working out has help me heaps, it hard to get started. It's hard to keep going but when my head starts. I start, till I'm too worn out to think. It's Great doesn't feel great later🤣🤣🥳🍻
I went to a men's rights and issues conference and antifa assaulted the head speaker and an attendee and were loudly singing, chanting and banging pots and pans before and through the entire conference and tried to blockade the entrance. They were chanting about fascism and misogyny etc without ever actually listening to the speakers who were talking about self deletion among men, DA, circumcision, homelessness etc. There was no talk of misogyny or fascism. This is what happens when men openly talk about what is bothering them.
And this is one of them reasons why facism and misigony are on the rise. If you call a group something for long enough, they will truly become that thing, out of anger.
@@Tcoldsteel yes, I didn't know if this would get my comment deleted if I spelled it out. TH-cam's algorythms like deleting comments with key words that are important to discuss.
Yeah, feminists seem to want IN THE WEST 100% of efforts dedicated to girls and women and leave 0% to boys and men, if I consider what lengths they go to try to downplay, understate and radicalize female abuse.
It's still a joke... She lied, I pleaded, NO PROOF, child's birth, COULDN'T be there, now I pay her rent, so she gets protection from me at my son's school, and gives survivor testimonies at church while her life is sponsored by guess who... I'm not on the birth certificate, and she thugs him into not answering my questions cause she's MY BOSS🙄
I'm 52,and haven't been ok since my wife l divorced me,and because of that my whole family disowned me. My ex knew what she was getting into when we got married. I was a U.S. Marine and former Military Contractor. I proudly look back on my time in service and always smile. But the shit I did while I was serving has really fucked me up. The VA here in the states is supposed to help Vets,but they do more harm than good. Im all alone because my family abandoned me, and my so called friends only call me when they need me to help them. This video put me in tears because I can relate to it so much. Yeah Marines cry. I struggle daily ,but I'm trying to stay positive. Thank you Isaac for posting this from the bottom of my heart. When you come to Los Angeles I'd love to have coffee with you.
Might it provide some resemblance of unity and family, if you could be around fellow troops? As a Dutchy and supporter of troops, the VA and "support" for US Vets has made me cry. I can't believe the disrespect you all get. My thinking about holidays and mental health of troops, got me to think of forming a group, on base, for any troop, any age. To be a family. Troops suffer enough and some have non to go home to, but you love your battle brothers and sister. Wouldn't it be awesome to have on base communes that show life can take anything from you. But you'll always have a place to come back to. My thinking was this could be a great help, but I do not have the experiences you have, so you would be best to judge if it would. I hope you will find your light in the dark. Please, keep your head up.
@@lucaswitteveen4506 thank you for your words. Its really hard being alone. But my daughter ca.e around and she's the only family member in my life. So having my daughter back means the world to me
@@Notmyname979 i honestly hope he does,because I'm willing to be on his show to discuss this topic. Isaac is really the only person keeping me going. His comedy has saved my life
My best friend from college ended his own life. He was upbeat, happy, but just suffered a firing from work. He seemed like he was on a path to getting everything going again, then boom, he was gone. It still haunts me to this day. Every April I think about him, our friendship, our jam sessions (he was a really good drummer), and his family that he left behind.
that really is gutting. good friends are hard to find and best friends are rare to say the least. i Hope You can find some solace in the following qoute... "don't be sad that it ended, be happy that it happened".
I am a man and i am not ok. I was taught to put on a smile for the world. I was told to never show emotions because that is weakness. I was told to never open up to anyone because they will think less of you. I was shown that women hate men who talk about their feelings and problems. I was informed i am worthless if i am not a top earner. I saw I was the one who had to be strong when others cannot be. I am a man and I am not okay. All of these things are summed up pretty easy in one sentence. I am a man... And I am expendable... This is the lesson we are all taught as men. We are only worth our value based on what society says and right now... We are worth what our bank account and social media presence is. Wear the mask and be complacent in your role. I AM A MAN... AND I AM NOT OKAY.
Mate, it's really hard. I'll offer you a little bit of advice to try to make everything a little better. A man needs goals. Work out something you want to do and try to achieve it. You have to make the goal challenging but acheivable. Work out what you need to do to get there. You have to assess your progress. If you aren't jumping the hurdles on your way to achieving your goal, then reassess how you are going to get over the hurdles. Without goals, we are nothing. I made it to 36 before I learned this lesson. You can do this.
Also STOP watching shit like this it’s part of the problem. Go out and meet actual ppl out and about. Go to a party or concert or event. Start working out, paint, hell pick up trash. Just get off TH-cam tho
who is judging men based on their social media presence? people in the real world do not care about that, bro, you need to get off the internet for a while.
I'm 40yrs old. Recently diagnosed with Cancer. White nuckeling it through life each & every day as I've got responsibilities that don't just disappear because you're not well. Shit is costing too much & someone keeps stealing time..... time seems to be slipping away at an alarming rate. I could say more..... but don't think it's needed
I'm so sorry you're now faced with this awful battle, but I know you'll pull through. I sincerely hope you get the best treatment possible and beat that pest of a disease ASAP! Sending prayers and warmth to you brother, take care. ❤️💪🏻
It's gotten to a point where guys would remember a complement about something minor someone told them years before because as guys we don't get much of that.
A woman at work told me I look much younger than I actually am. (I'm not attracted to this woman in any way, she's just woman at work). That was months ago. Months ago, and I still think about it.
The other day, I helped my best friend. He came to my place with a bicycle. But when he wanted to leave there was heavy rain, so I said I will take you to your place with my car, We will put your bike into the back of the car. My car isn't the biggest, so the bike front wheel would poke out. I strapped down the boot of the car and the bike, and I drove him home without any problem. And here comes the point. He said I did well and also that He couldn't do it that fast. I felt this. A genuine praise from someone. I don't know when was the last time I got a genuine praise for my work.
a girl said my nose was a nice shape in 2018, made my day and it's the most recent (non-relationship) genuin compliment i recieved, shout out to her (we aren't friend anymore but i still look back fondly on it (:
Sometimes I feel like everyone besides me and 100% gay men are the only people on the planet that think men are actually attractive. I just don’t get it. If I’m being completely honest men are just as gorgeous as women if they work for it just like women. In many ways, at least in my opinion, I feel like men are severely underrated looks wise and it might be their own doing. For gods sake they gain muscle so much faster and have angular faces and strong bone structures. It’s considered straight up gay and plain feminine to even shave your face or body but body builders do it. If you have a hair care or skin care routine that’s effeminate and you’re gay even if you arent sexually attracted to other men. None of these stereotypes and logics drilled into my head since I was a young boy make sense because that’s how you choose to be physically attractive. You fucking take care of yourself. You try to have a style and personality and do what you think looks good but it just seems society has lied to men and made every single little thing that a man can do either feminine or masculine. Why the fuck am I getting called a f***** for having long well kept hair and shaving everyday. If I try to be a smidge gorgeous or alternatively attractive and to not look like a hulking bear it’s f*****try. Who even cares if I like men for one and two I work my ass off burning and cutting myself every single day with scars all over my body like how men are expected to work but if I work on the way I look and if it resembles anything that a woman does I’m considered dainty, prissy, stupid, and unmanly. I am 110% a goddamn man whether anyone thinks I’m masculine or feminine. My life experiences thus far are the way that they are because I have a penis. I act like I have one, I work like I have one, I talk like I have one, and think like I have one. With all that being said why can’t men and women meet in the middle and stop this bullshit about you’re a woman your feminine your prissy, your a man your masculine your emotionless. How about people just be the best versions of theirselves and like what they like.
YOU WANT COMPLIMENT GIVE COMPLIMENT TO OTHERS PROBABLY YOU CAN'T DO THAT BUT YOU EXPECT OTHERS TO GIVE IT TO YOU ..WHAT YOU PUT OUT COME BACK TO YOU .DON'T SIT HERE IN EXPECTATION OF RANDOM COMPLIMENT ,YOU DUMMY ...NO ONE OWE YOU ANYTHING OUT THERE ,COMPLIMENT YOURSELF ....GROW UP !TOUGH WORLD OUT THERE A HEARTLESS AND LOVELESS WORLD ...NOBODY HAVE TIME FOR THESE BULLSHIT NO MORE ..VERY SAD YEAH !
one day i had a menthal breakdown during my work. i started to cry hysterical without a reason. it was shock to everybody seing me crying like that, knowing me the most happy person from there. when is happening, is happening.
I mean, some groups tried as hard as they could to "deconstruct" society... well, it is now "deconstructed" (and everything is awful, no one is happy and things will only get worse). Buckle up, it ain't getting better anytime soon...if at all.
I'm an 88' model and I have a photo of my 6 mates, 2 are still alive 😢 3 buried this year including my mother, who slit her throat. Shiit work, increasing cost of living and raising my kids with a fake smile. The fight to be a MAN is REAL !
88 foot model! Impressive! Seriously though, much love bro. I sometimes look back at my deployment photos and have to take a moment because half those dudes aren't with us any more, either from combat or post -combat issues. Sending you the best. Raise your kids with all the love they deserve, and with the teaching that they should love others fiercely as well. Leave a legacy of compassion and caring. I'm pulling for you, brother.
Keep going brother. '89 model here, asking you to never give up. I lost my brother a year ago because I guess he couldn't take things anymore. I miss him every day. Stay strong. We got this. 🙏
My Dad passed away when I was 14. I was expected to take up the role of man of the house. No one gave a shit how bad I was hurting if I showed any emotion I got bullied, called weak, told to end myself. I am 37 now and have been living life day by day just trying to get from sun up to sun down without imploding. Had he survived it all would of been very different I would had a direction and guidance instead of just winging it and hoping for the best. It has been a wild ride and most days I don't know how I am still alive. Now on top of all that I am made to feel worthless because I do not have the the best paying job or make over 100 k a year drive the nicest cars etcetera.
You have to learn to be your own best friend and not let negativity bring you down, let it fuel you towards reaching goals you set for yourself, I am sure your dad is proud of you, you’re his legacy, so who cares what anyone else says or thinks, you’ve got this
Chill brother. From what I just read you sound like a full solid cunt. Our perceptions of ourselves come from many different things forced apon us since birth and I'm definitely not the sharpest tool in the shed but it's sounds like your fricking awesome. Hope we both keep trucking chin high right brother?
You are a survivor, onwards and upwards. My granpa and his brothers were orphans. They had no one. Grandparents, Aunts and Uncles in Italy. So they were alone in a foreign country. They made a success of their lives. You are captain of your own ship. Onwards and upwards.
There are women who very much respect and appreciate men. I'm one of them. I locked my keys in my car the other day when I took my son to physical therapy, and I had 5 men helping me during that situation and I appreciate every single one of them (especially my 79 year old Dad who came to rescue me and my son)
While I'm happy the situation was resolved, this video wasn't about women not appreciating men. It was using words like masculine and feminine to make fun of men.
This video is for sensitive guys who always thinks the world against them . This dude in video thinks cussing and having a beard is masculine. He is just as bad as "feminine" men. These kinds of videos are good comedies, nothing more. A strong individual wouldnt becoming to this kind of content for guidance. Better off reading some Marcus Aurelius and focusing on things you can actually control.
if You show it, well that then makes You a beautiful woman dear Sister. after your looks fade and i Hope not for many years yet that True inner beauty shines on so keep on shining You beautiful Sister You! ❤
No, we are not ok. To the lady that was asking if we want to talk about - yes, we do. The problem is, when we do, we get shouted down, told that we're wrong, told the man up, told to quit being p******s, and get accused of all kinds of negative things. A lot of the time, it's just not ok for us to feel at all, which I think seriously contributes to the fact that men make up the majority of substance addicts.
