Tus viv ncaus aw, peb cov ntxhais hmoob ces sawv daws raug tib txoj kev li koj ko os. Tiam twg peb tseem yog hmoob ces peb cov niam txiv hmoob yeej tsi hloov li os. Koj niam koj txiv, koj nus, koj cov txiv ntxawm lawv ua tsi yog lawm os. Peb tuaj txog lub teb chaw no thiab tiam no peb yuav tau hloov os mog. Yog li koj thiab kuv cov menyuam peb yuav tau hloov txhob ua li koj cov neej tsa ua rau koj lawm os mog. Kuv yeej nrog koj tu siab kawg nkaus li os. Qhov koj nrhiav dua tus tshiab yog ib qho zoo tshaj li lawm os mog.
Doesnt matter if it's blood, You stood up for what you believed in from the beginning and you made all the right choices. You deserve to be happy because even if it's blood, it's toxic. It is okay to leave toxic people behind and live your life. Im proud of you. Also I believe that many hmong women wish they took your route of life instead of suffering for others. People change and you cant change that. They might love you now, but they are not the same person they were 10 years ago and might not love you anymore. You cant control that. You were right from Day 1. Continue to fight for yourself and your life. ❤❤❤
Seriously! Your dad is viciously cold blooded to eventually alienated you as his own fleshing blood daughter. Sis, you did the right thing by moving forward strong and bold without turning back. Everyone deserves a happy life and marriage. This older generation of dads are always in the patriarchal world; degrading women in all perspectives. As Hmong women, we have to learn to fight for what’s right and wrong. We have to live our lives prosperously and righteously to our hearts. Uv tsis tau xyoo dhau xyoo.
This one should be titled, "Vim kuv txiv ruam!" Hahaha... all jokes aside, just live your life. Who cares what the hmong community thinks. IGNORE that hmong ego and you'll be much happier.
So proud the woman you are. You stood for what was best for you but your dad did apologize and you’re just going to have to be the bigger person and find it in your heart to forgive your father & your family and move pass your past. You’re in a good place and you deserve it. ♥️
I have a very rebellious personality so anyone who treats me that way including my own family, I will disown. If I decide to divorce my man for any reason and my family doesn't want to back me up, fck them. I don't need them anyway. I'll divorce and live by myself. It's AMERICA. I'm not gonna die just bc I don't have my family to help.
Forgiving our parents is a core task of adulthood, and one of the most crucial kinds of forgiveness. We see our parents in our mates, in our friends, in our bosses, even in our children. When we've felt rejected by a parent and have remained in that state, we will inevitably feel rejected by these important others as well. But letting our parents off the hook, is the first step toward happiness, self-acceptance and maturity. ❤️
Like the saying goes, "blood is thicker than water" your dad probably thought he was going to side with your low life ex-husband to prove his loyalty but reality is it backfired. So proud of you to stand your ground. What's right is right what's wrong is wrong! Clear & simple!
I agree with all the comments already made. But I really want to praise the sister in this story for advocating for what is fair, right, and in what she believes. Hmong community is such a patriarchal society that is enabled by us women as well. We need to shift that mindset and not look at it by gender, but by what is the humane way to treat people. Until our Hmong elders and leaders can shift their mindset, we will always have this challenge. But many of us are making that change already, and it's no longer a matter of how, but when. Thank you.
Kasnib Lis Totally agree with you. As a whole, hmong people will never progress enough to actually acknowledge and respect individual human dignity. It’s up to us, as individuals, to change that for our own selves.
I would not care about my parents anymore. They made you pay for another daughter and swap you out so either way, you are divorcing your parents in this way. I would not go visit them nor see his funeral. I would make my parents mentally suffer for not having my back so they can bring it to God and learn from it.
@@ibobpebplaub9354 if ur parents did that to you and you dont even feel a little bitter towards them, than you are a better person than all who thinks like me. Good for you and stay blessed
You can't blame your ex husband for what he did. It all started with your parents not accepting him in the first place. Your relationship got rocky when your ex heard your parents telling you to divorce him just because they didn't like him. Maybe if you told him from the beginning instead of him finding out for himself, maybe things would have turned out differently. Put yourself in your ex shoes and see how you would feel if you heard his parent's tell him to divorce you just because they didn't like you. Well, at least both of you found happiness in the end but your parent's were at fault from the getgo and maybe your dad was trying to make it up but it was too late
Niam lau aw cas koj nim zoo li kv thiab os cas luag thiaj muaj cai xwb muab xav ces tus siab kawg li txawm li cas los peb ib tsoov viv ncau nco ntsoov tia yus hlub yus tus kheej nawj mog
Wow what's a crazy father ever tus me niam tsev aw koj lub neej mas thiaj txawj txom nyem siab tshaj li os nrog koj zoo siab tau 1 lub neej zoo lawm hos koj txiv koj cov nus lub hlwb tseem nyob lub year 75th g tau hloov li
Some Hmong families are mess up like this. But I don't understand though, if you are not financially dependent on your family's support, why do you want a to get permission for divorce from your father and relatives? It should be decided just between your partner and you. I think this story is old because time have changed a lot. Divorces are more acceptable now days.
