I was a mixed school kid. Public K-3, Private 3-8, then public high school. In k-3 I was constantly suspended and they wanted to put me on ADHD meds. The private school got me straightened out and very well prepared for high school and the social dynamics. I had a good structure to make the right decisions. I honestly believe I would have been a dropout or worse if I had stayed in public. We will probably be home schooling for the first couple years and then private until high school.
Always choose the school that aligns with your moral values. Your children will spend more wake hours there than in your own home. Don’t simply send them to the school you were “assigned” to.
I disagree that the school you send them to has to align with their moral values. I would agree that if your Christian, you shouldn't send them to a Jewish private school, but to say that my faith doesn't align with the moral values of public school doesn't make sense to me. You can instill aka indoctrinate your morals upon your kids outside of school, and frankly should be. But public school reminds you that not everyone follows the same things as you, and thats okay, but you need to learn to interact with them.
@@hockeyhalod Yeah-past affording though, there is the knowledge which I would argue most parents don't have. If you go with a large curriculum, I think that can be offset, but price wise you are probably similar to Private School-Unless you have multiple kids and/or already have a SAH parent.
@@jacobkummer2067 if the school doesn’t align or share moral grounding, it’s in direct opposition to how you’re raising your kids at home and makes parenting much much harder. Spend some time in school board meetings and see how radicalized teachers have become.
@@karliekrinock6101 Yeah I have. And guess what - LIFE is likely in direct opposition to how your raising them. Which I'm not saying is bad. However, I have seen my friends (Homeschool & Private School) fail drastically once they hit 18 and became an adult because they didn't know how to cope with the real world. You can argue some teachers are radicalized, but most are not. It's a full-filling prophecy. Your options are either public school and intentional about outside things OR private school/home school and be SUPER INTENTIONAL about exposing to them in the outside world. One has a slightly higher success rate then the other which is drastically more expensive.
When you think about life experience, you tend to adapt yourself to those around you. So we want the best for our children by buying a house in a good neighborhood, sending them to the best schools, and getting them on team sports that bolster courage and team work. In the end, our choices affect them, but it is up to them to luck into good friend groups and people that push them harder than we ever can.
Biggest difference we’ve seen thus far is the teacher/student ratio. Biggest factor for us is that we live in a high property tax area for the schools and sending to private would basically double paying but the quality/pace of learning is different. If cost was not an issue would continue to send our kid to the private school. The biggest difference is the lowest performing student that takes away from the learning of the general class. Private school seemed has less social issues compared to public school. We supplement with extra reading and math at home.
I think something important to point out is that private schools can also be more diverse than their local counterparts. I am black and my daughter is mixed. Our local school district has 4% children of color. It is unlikely that she will see herself in any of her classmates. However, we live on the cusp of a mid size city so many of the local private schools have 25 to 50% children of color that live in other parts of the city. We are strongly considering private because of several racist incidents at our assigned SD.
I went to a private school from pre K to 2nd year high school. Got transferred to the States from the Philippines. Truly I wasn't sheltered or felt like I was off. I made friends and gave tons of experience for instance knowing who is rich and whose not. Which for once I didn't realize that was a thing. I do realize that public school kids don't have manners and are spoiled. I recall in the 6 grade someone throwing a tantrum because their parents didn't get a blackberry phone. 😮 Regardless my grades were indeed better and I didn't learn anything new 😂 academically. At the end of the day it's your guy's decision I would say morals first before anything else. Build their self esteem and self worth so no one can bully them. With our family small town we are homeschooling 😊
In NY there's no reason to not go to Public school. Living in NC, we moved from Durham to Wake Forest, to try to get better public schools, but the move provided only a marginal improvement. I'm worried about our options. There's 2 Charter schools nearby that are rated high, but 1 is unaccredited and new and talks about how much pressure they put on the kids to learn (like its a good thing...i don't think it is). The other is NOT that close and harder to get into. There are no private schools that are affordable that aren't religious nearby...we are kind of in a pickle, and may just do public school. It really is what you make of it too. Lots to think about until 2026
I was a mixed school kid. Public K-3, Private 3-8, then public high school. In k-3 I was constantly suspended and they wanted to put me on ADHD meds. The private school got me straightened out and very well prepared for high school and the social dynamics. I had a good structure to make the right decisions. I honestly believe I would have been a dropout or worse if I had stayed in public. We will probably be home schooling for the first couple years and then private until high school.