Some women have this on their ick list as well. They demand an emotionally intelligent man but they dont know what that means because they arent, they mean they want someone to listen to their problems, kiss them on the forehead and not speak about their own stuff because that isn't masculine enough. The good thing is that there are alot of men's mental health groups meeting around the world to support each other and let us remember what true brotherhood is. All the best my dude.
you seem to lack compassion, which you will back up with further lack therein, but I suspect you will never connect on that level with anyone nor understand the idiosyncrasies that come with communicating vulnerability to another person. You are literally showing us the reason why we feel this way. Stonewalling, with few cold ones added. Please stop. @@CordeliaWagner1999
For real, I went to a men's rights and issues conference and antifa assaulted the head speaker and an attendee and were loudly singing, chanting and banging pots and pans before through the entire conference and tried to blockade the entrance. They were chanting about fascism and misogyny etc without ever actually listening to the speakers who were talking about self deletion among men, DA, circumcision, homelessness etc. There was no talk of misogyny or fascism. This is what happens when men openly talk about what is bothering them.
It feels like relationships have been transactionalised where you’ll see videos of women saying look how much all my skincare and make up costs this is why men should pay for the date or you’ll have “alpha males” explaining how you have to become high value to be worthy of a woman liking you it feels like everything is just being paid for and no real relationships exist
i hate nothing. never thought i would lose the hate, so overwhelmed with it by childhoods end was i but i surely don't miss it. and before the soundbites start popping into people's heads about how it carried them through this or that or how can't i hate this or that i ain't some hippy simp soy boy. there are obviously many things i just cannot like any less and back in ninety three age twenty one i was about to be able to claim the dubious honour of possibly being the first cat b 'control issue' prisoner to be ghosted into the recently newly minted cat a dispersal system here in england. but today i hate no more. it's far too much stress, hating. stress is a requirement for ill health. a lucky lucky man i am. i surely have lived and learned...
I mean it has been like this since forever my guy. it's only natural that you would have to provide resources to garner attention from a female considering the goal is to raise a child. The part where it goes wrong is the government providing an exit for females when the slightest thing goes wrong, that and the culture of infidelity.@@wesleyridge9696
yeah they used to want a find a good guy that wasn't like the rest of them.. wanted them to come in and romantically sweep them off their feet, treat them well and fall in love. these days if youre doing all the right things and seem too interested they find it yuk lol need a good job, good car and a bigger d*** then the guys already on her roster before it'll be serious haha
I’m definitely ok. Gonna leave renting and live in the car, use a storage unit for things I’m keeping, buy a van, quit my job, bounce around towns picking fruit. My 40 year crisis 😂
Same. I'm doing ok since I don't require a life of decadence. I've adapted. No female? No problem. Less mouths I have to feed. All I need to do now is wait on Jesus 😇✨🕊️
In my case, my biological father abandoned me and my lil sister (my mom died years before that), and if it wasn't for my uncle that stepped up, without any obligation to do so, I'd be just a mess... inside of a dumpster fire... inside of a trainwreck... in the middle of a zombie apocalypse 😂😂😂 But really, I've noticed that I even started to sound like my uncle. A fatherly figure is fundamental for us men. Now I have two daughters, and even the younger one is actually closer to me than to my wife ❤
I've been down the rabbit hole of these types of videos from all sorts of different channels for the last few weeks. This hit hard. I think I need to put my phone down for a while. Maybe go outside, give some hugs, pet some dogs, see my friends and family. Cause I am not doing ok. But I refuse to give up.
@@HelloKittySGTC At this point I'm embracing my villain arc. Haven't yet decided what kind of villain I am, for the time being I seem to just fit whatever villain profile people choose to project on me. Guess I'll call it villain-fluid 🤣
Unfortunately, you should NEVER take the "bait" to be vulnerable with a female. Apart from the risk of her using it against you in an argument, she WILL lose total respect for you & leave. It is a proven fact that women will admit to
@@davestuddert4392 Yup, that too. A couple months ago I had a deep-ish conversation with a female friend (wife of one of my best friends). Just as I was starting to open up about some of my past, she pounced at the opportunity to turn it around on me. She didn't even wait for me to finish, never mind a convenient opportunity. And SHE acted all offended because of how SHE judged me. I don't know what I expected from that meeting, but I was sure hoping for a modicum of empathy. All I got was judgement. And from a woman who calls herself my friend. Never again.
I volunteer for a Men's mental health charity in the UK and I can unequivocally say that men are NOT ok. We haven't been for years but the last 4/5 years I've noticed a massive shift in men's mental stability. Men are on the edge of just giving up all together and saying F it. Of course this is all by design and it's been that design for at least the last 30 years. So many reasons why this is happening, too many to list but I am telling you first hand, it's not getting better, it's only getting worse so please men, ignore the societal pressures and focus on your own well being and mental health, you, your family and everyone around you will be better for it.
Thanks mate, you're right. Just focus on the mission and get my head in the game. Building our wealth, and starting a family - it's what we were made to do. Cheers mate.
No worries at all, it's all about focus, discipline and being honest. Not everyone will like it but you have to be your true self to survive this world.@@bush2239
i almost can't wait for the inevitable collapse. almost because it's going to be devastating for so many who are wholly unprepared for it. never thought i would live to see it to be perfectly honest and fair with You but here we are, it surely is imminent. we must build our skill sets in a practical direction for the survival of the species. but i almost can't wait because maybe the shock is what we need to finally see that all we really need is each other in order to thrive. those fools in parliament, gunna hafta get their hands dirty in the end because their stacks of firelighters won't do much for bargaining with when it becomes about shelter and sustenance, when greed goes out the window and it becomes about company, about each other working together... True community, common-unity that's how we will (action through choice) thrive... back to the old way, "i am because we are"...
As someone with constant depression, bipolar and previous suicide attempts, I get what you mean. It seems like no one cares and whenever you feel like reaching out, you get the impression that you're just bothering everyone. Personally i want to help too but when you have so much crap of your own to deal with, helping others is especially difficult. Like, I don't know how you do it but I wanna thank you for actually being involved with trying to help people. It ain't easy.
It genuinely depresses and disturbs me greatly how poorly men are treated in society today, how they invent, build and maintain society for their families, friends and communities and for it are muzzled, emasculated, demonised, abused and are disposable, while women manipulated the powers, privileges and special treatments with no accountability or responsibility and blaming men for all societies evil
" women manipulated the powers, privileges and special treatments...." You left out part. For the majority, women did NOTHING to EARN those powers or privileges. AT ALL. They were GIVEN those privileges by men who just wanted to shut them up.
@@kelliewhyte_85 "I stand up" you mean you say you are on men's side while still eating up what is taken from men, sorry some of us are not blind to snakes some of us have had experience with snakes telling the same lie over and over :)
But you have invented, built, and maintained nothing. This is a very strange statement to make when it’s men who make life miserable for women and children die to child abuse, misogyny, slavery, war and genocide, terrible economic policies among other things. Anything that women do pales in comparison to that and to say otherwise is simply delusion. It logically follows that if we are supposed to believe that men are responsible for all the good things in life (they’re not), then they should also be held accountable for all of the bad things as well. The only thing they really try to maintain is patriarchal values and that’s it. This “hatred” didn’t just suddenly come from nowhere: it’s centuries of suppressed rage and actually using social mechanisms to hold men accountable for their actions.
Who cares? Lord...If I have to hear another sob story in the comments smh... maybe you are insecure. Sure sounds like it, writting about that kind of stuff on a TH-cam comments section. And that's okay. Being a man isn't about being stoic. And someone who truly loves you will appreciate you opening up. And if no one ever truly loves you, then shut up. Who cares anyway. Focus on the things you can control.
@@kiaadams104lol you seem nice! Have you considered that a lot of people use the comments section to get advice and puzzle things out because they haven't got a close real life friend that they feel comfortable talking to?
@@kiaadams104 it easy to say things without thinking in comments section, it's nice that you have responded well to me highlighting it, so fair play. Most of us are struggling in one way or another and hostility between each other is rarely productive. As long as your intentions are good, blunders can be forgiven, and we are all susceptible to making blunders
Wow, this video hit hard. I am almost 41, and I am not ok. I have an almost 3 year old son that I wake up for every day and give the world to so I can make sure he grows up and knows his dad will be the best example for him. I don't want him growing up with a father like I had. His mom only cares about him when it is convenient for her and it can make her look good on social media, and he realizes that. Most kids immediately ask for their mom if they need anything, but he asks for me first. It hurts me that he does not call out for her, she is just as important in his life as I am. Men are not ok. We hide all of our feelings, let things bottle up until we just explode because if we show an ounce of emotion we know it will be used against us by the ones we love. We put the entire weight of the world on our shoulders and carry it because we have to, no one else is going to give us a hand. We don't have friends that we can count on, we don't have a support system like women do. We dig in, keep plugging away at everything we need to in order to survive, and when it gets to be too much, it either kills us or something else does.
soldier on Brother change is coming. if not then extinction is! any male above a certain age can become a dad but it takes a man to be a Father, same for females. "children having children"... if mistakes have been made then never worry too much because mistakes stop being regrets once all the lessons are learned from them. most mistakes carry multiple lessons. those are the "silver linings" in the cloud on our days. so, soldier on Brother because a Father is the best we can be and it sounds to i like You are on path.
I know its tough but always remind yourself you helped make her life infinitely better. I'm sure she appreciated every minute she had w u. I know the 36 years together makes it even harder, but that's 36 years that she wanted to spend with you and you were able to provide that for her. Take the time you need to heal, surround yourself with loved ones, and check out one of those anonymous groups if u feel it might help. There are people that might be able to make this easier.
Sorry mate. I can imagine how you feel. My wife and I constantly speak about it and it makes us appreciate the time we have together. I feel for you. Keep your head up.
I am a high school teacher and I have learned over many years that the happiest, most well balanced and chilled lads are the ones who have a good close relationship with their fathers or with a father figure. So single mothers who undervalue the role of their child's father in the kid's life are just wrong. Also men who actually opt to not be involved in their kids' lives (and there are a distressingly large number of them) are arseholes. So those guys blaming feminism on all their problems might want to look at the other side of the problem. Fatherless sons.
I believe that Statement to be factual. A father's good influence and relationship makes a big difference in the child's development. But most of the time the good father's that have been divorced from the mother don't get to see the kid's or the children because the mother simply strips any rights or chance of the children and there father's being able to see one another on a regular basis, if at all any. I think enough has been put on men and this anti-masculinity is just going way too far and it has been proven to be detrimental for society overall. Women need to take some accountability and stop putting it all on the good men out there. And there are plenty of good men out there.
As someone who has looked into these issues as a journo, yes there are crap dads who don't want to be in their kids' lives but the majority of those who don't see their kids is because of WOMEN stopping them! Lord Justice Mundy - who was head of the Family Division of the courts in the UK - admitted that the courts favour women and do NOT enforce their own rulings in custody cases. This gives women carte blanche to push the father out of their kid's lives. This is known as Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS. In some states in the USA, this is a recognised behaviour. The courts in those states WILL take a child from a mother and give sole custody to the father if she willfully stops the father from seeing their child. Combined with pre-divorce mandatory counselling before a divorce is granted has seen PAS cases drop dramatically!
Who is most likely to initiate divorce? Men should be head of the household. But we are denied this socially and lawfully, so the family unit falls apart.
The people who ask if you're okay, and truly care, are also the people who wish for that same compassion. Whenever I get asked if I'm okay, and I finish my part, I'll then ask them, "are you okay?" Always. You never know what's going on with the people who care the most, because they do care the most. They care way too much sometimes, and just a little release, or someone to hear them without judgment, is a blessing I wish for everyone.
I am a man and I am also not ok. I feel attacked at every turn and I feel almost incapable of being loved. Stay strong guys. I don't know if this gets better but here is to hoping for the best. The end of that video slapped me square in the f*cking mouth.
It's a pendulum swing. It swings all the way left, then it swings all the way right. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Wait. It's coming.
You are 100%... I'm a 34 y/o Man with 2 older healthy siblings, I was born with a rare kidney disease, on dialysis,can't get a transplant because I am too sick. But every day I take care of my Dad,do the grocery shopping,cook our food, do the bills and drive constantly to get whatever is needed... Am I complaining? No. Since my mom passed 2 years ago life has been hell.. Me and my dad live together and my siblings live with their partners. On the outside I look happy but I am struggling to live.. I just want a normal life and companionship.. I've been single by choice because of how bad society/social media has made dating. My ex was TOXIC, she faked being pregnant and faked a miscarriage then cheated while I was in the hospital got knocked up and tried saying it was mine. Sorry I had to get that out of my system, I love all of you people take care.
