@April-1234-exile apologies I have just reread my comment . What I meant was people do not simply forget that their partners are not their property. Bloody hell I know many people who sadly veiw their partners and their partners assets as their own property.
So true as it proves there is little or no trust between them. All though when I had a partner I'd leave mine unlocked and lying around as I also have nothing to hide if they are inclined to go thru it ❤❤
yup, i don;t do anything i wouldn't want my wife to see, so if she wanted to go tyhru my phone or computer she absolutely could without even asking. I have the same permissions from her. But the really cool thing is, we trust each other, so we never do.
I agree depending on context sadly in today's world loyalty is hard to come by and the majority of people cheat, you can trust all you want but the world is full of fiends and if somebody you love asks you if you have nothing to hide you'd have no issue if my gf asked me I'd hand it over in a heartbeat because I'm loyal I have nothing to hide and keep from them and you don't hide things from those you love relationships don't work if you hide secrets and can't trust someone
I agree and Like lots of people think that it is an invasion of privacy because it is their phone, which I understand. It is really a big thing about trust. Also I love ur videos❤❤❤
Going through an ex's phone is how I confirmed she was cheating. I felt horrible doing it, but after it confirmed she was lying to my face for a month, I had no regret. I was always honest and upfront with her, so I took her word for face value too. We were together for a year and a half, but during the last month she was acting suspicious, dismissing my concerns when I brought it up, and even accussing me of cheating as a projection of her own actions. She had lied to our mutual friends, convincing them that I was physically abusive to her, so that she could sleep around and they wouldn't tell me. During the breakup, she also assaulted me (I still have the scar from it) and tried to instigate me to hit her so she'd have 'ammunition' against me. "Violating her privacy" was how I stepped out of my naivety and protected myself. Awful people can force you to do things you don't want to. I'm glad I looked. I dropped her and those "friends"
Yesss!! But also, if you're both ok with it and don't mind these things, that's also ok. All about good communication and respect to eachother (i think:):)
As true as that may be, they are also a vessel for separate lives. It was me going through my ex husband phone one day I finally confirmed he was cheating on me and was able to get divorced and move on. Had I not I may have believed his lies and would be years and years into an unfaithful marriage.
Based on your wording, you "confirmed" which means you already had suspicion and a lack of trust. You didn't need confirmation, you could have left anyway if you didn't trust your partner. It was still a violation of their privacy.
This is off topic but Hailee and Kendra, my name is Faith I appreciate all your content I came out to my father 6 months ago and he was ok with it and had full support but I don’t know how to actually put myself out there and to find somebody if you have any input I would really appreciate that love you guys ❤❤hope I have the love you guys do one day! ❤
I love this! I get that it’s a prank and meant to be funny but there are lots of couples out there who snoop through their partners phones behind their back. It’s a direct violation of privacy. Unless you suspect that they’re cheating on you, you don’t snoop through your partner’s phone without consent.
True. But how many times in a short period before it ceases being "I have nothing to hide" and becomes "what do you think you're going to find"? There comes a point where their trust issues are their problem to fix.
Lol honestly this was the best way to say that. Every time I’ve caught a girl going through my phone or she’s snatched it out of my hands? It ended in an immediate breakup. I will not allow anyone to violate my privacy for any reason and they should expect I would never do to them because it’s just wrong and frankly quite a bit rude and entitled too. Fact is the argument “what do you have to hide?” Is a bs argument… better question? Why you so insecure you gotta trigger my ptsd? 🤣🤣🤣.
Absolutely. I wanted to add for a couple examples as to why it’s so important to me.. my mum will talk to me about her health or private extended family issues and my best friend will vent to me about life and about her kid.. and so some things like that are not even my private thoughts and experiences to share. Just my two thoughts. Sometimes “personal privacy” is not just the phone owner’s privacy:)
This is very true. Was in a shall we say controlling relationship. One day, she picked up my phone and went through it. I should've said no. Because I never looked through her phone once! Afterwards, I knew she was cheating on me and sleeping with other people. And kept me like a prisoner in her house. Until I was able to move back home 1,000 miles away. Etc... Point is, if they are so wanting to look through your phone. Immediate red flag and honestly leave them right away!