Always choose the school that aligns with your moral values. Your children will spend more wake hours there than in your own home. Don’t simply send them to the school you were “assigned” to.
Or if you can afford it, home school. There are 3 options.
I disagree that the school you send them to has to align with their moral values. I would agree that if your Christian, you shouldn't send them to a Jewish private school, but to say that my faith doesn't align with the moral values of public school doesn't make sense to me.
You can instill aka indoctrinate your morals upon your kids outside of school, and frankly should be. But public school reminds you that not everyone follows the same things as you, and thats okay, but you need to learn to interact with them.
@@hockeyhalod Yeah-past affording though, there is the knowledge which I would argue most parents don't have. If you go with a large curriculum, I think that can be offset, but price wise you are probably similar to Private School-Unless you have multiple kids and/or already have a SAH parent.
@@jacobkummer2067 if the school doesn’t align or share moral grounding, it’s in direct opposition to how you’re raising your kids at home and makes parenting much much harder. Spend some time in school board meetings and see how radicalized teachers have become.
@@karliekrinock6101 Yeah I have. And guess what - LIFE is likely in direct opposition to how your raising them. Which I'm not saying is bad. However, I have seen my friends (Homeschool & Private School) fail drastically once they hit 18 and became an adult because they didn't know how to cope with the real world.
You can argue some teachers are radicalized, but most are not. It's a full-filling prophecy.
Your options are either public school and intentional about outside things OR private school/home school and be SUPER INTENTIONAL about exposing to them in the outside world. One has a slightly higher success rate then the other which is drastically more expensive.
When you think about life experience, you tend to adapt yourself to those around you. So we want the best for our children by buying a house in a good neighborhood, sending them to the best schools, and getting them on team sports that bolster courage and team work. In the end, our choices affect them, but it is up to them to luck into good friend groups and people that push them harder than we ever can.
Biggest difference we’ve seen thus far is the teacher/student ratio. Biggest factor for us is that we live in a high property tax area for the schools and sending to private would basically double paying but the quality/pace of learning is different. If cost was not an issue would continue to send our kid to the private school. The biggest difference is the lowest performing student that takes away from the learning of the general class. Private school seemed has less social issues compared to public school. We supplement with extra reading and math at home.
I think something important to point out is that private schools can also be more diverse than their local counterparts. I am black and my daughter is mixed. Our local school district has 4% children of color. It is unlikely that she will see herself in any of her classmates. However, we live on the cusp of a mid size city so many of the local private schools have 25 to 50% children of color that live in other parts of the city. We are strongly considering private because of several racist incidents at our assigned SD.
Really appreciate the insight!
I went to a private school from pre K to 2nd year high school. Got transferred to the States from the Philippines.
Truly I wasn't sheltered or felt like I was off. I made friends and gave tons of experience for instance knowing who is rich and whose not. Which for once I didn't realize that was a thing. I do realize that public school kids don't have manners and are spoiled. I recall in the 6 grade someone throwing a tantrum because their parents didn't get a blackberry phone. 😮
Regardless my grades were indeed better and I didn't learn anything new 😂 academically.
At the end of the day it's your guy's decision I would say morals first before anything else. Build their self esteem and self worth so no one can bully them.
With our family small town we are homeschooling 😊
In NY there's no reason to not go to Public school. Living in NC, we moved from Durham to Wake Forest, to try to get better public schools, but the move provided only a marginal improvement. I'm worried about our options. There's 2 Charter schools nearby that are rated high, but 1 is unaccredited and new and talks about how much pressure they put on the kids to learn (like its a good thing...i don't think it is). The other is NOT that close and harder to get into. There are no private schools that are affordable that aren't religious nearby...we are kind of in a pickle, and may just do public school. It really is what you make of it too. Lots to think about until 2026
I'm from spartanburg, SC so i get what he was saying about a lot of districts have no money. It sucks