And same! I take care of me while you’re forcing me to be here 40 hrs of my week. You will get the required work outta me, and that’s it that’s all 🤷🏽♀️
I loved this, Alecia. As a department chair/faculty member, I told my students a story about turning down a position to become campus president. To my surprise, one female African American student said, " I would never turn down that opportunity; that would be lazy." I told her that I saw it as self-care. I had enough of being worked to my core to support someone else's dream. Rest is essential, and we must listen...
@@professionalevolution9755 Yeeeeeeeeeees!!!! I am SO glad that you made the decision that best honored you and your well being. Thank you so much for choosing yourself and expressing to her the truth. I'm sure you planted a seed in her that she won't forget. Much love, joy and peace to you. 💛💛💛🥹🫂🌞🌻🌺
“We’re afraid of being caught not being productive.” Yes! An internal trauma by itself. It’s been instilled in us that “if we got time to lean, we got time to clean.” Or if you were young and sitting around at home, your mama had to find something for you to do since you weren’t working on something.
I decided today just to rest, asked God to give me wisdom on how to be productive and profitable without killing myself. I took a nap and I felt good simply BEING still. I am highly motivated, but there's a balance indeed. Thanks for this sobering word. You helping me
Thank you Alecia. I'm grieving the loss of myself knowing that who I was, was not for me but for others. I had been told to prove my worth or else. Now I know those people were using me to feel better about themselves. Rest is in every minute of every day. Enjoy it. ❤
Same. Grieving the loss of myself. Who I was. 😢I put my focus on helping a man on his path to achieving success. And forgot about what success means to me. What I truly need. Now I lost so much weight by giving free labor. I'm being selfish, resting, and pouring into myself. I have come to terms with everything in this world as a facade and I refuse to be a martyr
I used to have a white “friend” who couldn’t clean her one bedroom apartment and she had no kids or anything. She even invited friends to help her pack her stuff up stuff. I was thinking I’m not coming over your house to help you pack up your underwear. I have to do my grocery shopping, etc. I have to use my time wisely on the weekend. Needless to say we are no longer friends today. I think she saw people as a pawn to use for her purposes! I don’t think I’ll ever try to make a white friend again. It’s in their DNA. They are okay when you are a sidekick but let you be more successful. They will try to beat you at their own success.
@@realashandaatlarge I LOOOOOOVE thiiiiis! I am SO glad you got to rest. 🥹💛🫂🌞🌺 Thank you so much for always being so warm, kind and supportive. I SINCERELY appreciate you.
@@AleciaRenece Honestly sis, you're helping me more than you know. With all that's on my plate, you are teaching me to prioritize loving me, too. Many blessings to you.
Thank you so much for this episode. It really made me think about how I was moving towards a much easier life in the early 2000s. I was ridiculed because I didn’t want to work so hard anymore. You are right. I was talked about and made fun of. I was constantly explaining what I felt that I deserved because I worked so hard. I was feeling tired and burned out then. However, no was paying me any attention. I was constantly pushed to do more. Now, I am extremely tired. I am working to get more rest and work at a slower pace.
The artist part is so true, especially as a fellow black woman. I am majoring in Studio Art and Design. I am a painter and singer. I always feel afraid to tell people what I do because of judgment and shame. I do not desire to work myself to the point of death. I want to actually live and enjoy life. Thank you for your content. I always learn something from your videos.
Well Chicago is missing the memo because we have had like a week of hot weather and it's been in the 70s and 80s... I'm grateful because I hate hot weather. 😆
@@zinagrace2113 oh em geeeeeee, that sounds HEAVENLY 😩😅☺️ I loooove Chicago. Such a beautiful city with beautiful people. I'm like you. How weather is not my thing. I like Spring and Autumn the best 🥰💛.
Im tired of working im hurting so bad! Why cant everyone be on top if we were once kings and queens! Why does America have a f**ked up system with the being on the top or bottom or middle class when we all should be on top from Working period no matter the job title
I feel so seen and encouraged by your content!! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. You hit on every point so gracefully. We are all indeed living out our ansestors wildest dream when we do things that make US happy. I hope that everyone watching this video learns how to find true rest.
I'm new here from Cam James channel and I am needing to hear so much of what you've been saying lately. Thank you so much for putting words to the feelings so many of us are having..
Alecia, thank you for this video. Youve captured my current feelings in this video. I’ve been feeling weary especially professionally. More projects added to my workload, more performing, no addition being added to the team and I am getting tired. It’s crazy being over worked is praised. So today I took the day off and rest and I was beat! Mentally feeling better but these companies will work you to death and not hire anyone else because why pay another salary when they can exploit labor.