New gen is changing we ain’t living like in 1975 anymore, the old is dying we just have to change for the better teach our kids better than our parents taught us.
My kids are grown now but they know absolutely NOTHING about the shtty Hmong systems. I only teach them what I think and feel is morally right and to live a righteous life. The old, ancient draconian Hmong laws don't work here in the USA. They understand some Hmong words but they don't know how to speak it and that's fine with me. I'd be ok if they throw the bad stuff about Hmong laws away and keep the good ones but we all know ppl are evil. There's going to be corruption, ppl will bend the rules to suit their needs. I'd rather not be a part of a culture that can only do evil against their own people.
@@bchang227 The saddest person on earth is not the poor, the disability, or the even the rich but those who look down on themselves and their own kind....That's you!!! SAD:(
@@ibobpebplaub9354 I'm quite happy thank you very much. If I could, I would find a deserted island somewhere far away and live there. At least then I'll be far away from you. LMAO. Like I said above, take your bullsht and shove it up your arse. 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕
@@ibobpebplaub9354 It's ppl like you that I look down upon. It's ppl like you who thinks and forces a woman to go back to a cheating, abusive idiot that I look down upon. I don't give 2 shts about the ancient draconian Hmong laws that treats women like they're nothing but a man's property. This is why I hate y'all. Do you not know how to read properly? I am one rebellious bitch. No one can control me. I'm the black sheep in my family and I don't give a sht about it either. I'm quite happy with myself. Maybe you're sad bc no one likes you. LMAO. As for me, it makes me happy to see idiots like you in pain. It makes me happy to know that idiots like you hate me. I enjoy it. ROTFLMAO!!!
@@bchang227 No wonder your kids disrespect your own people because of parent like you.... I don't even know you and yet you want to live far away from me LOL.... you hate Hmong but yet listening to Hmong story and eat Hmong foods and the Hmong communities...... You are just one bitter person, the way you talk and act... I bet you won't fit in with any other races as well...
Hmoob yeej muaj qhov niag zoo li ko. I’m in my 40’s. I have not seen that. Only your dad n uncle r wayyy over the limit. Glad u got out n have a happy life now.
Cov txiv neej hmoob og li koj txiv Ko xav tias poob tag rau nplog teb lawm no tseem tsuav thiab los. Koj ua yog kawg li lawm os me niam hluas. Good job!!
Kj txiv lub tswv yim Ruam tshaj li, kj txiv mam Los them kj 2,000 nyiaj rau lwm tiam, kj txiv yeej ua tsis yog rau kj kiag li lawm os, kv yeej pab kj ntshav siab kawg li thiab, kj tus txiv Tau niam yau thiab tseem Tau kj 2,000 nyiaj thiab nws mas ntshe zoo siab heev li os
@@LeeLee-vh9zk You have to be strong! You are a man now! You are the one that calls the shots since your father has passed away. Stand your ground (I know its easy to say because it's your parents & your wife/life) But you cant let your parents (or mom still) belittle you like that at your age. You must have a strong wife who loves you lots that's why she's still w/ you. I hope she will stay by your side & stand up for you. That's true love. I wish the best for you.
@@LeeLee-vh9zk dont let your mom dictate your life for you. You married your wife so you guys can spend the rest of your life together. Your mom is not going to be with you forever, that why you choose a partner to be with. Dont let your mom get to you. Stay strong and be strong. My mom always tell me to find a partner/husband who will love me because she is not going to be with me forever. Even though she loves alot, she cannot be able to take care of me when I am old. So stay with your wife who can help take care of you in your old age and u the same to her. Good luck. I wish you the best.
Sister, you were in the middle of your parents & ex-hubby. You haven't done any wrong except wanting everyone to get along & love each other. But obviously your parent's & ex-hubby had their own plans at their own times. I'm glad you stood your ground and moved on. It's best for you & your kids.
Whoa. Your story hurt my heart so much. Your parents is wrong big time especially your dad, he drives me crazy just listening to your story, and your husband, O.m.g he makes me angry. I feel like you were a gamble by both side. I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. ❤️ It’s unfair.
I am so proud of you. You stand on your own two feet and fight for your own happiness and respect. When we as women can do this, men will not trample on us. We do not have to be patient after patient after patient. Men are not above us and does not have the right to do whatever they want because of their men head. God bless your marriage and continue to thrive despite of your family.
Of course, anyone can do whatever they want including the parents... but when you life goes south, don't blame on the parent like this woman does.... any parent wants the best for their kids and this woman defied that and go married someone they disapprove of, now her life is in a mess and she blamed the parent and become bitter.
