❤♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
The ability to learn (especially after a lifetime) and express that you were wrong is a pure form of finally arriving at emotion intelligence. Im sad that Tigg...this courageous woman...wasnt appreciated by him for many years...but I am glad that her step father finally gained the ability to see her as a person,a person who was deserving of empathy, grace amd understanding. Im so glad he was able to admit his faults to her. And hopefully now they can have the type of relationship that they should have always been able to have. My hats off to Tigg and her stepfather. I hope for nothing but the best for their relationship.
I was a problem child in our family, they called me a black sheep in the family..I am also the most clever in all of my siblings especially in academic..and our financial status goes deeper in nothing and we struggle just to survive and God turned around who I am, God saved me and God used my life from a black sheep to.a blessings in the family .I became the channel of God's grace to our family, I completely offered my life to God to used my life for my family and others but really especially for my family, I stayed single so that my focus is completely for my family because they really needed my help, my parents was so proud ,thankful, on both before they were taken by God they conveyed their gratitude and thanked me everything I did and still doing.. it's God's miracle of turning ashes into gold, that's what God did to me.i single handedly support my whole family by God's grace. And I'm still doing till now and continue to do till God brings me home in heaven
Black Sheep is often the best person, who is the one to take abuse from others, so they don't fight with each other. It's a person to unload their unhappiness. Because Black Sheep takes it on herself and doesn't fight back.
Just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss! But remember that he probably understands now. Just let go anything that makes you wonder why they didn't understand. Bless you!
My sister a single mom died last yr..i wondered abt my Nephew..tried to drill ideas thoughts n what not..now i understand i got to understand him..thanks ppl
Wow. I’ve never thought about my relationships with my grown children this way before….but it’s very true, isn’t it? It makes so much sense though. My daughter and her husband have a precious 2 yr-old, and they both light up when I tell them what wonderful parents they are being with our granddaughter. I meant it. And now I see how powerful that is for them, and I see them both as struggling parents, just praying they’re doing the best they can. And that’s EXACTLY how my wife and I felt raising our 2 children. Thank you SO, SO much for sharing this with us!
Wow. That wasn’t done for me so I decided, way before I had children, that, if I ever did, I would do that for them. And, I’ve done my best to do that.
Breath taking moment, just because your children don't fit the mold in life we anticipate them follow, it's not our job to reshape them. They are created exactly the way, they were meant to be. Our job is simple, Love them and encourage them.
It's quite common. Mother always wanted something for me that I didn't want, and I thought that meant she didn't love me. We grew old together, and she told me late in life she was quite proud of me but insisted that I was always her strangest child. 😂 She was a sweetheart, and I miss her every day.
@ 54 i figured this out @ 22 looking at my first born who is now transitioned😢. Grateful I get to assist my living children to become their soulful selves.
That's assuming your parents are adults. Mine were broken children even in old age. Both were narcissists, and my father was an alcoholic, too. Dad died in 1989, and I barely remember how that felt. Mom died just this past September at age 95, and even though I lowered her cremains into the grave with my own 2 hands, I felt nothing. I have yet to shed one tear. I am left to wonder if I am hollow inside.
If you are hollow inside it's because your mother didn't fill that hole with love as she should have done but the wonderful thing is someone that you choose to have in your life can fill that hole. My mother also died just September gone. I didn't shed a tear either but I'm lucky I have the hole that she left empty filled many times by wonderful mother figures.
@@bridgetlennon4154 Thank you for this. I have wonderful friends, and that is more than sufficient at my age (76), but I still think my non-reaction to Mom's death was weird. Since you are a stranger, I can admit that even though I took excellent care of her for 12 years (and everybody I know has been pointing that out), I did not love her. I treated out interactions like a job that I couldn't quit.
What a GRACE, that your FATHER realized it before it was to late. Some Parents with bad habitual codependency think they know every thing eventhoug I am a half century. old¿¿¿
Omg..... That really hit home for me!! I had a hardish life, born in the sixties, no one ever helped! I was called stupid and a tube, and a balloon..... I asked one day, " what does that mean?" Was told I was was an empty vessel!
I had something similar happen with my step dad and when he admitted he was wrong, and said sooo sorry, it touched me deeply. I have most respect for him, he's wonderful.
