Bonidee Lee no? It’s literally been like this for decades in my country. It’s just to make people not have to wait or go long walks to get to the bathroom lol
random person in mall: Hello sir, would you like a sample? Me (internally): *crying because "sir"* Me (externally): Oh, no thank you! Mom (who I have had to come out to 3 times): Why didn't you correct them?????? -_- better luck next time.
The only people who call me a boy are two of my friends, and they both call me more masculine than them. One was born a boy, one is transgender boy, like me.
Hello , now , I don't know anyone in these comments but I just wanted to say , I CAME OUT TO MY MOM TODAY!Her reaction was amazing , it brought tears to my eyes so for all my trans guys out there be you , and stay strong , by the way my name is Tyler (biological is Cydne)
Cyd Davis thank you! i also had a lot of insecurities about coming out, and even though my situation is not the best possible scenario, i’m still happy that i did it. thanks for taking the time to leave a comment, have a nice day!
@@stealstealstealstealsteal Souls, always know that: GOD calls us to JUDGE, Not unrighteous judgment but righteous judgment. John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. GOD through His Word judge us. Christians are expected to judge themselves and others. But what humans do, how do we judge? We judge according to the appearance,, that = false/unrighteous judgment Why to be afraid of getting judged? you judge others, mostly unrighteously. Others judge you, mostly unrighteously. GOD judge all of us; RIGHTEOUSLY always. Why to be afraid of judgment if we get it anyway and give it out anyway? But what is needed in order to have RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT? - knowledge - we need knowledge. And to all lgbtq people: Let me get it right, gender is a feeling - right? So, if i feel angry or happy, did by gender disappeared? Since gender is a feeling (and not a biological fact - which it clearly is,) and my feeling changed, so therefore my gender vanished?
@@stealstealstealstealsteal sure you are. The question is, will you be satanist in the lake of fire too? Or will you be there to: Matthew 13:50 - And shall cast them into the furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth.
I wish I had that courage. People at my school, especially the guys, are transphobic and it makes me really sad because I want to use the mens bathroom but I cant. Also this was really awesome I loved it
I like to watch these because it helps me feel better about me being transgender since my family doesn't know and I feel to scared to tell them because I know that the won't understand me and think I'm just confused and I know that my Dad will say that because he did when I told him I was pan sexual I just want to run and wait till I'm in collage and by myself to be who I feel like on the inside. Not a girl, but a boy named Even. 😔
naracely28 I feel the same thing. I would come out but I cut my hair really short like a boy and now every time I go in a women’s restroom they just stare but I don’t feel comfortable going to the men’s yet. But everybody already thinks I’m a boy but in school in the locker room for gym it’s really awkward and I hate it. Ugh I wish people could just be people without having to hate on other people because they are different. 😫
naracely28 Hi, My names jordan 🙂 trust me it gets better in college! I was the same and then I saw a lot of tran, gay and bi and all those people. No one cares....eventually, like 2 weeks in I cut my hair and people were so supportive when I told them. They are like my second family now 🙂 My parents still don’t know, but it’s ok because I dress my own way now. They don’t like it, but I still do what I want Don’t be afraid to express urself Even 😉
In case you still havent told your parents, since you are afraid of telling them which I completely understand you, you can write them a letter or link them a video when you are away from home, or just text them. That way you dont have to look at them and see their reaction face to face, it also gives them some time to absorb it and think about it. Good luck dude.
I am pretty much still in the closet so to make things easier I still use the girls bathroom and haven’t cut my hair and I dress like a girl for school even though it makes me incredibly uncomfortable
hey, it's okay! remember that you are still the one who knows your body best and you are who you are no matter what somebody might tell you. it's okay to be in the closet, especially if it's dangerous for you to come out. stay strong, some day you can express yourself freely!
My school allowed me to go to the males bathroom but after one day took the right away again. It made me so upsed.... I wish I could just go to school withoud having to worry
Noel Linné i’m sorry to hear that! :( you should definitely have the right to use whichever toilet you feel comfortable. hopefully you can sometime soon in the future you can use the men’s restroom!
artbychamber thanks. But like the Video did kind of help. I think I'll talk with the headmaster again. Cause 8 hours without useing the toilet and in the worst case in summer is just not healthy. Have a nice day and thank you
@@madebychamber whoa whoa there I'm not trans btw but I'm not cool with anybody and everybody going in the same bathroom as me like let's be real if ur trans your still biologically ur original gender so if some people aren't cool with that it's kinda weird/uncomfortable
Excellent film. Broke my heart up until the end when the young man smiled. I can't imagine how lonely he felt and thank goodness there are accepting, non judgemental people as portrayed by the young girl.
@@NatjelovesBillk some trans people cannot bind due to medical issues or sensory issues. some trans people just don't feel comfortable with it. it doesn't make them any less trans.
@@NatjelovesBillk not if they cant afford one or have an unsupportive family. i rarely get to bind outside of the weekend when im with my sister and it kills me on the inside during the weekdays edit: also not everyone *can* bind due to health reasons. there are many reasons one might not be able to bind.
