My grandparents we’re married in 1949. She made them take obey out and they were married until my grandpa passed in 2012. They always had a good laugh, if he asked her to get her something or demanded it he’d joke and say “hey you promised to obey me” and she’s say “oh no I didn’t!” “Oh yeah that’s right!” And he’d always give her a big kiss. I miss him so much.
Morgan More right marriages are dying because women aren’t obeying their men. I don’t particularly think that’s a bad thing. If my husband ever wanted to divorce because he couldn’t boss me Around, he would be doing me a favor. But he wouldn’t because our marriage is a partnership not dictatorship.
@@AllieLittleMonster You don't understand what the original meaning is behind those words. It doesn't mean doing whatever your husband tells you to do. Lack of teaching by your church. Marriages are dying because men don't want to put up with the BS and get taken to the cleaners in a divorce.
family lowe I agree 100 percent. We are 20 years in with kids ranging from 16 to 2. There are times that both sides have to sacrifice and "obey" simply because you love your spouse more than yourself. I wish more people understood that when you have that kind of love, the word "obey" is no big deal and it is WELL worth it!
Lin Davies but I'm sure he is your slave! that's the thing with western women they don't like to "obey" their husband and want equality but their husbands have to obey them like a little bitch!
family lowe You merely redefined the word. To obey is to submit to someone else's authority. It is not to listen to one another, to respect and give mutually, to work together, or even to be reciprocally selfless. Most of your diatribe is irrelevant to the asymmetry of only one spouse vowing to obey the other.
I don't understand why (especially in this day and age) when the bride clearly stated that she would not say obey in her vows that the officiant didn't just switch to cherish like almost all wedding vows are done. ??
My sister and future husband talked to the minister beforehand. They did not want "obey" in their vows. He said it anyhow and then had to wait 15 minutes while my sister gently shook her head no. It took another 5 minutes to settle her guests applause in support of her. The minister should have honored their wishes or declined to officiate.
Angela P ... My sister and brother in law both said no to "obey" and the minister agreed to leave it out. Her wedding was looking like a stand off for awhile. He finally moved on.
He shouldn't respect her, she's not a good person, they should've just got married by at a courthouse by some DMV employee that's what she deserves, rather than getting a minister.
Dexjain 12 cherish and Obey are two completely different things. Cherish means to hold something or someone dear to your heart, to love whatever or whoever it is unconditionally. Obey is the follow whatever command or rule a superior has you do. That isn't love, and it is not the same thing. And if you honestly think that it's the same thing, I feel sorry for your future partner
The Bible says obey, you can't change what God said he created it, his words his way, the wife has to obey and respect her Husband and he is too Love and Honor his wife if you don't want to do that dont get married.
@@karendavidson7538 lmao most people who get married aren’t even religious, it’s just a “commitment” ceremony + legal buffs. 99% of us don’t care what it says in the bible
@@LitlMiraclePupnPony No, they're not divorced. They're still together and the latest videos on this Channel were by him and his wife, discussing David and Sally's situation in Japan. This is the latest one as of today: th-cam.com/video/4pKTRJaY_E8/w-d-xo.html
@@LitlMiraclePupnPony They are still married and it was Stephan's father that married them. It was planned and if you watched the video's you would know this. Roberta and Stephan are Happily married. David and Sally are the one's from the Diamond Princess in Hospital quarantined .
Poop Poo Mmmmm it was humour to be honest. She was publicly at last minute wanting to change the wording. She had rehearsal and plenty of time to change it as most do. He didn’t design the vows.
@@debatingaftershock6816 we don't know what went down in rehersals. He should have just respected she said no, and move on. It's their day not his stubborn ass'.
@@pooppoo8379 The minister says "We planned this nine months ago", there was plenty of time to change the wording, just as debatingaftershock said/commented
it's about timing. they've planned this months ago. she didnt change it before... shes changing it NOW? and expects everyone involved to look over her oopsie tootsie moment? =_=
Red Onion It's quite evident you didn't watch the video as even the husband backed HER up. Meaning she DID discuss it nine months prior. He was paid to say what they discussed, yet failed to do so.