Blessings ❤Miss Alecia Renet You are such a blessing and voice for women like me. My maternal grandmother literally sat down by a tree in her front yard and died at a young age, she was simply tired and overworked.This was the 50 's or 60's. I'm transitioning thru a period of resting rn, your videos are intellectually truthful. Continued Blessings Natural Sis n Healer🤍🤍🤍🤍💫💫💫💫💫
Black women, find your “sit-spot.”” In my child’s nature adventure school, they teach the kids to sit, to sit in a sit-spot. They teach them what to look for when considering a sit-spot. The purpose of the sit spot is to learn to sit and observe nature in one place for longer and longer periods of time. And they assign levels as your reach higher amounts of time you’re able to sit and observe; 5 min, 5 hours, 15 hours. They share their stories around a camp fire about what they were able to observe as their awareness becomes more acute. Can you still yourself long enough to stop buzzing, and finally hear a butterfly flying? That sort of thing. It’s a white dominated space, but all are welcome and we are not the only brown family in the school.
I LOVE YOU ALECIA 🤍🫶🏾🤍 thank you for all the aspiration and words of wisdom that you share. I don’t know you personally but I adore you. I’m so blessed to have found your channel at the time that I did. You never disappoint! I pray that you continue to love on yourself. Peace and blessings.
This video is soo helpful; thank you!!! It just confirms my mindset to say I dont give a FUDGE about what any race or gender thinks!! It also brings awareness on how I can be judgemental about ppl who are " not doing anything"! I appreciate you! ❤
The only x I feel ' lazy ' is when my mind wants 2 do something / my body isn't on board. My career is nonstop. Go go go all morning. Like right now, I had 3 very strenuous days this past week. My mind wants 2 go out 2 the property I bought 2 mow the yard. My body is still tired. So, I feel a lil ' lazy ' I haven't don't it yet this weekend. I may have a burst of energy / go out there 2 do it 2day. Happens all the x. I just get a burst of energy / get whatever it is... done.
This resonated with how I feel right NOW!! I could cry...You articulated it in a way i could never truly explain. Thank you! For making me feel seen because i have felt an exhaustion i can't explain in words.🥲
I joined your Patreon! It clicked with the annoying ads that I had another choice instead of giving money to TH-cam to stop the ads I could give it to you!! It has been a LONG time that I have wanted to have the ability to support you and your creativity. Here’s me catching up with my desires to make them a reality. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜♥️💝🫂🌳🌴
Thank you so much 🥹💛🌻🫂 you are SUCH an inspiration to my journey. Thank you so much for taking up space, Sharing ans being brave. Much love and joy to you always!
I know I’m not lazy. I go to work and chill as much as needed on the clock. It’s called reparations. 😂💅🏾
@@lalat5899 I'm loving this for yooooou! 😂☺️🫂💛🌺💃🏾✨
And do!
And same! I take care of me while you’re forcing me to be here 40 hrs of my week. You will get the required work outta me, and that’s it that’s all 🤷🏽♀️
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
A word!! Because, same 😂❤
I loved this, Alecia. As a department chair/faculty member, I told my students a story about turning down a position to become campus president. To my surprise, one female African American student said, " I would never turn down that opportunity; that would be lazy." I told her that I saw it as self-care. I had enough of being worked to my core to support someone else's dream. Rest is essential, and we must listen...
@@jayrober4834REALLY Loud!!! 😮💨👌🏽
@@professionalevolution9755 Yeeeeeeeeeees!!!! I am SO glad that you made the decision that best honored you and your well being. Thank you so much for choosing yourself and expressing to her the truth. I'm sure you planted a seed in her that she won't forget. Much love, joy and peace to you. 💛💛💛🥹🫂🌞🌻🌺
"We make people show their labor cards to us..." Is diabolical 😩
@@ElementalWitchn 🥺💔 it's honestly SO heartbreaking 🫂💛
This reminds me of a quote I heard before “we are all wage slaves seeking approval and to please other slaves around us”
@@easiersaidwithmeg lawd ain't that the truth
@@AleciaRenece It is. I sent your video to a friend and she was so moved. Thanks for this video! 😘🫶🏾
“We’re afraid of being caught not being productive.” Yes! An internal trauma by itself. It’s been instilled in us that “if we got time to lean, we got time to clean.” Or if you were young and sitting around at home, your mama had to find something for you to do since you weren’t working on something.
This makes me think so much of Dr. Joy Degruy and Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome
Motherhood is exhausting me.
I feel you. Care to talk about it just to vent in these comments?
@browniebun A married single mother. Just burnout at the moment.