Loved it. I understand the struggle. Thankfully whenever I go shopping I can use the Men's dressing room. I don't use public bathrooms so I don't know what that's like. Thankfully I'm homeschooled now so I don't have to worry about anymore locker room issues and those asshats the school calls students. Edit: Thanks for the likes, I've been out for over a year, testosterone has done wonders! :D
So do I. I pass really well so everyone gets really confused when they see me in uniform. The benefit is that there's only one bathroom, so you don't have to be stared at in the women's or risk getting outed by using the men's.
U knows I always thought there was something wrong with me like I would start in the girls but some how always end up in the boys at first I thought I was lesbian but then I realized it was not that at all for all you trans men and women out there we satand together not alone (ó㉨ò) and remember your fabulous just the way you are
I have been feeling a bit depressed lately and this made me feel a wee bit better bc now I know I don’t have to listen to what others say but to go my own way and just I love this and the message of it ahhhh it’s great
My stepchild just came out as trans (ftm). I’ve been watching videos of ftm TH-camrs. If you watch the ones that are timelines of being on testosterone, you’ll see that your face will (probably) change, and you’ll grow whiskers. And your voice should become deeper. Just take it a day at a time. Are there any lgbtq+ support groups around you? Everything is virtual (still), so distance shouldn’t be an issue. I’m rooting for you.
You know what I find interesting? All these films I've seen about trans people, they all look natural. Like, passing them on the street I wouldn't even think twice. Makes one think, if briefly since self-identity is part of equality. Also, seeing that tram makes me miss the public transportation system; where I live now it is non-existent...
Spider_guard_kid How do you know they can be a he if they want too don’t be so trans-phobic how would you feel if people kept saying things like this to you if you were trans?
This is amazing I love this and being s closeted genderfluid thing and an out of the closet pan it makes me so happy to see other things in a time erra so fucked up dealing with lgbtq, I came out as pan and it was thanks to all of these amazing short films that helped me over come my fear, thank you guys
ahhhh thank you!! i had a hard time with my gender and sexuality myself too and wanted other people to feel okay and validated!! thanks for the kind words!!
I give you all of the support I can give, and I've been having huge trouble with identity. I really hope you can overcome obstacles that you come against.
Every Tuesday I used to go to this center for school and the bathrooms they had there were awesome. There were two unlabeled sides with heavy enough and tall enough stall doors to overpower the "bathroom creep" battle, and sinks on the outside in the middle so you'd just come out of your stall, walk like 5 steps forward, turn, and wash your hands in the sink out in the open. It was in my mind a brilliant solution to bathroom issues and satisfied both sides of the argument and it was fantastic. I don't see why other buildings don't try a similar setup?
I feel the same way. I can’t get support and I am super self conscious about my body. I don’t even look in the mirror anymore. I can’t be a girl I just can’t. I just wish I had support. AlsoI am too scared to go in the men’s room and I have gotten bullied for it as well
Very touching short film, especially 5.17 when the girl asked "him" if he wanted to sit with them. I am not trans but intersex, both boy and girl, and most people can't tell the difference. I get called "mam" and I get called "sir", and sometimes I just get called "it" or "whatever you are". I hope trans individuals can somehow make their appearance more like unto their chosen gender, because intersex people like me have a difficult time achieving this goal. We are all in the same boat.
I just realised another hard thing for trans people. Whenever i feel bad/uncomfortable in public spaces for whatever reason i always go to the bathroom to hide/cry. If you don’t feel like you can go to either bathroom you won’t have that escape from the bad situation. That must feel awful When you already get in more of these situations by being trans. I believe in you, trans people
I find it kinda cool that they made one of these in Finland, especially since it seems to have made at least some kind of impact on our society if you look at all the views and likes. I'm proud of you guys for making something like this. You made me cry, no joke.
A sigh of relief to know that there are people who understand. For a long time I always felt alone but I have a friend at school who is the same as me. We both are trans guys and we’ve been sticking up for each other for a while. This film is so accurate as to how we’re treated it’s sad. ;-;
I’m young and still trying to figure out what gender I am but recently I went to a sleepover with some mates and one would often look on my phone and then the next week she starts mentioning that she thinks I’ll more then likely be transgender in the future. I don’t know if she saw anything on my phone about me questioning myself but I’m so happy that my one best friend doesn’t mind and is supportive of this
Another label you could consider is nonbianry. (Which means gender identities which are not solely male or female and identity out of the gender binary.) Their sub catagories within which are demigirl or Demi boy which tends to like to use (she/they or he/they) their genderfluid which I am which means some days I may feel more masculine and like he pronouns or feels more neutral and they feels right and every once in a while their she pronouns. Nonbinary the umbrella term. It take a while to see which gender identity feels right. Transgender is a more common term people know compared to nonbinary. I just thought it might be helpful to give you another perspective you could look into. Their no rush to figure out who you are and I wish you luck. Their are many labels and it takes time finding the right one : )
If anyone calls you a freak, don’t feel bad because everyone is a little bit of a freak. Everyone is different, and therefore nobody’s normal. If you’re called a freak, take it as a compliment because they’re just noticing what makes you unique.
just wanted to say this one random thing the ad i just watched made gay marriage look so normal that even I, a gay, didn't notice it until after the ad played.
