Mr Fritz , you are mentioning an obvious and needed reality most of us never went through , but the new generations need an eventful and meaningful ritual that awakes them up and prepares them for whats ahead . Great talk .
Thank you. My wife and I just launched a site that is intended to inspire people to do similar events - and give them the tools they need to do so....including a free guidebook. We really hope this helps many more people create unique events for children in their lives...
@@HOOPS3D hi Ron, thanks so much for being an example of what I believe all of us in the modern-western world need. I enjoyed your talk so much! Would you be so kind as to share the website here so those of us who are interested can learn from you and your wife, as well as exchange insights and experience? I am currently researching coming of age and rite of passage in order to design something for the modern day teen. Thank you! -- D. L.
This has given us a lot of ideas. With our son we plan on giving him a necklace and with each step in his passages awarding him with trinkets. Dog tags symbolizing how life is a fight and you have to be strong and fight to survive and to do what is right and fight for good. Also a ring to symbolize commitments and following through and doing what you say your are going to do and keeping promises. Each award will be symbolic and have meaning tied to wisdom value and serve as a reminder of his achievements that he can keep and look back on. We also want to award him a symbolic name upon completion a badge of honor to be proud of in the tradition of going from little wolf to running bear. We are still developing our rituals and what we wish to incorporate in it for him. He just turned 10 about two weeks ago and soon his journey into manhood will begin. We are already preparing him and psycing him up. I just wanted to share this because I feel like the necklace with the physical reminders marking his progress and steps in his path are very much conceptually in line with the topics and themes in this video so I thought I would share that for others who may want to incorporate something like that themselves.
Wow! What a powerful event. I noticed it was missing from my life, as I just left home in a rush at age 15 and as a result crashed into reality many times. Now, I'd like to create for others what I didn't have for myself. It's also never too late to have a coming of age ceremony! I had one at age 31. 🐛🦋13 is really the ideal age to make it happen though. I wish every child had a man like this in their life and a coming of age team on call for life. 💖
I've assembled book cases like that before and it takes about two hours if you have to screw by hand and read all of the instructions, not having done it before.
Ron Fritz, I hope you read this. Unlike tribes, societies focus not only on survival but also development so instead of one day ritual testing physical strength, society needs to have ritual carried over multiple year where a pubescent makes foundational developments in multiple sectors of life: Social, Economical, Psychological, Physical and Political for which he receives dog tags and finally a ring to indicate that the pubescent is ready for marriage. I would like your opinion on this Ron Fritz
Is it just me who really dislikes the idea of this? I can't imagine a more embarrassing day than having all the most important adults in my life gather around to watch me perform awkward "ceremonial" events that my parents made up and forced me to do. I'm so grateful my dad has never watched this or he might've thought it was a neat idea and sprung it on me or my brothers. Just go on a hike or something with that coming of age team mentioned, the kid will still find meaning without it being so forced. I feel like this is just weird brainwashing-conditioning-field day.
I can see how this might be awkward for a teen. I also wonder if a teen has a good relationship with his or her parents if it would make the Coming of Age ceremony or ritual better. Regardless and despite the awkwardness, I believe the teen will appreciate this ceremony if it is designed well and done with intention and sincerity.
@@illustrator247 I personally have a very good relationship with my parents, better than other teens my age, I'd say. However, I agree with you that if done with intention and especially sincerity it may be a better time- I fully believe that If sincerity is applied to an awkward situation, it will make it less embarrassing for everyone involved. Also, thank you for replying to my comment.
Talking about rites of passage without mentioning Anthropology and Arnold van Gennep who coined the term and mapped out the phases?? That isn't honest at all.
Rites of passage were rites of passage before any academic wrote about it. It's a collective recognition in the human instinct to prepare children for the next phase in their lives. Thus you don't need to quote anyone as this common sense and presented from an academic stand point.
In our case, I didn't know anything about Arnold van Gennep and Anthropology . If we had learned the names of the phases from him, we would have referenced that. I suspect there have been plenty of researchers who could name those phases since it is pretty clear from looking at different societies rituals. Thanks for the reference, though. I would be happy to check out Anthropology and see what we can learn.
Mr Fritz , you are mentioning an obvious and needed reality most of us never went through , but the new generations need an eventful and meaningful ritual that awakes them up and prepares them for whats ahead . Great talk .
Thank you. My wife and I just launched a site that is intended to inspire people to do similar events - and give them the tools they need to do so....including a free guidebook. We really hope this helps many more people create unique events for children in their lives...
Ron Fritz what’s the website?
@@HOOPS3D any updates on the website?
Totally agree..
@@HOOPS3D hi Ron, thanks so much for being an example of what I believe all of us in the modern-western world need. I enjoyed your talk so much! Would you be so kind as to share the website here so those of us who are interested can learn from you and your wife, as well as exchange insights and experience? I am currently researching coming of age and rite of passage in order to design something for the modern day teen. Thank you! -- D. L.
