Ruslan KD Confronts George Janko & His Fiance About Marriage
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Just stop having sex until you are married. That will, I promise, speed up your plans to actually get married.
Yupp
They can’t stop when they’re living together, too much temptation. They must separate until the wedding day if that’s the plan or just go get married!!!
They don’t have time to get married but they have time to have sex
Bingo.
@@emmasmith7590 He said it in general. Just don't move together before you are married.
George, the reason you feel guilt is because the Holy Spirit is convicting you. You’re living in sin and until you marry her look at her like your sister. Stop dishonoring her and marry her. There will never be a “perfect” time to get married. Put your faith in Christ that he’ll lead you . God bless 🙏
I respect George for being so humble by willing to admit where he is wrong ! , I also love George's willingness to hear Ruslan out !
It takes humility, and he showed that!
Very true it takes real humility to do that. A lot of people woulda got defensive and said stop judging instead of being humble and seeing that one telling u this is only looking out for u and wants the best for u
Always
I just attended my besties wedding last weekend. Her and her husband (fiancee) at the time lived together a year before they officially got married. I reached out to her a few days ago about how she was feeling and was like " you know me and my husband thought things would be the same but everything feels so different." I told her that because they are in a holy covenant everything is cemented in the eyes of God. I believe that this will happen for you too. Follow his ways and he will bless it 100x fold.
This is my story as well. My now husband and i lived together for years, we met Christ and decided we wanted to get married. Once we got married, everything changed. Which was definitely something I’d never thought would happen since I’ve lived with him for 3 years. Nothing has changed in the physical. Our everyday lives are the same but spiritual it’s a completely different feeling. The connection is on a different level. I now understand it’s more than sex that brings 2 to become 1
My girlfriend who is now my fiancée, we lived together for around 5-6 years before marriage. Now, we’ve currently been living separately since January as we are getting married in September. We have also took pre-marital counseling with our Pastor and his wife. Mind you, we also have a 3 year old together. Yes, it can be difficult, but it’s all for the honor and glory of God. All glory belongs to Jesus!
Amazing! Well done bro
It’ll be worth it bro keep going!
Well done!
Aww, man. She is breaking my heart. George, I was in her shoes once. I justified my relationship and cohabited and called what we had a “marriage”. But it kept getting in the way of my walk. But you’re not alone. The Holy Spirit will keep convicting both of you. Bc he loves us. If you love her as Gods daughter just honor her. It doesn’t matter how big your wedding is or the guest list. Love does not lead another to sin. Yes, God is full of grace but the consequences that can sometimes come with this is not worth it. I pray that God keeps convicting you and He gives you wisdom and direction. Ruslan is a true friend to be able to correct and bring this up with love. Bc he knows how damaging this is to a couple of believers. And thank you for being so honest and open. That takes a lot of courage. Also, there is no condemnation is Christ. You guys are loved and already victorious.
listen.... even with her trying to convince herself hurt me... like I was like whew Lord.... help..help Lord... She seems like she loves God because he does, but there is not a strong separation between her relationship with Christ and she loves the idea of marriage.
Let Grace and Mercy be with them as they grow
Great comment, God bless
This was wonderful advice. Y'all--get it done. This will (a) get you right with God, and (b) take all this stress and guilt off you. I think it's a fantastic idea!
Loved this!💜
It’s actually terrible advice. They are living a sinful life but their trying to make it sound noble
@@vman9347 Advising them to get married is terrible advice? That is what I was addressing.
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@@vman9347Getting married now will lead to redemption
Playing house isn't marriage. And things will change once you're actually married, whether you think so or not. I'm glad you both were humble enough to listen to Ruslan's wisdom and pray you move forward with entering a holy covenant. God is speaking to you.
Human wisdom. You should keep your mother shut.
Don’t worry guys, they’re in a transmarital relationship. They’re not actually married, but they see themselves as married so it’s okay.
Woman to woman, Belle needs to respect herself a bit more. If George really honoured her like he says, it would be reflective in his actions. As a so-called husband, he is supposed to be her spiritual covering. Her purity is his responsibility and yet he continues to compromise her integrity by leading her into sexual sin. There’s no justification for why he hasn’t married her already. A marriage is a marriage. Not whatever you make it out to be in your mind
I agree tbh
Yes!
