I really REALLY love your stylist. There are so many qualities about her that are missing from the industry today. The first thing that really hit home was her understanding that her service and your experience is a team effort and is built off of mutual understanding and respect for each other. She listens to all of your thoughts and concerns and directly addresses and acknowledges them. She understands when to pull back to give you the reins yet also knowing when to step in and use her authority as an expert to help your reach your goals. On top of that she is professional, has wonderful energy, and takes time and care with her work. Cherish her, you won't find many stylists like her 👏
You’re so right and she’s amazing! 😍I wish I had never left her chair in the first place but I just had to be grown and go try something else! 😅I’m just super thankful that she allowed me to come back and now she’s partnering up with me to fix everything! 🙌🏽 She reminds me a lot of how I see you treating your clients in your videos. ♥️💯
@@shelly.v.247 it's okay. I'm sure it was new territory for both of you and from the sounds of your convo it seems like she wasn't as comfortable with walking you in that direction. We all have our specialties and comfort levels as hair professionals. And it's okay to have multiple stylists so long as they both work together to get you where you want your hair to go. You don't go to one doctor for every single thing, you have different specialists for different aspects of health and wellness. Your hair is the same way. Synergy between multiple stylists and different perspectives can give you the best experience with your hair journey.
Watching you go through this is like deja vu. This has been my experience with BGC to the tee. Prior to this method, I was a natural that mostly did protective styles and got my hair straightened once every quarter for a thorough trim. That method worked great for me- my hair was healthy, it felt soft, I was able to retain length, and I never had any issues with shape going from straight to curly with that approach. What made me try BGC was I experienced severe heat damage (and I mean some of it was to my root) the last time I got my hair straightened, so I vowed to NEVER get my hair straightened again. Then here comes BGC and it made sense to me, I got super invested, and started going to a stylist certified through them. My mistake was doing a BIG big chop to get rid of my heat damage. That combined with their method has left me with very little length retention. As you know from my comment under another video of yours, I experience the same as you with your ends. I was concerned about the splits that I observed up the shaft of my hair, so now I have started seeing an “old school” natural hairstylist. She couldn’t believe the condition of my hair, but we are slowly correcting it. Anyway, I say all this to say, girl, don’t chop all your hair off! We will get through this. We just have to go back to what we know works for us. As for me, I just needed to find a stylist who was more responsible with heat.
Sis you know I am right there with you! Like you said, we WILL get through this together! I’m glad you have found a great stylist who’s working with you to help get your hair back to its healthy state. I can’t wait to hear about all of your success with your hair!!! ♥️
Your stylist is an absolute treasure. And she's stunning! If she's been doing hair for 25 years she must have started when she was 5. Your hair is progressing beautifully. She slayed that cut. ❤
I totally agree! 😍 She’s just an amazing person and stylist! I appreciate her so much! Also, you’d be floored if you knew her age. 👀 It’s just insane but goes to show how taking care of yourself really matters! ♥️💯 Anyway, thank you so much for your kind words and for following my journey. I truly appreciate you❣️🤗
Please don't do a big big chop! Your stylist has super powers and is getting your hair slowly back with your new routine. I love how she says that she's cutting around someone's hair cut and it needs time to correct it to make it her own. Super important to realise this. ❤❤
Yes and very true! I’m doing my absolute best to stay positive and patient with what has happened. Hopefully there are great learnings that come from my experience so others won’t go through it as well. ♥️🙏🏽
As a stylist who use to do curly cut for a yr in my first salon, YES, it is cut for shape...healthy and split ends are cut but you can't guarantee all split ends unless you big chop. I no longer offer those cuts and I've had people ask....I got more personal opinion about that but I won't leave them here. lol Like I JUST had client come in, washed her hair 3 days before and her hair felt SO ROUGH, I was shocked...She's been following the no Deep conditioning rule..I told her to start introducing that. lol
Yeah those cuts just didn’t seem to address all my split ends. Plus they left my ends so thin too. I’d rather have thick full ends but I guess it’s a preference. 😅 Yeah. I can’t believe I ever stopped using deep conditioner! 🤦🏽♀️ Neither stylist I partnered with ever suggested or recommended I reimplement one. So I’m glad my current stylist immediately did! 🙌🏽 Leave-in has been a game changer too for that rough, hard and dry hair feeling. This whole situation has just been really frustrating and challenging to go through. 😝 I love hearing from the stylist and their perspective on all of this. So thank you! 🥰
@@shelly.v.247 I know for a fact if I stop my deep conditioner and/or leave in my trichologists will yell at me. Lol! they yelled at me a little when I said I wanted a bleached higlighted mohawk. Lol! I'm going into twists as a protective style for autumn now. December January February is wig season for me. that's enough wash and goes and dry summer ends for me. Lol! i enjoyed every minute. Now to get my hair health back. I put my own protective styles in because people be messing with my scalp and hair too much.
Shelly, like your Stylist indicated, rarely does she see women in our age group (50s) have hair of your thickness. That means you're doing something right! Please don't shave your hair 😢. Your hair is so inspiring in its current state. Please just have patience and stay consistent with the new regime. I believe within a short period of time you will achieve the hair you desire. 💜🙏🏼💖
Yes, Shelly….Please refrain from chopping your hair off. Having as much hair as you do at your fabulous age is rare. I am nearing 70 years old and my hair is thick, long and growing (big chop was 14 months ago). Having thick natural hair (I wear wash-n-go’s) gets me a lot of attention and loads of compliments, because it’s not the norm. You don’t have any gray….I DO!! Keep your length….stay consistent with your routine….and “Do You”. It’s working for you!!!! 🥰 Your hair is fabulous!!!!!
Your hair is coming along nicely. If we didn’t know your story, looking at your hair now, we would never know the shape it was in. Your hair is so pretty and your curls just bounce around with every move. It looks great!
I really like the interaction and vibe that you both have together. You aren't judged, you can talk and be in your vulnerability and she won't joke about it or make you feel like your are being "dramatic". I love that 💕.
Yes, she’s so awesome! She’s understanding, supportive, kind, wise and hasn’t used this as a way to make me feel badly for trying a different approach. She received me back in such a positive manner and said, it’s okay we can fix it. 🥹🙏🏽 I’m truly beyond blessed to have her in my corner! 💯
She's so sweet on her opinion of another stylist. The Curly folks literally is about style which really doesn't help if a person has damage. She's doing a fab job..and it happens we stray to check out a style. Mine was using a demi brush in the shower I was literally pulling my hair out then it was covid.then I decided to get it relaxer cause I workout.I'm growing my relaxer out yet again. I've learned so much about my hair as to why it would stop a little pass my shoulder. I would get tired then cut it off...well learning I was high porosity I needed pills on the end nightly. I use the Phyto line and deep condition weekly I use a leave in and roller set. My cousin who is a hairdresser said she can tell a big difference now that I am following a process...and she is glad I'm growing my relaxer out because my hair grade really didn't need it. BTW I'm 56... This was very enjoyable... New subbie
Whoa you’ve really been through it with your hair journey Sis! 😅 I’m excited to hear you’re following a solid regimen and growing your relaxer out. Especially with all the scary news about them now. 💖🙏🏽 I’m also excited to have you as a new subby! Thank you for being here and sharing your story! 💖🤗
i like Kim... but i'm in the midwest😢 i have those tree splits up my hair shaft too for over 10 YEARS & I've never had a curly cut😡 i've done 4-5 big chops but they come back....i'm experimenting with a process where detangling, hydrating AND moisturizing EVERY SINGLE DAY (in addition to 7-10day deep conditioning) so I hope to see improvements
Oh wow! I think they develop from the hair being severely dehydrated. I believe mine snowballed from not having my ends fully maintenanced as well. I hope your new plan of action works for you! I know it is frustrating to go through Sis.
Yes Shelley you’re a gorgeous 50 yrs. old with beautiful, healthy, thick hair!! The stylist is professional and pleasant l need to find a stylist like hair and you’re is going to flurious and your in good hands trust the process ❣️
Now this! Love to see these transformations and transparency. Finding a professional stylist who is knowledgeable and knows their craft is like GOLD. Unfortunately, the state of affairs regarding hair care is SAD. It makes me have hope that there is still some out there who have integrity regarding their craft. Your hair looks beautiful and you're doing a great job making a comeback. Personally, I never believed in the curly cuts, no oil and whatever else is in TH-cam land. Fortunately, I have been blessed to have old school stylist/beauticians in my life who respect my hair and the art.
Thank you Luv💖 and I couldn’t agree with you more! This experience has been so very eye opening. I bet I’ll never ever go against what my inner gut is screaming or leave my stylist ever ever ever again! I done learnt (yes not learned but learnt!) my lesson chile! Lol 🤣
Yes, thank you so very much Luv! 🥰I’m excited to see how this continues to improve. I figure the worse part is over and now it’s inwards and upwards❣️💃🏽
Your stylist is amazing! Such a wealth of knowledge about haircare. You're definitely in good hands partnering with her and the hair cut looks great! Thank you so much for sharing this journey!
This was awesome! I'm currently dealing with shedding from stress (got a new job position and this past year has stressed me silly)! I've been past mid back for most of my life-my goal is to get it back a bit thicker..💟
How could one skip ahead!! This was such a well put together video! Loved watching your journey and love learning from you! I enjoyed your stylist too! 50 years old! OMG you look amazing sis!!! Looking forward to watching your journey. Please don't big chop :)
You are so welcome and so sweet! I appreciate you so very very much beautiful! ♥️💯 I’m doing my best not to be too emotional about it all and just chop it off and start fresh. I know I need to be patient and stay the course. By doing so, it’ll help us all gather more information about wearing our curls. At least that’s my hope. 💖🙏🏽
Thank you Luv! 🥰 She’s amazing and always does since an amazing job! Not to mention, it’s a fraction of the price of what I was paying before. Plus she’s the bomb!!! So it’s a win win! 🙌🏽😍🥳
When you dropped the hair strands with the split broken, almost completely up the hair shaft, my mouth dropped open wide. I am so upset for you. There would be certain pieces of information that I would receive that I felt that just did not work for my hair and one of those was not deep conditioning my hair, and no longer using leave in. I stop using a leave in, but I did not stop deep conditioning my hair with every wash day. Especially because I was not using a leave it my hair in particular dries out so easily and I have a hard time retaining moisture so I have to do what’s best for my hair. I appreciate you because I’m still rocking my wash and goes because of you ❤
Sis, my heart hit the pit of my stomach when I found those strands. 💔😭 I wish I could go back in time and continue using my DC and leave-ins but I truly believed in the method I was following. Now hindsight, I’d love to see the long term receipts from following said method???🧐 I’d love to see the proof of what it does or doesn’t do to the hair! Either way, what’s done is done. All I can do is either shave it or work to fix it. Right now I’m committed to fully understanding the do’s and don’ts so no one else has to experience this. Lastly, I’m thrilled to hear I’ve been of help in your curl journey. That truly warms my heart fren! 💖🤗
Curly cuts aren’t the only way to have beautiful shapely curly hair. I have had my hair cut blown out and rounded off and the shape is beautiful. I’m gonna go back to that.