What an awfully challenging situation you seem to be in. You obviously are very strong mentally, despite the physical, situational and relational difficulties you face, every hour of every day. All kudos to you! Of course you will have your down days - I just hope that you have other times when you feel fulfilled. With your health challenges, it sounds like there might be days when you feel that you should be the one who is cared for! I hope you have, or are able to source, support for yourself at this time. Blessings from Australia ❤
please learn about naturopathic medicine, You may be in for a pleasant surprise. where allopathic medicine fails naturopathic medicine succeeds because whilst allopathic medicine looks at the symptoms and manages them naturopathic medicine looks to the cause and treats that. a great start point or even teacher is a man named dr Robert Morse n.d. in the states. otherwise Thank You for sharing your story Brother, family is everything and in Life real heroes are rarely mentioned let alone receive any awards. so, many many Thanks for sharing your story Brother You are inspirational. ❤
@@emeraldheart415 I appreciate it a ton, even though I struggle I am the type who puts people before myself. I try hard to stay humble and thank God for letting me live one more day
Men need to be appreciated more. We need to compliment them and show that the things that they do matter, it’s not hard and it can really turn someone’s day around. My husband loves it when I call him handsome.
I'm not crying ur crying 😢 😭. That kicked me right in the feels. I've had the black dog come and sit next to me before. He did finally go away but he has come back a few times recently. I'm a retired volunteer fire fighter at the age of 37. I saw all sorts doing medical callouts. It took its toll mentally so I retired. I'm a father of 3 boys too. I had to hide it from them bkoz they look at me as if I'm superman. If it wasn't for the support from the fire service n local therapists I would still have that black dog at my feet. Its ok not to be ok.
Lost my dad in October to Cancer. Seeing the downward spiral was hard. Miss him all the time and hope I make him proud everyday. He was one of the greatest people I’ve ever known.
The goodnight queen was a social experiment where the dude made a bot to send goodnight queen to random tiktok influencers who were single.. He stopped on christmas, the most lonely time for single people. I find it funny lol
Many of us are suffering and going through a huge amount. However, unfortunately there is no support or easy way out, particularly with the systemic destruction of masculinity.
Gentlemen, who gives a rats. Work on yourself, learn woodwork, metalwork, make something with your hands. Then pick out all the mistakes and learn from them. Plenty of guys around happy to teach another guy the skills, or join a mens shed.
As a guy who just endured 6 years of an ex who associates with BPD and the department of child protection labelled me the abusive one because im male while ignoring my ex's self harm manipulation, stalking of the mother of my daughter and the abuse endured, I am so effing done with the system, DCP are a joke. they ruined my family and destroyed me. fuck our broken system where 85-90% of DCP workers are female and only 7% of men get custody of their kids, more than a one third of men never see their kids. Dont tell me there is no bias or decrimination because family court favours women, and women are rewarded to lie by the child support payments.
Same, I’m just 17, for the last 7 years of my life, I have been in some time bomb where everything is slowed and fast paced. Idk how the hell im gonna be an adult and not be homeless or dead tbh.
I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease last year whoch has severely affected my sight to the point that it's just simpler to tell people that I'm slowly going blind. Even with that, I'm ok because I've been married for 14 years and have an amazing 13 year old. I have purpose in them and an amazing support system thanks to them and my parents. Update, my dad died on the 22 April 2024. RIP Pop.
Sounds like you have "birdshot," which is what I have. I tell people the same thing because it is just too complicated to explain. I so glad you have an amazing support system - please lean on them whenever, and for whatever - it's ok! 🤗
@@Nym146 So sorry to hear that - I know of it and was one I was tested for. As I've already said, please lean on your family and any support system available to you. I'm wishing you all the best.
Bless you to the moon Isaac, Thank you so much brother.. I watch you for laughs and for times like these, you give me inspiration and keep pushing for men's mental health and showing that we all have emotions that we fight with, its the not giving up that is the hardest, my fellow brother's... Keep fighting, keep living and know that you are not alone.
@@man-if6bcThe only reason this would be contended is if its one of those dead beat dads that don't help enough. But in this video it gave a hopeful view of more involved dads which would be great. I see a lot of absent dads that just leave or don't help at all raising the kids. So we need actual DADS not sperm donars or bank accounts..
@@jessy1982 totally agree! I hope the next generation that survived one of those poor bastards will try to change things for the better and make right what was wrong becoming better parents themselves. Unfortunately I know many that are too afraid to become a better one or at least try, so they spend their fatherhood raising themselves more than their own children. Oh well, who am I to judge? I'm single myself 😅
As a 43 year old male that have his kid Sunday to Friday. Sometimes 2 weeks in a row. 14 year old boy and 11 year old twin girls. It aint easy, but i got a job to do. Now dealing with shoulder surgery from my fighting years, now at least my kids can help out a bit. Its nice to see them grow up. Its 4 am, 32 hrs of fast and im heading to work. Lunches are ready and they know how to cook.
My wife of 15 years who has BPD and bipolar finally got to be too much with the insanity and abuse and I left her after she attacked another woman. I'm now a single primary parent of a 13,11, and 3 year olds, myself being 49. And my kids are much better off now than they were when she was around.
@@TimmcraftJitney they don’t want the treatment because it is seen as an attack on their identity. They would have to admit that they are crazy to do so. My ex was the same.
The goodnight gueen thing was an experiment. Some dude made a bot who would message female influencers for like a year and then stoped to try and see their reaction
Great video mate and the ending was spot on. Men are not okay, especially when there are women who are out there that get a sick sense of satisfaction out of pulling men down. Theres no true equality if you have to push someone down to get ahead in life
As a Man ive had my times where i wasn't ok and i decided to go to therapy , did it about 3 times in my entire life and i am so glad i did. It made me realize i never treated myself with the same respect i treat everyone else. Now i spoil myself and just focus on being the best dad i can to my son. My parents weren't perfect and broke up when i was 9 but we had a lot of good times growing up which i believe led me to being the man i am today. I thank god everyday for my grandparents on both sides of my families for showing me what real love should look like because i got a lot of buddies who can't say the same.
Isaac... I have to say... I really appreciate that you withheld your jokes while talking about this most serious subject. It really shows how much this means to you.
Whenever I'm not okay. I just remembered that my real dad talks to me and to my siblings when he isn't with us together. It shows me that he is a man that will always care for his family when he lives his life far but he proves himself by reaching out to us every time wherever he is now.
Hey. Solid video man. I think a lot of men and younger men need to hear stuff like this. The darkness is now the darkness is tomorrow. There's always going to be darkness but God damn when you hit a ray of sunshine it's worth it. Keep your heads up boys the bad days don't last forever.
Loved this video Issac thank you for being so honest and saying it like it is no BS and thank you for bringing the struggle of guys up I've been struggling with not being good enough for a long time I don't know how to get it out of my head I feel like a failure .
sounds like You need a pastime Brother. i turn fifty two next week and this summer is ten years celibate because overgrown little girls just don't cut the mustard for i. i do Love the Peace and quite these days. please don't get i wrong if an actual female grown into a woman shows up i will no longer be celibate but i am not holding i breath. last summer i had been seeing a female doctor about cptsd which i have been living with since seventy seven age five when i broke down having finally opened up. the contempt in her eyes told i clear she'd had her head in her knickers the whole time and she started a rumour that she is concerned i want to find her home and do the worst to her. should have told her about i celibacy obviously. if i name the worst then uboob will delete the comment. i was raging as maybe You can imagine. that cptsd is a result of violence inflicted upon i during childhood, as a result i keep contained a level of violence many can't handle. if physically attacked of course i unleash but even then it is controlled. one thing i started back in i teens and twenties was training in boxing gyms and such, that helped massively to learn to control the aggression especially boxing. i am not a boxer by the way i am anti system and competition being the first tool of division i don't do it wherever possible with others. but one thing i learned from the boxing gym is about how losing our temper initiates the fight or flight response causing our iq to drop a minimum of twenty two percent. this is why we often say things which are completely out of character in the heat of an argument for instance. anyway the rumour she started and the coward simps she has spreading it had i incensed beyond reason. having ditched it maybe ten years ago i bought a target for the garden and picked up the bow again. the first arrow i threw without setting the sights up and so i discovered traditional archery. the level of focus required for throwing arrows without the modern add ons worked wonders it instantly calmed i mind because missing the target and possibly hitting a neighbour is unacceptable. now i practice the ottoman archery techniques so for instance i can currently hold nine arrows in the draw hand to perform a technique known as "shower shooting". think suppressive fire for medieval archers. please forgive i the lengthy comment it is what it is. but point being find something else to do with your time, set goals or targets but make them reasonable and You will no longer be feeling like a failure as a result when You achieve those goals. and as for old dogs and new tricks? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As a man we're built to shoulder and carry the brunt of reality in order to spare our loved one's, and that's OK. We can carry that weight and be happy at the end of the day IF, we're shown a little appreciation for it. It's as simple as that.
When people can't understand why I can't stop the dark thoughts, I ask them to think of someone with OCD, you go round their house and mess it up, then ask them to stop thinking about it. Or someone with arachnophobia to not be scared of a house spider. They SEEM to grasp it a little more
My usual go to is "have you tried not having a broken leg? Just choose to not have a broken leg anymore." That seems to help people understand that there has to be an environment for healing and time has to pass, and there's likely diminished capacity until healing is done.
I hope this doesn’t come off as a disingenuous attempt at “blanket evangelism” lol - I truly understand and identify with your point - but you aren’t the only person in the equation when it comes to the origin and substance of your thought patterns. Evil is not some concept that elbow-padded university types made up once were evolved enough to do so. If we all died tomorrow, evil would still exist. As would good. God is real, and as someone who struggled with the same (very perverse, very morbid) thought patterns, I can tell you that Jesus plucked it from me without lifting a finger. It’s not “old superstitious neighbor lady” feel-good stories. It’s actually true friend. I honestly pray for you and want you to experience what I did. A peace that surpasses understanding.
@michaelsorensen7567 yeah, the main reason I use the OCD line is because my sister is very houseproud, I wouldn't quite say OCD, but I know it applies to her and she has told me to just stop thinking about it in past conversations. That was the only way to make her realise that she has the same issue, only different
@@chrisjackson9648 ah. Given that context and background that makes a LOT more sense. My wife's got bipolar and depression, and some of my family doesn't have a frame of context for a broken brain. Like, closest my mom got was feeling down and wanting to run away, and a little better exercise and a bit of sleep and more sun helped her feel better, so she thinks the same thing will help my wife, who has attempted multiple times just since we've been married. But, they understand that a broken leg needs a cast, rest, and time to heal, because one of my brothers was.... Rambunctious, to say the least. We're all a bit broken, and we're all doing what we can.
I live in a car and sometimes weeks or even months pass by without speaking to anyone. Holidays pass by without me even realizing until days later, if at all. If I suddenly no longer existed, it's likely no one would even notice. It wasn't always like this. I grew up very poor and in highly dysfunctional environments, but I always knew I wanted to be an engineer, so I made my way into college and worked really hard. I was on the Dean's List nearly every semester, tutored math up through multivariable calculus, qualified for Mensa, got my engineering degree, and graduated with honors. I really thought I had set myself up for a good life free from poverty. That was almost 15 years ago. Unfortunately, the job I had lined up for after graduation fell through, and I never ended up getting a chance. All of the things I dreamed of having in life have never been further away, and I've accepted that I will never have them. A life without connection or hope meaningless, so am I really alive? Or do I merely exist?
I'm so sorry but please don't give up, your life has meaning and you wouldn't be here if you weren't supposed to. You are worth it and I really hope you never give up and someone gives you a chance ❤️
that video at the end really just broke my heart, just been on the come up from a depression and i see people around me go through the same. it's so difficult because there is nothing you can really do to help them.
