What It's Like To Be A Dude And A Nurse | "Male Nurse" Panel Speaks Out

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  • @williamhall1659
    @williamhall1659 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    As a nurse with 20 years experience I have found being male to mostly be a non-factor. I have had a few incidents but nothing horrible, I work in VA Hospital with a much higher than normal percentage of nurses who are men than other organizations. I feel like I was singled out to handle patients who were physically combative and help move beds/equipment early in my career, I pushed back and eventually my co workers got the message that I'm not the muscle.

  • @FishinMurse
    @FishinMurse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thanks for this Liz I am a first year nursing student and the only male in a class of 90.

  • @karenswartz8280
    @karenswartz8280 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The best nights of my 40 year nursing career were spent working with my male peers. They were the most fun, but you always knew we had each other’s backs, no matter what! And I was in the position of being charge nurse, and both were younger nurses, and newly graduated. But we learned a lot from each other, and it came from a place of mutual respect. I still maintain contact with them both, and enjoy seeing where their divergent paths have taken them. Our running joke used to be, “gentlemen' strap on your estrogen vests”!!!

    • @NurseLiz
      @NurseLiz  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      lol oh my gosh I love it!

  • @lisagardner903
    @lisagardner903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I retired from being an ICU nurse and I always enjoyed working with male nurses because I think they are more level headed and not as emotional. Sadly, most of the men I worked with were given the "Heavy" patients because of being physically stronger, which is not fair in my book.

    • @schybux632
      @schybux632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hmm I’ll challenge that. It’s unfair if they were given patients that just take more time, or more patients than the female nurses, but I think it’s only natural to give the physically heavier patients to physically stronger nurses- nothing to do with biological sex. It’s safer for both the nurse’s body and the patient’s to have a nurse who is able to turn and maneuver them with more ease.

    • @dustin4450
      @dustin4450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think a lot of female nurses dont like male nurses around because they'll see all the CRAZY things that female nurses do to Male patients in general, but especially unconscious male patients under anesthesia. A LOT of female nurses do some WILD things to unconscious male patients under anesthesia, most commonly going up to unconscious male patients under anesthesia and lifting their gowns up for NON MEDICAL REASONS but to laugh and gawk and sexually humiliate them then further sexually degrade them by gossiping about their genitals even to other women outside the hospital. Or PURPOSELY leaving unconscious male patients under anesthesia exposed when it isn't NECESSARY and having other female nurses come in and look and giggle and gawk.
      Male nurses around could expose this stuff. But I actually dont think mae nurses say anything anyhow. They are outcasts enough and probably never wanna ruffle any feathers. I could go on and on and on and on and on and on and on with stories about what A LOT of female nurses do to unconscious male patients, and even conscious ones

    • @nicolaypastore
      @nicolaypastore 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dustin4450how do you know this?

  • @professortweedypooper3549
    @professortweedypooper3549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Nurse for 28 years, first 10 in SICU. Female coworkers regularly would “expect” me to turn and lift their patients, which I did. It would bother me, and I privately thought, aren’t we all being paid the same? But I never said anything because it what was culturally expected and wasn’t worth being excluded from “the group” which nurses definitely have. BTW, great show.

  • @dave9944
    @dave9944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Been a nurse for 10 years. Since I started, I have chronic lower back pain from being a new nurse, and being asked to always help lift, turn, and scoot the heaviest, morbidly obese patients. My back has never been the same. Moved back east and started at a new hospital, and after 6 months, I had to take the Charge Nurse aside, and basically tell her, "Look, I notice that I seem to always get the heaviest patients, most difficult assignments, the most difficult patients with behavioral issues, etc. I realized that it wasn't just "me" who was thinking this, when my co-workers actually pointed this out to me as well. This is not fair. I expect to be respnsible for taking difficult and heavy patients, but fairly, and equitably. So please keep this in mind when you make the assignment. Thank you."

    • @NurseLiz
      @NurseLiz  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so sorry you had to go though that and I hope you can get some help for your back. It's definitely not fair treatment and I'm glad you were able to speak up about it! Hopefully, they've since made some changes.

  • @michaelmanhardt5746
    @michaelmanhardt5746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I graduate nursing school in 5 weeks from clinical experiences people just assume you're the doctor. Lol 😂 when you say nursing they look confused

  • @MrNurserob
    @MrNurserob 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh yes, I’m called “doctor” frequently, even though I wear a uniform with “Registered Nurse” and my name under it embroidered on my chest. When they say “doctor”, I just say “nurse” and they’ll be like ‘oh, right’ like they’d just naturally said it without thinking but recognized the correction. I think older patients who are male tend to listen to the things I say perhaps more than others, but I also fully explain things and enjoy teaching, so it could just be that.
    For the most part I’ve not had too many interpersonal problems during my 19 years of doing the job, as I get older and listen to more discussions of female and male interactions and interpersonal behavior and hear repeated dynamics and trends within them, I try to fully understand and stay aware that I’m a male walking into a predominantly female environment, and there’s certainly a set of behaviors and potentialities to be aware of at all times. It’s not sexist to recognize and say that males and females demonstrate different sets of behaviors when working in groups of each.