I agree! 😍That’s why I wish all the curl specialist would offer a service that includes beautiful curly cuts on blown out hair. I’m happy to see that some are starting to while others post content showing botched cuts on straight hair. I think they do that to try and scare people away from getting anything other than a cut done on the hair while it’s curly. I think we all need to remember that there can be both good and bad results in anything we do. 💖
I was waiting on this video .. thank you Shelly 🥰💙.. luv your stylist 💙.. I’m really luvin your 6th day hair Sasha not playin 😂.. can’t wait to find out more .. on this journey with you CurlFriend 💙
Thank you so much beautiful! 💖🤗 Yes, I absolutely love my stylist. She’s so wonderful and is a real blessing to me! 💖💯 I appreciate you rockin with me through this crazy journey of mine! I can’t wait to be on the other side of this whole thing. 🤪
@@shelly.v.247 yes CurlFriend.. I’m definitely rocking with you thru this journey and beyond 🥰💙😁.. luv your videos as well as how real you are about your journey/experiences 💙
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. A lot of the things you’ve mentioned and the strands you’ve shown I’ve been seeing in my hair and hope to get my hair back on track to my goal of healthy length
@@TheEmpressImpress I’m soooo glad you found me Sis! I think it’s good to see what our options are as well as hear about our differences experiences too. I appreciate you being here!!! 🥰🤗
She’s truly amazing! I wish I had never left her chair but I’m thrilled to be back in such great hands! 🙌🏽 You’ll find a great stylist too. Just make sure you vet them by their energy and willingness to answer your questions or concerns . ♥️💯
I have been getting curly cuts for more than 2 years and my hair is very lifted. I've had extreme breakage the past 6 months I'm sure is due to the high lifting and lack of moisture. My stylist stopped using gels of my hair a year ago but it still lacks moisture. I'm currently growing the bleach out and I'll figure things out from there. I also never wear my hair straight.
Hopefully your stylist has you on a great haircare plan to help mitigate what’s going on. I know that high lift blonde can really be hard on the hair. Praying for your hair to get back to what you’re use to. 💖🙏🏽
Great video! Whichever way you decide to go I am confident that with your new regimen and awesome stylist your hair will return to it's glory in little to no time. I am waiting to see what you think the cause of all of this was...I have theories also and want to see if we are on the same page! Good luck to you! Can't wait to see your journey.
Thank you so much Luv! 🥰 I’m so thankful to have her in my corner! 🙌🏽 Yes, I can’t wait to see what happens with everything. It’s been a real roller coaster ride for sure! I’ve learned a very valuable lesson is just following instead of using critical thinking about it. Never again!🙃 I’d love to hear your theories because I’m NOSEY!!! 👀🤷🏽♀️🤣
Your single strands look like lightening bolt zigzags rather than your corkscrew coils in the wash n go. What in the living heck did that method do to your strands😢😢😢? Thanks for your positivity though dealing with the traumatic hair dryness and damage. Though I have been using leave in quite liberally since my curly cuts with my gel layering and conditioning deeply etc; I just now have chucked the half empty bottle of uncle funky-‘s gel. Still waiting to do my blow out assessment…..
The strands I’m finding are just dreadful to look at! 🫣However, I still have control over how I choose to handle it and my attitude around it. So I chose to walk in happiness and positivity because being negative isn’t going to change anything. 😅 My goal is for us all to converse with each other and find solid solutions so this doesn’t continue to occur. I pray your hair assessment is a stellar one! Please keep me posted! 🥰🤗
Hello, I’ve just joined your group. My question relates to the split strands you showed after receiving your trim. Have you ever done a protein reconstruction treatment such as Aphogee? I also like the results from a cellophane. They both temporarily seal the cuticle. 🌹
Only a year, year + 1/2 max!? Wow your hair must grow fast indeed! I'm recovering from (self-inflicted) damage myself and I'm thinking it'll take me about a year to reach my goal (of a similar length to yours) and I have much less distance to go. 😅 Your stylist seems like such a fun and positive person! She expertly cut on blown-out hair and the shape is SHAPING!! Also, don't give up, even on the pieces that may seem unsalvageable! I recently ran across this lady called Heidi talking about how a bad (professional at the salon!) bleach job burned a good chunk of her hair off and she was told by the stylist that she'd go bald and, on the verge of a mental breakdown over possibly losing all her hair, she managed to save it and bring it back to life with coconut oil, olaplex, and k18. Looking at her now vs the footage on the day of the mishap you'd never know it was the same head of hair! (Why is it always curlyheaded folks who feel like they have to big chop to get rid of damage🤔) For the science aspect, I think you might benefit from getting in touch with Cheryl Morrow (who is co-hosting an afro hair science summit in toledo next month I believe. Your stylist might be interested too.) She's the daughter of the famous Dr. Willie Morrow, a pioneer in modern afro haircare.
Thank you so very much for the words of encouragement and suggestions! I’ve already implemented much of what you’ve suggested too. Yes it’s very interesting that we always feel we have to chop off our hair. Idk why that is either because I had severe damage once before (color & relaxer) and I held on to that hair for dear life 🤣 I finally shaved my head and started over and my hair grow back so beautifully. 😅 I’m excited that you’ll be to your head goal soon! Finding out the severity of the damage I have has probably kicked me out of the 1-1.5 year goal. Lol. However, with the story about the blonde girl gone wrong who knows! Maybe I can hold on!!! 🤷🏽♀️😅 Always love hearing your thoughts and perspectives on everything. Stay blessed my beautiful friend! 🥰😘
You know it is crazy for her to take 2 inches off and you still have damaged ends/hair. I definitely understand the pain of starting over. I feel I will need to cut off a lot of hair once this excessive shedding stops for me. My front is so thinned out now. I just know how to lay my hair to hide it lol.
@@dimensionsbygina Ugh I’m so sorry to hear that Sis 😞💖🙏🏽 While I was editing the video I was thinking about what we cut in May. Then what we had to cut in August. Plus I went back a day later and got a little more cut off. So it was more than stated in the video. I literally just want to throw in the towel and start fresh. However, for those curlies out there who might be in the same boat or come across my content later, I want to show them the options. I want them to see an approach other than cutting it all off. 😢 Plus until we fully know what caused what (but I think we know) I don’t want to cut it off. Right now time and research are my best friends! 🤪
Your stylist seems really kind and I love how she listened to you AND let you come with your hair straightened with the revair. Do you use any heat protection when you use it? Also how often are you deep conditioning now? I think your wash n go still looks super cute! You’ve got me considering layers all over now😍😍😍
Thank you Luv, she’s definitely awesome! 😍 I do use a heat protectant. I actually have a video on how I prepped my hair to blow it out prior to this appointment. I believe it’s Part 2 of this series’s. 🤔 I am currently deep conditioning weekly. I was instructed to do that until further notice. 😅 Layers are fun because they give the hair more movement and lift however think long and hard before you do them. Research the pros and cons of getting them first. 💖
So I have a few takeaways from this video. 1. I have these same conversations with my stylist (that cut my hair straight). It comes with familiarity and trust. Love this. 2. I absolutely am booking a straight cut. I don’t even need an assessment bc I can see some foolishness going on with this head. 3. I LOVE your stylist. 4. I need to work on my arms bc the guns were blazing! 5. You DO have a gorgeous head of hair. 6. We are both November babies. 😊 Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It’s made me think and rethink what I want and what my hair goals are. We are going to come out of this alright. Sending love ❤❤
Aww you’re so awesome and I appreciate you so very much Sis! 🥰💯 Yes, my stylist is amazing and her arms are to die for! 😍 I love how she is proving how you can get a straight cut and have it translate beautifully into curly. You just need an experienced hairstylist to do it. 💯 I’m excited to hear more about your journey so please keep me posted! You know I’m NOSEY and want to hear and know all the things! 🤣🤣🤣 Lastly, thank you for your message. I enjoyed reading it! 🥰🤗
She’s a good stylist. She listens and gives good suggestions. I think extreme dryness is the most damaging because that will definitively cause ends to break and split. Are you getting it trimmed every 2 months? Oh I’m sorry she said 3months.
Several stylists are starting to admit that they cannot fully assess the hair when it’s curly. Therefore, they are suggesting that the hair be blown out periodically to assess for any issues that may be present. With all the information circulating, I personally would want to have my hair fully assessed. However, we are all entitled to do what we think it’s best for our own head of hair. Also, what if you get your hair blown out and assessed and it’s not as healthy as you think? I don’t think most stylists want to have to deal with that so naturally, they are going to tell you that your hair is healthy and you don’t have any issues. I would think a responsible stylist would proactively offer to blow your hair out and assess it especially with everything going on. However, I could be completely wrong. I’m getting my haircut every three months. I was going to get it cut monthly but I do not want to get it blown out that often. I’m not sure my heir can handle that right now.
After she cut that it looks so much more even🙌🏾✨✨! Ive been getting blow out cuts too after. ayear of curly cuts but I was cutting off heat damage/possibly a keratin treatment slipped in so Idont think it was that detrimental
I use to use keratin treatments to straighten my hair and they were amazing! If I ever go back straight that’s what I will use but currently I don’t plan to go back to straight hair. I hope your hair heals soon too and thank you for sharing your story. I always enjoy hearing about others experiences. 🥰
Love this discussion. Can you add products used to the description box? I have always deep conditioned but stopped leave ins. Trying to incorporate again to see if that will help
What a great consultation and cutting session! The cut translates very well to your curly set. Have you asked your stylist what she thinks about how the split strands may affect the whole head? Are you a candidate for or has she been doing any treatments like K18? I am happy your hair is on the mend, seriously. You are case in point as to why we always have to be observant, and trust our instincts. Even if we don't have the answers at least we start to research and look for them in other places if and when needed.