For our generation, girls arent considered as family but outsiders. Parents specially the men care note about their reputation and face then the girls best interest. Fidelity is considered a norm and a mans right. I am glad that the few decades we spent here, the women's worth and happiness has improved quite well.
@@puayang2506 You are wrong, you need to go back and learned our culture carefully and more if that's what you think.... You know why the parents always give more attention to the boy and are happy when they have a boy? That's because back in the day, when the girl grow up and get married that means she must go and take care of the parent of her husband... But when the boy was born, his entire life was to dedicate and take care of the parents, when the parents get old... he has to give them foods, showered them, cleaned them and when the parents died.... He is the one who used his money to do the funeral, if in Laos it means cows and pigs but over here in U.S it's money and sometimes it's $100k or more.... No one never asked the daughter to chip in any money or responsibility but the boy.........people today always said whenever there's a party, it's always the girls who work hard by preparing foods but you ever notice how the pre-cook foods ever get there? it's the boys who go killed the cows, bring in the tents, set up all the heavy stuffs prior to the party.......I'm not saying there's no such bad parents in the Hmong community because there is but not this case...She always blamed her parent for being too strict, blaming her parents for not like her husband, blaming them for not let her divorcing her husband but she never blamed herself........She has the guts to rebelled against her parents when she was young and why can't she do it when she was adult? She said her parents cuts her off because she find happy life but what happy life? she went off and have an affair, that's not happy life...that's infidelity!!!! In our culture, infidelity is considered as the worst kind of crime second only to killing.....
Pua Yang you are fucking annoying.😂 ALL of your comments annoy me. You need to stop putting men on a pedestal. Men need women as much as women need men, if not then more.
@@ibobpebplaub9354in the old days that is what it was. They sold their daughters like lifestocks and expect nothing in return. In the us, the girls donas much for the parents as the boys. That traditional thinking is dying as women gain more rights and can think for themselves. If u like the culture so much move to laos where male is entitled and king. Oh wait, revolution there too. Newer generation of girls working and leaving this male dominated culture behind too....
it true what she say at the end of the day the one can kill you is your blood. What doesn’t kills us only make us stronger. I’m happy you let go and move on with your life with or without your parents and brothers 👏🏼👍🏼🙏🏼❤️
hmong old OG will never change, because they're stubborn and will never see they're at fault... it's sad,that these OG rather love others rather than love and support their daughter...people with this type of mentality will only be cured when they're buried 6' deep.. it's really hard to be a hmong women in the early 70-90's, because these old OG only cared about saving their face and reputation.... these old people will never learn and they think others will love and cared for them, but reality will bite their asses , because they will never cared for them.. i'm glad you found your courage and left that dysfunctional father of yours, let him learn a valuable lesson from his action casting you out and treat others better than you to comfort love him... our elders OG only realized these torment and banishment after others mistreated and abused them, that's when they'll realize what mistakes they made... you're a better person than me, because if i was you, i would laughed at your dad's face and let the door slammed in is face... this is the reason why hmong haven;t gained or become anything, because their old backward mentality thoughts are still being followed... we hmong will only better ourselves once these old elders died out and our younger generation rule our own lives.
Abuse of parental rights. Observe your situation-if all go well, stay with the people in your life..if not go well, let them go and find happiness for you and your children. Most Hmong parents do things in their best interest and not consider the affects of their doings to their children. Good luck!
1 tim koj txiv thaib koj niam cov lus hais 2 tim koj tus txiv yeej tsis hlub koj tiag 3 koj ua yog lawm .... rau saib ua koj lub neej kom zoo hlub koj tus txiv niam hnub no .. leeg twg ua zoo yeej tauv zoo xwb os
yup you do the right thing.. I do the same as you too. but I marry to Mexican guy now my life with my Mexican husband is way better then my ex hmong husband.. my husband right now he love me and he take care of me.. we been together like 8 years..im so happy with you
Nrog koj tus siab uas koj yug los tau rau ib leej phem niam txiv thiab tau ib leej selfishness idiot ex-husband that you have to experience from, but at the same time I am happy for you. You did the right thing I applaud you 👏👏👏for the courage you have and moved on. Good people will mostly meet another good person in their life. May god bless you and your family.
Why didn't you tell your father the truth?? The reason why your husband treated you like that was because of how much your parents hated him and he wanted to "pauj" qov nkwv txhub nws. You should have said it's their fault. Don't you have a mouth?? Speak up?! No wonder why women get treated so badly because these women allow it. You're still trying to protect your parents and husband instead of protecting and defending yourself.
Yog kawg os tus niam laus aw peb hmoob ces cov txiv neej ua dab tsi lo yeej tsi txhaum os ho cov ntxhais ces ua dab tsi lo txhaum tag li xwb peb hmoob txoj cai yeej tsi ncaj ncees
Dont be sorry sister, every parents want the best for their kids. Even if your parent aggree you with him, txiv neeg siab coob22 thiab siab phem...at middle age they stuff go fuck around with someone else. When you become parent youll understand your parents thoughts
Hmong parents are wicked. They think children owe their lives to the parents just because the parents chose to procreate and have children. As if we, as children knowingly begged them to have us. We had no choice; if we did we wouldn’t have chosen them to be our parents in the first place.
