Bonidee Lee no? It’s literally been like this for decades in my country. It’s just to make people not have to wait or go long walks to get to the bathroom lol
random person in mall: Hello sir, would you like a sample? Me (internally): *crying because "sir"* Me (externally): Oh, no thank you! Mom (who I have had to come out to 3 times): Why didn't you correct them?????? -_- better luck next time.
The only people who call me a boy are two of my friends, and they both call me more masculine than them. One was born a boy, one is transgender boy, like me.
I wish I had that courage. People at my school, especially the guys, are transphobic and it makes me really sad because I want to use the mens bathroom but I cant. Also this was really awesome I loved it
@@stealstealstealstealsteal Souls, always know that: GOD calls us to JUDGE, Not unrighteous judgment but righteous judgment. John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. GOD through His Word judge us. Christians are expected to judge themselves and others. But what humans do, how do we judge? We judge according to the appearance,, that = false/unrighteous judgment Why to be afraid of getting judged? you judge others, mostly unrighteously. Others judge you, mostly unrighteously. GOD judge all of us; RIGHTEOUSLY always. Why to be afraid of judgment if we get it anyway and give it out anyway? But what is needed in order to have RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT? - knowledge - we need knowledge. And to all lgbtq people: Let me get it right, gender is a feeling - right? So, if i feel angry or happy, did by gender disappeared? Since gender is a feeling (and not a biological fact - which it clearly is,) and my feeling changed, so therefore my gender vanished?
@@stealstealstealstealsteal sure you are. The question is, will you be satanist in the lake of fire too? Or will you be there to: Matthew 13:50 - And shall cast them into the furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth.
Hello , now , I don't know anyone in these comments but I just wanted to say , I CAME OUT TO MY MOM TODAY!Her reaction was amazing , it brought tears to my eyes so for all my trans guys out there be you , and stay strong , by the way my name is Tyler (biological is Cydne)
Cyd Davis thank you! i also had a lot of insecurities about coming out, and even though my situation is not the best possible scenario, i’m still happy that i did it. thanks for taking the time to leave a comment, have a nice day!
Excellent film. Broke my heart up until the end when the young man smiled. I can't imagine how lonely he felt and thank goodness there are accepting, non judgemental people as portrayed by the young girl.
@@NatjelovesBillk some trans people cannot bind due to medical issues or sensory issues. some trans people just don't feel comfortable with it. it doesn't make them any less trans.
@@NatjelovesBillk not if they cant afford one or have an unsupportive family. i rarely get to bind outside of the weekend when im with my sister and it kills me on the inside during the weekdays edit: also not everyone *can* bind due to health reasons. there are many reasons one might not be able to bind.
I like to watch these because it helps me feel better about me being transgender since my family doesn't know and I feel to scared to tell them because I know that the won't understand me and think I'm just confused and I know that my Dad will say that because he did when I told him I was pan sexual I just want to run and wait till I'm in collage and by myself to be who I feel like on the inside. Not a girl, but a boy named Even. 😔
naracely28 I feel the same thing. I would come out but I cut my hair really short like a boy and now every time I go in a women’s restroom they just stare but I don’t feel comfortable going to the men’s yet. But everybody already thinks I’m a boy but in school in the locker room for gym it’s really awkward and I hate it. Ugh I wish people could just be people without having to hate on other people because they are different. 😫
naracely28 Hi, My names jordan 🙂 trust me it gets better in college! I was the same and then I saw a lot of tran, gay and bi and all those people. No one cares....eventually, like 2 weeks in I cut my hair and people were so supportive when I told them. They are like my second family now 🙂 My parents still don’t know, but it’s ok because I dress my own way now. They don’t like it, but I still do what I want Don’t be afraid to express urself Even 😉
In case you still havent told your parents, since you are afraid of telling them which I completely understand you, you can write them a letter or link them a video when you are away from home, or just text them. That way you dont have to look at them and see their reaction face to face, it also gives them some time to absorb it and think about it. Good luck dude.
I have been feeling a bit depressed lately and this made me feel a wee bit better bc now I know I don’t have to listen to what others say but to go my own way and just I love this and the message of it ahhhh it’s great
I am pretty much still in the closet so to make things easier I still use the girls bathroom and haven’t cut my hair and I dress like a girl for school even though it makes me incredibly uncomfortable
hey, it's okay! remember that you are still the one who knows your body best and you are who you are no matter what somebody might tell you. it's okay to be in the closet, especially if it's dangerous for you to come out. stay strong, some day you can express yourself freely!