I’ve shared them and she is standing firm in her opinion to just give her time. We have implemented K18 & Olaplex and other treatments too. It’s just so crazy how I have this level of damage from wearing my hair “natural.” Who would ever think you could sustain this type of damage from wearing your hair in a it’s natural state! However, it just goes to show that our hair is way more complex than what we are being told and perhaps the extra time it takes to do deep conditioning treatments and the addition of certain products are warranted. Time shall tell it all. Thanks for following my journey and I appreciate you being here with me! 💖🥰
Your set is looking beautiful. Have you shown those strands to your stylist so she can make an assessment of them? As you know splits can't be mended and do have to be cut off eventually. However, they can be strengthened to help prevent further splitting as you grow them out. Strengthening/protein conditioners can help greatly as she said during your appointment. If you're not against using one that isn't 100% natural, I'd suggest checking out Aquage SeaExtend Strengthening Conditioner from the original/classic line. A stylist suggested it to me years ago, and it has never failed me when I needed something as a repair-type conditioner without using a hard protein like Aphrogee. Please check with your stylist and see what she thinks before considering buying it.
I have and she told me to trust her because she will get me right again. She’s never lead me wrong so I’m walking with her through my faith! 🙏🏽 I will definitely look into that product and talk to her about it. I truly appreciate your comment and product recommendation! ♥️🤗
I know with my patience and skills and hair type I need a straight cut at least twice a year. My hair tangles really badly when the ends are uneven and more tangles means more breakage for me..unfortunately and my hair is ultra fine 4c. Burst out laughing at the bear edit. This mid shaft splits I have in my hair. What stops them for me: 1. wearing a protective style 5 days out of 7. Most effective, easy and gentle: twists and flat twists. 2. deep condition every week and apply leave in daily 3. I only use styling products 1 day out of 7. 4. Utilising protein and olaplex. Last year I had damaged ends from heat......Olaplex made those strands stay in my hair for over a year whereas before they would have broke off. Note do not over use olaplex no 3 or protein. start small and then gradually increase. once you no longer have damaged hair stop using Olaplex and strong keratin protein. If you are unsure...ask your stylist to apply the protein or olaplex. I've seen people damage their hair from over using protein and olaplex. be careful with them. I get away with a lot because my ultra-fine hair is bleached!! still I do not use olaplex every day just once a week. good luck lady!!!
Thank you so very much for all the great pearls! I’m trying extremely hard to stay positive and patient with this entire situation. I’m being very mindful of the Olaplex and protein because I’ve read how easily it is to jack up your hair. 😅 Thank you again and stay blessed! 🥰
I really think you should trust your stylist. There's nothing like having somebody looking at your hair from the outside in with your best interests at heart that's going to help you get back to the kind of hair that you want. With that said, have you had a conversation with your stylist about using Bond correcting treatments? Things like olaplex can do a lot to fix the Integrity of your hair while you're growing out so you don't have to split running up the hair strands. I know olaplex is not a big deal in the natural hair community, but it really does do a good job of correcting damaged hair. I also had some thoughts on the changing texture. Now you may not be going through the same thing I am, are you graying and do you color your hair? I have increasingly gray hair and the texture of my gray hair is different because the structure of gray hair is different. I don't know if you're already researching it but hair grays because there's less melanin and not only does the loss of melanin change the physical Integrity of your hair but it also allows your hair to be less protected and therefore experience more sun damage. Which contributes to the drying of your hair. While color may make the hair look darker I don't think it changes the structure and integrity of your hair. Which is honestly another reason why you got to be focusing on keeping your hair hydrated. Didn't know if you were one of those ladies that is free of gray hair but that can have an effect. Otherwise your hair is gorgeous, blown out and Curley! Can't wait to see more videos of your journey.
Aww thank you so very much Luv for your kind and encouraging words! Yes, I’m currently using Olaplex and K18 to help strengthen my hair in hopes the splits won’t travel to the new growth. ♥️🙏🏽 So far I only have a few gray hairs and haven’t had the need to color my hair at all. I’ve heard about how challenging dealing with gray hair can be though! So glad I don’t have to deal with that part yet. 😅 I’m excited to see where this journey will take me and I’m thankful to have you along for the ride! 🥰🤗
I didn't listen to the end of the video until now, and I definitely don't think you should chop your hair off 😢😢😢 your stylist seems to be very competent and confident as well that she knows how to repair and grow your strands back while keeping the integrity and health of it as well. Wow I know that was a mouthful but I think you should trust her and don't be scared 😊😊😊😊
I’m certainly trying to be patient but it’s not only the strands but all the other things. My hair has taken a true beat down from pulling out certain products. I just pray that my hair can rebound from this but honestly it might be easier to just start over. We shall see. 💖😅
It looks good! I’m wondering now since I want to be in the grow back my length pre curly cuts, about doing blown out cuts. I started curly cuts for shape 3 years ago.
I personally can’t wait until my hair is healthy and back on track. Why? Because I know by getting blown out cuts I will be able to grow it out faster because I feel more of my healthy length will be retained. Side bar: I find if funny how we got scolded about wanting long hair. That we should just want a bomb shape and be happy. Asking for both was a almost an insult! However, now that people want to switch to blown out cuts for various reasons including length retention, now all of a sudden we are being told how we can have it all with cuts on curly hair! Shape, health and length! Make it make sense!!! 😅
@@shelly.v.247I agree! I initially didn’t care about length when I started the curly cuts because I was all about th e shapes I wanted. I just want to be able to pull the lower back of my hair up. I want to go back to wearing different styles.
I think you probably need to deal with hydration. Sometimes you may have to wash and condition your hair more than once a week. What you probably have really, really, dehydrated hair.
@@keishaj5993 With the method I was following, I was washing it faithfully about twice per week! I’m pretty sure I know what caused it and that’s why I’ve been documenting and sharing my experiences. Since adding back in deep conditioners and leave-in my hair has improved drastically. However, compared to how it was prior to implementing a particular haircare methodology it’s not great. Time will tell all. I appreciate you being on the journey with me. 🥰
@@Neesha242 Yes, you’re so right. Plus as you may or may not be aware I was washing my hair routinely about two times per week. Since going back to my old routine my hair is starting to bounce back but the damage that’s there is permanent! Only cutting will get rid of it. 😝
@shelly.v.247 I followed their method for a year too. I severely dehydrated my hair out too. It took a year and half of corrective cuts, deep conditioning, shampooing and no heat to get my hair right. That method was not sitting right with my runner's lifestyle. My hair is shorter than I want but it's definitely more manageable now.
Yeah and I’m not so sure they are the best for our hair when used without a leave-in etc. I’m starting to understand that it’s definitely not a one size fits all thing! 😅
@@shelly.v.247 what I've been curious about is how it seems that those following BGC pretty much use the same method and products irrespective of climate. It's not computing for me how an anti-humectant helps in a dry climate. The other thing I'm curious about for those who found their scalps irritated with Curly Magic, if Curly Magic just didn't agree with their hair. If the scalp doesn't like it, perhaps that's an indicator that the hair won't like it either. That's just a thought.
They also don't work well in dry climates. Humectants pull moisture from the air into the hair, but if there is little to no moisture in the air, they will pull moisture out of the hair leaving it dry. I wondered if that was contributing to the dryness in Shelly's hair since I believe she lives in a dry climate.
@@cmw1336 It definitely could have played a role. However, I travel a lot especially during the summer to escape the heat. We typically go to areas with lots of humidity. Either way, based off your thoughts a DC and/or leave in probably would have been extremely beneficial! 😅
My stylist was very kind in allowing me to tape especially given the current situation at hand. 💯 I didn’t feel comfortable requesting her to use a white cape but maybe I’ll purchase one to show y’all at home after my service. I get your thoughts and they are well received Luv. 💖
When you showed those split hairs after your appointment, I got a little teary-eyed. I am so sorry this has happened to your hair. Your hair is so beautiful, and it is on the mend. I pray that God continues to guide you and give you peace every step of the way during this process. He knows (and cares about) EVERY hair on your head (Luke 12:7), and He will perfect what concerns you (Psalm 138:8). You have helped a lot of people, including myself to recognize and alleviate further issues with our hair, and for that I'm grateful. Peace and blessings to you. ❤
Aww your message made me tear up 😢 but in a very good way. ❤ So I thank you for your kind words and beautiful message! I will walk in my faith knowing that this is all for a greater purpose. I’m thankful to know that sharing my experience has helped so many including yourself! 🥰 So onwards and forwards to healthy and beautiful curls together! 🙌🏽🥳
Oh I’m sure it has played a role but I also travel a lot to places that have a lot of humidity in the air. So I’ve had a mix of both. 🤷🏽♀️ Interestingly enough, I asked that question a few times when I was a member inside a certain platform and was told a dry climate didn’t matter. I no longer believe that to be true though. I think we have to take into account all the different variables. No one size fits all when it comes to our hair. 💯
@@shelly.v.247 that's crazy to hear because I've heard them talk about climate as a factor. If you are living in either extreme and depending on your unique head of hair it will be a moderate to severe impact to your hair. I remembered how different my hair behaved on work trips and trips to the beach, out on the water vs in my city. I think that is a big reason why humectant heavy routine has to be coupled with polymers heavier stylers, barrier sprays in drier climates. I hope your hair recovers soon!
@@sart1348 Yes, you’re correct about what you stated. They have always talked about climates but to my knowledge it was more so about humid climates. So I apologize that I wasn’t clear on that. However, as far as the dyer climates they said we just wouldn’t have the need for the anti humectant gels/products etc. I even remember asking about a heat protectant for the sun since it can be very intense in AZ and they said there was no need. So who really knows 🤷🏽♀️ Anyway, thank you for your well wishes. I really appreciate it! 💖🙏🏽
Arizona also has very hard water, which is damaging to the hair and skin. Alot of places in the Western part of the US have harder water. Water softeners systems and chleating shampoo helps with hard water.
I commented in a previous thread that humectants don't work well in dry climates on their own (i.e. w/out something to lock that moisture in). Humectants pull moisture from the air into the hair, but if there is little to no moisture in the air, they will pull moisture out of the hair leaving it dry. I wondered if that was contributing to the dryness in Shelly's hair in combination with everything else.