In response to "BehindTheHarleyshop", No, it's very cool. This is (or should be) a Christian ceremony. In the Christian faith, the man is in charge of and responsible for the family, including his wife. This is written in the Bible. The wife is to be a "help-mate" to her husband. The husband must love his wife as the Christ loves us. Meaning although he is in charge of his wife, The husband must always sacrifice and provide for his wife. The wife is not the property of the husband. The wife is NOT required to provide, but she may do so if she so chooses. The wife however IS in charge of and responsible for all household affairs including the children if any.
When my grandmother married my grandfather in the 1940s she didn't want to say this part either, so she hired two separate ministers to conduct the wedding, one to say the first half of the vows and one to come in the second half just as this line was meant to be said, So it was conveniently skipped. Needless to say, she wasn't about to obey anyone, she was her own lady, and a pretty kickass one at that.
Thankfully 'to obey' is no longer a default vow in mainstream church weddings. And in fact hasn't been since about 1980. And what did they rehearse? Never mind 'we did this nine months ago'; what about the run-through? You have to opt in to 'obey' if that's your choice. Needless to say no minister can compel a bride to say the vow if she doesn't want to. And for those who think 'obey' is all about letting the man be the 'captain' of the ship and all that crap, it's not. It comes from an age when the woman, as a possession was handed over from her father as legal owner, to her husband as new legal owner. She was supposed to obey, because naturally she had no self-agency and her right to self-determination was non-existent. Dress it up in modern terms, how you like, but that's the real tradition behind 'obey' in a marriage service, if you really want the truth. No self-respecting person promises to obey another without it's being mutual.
surya H S the hole religion is a fairytale men made up to excuse what shitty things they did ( treating women lower, having slaves) and to have simple (yet wrong) answers to things they couldn't explain. It was the same with Roman/greece religion about Zeus/Jupiter as they thought when there is thunder Zeus made it because he is angry.
Having watched David Abel's recent vlogs, ( David and Sally Abel are the British couple who contracted the coronavirus on the Diamond Princess ) I can understand the family's sense of humour
That's a red flag. Her ego is bigger than her love. Give it 10 years before she complains that he's holding her down, not good enough, and end up with the usual divorce where she takes 50% of his stuff. Poor schmuck. I pity him.
You are so wrong. This was not serious - it was planned as a bit of light heartedness in the ceremony. They are very happy and standing the test of time.
@@TheREALDavidAbel This is what, year 5? I said 10 years. At least. And I still stand by my point. A lot of people uses jokes and laughter to hide their ego and evading question. I hope they live happily ever after, but I sure won't be able to trust people who turn a sacred oath in front of God, into "LoL so funneh" situation. Not this time. Not on wedding vows.
Such perfect planning and arrangement, a perfect place for musicians, for signatures, for the invitees, for the bridesmaids, lights, decorations. I haven't seen a more perfect setting
Betty Apama..Yes, agree with you. I have marvelled at that fairytale setting several times now. It all looked absolutely spectacular and the bride and her bridesmaids were stunning.
Regularity All stairs are dangerous - even just one or two. You must be wondering about all your family and friends every minute of every day! There's danger everywhere, lurking around every corner. be careful you don't burst a blood vessel with your wondering!
When I first saw this I thought someone was going to fall down the steps or the bride’s dress catch on fire. It’s hard to call this an officiate’s worst nightmare when he could’ve changed to wording to be equal for both husband and wife instead of what was written on his archaic script.
I'm a wedding Officiant, and I would NEVER put those words in my script! Good for this bride, and there was NO request for the groom to repeat those words of OBEY?? grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
This was epic! What a great family - we loved when they described what happened on a recent vlog. Great sense of humor - the whole lot of them!! (Now I’m taking like a British person!)
D. Freeman The issue is that the man said to love and to cherish and woman was supposed to say to love and obey. Different wording from an age where women were property.
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That's ridiculous, to love and obey? Hahahahaha I mean I will serve him and be a loyal wife, but I don't have to obey in a sense of inferiority. However obeying in a sense of love and where he does the same for me, then sure. But he shouldn't even mention that word at all. That's between the wife and husband.
It's the language of the Bible, and this language has been used by the Church for like 2000 years. A dying culture with skyhigh divorce rates would think this language is ridiculous though...
Why was he asked to love and cherish but she was asked to love and obey??? That’s crap good for her for catching it and standing her ground by not saying it. But her husband to be asked are you serious? She is awesome!!