@@leochick77 praying that you are able to cultivate some tiny moments for yourself ❤ sending love and light 🤗
"I'll sleep when I die" is WILD😭
Wild
I decided today just to rest, asked God to give me wisdom on how to be productive and profitable without killing myself. I took a nap and I felt good simply BEING still. I am highly motivated, but there's a balance indeed. Thanks for this sobering word. You helping me
Thank you Alecia. I'm grieving the loss of myself knowing that who I was, was not for me but for others. I had been told to prove my worth or else. Now I know those people were using me to feel better about themselves. Rest is in every minute of every day. Enjoy it. ❤
Same. Grieving the loss of myself. Who I was. 😢I put my focus on helping a man on his path to achieving success. And forgot about what success means to me. What I truly need. Now I lost so much weight by giving free labor. I'm being selfish, resting, and pouring into myself. I have come to terms with everything in this world as a facade and I refuse to be a martyr
I used to have a white “friend” who couldn’t clean her one bedroom apartment and she had no kids or anything. She even invited friends to help her pack her stuff up stuff. I was thinking I’m not coming over your house to help you pack up your underwear. I have to do my grocery shopping, etc. I have to use my time wisely on the weekend. Needless to say we are no longer friends today. I think she saw people as a pawn to use for her purposes! I don’t think I’ll ever try to make a white friend again. It’s in their DNA. They are okay when you are a sidekick but let you be more successful. They will try to beat you at their own success.
I listened while I rested. Simply beautiful!
@@realashandaatlarge I LOOOOOOVE thiiiiis! I am SO glad you got to rest. 🥹💛🫂🌞🌺 Thank you so much for always being so warm, kind and supportive. I SINCERELY appreciate you.
@@AleciaRenece Honestly sis, you're helping me more than you know. With all that's on my plate, you are teaching me to prioritize loving me, too. Many blessings to you.
This was right on time. I am going to play this in office ...LOUD
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT AND GENEROSITY! 🫂🌻🤸🏾♀️💃🏾🥰💛 AND YES PLEEEEEEASE. Let these people KNOW.
Thank you so much for this episode. It really made me think about how I was moving towards a much easier life in the early 2000s. I was ridiculed because I didn’t want to work so hard anymore. You are right. I was talked about and made fun of. I was constantly explaining what I felt that I deserved because I worked so hard. I was feeling tired and burned out then. However, no was paying me any attention. I was constantly pushed to do more. Now, I am extremely tired. I am working to get more rest and work at a slower pace.
The artist part is so true, especially as a fellow black woman. I am majoring in Studio Art and Design. I am a painter and singer. I always feel afraid to tell people what I do because of judgment and shame. I do not desire to work myself to the point of death. I want to actually live and enjoy life. Thank you for your content. I always learn something from your videos.
I'm grateful for your shares...such a blessing✨💫✨💫
@@mekacampbell_111 Hiiiiiiiii!!! Awwwwww! Thank you so muuuuch!!! 🥹💛🌺🌻 That really means a lot to me. Honestly. Thank you so much!
“ the world is on fire “ 😂
@@fazziland3932 😅😂🫂💛🌺🌻 listeeeen! 😂💛 It's been oppressively hot this summer 🌞 🫠
@@AleciaReneceagree my area it's been over 100 for over two weeks.
Well Chicago is missing the memo because we have had like a week of hot weather and it's been in the 70s and 80s... I'm grateful because I hate hot weather. 😆
@@zinagrace2113 oh em geeeeeee, that sounds HEAVENLY 😩😅☺️ I loooove Chicago. Such a beautiful city with beautiful people. I'm like you. How weather is not my thing. I like Spring and Autumn the best 🥰💛.
This gives me so much to think about, so much to unpack, I will have to revisit it again.
@@leslynmoore 🫂🌻✨💛🌺
Im tired of working im hurting so bad! Why cant everyone be on top if we were once kings and queens! Why does America have a f**ked up system with the being on the top or bottom or middle class when we all should be on top from Working period no matter the job title
Hey ❤ - Invisible chains has been with us, loosen and/ or break those chains ❤
@@MarilynB-MariLuv Hiiiiiiiii 💛🌺🌻☺️ and ABSOLUTELY. ✨🌼
I feel so seen and encouraged by your content!! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. You hit on every point so gracefully. We are all indeed living out our ansestors wildest dream when we do things that make US happy. I hope that everyone watching this video learns how to find true rest.
I'm new here from Cam James channel and I am needing to hear so much of what you've been saying lately. Thank you so much for putting words to the feelings so many of us are having..
Alecia, thank you for this video. Youve captured my current feelings in this video. I’ve been feeling weary especially professionally. More projects added to my workload, more performing, no addition being added to the team and I am getting tired. It’s crazy being over worked is praised. So today I took the day off and rest and I was beat! Mentally feeling better but these companies will work you to death and not hire anyone else because why pay another salary when they can exploit labor.
