Omg we could be twins and then some.....😳 now I super like you and at my age I would be friends with you in real 3D life if that makes sense. I am in Canada and I’ll be dead before I get anywhere on a waiting list close to being tested where I live specifically. But you have made me understand so much. Plus, both my sons have ASD. Tourette’s in my youngest and they both asre diagnosed AdHD and I was diagnosed at age 4 with ADHD . I’m vibrating with info and confusion(NOT ANYTHING YOU DID WRONG STEPHANIE)💜 I’m just frustrated , for me. And for my boys. My girls don’t have these issues, other than depression and anxiety. My youngest daughter took her life 2.75 yrs ago. @ age 19. ♥️ you’re awesome Stephanie. I really adore you and everything I’ve learned from you, even though 1/2 my kids are older than yours and I think I have at least a decade on you lol(sorry I have a hard time remembering birthdates and ages.(ALL NUMBERS IN GENERAL. Oh Lord, the psoriasis things, gluten, lactose, skin picking, stiming(ironically THERES a certain stim that I found my own Mum used to do before she passed, that I found my eldest son does and I do too!! And I never put it all together until 2 yrs ago) Ok nuff said for now. Much love&prayers girl! 💜⭐️🙏 I’m so blessed for finding your channel a couple years ago. You may have no idea how much you’ve done for me through the videos and info you show and speak out on. Oh My Word!; The Executive functioning! 😫 I’m the most disorganized , confused person I know other than my sons, which I have a feeling you understand how there can be things we do and don’t do that cause hardships in our marriages (or is it just me????). ok done. I need to hush. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Thank you darlin.💜 P.s. I really pray you could possibly reply and let me know if I’m just over-reacting?!?! I’m sick in my heart that I’ve been labeled (wrong in my very intelligent hubby) severely mentally ill to the point of being abused y a handful of “professionals” in the psychiatric community in my city. Oh yeah, I’ve never held a job for more than 6-9 months, sometimes as short as 3 days. Feels awful and causes me depression you bet it does.💔 Omg you mentioned the foot rub and hand rubbing!!!!!! Ok overstimulated, self allowed as I was a bit apprehensive to watch but glad I did. Maybe I should (after covid is eradicated, fly down to Colorado and get an assessment, cuz like I said, where I live, I’m never going to be taken seriously. And things have become so bad over the past couple yrs and a bit that I just don’t want to exist it causes me so much upset. Ok now I’m done. I hope if anyone reads this they don’t take it in a terrible way. Again Steph~you ARE SO COURAGEOUS!!!!!!!💜⭐️💜 And a FABULOUS Feircely Loving and Caring Mum to your kids! They’re all BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN THEIR LIVES! God has his plan together and it’s so clear to see from this side looking in! 💜 I hope the rest of your weekend is as wonderful as it can possibly be!!💜
I tried the link and it said the page is in another castle! 😳 I’m so dumb with these things! It’s so hard. It’s been a truly awful and stressful week and I feel I’m over-reacting and like should just go to bed. I’ll hopefully get help someday to be able to do these extra things. But for now, I hope it was a good session and if it isn’t time yet, I hope it is a good session when it starts! 💜
OMG I'm 79 and made me realize I'm autistic, I thought because I;m super smart I can't be autistic. There are a few things I don't have as a problem. You are describing me to a tea. My brother called what I do is put on my party face. Dang you are me and I am you. Thank You for being me
I am a Margaret who is turning 74 and I now see how many traits of autism I have. At 66 I was put on Ritalin. I also am super smart but could never advance much in my career.
Regarding hygiene, I get it. One thing I have just recently done is gotten myself to the point where I will brush my teeth every single night by watching a TH-cam video at the same time.
I just got diagnosed a few months ago and related to so much of this!!! The swinging, being bad at hair and makeup, special interests about movies and TV shows, interrupting people and not knowing what to say during conversations, backing out of social interactions and not making eye contact. Thanks so much for sharing all of this, I'm glad more women like us are getting diagnosed and understanding ourselves better. It's tough to walk that line of doing what's socially acceptable and doing what's best for you. Sending you love on this journey!
I’m 33 and just got diagnosed. I’ve been suspicious that I’ve had ASD for at least a decade but couldn’t afford or find services. My mom under reported too.. except in the cooperative play section.. I had to translate for her and when it came to that she said “oh no.. you were always off playing by yourself. You were rarely in a group.” She also endorsed need for extreme routine ( for example if I liked something, I ate only it for months). When I got diagnosed, it was like a weight was lifted. I understand my life so much better and have more peace.
Thank you for your honesty! I already have an ADHD diagnosis, sort of(?), but am pretty sure that I am on the spectrum as well. The thing, I think, that is stopping me is that I once mentioned it to a counselor, 7-9 years ago, I was seeing and they told me "I wouldn't be surprised if you did have it but you have learned coping strategies so I can't diagnosis you." I was so confused because even if you do have autism and have coping strategies in place, you still have autism. It is still a part of you.
Thank you for saying that! As a child I had therapy because I was born with mental retardation and a lot of other issues so my awesome mom took me to therapy i don't think they diagnose me with autism but I did learn some social things and i learn how to " copy and paste" behaviours so I still have the issues I am just good at hiding them.
I am 35 and on the Autism Spectrum and so much of what you say sounds exactly like me 😅 it is nice to hear someone else that I can relate to and makes me feel less alone. Thank you for spreading awareness.
I’m going through this eureka moment right now, I’m 30 & I am starting to see that I’m more than likely on the spectrum. Thank you for posting this video, it’s been really helpful on my quest for answers.
Dear Stephanie-I just want to say a Big Thank You 😊 Your honesty and vulnerability during this video took an awful lot of courage and I am sorry - NOT for the fact you’re autistic BUT for all the hard situations you’ve found yourself in and all the lessons you have had to and still are learning - I cannot begin to imagine how exhausting life has been and can be at times. I am so glad you are now able to realise the beauty of a true friendship and the give and take it will teach you along the way - the beauty of this friendship with Emily however is one that will benefit not just you but also Emily ,Will ,Lonny not to mention all the wonderful lessons the children will and are already learning (safely)- I am so happy and excited for you all - Thank you so so much once again for this very insightful video it’s very much appreciated- love from Southampton England xxx
Wow this is making me remember a lot of things from my childhood that I forgot/pushed out of my awareness. Omg I remember the being mean to someone thing bc I thought that was what I was supposed to do, but I cannot remember what it was 😭 I just remember feeling so bad.
So I am obsessed with research.. Whether it be useful information or sometimes I'll stumble across like a random internet article ans it leads me downa rabbit hole of studying seemingly random subjects for hours on end. Bring diagnosed with ADHD, having my oldest daughter diagnosed with ADHD, and researching those and then observing your journey to being diagnosed and me connecting my own symptoms to yours made me really start researching autism and it really seems to fit. I talked to my psych who thinks it's likely and I should seek a specialist (which I'm having trouble with) but I have also take a few online quizzes (not like Buzzfeed-type nonsense but actual autism sites that offer a quiz to see if you should seek further evaluation) and I always hit almost every single mark. And as I mentioned to you before, I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until 6ish years ago... at age 29... because I wasnt hyperactive and I was in Gifted programs, so when my focus issues got bad and my grades went down, my grandparents scolded me and called me lazy. My teachers called me a "daydreamer". But my teat scores were very high. For several years I used to write (sometimes on paper, moatly in my head) these fictional stories surrounding myself and other characters and I'd gonplacws and in my head, I'd create storyline around it all. It's so silly but it felt so normal to me and I still find myself making up these stories in my head to slow my racing thoughts, calm myself, etc. And now watching this video, I'm legitimately shocked at how many things I have in common with you. Some are even a little more extreme than your examples to the point where I won't talk about them out loud. I still feel shame. And I thought I maybe I was like seriously mentally "off" but it never led to harmful behavior or like ethical issues (if that makes sense... like I have a pretty logical moral compass) so I have pushed it aside but I'm now remembering so many things. I pretty much knew in my soul I was on the Spectrum, but this took it to a new level for me. So many years of countless "issues" and my grandmother putting me down so sleep issues, being different, and juat feeling like an alien and now I feel like I met another person from my home planet HAHA 😄. I knew I related tonyou a lot but it just a hit another level. I'm sorry if I sound a bit kooky... I'm not trying to be creepy here, I'm just having realizations about myself and every time that happens, I feel like I grow and I accept more of myself. It also kind of makes me sad cuz I yearn for someone who really understands these parts of me and I struggle with friendships. I always had tons of acquaintances, but I fond it hard to connect on a deepr level and know how to react to people and I go through periods of withdrawal and people think I'm a bad friend because of it. My head is just a crazy place haha. I hadnone best friend for over a decade and I now realize part if what drove us a part was my neurodivergence and I still cry over it cuz I miss her and we had so many good times. And ai try to get along with other females and it just never works for various reasons. I want someone to share my love of makeup, photography, music, etc with. I miss talking for hours about all kinds of random stuff with her. I dunno if I'll ever have another friend like that. Honestly. But at least I'm learning more about me and I truly can't thank you enough for how much you and channel has taught me about myself, Stephanie. Love and light ✨️ 💜🌒🌕🌘💜
I enjoyed your video! I'm a 57 y.o.adult female who is diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, depression, ADD, and ptsd. I've always wondered if I'm on the spectrum. I do get social cues, but I can relate to a lot of what you said! I didn't understand friendships, and was very content to be alone as a child, and still am a lot of the time. I was always more comfortable around adults. I am creative, and slways created my own worlds. I'm sensitive to light and sound. I wasn't very aware socially until I was a teen. I have OCD traits as well. I loved Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and similar shows that others my age weren't watching! So many things. I have some executive functioning issues, as well as emotional dysregulation. I do care too much what others think, even as I try not to! My mom always told me to stop making faces as a child, and I didn't get it at the time! I apparently made faces if I didn't like something, or someone! I got better, but still probably do it at times! Paperwork organization is overwhelming to me, and organization in general, although I have mt moments! I hope to get tested, just so that I know! 😊
This sounds like my experience in life. I just spend my time alone not to interfere with others. I help others out and enjoying seeing their success. While I am successful I just think it is a way of life. I am undiagnosed. These videos are helping me realize the reason all my life people never wanted to talk to me. As a kid, when I would get angry at something someone said I would just go in a corner and cry. If I could not find a corner or thought I found a corner there was always a group of people / classmates to come and ask what was wrong. This just got me more frustrated and angry. I would say I am fine, just leave me alone. Then I would calm myself down and go for a walk around the field and sit processing the reasons the comment was said. I always analyze myself, others, and reactions. Sometimes like you said, my tone people cannot figure out and it sounds rude to others which is not the intention. So to keep sane, or just keep the peace I rather do things myself rather than bother people. Just a little about my experience. I work with a lot of children, youth and adults with needs. I can walk into a room and I know what is going on and if other supports or teachers really like to see the children, youth and adults move forward. It bothers me to see other adult support workers doing things for a child, youth or adult that the person is capable of doing for themselves with just the correct word usage the person can do it. There is so many people that would rather do things for people than teach a person an accommodation to do things for themselves. To me teaching others is the ability to help those do things or communicate needs for themselves. People that just do things for others without helping the person to try first bothers me.
