Hey guys! Just wanted to let you know that my new book, Things That Matter, is finally here. I put my heart into it, and I can’t wait to share it with you. You can pick up a copy at www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676394/things-that-matter-by-joshua-becker/
yes me too and tv was only broadcasting in the evening from 7 till 12 PM with only two channels to choose off, and really did I have the feeling I was missing anything?? No nothing at all.
Being born in the 2000’s I can’t imagine a life without these devices. But as I get older I can see why many folks long for the days when it didn’t exist. Seeing my generation become slaves to technology and social media and leave behind God is so depressing.
@@JA-2 I was born in the early 80’s so I do remember life without these devices. I think today’s technology is absolutely awesome and I wouldn’t live without it. The problem is the addiction and the marketing in these technologies. Internet arrived when I was in my teen’s years and while it was incredibly slow (💀) it wasn’t meant to be so addictive. I missed those days a lot.
@@anoukc6928 Yep. Technology is great. It has made connecting with loved ones and learning so much easier and accessible. There’s many great things technology can do for us. I agree the problem is these social media companies that have put profit above mental health. Youth today have put more importance in growing their social media presence that they have neglected growing their intellect. Anybody can look good on social media but it takes someone with good character to be appreciated outside of social media.
...and, as I say when asked for email address, I don't have enough time left to live to waste any of it sitting on a device! Only discovered utube since soooo many lockdowns..Melbourne, Australia. I actually have a "real" life and "real" friends. In fact, Do not even have email address on phone.and computer worn out...no intention of buying another. .saving the planet!
Joshua, your pieces of advice are not just about clearing spaces. You help me go through a difficult process - being annulled, a single mother to a 15-year-old severely autistic boy, working at home and doing home chores. You are helping me. I watch your videos instead of wallowing in self-pity. And I become alright... and strong... again. Thank you very much. Thank you.
@Your Voice Advocate Thank you very much. I have so much respect for you and your husband. We have the same deep pain, fears and are quite often, if not daily, bone-tired and exhausted. But despite that, you are still able to reach out to me to give me assurance and solace. Thank you. Thank you.
@@heidibastawros8722 Yes Heidi. The way he speaks, with pauses for emphasis, unhurried, tells us that life need not be lived in frantic movements driven by a frenzy going on in the mind. It seems as if his delivery of every line means... "Be steady, steady. (Pause. Breathe.) Steady." So I calm down.
As always... Great advice! I have no problems about powering down. I am old school, I do not have or use a computer. Everyday dealings are 1 to 1, face-to-face. Growing up at suppertime my father would take the phone off the hook. My parents would have a catch-up conversation at the dinner table. My brother and I were asked what we learned at school that day. At the end of the meal we would thank my mother for preparing the meal thanking our father for working so hard to put a meal on the table. We would ask to be dismissed from the table getting up to wash our dishes. Next came homework, when that was done dad would put the receiver back on the phone. Nowadays I do have a cell phone however the only social media I have is TH-cam and only watching positive videos that teach.
This was my childhood too. When my now adult children were starting to have phones, we had a no phone at the table rule, which I still apply to this day when they visit. 👍🏻
Thank you. I am definitely addicted to my phone. I’m alone so many hours a day. I need to redirect my attention on my hobbies. Thank you for this video.
I love the idea of removing something to see what the pull is to go back to it. I’m adding sugar, alcohol and shopping to the list. I was heading for a dry January. I’ve decided to add in a no buy January and limited my social media to 30 mins a day.
I’m with you on the dry and no buy Jan. Can’t commit 100% to sugar but eat very little. Love your social media limit. Does TH-cam count? I’m a goner if so 😂😜
We're doing dry January too, and I also recently added in no buy (clothes/shoes/etc) for the 1st quarter of the year. Good luck to all! Also, switching to wooden hangers (cause they take up more room and I can only keep the things I love) and did a HUGE declutter. My mom/sister can't wait to dig through the donate pile. Now if I could only get the hubby to tackle the garage. lol
I love my prepaid phone. It's economical and I use it as a phone that's it. I have to confess though that I am somewhat addicted to this youtube channel. I feel it is a wise use of technology and your advice helps keep me grounded. Thanks for sharing with us.
Technology addiction is under-reported. We don't like to think of ourselves as addicted to something, but our energy, our connection to other people and our creativity is being sapped every day by this addiction.
When I'm in the presence of another person, technology ceases to exist for me. I would like to see others apply the same consideration to others in this new year. A few days ago as I stood in a store line waiting to pay for a purchase, my heart was touched by a young boy of about 12 standing in front of me with his mother. He looked lost and bored, she was oblivious because she was busy scrolling through her phone. Such a wasted opportunity for her to connect with him.
Try not to judge others because you don’t know what others are going through. I was verbally attacked at a fast food restaurant because I was on my phone while my three young teens were loud and joking while reading the comics in the newspaper. Little did that person know that we had just spent 16 hours in the car together because my father had just passed away. I needed to text family to let them know where I was and the kids were frankly tired of my company cooped up in the car for hours and needed the distraction of a hamburger and soda and the comics in the newspaper.
I see this behavior from young mothers all of the time.They are raising an entire generation of children who will feel like they don't matter as much as whomever their parent is talking with or looking at on the screen.
I see this constantly...disconnection in family where before there was nothing to do that..well the mom might have had a newspaper out if it was 20 years ago....truly sad. I notice the children too.
@Scrapof I hear your words, see your intentions and semi disagree. When chatting with somebody questions will arise. Shall I really scribble them down and check the facts later? But yes, I wouldn't dare to dive into my social media while visiting someone and having their attention. No comments on parenting. I never had to try and was told it can feel lonely. What can you really do in a checkout line with a 12 year old? Annoy him with making the entire trip a math challenge? Do you know that family's background story? Did the little guy fail to elbow a 2nd bag of overpriced crisp through 3 minutes earlier and both of them needed time to lick their wounds?