Txhob tu siab. Koj ua yog lawm. Bravo to you for being brave and able to move forward with your life and not listening or cave to your parents/relative restrictions. Your dad is very old mind.
Zoo siab koj mus tau lub neej zoo lawm. Dev npua tsis noj siab ntsws, ntuj tseem rub tes thiab - wishing you good luck and a lot of happiness! Life is short keep doing good things - You should only love those who love you! Don't waste your time caring for someone who have thrown you away...
Tus viv ncaus aw, peb cov ntxhais hmoob ces sawv daws raug tib txoj kev li koj ko os. Tiam twg peb tseem yog hmoob ces peb cov niam txiv hmoob yeej tsi hloov li os. Koj niam koj txiv, koj nus, koj cov txiv ntxawm lawv ua tsi yog lawm os. Peb tuaj txog lub teb chaw no thiab tiam no peb yuav tau hloov os mog. Yog li koj thiab kuv cov menyuam peb yuav tau hloov txhob ua li koj cov neej tsa ua rau koj lawm os mog. Kuv yeej nrog koj tu siab kawg nkaus li os. Qhov koj nrhiav dua tus tshiab yog ib qho zoo tshaj li lawm os mog.
Doesnt matter if it's blood, You stood up for what you believed in from the beginning and you made all the right choices. You deserve to be happy because even if it's blood, it's toxic. It is okay to leave toxic people behind and live your life. Im proud of you. Also I believe that many hmong women wish they took your route of life instead of suffering for others. People change and you cant change that. They might love you now, but they are not the same person they were 10 years ago and might not love you anymore. You cant control that. You were right from Day 1. Continue to fight for yourself and your life. ❤❤❤
Kuv cov neej tsa coj li koj cov thiab os, yug los ua ib tug Ntxhais hmoob ces tu tu siab li koj kawg Tab si kuv thov qhuas koj nawb!!!
Seriously! Your dad is viciously cold blooded to eventually alienated you as his own fleshing blood daughter. Sis, you did the right thing by moving forward strong and bold without turning back. Everyone deserves a happy life and marriage. This older generation of dads are always in the patriarchal world; degrading women in all perspectives. As Hmong women, we have to learn to fight for what’s right and wrong. We have to live our lives prosperously and righteously to our hearts. Uv tsis tau xyoo dhau xyoo.
I agree with you
Cov niag txiv neej hmoob coj li koj txiv twb tuag yuav tag rau tiam 21 no.
Tus viv ncaus aw koj hais tau zoo heev li os
This one should be titled, "Vim kuv txiv ruam!" Hahaha... all jokes aside, just live your life. Who cares what the hmong community thinks. IGNORE that hmong ego and you'll be much happier.
The OG parents never changed until someone tortured them. Glad you found your way out and have a good happy life.
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Kuv tuaj pab nia thiab caum koj lawm os koj pab kuv thiab os
Old traditions are messed up! Makes no sense to me! I'm glad you found someone who loves you, sister!
Your dad is wrong in so many level. I don't think I can love him. I'm glad you're a strong women. God blessed you.
Txhua yam koj ua yeej yog tas nrho tsis muaj qhov yuam kev lawm os me muam. Koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawd mas nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb.
Yog li koj hai kawg
Koj ua yog lawm o
So proud the woman you are. You stood for what was best for you but your dad did apologize and you’re just going to have to be the bigger person and find it in your heart to forgive your father & your family and move pass your past. You’re in a good place and you deserve it. ♥️
I have a very rebellious personality so anyone who treats me that way including my own family, I will disown. If I decide to divorce my man for any reason and my family doesn't want to back me up, fck them. I don't need them anyway. I'll divorce and live by myself. It's AMERICA. I'm not gonna die just bc I don't have my family to help.
Good, then at the end you will end up with no one beside you.... even the President of the U.S still need to listen to someone sometimes.
Niam laus aw cov neej tsa no g txob tos lawm txoj kev hlub os kv xav tia muaj kv thiaj tu siab xwb no
Forgiving our parents is a core task of adulthood, and one of the most crucial kinds of forgiveness. We see our parents in our mates, in our friends, in our bosses, even in our children. When we've felt rejected by a parent and have remained in that state, we will inevitably feel rejected by these important others as well.
But letting our parents off the hook, is the first step toward happiness, self-acceptance and maturity. ❤️
Mommy Pua Well said!
Like the saying goes, "blood is thicker than water" your dad probably thought he was going to side with your low life ex-husband to prove his loyalty but reality is it backfired. So proud of you to stand your ground. What's right is right what's wrong is wrong! Clear & simple!
You did the right thing!!!