12:57 I literally gasped out loud 😂 you're the best, Stephanie, thank you so much for sharing this with everyone. My son was diagnosed with ASD in December and my other son is currently undergoing evaluations. I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me. 💜
The swinging makes a lot of sense! They say swinging in one of the best ways to get vestibular input. And 15 minutes of vestibular input can regulate you for up to 8 hours.
My husband and I are looking at places to rent and there's a place with a swing set in a large backyard - fur children only, want a yard for them to play in. He looked at me and said "if we get this place, I'll come home to you outside... on the swing... going "weeeee"." (It was said without judgment too. Which is beautiful.) Now, thinking about it more, I swung a lot as a kid/teenager and was ticked when the schools I went to didn't have swings. (Lived in one city with swings at almost every school but went to school in another city, mom taught there, that took out all their swings due to injuries and lawsuits.) Someone also mentioned on here having an imaginary friend and I did... well past an acceptable age. Her name was Cookie, she looked like me but had an insane desire to eat cookies. SO many things resonate with me and I know it's why I'm good with helping others on the spectrum and others with disabilities. I understand and relate it to help them. I want a swing inside my house. And a slide.....
No wonder why i loveee lovee swings. Even got stuck in a baby one as i was growing up because i thought it was still acceptable for me to swing in that one.. my favorite memory is at school with this circular swings like tired swings but not tires and you could spin super fast, you could go around in BIG circles while spinning.
I'm 35 and still fighting for an assessment. This is like a story of my life in many aspects including being diagnosed with ADHD and the medication making me a zombie and I didn't have any friends until high school at 14. I wasn't delayed with speech, I started talking at 2 years old and according to my family I have never shut up since. My main special interests are animals, human phycology and child development. My executive function is close to non existent, I'm diabetic and I need to be reminded to eat and inject my insulin. Cleaning and laundry and hygiene are extreme struggles for me, my place is always a mess.
Thank you for being so real and honest and aid in getting the word out there for Nuero diverse people, teaching others “weird” and unique is beautiful too.
1:55 THANK YOU ❤❤❤ Thank you so much for filming this video, it's highly relatable for me. I live in Illinois and insurance doesn't cover autism evaluation for adults here, but after my psych team worked with me for a couple of years they've confirmed that I meet all the criteria for diagnosis. I just haven't had the testing, so I don't qualify for any type of support services or disability benefits or things that could potentially help me. I've really been struggling the past few years. My mom used to help me with everything and she died almost 4 years ago now, and I don't have any other family so I'm completely on my own. I really wish I knew you in real life, most people don't understand me very well.
It's so amazing that you have the courage to share these traits about yourself. It's so helpful to see someone who is so personable explain this to me, I can't stand the clinical definitions of traits, so thanks for all this great info! : )
I can relate to so much of this. One thing I've realized is that when one of my friends is having a hard time and shares about it with me, I tend to really empathize to the point where I will get depressed on their behalf. Because of this I really have to limit my number of close friends because otherwise I'd always be dealing with the emotions of other people constantly. I think I'm a very good, loyal friend but I can't handle too many relationships at one time.
I’m 24, and I have just realized recently that I’m fairly certain that I’m autistic. Going to start the process of being evaluated soon. Thank you for this!! ♥️
OMG, I totally relate with the tactless questions and inviting myself over. Social cues are beyond me-completely. My psychiatrist thinks I’m on the Spectrum. I’m pursuing a diagnosis this year.
Thank you so much for this video. I have a similar story. I am 31 years old and am getting diagnosed very soon after my daughter was diagnosed this year. Thank you for making me feel not alone.
Thank you for sharing. Your story has given me the confidence to try and get a diagnosis. I'm 33 and have always been 'different'. However, I doubt my parents would help out with this.
In an act of solidarity, I’m here to admit that I wet the bed until I was 10 or 11 and it happened frequently enough that my parents had to throw out my mattress and buy me a new one.... cute lol
You are not alone. ;) My son wet his bed every single night until he was 13. He slept with his comforter between his legs, so I had to wash that every. single. day. We had to buy a new washing machine because washing a comforter everyday has a tendency to throw off the balance and destroy the washer. That being said, we supported him as much as we could and he grew out of it, just as our pediatrician promised he would. He was approaching the upper limit of "normal" though.
Thanks so much for sharing this Stefanie! There are so many things you mentioned that I identify with. Not everything, but an awful lot. Reading the room and seeing how everyone else is acting is one of them, as is not knowing how friendships work. I've been accused of "coming in hot and heavy". Basically, if someone was nice to me I just assumed they wanted to be besties. I've lost a TON of friendships/acquaintances over that. To the point that I really don't try anymore.
You just brought me back to third grade when I would lie to my mom so I could go to the library and read books on ocelots. I told her it was an extra credit paper on my favorite animal.
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I work with children with autism I’m a pediatric OT and I love learning more from adults diagnosed because you can truly explain it from your side. I love working with this population - some things that I always wonder about are some of the visual perceptual differences like you said you struggle to see something with a busy background And it’s actually a struggle for eye contact like a physical struggle - it helps me explain better to parents because once the parent understands better I feel it truly helps them feel closer to their child which of course we always want ❤️
I had to stop myself from watching this a third time. This is so specific to what I experience and what I experienced growing up. It's going to be a while until I can get evaluated but you sharing your experience has brought me a peace I can carry until then. Seriously, you are so awesome for sharing.
Hello, I have been silently been following you for about 3 years. I always hit the like button but I never know what to say. First I would like to say my boys and I really love your channel. 2nd I got diagnosed last year I'm 34 now. I am still learning but this video is awesome, and it really helps. Thanks you for being so brave and transparent.
"I would basically script movies and shows after I watched it. To the outside it might look like I'm just pretend playing, but it wasn't. I was literally doing what I'd seen on movies or shows." This is how my 4yo plays. Either she's acting out or scripting what she saw or she's demanding that we act it out for her (even when we haven't watched what she watched).
Thank you for sharing! My son is getting an assessment done today by a developmental pediatrician. It’s brought me a lot of anxiety, not knowing how he will be tested or what to expect in general. Thanks again for putting this out there!
you look so stunning in this video stephanie! thank you for sharing your traits with us and for taking your viewers along with you on your journey❤️it's so very educational and you and your family are so lovely. i love seeing the kiddos as well as your sit down videos! much love!