I love this film tho. I too am FtM Transgender and my family still uses my dead name...I got kicked out and now live with my grandma because it was too much for my step mom (who is a butch lesbian by the way) so I know how this feels...
Would you rather have a happy son or a dead daughter? This is sadly what it comes to and too many people think the second option is better. You. Are. Valid. No matter who you are. You. Are. Valid.
I have long hair and I'm out but my parents said they won't refer to me as I guy until I get all of the surgeries so I just look full on female and it gives me so much dysphoria
the part where the girls said "there's that girl again. i hope she doesnt come near us, she's such a freak," is so relateable for me that it hurts to hear someone else go through it
I really like your video. Because i can see myself and i try to live a boy’s life everyday like you. Its so hard and sad but i will get my life back. And i will be a great man. Im on T now, it makes me happy cause i know that my dream is coming true. Keep moving .
My parents words: (any other day) - you are a girl! -you have woman parts! -grow your hair out you look stupid! -this is just a phase you will grow out of it! (on my birthday) -look at the birthday girl! -you are becoming such a grown woman! My friends words: (on any other day) -ayyy my favourite man! -who cares if you have woman genitals, you are who you are and feel like - awwwh you look so cute with your short hair! -so glad you are being yourself -we are here for you and totally support you! (on my birthday) -ayy my favourite man 1 year older! -dayumn you are so old! Like my grandpa soon haha! Sometimes friends are the ones we can turn to rather than our parents. It's tricky out there but at the end of the day, you are you and you can accomplish anything!
Don't feel Invalid because you're trans , genitalia has nothing to do with your biological sex on a cerebral scale , and if you want my opinion I find trans masc incredible handsome.
Imagine having a supportive family that uses the right pronouns (they/them/he/him/she/her) and calls u the right name (Jason) and doesn't say transaphobic stuff. Omg that will be great (I'm gender fluid)
me: I am trans friends: we know teachers: we support almost 90% of my school: *supports* family: *tAKeS awAY mY gUy clOthEs, fOrcEs mE to WeAr girL clOthEs, cAlls mE usiNg my dEAd nAme, MiSgendErs mE, stEal mY monEy, shAvEs mY hEaD so pEople dOn'T nOticE my gUy haIrcUt, hUmiliATeS me, UsEs mE aS a JokE*
*cries in trans boy* My parents don't accept me, but they are literally LESBIANS, and I kinda thought the community would comfort one another. I was wrong...
The fact that peoe think they can pick and choose who they accept is ridiculous, they will have experienced similar discrimination in their lives so they should be able to relate to how you're feeling. But who cares what others think of you, you know who you are. You're a handsome young man and dont ever change who you are to please others :)
I got my hair cut today and now I look like a bow and I love it so much someone called me a boy and I’m not out yet so I couldn’t be very excited because my family was with me
As a recently come out transfem I have been watching a lot of pro trans short films and I love them a lot. Also non serious side note: THAT FOOD LOOKS AMAZING
Found this only today (6 March 2020). Anyway, I can't understand why so many young people could still be such discriminatory nowadays. People gender MUST NOT be something to judge and to discriminate someone. Toilets and restrooms MUST BE GENDERLESS anywhere. Thanks the universe ( or whatever we believe it is, I dont like to say "thanks god"...) there are also young people who are clever and don't have stupid prejudices. And it's both about young and old people, there are still too many idiots and ignorant ones in the world and it's not fair that so many good people have to suffer because of them. At least all teachers should make all their best to fight that ignorance! Best wishes to any trangender that we can have soon a better world. :):):):)
This film was made 5 years ago and I still experience chest dysphoria since I haven't had top surgery yet. I know what you're going through and how hard everything feels right now. But trust me when I say this: it will get better. It might take days, months, years, but somewhere in the future things will be alright!
Wow, this is awesome. It's a very good short film! I am glad I'm not bullied anymore for being a trans male thanks to my new school, and this video just makes me even more happy 💙
Recognizing a person as male or female makes a perfect fourth or perfect fifth go off in my head. The harder it is to tell which gender I’m supposed to be perceiving, the closer the ratio gets to square root 2. A tritone. When it’s easy for my brain to figure out what it’s looking at, it has a natural tendency to feel good. But when it’s more difficult to figure it out, the dissonance can be uncomfortable. There’s nothing wrong with dissonant or consonant diads though. Once my brain figures out what it’s perceiving, it feels good either way. Sometimes it takes a couple extra seconds and/or some context to smooth things out.
I only have homemade binders that don't work well, but I wore a different type that works better yesterday when I went shopping with my transphobic mum. I'm not out yet so I persuaded her to let me buy clothes in the men's' section and because she doesn't know I'm a trans boy, she said yes. Then we went to the changing rooms to see if it fitted and the lady who worked there looked at me and pointed to the men's side of the changing rooms!!! I'm super excited about it!!!!
as a finn it surely is interesting to see finnish everywhere and then suddenly the characters speak english. took me off guard! 😂👌 but anyway, this was a good short! as a transguy, I really related to the mc, particularly in the wc scene. it's always nerve-wrecking when you have to use a public toilet.
