Some of them weren’t destroyed...some of them were coddled, had everything handed to them, spoiled and pampered and not told no for an answer their whole lives. They had no social skills properly developed so they go into the adult world expecting everything handed to them and the spotlight shined on them. Often they are very hot tempered. competitive people too who were never taught to share the spotlight with others. iE the golden child. The crown prince who could do no wrong by mommy.
There is some responsibility to be taken when you allow someone to hurt to the point of destruction. Hurt people hurt people and we’re all hurt in some way, no one is without flaws or trauma. Trauma is very deep and complex in the way it effects you and your functioning so that is very wishful thinking indeed.
I had a friend who was a narcissist and I found out by giving myself the same boundaries as he wanted for himself. It was actually pretty funny when I made him show his ass.
@@ghostburgers4284 so did I. It was crazy because once I started acting like he did to me he suddenly began saying all the things I’d thought for years. Fuck people like that.
@@gagerucker9222 back then I didn’t know how to deal with narcissists because I didn’t want to believe that someone would act such a way, I’m of course able to believe these things and it has helped me immensely but it’s left me feeling alone in the process.
One trait I have seen in many of the narcissists I have dealt with is the “Victim Complex”, they are always the victim! If you listen to them carefully you’ll see they are making it sound like everyone is always taking advantage of them because they are such a good and wonderful person!
I experienced this first hand, the person I knew always had a "woe me" story, everyone seemed to be out there to get her. It's so draining to listen to.
The irony is that victims of Narcissistic abuse DO end up getting taken advantage of all the time because their boundaries have been screwed with over and over and they attract one narcissist after the other.
Yup! Mine did me, but I just let her leave the vm and never called her back 😂 Because I don’t care anymore!!! I put up with her for YEARS and a few others before her and I’m done! She blamed me for her table glass breaking when she moved (I wasn’t even there!) because I told her I was nervous to lift it when I helped her the day before. She literally said I “put the energy out there for it to happen” and wanted an apology 🙄. Nope! Done with that!!!
Totally agree! When I lost a h.s. friend to a drunk driver 30 yrs. ago, one of her uncles blamed her for dying. I figured he was in denial, but those that knew him said he was always blaming the wrong people. She was at a stoplight, had her seat belt on & everything....how can it be her fault when that drunk was so out of it that when he came to 3 days later...the 1st thing he asked for was a shot of whiskey??
had a situation with one where she was so clearly in the wrong. literally no room for argument, she did something incredibly shitty and blamed me and my friends for her getting in trouble for it. i kept asking her "so what did we do wrong? tell me exactly how this is our fault and what else we should have done" she kept deflecting, not answeing the questions, sounding delusional.
1 They have a grandiose sense of self importance - Self obsessed - High opinions of themselves 2 they have a distorted world view - if they do something poorly, they make excuses. 3 They need praise and admiration- not interested in anything except if it has to do with themselves- 4 They have a strong sense of entitlement- they expect people around them to follow them 5 They have a superiority complex- they go with people who they think is their level, they judge people 6 They lack empathy and remorse- they never feel guilty - never think about what happens to other people with their actions 7 They bully, belittle, and mistreat others- they point your flaws when other people compliment you edit: Based on what I’ve seen by my replies, I wish you all the best and that you aren’t alone!
@@shauqi4849 don’t overthink it too much. You may just be getting in your head but if you’re actually a narcissistic I hope you get out of your bad habits.
SAME! but if we are being honest a narcassist probably wouldn't be looking for this video or subscribed to this channel let alone questioning if they were one or not
I questioned myself a lot too because I actually became narcissistic for a brief period after dealing with so many narcs. It lasted only for a brief period before I realized I was letting them get to me. I put myself in check real quick. Stay humble and kind you’ll go no wrong
1. I talk a lot about myself, but more about how sh1t I am in most things. 2. This is me, but in games 😂 first time playing I'm worse, next time I'll be better than the rest 3. I'm softhearted and the gentil person, I get used more than that I use 4. I always do what is told to me, I cant give orders 5. I can associate with everyone, cuz of my social skills and becuz I'm litteraly the lowest one can be, I can only get along with people who are better than me cuz I'm the worst. 6. I think about everyone but myself when planning / executing plans and I always overthink about the possible consequences 7. I got a lot of annoying stuff thrown at me in the past, I cant bring it up to do the same to others, cuz if the pain it had been for me
@@BrVi_7 the signs were always there but they were directed to other people - I’ve learned that how someone treats/talks about others says a lot about their character- but you stay because you try to find reasons to why they’re like that (they have insecurities or previous bad experiences). But the thing is.. you are not to be held accountable for their past. If they treat you badly based on something someone ELSE did to them, they don’t belong in your life because that mentality is toxic and truly will never change
@śóy everything happens for a reason. I feel like if I found out sooner , I wouldn’t have had the mental health to deal with it 😅 with thanks to TH-cam videos like these, I quickly learned how to cope
@MAYUR TRIVEDI_X_I_19 thank youu! Taking accountability & apologizing helps. Also not slandering your best friend behind their back. Honesty is the best 😅
Alone and lonely aren’t the same thing. I think you meant people who prefer solitude rather than “loneliness”. Loneliness implies a negative emotion but solitude is something different. Having solitude or even having a remarkable friend or friends is better than having bad, selfish or phony friends. But I think I understood the point you were trying to make.
Alone you'll grow the strongest, but then you don't have anyone to help you if cant keep your growth up to scale with the rest around you. Also, its bad for your social side as you'll have plenty of issues with communication, which is necessary further in life
I've just come out of a 16 year "friendship" based on mental abuse with a hard core narcissist. This video is so dead accurate to everything I experienced. I'm pretty tramatized from it but seeing stuff like this makes me feel better and know I'm not alone. I accepted the mental abuse for so long because she convinced me that no one else would want to be friends with me and that she was my only friend. as I got older and more mature I was less vulnerable to her manipulation tactics I started to make real friends and realize that I was being manipulated.
You’re definitely not alone! I was only friends with my covert narc ex bff for a year but she ended up making me trauma bonded to her because she kept coming back to hurt me! It’s been 8 years since we stopped being friends and I can’t fully let her go. I know she’s a terrible person but yet I still can’t stop looking her up on social media and still wishing I had her in my life. So messed up.
This is me right now 😥rubbing to my face that I got no friends and no one wants to be friends with me. Its freaking hard to accept that we broke up but as I keep watching videos like this I started to realize i was manipulated and blamed for what happened to her in the past. I felt so traumatize. Tried to reached her out about her wrong doings on me but she just said " theres no absolutely problem with me" 😥
I used to have an online friend that was like this And saying "narcissism is more dangerous than you expect" is an understatement.. for your safety please stay away from those people if you can
People with narcissistic personality disorder have little or no emotional empathy. They can also be devaluing about other people. Eventually, your narcissistic friend is likely to say something that hurts your feelings, offends you, or embarrasses you in public.
1. they have a grandiose sense of self-importance 0:37 2. they have a distorted world view 1:09 3. they need constant praise and admiration 1:38 4. they have a strong sense of entitlement 2:09 5. they have a superiority complex 2:39 6. they lack empathy and remorse 3:06 7. they bully, belittle, or mistreat others 3:40 I hope I could help! (:
Another sign is when someone compliments you in their presence they'd do anything to shift the spotlight to them. Experienced it,felt bad for her cus it was pathetic :/
YES! A new guy was around and he complimented my husband on the way I looked, and when my husband was saying something about it my friend assumed he was complimenting her. Lol
@@jjjjblahblah that doesn't seem like the same sorta thing so don't feel bad, but also don't feel insecure just because a friend bought something new and you didn't 💕
So I am an INFJ and I am a literal walking magnet for narcissistic people.I had this one friend who is always so needy,immature and gets very aggressive when challenged. One of my strong perks is that I am patient I was friends with that person for 7 years until I finally did the infamous door slam for the first time in my life.It didn't feel right because I always love to give people chances but I know this was the right decision to make.I guess it's always true when they say the good decisions are always the hardest to choose.
This is exactly what I’m going through right now with a friend. Just ended the friendship after 5 years of basically being attached at the hip. The friend was very immature, needy, self centered, threw fits when things didn’t go their way, blame shifted, gas lit me, ect. Similar to you, I’m an INTJ, and try to be very understanding and sensitive towards ppl. I try to give ppl the benefit of the doubt and give them multiple chances, but I always end up being the one who gets hurt. Definitely learned a hard lesson from this friendship
There's a law of consciousness that states that "like goes to like". Meaning that if you're attracting a certain character trait, it's likely you have that trait too. But if you happen to close the door on someone like that, you've probably grown out of your own narcissism. I think as long as you're attracting narcissists into your life, you want to look inside yourself to see what could be improved. If you lose those traits, they'll no longer be attracted to you, nor you to them.