100% agree and can we just appreciate the "I'm sorry babe" that's sometimes all that needs to be said acknowledging when your in the wrong is the best thing for a relationship, I've been in relationship with girls with trust issues that atleast asked before hand and I'd say yes cause I knew it had nothing to do with me and just to help her feel secure and I had nothing to hide
(partner etc) going through my phone (or computer) is a Deathwish. It should also be a federal crime like opening someone's mail. PSA: Be careful what you store (open) on your phones. Your phone is the least private thing you own.
This is 100% true, and as someone whose ex partner would go through their phone all the time. It's completely wrong and shows how little trust there is in the relationship.
So glad you guys said it. So many people think it's totally normal and fine to do, lord know I would never go even looking at my boyfriend's phone without his consent, and that goes both ways, neither of us have anything to hide from one another and absolutely no problem giving the other our phone to look through if we ask, but we don't ask because we don't care to know what the others doing on their phone, and that's OK because it's our private devices for us to know what's on it and no one else
Ah, yes. It's another one of those "tests" seen periodically online which is primarily supposed to push the idea that a man should allow the woman in his life to push him around and do whatever she wants to him, and if he objects at all, he's somehow a bad boyfriend or husband. If you do not trust your partner enough to leave them at least that much privacy, then perhaps you're not really partners. This applies no matter who the both of you are. I am single right now because I make it abundantly clear that I will not tolerate such things just to be able to say I'm in a relationship. Some people make fun of me for that, but I never have to worry about being harassed by somebody who claims to love me but does not respect me. 🤷♂️ P.S.: Can I also just say I sincerely appreciate the apology at the end there, even though you were both doing this intentionally to send a message?
The second you feel like you have to invade their privacy, is the second that there is no relationship anymore, no trust, no privacy, no care. It’s over bro, just trust your partner and be honest with them, don’t go through their dang phone
I steal my partner's phone often, but not to go through it. . She loses her phone constantly. So, I started picking it up whenever I saw it unattended. She thought I was stealing it and hiding it, and I thought that her thinking that was funny, and it escalated from there.
The people that do that type tend to use "If you ain't got nothing to hide" sayings because they were cheated on or otherwise betrayed in a former relationship(s). If you're not insecure then you can ask them what it is and if they dodge A LOT then MAYBE it's a bad thing. If they just tell you then they mean what they say.
I agree if you just randomly do it actually even if you ask I feel like it’s a invasion of privacy but I feel like if you just borrow there phone to call someone or something around that and see a couple messages but don’t scroll I feel like that’s fine
This happened to me with my ex so I know how this feels. My fiance now I tell him my password as I give him permission to answer calls or texts unless it's important than I get him to read the message and I tell him what to put if I'm busy
As with everything there are two sides. Going through it uninvited is an invasion of privacy, but also I don't think I should have anything to hide from my partner. If I don't want her to see it, I probably shouldn't be doing it. Exceptions for birthday/Christmas surprises of course. I did think Kendra would be shopping for blankets/plants and it would be some kind of bit. What you actually did is better though
Thank you as someone who lives in a situation where people treat privacy as a privilege that can be taken away at any time if I don't if I don't "fall in line" and threaten to do so a lot plus who also threaten to take my things from me if I don't do what they want this would be extremely triggering for me if my partner did this. It's not funny at all.
If they are cheating I would want the proof. My future husband and I know each others passcodes so it’s not a big deal for us to use each other’s phones or something. We trust each other so we know there is nothing on them that the other shouldn’t see. If your SO is acting sus, I honestly don’t see the problem because it has saved MANY women and men who were being cheated on and otherwise would not have found out. However, I don’t think it right to just take their phone and go through it whenever you want. If you suspect cheating and they refuse to show you. I don’t see why looking at when they aren’t around or in the room as an issue. If you are hiding something (like cheating) you won’t let your SO touch your phone. That is a huge red flag. The SO deserves to know if they are being cheated on. The issue is when an innocent person’s SO is controlling and just wants their phone to “see what they are doing” to control what they do that is the issue.
my wife and I know each other's codes in case of emergency and information is needed. She regularly has tossed me her phone to call someone because she is busy and i have done the same. I trust her
My SO won't touch my phone or wallet unless I say so. I won't touch her phone without their permission and I refuse to open the purse. Trust is a pillar of any relationship
my wife has access to my phone and computer anytime she wants, as i do hers. this has been great for having her answer for me when someone texts while i'm driving :) (and of course, i do the same for her)
Some of yall never found out your SO was cheating on you or using you and it shows. If you are in a healthy relationship with nothing to hide then picking up someone's phone or using it shouldn't be an issue at all.