Loved it. I understand the struggle. Thankfully whenever I go shopping I can use the Men's dressing room. I don't use public bathrooms so I don't know what that's like. Thankfully I'm homeschooled now so I don't have to worry about anymore locker room issues and those asshats the school calls students. Edit: Thanks for the likes, I've been out for over a year, testosterone has done wonders! :D
My school allowed me to go to the males bathroom but after one day took the right away again. It made me so upsed.... I wish I could just go to school withoud having to worry
Noel Linné i’m sorry to hear that! :( you should definitely have the right to use whichever toilet you feel comfortable. hopefully you can sometime soon in the future you can use the men’s restroom!
artbychamber thanks. But like the Video did kind of help. I think I'll talk with the headmaster again. Cause 8 hours without useing the toilet and in the worst case in summer is just not healthy. Have a nice day and thank you
@@madebychamber whoa whoa there I'm not trans btw but I'm not cool with anybody and everybody going in the same bathroom as me like let's be real if ur trans your still biologically ur original gender so if some people aren't cool with that it's kinda weird/uncomfortable
So do I. I pass really well so everyone gets really confused when they see me in uniform. The benefit is that there's only one bathroom, so you don't have to be stared at in the women's or risk getting outed by using the men's.
U knows I always thought there was something wrong with me like I would start in the girls but some how always end up in the boys at first I thought I was lesbian but then I realized it was not that at all for all you trans men and women out there we satand together not alone (ó㉨ò) and remember your fabulous just the way you are
the part where the girls said "there's that girl again. i hope she doesnt come near us, she's such a freak," is so relateable for me that it hurts to hear someone else go through it
Every Tuesday I used to go to this center for school and the bathrooms they had there were awesome. There were two unlabeled sides with heavy enough and tall enough stall doors to overpower the "bathroom creep" battle, and sinks on the outside in the middle so you'd just come out of your stall, walk like 5 steps forward, turn, and wash your hands in the sink out in the open. It was in my mind a brilliant solution to bathroom issues and satisfied both sides of the argument and it was fantastic. I don't see why other buildings don't try a similar setup?
A sigh of relief to know that there are people who understand. For a long time I always felt alone but I have a friend at school who is the same as me. We both are trans guys and we’ve been sticking up for each other for a while. This film is so accurate as to how we’re treated it’s sad. ;-;
Spider_guard_kid How do you know they can be a he if they want too don’t be so trans-phobic how would you feel if people kept saying things like this to you if you were trans?
I find it kinda cool that they made one of these in Finland, especially since it seems to have made at least some kind of impact on our society if you look at all the views and likes. I'm proud of you guys for making something like this. You made me cry, no joke.
You know what I find interesting? All these films I've seen about trans people, they all look natural. Like, passing them on the street I wouldn't even think twice. Makes one think, if briefly since self-identity is part of equality. Also, seeing that tram makes me miss the public transportation system; where I live now it is non-existent...
This is amazing I love this and being s closeted genderfluid thing and an out of the closet pan it makes me so happy to see other things in a time erra so fucked up dealing with lgbtq, I came out as pan and it was thanks to all of these amazing short films that helped me over come my fear, thank you guys
ahhhh thank you!! i had a hard time with my gender and sexuality myself too and wanted other people to feel okay and validated!! thanks for the kind words!!
I give you all of the support I can give, and I've been having huge trouble with identity. I really hope you can overcome obstacles that you come against.
My stepchild just came out as trans (ftm). I’ve been watching videos of ftm TH-camrs. If you watch the ones that are timelines of being on testosterone, you’ll see that your face will (probably) change, and you’ll grow whiskers. And your voice should become deeper. Just take it a day at a time. Are there any lgbtq+ support groups around you? Everything is virtual (still), so distance shouldn’t be an issue. I’m rooting for you.
just wanted to say this one random thing the ad i just watched made gay marriage look so normal that even I, a gay, didn't notice it until after the ad played.
I just realised another hard thing for trans people. Whenever i feel bad/uncomfortable in public spaces for whatever reason i always go to the bathroom to hide/cry. If you don’t feel like you can go to either bathroom you won’t have that escape from the bad situation. That must feel awful When you already get in more of these situations by being trans. I believe in you, trans people
If anyone calls you a freak, don’t feel bad because everyone is a little bit of a freak. Everyone is different, and therefore nobody’s normal. If you’re called a freak, take it as a compliment because they’re just noticing what makes you unique.
I’m young and still trying to figure out what gender I am but recently I went to a sleepover with some mates and one would often look on my phone and then the next week she starts mentioning that she thinks I’ll more then likely be transgender in the future. I don’t know if she saw anything on my phone about me questioning myself but I’m so happy that my one best friend doesn’t mind and is supportive of this
Another label you could consider is nonbianry. (Which means gender identities which are not solely male or female and identity out of the gender binary.) Their sub catagories within which are demigirl or Demi boy which tends to like to use (she/they or he/they) their genderfluid which I am which means some days I may feel more masculine and like he pronouns or feels more neutral and they feels right and every once in a while their she pronouns. Nonbinary the umbrella term. It take a while to see which gender identity feels right. Transgender is a more common term people know compared to nonbinary. I just thought it might be helpful to give you another perspective you could look into. Their no rush to figure out who you are and I wish you luck. Their are many labels and it takes time finding the right one : )
Very touching short film, especially 5.17 when the girl asked "him" if he wanted to sit with them. I am not trans but intersex, both boy and girl, and most people can't tell the difference. I get called "mam" and I get called "sir", and sometimes I just get called "it" or "whatever you are". I hope trans individuals can somehow make their appearance more like unto their chosen gender, because intersex people like me have a difficult time achieving this goal. We are all in the same boat.