A couple of years ago, I went to one of the counties psycho therapists for treatment. It lasted about 3 years. He was great. In the waiting room, there were templates for "The woman's emergency room" Encouraging women to call in for support if they are in dangerous or abusive relationships. There were also one templet for "the men's emergency room". Encouraging men to call in if they are struggling with being the abuser or regulate their emotions. I complained about this to my mom, and she said, isn't that what men are struggling with? I told her you can't have 2 templates where one is victimising women and the other villainicing men. She had nothing to say about that.
It's a good thing that some of us listen to the men around us, because we value and love them very much. You'd be surprised how many of us women are willing to listen and try to understand what's going on. One should feel that way about one's partner, friend, brother, son and even dad. The few men in my life are here because I love them. The problem is, words are cheap and you're right Isaac, we should be helping each other as often as we can.
There's a lot of men and women that are not marriage material there's still a few women out here that are and yes the true women are struggling just as hard as the true man .
@@shannonruark8079 as an European myself, lots of women are goddam privileged here, and listened to. And their jail sentences are SMALLER compared to men.
@@shannonruark8079 We need help from the true women like yourself to end this toxic manhating culture that's going on. All its doing is driving a wedge between the sexes and permeating hookup culture which has destroyed modern relationships!
Ive grown up without a father all 22 years of my life with only a mother and its only really after being 22 that im starting to get my shit together. You need a decent role model for life or theres just a void of either discipline, punishment system or something to follow as a standard. Your environment affects every part of your life and its difficult to change. Not that mothers are bad parents but i dont think mothers alone can fit both roles if they want to or not and in the end it can end up being detrimental if not handled properly. Kids need guidance to be able to be the best person they can be from both parents
You need a father to tell you the truth. You need someone that will protect you and fight for you till you can stand on your two feet, but at the same time hurt you with the truth to keep you humble and avoid delusional behaviour with unconditional love and hold you accountable for your actions and behaviours. A father to teach you, guide you in both the written rules and the unwritten rules of our society and life. He should be able to provide you with a set of starting principles that will allow you to develop your character. You need to see and develop trust, and trust and respect can only be earned through actions. A father should be your first role model that will teach kindness, gentleness, patience, resilience and self control, while harnessing your aggression and savagery into productive pursuits( controlled aggression, empathy and sympathy towards those that wrong us )We have a lot of males in this society, but very few men. Fatherless males are dangerous in a society. A man that has nothing has nothing to fear. Study history and you will see what happens when you have large groups of young men without a purpose.
I’m not okay. I’m not okay at all. I haven’t been for way longer than I realized. Saturday, when watching one of the new best anime of the season, one of the characters was yelling at a goofy teacher and asking why he wouldn’t go away and the teacher said “I just can’t leave you alone.” And before I realized it, there was a tear running down my cheek. And when I did realize it, I began to sob. Because it made me realize how lonely I am. How for years I’ve kept everyone at arms length and even my closest friends I haven’t trusted implicitly this whole time. I’ve been betrayed so many times, so I made myself have the coldest heart i could while trusting nobody and believing that they’d leave too. I had people around me, but I was so utterly and devastatingly lonely this whole time.
I’m really sorry to hear that, loneliness can be crippling. You deserve to be loved and have people you trust be close to you. Introspection is a valuable tool and it sounds like you are learning to understand yourself better. I really hope you can get to a place where you can feel more love and inclusion if that is what you need x
Thanks for making me laugh and cry. And being there for us. I've always been able to relate to men's struggles despite my gender and I think your book would help many people across the board. Looking forward to pay day when i can order one.
Yeah, I am so into my masculinity and will never question who I am in being a man, what it means to be a man, and how hard it is to actually be a man. yes, being a man sucks sometimes, (most of the time), but I wouldn't trade it for absolutely anything.
We’re not okay and no, we don’t want to talk about it with our ladies and we’ve got no friends to confide in. I’m sitting here, listening to podcasts (this dude makes me laugh), I’m at work (from home), with two partially torn rotator cuffs, a cold (thanks to my work trip last week) and now a migraine (I need that right now like I need an infected scrotum). Even my wife, who I consider one of the best, most compassionate women I’ve ever met has started getting snippy about me not helping out more this last weekend. I spent all Saturday working around the house and Sunday I just couldn’t, the pain was just too much and I couldn’t get a full breath. Man, no one gives a shit. A man’s job is to suck it up and work until we collapse. God forbid we ever show weakness or pain or take a recovery day. I’m bitching, it’s unseemly but I needed the release. Back to work, cheers folks.
Sometimes it hurts too much knowing how short and skinny I am and how broken my heart is and how sad I am and how I've let my teeth go just not caring anymore and how as soon as I start talking to someone and they seem if anything superficially interested I immediately remind myself of what they don't want. What they don't need. And I'm both. I try to just be alright, and I thought going to work every day is going to help, but it's hard to escape. Every day I'm reminded of why I'm so quiet lol.
You need to tell that voice in your head (the devil, if you will) to shut the fvck up. Tongue in cheek. Those thoughts don't serve you, and are taking you out of what could otherwise be a peaceful state of being. You are rejecting yourself before others even have the chance to. You're right, no one wants someone who hates themselves, it is very hard for such a person to have a healthy relationship because they will tend to grasp or abuse. (Though not impossible with sufficient self-awareness.) As for short and skinny, poor, whatever else? That's all you. (I know you will point to the Internet or perhaps a few interactions with NPCs who mocked you for being whatever label.) You create your reality. Don't let other people dictate it for you. I guarantee you that if your thoughts change, your life will change because your actions and behaviors will change. You will find whatever you are looking for and it will be way better than anything you could possibly imagine. AND you will still be short, and perhaps even skinny or whatever else. This isn't woo or feel good BS. This is how the world works. Change your thoughts. It's not a race. The rest will follow. Or don't.
Guys, if you're struggling, for the love of god if you have somebody who can help, ask for help. I just got out of a massive downward spiral triggered by depression and ended up going cold turkey off my meds and was on a fast train to fuckedville that was only derailed by reaching out to family and asking for help. It's not weakness, it's just taking care of yourself.
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Audiobook?
I'm fine go watch
Pops crazy Crrapp 😂😂
Yes, Audible? Read by the author?
i loved the video bro, i will keep you and all my fellow men in my prayers
working out has help me heaps, it hard to get started. It's hard to keep going but when my head starts. I start, till I'm too worn out to think. It's Great doesn't feel great later🤣🤣🥳🍻
The whole “good night queen” thing was a social experiment by a guy who wrote a program to send women “good night queen” every day.
I was hoping someone was about to comment this, I hope he checks it out cause it’s hilarious.
Was looking for this comment too. Her reaction is great.
It's true and it is hilarious - its a bot and she is now validated by it.
@@Fusey92A good use for ai.
Yea, it's an automatic bot hahah, loser women think they're special.
I went to a men's rights and issues conference and antifa assaulted the head speaker and an attendee and were loudly singing, chanting and banging pots and pans before and through the entire conference and tried to blockade the entrance.
They were chanting about fascism and misogyny etc without ever actually listening to the speakers who were talking about self deletion among men, DA, circumcision, homelessness etc. There was no talk of misogyny or fascism. This is what happens when men openly talk about what is bothering them.
And this is one of them reasons why facism and misigony are on the rise.
If you call a group something for long enough, they will truly become that thing, out of anger.
What is DA ????
@@unclerobert7532 I’m guessing Domestic Abuse
@@Tcoldsteel thanks
@@Tcoldsteel yes, I didn't know if this would get my comment deleted if I spelled it out. TH-cam's algorythms like deleting comments with key words that are important to discuss.
Domestic violence against men is also overlooked too much.
Yeah, feminists seem to want IN THE WEST 100% of efforts dedicated to girls and women and leave 0% to boys and men, if I consider what lengths they go to try to downplay, understate and radicalize female abuse.
As a woman I agree, as women want it both ways. They want men to bend to their rules and pamper to only women can be victims.
Stop complaining and get back to work before you get another black eye!
It's still a joke... She lied, I pleaded, NO PROOF, child's birth, COULDN'T be there, now I pay her rent, so she gets protection from me at my son's school, and gives survivor testimonies at church while her life is sponsored by guess who... I'm not on the birth certificate, and she thugs him into not answering my questions cause she's MY BOSS🙄
So so true.
I'm 52,and haven't been ok since my wife l divorced me,and because of that my whole family disowned me. My ex knew what she was getting into when we got married. I was a U.S. Marine and former Military Contractor. I proudly look back on my time in service and always smile. But the shit I did while I was serving has really fucked me up. The VA here in the states is supposed to help Vets,but they do more harm than good. Im all alone because my family abandoned me, and my so called friends only call me when they need me to help them. This video put me in tears because I can relate to it so much. Yeah Marines cry. I struggle daily ,but I'm trying to stay positive. Thank you Isaac for posting this from the bottom of my heart. When you come to Los Angeles I'd love to have coffee with you.
I hope things get better for
Might it provide some resemblance of unity and family, if you could be around fellow troops? As a Dutchy and supporter of troops, the VA and "support" for US Vets has made me cry. I can't believe the disrespect you all get.
My thinking about holidays and mental health of troops, got me to think of forming a group, on base, for any troop, any age. To be a family. Troops suffer enough and some have non to go home to, but you love your battle brothers and sister. Wouldn't it be awesome to have on base communes that show life can take anything from you. But you'll always have a place to come back to. My thinking was this could be a great help, but I do not have the experiences you have, so you would be best to judge if it would. I hope you will find your light in the dark. Please, keep your head up.
@@lucaswitteveen4506 thank you for your words. Its really hard being alone. But my daughter ca.e around and she's the only family member in my life. So having my daughter back means the world to me
@@Notmyname979 i honestly hope he does,because I'm willing to be on his show to discuss this topic. Isaac is really the only person keeping me going. His comedy has saved my life
Treasure your daughter mate. Take care.
My best friend from college ended his own life. He was upbeat, happy, but just suffered a firing from work. He seemed like he was on a path to getting everything going again, then boom, he was gone.
It still haunts me to this day. Every April I think about him, our friendship, our jam sessions (he was a really good drummer), and his family that he left behind.
My condolences to you. Sounds tragic.
that really is gutting.
good friends are hard to find and best friends are rare to say the least.
i Hope You can find some solace in the following qoute...
"don't be sad that it ended, be happy that it happened".
I am a man and i am not ok.
I was taught to put on a smile for the world.
I was told to never show emotions because that is weakness.
I was told to never open up to anyone because they will think less of you.
I was shown that women hate men who talk about their feelings and problems.
I was informed i am worthless if i am not a top earner.
I saw I was the one who had to be strong when others cannot be.
I am a man and I am not okay.
All of these things are summed up pretty easy in one sentence.
I am a man... And I am expendable...
This is the lesson we are all taught as men. We are only worth our value based on what society says and right now... We are worth what our bank account and social media presence is. Wear the mask and be complacent in your role.
I AM A MAN... AND I AM NOT OKAY.
Mate, it's really hard. I'll offer you a little bit of advice to try to make everything a little better.
A man needs goals. Work out something you want to do and try to achieve it. You have to make the goal challenging but acheivable. Work out what you need to do to get there. You have to assess your progress. If you aren't jumping the hurdles on your way to achieving your goal, then reassess how you are going to get over the hurdles.
Without goals, we are nothing. I made it to 36 before I learned this lesson.
You can do this.
You’re afraid of your own silly little emotions? That’s weak. Feel and control them. They’re not that big of a deal
Also STOP watching shit like this it’s part of the problem. Go out and meet actual ppl out and about. Go to a party or concert or event. Start working out, paint, hell pick up trash. Just get off TH-cam tho
who is judging men based on their social media presence? people in the real world do not care about that, bro, you need to get off the internet for a while.
Spotted the 12 year old@@Crazyhead432
I'm 40yrs old. Recently diagnosed with Cancer. White nuckeling it through life each & every day as I've got responsibilities that don't just disappear because you're not well.
