After not eating bread in years, I bought a loaf of pain rustique from a local artisanal bakery yesterday. I put two slices on a plate, buttered one of them and ate it mindfully as part of my lunch. Turns out, it was just bread, nothing more than that. I put the second slice back in the bag and went on with my day.
Congrats!! That’s great Thank you for sharing I am still scared o& bread, maybe I will try it as well, we have French bakery in our town I have been avoiding 👍🙏🙏🙏💜
I have been waiting one year to get into an eating disorder program I have learned so much from you so so much I don’t know how to thank you thank you for doing this wonderful work you’re doing
I’m definitely one of those people who think I have mastered binge eating than it comes back always with a vengeance. Currently back in the circle of binging sometimes it’s so bad won’t play any videos just think can’t do it. Here with a cuppa watching your videos always helps try not to give up. Been living on and of with binge eating on and of for 25 years xx thank you so much for being there just a click away xx
Thank you for putting this link in your response to me earlier. I had asked why am I resisting this and I got my answer. I had once been in treatment for my eating disorder and we did this Mindful Eating exercise and everyone hated it. Then when I left treatment and started overeating/bingeing again I thought back on the exercise and It felt like going back to practicing it was a punishment. You said exactly that at the middle of the video. Now I know why I resisted the practice. Seeing it as a gentle practice to be more present with myself and how I'm feeling around everything not just food is a loving thing I can do. I see it better through your eyes now and it's a whole different animal. Just like re-reading Geneen Roth. Her books didn't "fix" me then so I tossed them aside. I believe the student may be ready now. ❤❤❤
Thanks Sarah - for the last 2 years I have paid for an online mindful eating program. Whilst it raised my awareness around food, I just did not feel I was surrounded by my binge eating tribe. The people who posted the most seemed to do it easily. That was not the case for me. Like you, it would work really well for a few weeks until a binge would hijack me.
Sounds like the experience had the ability to create MORE shame about your eating struggles. I’m imagining there were a number of others not finding it easy, but when the predominant voices are, I can imagine that would be incredibly difficult to share an alternative. I would probably feel like I was the only one struggling with this ❤️🩹
Hi , thanks for the great information 😀 I. Learning to sit down and eat . I'm used to eating standing up. Crazy I know 😜. New habits new choices. Self care is lacking in me . Now at 58 years old I'm changing my life. I'm 218 lbs. I'm taking better care of myself. Love ❤️ your video
Ahhh this was such a good video! Thank you oh so much for making it. As I continue practicing IE, I was noticing that awareness is painful and often excruciating. I sometimes drop down into my body and observe what sensations occur. I remember once feeling sensations down in my toes, I've never paid attention of the feelings of my toes before! I take notes when I watch your videos and something I really liked was using the word presence instead of mindfulness. Also, you spoke of learning something new requires our attention. I remember being trained for new jobs would exhaust me in a matter of hours. It's because I was using all my brain power to learn this thing. So it makes more sense why mindfulness/presence is tiring and painful for me. I like your suggestion of small incruments of present rather than 100% full commitment. Thank you again. I look forward to your videos.
It IS exhausting. I can remember sometimes after paying attention to a binge urge and allowing it I would want to fall asleep. Growing new thought pathways is hard work! Glad you found the video useful ❤️❤️
Hi Sarah! I really appreciate this content. ❤ This video is the first video I've seen about mindful eating. I am so glad I saw it because now I have a very clear picture about what to expect of mindful eating as a therapeutic tool. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your unique videos!! Your channel is gold ❤👍
I don’t know what I would do without your shows. I was just turned down by the fifth eating disorder place that I applied for because of my insurance thank you for sharing all this information that I will never heard coming from a regular therapist I appreciate you
Some excellent points. I personally have changed my whole relationship with food, eating and my body with mindfulness. Not with mindful eating as a 'tool'. I practised mindfulness first, and then applied it whilst I was engaged in food-related activities. Mindfulness taught me how to be more present in all areas of my life. It allowed me to sit with difficult emotions and to change my relationship to thoughts. When I was more stable with my concentration (able to place all my attention on a single object ) I applied mindfulness to eating. By this time I was more aware of the habits and patterns that were keeping me stuck. I could see (more often) my tendency to go on autopilot and act with compulsion. I had practised (over and over and over) returning to the moment and doing so with kindness and non judgemental awareness. I was eventually able to eat with mindful awareness without seeing it as yet another rule. Practise mindfulness first. When you are able to be stable in the emotional storms, and anchored , apply it to the more challenging experiences.
Thank you for this video. I have tried this a few times and it has been really difficult. When I talked to my therapist about this I even used the same word that you did 'excruciating'. We worked out that I was trying to be present around food, which is very problematic and I struggle with. When I am not being mindful or present in my life, so it probably wasnt a great place to start. So have been practicing being present at other times initially. With eating I am trying less distractions at lunchtime. And trying to check in, mid meal, because I could be aware I am starting to eat and then next aware when food is all gone. Not even sure if I enjoyed the meal or when I was full. So trying to check in and see how I feel part way through is the current aim.