Would you rather have a happy son or a dead daughter? This is sadly what it comes to and too many people think the second option is better. You. Are. Valid. No matter who you are. You. Are. Valid.
Does anybody have any tips about coming out to friends and family? I know my family is accepting but idk if they will take me seriously. I’m not ready to come out anytime soon but I just need tips for the future. Also does anyone have any tips for feeling less dysphoric or to present more masculine? Thanks!
I have long hair and I'm out but my parents said they won't refer to me as I guy until I get all of the surgeries so I just look full on female and it gives me so much dysphoria
Don't feel Invalid because you're trans , genitalia has nothing to do with your biological sex on a cerebral scale , and if you want my opinion I find trans masc incredible handsome.
I feel the same way. I can’t get support and I am super self conscious about my body. I don’t even look in the mirror anymore. I can’t be a girl I just can’t. I just wish I had support. AlsoI am too scared to go in the men’s room and I have gotten bullied for it as well
As a recently come out transfem I have been watching a lot of pro trans short films and I love them a lot. Also non serious side note: THAT FOOD LOOKS AMAZING
My parents words: (any other day) - you are a girl! -you have woman parts! -grow your hair out you look stupid! -this is just a phase you will grow out of it! (on my birthday) -look at the birthday girl! -you are becoming such a grown woman! My friends words: (on any other day) -ayyy my favourite man! -who cares if you have woman genitals, you are who you are and feel like - awwwh you look so cute with your short hair! -so glad you are being yourself -we are here for you and totally support you! (on my birthday) -ayy my favourite man 1 year older! -dayumn you are so old! Like my grandpa soon haha! Sometimes friends are the ones we can turn to rather than our parents. It's tricky out there but at the end of the day, you are you and you can accomplish anything!
Imagine having a supportive family that uses the right pronouns (they/them/he/him/she/her) and calls u the right name (Jason) and doesn't say transaphobic stuff. Omg that will be great (I'm gender fluid)
I really like your video. Because i can see myself and i try to live a boy’s life everyday like you. Its so hard and sad but i will get my life back. And i will be a great man. Im on T now, it makes me happy cause i know that my dream is coming true. Keep moving .
I love this film tho. I too am FtM Transgender and my family still uses my dead name...I got kicked out and now live with my grandma because it was too much for my step mom (who is a butch lesbian by the way) so I know how this feels...
Recognizing a person as male or female makes a perfect fourth or perfect fifth go off in my head. The harder it is to tell which gender I’m supposed to be perceiving, the closer the ratio gets to square root 2. A tritone. When it’s easy for my brain to figure out what it’s looking at, it has a natural tendency to feel good. But when it’s more difficult to figure it out, the dissonance can be uncomfortable. There’s nothing wrong with dissonant or consonant diads though. Once my brain figures out what it’s perceiving, it feels good either way. Sometimes it takes a couple extra seconds and/or some context to smooth things out.
I just wish more people would be kind. Agree or disagree with their lifestyle still be kind to them. If you see someone alone say hi, ask them to sit with you, learn their name. That’s how I have always found the best of friends.
do you ever just have this one outfith that makes you feel less dysporic? because i just had to wash mine so i could do a google meet sadly i wash clothes just not often
*cries in trans boy* My parents don't accept me, but they are literally LESBIANS, and I kinda thought the community would comfort one another. I was wrong...
The fact that peoe think they can pick and choose who they accept is ridiculous, they will have experienced similar discrimination in their lives so they should be able to relate to how you're feeling. But who cares what others think of you, you know who you are. You're a handsome young man and dont ever change who you are to please others :)
I only have homemade binders that don't work well, but I wore a different type that works better yesterday when I went shopping with my transphobic mum. I'm not out yet so I persuaded her to let me buy clothes in the men's' section and because she doesn't know I'm a trans boy, she said yes. Then we went to the changing rooms to see if it fitted and the lady who worked there looked at me and pointed to the men's side of the changing rooms!!! I'm super excited about it!!!!
Lucky that's forbidden in my school we have a nurse restroom but it's never available. I'm afraid if I go to the boys I'll get harrassed or beaten so I have to use the girls. Which isn't any better since they always stare at me
This film was made 5 years ago and I still experience chest dysphoria since I haven't had top surgery yet. I know what you're going through and how hard everything feels right now. But trust me when I say this: it will get better. It might take days, months, years, but somewhere in the future things will be alright!
I am a pansexual female who came out to my mother this past Thursday. She accepted me and that made me feel great! I also have trans best friends and I love them to bits! 💕
*cries in trans boy because there is no all gender restroom*
Trans boys are valid I'm the 69th like
Or a no gendered restroom *snaps fingers and points*
I saw one at a science museum last year!
At my school everyone goes to the same restroom😊
lol
In Swedish schools we have gender neutral bathrooms kinda all over the school. Makes life a whole lot easier
the school we filmed this in actually has a lot of gender neutral bathrooms 👌👌👌
Sad that dysfunction is catered to.