  • @markmedley6849
    @markmedley6849 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm happy when there is a male nurse in the room with the doctor. They are especially important in areas such as urology where the patients are mostly men.

  • @val7287
    @val7287 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have been in nursing and dropped in the second semester and went instead and got a BS in medical lab sciences because the nursing instructors made my life hell. I had good grades yet there was so much bullying and harassment and no decency and simply lack of respect. The words "nurses eat their young" comes to mind. I was doing my best to be two times better than any girl/woman because the general vibe was that the second year instructors enjoyed making our life difficult and dropping students, especially men. I even recall one of the girls threatening me with having me beaten by all her brothers and cousins because she said that I was cheating at getting better grades. One of the lady nursing instructors was saying how women feel good in certain situations just by standing close to a man (I remember being bewildered and turning and asking a lady friend colleague student if that was true) and that the difference between a young man vs an older one was that the young man could go on the entire night. And yes this was in front of the entire auditorium and yes I think she was speaking from experience. Perhaps she was trying to form a bond with the female audience but I found her comments to be very degrading. If it needs to be said I was the only male (or maybe there was another dont remember exactly) in the classroom. I wish I had reported her to the director or the dean or at least made some comment about it. My wife who was in pharmacy responded very negatively to my decision to drop nursing and we separated over time. Much grief and negativity and suffering afterwards came my way (including loans to be paid). My story in nursing! Please dont ask questions!

  • @reneecalvin3241
    @reneecalvin3241 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Late coming.... I was in nursing homes for many years. I'd use my male nurses (Michael) to go into little old ladies room, who wouldn't take meds and be a "doctor" and tell patients to take the medication. Works, may not be ethical but worked

  • @bridgetleonard6702
    @bridgetleonard6702 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My field "social work" is also very female dominated but my job actually doesn't hire male staff so I don't know what it would be like to have to male co-workers.

  • @yourfriend1121
    @yourfriend1121 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I enjoyed watching this video on guys in nursing; I'm a registered nurse and also a guy (had to say that since my Google name doesn't indicate that). I just wanted to also highlight that Med-Surg is also its own specialty in nursing of which I am also proud to practice in for 4+ years since graduation. It's my passion as well as comfort zone and I plan to stay in it for awhile until I maybe decide to try something new down the road. I just got my certification for Med-Surg too (CMSRN)! While Med-Surg can be super frustrating and hard, it also has its rewarding moments and the skills of the Med-Surg nurse are pretty crazy!

  • @BillBennettYoga
    @BillBennettYoga 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I always get the patients > 300 pounds. Every shift. Also always a run in with a older female supervisor that just hates men.

    • @NurseLiz
      @NurseLiz  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ugh I am so sorry

    • @BillBennettYoga
      @BillBennettYoga 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@NurseLiz Actually I put in a transfer for Cath Lab I find out Wednesday if I get it I can’t take it anymore of cleaning up 400 pound people who don’t want to take care of themselves

    • @BillBennettYoga
      @BillBennettYoga 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NurseLiz By the way I worked Covid front line in Texas and Mississippi I would love to talk to you one day about how I think about what happened now compared to the beginning of the pandemic I don’t wanna post it on here but I feel we were being lied to and put in harms way

  • @bdavidson3426
    @bdavidson3426 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for providing this excellent learning opportunity. 😊

  • @sharonforkin6064
    @sharonforkin6064 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    When I graduated in 1982 my college graduated their first 2 male nurses.
    Also I worked in a free standing rehab specializing in stroke and spinal cord patients. I never asked one of my male nurses to do the lifting. I might need assistance with morbidly obese patients but any nurse would do. The men I worked with didn't want to use the techniques utilized by PT. They manhandled the patients rather than use body mechanics and the scoot methods. That's not a generalization about male nurses. Just the experience I had.

  • @Scar-jg4bn
    @Scar-jg4bn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've found that it doesn't really matter if I'm "assigned" the heavy or combative patients, because I'm often asked to help with them regardless. I feel like a lot of older patients are "old-fashioned" and will be rude to women, but they shape up and act like a civilized human being when there's a man in the room. And yes, as a guy, I'm often mistaken for a DR or PA, lol.