I found tree branch split ends on a few of my single hair stand. I take good care of my hair. I love washing my hair. I go to a natural hair salon to get my regular trims. She never noticed it. She told me my hair is flourishing. Please advise how can I fix this without cutting my hair? I'm trying to let my hair grow out. I'm scared. I thought I was doing all the right things to my hair until I saw your video. So I decided to look at my hair strands and I saw the same exact thing ,my hair strand had tree branch split ends on 1strand, I couldn't believe it. Please advise what can I do to reverse this madness? Thank you for this information, because I don't think I would have looked for it, if I had not watched your video. I need help..Please advise.
Hey Luv, first off take a deep breath because clearly you’re not alone in this! 🥰 My heart hit the pit of my stomach when I started to find those strands too. 😞 Do me a favor and DM me on IG so we can talk more in depth there about everything. ♥️
Have you considered using aphogee? Honestly not been convinced by the effectiveness of bond builders, couldn’t really find any scientific studies on these bond building chemicals whilst there are studies of protein at different weights penetrating the hair shaft. It might help mitigate the weakness. I also feel some of this damage is heat damage from the dryer, people keep saying diffused heat doesn’t cause damage but I don’t see why it couldn’t. Ahg says he got damage from a hair steamer, so the high temperature with no heat protectant or leave in could be the reason for the curl pattern changing. I think if you want to grow it out you can, unless you begin to see excessive hair thinning, your split hairs will get cut off over time.
@@TWS1977 I am currently using the keratin reconstructor, it makes my hair feels soft with a bit more strength. There’s also the curlific line, I think most people don’t need the 2 step protein treatment although I’ve never tried it.
Yes I have definitely consider the 2 Step Aphogee system. I just want to be very mindful in how I implement it but we are definitely thinking along the same lines! I’ve also said the exact same things about the hooded dyers and lack of leave-in and heat protectant. I personally am questioning everything now because I have lost faith in many who are the “experts” that give all the advice. I’m following the science now‼️💯 Lastly, I truly appreciate your thoughts and you taking the time to share them! So very kind of you! 💖
Hmmm.....those splits all the way up the hair shaft is an interesting development. How could that still be happening after all this time without getting a curly cut? Is it your technique? Or maybe some other health challenge that is impacting your hair? I thought the blown-out cuts and deep conditioners were the trick.
Yes, I agree it’s extremely interesting and even more so concerning! I didn’t fully realize the extent of the damage when this first all began. However, watching the Afrikan Hair Gods coverage of this topic made me inspect my hair further. Especially since he’s had numerous clients with the same issues. He confirmed my suspicions and concerns which warranted a deeper look. So I’ve come to believe that it’s a culmination of not only the curly cuts but also the no oils and butters method I was following. As mentioned in my video I don’t believe curly cuts are bad at all but I just don’t feel they address all the split ends. In my hair I believe those split ends snowballed throughout the year I was getting them. I also believe the lack of using certain products not containing oils and butters high on the ingredients list plus the omission of DC & leave-ins has played a huge role too. My hair has drastically improved since reimplementing them but as you know you can’t mend a split in the hair. It must be cut. So there is only so much any given product can do for me right now. I understand your point about any health issues or concerns but I get routine and extensive bloodwork every 3-4 months. I’m also well versed in reading labs and everything is in the standard range. Lastly, as with anything in life things will always continue to develop and evolve. My hair is no different. So I reserve the right to continue to share my experiences as I uncover them. I also reserve the right to look for solutions with or without others who care to help and/or address the concerns raised. Hope that addresses and answers all of your question. 💖
I heard detangling with a brush can cause split ends as well. I never detangle with a brush because those small bristles rips my hair. If my hair is already detangle then I will use a brush. Any other time I’m using a wide tooth comb to detangle. But it’s probably because she wasn’t moisturizing her hair properly
Trust me, I’m right there with you! Did you see the splits in my hair that I’m finding??? 👀🫣😫 I’m getting DM’s from other curl friends with splits and/or bubbles along the hair strands. It’s so wild!!! 😓
My stylist always talks about the condition of my hair and ask what I’m using and what I need to use or what I need to be doing. I still get curly cuts and my hair is healthy and my stylist says it’s healthy of course she only does curly cuts😂. But I guess because I’ve used CurlMix for many wash and goes and they have leave ins and moisturizers my hair hasn’t been real dry. I admit that I only use deep conditioners maybe once a month or when I feel the need.
If the splits you are finding are near the end of your hair, then I don't think you should shave your hair. I definitely wouldn't suggest cutting it, if your next cut, as your stylist says could resolve all that's wrong. I'm curious what you have to say about texture changes. I have four different textures in my hair. I've been a straight natural the majority of my adult life. Up until the past two years. I don't think I ever really knew what my natural texture was. And even now, I'm not so sure I will ever know. My hair is color treated for gray coverage. Whenever I decide to stop covering the gray, the gray will be a different experience. I'm on thyroid medication and have androgenic alopecia. The front of my hair seems completely disconnected from the rest of my hair. This is primarily why I wear twist outs to get some level of uniformity. I know you aren't dealing with all the things I'm dealing with but I'm just curious because I'm pretty sure that my hair isn't what it was originally genetically hard-coded to be.
Ugh that’s a lot to deal with for sure and I pray your hair and scalp become healed from what you’re dealing with Sis! 😞🙏🏽 The splits at at different points through the hair strands. At the bottom, middle and top. They are literally everywhere except the new growth so far. I love my stylist because she’s so positive and supportive but I know what I’m seeing and another big cut in November won’t even remotely touch the damage that lives within the interior. In a strange way I’m thankful God picked me to go through this because he knew I’d use my voice to speak up about it. He knows I won’t stop asking questions and researching until we know the “why” behind all of this! The texture change is very interesting too. I think I know why it happened but I want to be certain before speaking about it first. What I do know is this is the perfect storm within my head of hair! Lol 😅
@@shelly.v.247 Yeah I got a lot going on. And oddly enough all that I have going on is why I couldn't follow the BGC approach to the tee because I always had another variable or two to consider. As strange as it may sound, if your hair responding to the treatments, you are able to manage your hair more easily, your styling results still look good, you seem to still enjoy your hair. You really can't go wrong with whatever direction you choose.
Easier said than done but definitely there is a great possibility for sure. I just need to figure 💯why this all happened. I’m pretty sure I know now but I want to make double certain so no one else has to go through this!!!!
@@shelly.v.247hope you come back and let us know Once you’ve figured it all out, Shelly V. We are waiting with bated breath! Your hair looks gorgeous at any length ❤
I really REALLY love your stylist. There are so many qualities about her that are missing from the industry today. The first thing that really hit home was her understanding that her service and your experience is a team effort and is built off of mutual understanding and respect for each other. She listens to all of your thoughts and concerns and directly addresses and acknowledges them. She understands when to pull back to give you the reins yet also knowing when to step in and use her authority as an expert to help your reach your goals. On top of that she is professional, has wonderful energy, and takes time and care with her work. Cherish her, you won't find many stylists like her 👏
You’re so right and she’s amazing! 😍I wish I had never left her chair in the first place but I just had to be grown and go try something else! 😅I’m just super thankful that she allowed me to come back and now she’s partnering up with me to fix everything! 🙌🏽 She reminds me a lot of how I see you treating your clients in your videos. ♥️💯
@@shelly.v.247 it's okay. I'm sure it was new territory for both of you and from the sounds of your convo it seems like she wasn't as comfortable with walking you in that direction. We all have our specialties and comfort levels as hair professionals. And it's okay to have multiple stylists so long as they both work together to get you where you want your hair to go.
You don't go to one doctor for every single thing, you have different specialists for different aspects of health and wellness. Your hair is the same way. Synergy between multiple stylists and different perspectives can give you the best experience with your hair journey.
@@AfrikanHairGod What an excellent way to look at it!
@@AfrikanHairGod What an excellent way of looking at it! I always appreciate hearing your perspective Narada❣️
Me too🤗
Watching you go through this is like deja vu. This has been my experience with BGC to the tee. Prior to this method, I was a natural that mostly did protective styles and got my hair straightened once every quarter for a thorough trim. That method worked great for me- my hair was healthy, it felt soft, I was able to retain length, and I never had any issues with shape going from straight to curly with that approach.
What made me try BGC was I experienced severe heat damage (and I mean some of it was to my root) the last time I got my hair straightened, so I vowed to NEVER get my hair straightened again. Then here comes BGC and it made sense to me, I got super invested, and started going to a stylist certified through them. My mistake was doing a BIG big chop to get rid of my heat damage. That combined with their method has left me with very little length retention. As you know from my comment under another video of yours, I experience the same as you with your ends. I was concerned about the splits that I observed up the shaft of my hair, so now I have started seeing an “old school” natural hairstylist. She couldn’t believe the condition of my hair, but we are slowly correcting it.
Anyway, I say all this to say, girl, don’t chop all your hair off! We will get through this. We just have to go back to what we know works for us. As for me, I just needed to find a stylist who was more responsible with heat.
Sis you know I am right there with you! Like you said, we WILL get through this together!
I’m glad you have found a great stylist who’s working with you to help get your hair back to its healthy state.
I can’t wait to hear about all of your success with your hair!!! ♥️
Your stylist is an absolute treasure. And she's stunning! If she's been doing hair for 25 years she must have started when she was 5. Your hair is progressing beautifully. She slayed that cut. ❤
I totally agree! 😍 She’s just an amazing person and stylist! I appreciate her so much! Also, you’d be floored if you knew her age. 👀 It’s just insane but goes to show how taking care of yourself really matters! ♥️💯
Anyway, thank you so much for your kind words and for following my journey. I truly appreciate you❣️🤗
Please don't do a big big chop! Your stylist has super powers and is getting your hair slowly back with your new routine. I love how she says that she's cutting around someone's hair cut and it needs time to correct it to make it her own. Super important to realise this. ❤❤
Yes and very true! I’m doing my absolute best to stay positive and patient with what has happened. Hopefully there are great learnings that come from my experience so others won’t go through it as well. ♥️🙏🏽
Such a beautiful conversation. Thank you for capturing this.