Bonidee Lee no? It’s literally been like this for decades in my country. It’s just to make people not have to wait or go long walks to get to the bathroom lol
Tyrone E OMGOSH CAN I MOVE TO SWEDEN PLEASE
Damn I wish
random person in mall: Hello sir, would you like a sample?
Me (internally): *crying because "sir"*
Me (externally): Oh, no thank you!
Mom (who I have had to come out to 3 times): Why didn't you correct them??????
-_- better luck next time.
Oliver Bassham I feel the same way I can't wait to move out of my mother's house.
The only people who call me a boy are two of my friends, and they both call me more masculine than them. One was born a boy, one is transgender boy, like me.
Saaaame
I’m sorry abt your mum, I hope it’s alright for you ❤️
I know the feeling. Internally over the ninth cloud
His eyebrows are just 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
Maxxipp ;3 👀👀👀👀💪
I feel ya, I'm Deadass so jealous of his eyebrows right now like oml ;-;
Her*
Dawson Carpenter *HIS
eyebrows on fleek
*cries in trans*
*cries in cis*
*cries in bi*
Seriously? I don't think you know how rude this is.
the art of manga How is it rude? We're all literally just naming the genders we personally identify as...
the art of manga The same way people comment
*Cries in English*
*Cries in Russian*
*Cries in German*
It's not meant to be rude.....
Before I was out I felt like that and to all my trans guys out you are all handsome and valid no matter what
THANKS
Thanks you💙
Thank you 💙
Ur profile pic (except the hair) looks a lot like me, I’m actually scared
Thank you
*He cuffs his jeans he cuffs his jeans he cuffs his jeans*
ofc i cuff them im gay
Gae?!?
I'm bi so...... I kinda saw it naturally and start to search a cuffed Jean comments and thank you for commenting this
BI VIBESSSSS
I AM ACE AND LESBOROMANTIC
I wish I had that courage. People at my school, especially the guys, are transphobic and it makes me really sad because I want to use the mens bathroom but I cant.
Also this was really awesome I loved it
thank you!! hopefully someday you will be able to use the mens bathroom too!! good luck!
artbychamber ha. I forgot that i watched this. Ive grown a lot since then. The mens bathroom is the only bathroom i use and i changed schools
James C bc im a boy lmao
Does it really make a difference which bathroom you use. As long as you know your a man that should be all the validation you need.
Try asking your counselor to use the nurse’s bathroom in the clinic or a staff restroom
I'm not trans but I support and accpect all trans people. You are all VALID!!! I LOVE YOU ALL
Aw thanks
@@stealstealstealstealsteal Souls, always know that:
GOD calls us to JUDGE, Not unrighteous judgment but righteous judgment.
John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
GOD through His Word judge us. Christians are expected to judge themselves and others. But what humans do, how do we judge? We judge according to the appearance,, that = false/unrighteous judgment Why to be afraid of getting judged? you judge others, mostly unrighteously. Others judge you, mostly unrighteously. GOD judge all of us; RIGHTEOUSLY always.
Why to be afraid of judgment if we get it anyway and give it out anyway?
But what is needed in order to have RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT? - knowledge - we need knowledge.
And to all lgbtq people:
Let me get it right, gender is a feeling - right?
So, if i feel angry or happy, did by gender disappeared?
Since gender is a feeling (and not a biological fact - which it clearly is,) and my feeling changed, so therefore my gender vanished?
@@theharshtruthoutthere i'm a satanist :< hehehehhewhehwheh
@@stealstealstealstealsteal sure you are.
The question is, will you be satanist in the lake of fire too?
Or will you be there to:
Matthew 13:50 - And shall cast them into the furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth.
Thanks!! I appreciate it
Hello , now , I don't know anyone in these comments but I just wanted to say , I CAME OUT TO MY MOM TODAY!Her reaction was amazing , it brought tears to my eyes so for all my trans guys out there be you , and stay strong , by the way my name is Tyler (biological is Cydne)
Cyd Davis congrats! i’m so happy for you, it takes a lot of courage to come out! and it’s so nice that she had a positive reaction! 💕
artbychamber Haha thank you and yes it took me 3 years to finally come out but today I did it , by the way I LOVE this short film , it's magnificent
Cyd Davis thank you! i also had a lot of insecurities about coming out, and even though my situation is not the best possible scenario, i’m still happy that i did it. thanks for taking the time to leave a comment, have a nice day!
artbychamber Same to you 😄
congrats!!! i wish you all the great things in the world!
I wish I could pass and had accepting parents but I don’t have either
LoveBug Lightning same here
Same here unfortunately
same
LoveBug Lightning me too...
You can find another family who accepted you, just the way you are. Don't give up!
EVERYONE STOP I WANT HIS HAIR
I kinda have that haircut but my face is not masculine at all ;-;
Excellent film. Broke my heart up until the end when the young man smiled. I can't imagine how lonely he felt and thank goodness there are accepting, non judgemental people as portrayed by the young girl.
Disgusting. He didn't wash his hands properly.
My reaction
O o f
For real.
The soap was right there
Erm what?
The fact that that red sweater didn't cover up his chest the right way gave me second hand disphoria and in sorry for him
He didnt bind. That's the problem.