In the modern day, and undoubtedly moreso in the future, cell phones are less phones and more an extension of a person themselves. Think about how many private and personal things are on your phone that are exclusively yours. Someone else going through your phone without your permission is almost like them rummaging through your brain without your permission.
Me and my partner have an agreement both of us know the codes to each others phones. Never had to use it as i trust her and she trusts me too but we could look anytime we wanted.
Dont take your partners phone snd snoop thru... But if someone got nervous with me using it or would not let me use it that would be cause for further investigation or break up for sure. I know my gf's code and i personally dont have one. I dont think she locked and i havent locked at hers. Its a great feeling that you dont get with a lot of other women.
Just saying, I have my partners finger print on my phone and I have in the past left him with it for ages. On his my face unlocks the phone. I feel this is a very healthy thing and we trust each other.
Going thru your partners phone is not only a violation of trust but it also means that you don't trust them and that is never gd in a relationship there must be privacy and trust
I think the whole both-sides-ism of this thing is valid but also, if you go through your partner's phone and there really was nothing wrong, you've just potentially damaged your relationship and created trust issues where there was probably none to begin with. So it's kind of a lose/lose. If you're gonna be in a relationship with someone, you should trust them until they break your heart. Because if you're suspecting them and not giving them the benefit of the doubt then there's already an issue that can cause things to crumble.
Yeah. Behavior like that is just toxic and fosters mistrust and Paranoia. That being said. The way she grabbed his phone and reacted when he wanted it back gave me "That relationship is done" vibes.
I regret to inform you I can only give this a single like. It deserves infinity likes but current technical limitations on reality prohibit that. My apologies.
when my girlfriend wants to go through my phone she just asks and I give it to her and she gives me hers then we just laugh all the ways stuff we have on them
Sure, but why do you care? My wife can grab my phone anytime, and I can grab hers. I have nothing to hide, so what do I need to keep private from my spouse? We trust each other, so we've never gone though each others phones, but they're there if we ever felt the need. No secrets.
I've let GFs fingerprint be the unlock on my phone, and she still didn't trust. Sorry. If they feel the need, they don't trust you. If that's a surprise to you, it's because they've given you reason they shouldn't be trusted either. Find it or find the exit.
so valid, we all deserve privacy ❤❤❤
and the sorry babe after, my heart melts everytime
i think sometimes people forget that their partners arent their property, and that they are people too :\
No that was not forgetting that was blatantly ignoring that fact.
@@ghostcardsandcollectables oh I know I was just talking retrospect of similar things I’ve had happened
@@ghostcardsandcollectablesbro shut up this persons right
@April-1234-exile apologies I have just reread my comment . What I meant was people do not simply forget that their partners are not their property. Bloody hell I know many people who sadly veiw their partners and their partners assets as their own property.
@ ah that make more sense sorry 😞
So true as it proves there is little or no trust between them. All though when I had a partner I'd leave mine unlocked and lying around as I also have nothing to hide if they are inclined to go thru it ❤❤
yup, i don;t do anything i wouldn't want my wife to see, so if she wanted to go tyhru my phone or computer she absolutely could without even asking. I have the same permissions from her. But the really cool thing is, we trust each other, so we never do.
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I agree depending on context sadly in today's world loyalty is hard to come by and the majority of people cheat, you can trust all you want but the world is full of fiends and if somebody you love asks you if you have nothing to hide you'd have no issue if my gf asked me I'd hand it over in a heartbeat because I'm loyal I have nothing to hide and keep from them and you don't hide things from those you love relationships don't work if you hide secrets and can't trust someone
I agree and Like lots of people think that it is an invasion of privacy because it is their phone, which I understand. It is really a big thing about trust. Also I love ur videos❤❤❤
So, if we're dating and I snatch your phone, you shouldn't care because you have nothing to hide? Is that how it goes?
