1- manage money and master budgeting 2- how to negotiate 3- how to say No 4- know how to check with yourself 5- how to cook 6- how to apologize 7- how to be alone 8- how to interview 9- how to make small talk 10- how to give and accept feedback
@@snipersytemsrosyida.8677 for 5, there're so many recipes online and on yt, and like everything, it's trial and error. as for 4, that requires some daily alone time and practice, no distractions or social media, maybe try journaling or talking to someone you trust and has a good head on their shoulder.
Budgeting is such an essential part of your financial life. Knowing exactly where your money is going allows you to attack your financial goals that much faster!
I found that my hoarding and bad spending habits go hand in hand. I made that rule that I need “more stuff going out than coming in.” So since I did some spending freezes, I have less in my house and more money in my account!
Oh, for sure. I hated working in groups in school projects (but who didn't?) and didn't like being part of a team because I do best when i "work alone". However, my discontenpt stemmed from me not understanding my own role. I was too young to understand that being the quiet one and getting work done with minimal interruptions was just as important as being the leader.
Yes! I've struggled w this. I love being in charge or a subordinate but I have tripped up in scenarios where I clearly needed to lead but was worried I'd be stepping on toes. Most ppl who are good at this I see sort of show some leadership on the first meet, and then if someone seems more keen they back off, if no one does, they load those responsibilities onto their back and carry them full steam. I've also been in groups that touted having great collaboration but they'd still suffer from people's insecurities. A lower-level worker meant to be on my team would constantly undermine my work in front of others, especially if I was trying to network. I was so confused and felt like I couldn't be confrontational and direct about it because I was technically superior in the co to him, and he was our manager's fav. I still haven't figured out how to deal with this one.
i woul add here: how to clean up after yourself. weather after you eat, how you leave you desk or the bathroom. it still baffles me when grown ass people leave a tiolet like they live in a hole in a forest. it all depends on what you are used to. i noticed if people are used to leaving a mess behind, and relying on others to clean up their mess, they behave like that in the workplace too, if they make a mistake or create a problem, they do everything from making excuses, blaming others, instead of taking responsibility and committing to fixing it. these are the ones that usually leave their trays on the table in the cafeteria instead of taking it to the designated trolley, the ones who leave 3 cups and a huge mess on their desk, and the ones who somehow don't comprehend that a toilet brush is there for you to use it.
Other than English, none. I like and see this retort a lot. Does this mean one should allow these mistakes to be? Or to helpfully point them out. Defensiveness is not always a good thing, you are portraying the arguments of those you criticise.
@@It.wasnt_me Mr Music i don't see how i was defensive, i jut replied that i corrected some mistakes, which i did before you even commented. and i asked if you spoke another language, because i assumed you were a native English speaker. i assumed right. "helpfully point out" - the way you phrased your comment wasn't encouraging, it was patronizing. and this comment section is not a workplace :)
Apologies if it seemed patronizing, jokes do not translate well when written down. Safe to say, we're all sorted. Let's move on with our insignificant existence on this planet.
Budgeting saved my life! .. I didn’t know I was wasting my money $$$$ on eating out and shopping till I learned about budgeting and budget apps .. I don’t have debt and i make really good money but i was wasting most of it on unnecessary stuff.. now I live on small portion of my money and save the rest ..I cook and eat at home most of time .. no shopping.. no more LVs and Gucci.. now I care about experience/enjoying my time more than spending money on going out... I only spend money on traveling that I save for it separately from my savings. A year and half ago I met my man we are married now.. we have goals in life house , saving investing and travel.. instead of going on expensive dates we cook together, watch a movie, or go to free festival / parks/ walk by the beach .. I love my frugal meaningful life..❤️😊
Yea I think this is one of their best lists so far tbh Actual things so many adults need to work on. You'd be surprised how hard it is to get people in their 30s even to give useful feedback or convince them you won't be offended by them being critical (I have to give and get feedback a lot bc I write, and I seriously just look at a criticism and go either 1) this is valid, I can fix it, thanks 2) this isn't valid at all, looks like the reader has some underlying issue with me/this piece and I'm going to ignore this or 3) this isn't exactly valid but I can see where I made a mistake I can fix that tripped them up
Invest in a good education, never co-sign on a loan, pay off credit cards asap, get a library card and use it often, avoid lending money to family & friends, learn about wealth & investing, keep learning, listen to positive audio books, live frugal, contribute to a IRA Roth every year, don't smoke, be careful who you bring into your life.
Most of these I learned during my highschool years. I believe my greatest weakness may very well be my determination. I hate having to give up on something. Surprisingly that's the one thing none of the 6 highschools I've attended ever addressed. Strengths were favored more than weaknesses.
Small talk is so difficult for me. I can hold brief conversations with people but ultimately...I just don't care about the lives of others and I don't want anyone to care about mine. I don't say that to sound edgy or cruel, but I enjoy my privacy and quiet life and the best way to keep that is to keep small company. Or no company. I really enjoy keeping to myself. For work relationships and connections, I avoid jobs where this is needed. I'm sociable enough to let others know I don't bite but afterwards, you're going to find my face in a book, doing a word search, or struggling with a Sudoku puzzle when otherwise not busy (ironically enough, I currently work at a call center. I seem to keep falling into jobs that fit poorly with my personality but it forces me out of my shell. I've made a lot of social progress from when I did online chat for Verizon in my early 20's and now I'm talking to people, albeit in a formulaic and as-brief-as-possible manner).