I realised that most of my "friends" are narcissists. I was raised to be a people pleaser by narcissistic mother and grandmother and that's why i attracted so many narcs into my life. They were constantly judging my life and criticizing my decisions. I was thinking it was normal to have this type of people in your life. But no more, now I've gained a lot of knowledge about narcs and i stopped hanging out with my so called "friends". Thanks God I'm free and happy now, and I'm not feeling bad for living my life the way i want. Good luck guys, be aware of those evil creatures and keep yourself away from them;)
I’ve lost many so call friends to the point where I though it was all because of me when really I’ve just grown out of them and set boundaries and no tolerance for most of the things that they would do.
@@Psych2go I couldn't choose a favorite, but my appeciation has been growing with each video. I can tell you what I appreciate, I like expressiveness over detail, the kawaii approach, trying to soften the blows of topics that will be uncomfortable to the same people who want and need to get informed about them. I think the artist fulfills that psychology ideal like no other. Thanks for all the hard work!
Yeah. You should just leave. Even being with them physically can be hazardous, as their very good liars. The most compassionate thing to do is pray for them.
This video hit so close to home, I used to be friends with someone like that and she was the worse. She pretty much did most of the things that was mentioned in the video. Which really made my mental health and self esteem worse. I thought she would stick around but nope I was wrong. She’s still like that to this day and has never suffered the consequences of her actions and still craves attention from everyone. The breakup made me stronger and wiser, I don’t think she’ll ever change.
one thing I’ve noticed about narcissists... they will manipulate you into thinking your mental health and trauma is ‘normal’. Im here to remind you, your experiences are completely valid... don’t let anyone degrade what you are going through🤍
@@WatchwithSandee oh man... it's hard, really hard... my father used to be a narcissist and my mother suffered a lot out of it. Wish you and your beloved husband peace, love and happiness
My grandma just died and my mom prolonged her suffering to be the victim instead of letting my grandma go when she had been talking about being ready to go
My father has narcissistic characteristics. Of course, there is a hierarchy between parents and children, but sometimes he uses that hierarchy as an excuse for being an a**hole.
Though it's been many years, I am working through a traumatic situation with a former friend who was very narcissistic. She made it sound like I was her best friend but would leave me at the bottom of her list unless she wanted something. She also shifted the conversation back to her and what she was trying to do whenever I would talk about anyone else. Finally, if I confronted her, she get very nasty.
I went through the same thing at school last year. There was this girl who always said I was her "best friend", and she used me. She always wanted my phone from me, and I could tell that she didn't care about my life whatsoever. She'd also get mad if I wanted to be with someone else other than her, and it made me feel guilty. I did end up getting out of it eventually, and we're not friends anymore, but yeah, that's my personal experience.
I feel like I’m somewhat a narcissist..but no way I’d be this confident in myself. The only reason I tend to act narcissistic because I’m insecure and bluntly reminding myself with others around to hear me makes me feel better. I really hate this is how I act jut to make myself feel better :(
@DeadSunsetRises Ok but just remember that people tell you about themselves for the same reason you talk about yourself, so just try and listen, because it helps A LOT
@DeadSunsetRisesMost people don’t even realize it so you’re very luck and self aware to know you have some narcissistic behavior. Work on not bragging and putting yourself higher but instead listening to others and being kinder. Idek if these will work for you but I hope the best for you.
I met a senior couple. The husband was an engineer, sleep alone in this massive master bedroom with two bathrooms and two closets! His wife sleeps in the small guest bedroom. The house is filled with expensive man’s cave items guns boats motorcycles. The wife bedroom was filled with cheap dollar shop items and like living in poverty! It was so sad to see!
I realized my “closest” friend that I’ve known since elementary school is the narcissist. I realized when I moved into a nee place finally (after living in a studio) and asked her for help painting. She showed up very reluctantly saying she doesn’t have time (why show up then?). She kept dragging me down about my new house and REFUSES to come over because it makes her jealous and she’s not the top with bigger house now. We wild always hangout at her place because mine is too small. Now it’s huge with lots of room we never had and she won’t even come see me.
Old but childish. Snaps all the time. Filled with rage if you don’t “obey.” Repay kindness with meanness. In a nutshell, don’t waste your time on such crazy people. They are stupid - full of fears, egoistic and with low self-esteem, and they think so highly of themselves and pretends to be nice in front of others. A snake indeed.
My MIL threw a tantrum the other day because my husband did a chore that wasnt her preferred way. She literally stomped her feet, yelled, and then stomped again with fists by her side as she storms off. She's 62. Childish.
Somebody please tell me whether I m a covert narcissist, 1. I am always kinda shy around many people. 2. I sometimes show the ' I'll show you' attitude. 3. I might feel jealousy towards others sometimes, but I don't show it. 4. I was once super sensitive to criticism but now I am okay with it and always look forward to improve. 5. I m a perfectionist. 6. I do care about status but I don't usually like to stay with people with high status. 7. I actually want people to admire me (not everytime but mostly) 8. About superiority I view many people superior to me but I always have a feeling that I can be better than them. I can provide other points which I forgot to include. I literally got depressed yesterday cause I could see some points about covert narcissist in me which I found in some websites 😔. I felt scared of myself.
had a friend with covert narcissist tendencies and everyone else enabled them. would catapult conversationally between talking about their deep seated trauma or ridiculously high accomplishments Constantly. so glad to be out of that situation
Omg im so happy youre out of that relationship, actually im intrigued, i had a friend once that was very insecure but at the same time egotistical which always confused me. Can you elaborate more about this friend? If thats alright!
@@Livern5 there are a lot of really good youtube videos on covert narcissism that were super eye opening and helpful. part of the reason i didn't see the abuse was bc my 'friend' wasn't grandiose / always seemed to be going through a rough time (the "victim"), but deep seated insecurity paired with other behaviours is the covert narcissist staple. was very confusing at the time, tho! i'd really recommend looking more into it - youtube channels like Dr. Ramani, Surviving Narcissism, and Common Ego are particularly fantastic
@@burdineblue one of the number one way abusers keep the victims from leaving is by victimizing themselves, and making you feel sorry for them / scared to leave them bc of their history and emotional instability. it happened to me. maybe don't discount it
@@wordswithdragons9599 omg that sounds exactly like my ex best friend! She ticks off every covert narc trait and always was the victim in everything. She was always super insecure and hated not being the center of attention also. I also never realized she was a narc because I always thought that grandiose narcs were the only types to exist. But thanks to the internet and some real true friends of mine I learned narcs come in many types which is highly disturbing.
One of my friends always comments on how short I am even though I’m not really insecure about it and she’s always talking about how she’s ‘physically above’ me
@@sophiea831 You should still put your foot down, though. You have respect for yourself and you're secure in who you are. Someone else being insecure doesn't give them the right - friend or not - to project or try to demean you. Don't let it slide just because it doesn't affect you. She'll take your non-resistance as a sign it's okay to talk to you like that.
"They have a way of using your own strong nature against you" - SO SPOT ON! It took me 2 decades of dedication always being a good friend to somebody who would always only take. I finally could see clearly just how extremely unbalanced and actually draining that friendship was.
1.) You talk to them maybe 3 times and suddenly they deem you their "best friend" or "buddy". You are now a part of their inner circle and must obey to their every whim, even though you barely know them. 2.) They talk about themselves, a lot. The conversation is always turned back to them. Always. And when you are on the phone with them sometimes you can respond "uh huh" or "yeah" on repeat for 20 minutes and they won't notice. 3.) They get easily offended. They have super fragile egos and anything you say can and will be used against you. If you say the wrong thing they will yell at you and blame you for it and then never forget that you said that to them. They will bring it up every time you have a fight. 4.) They will bring up things in which they remember it. So the time you lost your dog and had to beg and beg them for help, suddenly they only recall them finding the dog and being the hero. They only remember what they remember, it is bits and pieces. Which sometimes are made up. 5.) They talk about inappropriate things. They will talk about how they have a wart on their finger and take off the bandaid to show you. They will also show you a rash they have on their stomach and say "l need you to look at this. Is it red? How bad is it?" 6.) They are insecure and needy. Sometimes everything will be fine and then the next thing they can't function without you.
My best (and only) friend is 100% a narcissist and I've known it for years. He only talks about his own interests, only wants to hang out with me when we do things he wants to do, will talk to me for hours on the phone about ONLY his own interests & his day (but hates my own interests), expects me to play games he likes but won't play games I like, is a jerk toward me when we're around other people, has a MASSIVELY high view of himself and is overconfident in pretty much every area of life. He checks every box in this video. It baffles me how a person can be so un-self-aware. I'm so bitter about this friendship that sometimes I ignore this guy's messages for hours or days at a time
Narcs aren’t actually confident though. They just pretend they are. If they really were confident they wouldn’t have to try to destroy and put down others. They’re actually some of the most insecure and pathetic people to exist
Signs of Narcissism👍 Monopoly on Conversation. Flaunting Rules or Social Conventions. Fixation with Appearance. Unreasonable Expectations. Disregard for Other People. Praise, Praise and More Praise. It's Everyone Else's Fault. They Fear Abandonment
it’s like you make these videos based on the problems in my life. like it’s a little unsettling how many times i’ll be thinking of something and then the next video posted deals with that exact thing
A few of my friends are narcissists and I feel they are jealous of my spiritual happiness,they try to say negative things to bring me down but I rise above it,frustration and dissatisfaction is what I feel from them
I have a friend who is severely narcissistic- she had a really awful start in life. I let it go. Her humble self shows at times, not often, but it’s there. It’s not always black and white why people are that way. Just don’t let them drain you. Be kind!