I said something similar to a young man who was about to become a father for the first time. He was very sweet and asked what my mom did right in raising me. He had a rough relationship with his parents, and he was nervous he would screw up his own kid. I told him to just listen to his kid from day one. That they would tell him who they were, all he had to do was respect that and listen. He realized how much that is exactly what he wanted from his own parents and he felt much more at ease.
My husband took on my children as his own 28 years ago. He changed nappies, fed, cooked, loved, laughed and did everything a real Dad would do. He is their Dad. Each of our grandchildren have totally different characters and are treated as such. They are treated the same but differently depending on their character. It's amazing to realise how they are all growing up and understanding each one. They are all so loved. Amazing love ❤️
I always felt there are two phrases that are nice to hear, but seldom sincere. I’m sorry and thank you. I once was backstabbed by a co-worker and after I turned and walked away she realized how wrong she was. Later she called me and confessed what she did and said she was sorry. Will I forgive her. I was so shocked! I have never been asked for forgiveness before those words rocked my world. At that moment I did truly forgive her. Since then I make sure that my apologies are not just genuine but I ask for forgiveness. Makes a HUGE difference.
I remember asking my stepdad if he still wanted to be my family... I didn't know if he would just walk away. I was older at the time. But still needed the guidance of a parent.
When I came out to my parents age 34, my father told me that he always thought, something is wrong with me. We never talked about this issue again , he died three years ago after a long illness where I constantly cared about him and my mother and I hoped till the end that he finds something positive about me to say. I have a daughter and she knows that I stand aside her and love her, whatever she does, unconditionally...
Took me a lifetime to realize this but I finally did with my own child and even my dog (she's very aloof and 15yo so no change is coming). The things is I accept others people just as they are, but the people closest - especially family you have expectations - and it's much harder to to accept them as they are...
This hit hard, I have bpd and my father found it so hard to love me no matter how much I tried in the beginning, he passed away Dec 20 2021 and now I'll never know a father's love
Stoic is wiser, stonewalling person lacks the proper discernment. A stoic would have remained unheard but not unseen nor lacks support. Bravo for him to finally connect with true stoicism. ❤
It’s my job as a mother to support and guide my children as they figure out who they are. I share my wisdom and experience to help them as much as I can, but I also know that they have to have their own experiences and make their own mistakes to become who they are going to be. I have always been honest with them, and that is why they feel safe enough to come to me, knowing that I will not crucify them when they mess up. I can’t live their lives for them, but I can do everything I can to help navigate them through the dangers and obstacles they may not be aware of without crippling their curiosity and willingness to take chances. I want to raise kind, thoughtful, educated people that want to help create a better world for themselves and those around them, not programmed cattle for the low wage labor force!!
It seems like he wanted to express his deep love for her, but the absence of her mother introduced a sense of finality or loss in their relationship. Maybe he felt that her mother’s presence was a bond or support that held them together, and without it, things might drift apart. It’s a vulnerable and heartfelt sentiment.
The reason a lot of men are stoic is because we have to be. You don’t make excuses when it comes to making a life for your family, you just get shit done. That’s why we have a hard time understanding.
Your father is(was) always learning as you were also but I wish I had heard those words your father, my mother, said! I'm glad you got to Hear that from your step dad
I have a huge respect for people who have the ability to say “I’m sorry”. People who own their failures are people with integrity.
Well said.
I agree. Wish my parents would say I'm sorry😢
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I had a stepfather and he was awesome. Took on 4 of us when I was 4 and even though they divorced when I was 16 he was always in our lives. He was our Dad and he passed when I was 28. He just wanted to make sure we all grew up and could take care of ourselves and be responsible productive members of society. I loved him. Frederick Louis Happ was a good, honest, patient,caring man. We were lucky to have him in our lives.
I'm 56 now so we were kids from the 70s.
❤❤❤❤ amazing
❤❤❤❤ beautiful thank you for sharing
My stepfather was my Dad. He took on three more TEENAGERS and never let us go even after they divorced. The best role model I ever had. Miss him every day of the last 18 years. AJK, you are the best!
That's a blessing.
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From a father, especially a step father, this is beautiful and profound ❤
Wrong. Taking a title reserved for God alone is why mortality exist.
@@Little-i4b your arrogance is not appreciated.
Same! I butted heads so much with my step daughter. It wasn’t until later she told me because she was angry that I was the father she was supposed to have had.