First off thank you. I have been a special needs mostly autistic in all different types teacher. Each year I look for newer updates on what to look for. I appreciate the fact that as an adult you are recounting all of this. It is really helping me with my students. I also had autistic traits as a child all the way up till my twenties and was diagnosed as autistic when in reality I have another disability that mimics autism. Thank you for helping Will and Stephanie so much
@@selenaaskinazi5466 I won't disclose about the students but as for myself. Dandy Walker Syndrome, Hydrocephalus, malformation of bones joints and organs including seizures
Oh. My. Goodness!! I am incredibly grateful I discovered your channel. Woah! You summed up my life from A-Z. I don't feel so alone. Honestly. I feel like I am completely losing my mind. Getting evaluated the 18th of March. I 100% believe I am autistic. I am in such emotional distress currently. It's insane. Feel like I am falling apart and being told that I am choosing this (which I am obviously not). Also been misdiagnosed with Bipolar Type II. I am really looking forward to your next video explaining your situation.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I have the issue where If I keep things tidy as I go, I’m fine….but if it gets too cluttered I can’t deal and I can’t clean it until I get into a cleaning mood (usually in the middle of the night). So I’ll literally NOT USE a room for a while because I can’t deal with the level of clutter AND I can’t deal with cleaning it.
Wow! Stephanie, you are amazing! I applaud you for being so vulnerable! It was very interesting to me to get the perspective of someone who is on the autism spectrum. Thank you for sharing! Don't feel the need to share everything though! Whatever you feel comfortable sharing is completely fine.
I don't do it anymore, but when I found out that my dad told my boarding school counselor/therapist that I wet the bed I DIED. I hate turtle necks and I also found it hard to tell when people were my actual friends and when they were not. Thank you for this video ❤️ I could relate to it A LOT.
Hi hun i thank u for your vlogs as i am fighting with every fibre of my being for my 19 year old daughter to get the answers she needs to move forward in her life. The uk is so slow at helping after you reach a certain age ❤❤❤❤
I have great eye contact but that's because I learned what the various eye-related body language means so it helps me understand what people are feeling because I don't get context clues lol. If I’m not looking you in the eye I don’t know if I’m annoying you lol.
Autism mom here..my 2 year old was diagnosed at 18 months and in the process of having my 9 year old diagnosed. My husband is on the spectrum and i have wondered about myself for years and if i should go for testing. After watching your video I think i just might take the plunge and go get myself evaluated..I have always been 'weird' and had some very non typical behaviors and major social issues..I was diagnosed with ADD and ADHD and told i have social anxiety and anxiety disorder..but since age 13 i have wondered if i might in fact be on the spectrum..Thank you so much for sharing your journey, its given me the boot in the butt i needed to take the next step!!
Omg when I was a kid I got in trouble for play acting to a commercial and screamed at the top of my lungs. I got in sooo much trouble. I was also really great at copying other people as well and when it came to people and friendships I was/am the same way. I still have trouble maintaining friendships because I can’t trust if people are being genuine with me or if I’m being used like I had been all the time when I was a kid. Especially considering the emotional trauma I had survived from childhood through my early to late 20’s. Sooo much of everything you’ve shared has been my story as well and the other TH-camr with ASD named YoSamdySam. Between the two of you I’ve been noticing that I have to be on the spectrum. Thank you sooo much for your candidacy and sharing!!! It’s been so so very helpful!
This was so eye opening! Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m a special education teacher and this gave me so much insight into what some of my students may be feeling, thinking, experiencing beyond what I can learn from research and textbooks!
Thanks for sharing. I don't know if I have autism but I can relate to quite a bit of what you shared. I have been unable to look at people's eyes my whole life. I used to look at people's mouths. Still have to work at not doing that. I can't concentrate when I stare into peoples eyes. It amazes me how easy it is for others. I have had sensory issues to clothes and loud noises since I was a toddler. I do not understand how people wear wool! I would literally go insane if I had to wear wool for more than 5 minutes...even cashmere. I only had 2 friends in high school. I suffered from selective mutism from middle school through high school. Wonder if that is related? Recently diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type. Also have stims like rubbing feet together in bed and cracking my knee over and over in bed. I have eczema on the scalp and am compelled to pick at it when alone. I have never felt like a normal girl. I only knew how to handle good emotions. Sad ones used to put me at a loss.
This is so helpful, thank you so so much for going through everything you had to to be able to share this! It’s literally almost everything I’ve experienced my whole life, feeling so odd and out of place and misunderstood while also misunderstanding others and how to interact, the things that make me shut down, the way I understand most jokes but rarely ever think they’re actually funny while nobody else thinks I’m funny a lot of the time....I could go on and on. You put into words so many of my own (shared) experiences, and this video was also super helpful because it reminded me about a lot of things from my childhood that I always wondered about, very similar experiences to yours, actually, and it’s helpful to hear someone else break those kinds of experiences down because it helps me find what parts of my experiences actually were/meant in terms of my (awaiting diagnosis) ASD. Just, thank you so so much. I feel less crazy, less alone. I though everyone else struggled with this stuff but somehow had the answer key and I was the only “failure” who didn’t, but later learned that that’s not true but nonetheless didn’t stop struggling. So thanks for being someone like me who shares what our lives are like! (I’ve said thank you a lot, lol!)💕
Wow, You seriously just described me and my whole entire life! I have a son that is autistic and I have since suspected that I possibly was as well. I think you just confirmed this for me. Thank you, this was very helpful & informative.
Also I was a bed wetter until I was 8 🙈😆 I also stim alot, even in front of people I pick my lips and my nails.. I never thought I was autistic before, but definitely have a few of those same traits and my son is autistic
I cannot express enough how much I love this video! I have been in so much doubt recently that I’m not actually autistic because I hardly ever have meltdowns or shutdowns.And then I realized I actually do experience them but in my own way. This video made me believe everyone on the spectrum is different but still we may have so many things in common. I’m really glad you’re so honest with your experiences and struggles and I resonate with many of them. Thank you for this video. It was really helpful for me during my tough times xx
Wow, you described so much of me!! 🤔 I've only ever been diagnosed with ADD. I will say that I do love going out and such and don't enjoy being alone. But, I do not have many friends to hang with and that I'm okay with because I feel like having too many friends is too much work for someone with social issues.
I just found your channel and commented on your daughters autism diagnosis video. I was a bit afraid to tell you that it’s common for one or both parents to receive an autism diagnosis after their children. I definitely saw signs in your husband in that video and commented on it. I’m relieved that you won’t be offended because you *were* diagnosed. Females can be masters at masking, unlike males. It brings a sense of comfort to know that it’s all gonna be ok. We’re different, not broken. I prefer neuro diverse people. 😊
My husband is actually not autistic. He was fully evaluated but he definitely has some neurodivergent traits; although it's hard to tell if it's just being masked over by his personality disorder.
Can't do my hair to save my life. Also I can't walk in a straight line either. I have never heard anyone else mention that. My best friend used to push me when I would eventually walk into her ever 2 minutes. It turned into a joke.
I met this girl my friend knew and she would be pushing me towards the wall or road because she walked at a diagonal. She was also annoyingly persistent. I realise now she had autism. She didn't pick up on facial expressions either.
Thank you, Stephanie, for being so real. Someone close to me has autism and you have helped me understand what they may be feeling lon the inside when their behavior seems a little “off” on the outside. I’m so sorry that you were subjected to bullying when you were a child. I find you very likeable, smart and interesting. If I met you in my daily life I’d want to be your friend. I’m wishing you all the best, looking forward to watching more of your videos. I just subscribed.
Me too, but I also do this thing were I smile and it's gotten me in more trouble or yelled at even more. I'm not trying to be mean when I do it I just feel really nervous, uncomfortable, and want to go hide somewhere but I can’t so I smile.
In PE at school we were playing rounders, and the popular girls were yelling at me to catch the ball, throw it to a certain base etc. It wasn't mean or spiteful yelling for the most part, more so encouragement (although there were a couple of frustrated comments because I'm bad at sport). I broke down crying when I got home - to be honest it was a miracle I managed to prevent myself from crying in the moment - because I just cannot deal with being shouted at, even if it's not in anger.
Stephanie, you are an amazing woman. It made my heart swell with pride that you shared your story with us, it must have been so hard to be the open book you are with all of your followers. We are all here for you, and thank you for being so real with how these things affect you. Thank you for being YOU xx Love from the UK
Wow... you have explained my brain so clearly... in so many ways... I thought I was just wierd... and lazy... I have masked my entire life... you are not alone... and you have shown me I am not alone. You are enough.... you are really making the most out of so many things at the same time... please except this message hug... take care of you... even it is seconds at a time...
You explaining all about you has made me love you even more! You’re such an amazing woman.. we all love you for who you are. I have loved getting to know you through your channel, and I will continue to watch and support you no matter where life takes your family. Thank you for creating such a beautiful family, we kids we have all grown to love.
Thank you so much for everything you shared! I am getting ready to have my autism evaluation (hopefully in July, in about 2 months), at age 59. I related so much to a lot of the traits you shared. I am looking forward to finally getting diagnosed, even though I know it will be emotional. It will put all the pieces together for me, and validate the struggles I have had my whole life.
Omg I recognised so much of myself in that video. Thank you for bringing this to our attention I will definitely look into it more now, it definitely explains a lot that I do and have done in my past, you do a fantastic job with your video's x
Hi Stephanie, my name is Nneheng all the way from South Africa and I must tell you that I have watched almost all of your videos because of your mainly personality and your energy. I have my 3yr old boy due for development evaluation on Wednesday and I have been following you. Thank you for answering most of my questions by just watching your video , to me you sound like you can make a best friend ever. 😊
I have a ASD, ADHD and ODD son..I have ADHD and ODD as a kid (still sassy and defiant) also just got told I have OCD. It is wonderful you are brave and amazing mum. Just wanted to say that.