    • @folashadeabayomi4058
      @folashadeabayomi4058 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree with this. People hate to admit it but patients react differently to male Bs female. Working in the school system I have seen it. I can ask a student to do something and it’s brushed off but as soon as a male teacher says hey what did she ask you to do the student shapes up quickly. Not sure if it’s the deepness of the voice but it happens. Same thing with patients sometimes patients do shape up when it’s a male in the room. Which I don’t mind if a patient listens to male nurse or another nurse over me. If we are all on one team at least someone was able to get through to the patient. Men are very beneficial to the profession and healthcare in general.

    • @LKHPBorat
      @LKHPBorat 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@folashadeabayomi4058 Deepness of the voice as well as tonality is a factor

  • @namenotfound8747
    @namenotfound8747 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think it depends on how you look and carry yourself. I never get called a male nurse at least to my face by patients. I’m sure it happens a lot but I don’t give it much thought. If you have a problem letting little things go, I don’t how you would be a in the ICU for 20 years and not develop issues.

  • @RobespierreThePoof
    @RobespierreThePoof 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I mean ... Who cares if you are male? This isn't 1950

  • @robertlotzer7627
    @robertlotzer7627 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow one minute in and I’m already 🙄. “I am not my husband!” 😂🤣😁😆

  • @worfuganggandrew9534
    @worfuganggandrew9534 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this vid!! Definitely super helpful

  • @carolapostolos8929
    @carolapostolos8929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great to hear the male point of view!

  • @cemersonrumseycnmaprn9002
    @cemersonrumseycnmaprn9002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I HATE the term MALE NURSE…. We don’t refer to people as FAT NURSE … etc

    • @lisagardner903
      @lisagardner903 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true! 😀

    • @BattleNuggetz
      @BattleNuggetz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Understandable but she's focusing on that demographic as sometimes their experiences are a result of being a male. Such as male nurses may be called/assigned to do more physically demanding work such as restraining a patient or moving heavy equipment. Male nurses may also experience sexual harassment less than their female counterparts. If we are generally speaking then no, I wouldn't refer to a nurse as "male nurse" "female nurse", no point imo 😆

    • @RNcoder67
      @RNcoder67 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree!! Nursing has evolved so much over the years n in order to promote and respect the profession, I feel the title “nurse” should be changed. The term “nurse” has been paired with a “woman’s job” ever since the Florence Nightingale era. The perception that a nurse does tasks from the heart (for free) and has qualities to be caring, nurturing, task-oriented, knowledgeable in the medial field, and heal the sick. Today male nurses are a rare catch, but there are many males who have these qualities to take on the role and is actually an excellent nurse. But society continues to stereotype, a nurse’s profession to be a woman’s profession!!! In this day and age, that is so offensive to the profession!! In order to recruit good nurses today, we must educate the public, bring awareness, and respect to this profession.

  • @ShawnMelton89
    @ShawnMelton89 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just can’t sit through an hour and a half video no matter how interesting it is lol

  • @runfayalife
    @runfayalife ปีที่แล้ว

    Its exactly like being a female doctor except stop stereotyping.

  • @marcstsurin
    @marcstsurin ปีที่แล้ว

    You're not part of your husband?? SMH Ok

  • @Jilla0559
    @Jilla0559 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing HOW fast men are to scream discrimination when they feel treated less that 120% !

    • @paulthomas281
      @paulthomas281 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Jilla0559
      Amazing HOW fast women are to scream discrimination when they feel treated less that 120% !
      The fact that you think men might have some entitlement complex whereas women don't (which can be the only explanation behind your making such a brash statement) shows that you are most probably an angry, deluded feminist.

  • @miaj94
    @miaj94 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have to be brutally honest here. I haven’t been too impressed with male nurses. There performance is certainly no better than there female counterparts. Many that I’ve worked with have been problematic; especially male LPNs CNAs

    • @dustin4450
      @dustin4450 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You gonna call out your fellow female nurses for all the WILD things that A LOT of female nurses do to innocent defenseless unconscious male patients under anesthesia? Most commonly going up to unconscious male patients under anesthesia and lifting their gowns up for NON MEDICAL REASONS but to laugh and gawk and sexually humiliate them then further sexually degrade them by gossiping about their genitals even to other women outside the hospital. Or PURPOSELY leaving unconscious male patients exposed when it isn't NECESSARY and having other female nurses who have NO BUSINESS with that patient to come look and giggle and gawk. And even the female nurses who dont partake in this sick n twisted female nurse ritual of sexually assaulting unconscious male patients but turn a blind eye to the ones that do are JUST as complicit, they absolutely would report it if it were male hospital employees doing this to unconscious female patients but they ignore it because its being done to male patients by female nurses.
      I could go on and on and on with stories. You gonna try telling us you "NEVER heard or seen this happen before"? Ya ok 🤣 remember this is a nurses channel, we ALL know the games female nurses play with unconscious male patients. So if you're gonna call out male patients for being "problematic" but you aren't saying anything about female nurses sexually abusing innocent defenseless unconscious male patients under anesthesia???? Isnt sexual assault of Male patients under anesthesia by female nurses "problematic" too?