Time to change for new norm to the Hmong for the new generation
tus niam hluas koj ua yog lawm
Koj ua yog lawm nawb
Ua ca mloog kj txoj no yuav siab ua luaj li o ca kj txiv yuav ua tau li ko rau koj o tu niam laus aw
I agree with all the comments already made. But I really want to praise the sister in this story for advocating for what is fair, right, and in what she believes. Hmong community is such a patriarchal society that is enabled by us women as well. We need to shift that mindset and not look at it by gender, but by what is the humane way to treat people. Until our Hmong elders and leaders can shift their mindset, we will always have this challenge. But many of us are making that change already, and it's no longer a matter of how, but when. Thank you.
Kasnib Lis Totally agree with you. As a whole, hmong people will never progress enough to actually acknowledge and respect individual human dignity. It’s up to us, as individuals, to change that for our own selves.
Koj ua yog lawm os me viv ncaus kuv twb muaj ib zaj neej neeg li koj thiab os
This must be back 1990 OG life style. They rather have divorced daughter to loose their face. Hmong OG alway live in the life of dream and hope.
Cas zaj neej neeg no hai raug peb cov nyob teb chaw nplog tiag tiag li os
I would not care about my parents anymore. They made you pay for another daughter and swap you out so either way, you are divorcing your parents in this way. I would not go visit them nor see his funeral. I would make my parents mentally suffer for not having my back so they can bring it to God and learn from it.
I completely agree with you!
You said God but yet you are a bitter person, SAD!!!
@@ibobpebplaub9354 if ur parents did that to you and you dont even feel a little bitter towards them, than you are a better person than all who thinks like me. Good for you and stay blessed
I was arguing with my mom the same situations you have. You don’t need these idiots people, you made a good choices.
Hope his new daughter love him.
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Kj ua yog lawm
You can't blame your ex husband for what he did. It all started with your parents not accepting him in the first place. Your relationship got rocky when your ex heard your parents telling you to divorce him just because they didn't like him. Maybe if you told him from the beginning instead of him finding out for himself, maybe things would have turned out differently. Put yourself in your ex shoes and see how you would feel if you heard his parent's tell him to divorce you just because they didn't like you. Well, at least both of you found happiness in the end but your parent's were at fault from the getgo and maybe your dad was trying to make it up but it was too late
Niam lau aw cas koj nim zoo li kv thiab os cas luag thiaj muaj cai xwb muab xav ces tus siab kawg li txawm li cas los peb ib tsoov viv ncau nco ntsoov tia yus hlub yus tus kheej nawj mog
Peb cov txiv neej hmoob tsis sawm zoo os.
Muaj ib txhia cov laus yeej coj cwj pwm thiab lub siab qub qub tsis txo fwj chim thiab hloov raws ntiaj teb tiam no thiaj poob qab. Zoo siab tias koj txoj kev txiav txim siab yog thiab zoo rau koj lub neej lawm mog
Ruam Shit zaj dab neeg no mas cas yuav meem txom ua luaj li
Wow what's a crazy father ever tus me niam tsev aw koj lub neej mas thiaj txawj txom nyem siab tshaj li os nrog koj zoo siab tau 1 lub neej zoo lawm hos koj txiv koj cov nus lub hlwb tseem nyob lub year 75th g tau hloov li
Some Hmong families are mess up like this. But I don't understand though, if you are not financially dependent on your family's support, why do you want a to get permission for divorce from your father and relatives? It should be decided just between your partner and you. I think this story is old because time have changed a lot. Divorces are more acceptable now days.
New gen is changing we ain’t living like in 1975 anymore, the old is dying we just have to change for the better teach our kids better than our parents taught us.
My kids are grown now but they know absolutely NOTHING about the shtty Hmong systems. I only teach them what I think and feel is morally right and to live a righteous life. The old, ancient draconian Hmong laws don't work here in the USA. They understand some Hmong words but they don't know how to speak it and that's fine with me. I'd be ok if they throw the bad stuff about Hmong laws away and keep the good ones but we all know ppl are evil. There's going to be corruption, ppl will bend the rules to suit their needs. I'd rather not be a part of a culture that can only do evil against their own people.
@@bchang227 The saddest person on earth is not the poor, the disability, or the even the rich but those who look down on themselves and their own kind....That's you!!! SAD:(
@@ibobpebplaub9354 I'm quite happy thank you very much. If I could, I would find a deserted island somewhere far away and live there. At least then I'll be far away from you. LMAO. Like I said above, take your bullsht and shove it up your arse. 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕
@@ibobpebplaub9354 It's ppl like you that I look down upon. It's ppl like you who thinks and forces a woman to go back to a cheating, abusive idiot that I look down upon. I don't give 2 shts about the ancient draconian Hmong laws that treats women like they're nothing but a man's property. This is why I hate y'all. Do you not know how to read properly? I am one rebellious bitch. No one can control me. I'm the black sheep in my family and I don't give a sht about it either. I'm quite happy with myself. Maybe you're sad bc no one likes you. LMAO. As for me, it makes me happy to see idiots like you in pain. It makes me happy to know that idiots like you hate me. I enjoy it. ROTFLMAO!!!