When I gave birth, I looked at my boy and in wonder, had no idea who he was. A little old Italian man came out. I thought I would know him. I would watch him grow and change and I thought I knew him.
I am still learning who this grown man is. It's been amazing!
Very validating moment. That one sentence can change everything.
I love Tig. Her comedy is always kind and quirky. She's never hateful.
One of the most profound things I have heard was recently. Wish I knew this 40 years ago when I started having children. It was... You are not a carpenter with all the boards and nails and hammer and saw trying to build your children, you are a gardener with a seed that you need to nourish and watch grow and then sit back and see what your child becomes.
That is so beautiful and perfect. Thank you for sharing that.
Also like a gardener you need to prune the shoots sometimes when they reach for things that are going to damage them or those around them. Being a gardener is vigilant work but so worth it.
That should be the title of a parent book given to all first time parents, its so true.
We are never to grown to grow
And never too old to learn .
That’s why I love my children,4 individuals and non of them are the same.All different personalities and hobbies and dreams .All from the same mother and father yet so much different individuals.I respect them and love them for who they are❤.To all parents out there love your children unconditionally
I am enthralled watching my sons growing into men. I watch them when they are together and when they are not with their siblings. Amazing insight.
Like my Dad. He started dating my mom when i was 15. They married when i was 28. He walked me down the aisle. He was a jersey navy guy. Very stoic, very blunt. Called me a failure a few times. That i never lived up to my potential. Yes he could be mean, but if i ever needed anything, he was there. If i was sick, he'd have brought me a case of oj and a box of soup. My son was ill, he was doing what he could from the shadows. He never outwardly did anything. Till my Mom died this last March. He cried. Cried. I had never seen that man cry. Except at my wedding. He said he was sorry, that he should have taken a more father role in our lives. I just hugged him and said he was the only father i knew, and i loved him. He passed in August that same year. He just couldn't keep going without my mom.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is such an amazing thing that you had that moment.
Sad that mothers push the biological fathers out in so many cases or smaller percentage pick poor choices then random men step in but often they are predators to children or preyed on by the mother for resources. Sickening ..
They shacked up for 13 years? ...notice... "dad" that is.
It‘s the most beautiful description and behaviour, that I have ever read...... a real beautiful soul .....😭😭😭
He was probably prouder of you than you will ever know. ❤
My father was similar, after a lifetime of clashing, we made our peace 10 years before cancer finally took him. It must have been very confusing for men of the last generation to watch their daughters with so much potential and all rights, forge their own track thru this world, fail, fall and rise again.Before he died, my father told me he was proud of me and that he finally came to understand. Dear Daddy, one of the best! ❤
@@Elizabeth-gz4kc You were actually very fortunate; that kind of hard earned respect is generally the best - especially once the apparent 'ice' has melted, and the true parental love comes through!
WOW THAT IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST INSIGHTFUL BEAUTIFUL GIFTS A FATHER OR STEP FATHER COULD EVER GIVE TO A CHILD.
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One Hell of a realization. To be able to say it as - and TO - a living person is a blessing.
Saying, "Im sorry" from the heart, can be hard to say because it's admitting you're wrong or have been wrong! So glad he apologized😢❤🙏🏽
My mom always learned who I was and for that I’m appreciative ! ❤
Tig is an extraordinary teacher of wisdom.
Funerals of the most important person you’ll ever know tend to bless you with unknown clarity of thought and wisdom.
I don't know why but your comment made me start crying out of nowhere. I guess because it's true. And so well said. "the most important person you'll ever know.."
Imagine if all parents apologized, took complete responsibility, without blaming anyone or anything but themselves, we would have a ton of healthy adults. How profound and beautiful that he understood this. ❤
@Godisgreat- 7777 l agree, I wish my dad would. He has NEVER apologized even when he was in the wrong!
Sometimes the apologies came so little so late that you wouldn't want it at all.
To watch a growm woman terminally ill to bare the "apologies" of her own mother bc the mother always was right and she was the one in pain (not the sick woman) Made me wanna unalive that old woman.
@@theresaasian300 Being sorry can be seen in many different ways. It could verbal and nonverbal.
This is one thing I definitely do with my kids when I mess up. They’re 4 and 2, but if I make the mistake, I get down on their level and look them in the eye and apologize. My dad for all his faults, has ALWAYS done this. My in-laws never once have apologized to my husband for so many things they did wrong. But we both make it a point to apologize to our kids when we are wrong. It’s so so so important they see what that looks like.
