FIGHTING, LONG DISTANCE, AND LOVE | CHRIS & IAN
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ธ.ค. 2020
- Hi friends!
Today we finally get back together just to talk with you about our relationship, how long distance was, how sometimes space is NEEDED in a relationship, and how arguments/hard conversations can be good for a relationship! Let us know if you like these "sitting & talking" style videos :D
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Editor: Shi'Anna Whitman
Theme Music composed by: Shelbie Rassler
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Space in a relationship is really important but at the same time we can't imagine being apart for two weeks!
Awwwww
You ,,2 ..Are the Best. Just want to tell yU both that I wrote re: ,--" focus on your blooming. "'just Love you ,,,2. 🌎😊
this sounds silly but i actually have learned so much about communicating through your videos and tiktoks. i used some of ian’s tactics with my mom (who i am really close with) during christmas and they helped turn what could have been a difficult argument into a mature discussion. i have tons to still learn but i love you both and i love your love. thanks for bringing light into a pretty dark year for a lot of us ❤️❤️
Omg I learned too! :)
Chris listens to every word Ian says it’s so cute
I ABSOLUTELY loved Chris’s personality showing through during the two weeks where Ian was gone
I want more Chris content
Chris: words of affirmation, touch
Ian: acts of service
Both: ADORABLE
My husband & I feel like we have a great relationship, even though there are days we lock up the knives. Been together for 15 years of monogamy, still no wounds & lots of sex, which is why there are no wounds
Fascinating that Ian is so instinctual on relationship dynamics, and Chris has so much self- awareness of his feelings, emotional well being and mental health.
Really enjoyed this and would love to see more of this type of content
We never needed space in our 40 yrs together, but you sure notice it when they die 😢😢😢
i am very much single but i feel like i’ve learned so much from this relationship for my future relationships. my communication in general has improved so much, thank you both so much, i love you❤️❤️
Girl YES. Please more of this. I’d never been able to put words to this before and this is IT. Thank you for sharing your experience on this!
“The separateness of each other helps make the togetherness more exciting” I feel like I should be paying for this ! 😭
Our relationship timelines are quite identical. As someone who grew apart from a lot of my closest friends, having these relationship talk videos is so helpful, personally. I never get to talk about my relationship or express my needs for advice from an outside eye & having you both to guide me in a good direction is just ❤️❤️❤️. Relationship goals is a myth!! I don’t know her. We only know personal goals we have in our OWN relationships, here.
The way they look at each other 🥺🥺
I LOVE IAN HOLDING HIS PHONE LIKE A MOM
My grandfather, may he rip, would also write notes at the back of every photo he takes with our family. It's very precious since it gets you to experience a memory in his lens and perspective. It's definitely a good practice. Memories fade but pictures don't, by writing what happened and how it felt on a photo basically immortalizes the memory in history.
Ian in the beginning 😂😂😂😂
I love story time with Chris & Ian!!!
*Longing is just a branch off from passion* I’m grateful that you guys share these thoughts on communication, companionship and love with us. 💖 Hope you have a happy new year, and thanks for helping make 2020 a bit brighter 💖
Omg, Ian spacing out at 10:20 is such an Aquarius moment 😂 (I do that all the time)
Everytime Ian opens he's mouth, it is without doubt a secure laugh for me. You two are just beautiful. God bless you both ❤❤👑
You know what I love most about you guys? That you hug everybody arround with your kindness and the minute of being u and make us smile at least a little bit. In a year like this one is not hard to find dark places to stay cause is the confort thing to do. And u bring us light and fun. Thank u, for being u. Sending hugs to you two cuties. Im sorry for my english I'm so argentinian hahahaha. Los quierooooo 🥰🥰🥰 keep it real. Is perfect just the way you are
Yes, space is so important! You need to figure out who you are without that person first, then you can figure out who you both are together. 🖤
Everyday I learn so much from you guys! When you get the chance could you maybe please consider making a bit more detailed video from when you were in long distance? Like talking about what problems the distance can create. Such as insecurities, jealousy and trust, what you did when times were rougher, fights, expressing how you feel and opening up to each other although the distance etc. This will be so helpful to me and other people that are in a LDR.
Me and my bf are 4 months together and it feels so good even though the distance in between. I was following you months before I met him, you've already showed me that these things can work and so I gave it a try! Without you idk if I'd even consider it. Thanks for that!
Much love from Greece! 🤗
I really enjoy these videos! I learn a lot, and I appreciate you two sharing and being honest about the pressures of social media on your relationship. I also love how much you focus on separateness and individuality. Love you guys!💚
Another heartfelt video. I love watching you both and the connection you have for one another.