@@bchang227 No wonder your kids disrespect your own people because of parent like you.... I don't even know you and yet you want to live far away from me LOL.... you hate Hmong but yet listening to Hmong story and eat Hmong foods and the Hmong communities...... You are just one bitter person, the way you talk and act... I bet you won't fit in with any other races as well...
Lub ntsej muag yog ntsej laib ces lub yeej yog laib 100%
Ouu girl, i even got mad while listening to this story.
Koj txiv tseem nyob rau 75 os kuv xav mas koj ua yog lawm os nrhiav dua zoo tshaj lawm os 👍👍👍
Txhob tu siab os. Yog koj txiv tsis hais kom koj muab $2,000.00 yuav tus poj niam tshiab rau koj tus qub txiv ces koj twb tsis muaj hnub no. Ua tsaug rau ntau yam lawv ua rau koj es koj thiaj li muaj hnub no. Yog yuav muab hais los, peb cov Hmoob feem coob yeej saib ntxhais tsis rau nqi tiam sis ntawv Yog lawv txoj kev xav vim lawv tsis muaj kev kawm thiab lawv ua txhua yam kom tau ntsej muag xwb. Zoo siab rau yam uas koj muaj hnub no.
pojniam thiab txiv neej muaj cai tibyam
Yes you do the right thing
Follow your heart and do what is right for u.
You’re a strong woman !!!
Koj ua yog lawm nawb tsis txhob xav ntau2 tsis txhaum kiag li nawb
Hmoob yeej muaj qhov niag zoo li ko. I’m in my 40’s. I have not seen that. Only your dad n uncle r wayyy over the limit. Glad u got out n have a happy life now.
😭😭😭😭😭 tu siab heev
koj ua yog lawm os sister aw
Cov txiv neej hmoob og li koj txiv Ko xav tias poob tag rau nplog teb lawm no tseem tsuav thiab los. Koj ua yog kawg li lawm os me niam hluas. Good job!!
Koj txiv nws twb pom nws txoj kes txhaum lawm koj yuav tau ua siab ntev rov mus hlub nws yog muaj nws thia muaj koj , peb cov Hmoob lub siab tseem coj qub qub lis koj niam thiab koj txiv ntawm.
Koj ua yog lawm , kuv tuaj koj tog nawb tus muam.
Kj txiv lub tswv yim Ruam tshaj li, kj txiv mam Los them kj 2,000 nyiaj rau lwm tiam, kj txiv yeej ua tsis yog rau kj kiag li lawm os, kv yeej pab kj ntshav siab kawg li thiab, kj tus txiv Tau niam yau thiab tseem Tau kj 2,000 nyiaj thiab nws mas ntshe zoo siab heev li os
I can’t understand the people that stays with their family and relatives when they are mistreated you guys have rocks in yo head they don’t feed u
Kuv yog kuv niam thiab kuv txiv ib tug tub hlob kuv raug kuv niam yog kuv txiv khoo ib yam koj us muam thiab kuv cia kuv txiv tuag lawm kuv mam yuav poj niam kuv niam tseem nyob kuv yuav tau poj niam kuv niam kom nrauj kuv tsis kam nrauj mas lawv ntxub kuv heev li os
Koj txiv ua phem rhau lawm txhob cia siab rau lawm mog
@@LeeLee-vh9zk You have to be strong! You are a man now! You are the one that calls the shots since your father has passed away. Stand your ground (I know its easy to say because it's your parents & your wife/life) But you cant let your parents (or mom still) belittle you like that at your age. You must have a strong wife who loves you lots that's why she's still w/ you. I hope she will stay by your side & stand up for you. That's true love. I wish the best for you.
@@LeeLee-vh9zk dont let your mom dictate your life for you. You married your wife so you guys can spend the rest of your life together. Your mom is not going to be with you forever, that why you choose a partner to be with. Dont let your mom get to you. Stay strong and be strong. My mom always tell me to find a partner/husband who will love me because she is not going to be with me forever. Even though she loves alot, she cannot be able to take care of me when I am old. So stay with your wife who can help take care of you in your old age and u the same to her. Good luck. I wish you the best.
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Sister, you were in the middle of your parents & ex-hubby. You haven't done any wrong except wanting everyone to get along & love each other. But obviously your parent's & ex-hubby had their own plans at their own times. I'm glad you stood your ground and moved on. It's best for you & your kids.
Omg I'm so sorry, I can't believe your own dad can do something like that to you.
Whoa. Your story hurt my heart so much. Your parents is wrong big time especially your dad, he drives me crazy just listening to your story, and your husband, O.m.g he makes me angry. I feel like you were a gamble by both side. I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. ❤️ It’s unfair.