The worst is when they are extreme low level intelligence “Know it alls ’” or inherited wealth never worked under pressure of earning your own income “Know it alls”
Covert narcs i guess hide it so well! My friend is so nice to strangers but very mean and destructive to me. She loves to hear about my insecurities and bring them up as a joke around our friends in a way noone knows except me!!
I had this friend who - believed she was going to be the most popular influencer and would constantly take selfies and prepare interviews by herself for when “she got famous” yet has never made any sort of content ever. She just really thought she was so famous and way above everyone. - absolutely needed to be complimented and praised and that was the number one thing she was wanting in a man, and said that that’s what she likes most about me is that I compliment her outfits and makeup. - the one time I went to her crying and told her what happened SHE LAUGHED. She has never had any sort of empathy toward anyone but herself. - for how much she thinks she’s perfect, she is completely jealous of anyone and everyone, and she never hid it, she would roll her eyes anytime someone complimented me or when she wasn’t getting all the attention. - she’s 1000% a pathological liar. She makes up extravagant stories about being this successful makeup artist and having done all these celebrities makeup, or about having an abusive ex and all these war stories, she’d lie about her accent, lie about EVERYTHING especially when talking to a guy, even lied about the littlest thing like her eye color, she just lied about every single thing, and she couldn’t ever keep up with her lies, she’d say one thing and then a different thing next. Most of her lying was for gain to manipulate me or others so she could get what she wanted, but she’d also just lie about Pointless stuff like what bathroom she was in in a selfie she took. Just all the stuff she’s done is insane, and I can’t believe I enabled it for Soo long, I’d give her compliments bc I thought she was just insecure but no she got off thinking she was better than everyone, I fell to her manipulative tactics. I knew there was always something off about her, especially when I could see the emptiness in her eyes or the flakiness in emotions. I remember seeing her practice emotions in the mirror, and one time she did this fake cry so I wouldn’t be mad at her, and when I was comforting her I just felt how fake and not real it was. She was scary, like she has no soul, everything about her was made up. She’d copy everything I did, or others, like copying accents, or would even ask me questions and then go tell guys my answers as if they were her own, or she’d hear a joke I told and would go say it like she came up with it, just nothing was real. She was just evil. And I’m so glad to have cut that out, I did try to make her aware of what she does and to get help, but I don’t think she’ll ever know she’s the problem.
If it walks, talks, and acts like a narcissist, its a narcissist. Pathologizing language has convinced us that we shouldn't stand up for ourselves by saying stuff like "welll, they're not diagnosed, so its really only traits-"
I have learned by getting burned. You think you know someone...you don't. Then you sit back and realize that they never really cared about you at all and were just using you. Also, sometimes (depending on the situation) you begin to understand how twisted they really are. Sometimes it is hard, because you may be nothing like that, and wrapping your brain around how they REALLY are...is a true eye-opener.
My experience of having a narcissistic friend is truly overwhelming. Heres my story: At first when I joined school he was my tour guide around the school. We were close friends for 1/2 years until around these past few months I have picked up some big red flags such as: copying me when I get the spotlight, get so mad at me when I prove him wrong, take my stuff without my permission and being rude to one of my other friend (which unfortunately lost his dad through a divorce) and keeps making fun of it. Should I unfriend this friend? He is very jealous of me in many ways here are 2 things that he is jealous of and want me to pity him and give him attention: Saying "Oh, I have no musical talent" or "Oh, I have no sports talent" then when I say "Find the stuff you are good at then practice it ;)" then he will always replies "OF COURSE I KNOW THAT YOU THINK IM DUMB?" my friend replied with yes because he was sick of his behavior same as me but in my head. He says stuff like "Nah I wont get proved wrong and get angry, that's the past me" well that same day he got angry at me for proving him wrong. He shushes everyone in class just to talk and disrupt the class the next second. He thinks rules don't apply to him. When he does talk I say shush then he gets mad at me if as I just insulted him. Should I actually unfriend him and show him no attention because this video explains him, like if video is for him.
I can relate to basically every single one of these. They even told me that I didn't even have a right to be in my chosen industry and they hope my career fails. They even called me a coward because I never stood up for them when they got themselves into a mess.
A self-defined "expert on psychopaths" came into my life a few years ago. She is the main reason I developed an interest in narcissism and psychopathy. The more I studied about these traits, the more I recognized my friend's "queen bee" behavior was narcissistic. I finally had to leave after she jokingly said she "might have to kill" me. She seems to have some serious issues regarding egotism.
I don't have friends in general....always been told I'm weird, have too much energy to be around, worry more about others than myself, think on something too much, etc., etc. Loneliness is the better option for me, especially if I want to keep my sanity. People with this trait will suck out your last breath to save themselves then kick you back to life & do it again.
It took me a while for me to admit that an online friend I had was a manipulative, self-centered narcissist. Anytime someone showed an once of self-respect and individuality she’d use her group to tear them down and would use me as well. I knew it was wrong, but stayed by her side as a kid who wanted validation from such a toxic woman. Others tried to show me the path of being free and valuing a true bond yet I turned it down because I was an idiot who didn’t want to acknowledge the truth that my “friend” was toxic. She convinced me that I was more toxic than her and would even lie about things to others about me, yet I still went back and tried to see if she’d change :/ She would hang out with awful people, and would side with them even when others felt uncomfortable. Only when they turn against her she would dismiss them. To her, No one was allowed to be a have a pfp of a certain/ main character of a franchise. She absolutely wanted the spotlight in the group, and would say things like “you’re not this race to be the character” “you don’t have big boobs like me.” And would often make me feel insecure about myself for not looking a certain way by saving pictures of me or my mistakes as a “reminder” to exploit whenever she can. Anytime I tried to show decency towards others she would find ways to make schemes with her toxic buddies and hurt them, belittle or flat out bully and would convince me that they did something to hurt her ego. It was draining, and I’m glad I grew to drop someone like that from my life. I can’t imagine living the rest of my life living in such misery to never change your ways and hurt others when they prove to be their own person. She really did bring out the worst part about me and influenced me to devalue others if it didn’t serve her
It's weird that in real life, narcissists are avoided, but on the internet, they're praised. I knew a girl on Twitter that was a diagnosed narcissist, would constantly post thirst traps complimenting themselves and farming for "omg yes queen" comments, and would state that they're superior while tearing others down. She was in the fashion sphere and got thousands of followers that fed into it. I don't understand how nobody called her out... maybe because she was pretty and in the fashion sphere :/
I had a friend who was a lot more covert so I couldn’t figure it out at first. She had made it seem like I was so special to her yet I was the only friend she hurt the most. She wasn’t bothered or intimidated enough by our other friends. She was always a victim in every situation and loved when you felt bad for her. Still acts this way and display’s immature, attention seeking behavior. She discarded me over small things, smeared my name to our mutual friends to try and get them to turn on me, and made me a villain in a situation I felt could have been easily fixed/talked out. These type of people have a lot of underlying hatred and jealousy and will wait for even the smallest slip up so they can make you out to be a bad person and tear you to shreds over it. They see your good heart and will use their importance in your life to manipulate and hurt you. It’s very sneaky and vindictive, and for me personally it caused me a lot of trauma in the friendship department.
I’ve always had a problem being too hard on myself. I can be selfish sometimes but at the end of the day I do what’s right and what’s good. I had a best friend for 4 years who I recently had to cut off entirely because he displayed all these characteristics. In fact, when I compared myself to before us being friends and after having gotten real close, I noticed that I too had become even more selfish and materialistic. Almost obsessed with the idea of status because it was all he talked about. He always shit talked others, even people we hadn’t seen in years. Why? Just because. The last night I talked to him he got mad because I wouldn’t bring him food from the restaurant I worked at when he lived 3 minutes away. All he had to do was come get some from there. However with each interchange into our argument he made it clear I was obligated to do this for him. And when I finally told him I’d come but I need to talk to him about us being good buds. He didn’t fucking care. The more I look back the more I realize how this guy flipped every notion of him ever doing anything wrong to me, or anyone else, back onto whoever he’d wronged. I’m not saying I’m perfect or even hella sensitive, but this friendship made me mentally weak. It exhausted me. If someone acts likes this do not hesitate cutting them out. They will drain you.
Let me guess, when you said we need to be good buds, he snapped and called you every insult in the book? Always talked about himself. Bad Listener? Always the victim?
@Daylight: You're fighting a double-edged sword. Forgiving will empower you which is a healthy decision, but continuing to award her with any attention from you is going to be the death of you. Get out whilst you can, your life & sanity are at stake!
Yes I have a narcissist friend, handling him is like banging my own head on rock everyday, so that's why I have decided to remove him out from my life, this kind of people will never allow you to leave with peace.
