helenwoodrum2383,for sure she would have roundly mocked for being naive enough to think she could expect an invitation. She knew they would “reach out “ to her for a handout,once they saw how she was living. She stood up for herself, and threw them out.
I agree, i mean if the parents from both sides wana help that’s great, , but ESP if u want an expensive wedding why should u expect someone else to pay for it?? And $300,000 for a Wedding come on now! Just my opinion! U can still have a beautiful wedding without all the high cost! And ESP if u want someone else to pay for it and it’s that much then u need to get some priorities straight somewhere!
My pop used to say the same garbage. I did so much for you, when all he ever did was beat me when I was a child. He died penniless. I still contributed 4 grand for his funeral. Yes, I'm a better man than he ever was
I had second sister syndrome while I was in school. My only clothes were my sister's 'hand me downs'. My mother was obsessed with my sister and I was the 'hired hand' working in the barn, cleaning the stalls and hauling off the manure! When my sister married and we took her to the airport to travel to Germany where her Army hubby had just deployed and found housing for them. My mom cried like she had lost her only child. Then she turned her attentions to my little brother....and I continued cleaning stalls, got an allowance and had to buy my own clothes, my school lunches from $5 a week! Luckily my mom had bought my sis a whole new wardrobe for traveling to Germany She tossed her old clothes. I got some nice clothes for a change...not worn out! Then mom announced we would be best friends "Since I just lost my daughter" NO, I was civil, respectful, and that was that....I didn't go with her, shop with her, or really visit with her because she was so wrapped up with my little brother...buying him pets, clothes, a shetland pony with a cart it could pull while he sat holding the reins.I graduated from high school with honors and no family came to my graduation, no gifts..unlike my sister's graduation when my mother had called all relatives to remind them to send gifts!' As soon as I had a job...I split! Never went back.....wrote to my friends, but no communication to or from home!
My golden child wasn't even in my family!!!! I was 3 months younger than my parents best friends daughter. We were like boiling and water, but we were shoved together. Her mother would call up my mother and tell her about all of her achievements. My mother would turn around and tell me! I passed tge test to get in a private high school. She did not, but my fatger pulled some strings and she was admitted. I passed Subject A. She did not, but was waived through. Finally, in our 60's, shectold me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I said fine, and it has been so peaceful. I turned 80 this year. If she is alive, so did she. I hope she is fine, but l am relieved not to have to pretend l am dumber than she is anymore!!!!!
I can commiserate. My little sister got the attention, the brand new car at 16 (I had gotten a used small motorcycle), and she got the big first wedding (she did have to pay for second and third). Being the oldest and male, I was expected to be independent, so I was always learning new skills. It worked in my favor in the end. 😊
So let me get this straight: Thomas’ parents are “old money” wealthy and he’s marrying the daughter of a small town cafe owner? Lol, yeah sure….they wouldn’t even move in the same social circles let alone be getting married. This is such a Cinderella fairy tale, lol!
The sister got straight As was presumably good looking, entitled and well dressed etc always. Maybe the son insisted, but I agree I grew up where this dis-Arita existed, I agree a fairytale.
Who the heck spends that much on a wedding. That is crazy. I had a good one and spent maybe forty dollars. The ladies in our church helped and the friends and wonderful people were so memorable, I decorated my own cake. Yes I'm good at it. That much is insanity.
@patricial.6758 oh I know! The sheer stupidity is outrageous. I'm a member of church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints. I was married in the Washington DC temple. It was free. A more beautiful venue is not available. I had my reception in our chapel recreation area. Again free. I was far away from my family so the ladies of the church helped with refreshments and I decorated my own cake. It had been a dream of mine for a long time. I still love those ladies and miss them dearly.
Tell them that’s lovely. I’ll show you to the door. Goodbye. No no loans. Grace is your golden child - let Grace exercise her way into the money. I don’t loan money on principal ? My principles are that I don’t loan money to anyone who didn’t even invite me yo her engagement party. Mom and dad will be glad to find the money for you.
I really don’t like when a an awful parent says, “After all we’ve done for you?”. The retort needs to be, “ You mean everything You did To me”. Despite the treatment they dished out, you successfully made your own life.