I am so proud of you. You stand on your own two feet and fight for your own happiness and respect. When we as women can do this, men will not trample on us. We do not have to be patient after patient after patient. Men are not above us and does not have the right to do whatever they want because of their men head. God bless your marriage and continue to thrive despite of your family.
Of course, anyone can do whatever they want including the parents... but when you life goes south, don't blame on the parent like this woman does.... any parent wants the best for their kids and this woman defied that and go married someone they disapprove of, now her life is in a mess and she blamed the parent and become bitter.
For our generation, girls arent considered as family but outsiders. Parents specially the men care note about their reputation and face then the girls best interest. Fidelity is considered a norm and a mans right. I am glad that the few decades we spent here, the women's worth and happiness has improved quite well.
@@puayang2506 You are wrong, you need to go back and learned our culture carefully and more if that's what you think.... You know why the parents always give more attention to the boy and are happy when they have a boy? That's because back in the day, when the girl grow up and get married that means she must go and take care of the parent of her husband... But when the boy was born, his entire life was to dedicate and take care of the parents, when the parents get old... he has to give them foods, showered them, cleaned them and when the parents died.... He is the one who used his money to do the funeral, if in Laos it means cows and pigs but over here in U.S it's money and sometimes it's $100k or more.... No one never asked the daughter to chip in any money or responsibility but the boy.........people today always said whenever there's a party, it's always the girls who work hard by preparing foods but you ever notice how the pre-cook foods ever get there? it's the boys who go killed the cows, bring in the tents, set up all the heavy stuffs prior to the party.......I'm not saying there's no such bad parents in the Hmong community because there is but not this case...She always blamed her parent for being too strict, blaming her parents for not like her husband, blaming them for not let her divorcing her husband but she never blamed herself........She has the guts to rebelled against her parents when she was young and why can't she do it when she was adult? She said her parents cuts her off because she find happy life but what happy life? she went off and have an affair, that's not happy life...that's infidelity!!!! In our culture, infidelity is considered as the worst kind of crime second only to killing.....
Pua Yang you are fucking annoying.😂 ALL of your comments annoy me. You need to stop putting men on a pedestal. Men need women as much as women need men, if not then more.
@@ibobpebplaub9354in the old days that is what it was. They sold their daughters like lifestocks and expect nothing in return. In the us, the girls donas much for the parents as the boys. That traditional thinking is dying as women gain more rights and can think for themselves. If u like the culture so much move to laos where male is entitled and king. Oh wait, revolution there too. Newer generation of girls working and leaving this male dominated culture behind too....
tus me vivcaus koj ua tau thiab ua yog lawm paub tus siab li koj thiaj ua tau ib siab nawb.
it true what she say at the end of the day the one can kill you is your blood. What doesn’t kills us only make us stronger. I’m happy you let go and move on with your life with or without your parents and brothers 👏🏼👍🏼🙏🏼❤️
Tim cov neej tsav saib tsis taus cov ntxhais saib tsis khuab qhov muag es cov txiv thiaj yuav 2 niam yau . Tsev mhoob twg ua poj niam thiab txiv neej tsis muaj Vaj huam sib luag ces tsis vam meej.
Ur dad is f up...he wont let other peeps daughter divorce their husband but he will make u divorce urs.
Koj xaiv txoj hauv kev uas kaj siab xwb tsis muab leej twg yuav thev taus leej twg li os
Koj niam koj txiv tuag. Lawv tsi quaj. Li koj quaj. Txhob tu siab. Muaj ib nub nkawv yuav paub meej.
hmong old OG will never change, because they're stubborn and will never see they're at fault... it's sad,that these OG rather love others rather than love and support their daughter...people with this type of mentality will only be cured when they're buried 6' deep..
it's really hard to be a hmong women in the early 70-90's, because these old OG only cared about saving their face and reputation.... these old people will never learn and they think others will love and cared for them, but reality will bite their asses , because they will never cared for them..
i'm glad you found your courage and left that dysfunctional father of yours, let him learn a valuable lesson from his action casting you out and treat others better than you to comfort love him... our elders OG only realized these torment and banishment after others mistreated and abused them, that's when they'll realize what mistakes they made... you're a better person than me, because if i was you, i would laughed at your dad's face and let the door slammed in is face... this is the reason why hmong haven;t gained or become anything, because their old backward mentality thoughts are still being followed... we hmong will only better ourselves once these old elders died out and our younger generation rule our own lives.
Abuse of parental rights. Observe your situation-if all go well, stay with the people in your life..if not go well, let them go and find happiness for you and your children.
Most Hmong parents do things in their best interest and not consider the affects of their doings to their children. Good luck!