He’s a high earner and of high social standing. She will do what he wants and justify it to herself as he does to himself.
It goes God, men and then women and children. It quite literally is his responsibility and you are very correct. People take this as harsh but it is the truth! A healthy one at that.
OBEDIENCE is key. Thank you for being so vulnerable, I’m learning.
I 100% respect Ruslan for pushing through this conversation!
Please have Ruslan back on your show
This was so awesome to see. What a picture of Jesus this conversation was. I love how humble you two are and able to be taught and take correction and I love how Ruslan shared the truth in love. That’s how it’s done ladies and gentleman
The fact that she’s a baby Christian yet she’s receiving the revelation 🥹🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Go get married. The Holy Spirit has made it abundantly clear in your lives that you need to move forward in faith. We can’t expect God to bless our relationships that do not fully honor Him. He is Holy and we are to be Holy as well.
Just do the court thing and plan the wedding later. You cannot be taken seriously as a believer having NO reference to Elohim.
I’ve had the thought before that having sex together can equal marriage but than I thought about fornication. Isn’t fornication sex before marriage? The term fornication wouldn’t exist if you could simply sleep together and be married. The Old Testament wouldn’t have laws saying that if a man sleep with a virgin, he must marry her.
They’re fornicating and if tomorrow they wanted to separate, nothing would or could stop them because they’re not truly married.
This should get pinned and put at the top so george can see
Exactly!
It seems like George is more upset at his guilt of it, than the wrongdoing itself of it.
At some point you just have to put it into action and dont excuse it. He knows he shouldn't have sex now. Nothing left to do but actually stop. Its absolutely doable and real sacrifice that isnt tied to some career reward. Worst case, itll only make him stronger after it. Even fasting from sex within marriage can be a good exercise to make sure it doesnt become an idol.
Been a fan for years, Jonnie! Cool to see you comment this. I didn't know that you are a believer. You were very helpful, especially in my early years, in my lifting journey!
This is the only thing he consistently makes excuses for. God has not ordained or blessed a relationship that is outside of his standard, period. God gave clear instructions on marriage, cohabitation, fornication, God gave instruction that doesn’t change based on what WE think or WE feel there’s a lot of “we feel we think how we see it” but it just isn’t what the Lord has spoken. But glad they’re trying to take accountability and are aware of what’s wrong. If George doesn’t feel comfortable doing that at his parents home, he should revere and respect the Lord the same way. Just go to the courthouse, worry about everything else later
That’s what hit me, when he said he has respect for his mom- I was like wait, why don’t you have that same respect in front of the Lord?
My cousin got married and them had the wedding like a year later
Shout out Ruslan KD for speaking the truth in love!!! This was a very much needed conversation!!!
Loved this exhortation from Ruslan.
George + Belle, I think you both know that you’re simply not married if you’re just plain honest with yourselves. It’s okay to wrestle with some of the guilt and conviction that you’re feeling- it’s the KINDNESS of God that leads to repentance (which in this case is changing your mind about your marital status and understanding that you’re not married, setting a date and tying the knot) I think you’ll have so much more clarity when you guys take that step forward in obedience. You’re either married or you’re not, there’s no middle ground. If you’re wrestling with the convictions that you’re speaking about, it’s ok to level set with yourselves! Don’t let the enemy beat you down with guilt and shame because of premarital sex or living together or any of it. Tie that knot and step into the abundance of life that God has waiting for you on the other side of the wedding altar!
There’s zero justification, I know this because I’ve been there! But I never justified it, I knew it was wrong and never felt a weight lift off my shoulders until we finally eloped. I am not judging them because I’ve been in their shoes. I wish I could shake them and say a ceremony isn’t near as important as honoring God! This can be turned around with repentance and an afternoon at the local court house. I think George is so wise but I hope he takes this dudes advice! It’s great advice!! I am praying right now in Jesus name they do!
Love this advice from Ruslan. I love how caring and supportive but also spoke truth. Beautiful. That’s how it’s done.
There have been many things I have disagreed with Ruslan in the past but the advice he provided on this portion of the episode brought so much joy. This is the same advice I’d give them. Grab your family and your best friends and get married and sign the papers. Do it. The amount of pain this is causing Belle is incredible. If I was George I would be planning that right now. Honor her the way you say you do George. Great advice Ruslan. God bless you all. Keep up the good work George and Belle.