$300k for wedding, hell no. Even though I can afford it, I wouldn't spend such kind of money for a day on my children. If they want such an extravagant wedding, then it is on them. I'd rather buy them a house or even start a trust fund for them, which would help them in the long run, but never would I allow my children to be so spoiled.
EXACTLY!!!! Honestly our wedding Dec 19, 26 years ago was stunning, we didn’t want a lot of fancy stuff! We had a beautiful wedding with about 75 to 100 guest, my Mom did most of the finger foods, plus my gown cost $250, Publix had a gorgeous cake but unfortunately it wasn’t done in the middle so they offered our $$ back, served what was edible and went to the N Ga Mtns, it was perfect! We all had a great time! And all that mattered was we were happily married at the end and still going strong!😊😊🙏🙏
My wedding cost under 1k and that was 30 years ago, we are still in love and had no money back then so we did it on the cheap. We have been mortgage free for over 10 years now 😊
Tell them that’s lovely. I’ll show you to the door. Goodbye. No no loans. Grace is your golden child - let Grace exercise her way into the money. I don’t loan money on principal ? My principles are that I don’t loan money to anyone who didn’t even invite me yo her engagement party. Mom and dad will be glad to find the money for you. And then they lied. That’s rich. Grace we don’t need to talk about anything.
Penthouse? No doirman? Sister can come right in? OP bragging about material thing just like elitist? These stories all the same. Reminding listener of what they don’t have. Capitalism...
Are parents that foul when they have children Favorites doing more for one then the other. Putting one down while and teaching them to be selfish with their siblings. Expecting the lease favored child to do what they want. Having no shame in their actions.
She could have told them, the loan is my college money you guys saved not paying for college. I object to her grand parents selling property for her college. I know they did it with love but she should have tried to figure out a way. Like not selling property. Getting a loan against it maybe. Property is actual dirt and mortar. I don’t blame her for not having anything to do with it. People now don’t seem to be able to figure out how to shut up about money.
I agree with some of that. But the entire point of having children is to create an environment where they can flourish and become the best they can be. Her grandparents likely saw this as money very well spent because Stella would make excellent use of the investment in her education, which would echo through future generations.
If your sister and her boyfriend are doing so well, why do they need money from you? They are your parents favorites and they could take care of your parents so there’s really nothing for you to do here. They don’t care about you at all. they just want to use you to support themselves and their stellar gorgeous wonderful golden child daughter. Your dad just can’t stop insulting you and neither can your mom turn down any request that they have move on and don’t look back. When they come crying to you to help them because your sister won’t or can’t do not be the bigger person, do not fall for the crocodile tears, do not go along to get along and do not fall for the guilt trip. comment on your mother‘s post put it all out there for everyone to see make sure everyone knows their friends the family their work people everyone the new in-laws oh yeah, make it well known that your parents treated you like crap and you’re treating the the grandparents like an ATM. Make sure everyone knows everyone.
Sorry this happened to you. My parents wouldn't have been stupid enough to ask me to pay that type of money. We have to be able to say no at the drop of a hat. People will try to take advantage of you all during your life. It's ludicrous to pay $150K for a wedding in my opinion. Atleast half of the people you don't know or like.
Oh... my oh so succesful sister and her oh so succesful fiance can't pay for their wedding...and this is my problem how?? Don't make me laugh...now GET LOST..
Am so happy u didn't give them jack shit shameless parents an a very useless sister live your life an let them watch u from a distance. An keep looking after your grandparents.
Noted worldwide that extravagant weddings mostly end in divorces.love n commitments,even in registry wedding is enough to see one through. All that sparkles not really diamonds but crystals.!!!????
This is quite realistic. Yes the put downs do affect a person, a child. Put downs at meal times so they all laugh.Constant put downs change a person. My extreme intelligence was put down constantly I was told no one would marry me, etc etC
Thats great Stella...dont let them walk over you snd cut ties with them for good. You have your grand parents. Ignore your relatived. Where were these people when you need help..they sre not importsnt to you.