In Swedish schools we have gender neutral bathrooms kinda all over the school. Makes life a whole lot easier
the school we filmed this in actually has a lot of gender neutral bathrooms 👌👌👌
Sad that dysfunction is catered to.
Bonidee Lee no? It’s literally been like this for decades in my country. It’s just to make people not have to wait or go long walks to get to the bathroom lol
Tyrone E OMGOSH CAN I MOVE TO SWEDEN PLEASE
Damn I wish
*cries in trans boy because there is no all gender restroom*
Trans boys are valid I'm the 69th like
Or a no gendered restroom *snaps fingers and points*
I saw one at a science museum last year!
At my school everyone goes to the same restroom😊
lol
His eyebrows are just 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
Maxxipp ;3 👀👀👀👀💪
I feel ya, I'm Deadass so jealous of his eyebrows right now like oml ;-;
Her*
Dawson Carpenter *HIS
eyebrows on fleek
*cries in trans*
*cries in cis*
*cries in bi*
Seriously? I don't think you know how rude this is.
the art of manga How is it rude? We're all literally just naming the genders we personally identify as...
the art of manga The same way people comment
*Cries in English*
*Cries in Russian*
*Cries in German*
It's not meant to be rude.....
Before I was out I felt like that and to all my trans guys out you are all handsome and valid no matter what
THANKS
Thanks you💙
Thank you 💙
Ur profile pic (except the hair) looks a lot like me, I’m actually scared
Thank you
*He cuffs his jeans he cuffs his jeans he cuffs his jeans*
ofc i cuff them im gay
Gae?!?
I'm bi so...... I kinda saw it naturally and start to search a cuffed Jean comments and thank you for commenting this
BI VIBESSSSS
I AM ACE AND LESBOROMANTIC
I wish I could pass and had accepting parents but I don’t have either
LoveBug Lightning same here
Same here unfortunately
same
LoveBug Lightning me too...
You can find another family who accepted you, just the way you are. Don't give up!
random person in mall: Hello sir, would you like a sample?
Me (internally): *crying because "sir"*
Me (externally): Oh, no thank you!
Mom (who I have had to come out to 3 times): Why didn't you correct them??????
-_- better luck next time.
Oliver Bassham I feel the same way I can't wait to move out of my mother's house.
The only people who call me a boy are two of my friends, and they both call me more masculine than them. One was born a boy, one is transgender boy, like me.
Saaaame
I’m sorry abt your mum, I hope it’s alright for you ❤️
I know the feeling. Internally over the ninth cloud
Hello , now , I don't know anyone in these comments but I just wanted to say , I CAME OUT TO MY MOM TODAY!Her reaction was amazing , it brought tears to my eyes so for all my trans guys out there be you , and stay strong , by the way my name is Tyler (biological is Cydne)
Cyd Davis congrats! i’m so happy for you, it takes a lot of courage to come out! and it’s so nice that she had a positive reaction! 💕
artbychamber Haha thank you and yes it took me 3 years to finally come out but today I did it , by the way I LOVE this short film , it's magnificent
Cyd Davis thank you! i also had a lot of insecurities about coming out, and even though my situation is not the best possible scenario, i’m still happy that i did it. thanks for taking the time to leave a comment, have a nice day!
artbychamber Same to you 😄
congrats!!! i wish you all the great things in the world!
I'm not trans but I support and accpect all trans people. You are all VALID!!! I LOVE YOU ALL
Aw thanks
@@stealstealstealstealsteal Souls, always know that:
GOD calls us to JUDGE, Not unrighteous judgment but righteous judgment.
John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
GOD through His Word judge us. Christians are expected to judge themselves and others. But what humans do, how do we judge? We judge according to the appearance,, that = false/unrighteous judgment Why to be afraid of getting judged? you judge others, mostly unrighteously. Others judge you, mostly unrighteously. GOD judge all of us; RIGHTEOUSLY always.
Why to be afraid of judgment if we get it anyway and give it out anyway?
But what is needed in order to have RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT? - knowledge - we need knowledge.
And to all lgbtq people:
Let me get it right, gender is a feeling - right?
So, if i feel angry or happy, did by gender disappeared?
Since gender is a feeling (and not a biological fact - which it clearly is,) and my feeling changed, so therefore my gender vanished?
@@theharshtruthoutthere i'm a satanist :< hehehehhewhehwheh
@@stealstealstealstealsteal sure you are.
The question is, will you be satanist in the lake of fire too?
Or will you be there to:
Matthew 13:50 - And shall cast them into the furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth.
Thanks!! I appreciate it
I wish I had that courage. People at my school, especially the guys, are transphobic and it makes me really sad because I want to use the mens bathroom but I cant.
Also this was really awesome I loved it
thank you!! hopefully someday you will be able to use the mens bathroom too!! good luck!
artbychamber ha. I forgot that i watched this. Ive grown a lot since then. The mens bathroom is the only bathroom i use and i changed schools
James C bc im a boy lmao
Does it really make a difference which bathroom you use. As long as you know your a man that should be all the validation you need.