It is heartbreaking but I know I have been that mom though because people are "urgently" texting about something that is actually important and needs to be dealt with... I tell you though my most peaceful times of the day are when my phone is off and it's honestly one reason I'm still a night owl... there's less noise at night, people aren't contacting you like during the day/evening...
Wow, I love the statement that we need more creation and less consumption. I know for myself that I feel so much happier when I'm creating. Whether it's a delicious meal, a new piece of clothing, or a special gift for a loved one creating taps into the divine and brings its own reward. Keep up the good work, Joshua!
Technology has some benefits however how disconnection to society is getting worse. Understand social media is a marketing tool and a highlight reel. Most of it is not real. Purity and joy comes from our human connections not digital 💞❤️ Happy new year Joshua 🤓😍🥰
I hate social media. I deleted all my accounts last year and have not looked back. The only form of social media I now use is TH-cam for watching videos and that is it. As a result of getting rid of social media I also spent less money (as I wasn't getting targeted ads thrown at me), became a healthier person as all that wasted time scrolling is now spent outside walking, cycling and enjoying nature and my mental health has soared this past year. It is so nice to meet up in person with friends and have proper conversations as without social media I actually have no idea what they have been up to! It has been life changing.
I love to go camping every year...leave my electronics at home except for my phone, and it's off unless I need it for an emergency. The sounds of nature are soothing to the soul!
One of my happiest memories is a camping trip in 2014 where we had no reception and I had to drive to a pay phone to give an update to a loved one. It was the last time we were all truly unplugged, and it was nice. We all just hung out together and talked. I miss that trip.
I grew up in 1960s and 1970s. It was the best times with no technology. Now days everyone is on their phones or laptops in a virtual world and forget the real beautiful world that we live in. To me, it is very sad to see and believe it will only get worse as time goes by.
Yeah and when we do go to the beach - there’s someone there running in the water over and over while someone else takes the perfect pic - don’t even get me started on the posing with their rock cairns
So true! When I am feeling blue, or a little low, or full blow depressed, there is nothing worse than going out to fb and watching all the beautiful people have wonderful lives. I used to think it was a way to stay connected, but that is not connection. After watching the first part of your video, I posted that I was disabling fb again, and that I have had the same cell phone number for years, and that I would love to hear from you that way. Much more authentic. Thank you for the reminder! Happy New year to you and yours!
I am definitely going to be more selective with the TH-cam channels I subscribe to but Joshua Becker's is #1 on my list. Started 2022 with this video! Thank you Joshua!
That's absolutely true over addiction to using social media sites leads to anxiety, depression, loneliness n yes fear of missing out. This year onwards I really want to involve myself way more in real life activities than being on social media..we all need to spend sometime with ourselves, meditate n spend tym with our near ones
My dad was in business for 53 years - regarding your number 7, his favorite saying was "there's no substitute for eyeball-to-eyeball contact" - that activity was critical to his success.
Totally correct. People are willing to spend more money (within reason, of course) to buy products from someone they like vs. strangers, and research shows that the likelihood of a doctor being sued for malpractice is less about their skill level and more about how positive their relationships are with patients - people don't (on average) end up suing doctors they "like"!
I can’t overlook the irony: using an app to get off of my apps? I just keep my phone empty of apps that i have on my iPad. This means that I can’t use my phone at work, for the exception of the apps I need for work. These can be used on my work laptop, as well, although I admit that the phone is much easier! My challenge this year will be to lessen the time I spend on TH-cam watching my channels. To me, it’s like TV addiction. I will be working on that this year.
In The Social Dilemma, a tech employee for a social media company had to write a program to prevent him to use the app that he created/developed with this company...
30 minute daily limit for myself on YT, it’s difficult but if there’s a new video I want to watch and have ran out of time I can just watch it the following day!
This was so needed right now. Thank you so much for blessing me with this message and reminding me that eye contact and time with others is essential. I have been stuck at home with COVID for two weeks and have used that as an excuse to be on my phone more, but I am also here with my kids who I can be giving more attention to. I commit to powering down every night between 5-8 to truly enjoy the hours we have dinner and bedtime routine together instead of zoning out on my phone. Thank you for suggesting apps that can help manage the addiction as well. Isn’t it interesting that when decluttering or achieving minimalism we usually don’t regret what we get rid of, but with our devices the fear of missing out makes us afraid or regret when we first turn off apps. However, if we give ourselves enough time to let our brains reset and break away from the addiction we realize we don’t need to be afraid and what we are really missing out on is real life. Thanks again for this!
I am over using TH-cam. It started innocently just to look up how to cook better meals, solve problems like decluttering..... Good advice Joshua I loose too much time going from site to site.
Wow! Those numbers are very alarming. As a teacher, I see technology interfering with learning often. Parents and other adults need to be role-models about using technology wisely. Taking a break from technology as a family would be an excellent exercise for everyone involved. Many thanks for another great video and for all of your videos in 2021. Happy New Year!
Such an important message. I feel overload if I get to much input. I really need to hear my own thoughts and be creative to feel normal or good. Being stuffed with messages, and much input from tv and social media, makes me stressed and a bit low. I think we all are different in how sensitive we are for these things. I choose what I watch and fill my mind with, it needs to be interesting, positive or inspiring. Scrolling much just leave me feeling empty and low feeling.