This clip made me a bigger fan of Ruslan. He has lived the life. Best advice ever.
Love love love your vulnerability and watching you and Belle grow in spiritual maturity! This was so encouraging.
No fornication is allowed. Aka pre marital sex, not good in Gods eyes. We can judge our brothers and sister's in the church and tell them when were doing wrong and thats wrong. You having sex with your girlfriend doesnt solidify a marriage. You take vows infront of God and theres paperwork involved lol not saying this with hate its all love.
Surely government papers are not comparable in importance to the vow between/with God
@@ruud6828 no way not at all. But that's just how it goes when you get married lol you get a marriage license
Christian social media comments are the worst…
Have you seen Muslim and Jewish social media?? Would you say the same to them? Because I can ensure you they do make the same comments to their community. It’s our way of life and what we believe. If you believed someone you loved was doing something damaging to their health/soul/whatever wouldn’t you tell them? Please be respectful this is a Christian channel. Thank you 🙏
I feel like we often talk about marriage in a “moral” sense, but actually the meaning behind it is much deeper than that. It’s crazy how we dont realize the spiritual blessings that are connected to the public declaration, in front of God and man.
It’s something that may seem trivial, but the power of our public declaration and of our words have a great impact on the spiritual realm. We don’t light a lamp and put it under a basket. We place it on a lamp stand where it can give light to everyone. 💛 love you guys!
I wanted to take a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude for showing me a different perspective on what it means to be a leading husband in Christ. I have been struggling with a deep-seated fear of marriage, exacerbated by the gender wars and the many unhealthy relationships I've witnessed. Despite the positive influence of my brother-in-law, who has shown me the importance of faithfulness and living according to the Word.
However, seeing you acknowledge the error as yours because you are the head. I now see the protection in submission which has lifted another knot of fear. I can't fully explain it, but I felt like another shackle of fear for marriage just fell away. I've always believed that dating should be with the intention of marriage, but my fear has kept me from being open to any romantic relationships. The mix of desiring marriage but being too afraid to embrace it has lessened, and, I feel a genuine sense of hope and peace regarding this topic.
Amen. This transparency blessed us all. Obedience from us is God's love language! Congrats to the both of you!
Yesss I was so happy to see this! As soon as I saw the Jordan Peterson episode when George said they were married already, I've been praying for them to get actually married!!! Praise God!!!
This is a true friend- giving godly advice to this couple even when it is hard to confront someone with the truth. Get married guys! ❤
I enjoyed seeing the honesty! Thank George and I missed your fiancé’s name for being open I hope you take Ruslan’s advice and I can’t wait to see what God will do in your lives and for y’all to feel the peace of actually being married before God!
Ruslan better be invited to the wedding ! lol!
It says in the Bible to obey the laws of the land unless it goes against God's word. That means a couple needs to be legally married for it to be recognized, too. Its hard for me to imagine George doesn't know this given how much he's enthusiastic about God's word. I hope he matures for his woman. To the men... this is what iron sharpening iron looks like, props to Ruslan!
Very good point. Go get the court wedding and license and rest peacefully knowing you are in obedience until the wedding. Don't wait for your mom to pick the pastor. I was like really?? When he said that at the end...another excuse.
My wife and I were in basically the exact same situation. We had been putting off our wedding so we could have the dream wedding. When we came to Christ, we knew we needed to do right by God. We ended up doing this beautiful, small and intimate ceremony in the mountains.
You guys are such a blessing! Great to see my favorite podcasters do a crossover! ❤
I love Ruslan. Great work guiding
them without telling them what to do. I really enjoy his videos on his channel. But, I also really enjoyed watching you work through this with them and allowing them to come to the decision themselves and let them truly feel it without making them feel bad from your words
Y’all are one of the most humble honest couples I know ❤❤❤ now get married already and you can be one of the purest couples as well 🎉
Wow! How amazing is it to see such humility from George. And how he takes on the full responsibility of his actions and as the man leading his future wife! Admitting we are wrong, repenting and taking action specially on a podcast shows how much God is working in his heart. God bless you both and your marriage!
