I can't imagine someone being that sympathetic! The OP's a doormat that allows rotten family members to ruin what future she has and it's her fault for even listening to them! ;-(
Yea, unfortunately I wrote this post before finishing the whole story. I'm not sure what to think about Keith now, but OP is exceptionally immature :/ their relationship is doomed.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 OP and her family need psych treatment! They're so concerned about appearances, but allow a drunken sister to trash OP at her wedding and request an apology for her being thrown out! Some people are crrazy! What a tool to accept such treatment! ;-)
I think OP’s sister caused 99. 9% of the embarrassment at the wedding. I am 72 now but I did lead a life not unlike OP’s many decades ago. I may have been judged then by some, but not anymore after I got myself out of it and held down a good job for many years working with teenagers going through what I went through when I wished I had someone like me on board. OP, you have no reason to be embarrassed at all! Kudos to Keith for staying with you and and helping you through the bad times. You guys are both awesome. Stick to your family of TH-cam followers. Your blood family isn’t doing you any favours at all.
That's true That's true but she should have been Honest with the man she loves About her past we all make mistakes. We all have a past But hiding it from somebody is Being dishonest.
no she didn't redeem herself she put te blame on everyone and everything else and cant deal with the image she created for herself. hope her parents and sister sue her for doxing.
@@perfectlyimperfect9129but she was honest, she told him about everything before the actual wedding took place after he pocked her up from the train station. If keith was willing to accept her with all of that it wasnt the sister place to bring it up to him. Especially not something so public and important as a wedding
@@Chickenfriedpenguin that's the most unforgiving position ever. People are allowed to turn their lives around. You are obviously the kind who gets on their high horse and points the finger of shame, ready to remind people they aren't allowed to redeem their character and be happy. How insufferable you must be.
With a family like hers it is no wonder that she turned to drugs and men looking for any kind of love that she could find. Thank goodness she found Keith.
I think it's just one of those bitter things to swallow that no matter how much you progress or change for the better there's always going to be people in your life that will throw your past mistakes in your face. Op was right to expose her family for what they did if they were going to continue to drag her negatively even despite her growth as a person.
I've been in OPs shoes... I've made positive changes in my life and took the steps to do and be better... But just about everyone I knew still sees me as this weak person and believe the rumors, as I was actually never bad like OP was just I had an anger issue, but even though I'm a calmer nicer person who smiles all the time people of my past still won't believe I'm good .. even have the courts backing me up as these people tried to get me to lose my kids... Hate and jealousy is a horrid way to live
She’s not the A-hole ! It’s her parents who can’t see that with the help of her husband, she has turned her life around for the best ! And for her parents to insist SHE apologises to her sister for her sister’s mistake is just acting SOOOOOO ENTITLED ! I would just shut people like this out of my life - if they can’t be happy for me for the person I have become and want to constantly hang on to the past, then that’s where they should stay - in my past ! Move on with your new life and forget those that have only brought out the worst in you. You’re better than them and you have enough people who will be on your side + a really loving and understanding husband who will be there for you for the rest of your life ! ❤️
NTA - people all grow up and change. It was sink or swim for this OP, and she swam. Instead of her sister being happy for her, she was jealous and tried to ruin her. In order for victims like OP to truly heal, they need vindication with their closure. OP did the right thing. Op’s sister has demonstrated that she doesn’t love OP. What she did was horrible, and she needed to take responsibility. I find it hypocritical for OP’S sister to be trashed on alcohol herself at OP’s wedding. I don’t believe OP’s mother and father love her either. OP chose the best option by teaching THEM a lesson about being bad people. She can now feel vindicated, satisfied, retain self-esteem, and go No Contact with her hypocritical, superficial excuse of a family and start her own. NTA.
I may not approve of my sister's lifestyle, but I would never embarrass her at her wedding shower, wedding day, or any day that is important to her. I learned that she and I may never accept each other, but we won't be insulting each other.
@@donnabarnes8291 I think you may need to re-read her post. She clearly states that she would fail at trying to humiliate her sister in spite of her lifestyle. And you are correct, she may fail at having to approve of her sister's life, but if her lifestyle were to damage SFR's life, would you be saying the same?
@@donnabarnes8291 She was two years old when she was baptized and my parents chosen me to be her godmother. I loved my sister as if she was my own child. I would feed her, changed her diaper, rock her to sleep, and babysit her since she was born. In 2010, my sister was not there when my father died and was not there when he was given a memorial service. Her lifestyle was too important to her. My priest had bought my sister a ticket so that my sister could come home to see my father one last time. She cashed in the ticket to support her lifestyle instead. I felt embarrassed by her actions. I did not want my priest and church to be deceived by her. My father wanted to see her one last time. He loved my sister regardless of her past mistakes. I loved her, too. I still do especially when she broke my heart. The last time I saw her in 2016, I chosen not to confront her, decided I should be polite. I kept my anger in check and did not embarrass her in front of her boyfriend, her small children, and our relatives. I learned it would not do me any good to bring up my sister's mistakes. She did not need another person to yell at her. I just hugged her and told her I still love her.