My pleasure! She’s so supportive and I’m thankful she allowed me to capture it so I could share it with y’all! 🙏🏽🥰💯
As a stylist who use to do curly cut for a yr in my first salon, YES, it is cut for shape...healthy and split ends are cut but you can't guarantee all split ends unless you big chop. I no longer offer those cuts and I've had people ask....I got more personal opinion about that but I won't leave them here. lol Like I JUST had client come in, washed her hair 3 days before and her hair felt SO ROUGH, I was shocked...She's been following the no Deep conditioning rule..I told her to start introducing that. lol
Yeah those cuts just didn’t seem to address all my split ends. Plus they left my ends so thin too. I’d rather have thick full ends but I guess it’s a preference. 😅
Yeah. I can’t believe I ever stopped using deep conditioner! 🤦🏽♀️ Neither stylist I partnered with ever suggested or recommended I reimplement one. So I’m glad my current stylist immediately did! 🙌🏽 Leave-in has been a game changer too for that rough, hard and dry hair feeling.
This whole situation has just been really frustrating and challenging to go through. 😝
I love hearing from the stylist and their perspective on all of this. So thank you! 🥰
@@shelly.v.247 I know for a fact if I stop my deep conditioner and/or leave in my trichologists will yell at me. Lol! they yelled at me a little when I said I wanted a bleached higlighted mohawk. Lol! I'm going into twists as a protective style for autumn now. December January February is wig season for me. that's enough wash and goes and dry summer ends for me. Lol! i enjoyed every minute. Now to get my hair health back. I put my own protective styles in because people be messing with my scalp and hair too much.
Shelly, like your Stylist indicated, rarely does she see women in our age group (50s) have hair of your thickness. That means you're doing something right! Please don't shave your hair 😢. Your hair is so inspiring in its current state. Please just have patience and stay consistent with the new regime. I believe within a short period of time you will achieve the hair you desire. 💜🙏🏼💖
Aww thank you Luv! I’m trying to practice patience and trust the process. 💖🙏🏽😘
Yes, Shelly….Please refrain from chopping your hair off. Having as much hair as you do at your fabulous age is rare. I am nearing 70 years old and my hair is thick, long and growing (big chop was 14 months ago). Having thick natural hair (I wear wash-n-go’s) gets me a lot of attention and loads of compliments, because it’s not the norm. You don’t have any gray….I DO!! Keep your length….stay consistent with your routine….and “Do You”. It’s working for you!!!! 🥰 Your hair is fabulous!!!!!
Your hair is coming along nicely. If we didn’t know your story, looking at your hair now, we would never know the shape it was in. Your hair is so pretty and your curls just bounce around with every move. It looks great!
Aww thank you Sis! Yes, it’s definitely bouncing back and I’m very thankful for that! I pray it is restored whole by this time next year! ♥️🙏🏽
I really like the interaction and vibe that you both have together. You aren't judged, you can talk and be in your vulnerability and she won't joke about it or make you feel like your are being "dramatic". I love that 💕.
Yes, she’s so awesome! She’s understanding, supportive, kind, wise and hasn’t used this as a way to make me feel badly for trying a different approach. She received me back in such a positive manner and said, it’s okay we can fix it. 🥹🙏🏽
I’m truly beyond blessed to have her in my corner! 💯
She's so sweet on her opinion of another stylist. The Curly folks literally is about style which really doesn't help if a person has damage.
She's doing a fab job..and it happens we stray to check out a style.
Mine was using a demi brush in the shower I was literally pulling my hair out then it was covid.then I decided to get it relaxer cause I workout.I'm growing my relaxer out yet again. I've learned so much about my hair as to why it would stop a little pass my shoulder. I would get tired then cut it off...well learning I was high porosity I needed pills on the end nightly. I use the Phyto line and deep condition weekly I use a leave in and roller set. My cousin who is a hairdresser said she can tell a big difference now that I am following a process...and she is glad I'm growing my relaxer out because my hair grade really didn't need it. BTW I'm 56...
This was very enjoyable... New subbie
Whoa you’ve really been through it with your hair journey Sis! 😅 I’m excited to hear you’re following a solid regimen and growing your relaxer out. Especially with all the scary news about them now. 💖🙏🏽
I’m also excited to have you as a new subby! Thank you for being here and sharing your story! 💖🤗
i like Kim... but i'm in the midwest😢
i have those tree splits up my hair shaft too for over 10 YEARS & I've never had a curly cut😡
i've done 4-5 big chops but they come back....i'm experimenting with a process where detangling, hydrating AND moisturizing EVERY SINGLE DAY (in addition to 7-10day deep conditioning) so I hope to see improvements
Oh wow! I think they develop from the hair being severely dehydrated. I believe mine snowballed from not having my ends fully maintenanced as well.
I hope your new plan of action works for you! I know it is frustrating to go through Sis.
@@shelly.v.247 agree, hydration and moisturizing....let's hope both of our plans of attack work ....
“Functional Frizz”….I love that!!!
Me too! I heard it used in the curl community and I feel it explains the frizz we tend to get well. 💖😆
I have a eight to get the look you have with your real hair WOW!!!😍😍😍😍
Aww thank you Luv! 😍🥰😘
Yes Shelley you’re a gorgeous 50 yrs. old with beautiful, healthy, thick hair!! The stylist is professional and pleasant l need to find a stylist like hair and you’re is going to flurious and your in good hands trust the process ❣️
Aww thank you so very much for your kind words! 🥹💖My stylist is so amazing! I couldn’t have been blessed with a better one. 🙌🏽
Now this! Love to see these transformations and transparency. Finding a professional stylist who is knowledgeable and knows their craft is like GOLD. Unfortunately, the state of affairs regarding hair care is SAD. It makes me have hope that there is still some out there who have integrity regarding their craft. Your hair looks beautiful and you're doing a great job making a comeback. Personally, I never believed in the curly cuts, no oil and whatever else is in TH-cam land. Fortunately, I have been blessed to have old school stylist/beauticians in my life who respect my hair and the art.
Thank you Luv💖 and I couldn’t agree with you more! This experience has been so very eye opening. I bet I’ll never ever go against what my inner gut is screaming or leave my stylist ever ever ever again! I done learnt (yes not learned but learnt!) my lesson chile! Lol 🤣
@@shelly.v.247 and that's what we call life experience. Know better and do better💪
I love ❤️ the cut…. You can see a difference. You’re in good hands with your stylist.
Yes, thank you so very much Luv! 🥰I’m excited to see how this continues to improve. I figure the worse part is over and now it’s inwards and upwards❣️💃🏽
I'm enjoying following your journey. And it's awesome how positive and supportive your stylist is.
Thank you so much Luv! 🥰 She’s such a sweetheart and a great friend of mine too. I’m extremely blessed to have her in my corner‼️♥️💯
Girl, your shape is shaping! Very pretty! Glad your hair is getting back to where it needs to be. 💕
Thank you beautiful! 🥰
Your stylist is amazing! Such a wealth of knowledge about haircare. You're definitely in good hands partnering with her and the hair cut looks great! Thank you so much for sharing this journey!
I totally agree and thank you so very much beautiful! 💖 I’m super blessed to have her by my side through all of this! ♥️🙌🏽
Beautiful Shelly. You and Rosie are doing the right thing 😍🤓xx. Cut looks great!
Aww thank you Luv! ♥️🙏🏽🥰
This was awesome! I'm currently dealing with shedding from stress (got a new job position and this past year has stressed me silly)! I've been past mid back for most of my life-my goal is to get it back a bit thicker..💟
Stress will do that! 😝Nutrafol is pricey but works great for shedding and growth❣️
Wow! What a wonderful stylist ❤❤❤❤
You are both beautiful and your hair looks great xx all the best with getting your hair back to its former self ❤❤❤
Thank you so much beautiful! 🥰Yes, she’s super awesome for sure! ♥️💯
How could one skip ahead!! This was such a well put together video! Loved watching your journey and love learning from you! I enjoyed your stylist too! 50 years old! OMG you look amazing sis!!! Looking forward to watching your journey. Please don't big chop :)
You are so welcome and so sweet! I appreciate you so very very much beautiful! ♥️💯
I’m doing my best not to be too emotional about it all and just chop it off and start fresh. I know I need to be patient and stay the course. By doing so, it’ll help us all gather more information about wearing our curls. At least that’s my hope. 💖🙏🏽
OMG!!! I love her!!! She did a wonderful job!!!
Thank you Luv! 🥰 She’s amazing and always does since an amazing job! Not to mention, it’s a fraction of the price of what I was paying before. Plus she’s the bomb!!! So it’s a win win! 🙌🏽😍🥳
When you dropped the hair strands with the split broken, almost completely up the hair shaft, my mouth dropped open wide. I am so upset for you. There would be certain pieces of information that I would receive that I felt that just did not work for my hair and one of those was not deep conditioning my hair, and no longer using leave in. I stop using a leave in, but I did not stop deep conditioning my hair with every wash day. Especially because I was not using a leave it my hair in particular dries out so easily and I have a hard time retaining moisture so I have to do what’s best for my hair. I appreciate you because I’m still rocking my wash and goes because of you ❤
Sis, my heart hit the pit of my stomach when I found those strands. 💔😭
I wish I could go back in time and continue using my DC and leave-ins but I truly believed in the method I was following. Now hindsight, I’d love to see the long term receipts from following said method???🧐 I’d love to see the proof of what it does or doesn’t do to the hair!
Either way, what’s done is done. All I can do is either shave it or work to fix it. Right now I’m committed to fully understanding the do’s and don’ts so no one else has to experience this.
Lastly, I’m thrilled to hear I’ve been of help in your curl journey. That truly warms my heart fren! 💖🤗
Hang in there Shelly, you’re gonna have your waist length hair, your curls are poppin.
Thank you beautiful! 🥰🤗
Great video and I truly love your stylist...she cares about you and your hair 😊❤
Thank you so much Sis! 🥰 Yes, my stylist is truly amazing! I feel blessed to have her in my life ‼️🙌🏽💯
I love her cut that’s she did on your hair. Where is she located ? Kim. Love her pure soul spirit.
Thank you so very much Luv! She did do an amazing job on my hair! 😍 She’s located in Scottsdale, AZ. 🥰
50 where? Shelly you look so good! ❤
Aww thank you Luv! You’re so sweet and kind! 💖🤗
Curly cuts aren’t the only way to have beautiful shapely curly hair. I have had my hair cut blown out and rounded off and the shape is beautiful. I’m gonna go back to that.
I agree! 😍That’s why I wish all the curl specialist would offer a service that includes beautiful curly cuts on blown out hair.
I’m happy to see that some are starting to while others post content showing botched cuts on straight hair. I think they do that to try and scare people away from getting anything other than a cut done on the hair while it’s curly.