For the groom's vow he said to love and cherish... What's up 'to obey' in the bride's vow?? No modern day woman would agree to that.. 9mths ago my butt
I am a bit confused, my husband and I met with the celebrant numerous times, to make sure he had it right, we had a rehearsal the day before. and everything went according to plan on the wedding day. This guy is inefficient, or not good at his job. On the day, it shouldn't be any confusion.
I doubt it, she probably just saw the minister as another ornament in her fairytale wedding and didn't give it much thought, she was probably more focused on what type of scented candles to use than the vows she would be making.
I do not add that at all when marrying a couple. Have been asked to twice and I accommodate but I don’t like it. With both members often out in the world working and making the home and relationship work that word doesn’t add value to the ceremony but does decrease the partnership.
What a stunning venue. It's a pity they ruined it with poor planning. This should have been discussed before the ceremony. If her officiant refused to remove the word obey she should have hired someone else
Did anyone notice that this video was posted by David Abel Celebrant Training and that the groom's name was David Abel? In other words, there's a good chance this is all staged and not a real wedding at all.
They talked about this in a live stream. It was a joke as it was written as obey, they agreed no and change it, but last min they decided to pull a joke and add it back in (the grooms father is the one presiding over it)
Ummm....did the bride not rehearse those vows a single time prior to standing at the altar?? She didn’t know what she was going to be promising until the actual moment? Lol at fakery.
Most ministers are like politicians: they're into control. Religion and politics -- not much difference between them. I would like to see a video where the minister puts the 'obey' in the groom's vow. Listen to the howling THEN!
I heard the officiant say “We planned this 9 months ago” so I don’t believe this is something that she wasn’t aware of. The word obey in wedding vows are from the Christian teaching on marriage, the relationship between a man and woman is in the image of the relationship of Christ and His church. In a Christian marriage the man is the head of the household and a wife submits to him just as the church submits to Christ. I have no problem submitting or obeying (to give direction) my husband because I trust him completely just as I trust Christ with my life. Some people (women) fear the word obey as if they’re a dog obeying their master. If you have a Godly man who honors what God teaches, values his wife and puts their relationship above anything else then he wouldn’t treat his wife like an animal. If a couple doesn’t want the word obey in their vows that’s their choice but it certainly should be discussed way before the wedding day.
Dexjain 12, by definition, there's a bit of a difference. Respect is earned. You are listening because you respect them, not because you have to. Obedience means you do what you're told whether you respect the person or not or whether they have respect you or not. It's best to know the difference, especially in marriage.
Love and cherish And Love and obey are not the same vows. marriage is a partnership and if you try to put yourself above your partner without thinking of them that marriage won't last long
Just so you know, this is not a real wedding! You have to get married legally in a registry office first, this ceremony with this old dude is meaningless, just for show! And he charges you a fortune on top!
We’re still married and very happy. 5 years now. I’m the groom and the officiant is my dad. I asked him to swap out the vows as a joke on my wife. She reacted as I expected and our friends loved it.
Maybe they should alter the wording to "love, cherish, respect and honor" for both bride and groom.
I thought that was the case.
My grandparents we’re married in 1949. She made them take obey out and they were married until my grandpa passed in 2012. They always had a good laugh, if he asked her to get her something or demanded it he’d joke and say “hey you promised to obey me” and she’s say “oh no I didn’t!” “Oh yeah that’s right!” And he’d always give her a big kiss. I miss him so much.
ChubbiSarah awe beautiful story sorry for your loss I wish you and yours nothing but happiness
Rodger Morrison thank you so much
ChubbiSarah my grandfather told my grandmother that she was beautiful every single day , I miss them very much !!
Were
That’s great!
I thought her dress was going to catch on fire or they were going to fall downstairs! Glad it was only her saying she didn't want to say obey!
Me too!
So did I
I just knew one would get sick & puke in front of everybody.😂
*spoiler alert.
The danger is much higher if you try to force a woman to say obey.
Good for her. He didn't have to say it. So she shouldn't have to either.
Just say it.gee
E. Null no wonder our marriages are dieing.
Morgan More right marriages are dying because women aren’t obeying their men. I don’t particularly think that’s a bad thing. If my husband ever wanted to divorce because he couldn’t boss me Around, he would be doing me a favor. But he wouldn’t because our marriage is a partnership not dictatorship.