She could have told them, the loan is my college money you guys saved not paying for college. I object to her grand parents selling property for her college. I know they did it with love but she should have tried to figure out a way. Like not selling property. Getting a loan against it maybe. Property is actual dirt and mortar. I don’t blame her for not having anything to do with it. People now don’t seem to be able to figure out how to shut up about money. You’d all be surprised at how badly I was treated as soon as I was a widow. Like I had leporsy.
She's being cut down do she never thinks to aspire to climb higher than their 'golden' 💩. YOU GET TREATED THE WAY YOU ****ALLOW**** PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU!!
OP shouldn't have ever let Mom, Dad and Sis into her new apartment. Keep No Contact with them.
Now this is a story with backbone. Love it
I bet if she had given the $150,000 for the wedding she wouldn't have been invited anyway.
helenwoodrum2383,for sure she would have roundly mocked for being naive enough to think she could expect an invitation. She knew they would “reach out “ to her for a handout,once they saw how she was living. She stood up for herself, and threw them out.
@CarolEdmonds-pk7hr I agree.
COUPLES PAY FOR YOUR OWN WEDDING...YOUR
RESPONSIBILITY NOT SOMEONE ELSE......!!!
I agree, i mean if the parents from both sides wana help that’s great, , but ESP if u want an expensive wedding why should u expect someone else to pay for it?? And $300,000 for a Wedding come on now! Just my opinion! U can still have a beautiful wedding without all the high cost! And ESP if u want someone else to pay for it and it’s that much then u need to get some priorities straight somewhere!
My pop used to say the same garbage. I did so much for you, when all he ever did was beat me when I was a child. He died penniless. I still contributed 4 grand for his funeral. Yes, I'm a better man than he ever was
I had second sister syndrome while I was in school. My only clothes were my sister's 'hand me downs'. My mother was obsessed with my sister and I was the 'hired hand' working in the barn, cleaning the stalls and hauling off the manure! When my sister married and we took her to the airport to travel to Germany where her Army hubby had just deployed and found housing for them. My mom cried like she had lost her only child. Then she turned her attentions to my little brother....and I continued cleaning stalls, got an allowance and had to buy my own clothes, my school lunches from $5 a week! Luckily my mom had bought my sis a whole new wardrobe for traveling to Germany
She tossed her old clothes. I got some nice clothes for a change...not worn out! Then mom announced we would be best friends "Since I just lost my daughter" NO, I was civil, respectful, and that was that....I didn't go with her, shop with her, or really visit with her because she was so wrapped up with my little brother...buying him pets, clothes, a shetland pony with a cart it could pull while he sat holding the reins.I graduated from high school with honors and no family came to my graduation, no gifts..unlike my sister's graduation when my mother had called all relatives to remind them to send gifts!' As soon as I had a job...I split!
Never went back.....wrote to my friends, but no communication to or from home!
Well done, you got out and never went back. I was the eldest and got hell too. Mostly cut out of will the favourite got the wealth.
@@gloglos100 yep, my sister was the executor of the will....you know......
My golden child wasn't even in my family!!!! I was 3 months younger than my parents best friends daughter. We were like boiling and water, but we were shoved together. Her mother would call up my mother and tell her about all of her achievements. My mother would turn around and tell me! I passed tge test to get in a private high school. She did not, but my fatger pulled some strings and she was admitted. I passed Subject A. She did not, but was waived through. Finally, in our 60's, shectold me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I said fine, and it has been so peaceful. I turned 80 this year. If she is alive, so did she. I hope she is fine, but l am relieved not to have to pretend l am dumber than she is anymore!!!!!
I can commiserate. My little sister got the attention, the brand new car at 16 (I had gotten a used small motorcycle), and she got the big first wedding (she did have to pay for second and third). Being the oldest and male, I was expected to be independent, so I was always learning new skills. It worked in my favor in the end. 😊
Emotional story and very well narrated. Congratulations 🎉🎉
So let me get this straight: Thomas’ parents are “old money” wealthy and he’s marrying the daughter of a small town cafe owner? Lol, yeah sure….they wouldn’t even move in the same social circles let alone be getting married. This is such a Cinderella fairy tale, lol!
The sister got straight As was presumably good looking, entitled and well dressed etc always. Maybe the son insisted, but I agree I grew up where this dis-Arita existed, I agree a fairytale.