Healing is important for everyone. But in an era where the trend are self-indulge and self-entitlement the line between what someone expects and what true justice is, it’s really hard to see. I can’t imaging anything more arrogant than grown children (adults) expecting apologises from their parents when there is no intended offense but simply mistakes. There is no a perfect parenting manual and the most important signal which shows you really reached maturity in life is when you stop blaming your parents for your own wrong decisions. Forgiveness works in both senses.
Wish my parents got to know that. "Learn who your child is". Absolutely love that
Your child doesn’t know who they are. This is BS!
Absolutely beautiful … life lessons to learn from. Glad it was said before it was too late
@@tiredgrouchy8943 Children as in offspring............
Every one deserves that one gift in life when someone says something profound to you and in your heart you are saying "Finally!", but with your words you say "Thank you." She is so lucky to have received that gift.
Wish my stepdad had known that lesson. I lived each day feeling I was never enough. Today I know better & am happy with myself & life.
Tig so glad your stepdad had the courage to tell you this. Beautiful!!
My stepfather was wonderful. Worked hard to provide for his family. I was lucky to have him in my life. He knew what i went through without being present. ❤❤♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
The ability to learn (especially after a lifetime) and express that you were wrong is a pure form of finally arriving at emotion intelligence. Im sad that Tigg...this courageous woman...wasnt appreciated by him for many years...but I am glad that her step father finally gained the ability to see her as a person,a person who was deserving of empathy, grace amd understanding. Im so glad he was able to admit his faults to her. And hopefully now they can have the type of relationship that they should have always been able to have. My hats off to Tigg and her stepfather. I hope for nothing but the best for their relationship.
El amor florece y nos hace ver errors cuando sufrimos perdidas Gloria a Dios por revelarnos Que es Amar sin juzgar
Wow
He is wise
Some never learn this
😅
I was a problem child in our family, they called me a black sheep in the family..I am also the most clever in all of my siblings especially in academic..and our financial status goes deeper in nothing and we struggle just to survive and God turned around who I am, God saved me and God used my life from a black sheep to.a blessings in the family .I became the channel of God's grace to our family, I completely offered my life to God to used my life for my family and others but really especially for my family, I stayed single so that my focus is completely for my family because they really needed my help, my parents was so proud ,thankful, on both before they were taken by God they conveyed their gratitude and thanked me everything I did and still doing.. it's God's miracle of turning ashes into gold, that's what God did to me.i single handedly support my whole family by God's grace. And I'm still doing till now and continue to do till God brings me home in heaven
Blah blah blah…. Seriously try being humble
💫BEAUTIFUL💫
I wonder if you were really a black sheep?
I don't think any child is ❤
@@jais327 You should listen to your own advice, you sound puffed up and disrespectful.
Black Sheep is often the best person, who is the one to take abuse from others, so they don't fight with each other. It's a person to unload their unhappiness. Because Black Sheep takes it on herself and doesn't fight back.
Some things in life take many years to realize and learn
Anyone who had that man as a stepfather is very lucky IMO? That's such great insight and great humility to admit their faults
'I am sorry' is a powerful, healing statement.
Awesome that he could share that with you. Sorry for your loss, and yet gain in your step father.
Tig thanks for always being such a class act
I'm happy for you, Tig. It's never too late. God bless you!
Beautiful. Just a friendly reminder to keep learning from my children; because they’re the beauty in my every day life. ❤
Thank you my dad died last week. I needed to hear this. I couldn't teach him...he assumed who he thought I was.
Sending you a hug Dan.
Just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss! But remember that he probably understands now. Just let go anything that makes you wonder why they didn't understand. Bless you!
Ma dad passed without knowing me. Oh he saw me often and we talked often but he never knew me.
it goes both ways. You failed as well
@@pipersmitty87 1) that is your uneducated opinion. 2) People learn more from failure than success.
My sister a single mom died last yr..i wondered abt my Nephew..tried to drill ideas thoughts n what not..now i understand i got to understand him..thanks ppl
Love this. She always speaks so nicely about her mom. Love to listen to her funny podcast with Fortune F. and Mae Martin.