Going through an ex's phone is how I confirmed she was cheating. I felt horrible doing it, but after it confirmed she was lying to my face for a month, I had no regret. I was always honest and upfront with her, so I took her word for face value too. We were together for a year and a half, but during the last month she was acting suspicious, dismissing my concerns when I brought it up, and even accussing me of cheating as a projection of her own actions. She had lied to our mutual friends, convincing them that I was physically abusive to her, so that she could sleep around and they wouldn't tell me. During the breakup, she also assaulted me (I still have the scar from it) and tried to instigate me to hit her so she'd have 'ammunition' against me.
"Violating her privacy" was how I stepped out of my naivety and protected myself. Awful people can force you to do things you don't want to. I'm glad I looked. I dropped her and those "friends"
Yesss!! But also, if you're both ok with it and don't mind these things, that's also ok. All about good communication and respect to eachother (i think:):)
As true as that may be, they are also a vessel for separate lives. It was me going through my ex husband phone one day I finally confirmed he was cheating on me and was able to get divorced and move on. Had I not I may have believed his lies and would be years and years into an unfaithful marriage.
Based on your wording, you "confirmed" which means you already had suspicion and a lack of trust. You didn't need confirmation, you could have left anyway if you didn't trust your partner. It was still a violation of their privacy.
This is off topic but Hailee and Kendra, my name is Faith I appreciate all your content I came out to my father 6 months ago and he was ok with it and had full support but I don’t know how to actually put myself out there and to find somebody if you have any input I would really appreciate that love you guys ❤❤hope I have the love you guys do one day! ❤
Totally agree! Say it louder for the folks in the back! 👏👏❤❤
I love this! I get that it’s a prank and meant to be funny but there are lots of couples out there who snoop through their partners phones behind their back. It’s a direct violation of privacy. Unless you suspect that they’re cheating on you, you don’t snoop through your partner’s phone without consent.
Pffft, I'll unlock it and give it to my wife. No issues here
True. But how many times in a short period before it ceases being "I have nothing to hide" and becomes "what do you think you're going to find"? There comes a point where their trust issues are their problem to fix.
@ 32 years and no issues
SOMEBODY FINALLY SAID IT👏👏👏👏
Not just a privacy thing, but also a trust and respect thing.
Lets GO KENDRA ❤❤❤
Lol honestly this was the best way to say that. Every time I’ve caught a girl going through my phone or she’s snatched it out of my hands? It ended in an immediate breakup. I will not allow anyone to violate my privacy for any reason and they should expect I would never do to them because it’s just wrong and frankly quite a bit rude and entitled too. Fact is the argument “what do you have to hide?” Is a bs argument… better question? Why you so insecure you gotta trigger my ptsd? 🤣🤣🤣.
Absolutely. I wanted to add for a couple examples as to why it’s so important to me.. my mum will talk to me about her health or private extended family issues and my best friend will vent to me about life and about her kid.. and so some things like that are not even my private thoughts and experiences to share.
Just my two thoughts. Sometimes “personal privacy” is not just the phone owner’s privacy:)
This is very true.
Was in a shall we say controlling relationship. One day, she picked up my phone and went through it. I should've said no. Because I never looked through her phone once!
Afterwards, I knew she was cheating on me and sleeping with other people. And kept me like a prisoner in her house. Until I was able to move back home 1,000 miles away. Etc...
Point is, if they are so wanting to look through your phone. Immediate red flag and honestly leave them right away!
i have a saying "People will not accuse you of doing something that they won't/aren't"
Some people just don’t get privacy and it angers me deeply much love for you guys and ur channel❤️❤️❤️
Yins are absolutely relationship goals I hope one day I’m as lucky love y’all stay safe and stay blessed❤️
I agree 100% but also those yeti trousers are briliant
I agree, I love your morals and values
100% agree and can we just appreciate the "I'm sorry babe" that's sometimes all that needs to be said acknowledging when your in the wrong is the best thing for a relationship, I've been in relationship with girls with trust issues that atleast asked before hand and I'd say yes cause I knew it had nothing to do with me and just to help her feel secure and I had nothing to hide
An excellent take! Well said, and well acted!
(partner etc) going through my phone (or computer) is a Deathwish. It should also be a federal crime like opening someone's mail.