Shit is costing too much & someone keeps stealing time..... time seems to be slipping away at an alarming rate.
I could say more..... but don't think it's needed
God Bless you Brother.
Im sorry to hear that man. Im really hoping you can beat it. You got this.
I think I just gotten the alarm to wake up but I don’t know what from
Can't begin to imagine your pain bro. Thanks for sharing and good luck❤
I'm so sorry you're now faced with this awful battle, but I know you'll pull through.
I sincerely hope you get the best treatment possible and beat that pest of a disease ASAP!
Sending prayers and warmth to you brother, take care. ❤️💪🏻
"In the darkest hour, when the demons come. Call on me brother, and we will fight them together."
-Doom slayer
*- Steve Harvey*
Socrates
I love this!
-the buttsman
It's gotten to a point where guys would remember a complement about something minor someone told them years before because as guys we don't get much of that.
A woman at work told me I look much younger than I actually am. (I'm not attracted to this woman in any way, she's just woman at work). That was months ago. Months ago, and I still think about it.
The other day, I helped my best friend. He came to my place with a bicycle. But when he wanted to leave there was heavy rain, so I said I will take you to your place with my car, We will put your bike into the back of the car. My car isn't the biggest, so the bike front wheel would poke out. I strapped down the boot of the car and the bike, and I drove him home without any problem. And here comes the point. He said I did well and also that He couldn't do it that fast. I felt this. A genuine praise from someone. I don't know when was the last time I got a genuine praise for my work.
a girl said my nose was a nice shape in 2018, made my day and it's the most recent (non-relationship) genuin compliment i recieved, shout out to her (we aren't friend anymore but i still look back fondly on it (:
Sometimes I feel like everyone besides me and 100% gay men are the only people on the planet that think men are actually attractive. I just don’t get it. If I’m being completely honest men are just as gorgeous as women if they work for it just like women. In many ways, at least in my opinion, I feel like men are severely underrated looks wise and it might be their own doing. For gods sake they gain muscle so much faster and have angular faces and strong bone structures. It’s considered straight up gay and plain feminine to even shave your face or body but body builders do it. If you have a hair care or skin care routine that’s effeminate and you’re gay even if you arent sexually attracted to other men. None of these stereotypes and logics drilled into my head since I was a young boy make sense because that’s how you choose to be physically attractive. You fucking take care of yourself. You try to have a style and personality and do what you think looks good but it just seems society has lied to men and made every single little thing that a man can do either feminine or masculine. Why the fuck am I getting called a f***** for having long well kept hair and shaving everyday. If I try to be a smidge gorgeous or alternatively attractive and to not look like a hulking bear it’s f*****try. Who even cares if I like men for one and two I work my ass off burning and cutting myself every single day with scars all over my body like how men are expected to work but if I work on the way I look and if it resembles anything that a woman does I’m considered dainty, prissy, stupid, and unmanly. I am 110% a goddamn man whether anyone thinks I’m masculine or feminine. My life experiences thus far are the way that they are because I have a penis. I act like I have one, I work like I have one, I talk like I have one, and think like I have one. With all that being said why can’t men and women meet in the middle and stop this bullshit about you’re a woman your feminine your prissy, your a man your masculine your emotionless. How about people just be the best versions of theirselves and like what they like.
YOU WANT COMPLIMENT GIVE COMPLIMENT TO OTHERS PROBABLY YOU CAN'T DO THAT BUT YOU EXPECT OTHERS TO GIVE IT TO YOU ..WHAT YOU PUT OUT COME BACK TO YOU .DON'T SIT HERE IN EXPECTATION OF RANDOM COMPLIMENT ,YOU DUMMY ...NO ONE OWE YOU ANYTHING OUT THERE ,COMPLIMENT YOURSELF ....GROW UP !TOUGH WORLD OUT THERE A HEARTLESS AND LOVELESS WORLD ...NOBODY HAVE TIME FOR THESE BULLSHIT NO MORE ..VERY SAD YEAH !
one day i had a menthal breakdown during my work. i started to cry hysterical without a reason. it was shock to everybody seing me crying like that, knowing me the most happy person from there. when is happening, is happening.
THERAPY
No one is OK & it's thanks to the internet. By being more connected, we're actually more disconnected.
Because it’s the wrong kind of connection.
No truer words were ever spoken.
I mean, some groups tried as hard as they could to "deconstruct" society... well, it is now "deconstructed" (and everything is awful, no one is happy and things will only get worse).
Buckle up, it ain't getting better anytime soon...if at all.
lol "blame the internet blame the internet" nice try
@@ricardokojin7 That's definitely what happened. People try to change it all the time..
I'm an 88' model and I have a photo of my 6 mates, 2 are still alive 😢 3 buried this year including my mother, who slit her throat. Shiit work, increasing cost of living and raising my kids with a fake smile.
The fight to be a MAN is REAL !
Please don't give up. Never give up.
88 foot model! Impressive!
Seriously though, much love bro. I sometimes look back at my deployment photos and have to take a moment because half those dudes aren't with us any more, either from combat or post -combat issues. Sending you the best. Raise your kids with all the love they deserve, and with the teaching that they should love others fiercely as well. Leave a legacy of compassion and caring.
I'm pulling for you, brother.
Keep your head up man we are men we are strong 💪 🙏 God bless you I am very sorry for what you been through.
Keep going brother. '89 model here, asking you to never give up. I lost my brother a year ago because I guess he couldn't take things anymore. I miss him every day. Stay strong. We got this. 🙏
"I'm an 88' (...) MAN is REAL !"
So, at least you have children. Be happy for that.
I feel sorry for young blokes today. They can't get a break in this woke, anti-male world.
They never deserved any hate to begins with, how society is treating them is honestly horrible.
Roll over and just accept it, begin your transition, or follow Tate.
Yh ik bro I'm 15 tell me ab it
That woke is a load bull shit
@@truthaus6840u don’t have to follow Tate to build urself into a great man, not sure why men are constantly looking at him as a role model
My Dad passed away when I was 14. I was expected to take up the role of man of the house. No one gave a shit how bad I was hurting if I showed any emotion I got bullied, called weak, told to end myself. I am 37 now and have been living life day by day just trying to get from sun up to sun down without imploding. Had he survived it all would of been very different I would had a direction and guidance instead of just winging it and hoping for the best. It has been a wild ride and most days I don't know how I am still alive. Now on top of all that I am made to feel worthless because I do not have the the best paying job or make over 100 k a year drive the nicest cars etcetera.
You matter too man, most people aren’t malevolent…just ignorant
F the noise and introspect
You have to learn to be your own best friend and not let negativity bring you down, let it fuel you towards reaching goals you set for yourself, I am sure your dad is proud of you, you’re his legacy, so who cares what anyone else says or thinks, you’ve got this
thank you.@@danielle9825
Chill brother.
From what I just read you sound like a full solid cunt.
Our perceptions of ourselves come from many different things forced apon us since birth and I'm definitely not the sharpest tool in the shed but it's sounds like your fricking awesome.
Hope we both keep trucking chin high right brother?
You are a survivor, onwards and upwards. My granpa and his brothers were orphans. They had no one. Grandparents, Aunts and Uncles in Italy. So they were alone in a foreign country. They made a success of their lives. You are captain of your own ship. Onwards and upwards.
There are women who very much respect and appreciate men. I'm one of them. I locked my keys in my car the other day when I took my son to physical therapy, and I had 5 men helping me during that situation and I appreciate every single one of them (especially my 79 year old Dad who came to rescue me and my son)
While I'm happy the situation was resolved, this video wasn't about women not appreciating men. It was using words like masculine and feminine to make fun of men.
This video is for sensitive guys who always thinks the world against them . This dude in video thinks cussing and having a beard is masculine. He is just as bad as "feminine" men. These kinds of videos are good comedies, nothing more.
A strong individual wouldnt becoming to this kind of content for guidance. Better off reading some Marcus Aurelius and focusing on things you can actually control.
How are you useful to men tho ?
@user-di1de2bc6i what do you mean?? I obviously repeatedly thanked them.
if You show it, well that then makes You a beautiful woman dear Sister.
after your looks fade and i Hope not for many years yet that True inner beauty shines on so keep on shining You beautiful Sister You!
❤
No, we are not ok.
To the lady that was asking if we want to talk about - yes, we do. The problem is, when we do, we get shouted down, told that we're wrong, told the man up, told to quit being p******s, and get accused of all kinds of negative things. A lot of the time, it's just not ok for us to feel at all, which I think seriously contributes to the fact that men make up the majority of substance addicts.
Talk to other men.
Some women have this on their ick list as well. They demand an emotionally intelligent man but they dont know what that means because they arent, they mean they want someone to listen to their problems, kiss them on the forehead and not speak about their own stuff because that isn't masculine enough. The good thing is that there are alot of men's mental health groups meeting around the world to support each other and let us remember what true brotherhood is.
All the best my dude.
@@CordeliaWagner1999 how about you have some compassion for those guys? Or are you too lazy for that?
you seem to lack compassion, which you will back up with further lack therein, but I suspect you will never connect on that level with anyone nor understand the idiosyncrasies that come with communicating vulnerability to another person. You are literally showing us the reason why we feel this way. Stonewalling, with few cold ones added. Please stop. @@CordeliaWagner1999
For real, I went to a men's rights and issues conference and antifa assaulted the head speaker and an attendee and were loudly singing, chanting and banging pots and pans before through the entire conference and tried to blockade the entrance.
They were chanting about fascism and misogyny etc without ever actually listening to the speakers who were talking about self deletion among men, DA, circumcision, homelessness etc. There was no talk of misogyny or fascism. This is what happens when men openly talk about what is bothering them.
i just hate how relationships work in todays day and how corrupted everything is and it makes living life harder for no reason
It feels like relationships have been transactionalised where you’ll see videos of women saying look how much all my skincare and make up costs this is why men should pay for the date or you’ll have “alpha males” explaining how you have to become high value to be worthy of a woman liking you it feels like everything is just being paid for and no real relationships exist
Ugh I agree and I hate it
i hate nothing.
never thought i would lose the hate, so overwhelmed with it by childhoods end was i but i surely don't miss it.
and before the soundbites start popping into people's heads about how it carried them through this or that or how can't i hate this or that i ain't some hippy simp soy boy.
there are obviously many things i just cannot like any less and back in ninety three age twenty one i was about to be able to claim the dubious honour of possibly being the first cat b 'control issue' prisoner to be ghosted into the recently newly minted cat a dispersal system here in england.
but today i hate no more.
it's far too much stress, hating.
stress is a requirement for ill health.
a lucky lucky man i am.
i surely have lived and learned...
I mean it has been like this since forever my guy. it's only natural that you would have to provide resources to garner attention from a female considering the goal is to raise a child. The part where it goes wrong is the government providing an exit for females when the slightest thing goes wrong, that and the culture of infidelity.@@wesleyridge9696
yeah they used to want a find a good guy that wasn't like the rest of them.. wanted them to come in and romantically sweep them off their feet, treat them well and fall in love.
these days if youre doing all the right things and seem too interested they find it yuk lol need a good job, good car and a bigger d*** then the guys already on her roster before it'll be serious haha
I’m definitely ok. Gonna leave renting and live in the car, use a storage unit for things I’m keeping, buy a van, quit my job, bounce around towns picking fruit. My 40 year crisis 😂
Pick me up. Ill roll.
Same. I'm doing ok since I don't require a life of decadence. I've adapted. No female? No problem. Less mouths I have to feed.
All I need to do now is wait on Jesus 😇✨🕊️
I’ll join that caravan lol Lived in my car during some hard times 12 yrs ago. It was pure freedom.
🙏
Bless you bro. The lone warrior journey 💪👍
In my case, my biological father abandoned me and my lil sister (my mom died years before that), and if it wasn't for my uncle that stepped up, without any obligation to do so, I'd be just a mess... inside of a dumpster fire... inside of a trainwreck... in the middle of a zombie apocalypse 😂😂😂 But really, I've noticed that I even started to sound like my uncle. A fatherly figure is fundamental for us men.