Try asking your counselor to use the nurse’s bathroom in the clinic or a staff restroom
EVERYONE STOP I WANT HIS HAIR
I kinda have that haircut but my face is not masculine at all ;-;
I like to watch these because it helps me feel better about me being transgender since my family doesn't know and I feel to scared to tell them because I know that the won't understand me and think I'm just confused and I know that my Dad will say that because he did when I told him I was pan sexual I just want to run and wait till I'm in collage and by myself to be who I feel like on the inside. Not a girl, but a boy named Even. 😔
naracely28 I feel the same thing. I would come out but I cut my hair really short like a boy and now every time I go in a women’s restroom they just stare but I don’t feel comfortable going to the men’s yet. But everybody already thinks I’m a boy but in school in the locker room for gym it’s really awkward and I hate it. Ugh I wish people could just be people without having to hate on other people because they are different. 😫
I feel you.
naracely28
Hi,
My names jordan 🙂
trust me it gets better in college! I was the same and then I saw a lot of tran, gay and bi and all those people. No one cares....eventually, like 2 weeks in I cut my hair and people were so supportive when I told them. They are like my second family now 🙂
My parents still don’t know, but it’s ok because I dress my own way now. They don’t like it, but I still do what I want
Don’t be afraid to express urself Even 😉
In case you still havent told your parents, since you are afraid of telling them which I completely understand you, you can write them a letter or link them a video when you are away from home, or just text them. That way you dont have to look at them and see their reaction face to face, it also gives them some time to absorb it and think about it. Good luck dude.
We love and support you! You always have us to fall onto when stuff goes wrong. You are loved by many people! ❤️
Disgusting. He didn't wash his hands properly.
My reaction
O o f
For real.
The soap was right there
Erm what?
I am pretty much still in the closet so to make things easier I still use the girls bathroom and haven’t cut my hair and I dress like a girl for school even though it makes me incredibly uncomfortable
hey, it's okay! remember that you are still the one who knows your body best and you are who you are no matter what somebody might tell you. it's okay to be in the closet, especially if it's dangerous for you to come out. stay strong, some day you can express yourself freely!
Same. I'm trying to convince my mom to let me get my hair cut tho
@@brittanyharris4473 same. I've asked over and over to cut my hair and my mom says "you'll look like a boy" and I think in my head "that's the point"
Unless it is unsafe you should try to slowly grow into yourself.
Me to
My school allowed me to go to the males bathroom but after one day took the right away again. It made me so upsed.... I wish I could just go to school withoud having to worry
Noel Linné i’m sorry to hear that! :( you should definitely have the right to use whichever toilet you feel comfortable. hopefully you can sometime soon in the future you can use the men’s restroom!
artbychamber thanks. But like the Video did kind of help. I think I'll talk with the headmaster again. Cause 8 hours without useing the toilet and in the worst case in summer is just not healthy. Have a nice day and thank you
Noel Linné thank you and same to you! hopefully all goes well with your school!
Spider_guard_kid i really don’t get what your problem is lmao chill fam
@@madebychamber whoa whoa there I'm not trans btw but I'm not cool with anybody and everybody going in the same bathroom as me like let's be real if ur trans your still biologically ur original gender so if some people aren't cool with that it's kinda weird/uncomfortable
Excellent film. Broke my heart up until the end when the young man smiled. I can't imagine how lonely he felt and thank goodness there are accepting, non judgemental people as portrayed by the young girl.
The fact that that red sweater didn't cover up his chest the right way gave me second hand disphoria and in sorry for him
He didnt bind. That's the problem.
@@NatjelovesBillk there's not a problem with not binding. trans people don't have to bind if they don't want to.
@@kifferan6272 kinda do.
@@NatjelovesBillk some trans people cannot bind due to medical issues or sensory issues. some trans people just don't feel comfortable with it. it doesn't make them any less trans.
@@NatjelovesBillk not if they cant afford one or have an unsupportive family. i rarely get to bind outside of the weekend when im with my sister and it kills me on the inside during the weekdays
edit: also not everyone *can* bind due to health reasons. there are many reasons one might not be able to bind.
MY BOYFRIEND IS SO GOOD 👏 A TRU GAY ICON ™ 👏 ♥ ♥ ♥
Calvin S yAASS 👌👌👌
Loved it. I understand the struggle. Thankfully whenever I go shopping I can use the Men's dressing room. I don't use public bathrooms so I don't know what that's like. Thankfully I'm homeschooled now so I don't have to worry about anymore locker room issues and those asshats the school calls students.
Edit: Thanks for the likes, I've been out for over a year, testosterone has done wonders! :D
Dean Winchester thank you so much!!
Dean Winchester the locker room is like a big reason of why I’m scared of it.
Dean winchester huh?
This makes me very emotional, I am 13 years old and I am a trans boy. I know how difficult it is to be born in the wrong body
*me, possibly a trans guy (still figuring that out), goes to an all girls school: *sobs**
I go to a girls school too. I'm bigender by the way
Hey :) how’s it going.
So do I. I pass really well so everyone gets really confused when they see me in uniform. The benefit is that there's only one bathroom, so you don't have to be stared at in the women's or risk getting outed by using the men's.