I was sad on Christmas Eve when my entire family looked like Ostriches with their heads down in their phones. My 80 year old mom was sharing a music video with another family member so that seemed ok. I told my daughter whose kids were also on their phones "You're All Going to Miss Me!" Feel free to use this example Joshua. It's the sad truth.
@Brown Family I can also relate. I remember years ago coming to visit my father after years of not seeing him. He was much more interested in the Football game. I just wish I knew how to make others see. They are not interested in these types of videos.
This happened when I went out for a meal with my family and another family. There were 9 of us. I was the only one without my phone out. Everyone was on theirs.
I am a teacher and I decided one day after giving an assignment to look around to see which students had their phones out and which students didn’t. Then I thought I would calculate the average grade of each group and post it on the board. 18 students had their phones on their desks or in their hands. 6 students had their phones put away. All 6 of those students had an A in my class with an average grade of 95%. The students with phones out had grades ranging from F to B- with an average grade of 67%.
I deleted FB years ago & never looked back. At first, I missed it because of family & friend pictures. I decided I'd call to check in on them & if I wanted pics, I'd ask for a pic to be sent to me. Besides, seeing my family & true friends in person is so much better. This has been so freeing. The negativity on FB was something I had control over by just deactivating. So glad I made that decision. Thanks for your helpful videos.
I remember when house phones were on party lines. Great ideas, especially the first hour of the day, which I have found is a great time to study scriptures, then exercise, then write. I used habit stacking (thank you James Clear!) to add the second two to the scripture study which was an established habit. They can take more than 1 hour, and that is fine. They are all worthwhile.
Removing facebook app on my phone was the best decision i did in 2021.. we enjoyed " being present" in every places we visited or things we did rather than perfecting picture takings to post in facebook....
Great start for the new year to have an hour each day to READ A BOOK or just brainstorm. I will try this to keep me away from the phone and computer. I waiting on your book please keep us updated on the launch date if it is not already out. Thanks again.
I appreciate how passionate / emphatic you sounded @5:01 when saying “technology’s *controlling influence* on your life…” It was unlike you, and yet, not out of line at all. Thank you for this video(!!!). It was quite convicting 🙃 - and I’ll be sharing it with my husband, as well. Blessings! 🙋🏻♀️♥️
I love "consuming vs creating". I have felt called to create more, it was even my "word" last year. But my free time is watching youtube, or searching amazon for something I don't need.
Joshua, I so agree! When tou first wake up,and following hours........dont get on line!!!Do breakfast, exercise, meditation,(not necessarily in that order).Even work.
Great video thank you. Each year I go on a silent retreat and one of the things I like best is no phones allowed in the retreat centre. Sometimes when I'm at home, I crave this distance from my phone, so I'm going to pick up what you suggest and have a break from my phone, social media etc every weekend. When I was a child and teenager we didn't have even a landline!! Best wishes Joshua
You are the only one teaching something about to take a break...to live the life....really it means a lot....I need break from all these.....want to breathe want to live...technology and the competition there is no end....of all these, everyday new challenge.....
@the simple lady, I feel bad when my tablet gives me an average amount of hours I spend on my device; usually from 5 to 6 hours daily ☹️. I tell myself I need to cut down on that and be more productive around the house. When I read your comment, I thought: “ Wow 😮 10 hours! That’s more than putting 8 hrs of work at a job”. LOL 😆. Joshua is right, we are addicted to our electronic devices but I believe that with a positive frame of mind, we can overcome it or at least cut down the hours considerably. Greetings from west Texas 🌞🌵🌻
Mr. Becker your message is needed on the educational system. Side note: You have amazing hair!!! Would be nice to see you in a Head and shoulder shampoo commercial. 🤗
Awesome video! I sometimes wish there were no phones for a few days to see what would really happen. People at restaurants are not engaging in conversation or in each other and it's so sad to watch. All so true!
Speaking of creating… did you paint your house? It’s very calming! Thanks for the reminder. I’m addicted to my phone and had forgotten I was trying to overcome that…
I tried FB and Twitter briefly and found them to be huge time wasters. Except for the Weather app, I don't use apps. I did write an online career blog for years, but have let that lag this past couple of years because the government response to the virus ground my work to a halt. Time to get back to that as it prompted me to think about ways to be creative in my job. Planning to replace my IPhone with a "dumb" phone next month, as I realized that I basically only use it to call and text. No games. Also getting a hard-line phone for the house I'm building. I AM addicted to TH-cam, because I find so much interesting information - about history, about gardening, about home decor. TH-cam is a hugely valuable resource and an alternative to watching mindless and often offensive television. TH-cam has prompted me to start an organic fruit and vegetable garden, which I'm enjoying immensely. Also a bit addicted to searching out vintage books on eBay. So I wouldn't say I'm minimalist, but I would say I'm more low-tech than my grown children. Touching their tech screens 2,000 times a day? I think I'll hold my text messages until after they get home from work!
deep down the only way I like the connection on my phone and internet is when it is for a specific purpose, like watching a video for training or a course that I do, making one on one online contact with people in Zoom or Facetime, similar as talking with someone on the phone but then with video, sending out an email to someone, or when I am looking for information on a specific topic and do an internet search using google for specific reasons. All the other reasons oh for sure I do use my phone, laptop, Instagram, FB, LinkedIn, youtube etc, but deep down brings it me real joy then the answer is NO. So yes I am going to explore how I can spend even less time on my laptop and phone.
Hi thank you for your videos. I was my Dada’s medical person. I had to have my phone on In case he needed me. He’s been gone over a year now. I turn my phone off all the time. I love turning it off.