At least the story showed the grooms mother looking at the parents like excrement.
Im appalled at these parents,favoring one child over another,but God won't be mocked what goes around comes around.😊
The parents should have taken out a loan using their cafe as collateral.
OP needs a medal after standing up for herself at the dinner. Her parents and Sister are smug but will swallow their words.
Tommys family has tons of dough and golden sister works in a bank. Why are they bugging op for cash
Entitled Greedy Beggars.
Who the heck spends that much on a wedding. That is crazy. I had a good one and spent maybe forty dollars. The ladies in our church helped and the friends and wonderful people were so memorable, I decorated my own cake. Yes I'm good at it. That much is insanity.
Ah but Thomas’ parents are “old money”, 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. What a ridiculous fairy tale, lol,
I know, right..... 😂😂. $150,000 wedding is extreme. $300,000 is beyond outrageous. Enough to buy a house. And how much will the divorce cost????
@patricial.6758 oh I know! The sheer stupidity is outrageous. I'm a member of church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints. I was married in the Washington DC temple. It was free. A more beautiful venue is not available. I had my reception in our chapel recreation area. Again free. I was far away from my family so the ladies of the church helped with refreshments and I decorated my own cake. It had been a dream of mine for a long time. I still love those ladies and miss them dearly.
Oh and my mother made my dress. She was a wonderful seamstress.
Tell them that’s lovely. I’ll show you to the door. Goodbye. No no loans. Grace is your golden child - let Grace exercise her way into the money.
I don’t loan money on principal ? My principles are that I don’t loan money to anyone who didn’t even invite me yo her engagement party. Mom and dad will be glad to find the money for you.
At long last. You stood up to your parents since they have. Ignored and taken advantaged of you while doting on your sistet
I really don’t like when a an awful parent says, “After all we’ve done for you?”. The retort needs to be, “ You mean everything You did To me”. Despite the treatment they dished out, you successfully made your own life.
Right and you had that kid and legally obligated to provide for them. The kid owes you nothing for being a parent to them.
I totally agree with you
Yup! They do what they are obligated to do period
@sschickful "Thanks for not breaking the law?" would be the best response to "we fed/clothed/houses you!"
$300k for wedding, hell no. Even though I can afford it, I wouldn't spend such kind of money for a day on my children.
If they want such an extravagant wedding, then it is on them.
I'd rather buy them a house or even start a trust fund for them, which would help them in the long run, but never would I allow my children to be so spoiled.
Parents famous words after all I've done for you 😊
300k on a wedding is insanity
If that's yen, then it's just over $1950 usd.
Or Vietnamese Dong!
EXACTLY!!!! Honestly our wedding Dec 19, 26 years ago was stunning, we didn’t want a lot of fancy stuff! We had a beautiful wedding with about 75 to 100 guest, my Mom did most of the finger foods, plus my gown cost $250, Publix had a gorgeous cake but unfortunately it wasn’t done in the middle so they offered our $$ back, served what was edible and went to the N Ga Mtns, it was perfect! We all had a great time! And all that mattered was we were happily married at the end and still going strong!😊😊🙏🙏
Not hard to do! We spent $3K in 1982.
News flash…
We’re still married! 😊
My wedding cost under 1k and that was 30 years ago, we are still in love and had no money back then so we did it on the cheap. We have been mortgage free for over 10 years now 😊
Tell them that’s lovely. I’ll show you to the door. Goodbye. No no loans. Grace is your golden child - let Grace exercise her way into the money.
I don’t loan money on principal ? My principles are that I don’t loan money to anyone who didn’t even invite me yo her engagement party. Mom and dad will be glad to find the money for you.
And then they lied. That’s rich.
Grace we don’t need to talk about anything.
You want a loan? What security are you offering? Sign over your house and cars, if you do not repay within 12 months I'll reposses and sell them all.
I liked this story it was different but sort of the same as many who would recycle a story but this wasn’t that it was better….❤❤❤😅😅
Penthouse? No doirman? Sister can come right in? OP bragging about material thing just like elitist? These stories all the same. Reminding listener of what they don’t have. Capitalism...