U knows I always thought there was something wrong with me like I would start in the girls but some how always end up in the boys at first I thought I was lesbian but then I realized it was not that at all for all you trans men and women out there we satand together not alone (ó㉨ò) and remember your fabulous just the way you are
Doritos inabag yes, best of luck to you too! remember that none of us are truly alone and we’re here to support each other!
this is the first trans short film I've seen that's actually seemed realistic to me. I love it
I have been feeling a bit depressed lately and this made me feel a wee bit better bc now I know I don’t have to listen to what others say but to go my own way and just I love this and the message of it ahhhh it’s great
I really wish my face was that masculine... I’m a demiguy, assigned female, my face could never pass as a boy's...
Rain makeup actually does wonders! also, don’t stress over being masculine, not every guy is hypermasculine! you’re perfect just the way you are.
Sameee
It’s the same thing with me
My stepchild just came out as trans (ftm). I’ve been watching videos of ftm TH-camrs. If you watch the ones that are timelines of being on testosterone, you’ll see that your face will (probably) change, and you’ll grow whiskers. And your voice should become deeper.
Just take it a day at a time. Are there any lgbtq+ support groups around you? Everything is virtual (still), so distance shouldn’t be an issue.
I’m rooting for you.
where's my oscar
Amadeus Fabritius behind your dirty plates in ur room
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Do u have a instagram?
cactus @gaymadeus
i'll give a like i hope thats enough LOL
You know what I find interesting?
All these films I've seen about trans people, they all look natural. Like, passing them on the street I wouldn't even think twice. Makes one think, if briefly since self-identity is part of equality.
Also, seeing that tram makes me miss the public transportation system; where I live now it is non-existent...
i mean of course we look natural, there isn’t anything abnormal about being transgender
I've been there for 40+ years. It really sucks, but the last few months have been great.
He’s a cutie
Spider_guard_kid How do you know they can be a he if they want too don’t be so trans-phobic how would you feel if people kept saying things like this to you if you were trans?
Spider_guard_kid 1. I said they 2. you can get surgery (there is such thing as bottom surgery I think anyway I have heard it before)
she*
I just don't understand why people who don't understand being trans are in the comments correcting other people, like, what are you even doing here??
Real man arent cute
This is amazing I love this and being s closeted genderfluid thing and an out of the closet pan it makes me so happy to see other things in a time erra so fucked up dealing with lgbtq, I came out as pan and it was thanks to all of these amazing short films that helped me over come my fear, thank you guys
ahhhh thank you!! i had a hard time with my gender and sexuality myself too and wanted other people to feel okay and validated!! thanks for the kind words!!
the smile at the end melted my heartt ♡
They should have more mtf short films
I give you all of the support I can give, and I've been having huge trouble with identity. I really hope you can overcome obstacles that you come against.
Every Tuesday I used to go to this center for school and the bathrooms they had there were awesome. There were two unlabeled sides with heavy enough and tall enough stall doors to overpower the "bathroom creep" battle, and sinks on the outside in the middle so you'd just come out of your stall, walk like 5 steps forward, turn, and wash your hands in the sink out in the open. It was in my mind a brilliant solution to bathroom issues and satisfied both sides of the argument and it was fantastic. I don't see why other buildings don't try a similar setup?
I support him in every way possible oh my stars you do you boo
I am actually sitting in my closet watching this because it was my safe place where I would go when I was 5
He deserves the world
Xander Quick i know right!
WTF HE LOOKS VERY MASCULINE😭IM SO JEALOUS
No at all. You are a kid
@@Mysterica90proplayer what?
I feel the same way. I can’t get support and I am super self conscious about my body. I don’t even look in the mirror anymore. I can’t be a girl I just can’t. I just wish I had support. AlsoI am too scared to go in the men’s room and I have gotten bullied for it as well
It's so cool that I just started watching this and then I realized it's finnish (I'm a finn myself) Amazing job! :) Kiitos tästä!
sleepingroses suomi prkl
Very touching short film, especially 5.17 when the girl asked "him" if he wanted to sit with them. I am not trans but intersex, both boy and girl, and most people can't tell the difference. I get called "mam" and I get called "sir", and sometimes I just get called "it" or "whatever you are". I hope trans individuals can somehow make their appearance more like unto their chosen gender, because intersex people like me have a difficult time achieving this goal. We are all in the same boat.
torille. 6/5 short film, would recommend to others
Ale Taimi hahaaa thanks!!!
I just realised another hard thing for trans people. Whenever i feel bad/uncomfortable in public spaces for whatever reason i always go to the bathroom to hide/cry. If you don’t feel like you can go to either bathroom you won’t have that escape from the bad situation. That must feel awful When you already get in more of these situations by being trans. I believe in you, trans people
I find it kinda cool that they made one of these in Finland, especially since it seems to have made at least some kind of impact on our society if you look at all the views and likes. I'm proud of you guys for making something like this. You made me cry, no joke.
aaaaahhh bruhh thank youuu!!!!
A sigh of relief to know that there are people who understand. For a long time I always felt alone but I have a friend at school who is the same as me. We both are trans guys and we’ve been sticking up for each other for a while. This film is so accurate as to how we’re treated it’s sad. ;-;
hang in there!!! i believe in both of you!
I do too he finally came out to our class last week.