So, I'm going to go out on a limb here and point out that you just told this entire community some very personal things about you, which makes me think that you want to be heard and known more than you are letting on. As someone who has been hurt by people in the past and so is more inclined to keep to myself than to try to befriend new people and who has to fight against that defense mechanism every day, I encourage you to ask yourself deep questions about what is making you feel this way and see whether it is something you might want to work through and heal. Of course, you might really prefer to be alone, but I think if you did, you probably wouldn't be commenting on a community forum.--Tasha
@@OneBigHappyLife I think I like the anonymity of the internet a tad too much and that's why I was so frank, heh. Though you have an interesting take! I certainly would never want to be a recluse but when I think about how I've interacted with others my whole life, I think it's safe to say that I really haven't, in the grand scheme of things. I've had friends and I've done group activities. In fact, I'd daresay I'm darn good with even leading small groups for short periods of time (hours), especially when I have others less inclined to socialize than me! But after those events, my socialization desire wans and I'm happy to go on back to my silence. I have my desires as anyone else to converse, but a single short conversation a day is enough. I don't like being separate from others, either. I could work from home with my job but I choose not to because I'll miss being around people. I feel lonely when I'm completely by myself but I don't want to talk. I just want to be surrounded by others and essentially feed off their energy, if that makes sense and doesn't sound disturbing, lol. Maybe similar to going to a restaurant where you could easily do take-out but you choose to sit inside and eat. The buoyancy of the enviroment is enough for me. I guess I said what I said to wonder if anyone else could identify. Reading your comment, I was surprised you said you have to work to make conversations. Never would've guessed! You seem to be so at ease with speaking.
Talk about the weather. It is a non personal small talk and it's so 'safe' that you can even talk about it in any context. Even in hospitals and funerals.
@@lorsange1107 Sometimes I do, but I'm always inwardly chuckling at the cliche of it. We all know talking about the weather is now the defacto way to try to start a conversation, so when I see it, especially with other people, I end up biting my lip because it's so obvious :) I usually save weather conversations for when it's warrented, which is usually only rain in my neck of the woods. And after a few lines about that...I inevitably return back to my quietness. I had my one conversation for the day so I'm good. I talk and interact just enough to show I'm rather friendly but not a talkative person. Except online. Dear goodness, I have the gift of gab online.
@CommandonerBob 1 I care for all people in a general sense. I just don't like getting too involved with other people's business and vice-versa, them in mine. It's good though for those that are more people-oriented. More power to you because not all of us are :)
INTROVERTS CAN TALK TO STRANGERS! Introvert is not the opposite of being outgoing! It just means you recharge on your own time rather than in social events. introvert extrovert reserved outgoing quiet talkative You can be any combo of these. I'm introverted and quiet, but EXTREMELY outgoing, friendly and confrontational.
Many ppl lack situational awareness we are so comfortable with our routine we don't push yourself to learn different things that may benefit you or others
Yeah. I ALWAYS have trouble starting things. From starting a narrative writing to learning a new instrument/language to studying to starting a conversation 😭
It's gonna be a hell of long comment, if you read it till the end, kudos to you and thanks :D I'm currently trying to flip life upside down and videos like this are so interesting, there is so much i want to do and i'm tired of being crippled with anxiety and despression. I'm aware that it will take time, that it's gonna be hard to create new good habits to change my current lifestyle to a more healthy one (and more productive/effective) but i'm in a good period and my depression is kinda sleepy atm so it's time i guess My end goal is to open my photography business, so i need to learn a shit ton of stuff and this video is a good starting point cause i need to work on ALL of the skills presented here haha 1. Budgeting: (first i need a job BUT) i already planned out a new way to deal with my money and budgeting will definitly help a lot when it comes down to that, if i'm doing it correctly i'll be able to save up about 9600€ in a year while still having more than enough money to live off (thx mom) 2. Negotiation, This one will be one of the most important one for my business (as well as saying no) i don't want to rip off my clients but i don't want to get ripped off as well. 3. Say no, Hell yeah, i did a wedding with my father and our clients were sadly our worst clients yet, they basically added stuff that we were not supposed to do and the only thing they did was complaining, my father was in charge so i followed along but we could have charged them for everything they asked but we didn't, we basically did a shit ton of work for free and added a lot of stress to what should have been like most wedding, a nice experience. i'm sad that they were not happy cause that's why i'm doing theses kind of events in the first place, it's a big day for them and i want to help them have greats photos of that day, but you can't please everyone i guess. 4. i blocked 1hour (atm) every sunday to reflect on the week, how i feel and what i want to do, improve etc and yeah that feel good, reflecting on the week even on bad ones help to see what happen and how you can improve it next time. This week for example my sleep was nowhere to be found so i started looking for some stuff online to improve that and make sure that i can start having the routine i want 5. I don't know if cooking is the easiest to master (especially after years of malnutrition) but it's definitly one of the most important with good sleep I'll take your advice and learn a few recipes and add them to my current one which is composed of burgers, pastas, and peanuts :') 6. Most people don't really know how to apologize and i like the fact that you give nice tips about it, there is a video called "therapist react to zootopia" really nice video where the therapist talk about real apologies and bad ones as well, it's where i learned to do it personnaly 7. for people like me the opposite should be what we train, i love being alone, i'm not that social and at first i was ok with it but now that i want to build a business around social skills (photographying weddings for example) i canno't keep my social skill to what they are and let my anxiety's rule the situation for me. 8. Totally agree, at first i never understood why i didn't get one job, even if it was for a food job i was always trying to get it no matter what, and i kinda regret not asking why, i mean most of the time they send you an e-mail or worst they never contact you again and that's the end of the story, i've only asked once why i didnt get the job and tbh the answer was pretty evasive like they don't wanted to answer that :') I mean if i wasnt qualified, motivated, or smth why not saying it ? at first i actually thought that i was too ugly for the job because they didnt gave me one :') 9. i'm terrible at this, hell even with my best friend i never really knows how to start a conversation, and let's not talk about dates :') It's definitly a skill i need to improve on 10. for me feedback are not the issue i love getting them even when it's negative (i prefer negative/constructive ones anyway) my issue tho is when someone compliment my work, because of my lack of confidence i always feel like they are not honest with me even if they are and that's something that i think is also really important to learn, how to take compliment without being like "what are you talking about it's garbage" type of attitude, maybe when i do that the other person may feel like i'm actually condescendant ANYWAY, this video was really interesting and i'll definitly work on theses, i'll try to apply the "1% improvement every day" mindset to stay motivated and keep trying to do better so again, if anyone read that till the end, know that if someone is thinking about you and is grateful that you did ! anyway have a great day :D
Sandwich feedback is good-ish if it is used less often and if we manage to formulate it without using words such as but, yet and replace them with 'and'. This what smarter people than me said.