Why didn’t they just go to the courts or a pastor and get the marriage license/ exchange vow and then do the marriage ceremony when they finally found the time to book a date? That would have really cleared up everything
Having sex with an understanding of what it truly means (one flesh, a covenant) even with the intention of marriage with the other individual you’re having it with does not excuse wedlock out of sin, you know? That’s deception at its finest; and honestly when y’all were talking about reverence for your earthly parents so you sleep in seperate beds there should be much much more reverence for our Heavenly Father like it just feels so contradictory - and I don’t mean to judge you seriously I just know you’re a hardcore guy who desires truth and you’re leading someone who’s quite open to every spiritual leading you go on. I am no way perfect so forgive me if this comes across like there’s no log in my eye, you just lead many, and I hope you truly see the impact you have
Wow this perspective!
Great advice. Get it done!
Appreciate both perspectives here and I hear George's perspective on understanding/treating his relationship as a marriage at this point even if it isn't legally so. Tbh, I think a lot of people unknowingly engage in, essentially, married life and divorce when they choose to "just live together." The thought in culture oftentimes is that it's somehow not going to be as bad of an experience separating if they were never married, when in function we're basically just choosing to marry without commitment and desensitizing ourselves to divorce (as many people will have multiple break-ups from live-in partners in their life, despite maybe claiming to have never been married or divorced). George seems to rightly identify that those people are basically married (and often divorcing) in all but name.
Personally, I'd say just get legally married if you consider yourselves married. Heck, go to a courthouse and get it done in an afternoon. Have the ceremony later. I just feel there's something important to the holy and sanctified moment of commitment in covenant with witnesses. Just like we can become a Christian in a moment and commit to God, but God commands we engage in the Sacrament of Baptism. There's something important for us in every sacrament that God gives us. Keep up the introspective hearts, George and Bell!
George’s excuse on this is always so cringe lol
I am cheering for this couple to have a healthy, financial, and spiritually fulfilling life/marriage. That said it truly concerns me the level of maturity they are displaying going into a marriage and life together. I truly hope millennial and Gen Z Christians are learning from them, what to do and what not to do. I hope this works out, props for their honesty...
This was cool I felt like I was in life group in this episode
" I told God", .....nope. God tell us, we obey period. Stop making excuses and twisting the word to fit your sin. Repent.
Guys, your heart is so open to the Holy Spirit. It's Him talking to your heart. It's not even Ruslan or the people here. You can feel it in your heart! So excited for you guys! We are all cheering for you and praying. Such vulnerable and transparent people. You will be teaching about this and counseling other couples in the future!!
The Ruslan + George collab we all needed
I hope they get married asap. 🙏
Absolutely love this.
George your girl is sooooo precious. I LOVE her heart.
Ruslan was incredibly kind in the way he spelled out 1 Corinthians. This was more than content for TH-cam for Ruslan, he really cares about discipling George into living holy unto the lord. George and his loopholes on “I’m already married” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 George stop 🤣🤣🤣
Hey beautiful couple… sooo I went through this exact dilemma with my now husband. But you guys you either need to stop living in sin and live apart and grow together before the ceremony. Or if you find it hard to stay away or it’s just more convenient- go before a priest and get legally married. This is imperative to truly stand apart from the world and be the salt, as the word says!! 💍
Looking back, the optimal decision would’ve been to live separately and truly grow more and exercise that self control. Because don’t get it twisted, you’re still both going to need to have self control in a marriage. The desires of the flesh cannot and should not always be fulfilled right.
I thought Ruslan was about to marry them right then! I was hyped 😂🙌🏼
I lived with my wife for 8 years. 2 kids a house and a dog. We also committed to God privately and considered ourselves married. The way God used our wedding in other people's lives blows me away. It made me realize that the ceremony wasn't for us, it was an opportunity to publicly invite God into our lives and our families lives. Also saved a few souls in the process. worth all the headaches of planning
I hope they have a pic taken of the initial wedding and share it. After all this struggle of finding their way to truth it would be really cool to see the covenant take place.
You both always: feels like we're married, treat each other like married, etc... ; but yet you push back the "official" wedding and are waiting for some reason? Because you know it's Not "official". Serve God and stop committing sexual immorality, or just get married - "officially".
I’m glad they recognize that what they are doing is wrong. But their trying to make something sinful seem noble.
U can pretend it feel like she ur wife but she not and Vice versa.