Now I have two daughters, and even the younger one is actually closer to me than to my wife ❤
Stay hard bro 💪
@@thegoldengardian5482 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
I've been down the rabbit hole of these types of videos from all sorts of different channels for the last few weeks. This hit hard. I think I need to put my phone down for a while. Maybe go outside, give some hugs, pet some dogs, see my friends and family. Cause I am not doing ok. But I refuse to give up.
When the default answer to voicing your problem is "SHUT UP!", that does not make one inclined to repeat that particular mistake.
Yep and now everyone calls everyone a nazi or worse rather then give a solution
@@HelloKittySGTC At this point I'm embracing my villain arc. Haven't yet decided what kind of villain I am, for the time being I seem to just fit whatever villain profile people choose to project on me. Guess I'll call it villain-fluid 🤣
@@233kosta Villain-fluid...I love that! 😂
Unfortunately, you should NEVER take the "bait" to be vulnerable with a female. Apart from the risk of her using it against you in an argument, she WILL lose total respect for you & leave. It is a proven fact that women will admit to
@@davestuddert4392 Yup, that too.
A couple months ago I had a deep-ish conversation with a female friend (wife of one of my best friends). Just as I was starting to open up about some of my past, she pounced at the opportunity to turn it around on me. She didn't even wait for me to finish, never mind a convenient opportunity. And SHE acted all offended because of how SHE judged me.
I don't know what I expected from that meeting, but I was sure hoping for a modicum of empathy. All I got was judgement. And from a woman who calls herself my friend.
Never again.
I volunteer for a Men's mental health charity in the UK and I can unequivocally say that men are NOT ok. We haven't been for years but the last 4/5 years I've noticed a massive shift in men's mental stability. Men are on the edge of just giving up all together and saying F it. Of course this is all by design and it's been that design for at least the last 30 years. So many reasons why this is happening, too many to list but I am telling you first hand, it's not getting better, it's only getting worse so please men, ignore the societal pressures and focus on your own well being and mental health, you, your family and everyone around you will be better for it.
Thanks mate, you're right. Just focus on the mission and get my head in the game. Building our wealth, and starting a family - it's what we were made to do. Cheers mate.
No worries at all, it's all about focus, discipline and being honest. Not everyone will like it but you have to be your true self to survive this world.@@bush2239
i almost can't wait for the inevitable collapse.
almost because it's going to be devastating for so many who are wholly unprepared for it.
never thought i would live to see it to be perfectly honest and fair with You but here we are, it surely is imminent.
we must build our skill sets in a practical direction for the survival of the species.
but i almost can't wait because maybe the shock is what we need to finally see that all we really need is each other in order to thrive.
those fools in parliament, gunna hafta get their hands dirty in the end because their stacks of firelighters won't do much for bargaining with when it becomes about shelter and sustenance, when greed goes out the window and it becomes about company, about each other working together...
True community, common-unity that's how we will (action through choice) thrive...
back to the old way, "i am because we are"...
@@mattredfern1339 200% with you on that bud
As someone with constant depression, bipolar and previous suicide attempts, I get what you mean.
It seems like no one cares and whenever you feel like reaching out, you get the impression that you're just bothering everyone.
Personally i want to help too but when you have so much crap of your own to deal with, helping others is especially difficult.
Like, I don't know how you do it but I wanna thank you for actually being involved with trying to help people.
It ain't easy.
It genuinely depresses and disturbs me greatly how poorly men are treated in society today, how they invent, build and maintain society for their families, friends and communities and for it are muzzled, emasculated, demonised, abused and are disposable, while women manipulated the powers, privileges and special treatments with no accountability or responsibility and blaming men for all societies evil
" women manipulated the powers, privileges and special treatments...."
You left out part. For the majority, women did NOTHING to EARN those powers or privileges. AT ALL. They were GIVEN those privileges by men who just wanted to shut them up.
As an Aussie I love your nickname.
I'm a woman who stands up for men against all these rabid women, and who is constantly standing up for men.
too many women in corporate management. Men are better. Signed single white female
@@kelliewhyte_85 "I stand up" you mean you say you are on men's side while still eating up what is taken from men, sorry some of us are not blind to snakes some of us have had experience with snakes telling the same lie over and over :)
But you have invented, built, and maintained nothing. This is a very strange statement to make when it’s men who make life miserable for women and children die to child abuse, misogyny, slavery, war and genocide, terrible economic policies among other things. Anything that women do pales in comparison to that and to say otherwise is simply delusion. It logically follows that if we are supposed to believe that men are responsible for all the good things in life (they’re not), then they should also be held accountable for all of the bad things as well.
The only thing they really try to maintain is patriarchal values and that’s it. This “hatred” didn’t just suddenly come from nowhere: it’s centuries of suppressed rage and actually using social mechanisms to hold men accountable for their actions.
Flashback to my ex constantly telling me to open up and talk and when I finally did, I was labeled as Insecure.
Who cares? Lord...If I have to hear another sob story in the comments smh... maybe you are insecure. Sure sounds like it, writting about that kind of stuff on a TH-cam comments section. And that's okay.
Being a man isn't about being stoic. And someone who truly loves you will appreciate you opening up. And if no one ever truly loves you, then shut up. Who cares anyway. Focus on the things you can control.
@@kiaadams104way to miss the point and come off as an insensitive prick.
@@kiaadams104lol you seem nice!
Have you considered that a lot of people use the comments section to get advice and puzzle things out because they haven't got a close real life friend that they feel comfortable talking to?
@@andygeary3531 thats sad. but you are probably right. didnt consider that point of view.
i def went to hard with my last comment
@@kiaadams104 it easy to say things without thinking in comments section, it's nice that you have responded well to me highlighting it, so fair play.
Most of us are struggling in one way or another and hostility between each other is rarely productive.
As long as your intentions are good, blunders can be forgiven, and we are all susceptible to making blunders
Wow, this video hit hard. I am almost 41, and I am not ok. I have an almost 3 year old son that I wake up for every day and give the world to so I can make sure he grows up and knows his dad will be the best example for him. I don't want him growing up with a father like I had. His mom only cares about him when it is convenient for her and it can make her look good on social media, and he realizes that. Most kids immediately ask for their mom if they need anything, but he asks for me first. It hurts me that he does not call out for her, she is just as important in his life as I am.
Men are not ok. We hide all of our feelings, let things bottle up until we just explode because if we show an ounce of emotion we know it will be used against us by the ones we love. We put the entire weight of the world on our shoulders and carry it because we have to, no one else is going to give us a hand. We don't have friends that we can count on, we don't have a support system like women do. We dig in, keep plugging away at everything we need to in order to survive, and when it gets to be too much, it either kills us or something else does.
soldier on Brother change is coming.
if not then extinction is!
any male above a certain age can become a dad but it takes a man to be a Father, same for females.
"children having children"...
if mistakes have been made then never worry too much because mistakes stop being regrets once all the lessons are learned from them.
most mistakes carry multiple lessons.
those are the "silver linings" in the cloud on our days.
so, soldier on Brother because a Father is the best we can be and it sounds to i like You are on path.
wow.
I am 63, lost my wife/partner/best friend last July. 36 years together.
That was heart breaking to watch.
So sorry for your loss I know that doesn't really help, but im truly sorry
I know its tough but always remind yourself you helped make her life infinitely better. I'm sure she appreciated every minute she had w u. I know the 36 years together makes it even harder, but that's 36 years that she wanted to spend with you and you were able to provide that for her. Take the time you need to heal, surround yourself with loved ones, and check out one of those anonymous groups if u feel it might help. There are people that might be able to make this easier.
Sorry mate. I can imagine how you feel. My wife and I constantly speak about it and it makes us appreciate the time we have together. I feel for you. Keep your head up.
I am a high school teacher and I have learned over many years that the happiest, most well balanced and chilled lads are the ones who have a good close relationship with their fathers or with a father figure. So single mothers who undervalue the role of their child's father in the kid's life are just wrong. Also men who actually opt to not be involved in their kids' lives (and there are a distressingly large number of them) are arseholes. So those guys blaming feminism on all their problems might want to look at the other side of the problem. Fatherless sons.
I believe that Statement to be factual.
A father's good influence and relationship makes a big difference in the child's development.
But most of the time the good father's that have been divorced from the mother don't get to see the kid's or the children because the mother simply strips any rights or chance of the children and there father's being able to see one another on a regular basis, if at all any.
I think enough has been put on men and this anti-masculinity is just going way too far and it has been proven to be detrimental for society overall.
Women need to take some accountability and stop putting it all on the good men out there.
And there are plenty of good men out there.
As someone who has looked into these issues as a journo, yes there are crap dads who don't want to be in their kids' lives but the majority of those who don't see their kids is because of WOMEN stopping them! Lord Justice Mundy - who was head of the Family Division of the courts in the UK - admitted that the courts favour women and do NOT enforce their own rulings in custody cases. This gives women carte blanche to push the father out of their kid's lives. This is known as Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS. In some states in the USA, this is a recognised behaviour. The courts in those states WILL take a child from a mother and give sole custody to the father if she willfully stops the father from seeing their child. Combined with pre-divorce mandatory counselling before a divorce is granted has seen PAS cases drop dramatically!
Who is most likely to initiate divorce? Men should be head of the household. But we are denied this socially and lawfully, so the family unit falls apart.
Your part of the problem, laying blame on men 😂 smh
@@49Caliburnah bad fathers are just as bad as bad mothers mate
Mate the last video with the guys at the foot match hit me hard!
As men we don’t share our emotions, and it can be fatal.
Stay strong men! ❤
The people who ask if you're okay, and truly care, are also the people who wish for that same compassion.
Whenever I get asked if I'm okay, and I finish my part, I'll then ask them, "are you okay?" Always.
You never know what's going on with the people who care the most, because they do care the most. They care way too much sometimes, and just a little release, or someone to hear them without judgment, is a blessing I wish for everyone.
Single mothers living together to help each other literally describes the American inner city and that is working out fantastic. 😂
A large group of women can not work together. The drama and craziness that come from women living and working "together" is toxic
@@LisaPFMoore Exactly. They'll be beating the snot out of each other and then turn on the police when they arrive. What a nightmare that will be.
I am a man and I am also not ok. I feel attacked at every turn and I feel almost incapable of being loved. Stay strong guys. I don't know if this gets better but here is to hoping for the best. The end of that video slapped me square in the f*cking mouth.
Feeling the same bro.
Man up.
It's a pendulum swing. It swings all the way left, then it swings all the way right. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Wait. It's coming.
@@burtdeernie hahaha no I wanna build me a love heart garden bed bro
keep driving
You are 100%... I'm a 34 y/o Man with 2 older healthy siblings, I was born with a rare kidney disease, on dialysis,can't get a transplant because I am too sick. But every day I take care of my Dad,do the grocery shopping,cook our food, do the bills and drive constantly to get whatever is needed... Am I complaining? No. Since my mom passed 2 years ago life has been hell.. Me and my dad live together and my siblings live with their partners. On the outside I look happy but I am struggling to live.. I just want a normal life and companionship.. I've been single by choice because of how bad society/social media has made dating. My ex was TOXIC, she faked being pregnant and faked a miscarriage then cheated while I was in the hospital got knocked up and tried saying it was mine.
Sorry I had to get that out of my system, I love all of you people take care.
What an awfully challenging situation you seem to be in. You obviously are very strong mentally, despite the physical, situational and relational difficulties you face, every hour of every day. All kudos to you! Of course you will have your down days - I just hope that you have other times when you feel fulfilled. With your health challenges, it sounds like there might be days when you feel that you should be the one who is cared for! I hope you have, or are able to source, support for yourself at this time. Blessings from Australia ❤
please learn about naturopathic medicine, You may be in for a pleasant surprise.
where allopathic medicine fails naturopathic medicine succeeds because whilst allopathic medicine looks at the symptoms and manages them naturopathic medicine looks to the cause and treats that.
a great start point or even teacher is a man named dr Robert Morse n.d. in the states.
otherwise Thank You for sharing your story Brother, family is everything and in Life real heroes are rarely mentioned let alone receive any awards.
so, many many Thanks for sharing your story Brother You are inspirational.