My high school best friend is a narcissist and it was frustrating how she operated. She dubbed herself "The Logical One" while I was overemotional. Meanwhile, any time we had a disagreement, she was always the one to get petty, passive-aggressive, and mean. She always had to be right, and calling her in on her harmful behaviour equated to failing to accept her "because that's just who she is."
Actually you might not be a narcissist, but a codependent. Codependents often display a lot of narcissistic tendencies, but it's often because they grew up with a narcissistic parent or other close person in their lives. The key difference between codependents and narcissists is that codependents *want* to get better and improve their behavior, and narcissists only want "narcissistic supply", energy and attention from others. A codependent might not feel remorse at first, if they hurt someone, but eventually will see their mistakes. A narcissist never takes responsibility for their mistakes, and instead always plays the victim or flips the script to take the blame off of them. Whatever type of person you may be, studying narcissism and codependency can help you become more aware of narcissistic traps and help you become a stronger, healthier person. Good luck! And, if you were just joking, lol that clearly totally went over my head and I didn't even think of that possibility until just now LOL
@@laruriel7419 Tbh, I am actually quite privileged, and my parents are strict, but still amazing. I am very sure I’m the least nicest person in my family... I think I just need to be less ignorant. And I guess what you said is true, narcissists don’t take responsibility. I will try to work on my codependency. And thank you so much for all the knowledge and advice, good luck to you back and Stay Safe.
Im really thankful for this channel cause one day I wanna become a Psychiatrist but I dont know how to read people or know what theyre thinking so thank you :))
It's great that you are putting these videos out. I wonder if you might include covert narcissists, the harder to spot, presenting as fragile (I get all narcs are fragile) with little confidence, and the abuse tends to be harder to identify. It is incredibly damaging when survivors get help and are further traumatised by therapists and society as a whole who do not recognize the abuse or that the abuser is personality disordered. 'That's not s narcissist; they arent arrogant, vain, grandiose'.
Had an old friend who was & from what I gather, still is all 7 of these. He ruined several friendships & relationships because his narcissistic & controlling ways, along with wanting to keep people beneath him & not seeing them becoming happy, successful or enjoying their life. I like to think that karma will come around for these kinds of people.
When your friend doesn’t want to listen to you when you talk about your OC (or other stuff) for the game you play with them. But you’re forced to listen to them about their OC.
Thank god I haven't got anyone like that in my life anymore. As an empath I am proud to say that because it's so hard to not attract these people with a giving and kind hearted nature. Healthy boundaries are so key!!
I’ve been in a friendship with a narcissist for 12 years. I knew him since the 2nd grade and I just recently cut ties with him. I feel like he’s the reason why I feel like a robot and been depressed. He would say things a friend shouldn’t say to you and then cover it up as jokes, but I knew deep down inside he really meant it. For example we were playing fortnite and he got mad that I kept killing him over and over and he goes “ Michael I will always be better than you at everything you do”. You see I told him he was a narcissist many times and he even admitted to it, but it took me a while to figure out that I was his victim. I don’t know who I really am and I’m trying to find myself now. He calls me every now and then but I don’t answer. No one should go through this sh!t and if you are just try your best cut off ties with them even if you knew that person for a long time .
hey psych2go team 💕 lately, you've been putting out so much good content in just so little time! thank you so much! i really hope, you all are not overworked and/or feel the pressure of keeping up with the content. just keep in mind, that we all love this channel nonetheless!
Funny how I realized my ‘friend’ has most of these traits. Not trying to diagnose them, I’m aware this video isn’t meant to be a diagnosis, however it does prove a helpful point!
I have this friend that likes to -get mad at me for being “everyone’s favorite” (I’m not I was just talking to 2 of my guy friends) -likes to talk about how much she does for everyone and says she gets nothing back when I’ve been nothing but a therapist friend for so many -constantly flips the topic of a conversation to make it about her past -has the “look what I’ve been through, I deserve the world” ideology Is this narcissistic what should I do
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We also made a video on narcissistic abuse and the signs to look out for: th-cam.com/video/H_Dqczmp8Kc/w-d-xo.html
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I wish that people would stop destroying other people just because they were once destroyed.
THIS.
We'd be ahead in society if we weren't all gasping for love and acceptance due to previous generational pains
Lol you think they were only once destroyed?
@@GaleLD oh, okay, i understand that.
Some of them weren’t destroyed...some of them were coddled, had everything handed to them, spoiled and pampered and not told no for an answer their whole lives. They had no social skills properly developed so they go into the adult world expecting everything handed to them and the spotlight shined on them. Often they are very hot tempered. competitive people too who were never taught to share the spotlight with others. iE the golden child. The crown prince who could do no wrong by mommy.
There is some responsibility to be taken when you allow someone to hurt to the point of destruction. Hurt people hurt people and we’re all hurt in some way, no one is without flaws or trauma. Trauma is very deep and complex in the way it effects you and your functioning so that is very wishful thinking indeed.
There are so many narcissists who gravitate to empathetic and trusting people
I had a friend who was a narcissist and I found out by giving myself the same boundaries as he wanted for himself.
It was actually pretty funny when I made him show his ass.
@@ghostburgers4284 I have had that fun experience, also. Not to long ago.
@@ghostburgers4284 so did I. It was crazy because once I started acting like he did to me he suddenly began saying all the things I’d thought for years. Fuck people like that.
@@gagerucker9222 back then I didn’t know how to deal with narcissists because I didn’t want to believe that someone would act such a way, I’m of course able to believe these things and it has helped me immensely but it’s left me feeling alone in the process.
Yea I a am victim of that :)
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Wise words 🤩💅🏾💅🏾
Indeed! Thank you for sharing this!
Wise words,hats off to you :D
*I am 14 and this is deep*
Wtf how have I not seen this before!!
One trait I have seen in many of the narcissists I have dealt with is the “Victim Complex”, they are always the victim! If you listen to them carefully you’ll see they are making it sound like everyone is always taking advantage of them because they are such a good and wonderful person!
I experienced this first hand, the person I knew always had a "woe me" story, everyone seemed to be out there to get her. It's so draining to listen to.
See, I can never love myself with people like you beating me up all the time! 😉
Agreed
They are demon possessed, i know ive been around them all my life. How can people all around the world act the same. ❤️🙏🏽
The irony is that victims of Narcissistic abuse DO end up getting taken advantage of all the time because their boundaries have been screwed with over and over and they attract one narcissist after the other.
They do apologize sometimes, but only to manipulate others unfortunately..
Yup! Mine did me, but I just let her leave the vm and never called her back 😂 Because I don’t care anymore!!! I put up with her for YEARS and a few others before her and I’m done! She blamed me for her table glass breaking when she moved (I wasn’t even there!) because I told her I was nervous to lift it when I helped her the day before. She literally said I “put the energy out there for it to happen” and wanted an apology 🙄. Nope! Done with that!!!
This women could describe a murder, and still make it sound relaxing.
The blade slowly penetrates the victims skin, as pain receptors explode.........
@@ozzivpodno1356 than he laid her slowly but gently on the ground, kissed her forehead, and held her hand as she quickly bled out.
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@@shaereub4450 omg! You win TH-cam comments! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Accountability, they never take responsibility for their actions. They'll always blame everyone else
Totally agree! When I lost a h.s. friend to a drunk driver 30 yrs. ago, one of her uncles blamed her for dying. I figured he was in denial, but those that knew him said he was always blaming the wrong people. She was at a stoplight, had her seat belt on & everything....how can it be her fault when that drunk was so out of it that when he came to 3 days later...the 1st thing he asked for was a shot of whiskey??
had a situation with one where she was so clearly in the wrong. literally no room for argument, she did something incredibly shitty and blamed me and my friends for her getting in trouble for it. i kept asking her "so what did we do wrong? tell me exactly how this is our fault and what else we should have done" she kept deflecting, not answeing the questions, sounding delusional.
true
1 They have a grandiose sense of self importance - Self obsessed - High opinions of themselves
2 they have a distorted world view - if they do something poorly, they make excuses.
3 They need praise and admiration- not interested in anything except if it has to do with themselves-
4 They have a strong sense of entitlement- they expect people around them to follow them
5 They have a superiority complex- they go with people who they think is their level, they judge people
6 They lack empathy and remorse- they never feel guilty - never think about what happens to other people with their actions
7 They bully, belittle, and mistreat others- they point your flaws when other people compliment you
edit: Based on what I’ve seen by my replies, I wish you all the best and that you aren’t alone!
Yeah, that's probably me... I'm a bitch 💁
That's me!😓
@@shauqi4849 don’t overthink it too much. You may just be getting in your head but if you’re actually a narcissistic I hope you get out of your bad habits.
@@thedarkertheberrythesweete7125 I've been trying for quite a some time. To get out of my bad habits!
I feel like that's me :(
I just want to be a good friend though...