Reality there's only so much you can talk about when it's come to finances. The key is are you actually doing any of it? I used to listen Dave Ramsey for a while i realized it's the same thing over and over and I've done everything he suggested so I have to start listening other people to gain more knowledge.
If you're interested in getting more into the details of finance some of TFD's interviews with money managers and such are useful, and "Investing with Rose" is another good channel
1. How to manage your money 2. How to negotiate 3. How to say no 4. How to check in with yourself 5. How to cool 6. How to apologize 7. How to be alone 8. How to interview 9. How to make small talk 10. How to give and accept feedback
Please provide a notes of 10 skills in description. Not just for this video for everything in financial diet Chanel because your information is very useful so notes help in memoization..❤️
Hey there. Would you guys consider doing an episode on how to budget in college? While I'm happy that you guys can budget for all these goals, my friends and I are trying to budget to scrape by and still get groceries. Best wishes.
apart from extracting yourself from a conversation without making it awkward, there wasn’t any mention of how to engage in small talk? for example, can u explain how to start a conversation? thanks
I guess I'm gonna need this. Just got kicked out at alnost 19 when I'd planned on being there till uni was over to save money.... Not sure if I should beg to be taken in again or not (got kicked out for not helping around the house enough)
If your parents weren't demanding undoable amount of chores go and ask them if you can come back. It will save you so much money. And really work on yourself and tell them you will do better. Imagine all the things that need to be done around the house. Split that by the number of adults in the house: that is the LEAST amount you should help out. And believe me... it will be less things to do and to take core of than living on your own.
@@zoggerweibchen the funny part is that I agreed to do more chores in the "conversation" only to be good to leave at the end due to being "rude" which I really wasn't. Thank u so much for your advice
...not sure how to say this, but you're 19, i.e. an adult, which means you should be helping out around the house without having to be asked to do it and without having chores specifically assigned. Just do what needs to be done and say nothing. The suggestion to divide the amount of housework by the number of adults and do at least that much is a good one. However, I think kicking you out is extreme. That probably happened because they were at their wit's end with you, and you didn't realize how far you'd pushed your luck with them. You can certainly try making them an offer. Explain your goal of trying to save money while getting through college, acknowledge your past mistakes in this area, and promise to do your fair share from now on. And don't think of it as 'chores'. Think of it as doing the most grown-up thing you can do: independently look after yourself and help others too.
Simple fajitas with quinoa is a failsafe recipe. You don't have to cook both rice and beans, and they are delicious! It's healthy and delicious. Quinoa is a Latin American food.
Thanks Chelsea for another informative video. I have been subscribed to this channel for the past few months and your tips are really helpful. I was wondering if there is a way for me to invest even from the Philippines?
10 Essential Life Skills You Need to Learn 1. How to Manage your Money 0:30 2. How to Negotiate 1:53 3. How to Say NO 2:50 4. How to Check In with Yourself 3:2 5. How to Cook 4:55 6. How to Apologize 5:27 7. How to Be Alone 6:22 8. How to Interview 7:10 9. How to Make Small Talk 8:07 10. How to Give and Accept Feedback 9:00
Why is saying that you're a perfectionist a bad thing? I've always felt like that was a very honest answer for me. Now I might say that I am really bad about work-life balance intensive spend all night at my job, which might make them want to hire me for the wrong reasons.
I am well into adulthood and one of the things I learned at an early age was to know your audience. You wanted to pay off $35,000 in debt and take a family vacation to Singapore? Really, who do you think your audience is, and can they relate? I don’t think so.
Our core audience on OBH is dual income professionals like ourselves, though anyone can apply the principles we share to their own lives and we are happy to welcome everyone that wants to watch our videos.. We're proud of the community we've built over on our channel and it seems to me that quite a few people can relate. Not to mention the fact that we go beyond talking about our own lives and provide information on how our audience can increase their income and/or structure their lives to create the life that they want. --Tasha
I actually don't like the compliment sandwich. Yes, it will probably go over better... Because the negative feedback isn't being taken seriously. If you want to work on how to give feedback to someone, I'd recommend the Ask a Manager website. Yes it's centered on professional situations, but many of the advice she gives can be transferred to every day life situation.