I think we all need to remember that there can be both good and bad results in anything we do. 💖
I was waiting on this video .. thank you Shelly 🥰💙.. luv your stylist 💙.. I’m really luvin your 6th day hair Sasha not playin 😂.. can’t wait to find out more .. on this journey with you CurlFriend 💙
Thank you so much beautiful! 💖🤗 Yes, I absolutely love my stylist. She’s so wonderful and is a real blessing to me! 💖💯
I appreciate you rockin with me through this crazy journey of mine! I can’t wait to be on the other side of this whole thing. 🤪
@@shelly.v.247 yes CurlFriend.. I’m definitely rocking with you thru this journey and beyond 🥰💙😁.. luv your videos as well as how real you are about your journey/experiences 💙
Your hair is beautiful ❤
Thank you so much Luv! 🥰
Wow your hair has grown so much It's so big and full and voluminous, love it!!!!
Thank you beautiful! 🥰We’ve cut a lot off and it needs a ton more to go but we will get there! 💖🙏🏽
@@shelly.v.247😍
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. A lot of the things you’ve mentioned and the strands you’ve shown I’ve been seeing in my hair and hope to get my hair back on track to my goal of healthy length
Aww ♥️🙏🏽 You can and you will Luv! I’m already seeing positive changes in my hair since revising my hair care routine. 🙌🏽
Hey Shelly, Thanks for including us. Hair is slowly coming back. Yay!!!
You are so welcome Sis! The way we learn and grow is through sharing our experiences! Super excited to see where this all takes us! 💖🤗
Wow she said 1,000% that's amazing because she's so right. We need leave in conditioners and deep conditioners!!!
I can feel a huge difference too Sis! I’ll never go without using them EVER AGAIN‼️ I’ve learned my lesson! 😆
@shelly.v.247 Thank you for sharing this. I needed to see it as a curly cut girl, and I just so happened to come across your page.
@@TheEmpressImpress I’m soooo glad you found me Sis! I think it’s good to see what our options are as well as hear about our differences experiences too. I appreciate you being here!!! 🥰🤗
That cut looks GOOOOOODDDD 💖💖💖💖 so happy for you in this journey! Thank you for taking us on the ride!
Thank you beautiful! Thank you for coming along for the ride with yo girl! 🥰🤗😘
This stylist is incredible. I'm praying I meet a stylist who can handle my hair, soon. 🥹
She’s truly amazing! I wish I had never left her chair but I’m thrilled to be back in such great hands! 🙌🏽
You’ll find a great stylist too. Just make sure you vet them by their energy and willingness to answer your questions or concerns . ♥️💯
I have been getting curly cuts for more than 2 years and my hair is very lifted. I've had extreme breakage the past 6 months I'm sure is due to the high lifting and lack of moisture. My stylist stopped using gels of my hair a year ago but it still lacks moisture. I'm currently growing the bleach out and I'll figure things out from there.
I also never wear my hair straight.
Hopefully your stylist has you on a great haircare plan to help mitigate what’s going on. I know that high lift blonde can really be hard on the hair.
Praying for your hair to get back to what you’re use to. 💖🙏🏽
Great video! Whichever way you decide to go I am confident that with your new regimen and awesome stylist your hair will return to it's glory in little to no time. I am waiting to see what you think the cause of all of this was...I have theories also and want to see if we are on the same page! Good luck to you! Can't wait to see your journey.
Thank you so much Luv! 🥰 I’m so thankful to have her in my corner! 🙌🏽
Yes, I can’t wait to see what happens with everything. It’s been a real roller coaster ride for sure!
I’ve learned a very valuable lesson is just following instead of using critical thinking about it. Never again!🙃
I’d love to hear your theories because I’m NOSEY!!! 👀🤷🏽♀️🤣
Your single strands look like lightening bolt zigzags rather than your corkscrew coils in the wash n go. What in the living heck did that method do to your strands😢😢😢? Thanks for your positivity though dealing with the traumatic hair dryness and damage. Though I have been using leave in quite liberally since my curly cuts with my gel layering and conditioning deeply etc; I just now have chucked the half empty bottle of uncle funky-‘s gel. Still waiting to do my blow out assessment…..
The strands I’m finding are just dreadful to look at! 🫣However, I still have control over how I choose to handle it and my attitude around it. So I chose to walk in happiness and positivity because being negative isn’t going to change anything. 😅
My goal is for us all to converse with each other and find solid solutions so this doesn’t continue to occur.
I pray your hair assessment is a stellar one! Please keep me posted! 🥰🤗
This was very informative 💜...TFS
You are so welcome and I’m glad it was helpful! 🥰
Hello, I’ve just joined your group. My question relates to the split strands you showed after receiving your trim. Have you ever done a protein reconstruction treatment such as Aphogee? I also like the results from a cellophane. They both temporarily seal the cuticle. 🌹
Hi beautiful and welcome 🥰
I haven’t tried Aphogee’s reconstructor or the cellophane treatment but those sound awesome! 😍
Shave , texture Changes👀You and I will be rocking a short 👀Short hair do🤣.
Haha I’m starting to come to peace with the notion! We will be twining with our little short haircuts! Lol 😆👯♀️
Only a year, year + 1/2 max!? Wow your hair must grow fast indeed! I'm recovering from (self-inflicted) damage myself and I'm thinking it'll take me about a year to reach my goal (of a similar length to yours) and I have much less distance to go. 😅
Your stylist seems like such a fun and positive person! She expertly cut on blown-out hair and the shape is SHAPING!!
Also, don't give up, even on the pieces that may seem unsalvageable! I recently ran across this lady called Heidi talking about how a bad (professional at the salon!) bleach job burned a good chunk of her hair off and she was told by the stylist that she'd go bald and, on the verge of a mental breakdown over possibly losing all her hair, she managed to save it and bring it back to life with coconut oil, olaplex, and k18. Looking at her now vs the footage on the day of the mishap you'd never know it was the same head of hair!
(Why is it always curlyheaded folks who feel like they have to big chop to get rid of damage🤔)
For the science aspect, I think you might benefit from getting in touch with Cheryl Morrow (who is co-hosting an afro hair science summit in toledo next month I believe. Your stylist might be interested too.) She's the daughter of the famous Dr. Willie Morrow, a pioneer in modern afro haircare.
Thank you so very much for the words of encouragement and suggestions! I’ve already implemented much of what you’ve suggested too.
Yes it’s very interesting that we always feel we have to chop off our hair. Idk why that is either because I had severe damage once before (color & relaxer) and I held on to that hair for dear life 🤣 I finally shaved my head and started over and my hair grow back so beautifully. 😅
I’m excited that you’ll be to your head goal soon! Finding out the severity of the damage I have has probably kicked me out of the 1-1.5 year goal. Lol. However, with the story about the blonde girl gone wrong who knows! Maybe I can hold on!!! 🤷🏽♀️😅
Always love hearing your thoughts and perspectives on everything. Stay blessed my beautiful friend! 🥰😘
Let me go get my tea...I mean protein shake and enjoy your new video😊
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You know it is crazy for her to take 2 inches off and you still have damaged ends/hair. I definitely understand the pain of starting over. I feel I will need to cut off a lot of hair once this excessive shedding stops for me. My front is so thinned out now. I just know how to lay my hair to hide it lol.
@@dimensionsbygina Ugh I’m so sorry to hear that Sis 😞💖🙏🏽
While I was editing the video I was thinking about what we cut in May. Then what we had to cut in August. Plus I went back a day later and got a little more cut off. So it was more than stated in the video. I literally just want to throw in the towel and start fresh. However, for those curlies out there who might be in the same boat or come across my content later, I want to show them the options. I want them to see an approach other than cutting it all off. 😢
Plus until we fully know what caused what (but I think we know) I don’t want to cut it off.
Right now time and research are my best friends! 🤪
Your stylist seems really kind and I love how she listened to you AND let you come with your hair straightened with the revair. Do you use any heat protection when you use it?
Also how often are you deep conditioning now?
I think your wash n go still looks super cute! You’ve got me considering layers all over now😍😍😍
Thank you Luv, she’s definitely awesome! 😍
I do use a heat protectant. I actually have a video on how I prepped my hair to blow it out prior to this appointment. I believe it’s Part 2 of this series’s. 🤔
I am currently deep conditioning weekly. I was instructed to do that until further notice. 😅
Layers are fun because they give the hair more movement and lift however think long and hard before you do them. Research the pros and cons of getting them first. 💖
So I have a few takeaways from this video. 1. I have these same conversations with my stylist (that cut my hair straight). It comes with familiarity and trust. Love this. 2. I absolutely am booking a straight cut. I don’t even need an assessment bc I can see some foolishness going on with this head. 3. I LOVE your stylist. 4. I need to work on my arms bc the guns were blazing! 5. You DO have a gorgeous head of hair. 6. We are both November babies. 😊 Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It’s made me think and rethink what I want and what my hair goals are. We are going to come out of this alright. Sending love ❤❤
Aww you’re so awesome and I appreciate you so very much Sis! 🥰💯
Yes, my stylist is amazing and her arms are to die for! 😍
I love how she is proving how you can get a straight cut and have it translate beautifully into curly. You just need an experienced hairstylist to do it. 💯
I’m excited to hear more about your journey so please keep me posted! You know I’m NOSEY and want to hear and know all the things! 🤣🤣🤣
Lastly, thank you for your message. I enjoyed reading it! 🥰🤗
@@shelly.v.247 ❤️❤️
She’s a good stylist. She listens and gives good suggestions. I think extreme dryness is the most damaging because that will definitively cause ends to break and split. Are you getting it trimmed every 2 months? Oh I’m sorry she said 3months.
Several stylists are starting to admit that they cannot fully assess the hair when it’s curly. Therefore, they are suggesting that the hair be blown out periodically to assess for any issues that may be present. With all the information circulating, I personally would want to have my hair fully assessed. However, we are all entitled to do what we think it’s best for our own head of hair. Also, what if you get your hair blown out and assessed and it’s not as healthy as you think? I don’t think most stylists want to have to deal with that so naturally, they are going to tell you that your hair is healthy and you don’t have any issues. I would think a responsible stylist would proactively offer to blow your hair out and assess it especially with everything going on. However, I could be completely wrong.
I’m getting my haircut every three months. I was going to get it cut monthly but I do not want to get it blown out that often. I’m not sure my heir can handle that right now.