@@NatjelovesBillk there's not a problem with not binding. trans people don't have to bind if they don't want to.
@@kifferan6272 kinda do.
@@NatjelovesBillk some trans people cannot bind due to medical issues or sensory issues. some trans people just don't feel comfortable with it. it doesn't make them any less trans.
@@NatjelovesBillk not if they cant afford one or have an unsupportive family. i rarely get to bind outside of the weekend when im with my sister and it kills me on the inside during the weekdays
edit: also not everyone *can* bind due to health reasons. there are many reasons one might not be able to bind.
I like to watch these because it helps me feel better about me being transgender since my family doesn't know and I feel to scared to tell them because I know that the won't understand me and think I'm just confused and I know that my Dad will say that because he did when I told him I was pan sexual I just want to run and wait till I'm in collage and by myself to be who I feel like on the inside. Not a girl, but a boy named Even. 😔
naracely28 I feel the same thing. I would come out but I cut my hair really short like a boy and now every time I go in a women’s restroom they just stare but I don’t feel comfortable going to the men’s yet. But everybody already thinks I’m a boy but in school in the locker room for gym it’s really awkward and I hate it. Ugh I wish people could just be people without having to hate on other people because they are different. 😫
I feel you.
naracely28
Hi,
My names jordan 🙂
trust me it gets better in college! I was the same and then I saw a lot of tran, gay and bi and all those people. No one cares....eventually, like 2 weeks in I cut my hair and people were so supportive when I told them. They are like my second family now 🙂
My parents still don’t know, but it’s ok because I dress my own way now. They don’t like it, but I still do what I want
Don’t be afraid to express urself Even 😉
In case you still havent told your parents, since you are afraid of telling them which I completely understand you, you can write them a letter or link them a video when you are away from home, or just text them. That way you dont have to look at them and see their reaction face to face, it also gives them some time to absorb it and think about it. Good luck dude.
We love and support you! You always have us to fall onto when stuff goes wrong. You are loved by many people! ❤️
I have been feeling a bit depressed lately and this made me feel a wee bit better bc now I know I don’t have to listen to what others say but to go my own way and just I love this and the message of it ahhhh it’s great
this is the first trans short film I've seen that's actually seemed realistic to me. I love it
I am pretty much still in the closet so to make things easier I still use the girls bathroom and haven’t cut my hair and I dress like a girl for school even though it makes me incredibly uncomfortable
hey, it's okay! remember that you are still the one who knows your body best and you are who you are no matter what somebody might tell you. it's okay to be in the closet, especially if it's dangerous for you to come out. stay strong, some day you can express yourself freely!
Same. I'm trying to convince my mom to let me get my hair cut tho
@@brittanyharris4473 same. I've asked over and over to cut my hair and my mom says "you'll look like a boy" and I think in my head "that's the point"
Unless it is unsafe you should try to slowly grow into yourself.
Me to
Loved it. I understand the struggle. Thankfully whenever I go shopping I can use the Men's dressing room. I don't use public bathrooms so I don't know what that's like. Thankfully I'm homeschooled now so I don't have to worry about anymore locker room issues and those asshats the school calls students.
Edit: Thanks for the likes, I've been out for over a year, testosterone has done wonders! :D
Dean Winchester thank you so much!!
Dean Winchester the locker room is like a big reason of why I’m scared of it.
Dean winchester huh?
This makes me very emotional, I am 13 years old and I am a trans boy. I know how difficult it is to be born in the wrong body
My school allowed me to go to the males bathroom but after one day took the right away again. It made me so upsed.... I wish I could just go to school withoud having to worry
Noel Linné i’m sorry to hear that! :( you should definitely have the right to use whichever toilet you feel comfortable. hopefully you can sometime soon in the future you can use the men’s restroom!
artbychamber thanks. But like the Video did kind of help. I think I'll talk with the headmaster again. Cause 8 hours without useing the toilet and in the worst case in summer is just not healthy. Have a nice day and thank you
Noel Linné thank you and same to you! hopefully all goes well with your school!
Spider_guard_kid i really don’t get what your problem is lmao chill fam
@@madebychamber whoa whoa there I'm not trans btw but I'm not cool with anybody and everybody going in the same bathroom as me like let's be real if ur trans your still biologically ur original gender so if some people aren't cool with that it's kinda weird/uncomfortable
*me, possibly a trans guy (still figuring that out), goes to an all girls school: *sobs**
I go to a girls school too. I'm bigender by the way
Hey :) how’s it going.
So do I. I pass really well so everyone gets really confused when they see me in uniform. The benefit is that there's only one bathroom, so you don't have to be stared at in the women's or risk getting outed by using the men's.
where's my oscar
Amadeus Fabritius behind your dirty plates in ur room
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Do u have a instagram?
cactus @gaymadeus
i'll give a like i hope thats enough LOL
U knows I always thought there was something wrong with me like I would start in the girls but some how always end up in the boys at first I thought I was lesbian but then I realized it was not that at all for all you trans men and women out there we satand together not alone (ó㉨ò) and remember your fabulous just the way you are
Doritos inabag yes, best of luck to you too! remember that none of us are truly alone and we’re here to support each other!