Constructive criticism: your head is moving sooo much it is confusing to watch especially because your body language is your head shaking back and forth in a "no" movement while going through the list. The information is good, but I had to stop looking at the video in order to actually listen to the info. Not trying to troll, just a personal observation.
Thanks for the feedback. This is one of those instances when giving constrictive feedback where you have a concern but should consider whether it is automatically the other persons' responsibility to fix it or if you can find a solution for yourself that doesn't put the onus of catering to your preferences on others? In other words, should I change my natural way of speaking to make you feel more at ease? Remember just because you able to criticize, doesn't mean you should. Criticism comes easy. Restraint is much harder, as is finding the proper balance between the two and setting realistic expectations. I enjoy my more physically expressive communication style so I don't anticipate changing it any time soon. Plus it seems you've already found a solution that's working well for you.--Tasha
Noted and understood. I've studied the art of reading deception in body language and just thought I would send a helpful note. You've made it this far without any help from me :-) so I am sure you are doing great without needing to make changes. I just wanted to alert you of an observation. Truly only with the best intentions. I hope you and your beautiful family have a blessed day.
@@OneBigHappyLife Hey Tasha, I've binge-watched all your videos and I actually agree that you are nodding your head a lot so much so, that it's communicating a different message than what you're saying. Usually when you're with Joseph, you are playing off of his interaction, but in this case I think your constant head nodding doesn't communicate physical expressiveness, it's showing me that you're not breathing. Or at least you are not breathing deeply enough and you're relying on the nod to communicate relatability when you could be doing that through your voice if you slowed down a bit and breathed deeper. And your voice is great and you are extremely relatable so you don't need to hammer your points home literally with your head (and eyebrows) all the time. As you said it's your style and it's not changing, but wanted to share my thoughts.
The budgeting advice is a bit tone deaf. Most Americans today make less than $35,000 a year and assuming that we're all just eating out too much is almost offensive. This video can be improved by: 1. sharing information that is new and that hasn't been shared on repeat on every channel, or in every self-help book 2. making the information relevant to the audience (people wanting information on budgeting are probably not making much money and if they are, they already know the information presented here). Also, there is an underlying assumption here that viewers lack basic social skills which is also borderline offensive. 3. the information presented had some research to support it that viewers could look into further.
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1- manage money and master budgeting
2- how to negotiate
3- how to say No
4- know how to check with yourself
5- how to cook
6- how to apologize
7- how to be alone
8- how to interview
9- how to make small talk
10- how to give and accept feedback
thnks very much
well, the 5 and 4 idk how ;-;
@@snipersytemsrosyida.8677 for 5, there're so many recipes online and on yt, and like everything, it's trial and error. as for 4, that requires some daily alone time and practice, no distractions or social media, maybe try journaling or talking to someone you trust and has a good head on their shoulder.
@@shurryma thx :)
Thanks for putting all the essential skills in points 😊😊
Budgeting is such an essential part of your financial life. Knowing exactly where your money is going allows you to attack your financial goals that much faster!
Absolutely!--Tasha
I found that my hoarding and bad spending habits go hand in hand. I made that rule that I need “more stuff going out than coming in.” So since I did some spending freezes, I have less in my house and more money in my account!
I think one of the biggest life skills people need to learn is how to work as a team member.
Yep, that's another great skill to have. There really are way more than just 10 essential life skills, lol.--Tasha
Also as a leader
Oh, for sure.
I hated working in groups in school projects (but who didn't?) and didn't like being part of a team because I do best when i "work alone". However, my discontenpt stemmed from me not understanding my own role. I was too young to understand that being the quiet one and getting work done with minimal interruptions was just as important as being the leader.
Yes! I've struggled w this. I love being in charge or a subordinate but I have tripped up in scenarios where I clearly needed to lead but was worried I'd be stepping on toes. Most ppl who are good at this I see sort of show some leadership on the first meet, and then if someone seems more keen they back off, if no one does, they load those responsibilities onto their back and carry them full steam.
I've also been in groups that touted having great collaboration but they'd still suffer from people's insecurities. A lower-level worker meant to be on my team would constantly undermine my work in front of others, especially if I was trying to network. I was so confused and felt like I couldn't be confrontational and direct about it because I was technically superior in the co to him, and he was our manager's fav. I still haven't figured out how to deal with this one.
Or not be an arse
i woul add here: how to clean up after yourself. weather after you eat, how you leave you desk or the bathroom. it still baffles me when grown ass people leave a tiolet like they live in a hole in a forest. it all depends on what you are used to. i noticed if people are used to leaving a mess behind, and relying on others to clean up their mess, they behave like that in the workplace too, if they make a mistake or create a problem, they do everything from making excuses, blaming others, instead of taking responsibility and committing to fixing it. these are the ones that usually leave their trays on the table in the cafeteria instead of taking it to the designated trolley, the ones who leave 3 cups and a huge mess on their desk, and the ones who somehow don't comprehend that a toilet brush is there for you to use it.
Will you commit to changing the spelling and grammar to your complaint? *whether, *toilet, *. I
@@It.wasnt_me yes, i changed a couple of mistakes after i saw them. just out of curiosity, how many languages do you speak?
Other than English, none. I like and see this retort a lot. Does this mean one should allow these mistakes to be? Or to helpfully point them out. Defensiveness is not always a good thing, you are portraying the arguments of those you criticise.
@@It.wasnt_me Mr Music i don't see how i was defensive, i jut replied that i corrected some mistakes, which i did before you even commented. and i asked if you spoke another language, because i assumed you were a native English speaker. i assumed right.