❤
@@mattredfern1339 I will definitely look into that, God Bless!
@@emeraldheart415 I appreciate it a ton, even though I struggle I am the type who puts people before myself. I try hard to stay humble and thank God for letting me live one more day
Reishi supplements helped improve my kidney function.
Men need to be appreciated more. We need to compliment them and show that the things that they do matter, it’s not hard and it can really turn someone’s day around.
My husband loves it when I call him handsome.
You should be locked up for Nutella and crumpets. It’s either honey or jam.
😂@@astra6712
@@astra6712 nahh it melts the Nutella beautifully and makes every bite magical, try it mate you won’t regret it.
Men can give each other compliments.
It's not my job as a woman to build up their confidfnce like they are little Toddlers.
thanks bro.
Ive spent too many years worrying about others when i should've been taking care of myself, nowadays i mostly just leave people to their own devices.
That last video hit it so spot on. It's so often the ones who you'd suspect the least that are going through the most shit.
“I sleep with men weekly but im not gay” that had me laughing 😂💀
Because he has relationships with women LOL.
Still gey (spelling on purpose) bruh
Thats what you call homiesexual
He's bi.
"I'm not gay but my boyfriend is." 😂😂
Your a good man Isaac. People need to hear this even if they don't want to.
E: Just pre-ordered your book mate
I'm not crying ur crying 😢 😭. That kicked me right in the feels. I've had the black dog come and sit next to me before. He did finally go away but he has come back a few times recently. I'm a retired volunteer fire fighter at the age of 37. I saw all sorts doing medical callouts. It took its toll mentally so I retired. I'm a father of 3 boys too. I had to hide it from them bkoz they look at me as if I'm superman. If it wasn't for the support from the fire service n local therapists I would still have that black dog at my feet. Its ok not to be ok.
Lost my dad in October to Cancer. Seeing the downward spiral was hard. Miss him all the time and hope I make him proud everyday. He was one of the greatest people I’ve ever known.
The goodnight queen was a social experiment where the dude made a bot to send goodnight queen to random tiktok influencers who were single.. He stopped on christmas, the most lonely time for single people. I find it funny lol
Many of us are suffering and going through a huge amount. However, unfortunately there is no support or easy way out, particularly with the systemic destruction of masculinity.
Its fine we just deal with it
@@g-yu6yj dying as nobody is listening to you? I doubt..
@@g-yu6yjI assume that helps explain our high rates of suicide. Incredibly helpful people like you...
Gentlemen, who gives a rats. Work on yourself, learn woodwork, metalwork, make something with your hands. Then pick out all the mistakes and learn from them. Plenty of guys around happy to teach another guy the skills, or join a mens shed.
Women have infiltrated the men’s sheds too. We’re are not even allowed that space apparently.
I'm thinking of doing this. I meet the minimum age requirement now
The men’s sheds have been infiltrated too. We’re not even allowed to have that space either.
There’s no such thing as “men’s” sheds anymore. We aren’t even allowed to have that space to ourselves.
I dont watch mainstream media because of how biased they are against men.
The only problem is what is mainstream media these days?
@@redbomberr4594 it's propaganda now sadly
They are freemartins ftm & mtf they run this country & many others.
and anti white racist. If I believe in ads my husband should never be white. Signed single white female
As a guy who just endured 6 years of an ex who associates with BPD and the department of child protection labelled me the abusive one because im male while ignoring my ex's self harm manipulation, stalking of the mother of my daughter and the abuse endured, I am so effing done with the system, DCP are a joke. they ruined my family and destroyed me. fuck our broken system where 85-90% of DCP workers are female and only 7% of men get custody of their kids, more than a one third of men never see their kids. Dont tell me there is no bias or decrimination because family court favours women, and women are rewarded to lie by the child support payments.
Good to finally see it, it’s good for more people to know how much of a struggle it’s been for us
Haven’t been ok in over 10 years… and there’s nothing that can be done to change that. No matter how much I cry and beg, it is what it is.
Same here man, hugs
life is pain my dude. one day it’ll all be over though..
Same, I’m just 17, for the last 7 years of my life, I have been in some time bomb where everything is slowed and fast paced. Idk how the hell im gonna be an adult and not be homeless or dead tbh.
There is no escaping, there's no place to hide. You scream "someone save me", but they don't pay no mind, good night, good bye. - Eminem
@@GokuBlackRose978 your future is yours and it’s just beginning.
I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease last year whoch has severely affected my sight to the point that it's just simpler to tell people that I'm slowly going blind.
Even with that, I'm ok because I've been married for 14 years and have an amazing 13 year old.
I have purpose in them and an amazing support system thanks to them and my parents.
Update, my dad died on the 22 April 2024.
RIP Pop.
Sounds like you have "birdshot," which is what I have. I tell people the same thing because it is just too complicated to explain. I so glad you have an amazing support system - please lean on them whenever, and for whatever - it's ok! 🤗
@@southernbelle007 thanks, it's called sarcoidosis. Before I got treatment I could nolonger see my own eyes in the bathroom mirror.
@@Nym146 So sorry to hear that - I know of it and was one I was tested for. As I've already said, please lean on your family and any support system available to you. I'm wishing you all the best.
@@southernbelle007 thank you, I definitely do and they are the best family I could ask for
My favorite thing is when the Breast Cancer awareness donation people call me, and I ask if they have anything for prostate cancer, they hang up 😂
I also asked that before, it was like if i asked where i could set a bomb.. 🙄
Great humour😂 you might outlive us all😂
Men can get breast cancer too y'know
Even though breast cancer kills men at a higher rate than it kills women, last time i checked
That is a ridiculous statement. Do you also throw yourself down because you can't buy fried chicken at Bunnings?....
Thank you Isaac. We need more of this so badly in this world. Seriously. Thank you.
Bless you to the moon Isaac, Thank you so much brother.. I watch you for laughs and for times like these, you give me inspiration and keep pushing for men's mental health and showing that we all have emotions that we fight with, its the not giving up that is the hardest, my fellow brother's... Keep fighting, keep living and know that you are not alone.
FATHERS ARE NECESSARY
I would even kick it up a notch by saying they are as essential as the mothers are!
@@man-if6bcThe only reason this would be contended is if its one of those dead beat dads that don't help enough. But in this video it gave a hopeful view of more involved dads which would be great. I see a lot of absent dads that just leave or don't help at all raising the kids. So we need actual DADS not sperm donars or bank accounts..
@@jessy1982 totally agree! I hope the next generation that survived one of those poor bastards will try to change things for the better and make right what was wrong becoming better parents themselves. Unfortunately I know many that are too afraid to become a better one or at least try, so they spend their fatherhood raising themselves more than their own children. Oh well, who am I to judge? I'm single myself 😅
It's a shame most fathers don't think they are necessary.
Couldn’t be truer!
As a 43 year old male that have his kid Sunday to Friday. Sometimes 2 weeks in a row. 14 year old boy and 11 year old twin girls. It aint easy, but i got a job to do. Now dealing with shoulder surgery from my fighting years, now at least my kids can help out a bit. Its nice to see them grow up. Its 4 am, 32 hrs of fast and im heading to work. Lunches are ready and they know how to cook.
My wife of 15 years who has BPD and bipolar finally got to be too much with the insanity and abuse and I left her after she attacked another woman. I'm now a single primary parent of a 13,11, and 3 year olds, myself being 49. And my kids are much better off now than they were when she was around.
Good on you brother. That cant have been easy. But you did right by your kids! That's a what a proper bloke does 😊
Respect bro. No whingein. Just do what has to be done
Hold your head high. Kids always eat first 💪👍
Mate I have a nearly identical situation.
How awesome is the serenity now?
This is horrible. Did she get no treatment?
@@TimmcraftJitney they don’t want the treatment because it is seen as an attack on their identity. They would have to admit that they are crazy to do so.
My ex was the same.
Thank you for using your platform to share light on this ever growing issue.
I recently found you on youtube about a month ago, became a huge fan instantly. This video really got to me, especially that last part. Thank You!
The goodnight gueen thing was an experiment. Some dude made a bot who would message female influencers for like a year and then stoped to try and see their reaction
What was their reaction when the bot stopped?
The messages were supposed to go to Don Lemon.
@@Rustyhound-Cartoons they got butthurt and made tictok videos about it.
@@surfrescue3232😂😂
@Okunniger_Volker so tick tock influencers just being in their natural habitat
Great video mate and the ending was spot on.
Men are not okay, especially when there are women who are out there that get a sick sense of satisfaction out of pulling men down.
Theres no true equality if you have to push someone down to get ahead in life
im not ok but thats ok.
What other choice is there?
im just a man
good luck for me.
Wreck it Ralph.
Smile through the pain buddy. Your not the only one
As a Man ive had my times where i wasn't ok and i decided to go to therapy , did it about 3 times in my entire life and i am so glad i did. It made me realize i never treated myself with the same respect i treat everyone else. Now i spoil myself and just focus on being the best dad i can to my son. My parents weren't perfect and broke up when i was 9 but we had a lot of good times growing up which i believe led me to being the man i am today. I thank god everyday for my grandparents on both sides of my families for showing me what real love should look like because i got a lot of buddies who can't say the same.
Isaac... I have to say...
I really appreciate that you withheld your jokes while talking about this most serious subject.
It really shows how much this means to you.
Whenever I'm not okay. I just remembered that my real dad talks to me and to my siblings when he isn't with us together. It shows me that he is a man that will always care for his family when he lives his life far but he proves himself by reaching out to us every time wherever he is now.
Friends serve an important and separate role than spouses.
ALWAYS KEEP YOUR FRIENDS if they’re good people
Meh, who needs friends. No time for that shit.
Have two friend and I thinknonky one is real
Only
Hey. Solid video man. I think a lot of men and younger men need to hear stuff like this. The darkness is now the darkness is tomorrow. There's always going to be darkness but God damn when you hit a ray of sunshine it's worth it. Keep your heads up boys the bad days don't last forever.
Loved this video Issac thank you for being so honest and saying it like it is no BS and thank you for bringing the struggle of guys up I've been struggling with not being good enough for a long time I don't know how to get it out of my head I feel like a failure .
sounds like You need a pastime Brother.
i turn fifty two next week and this summer is ten years celibate because overgrown little girls just don't cut the mustard for i.
i do Love the Peace and quite these days.
please don't get i wrong if an actual female grown into a woman shows up i will no longer be celibate but i am not holding i breath.
last summer i had been seeing a female doctor about cptsd which i have been living with since seventy seven age five when i broke down having finally opened up.
the contempt in her eyes told i clear she'd had her head in her knickers the whole time and she started a rumour that she is concerned i want to find her home and do the worst to her.
should have told her about i celibacy obviously.
if i name the worst then uboob will delete the comment.
i was raging as maybe You can imagine.
that cptsd is a result of violence inflicted upon i during childhood, as a result i keep contained a level of violence many can't handle.
if physically attacked of course i unleash but even then it is controlled.
one thing i started back in i teens and twenties was training in boxing gyms and such, that helped massively to learn to control the aggression especially boxing.
i am not a boxer by the way i am anti system and competition being the first tool of division i don't do it wherever possible with others.
but one thing i learned from the boxing gym is about how losing our temper initiates the fight or flight response causing our iq to drop a minimum of twenty two percent.
this is why we often say things which are completely out of character in the heat of an argument for instance.
anyway the rumour she started and the coward simps she has spreading it had i incensed beyond reason.
having ditched it maybe ten years ago i bought a target for the garden and picked up the bow again.
the first arrow i threw without setting the sights up and so i discovered traditional archery.
the level of focus required for throwing arrows without the modern add ons worked wonders it instantly calmed i mind because missing the target and possibly hitting a neighbour is unacceptable.
now i practice the ottoman archery techniques so for instance i can currently hold nine arrows in the draw hand to perform a technique known as "shower shooting".
think suppressive fire for medieval archers.
please forgive i the lengthy comment it is what it is.
but point being find something else to do with your time, set goals or targets but make them reasonable and You will no longer be feeling like a failure as a result when You achieve those goals.
and as for old dogs and new tricks?