NTA. I'm pretty sire the sister wasn't even affected by the alcohol, she probably said that intentionally. OP made the right decision by doing this, because if she hadn't, her family would've spewed lies around to the family and on her sisters social media about how horrible OP is. Those three just can't stop living in the past and learn that someone can change. As for OP's new in laws, I believe they just want to hook him up with a rich girl with a good background. They're such stereotypes for assuming that OP would be trouble just because of her past. The couples families really need to get with the time and get out of OP's past
With a family like that, no wonder OP was looking for love in the wrong places. If you never knew love as a child it's hard to accept it when it finally finds you.
I think that OP could not catch a break. Her husband Keith was great for standing behind her. Maybe they can move somewhere else when they have children so that things can be peaceful. I'm proud of OP for what she did to clean up and have an amazing husband.
Maybe if she had been truthful when it mattered, instead of letting him know through the cops... I might feel bad for her. How do I know? Story time! My husband has a past. Not one I can talk about, but it was bad. HE told ME about it before we even talked about getting married. I wasn't Captain Save a Ho like Keith here, I cared about him. Small wedding with ONLY people who knew and respected our marriage. Six years strong, and someone could say they don't like him or me. We could care less.
They need to go no contact with the toxic people, family or otherwise, and move far, far away before they have children. That family will blab to the kids, once they are grown up, and that would kill OP.
Guess now we know why OP spiraled in the first place, with a nasty family like that. Just imagine how they treated her for not being thin and pretty growing up?
How can ppl throw someone’s past in their face when they have done everything to change and make better decisions OP had every right to do what she did I would have done the same
OP, sweetheart, you are NTA. Your change of lifestyle is amazing, and I am so very glad that you had Keith to help you through. I am very proud that Keith stayed at your side, as both your rock and your pillow to cry on. I think that you have no choice but to go no-contact with your sister, your parents, and every single person who feels the same way that they do. Good luck with your marriage. I hope that you and Keith have a long, happy, prosperous life together.
What a rotten family. She struggled for acceptance all of her life. When she finally turns things around, her jealous sister (probably because she was marrying a well-off man) decides to sabotage her happiness. Her parents couldn't look past her former actions to recognize that she'd changed. There will always be people that throw old stuff up in your face when you're at your highest point. It never fails. I'm glad she sought therapy, and had a loving supportive partner to help her through it. As for doxxing her parents, look, I don't CONDONE, but I definitely UNDERSTAND. But best of luck to OP and her husband. May they have a peaceful and prosperous life! And also, a cautionary tale for those young people watching this ...sleeping around is never the answer. Stuff always comes back up later. It sucks, but that's life.
You are not the ahole. Go no contact with your family and low contact with his. Your husband and you build your own family with friends who love you for you. They are your family by love, not blood. Best of Luck to you both. Hugs
The parents don't deserve this wonderful and brave woman as a daughter. Her sister and parents deserve to be outed to extended family. I'm not so sure that using her You Tube fans was a good idea. Keith had asked her to be patient and wait and see if her family would ever get their heads on straight on their own. Keith has been so patient and understanding I hope he still feels that way now that she couldn't follow his advice. It may be good for them to just go no contact with both families and establish their own life as a family and wait and see what happens with their parents and sibling.
Congratulations on your wedding, and sorry about your sister. Leave them that choose to hold your past against you. It's funny that your family is so perfect that they don't recognize the mistakes they made. You've lived years without them., continue to do so. Continue your counselling and hold your head up. Be thankful that you got this chance for true happiness.
It is sad that nobody in the families are willing to see all the positive changes in her but I think she was a bit unfair to her parents. She mentioned at the beginning how they tried to help her in the past but she refused to accept it. Granted, we don't know all the details but it's just not okay to instantly think of violence when there's someone not at her side. OP still needs a lot of healing to do and she better appreciate her saint of a husband.
NTA. The fact is OP held herself accountable for her past and has tried to make changes in her life. Her parents should've been proud of her as they saw and heard the changes she's made, but instead as like jackasses living in the past. I'll give Keith credit for supporting her, but I couldn't see myself staying quiet and let my women get trashed like that knowing the progress she's made is being crapped on. That's my only critique. I think her family got what they deserved, though OP could've easily cut them out her life and just focus on her and her husband.
NTA, you made your life better, found a caring man and the the parents tried to dissuade him from marrying you. In other words “the punishment fit the crime.”
seriously nta. if they didn't want to hear out op, then get someone outside of the family to do the lecturing. perhaps see if op's sister was jealous of her because op got a man and sister didn't get one. the parents should've remembered their ill past before putting op down emotionally. op worked very hard on her own with the help of her husband since no one else want to help her. good for you op to have a wonderful life.
Sister is the one to apologize. Having her past isn’t right at her wedding to bring the past. Actually it’s noones business about the past. People get over their past & end up being well rounded.,
Give it a week or two of isolation and humiliation before they apologize. The parents and sister will never say anything against OP ever again. They will never love but they fear her.
I have family members that have recovered from addictions and it's actually hard for them to maintain. Having someone throw it in THEIR face is counter productive and can cause a relapse and downward spiral. Ppl need to get help as enablers and learn how to move forward. It's sad that her family can't forgive or forget especially since they haven't said anything about her robbing, stealing and owing money. Her promiscuity and behavior came from somewhere 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏽 maybe they're hiding their own demons 💯❗‼️ his family TOO 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽 always worried about what ppl think instead of the best mental health 😤
We all have skeletons in our closet. We change and we grow! We expect the people who are supposed to love us to applaud our successes...whatever that may be. Unfortunately OP had to show them there are people on her side! No.. Not the a-hole! Maybe this will help pull the sticks out of the parents butts. And the sister? Classic jealousy! She is supposed to be the one to succeed. But OP came up in the world! Good for OP!