Me who overthinks literally everything :
Maybe I Am A Narcissist
SAME! but if we are being honest a narcassist probably wouldn't be looking for this video or subscribed to this channel let alone questioning if they were one or not
Sameee honestly I watched all those videos about narcissist people and I can see I am one of them lmao
I questioned myself a lot too because I actually became narcissistic for a brief period after dealing with so many narcs. It lasted only for a brief period before I realized I was letting them get to me. I put myself in check real quick. Stay humble and kind you’ll go no wrong
@@jasonkelly2173 yeah that's a point 😊
1. I talk a lot about myself, but more about how sh1t I am in most things.
2. This is me, but in games 😂 first time playing I'm worse, next time I'll be better than the rest
3. I'm softhearted and the gentil person, I get used more than that I use
4. I always do what is told to me, I cant give orders
5. I can associate with everyone, cuz of my social skills and becuz I'm litteraly the lowest one can be, I can only get along with people who are better than me cuz I'm the worst.
6. I think about everyone but myself when planning / executing plans and I always overthink about the possible consequences
7. I got a lot of annoying stuff thrown at me in the past, I cant bring it up to do the same to others, cuz if the pain it had been for me
I had a narcissistic friend for 16 years. Cutting them off was the best decision 😂
Thanks for sharing! Good to hear that you've cut them off. How many of these signs described your ex-friend?
I just made this same comment. As I got older and more mature and started to make real friends I finally realized what was wrong.
@@BrVi_7 the signs were always there but they were directed to other people - I’ve learned that how someone treats/talks about others says a lot about their character- but you stay because you try to find reasons to why they’re like that (they have insecurities or previous bad experiences).
But the thing is.. you are not to be held accountable for their past. If they treat you badly based on something someone ELSE did to them, they don’t belong in your life because that mentality is toxic and truly will never change
@śóy everything happens for a reason. I feel like if I found out sooner , I wouldn’t have had the mental health to deal with it 😅 with thanks to TH-cam videos like these, I quickly learned how to cope
@MAYUR TRIVEDI_X_I_19 thank youu! Taking accountability & apologizing helps. Also not slandering your best friend behind their back. Honesty is the best 😅
I learned it's better being alone then having friends. The loneliest people walk the strongest paths.
BULL-A-SHIT
You wont get far away if you keep believing that. Sorry it's just the truth and I'm speaking from experience. Having connections matter.
Alone and lonely aren’t the same thing. I think you meant people who prefer solitude rather than “loneliness”. Loneliness implies a negative emotion but solitude is something different. Having solitude or even having a remarkable friend or friends is better than having bad, selfish or phony friends. But I think I understood the point you were trying to make.
@@michaelokeke4976 with the added context, what you said makes sense
Alone you'll grow the strongest, but then you don't have anyone to help you if cant keep your growth up to scale with the rest around you. Also, its bad for your social side as you'll have plenty of issues with communication, which is necessary further in life
I've just come out of a 16 year "friendship" based on mental abuse with a hard core narcissist. This video is so dead accurate to everything I experienced. I'm pretty tramatized from it but seeing stuff like this makes me feel better and know I'm not alone. I accepted the mental abuse for so long because she convinced me that no one else would want to be friends with me and that she was my only friend. as I got older and more mature I was less vulnerable to her manipulation tactics I started to make real friends and realize that I was being manipulated.
You’re definitely not alone! I was only friends with my covert narc ex bff for a year but she ended up making me trauma bonded to her because she kept coming back to hurt me! It’s been 8 years since we stopped being friends and I can’t fully let her go. I know she’s a terrible person but yet I still can’t stop looking her up on social media and still wishing I had her in my life. So messed up.
This is literally me rn, i search for this video 🤍 i hope you're doing way better than beforr
This is me right now 😥rubbing to my face that I got no friends and no one wants to be friends with me. Its freaking hard to accept that we broke up but as I keep watching videos like this I started to realize i was manipulated and blamed for what happened to her in the past. I felt so traumatize.
Tried to reached her out about her wrong doings on me but she just said " theres no absolutely problem with me"
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@@coolskunk6186 hey you're not alone. I'm in the same situation rn.
@@jenycachallam7933 Hey, sorry to hear that I know how it feels 💔 but I know we'll be okay in the end 😅 we got this
I used to have an online friend that was like this
And saying "narcissism is more dangerous than you expect" is an understatement.. for your safety please stay away from those people if you can
People with narcissistic personality disorder have little or no emotional empathy. They can also be devaluing about other people. Eventually, your narcissistic friend is likely to say something that hurts your feelings, offends you, or embarrasses you in public.
Oh oh oh you missed the part where they try to convince you you’re the toxic one and cannot be convinced of any wrong doing. My sister is a narcissist
Lmao I wonder what story my covert narc ex friend tells her current friends about me
My friend does that allll the time 😢
“Do good to others. It will come back in unexpected ways.” 🙏🏽
Unexpected way doesn't mean in a good way
Real kindness is doing good without expecting anything in return.
@@Opethfeldt that's the definition of it ? Thanks for telling me something I knew ?
@@Opethfeldt And you still get shit for being kind
Maybe the Golden Rule would suit you better. Do you know it? Well if not and if so, here ya go;
"Do unto others as you would have done unto you"
1. they have a grandiose sense of self-importance 0:37
2. they have a distorted world view 1:09
3. they need constant praise and admiration 1:38
4. they have a strong sense of entitlement 2:09
5. they have a superiority complex 2:39
6. they lack empathy and remorse 3:06
7. they bully, belittle, or mistreat others 3:40
I hope I could help! (:
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How tf..
I'm really comfused with this "time traveling" can u please explain how it work??
Another sign is when someone compliments you in their presence they'd do anything to shift the spotlight to them.
Experienced it,felt bad for her cus it was pathetic :/
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YES! A new guy was around and he complimented my husband on the way I looked, and when my husband was saying something about it my friend assumed he was complimenting her. Lol
i feel bad because whenever my friend would say she went to get new clothes, i would lie and say “oh well im getting new clothes too” 😕
@@jjjjblahblah that doesn't seem like the same sorta thing so don't feel bad, but also don't feel insecure just because a friend bought something new and you didn't 💕
So I am an INFJ and I am a literal walking magnet for narcissistic people.I had this one friend who is always so needy,immature and gets very aggressive when challenged. One of my strong perks is that I am patient I was friends with that person for 7 years until I finally did the infamous door slam for the first time in my life.It didn't feel right because I always love to give people chances but I know this was the right decision to make.I guess it's always true when they say the good decisions are always the hardest to choose.
This is exactly what I’m going through right now with a friend. Just ended the friendship after 5 years of basically being attached at the hip. The friend was very immature, needy, self centered, threw fits when things didn’t go their way, blame shifted, gas lit me, ect. Similar to you, I’m an INTJ, and try to be very understanding and sensitive towards ppl. I try to give ppl the benefit of the doubt and give them multiple chances, but I always end up being the one who gets hurt. Definitely learned a hard lesson from this friendship
you are not a literal magnet, you are a figurative magnet
There's a law of consciousness that states that "like goes to like".
Meaning that if you're attracting a certain character trait, it's likely you have that trait too.
But if you happen to close the door on someone like that, you've probably grown out of your own narcissism.
I think as long as you're attracting narcissists into your life, you want to look inside yourself to see what could be improved.
If you lose those traits, they'll no longer be attracted to you, nor you to them.
@@sasquatchsiosaurus don't think so, that is a cheap way to give an explanation for the situation, it is actually more complex than that in many cases
I have a question
They try to kill your self-esteem. I had a friend who is a sadist. Those ppl are truly dead inside and lack a center.
I realised that most of my "friends" are narcissists. I was raised to be a people pleaser by narcissistic mother and grandmother and that's why i attracted so many narcs into my life. They were constantly judging my life and criticizing my decisions. I was thinking it was normal to have this type of people in your life. But no more, now I've gained a lot of knowledge about narcs and i stopped hanging out with my so called "friends". Thanks God I'm free and happy now, and I'm not feeling bad for living my life the way i want. Good luck guys, be aware of those evil creatures and keep yourself away from them;)
I was like this too.i have grown more so I see the signs faster.much love sent your way with continued healing.
“Are you afraid that one of your friends is a narcissist?”
No, because I don’t have any lol
No I'm worried about ME being a narcissist lmao
Relatable sis
If you "don't have friends" it's more than likely by choice.
Really? that must be a sad life
Same
I’ve lost many so call friends to the point where I though it was all because of me when really I’ve just grown out of them and set boundaries and no tolerance for most of the things that they would do.
Same. I thought it was all because of me over thinking and over reacting. I stopped giving friendshipd importance.
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Narcissists will always have someone they accuse of ruining their lives. Narcissists do not love - they hold hostages. If you meet one, RUN 🖖
Yeah. You should just leave. Even being with them physically can be hazardous, as their very good liars. The most compassionate thing to do is pray for them.
Lol, well done you have come to the brilliant conclusion that people with personality traits you don't like aren't the funnest people to be around.