This is some of the best parenting advice I have ever seen.
Bravo mom, dad and coming of age team!
That’s my dad, and I agree! Lucky kid right here (I’m the one in the pic with him at the track)
I always regarded myself as a pretty good father. Had I seen this years ago, I could have done an even better job.
This has given us a lot of ideas. With our son we plan on giving him a necklace and with each step in his passages awarding him with trinkets. Dog tags symbolizing how life is a fight and you have to be strong and fight to survive and to do what is right and fight for good. Also a ring to symbolize commitments and following through and doing what you say your are going to do and keeping promises. Each award will be symbolic and have meaning tied to wisdom value and serve as a reminder of his achievements that he can keep and look back on. We also want to award him a symbolic name upon completion a badge of honor to be proud of in the tradition of going from little wolf to running bear. We are still developing our rituals and what we wish to incorporate in it for him. He just turned 10 about two weeks ago and soon his journey into manhood will begin. We are already preparing him and psycing him up. I just wanted to share this because I feel like the necklace with the physical reminders marking his progress and steps in his path are very much conceptually in line with the topics and themes in this video so I thought I would share that for others who may want to incorporate something like that themselves.
This sounds amazing. How did it go? How did the initiation ritual look eventually?
1:04 important 2:21 research 3:00 theme of rite
wonderful talk. Thanks TedX and Ron Fritz!
The coming of age ceremony for my kids- Here is doom eternal on nightmare mode have fun.
Wisdom is easy to share but hard to put into practice, having never learned it "the hard way".
Is there a transcript available for this presentation? (Terrific talk, by the way).
Wow! What a powerful event. I noticed it was missing from my life, as I just left home in a rush at age 15 and as a result crashed into reality many times. Now, I'd like to create for others what I didn't have for myself. It's also never too late to have a coming of age ceremony! I had one at age 31. 🐛🦋13 is really the ideal age to make it happen though. I wish every child had a man like this in their life and a coming of age team on call for life. 💖
I've assembled book cases like that before and it takes about two hours if you have to screw by hand and read all of the instructions, not having done it before.
This works in a functional family. Not the screw ups families some of us experienced.
So...
Ron Fritz, I hope you read this.
Unlike tribes, societies focus not only on survival but also development so instead of one day ritual testing physical strength, society needs to have ritual carried over multiple year where a pubescent makes foundational developments in multiple sectors of life: Social, Economical, Psychological, Physical and Political for which he receives dog tags and finally a ring to indicate that the pubescent is ready for marriage.
I would like your opinion on this Ron Fritz
great talk
How can I contact Ron Fritz. I am writing a book at the moment and would love his input.
Really loved the Ritual idea!
This comes to show that childhood is a social construct because different cultures diffuse the length of childhood differently.
Great stuff!
Just sounds like social conditioning.
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Society is what you make it and nowadays men are so weak and that they will lead us directly into hard times.
I will do this to my future kidss
This is interesting
Well i think its time i start my right of passage...So other people are going to have to stand down to west virginia.
For grit they should have put their hands in gloves full of bullet ants!
That's the Sateré-Mawé tribe thing, right?
Yes
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Is it just me who really dislikes the idea of this? I can't imagine a more embarrassing day than having all the most important adults in my life gather around to watch me perform awkward "ceremonial" events that my parents made up and forced me to do. I'm so grateful my dad has never watched this or he might've thought it was a neat idea and sprung it on me or my brothers. Just go on a hike or something with that coming of age team mentioned, the kid will still find meaning without it being so forced. I feel like this is just weird brainwashing-conditioning-field day.
I can see how this might be awkward for a teen. I also wonder if a teen has a good relationship with his or her parents if it would make the Coming of Age ceremony or ritual better. Regardless and despite the awkwardness, I believe the teen will appreciate this ceremony if it is designed well and done with intention and sincerity.
@@illustrator247 I personally have a very good relationship with my parents, better than other teens my age, I'd say. However, I agree with you that if done with intention and especially sincerity it may be a better time- I fully believe that If sincerity is applied to an awkward situation, it will make it less embarrassing for everyone involved. Also, thank you for replying to my comment.
Indeed it would look very cringe. Society nowadays has its own modern "rites of passage" for many careers and hobbies
@@johannesjoseph823like what rites of passage ?
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Talking about rites of passage without mentioning Anthropology and Arnold van Gennep who coined the term and mapped out the phases?? That isn't honest at all.
Rites of passage were rites of passage before any academic wrote about it. It's a collective recognition in the human instinct to prepare children for the next phase in their lives. Thus you don't need to quote anyone as this common sense and presented from an academic stand point.
In our case, I didn't know anything about Arnold van Gennep and Anthropology . If we had learned the names of the phases from him, we would have referenced that. I suspect there have been plenty of researchers who could name those phases since it is pretty clear from looking at different societies rituals. Thanks for the reference, though. I would be happy to check out Anthropology and see what we can learn.
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