I'm glad hope he was able to turn her life around but she should never keep things from the people she loves, Not saying something is the same thing as lying. But she does not deserve How her family treats her, I love my children unconditionally And we all make mistakes. If she was so unhappy with her lifestyle she should do something to change it.
Sounds like OP’s parents tried to dissuade Keith from marrying her so he would marry the more”deserving “ sister when that failed sis got up and made a spectacle of herself- OP did the right thing, she tried calm and respectful when that didn’t work - so she came out blazing with fighting fire with fire and may the chips fall where they may - she married an incredible man - concentrate on him with all your love and respect ❤
i'm ust wondering why op and keith didn't have security at their wedding to keep op's family out?? sister should have been stopped at the door. since she wasn't, the revenge was 100% totally justified and it would be a cold day in hell before i apologized to any family members if i was op!!
Keith is a beautiful soul who knows the greatest gift in the world is to give someone a new chance in life 😄❤️ Is OP's parents jealous because she managed to turn her life around or is it embarrassing for them to have judged OP wrong? I wish OP and Keith a blessed future with mutch love 💞
Both sets of parents are ridiculous. Her family didn't help her at all. They put all their energy into the "perfect" daughter. Parents like this shouldn't have any kids
I guess I need to put this out there for those who seem to be so biased by their own hate and unforgiving hearts that they did not hear the story. Yes, OP was a certain kind of woman and made many mistakes. She seemed to be looking for the love she probably didn't get at home and confused sex with love. Or maybe it was the intimacy she sought. I've known people like that. She accidentally met a nice guy when she was turning her life around but wouldn't marry him because she knew he didn't know about her past. She didn't want to tell him because as she told him - men would leave her when she would confess about her past. She must have really loved Keith and was pained by her situation so either she was trying to drown the pain or subconsciously wanted him to know the truth so she called him when she got arrested. So YES she confessed the whole truth then, long before any wedding, and his reaction was to leave. She figured she had lost him forever. But he returned. Yes she told him before the wedding. Yes he knew. Good grief, you unforgiving lot, people are allowed to turn their lives around. That doesn't mean a jealous sister has any business disrupting her wedding or her joy.
This video is so much better, when you mute it. 😅 that being said, I love how people keep low key insulting her about her looks. Keith fell in love with her personality, not looks. His parents are glad she didn’t let her physical shortcomings get in the way of making a positive influence in life. Whenever I tell a woman that, it doesn’t work out quite as well. Lol
I tell folks when they talked-about me that I was called that last week think of something new😂. Good for her for changing her life around & she's helping others do the same. Bravo Keith. Bravo
I’d like to subscribe to OP’s Channel‼️ Can you put up her link? 👍🏻🤗 Dear OP… what an initial shock at a happy Wedding Day Reception… your sister is very immature and wasn’t a good thing to do ‼️ Keith loves and supports you emotionally, that’s all that really matters… you two have a whole life to live and build… and everything will fall in place over time! “Don’t worry, be happy!” 💖🤗💖
Finding Keith's reactions on everything worrying, can't shake the feeling that he seems to get a kick out of OP being constantly humiliated. Might just be my take on the story.
So he somehow knew his parents would react the way they did since his mom was a big fan. Or knew that OP's parents would be equally mean and unforgiving? Come on, he's not a mind reader.
@@karinasamaniego8765 with his mum it was a case of not in my backyard. Ok to be her a friend but not to be her daughter-in-law. OP had never met the mum prior to that day, so what had mum said to son, he had years to tell her all about OP and the relationship but he didn't say a word, nothing about the relationship or engagement till that very first meeting. Strange. 🤔
@@gcarr1089 it is weird, but there seems to be people who keep their boyfriend or girlfriend a private matter until they actually decide on marriage. That's when some people decide it's time to involve the parents. Especially when they live on their own. And who knows what he was thinking. He may have wanted to first be absolutely sure she had changed.
NTA your parents and sister have all that’s coming to them. They left you at a time when you needed them most. They should be ashamed of themselves. Parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally.
Sometimes no happy ending, no prince or princess just someone that did the work. In the end you do the work for yourself and you live your life, be your authentic self and live your life with perhaps one regret and the story goes till it meets it's eventual end.
I was upset with Keith’s parents…and then we met the OP’s parents…and oh boy! They made his parents look like saints. I see why the OP went down a dark path in the past. With that family, I would too.
Op needs to understand that doxing and unleashing a mob, aspecially one like in ops fan group who might be currently going through the same thing as op used to go through could end up in casultues op wasnt ready for. Such as stalking, cyber bulling pointed towards ops sisters kids if she had any or violence pointed towards ops family.
Definitely NTA! OPhad a bad life for a while, but turned it around into something positive. OP disgraced the family got throwing her sister out 9f the wedding? Quite the opposite. Nobody was even aware of all the negative things until the sister opened her big mouth. That brought disgrace and embarrassment on the whole wedding. All of the parents were horrible, with OP'S telling her to apologize to her sister when OP did the totally correct thing by removing her so the situation didn't get worse and then there are Keith's parents trying to get him to get a divorce because of all the stupidity of OP'S sister. OP'S family got what they deserved. The only question left unanswered id what Keith did about his parents.