This was honestly so amazing and helpful and insightful and just so honest and well spoken. I love the way you guys work off of each others words and create this space of total understanding for each other and your viewers. Thank you for sharing! Truly!
I would really like more videos like this from y’all. You’re both very specific and intentional in your communication with us (the viewers) and that makes it really captivating to watch and listen too
i love hearing you both talk, i could literally do it for hours, you’re so authentic and also good looking HAHH i love you so much ♥️♥️♥️
Wow I’m usually watching like a week after they’re uploaded! Feel like one of the early cool kids 💛 Ian and Chris you guys fill my week with so much joy, I love your videos! You guys just seem so sweet and genuine! Sending light and love! ✨
Ever since I started watching you guys i get complimented on how well spoken i am. I am so glad that I will be able to use this advice for when i am in a relationship one day❤️
Very glad to hear Chris’s voice. With the best intent, I wonder if Ian realizes a bit of a condescending tone in his reactions/communications.
I missed the premiere, but thanks for the sorta advice video, im not in a relationship, or even plan to be in one anytime soon, but i know i can look back at this video in the future, so thank you. Hope you both had a lovely day. Love you 🥺💖🤗
Love u guys! So real and forthcoming. I appreciate that. Hugs!
this was really insightful thank you!! our society def needs more authentic and vulnerable content like this ☺️ pls do another one!
Wow I actually made it to the premiere for once, I’m glad my favorite couple is back.
I love hearing you guys talk about your relationship I’m in a similar situation. Your analysis on the situation is so good
You guys make me laugh so much, but also...thank you for being so genuine and showing some realness. LOVE YOU IAN AND CHRIS!!!
Love you two, thank you so much for always just being real
Yes! I completely agree with Ian as I felt the same guilt when asking my boyfriend for space because it felt like I was pushing him away but in reality it was just the feeling of wanting to have along time, especially transitioning from long distance to being close together! Thanks for touching upon this guys :) Loved the advice and will check out that book you mentioned!
Would love to see more of those videos! I find them very interesting :) Love u guys too!
I definitely need everyone in my life to see this as this will help them alot
Sometimes it's hard to know about yourself when you're single because you don't have that significant other to discuss these things with you. I'm so glad you guys made this video, it made me aware more about myself, and the need for alone time. I think I used to associate more with Ian coz I'm used to be guilty if I'm not committing my time to others, but now I really value my own time coz to me, it's self-love and self-care. I need time in my own space in order to have a better relationship with everyone. Just like what Ian said 'separateness helps make the togetherness more exciting'.
"the goofiest sexy person next to me" Ian once said.
Since I discovered your vlogs, I’m hooked, you’re hilarious & smart; I’m crazy about your senses of humor...I’m not a stalker, seriously!
these are great videos. i really think some people need to understand that wanting time to yourself is totally ok and does not mean you don’t love your partner anymore. please make more!
I'm gonna die at how cute they both are. I would just love listening to them all the time. Both of them are so well spoken and good hearted. I just love when real good people get together and find each other. These two are just perfectly made for other. 😍😊❤️😘😁🤗
My absolute favorite couple🥺❤️
You guys are literally the cutest I wish you nothing but happiness and longevity in your relationship 💖💖💖💖
Love the honesty from you guys
Yes! More of these would be great!
The separateness is so true, it is important to have individual space and room to develop even when you're in a relationship.
I loved this video, so interesting and I learn a lot of things from you both from all of these types of videos. Please make more videos on any topic you choose. It's like watching a talk show, only it's shorter in length. Thank You Both
ily guys sm
Y’all make me happy
I so needed to see this
Yes more videos like this!
I tell friends all the time when they ask me how my husband and I have managed to stay so happy after so many years (16). I tell them that it’s good to have time sort and do your guy trips and girl trips and allow your partner to do the same. It’s during those times when I find myself missing him and thinking it would be fun to do this together. When we are together again it makes me appreciate him. We also live traveling together and we both take turns planning dates or spontaneous activities.
I love your content!!
Love these lil conversations
This is the earliest I have ever been to a YT video 📹 ❤
solo chirs is everythinnng!!! i love him so much!
love you guys and this video!
I love the content. There is a lot of real talk going on in these chats.
I love this video so much! It's crazy because one of my good friend and her husband don't really understand this concept of having separate-ness. And if I say to her "oh ya he went over to his friends house to hang out" she'll say things to me like "oh are you ok with that?" And I'm like of course I enjoy my alone time. It's also hard on our friendship because I would enjoy girls nights with her but she never wants to...