I just watched this video. I have always known I am different. I relate to so much that you talk about. Thank you for sharing. My daughter is 20 and is on the spectrum
I know I've commented this before, but I really really appreciate these types of videos. I've been having struggles with my friends/roommates for the past little bit and as I was thinking about why today so many of the topics you brought up came into mind. I am watching this right after trying to explain my feelings to my friend and im literally in tears because you have the words I've been looking for for so long. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I don’t have autism but I do have a learning disability and I can really relate to the makeup thing, like last year I was in my school musical and we had to do our stage makeup and all the girls were doing their makeup and I when I tried to do it literally looked like I did some finger painting on my face
So I have server ocd, and I am aware that ocd and autism are linked. But until this video I never questioned if I could have autism, I’m now going to look into it a bit. Thank you
I was finally diagnosed as an adult. I had learning disabilities in school. And i had alot of stimming behaviours and still do. I also can't memorize 3 step problems. So i sadly didnt finish school. (Im 30). My son is level 2-3 autism and my daughter is level 1. I cant live alone so im thankful i have a good family support system who lives with me. I have severe panic attacks so i do see psychologist, psychiatrist and therapist monthly.
Thanks so much for making this! I relate to many of the traits you described. I am working up the courage to get myself assessed for autism (as an adult female). This video has really helped to prepare me. I find you are really good at explaining things. I've always really appreciated your honesty and now I have a better appreciation for the work and effort you put into communicating so well in your videos. Massive thanks! Sending love and SO MUCH acceptance.
I'm 22 and suspect I might be autistic and relate to a lot of things in this video !! i especially struggle with knowing there are certain things you are Supposed to say/do even though it's completely against your nature. I always wondered if everyone struggles with things even as easy as making small talk but it's just an unspoken rule not to talk about it? but the more I research about autism it's comforting hearing I'm not alone
You mean there's someone in this world weird like me? One thing you said that blew my mind was how you reenact things seen. I do this weird thing when I see someone on YT or TV or Movie make an expressive comment and I literally have to do it , and if u don't I can't over forward.. I do have add and bipolar ( so it's been said) and can relate to a lot of what you said. I thought I was just a reclusive weirdo. So thanks for being weird too!💚
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Your opening up to your community is helping. I am looking into getting assessed, and into getting help with my mental health because of you. I have also always struggled and the more I meet or connect with other adult women with autism the more it connects with things I have struggled with. My biggest struggle currently being mentally exhausted after work because I have to mask so much to be "normal" and not get overwhelmed with constant sound, and change. Also I am currently having a really hard time with certain adult life functioning too, cause the anxiety of dealing with it is so overwhelming. So again thank you for sharing and inspiring to start my journey to better understand myself.
I’ve never really been diagnosed with anything, except for anxiety. I can relate to so many of these things. I’ve always thought something was wrong with me because a lot of these things don’t come naturally to me either. I have to be in control with a lot of things. Any stressful situation, I can’t handle. I shut down. I’m very OCD about everything, I overthink everything. Thank you for sharing this! Made me feel not so alone 😊
This was awesome. You did fantastic! It’s highly likely I have Aspergers, and I relate to 90% of what you talked about. I have an extremely hard time communicating, and relating to neurotypicals; I prefer being around special needs, because they are different, and easier for me to relate, and get along with. I also don’t get jokes at all, even when my Autistic Dad jokes around lol. I’m bad about taking showers, and I have no idea why, but I actually do love the rain, and I don’t mind walking in it. Be careful about over masking, because It help put me into burnout/regression to where I couldn’t be my Autistic sister’s maid of Honor, and a bunch of other horrible things. I’m better at adapting to new things than most, until it hits me emotionally a long while later in someway, and possible meltdown. I’m great with details, to the point of obsession, which is probably why most everyone is so much faster at everything than I am. I could go on and on lol. I also got the ADD diagnoses slapped on me when I was very young in elementary/grade school; like 1st grade. I was put on meds, and put in special education class for extra time on everything, and I think that’s where the overthinking came into play. Anyway, i think I’ll stop here, so I don’t over share lol. I love hearing about your Autistic female traits, since it still isn’t well known in science, plus it’s one of my special interests. Keep the awesomeness coming! 💘
I got adhd and related a lot to like being really imaginative and unaware of social ques many times and in elementary dressing like shit and having “special interests”. But except for lack of social skills and trouble making friends and obsessive interests and mimicking ppl around me and copying what i see in movies cartoons and shows i don’t have other aspie traits that don’t fit for the adhd as well(they’re really similar). And hard time making friends can happen to adhd as well since we mature 70% of our cronological age and as a girl being immature isn’t cool and we suck with details around us including sometimes social cues and blurt shit and are impulsive af.Like i don’t have many sensory issues except crowds where i just zone out. I also don’t need things to be done a certain way like as long as it’s Fast and good then i’m fine. In fact i need to change the way i do stuff in order to not quit. And changes happen random. And my mom and ppl around me keep saying to me that though i’m shy i’m good with words like know how to talk myself out of everything and like telling stories to entertain people and been an early talker as a kid
Like my issue with making friends was also forgetting to call or Waiting for them to initiate everything but i’d actually start convos in class and so out of boredom. Like if i couldnt stand a person in my class and my teacher asked me to sit next to him in one or two days we’d be getting along really well since i’d get bored and need a conversation. With makeup well fashion and makeup are my topics of interests and i’m good hair not so much
I have never been diagnosed with Autism, just ADD, anxiety, depression. I have never related more to a video than this one!! Wow!! Maybe I should get evaluated. My 26yr old son is on the spectrum.
This was the most relatable video I've ever watched too and I recognized a lot of me in it (more than my daughter that I am looking to get evaluated). I am now thinking I need to get myself evaluated. Also, I have always thought all people hated turtlenecks and itchy sweaters. How can you not hate them?
Ive been watching your channel for years now and would have never guessed any of this. I can TOTALLY relate to you with alot of things you talked about and find it comforting in being able to say," Hey! I do that too!" I have always felt different as well and now that I'm in my 30's I'm trying to deal with a few things so thank you for sharing! With all that being said I just have to say that you are SO well spoken. I love hearing you talk and think you explain things in a way that's easily understood so whatever youre doing is working. We adore you Stephanie and please know those of us who have been here can appreciate how real you are ❤
Also I don’t care (don’t understand) the way I dress! And my mother in law always has a go that I’m not colour matching or “my top doesn’t go with my trouser” I really hate being told that! I always do care! I just want to be comfy!
I will be streaming on Twitch tonight to answer all your questions at 9 pm EST
www.twitch.tv/ourlandingcrew
Ok so now I need to know if that buffy webpage you made is still up and a link would also be great 😜🥰🥰❤
Omg we could be twins and then some.....😳 now I super like you and at my age I would be friends with you in real 3D life if that makes sense. I am in Canada and I’ll be dead before I get anywhere on a waiting list close to being tested where I live specifically. But you have made me understand so much. Plus, both my sons have ASD. Tourette’s in my youngest and they both asre diagnosed AdHD and I was diagnosed at age 4 with ADHD . I’m vibrating with info and confusion(NOT ANYTHING YOU DID WRONG STEPHANIE)💜 I’m just frustrated , for me. And for my boys. My girls don’t have these issues, other than depression and anxiety. My youngest daughter took her life 2.75 yrs ago. @ age 19. ♥️ you’re awesome Stephanie. I really adore you and everything I’ve learned from you, even though 1/2 my kids are older than yours and I think I have at least a decade on you lol(sorry I have a hard time remembering birthdates and ages.(ALL NUMBERS IN GENERAL. Oh Lord, the psoriasis things, gluten, lactose, skin picking, stiming(ironically THERES a certain stim that I found my own Mum used to do before she passed, that I found my eldest son does and I do too!! And I never put it all together until 2 yrs ago)
Ok nuff said for now. Much love&prayers girl! 💜⭐️🙏 I’m so blessed for finding your channel a couple years ago. You may have no idea how much you’ve done for me through the videos and info you show and speak out on. Oh My Word!; The Executive functioning! 😫 I’m the most disorganized , confused person I know other than my sons, which I have a feeling you understand how there can be things we do and don’t do that cause hardships in our marriages (or is it just me????).
ok done. I need to hush.
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Thank you darlin.💜
P.s. I really pray you could possibly reply and let me know if I’m just over-reacting?!?! I’m sick in my heart that I’ve been labeled (wrong in my very intelligent hubby) severely mentally ill to the point of being abused y a handful of “professionals” in the psychiatric community in my city.
Oh yeah, I’ve never held a job for more than 6-9 months, sometimes as short as 3 days. Feels awful and causes me depression you bet it does.💔
Omg you mentioned the foot rub and hand rubbing!!!!!!