PSA: Be careful what you store (open) on your phones. Your phone is the least private thing you own.
very true. even if they have nothing to hide it's a breach of trust and privacy. and it can hurt
Treat others as you want others to treat you.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
So true, its THEIR phone
This is 100% true, and as someone whose ex partner would go through their phone all the time. It's completely wrong and shows how little trust there is in the relationship.
I totally agree ❤
So glad you guys said it. So many people think it's totally normal and fine to do, lord know I would never go even looking at my boyfriend's phone without his consent, and that goes both ways, neither of us have anything to hide from one another and absolutely no problem giving the other our phone to look through if we ask, but we don't ask because we don't care to know what the others doing on their phone, and that's OK because it's our private devices for us to know what's on it and no one else
I agree 100% 😊❤
Love your channel
Agreeeedddd ❤❤❤
Ah, yes. It's another one of those "tests" seen periodically online which is primarily supposed to push the idea that a man should allow the woman in his life to push him around and do whatever she wants to him, and if he objects at all, he's somehow a bad boyfriend or husband.
If you do not trust your partner enough to leave them at least that much privacy, then perhaps you're not really partners. This applies no matter who the both of you are.
I am single right now because I make it abundantly clear that I will not tolerate such things just to be able to say I'm in a relationship. Some people make fun of me for that, but I never have to worry about being harassed by somebody who claims to love me but does not respect me.
🤷♂️
P.S.: Can I also just say I sincerely appreciate the apology at the end there, even though you were both doing this intentionally to send a message?
The second you feel like you have to invade their privacy, is the second that there is no relationship anymore, no trust, no privacy, no care. It’s over bro, just trust your partner and be honest with them, don’t go through their dang phone
I steal my partner's phone often, but not to go through it.
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She loses her phone constantly. So, I started picking it up whenever I saw it unattended. She thought I was stealing it and hiding it, and I thought that her thinking that was funny, and it escalated from there.
100% agree. If you cannot trust your partner at that level, then you have some serious issues to work out.
Agreed tho❤
The people that do that type tend to use "If you ain't got nothing to hide" sayings because they were cheated on or otherwise betrayed in a former relationship(s).
If you're not insecure then you can ask them what it is and if they dodge A LOT then MAYBE it's a bad thing. If they just tell you then they mean what they say.
Love this & fully agree
I agree it is a violation of privacy
I have to give you that, Kendra! You're right!
Play stupid games,win stupid prizes….bet that relationship won’t last…but I bet H&K will be forever. Respect!
True story ❤❤❤
I agree if you just randomly do it actually even if you ask I feel like it’s a invasion of privacy but I feel like if you just borrow there phone to call someone or something around that and see a couple messages but don’t scroll I feel like that’s fine
Couples should have anything to hide from one another. I don't even lock my phone, look through it all you want.
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Real and true 👍
This happened to me with my ex so I know how this feels. My fiance now I tell him my password as I give him permission to answer calls or texts unless it's important than I get him to read the message and I tell him what to put if I'm busy
As with everything there are two sides. Going through it uninvited is an invasion of privacy, but also I don't think I should have anything to hide from my partner. If I don't want her to see it, I probably shouldn't be doing it. Exceptions for birthday/Christmas surprises of course.
I did think Kendra would be shopping for blankets/plants and it would be some kind of bit. What you actually did is better though
Damn straight it is I'll never do it and I've never done it
Thank you as someone who lives in a situation where people treat privacy as a privilege that can be taken away at any time if I don't if I don't "fall in line" and threaten to do so a lot plus who also threaten to take my things from me if I don't do what they want this would be extremely triggering for me if my partner did this. It's not funny at all.
I agree with that, but you should have nothing to hide. The only things we have to hide are Christmas gifts.
And birthday gifts
If they are cheating I would want the proof. My future husband and I know each others passcodes so it’s not a big deal for us to use each other’s phones or something. We trust each other so we know there is nothing on them that the other shouldn’t see. If your SO is acting sus, I honestly don’t see the problem because it has saved MANY women and men who were being cheated on and otherwise would not have found out.
However, I don’t think it right to just take their phone and go through it whenever you want. If you suspect cheating and they refuse to show you. I don’t see why looking at when they aren’t around or in the room as an issue. If you are hiding something (like cheating) you won’t let your SO touch your phone. That is a huge red flag. The SO deserves to know if they are being cheated on. The issue is when an innocent person’s SO is controlling and just wants their phone to “see what they are doing” to control what they do that is the issue.