@@AllieLittleMonster You don't understand what the original meaning is behind those words. It doesn't mean doing whatever your husband tells you to do. Lack of teaching by your church. Marriages are dying because men don't want to put up with the BS and get taken to the cleaners in a divorce.
@Morgan More If women won’t obey? Sounds like married is best dead if that’s your idea of how to do it.
Archaic. This is the 21st century, 100% agree with the bride. I am not my husband's slave, possession or chattel. We have been married for 48 years!
family lowe I agree 100 percent. We are 20 years in with kids ranging from 16 to 2. There are times that both sides have to sacrifice and "obey" simply because you love your spouse more than yourself. I wish more people understood that when you have that kind of love, the word "obey" is no big deal and it is WELL worth it!
Lin Davies but I'm sure he is your slave! that's the thing with western women they don't like to "obey" their husband and want equality but their husbands have to obey them like a little bitch!
He doesn't get any sex, does he
Obey doesnt mean to be a slave if you read bible.
family lowe You merely redefined the word. To obey is to submit to someone else's authority. It is not to listen to one another, to respect and give mutually, to work together, or even to be reciprocally selfless. Most of your diatribe is irrelevant to the asymmetry of only one spouse vowing to obey the other.
good for her............ if i was her groom , Id love her even more for standing up for herself.
We don't do obey anymore!!!
I don't understand why (especially in this day and age) when the bride clearly stated that she would not say obey in her vows that the officiant didn't just switch to cherish like almost all wedding vows are done. ??
bun04y because the minister forgot by habit of saying it so many times or is stupidly stubborn
It was a joke to tease a bride hehe
My sister and future husband talked to the minister beforehand. They did not want "obey" in their vows. He said it anyhow and then had to wait 15 minutes while my sister gently shook her head no. It took another 5 minutes to settle her guests applause in support of her. The minister should have honored their wishes or declined to officiate.
Tez's Gino I agree but you hear the minister say we went over this 9 months ago..
Angela P ... My sister and brother in law both said no to "obey" and the minister agreed to leave it out. Her wedding was looking like a stand off for awhile. He finally moved on.
Angela P yea they probably told him "no" 9 minths ago and he didnt listen.
Tez's G
That’s archaic. Love and cherish is the norm now.
When she refused the first time he shouldn't have tried to force her to say it, that makes me feel like he doesn't respect her.
He shouldn't respect her, she's not a good person, they should've just got married by at a courthouse by some DMV employee that's what she deserves, rather than getting a minister.
He's the father of the groom, so it may have been a joke.
it was a practical joke 🤣🙈
Love Light Thats his son and daughter in law
"Obey"? She's going to be a wife not a pet. This isn't the 18th century, It should be "to love and to *cherish* "
Dexjain 12 cherish and Obey are two completely different things. Cherish means to hold something or someone dear to your heart, to love whatever or whoever it is unconditionally.
Obey is the follow whatever command or rule a superior has you do. That isn't love, and it is not the same thing. And if you honestly think that it's the same thing, I feel sorry for your future partner
So are weddings
The Bible says obey, you can't change what God said he created it, his words his way, the wife has to obey and respect her Husband and he is too Love and Honor his wife if you don't want to do that dont get married.
Your obviously NOT married....
@@karendavidson7538 lmao most people who get married aren’t even religious, it’s just a “commitment” ceremony + legal buffs. 99% of us don’t care what it says in the bible
Isn't the minister the groom's father ? Sounds like him.
Yes he is the father of the groom. He is the Brit on the Diamond Princess and now has COVID 19 .
@@LitlMiraclePupnPony No, they're not divorced. They're still together and the latest videos on this Channel were by him and his wife, discussing David and Sally's situation in Japan. This is the latest one as of today: th-cam.com/video/4pKTRJaY_E8/w-d-xo.html
@@LitlMiraclePupnPony They are still married and it was Stephan's father that married them. It was planned and if you watched the video's you would know this. Roberta and Stephan are Happily married. David and Sally are the one's from the Diamond Princess in Hospital quarantined .
What makes it even worse is when he asks the groom to help him out. "Hey, control *your* women." That's so rude.