NTA While I don't approve of the lifestyle Op did at first (Though I'm happy she's doing better and found a true blue man), I suspect the parents were playing favorites treating the Op sister as the golden child and cared more about reputation than their kids. And personally I think this was genius that OP got the internet to now treat the parents n sis as social pariahs for being selfish and snooty jerks.
op&Keith you hat a heave time,but you got uou revenge, live your live as you want,and all that people that not stand by you just cut, them out of your life
I understand that relapse can happen. That would scare anyone. Sleeping about goes hand in hand with addiction. She should not be judged solely on that point. Time should prove her stability, but speaking abt her within hearing is 100% wrong. He is drawn to her for a reason and if u love your son, u will let him make his decisions. 50% of marriages end in divorce as it is. The revenge is proof u r still deep in issues.
talk about turning her followers into a brute squad, giving them all their private information. Dude she's like a politician at that point on the left!! before that she should have had nothing to do with them and allow her and her Husband dance in her accomplishments, totally on her side until the last part.!! now her family has a reason to disown her! I would be pissed if she tried to turn me into one of her bullies!!!!
This feels very exaggerated with her TH-cam stuff. Or that the husband's parents liked her until they found out she married their son. My guess is op had a strick family and did all of that to get attention. Sister probably was the golden child. I also wouldn't be surprised if they blamed op for things since the family knows she is bad. Sisters life might also suck and she might be pissed and jealous over the fact her druggie sister got a rich husband. The family was upset she got clean because it makes them look bad. Since it's something they never could do.
I can understand why she posted what happened at the wedding. But I do believe sh and her parents and sister needs to go to Therapy together. And work out their pain. They all have pain and suffering from each other. They need Therapy.
Absolutely. Unfortunately, OP's past behavior did have a huge, negative impact on her family. She changed, but all her family has seen is her former self.
You are not a hole. The past is the past. People can change. I know this to be true. I have people hit rock bottom and change. Her sister didn't need bring up the past at her wedding. Would she like it she had aired her secret out on her wedding day. I think not. We have don't want other people to know. What sister was wrong and what Fall was on them not op. So op hope keep getting better for and hole you and husband lot chrild.❤
What do the sister and her parents have in common? They are both a part of her past. You know the one with her devious deeds. As long as she was bad the other sister looked good. It sounds like her sister is jealous that she lived the fun life and settled down. Boo hoo.....
Social media tags are one thing, but publishing phone numbers crossed the line. I understand the ire, and it's fine for your fan base to stick up for you. However, let's avoid getting into doxing.
This. Doxing is never a good thing. I also don't think that OP should have encouraged her followers to go harass her family. In the real world that would be grounds for getting her TH-cam channel suspended or shut down. She could have revealed how terrible her family was and left it at that instead of risking her channel. I'd have to run with ESH on this because of that.
I’m liking the husband less and less. “No honey we’ll have a big wedding with both our judgmental families. No honey you SHOULD go over to your awful sister’s place to let her dump on you AGAIN!”
I find it hilarious that her parents won't forgive her for her past but her sister seems to be going down the same path the way she is drinking
Keith is BEYOND amazing 👏. THIS is what pure love looks like.
I can't imagine someone being that sympathetic! The OP's a doormat that allows rotten family members to ruin what future she has and it's her fault for even listening to them! ;-(
Keith is more like Captain Save a Ho here. White knighting... if he really loved her, he should have simply eloped and moved far away from all that.
Keith is a simp... and as a parent, I wouldn't want a former 304 party girl and drug addict for my son
Yea, unfortunately I wrote this post before finishing the whole story. I'm not sure what to think about Keith now, but OP is exceptionally immature :/ their relationship is doomed.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 OP and her family need psych treatment! They're so concerned about appearances, but allow a drunken sister to trash OP at her wedding and request an apology for her being thrown out! Some people are crrazy! What a tool to accept such treatment! ;-)
If I was her parents I would be proud that she had turned her life around.
Right? How can you not be happy for your child finally turning their life around?
@@risingrat5491 because then they cant make op the scapegoat and have someone to bully
@@diamonddiva3204 exactly
I think OP’s sister caused 99. 9% of the embarrassment at the wedding. I am 72 now but I did lead a life not unlike OP’s many decades ago. I may have been judged then by some, but not anymore after I got myself out of it and held down a good job for many years working with teenagers going through what I went through when I wished I had someone like me on board. OP, you have no reason to be embarrassed at all! Kudos to Keith for staying with you and and helping you through the bad times. You guys are both awesome. Stick to your family of TH-cam followers. Your blood family isn’t doing you any favours at all.
Serves them right like op did everything to redeem herself and they can’t support the new at all ?That’s selfish
That's true That's true but she should have been Honest with the man she loves About her past we all make mistakes. We all have a past But hiding it from somebody is Being dishonest.
no she didn't redeem herself she put te blame on everyone and everything else and cant deal with the image she created for herself.
hope her parents and sister sue her for doxing.
@@perfectlyimperfect9129but she was honest, she told him about everything before the actual wedding took place after he pocked her up from the train station. If keith was willing to accept her with all of that it wasnt the sister place to bring it up to him. Especially not something so public and important as a wedding
@@perfectlyimperfect9129 did you even listen to the whole story? She confessed to him after he bailed her out.