It used to be , when I was a kid , people went off with their typewriter into the mountains to write the big novel , maybe that was never a reality lol but today people would panic being in solitude and having to do anything. I had a life threatening addiction to the computer about seven years ago, I gave it up by going on a sabbatical to learn traditional art , and I still making traditional art today , I don’t go in the PC, if I spend more then 30 minutes on a computer I think , oh wow look at all I am not getting done while on this machine. Art saved me. But the idea that we need an app to save us from the apps and computer is kinda weird creepy. LOL But I will admit I still have to manage the phone. But I think I am more productive on the phone when I use it. Maybe lol Anyway nice video and some good tips. I will try them this new year. PS Powering down saves batteries !!!
We think unplugging from our social routines, including church have helped us. We keep more quiet prayer time, reading and then we discuss passages with each other.
Good advice, Joshua. I’m reading Cal Newporte’s book “A World Without E-mail” and it’s really enlightening. Can you imagine a world without e-mail? As someone who once worked a job where the norm was constant digital ping-pong - even outside of working hours - I feel that more firms need to turn off their employees’ inboxes for at least an hour during the workday. Most e-mails are highly unimportant and emergencies can be addressed via phone calls. The ongoing conversations over e-mail are, generally, just extended conversations that could be both scaled back and more effective at the same time. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
One thing emails provide is a receipt and trace/history of things so there is no "he/she said this" pointing fingers later. But I do hate spending 30-60min writing an email to describe something.
I’m wanting to get off Facebook. What keeps me on is several real life groups that only use FB to communicate events, updates, or if something is canceled. I’m considering making a new profile ONLY for these groups and deleting my personal fb. Unless someone knows how to “wipe clean” your profile.
Thank Goodness I don’t.But then again I always as a child stepped back from what other people did.I found I can not be a follower, just because they do it, It just does not mean I should do it to, because everyone does it.
I am a therapist and have definitely felt the lack of in=person meeting as far as the connection it creates, which in therapy, is crucial to the process, in person contact is MUCH better than a via a screen, regardless of the reason for meeting. My phone has a feature enabled that tracks my weekly screen time and reports that to me each Sunday- but is there anything that will track number of times we unlock them, or even touch the phone to right it up, such as when just checking the time? The minimalist in me would say 'use the clock on the phone rather than a watch; which adds an extra item, however, I van't help but feel the addition of the watch would vastly help decrease those phone 'touches' to check the time that will almost certainly turn into unlocking it to check something else, leading off the initial reason to even go to the phone. Just a thought, any feedback from anyone is welcomed!
My bad feeling after looking at FB too long is the time-waste rather than envy or jealousy. I feel bad and dumb that I wasted those minutes scrolling to "see what's next" when I have SO much to do around the house, for the kids, and hobbies I love that would be so much better to invest that time into even if it was "down time".
How about hobbies? Like talking a walk in the park; decluttering, gym, or cooking. I took Facebook off my phone; and only log in once a week; for any important notifications from groups like my running or workout groups. So am good without facebook. I noticed it helped me stop admiring what the Jones's have; best decision I ever made. I turn on the T.V. to watch the news, I may binge once in a blue moon, put my cellphone on silent and in my drawer when I am at work. If it's an emergency, call 911 😊first & my office phone is available. I further decided to put my phone on DND from 10p.m. to 7a.m.; another great decision. I think it amounts to be disciplined and having a goal...the benefit of doing this is because etc. You can do this, keep the faith!
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Hey guys! Just wanted to let you know that my new book, Things That Matter, is finally here. I put my heart into it, and I can’t wait to share it with you. You can pick up a copy at www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676394/things-that-matter-by-joshua-becker/
I remember when there were no cell phones, pagers or personal computers…..often, I miss those days. Excellent video!
yes me too and tv was only broadcasting in the evening from 7 till 12 PM with only two channels to choose off, and really did I have the feeling I was missing anything?? No nothing at all.
Being born in the 2000’s I can’t imagine a life without these devices. But as I get older I can see why many folks long for the days when it didn’t exist. Seeing my generation become slaves to technology and social media and leave behind God is so depressing.
@@JA-2 I was born in the early 80’s so I do remember life without these devices. I think today’s technology is absolutely awesome and I wouldn’t live without it. The problem is the addiction and the marketing in these technologies. Internet arrived when I was in my teen’s years and while it was incredibly slow (💀) it wasn’t meant to be so addictive. I missed those days a lot.
@@anoukc6928 Yep. Technology is great. It has made connecting with loved ones and learning so much easier and accessible. There’s many great things technology can do for us. I agree the problem is these social media companies that have put profit above mental health. Youth today have put more importance in growing their social media presence that they have neglected growing their intellect. Anybody can look good on social media but it takes someone with good character to be appreciated outside of social media.
...and, as I say when asked for email address, I don't have enough time left to live to waste any of it sitting on a device!
Only discovered utube since soooo many lockdowns..Melbourne, Australia. I actually have a "real" life and "real" friends.
In fact, Do not even have email address on phone.and computer worn out...no intention of buying another. .saving the planet!
Joshua, your pieces of advice are not just about clearing spaces. You help me go through a difficult process - being annulled, a single mother to a 15-year-old severely autistic boy, working at home and doing home chores. You are helping me. I watch your videos instead of wallowing in self-pity. And I become alright... and strong... again. Thank you very much. Thank you.
Hugs and supportive whispers to you dear Arlene. You’ll make it through, amazing mom , even if some days are difficult and that’s absolutely okay. 💓
@@inoubliable5242 Thank you very much for your kind words. I really appreciate it. 😊
@Your Voice Advocate Thank you very much. I have so much respect for you and your husband. We have the same deep pain, fears and are quite often, if not daily, bone-tired and exhausted. But despite that, you are still able to reach out to me to give me assurance and solace. Thank you. Thank you.