Ok overstimulated, self allowed as I was a bit apprehensive to watch but glad I did.
Maybe I should (after covid is eradicated, fly down to Colorado and get an assessment, cuz like I said, where I live, I’m never going to be taken seriously. And things have become so bad over the past couple yrs and a bit that I just don’t want to exist it causes me so much upset.
Ok now I’m done.
I hope if anyone reads this they don’t take it in a terrible way.
Again Steph~you ARE SO COURAGEOUS!!!!!!!💜⭐️💜
And a FABULOUS Feircely Loving and Caring Mum to your kids! They’re all BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN THEIR LIVES! God has his plan together and it’s so clear to see from this side looking in! 💜
I hope the rest of your weekend is as wonderful as it can possibly be!!💜
I tried the link and it said the page is in another castle! 😳 I’m so dumb with these things! It’s so hard. It’s been a truly awful and stressful week and I feel I’m over-reacting and like should just go to bed. I’ll hopefully get help someday to be able to do these extra things. But for now, I hope it was a good session and if it isn’t time yet, I hope it is a good session when it starts! 💜
Duh I just realized I’m 2 days late!😳😶😑🤦🏼♀️
@@CanadianMum444 if you just go onto twitch and look up ourlandingcrew you can watch back past streams ,hope this helps .
_Everything I thought was normal is a trait_ relatable
You are refreshingly honest. I hope you're doing well.
@@earthgirl7861 thank you. You too.
OMG I'm 79 and made me realize I'm autistic, I thought because I;m super smart I can't be autistic. There are a few things I don't have as a problem. You are describing me to a tea. My brother called what I do is put on my party face. Dang you are me and I am you. Thank You for being me
Wow! Just goes to show discovering who you are is always an ongoing journey and life’s work. I’m proud of you, Margaret!
You are AMAING AND BRAVE MARGARET!!!💜
I am a Margaret who is turning 74 and I now see how many traits of autism I have. At 66 I was put on Ritalin. I also am super smart but could never advance much in my career.
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Most autistics have above average intelligence
Regarding hygiene, I get it. One thing I have just recently done is gotten myself to the point where I will brush my teeth every single night by watching a TH-cam video at the same time.
Same!!!
I just got diagnosed a few months ago and related to so much of this!!! The swinging, being bad at hair and makeup, special interests about movies and TV shows, interrupting people and not knowing what to say during conversations, backing out of social interactions and not making eye contact. Thanks so much for sharing all of this, I'm glad more women like us are getting diagnosed and understanding ourselves better. It's tough to walk that line of doing what's socially acceptable and doing what's best for you. Sending you love on this journey!
My daughter is 7, just diagnosed. I love seeing women with autism, gives me hope!
What made you get her diagnosed? I’m having concerns about my son so I’m curious about what others are experiencing
@@wikishab2497 there's a lot of things. I just knew. Honestly if it's a thought in your head, look into it. We don't just think it for no reason
Yeah
I don't feel like this was to long at all. I truly enjoyed it. Have a beautiful night!
I’m 33 and just got diagnosed. I’ve been suspicious that I’ve had ASD for at least a decade but couldn’t afford or find services.
My mom under reported too.. except in the cooperative play section.. I had to translate for her and when it came to that she said “oh no.. you were always off playing by yourself. You were rarely in a group.” She also endorsed need for extreme routine ( for example if I liked something, I ate only it for months). When I got diagnosed, it was like a weight was lifted. I understand my life so much better and have more peace.
Thank you for your honesty! I already have an ADHD diagnosis, sort of(?), but am pretty sure that I am on the spectrum as well. The thing, I think, that is stopping me is that I once mentioned it to a counselor, 7-9 years ago, I was seeing and they told me "I wouldn't be surprised if you did have it but you have learned coping strategies so I can't diagnosis you." I was so confused because even if you do have autism and have coping strategies in place, you still have autism. It is still a part of you.
There is an online test with 50 questions. AQ test, I think? Try that.
Thank you for saying that! As a child I had therapy because I was born with mental retardation and a lot of other issues so my awesome mom took me to therapy i don't think they diagnose me with autism but I did learn some social things and i learn how to " copy and paste" behaviours so I still have the issues I am just good at hiding them.
I am 35 and on the Autism Spectrum and so much of what you say sounds exactly like me 😅 it is nice to hear someone else that I can relate to and makes me feel less alone. Thank you for spreading awareness.
I’m going through this eureka moment right now, I’m 30 & I am starting to see that I’m more than likely on the spectrum. Thank you for posting this video, it’s been really helpful on my quest for answers.
Dear Stephanie-I just want to say a Big Thank You 😊 Your honesty and vulnerability during this video took an awful lot of courage and I am sorry - NOT for the fact you’re autistic BUT for all the hard situations you’ve found yourself in and all the lessons you have had to and still are learning - I cannot begin to imagine how exhausting life has been and can be at times.
I am so glad you are now able to realise the beauty of a true friendship and the give and take it will teach you along the way - the beauty of this friendship with Emily however is one that will benefit not just you but also Emily ,Will ,Lonny not to mention all the wonderful lessons the children will and are already learning (safely)- I am so happy and excited for you all - Thank you so so much once again for this very insightful video it’s very much appreciated- love from Southampton England xxx
Wow this is making me remember a lot of things from my childhood that I forgot/pushed out of my awareness. Omg I remember the being mean to someone thing bc I thought that was what I was supposed to do, but I cannot remember what it was 😭 I just remember feeling so bad.
So I am obsessed with research..
Whether it be useful information or sometimes I'll stumble across like a random internet article ans it leads me downa rabbit hole of studying seemingly random subjects for hours on end. Bring diagnosed with ADHD, having my oldest daughter diagnosed with ADHD, and researching those and then observing your journey to being diagnosed and me connecting my own symptoms to yours made me really start researching autism and it really seems to fit. I talked to my psych who thinks it's likely and I should seek a specialist (which I'm having trouble with) but I have also take a few online quizzes (not like Buzzfeed-type nonsense but actual autism sites that offer a quiz to see if you should seek further evaluation) and I always hit almost every single mark. And as I mentioned to you before, I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until 6ish years ago... at age 29... because I wasnt hyperactive and I was in Gifted programs, so when my focus issues got bad and my grades went down, my grandparents scolded me and called me lazy. My teachers called me a "daydreamer". But my teat scores were very high. For several years I used to write (sometimes on paper, moatly in my head) these fictional stories surrounding myself and other characters and I'd gonplacws and in my head, I'd create storyline around it all. It's so silly but it felt so normal to me and I still find myself making up these stories in my head to slow my racing thoughts, calm myself, etc. And now watching this video, I'm legitimately shocked at how many things I have in common with you. Some are even a little more extreme than your examples to the point where I won't talk about them out loud. I still feel shame. And I thought I maybe I was like seriously mentally "off" but it never led to harmful behavior or like ethical issues (if that makes sense... like I have a pretty logical moral compass) so I have pushed it aside but I'm now remembering so many things. I pretty much knew in my soul I was on the Spectrum, but this took it to a new level for me. So many years of countless "issues" and my grandmother putting me down so sleep issues, being different, and juat feeling like an alien and now I feel like I met another person from my home planet HAHA 😄. I knew I related tonyou a lot but it just a hit another level. I'm sorry if I sound a bit kooky... I'm not trying to be creepy here, I'm just having realizations about myself and every time that happens, I feel like I grow and I accept more of myself. It also kind of makes me sad cuz I yearn for someone who really understands these parts of me and I struggle with friendships. I always had tons of acquaintances, but I fond it hard to connect on a deepr level and know how to react to people and I go through periods of withdrawal and people think I'm a bad friend because of it. My head is just a crazy place haha. I hadnone best friend for over a decade and I now realize part if what drove us a part was my neurodivergence and I still cry over it cuz I miss her and we had so many good times. And ai try to get along with other females and it just never works for various reasons. I want someone to share my love of makeup, photography, music, etc with. I miss talking for hours about all kinds of random stuff with her. I dunno if I'll ever have another friend like that. Honestly. But at least I'm learning more about me and I truly can't thank you enough for how much you and channel has taught me about myself, Stephanie. Love and light ✨️ 💜🌒🌕🌘💜
I enjoyed your video! I'm a 57 y.o.adult female who is diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, depression, ADD, and ptsd. I've always wondered if I'm on the spectrum. I do get social cues, but I can relate to a lot of what you said! I didn't understand friendships, and was very content to be alone as a child, and still am a lot of the time. I was always more comfortable around adults. I am creative, and slways created my own worlds. I'm sensitive to light and sound. I wasn't very aware socially until I was a teen. I have OCD traits as well. I loved Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and similar shows that others my age weren't watching! So many things. I have some executive functioning issues, as well as emotional dysregulation. I do care too much what others think, even as I try not to! My mom always told me to stop making faces as a child, and I didn't get it at the time! I apparently made faces if I didn't like something, or someone! I got better, but still probably do it at times! Paperwork organization is overwhelming to me, and organization in general, although I have mt moments! I hope to get tested, just so that I know! 😊
This sounds like my experience in life. I just spend my time alone not to interfere with others. I help others out and enjoying seeing their success. While I am successful I just think it is a way of life.