@@Chickenfriedpenguin that's the most unforgiving position ever. People are allowed to turn their lives around. You are obviously the kind who gets on their high horse and points the finger of shame, ready to remind people they aren't allowed to redeem their character and be happy. How insufferable you must be.
With a family like hers it is no wonder that she turned to drugs and men looking for any kind of love that she could find. Thank goodness she found Keith.
I think it's just one of those bitter things to swallow that no matter how much you progress or change for the better there's always going to be people in your life that will throw your past mistakes in your face. Op was right to expose her family for what they did if they were going to continue to drag her negatively even despite her growth as a person.
I've been in OPs shoes... I've made positive changes in my life and took the steps to do and be better... But just about everyone I knew still sees me as this weak person and believe the rumors, as I was actually never bad like OP was just I had an anger issue, but even though I'm a calmer nicer person who smiles all the time people of my past still won't believe I'm good .. even have the courts backing me up as these people tried to get me to lose my kids... Hate and jealousy is a horrid way to live
She’s not the A-hole ! It’s her parents who can’t see that with the help of her husband, she has turned her life around for the best ! And for her parents to insist SHE apologises to her sister for her sister’s mistake is just acting SOOOOOO ENTITLED !
I would just shut people like this out of my life - if they can’t be happy for me for the person I have become and want to constantly hang on to the past, then that’s where they should stay - in my past !
Move on with your new life and forget those that have only brought out the worst in you. You’re better than them and you have enough people who will be on your side + a really loving and understanding husband who will be there for you for the rest of your life !
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NTA - people all grow up and change. It was sink or swim for this OP, and she swam. Instead of her sister being happy for her, she was jealous and tried to ruin her.
In order for victims like OP to truly heal, they need vindication with their closure. OP did the right thing. Op’s sister has demonstrated that she doesn’t love OP. What she did was horrible, and she needed to take responsibility. I find it hypocritical for OP’S sister to be trashed on alcohol herself at OP’s wedding. I don’t believe OP’s mother and father love her either. OP chose the best option by teaching THEM a lesson about being bad people. She can now feel vindicated, satisfied, retain self-esteem, and go No Contact with her hypocritical, superficial excuse of a family and start her own.
NTA.
I may not approve of my sister's lifestyle, but I would never embarrass her at her wedding shower, wedding day, or any day that is important to her.
I learned that she and I may never accept each other, but we won't be insulting each other.
You and your sister are respectful people. I wish the world had more of your perspective!
You don’t get to approve!!! NOYB….
You are no better than someone who tries to humiliate their sibling.
@@donnabarnes8291 I think you may need to re-read her post. She clearly states that she would fail at trying to humiliate her sister in spite of her lifestyle. And you are correct, she may fail at having to approve of her sister's life, but if her lifestyle were to damage SFR's life, would you be saying the same?
@@donnabarnes8291
She was two years old when she was baptized and my parents chosen me to be her godmother. I loved my sister as if she was my own child. I would feed her, changed her diaper, rock her to sleep, and babysit her since she was born.
In 2010, my sister was not there when my father died and was not there when he was given a memorial service. Her lifestyle was too important to her.
My priest had bought my sister a ticket so that my sister could come home to see my father one last time. She cashed in the ticket to support her lifestyle instead.
I felt embarrassed by her actions. I did not want my priest and church to be deceived by her. My father wanted to see her one last time. He loved my sister regardless of her past mistakes. I loved her, too. I still do especially when she broke my heart.
The last time I saw her in 2016, I chosen not to confront her, decided I should be polite. I kept my anger in check and did not embarrass her in front of her boyfriend, her small children, and our relatives.
I learned it would not do me any good to bring up my sister's mistakes. She did not need another person to yell at her. I just hugged her and told her I still love her.
NTA. I'm pretty sire the sister wasn't even affected by the alcohol, she probably said that intentionally. OP made the right decision by doing this, because if she hadn't, her family would've spewed lies around to the family and on her sisters social media about how horrible OP is. Those three just can't stop living in the past and learn that someone can change. As for OP's new in laws, I believe they just want to hook him up with a rich girl with a good background. They're such stereotypes for assuming that OP would be trouble just because of her past. The couples families really need to get with the time and get out of OP's past
Nta,op I would've done way worse than that to all 5 of them. Her parents, his parents, and her sister
With a family like that, no wonder OP was looking for love in the wrong places. If you never knew love as a child it's hard to accept it when it finally finds you.
The revenge was petty but I loved it, they deserved it!
A preacher friend of mines once told me that when the devil comes to remind you of your past, remind him of his future.
I think that OP could not catch a break. Her husband Keith was great for standing behind her. Maybe they can move somewhere else when they have children so that things can be peaceful. I'm proud of OP for what she did to clean up and have an amazing husband.
Maybe if she had been truthful when it mattered, instead of letting him know through the cops... I might feel bad for her. How do I know?
Story time! My husband has a past. Not one I can talk about, but it was bad. HE told ME about it before we even talked about getting married. I wasn't Captain Save a Ho like Keith here, I cared about him. Small wedding with ONLY people who knew and respected our marriage. Six years strong, and someone could say they don't like him or me. We could care less.
They need to go no contact with the toxic people, family or otherwise, and move far, far away before they have children. That family will blab to the kids, once they are grown up, and that would kill OP.