Just watching his videos calms me down because of the way he talks.
@@heidibastawros8722 Yes Heidi. The way he speaks, with pauses for emphasis, unhurried, tells us that life need not be lived in frantic movements driven by a frenzy going on in the mind. It seems as if his delivery of every line means... "Be steady, steady. (Pause. Breathe.) Steady." So I calm down.
As always... Great advice! I have no problems about powering down. I am old school, I do not have or use a computer. Everyday dealings are 1 to 1, face-to-face. Growing up at suppertime my father would take the phone off the hook. My parents would have a catch-up conversation at the dinner table. My brother and I were asked what we learned at school that day. At the end of the meal we would thank my mother for preparing the meal thanking our father for working so hard to put a meal on the table. We would ask to be dismissed from the table getting up to wash our dishes. Next came homework, when that was done dad would put the receiver back on the phone. Nowadays I do have a cell phone however the only social media I have is TH-cam and only watching positive videos that teach.
Thank you for sharing! Beautiful!
Sounds like the ideal way to grow up :)
This was my childhood too.
When my now adult children were starting to have phones, we had a no phone at the table rule, which I still apply to this day when they visit. 👍🏻
Thank you.
I am definitely addicted to my phone.
I’m alone so many hours a day.
I need to redirect my attention on my hobbies.
Thank you for this video.
I love the idea of removing something to see what the pull is to go back to it. I’m adding sugar, alcohol and shopping to the list. I was heading for a dry January. I’ve decided to add in a no buy January and limited my social media to 30 mins a day.
Good luck!! We are Doing a no spend January and also trying to cut back on screen time.
Bravo!!! Same here Helen. Wishing you a smooth month ahead. Cheers! (raising my glass of bubbly water)
I’m with you on the dry and no buy Jan. Can’t commit 100% to sugar but eat very little. Love your social media limit. Does TH-cam count? I’m a goner if so 😂😜
We're doing dry January too, and I also recently added in no buy (clothes/shoes/etc) for the 1st quarter of the year. Good luck to all! Also, switching to wooden hangers (cause they take up more room and I can only keep the things I love) and did a HUGE declutter. My mom/sister can't wait to dig through the donate pile. Now if I could only get the hubby to tackle the garage. lol
@@floridanativelh568 haha no I’d miss Joshua’s videos too much.
I love my prepaid phone. It's economical and I use it as a phone that's it. I have to confess though that I am somewhat addicted to this youtube channel. I feel it is a wise use of technology and your advice helps keep me grounded. Thanks for sharing with us.
Technology addiction is under-reported. We don't like to think of ourselves as addicted to something, but our energy, our connection to other people and our creativity is being sapped every day by this addiction.
When I'm in the presence of another person, technology ceases to exist for me. I would like to see others apply the same consideration to others in this new year. A few days ago as I stood in a store line waiting to pay for a purchase, my heart was touched by a young boy of about 12 standing in front of me with his mother. He looked lost and bored, she was oblivious because she was busy scrolling through her phone. Such a wasted opportunity for her to connect with him.
Try not to judge others because you don’t know what others are going through.
I was verbally attacked at a fast food restaurant because I was on my phone while my three young teens were loud and joking while reading the comics in the newspaper. Little did that person know that we had just spent 16 hours in the car together because my father had just passed away. I needed to text family to let them know where I was and the kids were frankly tired of my company cooped up in the car for hours and needed the distraction of a hamburger and soda and the comics in the newspaper.
I see this behavior from young mothers all of the time.They are raising an entire generation of children who will feel like they don't matter as much as whomever their parent is talking with or looking at on the screen.
I see this constantly...disconnection in family where before there was nothing to do that..well the mom might have had a newspaper out if it was 20 years ago....truly sad. I notice the children too.
@Scrapof I hear your words, see your intentions and semi disagree. When chatting with somebody questions will arise. Shall I really scribble them down and check the facts later?
But yes, I wouldn't dare to dive into my social media while visiting someone and having their attention.
No comments on parenting. I never had to try and was told it can feel lonely. What can you really do in a checkout line with a 12 year old? Annoy him with making the entire trip a math challenge? Do you know that family's background story? Did the little guy fail to elbow a 2nd bag of overpriced crisp through 3 minutes earlier and both of them needed time to lick their wounds?
It is heartbreaking but I know I have been that mom though because people are "urgently" texting about something that is actually important and needs to be dealt with... I tell you though my most peaceful times of the day are when my phone is off and it's honestly one reason I'm still a night owl... there's less noise at night, people aren't contacting you like during the day/evening...
Wow, I love the statement that we need more creation and less consumption. I know for myself that I feel so much happier when I'm creating. Whether it's a delicious meal, a new piece of clothing, or a special gift for a loved one creating taps into the divine and brings its own reward. Keep up the good work, Joshua!
Technology has some benefits however how disconnection to society is getting worse. Understand social media is a marketing tool and a highlight reel. Most of it is not real.
Purity and joy comes from our human connections not digital 💞❤️
Happy new year Joshua 🤓😍🥰
I often dream of escaping the technology I’ve immersed myself in. Now with a new year looming it’s time to take the first step in that direction.
You can do it!
I hate social media. I deleted all my accounts last year and have not looked back. The only form of social media I now use is TH-cam for watching videos and that is it. As a result of getting rid of social media I also spent less money (as I wasn't getting targeted ads thrown at me), became a healthier person as all that wasted time scrolling is now spent outside walking, cycling and enjoying nature and my mental health has soared this past year. It is so nice to meet up in person with friends and have proper conversations as without social media I actually have no idea what they have been up to! It has been life changing.