"helpfully point out" - the way you phrased your comment wasn't encouraging, it was patronizing.
and this comment section is not a workplace :)
Apologies if it seemed patronizing, jokes do not translate well when written down. Safe to say, we're all sorted. Let's move on with our insignificant existence on this planet.
Budgeting saved my life! ..
I didn’t know I was wasting my money $$$$ on eating out and shopping till I learned about budgeting and budget apps .. I don’t have debt and i make really good money but i was wasting most of it on unnecessary stuff..
now I live on small portion of my money and save the rest ..I cook and eat at home most of time .. no shopping.. no more LVs and Gucci.. now I care about experience/enjoying my time more than spending money on going out... I only spend money on traveling that I save for it separately from my savings.
A year and half ago I met my man we are married now.. we have goals in life house , saving investing and travel.. instead of going on expensive dates we cook together, watch a movie, or go to free festival / parks/ walk by the beach ..
I love my frugal meaningful life..❤️😊
Nice 👍
This is basically "adulting 101"
Thanks this video was very helpful. ♡♥♡
Awesome! Glad you liked it!--Tasha
Yea I think this is one of their best lists so far tbh
Actual things so many adults need to work on. You'd be surprised how hard it is to get people in their 30s even to give useful feedback or convince them you won't be offended by them being critical (I have to give and get feedback a lot bc I write, and I seriously just look at a criticism and go either 1) this is valid, I can fix it, thanks 2) this isn't valid at all, looks like the reader has some underlying issue with me/this piece and I'm going to ignore this or 3) this isn't exactly valid but I can see where I made a mistake I can fix that tripped them up
I struggle with:
-small talk
-negotiation
-interview
Invest in a good education, never co-sign on a loan, pay off credit cards asap, get a library card and use it often, avoid lending money to family & friends, learn about wealth & investing, keep learning, listen to positive audio books, live frugal, contribute to a IRA Roth every year, don't smoke, be careful who you bring into your life.
Most of these I learned during my highschool years.
I believe my greatest weakness may very well be my determination. I hate having to give up on something.
Surprisingly that's the one thing none of the 6 highschools I've attended ever addressed. Strengths were favored more than weaknesses.
Do you have a podcast? Really love watching your contents. Been watching every videos since last year.
I don't have a podcast. I would love to have one but there's no way we could add that in to our already swamped schedules!--Tasha
One Big Happy Life something to add when you’re doing this full-time :)
Ashley Royster I like how you think!--Tasha
Carmela Fernandez Yesss! Make a podcast!!!
This was the best information I’ve ran into. Especially at this point in my life. Thank you for making this video.
Small talk is so difficult for me. I can hold brief conversations with people but ultimately...I just don't care about the lives of others and I don't want anyone to care about mine. I don't say that to sound edgy or cruel, but I enjoy my privacy and quiet life and the best way to keep that is to keep small company. Or no company. I really enjoy keeping to myself.
For work relationships and connections, I avoid jobs where this is needed. I'm sociable enough to let others know I don't bite but afterwards, you're going to find my face in a book, doing a word search, or struggling with a Sudoku puzzle when otherwise not busy (ironically enough, I currently work at a call center. I seem to keep falling into jobs that fit poorly with my personality but it forces me out of my shell. I've made a lot of social progress from when I did online chat for Verizon in my early 20's and now I'm talking to people, albeit in a formulaic and as-brief-as-possible manner).
So, I'm going to go out on a limb here and point out that you just told this entire community some very personal things about you, which makes me think that you want to be heard and known more than you are letting on. As someone who has been hurt by people in the past and so is more inclined to keep to myself than to try to befriend new people and who has to fight against that defense mechanism every day, I encourage you to ask yourself deep questions about what is making you feel this way and see whether it is something you might want to work through and heal. Of course, you might really prefer to be alone, but I think if you did, you probably wouldn't be commenting on a community forum.--Tasha
@@OneBigHappyLife I think I like the anonymity of the internet a tad too much and that's why I was so frank, heh. Though you have an interesting take! I certainly would never want to be a recluse but when I think about how I've interacted with others my whole life, I think it's safe to say that I really haven't, in the grand scheme of things. I've had friends and I've done group activities. In fact, I'd daresay I'm darn good with even leading small groups for short periods of time (hours), especially when I have others less inclined to socialize than me!
But after those events, my socialization desire wans and I'm happy to go on back to my silence. I have my desires as anyone else to converse, but a single short conversation a day is enough. I don't like being separate from others, either. I could work from home with my job but I choose not to because I'll miss being around people. I feel lonely when I'm completely by myself but I don't want to talk. I just want to be surrounded by others and essentially feed off their energy, if that makes sense and doesn't sound disturbing, lol. Maybe similar to going to a restaurant where you could easily do take-out but you choose to sit inside and eat. The buoyancy of the enviroment is enough for me.
I guess I said what I said to wonder if anyone else could identify. Reading your comment, I was surprised you said you have to work to make conversations. Never would've guessed! You seem to be so at ease with speaking.
Talk about the weather. It is a non personal small talk and it's so 'safe' that you can even talk about it in any context. Even in hospitals and funerals.
@@lorsange1107 Sometimes I do, but I'm always inwardly chuckling at the cliche of it. We all know talking about the weather is now the defacto way to try to start a conversation, so when I see it, especially with other people, I end up biting my lip because it's so obvious :) I usually save weather conversations for when it's warrented, which is usually only rain in my neck of the woods. And after a few lines about that...I inevitably return back to my quietness. I had my one conversation for the day so I'm good. I talk and interact just enough to show I'm rather friendly but not a talkative person.