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is by far your best video, Isaac. Thank you for everything you do. Hope to see you on tour!
As a man we're built to shoulder and carry the brunt of reality in order to spare our loved one's, and that's OK. We can carry that weight and be happy at the end of the day IF, we're shown a little appreciation for it. It's as simple as that.
Nailed it.
When people can't understand why I can't stop the dark thoughts, I ask them to think of someone with OCD, you go round their house and mess it up, then ask them to stop thinking about it. Or someone with arachnophobia to not be scared of a house spider. They SEEM to grasp it a little more
My usual go to is "have you tried not having a broken leg? Just choose to not have a broken leg anymore." That seems to help people understand that there has to be an environment for healing and time has to pass, and there's likely diminished capacity until healing is done.
I hope this doesn’t come off as a disingenuous attempt at “blanket evangelism” lol - I truly understand and identify with your point - but you aren’t the only person in the equation when it comes to the origin and substance of your thought patterns. Evil is not some concept that elbow-padded university types made up once were evolved enough to do so. If we all died tomorrow, evil would still exist. As would good. God is real, and as someone who struggled with the same (very perverse, very morbid) thought patterns, I can tell you that Jesus plucked it from me without lifting a finger. It’s not “old superstitious neighbor lady” feel-good stories. It’s actually true friend. I honestly pray for you and want you to experience what I did. A peace that surpasses understanding.
@michaelsorensen7567 yeah, the main reason I use the OCD line is because my sister is very houseproud, I wouldn't quite say OCD, but I know it applies to her and she has told me to just stop thinking about it in past conversations. That was the only way to make her realise that she has the same issue, only different
@Papa-dopoulos thank you for your kind words. I just don't have the faith, unfortunately. But I appreciate your time
@@chrisjackson9648 ah. Given that context and background that makes a LOT more sense. My wife's got bipolar and depression, and some of my family doesn't have a frame of context for a broken brain. Like, closest my mom got was feeling down and wanting to run away, and a little better exercise and a bit of sleep and more sun helped her feel better, so she thinks the same thing will help my wife, who has attempted multiple times just since we've been married. But, they understand that a broken leg needs a cast, rest, and time to heal, because one of my brothers was.... Rambunctious, to say the least.
We're all a bit broken, and we're all doing what we can.
I live in a car and sometimes weeks or even months pass by without speaking to anyone. Holidays pass by without me even realizing until days later, if at all. If I suddenly no longer existed, it's likely no one would even notice.
It wasn't always like this. I grew up very poor and in highly dysfunctional environments, but I always knew I wanted to be an engineer, so I made my way into college and worked really hard. I was on the Dean's List nearly every semester, tutored math up through multivariable calculus, qualified for Mensa, got my engineering degree, and graduated with honors. I really thought I had set myself up for a good life free from poverty.
That was almost 15 years ago. Unfortunately, the job I had lined up for after graduation fell through, and I never ended up getting a chance.
All of the things I dreamed of having in life have never been further away, and I've accepted that I will never have them. A life without connection or hope meaningless, so am I really alive?
Or do I merely exist?
I'm so sorry but please don't give up, your life has meaning and you wouldn't be here if you weren't supposed to. You are worth it and I really hope you never give up and someone gives you a chance ❤️
Most men just exist, don't feel to bad, women get noticed and men get ignored
that video at the end really just broke my heart, just been on the come up from a depression and i see people around me go through the same. it's so difficult because there is nothing you can really do to help them.
The last clip, really broke me.
It was obvious where it would go,
and all I wanted was to give them both a hug.
A couple of years ago, I went to one of the counties psycho therapists for treatment. It lasted about 3 years. He was great.
In the waiting room, there were templates for "The woman's emergency room" Encouraging women to call in for support if they are in dangerous or abusive relationships.
There were also one templet for "the men's emergency room".
Encouraging men to call in if they are struggling with being the abuser or regulate their emotions.
I complained about this to my mom, and she said, isn't that what men are struggling with?
I told her you can't have 2 templates where one is victimising women and the other villainicing men. She had nothing to say about that.
My mate’s 16 and he is already having a kid, it’s f**ked.
Hard life ahead. He’ll be okay at 36.
Geez.
Bro is cooked
It's a good thing that some of us listen to the men around us, because we value and love them very much. You'd be surprised how many of us women are willing to listen and try to understand what's going on. One should feel that way about one's partner, friend, brother, son and even dad. The few men in my life are here because I love them. The problem is, words are cheap and you're right Isaac, we should be helping each other as often as we can.
Good luck Issac! Thank you for writing this book brother.
Dude.
Your really pushing through into something that is much more powerful than before......and I salute you sir.
Our purpose has been stripped away and women are not wife material anymore. Nothing is ok!
There's a lot of men and women that are not marriage material there's still a few women out here that are and yes the true women are struggling just as hard as the true man .
@@shannonruark8079 as an European myself, lots of women are goddam privileged here, and listened to.
And their jail sentences are SMALLER compared to men.
@@shannonruark8079Well said from an Australian Army Vet. Well done beautiful 😘👍🍻
@@shannonruark8079 We need help from the true women like yourself to end this toxic manhating culture that's going on. All its doing is driving a wedge between the sexes and permeating hookup culture which has destroyed modern relationships!
@@QueSeraSeraaaa I agree if you do the crime you should do the time no matter if your male or female
Nobody is OK. This has become a world you can't be OK in.
Even if you are OK, someone will be along to make you not OK shortly.
Ive grown up without a father all 22 years of my life with only a mother and its only really after being 22 that im starting to get my shit together. You need a decent role model for life or theres just a void of either discipline, punishment system or something to follow as a standard. Your environment affects every part of your life and its difficult to change. Not that mothers are bad parents but i dont think mothers alone can fit both roles if they want to or not and in the end it can end up being detrimental if not handled properly. Kids need guidance to be able to be the best person they can be from both parents
You need a father to tell you the truth. You need someone that will protect you and fight for you till you can stand on your two feet, but at the same time hurt you with the truth to keep you humble and avoid delusional behaviour with unconditional love and hold you accountable for your actions and behaviours. A father to teach you, guide you in both the written rules and the unwritten rules of our society and life. He should be able to provide you with a set of starting principles that will allow you to develop your character. You need to see and develop trust, and trust and respect can only be earned through actions. A father should be your first role model that will teach kindness, gentleness, patience, resilience and self control, while harnessing your aggression and savagery into productive pursuits( controlled aggression, empathy and sympathy towards those that wrong us )We have a lot of males in this society, but very few men. Fatherless males are dangerous in a society. A man that has nothing has nothing to fear. Study history and you will see what happens when you have large groups of young men without a purpose.
@@douglasgreene9340 i completely agree.
Beautiful work Isaac. Thank you. Hoping we can all be kinder to each other.
16:17 smirking and smiling while saying that makes you seem so sincere....
My brothers and I have been truly blessed with having an amazing both Mom and Dad.
Thank you Mom and Dad you two are true parents!!
I’m not okay. I’m not okay at all. I haven’t been for way longer than I realized. Saturday, when watching one of the new best anime of the season, one of the characters was yelling at a goofy teacher and asking why he wouldn’t go away and the teacher said “I just can’t leave you alone.” And before I realized it, there was a tear running down my cheek. And when I did realize it, I began to sob. Because it made me realize how lonely I am. How for years I’ve kept everyone at arms length and even my closest friends I haven’t trusted implicitly this whole time. I’ve been betrayed so many times, so I made myself have the coldest heart i could while trusting nobody and believing that they’d leave too. I had people around me, but I was so utterly and devastatingly lonely this whole time.
I’m really sorry to hear that, loneliness can be crippling. You deserve to be loved and have people you trust be close to you. Introspection is a valuable tool and it sounds like you are learning to understand yourself better. I really hope you can get to a place where you can feel more love and inclusion if that is what you need x
We are all going through hard times, give each other a break and lean on each other brothers.
Thank you for making something that is so important and giving men a life line 💪🏾👏
Thanks for making me laugh and cry. And being there for us.
I've always been able to relate to men's struggles despite my gender and I think your book would help many people across the board.
Looking forward to pay day when i can order one.
Yeah, I am so into my masculinity and will never question who I am in being a man, what it means to be a man, and how hard it is to actually be a man. yes, being a man sucks sometimes, (most of the time), but I wouldn't trade it for absolutely anything.
being human sucks but such its life, and it has good moments too
Yep, men are not okay, we are not okay.
@@sachimi_ggz just stop bruh
@AnimeFallen1 It's the truth though, both men and women struggle and we should build ourselves up instead of tearing us down.
Brilliant episode, solid knowledge for men everywhere.
We’re not okay and no, we don’t want to talk about it with our ladies and we’ve got no friends to confide in.
I’m sitting here, listening to podcasts (this dude makes me laugh), I’m at work (from home), with two partially torn rotator cuffs, a cold (thanks to my work trip last week) and now a migraine (I need that right now like I need an infected scrotum). Even my wife, who I consider one of the best, most compassionate women I’ve ever met has started getting snippy about me not helping out more this last weekend. I spent all Saturday working around the house and Sunday I just couldn’t, the pain was just too much and I couldn’t get a full breath.
Man, no one gives a shit. A man’s job is to suck it up and work until we collapse. God forbid we ever show weakness or pain or take a recovery day.
I’m bitching, it’s unseemly but I needed the release. Back to work, cheers folks.
Well who do you want to talk about it with then?
That final point is the truest. Sometimes the happiest seeming people are hurting the most
The worst thing you can do, as a man, is let anyone else tell you how you should be.
just liked the video, my hair line grew back, my waistline shrunk 12 inches and my wife no longer yells at me. thank you isaac you absolute ledgend
Sometimes it hurts too much knowing how short and skinny I am and how broken my heart is and how sad I am and how I've let my teeth go just not caring anymore and how as soon as I start talking to someone and they seem if anything superficially interested I immediately remind myself of what they don't want. What they don't need. And I'm both. I try to just be alright, and I thought going to work every day is going to help, but it's hard to escape. Every day I'm reminded of why I'm so quiet lol.
You need to tell that voice in your head (the devil, if you will) to shut the fvck up. Tongue in cheek.
Those thoughts don't serve you, and are taking you out of what could otherwise be a peaceful state of being.
You are rejecting yourself before others even have the chance to. You're right, no one wants someone who hates themselves, it is very hard for such a person to have a healthy relationship because they will tend to grasp or abuse. (Though not impossible with sufficient self-awareness.)
As for short and skinny, poor, whatever else? That's all you. (I know you will point to the Internet or perhaps a few interactions with NPCs who mocked you for being whatever label.)
You create your reality. Don't let other people dictate it for you. I guarantee you that if your thoughts change, your life will change because your actions and behaviors will change. You will find whatever you are looking for and it will be way better than anything you could possibly imagine. AND you will still be short, and perhaps even skinny or whatever else.
This isn't woo or feel good BS. This is how the world works. Change your thoughts. It's not a race. The rest will follow.
Or don't.
Friend. The only thing that bothered me about your post was the lol at the end. Your life is not a joke. And you don't deserve to be laughed at.
@tartarianking1232 Thank you sir I'm taking control and only those who would laugh WITH me deserve what I'm about to achieve.
I'm glad you shared this Isaac, thank you.
I go to therapy trying to build myself back to a healthy place.
I feel better. But I'm still not ok.
Nailed it BUTTS...... thankyou !
Well. It sucks to admit it but Im not exaclty okay. But its okay. Rather live with that pain than be ridiculed for having it.
Man that last clip hit me
Guys, if you're struggling, for the love of god if you have somebody who can help, ask for help.
I just got out of a massive downward spiral triggered by depression and ended up going cold turkey off my meds and was on a fast train to fuckedville that was only derailed by reaching out to family and asking for help. It's not weakness, it's just taking care of yourself.
As someone approaching 30 I have buried to many friends, that last clip hit home. It’s always the ones that seem the happiest 🥺