I wouldn’t pay more for a wedding than a house would cost.
NO!!!
'Success' the greatest dish, served cold, on a silver platter🍗😎🤘
"We call it revenge"
Finally, a story with a heroine with a spine who knew her own worth.
Grace should have gotten a protection order on her family
Are parents that foul when they have children
Favorites doing more for one then the other. Putting one down while and teaching them to be selfish with their siblings. Expecting the lease favored child to do what they want. Having no shame in their actions.
She could have told them, the loan is my college money you guys saved not paying for college.
I object to her grand parents selling property for her college. I know they did it with love but she should have tried to figure out a way. Like not selling property. Getting a loan against it maybe. Property is actual dirt and mortar. I don’t blame her for not having anything to do with it. People now don’t seem to be able to figure out how to shut up about money.
I agree with some of that. But the entire point of having children is to create an environment where they can flourish and become the best they can be. Her grandparents likely saw this as money very well spent because Stella would make excellent use of the investment in her education, which would echo through future generations.
If your sister and her boyfriend are doing so well, why do they need money from you? They are your parents favorites and they could take care of your parents so there’s really nothing for you to do here. They don’t care about you at all. they just want to use you to support themselves and their stellar gorgeous wonderful golden child daughter. Your dad just can’t stop insulting you and neither can your mom turn down any request that they have move on and don’t look back. When they come crying to you to help them because your sister won’t or can’t do not be the bigger person, do not fall for the crocodile tears, do not go along to get along and do not fall for the guilt trip. comment on your mother‘s post put it all out there for everyone to see make sure everyone knows their friends the family their work people everyone the new in-laws oh yeah, make it well known that your parents treated you like crap and you’re treating the the grandparents like an ATM. Make sure everyone knows everyone.
The sister works at a bank and her husband is a top lawyer, yet neither could come up with the money themselves?
Sorry this happened to you. My parents wouldn't have been stupid enough to ask me to pay that type of money. We have to be able to say no at the drop of a hat. People will try to take advantage of you all during your life. It's ludicrous to pay $150K for a wedding in my opinion. Atleast half of the people you don't know or like.
Oh... my oh so succesful sister and her oh so succesful fiance can't pay for their wedding...and this is my problem how?? Don't make me laugh...now GET LOST..
This should go under children's fantasy genre
Good for her! If she'd even agreed to a loan, she probably wouldn't have seen a cent, because she was "family".
Why don’t OP’s parents sell their house……?
Am so happy u didn't give them jack shit shameless parents an a very useless sister live your life an let them watch u from a distance. An keep looking after your grandparents.
Noted worldwide that extravagant weddings mostly end in divorces.love n commitments,even in registry wedding is enough to see one through. All that sparkles not really diamonds but crystals.!!!????
Good story and the narrator has a great voice.
9:14 CLOCK IT GIRL
STELLAAARRRR! STREET CAR NAMED DESIRE!!
wtf is wrong with the parents in all these story’s mine were far from perfect but Jesus Christ they treated us all equally.
This is quite realistic. Yes the put downs do affect a person, a child. Put downs at meal times so they all laugh.Constant put downs change a person. My extreme intelligence was put down constantly I was told no one would marry me, etc etC
Also do not understand why Stella working as manager in bank cannot take loan self?????
Ha HA HA
Thats great Stella...dont let them walk over you snd cut ties with them for good. You have your grand parents. Ignore your relatived. Where were these people when you need help..they sre not importsnt to you.
Good story
She could have told them, the loan is my college money you guys saved not paying for college.
I object to her grand parents selling property for her college. I know they did it with love but she should have tried to figure out a way. Like not selling property. Getting a loan against it maybe. Property is actual dirt and mortar. I don’t blame her for not having anything to do with it. People now don’t seem to be able to figure out how to shut up about money.
You’d all be surprised at how badly I was treated as soon as I was a widow. Like I had leporsy.
She's being cut down do she never thinks to aspire to climb higher than their 'golden' 💩.
YOU GET TREATED THE WAY YOU ****ALLOW**** PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU!!
Cant understand why parents treat their second daughter like that?Since I have 4 grown up kids and np place for favotism in my family