Poop Poo Mmmmm it was humour to be honest.
She was publicly at last minute wanting to change the wording.
She had rehearsal and plenty of time to change it as most do.
He didn’t design the vows.
@@debatingaftershock6816 we don't know what went down in rehersals. He should have just respected she said no, and move on. It's their day not his stubborn ass'.
@@pooppoo8379 The minister says "We planned this nine months ago", there was plenty of time to change the wording, just as debatingaftershock said/commented
Poop Poo it was awesome hahaha
@@debatingaftershock6816 that's right that Bitch did it on purpose. To make a scene in tha public
very weird... Why did he get Love and Cherish and she got Love and Obey.... that's not cool.
Anti-God Feminist hate the Word OBEY. Reminds them of God.
Isaac Good Aren’t you a little old to still believe in fairytales?
it's about timing. they've planned this months ago. she didnt change it before... shes changing it NOW?
and expects everyone involved to look over her oopsie tootsie moment? =_=
Red Onion It's quite evident you didn't watch the video as even the husband backed HER up. Meaning she DID discuss it nine months prior. He was paid to say what they discussed, yet failed to do so.
In response to "BehindTheHarleyshop", No, it's very cool.
This is (or should be) a Christian ceremony. In the Christian faith, the man is in charge of and responsible for the family, including his wife. This is written in the Bible. The wife is to be a "help-mate" to her husband. The husband must love his wife as the Christ loves us. Meaning although he is in charge of his wife, The husband must always sacrifice and provide for his wife. The wife is not the property of the husband. The wife is NOT required to provide, but she may do so if she so chooses. The wife however IS in charge of and responsible for all household affairs including the children if any.
When my grandmother married my grandfather in the 1940s she didn't want to say this part either, so she hired two separate ministers to conduct the wedding, one to say the first half of the vows and one to come in the second half just as this line was meant to be said, So it was conveniently skipped. Needless to say, she wasn't about to obey anyone, she was her own lady, and a pretty kickass one at that.
Dexjain 12 lol why would I lie about that, you didn't know my grandmother man she was fierce af 😂 miss her everyday
RESPECT
*Bee* Good for her! :)
@@bananacrazy554 A feminazi back then huh?
@@asdfgh123456978 0children do funny things
I would have said “to love and RESPECT”, not obey. I only obey my mama
Dexjain 12 respect doesn’t mean obey oh my god
asdfgh123456978 yes it does actually
Preach!
"To Love and to Compromise with".
Kelly Maguire I love this 😂😂😂
@wally121000 So true! Seen it alot. Thank God I never got married.
Thankfully 'to obey' is no longer a default vow in mainstream church weddings. And in fact hasn't been since about 1980. And what did they rehearse? Never mind 'we did this nine months ago'; what about the run-through? You have to opt in to 'obey' if that's your choice. Needless to say no minister can compel a bride to say the vow if she doesn't want to. And for those who think 'obey' is all about letting the man be the 'captain' of the ship and all that crap, it's not. It comes from an age when the woman, as a possession was handed over from her father as legal owner, to her husband as new legal owner. She was supposed to obey, because naturally she had no self-agency and her right to self-determination was non-existent. Dress it up in modern terms, how you like, but that's the real tradition behind 'obey' in a marriage service, if you really want the truth. No self-respecting person promises to obey another without it's being mutual.
Nina nes you know nothing! It comes from biblical times, and it doesn't mean a slave.
I think this was a bit of a prank. The minister is the groom's father.
If you have a traditional Anglican service it’s still there, in the UK. Fortunately in 1981 Diana Spencer refused to say it. Important moment.
@Ictpilot Ictpilot how do you know?
@Ozymandias prank with a nasty edge.
Ahhhh no, why cut it off?? I wanna know what happened! Hope she never said it...
The male on the far right was swaying so badly I thought he was going to faint and flip over the railing.
obey wtf ????? not 1900 anymore
I think the real show was the last usher on the right
Watch him. Forget the obey, he should obey her too
christiane lamontagne obey doesnt mean to be slave you idiot. Remember what God’s plan when He Created a woman.
surya H S lmaooo
surya H S the hole religion is a fairytale men made up to excuse what shitty things they did ( treating women lower, having slaves) and to have simple (yet wrong) answers to things they couldn't explain. It was the same with Roman/greece religion about Zeus/Jupiter as they thought when there is thunder Zeus made it because he is angry.