Wow. I’ve never thought about my relationships with my grown children this way before….but it’s very true, isn’t it? It makes so much sense though. My daughter and her husband have a precious 2 yr-old, and they both light up when I tell them what wonderful parents they are being with our granddaughter. I meant it. And now I see how powerful that is for them, and I see them both as struggling parents, just praying they’re doing the best they can. And that’s EXACTLY how my wife and I felt raising our 2 children.
Thank you SO, SO much for sharing this with us!
Wow. That wasn’t done for me so I decided, way before I had children, that, if I ever did, I would do that for them. And, I’ve done my best to do that.
So glad he was able to learn that lesson in this lifetime.
Breath taking moment, just because your children don't fit the mold in life we anticipate them follow, it's not our job to reshape them. They are created exactly the way, they were meant to be. Our job is simple, Love them and encourage them.
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Enlightenment welcome at any age. Growth in understanding and accepting of all peoples.
So many things left unsaid until tragedy opens ones eyes .
What a profound realization
Love you comedy and talent
My parents were telling me what they wished I was instead of accepting me the way I am.
It's quite common. Mother always wanted something for me that I didn't want, and I thought that meant she didn't love me. We grew old together, and she told me late in life she was quite proud of me but insisted that I was always her strangest child. 😂 She was a sweetheart, and I miss her every day.
@ 54 i figured this out @ 22 looking at my first born who is now transitioned😢. Grateful I get to assist my living children to become their soulful selves.
I have never heard that before but it is so right and beautiful
That's assuming your parents are adults. Mine were broken children even in old age. Both were narcissists, and my father was an alcoholic, too. Dad died in 1989, and I barely remember how that felt. Mom died just this past September at age 95, and even though I lowered her cremains into the grave with my own 2 hands, I felt nothing. I have yet to shed one tear. I am left to wonder if I am hollow inside.
If you are hollow inside it's because your mother didn't fill that hole with love as she should have done but the wonderful thing is someone that you choose to have in your life can fill that hole. My mother also died just September gone. I didn't shed a tear either but I'm lucky I have the hole that she left empty filled many times by wonderful mother figures.
@@bridgetlennon4154 Thank you for this. I have wonderful friends, and that is more than sufficient at my age (76), but I still think my non-reaction to Mom's death was weird. Since you are a stranger, I can admit that even though I took excellent care of her for 12 years (and everybody I know has been pointing that out), I did not love her. I treated out interactions like a job that I couldn't quit.
What a GRACE, that your FATHER realized it before it was to late.
Some Parents with bad habitual codependency think they know every thing eventhoug I am a half century. old¿¿¿
Omg..... That really hit home for me!! I had a hardish life, born in the sixties, no one ever helped! I was called stupid and a tube, and a balloon..... I asked one day, " what does that mean?" Was told I was was an empty vessel!
That is horrid! You are not an empty vessel, you are a complex human being just like everyone else. You have worth and value just by being you.
@FreedomofSpeech865 Thanks so much for ur kind words!!! U have helped me somewhat ❤️😁
What she's saying makes me think her stepfather was letting her know he needed her in his life. Wisdom comes at any time.
It’s even more striking .. Imagining Tigs struggle to her place in comedy..
I always thought so.. but never heard ot say so beautifully👍👍👍
What a gift...wow! Everyone would benefit so much from taking this message in.❤
I had something similar happen with my step dad and when he admitted he was wrong, and said sooo sorry, it touched me deeply. I have most respect for him, he's wonderful.
I said something similar to a young man who was about to become a father for the first time. He was very sweet and asked what my mom did right in raising me. He had a rough relationship with his parents, and he was nervous he would screw up his own kid. I told him to just listen to his kid from day one. That they would tell him who they were, all he had to do was respect that and listen. He realized how much that is exactly what he wanted from his own parents and he felt much more at ease.
I am sorry for your loss but I wish we would see more of you. You light up the stage.
That's wonderful!! I knew who my daughter was, and was so happy when she felt comfortable enough to come forward ❤
Wow, that is amazing. My stepfather could not bring himself to apologize to me, but I forgive all hos wrong doings to me, mom, and brother.
My husband took on my children as his own 28 years ago. He changed nappies, fed, cooked, loved, laughed and did everything a real Dad would do. He is their Dad.
Each of our grandchildren have totally different characters and are treated as such. They are treated the same but differently depending on their character. It's amazing to realise how they are all growing up and understanding each one. They are all so loved. Amazing love ❤️
That is beautiful. You are so lucky he realized. I hope you embraced his change of heart. Xx
Wow that is powerful. Explains a lot of “why I am the way I am”. No one tried (except me).