I am so confused because I already thought they got married. 🤣
Justifying your sins is not a good thing shows you put your own desires above god
I was exactly there.. and it literally eats you up. Be strong, put the foundations back on God, stay truth until the time comes. Falling doesn’t mean you have to stay on the floor, repent and return to the right path, take any measure necessary to respect the Lord and each other’s sanctity. It will make the marriage start in a much stronger place, full of joy and completely guilt free. I pray for you❤ You are not alone
Such a great confrontation with Grace
Love the transparency in wanting to honor God with your relationship and future marriage- but even though you guys feel like you’re already in a covenant it’s not actually so in the sight of God until you properly marry one another. My husband and I were intimate before we got married and it would weigh us down. We felt the effects of sin on us spiritually and after we got married it completely changed a night and day difference!! We no longer felt the effects of sin after being together. Even though we got married we started off our first year of marriage really rough due to our spiritual condition of not repenting fully before getting married. There was some repentance but not completely since we had no accountability before.
Great video
Wow i needed this ❤
So they respect theyre parents view of them not sleeping with eachother more then gods view
Stop playing smart with God. You know something is off. Now stop whatever you have been doing, repent and turn away from having sex until you have resolved the conflict in your consience by officially getting married.
If what you're doing is not sinful but you still wait till official marriage, you're losing nothing but if in any case it is sinful then there's great loss and consequences of sin.
Count the risk, brother and sister in Christ.
Peace!
Call it what it is “ Sin “ fornication is sin , sex outside the bounds of marriage is sin ; we don’t get to pick and choose from the scriptures how to live
My then fiance and I got legally married prior to our ceremony only because his recruiter said it would be easier to submit our marriage certificate asap prior to going to boot camp so I was able to be on his file as his wife. So we got legally married a couple of months prior to the ceremony. It did not take away from the moment at the ceremony because we shared in our covenant with our loved ones.
Josefa honored Mary. He did not sleep with her before marriage, and he even married Mary so as not to tarnish her reputation and be above reproach after Gabriel revealed the miracle of Jesus' conception. The Bible clearly states that marriage is marriage; there is no covenant in playing married.
Whole lotta saints in these comments lol 😂 y’all swear y’all are perfect bro
This is wisdom at its finest. Take heed to what Ruslan is saying. Do not lean on your own understanding. I’ve been there did the same thing and once we were actually married- you will see that it does matter and being in covenant is very different. Honor God, just do it. Congrats in advance. 🙏🏾
Fornicating before marriage is demonic. This guy swears and uses God's name in vain. God is no respecter of persons
You really don't need a big ceremony. Go ahead and get married and have a big party later! Huge weddings are overrated.
Hey George, the Holy Spirit is telling you to either get married or move apart from each other before you get married. My wife and I were literally in the same situation as you 40 years ago and my brother-in-law called my wife and I and asked us to pray about movong apart from each other. I thought I was living according to God's will, but there is always temptation at a close proximity, mainly things that will take you away from Christ. My wife and I now still talk about how much time we spent in prayer and how we grew closer to God during the 6 months we moved apart from each other before we got married. I'm the best part was I was in school at the time trying to find a place to live and I had a friend who allowed me to stay with him essentially for free. God will always provide for any of the needs that you have and then that you think you will not be able God will always provide for any of the needs that you have and then that you think you will not be able God will always provide for any of the needs that you have. Please allow the spirit to guide you.
Wow praise God for this, and their humility 😢
For George and Belle to allow themselves to be corrected online is such a beautiful and humble thing, because other people even myself have been in this situation, also having people comment on your situation is hard, but I'm thankful that most comments are correcting in love but stern
Also no one should judge, Jesus says a the one who has never sinned should throw the 1st stone, John 8 vs 7
love this honesty and truth thank you Lord Jesus for the openness and wisdom 🙏🏼❤️✝️
As for my fiance and I, we knew that the temptations were getting to be too much...so because we also didn't have much saved up for a reception party, we went ahead and got legally married by our pastor and two witnesses, and held our reception party two years later when we can celebrate our nuptuals with our friends and family. When we finally had our reception, it was still very special and memorable, in reality it was like re-newing our vows but for others, it was a witness of ourfirst wedding. 🎉
Humble George 🕊️
Even if you had sex, need to separate until they are married. That’s why his parents don’t allow it, that’s how it should be.
This is awesome......
“We are trying to please everybody, but we are failing God.”