I appreciate your message because after military disabilities I can only work part time and not full time and I feel judged by others because of it.
Zero judgement. Thank you for your service. I hope you get rest.
🫂🫂🫂💛💛💛 Thank you so much for your service. There is no shame. You take care of YOU, now. I honor you and celebrate you.
Blessings ❤Miss Alecia Renet
You are such a blessing and voice for women like me.
My maternal grandmother literally sat down by a tree in her front yard and died at a young age, she was simply tired and overworked.This was the 50 's or 60's.
I'm transitioning thru a period of resting rn, your videos are intellectually truthful.
Continued Blessings Natural Sis n Healer🤍🤍🤍🤍💫💫💫💫💫
Black women, find your “sit-spot.””
In my child’s nature adventure school, they teach the kids to sit, to sit in a sit-spot. They teach them what to look for when considering a sit-spot. The purpose of the sit spot is to learn to sit and observe nature in one place for longer and longer periods of time. And they assign levels as your reach higher amounts of time you’re able to sit and observe; 5 min, 5 hours, 15 hours. They share their stories around a camp fire about what they were able to observe as their awareness becomes more acute. Can you still yourself long enough to stop buzzing, and finally hear a butterfly flying? That sort of thing. It’s a white dominated space, but all are welcome and we are not the only brown family in the school.
I love this!
I love this so much 🥹💛🫂 Thank you so much for sharing this with us!
This was so powerful! 😢 since I was young I was accused of being lazy and I always had things to do!
The precision with which you articulate your views is awe-inspiring. You are truly gifted, Alecia, and you excell at it.
Alecia, Alecia, Alecia.. you are so refreshing to listen to 💕 THANK YOU!
It's my absolute PLEASURE 🫂🥰💛🌻 Thank you so much for hearing my heart and always being so kind and generous with me!
I LOVE YOU ALECIA 🤍🫶🏾🤍 thank you for all the aspiration and words of wisdom that you share. I don’t know you personally but I adore you. I’m so blessed to have found your channel at the time that I did. You never disappoint! I pray that you continue to love on yourself. Peace and blessings.
Keep talking, your voice calms my soul through the storm. ❤
Wow. 🥹💛🫂🌻 What a compliment. I'm honored. I'm sending you so much love comfort and joy for your journey.
Reclaiming my time.
This video is soo helpful; thank you!!! It just confirms my mindset to say I dont give a FUDGE about what any race or gender thinks!! It also brings awareness on how I can be judgemental about ppl who are " not doing anything"! I appreciate you! ❤
I love this channel everything you say is very true 💯 a lot of women and men can relate to this
Wow!!! Thank you for this article. The hypocrisy is stunning! OMG! I am going to honor my ancestors and take a nap.
Beautiful message! Thank you! ❤
I love this video. My favorite!❤🎉
Appreciate your discussion of this topic, thanks for covering this ❤ really wish more people would talk about this, it’s such an issue nowadays
I am loving all these messages whew
I need this. I will listen to your videos for now!
Thank you.❤❤❤ This is how I feel. I'm tired of this madness.
The only x I feel ' lazy ' is when my mind wants 2 do something / my body isn't on board. My career is nonstop. Go go go all morning. Like right now, I had 3 very strenuous days this past week. My mind wants 2 go out 2 the property I bought 2 mow the yard. My body is still tired. So, I feel a lil ' lazy ' I haven't don't it yet this weekend. I may have a burst of energy / go out there 2 do it 2day. Happens all the x. I just get a burst of energy / get whatever it is... done.
Thank you for sharing your perspective 🙏
Loveddd this!! New subscriber!💜
Thank you so much for hearing my heart! Welcome! 🫂💛🌻
I love this message. If I’m remembering correctly..BW were not allowed to be stay at homes moms…it’s crazy the history
Really? Not allowed to be house wives?
Love this sis!!!
Is this your new channel? I remember watching this life changing video I wanna say 6 or 7 months ago. ❤❤
Extract our energy, & destroy our spirit!😒
❤❤❤
You and me both
❤ 🙏🏿
This resonated with how I feel right NOW!! I could cry...You articulated it in a way i could never truly explain. Thank you! For making me feel seen because i have felt an exhaustion i can't explain in words.🥲
I joined your Patreon! It clicked with the annoying ads that I had another choice instead of giving money to TH-cam to stop the ads I could give it to you!! It has been a LONG time that I have wanted to have the ability to support you and your creativity. Here’s me catching up with my desires to make them a reality. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜♥️💝🫂🌳🌴
Thank you so much 🥹💛🌻🫂 you are SUCH an inspiration to my journey. Thank you so much for taking up space, Sharing ans being brave. Much love and joy to you always!