    • @jasonfriedman9474
      @jasonfriedman9474 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      As a male CNA who loves doing what I do, I want to say from the bottom of my heart, I apologize that my gender in nursing does not impress you!

    • @miaj94
      @miaj94 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jasonfriedman9474
      Thank you for your service and passion for caregiving. And there are good and not so good people in healthcare, both male and female.
      However, I stand on what I said. Far too many male nurses that I’ve worked with have been problematic. We just terminated employment on a male nurse who had inappropriate contact with male residents. Sorry, if this offends you. Just my experience.

    • @dustin4450
      @dustin4450 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@miaj94 ya why dont you talk about all the WILD things that A LOT of female nurses do to innocent defenseless unconscious male patients under anesthesia. Most commonly going up to unconscious male patients and lifting their gowns up for NON MEDICAL REASONS but to laugh and gawk and sexually humiliate them then further sexually degrade them by gossiping about their genitals. Or PURPOSELY leaving unconscious male patients exposed when it isn't NECESSARY and having other female nurses who have NO BUSINESS with that patient come in and look and giggle and gawk. Or all the other things female nurses do to male patients, mostly unconscious male patients under anesthesia.
      I know I know I know I know I know I know.... you "NEVER heard or seen this happen before" right? Ya ok 🤣 funny how female nurses can SEXUALLY ASSAULT innocent defenseless unconscious male patients they are paid to care for, and either female nurses participate in it OR they turn a blind eye to it because its being done to male patients by females then talk about Male nurses in a bad light. Stop letting female nurses sexually abuse unconscious Male patients, THEN get critical of male nurses

    • @dustin4450
      @dustin4450 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@miaj94 ^^^^ what I said usually silences female nurses. They either participate or turn a blind eye to female nurses sexually assaulting innocent defenseless unconscious male patients. So female nurses either ignore what I said in my previous response or they LIE and say they "NEVER heard or seen this stuff happen before" ... ya ok we believe you 🤣

  • @PrinceOfParthia74
    @PrinceOfParthia74 ปีที่แล้ว

    if you are a male nurse you will be the last person i allow in close proximity to my wife or girlfriend or daughter or sister in matters relating to breast or vagina and i think you are extremely weird and borderline creepy to go out of your way and seek out opportunities that deal with women's sexuality as a male nurse. a family not wanting you as a guy to change their little baby girl's diaper is a no brainer, the charge nurse made a mistake assigning you to it in the first place, and the only thing it says about that family is that they are protective of their loved one and doesn't want a random dude strip their female child under any circumstance, what's so hard to get about that? you not only don't understand your cultural and religious insensitivity on the matter but also get upset when people tell you not to be insensitive. smh

    • @jackbrian5755
      @jackbrian5755 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Grow up 😂

    • @PrinceOfParthia74
      @PrinceOfParthia74 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jackbrian5755 be less weird and creepy.

    • @GVWOLF11
      @GVWOLF11 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      will you say the same for Male physician assistants or doctors or just nurses? Also why do you feel the need to sexualize it in the first place? You are the one making it we’re and creepy

    • @PrinceOfParthia74
      @PrinceOfParthia74 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GVWOLF11 sometimes you have no other choice it's either further health complications and death or a check up by the only doctor in town which happens to be male, but in nursing, a profession dominated by females and living somewhere with plenty of access to female nurses having a male nurse around my female family members should be the last thing happening. and thinking i'm making it sexualized, you will never catch me objecting to a male nurse attending to myself or any male member of my family. fyi i prefer male nurse over female nurse when tending to a male family member.

    • @paulthomas281
      @paulthomas281 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@PrinceOfParthia74 You don't seem to understand the point being made by the other person. You are characterising other people's views that disagree with yours as "weird and creepy". You're reducing it to "weird and creepy". While I understand your perspective that you or someone would not want their young daughter being examined by a male nurse with respect to genitalia, the differing perspective is just that: a different and very valid one. It's not "weird and creepy".
      Your response regarding the situation of the male doctor is incomplete and absurd frankly. You say that it is often the case or might be the case that a specialist physician is the only one competent to do such and such. Fine! But does that make it one degree less "weird and creepy"? Or is it just as "weird and creepy"?

  • @TheRealLachlan
    @TheRealLachlan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey I'm a dude!