I met one, but how do I escape him? - he's me!
lol i cant escape now its too late
@@brushstroke3733 You must be a fake. Narcissistic people have an inflated ego and there is NO way they will call themselves ‘narcissists
This video hit so close to home, I used to be friends with someone like that and she was the worse. She pretty much did most of the things that was mentioned in the video. Which really made my mental health and self esteem worse. I thought she would stick around but nope I was wrong. She’s still like that to this day and has never suffered the consequences of her actions and still craves attention from everyone. The breakup made me stronger and wiser, I don’t think she’ll ever change.
Thank you for sharing! We hope this video has helped you in some way! How many of these signs described them?
one thing I’ve noticed about narcissists... they will manipulate you into thinking your mental health and trauma is ‘normal’. Im here to remind you, your experiences are completely valid... don’t let anyone degrade what you are going through🤍
The tragedy is that when one of the parents is narcissist or has several traits of narcissism... real tragic
I have an older sister who is just like this :/
My poor husband had a mother who is a narcissist. It wrecked him and he's still working through it constantly.
@@WatchwithSandee oh man... it's hard, really hard... my father used to be a narcissist and my mother suffered a lot out of it. Wish you and your beloved husband peace, love and happiness
@@zubaydaharoun Thank you. Same for you ❤
My grandma just died and my mom prolonged her suffering to be the victim instead of letting my grandma go when she had been talking about being ready to go
My father has narcissistic characteristics. Of course, there is a hierarchy between parents and children, but sometimes he uses that hierarchy as an excuse for being an a**hole.
I have this kind of relative too, I always like to live far away from my family
Same
Though it's been many years, I am working through a traumatic situation with a former friend who was very narcissistic. She made it sound like I was her best friend but would leave me at the bottom of her list unless she wanted something. She also shifted the conversation back to her and what she was trying to do whenever I would talk about anyone else. Finally, if I confronted her, she get very nasty.
I went through the same thing at school last year. There was this girl who always said I was her "best friend", and she used me. She always wanted my phone from me, and I could tell that she didn't care about my life whatsoever. She'd also get mad if I wanted to be with someone else other than her, and it made me feel guilty. I did end up getting out of it eventually, and we're not friends anymore, but yeah, that's my personal experience.
I’m going through the exact Same thing. It’s mind blowing.
Had a friend like that too. The moment I stopped putting up with his narcissistic behavior he flipped out and I never heard from him again.
Hurt people, hurt people. It’s sad but it’s reality. Focus on being a better you and you will attract better friends. You are amazing! -Kushtrim
I feel like I’m somewhat a narcissist..but no way I’d be this confident in myself. The only reason I tend to act narcissistic because I’m insecure and bluntly reminding myself with others around to hear me makes me feel better. I really hate this is how I act jut to make myself feel better :(
@DeadSunsetRises Ok but just remember that people tell you about themselves for the same reason you talk about yourself, so just try and listen, because it helps A LOT
I sometimes like to pretend to be way too confident as a joke but now it’s becoming a habit
@DeadSunsetRises honestly you don't sound like a nice person at all. Eugh
@@Evealaquisina I think they are very much aware of that they are trying to work on it
@DeadSunsetRisesMost people don’t even realize it so you’re very luck and self aware to know you have some narcissistic behavior. Work on not bragging and putting yourself higher but instead listening to others and being kinder. Idek if these will work for you but I hope the best for you.
I met a senior couple. The husband was an engineer, sleep alone in this massive master bedroom with two bathrooms and two closets! His wife sleeps in the small guest bedroom. The house is filled with expensive man’s cave items guns boats motorcycles. The wife bedroom was filled with cheap dollar shop items and like living in poverty! It was so sad to see!
one of the perks of being anti-social, you will never meet a narcissist. and if you do, you’d be completely unwilling to put up with their bullshit.
I realized my “closest” friend that I’ve known since elementary school is the narcissist. I realized when I moved into a nee place finally (after living in a studio) and asked her for help painting. She showed up very reluctantly saying she doesn’t have time (why show up then?). She kept dragging me down about my new house and REFUSES to come over because it makes her jealous and she’s not the top with bigger house now. We wild always hangout at her place because mine is too small. Now it’s huge with lots of room we never had and she won’t even come see me.
Imagine a narcissist is here and doesnt know he is acting like this..
Imagine i have just found out i am one... True.
gretchen you're an absolute queen
@@sofvckingtired imagine one of them is me but i cant help that people are so jealous of me..
Das me
Old but childish. Snaps all the time. Filled with rage if you don’t “obey.” Repay kindness with meanness. In a nutshell, don’t waste your time on such crazy people. They are stupid - full of fears, egoistic and with low self-esteem, and they think so highly of themselves and pretends to be nice in front of others. A snake indeed.
I want to highlight "childish." I've found that immature people often resemble narcissists.
My MIL threw a tantrum the other day because my husband did a chore that wasnt her preferred way. She literally stomped her feet, yelled, and then stomped again with fists by her side as she storms off. She's 62. Childish.
@@WatchwithSandee oh dear
That's me alright.
Somebody please tell me whether I m a covert narcissist,
1. I am always kinda shy around many people.
2. I sometimes show the ' I'll show you' attitude.
3. I might feel jealousy towards others sometimes, but I don't show it.
4. I was once super sensitive to criticism but now I am okay with it and always look forward to improve.
5. I m a perfectionist.
6. I do care about status but I don't usually like to stay with people with high status.
7. I actually want people to admire me (not everytime but mostly)
8. About superiority I view many people superior to me but I always have a feeling that I can be better than them.
I can provide other points which I forgot to include. I literally got depressed yesterday cause I could see some points about covert narcissist in me which I found in some websites 😔. I felt scared of myself.
It was so funny seeing a narcissistic friend suck up to people who he thought were cooler. Glad he ended up choosing them because he was draining.
If you worry about being a narcissist.. you're probably not a narcissist
@Ray Guys, we have officially found an actual narcissist
had a friend with covert narcissist tendencies and everyone else enabled them. would catapult conversationally between talking about their deep seated trauma or ridiculously high accomplishments Constantly. so glad to be out of that situation
Omg im so happy youre out of that relationship, actually im intrigued, i had a friend once that was very insecure but at the same time egotistical which always confused me. Can you elaborate more about this friend? If thats alright!
Or about this ”covert narcissist tendencies”?
@@Livern5 there are a lot of really good youtube videos on covert narcissism that were super eye opening and helpful. part of the reason i didn't see the abuse was bc my 'friend' wasn't grandiose / always seemed to be going through a rough time (the "victim"), but deep seated insecurity paired with other behaviours is the covert narcissist staple. was very confusing at the time, tho! i'd really recommend looking more into it - youtube channels like Dr. Ramani, Surviving Narcissism, and Common Ego are particularly fantastic
@@burdineblue one of the number one way abusers keep the victims from leaving is by victimizing themselves, and making you feel sorry for them / scared to leave them bc of their history and emotional instability. it happened to me. maybe don't discount it
@@wordswithdragons9599 omg that sounds exactly like my ex best friend! She ticks off every covert narc trait and always was the victim in everything. She was always super insecure and hated not being the center of attention also. I also never realized she was a narc because I always thought that grandiose narcs were the only types to exist. But thanks to the internet and some real true friends of mine I learned narcs come in many types which is highly disturbing.
One of my friends always comments on how short I am even though I’m not really insecure about it and she’s always talking about how she’s ‘physically above’ me
It sounds like she's insecure about her own height, and that may be why she always brings it up
@@solseclipse ye it doesn’t really affect me because I think that is the reason
@@sophiea831 You should still put your foot down, though. You have respect for yourself and you're secure in who you are. Someone else being insecure doesn't give them the right - friend or not - to project or try to demean you. Don't let it slide just because it doesn't affect you. She'll take your non-resistance as a sign it's okay to talk to you like that.
@@oliviamchelm1785 ye it’s hard since we’re in a lot of classes together
That's not a friend
Whenever I talk about my problem, my friend starts "Oh yeah, I know... That happened to me too last week! So the story goes like this..." sigh
That’s happened to me more then once 🤦🏼♀️
"They have a way of using your own strong nature against you" - SO SPOT ON! It took me 2 decades of dedication always being a good friend to somebody who would always only take. I finally could see clearly just how extremely unbalanced and actually draining that friendship was.
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1.) You talk to them maybe 3 times and suddenly they deem you their "best friend" or "buddy". You are now a part of their inner circle and must obey to their every whim, even though you barely know them.
2.) They talk about themselves, a lot. The conversation is always turned back to them. Always. And when you are on the phone with them sometimes you can respond "uh huh" or "yeah" on repeat for 20 minutes and they won't notice.
3.) They get easily offended. They have super fragile egos and anything you say can and will be used against you. If you say the wrong thing they will yell at you and blame you for it and then never forget that you said that to them. They will bring it up every time you have a fight.
4.) They will bring up things in which they remember it. So the time you lost your dog and had to beg and beg them for help, suddenly they only recall them finding the dog and being the hero. They only remember what they remember, it is bits and pieces. Which sometimes are made up.