Also my husband is in the navy and as much as I don't miss deployments when he was home but still connected to a ship he'd have to stand duty and be on the ship 24 hours every 6 days so he'd sleep on the ship like once a week. He doesn't do that anymore and I'll be honest I miss those night to myself because it was just a time for me to myself.
OMG LITERALLY EXACTLY THE TYPE OF TALK I NEEDED FROM MY DADS ☺️❤️
Love and need more of this 😊
I love this, please make more!
Love you guys❤️
Hi Ian and Chris i love your videos so much!!
My hubby and I fought year 1-2 but we're great now, 13 yrs later. It made us who we are today, as a couple... quite strong.
i might say this is exactly why we split up. and listening to that made me realize that. thank you
Purchased that book you mentioned! Can't wait to give her a read. Thanks for the recommendation :)
U guys are like my favorite internet couple!!!❤️❤️🤗
It’s crazy that this video is the first one I decided to watch of you two, I started a relationship right before lockdown happened and we got a crazy amount of time apart, while still talking constantly and doing our own thing. Now we’re starting to see eachother more frequently, but still leave gaps in between and those gaps make me feel super guilty because that’s what our relationship was before, just one long gap, so now I feel like I have to make It up to him and try to make time to be with him for at least a few hours a week, even though my schedule keeps me on the ground lol
I agree love you both 😘😘
"Allow yourself to listen" 🤣😍
This video was really good and informative ❤️ love you guys ❤️ you guys are was awesome!!! 😁 hi from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
you guys are
so inspiring:)
When Ian hit the pillow at the beginning, it made me think of that one scene from Modern Family where Cam does the same thing with all his pillows haha
I'm casually talking to people in chat and all of a sudden I can't cause the live ended :( BUT the video was really good!
24/7 is hard for all relationships. People need time apart so as they’re able to be excited about spending time together. We need to have or own self outside of the relationship - to be our best self in the relationship.
What “a match made in heaven” looks like. Love you both 😬😘😅
I hope you guys make more videos like this
good communication skill while you are on the camera. life is so different but all the same relatively. really enjoy your videos
Just started watching Chris & Ian a few days ago.
Every video from you guys is amazing
Now I'm always on TH-cam looking for new videos from you love birds ❤
Much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬
This is almost weird seeing another Nigerian. If you know what I mean.
@@cleora1819 Lol.
I know what you mean.
But mehn, I'm obsessed with these guys abeg.
I come on TH-cam just to watch their videos now.
Ian dey always gimme Joy
My data dey always finish because of them 😪
@@lilliansintelligence227 😂😂😂 My dear I know what you mean. I love their tiktoks, they're not just funny but have actually taught me a lot. Their communication is so good and they way they understand the simplest things?
And yeah dear on some days I no de gree wait for night plan to binge watch😂😂.
@@cleora1819 you've said it all my dear.
I hope they continue to be sweet with each other.
Take care dear.
Always focus on your blooming ✊☺
Love Looove Loooove
Watching this because I like seeing others living my dream lol
This was lovely though❤️😭
Has Chris ever talked this much in the past? It was nice
I loved this. Thanks lovers.
You guys are so cute
chris is such an adorable little puppy lol
Agree... God i like him
This video encapsulates what I’ve said to my partner of 11 years (and now married spouse?!) that I will never be anyone’s “better half”. I am a full person and full self and I expect my partner to be also. And whole people have friendships and experiences outside of the main partnership (and my mental health is grateful for my personal time AND my own social time)
Also found y’all on TT and am so glad I switched to watching here. The nuance and beauty and messiness of reality is better in long form 💜🏳️🌈
Yeah . It made me feel better 😁.
I have too much alone time being single
Ian loving Esther Perel absolutely tracks
Oh no! I hope those comments on tiktok didn't get to Chris too much! We all have our own personality, and Chris seems amazing whether he's being a giggly, extremely goofy, or serious because it's ALL just him being his normal self, and I feel like some of his friends could probably attest to it simply being him, which is beautiful. There's no reason to feel weird.
Can you guys do a “Who is most likely” tag?!💕💕 or the boyfriend tag?
You guys make me happy all the time 😂😍😍😍😘🌈🌈🌈
If you don’t get annoyed at some point with your partner/hubby/wife/“roommate” are you even in a relationship? Lol Chris (my hubby) annoys the crap out of me sometimes but over the last 7 years we’ve learned when we need that space. I’m still guilty of feeling bad about wanting my alone time away from the kids and my hubby, like you Ian,.But I agree with you guys 💯!
Here's wishing that the New Year will bring joy, love, peace, and happiness to you!!!
we do be at the premiere