I'm just too lazy, most of the time when people message me its my wife texting back, otherwise they would never get a reply 😂😂😂
my wife and I know each other's codes in case of emergency and information is needed. She regularly has tossed me her phone to call someone because she is busy and i have done the same. I trust her
My SO won't touch my phone or wallet unless I say so. I won't touch her phone without their permission and I refuse to open the purse.
Trust is a pillar of any relationship
I would be upset and give you a look for interrupting my book.
my wife has access to my phone and computer anytime she wants, as i do hers. this has been great for having her answer for me when someone texts while i'm driving :) (and of course, i do the same for her)
Some of yall never found out your SO was cheating on you or using you and it shows. If you are in a healthy relationship with nothing to hide then picking up someone's phone or using it shouldn't be an issue at all.
Me and my girl don’t go through our phones but we do take it for the fun of it so we can get attention for a brief moment before we give it back
In the modern day, and undoubtedly moreso in the future, cell phones are less phones and more an extension of a person themselves. Think about how many private and personal things are on your phone that are exclusively yours. Someone else going through your phone without your permission is almost like them rummaging through your brain without your permission.
So true but most people are inserure😊
Fr though 😢
Me and my partner have an agreement both of us know the codes to each others phones. Never had to use it as i trust her and she trusts me too but we could look anytime we wanted.
Quite right too. Nice PSA
Dont take your partners phone snd snoop thru... But if someone got nervous with me using it or would not let me use it that would be cause for further investigation or break up for sure. I know my gf's code and i personally dont have one. I dont think she locked and i havent locked at hers. Its a great feeling that you dont get with a lot of other women.
Just saying, I have my partners finger print on my phone and I have in the past left him with it for ages.
On his my face unlocks the phone.
I feel this is a very healthy thing and we trust each other.
Thank you!!
If you do t look through it and just see how they react then in my opinion its fine (only if you apologize)
Yep!
Going thru your partners phone is not only a violation of trust but it also means that you don't trust them and that is never gd in a relationship there must be privacy and trust
I think the whole both-sides-ism of this thing is valid but also, if you go through your partner's phone and there really was nothing wrong, you've just potentially damaged your relationship and created trust issues where there was probably none to begin with. So it's kind of a lose/lose. If you're gonna be in a relationship with someone, you should trust them until they break your heart. Because if you're suspecting them and not giving them the benefit of the doubt then there's already an issue that can cause things to crumble.
i.e. there's already a problem once you feel like you need to invade their privacy by yoinking their phone away from them.
Yeah. Behavior like that is just toxic and fosters mistrust and Paranoia. That being said. The way she grabbed his phone and reacted when he wanted it back gave me "That relationship is done" vibes.
I regret to inform you I can only give this a single like. It deserves infinity likes but current technical limitations on reality prohibit that. My apologies.
Acting crazy is sus but you should only be with someone you trust that you don't care to even look.
Facts
Either you trust or you don’t. Don’t and emotions gonna be flying like bats on a moonlit night.
Oh for sure it's a total violation of privacy, you should always ask.
Exactly
This is awesome
Fact.
Agreed.
Its actually illegal both on state and federal levels
If you don't trust your partner, then maybe it was never meant to be
when my girlfriend wants to go through my phone she just asks and I give it to her and she gives me hers then we just laugh all the ways stuff we have on them
Soo cute
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Just give your partner the unlock code to your phone and tell them they can look whenever they like. There will then be no need for them to look.
facts
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Sure, but why do you care? My wife can grab my phone anytime, and I can grab hers. I have nothing to hide, so what do I need to keep private from my spouse? We trust each other, so we've never gone though each others phones, but they're there if we ever felt the need. No secrets.
Actually it's not. Depending on the situation
It’s either you both have complete privacy over your phone or you and your partner basically share two phones no in between lol
I've let GFs fingerprint be the unlock on my phone, and she still didn't trust.
Sorry. If they feel the need, they don't trust you. If that's a surprise to you, it's because they've given you reason they shouldn't be trusted either.
Find it or find the exit.
true but what if your partner is cheating.
not everybody thinks like that!
Real