Thank you for all your videos. I have been BINGE watching them 😁 I feel a very strong resistance to eating mindfully but I like the idea you've mentioned that by exploring the resistance, I have a chance to learn something about myself. I also like what you said about trying to eat mindfully just some of the time, that really takes the pressure off. I haven't binged for years and it's interesting to compare the tips you give with the changes I made to help myself. I completely agree with almost every piece of advice you give in your videos!!!
I’m not only learning but I’m realizing inside me the things that you are saying and applying them to myself Answer is within ourselves I totally agree I found that out by listening to you share your experiences once again thank you so much
Love what you said about being mindful in the rest of our lives can really be painful. I can so relate to that ! 🤣 on a mindful eating side when I have tried it I can find I am more satisfied and am able to stop when I'm done and leave food at thàt point. But the times when I just can't be mindful there us probably something going on that I just can't bare to feel. Would love to hear more from you on how we can be present with what may be worrying us elsewhere 🙂 your on to something there !
Dear lovely Sarah-! I'm glad you mention this idea of mindfulness and how it relates to eating. I am unsure what to do about binge foods. I've had even therapists say abstain forever from foods I binged on in the past. But I feel like the actual food is not the problem. It's the action of binges and that is what I want to work on. Could someone still relearn to eat a former binge food?
I believe most people can change their relationship with foods that used to be binge foods. I try to avoid making sweeping statements about about what’s true for everyone. I think it’s why so many people are confused as there are two main camps to binge eating recovery - the abstinence/addiction model where you give up the foods and the non-diet, food freedom, intuitive eating world. My approach falls towards the latter although I’m all for people doing whatever they need to make peace with food
It sounds so easy…until I realize how DISTRACTED I am when I eat. I’m surprised at what I like and don’t like and I realize that some dessert foods actually don’t FEEL ok…with mindful eating.
I’m eat at table no phone 📱 once we get rid of clutter until then I’m eat at desk without phone. I think it’s important food time for food and not content watching. ❤❤❤❤
After not eating bread in years, I bought a loaf of pain rustique from a local artisanal bakery yesterday. I put two slices on a plate, buttered one of them and ate it mindfully as part of my lunch. Turns out, it was just bread, nothing more than that. I put the second slice back in the bag and went on with my day.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love that you had a new experience with bread 😍
Congrats!! That’s great
Thank you for sharing
I am still scared o& bread, maybe I will try it as well, we have French bakery in our town I have been avoiding 👍🙏🙏🙏💜
I have been waiting one year to get into an eating disorder program I have learned so much from you so so much I don’t know how to thank you thank you for doing this wonderful work you’re doing
I’m definitely one of those people who think I have mastered binge eating than it comes back always with a vengeance. Currently back in the circle of binging sometimes it’s so bad won’t play any videos just think can’t do it. Here with a cuppa watching your videos always helps try not to give up. Been living on and of with binge eating on and of for 25 years xx thank you so much for being there just a click away xx
Your comment makes my heart ache. I know that space so well. Im glad that my videos can offer some support in those moments ❤️❤️
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist ❤️
Thank you for putting this link in your response to me earlier. I had asked why am I resisting this and I got my answer. I had once been in treatment for my eating disorder and we did this Mindful Eating exercise and everyone hated it. Then when I left treatment and started overeating/bingeing again I thought back on the exercise and It felt like going back to practicing it was a punishment. You said exactly that at the middle of the video. Now I know why I resisted the practice. Seeing it as a gentle practice to be more present with myself and how I'm feeling around everything not just food is a loving thing I can do. I see it better through your eyes now and it's a whole different animal. Just like re-reading Geneen Roth. Her books didn't "fix" me then so I tossed them aside. I believe the student may be ready now. ❤❤❤
Thanks Sarah - for the last 2 years I have paid for an online mindful eating program. Whilst it raised my awareness around food, I just did not feel I was surrounded by my binge eating tribe. The people who posted the most seemed to do it easily. That was not the case for me. Like you, it would work really well for a few weeks until a binge would hijack me.
Sounds like the experience had the ability to create MORE shame about your eating struggles. I’m imagining there were a number of others not finding it easy, but when the predominant voices are, I can imagine that would be incredibly difficult to share an alternative. I would probably feel like I was the only one struggling with this ❤️🩹
Hi , thanks for the great information 😀 I. Learning to sit down and eat . I'm used to eating standing up. Crazy I know 😜. New habits new choices. Self care is lacking in me . Now at 58 years old I'm changing my life. I'm 218 lbs. I'm taking better care of myself. Love ❤️ your video
Ahhh this was such a good video! Thank you oh so much for making it. As I continue practicing IE, I was noticing that awareness is painful and often excruciating. I sometimes drop down into my body and observe what sensations occur. I remember once feeling sensations down in my toes, I've never paid attention of the feelings of my toes before! I take notes when I watch your videos and something I really liked was using the word presence instead of mindfulness. Also, you spoke of learning something new requires our attention. I remember being trained for new jobs would exhaust me in a matter of hours. It's because I was using all my brain power to learn this thing. So it makes more sense why mindfulness/presence is tiring and painful for me. I like your suggestion of small incruments of present rather than 100% full commitment. Thank you again. I look forward to your videos.