MY BOYFRIEND IS SO GOOD 👏 A TRU GAY ICON ™ 👏 ♥ ♥ ♥
Calvin S yAASS 👌👌👌
the part where the girls said "there's that girl again. i hope she doesnt come near us, she's such a freak," is so relateable for me that it hurts to hear someone else go through it
just uppercut them if someone says shit like that
@Bonidee Lee you should become a poet that was profound!!!!
Every Tuesday I used to go to this center for school and the bathrooms they had there were awesome. There were two unlabeled sides with heavy enough and tall enough stall doors to overpower the "bathroom creep" battle, and sinks on the outside in the middle so you'd just come out of your stall, walk like 5 steps forward, turn, and wash your hands in the sink out in the open. It was in my mind a brilliant solution to bathroom issues and satisfied both sides of the argument and it was fantastic. I don't see why other buildings don't try a similar setup?
the smile at the end melted my heartt ♡
A sigh of relief to know that there are people who understand. For a long time I always felt alone but I have a friend at school who is the same as me. We both are trans guys and we’ve been sticking up for each other for a while. This film is so accurate as to how we’re treated it’s sad. ;-;
hang in there!!! i believe in both of you!
I do too he finally came out to our class last week.
He’s a cutie
Spider_guard_kid How do you know they can be a he if they want too don’t be so trans-phobic how would you feel if people kept saying things like this to you if you were trans?
Spider_guard_kid 1. I said they 2. you can get surgery (there is such thing as bottom surgery I think anyway I have heard it before)
she*
I just don't understand why people who don't understand being trans are in the comments correcting other people, like, what are you even doing here??
Real man arent cute
I find it kinda cool that they made one of these in Finland, especially since it seems to have made at least some kind of impact on our society if you look at all the views and likes. I'm proud of you guys for making something like this. You made me cry, no joke.
aaaaahhh bruhh thank youuu!!!!
You know what I find interesting?
All these films I've seen about trans people, they all look natural. Like, passing them on the street I wouldn't even think twice. Makes one think, if briefly since self-identity is part of equality.
Also, seeing that tram makes me miss the public transportation system; where I live now it is non-existent...
i mean of course we look natural, there isn’t anything abnormal about being transgender
This is amazing I love this and being s closeted genderfluid thing and an out of the closet pan it makes me so happy to see other things in a time erra so fucked up dealing with lgbtq, I came out as pan and it was thanks to all of these amazing short films that helped me over come my fear, thank you guys
ahhhh thank you!! i had a hard time with my gender and sexuality myself too and wanted other people to feel okay and validated!! thanks for the kind words!!
I give you all of the support I can give, and I've been having huge trouble with identity. I really hope you can overcome obstacles that you come against.
I really wish my face was that masculine... I’m a demiguy, assigned female, my face could never pass as a boy's...
Rain makeup actually does wonders! also, don’t stress over being masculine, not every guy is hypermasculine! you’re perfect just the way you are.
Sameee
It’s the same thing with me
My stepchild just came out as trans (ftm). I’ve been watching videos of ftm TH-camrs. If you watch the ones that are timelines of being on testosterone, you’ll see that your face will (probably) change, and you’ll grow whiskers. And your voice should become deeper.
Just take it a day at a time. Are there any lgbtq+ support groups around you? Everything is virtual (still), so distance shouldn’t be an issue.
I’m rooting for you.
They should have more mtf short films
I've been there for 40+ years. It really sucks, but the last few months have been great.
It's so cool that I just started watching this and then I realized it's finnish (I'm a finn myself) Amazing job! :) Kiitos tästä!
sleepingroses suomi prkl
just wanted to say this one random thing
the ad i just watched made gay marriage look so normal that even I, a gay, didn't notice it until after the ad played.
I am transmasculine person and this short film came out on my birthday. I dont know why but this fact makes me happier.
it's a sign!!!!
I just realised another hard thing for trans people. Whenever i feel bad/uncomfortable in public spaces for whatever reason i always go to the bathroom to hide/cry. If you don’t feel like you can go to either bathroom you won’t have that escape from the bad situation. That must feel awful When you already get in more of these situations by being trans. I believe in you, trans people
I am actually sitting in my closet watching this because it was my safe place where I would go when I was 5
So sweet at the end
If anyone calls you a freak, don’t feel bad because everyone is a little bit of a freak. Everyone is different, and therefore nobody’s normal. If you’re called a freak, take it as a compliment because they’re just noticing what makes you unique.
WTF HE LOOKS VERY MASCULINE😭IM SO JEALOUS
No at all. You are a kid
@@Mysterica90proplayer what?
This is really sweet. I've had these problems, like which bathroom to go into. It can be really hard. I wish the world was much simpler.
I’m young and still trying to figure out what gender I am but recently I went to a sleepover with some mates and one would often look on my phone and then the next week she starts mentioning that she thinks I’ll more then likely be transgender in the future. I don’t know if she saw anything on my phone about me questioning myself but I’m so happy that my one best friend doesn’t mind and is supportive of this
im happy you have such a supportive friend!
