I also think that our science/engineering training taught us the exact wrong way to solve problems -- we were taught to separate and analyze factors and identify what's wrong and needs fixing, in great detail. That method made me really great at manifesting the problems in greater detail. It is a major shift to realize that many of Life's problems can be solved by NOT looking at the minutiae that are wrong, but instead magnifying what is right. Those of us who learned experimental method really well may have actually been in a disadvantageous position compared to people who didn't bother paying attention at school, know what I mean?
Thank you for these thought-provoking words, it's nice to ponder these ideas. :) Yes, for me too, the giant difference that has made life so much better is just learning to accept so many things that I used to be taught to judge and/or reject all the time. And even when there are some negative emotions that come up, accepting them generally helps them blow through more quickly. (Especially if we think, "that's okay, when yo know what you don't want, you know what you do want, and this is just sending a rocket of desire...") Was video-talking to another conference pal yesterday and she was marvelling at the magic of just accepting things that she used to judge, and how easy it is to be happy when you do that and describing some lovely situations that used to be hard situations, but approaching them with the different lens turned them into lovely interactions that everybody wanted more of. So nice.
Yeah beautiful Christa! It then becomes clear that the resistance to the moment is actually what is creating unnecessary suffering; liberation occurs when the identification with that resistance falls away.
I am at that level of observing thoughts and feelings that come and go without sticking to them, but I am still living with people whose actions are able to stir up this mind-body. Although, I have become more aware of the minds processes and have less emotional turmoil over the years, still I must live with the number one source of daily stress for years more. Sometimes I am unable to control anything and the body goes for alcohol and even cigarettes. This is what it is like for this piece of life going through this journey, and I was wondering how you were able to get past such stressors? Did you have the kind of stress that comes from people you live with or do you think not having such stress played a great role in having enough peace of mind to be in a constant let go state?
Thanks for your reply. On one hand I tried to have a life with very little stressors, and on the other hand I had many triggers around me, which seemed to take me over often. Actually over time I started to deliberately seek out situations that triggered me, to become aware of what this did to the body-mind. The moments with little stressors helped deepen this peace within me and once I felt quite rooted there I would find those things that normally would trigger me and gradually expose myself to them, to be completely aware of what it did with my system. Over time the identification with the resistance against how life expresses itself in the moment started to fall away. Try and expose yourself bit by bit to those things that trigger you a bit (but not seem to take you over completely) and you'll notice the resistance to them lessening and lessening.
@@unconditionalattention Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts. I have been trying this desensitization technique for the past year by focusing on the sensations that come up whenever the mind is triggered, but certain things haven’t changed at all. I have found that what helps, if I can manage it, is to step away from the source of anger and distract the mind somehow. I figured this may have to suffice for the next few years. 🙏🏼
I also think that our science/engineering training taught us the exact wrong way to solve problems -- we were taught to separate and analyze factors and identify what's wrong and needs fixing, in great detail. That method made me really great at manifesting the problems in greater detail. It is a major shift to realize that many of Life's problems can be solved by NOT looking at the minutiae that are wrong, but instead magnifying what is right. Those of us who learned experimental method really well may have actually been in a disadvantageous position compared to people who didn't bother paying attention at school, know what I mean?
Thank you for these thought-provoking words, it's nice to ponder these ideas. :)
Yes, for me too, the giant difference that has made life so much better is just learning to accept so many things that I used to be taught to judge and/or reject all the time. And even when there are some negative emotions that come up, accepting them generally helps them blow through more quickly. (Especially if we think, "that's okay, when yo know what you don't want, you know what you do want, and this is just sending a rocket of desire...")
Was video-talking to another conference pal yesterday and she was marvelling at the magic of just accepting things that she used to judge, and how easy it is to be happy when you do that and describing some lovely situations that used to be hard situations, but approaching them with the different lens turned them into lovely interactions that everybody wanted more of. So nice.
Yeah beautiful Christa! It then becomes clear that the resistance to the moment is actually what is creating unnecessary suffering; liberation occurs when the identification with that resistance falls away.
I am at that level of observing thoughts and feelings that come and go without sticking to them, but I am still living with people whose actions are able to stir up this mind-body. Although, I have become more aware of the minds processes and have less emotional turmoil over the years, still I must live with the number one source of daily stress for years more. Sometimes I am unable to control anything and the body goes for alcohol and even cigarettes. This is what it is like for this piece of life going through this journey, and I was wondering how you were able to get past such stressors? Did you have the kind of stress that comes from people you live with or do you think not having such stress played a great role in having enough peace of mind to be in a constant let go state?
Thanks for your reply. On one hand I tried to have a life with very little stressors, and on the other hand I had many triggers around me, which seemed to take me over often. Actually over time I started to deliberately seek out situations that triggered me, to become aware of what this did to the body-mind. The moments with little stressors helped deepen this peace within me and once I felt quite rooted there I would find those things that normally would trigger me and gradually expose myself to them, to be completely aware of what it did with my system. Over time the identification with the resistance against how life expresses itself in the moment started to fall away. Try and expose yourself bit by bit to those things that trigger you a bit (but not seem to take you over completely) and you'll notice the resistance to them lessening and lessening.
@@unconditionalattention Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts. I have been trying this desensitization technique for the past year by focusing on the sensations that come up whenever the mind is triggered, but certain things haven’t changed at all. I have found that what helps, if I can manage it, is to step away from the source of anger and distract the mind somehow. I figured this may have to suffice for the next few years. 🙏🏼