Guess now we know why OP spiraled in the first place, with a nasty family like that. Just imagine how they treated her for not being thin and pretty growing up?
Poor OP for having nasty and toxic parents as them; she is right to wash her hands of them!
The sister should not have brought up op's past especially on her wedding day....that was in poor taste and it shows the toxic person that she is.
Awful parents and sister. Keep away they are all toxic including his parents
No girl that was poetic justice. Live well love long.
How can ppl throw someone’s past in their face when they have done everything to change and make better decisions OP had every right to do what she did I would have done the same
OP was right to throw her sister out. That woman should have kept her mouth shut. OP should cut them all out and just stay with Keith.
OPs greatest mistake? Informing them and inviting them to the wedding..
NTA You owe no apology to anyone.
OP, sweetheart, you are NTA. Your change of lifestyle is amazing, and I am so very glad that you had Keith to help you through. I am very proud that Keith stayed at your side, as both your rock and your pillow to cry on. I think that you have no choice but to go no-contact with your sister, your parents, and every single person who feels the same way that they do.
Good luck with your marriage. I hope that you and Keith have a long, happy, prosperous life together.
What a rotten family. She struggled for acceptance all of her life. When she finally turns things around, her jealous sister (probably because she was marrying a well-off man) decides to sabotage her happiness. Her parents couldn't look past her former actions to recognize that she'd changed. There will always be people that throw old stuff up in your face when you're at your highest point. It never fails. I'm glad she sought therapy, and had a loving supportive partner to help her through it. As for doxxing her parents, look, I don't CONDONE, but I definitely UNDERSTAND. But best of luck to OP and her husband. May they have a peaceful and prosperous life! And also, a cautionary tale for those young people watching this
...sleeping around is never the answer. Stuff always comes back up later. It sucks, but that's life.
She has been the scapegoat her whole life. That’s why her self esteem was so messed up. She should go No Contact
Doxing is never cool. No matter the situation.
To be home I'm severely surprised they didn't try getting people to troll her on her past life style. If anything she thought of it first.
You are not the ahole. Go no contact with your family and low contact with his. Your husband and you build your own family with friends who love you for you. They are your family by love, not blood. Best of Luck to you both. Hugs
The parents don't deserve this wonderful and brave woman as a daughter. Her sister and parents deserve to be outed to extended family. I'm not so sure that using her You Tube fans was a good idea. Keith had asked her to be patient and wait and see if her family would ever get their heads on straight on their own. Keith has been so patient and understanding I hope he still feels that way now that she couldn't follow his advice. It may be good for them to just go no contact with both families and establish their own life as a family and wait and see what happens with their parents and sibling.
Congratulations on your wedding, and sorry about your sister. Leave them that choose to hold your past against you. It's funny that your family is so perfect that they don't recognize the mistakes they made. You've lived years without them., continue to do so. Continue your counselling and hold your head up. Be thankful that you got this chance for true happiness.
It is sad that nobody in the families are willing to see all the positive changes in her but I think she was a bit unfair to her parents. She mentioned at the beginning how they tried to help her in the past but she refused to accept it. Granted, we don't know all the details but it's just not okay to instantly think of violence when there's someone not at her side. OP still needs a lot of healing to do and she better appreciate her saint of a husband.
NTA. The fact is OP held herself accountable for her past and has tried to make changes in her life. Her parents should've been proud of her as they saw and heard the changes she's made, but instead as like jackasses living in the past. I'll give Keith credit for supporting her, but I couldn't see myself staying quiet and let my women get trashed like that knowing the progress she's made is being crapped on. That's my only critique. I think her family got what they deserved, though OP could've easily cut them out her life and just focus on her and her husband.
NTA, you made your life better, found a caring man and the the parents tried to dissuade him from marrying you. In other words “the punishment fit the crime.”
OP's mom is just like my mom. Can't let go of past issues. She gaslit me for over 20 years. Ao I can relate.
seriously nta. if they didn't want to hear out op, then get someone outside of the family to do the lecturing. perhaps see if op's sister was jealous of her because op got a man and sister didn't get one. the parents should've remembered their ill past before putting op down emotionally. op worked very hard on her own with the help of her husband since no one else want to help her. good for you op to have a wonderful life.
She could have done the same video without offering parents' and sister personal information. That line should never be crossed.
Well op did do exactly what was asked. She just gave the backstory too.
Sister is the one to apologize. Having her past isn’t right at her wedding to bring the past. Actually it’s noones business about the past. People get over their past & end up being well rounded.,
Give it a week or two of isolation and humiliation before they apologize. The parents and sister will never say anything against OP ever again. They will never love but they fear her.
I have family members that have recovered from addictions and it's actually hard for them to maintain. Having someone throw it in THEIR face is counter productive and can cause a relapse and downward spiral. Ppl need to get help as enablers and learn how to move forward. It's sad that her family can't forgive or forget especially since they haven't said anything about her robbing, stealing and owing money. Her promiscuity and behavior came from somewhere 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏽 maybe they're hiding their own demons 💯❗‼️ his family TOO 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽 always worried about what ppl think instead of the best mental health 😤
We all have skeletons in our closet. We change and we grow! We expect the people who are supposed to love us to applaud our successes...whatever that may be. Unfortunately OP had to show them there are people on her side! No..
Not the a-hole! Maybe this will help pull the sticks out of the parents butts. And the sister? Classic jealousy! She is supposed to be the one to succeed. But OP came up in the world! Good for OP!