Another label you could consider is nonbianry. (Which means gender identities which are not solely male or female and identity out of the gender binary.) Their sub catagories within which are demigirl or Demi boy which tends to like to use (she/they or he/they) their genderfluid which I am which means some days I may feel more masculine and like he pronouns or feels more neutral and they feels right and every once in a while their she pronouns. Nonbinary the umbrella term. It take a while to see which gender identity feels right. Transgender is a more common term people know compared to nonbinary. I just thought it might be helpful to give you another perspective you could look into. Their no rush to figure out who you are and I wish you luck. Their are many labels and it takes time finding the right one : )
THE LITTLE SMILE AT THE END IM NOT OKAY Y
The first part when he pulls his shirt down and tries to cover is so relatable.
He deserves the world
Xander Quick i know right!
Very touching short film, especially 5.17 when the girl asked "him" if he wanted to sit with them. I am not trans but intersex, both boy and girl, and most people can't tell the difference. I get called "mam" and I get called "sir", and sometimes I just get called "it" or "whatever you are". I hope trans individuals can somehow make their appearance more like unto their chosen gender, because intersex people like me have a difficult time achieving this goal. We are all in the same boat.
I feel like him a lot, I can totally relate to this. Thank you for it.
Would you rather have a happy son or a dead daughter?
This is sadly what it comes to and too many people think the second option is better.
You. Are. Valid. No matter who you are. You. Are. Valid.
torille. 6/5 short film, would recommend to others
Ale Taimi hahaaa thanks!!!
Does anybody have any tips about coming out to friends and family? I know my family is accepting but idk if they will take me seriously. I’m not ready to come out anytime soon but I just need tips for the future. Also does anyone have any tips for feeling less dysphoric or to present more masculine? Thanks!
I have long hair and I'm out but my parents said they won't refer to me as I guy until I get all of the surgeries so I just look full on female and it gives me so much dysphoria
you are such a wonderful guy regardless of how your parents refer to you!!! i hope it gets easier soon!
Ohhh wow the way he is acting at the begining with the mirror is so true ! I act like this everyday
Don't feel Invalid because you're trans , genitalia has nothing to do with your biological sex on a cerebral scale , and if you want my opinion I find trans masc incredible handsome.
00:44-00:51
How is there a bathroom there when on the other side of the door there’s a bed?
jfkdjgkfkg optical illusion i can guarantee you there was a bathroom, it's just the mirror
I'm non binary and I hate when I have to choose between bathrooms or uniforms
same
I greatly appreciate the sentiment behind this, though I feel like the Oblivion Harvest Dawn might have fit well behind some of the dialogue.
HFKDJFKFJGKEKFKG if i knew how to edit i would immediately make a parody, trust me
I support him in every way possible oh my stars you do you boo
I loved this! His smile at the end, priceless
I feel the same way. I can’t get support and I am super self conscious about my body. I don’t even look in the mirror anymore. I can’t be a girl I just can’t. I just wish I had support. AlsoI am too scared to go in the men’s room and I have gotten bullied for it as well
As a recently come out transfem I have been watching a lot of pro trans short films and I love them a lot. Also non serious side note: THAT FOOD LOOKS AMAZING
ok but
like
why does every trans shirt film i’ve watched start with them waking up
we need to convince people we actually sleep so they dont suspect us
Cause that's how humans start their day?
ok but good question
Ikr it's so inaccurate we all know that trans people never sleep we are fueled with the power of gods
That little smile at the end! My heart 😢
My parents words:
(any other day)
- you are a girl!
-you have woman parts!
-grow your hair out you look stupid!
-this is just a phase you will grow out of it!
(on my birthday)
-look at the birthday girl!
-you are becoming such a grown woman!
My friends words:
(on any other day)
-ayyy my favourite man!
-who cares if you have woman genitals, you are who you are and feel like
- awwwh you look so cute with your short hair!
-so glad you are being yourself
-we are here for you and totally support you!
(on my birthday)
-ayy my favourite man 1 year older!
-dayumn you are so old! Like my grandpa soon haha!
Sometimes friends are the ones we can turn to rather than our parents. It's tricky out there but at the end of the day, you are you and you can accomplish anything!
this is a really good short film, and with minimal dialogue!
thank you!
When he smiled I cried not even gonna pretend I’m not crying rn
AnOddlyShapedClock thank you! hope you liked the film!
I'm glad to know you are from Finland!
Ihanaa nähdö että suomalaidetkin tekee näitä.
Sini Parikka suomi prkl
Torilla tavataan ;)
This tells pretty much about how it feels. Also this is one of/or even the best trans gender shortfilms!! Good Job. Ja torilla tavataan👌🏽
Hennuuska apua kiitos!!!
We used to have gender neutral bathrooms at school but they changed them and now I'm confused
*expresses how much I’d prefer to hang with him rather than the bullies*
let's have a sleepover right away then!!!
Amadeus Fabritius hell yeah XD
Wait.. THIS IS IN FINLAND??? SUOMI!!! btw i loved this
Every time he looked in the mirror I was just cheering him on from the sidelines like “you’re handsome!! You can do this!”