I am undiagnosed. These videos are helping me realize the reason all my life people never wanted to talk to me.
As a kid, when I would get angry at something someone said I would just go in a corner and cry. If I could not find a corner or thought I found a corner there was always a group of people / classmates to come and ask what was wrong. This just got me more frustrated and angry. I would say I am fine, just leave me alone. Then I would calm myself down and go for a walk around the field and sit processing the reasons the comment was said. I always analyze myself, others, and reactions.
Sometimes like you said, my tone people cannot figure out and it sounds rude to others which is not the intention. So to keep sane, or just keep the peace I rather do things myself rather than bother people. Just a little about my experience.
I work with a lot of children, youth and adults with needs. I can walk into a room and I know what is going on and if other supports or teachers really like to see the children, youth and adults move forward. It bothers me to see other adult support workers doing things for a child, youth or adult that the person is capable of doing for themselves with just the correct word usage the person can do it. There is so many people that would rather do things for people than teach a person an accommodation to do things for themselves. To me teaching others is the ability to help those do things or communicate needs for themselves. People that just do things for others without helping the person to try first bothers me.
Finally a personal account instead of some abstract summary..
Making beds is one of those things I don’t understand why but if people come over on rare occasions... the only time I ever make my bed...
12:57 I literally gasped out loud 😂 you're the best, Stephanie, thank you so much for sharing this with everyone. My son was diagnosed with ASD in December and my other son is currently undergoing evaluations. I can't tell you how much your videos have helped me. 💜
The swinging makes a lot of sense! They say swinging in one of the best ways to get vestibular input. And 15 minutes of vestibular input can regulate you for up to 8 hours.
My husband and I are looking at places to rent and there's a place with a swing set in a large backyard - fur children only, want a yard for them to play in. He looked at me and said "if we get this place, I'll come home to you outside... on the swing... going "weeeee"." (It was said without judgment too. Which is beautiful.) Now, thinking about it more, I swung a lot as a kid/teenager and was ticked when the schools I went to didn't have swings. (Lived in one city with swings at almost every school but went to school in another city, mom taught there, that took out all their swings due to injuries and lawsuits.) Someone also mentioned on here having an imaginary friend and I did... well past an acceptable age. Her name was Cookie, she looked like me but had an insane desire to eat cookies. SO many things resonate with me and I know it's why I'm good with helping others on the spectrum and others with disabilities. I understand and relate it to help them.
I want a swing inside my house. And a slide.....
So, that's why I was obsessed with the swing. Nice.
I love swinging 🤯🤯🤯
@@cassandrahale4186 Do you also like those platforms you push that spin in a circle? Or the teacups at a fair that spin in circles?
No wonder why i loveee lovee swings. Even got stuck in a baby one as i was growing up because i thought it was still acceptable for me to swing in that one.. my favorite memory is at school with this circular swings like tired swings but not tires and you could spin super fast, you could go around in BIG circles while spinning.
I'm 35 and still fighting for an assessment. This is like a story of my life in many aspects including being diagnosed with ADHD and the medication making me a zombie and I didn't have any friends until high school at 14. I wasn't delayed with speech, I started talking at 2 years old and according to my family I have never shut up since. My main special interests are animals, human phycology and child development. My executive function is close to non existent, I'm diabetic and I need to be reminded to eat and inject my insulin. Cleaning and laundry and hygiene are extreme struggles for me, my place is always a mess.
Ah I’m bad at hygiene all except deodorant bc i guess I always remember when I get dressed to put it on
Thank you for being so real and honest and aid in getting the word out there for Nuero diverse people, teaching others “weird” and unique is beautiful too.
Thank you for being honest, being transparent and helping us understand. You are amazing and I appreciate you. Love your channel.
1:55 THANK YOU ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for filming this video, it's highly relatable for me. I live in Illinois and insurance doesn't cover autism evaluation for adults here, but after my psych team worked with me for a couple of years they've confirmed that I meet all the criteria for diagnosis. I just haven't had the testing, so I don't qualify for any type of support services or disability benefits or things that could potentially help me. I've really been struggling the past few years. My mom used to help me with everything and she died almost 4 years ago now, and I don't have any other family so I'm completely on my own.
I really wish I knew you in real life, most people don't understand me very well.
It's so amazing that you have the courage to share these traits about yourself. It's so helpful to see someone who is so personable explain this to me, I can't stand the clinical definitions of traits, so thanks for all this great info! : )
The clinical definitions don’t share what it looks like in real life scenarios at all lol
@@OurLANDingCrew8 Totally, you're gonna help so many people!
I can relate to so much of this. One thing I've realized is that when one of my friends is having a hard time and shares about it with me, I tend to really empathize to the point where I will get depressed on their behalf. Because of this I really have to limit my number of close friends because otherwise I'd always be dealing with the emotions of other people constantly. I think I'm a very good, loyal friend but I can't handle too many relationships at one time.
100% same
I’m 24, and I have just realized recently that I’m fairly certain that I’m autistic. Going to start the process of being evaluated soon. Thank you for this!! ♥️
I have never related to someone more in my life and I'm astonished and am thinking of being evaluated... Thank you💖💖
OMG, I totally relate with the tactless questions and inviting myself over. Social cues are beyond me-completely. My psychiatrist thinks I’m on the Spectrum. I’m pursuing a diagnosis this year.
Thank you so much for this video. I have a similar story. I am 31 years old and am getting diagnosed very soon after my daughter was diagnosed this year. Thank you for making me feel not alone.
Thank you for sharing. Your story has given me the confidence to try and get a diagnosis. I'm 33 and have always been 'different'. However, I doubt my parents would help out with this.
In an act of solidarity, I’m here to admit that I wet the bed until I was 10 or 11 and it happened frequently enough that my parents had to throw out my mattress and buy me a new one.... cute lol
🙌 #BedWettersUnite
@@OurLANDingCrew8 I wet my bed until I was 9! But for a diffent reason.
You are not alone. ;) My son wet his bed every single night until he was 13. He slept with his comforter between his legs, so I had to wash that every. single. day. We had to buy a new washing machine because washing a comforter everyday has a tendency to throw off the balance and destroy the washer. That being said, we supported him as much as we could and he grew out of it, just as our pediatrician promised he would. He was approaching the upper limit of "normal" though.
I wet the bed until I was 9. Luckily I was a smallish child so I was able to wear pull-ups until I stopped.
My oldest was a bed wetter until 11 when she was prescribed medication that stopped it. My sister was also a late bed wetter. It can run in families.
Thanks so much for sharing this Stefanie! There are so many things you mentioned that I identify with. Not everything, but an awful lot. Reading the room and seeing how everyone else is acting is one of them, as is not knowing how friendships work. I've been accused of "coming in hot and heavy". Basically, if someone was nice to me I just assumed they wanted to be besties. I've lost a TON of friendships/acquaintances over that. To the point that I really don't try anymore.
You just brought me back to third grade when I would lie to my mom so I could go to the library and read books on ocelots. I told her it was an extra credit paper on my favorite animal.
LOL
Thank you so much for your candour. I’ve always known I was different and at 61 with ADHD I have at least 90% of the traits you have. Explains a lot!
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I work with children with autism I’m a pediatric OT and I love learning more from adults diagnosed because you can truly explain it from your side. I love working with this population - some things that I always wonder about are some of the visual perceptual differences like you said you struggle to see something with a busy background And it’s actually a struggle for eye contact like a physical struggle - it helps me explain better to parents because once the parent understands better I feel it truly helps them feel closer to their child which of course we always want ❤️
I had to stop myself from watching this a third time. This is so specific to what I experience and what I experienced growing up. It's going to be a while until I can get evaluated but you sharing your experience has brought me a peace I can carry until then. Seriously, you are so awesome for sharing.
Hello, I have been silently been following you for about 3 years. I always hit the like button but I never know what to say. First I would like to say my boys and I really love your channel. 2nd I got diagnosed last year I'm 34 now. I am still learning but this video is awesome, and it really helps. Thanks you for being so brave and transparent.
I think the way you always use your hands to talk is so cute !
I think she's awesome!
"I would basically script movies and shows after I watched it. To the outside it might look like I'm just pretend playing, but it wasn't. I was literally doing what I'd seen on movies or shows." This is how my 4yo plays. Either she's acting out or scripting what she saw or she's demanding that we act it out for her (even when we haven't watched what she watched).
My daughter also thinks that everyone is her friend and it breaks my heart when the other kids ignore her or run away from her.
Thank you for sharing! My son is getting an assessment done today by a developmental pediatrician. It’s brought me a lot of anxiety, not knowing how he will be tested or what to expect in general. Thanks again for putting this out there!
you look so stunning in this video stephanie! thank you for sharing your traits with us and for taking your viewers along with you on your journey❤️it's so very educational and you and your family are so lovely. i love seeing the kiddos as well as your sit down videos! much love!