I’m young and still trying to figure out what gender I am but recently I went to a sleepover with some mates and one would often look on my phone and then the next week she starts mentioning that she thinks I’ll more then likely be transgender in the future. I don’t know if she saw anything on my phone about me questioning myself but I’m so happy that my one best friend doesn’t mind and is supportive of this
im happy you have such a supportive friend!
Another label you could consider is nonbianry. (Which means gender identities which are not solely male or female and identity out of the gender binary.) Their sub catagories within which are demigirl or Demi boy which tends to like to use (she/they or he/they) their genderfluid which I am which means some days I may feel more masculine and like he pronouns or feels more neutral and they feels right and every once in a while their she pronouns. Nonbinary the umbrella term. It take a while to see which gender identity feels right. Transgender is a more common term people know compared to nonbinary. I just thought it might be helpful to give you another perspective you could look into. Their no rush to figure out who you are and I wish you luck. Their are many labels and it takes time finding the right one : )
I am transmasculine person and this short film came out on my birthday. I dont know why but this fact makes me happier.
it's a sign!!!!
If anyone calls you a freak, don’t feel bad because everyone is a little bit of a freak. Everyone is different, and therefore nobody’s normal. If you’re called a freak, take it as a compliment because they’re just noticing what makes you unique.
just wanted to say this one random thing
the ad i just watched made gay marriage look so normal that even I, a gay, didn't notice it until after the ad played.
I feel like him a lot, I can totally relate to this. Thank you for it.
This is really sweet. I've had these problems, like which bathroom to go into. It can be really hard. I wish the world was much simpler.
I love this film tho. I too am FtM Transgender and my family still uses my dead name...I got kicked out and now live with my grandma because it was too much for my step mom (who is a butch lesbian by the way) so I know how this feels...
Would you rather have a happy son or a dead daughter?
This is sadly what it comes to and too many people think the second option is better.
You. Are. Valid. No matter who you are. You. Are. Valid.
THE LITTLE SMILE AT THE END IM NOT OKAY Y
So sweet at the end
I have long hair and I'm out but my parents said they won't refer to me as I guy until I get all of the surgeries so I just look full on female and it gives me so much dysphoria
you are such a wonderful guy regardless of how your parents refer to you!!! i hope it gets easier soon!
the part where the girls said "there's that girl again. i hope she doesnt come near us, she's such a freak," is so relateable for me that it hurts to hear someone else go through it
just uppercut them if someone says shit like that
@Bonidee Lee you should become a poet that was profound!!!!
His hair looks fluffy
*I wanna touch it*
actually it was like touching a hedgehog
I really like your video. Because i can see myself and i try to live a boy’s life everyday like you. Its so hard and sad but i will get my life back. And i will be a great man. Im on T now, it makes me happy cause i know that my dream is coming true. Keep moving .
im so glad you are feeling happy!!!
When he smiled I cried not even gonna pretend I’m not crying rn
AnOddlyShapedClock thank you! hope you liked the film!
I'm non binary and I hate when I have to choose between bathrooms or uniforms
same
My parents words:
(any other day)
- you are a girl!
-you have woman parts!
-grow your hair out you look stupid!
-this is just a phase you will grow out of it!
(on my birthday)
-look at the birthday girl!
-you are becoming such a grown woman!
My friends words:
(on any other day)
-ayyy my favourite man!
-who cares if you have woman genitals, you are who you are and feel like
- awwwh you look so cute with your short hair!
-so glad you are being yourself
-we are here for you and totally support you!
(on my birthday)
-ayy my favourite man 1 year older!
-dayumn you are so old! Like my grandpa soon haha!
Sometimes friends are the ones we can turn to rather than our parents. It's tricky out there but at the end of the day, you are you and you can accomplish anything!
I loved this! His smile at the end, priceless
Don't feel Invalid because you're trans , genitalia has nothing to do with your biological sex on a cerebral scale , and if you want my opinion I find trans masc incredible handsome.
That little smile at the end! My heart 😢
Imagine having a supportive family that uses the right pronouns (they/them/he/him/she/her) and calls u the right name (Jason) and doesn't say transaphobic stuff. Omg that will be great (I'm gender fluid)
Hey Jason, I know I’m way late here. I hope things are good for you and you are able to live freely as yourself with support around you
Ohhh wow the way he is acting at the begining with the mirror is so true ! I act like this everyday
Ihanaa nähdö että suomalaidetkin tekee näitä.
Sini Parikka suomi prkl
Torilla tavataan ;)
So pretty. It makes an strange comfort to see short trans films with a happy ending, just saying. Such a transition. Anyway life is just for once :)
PETTION TO MAKE EVERY SCHOOL HAVE GENDER NEUTRAAL BATHROOMS. AS AN AGENDER PERSON IT'S SO AWKWARD WHEN I GO TO THE GIRLS BATHROOM!!
me: I am trans
friends: we know
teachers: we support
almost 90% of my school: *supports*
family: *tAKeS awAY mY gUy clOthEs, fOrcEs mE to WeAr girL clOthEs, cAlls mE usiNg my dEAd nAme, MiSgendErs mE, stEal mY monEy, shAvEs mY hEaD so pEople dOn'T nOticE my gUy haIrcUt, hUmiliATeS me, UsEs mE aS a JokE*
im so sorry this is happening to you! i hope the pain eases soon
Wait.. THIS IS IN FINLAND??? SUOMI!!! btw i loved this
This tells pretty much about how it feels. Also this is one of/or even the best trans gender shortfilms!! Good Job. Ja torilla tavataan👌🏽
Hennuuska apua kiitos!!!
ok but
like
why does every trans shirt film i’ve watched start with them waking up
we need to convince people we actually sleep so they dont suspect us
Cause that's how humans start their day?
ok but good question
Ikr it's so inaccurate we all know that trans people never sleep we are fueled with the power of gods
Mtf here, just got over a long bout of depression and now TH-cam recommending me this stuff >w
you are a wonderful woman and i love you!!! i hope the pain eases soon and things get better! sending hugs and love!