Except online. Dear goodness, I have the gift of gab online.
@CommandonerBob 1 I care for all people in a general sense. I just don't like getting too involved with other people's business and vice-versa, them in mine. It's good though for those that are more people-oriented. More power to you because not all of us are :)
INTROVERTS CAN TALK TO STRANGERS! Introvert is not the opposite of being outgoing! It just means you recharge on your own time rather than in social events.
introvert extrovert
reserved outgoing
quiet talkative
You can be any combo of these. I'm introverted and quiet, but EXTREMELY outgoing, friendly and confrontational.
Budgeting:
Negotiating:
Learn to say no to tasks:
Check self:
Cook:
Learn to interview:
Master Small talk:
Learn to accept feedback:
Many ppl lack situational awareness we are so comfortable with our routine we don't push yourself to learn different things that may benefit you or others
I’ve always had trouble with small talk. I guess I’m a bit like Ralph Wiggam “So....do you like....stuff?”
If you talk about the weather it will save your life. For example: 'Today's very cold, isn't it?' 'It seems that's gonna rain...' Works every time.
Welcome to Germany!
Yeah. I ALWAYS have trouble starting things. From starting a narrative writing to learning a new instrument/language to studying to starting a conversation 😭
I thought this was going to be a wannabe something video. But I am happy that my time was not wasted. Great Video.
Thank you for this video Tasha! For me my biggest struggle is knowing how to interview.
Budgeting is very important. I also agree with the importance of learning how to truly apologize to others.
Love this! Mad props to you! I was looking for something to share with my 23 year old. I especially liked the Self-checkin bit!
It's gonna be a hell of long comment, if you read it till the end, kudos to you and thanks :D
I'm currently trying to flip life upside down and videos like this are so interesting, there is so much i want to do and i'm tired of being crippled with anxiety and despression. I'm aware that it will take time, that it's gonna be hard to create new good habits to change my current lifestyle to a more healthy one (and more productive/effective)
but i'm in a good period and my depression is kinda sleepy atm so it's time i guess
My end goal is to open my photography business, so i need to learn a shit ton of stuff and this video is a good starting point cause i need to work on ALL of the skills presented here haha
1. Budgeting: (first i need a job BUT) i already planned out a new way to deal with my money and budgeting will definitly help a lot when it comes down to that, if i'm doing it correctly i'll be able to save up about 9600€ in a year while still having more than enough money to live off (thx mom)
2. Negotiation, This one will be one of the most important one for my business (as well as saying no) i don't want to rip off my clients but i don't want to get ripped off as well.
3. Say no, Hell yeah, i did a wedding with my father and our clients were sadly our worst clients yet, they basically added stuff that we were not supposed to do and the only thing they did was complaining, my father was in charge so i followed along but we could have charged them for everything they asked but we didn't, we basically did a shit ton of work for free and added a lot of stress to what should have been like most wedding, a nice experience. i'm sad that they were not happy cause that's why i'm doing theses kind of events in the first place, it's a big day for them and i want to help them have greats photos of that day, but you can't please everyone i guess.
4. i blocked 1hour (atm) every sunday to reflect on the week, how i feel and what i want to do, improve etc and yeah that feel good, reflecting on the week even on bad ones help to see what happen and how you can improve it next time.
This week for example my sleep was nowhere to be found so i started looking for some stuff online to improve that and make sure that i can start having the routine i want
5. I don't know if cooking is the easiest to master (especially after years of malnutrition) but it's definitly one of the most important with good sleep
I'll take your advice and learn a few recipes and add them to my current one which is composed of burgers, pastas, and peanuts :')
6. Most people don't really know how to apologize and i like the fact that you give nice tips about it, there is a video called "therapist react to zootopia" really nice video where the therapist talk about real apologies and bad ones as well, it's where i learned to do it personnaly
7. for people like me the opposite should be what we train, i love being alone, i'm not that social and at first i was ok with it but now that i want to build a business around social skills (photographying weddings for example) i canno't keep my social skill to what they are and let my anxiety's rule the situation for me.
8. Totally agree, at first i never understood why i didn't get one job, even if it was for a food job i was always trying to get it no matter what, and i kinda regret not asking why, i mean most of the time they send you an e-mail or worst they never contact you again and that's the end of the story, i've only asked once why i didnt get the job and tbh the answer was pretty evasive like they don't wanted to answer that :')
I mean if i wasnt qualified, motivated, or smth why not saying it ? at first i actually thought that i was too ugly for the job because they didnt gave me one :')
9. i'm terrible at this, hell even with my best friend i never really knows how to start a conversation, and let's not talk about dates :')
It's definitly a skill i need to improve on
10. for me feedback are not the issue i love getting them even when it's negative (i prefer negative/constructive ones anyway) my issue tho is when someone compliment my work, because of my lack of confidence i always feel like they are not honest with me even if they are and that's something that i think is also really important to learn, how to take compliment without being like "what are you talking about it's garbage" type of attitude, maybe when i do that the other person may feel like i'm actually condescendant
ANYWAY, this video was really interesting and i'll definitly work on theses, i'll try to apply the "1% improvement every day" mindset to stay motivated and keep trying to do better
so again, if anyone read that till the end, know that if someone is thinking about you and is grateful that you did !
anyway have a great day :D
Those were actually really interesting tips! Thanks a lot.
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ALICE!!!
Love Tasha! So glad to see you all the time! Thanks for the great tips...
Thank you and you are welcome!--Tasha
The only life skill I need right now is the skill to make money.