I love to go camping every year...leave my electronics at home except for my phone, and it's off unless I need it for an emergency. The sounds of nature are soothing to the soul!
This sounds great!
One of my happiest memories is a camping trip in 2014 where we had no reception and I had to drive to a pay phone to give an update to a loved one. It was the last time we were all truly unplugged, and it was nice. We all just hung out together and talked. I miss that trip.
I grew up in 1960s and 1970s. It was the best times with no technology. Now days everyone is on their phones or laptops in a virtual world and forget the real beautiful world that we live in. To me, it is very sad to see and believe it will only get worse as time goes by.
Yeah and when we do go to the beach - there’s someone there running in the water over and over while someone else takes the perfect pic - don’t even get me started on the posing with their rock cairns
So true! When I am feeling blue, or a little low, or full blow depressed, there is nothing worse than going out to fb and watching all the beautiful people have wonderful lives. I used to think it was a way to stay connected, but that is not connection. After watching the first part of your video, I posted that I was disabling fb again, and that I have had the same cell phone number for years, and that I would love to hear from you that way. Much more authentic. Thank you for the reminder! Happy New year to you and yours!
I am definitely going to be more selective with the TH-cam channels I subscribe to but Joshua Becker's is #1 on my list. Started 2022 with this video! Thank you Joshua!
Thanks Heather. You are very kind.
If it wasn’t for modern technology I would not of taken up art - this now gives me the “switch off” energy. Happy new and a peaceful year everyone xx
That's absolutely true over addiction to using social media sites leads to anxiety, depression, loneliness n yes fear of missing out. This year onwards I really want to involve myself way more in real life activities than being on social media..we all need to spend sometime with ourselves, meditate n spend tym with our near ones
My dad was in business for 53 years - regarding your number 7, his favorite saying was "there's no substitute for eyeball-to-eyeball contact" - that activity was critical to his success.
Totally correct. People are willing to spend more money (within reason, of course) to buy products from someone they like vs. strangers, and research shows that the likelihood of a doctor being sued for malpractice is less about their skill level and more about how positive their relationships are with patients - people don't (on average) end up suing doctors they "like"!
I can’t overlook the irony: using an app to get off of my apps? I just keep my phone empty of apps that i have on my iPad. This means that I can’t use my phone at work, for the exception of the apps I need for work. These can be used on my work laptop, as well, although I admit that the phone is much easier! My challenge this year will be to lessen the time I spend on TH-cam watching my channels. To me, it’s like TV addiction. I will be working on that this year.
In The Social Dilemma, a tech employee for a social media company had to write a program to prevent him to use the app that he created/developed with this company...
I thought that was funny too.
Yep! I still use YT but I took fb and ig off my phone and iPad and now have to turn the computer on to use either one. So basically it never happens 😂
30 minute daily limit for myself on YT, it’s difficult but if there’s a new video I want to watch and have ran out of time I can just watch it the following day!
This was so needed right now. Thank you so much for blessing me with this message and reminding me that eye contact and time with others is essential. I have been stuck at home with COVID for two weeks and have used that as an excuse to be on my phone more, but I am also here with my kids who I can be giving more attention to. I commit to powering down every night between 5-8 to truly enjoy the hours we have dinner and bedtime routine together instead of zoning out on my phone. Thank you for suggesting apps that can help manage the addiction as well. Isn’t it interesting that when decluttering or achieving minimalism we usually don’t regret what we get rid of, but with our devices the fear of missing out makes us afraid or regret when we first turn off apps. However, if we give ourselves enough time to let our brains reset and break away from the addiction we realize we don’t need to be afraid and what we are really missing out on is real life. Thanks again for this!
I am over using TH-cam. It started innocently just to look up how to cook better meals, solve problems like decluttering.....
Good advice Joshua I loose too much time going from site to site.
Wow! Those numbers are very alarming. As a teacher, I see technology interfering with learning often. Parents and other adults need to be role-models about using technology wisely. Taking a break from technology as a family would be an excellent exercise for everyone involved. Many thanks for another great video and for all of your videos in 2021. Happy New Year!
I’m a retired teacher. No need for all this gobbledygook!! 😡
And schools need to be less dependent on them for teaching and homework
My kids get way more screen time at school than they get at home.
Such an important message. I feel overload if I get to much input. I really need to hear my own thoughts and be creative to feel normal or good. Being stuffed with messages, and much input from tv and social media, makes me stressed and a bit low. I think we all are different in how sensitive we are for these things. I choose what I watch and fill my mind with, it needs to be interesting, positive or inspiring. Scrolling much just leave me feeling empty and low feeling.
I was sad on Christmas Eve when my entire family looked like Ostriches with their heads down in their phones. My 80 year old mom was sharing a music video with another family member so that seemed ok. I told my daughter whose kids were also on their phones "You're All Going to Miss Me!" Feel free to use this example Joshua. It's the sad truth.
@Brown Family I can also relate. I remember years ago coming to visit my father after years of not seeing him. He was much more interested in the Football game. I just wish I knew how to make others see. They are not interested in these types of videos.
This happened when I went out for a meal with my family and another family. There were 9 of us. I was the only one without my phone out. Everyone was on theirs.
@@angelwings1 don't be jealous
I am a teacher and I decided one day after giving an assignment to look around to see which students had their phones out and which students didn’t. Then I thought I would calculate the average grade of each group and post it on the board. 18 students had their phones on their desks or in their hands. 6 students had their phones put away. All 6 of those students had an A in my class with an average grade of 95%. The students with phones out had grades ranging from F to B- with an average grade of 67%.
I got off FB over a year ago. Don’t miss any of that! Great video. Happy New Year!