Omg, I’m still obsessed with Buffy!!!! Rewatching it with my husband right now 😂
The part about never knowing why you were so strange cracked me up!! SO relatable!! ;D Loved this video.
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I never realized how much you have struggled in life. I really have enjoyed your video. I love how honest you have been.
First off thank you. I have been a special needs mostly autistic in all different types teacher. Each year I look for newer updates on what to look for. I appreciate the fact that as an adult you are recounting all of this. It is really helping me with my students. I also had autistic traits as a child all the way up till my twenties and was diagnosed as autistic when in reality I have another disability that mimics autism. Thank you for helping Will and Stephanie so much
If you don't mind me asking what's the other disorder?
@@selenaaskinazi5466 I won't disclose about the students but as for myself. Dandy Walker Syndrome, Hydrocephalus, malformation of bones joints and organs including seizures
Thank you Stephanie, you have helped me understand my daughter .. like you she is 34. ♥️
Oh. My. Goodness!! I am incredibly grateful I discovered your channel. Woah! You summed up my life from A-Z. I don't feel so alone. Honestly. I feel like I am completely losing my mind. Getting evaluated the 18th of March. I 100% believe I am autistic. I am in such emotional distress currently. It's insane. Feel like I am falling apart and being told that I am choosing this (which I am obviously not). Also been misdiagnosed with Bipolar Type II. I am really looking forward to your next video explaining your situation.
I get those feelings girl but just getting answers is SO eye opening and just helps yourself altogether. Keep me updated after your eval!!!
@@OurLANDingCrew8 I will definitely. Thanks for the reply.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I have the issue where If I keep things tidy as I go, I’m fine….but if it gets too cluttered I can’t deal and I can’t clean it until I get into a cleaning mood (usually in the middle of the night). So I’ll literally NOT USE a room for a while because I can’t deal with the level of clutter AND I can’t deal with cleaning it.
Wow! Stephanie, you are amazing! I applaud you for being so vulnerable! It was very interesting to me to get the perspective of someone who is on the autism spectrum. Thank you for sharing! Don't feel the need to share everything though! Whatever you feel comfortable sharing is completely fine.
I don't do it anymore, but when I found out that my dad told my boarding school counselor/therapist that I wet the bed I DIED. I hate turtle necks and I also found it hard to tell when people were my actual friends and when they were not. Thank you for this video ❤️ I could relate to it A LOT.
Hi hun i thank u for your vlogs as i am fighting with every fibre of my being for my 19 year old daughter to get the answers she needs to move forward in her life. The uk is so slow at helping after you reach a certain age ❤❤❤❤
I have great eye contact but that's because I learned what the various eye-related body language means so it helps me understand what people are feeling because I don't get context clues lol. If I’m not looking you in the eye I don’t know if I’m annoying you lol.
Autism mom here..my 2 year old was diagnosed at 18 months and in the process of having my 9 year old diagnosed. My husband is on the spectrum and i have wondered about myself for years and if i should go for testing. After watching your video I think i just might take the plunge and go get myself evaluated..I have always been 'weird' and had some very non typical behaviors and major social issues..I was diagnosed with ADD and ADHD and told i have social anxiety and anxiety disorder..but since age 13 i have wondered if i might in fact be on the spectrum..Thank you so much for sharing your journey, its given me the boot in the butt i needed to take the next step!!
Omg when I was a kid I got in trouble for play acting to a commercial and screamed at the top of my lungs. I got in sooo much trouble. I was also really great at copying other people as well and when it came to people and friendships I was/am the same way. I still have trouble maintaining friendships because I can’t trust if people are being genuine with me or if I’m being used like I had been all the time when I was a kid. Especially considering the emotional trauma I had survived from childhood through my early to late 20’s. Sooo much of everything you’ve shared has been my story as well and the other TH-camr with ASD named YoSamdySam. Between the two of you I’ve been noticing that I have to be on the spectrum. Thank you sooo much for your candidacy and sharing!!! It’s been so so very helpful!
This was so eye opening! Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m a special education teacher and this gave me so much insight into what some of my students may be feeling, thinking, experiencing beyond what I can learn from research and textbooks!
Thanks for sharing. I don't know if I have autism but I can relate to quite a bit of what you shared. I have been unable to look at people's eyes my whole life. I used to look at people's mouths. Still have to work at not doing that. I can't concentrate when I stare into peoples eyes. It amazes me how easy it is for others. I have had sensory issues to clothes and loud noises since I was a toddler. I do not understand how people wear wool! I would literally go insane if I had to wear wool for more than 5 minutes...even cashmere. I only had 2 friends in high school. I suffered from selective mutism from middle school through high school. Wonder if that is related? Recently diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type. Also have stims like rubbing feet together in bed and cracking my knee over and over in bed. I have eczema on the scalp and am compelled to pick at it when alone. I have never felt like a normal girl. I only knew how to handle good emotions. Sad ones used to put me at a loss.
Thank-you for being vulnerable with us Steph! 💙💙
This is so helpful, thank you so so much for going through everything you had to to be able to share this! It’s literally almost everything I’ve experienced my whole life, feeling so odd and out of place and misunderstood while also misunderstanding others and how to interact, the things that make me shut down, the way I understand most jokes but rarely ever think they’re actually funny while nobody else thinks I’m funny a lot of the time....I could go on and on. You put into words so many of my own (shared) experiences, and this video was also super helpful because it reminded me about a lot of things from my childhood that I always wondered about, very similar experiences to yours, actually, and it’s helpful to hear someone else break those kinds of experiences down because it helps me find what parts of my experiences actually were/meant in terms of my (awaiting diagnosis) ASD. Just, thank you so so much. I feel less crazy, less alone. I though everyone else struggled with this stuff but somehow had the answer key and I was the only “failure” who didn’t, but later learned that that’s not true but nonetheless didn’t stop struggling. So thanks for being someone like me who shares what our lives are like! (I’ve said thank you a lot, lol!)💕
Wow, You seriously just described me and my whole entire life! I have a son that is autistic and I have since suspected that I possibly was as well. I think you just confirmed this for me. Thank you, this was very helpful & informative.
That was an amazing video, it was so interesting and so funny! Sleepover story was heart breaking though. Thanks so much for sharing your story.
Also I was a bed wetter until I was 8 🙈😆 I also stim alot, even in front of people I pick my lips and my nails.. I never thought I was autistic before, but definitely have a few of those same traits and my son is autistic
I cannot express enough how much I love this video! I have been in so much doubt recently that I’m not actually autistic because I hardly ever have meltdowns or shutdowns.And then I realized I actually do experience them but in my own way. This video made me believe everyone on the spectrum is different but still we may have so many things in common. I’m really glad you’re so honest with your experiences and struggles and I resonate with many of them. Thank you for this video. It was really helpful for me during my tough times xx
Such open, honest, real information and helps me understand so much with my daughter and grandson and some things in myself.
Wow, you described so much of me!! 🤔 I've only ever been diagnosed with ADD. I will say that I do love going out and such and don't enjoy being alone. But, I do not have many friends to hang with and that I'm okay with because I feel like having too many friends is too much work for someone with social issues.
I just found your channel and commented on your daughters autism diagnosis video. I was a bit afraid to tell you that it’s common for one or both parents to receive an autism diagnosis after their children. I definitely saw signs in your husband in that video and commented on it. I’m relieved that you won’t be offended because you *were* diagnosed. Females can be masters at masking, unlike males.
It brings a sense of comfort to know that it’s all gonna be ok. We’re different, not broken. I prefer neuro diverse people. 😊
My husband is actually not autistic. He was fully evaluated but he definitely has some neurodivergent traits; although it's hard to tell if it's just being masked over by his personality disorder.
This video was so candid steph you are so strong and I’m so proud of you ❤️
Can't do my hair to save my life. Also I can't walk in a straight line either. I have never heard anyone else mention that. My best friend used to push me when I would eventually walk into her ever 2 minutes. It turned into a joke.
I met this girl my friend knew and she would be pushing me towards the wall or road because she walked at a diagonal. She was also annoyingly persistent. I realise now she had autism. She didn't pick up on facial expressions either.
Thank you, Stephanie, for being so real. Someone close to me has autism and you have helped me understand what they may be feeling lon the inside when their behavior seems a little “off” on the outside. I’m so sorry that you were subjected to bullying when you were a child. I find you very likeable, smart and interesting. If I met you in my daily life I’d want to be your friend. I’m wishing you all the best, looking forward to watching more of your videos. I just subscribed.
When I get yelled at I start crying
Me too, but I also do this thing were I smile and it's gotten me in more trouble or yelled at even more. I'm not trying to be mean when I do it I just feel really nervous, uncomfortable, and want to go hide somewhere but I can’t so I smile.
I just have childhood trauma so that’s why I cry at yelling at me
Meeee toooo!
In PE at school we were playing rounders, and the popular girls were yelling at me to catch the ball, throw it to a certain base etc. It wasn't mean or spiteful yelling for the most part, more so encouragement (although there were a couple of frustrated comments because I'm bad at sport). I broke down crying when I got home - to be honest it was a miracle I managed to prevent myself from crying in the moment - because I just cannot deal with being shouted at, even if it's not in anger.