I'm glad hope he was able to turn her life around but she should never keep things from the people she loves, Not saying something is the same thing as lying. But she does not deserve How her family treats her, I love my children unconditionally And we all make mistakes. If she was so unhappy with her lifestyle she should do something to change it.
That’s the perfect pay back lol love it. You have an army girl!
Sounds like OP’s parents tried to dissuade Keith from marrying her so he would marry the more”deserving “ sister when that failed sis got up and made a spectacle of herself- OP did the right thing, she tried calm and respectful when that didn’t work - so she came out blazing with fighting fire with fire and may the chips fall where they may - she married an incredible man - concentrate on him with all your love and respect ❤
i'm ust wondering why op and keith didn't have security at their wedding to keep op's family out?? sister should have been stopped at the door. since she wasn't, the revenge was 100% totally justified and it would be a cold day in hell before i apologized to any family members if i was op!!
OP = NTA
*KARMA IN ITS FULLEST !!!*
Keith is a beautiful soul who knows the greatest gift in the world is to give someone a new chance in life 😄❤️
Is OP's parents jealous because she managed to turn her life around or is it embarrassing for them to have judged OP wrong? I wish OP and Keith a blessed future with mutch love 💞
How bad was she for her own parents to refer to her as trashy !?
I find it remarkable that people think that no one is capable of change and can feel no joy in someone else happiness.
Both sets of parents are ridiculous. Her family didn't help her at all. They put all their energy into the "perfect" daughter. Parents like this shouldn't have any kids
I guess I need to put this out there for those who seem to be so biased by their own hate and unforgiving hearts that they did not hear the story.
Yes, OP was a certain kind of woman and made many mistakes. She seemed to be looking for the love she probably didn't get at home and confused sex with love. Or maybe it was the intimacy she sought. I've known people like that. She accidentally met a nice guy when she was turning her life around but wouldn't marry him because she knew he didn't know about her past. She didn't want to tell him because as she told him - men would leave her when she would confess about her past. She must have really loved Keith and was pained by her situation so either she was trying to drown the pain or subconsciously wanted him to know the truth so she called him when she got arrested. So YES she confessed the whole truth then, long before any wedding, and his reaction was to leave. She figured she had lost him forever. But he returned. Yes she told him before the wedding. Yes he knew. Good grief, you unforgiving lot, people are allowed to turn their lives around. That doesn't mean a jealous sister has any business disrupting her wedding or her joy.
This video is so much better, when you mute it. 😅 that being said, I love how people keep low key insulting her about her looks. Keith fell in love with her personality, not looks. His parents are glad she didn’t let her physical shortcomings get in the way of making a positive influence in life. Whenever I tell a woman that, it doesn’t work out quite as well. Lol
I tell folks when they talked-about me that I was called that last week think of something new😂. Good for her for changing her life around & she's helping others do the same. Bravo Keith. Bravo
All i wanted was to be wanted and to be good enough for op to find someone who cares for you is truely beautiful
No! No! No! You are not the ahole. Your parents and sister are the ahole. More power to you
The sister was really jealous because OP had a horrible past but ended up with a good man from a wealthy background.
I’d like to subscribe to OP’s Channel‼️
Can you put up her link? 👍🏻🤗
Dear OP… what an initial shock at a happy Wedding Day Reception… your sister is very immature and wasn’t a good thing to do ‼️
Keith loves and supports you emotionally, that’s all that really matters… you two have a whole life to live and build… and everything will fall in place over time!
“Don’t worry, be happy!” 💖🤗💖
Don't drop the opinion, you drop the sister and the parents.
Sisters can be deadly.
Finding Keith's reactions on everything worrying, can't shake the feeling that he seems to get a kick out of OP being constantly humiliated. Might just be my take on the story.
If she's constantly humiliated, he gets to step in and play the 'hero'.
So he somehow knew his parents would react the way they did since his mom was a big fan. Or knew that OP's parents would be equally mean and unforgiving? Come on, he's not a mind reader.
@@karinasamaniego8765 with his mum it was a case of not in my backyard. Ok to be her a friend but not to be her daughter-in-law. OP had never met the mum prior to that day, so what had mum said to son, he had years to tell her all about OP and the relationship but he didn't say a word, nothing about the relationship or engagement till that very first meeting. Strange. 🤔
Well, you wouldn't introduce a p0rn star as your fiancee to your super Christian family, would you now?
@@gcarr1089 it is weird, but there seems to be people who keep their boyfriend or girlfriend a private matter until they actually decide on marriage. That's when some people decide it's time to involve the parents. Especially when they live on their own. And who knows what he was thinking. He may have wanted to first be absolutely sure she had changed.
NTA your parents and sister have all that’s coming to them. They left you at a time when you needed them most. They should be ashamed of themselves. Parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally.
Anyone else seeing themselves in the story
Sometimes no happy ending, no prince or princess just someone that did the work. In the end you do the work for yourself and you live your life, be your authentic self and live your life with perhaps one regret and the story goes till it meets it's eventual end.
Why does she care if what her sister did? She has a you tube channel that she talks about her past and how she is healing and moving on in life .
Nta. Your were bullied and used to be accepted. Your sister is still doing so. She gets no apology
Nope....they deserve it. And the sister was jealous.