I deleted FB years ago & never looked back. At first, I missed it because of family & friend pictures. I decided I'd call to check in on them & if I wanted pics, I'd ask for a pic to be sent to me. Besides, seeing my family & true friends in person is so much better. This has been so freeing. The negativity on FB was something I had control over by just deactivating. So glad I made that decision. Thanks for your helpful videos.
I remember when house phones were on party lines. Great ideas, especially the first hour of the day, which I have found is a great time to study scriptures, then exercise, then write. I used habit stacking (thank you James Clear!) to add the second two to the scripture study which was an established habit. They can take more than 1 hour, and that is fine. They are all worthwhile.
Removing facebook app on my phone was the best decision i did in 2021.. we enjoyed " being present" in every places we visited or things we did rather than perfecting picture takings to post in facebook....
Great start for the new year to have an hour each day to READ A BOOK or just brainstorm. I will try this to keep me away from the phone and computer. I waiting on your book please keep us updated on the launch date if it is not already out. Thanks again.
I appreciate how passionate / emphatic you sounded @5:01 when saying “technology’s *controlling influence* on your life…”
It was unlike you, and yet, not out of line at all.
Thank you for this video(!!!). It was quite convicting 🙃 - and I’ll be sharing it with my husband, as well.
Blessings! 🙋🏻♀️♥️
I love "consuming vs creating". I have felt called to create more, it was even my "word" last year. But my free time is watching youtube, or searching amazon for something I don't need.
Joshua, I so agree! When tou first wake up,and following hours........dont get on line!!!Do breakfast, exercise, meditation,(not necessarily in that order).Even work.
Great video thank you. Each year I go on a silent retreat and one of the things I like best is no phones allowed in the retreat centre. Sometimes when I'm at home, I crave this distance from my phone, so I'm going to pick up what you suggest and have a break from my phone, social media etc every weekend. When I was a child and teenager we didn't have even a landline!!
Best wishes Joshua
You are the only one teaching something about to take a break...to live the life....really it means a lot....I need break from all these.....want to breathe want to live...technology and the competition there is no end....of all these, everyday new challenge.....
Hi Joshua, Great listening to you. Wish and your listeners ' A wonderful year ahead. '
I look forward to seeing you every Friday. Happy New Year!! 🎉
Excellent video for New Years resolutions - I now know what mine is going to be.
You’re such a light! Love hearing your perspective and am grateful for your Christ centered and minimalist observations.
I help a lot of people with their electronics and it blows me away that so many people don’t know how to turn off their electronics.
Wow. Very interesting.
Thank you so much Mr. Becker. Your videos are inspiring and very helpful.
Thank you Joshua for all your great advises ! they will be my 2022 goals !
I love this! Thank you so much. I find myself spending 10 hours a day on my phone.
@the simple lady, I feel bad when my tablet gives me an average amount of hours I spend on my device; usually from 5 to 6 hours daily ☹️. I tell myself I need to cut down on that and be more productive around the house. When I read your comment, I thought: “ Wow 😮 10 hours! That’s more than putting 8 hrs of work at a job”. LOL 😆. Joshua is right, we are addicted to our electronic devices but I believe that with a positive frame of mind, we can overcome it or at least cut down the hours considerably. Greetings from west Texas 🌞🌵🌻
You are doing a great job of bringing value and meaningful information to this empty-worded Internet. Thank you for that dear mister! Bless you.
Mr. Becker your message is needed on the educational system.
Side note: You have amazing hair!!! Would be nice to see you in a Head and shoulder shampoo commercial. 🤗
Oh I love Anne Lamott! A good reminder to re-read her books. And a new book from you! Thank you.
Awesome video! I sometimes wish there were no phones for a few days to see what would really happen. People at restaurants are not engaging in conversation or in each other and it's so sad to watch. All so true!
Speaking of creating… did you paint your house? It’s very calming! Thanks for the reminder. I’m addicted to my phone and had forgotten I was trying to overcome that…
Such a needed content. Thank you so much for always bringing value for your audience. Happy New Year. Wish you health and peace with your loved ones.
So true about FB. Every time I'd visit it, I'd feel worse. Logged out from it from my phone for a month now and feeling much better emotionally.
I got off FB over 2 years ago - soooo happy! I still have my acct but log on very rarely ( 2-3 x / year )
I tried FB and Twitter briefly and found them to be huge time wasters. Except for the Weather app, I don't use apps. I did write an online career blog for years, but have let that lag this past couple of years because the government response to the virus ground my work to a halt. Time to get back to that as it prompted me to think about ways to be creative in my job. Planning to replace my IPhone with a "dumb" phone next month, as I realized that I basically only use it to call and text. No games. Also getting a hard-line phone for the house I'm building. I AM addicted to TH-cam, because I find so much interesting information - about history, about gardening, about home decor. TH-cam is a hugely valuable resource and an alternative to watching mindless and often offensive television. TH-cam has prompted me to start an organic fruit and vegetable garden, which I'm enjoying immensely. Also a bit addicted to searching out vintage books on eBay. So I wouldn't say I'm minimalist, but I would say I'm more low-tech than my grown children. Touching their tech screens 2,000 times a day? I think I'll hold my text messages until after they get home from work!
Another winning video! This is perfect to close out the year and begin anew! God Bless and Happy New Year everyone :)
deep down the only way I like the connection on my phone and internet is when it is for a specific purpose, like watching a video for training or a course that I do, making one on one online contact with people in Zoom or Facetime, similar as talking with someone on the phone but then with video, sending out an email to someone, or when I am looking for information on a specific topic and do an internet search using google for specific reasons. All the other reasons oh for sure I do use my phone, laptop, Instagram, FB, LinkedIn, youtube etc, but deep down brings it me real joy then the answer is NO. So yes I am going to explore how I can spend even less time on my laptop and phone.