I hear excuses. They know it’s wrong how they’re living with each other, BUT my husband and I were once like them. We made the decision to stop living in sin and are married. I also broke a general curse of being unwed with kids. I’m proud of myself and I know the Lord is happy with me.
Who else noticed Goku just chilling in the background? 😅
You guys are NOT married. You are NOT one, neither is she your wife nor is he your husband. You can not identify as being married. Therefore, you are still living in sin. It seems like you guys are just not willing to die to your fleshly desires, which is having se* with each other. You are fully aware of this sin and its consequences and yet you still choose to do it. How do you expect God to bless your covenant when you purposefully dont honor His commandments?
DO, IT, DO, IT, DO, IT, DO, IT, DO IT!
Amen, thank you for being so bold, Ruslan. That’s what Christ’s love looks like.
The minister was fantastic , there was a beautiful presence of God.
I have watched many Ruslan videos for edification than any sermon this year
Wool socks will give you the best dreams of your life
My husband and I got married in my parents living room almost 18 years ago. With only a handful of family members there. We haven’t regretted having a small ceremony, and spending our money on paying off our debts instead and purchasing a used car instead of just the one day. We wanted to get married to make our relationship right before God, and that was the most important to us.
🔥🔥🔥
Gorge is referring to the Old Testament when Abraham’s son took Rebecca into the tent and then they were married by consummation. Christ changed that when he came to this fallen world. Jesus clearly states that you must be married and declare your vows in front of God, a holy witness/church, and hopefully your family. Having sex in a tent doesn’t count anymore and marriage is an easy way to honor god, your parents/wife's parents and your wife. Please get married asap. It will feel different even if you are roleplaying being married currently. Trust me, my husband and I did the same thing for 3 years, than we got married, and it is so different. The holy spirt acts differently when you’ve vowed in front of God, a community and your family.Amen and god bless the three of you. Christ is always king.
Every time you level up you will battle a new demon
We have been talking about the fear of the Lord...listeners to this convicted me of certain things that I know I need to do, but have been putting off for different excuses. Because there is so much gace given to us, we forget His fear/honor that is due to Him.
I got a wild idea, why not let the guest's speak? 😆
Jacob became married to the wrong sister thru sex witch was the last part of the ceremony. They did have a ceremony without the bride present and then he laid with her. So I believe it was more than the sex that solidified it, and besides he took 2 wives and 2 mistresses so he wasn’t mr do things according to gods will, but even with all that god used him
I’ve heard this argument used before, that God says that you are not to swear on anything and that as Rebecca and Issac became husband and wife in his Mothers tent, that means all you have to do is swear between each other and have sex and you are married. But that’s not it at all, there were more complexities going on that were not considered , there was a coming together of both families, there were dowries, there was an exchanging of gifts, there were protections put in place for Rebecca, so if Issac were to discard her she would have the dowry and not be destitute. There were prayers and blessings prayed over the bride - there was a great deal of ceremony in the sending away of the bride, it just didn’t look the way it looks today.
I think marriage should be a coming together before your friends and your family - most importantly before God! It should be a swearing to each other to love each other, to honour each other, forsaking all others, through the good times and the bad times, through sickness, through good health, in the good times and the bad times - until death parts us. That’s far more than anyone is thinking when they get together and have sex. To me, the tent argument is often an argument used to excuse the guilt of making a decision that you know was worldly, so you try to make it sound righteous by finding a comparison in the bible. But if we truly ask ourselves, would God rather we go straight to having sex before him - without involving our families? Or would God prefer us to do things properly to bring together our families, to stand before God, sanctioned by a man of God, to swear to be there for each other forsaking all others, in honour, love, through the best and worst that life on this earth can bring you to- in covenant with each other and vowing to go forward previously as two, going forward as one with God at the centre. There is no way that any Father would choose the first for his daughter- why would our Heavenly Father choose that for us? Would they choose that for their daughter in the future?
I think this was a truly very respectful and open conversation where this young couple realised that actually they have both felt Gods conviction on their not being married yet. I hope that going forward they do as advised and they make things right with God, before they celebrate with all their family and friends. I do agree though, that now they have admitted conviction, they need to stop living like man and wife until they are man and wife. I would even suggest doing the same for a short while before their big wedding, as a reminder of the significance of the covenant of marriage.