You might be right about the assessment but I’ve never liked having my hair blown dry.
@@ossier2796 I don’t either but I would have never known the true magnitude of the damage of my hair had I not had it done. 😓
After she cut that it looks so much more even🙌🏾✨✨! Ive been getting blow out cuts too after. ayear of curly cuts but I was cutting off heat damage/possibly a keratin treatment slipped in so Idont think it was that detrimental
I use to use keratin treatments to straighten my hair and they were amazing! If I ever go back straight that’s what I will use but currently I don’t plan to go back to straight hair.
I hope your hair heals soon too and thank you for sharing your story. I always enjoy hearing about others experiences. 🥰
I love your hair!
Thank you so very much Luv! 🥰
I love the interaction between you and your stylist. Stick with her. I’m sure she’ll help you reach your hair goals. 😊
Thank you Luv and I absolutely will! ♥️💯
Love this discussion. Can you add products used to the description box? I have always deep conditioned but stopped leave ins. Trying to incorporate again to see if that will help
I didn’t add any in this video because it wasn’t a styling video but I’ll go in and add them in for you now Luv 💖
@@shelly.v.247 thanks so much
What a great consultation and cutting session! The cut translates very well to your curly set. Have you asked your stylist what she thinks about how the split strands may affect the whole head? Are you a candidate for or has she been doing any treatments like K18? I am happy your hair is on the mend, seriously. You are case in point as to why we always have to be observant, and trust our instincts. Even if we don't have the answers at least we start to research and look for them in other places if and when needed.
I’ve shared them and she is standing firm in her opinion to just give her time. We have implemented K18 & Olaplex and other treatments too. It’s just so crazy how I have this level of damage from wearing my hair “natural.” Who would ever think you could sustain this type of damage from wearing your hair in a it’s natural state! However, it just goes to show that our hair is way more complex than what we are being told and perhaps the extra time it takes to do deep conditioning treatments and the addition of certain products are warranted.
Time shall tell it all. Thanks for following my journey and I appreciate you being here with me! 💖🥰
Agree. I feel like my hair is not as healthy in the natural state, though I love my curly hair. It is a journey. 😢
@@Listen2me400 I feel you Sis! 💖
Your set is looking beautiful. Have you shown those strands to your stylist so she can make an assessment of them? As you know splits can't be mended and do have to be cut off eventually. However, they can be strengthened to help prevent further splitting as you grow them out. Strengthening/protein conditioners can help greatly as she said during your appointment. If you're not against using one that isn't 100% natural, I'd suggest checking out Aquage SeaExtend Strengthening Conditioner from the original/classic line. A stylist suggested it to me years ago, and it has never failed me when I needed something as a repair-type conditioner without using a hard protein like Aphrogee. Please check with your stylist and see what she thinks before considering buying it.
I have and she told me to trust her because she will get me right again. She’s never lead me wrong so I’m walking with her through my faith! 🙏🏽
I will definitely look into that product and talk to her about it. I truly appreciate your comment and product recommendation! ♥️🤗
@@shelly.v.247 You're welcome. If your stylist approves it, I hope it is as beneficial to you as it has been to me.💜
Thank you for sharing. Great conversation. You will get through this... at a minimum way more knowledgeable about hair then how you started 😁
Yes, and thank you! 💖I definitely know way more about hair than I ever thought I would now! lol 😅
I know with my patience and skills and hair type I need a straight cut at least twice a year. My hair tangles really badly when the ends are uneven and more tangles means more breakage for me..unfortunately and my hair is ultra fine 4c. Burst out laughing at the bear edit. This mid shaft splits I have in my hair. What stops them for me: 1. wearing a protective style 5 days out of 7. Most effective, easy and gentle: twists and flat twists. 2. deep condition every week and apply leave in daily 3. I only use styling products 1 day out of 7. 4. Utilising protein and olaplex. Last year I had damaged ends from heat......Olaplex made those strands stay in my hair for over a year whereas before they would have broke off. Note do not over use olaplex no 3 or protein. start small and then gradually increase. once you no longer have damaged hair stop using Olaplex and strong keratin protein. If you are unsure...ask your stylist to apply the protein or olaplex. I've seen people damage their hair from over using protein and olaplex. be careful with them. I get away with a lot because my ultra-fine hair is bleached!! still I do not use olaplex every day just once a week. good luck lady!!!
Thank you so very much for all the great pearls! I’m trying extremely hard to stay positive and patient with this entire situation.
I’m being very mindful of the Olaplex and protein because I’ve read how easily it is to jack up your hair. 😅
Thank you again and stay blessed! 🥰
I really think you should trust your stylist. There's nothing like having somebody looking at your hair from the outside in with your best interests at heart that's going to help you get back to the kind of hair that you want.
With that said, have you had a conversation with your stylist about using Bond correcting treatments? Things like olaplex can do a lot to fix the Integrity of your hair while you're growing out so you don't have to split running up the hair strands. I know olaplex is not a big deal in the natural hair community, but it really does do a good job of correcting damaged hair.
I also had some thoughts on the changing texture. Now you may not be going through the same thing I am, are you graying and do you color your hair? I have increasingly gray hair and the texture of my gray hair is different because the structure of gray hair is different. I don't know if you're already researching it but hair grays because there's less melanin and not only does the loss of melanin change the physical Integrity of your hair but it also allows your hair to be less protected and therefore experience more sun damage. Which contributes to the drying of your hair. While color may make the hair look darker I don't think it changes the structure and integrity of your hair. Which is honestly another reason why you got to be focusing on keeping your hair hydrated. Didn't know if you were one of those ladies that is free of gray hair but that can have an effect.
Otherwise your hair is gorgeous, blown out and Curley! Can't wait to see more videos of your journey.
Aww thank you so very much Luv for your kind and encouraging words!
Yes, I’m currently using Olaplex and K18 to help strengthen my hair in hopes the splits won’t travel to the new growth. ♥️🙏🏽
So far I only have a few gray hairs and haven’t had the need to color my hair at all. I’ve heard about how challenging dealing with gray hair can be though! So glad I don’t have to deal with that part yet. 😅
I’m excited to see where this journey will take me and I’m thankful to have you along for the ride! 🥰🤗
I didn't listen to the end of the video until now, and I definitely don't think you should chop your hair off 😢😢😢 your stylist seems to be very competent and confident as well that she knows how to repair and grow your strands back while keeping the integrity and health of it as well. Wow I know that was a mouthful but I think you should trust her and don't be scared 😊😊😊😊
I’m certainly trying to be patient but it’s not only the strands but all the other things. My hair has taken a true beat down from pulling out certain products. I just pray that my hair can rebound from this but honestly it might be easier to just start over. We shall see. 💖😅
It looks good! I’m wondering now since I want to be in the grow back my length pre curly cuts, about doing blown out cuts. I started curly cuts for shape 3 years ago.
I personally can’t wait until my hair is healthy and back on track. Why? Because I know by getting blown out cuts I will be able to grow it out faster because I feel more of my healthy length will be retained.
Side bar:
I find if funny how we got scolded about wanting long hair. That we should just want a bomb shape and be happy. Asking for both was a almost an insult! However, now that people want to switch to blown out cuts for various reasons including length retention, now all of a sudden we are being told how we can have it all with cuts on curly hair! Shape, health and length! Make it make sense!!! 😅
@@shelly.v.247I agree! I initially didn’t care about length when I started the curly cuts because I was all about th e shapes I wanted. I just want to be able to pull the lower back of my hair up. I want to go back to wearing different styles.
I feel you‼️ 💯
I think you probably need to deal with hydration. Sometimes you may have to wash and condition your hair more than once a week. What you probably have really, really, dehydrated hair.
It’s so crazy because her hair use to be shiny and hydrated. She might need to cut her hair
@Neesha242 oh yeah she needs the cuts for sure, but washing and conditioning is really going to get it back too.
@@keishaj5993 With the method I was following, I was washing it faithfully about twice per week! I’m pretty sure I know what caused it and that’s why I’ve been documenting and sharing my experiences.
Since adding back in deep conditioners and leave-in my hair has improved drastically. However, compared to how it was prior to implementing a particular haircare methodology it’s not great.
Time will tell all. I appreciate you being on the journey with me. 🥰
@@Neesha242 Yes, you’re so right. Plus as you may or may not be aware I was washing my hair routinely about two times per week. Since going back to my old routine my hair is starting to bounce back but the damage that’s there is permanent! Only cutting will get rid of it. 😝
@shelly.v.247 I followed their method for a year too. I severely dehydrated my hair out too. It took a year and half of corrective cuts, deep conditioning, shampooing and no heat to get my hair right. That method was not sitting right with my runner's lifestyle. My hair is shorter than I want but it's definitely more manageable now.
Humectant based gels don’t work in every climate. I live in high humidity and I avoid humectants in the summer or I am a hot frizzy mess
Yeah and I’m not so sure they are the best for our hair when used without a leave-in etc. I’m starting to understand that it’s definitely not a one size fits all thing! 😅
@@shelly.v.247 what I've been curious about is how it seems that those following BGC pretty much use the same method and products irrespective of climate. It's not computing for me how an anti-humectant helps in a dry climate. The other thing I'm curious about for those who found their scalps irritated with Curly Magic, if Curly Magic just didn't agree with their hair. If the scalp doesn't like it, perhaps that's an indicator that the hair won't like it either. That's just a thought.
@@shelly.v.247curious as to why you don't think they're the best for our hair? Will they deplete the moisture in our hair?
They also don't work well in dry climates. Humectants pull moisture from the air into the hair, but if there is little to no moisture in the air, they will pull moisture out of the hair leaving it dry. I wondered if that was contributing to the dryness in Shelly's hair since I believe she lives in a dry climate.
@@cmw1336 It definitely could have played a role. However, I travel a lot especially during the summer to escape the heat. We typically go to areas with lots of humidity. Either way, based off your thoughts a DC and/or leave in probably would have been extremely beneficial! 😅
Let your stylist get you back to healthier long hair. Be patient.
Yes indeed, I’m definitely trying! ♥️🙏🏽
Why do stylists use black bibs for dark hair instead of white? For filming purposes the audience can see the cut better with a contrast bib.
My stylist was very kind in allowing me to tape especially given the current situation at hand. 💯
I didn’t feel comfortable requesting her to use a white cape but maybe I’ll purchase one to show y’all at home after my service.