Yeah, don't they know it's (current year)? Get with the times!
Having watched David Abel's recent vlogs, ( David and Sally Abel are the British couple who contracted the coronavirus on the Diamond Princess ) I can understand the family's sense of humour
That was so sweet. What a beautiful setting!
That's a red flag. Her ego is bigger than her love. Give it 10 years before she complains that he's holding her down, not good enough, and end up with the usual divorce where she takes 50% of his stuff. Poor schmuck. I pity him.
You are so wrong. This was not serious - it was planned as a bit of light heartedness in the ceremony. They are very happy and standing the test of time.
@@TheREALDavidAbel This is what, year 5? I said 10 years. At least. And I still stand by my point. A lot of people uses jokes and laughter to hide their ego and evading question. I hope they live happily ever after, but I sure won't be able to trust people who turn a sacred oath in front of God, into "LoL so funneh" situation. Not this time. Not on wedding vows.
@@TheREALDavidAbel Dude, so it was all a joke?
I'm not understanding why the vowa weren't discussed before hand
Ceil Constante he said they had decided on the vows 9 months before
They were agreed on, but she changed her mind. Not a good start.
Such perfect planning and arrangement, a perfect place for musicians, for signatures, for the invitees, for the bridesmaids, lights, decorations. I haven't seen a more perfect setting
Betty Aparna I spent the video wondering who was going to fall down the stairs. It looks insane.
I thought her dress was to catch on fire!
Betty Apama..Yes, agree with you. I have marvelled at that fairytale setting several times now. It all looked absolutely spectacular and the bride and her bridesmaids were stunning.
M99980 Well, that just shows what a pessimistic, negative idiot you are.
Regularity All stairs are dangerous - even just one or two. You must be wondering about all your family and friends every minute of every day! There's danger everywhere, lurking around every corner. be careful you don't burst a blood vessel with your wondering!
When I first saw this I thought someone was going to fall down the steps or the bride’s dress catch on fire. It’s hard to call this an officiate’s worst nightmare when he could’ve changed to wording to be equal for both husband and wife instead of what was written on his archaic script.
MEvox Yup
Though not his choice fully
The bride and groom beforehand should... like most
Lol
He didn’t design the lame legal vow
@debatingaftershock he changed the order. He’s either sloppy or has an agenda.
I'm a wedding Officiant, and I would NEVER put those words in my script! Good for this bride, and there was NO request for the groom to repeat those words of OBEY?? grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Are you completely stupid?
This was epic! What a great family - we loved when they described what happened on a recent vlog. Great sense of humor - the whole lot of them!! (Now I’m taking like a British person!)
Ah yes.
A “British person”
Why would you go through all that planning and not discuss the vows with the minister tho? Your vows can be what ever you want
Marriage is an equal partnership, they should have to “obey,”
D. Freeman The issue is that the man said to love and to cherish and woman was supposed to say to love and obey. Different wording from an age where women were property.
Who is here watching after 2020 videos? :) such cute practical jokers these guys are!!! :)))
I’m an officiant and I ask the couple what they want in their vows. No one has chosen “obey” to be included in their vows.
NC500 - Dave Abel
Anti Clockwise route
Motorhome with 2 Yorkie dogs - so all pubs we visited were dog friendly.
Starting at Inverness we travelled :-
1. Rosemarkie CCC site - ask for waters edge. Dolphins!!
2. Helmsdale Harbour. FREE O’Night - no services OR
Bannockburn Inn (Helmsdale) FREE O’night and inexpensive good food (dog friendly)
3. Latheronwheel Harbour. Beautiful setting. No services
4. Lybster Harbour. Beautiful setting. No services
5. The Old Smiddy Inn, Pub Stopover. Dog Friendly
6. Duncansby Head. Free. No services
7. John O’Groats just stopped 2 hours
8. The Crofters Snug. CMH club. Overlooking Orkney. Wonderful
9. Dunnet Head Lighthouse. Free. Beautiful setting. No services
10. Castletown Harbour. Beautiful setting. No services
11. Marie Curie Field of Hope. Daffodil field. Free. O’Night Parking. No services
12. Betty Hill Car Park. A836. Beautiful setting. No services
13. Kyle of Tongue. A838. Amazing. This is a MUST! Choice of two wild camps, one on the causeway itself and the other the far side (our preference if high winds) No services
14. 94 Laird. CCC site. A838 IV27 4UN
15. Smoo Cave Hotel
16. Kyle of Durness. Beautiful setting. No services
17. Kylesku. A894 Wonderful. No services
18. Rogie Falls IV14 9EQ. No services
19. Loch Maree, Achnasheen. There are two wild sites olongside this long loch. The 2nd is down a narrow road and you park along the shore. Picnic tables and magnificent. This is a MUST.