Her story sounds like much of it
She lies & exaggerates
I don’t believe most of her story 😏
Ua neeg nyob tsis hais cov laus cov hluas... yog tsis muaj kev ntseeg ruaj khov los kav koj lub siab lub cev... nrog rau kev kawm thiab yuav tsum muaj txoj kev dawb huv siab zoo mas thiaj li tsis ntsib txoj kev puas tsuaj nawb mog....Ua Tsaug
Tus me muam koj txiv , koj cov mus thiab koj cov txiv ntxawm ntawv noj quav hlob xwb koj tsi txhob tu siab mog
Tos peb cov txiv tsis hlub peb los yus niam yus txiv lawv twb tsis hlub yus ne
1 tim koj txiv thaib koj niam cov lus hais
2 tim koj tus txiv yeej tsis hlub koj tiag
3 koj ua yog lawm .... rau saib ua koj lub neej kom zoo hlub koj tus txiv niam hnub no .. leeg twg ua zoo yeej tauv zoo xwb os
yup you do the right thing.. I do the same as you too. but I marry to Mexican guy now my life with my Mexican husband is way better then my ex hmong husband.. my husband right now he love me and he take care of me.. we been together like 8 years..im so happy with you
You do right and good job
Tu siab yug los ua hmoob ib tug ntxhais. Thaum twg mam lis tsis zoo lis no lawm?
Me yawm txiv koj tus qub vauv mas yuav zoo siab
Ntau hauv siab zoo siab kawg koj ua rau koj tus ntxhais quaj ntsuag tus siab
1000 leej muaj 1 tug lub neej zoo li no , vim ib leeg niam leej txiv twg koj yog lawv yug lawv yeej hlub yus tshaj ,thaum xub thawj lawv yeej pom tias tus txiv no yuav tsis hlub koj txog hnub kawg lawv thiaj kom nrauj ,es koj twb tsis nrauj ,yog li koj yuav tau xav zoo zoo txhob tu siab rau yus niam yus txiv nawb mog. Muaj coob leej niam thiab txiv tsis pub sib nrauj thaum kawg lub neej rov zoo lawm es ua zoo xav mog
Yus ua tsis tau niam xwb
kj yeej liam g mloog nyiam txiv hai ce nyuam qhuav txim xb o kj na
Tej niag laus siab phem tej niag leej txiv yeej coj tsis zoo yeej phem thiaj tsis hlub tej ntxhais xwb luag cov coj zoo luag yeej saib raws txoj cai nawb mog cov viv ncaus aw
Nrog koj tus siab uas koj yug los tau rau ib leej phem niam txiv thiab tau ib leej selfishness idiot ex-husband that you have to experience from, but at the same time I am happy for you. You did the right thing I applaud you 👏👏👏for the courage you have and moved on. Good people will mostly meet another good person in their life. May god bless you and your family.
😭😭yog kawg o yus cov neej tsa tsi hlub ma tu siab tshaj li tiag
Why didn't you tell your father the truth?? The reason why your husband treated you like that was because of how much your parents hated him and he wanted to "pauj" qov nkwv txhub nws. You should have said it's their fault. Don't you have a mouth?? Speak up?! No wonder why women get treated so badly because these women allow it. You're still trying to protect your parents and husband instead of protecting and defending yourself.
Its not your fault sister. Its your parents fault at the beginning😡😡. Happy you are better life now🤗
Yog kawg os tus niam laus aw peb hmoob ces cov txiv neej ua dab tsi lo yeej tsi txhaum os ho cov ntxhais ces ua dab tsi lo txhaum tag li xwb peb hmoob txoj cai yeej tsi ncaj ncees
Dont be sorry sister, every parents want the best for their kids. Even if your parent aggree you with him, txiv neeg siab coob22 thiab siab phem...at middle age they stuff go fuck around with someone else. When you become parent youll understand your parents thoughts
Koj txiv yog 1 leej txiv tsis muaj siab ntsws ruam kawg nkaus tab tom rau luag zoo siab xwb os mog
Hmong parents are wicked. They think children owe their lives to the parents just because the parents chose to procreate and have children. As if we, as children knowingly begged them to have us. We had no choice; if we did we wouldn’t have chosen them to be our parents in the first place.
U should had use the 2k to send ur husb back to his family
Madia yang Good idea
Madia yang exactly!
Poj niam/txiv neej muaj vaj huam sib luag. Tus niam tsev, kuv txhawb koj.
Txhob tu siab. Koj ua yog lawm. Bravo to you for being brave and able to move forward with your life and not listening or cave to your parents/relative restrictions.
Your dad is very old mind.
Koj niam thiab kj txiv tsis hlub kj tsis txim nyog kj hlub nkawv lawm
Kj hai kv txj thb o lo
Sister lub neej ko raug khoom li ko meem txom heev li
You do what u feel is right...your parents tsis kav koj laus
Zoo siab koj mus tau lub neej zoo lawm. Dev npua tsis noj siab ntsws, ntuj tseem rub tes thiab - wishing you good luck and a lot of happiness! Life is short keep doing good things - You should only love those who love you! Don't waste your time caring for someone who have thrown you away...