Hi thank you for your videos. I was my Dada’s medical person. I had to have my phone on In case he needed me. He’s been gone over a year now. I turn my phone off all the time. I love turning it off.
Thank you & Happy 2022!
Well said and a much-needed message for almost all of us! 👍
Amen to creating! We consume way too much!
It used to be , when I was a kid , people went off with their typewriter into the mountains to write the big novel , maybe that was never a reality lol but today people would panic being in solitude and having to do anything.
I had a life threatening addiction to the computer about seven years ago, I gave it up by going on a sabbatical to learn traditional art , and I still making traditional art today , I don’t go in the PC, if I spend more then 30 minutes on a computer I think , oh wow look at all I am not getting done while on this machine.
Art saved me.
But the idea that we need an app to save us from the apps and computer is kinda weird creepy. LOL
But I will admit I still have to manage the phone. But I think I am more productive on the phone when I use it. Maybe lol
Anyway nice video and some good tips. I will try them this new year.
PS Powering down saves batteries !!!
Thank you Joshua. Great video for this generation.
I am following the steps you mentioned and it's so nice to gain power back again.
💝
This is the beat video I've watched lately, thank you! It is worth sharing
We think unplugging from our social routines, including church have helped us. We keep more quiet prayer time, reading and then we discuss passages with each other.
Amen... My life is changing thank you 🙏🏻and God bless
Great advice. Thank you for these videos. Very much appreciated.
Power's been out since Mon and I feel great!
Good advice, Joshua. I’m reading Cal Newporte’s book “A World Without E-mail” and it’s really enlightening. Can you imagine a world without e-mail?
As someone who once worked a job where the norm was constant digital ping-pong - even outside of working hours - I feel that more firms need to turn off their employees’ inboxes for at least an hour during the workday. Most e-mails are highly unimportant and emergencies can be addressed via phone calls. The ongoing conversations over e-mail are, generally, just extended conversations that could be both scaled back and more effective at the same time.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
One thing emails provide is a receipt and trace/history of things so there is no "he/she said this" pointing fingers later. But I do hate
spending 30-60min writing an email to describe something.
Thank you for making this video! I'm going to plan to take a February Social media fast.
slow speech..very easy to understand..it is very clear..keep doing good things.great job
Happy new year Joshua
Happy new year every one
I wish you a healthy year and healthy life 😌
Love every one of your videos I have learned so much from you plus your latest book
Good work Joshua.. Much needed advice for everyone..
Happy New Year and I absolutely agree with everything that you have said in this video!! Kudos
Loved this video! Thank you and Happy New Year!
Once again, amazing message❤ Thank you.
Thank you Joshua! This was wonderful and great tips to start now!
I just think you’re the best. Thanks for all you do🙏🏻❤️
Awesome! Need to get off my phone after work! I hate that I need it for work!
So very true, thank you for the reminder
I’m wanting to get off Facebook. What keeps me on is several real life groups that only use FB to communicate events, updates, or if something is canceled. I’m considering making a new profile ONLY for these groups and deleting my personal fb. Unless someone knows how to “wipe clean” your profile.
Happy New Year and thanks for the generosity and wisdom.
Thank Goodness I don’t.But then again I always as a child stepped back from what other people did.I found I can not be a follower, just because they do it, It just does not mean I should do it to, because everyone does it.
This is SO GOOD! Spot on!
Very much true. But I now learned to live alone and be happy 😃
Yes ‘FOMO’ is a thing sadly 😟
👍🙏🙏 A good start to the new year. Thank you sir.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. ❤️🙏🏽
Thanks for your wisdom and I love your hair!!
I am a therapist and have definitely felt the lack of in=person meeting as far as the connection it creates, which in therapy, is crucial to the process, in person contact is MUCH better than a via a screen, regardless of the reason for meeting. My phone has a feature enabled that tracks my weekly screen time and reports that to me each Sunday- but is there anything that will track number of times we unlock them, or even touch the phone to right it up, such as when just checking the time? The minimalist in me would say 'use the clock on the phone rather than a watch; which adds an extra item, however, I van't help but feel the addition of the watch would vastly help decrease those phone 'touches' to check the time that will almost certainly turn into unlocking it to check something else, leading off the initial reason to even go to the phone. Just a thought, any feedback from anyone is welcomed!
Great video. Happy 2022 😊🎊🎉
I really like your videos. Thank you for creating them.
My bad feeling after looking at FB too long is the time-waste rather than envy or jealousy. I feel bad and dumb that I wasted those minutes scrolling to "see what's next" when I have SO much to do around the house, for the kids, and hobbies I love that would be so much better to invest that time into even if it was "down time".
Such wisdom! Fantastic ! 👌🏼
Hi there. Thanks for posting. Happy New Year
These are all great points, but what if you live alone!?
How about hobbies? Like talking a walk in the park; decluttering, gym, or cooking. I took Facebook off my phone; and only log in once a week; for any important notifications from groups like my running or workout groups. So am good without facebook. I noticed it helped me stop admiring what the Jones's have; best decision I ever made. I turn on the T.V. to watch the news, I may binge once in a blue moon, put my cellphone on silent and in my drawer when I am at work. If it's an emergency, call 911 😊first & my office phone is available. I further decided to put my phone on DND from 10p.m. to 7a.m.; another great decision. I think it amounts to be disciplined and having a goal...the benefit of doing this is because etc. You can do this, keep the faith!
I don't use Facebook, twitter, etc, but i addicted to youtube and watching drama, 😥
Thank you so much for this truthful video that helps me a lot.
Excellent video. Thanks 😊