Sandwich feedback is good-ish if it is used less often and if we manage to formulate it without using words such as but, yet and replace them with 'and'. This what smarter people than me said.
😎😎😎😎😎🤠im grateful for the thoughts that I had that directed me to this channel. Finance is practical and Mental
Excellent video! Great reminders here. Diggin Lifestyle Fix and Tasha! Good move, TFD!
Thanks!--Tasha
I feel like all the info in TFD is now just a bunch of repeat stuff that is over sponsored
Reality there's only so much you can talk about when it's come to finances. The key is are you actually doing any of it? I used to listen Dave Ramsey for a while i realized it's the same thing over and over and I've done everything he suggested so I have to start listening other people to gain more knowledge.
I don't feel this way while watching these videos, i just sieve through the info and apply what's useful for me.
If you're interested in getting more into the details of finance some of TFD's interviews with money managers and such are useful, and "Investing with Rose" is another good channel
Thank you for your video I need life skills class right now
1. How to manage your money
2. How to negotiate
3. How to say no
4. How to check in with yourself
5. How to cool
6. How to apologize
7. How to be alone
8. How to interview
9. How to make small talk
10. How to give and accept feedback
Managing finances is a must especially for young adults right now. Modern adulting guide is essential for Millenials.
Please provide a notes of 10 skills in description. Not just for this video for everything in financial diet Chanel because your information is very useful so notes help in memoization..❤️
Great life tips! And thank you for using one of my stock photos in the thumbnail! 😄
Great video Tasha! I think you hit the nail on the head with the 10 skills
Great advice friend!😘
Thanks Jia!--Tasha
I really learned a lot. Thank you ♥️
Great video! Much needed motivation to start my day.
New video name: 10 Essential Life Skills School Doesn't Teach You
Good one.--Tasha
Very helpful. Thank u
Omg I love Tasha ❤️
if there's a way to end a conversation awkwardly, i'll find it
Lol...WHAT?
I like her voice.
I am working on It's my attitude as well
Hey there. Would you guys consider doing an episode on how to budget in college? While I'm happy that you guys can budget for all these goals, my friends and I are trying to budget to scrape by and still get groceries. Best wishes.
Budgeting is all the same. Look at you income versus needs (bills, food, etc)
This is an amazingly helpful video! Thank you!
Thanks for watching!--Tasha
Nice videooooo. Take Care❤️❤️
apart from extracting yourself from a conversation without making it awkward, there wasn’t any mention of how to engage in small talk?
for example, can u explain how to start a conversation? thanks
I love Tasha she looks soooo cool!
If I want to listen to One Big Happy Life I can visit it I wish TFD would stick to it's own
Love this list! Thank you!!
Glad you liked it!--Tasha
Anyone know any easy meals to make for beginners? Im overwhelmed by the variety of food I can make
This advice is invaluable!
Thank you!--Tasha
Great video! Love this! Thanks for sharing!
I guess I'm gonna need this. Just got kicked out at alnost 19 when I'd planned on being there till uni was over to save money.... Not sure if I should beg to be taken in again or not (got kicked out for not helping around the house enough)
If your parents weren't demanding undoable amount of chores go and ask them if you can come back. It will save you so much money. And really work on yourself and tell them you will do better. Imagine all the things that need to be done around the house. Split that by the number of adults in the house: that is the LEAST amount you should help out.
And believe me... it will be less things to do and to take core of than living on your own.
@@zoggerweibchen the funny part is that I agreed to do more chores in the "conversation" only to be good to leave at the end due to being "rude" which I really wasn't. Thank u so much for your advice
...not sure how to say this, but you're 19, i.e. an adult, which means you should be helping out around the house without having to be asked to do it and without having chores specifically assigned. Just do what needs to be done and say nothing. The suggestion to divide the amount of housework by the number of adults and do at least that much is a good one.
However, I think kicking you out is extreme. That probably happened because they were at their wit's end with you, and you didn't realize how far you'd pushed your luck with them. You can certainly try making them an offer. Explain your goal of trying to save money while getting through college, acknowledge your past mistakes in this area, and promise to do your fair share from now on.
And don't think of it as 'chores'. Think of it as doing the most grown-up thing you can do: independently look after yourself and help others too.
@@silviag3798 thank you
@@silviag3798 they have accepted me back, and I will keep your advice in mind
Thank you!
I am homeless and I am wondering on my life skills ,and ever everything as well
With the sandwich feedback method the words “but” and “however” should not be use because it destroy the effects of the sandwich method.
Great tip!--Tasha
Simple fajitas with quinoa is a failsafe recipe. You don't have to cook both rice and beans, and they are delicious! It's healthy and delicious. Quinoa is a Latin American food.
I have a one pot rice and beans recipe that is soooo good.--Tasha
Great video, glad you have partnered with TFD. I love one big happy and this channel as well 😊
Tia, thank you so much for your kind words and support. It means so much to me.--Tasha
You are most welcome 😊
These are great suggestions! Love the video ❤️
YES THE PRAISE SANDWICH! I tell my boyfriend this all the time. lol
Why don't they teach this stuff in high school? It would be highly beneficial, I think.
They often do. But it gets lost in the void because of the age group your dealing with.
Praise sandwich? I like it! 😊
Thanks for the video
Tbh kinda weird to listening to anyone other than Chelsea being a new subscriber. Loved the video either way
Sigh...small talk. My Achilles heel. I guess I'll have to research and practice now...So, uhm... I gotta go to the restroom, cya around! 😅
😆--Tasha
Thank you 🔥🔥🔥
Thanks Chelsea for another informative video. I have been subscribed to this channel for the past few months and your tips are really helpful. I was wondering if there is a way for me to invest even from the Philippines?