20. Oban CCC site
We then headed to Loch Ness (CCC site) and stayed 3 nights before heading back home.
Our NC500 trip was not rushed and we so enjoyed it.
Have a wonderful trip!
Sally & Dave
Hmmm I thought something like the ceiling collapsing or someone following down the stairs when I saw the title...
She should have caught that and discussed it with the officiant before the wedding. Most women nowadays have that part taken out.
That's ridiculous, to love and obey? Hahahahaha I mean I will serve him and be a loyal wife, but I don't have to obey in a sense of inferiority. However obeying in a sense of love and where he does the same for me, then sure. But he shouldn't even mention that word at all. That's between the wife and husband.
It's the language of the Bible, and this language has been used by the Church for like 2000 years. A dying culture with skyhigh divorce rates would think this language is ridiculous though...
So cute. What a family moment.
Save the divorce money and just walk 🚶♂️ away, hey remember the 💍. Take it back for a watch instead.
Dude ......... walk away 🙄
Why was he asked to love and cherish but she was asked to love and obey??? That’s crap good for her for catching it and standing her ground by not saying it. But her husband to be asked are you serious? She is awesome!!
For the groom's vow he said to love and cherish... What's up 'to obey' in the bride's vow?? No modern day woman would agree to that.. 9mths ago my butt
No woman should ever have to promise that again! Good for her stopping.
He even turned to the groom like "steve tell your woman to obey"
No he said help me out here. They also planned this out months before.
I am a bit confused, my husband and I met with the celebrant numerous times, to make sure he had it right, we had a rehearsal the day before. and everything went according to plan on the wedding day. This guy is inefficient, or not good at his job. On the day, it shouldn't be any confusion.
I doubt it, she probably just saw the minister as another ornament in her fairytale wedding and didn't give it much thought, she was probably more focused on what type of scented candles to use than the vows she would be making.
This guy is the groom’s father :) They are playing a practical joke :)))
I thought they were going to fall downstairs, considering how much the groom was swaying. Celebrand should be struck off.
Lol. What a beautiful wedding set up
Welp, that marriage certainly didn’t last lol.
I agree with the comedian who asked, "How can you contract to love someone? That's like promising to be lucky."
Beautiful wedding
Only words!!! At the end.. they will either be loyal or not..
Be there if the other gets sick or leave right there after....etc!!
How come he didn’t have to say it...what the hell 😒 Such a posh, expensive wedding and they didn’t go over the vows 🤔
They all have a sense of humor.
I thought someone was going down the stairs 😂
I must’ve been the only one to think she was being rude and condescending
I agree. Why wasn't this worked out at the rehearsal? Just to put a show on?
I do not add that at all when marrying a couple. Have been asked to twice and I accommodate but I don’t like it. With both members often out in the world working and making the home and relationship work that word doesn’t add value to the ceremony but does decrease the partnership.
What a stunning venue. It's a pity they ruined it with poor planning. This should have been discussed before the ceremony. If her officiant refused to remove the word obey she should have hired someone else
Well Done to the Bride! What Happenned??? What did she say in the end??? i am so curious to know....really hope she did not say it!!
Did anyone notice that this video was posted by David Abel Celebrant Training and that the groom's name was David Abel? In other words, there's a good chance this is all staged and not a real wedding at all.
Obey doesn't mean he lords it over you it's a partnership where you work together
I was the celebrant and I completely forgot the wedding.
HILARIOUS!🇺🇸❤️🇺🇸❤️🇺🇸❤️🇺🇸❤️🇺🇸❤️
Oh my!
Gosford park house?