I get your thoughts and they are well received Luv. 💖
When you showed those split hairs after your appointment, I got a little teary-eyed. I am so sorry this has happened to your hair. Your hair is so beautiful, and it is on the mend. I pray that God continues to guide you and give you peace every step of the way during this process. He knows (and cares about) EVERY hair on your head (Luke 12:7), and He will perfect what concerns you (Psalm 138:8). You have helped a lot of people, including myself to recognize and alleviate further issues with our hair, and for that I'm grateful. Peace and blessings to you. ❤
Aww your message made me tear up 😢 but in a very good way. ❤ So I thank you for your kind words and beautiful message!
I will walk in my faith knowing that this is all for a greater purpose. I’m thankful to know that sharing my experience has helped so many including yourself! 🥰
So onwards and forwards to healthy and beautiful curls together! 🙌🏽🥳
Given the extent of the dehydration/distressed strands...do you think that climate is a factor. I know that you have mentioned you live in Arizona
Oh I’m sure it has played a role but I also travel a lot to places that have a lot of humidity in the air. So I’ve had a mix of both. 🤷🏽♀️
Interestingly enough, I asked that question a few times when I was a member inside a certain platform and was told a dry climate didn’t matter. I no longer believe that to be true though. I think we have to take into account all the different variables. No one size fits all when it comes to our hair. 💯
@@shelly.v.247 that's crazy to hear because I've heard them talk about climate as a factor. If you are living in either extreme and depending on your unique head of hair it will be a moderate to severe impact to your hair.
I remembered how different my hair behaved on work trips and trips to the beach, out on the water vs in my city. I think that is a big reason why humectant heavy routine has to be coupled with polymers heavier stylers, barrier sprays in drier climates.
I hope your hair recovers soon!
@@sart1348 Yes, you’re correct about what you stated. They have always talked about climates but to my knowledge it was more so about humid climates. So I apologize that I wasn’t clear on that. However, as far as the dyer climates they said we just wouldn’t have the need for the anti humectant gels/products etc.
I even remember asking about a heat protectant for the sun since it can be very intense in AZ and they said there was no need. So who really knows 🤷🏽♀️
Anyway, thank you for your well wishes. I really appreciate it! 💖🙏🏽
Arizona also has very hard water, which is damaging to the hair and skin. Alot of places in the Western part of the US have harder water. Water softeners systems and chleating shampoo helps with hard water.
I commented in a previous thread that humectants don't work well in dry climates on their own (i.e. w/out something to lock that moisture in). Humectants pull moisture from the air into the hair, but if there is little to no moisture in the air, they will pull moisture out of the hair leaving it dry. I wondered if that was contributing to the dryness in Shelly's hair in combination with everything else.
I found tree branch split ends on a few of my single hair stand. I take good care of my hair. I love washing my hair. I go to a natural hair salon to get my regular trims. She never noticed it. She told me my hair is flourishing. Please advise how can I fix this without cutting my hair? I'm trying to let my hair grow out. I'm scared. I thought I was doing all the right things to my hair until I saw your video. So I decided to look at my hair strands and I saw the same exact thing ,my hair strand had tree branch split ends on 1strand, I couldn't believe it. Please advise what can I do to reverse this madness? Thank you for this information, because I don't think I would have looked for it, if I had not watched your video. I need help..Please advise.
Hey Luv, first off take a deep breath because clearly you’re not alone in this! 🥰
My heart hit the pit of my stomach when I started to find those strands too. 😞
Do me a favor and DM me on IG so we can talk more in depth there about everything. ♥️
Is your hair cut in layers to make it bounce the way it does.
It was cut in layers but now it’s not. I think the layers definitely help it move earlier but my hair naturally just moves regardless. 💖
Who and Where is your stylist located? I would like a consultation.
Her name is Kim. Her salon is called Apricot Lounge and she’s located in Arizona. 🥰
Have you considered using aphogee? Honestly not been convinced by the effectiveness of bond builders, couldn’t really find any scientific studies on these bond building chemicals whilst there are studies of protein at different weights penetrating the hair shaft. It might help mitigate the weakness. I also feel some of this damage is heat damage from the dryer, people keep saying diffused heat doesn’t cause damage but I don’t see why it couldn’t. Ahg says he got damage from a hair steamer, so the high temperature with no heat protectant or leave in could be the reason for the curl pattern changing. I think if you want to grow it out you can, unless you begin to see excessive hair thinning, your split hairs will get cut off over time.
Aphogee is a strong protein so for me I have to be careful as too much protein makes my hair brittle
@@TWS1977 I am currently using the keratin reconstructor, it makes my hair feels soft with a bit more strength. There’s also the curlific line, I think most people don’t need the 2 step protein treatment although I’ve never tried it.
@@bbappzz98 oh ok. I didn’t know they had so many options now. I only know of the two step one that’s has been out since I was a teen
Yes I have definitely consider the 2 Step Aphogee system. I just want to be very mindful in how I implement it but we are definitely thinking along the same lines!
I’ve also said the exact same things about the hooded dyers and lack of leave-in and heat protectant.
I personally am questioning everything now because I have lost faith in many who are the “experts” that give all the advice.
I’m following the science now‼️💯
Lastly, I truly appreciate your thoughts and you taking the time to share them! So very kind of you! 💖
Hmmm.....those splits all the way up the hair shaft is an interesting development. How could that still be happening after all this time without getting a curly cut? Is it your technique? Or maybe some other health challenge that is impacting your hair? I thought the blown-out cuts and deep conditioners were the trick.
Yes, I agree it’s extremely interesting and even more so concerning!
I didn’t fully realize the extent of the damage when this first all began. However, watching the Afrikan Hair Gods coverage of this topic made me inspect my hair further. Especially since he’s had numerous clients with the same issues. He confirmed my suspicions and concerns which warranted a deeper look.
So I’ve come to believe that it’s a culmination of not only the curly cuts but also the no oils and butters method I was following.
As mentioned in my video I don’t believe curly cuts are bad at all but I just don’t feel they address all the split ends. In my hair I believe those split ends snowballed throughout the year I was getting them. I also believe the lack of using certain products not containing oils and butters high on the ingredients list plus the omission of DC & leave-ins has played a huge role too.
My hair has drastically improved since reimplementing them but as you know you can’t mend a split in the hair. It must be cut. So there is only so much any given product can do for me right now.
I understand your point about any health issues or concerns but I get routine and extensive bloodwork every 3-4 months. I’m also well versed in reading labs and everything is in the standard range.
Lastly, as with anything in life things will always continue to develop and evolve. My hair is no different. So I reserve the right to continue to share my experiences as I uncover them. I also reserve the right to look for solutions with or without others who care to help and/or address the concerns raised.
Hope that addresses and answers all of your question. 💖
I heard detangling with a brush can cause split ends as well. I never detangle with a brush because those small bristles rips my hair. If my hair is already detangle then I will use a brush. Any other time I’m using a wide tooth comb to detangle. But it’s probably because she wasn’t moisturizing her hair properly
6” in a year if your grows 1/2” per month but if yours grows more than that you could reach your goal in a year.
My hair tends to grow decently fast. She seems to think it grows a bit more than the average hair growth metric. I hope that continues to hold true🙏🏽😅
I just heard towards the end of the video "I may have to just shave it all off" ? 😮 .............. now I think I may need therapy 😔
Trust me, I’m right there with you! Did you see the splits in my hair that I’m finding??? 👀🫣😫
I’m getting DM’s from other curl friends with splits and/or bubbles along the hair strands.
It’s so wild!!! 😓
@@shelly.v.247 yes I did, one of the hairs was so damaged, it looked like a varicose vein lol
Not a varicose vein! 👀🫣🤣
My stylist always talks about the condition of my hair and ask what I’m using and what I need to use or what I need to be doing. I still get curly cuts and my hair is healthy and my stylist says it’s healthy of course she only does curly cuts😂. But I guess because I’ve used CurlMix for many wash and goes and they have leave ins and moisturizers my hair hasn’t been real dry. I admit that I only use deep conditioners maybe once a month or when I feel the need.
Well I pray it’s truly healthy but we all know there’s only one way to really find out Sis! 👀🫣😅
If the splits you are finding are near the end of your hair, then I don't think you should shave your hair. I definitely wouldn't suggest cutting it, if your next cut, as your stylist says could resolve all that's wrong.
I'm curious what you have to say about texture changes. I have four different textures in my hair. I've been a straight natural the majority of my adult life. Up until the past two years. I don't think I ever really knew what my natural texture was. And even now, I'm not so sure I will ever know. My hair is color treated for gray coverage. Whenever I decide to stop covering the gray, the gray will be a different experience. I'm on thyroid medication and have androgenic alopecia. The front of my hair seems completely disconnected from the rest of my hair. This is primarily why I wear twist outs to get some level of uniformity.
I know you aren't dealing with all the things I'm dealing with but I'm just curious because I'm pretty sure that my hair isn't what it was originally genetically hard-coded to be.
Ugh that’s a lot to deal with for sure and I pray your hair and scalp become healed from what you’re dealing with Sis! 😞🙏🏽
The splits at at different points through the hair strands. At the bottom, middle and top. They are literally everywhere except the new growth so far.
I love my stylist because she’s so positive and supportive but I know what I’m seeing and another big cut in November won’t even remotely touch the damage that lives within the interior.
In a strange way I’m thankful God picked me to go through this because he knew I’d use my voice to speak up about it. He knows I won’t stop asking questions and researching until we know the “why” behind all of this!
The texture change is very interesting too. I think I know why it happened but I want to be certain before speaking about it first.
What I do know is this is the perfect storm within my head of hair! Lol 😅
@@shelly.v.247 Yeah I got a lot going on. And oddly enough all that I have going on is why I couldn't follow the BGC approach to the tee because I always had another variable or two to consider.
As strange as it may sound, if your hair responding to the treatments, you are able to manage your hair more easily, your styling results still look good, you seem to still enjoy your hair. You really can't go wrong with whatever direction you choose.
Just cut it and start all over again. It’s just hair, it will grow since it looks like you got great hair genetics.
Easier said than done but definitely there is a great possibility for sure. I just need to figure 💯why this all happened. I’m pretty sure I know now but I want to make double certain so no one else has to go through this!!!!
@@shelly.v.247hope you come back and let us know Once you’ve figured it all out, Shelly V. We are waiting with bated breath! Your hair looks gorgeous at any length ❤