I feel so bad for the dude’s parents. Kid marrying the village bicycle. You can’t erase the past.
She never tried to erase her past, she overcame it!
I was upset with Keith’s parents…and then we met the OP’s parents…and oh boy! They made his parents look like saints.
I see why the OP went down a dark path in the past. With that family, I would too.
Op needs to understand that doxing and unleashing a mob, aspecially one like in ops fan group who might be currently going through the same thing as op used to go through could end up in casultues op wasnt ready for. Such as stalking, cyber bulling pointed towards ops sisters kids if she had any or violence pointed towards ops family.
Definitely NTA! OPhad a bad life for a while, but turned it around into something positive. OP disgraced the family got throwing her sister out 9f the wedding? Quite the opposite. Nobody was even aware of all the negative things until the sister opened her big mouth. That brought disgrace and embarrassment on the whole wedding. All of the parents were horrible, with OP'S telling her to apologize to her sister when OP did the totally correct thing by removing her so the situation didn't get worse and then there are Keith's parents trying to get him to get a divorce because of all the stupidity of OP'S sister. OP'S family got what they deserved. The only question left unanswered id what Keith did about his parents.
NTA While I don't approve of the lifestyle Op did at first (Though I'm happy she's doing better and found a true blue man), I suspect the parents were playing favorites treating the Op sister as the golden child and cared more about reputation than their kids. And personally I think this was genius that OP got the internet to now treat the parents n sis as social pariahs for being selfish and snooty jerks.
op&Keith you hat a heave time,but you got uou revenge, live your live as you want,and all that people that not stand by you just cut, them out of your life
I hope there are updates on this.
I understand that relapse can happen. That would scare anyone. Sleeping about goes hand in hand with addiction. She should not be judged solely on that point. Time should prove her stability, but speaking abt her within hearing is 100% wrong. He is drawn to her for a reason and if u love your son, u will let him make his decisions. 50% of marriages end in divorce as it is. The revenge is proof u r still deep in issues.
I would have gone full scorched earth.
Ghost your family especially your very jealous sister you turned your life around be proud of that without those forgiving evil family members....
First 👍's up thank you for sharing
ops sister is jealous and good for you
Op was right
Why did they invite any of those people to their wedding?
I know exactly who's TH-cam channel this belongs too. I even watched the live stream!!
Definitely the AH, but there is nothing wrong with being the AH to get the trolls off your back.
talk about turning her followers into a brute squad, giving them all their private information. Dude she's like a politician at that point on the left!! before that she should have had nothing to do with them and allow her and her Husband dance in her accomplishments, totally on her side until the last part.!! now her family has a reason to disown her! I would be pissed if she tried to turn me into one of her bullies!!!!
Luv Reddito stories
Nta. Theu need to get over themselves. The parents need to learn. Ppl don't really need others permission on stuff.
The Bible spoke of a prodigal SON, nothing about a daughter.
This feels very exaggerated with her TH-cam stuff. Or that the husband's parents liked her until they found out she married their son.
My guess is op had a strick family and did all of that to get attention. Sister probably was the golden child. I also wouldn't be surprised if they blamed op for things since the family knows she is bad.
Sisters life might also suck and she might be pissed and jealous over the fact her druggie sister got a rich husband. The family was upset she got clean because it makes them look bad. Since it's something they never could do.
Nta. Now maybe giving away the number is a bit much but other than that I agree
Why do you cut in and not let the story finish?
FORMER lifestyle.
How on earth would he understand 😕 on what she did. That he come to realise....
When she hasn't told him anything? The 😆 thinking here.
I can understand why she posted what happened at the wedding. But I do believe sh and her parents and sister needs to go to Therapy together. And work out their pain. They all have pain and suffering from each other. They need Therapy.
Absolutely. Unfortunately, OP's past behavior did have a huge, negative impact on her family. She changed, but all her family has seen is her former self.
The sister should not have said anything during the wedding, though. OP had every right to post what happened online, I agree.
You are not a hole. The past is the past. People can change. I know this to be true. I have people hit rock bottom and change. Her sister didn't need bring up the past at her wedding. Would she like it she had aired her secret out on her wedding day. I think not. We have don't want other people to know. What sister was wrong and what
Fall was on them not op. So op
hope keep getting better for and hole you and husband lot chrild.❤
What do the sister and her parents have in common? They are both a part of her past. You know the one with her devious deeds. As long as she was bad the other sister looked good. It sounds like her sister is jealous that she lived the fun life and settled down. Boo hoo.....
I was on OP’s side right up until the doxxing, I’m voting ESH
Social media tags are one thing, but publishing phone numbers crossed the line. I understand the ire, and it's fine for your fan base to stick up for you. However, let's avoid getting into doxing.
This. Doxing is never a good thing. I also don't think that OP should have encouraged her followers to go harass her family. In the real world that would be grounds for getting her TH-cam channel suspended or shut down. She could have revealed how terrible her family was and left it at that instead of risking her channel.
I'd have to run with ESH on this because of that.
@@kurisueruit was ESH until OP is perfectly fine with strangers harassing her family. Now it's YTA. Hope she likes the cops at their house.
Anyone know her TH-cam channel?
Most people dont believe what they are ssying or think.
I’m liking the husband less and less. “No honey we’ll have a big wedding with both our judgmental families. No honey you SHOULD go over to your awful sister’s place to let her dump on you AGAIN!”