*cries in trans boy*
My parents don't accept me, but they are literally LESBIANS, and I kinda thought the community would comfort one another. I was wrong...
im so sorry you have to deal with this!
The fact that peoe think they can pick and choose who they accept is ridiculous, they will have experienced similar discrimination in their lives so they should be able to relate to how you're feeling. But who cares what others think of you, you know who you are. You're a handsome young man and dont ever change who you are to please others :)
I got my hair cut today and now I look like a bow and I love it so much someone called me a boy and I’m not out yet so I couldn’t be very excited because my family was with me
I realized when it said wc naiset it is finnish omg im so stupid i'm also finlandian
Reo Nex ahahaaa torille ja sillee
artbychamber jepulis xD
The first part when he pulls his shirt down and tries to cover is so relatable.
We used to have gender neutral bathrooms at school but they changed them and now I'm confused
As a recently come out transfem I have been watching a lot of pro trans short films and I love them a lot. Also non serious side note: THAT FOOD LOOKS AMAZING
3:30 *shook*
Found this only today (6 March 2020). Anyway, I can't understand why so many young people could still be such discriminatory nowadays. People gender MUST NOT be something to judge and to discriminate someone. Toilets and restrooms MUST BE GENDERLESS anywhere. Thanks the universe ( or whatever we believe it is, I dont like to say "thanks god"...) there are also young people who are clever and don't have stupid prejudices. And it's both about young and old people, there are still too many idiots and ignorant ones in the world and it's not fair that so many good people have to suffer because of them. At least all teachers should make all their best to fight that ignorance! Best wishes to any trangender that we can have soon a better world. :):):):)
Tbh I relate to the mirror situation I can stand looking at myself in the mirror
This film was made 5 years ago and I still experience chest dysphoria since I haven't had top surgery yet. I know what you're going through and how hard everything feels right now. But trust me when I say this: it will get better. It might take days, months, years, but somewhere in the future things will be alright!
Wow, this is awesome. It's a very good short film! I am glad I'm not bullied anymore for being a trans male thanks to my new school, and this video just makes me even more happy 💙
RELATED TOO MUCH.
AM NOT CRYING, you are. am not Ç_Ç
I greatly appreciate the sentiment behind this, though I feel like the Oblivion Harvest Dawn might have fit well behind some of the dialogue.
HFKDJFKFJGKEKFKG if i knew how to edit i would immediately make a parody, trust me
Is this my second hour watching Trans films? Yes. Is it making me feel better? Kinda
im glad it is!!!!
I am transgender from Russia. My country banned transitions and 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️:/. But i hope, my country gets better in future
I love this sooooo much
Recognizing a person as male or female makes a perfect fourth or perfect fifth go off in my head. The harder it is to tell which gender I’m supposed to be perceiving, the closer the ratio gets to square root 2. A tritone. When it’s easy for my brain to figure out what it’s looking at, it has a natural tendency to feel good. But when it’s more difficult to figure it out, the dissonance can be uncomfortable.
There’s nothing wrong with dissonant or consonant diads though. Once my brain figures out what it’s perceiving, it feels good either way. Sometimes it takes a couple extra seconds and/or some context to smooth things out.
*off topic but*
I love their accents
You do? I'm a finn like these people in the film and I always feel like most of us finns have a very strange accent :D
Dude's got the same hair as me! When he put the headphones on I was like "you're gonna get a lil dent there"
aaaaaahh the dent was like my biggest problem then sjkdkfkfkf
and-
LET THIS POOR MAN TAKE A DUMP IN PIECE
I only have homemade binders that don't work well, but I wore a different type that works better yesterday when I went shopping with my transphobic mum. I'm not out yet so I persuaded her to let me buy clothes in the men's' section and because she doesn't know I'm a trans boy, she said yes. Then we went to the changing rooms to see if it fitted and the lady who worked there looked at me and pointed to the men's side of the changing rooms!!! I'm super excited about it!!!!
i am very glad!!!! but remember to be very careful with binding!
I don't think that I'm trans, but I wish I looked masculine😢
as a finn it surely is interesting to see finnish everywhere and then suddenly the characters speak english. took me off guard! 😂👌 but anyway, this was a good short! as a transguy, I really related to the mc, particularly in the wc scene. it's always nerve-wrecking when you have to use a public toilet.
He already looks like a guy ughhh so luckyyy!😂😂😭😭
3:03 the choice the most difficult of the day (for trans, non-binary, ect)