His hair looks fluffy
*I wanna touch it*
actually it was like touching a hedgehog
So pretty. It makes an strange comfort to see short trans films with a happy ending, just saying. Such a transition. Anyway life is just for once :)
Imagine having a supportive family that uses the right pronouns (they/them/he/him/she/her) and calls u the right name (Jason) and doesn't say transaphobic stuff. Omg that will be great (I'm gender fluid)
Hey Jason, I know I’m way late here. I hope things are good for you and you are able to live freely as yourself with support around you
I really like your video. Because i can see myself and i try to live a boy’s life everyday like you. Its so hard and sad but i will get my life back. And i will be a great man. Im on T now, it makes me happy cause i know that my dream is coming true. Keep moving .
im so glad you are feeling happy!!!
WAAIT YOU'RE FROM FINLAND TOO?
CameronKillion kyllä kyllä 💪
Suomi prkl
The bathrooms at my school are gendered and on opposite ends of the school for for some reason? 😅
Tbh I just use the bathroom I'm the closest to
I love this film tho. I too am FtM Transgender and my family still uses my dead name...I got kicked out and now live with my grandma because it was too much for my step mom (who is a butch lesbian by the way) so I know how this feels...
Recognizing a person as male or female makes a perfect fourth or perfect fifth go off in my head. The harder it is to tell which gender I’m supposed to be perceiving, the closer the ratio gets to square root 2. A tritone. When it’s easy for my brain to figure out what it’s looking at, it has a natural tendency to feel good. But when it’s more difficult to figure it out, the dissonance can be uncomfortable.
There’s nothing wrong with dissonant or consonant diads though. Once my brain figures out what it’s perceiving, it feels good either way. Sometimes it takes a couple extra seconds and/or some context to smooth things out.
3:30 *shook*
I just wish more people would be kind. Agree or disagree with their lifestyle still be kind to them. If you see someone alone say hi, ask them to sit with you, learn their name. That’s how I have always found the best of friends.
PETTION TO MAKE EVERY SCHOOL HAVE GENDER NEUTRAAL BATHROOMS. AS AN AGENDER PERSON IT'S SO AWKWARD WHEN I GO TO THE GIRLS BATHROOM!!
do you ever just have this one outfith that makes you feel less dysporic? because i just had to wash mine so i could do a google meet sadly i wash clothes just not often
omg yes dysphoria hoodies i have like 5 just in case hfkdjfkfkg
@@dyotatouille we stan you
*cries in trans boy*
My parents don't accept me, but they are literally LESBIANS, and I kinda thought the community would comfort one another. I was wrong...
im so sorry you have to deal with this!
The fact that peoe think they can pick and choose who they accept is ridiculous, they will have experienced similar discrimination in their lives so they should be able to relate to how you're feeling. But who cares what others think of you, you know who you are. You're a handsome young man and dont ever change who you are to please others :)
I only have homemade binders that don't work well, but I wore a different type that works better yesterday when I went shopping with my transphobic mum. I'm not out yet so I persuaded her to let me buy clothes in the men's' section and because she doesn't know I'm a trans boy, she said yes. Then we went to the changing rooms to see if it fitted and the lady who worked there looked at me and pointed to the men's side of the changing rooms!!! I'm super excited about it!!!!
i am very glad!!!! but remember to be very careful with binding!
In my school there are three bathrooms:
-Girls
-Boys
-Teachers
Whenever I want to go to the bathroom I go to the teachers one lmao.
what gender are you, a girl, a boy or a teacher
@@dyotatouille lmao JAKSJAKSJAKJAJAJA
*ah yes, the ultimate gender, 'teacher'*
Lucky that's forbidden in my school we have a nurse restroom but it's never available. I'm afraid if I go to the boys I'll get harrassed or beaten so I have to use the girls. Which isn't any better since they always stare at me
Mtf here, just got over a long bout of depression and now TH-cam recommending me this stuff >w
you are a wonderful woman and i love you!!! i hope the pain eases soon and things get better! sending hugs and love!
We have in Martinlaakson school unisex bathrooms and it's for boys and girls
I want
Dude's got the same hair as me! When he put the headphones on I was like "you're gonna get a lil dent there"
aaaaaahh the dent was like my biggest problem then sjkdkfkfkf
I realized when it said wc naiset it is finnish omg im so stupid i'm also finlandian
Reo Nex ahahaaa torille ja sillee
artbychamber jepulis xD
His smile is just sooo cute..
thank you!
Tbh I relate to the mirror situation I can stand looking at myself in the mirror
This film was made 5 years ago and I still experience chest dysphoria since I haven't had top surgery yet. I know what you're going through and how hard everything feels right now. But trust me when I say this: it will get better. It might take days, months, years, but somewhere in the future things will be alright!
I am a pansexual female who came out to my mother this past Thursday. She accepted me and that made me feel great! I also have trans best friends and I love them to bits! 💕
i am glad it all went well!!!
@@dyotatouille Thank you! Im glad it did too :3
@Gary Lee I'm not mentally ill.... I'm being myself! :)