Stephanie, you are an amazing woman. It made my heart swell with pride that you shared your story with us, it must have been so hard to be the open book you are with all of your
followers. We are all here for you, and thank you for being so real with how these things affect you. Thank you for being YOU xx Love from the UK
I have so much respect for you. Thank you for giving us some insight into YOUR life😊
Wow... you have explained my brain so clearly... in so many ways... I thought I was just wierd... and lazy... I have masked my entire life... you are not alone... and you have shown me I am not alone. You are enough.... you are really making the most out of so many things at the same time... please except this message hug... take care of you... even it is seconds at a time...
You explaining all about you has made me love you even more! You’re such an amazing woman.. we all love you for who you are. I have loved getting to know you through your channel, and I will continue to watch and support you no matter where life takes your family. Thank you for creating such a beautiful family, we kids we have all grown to love.
Thank you so much for everything you shared! I am getting ready to have my autism evaluation (hopefully in July, in about 2 months), at age 59. I related so much to a lot of the traits you shared. I am looking forward to finally getting diagnosed, even though I know it will be emotional. It will put all the pieces together for me, and validate the struggles I have had my whole life.
I really appreciated this video! I can relate to alot of what you've said. My son has autism and I have always had a ton of anxiety.
Omg I recognised so much of myself in that video. Thank you for bringing this to our attention I will definitely look into it more now, it definitely explains a lot that I do and have done in my past, you do a fantastic job with your video's x
You're amazing! Thanks for sharing all that and in such detail, lot's of information and quick talking, liked it a lot!
Hi Stephanie, my name is Nneheng all the way from South Africa and I must tell you that I have watched almost all of your videos because of your mainly personality and your energy. I have my 3yr old boy due for development evaluation on Wednesday and I have been following you. Thank you for answering most of my questions by just watching your video , to me you sound like you can make a best friend ever. 😊
Thank you for sharing your story. It has given me some comfort that I didn't know I was seeking.
I have a ASD, ADHD and ODD son..I have ADHD and ODD as a kid (still sassy and defiant) also just got told I have OCD. It is wonderful you are brave and amazing mum. Just wanted to say that.
Thank you for posting this. I’m 38. This video was the final push I needed to pursue testing. ❤️
I just watched this video. I have always known I am different. I relate to so much that you talk about. Thank you for sharing. My daughter is 20 and is on the spectrum
I know I've commented this before, but I really really appreciate these types of videos. I've been having struggles with my friends/roommates for the past little bit and as I was thinking about why today so many of the topics you brought up came into mind. I am watching this right after trying to explain my feelings to my friend and im literally in tears because you have the words I've been looking for for so long. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I don’t have autism but I do have a learning disability and I can really relate to the makeup thing, like last year I was in my school musical and we had to do our stage makeup and all the girls were doing their makeup and I when I tried to do it literally looked like I did some finger painting on my face
This was super interesting & I relate to so much of what you said. Thanks for being so open & honest! Love ya’ll!
I'm glad you shared some past special interests. I love hearing other people's special interests.
So I have server ocd, and I am aware that ocd and autism are linked. But until this video I never questioned if I could have autism, I’m now going to look into it a bit. Thank you
I was finally diagnosed as an adult. I had learning disabilities in school. And i had alot of stimming behaviours and still do. I also can't memorize 3 step problems. So i sadly didnt finish school. (Im 30). My son is level 2-3 autism and my daughter is level 1. I cant live alone so im thankful i have a good family support system who lives with me. I have severe panic attacks so i do see psychologist, psychiatrist and therapist monthly.
Thanks so much for making this! I relate to many of the traits you described. I am working up the courage to get myself assessed for autism (as an adult female). This video has really helped to prepare me. I find you are really good at explaining things. I've always really appreciated your honesty and now I have a better appreciation for the work and effort you put into communicating so well in your videos. Massive thanks!
Sending love and SO MUCH acceptance.
I'm 22 and suspect I might be autistic and relate to a lot of things in this video !! i especially struggle with knowing there are certain things you are Supposed to say/do even though it's completely against your nature. I always wondered if everyone struggles with things even as easy as making small talk but it's just an unspoken rule not to talk about it? but the more I research about autism it's comforting hearing I'm not alone
You mean there's someone in this world weird like me? One thing you said that blew my mind was how you reenact things seen. I do this weird thing when I see someone on YT or TV or Movie make an expressive comment and I literally have to do it , and if u don't I can't over forward.. I do have add and bipolar ( so it's been said) and can relate to a lot of what you said. I thought I was just a reclusive weirdo. So thanks for being weird too!💚
Let's start a weird club! LOL
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Your opening up to your community is helping. I am looking into getting assessed, and into getting help with my mental health because of you. I have also always struggled and the more I meet or connect with other adult women with autism the more it connects with things I have struggled with. My biggest struggle currently being mentally exhausted after work because I have to mask so much to be "normal" and not get overwhelmed with constant sound, and change. Also I am currently having a really hard time with certain adult life functioning too, cause the anxiety of dealing with it is so overwhelming. So again thank you for sharing and inspiring to start my journey to better understand myself.
Oof so relatable and my family always told me I was weird but for a long time I just thought they were weird 😂
I’ve never really been diagnosed with anything, except for anxiety. I can relate to so many of these things. I’ve always thought something was wrong with me because a lot of these things don’t come naturally to me either. I have to be in control with a lot of things. Any stressful situation, I can’t handle. I shut down. I’m very OCD about everything, I overthink everything. Thank you for sharing this! Made me feel not so alone 😊
This was awesome. You did fantastic! It’s highly likely I have Aspergers, and I relate to 90% of what you talked about. I have an extremely hard time communicating, and relating to neurotypicals; I prefer being around special needs, because they are different, and easier for me to relate, and get along with. I also don’t get jokes at all, even when my Autistic Dad jokes around lol. I’m bad about taking showers, and I have no idea why, but I actually do love the rain, and I don’t mind walking in it. Be careful about over masking, because It help put me into burnout/regression to where I couldn’t be my Autistic sister’s maid of Honor, and a bunch of other horrible things. I’m better at adapting to new things than most, until it hits me emotionally a long while later in someway, and possible meltdown. I’m great with details, to the point of obsession, which is probably why most everyone is so much faster at everything than I am. I could go on and on lol. I also got the ADD diagnoses slapped on me when I was very young in elementary/grade school; like 1st grade. I was put on meds, and put in special education class for extra time on everything, and I think that’s where the overthinking came into play. Anyway, i think I’ll stop here, so I don’t over share lol. I love hearing about your Autistic female traits, since it still isn’t well known in science, plus it’s one of my special interests. Keep the awesomeness coming! 💘
I got adhd and related a lot to like being really imaginative and unaware of social ques many times and in elementary dressing like shit and having “special interests”. But except for lack of social skills and trouble making friends and obsessive interests and mimicking ppl around me and copying what i see in movies cartoons and shows i don’t have other aspie traits that don’t fit for the adhd as well(they’re really similar). And hard time making friends can happen to adhd as well since we mature 70% of our cronological age and as a girl being immature isn’t cool and we suck with details around us including sometimes social cues and blurt shit and are impulsive af.Like i don’t have many sensory issues except crowds where i just zone out. I also don’t need things to be done a certain way like as long as it’s Fast and good then i’m fine. In fact i need to change the way i do stuff in order to not quit. And changes happen random. And my mom and ppl around me keep saying to me that though i’m shy i’m good with words like know how to talk myself out of everything and like telling stories to entertain people and been an early talker as a kid
Like my issue with making friends was also forgetting to call or Waiting for them to initiate everything but i’d actually start convos in class and so out of boredom. Like if i couldnt stand a person in my class and my teacher asked me to sit next to him in one or two days we’d be getting along really well since i’d get bored and need a conversation. With makeup well fashion and makeup are my topics of interests and i’m good hair not so much
I have never been diagnosed with Autism, just ADD, anxiety, depression. I have never related more to a video than this one!! Wow!! Maybe I should get evaluated. My 26yr old son is on the spectrum.
This was the most relatable video I've ever watched too and I recognized a lot of me in it (more than my daughter that I am looking to get evaluated). I am now thinking I need to get myself evaluated. Also, I have always thought all people hated turtlenecks and itchy sweaters. How can you not hate them?
Can’t thank you enough for this. Love you so much.
Ive been watching your channel for years now and would have never guessed any of this. I can TOTALLY relate to you with alot of things you talked about and find it comforting in being able to say," Hey! I do that too!" I have always felt different as well and now that I'm in my 30's I'm trying to deal with a few things so thank you for sharing! With all that being said I just have to say that you are SO well spoken. I love hearing you talk and think you explain things in a way that's easily understood so whatever youre doing is working. We adore you Stephanie and please know those of us who have been here can appreciate how real you are ❤
Also I don’t care (don’t understand) the way I dress! And my mother in law always has a go that I’m not colour matching or “my top doesn’t go with my trouser” I really hate being told that! I always do care! I just want to be comfy!