5.) They talk about inappropriate things. They will talk about how they have a wart on their finger and take off the bandaid to show you. They will also show you a rash they have on their stomach and say "l need you to look at this. Is it red? How bad is it?"
6.) They are insecure and needy. Sometimes everything will be fine and then the next thing they can't function without you.
That describes my experience to a tee. Very sad.
Thank you for this!
5th number happened with me once or twice.
My best (and only) friend is 100% a narcissist and I've known it for years. He only talks about his own interests, only wants to hang out with me when we do things he wants to do, will talk to me for hours on the phone about ONLY his own interests & his day (but hates my own interests), expects me to play games he likes but won't play games I like, is a jerk toward me when we're around other people, has a MASSIVELY high view of himself and is overconfident in pretty much every area of life. He checks every box in this video. It baffles me how a person can be so un-self-aware.
I'm so bitter about this friendship that sometimes I ignore this guy's messages for hours or days at a time
I can't even be this confident, I judge myself when I'm looking at the mirror.
Confident? What’s that? 🥲
Remember, always know that you’re so beautiful on the inside and out 💕 you’re beautiful the way you are, and your uniqueness is just perfect as it is.
Narcs aren’t actually confident though. They just pretend they are. If they really were confident they wouldn’t have to try to destroy and put down others. They’re actually some of the most insecure and pathetic people to exist
Signs of Narcissism👍
Monopoly on Conversation.
Flaunting Rules or Social Conventions.
Fixation with Appearance.
Unreasonable Expectations.
Disregard for Other People.
Praise, Praise and More Praise.
It's Everyone Else's Fault.
They Fear Abandonment
it’s like you make these videos based on the problems in my life. like it’s a little unsettling how many times i’ll be thinking of something and then the next video posted deals with that exact thing
This is the day when I find out my boyfriend is a narcissist
Oof that's tough..
Hope you work things out.
Goso get out stay out
I am pretty sure my ex was a narcissist as well lol
Same😂😂
Runnnnnn!!!!
Had a friend like this and now I don’t, best feeling ever. Cut them out of your life now, no regrets you are worth it. They don’t change.
There are two types of people. Those who lift me up, and those who drag me down. I drop the last type.
A few of my friends are narcissists and I feel they are jealous of my spiritual happiness,they try to say negative things to bring me down but I rise above it,frustration and dissatisfaction is what I feel from them
I have a friend who is severely narcissistic- she had a really awful start in life. I let it go. Her humble self shows at times, not often, but it’s there. It’s not always black and white why people are that way. Just don’t let them drain you. Be kind!
Many narcissists are know-it-alls, and have a hard time getting along with coworkers and friends
My sister and my dad are both “know-it-all’s” I hate it
The worst is when they are extreme low level intelligence “Know it alls ’” or inherited wealth never worked under pressure of earning your own income “Know it alls”
Covert narcs i guess hide it so well! My friend is so nice to strangers but very mean and destructive to me. She loves to hear about my insecurities and bring them up as a joke around our friends in a way noone knows except me!!
I had this friend who
- believed she was going to be the most popular influencer and would constantly take selfies and prepare interviews by herself for when “she got famous” yet has never made any sort of content ever. She just really thought she was so famous and way above everyone.
- absolutely needed to be complimented and praised and that was the number one thing she was wanting in a man, and said that that’s what she likes most about me is that I compliment her outfits and makeup.
- the one time I went to her crying and told her what happened SHE LAUGHED. She has never had any sort of empathy toward anyone but herself.
- for how much she thinks she’s perfect, she is completely jealous of anyone and everyone, and she never hid it, she would roll her eyes anytime someone complimented me or when she wasn’t getting all the attention.
- she’s 1000% a pathological liar. She makes up extravagant stories about being this successful makeup artist and having done all these celebrities makeup, or about having an abusive ex and all these war stories, she’d lie about her accent, lie about EVERYTHING especially when talking to a guy, even lied about the littlest thing like her eye color, she just lied about every single thing, and she couldn’t ever keep up with her lies, she’d say one thing and then a different thing next. Most of her lying was for gain to manipulate me or others so she could get what she wanted, but she’d also just lie about Pointless stuff like what bathroom she was in in a selfie she took.
Just all the stuff she’s done is insane, and I can’t believe I enabled it for Soo long, I’d give her compliments bc I thought she was just insecure but no she got off thinking she was better than everyone, I fell to her manipulative tactics. I knew there was always something off about her, especially when I could see the emptiness in her eyes or the flakiness in emotions. I remember seeing her practice emotions in the mirror, and one time she did this fake cry so I wouldn’t be mad at her, and when I was comforting her I just felt how fake and not real it was. She was scary, like she has no soul, everything about her was made up. She’d copy everything I did, or others, like copying accents, or would even ask me questions and then go tell guys my answers as if they were her own, or she’d hear a joke I told and would go say it like she came up with it, just nothing was real. She was just evil. And I’m so glad to have cut that out, I did try to make her aware of what she does and to get help, but I don’t think she’ll ever know she’s the problem.
Psych2Go, y'all have been such a help in cutting away from those who don't serve me well, and have taught me to attract those who do! Many thanks
If it walks, talks, and acts like a narcissist, its a narcissist.
Pathologizing language has convinced us that we shouldn't stand up for ourselves by saying stuff like "welll, they're not diagnosed, so its really only traits-"
I needed this a year ago! Everything makes so much sense now!!! Thank you x 😭
You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful :) Did any of these signs describe someone you know?
Philip green you're definitely a narcissist
My long term narc "friend" plays games,always running late,or cancelling or messing me about.It's taken 30 years but it's finally game over for me.
I have learned by getting burned. You think you know someone...you don't. Then you sit back and realize that they never really cared about you at all and were just using you. Also, sometimes (depending on the situation) you begin to understand how twisted they really are. Sometimes it is hard, because you may be nothing like that, and wrapping your brain around how they REALLY are...is a true eye-opener.
I promise I recently cut a friend off for this same reason. Everything that was stated in the video was right on point.
Introverted 🎯 I Avoid, these toxic people....
Probably I also😎😀
My experience of having a narcissistic friend is truly overwhelming. Heres my story:
At first when I joined school he was my tour guide around the school. We were close friends for 1/2 years until around these past few months I have picked up some big red flags such as: copying me when I get the spotlight, get so mad at me when I prove him wrong, take my stuff without my permission and being rude to one of my other friend (which unfortunately lost his dad through a divorce) and keeps making fun of it. Should I unfriend this friend?
He is very jealous of me in many ways here are 2 things that he is jealous of and want me to pity him and give him attention: Saying "Oh, I have no musical talent" or "Oh, I have no sports talent" then when I say "Find the stuff you are good at then practice it ;)" then he will always replies "OF COURSE I KNOW THAT YOU THINK IM DUMB?" my friend replied with yes because he was sick of his behavior same as me but in my head.
He says stuff like "Nah I wont get proved wrong and get angry, that's the past me" well that same day he got angry at me for proving him wrong. He shushes everyone in class just to talk and disrupt the class the next second. He thinks rules don't apply to him. When he does talk I say shush then he gets mad at me if as I just insulted him. Should I actually unfriend him and show him no attention because this video explains him, like if video is for him.
Yes, the person that came to your mind when you saw the title is a narcissist.
I think of myself.
@@xminusone1 same 😳
Oh no does that mean I’m a narcissist 😭😭
@@meistdebbi5388 I dont think this necessarily means we are bad people dont worry 😊
@@rubyy2923 Good point... Thanks
I can relate to basically every single one of these. They even told me that I didn't even have a right to be in my chosen industry and they hope my career fails. They even called me a coward because I never stood up for them when they got themselves into a mess.
A self-defined "expert on psychopaths" came into my life a few years ago. She is the main reason I developed an interest in narcissism and psychopathy. The more I studied about these traits, the more I recognized my friend's "queen bee" behavior was narcissistic. I finally had to leave after she jokingly said she "might have to kill" me. She seems to have some serious issues regarding egotism.
I don't have friends in general....always been told I'm weird, have too much energy to be around, worry more about others than myself, think on something too much, etc., etc. Loneliness is the better option for me, especially if I want to keep my sanity.
People with this trait will suck out your last breath to save themselves then kick you back to life & do it again.
It took me a while for me to admit that an online friend I had was a manipulative, self-centered narcissist. Anytime someone showed an once of self-respect and individuality she’d use her group to tear them down and would use me as well.
I knew it was wrong, but stayed by her side as a kid who wanted validation from such a toxic woman. Others tried to show me the path of being free and valuing a true bond yet I turned it down because I was an idiot who didn’t want to acknowledge the truth that my “friend” was toxic. She convinced me that I was more toxic than her and would even lie about things to others about me, yet I still went back and tried to see if she’d change :/
She would hang out with awful people, and would side with them even when others felt uncomfortable. Only when they turn against her she would dismiss them.
To her, No one was allowed to be a have a pfp of a certain/ main character of a franchise. She absolutely wanted the spotlight in the group, and would say things like
“you’re not this race to be the character”
“you don’t have big boobs like me.”