It IS exhausting. I can remember sometimes after paying attention to a binge urge and allowing it I would want to fall asleep. Growing new thought pathways is hard work!
Glad you found the video useful ❤️❤️
Hi Sarah! I really appreciate this content. ❤ This video is the first video I've seen about mindful eating. I am so glad I saw it because now I have a very clear picture about what to expect of mindful eating as a therapeutic tool. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your unique videos!! Your channel is gold ❤👍
You are so welcome. I’m glad my content continues to be useful to you Andrea ❤️
I don’t know what I would do without your shows. I was just turned down by the fifth eating disorder place that I applied for because of my insurance thank you for sharing all this information that I will never heard coming from a regular therapist I appreciate you
I’m glad my videos are helpful to you, but I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been turned away for help 🥺
Some excellent points. I personally have changed my whole relationship with food, eating and my body with mindfulness. Not with mindful eating as a 'tool'. I practised mindfulness first, and then applied it whilst I was engaged in food-related activities. Mindfulness taught me how to be more present in all areas of my life. It allowed me to sit with difficult emotions and to change my relationship to thoughts. When I was more stable with my concentration (able to place all my attention on a single object ) I applied mindfulness to eating. By this time I was more aware of the habits and patterns that were keeping me stuck. I could see (more often) my tendency to go on autopilot and act with compulsion. I had practised (over and over and over) returning to the moment and doing so with kindness and non judgemental awareness. I was eventually able to eat with mindful awareness without seeing it as yet another rule. Practise mindfulness first. When you are able to be stable in the emotional storms, and anchored , apply it to the more challenging experiences.
Thank you for this video. I have tried this a few times and it has been really difficult. When I talked to my therapist about this I even used the same word that you did 'excruciating'. We worked out that I was trying to be present around food, which is very problematic and I struggle with. When I am not being mindful or present in my life, so it probably wasnt a great place to start. So have been practicing being present at other times initially. With eating I am trying less distractions at lunchtime. And trying to check in, mid meal, because I could be aware I am starting to eat and then next aware when food is all gone. Not even sure if I enjoyed the meal or when I was full. So trying to check in and see how I feel part way through is the current aim.
Thank you for those brilliant videos. You're making a difference. I'm starting to reflect on my beliefs in a new way now. :)
That’s amazing! I am honoured to play a part in you developing a more useful belief system ❤️
Thank you Sarah!
I appreciate you and your wisdom !!
You really are a treasure. Such insight. I thank you, and for the years of pain, you have turned onto a gift for others, beautiful.
Thank you for all your videos. I have been BINGE watching them 😁 I feel a very strong resistance to eating mindfully but I like the idea you've mentioned that by exploring the resistance, I have a chance to learn something about myself. I also like what you said about trying to eat mindfully just some of the time, that really takes the pressure off. I haven't binged for years and it's interesting to compare the tips you give with the changes I made to help myself. I completely agree with almost every piece of advice you give in your videos!!!
I’m not only learning but I’m realizing inside me the things that you are saying and applying them to myself Answer is within ourselves I totally agree I found that out by listening to you share your experiences once again thank you so much
This is so helpful!!!!
Hi Sarah. I know my binging is related with restricting all the time. But im still overweight and i cant stop restricting my calories....
Love what you said about being mindful in the rest of our lives can really be painful. I can so relate to that ! 🤣 on a mindful eating side when I have tried it I can find I am more satisfied and am able to stop when I'm done and leave food at thàt point. But the times when I just can't be mindful there us probably something going on that I just can't bare to feel. Would love to hear more from you on how we can be present with what may be worrying us elsewhere 🙂 your on to something there !
I’m really glad that you’re doing this I have a therapist a regular therapist who told me I should be able to just stop binging it’s my choice
Dear lovely Sarah-! I'm glad you mention this idea of mindfulness and how it relates to eating. I am unsure what to do about binge foods. I've had even therapists say abstain forever from foods I binged on in the past. But I feel like the actual food is not the problem. It's the action of binges and that is what I want to work on. Could someone still relearn to eat a former binge food?
I believe most people can change their relationship with foods that used to be binge foods. I try to avoid making sweeping statements about about what’s true for everyone.
I think it’s why so many people are confused as there are two main camps to binge eating recovery - the abstinence/addiction model where you give up the foods and the non-diet, food freedom, intuitive eating world. My approach falls towards the latter although I’m all for people doing whatever they need to make peace with food
It sounds so easy…until I realize how DISTRACTED I am when I eat. I’m surprised at what I like and don’t like and I realize that some dessert foods actually don’t FEEL ok…with mindful eating.
I’m eat at table no phone 📱 once we get rid of clutter until then I’m eat at desk without phone. I think it’s important food time for food and not content watching. ❤❤❤❤
Thanks, you did excellent video!see you on my side~man.