This video could not have come at a more relevant time. Last week we moved my mom to an independent living facility from her house. We thought this would be a big relief and although I know it's early yet, it's been a huge eye opener. So many things have come to light about how bad her dementia is and how hard a move like this is on someone like her. Thanks for your suggestions of getting help. We determined yesterday that I need a support group as well as a counselor to help with the way I'm dealing with everything.
Oh thank you so much for sharing and I totally get it! What you're going through is not uncommon and it just shows how much love is in your family - you're very lucky! It's so very difficult to see the signs of dementia in an older parent - it's so subtle at times and in addition to that, they tend to hide it too. Your family did the right thing and now that all of these issues are coming to light you all should feel justified that you did the right thing by moving your mom to a place where she can be looked after. And yes, a support group is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Another thing I can suggest are to read as many books as you can on dementia and caregiving. There are many out there - just search for them in your bookstore or Amazon. amzn.to/4fMsuZn Getting the help from others in the support group and then reading books like these can help you through this time in your life and help to make your time with your mother as memorable as it can be. Know that you are doing a great thing! Again, thanks for sharing your story and thanks for watching. If there are any other topics you would like us to do a video on, please let us know or visit our site at seniorsafetyadvice.com for information.
@@SeniorSafetyAdvice I wanted to come back and say that I forgot to say that her sister and last sibling passed away the day we moved my mom so it was a big double whammy. This was a sister that she visited twice a week right up until the end and that sister still lived in the house where their family grew up. Within a few days of the move, we started realizing that my mom's behavior was becoming extreme and was different than what we'd been seeing with her memory loss alone. She became obsessive about writing notes and re-reading them over and over and over. She couldn't tear herself away from it and was calling me 20 times between 7am and noon even though I was seeing her daily. Also she wasn't even exploring her apartment to see where things had been put which was odd for my mom. I finally called her doctor. We went on Monday and she was prescribed an antidepressant. So this was also a lesson in if it doesn't seem right, it's not right and get more help. After three days on the medication, she is still not happy about moving but she's already showing more normal-for-her behavior. I think she slept in really late this morning which was a relief as I think she was exhausted as well. I have signed up for a support group and have an email in to a therapist Im familiar with so waiting for a reply. Thanks
It sounds as if you are taking charge of your own health (that's awesome) and of course, being so wonderful to your mother, who obviously needed the help. Yes, it's so very important to speak up and reach out for help. It's out there, it's all around us, we just need to be receptive. You're doing a great job!!
Oh thanks for your comment. Yes, I think most caregivers feel so alone and forgotten. The job is so overwhelming! Hang in there and seek out any kind of support you can. It really does help.
61 and disabled, and caring for mom with dementia. She's my full-time job and getting paid for it. Still, it's hard on my body. Two cleaning ladies later, it's doable.
Oh, so glad you got folks to do the home maintenance! It's so important to know what you can and cannot handle because of course, if you aren't well, then who will take care of mom?? I would say also to contact a geriatric care manager to help you with any future decisions about if and when it may be time to consider a memory care unit for your mom. Of course it all depends on how her dementia progresses but don't be shy about this decision. It's difficult, but it's often the very best thing to do for someone with that condition. Take care of yourself while caring for your mom! She's lucky to have you.
This video could not have come at a more relevant time. Last week we moved my mom to an independent living facility from her house. We thought this would be a big relief and although I know it's early yet, it's been a huge eye opener. So many things have come to light about how bad her dementia is and how hard a move like this is on someone like her. Thanks for your suggestions of getting help. We determined yesterday that I need a support group as well as a counselor to help with the way I'm dealing with everything.
Oh thank you so much for sharing and I totally get it! What you're going through is not uncommon and it just shows how much love is in your family - you're very lucky!
It's so very difficult to see the signs of dementia in an older parent - it's so subtle at times and in addition to that, they tend to hide it too.
Your family did the right thing and now that all of these issues are coming to light you all should feel justified that you did the right thing by moving your mom to a place where she can be looked after.
And yes, a support group is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Another thing I can suggest are to read as many books as you can on dementia and caregiving. There are many out there - just search for them in your bookstore or Amazon. amzn.to/4fMsuZn
Getting the help from others in the support group and then reading books like these can help you through this time in your life and help to make your time with your mother as memorable as it can be.
Know that you are doing a great thing! Again, thanks for sharing your story and thanks for watching. If there are any other topics you would like us to do a video on, please let us know or visit our site at seniorsafetyadvice.com for information.
@@SeniorSafetyAdvice I wanted to come back and say that I forgot to say that her sister and last sibling passed away the day we moved my mom so it was a big double whammy. This was a sister that she visited twice a week right up until the end and that sister still lived in the house where their family grew up. Within a few days of the move, we started realizing that my mom's behavior was becoming extreme and was different than what we'd been seeing with her memory loss alone. She became obsessive about writing notes and re-reading them over and over and over. She couldn't tear herself away from it and was calling me 20 times between 7am and noon even though I was seeing her daily. Also she wasn't even exploring her apartment to see where things had been put which was odd for my mom. I finally called her doctor. We went on Monday and she was prescribed an antidepressant. So this was also a lesson in if it doesn't seem right, it's not right and get more help. After three days on the medication, she is still not happy about moving but she's already showing more normal-for-her behavior. I think she slept in really late this morning which was a relief as I think she was exhausted as well. I have signed up for a support group and have an email in to a therapist Im familiar with so waiting for a reply. Thanks
It sounds as if you are taking charge of your own health (that's awesome) and of course, being so wonderful to your mother, who obviously needed the help.
Yes, it's so very important to speak up and reach out for help. It's out there, it's all around us, we just need to be receptive. You're doing a great job!!
Thanks for covering so much ground sharing. It's good to hear how others also understand what a caregiver have to go through.
Oh thanks for your comment. Yes, I think most caregivers feel so alone and forgotten. The job is so overwhelming! Hang in there and seek out any kind of support you can. It really does help.
61 and disabled, and caring for mom with dementia. She's my full-time job and getting paid for it. Still, it's hard on my body. Two cleaning ladies later, it's doable.
Oh, so glad you got folks to do the home maintenance! It's so important to know what you can and cannot handle because of course, if you aren't well, then who will take care of mom??
I would say also to contact a geriatric care manager to help you with any future decisions about if and when it may be time to consider a memory care unit for your mom. Of course it all depends on how her dementia progresses but don't be shy about this decision. It's difficult, but it's often the very best thing to do for someone with that condition.
Take care of yourself while caring for your mom! She's lucky to have you.