And would often make me feel insecure about myself for not looking a certain way by saving pictures of me or my mistakes as a “reminder” to exploit whenever she can.
Anytime I tried to show decency towards others she would find ways to make schemes with her toxic buddies and hurt them, belittle or flat out bully and would convince me that they did something to hurt her ego.
It was draining, and I’m glad I grew to drop someone like that from my life. I can’t imagine living the rest of my life living in such misery to never change your ways and hurt others when they prove to be their own person. She really did bring out the worst part about me and influenced me to devalue others if it didn’t serve her
THE ANIMATION! (congratulations, great job!)
Thank you! I appreciate it 😊😊
It's weird that in real life, narcissists are avoided, but on the internet, they're praised. I knew a girl on Twitter that was a diagnosed narcissist, would constantly post thirst traps complimenting themselves and farming for "omg yes queen" comments, and would state that they're superior while tearing others down. She was in the fashion sphere and got thousands of followers that fed into it. I don't understand how nobody called her out... maybe because she was pretty and in the fashion sphere :/
I had a friend who was a lot more covert so I couldn’t figure it out at first. She had made it seem like I was so special to her yet I was the only friend she hurt the most. She wasn’t bothered or intimidated enough by our other friends. She was always a victim in every situation and loved when you felt bad for her. Still acts this way and display’s immature, attention seeking behavior. She discarded me over small things, smeared my name to our mutual friends to try and get them to turn on me, and made me a villain in a situation I felt could have been easily fixed/talked out. These type of people have a lot of underlying hatred and jealousy and will wait for even the smallest slip up so they can make you out to be a bad person and tear you to shreds over it. They see your good heart and will use their importance in your life to manipulate and hurt you. It’s very sneaky and vindictive, and for me personally it caused me a lot of trauma in the friendship department.
I’ve always had a problem being too hard on myself. I can be selfish sometimes but at the end of the day I do what’s right and what’s good. I had a best friend for 4 years who I recently had to cut off entirely because he displayed all these characteristics. In fact, when I compared myself to before us being friends and after having gotten real close, I noticed that I too had become even more selfish and materialistic. Almost obsessed with the idea of status because it was all he talked about. He always shit talked others, even people we hadn’t seen in years. Why? Just because. The last night I talked to him he got mad because I wouldn’t bring him food from the restaurant I worked at when he lived 3 minutes away. All he had to do was come get some from there. However with each interchange into our argument he made it clear I was obligated to do this for him. And when I finally told him I’d come but I need to talk to him about us being good buds. He didn’t fucking care. The more I look back the more I realize how this guy flipped every notion of him ever doing anything wrong to me, or anyone else, back onto whoever he’d wronged. I’m not saying I’m perfect or even hella sensitive, but this friendship made me mentally weak. It exhausted me. If someone acts likes this do not hesitate cutting them out. They will drain you.
Let me guess, when you said we need to be good buds, he snapped and called you every insult in the book? Always talked about himself. Bad Listener? Always the victim?
Having a friend is very toxic and draining.
Starve them of their supply and watch them drop like flies!
The thing is im not even his friend. He thinks he is but after he made fun of me and my friends i have no respect for him.
I’m trying to forgive her, but I just can’t give that person anything more.
@Daylight: You're fighting a double-edged sword. Forgiving will empower you which is a healthy decision, but continuing to award her with any attention from you is going to be the death of you. Get out whilst you can, your life & sanity are at stake!
@@covahsmusicvault8953 I kicked her out last year. And I a, seeking peace by trying to forgive her lost soul.
Same
They stop being your "friend" as soon as you stop feeding or "helping" them.
Yes I have a narcissist friend, handling him is like banging my own head on rock everyday, so that's why I have decided to remove him out from my life, this kind of people will never allow you to leave with peace.
My high school best friend is a narcissist and it was frustrating how she operated. She dubbed herself "The Logical One" while I was overemotional. Meanwhile, any time we had a disagreement, she was always the one to get petty, passive-aggressive, and mean. She always had to be right, and calling her in on her harmful behaviour equated to failing to accept her "because that's just who she is."
Guys. I show almost all of these traits. Pray for me.
Actually you might not be a narcissist, but a codependent. Codependents often display a lot of narcissistic tendencies, but it's often because they grew up with a narcissistic parent or other close person in their lives. The key difference between codependents and narcissists is that codependents *want* to get better and improve their behavior, and narcissists only want "narcissistic supply", energy and attention from others. A codependent might not feel remorse at first, if they hurt someone, but eventually will see their mistakes. A narcissist never takes responsibility for their mistakes, and instead always plays the victim or flips the script to take the blame off of them. Whatever type of person you may be, studying narcissism and codependency can help you become more aware of narcissistic traps and help you become a stronger, healthier person. Good luck!
And, if you were just joking, lol that clearly totally went over my head and I didn't even think of that possibility until just now LOL
I see. How many signs did you relate to?
@@laruriel7419 Tbh, I am actually quite privileged, and my parents are strict, but still amazing. I am very sure I’m the least nicest person in my family... I think I just need to be less ignorant. And I guess what you said is true, narcissists don’t take responsibility. I will try to work on my codependency. And thank you so much for all the knowledge and advice, good luck to you back and Stay Safe.
@@Psych2go Probably 2, 5, kind of 6, 1, and kind of 4.
@@laruriel7419And I honestly don’t know if I was joking or not-
I happened to have a work"mate" that fits all the categories...Thankfully he didn't last long on the job
These types of people can’t even handle themselves and their environment.
Im really thankful for this channel cause one day I wanna become a Psychiatrist but I dont know how to read people or know what theyre thinking so thank you :))
Thank you so much! Your comment has lighten up my day. I hope you always become a Psychiatrist to help others out - Cindy
A healthy curiosity like that can help motivate you to study psychology.
Best of luck to you!
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I confronted her today. Finally and she lost it and she blocked me🙄
It's great that you are putting these videos out. I wonder if you might include covert narcissists, the harder to spot, presenting as fragile (I get all narcs are fragile) with little confidence, and the abuse tends to be harder to identify. It is incredibly damaging when survivors get help and are further traumatised by therapists and society as a whole who do not recognize the abuse or that the abuser is personality disordered. 'That's not s narcissist; they arent arrogant, vain, grandiose'.
Had an old friend who was & from what I gather, still is all 7 of these. He ruined several friendships & relationships because his narcissistic & controlling ways, along with wanting to keep people beneath him & not seeing them becoming happy, successful or enjoying their life.
I like to think that karma will come around for these kinds of people.
When your friend doesn’t want to listen to you when you talk about your OC (or other stuff) for the game you play with them. But you’re forced to listen to them about their OC.
Me, me, me and I, I and I ... So much so it feels like a recording machine. Stay away from those people unless you want your life to be ruined.
Thank god I haven't got anyone like that in my life anymore. As an empath I am proud to say that because it's so hard to not attract these people with a giving and kind hearted nature. Healthy boundaries are so key!!
I’ve been in a friendship with a narcissist for 12 years. I knew him since the 2nd grade and I just recently cut ties with him. I feel like he’s the reason why I feel like a robot and been depressed. He would say things a friend shouldn’t say to you and then cover it up as jokes, but I knew deep down inside he really meant it. For example we were playing fortnite and he got mad that I kept killing him over and over and he goes “ Michael I will always be better than you at everything you do”. You see I told him he was a narcissist many times and he even admitted to it, but it took me a while to figure out that I was his victim. I don’t know who I really am and I’m trying to find myself now. He calls me every now and then but I don’t answer. No one should go through this sh!t and if you are just try your best cut off ties with them even if you knew that person for a long time .
Congrats. You deserve better. Everyone does.
hey psych2go team 💕
lately, you've been putting out so much good content in just so little time! thank you so much!
i really hope, you all are not overworked and/or feel the pressure of keeping up with the content.
just keep in mind, that we all love this channel nonetheless!
“I never trust the narcissist but they love me “
But don't trust their love for you, it's fake overtime
I’m trying so hard to make sure I’m a good friend at this point I want one of these videos to say I’m a narcissist so I can change
I felt relieved that I never had a narcissist friend, but... all of the narcissist..characteristics...fit..my...mom........i-
Got any other family to turn to?
@@GuardianEnigma Nope, it's kinda normalized here, and i need her so i can finish my studies.
Needed this. Thank you
Me says I’m amazing once:
*Goes straight to this video.*
Lol
I had a narcissistic friend once X(
Funny how I realized my ‘friend’ has most of these traits. Not trying to diagnose them, I’m aware this video isn’t meant to be a diagnosis, however it does prove a helpful point!
I have this friend that likes to
-get mad at me for being “everyone’s favorite” (I’m not I was just talking to 2 of my guy friends)
-likes to talk about how much she does for everyone and says she gets nothing back when I’ve been nothing but a therapist friend for so many
-constantly flips the topic of a conversation to make it about her past
-has the “look what I’ve been through, I deserve the world” ideology
Is this narcissistic what should I do
Run
Yes I hope you aren’t friends with them anymore. Literally all those things sound like my ex friend who is a covert narc. She hates me badly