Wow,now that's teaching moment,so profound,deep.👊
We never truely know what people are feeling inside, that’s why if possible we should always give people the benefit of doubt
A beautiful story ❤️
You have to reach all of your kids on their level, whether you have something in common with them or not.
I always felt there are two phrases that are nice to hear, but seldom sincere. I’m sorry and thank you. I once was backstabbed by a co-worker and after I turned and walked away she realized how wrong she was. Later she called me and confessed what she did and said she was sorry. Will I forgive her. I was so shocked! I have never been asked for forgiveness before those words rocked my world. At that moment I did truly forgive her. Since then I make sure that my apologies are not just genuine but I ask for forgiveness. Makes a HUGE difference.
I remember asking my stepdad if he still wanted to be my family... I didn't know if he would just walk away. I was older at the time. But still needed the guidance of a parent.
Thank you for these words and for sharing yourself with us.
Thank you for sharing this with us❤
Thank you ❤
When I came out to my parents age 34, my father told me that he always thought, something is wrong with me. We never talked about this issue again , he died three years ago after a long illness where I constantly cared about him and my mother and I hoped till the end that he finds something positive about me to say. I have a daughter and she knows that I stand aside her and love her, whatever she does, unconditionally...
Failure? Drop out? Tig is a national treasure.
Thanks for putting this out there.
Many need to hear this.
Step dad to 5 awesome young women... It's the hardest lesson to learn and to accept❤
Took me a lifetime to realize this but I finally did with my own child and even my dog (she's very aloof and 15yo so no change is coming).
The things is I accept others people just as they are, but the people closest - especially family you have expectations - and it's much harder to to accept them as they are...
At that moment...He became a Father...
This hit hard, I have bpd and my father found it so hard to love me no matter how much I tried in the beginning, he passed away Dec 20 2021 and now I'll never know a father's love
Such words of wisdom and healing.
I did not know how much I needed this. Thank you
How blessed you both are to have had that moment ❤
Thank you for sharing...sometimes others don't have the experience we think they should have.
I needed this. ❤
ALMIGHTY GOD BLESS AND HAVE GREAT MERCY ON YOU AND YOURS ALWAYS, IN THE PRECIOUS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST, OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR, AMEN ♥️
Stoic is wiser, stonewalling person lacks the proper discernment. A stoic would have remained unheard but not unseen nor lacks support. Bravo for him to finally connect with true stoicism. ❤
It’s my job as a mother to support and guide my children as they figure out who they are. I share my wisdom and experience to help them as much as I can, but I also know that they have to have their own experiences and make their own mistakes to become who they are going to be. I have always been honest with them, and that is why they feel safe enough to come to me, knowing that I will not crucify them when they mess up. I can’t live their lives for them, but I can do everything I can to help navigate them through the dangers and obstacles they may not be aware of without crippling their curiosity and willingness to take chances. I want to raise kind, thoughtful, educated people that want to help create a better world for themselves and those around them, not programmed cattle for the low wage labor force!!
It seems like he wanted to express his deep love for her, but the absence of her mother introduced a sense of finality or loss in their relationship. Maybe he felt that her mother’s presence was a bond or support that held them together, and without it, things might drift apart. It’s a vulnerable and heartfelt sentiment.
So powerful ❤ thank you for sharing 💜
I love this so much!❤
One Mississipi was a fantastic show, massively underrated and so utterly honest
❤❤❤ so happy for you and for him. He dounds like a good man!❤
He healed you with his words❤
This was such a great story, thank You for sharing ❤ My StepDad was a very Stoic Man also.
SO BEAUTIFUL...
This women was on The Office! Talented!
An admittance and apology goes a long way toward forgiveness and healing😢
The reason a lot of men are stoic is because we have to be. You don’t make excuses when it comes to making a life for your family, you just get shit done. That’s why we have a hard time understanding.
Beautiful….
We’ve ALL got so much to learn from each other ❤🎉
Your father is(was) always learning as you were also but I wish I had heard those words your father, my mother, said! I'm glad you got to
Hear that from your step dad
Wow. Profound realization.
Really healing. Thank you.
So telling of the type of man he truly is❤❤❤❤.