Her name is Tasha.
Very helpful 😇
10 Essential Life Skills You Need to Learn
1. How to Manage your Money 0:30
2. How to Negotiate 1:53
3. How to Say NO 2:50
4. How to Check In with Yourself 3:2
5. How to Cook 4:55
6. How to Apologize 5:27
7. How to Be Alone 6:22
8. How to Interview 7:10
9. How to Make Small Talk 8:07
10. How to Give and Accept Feedback 9:00
Good tips, doing most of them all. Thank you. You look too young to
Have a daughter looking for a job
My family would drive two hours to go camping for family vacation 😂
GREAT info!
Thanks!--Tasha
Good morning I need it's
does anyone know of an investment company like wealthsimple that applies to European Currency?
Why is saying that you're a perfectionist a bad thing? I've always felt like that was a very honest answer for me. Now I might say that I am really bad about work-life balance intensive spend all night at my job, which might make them want to hire me for the wrong reasons.
Because it's a cliche. Everyone gives that answer, and it shows that you didn't give it any thought.
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She is beautiful
Good video! I really miss Chelsea though 😔
She is still here every Tuesday like she was before. Nothing has changed.🙂--Tasha
True fact what you are saying a about your video
I love being alone
Has anybody actually tried wealth simple and can give feedback on it, please?
awesome
Tasha...haha you guys are really funny
I'm 15 😌😌😌
I am well into adulthood and one of the things I learned at an early age was to know your audience. You wanted to pay off $35,000 in debt and take a family vacation to Singapore? Really, who do you think your audience is, and can they relate? I don’t think so.
Our core audience on OBH is dual income professionals like ourselves, though anyone can apply the principles we share to their own lives and we are happy to welcome everyone that wants to watch our videos.. We're proud of the community we've built over on our channel and it seems to me that quite a few people can relate. Not to mention the fact that we go beyond talking about our own lives and provide information on how our audience can increase their income and/or structure their lives to create the life that they want. --Tasha
even before starting the video, I guess there's gonna be advice to learn to cook your meals since it's TFD lol
sigh
Don't fight it. Just give in.🍳🍳🍳--Tasha
Still haven't master cooking but i make fresh salad for lunch everyday is that count? 😀
@N C but can any idiot cook good food though? Jk Lol. I've been trying to cook a little. My mom is a great cook but I've learned nothing from her 😖
New careers goal: independently wealthy hermit
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She's beautiful
I am there's
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Where are the usual hosts I miss them
They are still here every Tuesday and Thursday!--Tasha
@@OneBigHappyLife thank you
I actually don't like the compliment sandwich. Yes, it will probably go over better... Because the negative feedback isn't being taken seriously. If you want to work on how to give feedback to someone, I'd recommend the Ask a Manager website. Yes it's centered on professional situations, but many of the advice she gives can be transferred to every day life situation.
I dont even make 35,000 dollars a year
I didn't once either. I made $17k when I first had my daughter. It took me 10 years to raise my income to over six figures.--Tasha
Constructive criticism: your head is moving sooo much it is confusing to watch especially because your body language is your head shaking back and forth in a "no" movement while going through the list. The information is good, but I had to stop looking at the video in order to actually listen to the info. Not trying to troll, just a personal observation.
Thanks for the feedback. This is one of those instances when giving constrictive feedback where you have a concern but should consider whether it is automatically the other persons' responsibility to fix it or if you can find a solution for yourself that doesn't put the onus of catering to your preferences on others? In other words, should I change my natural way of speaking to make you feel more at ease? Remember just because you able to criticize, doesn't mean you should. Criticism comes easy. Restraint is much harder, as is finding the proper balance between the two and setting realistic expectations. I enjoy my more physically expressive communication style so I don't anticipate changing it any time soon. Plus it seems you've already found a solution that's working well for you.--Tasha
Noted and understood. I've studied the art of reading deception in body language and just thought I would send a helpful note. You've made it this far without any help from me :-) so I am sure you are doing great without needing to make changes. I just wanted to alert you of an observation. Truly only with the best intentions. I hope you and your beautiful family have a blessed day.
@@OneBigHappyLife Hey Tasha, I've binge-watched all your videos and I actually agree that you are nodding your head a lot so much so, that it's communicating a different message than what you're saying.
Usually when you're with Joseph, you are playing off of his interaction, but in this case I think your constant head nodding doesn't communicate physical expressiveness, it's showing me that you're not breathing. Or at least you are not breathing deeply enough and you're relying on the nod to communicate relatability when you could be doing that through your voice if you slowed down a bit and breathed deeper.
And your voice is great and you are extremely relatable so you don't need to hammer your points home literally with your head (and eyebrows) all the time. As you said it's your style and it's not changing, but wanted to share my thoughts.
The budgeting advice is a bit tone deaf. Most Americans today make less than $35,000 a year and assuming that we're all just eating out too much is almost offensive. This video can be improved by: 1. sharing information that is new and that hasn't been shared on repeat on every channel, or in every self-help book 2. making the information relevant to the audience (people wanting information on budgeting are probably not making much money and if they are, they already know the information presented here). Also, there is an underlying assumption here that viewers lack basic social skills which is also borderline offensive. 3. the information presented had some research to support it that viewers could look into further.
I need to find a rich woman, but isn't good at math. Good video!