“Obey” was the first thing I deleted.
People are petty and stupid and vows are just words. Its what you mean when you say them that matters.
When I got married in 1986, we took it out too! Minister was fine with it lol!!
How dare that minister?!
If the guy ask the the husband the same question. It’s okay. Or if they can change it into agree instead of obey. Sounds a bit better.
3 years. Are divorced yet???
They talked about this in a live stream. It was a joke as it was written as obey, they agreed no and change it, but last min they decided to pull a joke and add it back in (the grooms father is the one presiding over it)
Just watched the recording of that live stream :) They all are darling! Such a great family ❤️
Ummm....did the bride not rehearse those vows a single time prior to standing at the altar?? She didn’t know what she was going to be promising until the actual moment? Lol at fakery.
Trying to say the same thing. The bride did it on purpose.
It looks like he is from a rich family and she was a maid there. 🗑 🧹 🧍♀️
I was hoping the dress was going to catch fire
Run pal!
Damn, some people have such a "problems". It's just a fucking phrase oh my gosh
I didn't say it either! OBEY! Really! No way! The priest didn't even ask us to say it.
You're priest was a pussy then
Most ministers are like politicians: they're into control. Religion and politics -- not much difference between them. I would like to see a video where the minister puts the 'obey' in the groom's vow. Listen to the howling THEN!
i love this!
Love honour and cherish is acceptable.
Yeah, but not Biblical.
I thought it was to love and cherish?
Dude run!
Very good 🤣🤣🤣
Beautiful venue. And the brides name is Roberto?
Irene Hogan it's Roberta
The title should say "A Bride's Worst Nightmare." Cuz that officiant was a jerk.
And still 40% of marriages end in divorce. It's more than saying the word " obey " it's deeper than that.
You cut it off to soon. Did she give in to the pushy officiant ? 🤵👰🔔
Like he said, she okayd it 9 months ago.
I heard the officiant say “We planned this 9 months ago” so I don’t believe this is something that she wasn’t aware of.
The word obey in wedding vows are from the Christian teaching on marriage, the relationship between a man and woman is in the image of the relationship of Christ and His church. In a Christian marriage the man is the head of the household and a wife submits to him just as the church submits to Christ.
I have no problem submitting or obeying (to give direction) my husband because I trust him completely just as I trust Christ with my life. Some people (women) fear the word obey as if they’re a dog obeying their master. If you have a Godly man who honors what God teaches, values his wife and puts their relationship above anything else then he wouldn’t treat his wife like an animal.
If a couple doesn’t want the word obey in their vows that’s their choice but it certainly should be discussed way before the wedding day.
Finally someone with some since.
She didn’t sign up for that.
Excellent. Bravo for her. Their trying to sneak that crap in there. obey....????? like she was a child and he was the big daddy. seriously
This should be titled "a brides worst nightmare" I wanna know how it ended.
She needs deliverance
you need to get a life
@@TheREALDavidAbel pray for me if u can.
Respect yes but I wouldn't say obey in my wedding vows lol
Dexjain 12, by definition, there's a bit of a difference. Respect is earned. You are listening because you respect them, not because you have to. Obedience means you do what you're told whether you respect the person or not or whether they have respect you or not. It's best to know the difference, especially in marriage.
i dont dream of wedding coz i know and im sure that it will not come 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love and cherish
And
Love and obey
are not the same vows. marriage is a partnership and if you try to put yourself above your partner without thinking of them that marriage won't last long
Men and women are different, the Bible doesn't say marriage is a partnership, but it does say wives obey your husbands.
Hope she doesn’t say it. Women and man have same rights and obligations. So or both obey or both not.
Just so you know, this is not a real wedding! You have to get married legally in a registry office first, this ceremony with this old dude is meaningless, just for show! And he charges you a fortune on top!
I am 100% sure that they are no longer married. Prove me wrong.
Xaibell he turned gay and she took everything .... He now lives in an apartment with a 22 year old man because he obeys !
We’re still married and very happy. 5 years now. I’m the groom and the officiant is my dad. I asked him to swap out the vows as a joke on my wife. She reacted as I expected and our friends loved it.
poor guy
GOOD GIRL!!!
No obey!!!!!
thats funnny this really happened at mine in usa. its like nooooo